It's actually a seriously creepy form of gaslighting, and even more creepy how believable it is. Sad his friends had to see it with their own eyes before believing him. Meanwhile "The 6" seemed to character assassinate their friend's fianceè with total ease. This story makes me feel extra sorry for men overall, who this probably happens more often than we realize to, because I think there is a stigma that men should be able to handle their woman's drama. After all "you're a man" and "she's just a girl". (Not my thoughts, but what the stigma feels like it's saying.) But giving a partner extra grace and patience while still working together, where someone may be making poor choices at times but genuinely wants to heal & is taking steps to do so is a way different situation from accepting manipulation, blatant disrespect and lack of accountability from an entitled partner who intentionally hid part of themselves & then sprang immediately into new entitled expectations. The friends were mutual so maybe the personality switch was just too hard to conceive for them, which, with the limited info we have, is the most grace I will give them for not trusting their male friend's valid feelings of not wanting to endure any more of this uncouth behavior. To me the restaurant and clubs stories would be more than enough for me to grasp his side that she has, at the very least, lost respect for his property and his feelings around them. And you would still encourage your friend to marry and move in with this person? Pump the brakes until that is sorted out! Also the "to appease you" comment!!!! We can't forget that slimy remark either. Huge red flag to give someone spite over them just wanting to know whether company will be coming by their home.
The word you are looking for is sociopath. I have only had the misfortune to meet one in my life but that one behaved much like this. He had a narrow escape.
Reminded me of Doctor Who, when the 10th Doctor decided to "destroy" the Prime Minister by whispering "doesn't she seem tired" to her deputy prime minister.
i really appreciate Trevor's soft and empathetic approach to these things, his perspective was very metered and compassionate, and very refreshing compared to a lot of people
Wholeheartedly agree. I really appreciate Trevor’s empathy and perspective here. He’s very gentle and thoughtful in his responses when he offers a counter point/different perspective
He was brilliant today! Really aware of the implications of the story elements and of the big impact of things mentioned in passing. So glad you pointed it out, thank you!
the thing about the orange peel theory thing is that afaik, it comes from a tumblr famous poem, where the gist of the poem is "i can peel oranges neatly. my best friend can't. i hope she never learns how to peel oranges correctly". so the idea is wanting to be able to do something for your loved ones, not to have someone do something for you when you ask
It's a bid for attention thing, just like the poem (from what you've described), it feels so good to be in a relationship where you know the other party is thinking fondly of you and it is seen through acts and considerations. Do you do little acts to make them happy or comfortable? Do you like doing it? Do they do little things that make you happy or comfortable? Do they like doing it? It's great for romantic relationships but can work for platonic, filial ones too... but don't expect this in professional relationships on average lol.
Yeah I think they were being really hard on that girl. She loved her boyfriend and he was taking advantage of her. If anything, she’s exhibit A of why it might occasionally be a good thing to try out.
I remember that Tumblr post but i also remember the post where op's dad would peel pistachios for them without them asking him "To peel is to show love"
the part with the earthquake and shayne going "what are you gonna do? run from the EARTH?" while court is stressing over finding the exit really shows theyre perfect for e/o i love them
With that second story, it wasn't that she did a 180 personality flip, it's that she perceived the engagement as "oh I'm in", and decided it was the time to pull off the front she had fixed on for him. Because it's draining to be a better person than who you are when you don't believe in that better person to begin with. So the moment she thought that there was no takesie backsies, she decided to allow herself the room to be as manipulative as she was. Which honestly, the sheer gall and confidence to do that before the wedding was even getting planned speaks volumes. Not only is she manipulative, and a *legit* gaslighter, she is just…also delusional.
I actually think there was an update for this story, where it comes out that the ex-fiance was literally a PoS and was acting to get OP to propose. The "best friends" he met early on in their relationship were her cousins she pressured to play along for some reason. I always find it so scary when the abuse is so nefarious even his friends were questioning if HE had been the one to cause things to devolve. Edit: oh nevermind, they did cover the update.
@@slsthewriter1299 I think there might also be something here, that she acts super differently with her annoying friends because she's also trying to be part of that group. One of those people who just can't be themselves. So she puts on a pleasant mask to try to get a proposal but is also masking so that her "friends" like her. Her panicking at the thought of cancelling the engagement says a lot.
@ There could be truth to that. I wouldn’t be surprised. But it also says a lot that she surrounds herself with those kind of people at 30. When it’s something someone does in middle school it’s one thing, because those kind of clicky types are the “popular” ones (not everywhere but still), and so seeking validation like that at such a young age is typical. Not great, but not surprising. But she is 30. A grown woman, not even young adult. And with that, of course she’s panicking about the engagement. She wants to have her cake and eat it too. Like she wants a cushy life, and with her spending his money via the wine and using him as a butler kinda speaks to what she wants from him. Obviously can’t read into stuff that deeply based off of a reread of one person’s account, but it does speak volumes regardless of the why.
Clear case of a gold digger. She viewed him as an object of wealth to provide a comfy and luxurious life for her and her friends. As soon as she felt the relationship was cemented in her mind with the engagement, the facade she had maintained before dropped because she felt what was his was now hers and her friends'.
That "isn't he getting forgetful lately?" is textbook gaslight and manipulation. She knew she was in the wrong and literally tried to flip everything on him by planting doubt on the other person's head
@@leastselfawarepotassiumNah, you just don’t go “isn’t he getting forgetful?” To the other people around you in order to deny what they are saying about you. If he’d been getting *so* forgetful that it was an issue, that would be something a partner would actually get concerned about, not use as a last-ditch defense for their own bad actions.
@@mrlowdays everything about that situation is textbook. Whether it was consciously malicious or not, she manipulated him into thinking she was an entirely different person, then showed her true colors once she thought she had him locked down. I’m glad he got out. I would not have been surprised if she became outright abusive the longer he stayed.
shane's perspective of the movie theatre earthquake and courtney asking trevor about a cleaver literally had me in tears for the first time in so long 😂😂
They kind of skated over the fact that the bf planned a night out with his friend when he was supposed to have a talk with his girlfriend. The test was strange, but I think that it revealed real issues in the relationship and problems with how she was being treated.
He also had his child and was presumably going to leave the child with her wormhole he was out drinking. Absolutely not. He was using her as a nanny and housekeeper.
He only saw her as a replacement for his daughter. He never wanted to be with her and for the mom to say you aren’t a good mother or future wife, huh? Absolutely not. He saw a woman with her own place, car, job, and wanted to move in with her and bring his 1 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER, where is her mom?
Why does nobody mention how INSANE it is for the boyfriend to use his BABY as leverage to stop her from breaking up with him?!? It's crazy and awful that he even tries that
!!!!! I couldnt believe what was coming out of shayne's mouth and everyone just letting him call a 22 year old girl imature for seting bounderies when her boyfriend would just expect her to take care of his baby só he can go out for drinks 🫠
@@Queen-ty1xz yea its a little shocking, didn't agree with shayne on that one at all because it was clear the bf wasn't being a good person at all and the gf was dealing with so much due to his neediness and manipulation
Kids are never a weapon!!!!! My wife and I have had the what if and I told her unless one of us becomes a danger to the kids that aspect has to be as amicable as possible
44:37 Trevor brought up so many good points this episode and I wish it got more attention!!! At 21 years old you’re still SO YOUNG, and this 32 year old woman took advantage of someone that she was hoping was understanding, naive, and gullible. If roles were reversed, I feel like this conversation would maybe look a lot different. I don’t think the OP should be completely absolved from blame, but the power dynamic here is apparent!
They would sound very different if this was gender swapped. I didn't notice it until a comment I saw last year. They give a LOT of grace to crappy women and minimum grace to crappy dudes in these stories. Its fascinating to see over and over
Especially considering that the woman obviously couldve said no. She didn’t, so the blame goes on her shoulders as the grown adult who to be frank took advantage of a young person like that. Its messed up.
I agree. This is one where I felt OP is not so much an asshole, but a dumbass. But also not dumb in like a "oh you should have known better" but dumb in a "oh, you're still young and were naive enough to believe what you were being told." I also agree if you made it a young 20 something girl with an older 30 something married man, they would have a lot more sympathy for her. Even in this story, Courtney tried being sympathetic to the woman.
first story (orange peel theory) 14:00 can we talk about the fact that he was planning to either take his one year old to drinks with his buddy or dumping them with OP for the night with no prior warning?? This guy is not ready for a relationship
@@wilhelmpaulm I didn't see it as him blaming her at all, nor did I feel like the immature comment was meant as a dig. More that he focused on her part and immature was more said in an "she's young and is currently learning to spot these things... this was an immature way to handle spotting it"
It also sounds like he lived with his mom who was his chauffeur and the fact that he had an infant with another woman and was like dating again before the kid as even a year old is crazy. He also sounded like a manchild who didn't really have anything going for him and was looking to mooch off of the OP who his mom and he were hoping they could "lock in" as the new mommy and maybe he'd plan to knock her up so he could commit OP to him forever. Like the dude was a walking red flag right off the bat.
on the first story: i asked my ex to get my inhaler while i was having an asthma attack and he just continued playing his game… and i still stayed with him… learn your lessons ladies
Leave him on the spot..... I have watched my wife plow through people to get to an inhaler for me.... but he put a game over your life..... that's a leave when you get to breathing moment
that first girl was on track to be trapped in a marriage where she is simply the maid and nanny. just like Courtney said, sometimes it happens slowly enough that it takes you too long to realize that's what's happening
Yeah I’m absolutely baffled by the response to that. I understand disliking tests but that wasn’t the point of this story. The point is that there is genuinely an effort imbalance and the orange peel theory was just a vehicle of realizing that. The boyfriend is 1000% the asshole!!! He’s forcing her to take care of his child, like what the fuck.
@@MC-su3sdyh that was the only time I’ve disagreed with their input I didn’t like the focus on the orange peel theory because actually it was just the catalyst for her to realise was a jerk her bf was
11:34 why did none of y'all say how controlling it is to tell someone they "waited too long" and now they can't break up with you. That is such a massive red flag
yeah i agree w the criticisms of OP & using tests - i don’t think tests are healthy but i think it put things in perspective. she just went abt it the wrong way, there are better ways to get to that same point. & tests like that shouldn’t be the end of it like if they don’t pass, we’re done. however it seems the unhealthiness of the bf wasn’t focused on enough. he clearly seems to be using her to make his life easier and to not have to be a single parent & the bfs moms comments were extremely telling.
