5 WEIRD WAYS THE INFJ INTIMIDATES OTHERS WITHOUT EVEN KNOWING
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INFJ Life Coach Lesson: Today's topic: INFJs are low-key intimidating and you didn't even know it. Sure, some haters provoke us to unleash our dark side, but most people are already intimidated before we lift a finger. We'll explore the subtle ways INFJs strike fear into the hearts of others and whether we should really care about changing it. So buckle up, folks, and brace yourself for a wild ride into the mysterious world of INFJ intimidation.
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Are you often supervised how strong people react towards you?
It's not my problem or an issue of others' insecurities. I have my own issues and problems. I don't cry or whine 😫, I try to overcome these bumps in the road.
Did you mean 'surprised' rather than 'supervised'?
I would say, that just happened with my landlady. I have no idea, what she saw in me. I am 42 years old (look luckily like around 30) and since last September I am a Freelancer as an artist and so I do not work the 9-5 job anymore.
I currently live in Ireland, but I am originally from Austria. Back in Austria I was a branch manager by the age of 24 and had my own VET-Number bei the age of 29. I always had two different jobs in Austria (because I worked not a "normal one" there either and only took a "normal" job, as I moved to Ireland, that I have my so called PPS-Number and can easily pay the bills, next to my studies. I finished my studies in July 2021 (still in the middle of the bad C-thing, so not the best timing), but decided already there to cut the dies to my "normal job". The good thing in Ireland is, that until a certain amount, you do not even pay tax as an artist. So last September I got the opportunity to work at a Film-Set (Back in Austria I did 2 Workshops as an actress and was on numerous stages, and did a BA (hons) degree in digital film production at an University in the UK (which ended in July 2021), so I can work behind and in front of the cameras), for several days. When I am at a production, I work minimum 10 hours a day, but that for I have often 2-3 weeks "off" in between.
So long explanation. At the end of March, the landlady got "nuts", because I am "not working enough" and so on (I paid everything I had to pay). I should work harder, what I am even doing,..... I was looking at her and said like, I am a freelancer and can take, what I want. She was looking at me like, "how is that possible, bla bla," She continuing giving out, because she was scared that I could not pay the bills, for some odd reason. I looked at her and told her, what I wrote above. She looked at me and asked again, "how this is possible", I replied, "because I am 42." At this moment, she could not reply anymore.
Last week I got the energy bill and with it my new bill for the rent and the "missing deposit", because the rent went up with the words, If it is not paid before the 15th we see us in court. For no reason, she threatened me with it. By today she got 2.300 Euros. I am wondering what she is doing next, to make my life miserable. I have no idea, how a woman, who is nearly 20 years older as I am, can get so in-mature. Back in March, she was treating me like a 20 years old student. She also was always texting me, either after 22:00 at night (often even at mid-night) or at weekends. I have now an attitude , because I remembered her one more time, that I switch off my phone at 22:00 at night and switch it on the next day at 09:00 am as well because I said, that, if there is not an emergency (house burns down, whatever in this kind) I do not respond at weekend, because I see it as a "business thing". Oh she is furious now. I would say, there is even more going on with her. But, what else she wants to do.
Sorry, it sometimes happens, that I write a half novel. Thanks for your videos and to everyone who is reading this novel, thank you as well. ❤
yee. It feels like, they don't know what's is heppening haha :P
@@johnmichaelrichards interesting how one can lead to the other...
Video request: when an INFJ meets another INFJ 👌
:)
Great suggestion!
Haha wait in anticipation
2 mature INFJs. may make a good couple.😊
Just so you know this relationship exists, I'm an INFJ-A who married an INFJ-A. I'm a spiritual seeker/artist type and she's a therapist/highly intuitive type.
Have you ever felt that as an INFJ when interracting with new people you're like an alien wearing human skin to communicate with society and not spook them then when they're gone we just huffing in relief then secretly thankful finally they're gone. This doesn't happen with people who have genuine connetion with us but more like to new people 😅
It's such an extremely rare event when we have a genuine connection with someone...at least for me. It's all platonic usually.
