It's Important to note that Fi is linked to Te via what is called "cognitive axis" so values can often be based around hidden practicalities, Example: The feeling of labelling our identity such as we feel like we're a/an (thing) is much more likely if we are good at (thing). this might not always work but i prefer to think of functions not as isolated components but rather a system of symbiotic interactions I think You explained this well in your interview section
I'd add that, for intuituve feelers, we are frequently trying to "paint a picture" weaving images and concepts (Ryan Gosling is taking all of these feeling "colors" like the American dream, human grit, broken dreams and dissolution, triumph over adversity, seeing beauty in off places, etc). He wants to weave it all together to " mesmerize" you, evoke your own convictions and imagination, and make you (hopefully) "see" why you should care, not overlook or automatically reject people who maybe don't " look pretty" on the outside, stick up for an underdog or stick around a little longer for the lost cause, or whatever other messages he's trying to impart. And yes, there is logic, but it's like a net of ideas and observations of human beings and human behavior gleaned over a lifetime of watching and thinking and reflecting. It's semi-woo but not actually, but to try and condense that and articulate it in a tight, neat package a la tony Robbins isn't so easy. That's why NFs turn to art of one kind of another- it can be the best and most direct way to evoke all of that in a medium that you can't just think about for a minute, say "hmm" and either accept or reject. You can look at it over and over, pop it on your turntable or take it down from your bookshelf and study it, see a new shade or have a new insight. This, in a big fat long rambling nutshell is the struggle for feelers to "explain themselves". How do you put that in a tiny Robbins sized sound bite?🤣🤣
I appreciate you succinctly explaining the whys behind our difficulties as INFPs to express our feelings. For me, the absolute worst is when I'm pressured to explain myself right NOW. It's like: 'So you really want me to use real dictionary words right NOW to explain this VIBE I'm feeling??' Question for you, though: As a thinker, do you find it frustrating when INFPs have a hard time expressing themselves to you in real time?
That is an excellent question because it is absolutely true. Since I am very in-touch with WHY I do what I do, if I am not paying attention I can become frustrated because (and this is the danger for all of us) I will assume the other person is like me. But it happens less and less as I've learned to see myself and other more honestly. Nothing has taught me more than my relationships with feelers, and being able to see things through their eyes.
@@ENTJ_Perspective Thank you so much for understanding us! I think a lot of thinkers (and maybe Fe-doms?) think we're just being difficult/selfish. For me, I try hard to be balanced and communicate my thoughts in a simple way...doesn't always go well. But like you, learning about MBTI is helping me to understand differences in thinking, so I'm working hard to communicate better (when I'm not just hiding in my corner with my 'vibes'...)
At the end I prefer to stay silent or just tell them any thing will make them silent, they can never understand, they will just see me as an awkward person
INFP here. Yes, sometimes i find it very tiring having to explain your feelings and thought to thinkers. But i am grateful that those thinkers close to me are generally kind n patient people. They will really listen, until i have done my best (to explain). Then they will show respect to my views and thoughts, or even agree to them, too. Thanks for this video n advice. Have subscribed since i first saw your channel in your last video.
Yes. Unfortunately we get pegged with the stereotype of being bad with emotions, but I've always found I've had a gift, at least, for putting them into words. Love to hear that about your friend. Thanks for sharing.
@@ENTJ_Perspective Thank you for your videos! Yes, he has been trough a lot, as an ex criminal, so he knows people VERY well and has always warned me to not be naive, or see too much goodness in people. But also to see the goodness in those who are good, and not shove people away bc of my traumas. He is a very good advisor, though I help him as much as he helps me. :)
Between yesterday and today, I think I watched all of your videos and subscribed, keep up the good work! I love hearing about the ENTJ perspective (especially a healthy ENTJ) on the other types and the relationships between the two, since you guys are so rare. - INFP
I think you should change the title, cuz I feel like these aren't limited to INFPs only. Anyways, thanks for this video, it was really informational. I really like the end part, and it made me chuckle. Because after all the things you discussed, there's one thing that's inevitable, its that it will be uncomfortable. The reason you're making this video in the first place is to tell how to communicate to certain doms as a Fi dom, and I love how you pointed that it will be uncomfortable. It's not something that when you read or heard, you can easily do it. It takes more than just that. Excuse my english lol, I'm not sure if I said my feelings right.