@@CaptainThugRdx Their focus was completely wrong. She sounds like she was in a very manipulative relationship and they focused on the "challenge" aspect, that was purely used to help her think as opposed to deciding his fate, instead of the obvious issue with the giant manbaby.
Fr!!! It doesn’t matter how long it takes to say something or break up. Once it’s done it’s done. You cannot manipulate someone or guilt them into staying bc they “waited too long”
first story - THE DAUGHTER IS ONLY 1 YEAR OLD?! this man had her taking care of a NEWBORN for 7 MONTHS?! WHERE'S THE MOTHER?! my eye is twitching from anger, the audacity of this excuse of a father.
If she's only 1, then op must have dated him for a year tops, a few months more if she met him before the baby was born after he broke up with the BM. Why on earth was he introducing a stranger to his less than one year old child?? When her immune system is still developing??? I'm losing my fucking mind the more I think about this.
My cousin is married to a guy. Her stepdaughter (who lives with them) just turned 3, her son with him is turning two in March, and they just had a second baby together six months old. So, yeah.
@@artisseriechicken it could have been longer. Babies gestate for a long time so they could have basically been together from around the time of conception until one year old. There's no reason to assume the parents actually had a relationship up until the birth
Courtney you’re such a queen for sympathizing with the girly from the first story, i loved what you said about how women in relationships are not the mans/ partners mom.
Abuse often starts after an event that ties the couple together. Moving in, engagement, wedding, pregnancy. A sudden personality change after you and your partner take a big step that solidifies your relationship and makes it harder to leave is a massive red flag. Hiding your friends from your partner is also a massive red flag.
Such a red flag and not like "oh this is my childhood friend, she's a bit different than everyone else in the group and we don't see each other much anymore because of XYZ so I don't mention her much" but instead "I purposely didn't tell you about the existence of my SIX CLOSEST friends for over two years". That's just.. geesh... So many red flags.
That whole segment had me in tears, man. Absolutely impeccable timing. And if it was anyone else in the cast whispering to another cast member, it wouldn't be as funny. The context of Courtney whispering infront of Shayne after THAT story was just insanely funny ahah
12:52 - Thank you Trevor! I was looking for someone to say this. People can have their opinion on the woman all they want BUT why didn't anyone else mention how the bf and his mom just expected HER to be the mom? How about the fact that she wanted to talk but he wanted to have the talk on the way to somewhere else? She could have communicated better and could have had better advice but honestly, with a mom like her ex-bf? They would have split up anyway.
@@yoakleoakle i mean ofc, but it's incredibly irresponsible to be "bonded" to a one year old when youve been dating for 7 months. this is exactly why most (responsible) parents dont introduce their kids until things are super serious. she absolutely should not have changed the kid's diapers more than him, that's so insane???? at best she should be meeting the kid around this point or 6 months--this is how kids of divorced parents end up not okay, because their parents introduced them to every single partner immediately so there was a revolving door of parental figures in their life that would obviously just leave because a few months of your life doesnt mean you're tied to the kid forever. it's crazy to expect her to just marry him bc he forced a maternal role onto a woman who he has dated for just over half a year.
@@kendallchappell1676 no I agree I just think it was wild she got into that relationship when she said " I don't wanna be a mom" . I agree tho the dad is an ass and irresponsible
I remember a specific instance with my ex, YEARS before the orange peel theory was a thing, where I was out to lunch with him and my best friend. I was sitting on the inside of the booth, he was on the outside, and I needed more ketchup, so I asked him if he could get some. And he just said, "No." Got up so I could get up to get ketchup. Then sat back down, then got up again when I came back with the ketchup. And I remember this moment was when my friend started hating him lmao. I didn't even realize at the time how that would become such a metaphor for our relationship. He would do extra work to avoid doing simple things for me and not see a single issue with it.
The personality switch is a domestic abuse situation usually. My ex did the same. Moved in together and EVERYTHING about him changed. It was terrifying and it took me 2 years to get rid of him completely.
as i was watching the orange peel theory story, I realised I had forgotten to make my chamomille tea and (without thinking that this could be applied to the orange peel theory) asked my husband if he could go make me some. He immediately went "yeah of course sweetie" and went to the kitchen. When I got my tea I told him about the video and that I didn't intend for it to be a test or anything. He said "we've been married 11 years, I know you wouldn't :) ". I love this man.
I love that. :) I ended up asking something a bit bigger of my boyfriend today. He brought a cold home from work (I work from home, so he's pretty much responsible for all my illnesses, lol). I feel awful, and I really, really wanted some zuppa toscana from Olive Garden and he got dressed and went out and picked us up some, even though it's 15 minutes away and he was all comfy in his pajamas. I made sure he knows how much I appreciate it, of course, because I do. But I also would have understood if he hadn't wanted to do that for me, and I'd never do something just as a test. We already do little things for each other all the time (I spent my work breaks this week bringing him tea and making sure he took his cold medicine), and honestly if a relationship isn't already like that, I don't want it.
I was thinking the whole time while Shayne was reading, how can you be in a relationship and not have 5 examples off the dome of small things your partner does for you???
I feel like, just as a rule, we can say DON'T KEEP SEX TOYS MOLDED FROM YOUR EX'S GENITALS. Shit's weird. Get rid of it and go buy something that doesn't have a connection to your ex.
I feel like as a general rule, this makes sense, but I think we can also recognize some nuance to a situation. Like in this story in particular, OP has said they’ve only been together for a few months. I wouldn’t get rid of any tried and true sex toys for a relationship that young, regardless of connections to an ex. I think it’s worth noting that some women have particularly hard times reaching orgasm, and for whatever reason it may be, that particular toy reliably got her off. In the beginning of dating when they weren’t getting each other there, I think it makes perfect sense to want to keep using a toy that works. She even said that she realized later on that she didn’t want to keep herself tied to those toys and hadn’t been using them recently. Again, the relationship is young. Everyone is acting like they’re 5 years into a relationship and she’s been using that toy all along. It’s been a few months. It takes time to make those kinds of adjustments in your life. Arguably it’s probably not mentally healthy to be attached to the Ex’a toy like that long term, but I’m imagining ending a relationship suddenly, immediately getting rid of those toys because of the connection, and then potentially just NOT being able to come. That truly may not be worth it depending on the needs of that person’s body.
@bluebearofficial3379 it's not just a rule for what is going to upset your current partner, it's also about what is healthier for you mentally (not getting off using your ex's genitals is better for you mentally, you can buy toys of all shapes and sizes go find something similar that isn't your ex's molded dildo) and what is respectful of your ex (if I gave someone a dildo of my genitals while in a relationship I'd prefer they get rid of that when we break up).
I think the fact she even mentions that when they were starting dating the sex wasn't good but she could get off using the dildo "WITHOUT FAIL" is SO HURTING. Like, i appreciate the honesty but maybe you should have kept that to yourself, she is basically telling her partner that at the beginning he couldn't please her but HIS EX PENIS could WITHOUT FAIL. It's like she is saying her ex's dick was way better than his, it's just wrong
@@fulanoide718 Who can at the beginning though? I know i didn't, and there's nothing wrong with that. You gotta figure eachother out first. It's rather obvious more than hurtful.
@@tomaszskowronski1406 yes, but in this situation where he's already dealing with the current insecurities regarding d*ck size, being reminded just how good her ex was (while they were dating) definitely didnt help the situation.but at the same time, I doubt that's what she ment when she said that. It just seems like an extra punch in the gut
37:23 No, it was very necessary. 1. He needed witnesses. Did you not read how she even tried to gaslight him in front of his friends? 2. HIS FRIENDS DID NOT BELIEVE HIM. His friends said HE must have done something wrong to cause her to change or that he was off about it. When people don’t believe you, your word means nothing. They needed to SEE. She lied to try and make him look bad in front of his friends. That girl could be dangerous, especially if his friends were siding with her in the beginning when OP tried to tell them what happened. Always have witnesses if you feel you need to. There is no harm in having another party in the room in situations like these. Protect yourself.
Literally came to the comments to say THIS. He was engaged to her, he loved her. This was not ganging up on her, this was a staged intervention. She chose her friends and not help from the group confronting her and showing her what she had to lose. Glad he got out.
Agree, she tried gaslighting the friends after she realized it wasn’t working on him. He probably did it so he didn’t lose his boys if she were to get in their heads first. AT MOST, one of her cousins could have been there
@@hernameispekka_Rebecca but they were mutual friends according to op. It wasnt just HIS friends, which is probably why they tried defending her initially.
No one taking about how the first boyfriend was clearly just using her as a mother. Cook, clean, take care of HIS child so he can go out?? No✋🏽 that man is obviously not fit for any relationship.
I can't get over the fact he brought his kid, when they were gonna have a talk. And just assumed they could chat while she drove him to the bar?? They fact he just assumed he could get away with ANY of that is insane. 1) to assume your girlfriend will just babysit your baby without ASKING. 2) to assume that when someone says "we need to talk" it'll be over in 5 minutes OR that you want it infront of the child. If it gets heated, the baby gets stressed too! 3) when she compromises about talking in the driveway, he says no. Talking in the driveway would've been way better than telling her she's babysitting, and that he's gonna go drinking AND she's driving him to the bar. 4) He's a dad to a newborn. Why are you out drinking every fucking week????! How did that not get talked about?? Like, yeah! Parents are 100% allowed to have a day/night away from parenting (like, letting them stay with the grandparents for a day-out) but every week? And it feels shitty that it's only him getting a break from parenting when she said he doesn't feed the baby or change their diaper, etc. The dudes insanely neglectful
@@yansw You saying NO ONE didn't is quite literally the first few words of your incorrectly spelled sentence "No one taking (sic) about how" and you even repeat it in your "clap back"
The 2nd story would make an amazing rosemary's baby-esque psychological thriller, with like a plot twist of them being a coven of witches preparing to sacrifice the fiance.