If someone tries to put a label on me for any reason, I go hard at not allowing that to happen. No one gets to define me just to make themselves feel more in control. I've been that way since childhood. It's laughable when people try to intimidate me. People also have no idea how much I step back and deliberately don't crush them when I can. I believe people are so used to the idea of not feeling/believing like they are truly seen, so when someone acknowledges that they do truly see you it freaks them out even if they say they want that.
Yeah labels are a problem for me too. I don't do well with them and most of the time they are so far off base it is offensive. And we live in a world where people look to label and categorize everything into neat little classifications with clearly defined characteristics or traits. I absolutely hate it.
And as far as when people lash out and try to draw blood, I never use people's insecurities and weak points against them, especially with women. I rarely unload on someone and never store ammo over sensitive points or insecurities that a person reveals in confidence or that I pick up on. I take their trust serious even under those circumstances. They may try to all out blast me but I generally play within a certain set of boundaries of my own that prevent lasting damage or long term hurt that really scars a person or damages relationships with people. I don't even consider it a possibility to use it and it doesn't enter my head in the context of an argument.
It is kind of strange considering how some of these people try their hardest to scar me deeply or do irreversible damage in my life over petty stuff that is ridiculous. It is just not who I am and I don't let others control me or my emotional intensity like that. So I totally get that too. 🤙👍
@@theprinceofcrows8691 yeah, people don't realize how complex we really are
This sounds very Fi-Ni convergent, much like Wenzes...not Ni-Ti (abstract logical thought at the behest of an experiential agenda). It's quite clear ya'll are codec not perceiving dominants.
I don't mind labels if they are the correct one. Means the other person is taking their time to get to know us and I would appreciate that. But labeling in a mocking manner and being erroneous is just awful
@@quirogatnonerrat3214 There is nothing wrong with a correct label or a classification system if it is well founded and arrived at through a solid system of analysis. What I have a problem with is pseudoscience masquerading as a scientific system that leads to labels being passed around without much consideration that are harmful and limiting to someone's potential and possibilities. People like to think if they can label someone or something they have them figured out and it often has zero basis in reality. Like children believing they hold power over giant dinosaurs because they can recall and state their name aloud.
Just to give an example I will use the term "anti social". What does that really mean? What is anti social today can be the social norm of the past or tomorrow so it has little real value and can cause a great deal of problems under the right conditions or circumstances. Being branded anti social because you got in trouble once can limit all kinds of options in life and it may not even be accurate to begin with. The criteria are too vague. The norms of society are not static and vary from point to point. Even some professions can be thoroughly anti social in nature but what it all breaks down to is how it effects and impacts your life when someone brands you with that label. It is counterproductive and just a poor attempt to classify people in unscientific ways that has little true value or meaning constructively.
Those are the kind of labels that I reject outright on principle and due to research and investigation into the subject. Labels require precision or they are dangerous because a person who is mislabeled can often take that to heart and act based upon a fallacy that has real power over their life. Just like being misdiagnosed can have serious consequences. I hope this better explains my point here because I feel it wasn't understood very well when I first posted on this subject.
Being a lifelong INFJ I can tell you that watching your videos has brought sanity and reason back to my life. So many times I felt like an outsider but every video of yours that I've watched has been so accurate, so on target, and has helped me so much❤❤ THANK YOU 🥰♥️
Outsiders together 😊
and all this time I thought it was an IQ thing...