I named it that because I wanted the video to be more searchable. But yes, this really doesn't just apply to INFPs. And you're right, the discomfort is inevitable. What's tricky is sometimes being uncomfortable means you're going in the right direction. So I want people to know it can be okay to feel that way. Your English is perfect ✅
@@ENTJ_Perspective In the right direction, really? That's interesting! I feel a bit better regarding my poor communication skills. I'll keep doing my best to improve it!
To the point, as usual. Question: what about the reverse situation? How does the whole “explain your feelings” work for you ENTJs (in your experience)? And do you feel like feelings are inherently “private”? As in, do you get any sort of cringe/discomfort when you are asked to share your feelings or when acquaintances (not friends/family/romantic partners) share theirs? As in “wtf dude, keep that to yourself, that’s kinda private stuff”? I’m asking because if you want to see me struggling, ask me how I *feel* about something (*how* I feel, not *why* I feel that way). And I freeze when people share their feelings, but because to me it’s like something super-intimate When somebody who isn’t a very close friend/romantic partner shares their feelings with me is like if they asked me to observe them while taking a shit. I know pooping is normal and there’s nothing wrong with it at all, but why do you want me to see that??! -INTP
That's really great question. For me, even though I've had a lot of practice, it still can be difficult to get into that mode. When asked about my feelings, or when I'm trying to express my feelings for another, my speech might slow down or I might hesitate. I might stutter or my voice might crack. Sometimes my chest gets tight. It actually affects my physiology and it can be scary and uncomfortable. But I've gotten used to giving myself that initial push, and as long as I consciously engage those muscles regularly it's easier for me to get into that mode. Sometimes, if I'm really in the groove, you might mistake me for an ENFJ, haha. But I really like this question. It's actually what my next video is going to be about.
as infp, I have it similar, sharing feelings especially when asked about them directly can be scary, talking about my random feels whenever I'm in the mood is another matter tho xd this is how I try to connect with people but most of all, I don't want to explain my feelings, I just want them to be honored 🥲curiously it's actually entj that turned out for me a good friend when it comes to that, but I wondered too if it's overwhelming much for entjs to listen to someone's random feels (not feelings about them), as for intps I know it can be. also already know that exposing yourself to uncomfortable situations is supposed to make you stronger xd I guess the thing with fi logic is it's like intuition to me so at times it's really hard to unravel that even tho it feels so obvious. I like the analogy of two sides of the same coin, it shows how thinker logic has some feeling underpinning too even if not realized at times. thanks, useful vid, tho uncomfortable😅
@@natalewska "I don't want to explain my feelings, I just want them to be honored " That is my exact experience with INFPs which is why I value the relationship so much because it teaches us to do the same. It's also why I think this relationship is basically "hard mode" for both types. But the effort matches the reward.
Thank you! I think the context of the questions has a minimal effect on how these individuals would answer them. For example, if Tony Robbins was making a movie he would probably have a clear objective in mind which he could easily communicate. And if Ryan Gosling was trying to motivate people, the way he would express that would primarily be a reflection of his likes/values in a general sense.
You know what's funny? I could literally post a video every single day. That's how often I have something I want to share. But I'm also training myself how to objectively type people, which involves a lot of studying and practice. And I also try to use each video as an opportunity to improve my editing skills and experiment with new techniques. Plus there's the whole UA-cam thing- making thumbnails, having the proper title, understanding the algorithm, etc. This whole thing has been a ton of learning for me. I could talk forever. It's easy. So I have to consciously try to balance that with my own learning and development. That being said, I think as this thing becomes more streamlined I will get to the point where I can post more often. Either way, it means a lot to me that you want to see more. Thank you
It's Important to note that Fi is linked to Te via what is called "cognitive axis" so values can often be based around hidden practicalities,
Example: The feeling of labelling our identity such as we feel like we're a/an (thing) is much more likely if we are good at (thing).