RIGHT like they were barely dating for 6 months and this guy and his ex partner are expecting her to be a mother figure for their kid. Like where are you guys the kid already has a mother figure, the mom. And that the “ kid is attached to you now” the kid is one it won’t even remember op
@@trashotaku right! then bf mom said “ you need to step up be good mother and future wife” is so crazy to me, like what??? Excuse me that’s not my baby
@@Breadhmm3840 Hearing that that the mom said that shows that Op dodged not one, but two bullets cause the woman sounds like she'd be a horribly overbearing and traditionalist MIL
I definitely think the orange peel story just showed that girl how little her boyfriend does for her. And yes I get the actual test is weird, but it makes you think “will they ever help me when I ask them?” And turns out, no. He won’t. He was looking for a stepmom not a partner.
it's a bit unfair to judge this relationship by two tests done in the same part of the same day. Maybe he'd actually had an unusually hard day. Maybe she was being annoying that day and he was done with her. Maybe he was distracted with something else going on. This is a theory right, so apply the scientific method. Repeat the same request with random or set intervals of time between. If he consistently fails then he's consistently a douche. Don't just use it as a catalyst to start an argument about effort in the relationship.
@@rhydianbanner3590 but we aren't judging him by two tests done in the same part of the same day. That's where it starts, sure, but it continues with us learning that he doesn't really help her with anything(at least from her perspective) and ends with him using them "having a talk" as a pretext so he can ask her to drive him to see his friends.
@@rhydianbanner3590relationships aren’t scientific; they’re based on feelings, emotions, and experiences over a duration of time. Op is obviously not gonna be able to list out every single detail of how she noticed that her boyfriend doesn’t accommodate for or help her in the ways she does for him. These two “tests” were clearly not the bigger issues for her, they just helped her to reflect and realize that her emotional needs weren’t being met by him. That doesn’t make him “wrong” or an asshole, it just means that they’re not right for each other and she needs someone who’s better able to reciprocate the little actions she does for others. It also doesn’t make sense for you to assume that she’s feeling like he doesn’t put in enough effort just based off the information from these two tests when you know that their relationship existed before these tests and she was able to reflect on previous events.
@@rhydianbanner3590 It goes more than the test though. He's looking for a step mom/bang maid and not an actual partner. The fact that he took the baby with him when OP wanted to talk and then thought he could just toss his baby at her to babysit is wild. It sounds like he's the primary parent but not stepping up because he had OP and he wants to act like a college student without a child. But that's not his reality. His mom is also a problem since she's trying to force OP to raise a child that's not hers and thinks her son's behavior is appropriate. If the mom has such an issue she can saddle up and be the babysitter.
I'm not gonna lie. I have Shane's exact mentality in regards to earthquakes and hurricanes. Once, an earthquake happened while I was asleep. I just rolled over with, "If I die, I die."
TikTok really influences relationships. Recently, my dad’s been watching a lot of videos that say men are naturally better, that they should “lead,” and that they should marry two women. He’s started bringing this up around the house, making comments about how “men are meant to be in charge.” The funny part? My dad doesn’t work, doesn’t help with chores, and hardly raises his kids (My two brothers and I). My mom does everything. She works, takes care of the house, and somehow finds the energy to keep things running smoothly. Whenever Dad mentions “marry two women” or says men should “be in charge,” my mom just gives him this tired look. She doesn’t even argue with him. Instead, she’ll say something like, “Well, maybe you could start by actually helping out around here.” Then she goes back to whatever she was doing. Honestly, it feels like Dad’s so wrapped up in his phone that he’s forgetting real life. TikTok may say a lot about what men “should” do, but I’m pretty sure my mom is the one actually doing the hard work around here.
Oh god, I can relate. But at least you're aware of it, because I know guys whose parents taught them that they were superior and it's borderline impossible to get them to do anything, that isn't "manly" enough. Good luck, hopefully he'll gain perspective.
@@weirdotter3044 I’m just trying to avoid picking up any of that attitude myself. Hopefully, we both manage to break the cycle. Thanks for the good luck, feels like we’re both gonna need it
The earthquake story is now probably the hardest I've laughed at Shayne and Courtney lolol. "what are you gonna do? Run away from the earth?" had me dyingggg 😭😭😭
You guys were too generous to Sharon. It's clear she just used the guy for his money to show off to her friends. She just waited until the engagement to show her true self. It's just silly of her, to think that an engagement can't be broken off. He's lucky though that she was careless enough to not even wait until the wedding to take out the horns
Right. "She flipped," my ass. This was the plan from the start. She married for the status of being a married woman, not out of love. I'm not sure this is the kind of person who's capable of experiencing that emotion.
I think it's less that they are easy on her and more that they genuinely didn't think of it as something someone would do. Many of us who have been lucky with how we grew up, with the people around us and who are generally naturally decent sometimes totally miss out on "obvious bad behaviour" because the thought of someone actually doing that is not even in the brain.
I've asked my mom, ex, and brother to tie up my hair while I was in the kitchen because I was washing dishes and had wet hands or was kneading something sticky and couldn't do it myself. There's lots of reasons to ask someone else to put your hair up when you're in the kitchen
absolutely which is completely genuine. I havent ever had the orange peel thing done, but what I have seen is the person asking is just... standing there. No additional information. no "I don't really know how" or "can yiou show me how" anything like that it's just "can you peel the orange for me." to be honest it feels unsettling. Like you look at the sitaution you try to gauge it to think "why?" not because you don't want to help, but because it just feels so... strange to ask when all things point to you being perfectly capable in that moment.
@@chickensandwich8808 Especially if someone does it for TT and films it. I guess the people who film it mostly stage it but if someone just whacked out their phone to do the "test" I'd totally be confused as well.
For about 20 minutes after I've done my nails I'll ask anyone around me to do every little thing that I can't or don't want to delay. I used to feel kinda needy about it until I realized I've actually never asked someone to do something that I haven't done for them at some point, including adjusting my socks.
my mum walked into my room when i was watching this, gasped and asked if a blurry paused frame of Shane was ”vanilla funk”. ten minutes of forced googling later i have learnt about a teenage marching band breakdancer that in fact looks absolutely nothing like Shane
About the one with the fiance that changed after they got engaged - he wanted his friends there because he's been dating a gaslighter for years. He needed an outside party to witness her behaviour and affirm to him that he's not crazy for seeing her that way.
I can't believe that during the first reddit story they didn't even comment on how when the girl told her boyfriend that they needed to talk, the boyfriend ASKED her to pick him up, then BROUGHT his kid without telling her, then TOLD her he was going out for drinks with his friends, like he expected her to drop him off at the bar and babysit his kid without even asking her first!!! Shane just kept calling her immature the whole time and tbh she's taking care of herself AND someone else's kid i'm not sure that's immature. If anything, the guy is immature, but they didn't even call him out!
their reactions on this first story really grinded my gears honestly. they focused so much on her immaturity that it feels like they completely glazed over the fact that this guy is just as immature, asking for a ride to go drinking with friends while expecting his gf to "step up" and be a mom for his kid? I love Shayne and Court but their reaction to this first story was not it y'all.
@@nloreivJesus Christ y'all they don't have to point out every single thing in a story, they aren't analyzing the story, they're discussing it. The girl was obviously being manipulated, they made a face at the dude wanting her to take care of the kid. Not commenting doesn't equal approval
They’re both immature. She’s immature for taking advice from Tiktok and not communicating her feelings. And he’s immature and a douche for treating her like a nanny for his kid. They both lack emotional maturity and shouldn’t be in a relationship with anyone until they do some growing.
@@goshdangit4503ugh I know, people drive me up the wall with these kinds of takes, even if I literally disagree with someone on this kind of video on a specific issue, why bother casting judgement on their entire moral character
Personality flips are VERY common when people get engaged or married. Both men AND women with abusive/toxic problems will change once they think they are safe.
this is why you at least gotta do a "trial run" first and live with someone for a while before marrying them. ofc people can hide who they are even if you're sharing a space but it's still important to do
First story- op’s boyfriend was inconsiderate of her time. She wanted them to talk things out while he just wanted a ride- to her house? No to get drinks with his buddy. Did he expect her to take care of his child as well? Communication was not their problem it was him expecting her to wait on him hand & foot
2:54 that orange peel theory is so true. My husband does so much for me when I ask, and even some stuff when I don't. He literally told me to not worry about the garbage yesterday because he'd take it out on his way to work. If the person you're dating isn't willing to do something for you after you've asked they aren't worth your time. Unless they are unable to because they're doing another task, or they genuinely don't know how, it's not worth it.
Shayne was a bit harsh on OP in the first story, I'm not a fan of test but I'm glad it opened her up to seeing the imbalance in her relationship, especially with how the bf and the bf's mom reacted after. bullet dodged.
same. he’s been vocal about not liking the concept of relationship or friendship tests so maybe his mind focused only on that and forgot the other stuff going on in the story. i don’t think OP was immature. sometimes people do tests out of curiosity which is what OP said her reason for doing that, but she unfortunately got a result she didn’t expect. she didn’t even break up with him after the test that he failed, she reflected on the whole relationship first before making a decision which means she is NOT immature. it’s not like she did the test to set him up to fail. i hope Shayne becomes more open to those kind of stuff in the future to avoid being biased or sidetracked.
@@littlemsjaneyI mean the tests are immature. They even said they're glad it allowed her to see that the relationship wasn't for her. What are you on about lmao
@@goshdangit4503yes but they concluded the story as "they're both immature and not meant for eachother" which implies that they're equally immature when the girl is actually very mature and the guy was deliberately using her
@@mandrake7305 It does not imply equally. Both can be immature while one is more immature. Shaq and Conan O'Brian are both tall, this does not mean they are equally as tall.
These Reddit stories being read and broken down by different perspectives on this channel genuinely helps me do self reflection on the relationships I have with myself and everyone involved in my life. Xoxo
30:06 nope! Her gaslighting him and then trying to gaslight the friends is the reason he SHOULD have reality checks for himself. It's hard to gaslight when you have multiple people calling BS
shayne actually already passed the orange peel theory test except his task was “shayne are you by? can you dip a grilled cheese in tomato soup and deliver it to me” or something like that LOL
There was another video from a while ago where Courtney asked if they could have a pretzel and Shayne gave her the last one in his hand without hesitation. I thought that was really cute, though I'm not sure if they were dating at the time.