I know right, had same reaction. I feel I can breath aagin
INFJ's, I had this weird epiphany just now about either the INFJ brain (in general) or maybe just my INFJ brain. Has anyone here ever had a hard time just learning to enjoy things. Key word here being LEARNING. I've realized that I've written off a lot of things in my life as things that I "don't like" but realize that once I kind of "awoke" to my INFJ self, I find myself liking things because I am LEARNING how to enjoy things. I think it is my inferior function starting to level up. Enjoying things for what they are is often an "in the moment" thing and we are terrible at that. We deny ourselves so much happiness and I realize this only now, having come around the bend from being an undeveloped INFJ. By putting myself more in the moment and more out there, I am realizing that I can "learn" how to be happy and live a more rich life. Of course, with balance and considering that I still need plenty of alone time.
Um, yes. This is a tough concept.
Yes, but you can struggle every step of the way learning to enjoy the moment. I had a jolt when I was about to lose someone important in my life and thought back of moments spent with that person and that I didn't enjoy the moments but ruined them for the person by speaking about the future. So I realized I would be a better person for those around me that I care about if I would enjoy the moment. So since the motivation is someone else's happiness, I am trying every step of the way to enjoy the moment as much as ai can, which is still very little and very hard. If I would have to do this only for myself, I wouldn't cuz it isn't worth the trouble, but since it impacts my loved ones, I have no choice but to work on it. You pointed it out very well , I didn't realize how big of a issue was till I got jolted to reality by almost losing someone and going back in my memories that I built with that person and analyzed them in my mind.
How do you learn? Do you have an agenda of things you wanna try first to ease this process or you try for every single thing you do in your life?
@@quirogatnonerrat3214 that's a great question. For me, it has been a lot of mindfulness and realizing that at times I can get tunnel-vision on individual tasks and forget to check in on those around me. Basically showing up for others who would show up for me. It isn't any specific or large thing, just aiming to be more present in general.
I believe this is due to our continuous information processing and internal dialogue being mostly to ourselves. If others had the ability to allow us the space to speak the full length of our internal thought processes, like a genuinely good listener, they would understand who we are. The fact that we keep a vast majority of our thoughts to ourselves is why the switch occurs & simultaneously shocks others; they act and say without full awareness of who we are, then are jolted into abrupt acquaintance with our true essence. Live boldly and shock them upon first meeting instead. 😉
Ooh! Excellently said! 😃
As is Wenzes, this is very Fi-Ni (ISFP) convergent not INFJ. INFJ are primarily abstract logicians with their convergent Ni-Ti...the notion of authenticity isn't really applicable to the INFJs psyche. The vast majority of people mistype themselves as the very rare cognitive INFJ particularly on channels such as this where behaviour is being conflated with cognition.
Yes indeed, and ain't that the truth ? ! These days , I do not care and let me assure you, that I am so tired of being not given the time to speak , or finish my thoughts , if they do that, at age 73, then kiss my grits and get the fff out now ! GET OUT AND LEAVE NOW OR FACE THE WRATH OF KHAN! This is what I can do , is feel nothing for you or your constant whinny moaning groaning zombies/sheep, get some courage of just go away , my time is not for you and never was since you cannot understand me or try but sure want me too but those days are over forever! MUGGLES HAVE LITERALLY BORED ME TO DEATH !
Yes my husband used to say he never knows who he is going to wake up to.
I've had situations where bullies won't let up because I won't react and keep laughing them off until they finally ask sheepishly "do you think I'm a bully?" Where my reply is an honest, "Yes, you're definitely a bully, and most people find that annoying." Wherein they either try to befriend me, or sneak away with their tail tucked between their legs.
Yes to all five.
A scammer found out just how unphased I can be just this morning. And it felt so good. 🤣
God bless the scammer😢....door slam is coming 😂
I love to keep them talking, showing how interested i am, but the deal never goes anywhere.
I had to smile at #4 - the INFJ is very independent. I am extremely independent - it's in the genes - both my parents are, and I got the full dose from each of them.
When I taught piano lessons, I think the owner of the studio appreciated it. (I'm friendly, but usually I'd head straight to my studio and get to work and mind my own business). But it scared the liver out of my mentor when I first started teaching in the school system. I respected her experience and input, but always needed to tweak her counsel to fit me. It threatened her. I also had no problem letting her know when I didn't like how she was treating me, and many times she told me that I was "scaring" her. Maybe it was because of #2 - we're aware of others' insecurities.
