This video is great! As someone who has been to therapy quite a bit, I like how straightforward and informative this is at conveying a lot of those main concepts that are often talked about in therapy (at least for me).
This has been so helpful. I have severe anxiety (probs for the last 20yrs) that I'm just now getting help with and I'm postpartum. Knowing not only the name, but some steps on how to contract these thoughts. Especially the asking yourself for evidence.
I ve had a lot of these thoughts when I was a newsletter editor. There were so many details I had to mind. Right down to, "Am I nagging too much?" Because I hadn't heard from someone who needed to send me an article. "Did I call them too many times? Will they get mad if I call again?" There were a few times this was true, but by and large it was fine. Personally, I think it's trickier to work with volunteers than with employees. There are feelings to consider, while in business there is a specific attitude that people affect and expect. It's a bit brusque and slightly mechanical. It doesn't preclude emotions, but it doesn't cultivate them, either. It's "just business. When I did the newsletter, there were times I felt I was walking on eggshells, and it was common for me to figuratively self-flagellate.
CBT for the win! I recognize a lot of these--especially mind reading. The tips for noticing the negative thought and challenging it by looking for other explanations or evidence that disproves it really help over time.
I literally had this problem yesterday when texting my crush! The other day I sent her a message showing her a wood carving I was working on. She didn't respond for a while, and I started getting worried if she gave me the right number or if it was just to get me off her back, and then she responded and I felt such a relief. The weirdest thing was that the whole time I was waiting I kept telling myself that she probably just didn't see it yet since she works at a supermarket and can't take time to look at messages, yet I still felt anxious!
if someone gives you their number and you're not sure if they're giving you their actual number, intentionally read it out to them wrong to see if they correct you.
Well, I feel called out! I'm in cognitive behavioral therapy, so I'm doing a lot better than I used to, but I still struggle with a lot of this - especially labeling. It's pretty easy to call myself a "moron" when I make a mistake, even though I would never do that to others. I think that's a key thing - if you wouldn't talk like that to someone else, you shouldn't talk like that to yourself!
the fallacy of shoulds is p common for me, being neurodivergent i often think about specific shoulds that boil down to "i should be more like neurotypical people" labeling is also tricky for me b/c "neurodivergent" could be considered a negative label if my thoughts then lead to "i'm doomed", but it also is the actual root of some of my problems so i can't just avoid it entirely
They are traces of things one has learned. I recommend internal family systems with the supervision of a trustworthy trained individual. They are not distortions, they are projections (or predictions)
Myles I Love Your Content Bro, Way Above The Noise You Are Teaching & Preaching Here, I Learned Some Real Truths From You Bro, Thanks Keep Making More Mini Movies💯 You're Funny Too So Not Boring😂😂😂
Oh man, when I assume someone is reacting negatively I just move on and remember to not annoy that person about it. If I was right, they'll likely move on. If I was wrong then I'm probably looking cooler than I really am... which is probably the case most of the time. Ain't no one got time for that $#!7 anyway.
when he kicks that negative thoughts in the game, what he has in the mind, I am better, I am good enough, what to eat today blabla, you should have counter example to kick and idea, but what is the healthy way to do it, just wondering
Do you ever have any of these negative thoughts? If so, tell us which ones and how you deal with it!
Our brains only think positively when it's about procrastination😂
Myles Bess, you are NOT boring. You are calming. I love watching your videos. Thank you for helping to educate the world.
Thank you! We appreciate hearing this!
This video is great! As someone who has been to therapy quite a bit, I like how straightforward and informative this is at conveying a lot of those main concepts that are often talked about in therapy (at least for me).
Thanks for watching and your feedback!
This has been so helpful. I have severe anxiety (probs for the last 20yrs) that I'm just now getting help with and I'm postpartum. Knowing not only the name, but some steps on how to contract these thoughts. Especially the asking yourself for evidence.
Miles you are a great host! Don't let anybody tell you different
Aw, thank you!! 🥰
concur with @SCREENDOORONSUBMARIN
you are an awesome PBS channel @@AboveTheNoise ! - mico
I ve had a lot of these thoughts when I was a newsletter editor. There were so many details I had to mind. Right down to, "Am I nagging too much?" Because I hadn't heard from someone who needed to send me an article. "Did I call them too many times? Will they get mad if I call again?"