this might not always work but i prefer to think of functions not as isolated components but rather a system of symbiotic interactions
I think You explained this well in your interview section
I'd add that, for intuituve feelers, we are frequently trying to "paint a picture" weaving images and concepts (Ryan Gosling is taking all of these feeling "colors" like the American dream, human grit, broken dreams and dissolution, triumph over adversity, seeing beauty in off places, etc). He wants to weave it all together to " mesmerize" you, evoke your own convictions and imagination, and make you (hopefully) "see" why you should care, not overlook or automatically reject people who maybe don't " look pretty" on the outside, stick up for an underdog or stick around a little longer for the lost cause, or whatever other messages he's trying to impart. And yes, there is logic, but it's like a net of ideas and observations of human beings and human behavior gleaned over a lifetime of watching and thinking and reflecting. It's semi-woo but not actually, but to try and condense that and articulate it in a tight, neat package a la tony Robbins isn't so easy. That's why NFs turn to art of one kind of another- it can be the best and most direct way to evoke all of that in a medium that you can't just think about for a minute, say "hmm" and either accept or reject. You can look at it over and over, pop it on your turntable or take it down from your bookshelf and study it, see a new shade or have a new insight. This, in a big fat long rambling nutshell is the struggle for feelers to "explain themselves". How do you put that in a tiny Robbins sized sound bite?🤣🤣
Brilliantly said, thank you for that.
I appreciate you succinctly explaining the whys behind our difficulties as INFPs to express our feelings. For me, the absolute worst is when I'm pressured to explain myself right NOW. It's like: 'So you really want me to use real dictionary words right NOW to explain this VIBE I'm feeling??' Question for you, though: As a thinker, do you find it frustrating when INFPs have a hard time expressing themselves to you in real time?
That is an excellent question because it is absolutely true. Since I am very in-touch with WHY I do what I do, if I am not paying attention I can become frustrated because (and this is the danger for all of us) I will assume the other person is like me. But it happens less and less as I've learned to see myself and other more honestly. Nothing has taught me more than my relationships with feelers, and being able to see things through their eyes.
@@ENTJ_Perspective Thank you so much for understanding us! I think a lot of thinkers (and maybe Fe-doms?) think we're just being difficult/selfish. For me, I try hard to be balanced and communicate my thoughts in a simple way...doesn't always go well. But like you, learning about MBTI is helping me to understand differences in thinking, so I'm working hard to communicate better (when I'm not just hiding in my corner with my 'vibes'...)
@@desiree8329 Sounds like you're on the path :)
At the end I prefer to stay silent or just tell them any thing will make them silent, they can never understand, they will just see me as an awkward person
INFP here. Yes, sometimes i find it very tiring having to explain your feelings and thought to thinkers. But i am grateful that those thinkers close to me are generally kind n patient people. They will really listen, until i have done my best (to explain). Then they will show respect to my views and thoughts, or even agree to them, too. Thanks for this video n advice. Have subscribed since i first saw your channel in your last video.
That's beautiful. And I agree. I think we're here to teach each other.
My best friend is an ENTJ, and he always understands and put my feelings into words to help me find a good solution. :)
Yes. Unfortunately we get pegged with the stereotype of being bad with emotions, but I've always found I've had a gift, at least, for putting them into words.
Love to hear that about your friend. Thanks for sharing.
@@ENTJ_Perspective Thank you for your videos! Yes, he has been trough a lot, as an ex criminal, so he knows people VERY well and has always warned me to not be naive, or see too much goodness in people. But also to see the goodness in those who are good, and not shove people away bc of my traumas. He is a very good advisor, though I help him as much as he helps me. :)
@@marcusappelberg369 Seeing the good and the bad in everyone. That's some good advice. He sounds mature. Glad you guys have each other.
This is really useful! Thank you!
-INFP
You're welcome and thank you.
Between yesterday and today, I think I watched all of your videos and subscribed, keep up the good work! I love hearing about the ENTJ perspective (especially a healthy ENTJ) on the other types and the relationships between the two, since you guys are so rare. - INFP
Why thank you. If you'd ever like my perspective on something let me know.
Rewatching it because it is a great work. You are getting better with every single video.
Thank you
I think you should change the title, cuz I feel like these aren't limited to INFPs only. Anyways, thanks for this video, it was really informational. I really like the end part, and it made me chuckle. Because after all the things you discussed, there's one thing that's inevitable, its that it will be uncomfortable. The reason you're making this video in the first place is to tell how to communicate to certain doms as a Fi dom, and I love how you pointed that it will be uncomfortable. It's not something that when you read or heard, you can easily do it. It takes more than just that. Excuse my english lol, I'm not sure if I said my feelings right.
I named it that because I wanted the video to be more searchable. But yes, this really doesn't just apply to INFPs.