We INFJs have a lot of strength that I think we often don't give ourselves credit for. 🙂
This has nothing to do with cognition but rather other facets of personality not contingent upon cognition albeit the ISFPs need to create an archetype independent of the group does shine through here & in Wenzes videos
Thank you for sharing 🙏
I find that so often I am targetted by projected insecurities of others. Man it's an effing minefield!
I’m intimidating unfortunately at work. I have to be fair but assertive at my job, and because I’m an obvious introvert, they look almost panicked and confused when I’m firm and don’t take their crap. Am I the only one?
Absolutely! I surprise folks all the time. I’m passive and laid-back so much, that when I do actually get mad about something, it usually scares those around me. 😂
Hope you’re having an awesome week, Wenzes! 🙂🌹❤️
I ended up having to take an "anger management" course at work for this reason many years ago. I never spoke up at meetings or raised my voice...until one fine day I did because I was in time crunch situation and the meeting was going on and on and on. I spoke up with my opinion on the matter at hand and then made my exit. A week later I was summoned to my supervisor's office and put in an HR mandated Anger management program. If I didn't, a letter of reprimand would be on my permanent work record at that company. This whole incident happened because I didn't simply act like all my fellow workers with all their day to day noise and complaints. Instead I was always going along with whatever whether I liked it or not. Which meant that the first time I actually spoke up for myself, it was perceived as "hostile" or "aggressive". So I learned after that to be more assertive right off the bat. But still not to the degree I should have. I was still too often overly concerned with everybody "liking" me which is not really very helpful in the long run in a corporate setting. Listen to Wenzes. She is correct!🙂
You aren't alone on that one brother. The worst is when they try to make it out like it is your fault even though you were the one who was laid back. It leaves you wondering if they recognized the part they played in things at all? Then they create the narrative that you were the bad guy or rewrite the history.
Before coming across Wenze's channel, I didn't know how common it was that this happens. I'm also a laidback person and when I do get passionate and angry about something happening in the world, like injustices, or something people say, that surprises people and even scares them. I still don't know how to speak my mind without scaring people.
@@theprinceofcrows8691 Oh yes! As an INFJ it was only natural that I took my censure to heart and felt much worse about myself than most other personality types would have. I do remember pointing out to my boss how unfair this was since I was not the first nor last to speak up in a meeting and come off as stern or irritated. But she brushed off what I said and acted as if her hands were tied and that she had no other choice. I realized then that my days of employment there were numbered. I did the course and stayed on for another couple of years.
@@HaleyMary Its a very unfortunate social dynamic that we fall victim to. But I think that is why Wenzes is insistent on us showing up as our true selves and taking up the same amount of space as others. If we would quit trying to be so affable and pleasing to others and simply state what we like and what we want, others would not be so surprised when we do speak up. And by doing so more regularly we might reduce the chance that we say things too loudly or forcefully which happens when we get pent up and finally blurt something out!😀
I have long since ceased trying to prove myself to anyone. Fawning is useless. If they don't like me then fine. 🎉
We get to see how little a lot of peoples integrity really is. The ones that are real and have integrity are definitely keepers/good peoples. We get to know the good from the bad because they tell on themselves.
This is a very limbic centred comment; not Ni-Ti.
Yes they do. All we do is pay attention to what they say then what they do! Also we read their energy and use our discernment!💝
I worked full time for 4 years in the ICU at our local general hospital while studying law. I was a Unit Secretary/ Cardiac Monitor tech. I was on the lowest peg of the totem poll. When the student nurses were doing a semester in the unit,…they told the nurses that I made them nervous. Many thought I was in charge because the nurses were alway coming to me for things. I never could understand what was so intimidating about me.