37:40 having the mutual friends over was 100% necessary. They didn't believe him before they were saying he must be leaving stuff out. Definitely needed them there to show he was telling the truth
Low-key, Eighth Grade (directorial debut of Bo Burnham) is super amazing and I'm so glad to hear Court reference it. That movie is like living through someone else's anxiety and it's such a reflection of how the youth exists in the internet age (something bo often touches upon with his comedy and art having lived through that experience himself and getting famous from it) HIGHLY HIGHLY HIGHLY RECOMMENDED
Shayne's psychology degree is SHINING in that episode ! That episode actually made me reflect on my past relationship. And I realised I was NOT a good partner. Court's comment on how they ended up feeling like their partner's mom hit a critical spot to be honest. So many good advices !
Okay with the first story, I'm so glad Trevor brought up the mom and the baby thing. Thought they were gonna completely gloss over that for a second EDIT: also oh my god if my partner completely left me in a dangerous situation I would be so icked out
@@Joshcoshbagosh yeah, 100% appreciate the nuance. I feel like I'd also be icked out if my fiance ran away. Because if my brother wasn't there, I'd either have been robbed, killed, or beaten up. If it turned out that the fiance ran and called the police, that'd negate it, I reckon. I'd be glad that he was responsible, atleast, but I still think leaving me alone would make me feel icky. I can imagine the main thought would be "he'd rather prioritise his life, than prioritise our life?". I mean, she'd have been either in the hospital or dead if it wasn't for the brother. It'd be hard for me to brush past that and continue loving my fiance wholeheartedly. I can see why it's an accident/not his fault, but come on! Least he could do is call the police, or look back, see they wasn't there, and slow down or stop, or ring them, or something! It wasn't until THEY ringed him that he came back/joined them.
@@JoshcoshbagoshI’m not saying they had a bad take, I was just so taken aback by the story itself. I agree with everything they said but I’d probably still do what the woman did
In the first story the bf was rude and disrespectful. He expects her to drive him around and do everything for him. If im having a friend/SO pick me up, im going to ask them if they can take me somewhere and not just assume they will. He never asked her to take him to meet up with his friends, he just expected her to. they dated 7 months and he tries to manipulate her into staying cuz "baby bonded to her already" hes a father, act like one.
The first story just highlights how important it is to honestly reflect on the relationship like are your needs being met, do you talk about issues before resentment happens, do they remember basic information about you (or at least store it in their phone) like food allergies, do they respect your boundaries, do they let other people disrespect you, do they double down or downplay disrespectful comments they say to you, are they using you for what you can do for them but the reverse is less than half. If someone can't be bothered to help you out with minimal stuff when you're ill (like getting you a light snack, water and medicine from the pharmacy if they're able bodied) so you're a bit more comfortable I can't imagine they'll step up to be there if you have cancer - terminal or not when you'll need a lot of support and empathy. Some people do but for some it's easy to cheat or walk away. The stats on men leaving their partner is sad.
I love how Shayne, Trevor, and Courtney dive into these relatable yet wild relationship tests. The orange peel theory is such a funny yet oddly revealing concept-it makes you wonder how small actions really reflect our attitudes in relationships
This one was so sad! I understand she wants to feel protected, but in traumatic situations like that people can have a myriad of responses and none of them are “wrong” when you are in fear for your life. I guess if having someone fight for her is a priority I get it, I just don’t think I could abandon my fiancé and partner of 6 years because of something like that. I almost wonder if there was more going on.
@ I think Court said it well, this is the first time he's experienced this so he's learnt something and can work from there. I also get the protection element but to specifically say 'ick' and her inability to move past them tells me she may be a bit shallow and kinda exist (these are only assumptions from what I've read, I obv don't know). As an aside I was nearly thinking it was going to go full lannister with her and her brother hahaha
genuinely heartbreaking, like girl, what would have happened if the gun was real and ur brother made a grave mistake by fighting? it was a coin toss and she got extremely lucky. why does she feel that its HIS responsibility to lay down his life for some street rando?? like gurl i do not think finding a guy who would beat up a man with a gun barehanded is a very great indicator of who would be a good life partner LMAO
@@jilllime3824 bc I was an insane child I experienced so much fight or flight and had to cope with the choices it showed me I would make if the situations were as real as they felt and people like op who are so judgmental towards their loved ones for it make me really sad. You make really quick calls when you’re in that situation like my 7 year old brain kept sacrificing my parents to zombies to give me time to get my sister and myself to safety (yes I did legit think this was a currently occurring situation with limited time). OP would think I didn’t love my parents enough or some shit
5:30 honestly, if my wife asked me from the kitchen to put her hair up, I would. Maybe it's getting close to something and her hands are full, it could be for any number of reasons. Above all, communication with your partner is key, ask them how they want to be treated and do that.
Yeah i think I would do it too but also context matters. If I see someone just sitting there looking at me asking to do something I will be puzzled a bit Also before breaking up over something like this, there would be talking.
@nirbindubanerjee2762 for sure, choosing to break up over that is alot. though if it's a boiled frog situation, where they didn't realize till then that, being in this relationship means they aren't valued, I could see how this would end a relationship.
For the fiance running away one, I can't help but feel weird about OP breaking up with him the very next day. Her feelings were very valid, but it seems like she didn't give herself time to process them. It's probably just a case of me not being able to understand since I haven't been in this situation.
I agree. Both of them are likely still in shock. Give it a second. You can communicate the worry.. but just quitting a longtime relationship without even giving it some time to settle, maybe do some therapy or self defense classes. Feels rather premature.
I 100% agree with you. I’m guessing they left some stuff out of the story on purpose and maybe the running away was just the last straw for them to have a reason to break up
I got stranded in the desert with a partner and he didn't handle it marvelously. He didn't handle it poorly, but it really did make me see him in a different light. I let the relationship go on for almost two months after, trying to meet people's expectations that we would be so close after something like that, but the ick did not go away and those were some of the most mentally unhealthy months of my life
I get it though. They were together from age 18 to 24. They're at the exact age and situation were it makes more sense for her to split with him immediately. They'll both be alright❤
Honestly, very valid. As someone who has worked with elderly people and have helped my mum quite a bit, you have to communicate well on stuff like that. Making sure it's not too tight. That can be so uncomfortable! Always a quick "does that feel right?" at least.
i felt when courtney said that she doesn't have to ask shayne to do something small as a "test" because she knows he would do it. you should already know what your partner would do for you and if you're that insecure about it, that's the problem!!
Or if they’ve given you reason to believe they wouldn’t do such things either accept that or reconsider compatibility if that’s something important to you
Genuine question. What if you’re not sure if it’s in your own head (your own insecurities), or if maybe your partner has given you little red flags and that’s why you feel something’s off? Cause sometimes you’re genuinely not sure. But in my case I’d communicate that, not test it
@@falconawesomeid say communication tho they could gaslight???. Thats tough. i honestly think once it's in your head, your opinion on them won't change (eg girl who got the ick when bf ran away) and better to break it off and start afresh
I feel like the thing with the orange peel theory is that it highlights the invisible labour that women often do in relationships. Like so many women instantly go into a caretaking role in the relationship and never questions it until they realise that their partner does not even consider doing the same for them even when asked to.
Exactly. They are saying this poor woman should have communicated her needs early on but the fact that she even would NEED to communicate that she also wants to be cared for in the way she cares for her partner? He has been a bad partner from the start and is clearly comfortable taking advantage of this woman's kindness and willingness to help. It took a silly TikTok trend for her to realize the relationship imbalance and realize she was being treated unfairly. That's not her fault for "not communicating" earlier. I bet even if she had tried to initiate a conversation about her needs, the boyfriend would have shut it down or ignored her anyway. Blaming the woman for not communicating when the man is clearly a worthless partner is not it.
@@CaptainThugRdxshe did... she did break up with him instead... Also, yes communication is important in relationships but thats only if you believe the relationship is worth saving, it seems like she realised that this relationship was not worth the effort she was putting in.
Was looking for this comment. While I understand and agree with the notion of ‚don‘t test the people around you‘, I felt like the judgement of her came across a little harsh? Imo she quite clearly explained that the idea itself helped her to see the labour she was doing without receiving any acknowledgement for it. She asked her ex to have proper talk and he took it as an opportunity for her to babysit. No prior discussion as well as his mom having the audacity to talk to her like that. That really cemented the idea how it must‘ve been the seven months (!) they were together.
@CaptainThugRdx the whole point is that he isn't doing enough?? She is young, she probably put up with his behavior because she didn't know any better. Breaking up is a form of communication. She's saying she's not going to put up with his BS anymore and instead of owning up even a tiny bit this manchild says she should have brought it up sooner? He knew he wasn't an equitable partner and was perfectly happy with it.
@@CaptainThugRdxthis right here. Communication is a normal thing. This person is getting annoyed that she had to communicate. No one is going to be perfect in a relationship and someone having to let their partner know about flaws is a normal healthy thing to do
I couldn't help but imagine Shayne and Courtney being in the situation with the mugger. Imagining Shayne running away & leaving Courtney behind is really funny. 😂 (of course, in a comedic sense only.) I would love to see that skit.
OOF. that fiancé dude form the fourth story is probably absolutely CRUSHED. totally understand the op’s decision, but holy fuck it’s hard to imagine just how devastated the guy felt
I don't understand the decision at all. The way you act when someone suddenly points a gun at you is irrelvant. If you get the "ick" and treat it like a cosmic force you can't do anything about, and not something you can work through and understand. Like, if you fully go "i fully understand everything, and you can't help it, and i don't blame you. but this random horrifying that happened to us determines we won't get married now". Absolutley not, just childish
@@SmilingDude-li1eg well it’s less that he ran away in a survival response and moreso, once he was safe doesn’t sound like he attempted to make sure or reach out to see if his woman or her brother were ok. The initial response is understandable but to just run so far that you need to be picked up and they’re reaching out to you…that’s what shows cowardice. She’s not childish at all.
no sorry i dont buy the safety is my love language. nothing the bro did was either. but it just happens to fit in with her worldview abt how men should be. what if they were 3 girlfriends? she expects others to protect her as well? this flight thing does not indiciate much .