And you're right, the discomfort is inevitable. What's tricky is sometimes being uncomfortable means you're going in the right direction. So I want people to know it can be okay to feel that way.
Your English is perfect ✅
@@ENTJ_Perspective In the right direction, really? That's interesting! I feel a bit better regarding my poor communication skills. I'll keep doing my best to improve it!
To the point, as usual.
Question: what about the reverse situation? How does the whole “explain your feelings” work for you ENTJs (in your experience)? And do you feel like feelings are inherently “private”? As in, do you get any sort of cringe/discomfort when you are asked to share your feelings or when acquaintances (not friends/family/romantic partners) share theirs? As in “wtf dude, keep that to yourself, that’s kinda private stuff”?
I’m asking because if you want to see me struggling, ask me how I *feel* about something (*how* I feel, not *why* I feel that way). And I freeze when people share their feelings, but because to me it’s like something super-intimate When somebody who isn’t a very close friend/romantic partner shares their feelings with me is like if they asked me to observe them while taking a shit. I know pooping is normal and there’s nothing wrong with it at all, but why do you want me to see that??!
-INTP
That's really great question. For me, even though I've had a lot of practice, it still can be difficult to get into that mode. When asked about my feelings, or when I'm trying to express my feelings for another, my speech might slow down or I might hesitate. I might stutter or my voice might crack. Sometimes my chest gets tight. It actually affects my physiology and it can be scary and uncomfortable.
But I've gotten used to giving myself that initial push, and as long as I consciously engage those muscles regularly it's easier for me to get into that mode. Sometimes, if I'm really in the groove, you might mistake me for an ENFJ, haha.
But I really like this question. It's actually what my next video is going to be about.
@@ENTJ_Perspective thanks for answering, can’t wait for the video. It’s interesting that you get this very physiological reaction, I’ll think about it
as infp, I have it similar, sharing feelings especially when asked about them directly can be scary, talking about my random feels whenever I'm in the mood is another matter tho xd this is how I try to connect with people but most of all, I don't want to explain my feelings, I just want them to be honored 🥲curiously it's actually entj that turned out for me a good friend when it comes to that, but I wondered too if it's overwhelming much for entjs to listen to someone's random feels (not feelings about them), as for intps I know it can be.
also already know that exposing yourself to uncomfortable situations is supposed to make you stronger xd I guess the thing with fi logic is it's like intuition to me so at times it's really hard to unravel that even tho it feels so obvious. I like the analogy of two sides of the same coin, it shows how thinker logic has some feeling underpinning too even if not realized at times. thanks, useful vid, tho uncomfortable😅
@@giomar89 LOL somehow didn't notice the bottom of your comment with the pooping analogy🤣, that is a masterful analogy.
@@natalewska "I don't want to explain my feelings, I just want them to be honored "
That is my exact experience with INFPs which is why I value the relationship so much because it teaches us to do the same. It's also why I think this relationship is basically "hard mode" for both types. But the effort matches the reward.
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Awww, Ty Sarah. 🥰
I get what you mean and it's true but in the videos aren't the context of the two questions quite different? I like the way you think though.
Thank you! I think the context of the questions has a minimal effect on how these individuals would answer them. For example, if Tony Robbins was making a movie he would probably have a clear objective in mind which he could easily communicate. And if Ryan Gosling was trying to motivate people, the way he would express that would primarily be a reflection of his likes/values in a general sense.
I died at Tony Robins's Te. oh my.
LOL right?
Amazing videos
Thank you
T types who understand Feelings are just pure sexy
I agree.
I used to have a hard time expressing feelings. Not no mo. Everyone wishing Id shut up.
Don't slack off ENTJ, post videoes more often ;) - INTP
You know what's funny? I could literally post a video every single day. That's how often I have something I want to share.
But I'm also training myself how to objectively type people, which involves a lot of studying and practice. And I also try to use each video as an opportunity to improve my editing skills and experiment with new techniques. Plus there's the whole UA-cam thing- making thumbnails, having the proper title, understanding the algorithm, etc. This whole thing has been a ton of learning for me.
I could talk forever. It's easy. So I have to consciously try to balance that with my own learning and development. That being said, I think as this thing becomes more streamlined I will get to the point where I can post more often.
Either way, it means a lot to me that you want to see more. Thank you