Also, as a semi- master of physical linguistics,AKA body language…I could always tell when a family member of a patient was going to pass out, and I would always catch them so they would not get seriously injured. It always baffled the Doctors and nurses that I could tell who was going to faint. To me it was so obvious.
And…I was as cool as a cucumber under severe stress. Thousands of code blues took its toll on my health. Sadly I became severely ill due to the stress of so much life and death scenarios and the emotions of the families. I was very good at this, but it left me with poor health.
Have You considered that you may need to clear your energy system/ chakras? As an INFJ and an natural empath and energy healer - I have learned to not use my personal energy while I administer to others And to not NOT absorbed the energy/ emotions/ illnesses of those around me. Also this helps prevent emotional burn out- that deep fatigue on our own energy body.💝🙏💝
Someone once said I looked intimidating. It might have been my build, my quiet nature or maybe my face is not naturally smiley. I have no idea beyond that. I'm really easy going with an off beat sense of humour. Over the years I have become more talkative and try to break ice early rather than let things hang because I know it can quickly cause an atmosphere. Either ask a mundane question and try a joke. Doesn't always work as some folk seem to not want to engage.
I am not intimidating.
I have intense presence.
Intimidation is an active process.
Never kick down
Wow!Wenzes is not only a gifted “professor”in this subject,she is the entire course curriculum and university. Soo much accurate information. Very thankful.
I agree. She really does spell out the INFJ experience. And she's very positive about it.
It is because she has walked that path and she shine light for each of us to see , observe and learn.
This was helpful. I tend to forget that as an INFJ Im different. So when people say negative things to about me or reflect negativity on me, I’ll believe them, thinking they must see me the way I’m able to see others. I give them too much benefit of the doubt that they don’t have a filter on. I forget that anything other than perfectly me is a filter.
You can grow out of that when you realize that 1)most people are terrible at perceiving others, you included, 2) don't actually understand you because you've hidden your true core behind your adapting to others, basically they can only see what you became for their needs. 3) Most people project their own flaws and thinking onto to others and are too focused on themselves to actually see you. All in all I recommend taking whatever is said to critic you with a healthy dose of salt and seasoning.
In the Midwest people poke at you and try to see what they are dealing with....there are so many comfortable older women here, and they did not have to get an education for being well off, yet they position themselves to take you down and place you. They are so used to being appeased while used for a low wage worker that you are offending them if you don't trade you personal life to sustain their mouth/mind. It is like kindness is not a default, and just the way you describe it...oh yuk
"Kindness that can Kill" comes to mind.
I have a lot of "dark side" INFJ at times. Though I try to be kind I tend to poke at peoples insecurities if I feel they are against me.
I use to be nice, now I sometimes like to reflect their darkness back into their mirror that is full of insecurities🪞
It’s so weird to hear someone talk about how I am different with each person I interact with. I don’t think it’s inauthentic. I think I just share a different side of myself to different people. I’ve always said that people affect me like drugs…. I thought everyone was like that.
I had a coworker that start to spread rumors that I don't do any work. Meanwhile I work my butt off. Boss told me he does not have any problems with me.
Yeah Wenzes, it really sucks!! You act a certain way for a certain length of time that's fun and carefree and then the first time you get a little bit serious because somebody steps on your toes they freak the f*** out and think that you're not who you presented yourself to be. Even though you take everything you have to try to understand and accept who they are they don't seem to want to do the same. It's very frustrating. But you know that don't you? Much love!❤
The toughest was when my sister and I began speaking after years of alienation. Getting to know each other was more difficult and quite a shock, especially when she rejected me so aggressively. I tried so hard to be kind and supportive because her life was tough. It didn’t work.
Always so on point. I love reading the comment sections. So many intelligent and insightful people, all together on this topic sparks up my brain and motivation, makes me feel SO VALIDATED thank you all !!!
I feel at home being with an INFJ. I am an INFP
It is really scary to be so scary😅. Thanks for your valuable insights!