@@komal146 My personal problem is that the girl and her brother had to call the fiance. Like, he didn't look behind him, or call them, or call 911 to help his fucking fiance and her brother. If I was the girl, I wouldn't have been pissed about the initial run. Fight, flight, freeze. I'd get that much. It's that he didn't stop to look around. Like, if you looked back and saw she wasn't also running with you, would you not assume she was still in danger? How can you just not check in, or call for help? Genuinely! If your group's in danger, and someone in your group is handling it, and you're running from the danger.. you call for help! Like.. that's 101 in ANY situation where there's danger/hazards. If you're on a hike, and one of you got left behind, went too far ahead, etc? You call them, and you ask people in the area if they've seen them, and ask them to ring you if they see them, or where you're headed if there's no signal. Basic common sense. (I'm aware a hike/robbery isn't a direct comparison, but hopefully, there are enough parallels that you understand that you inform anyone you can about a danger/hazard.) You call, let someone know, you scream for help! If he was shouting for help, I feel like she'd likely not be as icked out/icked out at all. My problem is that he disappeared and it felt, in that moment, that he didn't care about her. If he was shouting for help, calling police, or looking back and shouting her name? Anything, ANYTHING would have been better than what he did. What he did was like.. the worst option possible. Even staying behind and allowing the robbery would be better than literally leaving you on your own. No police, not alerting anyone in nearby buildings, nothing. Just you and the robber. Yeah, I'd have an ick. Because I'd be beaten up/robbed/dead without my brother there.
@@komal146 I do agree that safety isn't a love language. It's a trait/characteristic. Love languages are things like: verbal (compliments/ affirmation/ appreciation); Physical (cuddles, hand holding, etc); And there's others like acts of service (cooking them a favourite meal, doing chores, etc) There's probably a few I'm missing but those are off the top of my head^^ but yeah, I agree on that point. Although it's still valid to want a partner that makes you feel safe, 100%. If you've had an abusive ex/parent, it's okay to want someone that doesn't make you feel scared of them/others in your life. But my comment's dragging on, so I'll leave that there. Hope you're well, have a good day o7
I don't think I've seen mention of it, but the past two weeks y'all have been on the ball getting captions up on the same day! (It's historically been sometime the day after). Its very very appreciated as someone who has audio processing issues
The bf in story 1 is treating her like a mother for both him and his kid, does barely any parenting, and then takes none of her concerns seriously because "waited too long"? This is more than them being on "different paths" or her needing to "communicate early on". This was never about tiktok. Some people just take advantage of you, and she noticed that while doomscrolling
@@horimiya7290 agreed. those tests aren’t a good way to deal with issues in a relationship & using a test to decide whether or not you should stay together isn’t healthy. a small mistake shouldn’t be the end all be all but it can make you realize an imbalance in relationships. the bf & his mothers behavior was a lot more concerning imo. one is immaturity in dating while the other is just using someone & being manipulative to keep someone around to care for a child she isn’t responsible for, a way bigger issue
@@CaptainThugRdx my guy why are you in almost all the comments about the first story when they have valid criticisms of how they responded to it? Yes it was immature but it brought to light the fact that she was pulling so much of the weight in the relationship. Driving him everywhere and being a babysitter while he goes out?? Thinking she would do that again without even asking her?? He was selfish from the get go.
There are so many relationships when someone will pretend to be something they're not for a long time, sometimes they do it for years. But then as soon as it gets serious when they're either engaged or married, they'll do a complete 180 and their entire personality will change. That is so manipulative.
I really enjoy how everyone analyzes the stories; it's both humorous and insightful. Every story makes me think! Definitely the best video I've watched today, looking forward to the next episodes ❤
They call each other bud/man/dude/bro so much! I wonder if partially it's a thing stuck over from when they were keeping it on the downlow. But I also wonder if it might partially be affirming to Courtney as a non-binary person.
@@hernameispekka_Rebeccait's common to call everyone this at their age, even significant others (especially when you were friends for a very long time)
In the 2nd story, I think they were being so nice by saying maybe the fiance was probably not communicating well enough, or that she was just waiting for that level of trust that came with the engagement to be more honest. When in reality, I think she was just hiding her true self until she got the ring and now that she feels like she's got the guy on lock she can let her entitled b!*ch side come out and behave however she wants without repercussions, because the man has been secured. I mean having a secret inner circle is CRAZY
“isn’t he getting forgetful lately?” made my jaw drop because that is such an exaggerated example of gaslighting😭
It's actually a seriously creepy form of gaslighting, and even more creepy how believable it is. Sad his friends had to see it with their own eyes before believing him. Meanwhile "The 6" seemed to character assassinate their friend's fianceè with total ease.
This story makes me feel extra sorry for men overall, who this probably happens more often than we realize to, because I think there is a stigma that men should be able to handle their woman's drama. After all "you're a man" and "she's just a girl". (Not my thoughts, but what the stigma feels like it's saying.)
But giving a partner extra grace and patience while still working together, where someone may be making poor choices at times but genuinely wants to heal & is taking steps to do so is a way different situation from accepting manipulation, blatant disrespect and lack of accountability from an entitled partner who intentionally hid part of themselves & then sprang immediately into new entitled expectations.
The friends were mutual so maybe the personality switch was just too hard to conceive for them, which, with the limited info we have, is the most grace I will give them for not trusting their male friend's valid feelings of not wanting to endure any more of this uncouth behavior. To me the restaurant and clubs stories would be more than enough for me to grasp his side that she has, at the very least, lost respect for his property and his feelings around them. And you would still encourage your friend to marry and move in with this person? Pump the brakes until that is sorted out!
Also the "to appease you" comment!!!! We can't forget that slimy remark either. Huge red flag to give someone spite over them just wanting to know whether company will be coming by their home.
So scary
The word you are looking for is sociopath. I have only had the misfortune to meet one in my life but that one behaved much like this. He had a narrow escape.
Reminded me of Doctor Who, when the 10th Doctor decided to "destroy" the Prime Minister by whispering "doesn't she seem tired" to her deputy prime minister.
Rightttt and it’s even crazier to think that some people fall for that type of crap 😭
Love to see the married couple and their son together
Next April Fools news, they adopted Trevor
it's just so heartwarming seeing Courtney be an amazing stepmom to Shayne's son who he found in a floating basket down that river.
Right! ❤❤❤
Family time so sweet
😂I always saw Trevor as his little brother
i really appreciate Trevor's soft and empathetic approach to these things, his perspective was very metered and compassionate, and very refreshing compared to a lot of people
Wholeheartedly agree. I really appreciate Trevor’s empathy and perspective here. He’s very gentle and thoughtful in his responses when he offers a counter point/different perspective
He was brilliant today! Really aware of the implications of the story elements and of the big impact of things mentioned in passing. So glad you pointed it out, thank you!
"compared to a lot of people"
*_cough cough_*_ amanda_
i like he doesnt feel the need to do a bit every story😅
the thing about the orange peel theory thing is that afaik, it comes from a tumblr famous poem, where the gist of the poem is "i can peel oranges neatly. my best friend can't. i hope she never learns how to peel oranges correctly".
so the idea is wanting to be able to do something for your loved ones, not to have someone do something for you when you ask
While that's the case, if you have to TEST your relationship you shouldn't be in one
It's a bid for attention thing, just like the poem (from what you've described), it feels so good to be in a relationship where you know the other party is thinking fondly of you and it is seen through acts and considerations. Do you do little acts to make them happy or comfortable? Do you like doing it? Do they do little things that make you happy or comfortable? Do they like doing it?
It's great for romantic relationships but can work for platonic, filial ones too... but don't expect this in professional relationships on average lol.
Yeah I think they were being really hard on that girl. She loved her boyfriend and he was taking advantage of her. If anything, she’s exhibit A of why it might occasionally be a good thing to try out.
I remember that Tumblr post but i also remember the post where op's dad would peel pistachios for them without them asking him "To peel is to show love"
Christ on a bike…A marriage is hinging on a tumblr poem.
I love how Courtney and Shane are getting more open about their relationship and joking about tying each other’s shoes 😂
That's exactly what I was thinking 🥰 they're so cute!
that was adorable lol i love them together
the part with the earthquake and shayne going "what are you gonna do? run from the EARTH?" while court is stressing over finding the exit really shows theyre perfect for e/o i love them
“Those are buckles!”
“You FAILLLLLL!” 😂😂😂
For story #2 why does it seem so familiar? Did they read this before😭
With that second story, it wasn't that she did a 180 personality flip, it's that she perceived the engagement as "oh I'm in", and decided it was the time to pull off the front she had fixed on for him. Because it's draining to be a better person than who you are when you don't believe in that better person to begin with. So the moment she thought that there was no takesie backsies, she decided to allow herself the room to be as manipulative as she was.
Which honestly, the sheer gall and confidence to do that before the wedding was even getting planned speaks volumes. Not only is she manipulative, and a *legit* gaslighter, she is just…also delusional.
I actually think there was an update for this story, where it comes out that the ex-fiance was literally a PoS and was acting to get OP to propose. The "best friends" he met early on in their relationship were her cousins she pressured to play along for some reason. I always find it so scary when the abuse is so nefarious even his friends were questioning if HE had been the one to cause things to devolve.
Edit: oh nevermind, they did cover the update.
@ Yes they did. 😂😂 But, honestly I was suspecting this before the update and the update really just confirmed things.
@@slsthewriter1299 I think there might also be something here, that she acts super differently with her annoying friends because she's also trying to be part of that group. One of those people who just can't be themselves. So she puts on a pleasant mask to try to get a proposal but is also masking so that her "friends" like her. Her panicking at the thought of cancelling the engagement says a lot.