There were a few times this was true, but by and large it was fine. Personally, I think it's trickier to work with volunteers than with employees. There are feelings to consider, while in business there is a specific attitude that people affect and expect. It's a bit brusque and slightly mechanical. It doesn't preclude emotions, but it doesn't cultivate them, either. It's "just business. When I did the newsletter, there were times I felt I was walking on eggshells, and it was common for me to figuratively self-flagellate.
CBT for the win! I recognize a lot of these--especially mind reading. The tips for noticing the negative thought and challenging it by looking for other explanations or evidence that disproves it really help over time.
I literally had this problem yesterday when texting my crush! The other day I sent her a message showing her a wood carving I was working on. She didn't respond for a while, and I started getting worried if she gave me the right number or if it was just to get me off her back, and then she responded and I felt such a relief. The weirdest thing was that the whole time I was waiting I kept telling myself that she probably just didn't see it yet since she works at a supermarket and can't take time to look at messages, yet I still felt anxious!
if someone gives you their number and you're not sure if they're giving you their actual number, intentionally read it out to them wrong to see if they correct you.
Well, I feel called out! I'm in cognitive behavioral therapy, so I'm doing a lot better than I used to, but I still struggle with a lot of this - especially labeling. It's pretty easy to call myself a "moron" when I make a mistake, even though I would never do that to others. I think that's a key thing - if you wouldn't talk like that to someone else, you shouldn't talk like that to yourself!
Great advice! We need to be our own ally, not our own worst enemy!
We miss your videos.
feeling attacked rn
New socks are underrated! Smooth, soft and comfortable. I’m now at the age where I a pair of new socks is the ultimate gift.
the fallacy of shoulds is p common for me, being neurodivergent i often think about specific shoulds that boil down to "i should be more like neurotypical people"
labeling is also tricky for me b/c "neurodivergent" could be considered a negative label if my thoughts then lead to "i'm doomed", but it also is the actual root of some of my problems so i can't just avoid it entirely
Excellent video Myles! Any plans on making another video about the other cognitive distortions?
That’s a great idea but we’ll be taking a break to work on a new project.
Bro, trust me you are not boring 😃!. Just discovered your channel one new sub from me.
This was a really informative video, and actually helps me a lot!
Great video. Definitely have to share this one. I'm a big fan of behavioral science, and this video is easy to understand and apply.
Awesome! So glad you enjoyed it
Great job!
They are traces of things one has learned. I recommend internal family systems with the supervision of a trustworthy trained individual. They are not distortions, they are projections (or predictions)
I get these all the time, so much negative thinking especially about myself
Same. Do any of these tips from the psychologist seem like they might work for you?
Myles I Love Your Content Bro, Way Above The Noise You Are Teaching & Preaching Here, I Learned Some Real Truths From You Bro, Thanks Keep Making More Mini Movies💯 You're Funny Too So Not Boring😂😂😂
I only just discovered your channel a few minutes ago and your ability to entertain and inform is brilliant. Keep being amazing.
I can truthfully say I am have never experienced anything like this.
Good on you, man! It’s not fun
Oh man, when I assume someone is reacting negatively I just move on and remember to not annoy that person about it. If I was right, they'll likely move on. If I was wrong then I'm probably looking cooler than I really am... which is probably the case most of the time. Ain't no one got time for that $#!7 anyway.
'But Doctor,' clown replies, tears streaming down his face, _'I am negative thinking.'_
Great joke. Everybody laughs. Roll on snare
Thanks Miles - I LOVE this and will share ... :)
Thank you!!
when he kicks that negative thoughts in the game, what he has in the mind, I am better, I am good enough, what to eat today blabla, you should have counter example to kick and idea, but what is the healthy way to do it, just wondering
why is this sooo true 😭 💀
Good Job Miles! lol
Good Lord you are awesome bro. ❤
Mr Ali’s nephew is wild
Hope more and more ppl find this video and realise its value. This is great!
Thank you for watching and your encouraging comment!
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i have your last name in a different state lol
1st
Congrats!
wow youre even nice to the people that say first what a nice guy@@AboveTheNoise
@AboveTheNoise deserves respect for doing that @@tnt_gaming21 - mico