You make my day :) Have a good day!"
yes Ma'am... "to pretty much show who they are". We give them the time, we give them the platform, we encourage them to be exactly who they are, and we watch, and yes we judge, we make estimations, and we get to see exactly who they are. And then we deal with who they actually are. Not the facade. We don't like talking to facades. We see people seemingly happy to talk to facades and we just shake our heads. And the other thing... we stepping back is very intimidating.. I agree, it seems to be. But does that even make sense ? Why is this ? Why is this respect intimidating and making them nervous? Why would anyone be intimidated/nervous out of respect for them ? Or is there something deeper going on ? I think so.
Only us INFJ's understand this video. I've been thinking about this a lot. So what are the options?
1.Open up and intimidate others.
2.Hide your capabilities (Dim your light)
There is no third option 😮. 😊❤
Balance. It's not always black and white. Tact is key.....
@jasbadsirron6424 There's no halfway opening up, therefore balance does not exist in this particular. It's either you state you can read others or you don't, if you don't you chose the 2nd option. So I can only assume you meant balance between choosing one of the options. Indeed you do not need or have to open up to everyone.
@@R.S-1986,😂
Solution is intimidating in a gentle INFJ way 😅.
Anyways,it's important to show all parts to be authentic.
@riyateby 😁 🤣 We try, we always mess it up.
@@R.S-1986,with practise the skill improves 😅
The way you articulate these intangible materials is unbelieve .I mean people these days cant get the right words to give you directions to the next Starbucks.
A recurring dream I had since childhood just made sense to me, I’m just out of reach of a door handle but when I step forward I’m to close to open the door. Back and forth trying to find a half step where I can get thru. You saying we are kind and they react wrong so we are more kind but they are more frustrated… seems to explain that dream to me now. thank you
I had a supervisor who openly hated me for no reason. My presence intimidated her. She would openly say "who are you? You never react as others do, you seem not present and I do not know how to talk to you" LOL Needless to say she engaged all tools and methods in HR to make my work difficult, and then she fired me, not because I was not performing or communicating well, but because she could not stand me.
"a clear image of who they wanted you to be".... Ms Marpy... I put you into that box last decade and now you dare to pop up and show me who you are... shreeeekkkk ! You can't do that Ms Marpy... I put you in that box for a reason.... my own reason... don't question my reason... I will lose it if you pop out of the box... I miself will pop like a balloon... Ms Marpy... Urrrrhh skeeeeech... get back in your box... you are making me UNCOMFORTABLE... and now I don't even know w h o y o u are...! I haven't seen you in a decade... You making me hell nervous... Ms Marpy... GET BACK IN YOUR BOX !
My husband used to say he never knows who he is going to wake up to.
So true. Infjs are indeed intimidating. It's way too hard to understand them.
I'm glad it's this way. Most people will eventually try to take advantage anyway possible, but with the infj they don't get that luxury.
Haha. Number 5 gave me a laugh. Its too true, it works better in person rather than online. If we didnt care so much, that could be used for evil.
This is really helpful. The funny thing is, I am a total marshmallow inside, until I feel threatened. I prbly should understand that I can be intimidating but at the same time it’s a mystery to me, cuz internally I’m just following my instincts. Love these videos!
Best INFJ description I have ever heard. Thank you. Good to know you all are out there.
Exactly as you explain. We step back because we have an understanding where that come from but people taking more steps up crossing boundary treating like a push over then they will have to face who we are.
🎯✌️😎 I wrote about those unspoken rules in my introduction of my started book in 2011 until the massive hacking stalking campaign. The ability to go anywhere to all corners of the neighborhood is unsettling for some 😂.
thank you for helping me understand how my weaknesses are actually strengths and how strengths can actually be weaknesses
A social chameleon will still be a chameleon......yes?
I love this channel cause you just affirmed the very thing I was just thinking about.
thanks for the sage advice Wenzes!