@ There could be truth to that. I wouldn’t be surprised. But it also says a lot that she surrounds herself with those kind of people at 30. When it’s something someone does in middle school it’s one thing, because those kind of clicky types are the “popular” ones (not everywhere but still), and so seeking validation like that at such a young age is typical. Not great, but not surprising.
But she is 30. A grown woman, not even young adult. And with that, of course she’s panicking about the engagement. She wants to have her cake and eat it too. Like she wants a cushy life, and with her spending his money via the wine and using him as a butler kinda speaks to what she wants from him. Obviously can’t read into stuff that deeply based off of a reread of one person’s account, but it does speak volumes regardless of the why.
Clear case of a gold digger. She viewed him as an object of wealth to provide a comfy and luxurious life for her and her friends. As soon as she felt the relationship was cemented in her mind with the engagement, the facade she had maintained before dropped because she felt what was his was now hers and her friends'.
The spikiness level of Shayne's hair is a litmus test of how insane the episode's gonna be
😂😂😂 truth
this better be the most insane video i have ever seen
He’s slowly becoming a super sayian.
Super Shayane?@@unsolved86
@@nateg5056 dang it you beat me to it XD
That "isn't he getting forgetful lately?" is textbook gaslight and manipulation. She knew she was in the wrong and literally tried to flip everything on him by planting doubt on the other person's head
Literally sickening when that line got said
Glad it didnt work on the friends who knew that was crap and called her out
Yeah except if he was getting forgetful. Which we don’t know. I guess you just have accept the OP’s words in these stories.
@@leastselfawarepotassiumNah, you just don’t go “isn’t he getting forgetful?” To the other people around you in order to deny what they are saying about you. If he’d been getting *so* forgetful that it was an issue, that would be something a partner would actually get concerned about, not use as a last-ditch defense for their own bad actions.
@@mrlowdays everything about that situation is textbook. Whether it was consciously malicious or not, she manipulated him into thinking she was an entirely different person, then showed her true colors once she thought she had him locked down. I’m glad he got out. I would not have been surprised if she became outright abusive the longer he stayed.
shane's perspective of the movie theatre earthquake and courtney asking trevor about a cleaver literally had me in tears for the first time in so long 😂😂
Yes this was the funniest ep in a minute 😂
They kind of skated over the fact that the bf planned a night out with his friend when he was supposed to have a talk with his girlfriend. The test was strange, but I think that it revealed real issues in the relationship and problems with how she was being treated.
Also sounds like he was expecting the gf to watch his kid too since he was going to a bar. What a child 🙄
He also had his child and was presumably going to leave the child with her wormhole he was out drinking. Absolutely not. He was using her as a nanny and housekeeper.
@@tiffanymorgan1059Wormhole? I assume autocorrect but what a funny autocorrect
I think he planned to go out ahead of time and probably wanted to just skip over the conversation as quick as possible
He only saw her as a replacement for his daughter. He never wanted to be with her and for the mom to say you aren’t a good mother or future wife, huh? Absolutely not. He saw a woman with her own place, car, job, and wanted to move in with her and bring his 1 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER, where is her mom?
Why does nobody mention how INSANE it is for the boyfriend to use his BABY as leverage to stop her from breaking up with him?!? It's crazy and awful that he even tries that
!!!!! I couldnt believe what was coming out of shayne's mouth and everyone just letting him call a 22 year old girl imature for seting bounderies when her boyfriend would just expect her to take care of his baby só he can go out for drinks 🫠
@@Queen-ty1xzyhh ikr😮
@@Queen-ty1xz yea its a little shocking, didn't agree with shayne on that one at all because it was clear the bf wasn't being a good person at all and the gf was dealing with so much due to his neediness and manipulation
@@Queen-ty1xzi need to go back and listen to that part again because I would swear he wasn't calling her immature for trying to set boundaries.
Kids are never a weapon!!!!! My wife and I have had the what if and I told her unless one of us becomes a danger to the kids that aspect has to be as amicable as possible
44:37 Trevor brought up so many good points this episode and I wish it got more attention!!! At 21 years old you’re still SO YOUNG, and this 32 year old woman took advantage of someone that she was hoping was understanding, naive, and gullible. If roles were reversed, I feel like this conversation would maybe look a lot different. I don’t think the OP should be completely absolved from blame, but the power dynamic here is apparent!
They would sound very different if this was gender swapped. I didn't notice it until a comment I saw last year. They give a LOT of grace to crappy women and minimum grace to crappy dudes in these stories. Its fascinating to see over and over
Completely agree, well said!
Especially considering that the woman obviously couldve said no. She didn’t, so the blame goes on her shoulders as the grown adult who to be frank took advantage of a young person like that. Its messed up.
Agreed
I agree. This is one where I felt OP is not so much an asshole, but a dumbass. But also not dumb in like a "oh you should have known better" but dumb in a "oh, you're still young and were naive enough to believe what you were being told."
I also agree if you made it a young 20 something girl with an older 30 something married man, they would have a lot more sympathy for her. Even in this story, Courtney tried being sympathetic to the woman.
first story (orange peel theory) 14:00
can we talk about the fact that he was planning to either take his one year old to drinks with his buddy or dumping them with OP for the night with no prior warning?? This guy is not ready for a relationship
or for fatherhood!
I thought of that too, seeing other people assuming he was dropping the baby with her. That wasn’t stated.
Annoyed that Shayne was blaming the girl and calling her immature . . . wtf dude.
@@wilhelmpaulm I didn't see it as him blaming her at all, nor did I feel like the immature comment was meant as a dig. More that he focused on her part and immature was more said in an "she's young and is currently learning to spot these things... this was an immature way to handle spotting it"
It also sounds like he lived with his mom who was his chauffeur and the fact that he had an infant with another woman and was like dating again before the kid as even a year old is crazy. He also sounded like a manchild who didn't really have anything going for him and was looking to mooch off of the OP who his mom and he were hoping they could "lock in" as the new mommy and maybe he'd plan to knock her up so he could commit OP to him forever. Like the dude was a walking red flag right off the bat.
on the first story: i asked my ex to get my inhaler while i was having an asthma attack and he just continued playing his game… and i still stayed with him… learn your lessons ladies
Oof! Glad this sentence included "ex"...
Leave him on the spot..... I have watched my wife plow through people to get to an inhaler for me.... but he put a game over your life..... that's a leave when you get to breathing moment
Except that's nothing like the orange peel theory. That's a legit issue.
@@Dantevonlockeit would be the same scenario as the theory if she wasn't having an attack, but still asked for the inhaler
Helping someone breath should NEVER be a choice.
that first girl was on track to be trapped in a marriage where she is simply the maid and nanny. just like Courtney said, sometimes it happens slowly enough that it takes you too long to realize that's what's happening
Yeah I’m absolutely baffled by the response to that. I understand disliking tests but that wasn’t the point of this story. The point is that there is genuinely an effort imbalance and the orange peel theory was just a vehicle of realizing that. The boyfriend is 1000% the asshole!!! He’s forcing her to take care of his child, like what the fuck.
@@MC-su3sdyh that was the only time I’ve disagreed with their input I didn’t like the focus on the orange peel theory because actually it was just the catalyst for her to realise was a jerk her bf was
11:34 why did none of y'all say how controlling it is to tell someone they "waited too long" and now they can't break up with you. That is such a massive red flag
yeah i agree w the criticisms of OP & using tests - i don’t think tests are healthy but i think it put things in perspective. she just went abt it the wrong way, there are better ways to get to that same point. & tests like that shouldn’t be the end of it like if they don’t pass, we’re done.
however it seems the unhealthiness of the bf wasn’t focused on enough. he clearly seems to be using her to make his life easier and to not have to be a single parent & the bfs moms comments were extremely telling.
@@Kayla-rd5jd yesss exactly!!! Like I get the criticisms about the tests, but dude... that should not be the sole focus of the story.
Having an infant at home and still having time to build a new relationship and go out with friends on the regular shows the type of person he is.
@@CaptainThugRdx Their focus was completely wrong. She sounds like she was in a very manipulative relationship and they focused on the "challenge" aspect, that was purely used to help her think as opposed to deciding his fate, instead of the obvious issue with the giant manbaby.
Fr!!! It doesn’t matter how long it takes to say something or break up. Once it’s done it’s done. You cannot manipulate someone or guilt them into staying bc they “waited too long”
first story - THE DAUGHTER IS ONLY 1 YEAR OLD?! this man had her taking care of a NEWBORN for 7 MONTHS?! WHERE'S THE MOTHER?! my eye is twitching from anger, the audacity of this excuse of a father.
pretty much my reasoning for not getting emotionally invested in that story, no way its real. no way
He certainly thought he found a young replacement for his ex, that would cook, clean and take care of HIS daughter. I'm enraged
If she's only 1, then op must have dated him for a year tops, a few months more if she met him before the baby was born after he broke up with the BM. Why on earth was he introducing a stranger to his less than one year old child?? When her immune system is still developing??? I'm losing my fucking mind the more I think about this.
My cousin is married to a guy. Her stepdaughter (who lives with them) just turned 3, her son with him is turning two in March, and they just had a second baby together six months old. So, yeah.
@@artisseriechicken it could have been longer. Babies gestate for a long time so they could have basically been together from around the time of conception until one year old. There's no reason to assume the parents actually had a relationship up until the birth
1:04:57 had me dying at the absolute PANIC in Shayne’s voice while Courtney had the most innocent question😂
“Are you going to run away from the EARTH?” - Shayne Topp, 2024
The funniest shit I've ever heard
Me @ the Space Billionaires
Probably the loudest I laughed during reddit stories
“Wow I didn’t know this movie was 4D!”
-People who stayed during the hurricane
Okay but Shayne genuinely looking if Courtney had laces on her shoes was actually so sweet😭♡
Courtney you’re such a queen for sympathizing with the girly from the first story, i loved what you said about how women in relationships are not the mans/ partners mom.
Abuse often starts after an event that ties the couple together. Moving in, engagement, wedding, pregnancy. A sudden personality change after you and your partner take a big step that solidifies your relationship and makes it harder to leave is a massive red flag.
Hiding your friends from your partner is also a massive red flag.
Such a red flag and not like "oh this is my childhood friend, she's a bit different than everyone else in the group and we don't see each other much anymore because of XYZ so I don't mention her much" but instead "I purposely didn't tell you about the existence of my SIX CLOSEST friends for over two years". That's just.. geesh... So many red flags.
I would lose all trust for someone if I found out they hid their friends from me until a proposal.
Courtney’s timing at 1:04:56 is impeccable. I was dying for the next couple minutes at Shayne’s “NOW IS NOT THE TIME FOR SECRETS!”
I was in tears 😂
That whole segment had me in tears, man. Absolutely impeccable timing. And if it was anyone else in the cast whispering to another cast member, it wouldn't be as funny. The context of Courtney whispering infront of Shayne after THAT story was just insanely funny ahah
1:04:54 "now is not the time for secrets" KILLED ME OH MY GOD
12:52 - Thank you Trevor! I was looking for someone to say this. People can have their opinion on the woman all they want BUT why didn't anyone else mention how the bf and his mom just expected HER to be the mom? How about the fact that she wanted to talk but he wanted to have the talk on the way to somewhere else? She could have communicated better and could have had better advice but honestly, with a mom like her ex-bf? They would have split up anyway.
It's kinda crazy to get in a relationship with someone with a kid and not to expect to have to be a mom at some point
@@yoakleoakle i mean ofc, but it's incredibly irresponsible to be "bonded" to a one year old when youve been dating for 7 months. this is exactly why most (responsible) parents dont introduce their kids until things are super serious. she absolutely should not have changed the kid's diapers more than him, that's so insane???? at best she should be meeting the kid around this point or 6 months--this is how kids of divorced parents end up not okay, because their parents introduced them to every single partner immediately so there was a revolving door of parental figures in their life that would obviously just leave because a few months of your life doesnt mean you're tied to the kid forever.
it's crazy to expect her to just marry him bc he forced a maternal role onto a woman who he has dated for just over half a year.
@@kendallchappell1676 no I agree I just think it was wild she got into that relationship when she said " I don't wanna be a mom" . I agree tho the dad is an ass and irresponsible
52:53 "What are you gonna do, run away from THE EARTH!?" should be on a novelty fake warning sign
This, but as a global warming awareness t-shirt
i want it on a T-shirt in a really cute font
It sounds like a Welcome to Night Vale quote
I remember a specific instance with my ex, YEARS before the orange peel theory was a thing, where I was out to lunch with him and my best friend. I was sitting on the inside of the booth, he was on the outside, and I needed more ketchup, so I asked him if he could get some. And he just said, "No." Got up so I could get up to get ketchup. Then sat back down, then got up again when I came back with the ketchup. And I remember this moment was when my friend started hating him lmao. I didn't even realize at the time how that would become such a metaphor for our relationship. He would do extra work to avoid doing simple things for me and not see a single issue with it.
The personality switch is a domestic abuse situation usually. My ex did the same. Moved in together and EVERYTHING about him changed. It was terrifying and it took me 2 years to get rid of him completely.
Yikes. Glad you were able to get rid of him.
as i was watching the orange peel theory story, I realised I had forgotten to make my chamomille tea and (without thinking that this could be applied to the orange peel theory) asked my husband if he could go make me some. He immediately went "yeah of course sweetie" and went to the kitchen. When I got my tea I told him about the video and that I didn't intend for it to be a test or anything. He said "we've been married 11 years, I know you wouldn't :) ". I love this man.
I love that. :) I ended up asking something a bit bigger of my boyfriend today. He brought a cold home from work (I work from home, so he's pretty much responsible for all my illnesses, lol). I feel awful, and I really, really wanted some zuppa toscana from Olive Garden and he got dressed and went out and picked us up some, even though it's 15 minutes away and he was all comfy in his pajamas. I made sure he knows how much I appreciate it, of course, because I do. But I also would have understood if he hadn't wanted to do that for me, and I'd never do something just as a test. We already do little things for each other all the time (I spent my work breaks this week bringing him tea and making sure he took his cold medicine), and honestly if a relationship isn't already like that, I don't want it.
that is the sweetest thing ever ;_;
@BreeS-zd5rx How do you feel about smoking
I was thinking the whole time while Shayne was reading, how can you be in a relationship and not have 5 examples off the dome of small things your partner does for you???
I know right? First story made me go kiss mine
I feel like, just as a rule, we can say DON'T KEEP SEX TOYS MOLDED FROM YOUR EX'S GENITALS. Shit's weird. Get rid of it and go buy something that doesn't have a connection to your ex.
I feel like as a general rule, this makes sense, but I think we can also recognize some nuance to a situation. Like in this story in particular, OP has said they’ve only been together for a few months. I wouldn’t get rid of any tried and true sex toys for a relationship that young, regardless of connections to an ex. I think it’s worth noting that some women have particularly hard times reaching orgasm, and for whatever reason it may be, that particular toy reliably got her off. In the beginning of dating when they weren’t getting each other there, I think it makes perfect sense to want to keep using a toy that works. She even said that she realized later on that she didn’t want to keep herself tied to those toys and hadn’t been using them recently. Again, the relationship is young. Everyone is acting like they’re 5 years into a relationship and she’s been using that toy all along. It’s been a few months. It takes time to make those kinds of adjustments in your life. Arguably it’s probably not mentally healthy to be attached to the Ex’a toy like that long term, but I’m imagining ending a relationship suddenly, immediately getting rid of those toys because of the connection, and then potentially just NOT being able to come. That truly may not be worth it depending on the needs of that person’s body.
@bluebearofficial3379 it's not just a rule for what is going to upset your current partner, it's also about what is healthier for you mentally (not getting off using your ex's genitals is better for you mentally, you can buy toys of all shapes and sizes go find something similar that isn't your ex's molded dildo) and what is respectful of your ex (if I gave someone a dildo of my genitals while in a relationship I'd prefer they get rid of that when we break up).
I think the fact she even mentions that when they were starting dating the sex wasn't good but she could get off using the dildo "WITHOUT FAIL" is SO HURTING. Like, i appreciate the honesty but maybe you should have kept that to yourself, she is basically telling her partner that at the beginning he couldn't please her but HIS EX PENIS could WITHOUT FAIL.
It's like she is saying her ex's dick was way better than his, it's just wrong
@@fulanoide718 Who can at the beginning though? I know i didn't, and there's nothing wrong with that. You gotta figure eachother out first. It's rather obvious more than hurtful.
@@tomaszskowronski1406 yes, but in this situation where he's already dealing with the current insecurities regarding d*ck size, being reminded just how good her ex was (while they were dating) definitely didnt help the situation.but at the same time, I doubt that's what she ment when she said that. It just seems like an extra punch in the gut
37:23 No, it was very necessary.
1. He needed witnesses. Did you not read how she even tried to gaslight him in front of his friends?
2. HIS FRIENDS DID NOT BELIEVE HIM. His friends said HE must have done something wrong to cause her to change or that he was off about it. When people don’t believe you, your word means nothing. They needed to SEE.
She lied to try and make him look bad in front of his friends. That girl could be dangerous, especially if his friends were siding with her in the beginning when OP tried to tell them what happened.
Always have witnesses if you feel you need to. There is no harm in having another party in the room in situations like these. Protect yourself.
Literally came to the comments to say THIS.
He was engaged to her, he loved her. This was not ganging up on her, this was a staged intervention. She chose her friends and not help from the group confronting her and showing her what she had to lose. Glad he got out.
Agree, she tried gaslighting the friends after she realized it wasn’t working on him. He probably did it so he didn’t lose his boys if she were to get in their heads first. AT MOST, one of her cousins could have been there
I agree with this. I also agree with courtney though, that bringing 2 men in a tense situation like that can feel very threatening.
@@hernameispekka_Rebecca but they were mutual friends according to op. It wasnt just HIS friends, which is probably why they tried defending her initially.
they came to the same conclusion in the discussion
No one taking about how the first boyfriend was clearly just using her as a mother. Cook, clean, take care of HIS child so he can go out?? No✋🏽 that man is obviously not fit for any relationship.
@@CaptainThugRdx I never said they didn’t say it. Do you lack reading comprehension? I said no one is talking about it. Miss me with your attitude.
Also, to be clear, I’m stating that he’s treating her like she’s HIS mother. Not the mother of his child.
oh the guy is absolute trash.
I can't get over the fact he brought his kid, when they were gonna have a talk. And just assumed they could chat while she drove him to the bar??
They fact he just assumed he could get away with ANY of that is insane.
1) to assume your girlfriend will just babysit your baby without ASKING.
2) to assume that when someone says "we need to talk" it'll be over in 5 minutes OR that you want it infront of the child. If it gets heated, the baby gets stressed too!
3) when she compromises about talking in the driveway, he says no. Talking in the driveway would've been way better than telling her she's babysitting, and that he's gonna go drinking AND she's driving him to the bar.
4) He's a dad to a newborn. Why are you out drinking every fucking week????! How did that not get talked about?? Like, yeah! Parents are 100% allowed to have a day/night away from parenting (like, letting them stay with the grandparents for a day-out) but every week? And it feels shitty that it's only him getting a break from parenting when she said he doesn't feed the baby or change their diaper, etc.
The dudes insanely neglectful
@@yansw You saying NO ONE didn't is quite literally the first few words of your incorrectly spelled sentence "No one taking (sic) about how" and you even repeat it in your "clap back"
The 2nd story would make an amazing rosemary's baby-esque psychological thriller, with like a plot twist of them being a coven of witches preparing to sacrifice the fiance.
I almost thought of that with the initial wine parties.
Omg amazing
Hereditary-ass reddit story
@@RiveTheRat Also midsomar vibes
Bruh, the second Shayne mentioned 6 friends I immediatly thought "oh no, he is meeting the coven"
It is absolutely wild to expect your girlfriend of not even a year to be your child from a previous relationship’s mother figure
RIGHT like they were barely dating for 6 months and this guy and his ex partner are expecting her to be a mother figure for their kid. Like where are you guys the kid already has a mother figure, the mom. And that the “ kid is attached to you now” the kid is one it won’t even remember op
@@bryellejungong156 fr, saying that the kid is "attached to OP" is 100% a emotional manipulation tactic
@@trashotaku right! then bf mom said “ you need to step up be good mother and future wife” is so crazy to me, like what??? Excuse me that’s not my baby
So did the old mommy die or what? Probably self check out considering this dude and his mommy
@@Breadhmm3840 Hearing that that the mom said that shows that Op dodged not one, but two bullets cause the woman sounds like she'd be a horribly overbearing and traditionalist MIL
Courtney and Shayne are about to tell their son Trevor that they’re getting a divorce with this one
Shayne: Alright next story, I (33m) and my wife (29f) both work at a popular UA-cam channel…
Trevor: Wait.