Oh wow! 🤩 Wenzes was on point 🎯 with this video 💯
I needed to hear this right now 😮
Oh now it makes sense. I find people seem to enjoy trying to trigger me. The problem with this is i utilize those moments to tame my ego, so in effect they are helping me to remain in Homestasis.
I myself as an INFJ do this with the knowledge that an inflated ego creates more drama. IMO; INFJ's dont purposly read people it just happens naturally and we seem able to see another's intention.
INFJ's are mutable, we adjust to people and circumstances.
We express alot of light due to always wanting to display our best selves however, we are exceptionally capable of displaying darkness if its necessary.
My partner and friends have voiced they dont like my level of independance, they state it makes them feel i dont need them. Truth is if i have allowed people in my life its not because i need them, its because i want them, however, start having a pity party about it, ill walk away, i dont divuldge in negativity.
Ive come to realise mist people dont like to be alone, one of my feiemds stated to me, i dont thibk you really like being alone 😂 this made me realise she doesnt know me at all, and she based this judgement on the fact she herself hates being alone so she cant understand how anyone can.
It gets tiring trying to translate your soul, to the people who claim to be connected to you.
Ive reached a point i dont need to explain myself anymore.
The only thing I fear from the INFJ is that I am going to fall in love with them. I am female and ever INFJ male I meet leaves me all stary eyed and in love. But INFJ's are hard to attract. Everyone loves you guys so there is a lot of competition.
Thank you so much, you're really helping me.
This video is AMAZING, thank you wenzes, so insightful to see things from other's perspective
💯 TH!S is the INFJ life! Thank you 🙏🏼
Excellent explanation, with precise insight, as always, Wenzes. Thank you!
I love you in green!
Thank you so much for your vids, insights and wisdom, Its been a relief to recognise theses traits in my self. I wish I had discovered this 30 years ago. x
never save help or try to fix people they will only hate u more focus on youuuuu
Thank you, I appreciate you.🤔❤🇺🇸
Your hair looks great
I've never had an internet role model or soothsayer until now. This episode was extremely useful on a personal leverl. Please keep up the great work Wenzes and I always look forward to your next video.
Just discovered your wisdom, big respect from a fellow INFJ here🎉🎉🎉 Thank you for your amazing content, you keep it so real, I just had to post it in my community blog
When you talk of ego at 2:30 it's really quite a paradox......and so many other parts of this personality type.
I'm glad you mentioned we have a dark side cause mine has shown through frustration and confusion of others not understanding.
Wenze's I admit being intimidating.However,doesn't phase me.Wenze's I thank you for your wisdom.Jerome
People can only hanle me. For 2; hrs
Your vids and shared infj knowledge are such a blessing! Thanks..
She's actually a cognitive ISFP; definitely not an Ni-Ti convergent type.
Brilliant
You definitely have got this worked out .
I enjoy what your doing.
Don't stop it's very helpful for many people not just I n f j's
Sending you love blessings and respect..♥️🙏☀️xx
I have gotten very dark over the years. If someone is being abusive or unkind I pull back and give them that vampire firestarter look. Then, I just smile. I look like a snake who sees a mouse.
This gets them to leave me alone. It also makes them feel like I put a spell on them. Who knows? Eyebiting is for real in some places around the world.
Thank you.
My whole life… and it’s frustrating most times.
100% relatable
So so good
i noticed i scare people just by walking down the street or walking into a supermarket LOL i'm just strolling in (or stomping lol) and people stared at me with wide eyes. i'm not even trying to be intimidating, i'm just minding my own business. 😎
The worst: when two of your worlds spontaneously collide & your INFJ personality volumes don't know where to set O_o
Thank you very much ❤🙏
Thank you 🌞
Wow 🤩 💯
thank you.
I can move into many different settings and have relationships with people who would never co-exist easily. This was more confusing to me as a younger person because I did not have much of a core. Now I am more consistent from one situation to another or one person to another. I had a lot of uneven relationships that I had to cull from my life.
I wonder are there any other personalities watching videos about the INFJ's, other then INFJs?
❤🎉inherent vice is my fave so far
Good stuff, I feel that you would benefit from a proper mic, wireless or podcast mic. Proper sound will bring more presence to your video and help communicate better your message, regards!
Thankyou ❤
It just now came to me, how many times at the end of a relationship, someone says, " you think "this" about me. (Example: you think I'm fat or you think I'm to bald, or you think I'm stupid because I'm not as smart as you, etc...) When I NEVER ONCE THOUGHT THAT ABOUT THEM. BUT I did see that, that was the insecurity they were terrified I would see. I saw it the very first or second time we talked. They saw in me that I saw it. Atleast that's what I thought, but what they interpreted is I thought they were fat, bald, or stupid, etc.. Not the case at all. Thank you Wenzes for getting me to see and understand this❣️
❤❤❤❤ thank you
What eyeshadow are you wearing please? It's stunning.
I kinda freaks me out to find out I’m a thing. I’m not sure I buy it.
wish I had seen this sooner 😂
demons hate us narcs hate us borderlines hate our light we are blessed amen we are magic
😅😂 I am. Can’t help.
Christ ⭐️That’s what happened to me this week.
I see them…. Thats exactly how I connect. How I can change my perceptions.
They are so afraid. I want to laugh and cry at the same time.
Is way too much to think about.
This information causes sure a riff in my being feeling of causing destructive and guilt.
Where I suffer so deeply their actual feelings the same.
The emotional pain from their aggressive behaviour. The nastiness of thoughts thrown in your face.
Reflecting then back with their own madness of angry resentment. I sadness compassion repent-full hate them love them hurt them all at the same time.
I don’t want to be like them….or like me for this matter.
50 of one… 50 of the other. No brainer I choose me.
I am not suicidal. Making thus clear.
I so much understand relating to INFJ.
How is it possible to feel responsible for how other treat you because of internal thought patterns.
They use there imagination to make sense of not knowing who you are. Maybe I do this and not be aware. I don’t know what’s real or not.
This opens such complex thinking and connectioning of to many threads my mind is overwhelmed. Life has come so fucking complicated.
My mind is discombobulated.
I hate the place I’m in at this moment.
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Not so often anymore but sometimes I have to become my shadow side which is ESTP
Bro I warn people all the time they just can't catch on to how intensity
This is very Fi-Ni convergent; I wouldn't say cognitive INFJs are intense people, they're much like their ENFJ cousins
ohhhh my god. I didn't realize that I was actually intimidating people. this makes so much sense about my current relationship. I have a question. Do we know if there is a correlation between people with ASD (autism spectrum disorder) being INFJ's?
I was gonna ask this cuz I thought i finally figured everything out about myself and why i operate the way i do only to realize I’m neurodivergent and in the process of getting diagnosed
As a second comment, I would love to work with you one-on-one. Boy, do I need help!!😅
I find it a little bit difficult to hear what is being said in an echoey room, could you please add some muffle/sound absorption to the room you're in in future videos?
Another question, Was Gen X the generation of the INTJ and INFJs ? Cause the independent personalities of Gen X mesh so similarly with INTJ and INFJ.
3:50 it's protective or defensive. I think it's manipulation and a way to make people predictable. Very aggressive behavior, honestly. It takes peoples choice away and suddenly they feel how I always feel!
Looks like she is cosplaying Lois Griffin 😂
Respectfully this has everything to do with behaviour & not cognition per se. Wenzes is actually a cognitive ISFP not a Jungian INFJ; Ni-Ti convergent (abstract logician?)...I don't think so. The Fi-Ni convergence is very apparent indeed. Of course ISFPs are another wonderful type.
Speaking for INTPs, you’re cool, not intimidating. Just don’t get feely with us though please.
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