HAAH TRUE
😂😂😂
@@unsolved86”UPDATE!”
I believe you mean "Courtney and Courtney's Husband"
The way that Trevor talks is so relaxing tbh. Please more of this specific group 🙌🏼
I definitely think the orange peel story just showed that girl how little her boyfriend does for her. And yes I get the actual test is weird, but it makes you think “will they ever help me when I ask them?” And turns out, no. He won’t. He was looking for a stepmom not a partner.
yeah, Its not about the orange peel, its about the invisible labour that she was constantly doing and that he was not doing.
it's a bit unfair to judge this relationship by two tests done in the same part of the same day. Maybe he'd actually had an unusually hard day. Maybe she was being annoying that day and he was done with her. Maybe he was distracted with something else going on. This is a theory right, so apply the scientific method. Repeat the same request with random or set intervals of time between. If he consistently fails then he's consistently a douche. Don't just use it as a catalyst to start an argument about effort in the relationship.
@@rhydianbanner3590 but we aren't judging him by two tests done in the same part of the same day. That's where it starts, sure, but it continues with us learning that he doesn't really help her with anything(at least from her perspective) and ends with him using them "having a talk" as a pretext so he can ask her to drive him to see his friends.
@@rhydianbanner3590relationships aren’t scientific; they’re based on feelings, emotions, and experiences over a duration of time. Op is obviously not gonna be able to list out every single detail of how she noticed that her boyfriend doesn’t accommodate for or help her in the ways she does for him. These two “tests” were clearly not the bigger issues for her, they just helped her to reflect and realize that her emotional needs weren’t being met by him. That doesn’t make him “wrong” or an asshole, it just means that they’re not right for each other and she needs someone who’s better able to reciprocate the little actions she does for others. It also doesn’t make sense for you to assume that she’s feeling like he doesn’t put in enough effort just based off the information from these two tests when you know that their relationship existed before these tests and she was able to reflect on previous events.
@@rhydianbanner3590 It goes more than the test though. He's looking for a step mom/bang maid and not an actual partner. The fact that he took the baby with him when OP wanted to talk and then thought he could just toss his baby at her to babysit is wild. It sounds like he's the primary parent but not stepping up because he had OP and he wants to act like a college student without a child. But that's not his reality. His mom is also a problem since she's trying to force OP to raise a child that's not hers and thinks her son's behavior is appropriate. If the mom has such an issue she can saddle up and be the babysitter.
Courtney asking Trevor "what's the square knife called?" because he's a cook has me IN TEARS.
I'm not gonna lie. I have Shane's exact mentality in regards to earthquakes and hurricanes. Once, an earthquake happened while I was asleep. I just rolled over with, "If I die, I die."
"NOW IS NOT THE TIME FOR SECRETS" is the funniest thing ive heard this year
I need merch of this lol
"So Shane doesn't know this but *pspspsspsspsss*" 😂 😭💀
Fr, that's a sound bite that's gonna live rent free in my head lol
"Don't set yourself on fire to keep others warm"
Thats a good quote I like that
Im surprised Shayne hadn't heard it before. It made it's rounds as a meme 10ish or more years ago. I love that people are hearing and seeing it again❤
TikTok really influences relationships.
Recently, my dad’s been watching a lot of videos that say men are naturally better, that they should “lead,” and that they should marry two women. He’s started bringing this up around the house, making comments about how “men are meant to be in charge.”
The funny part? My dad doesn’t work, doesn’t help with chores, and hardly raises his kids (My two brothers and I). My mom does everything. She works, takes care of the house, and somehow finds the energy to keep things running smoothly.
Whenever Dad mentions “marry two women” or says men should “be in charge,” my mom just gives him this tired look. She doesn’t even argue with him. Instead, she’ll say something like, “Well, maybe you could start by actually helping out around here.” Then she goes back to whatever she was doing.
Honestly, it feels like Dad’s so wrapped up in his phone that he’s forgetting real life. TikTok may say a lot about what men “should” do, but I’m pretty sure my mom is the one actually doing the hard work around here.
Oh god, I can relate. But at least you're aware of it, because I know guys whose parents taught them that they were superior and it's borderline impossible to get them to do anything, that isn't "manly" enough. Good luck, hopefully he'll gain perspective.
@@weirdotter3044 I’m just trying to avoid picking up any of that attitude myself. Hopefully, we both manage to break the cycle. Thanks for the good luck, feels like we’re both gonna need it
1:05:00 😂😂😂 His wife whispering... The context... Trevor nailing the perfect comedic reaction.
court saying the earthquake story while wearing a gimme danger sign is so funny
😂😂 I noted her shirt too
The earthquake story is now probably the hardest I've laughed at Shayne and Courtney lolol. "what are you gonna do? Run away from the earth?" had me dyingggg 😭😭😭
You guys were too generous to Sharon. It's clear she just used the guy for his money to show off to her friends. She just waited until the engagement to show her true self. It's just silly of her, to think that an engagement can't be broken off. He's lucky though that she was careless enough to not even wait until the wedding to take out the horns
EXACTLY! Scared absolutely does NOT excuse any of this behavior. Immediate red flag and breakup worthy.
Right. "She flipped," my ass. This was the plan from the start. She married for the status of being a married woman, not out of love. I'm not sure this is the kind of person who's capable of experiencing that emotion.
Yea they are way too charitable to her side. The act of hiding away her 6 closest friends alone shows she’s intentionally manipulative.
She probably was counting on the sunk cost fallacy after the engagement, for him to not breakup with her bc "they already spent so much time together"
I think it's less that they are easy on her and more that they genuinely didn't think of it as something someone would do. Many of us who have been lucky with how we grew up, with the people around us and who are generally naturally decent sometimes totally miss out on "obvious bad behaviour" because the thought of someone actually doing that is not even in the brain.
I've asked my mom, ex, and brother to tie up my hair while I was in the kitchen because I was washing dishes and had wet hands or was kneading something sticky and couldn't do it myself. There's lots of reasons to ask someone else to put your hair up when you're in the kitchen
Me too or when I’m preparing meat dishes and didn’t tie up my hair prior😭
I've definitely asked friends and various family to roll up my sleeves while I'm washing dishes cause they fell at some point
absolutely which is completely genuine. I havent ever had the orange peel thing done, but what I have seen is the person asking is just... standing there. No additional information. no "I don't really know how" or "can yiou show me how" anything like that it's just "can you peel the orange for me." to be honest it feels unsettling. Like you look at the sitaution you try to gauge it to think "why?" not because you don't want to help, but because it just feels so... strange to ask when all things point to you being perfectly capable in that moment.
@@chickensandwich8808 Especially if someone does it for TT and films it. I guess the people who film it mostly stage it but if someone just whacked out their phone to do the "test" I'd totally be confused as well.
For about 20 minutes after I've done my nails I'll ask anyone around me to do every little thing that I can't or don't want to delay. I used to feel kinda needy about it until I realized I've actually never asked someone to do something that I haven't done for them at some point, including adjusting my socks.
Y'all should collab with Cinema Therapy. You could get great discussions from them.
my mum walked into my room when i was watching this, gasped and asked if a blurry paused frame of Shane was ”vanilla funk”. ten minutes of forced googling later i have learnt about a teenage marching band breakdancer that in fact looks absolutely nothing like Shane
Omg 😂
God I love you and this comment
This has some spicy meme potential
This comment made my day thanks
Your mother must take after everyone on the Smosh subreddit and assume every white man looks like Shayne lol
shayne sitting in a movie theater during an earthquake and refusing to leave because it "makes the movie better" is fucking HYSTERICAL
"WHAT ARE WE GONNA DO RUN FROM THE EARTH???" SIR 😭😭😭😭
As a chilean, this is the only response for an earthquake 🤭
The fire alarm went off when I saw Avatar in theaters and I didn't leave until the screen went dark because I thought it was part of the movie 😂
About the one with the fiance that changed after they got engaged - he wanted his friends there because he's been dating a gaslighter for years. He needed an outside party to witness her behaviour and affirm to him that he's not crazy for seeing her that way.
I can't believe that during the first reddit story they didn't even comment on how when the girl told her boyfriend that they needed to talk, the boyfriend ASKED her to pick him up, then BROUGHT his kid without telling her, then TOLD her he was going out for drinks with his friends, like he expected her to drop him off at the bar and babysit his kid without even asking her first!!! Shane just kept calling her immature the whole time and tbh she's taking care of herself AND someone else's kid i'm not sure that's immature. If anything, the guy is immature, but they didn't even call him out!
their reactions on this first story really grinded my gears honestly. they focused so much on her immaturity that it feels like they completely glazed over the fact that this guy is just as immature, asking for a ride to go drinking with friends while expecting his gf to "step up" and be a mom for his kid? I love Shayne and Court but their reaction to this first story was not it y'all.
@@nloreivi think they got pretty biased by the test thingy.
@@nloreivJesus Christ y'all they don't have to point out every single thing in a story, they aren't analyzing the story, they're discussing it. The girl was obviously being manipulated, they made a face at the dude wanting her to take care of the kid. Not commenting doesn't equal approval
They’re both immature. She’s immature for taking advice from Tiktok and not communicating her feelings. And he’s immature and a douche for treating her like a nanny for his kid. They both lack emotional maturity and shouldn’t be in a relationship with anyone until they do some growing.
@@goshdangit4503ugh I know, people drive me up the wall with these kinds of takes, even if I literally disagree with someone on this kind of video on a specific issue, why bother casting judgement on their entire moral character
Personality flips are VERY common when people get engaged or married. Both men AND women with abusive/toxic problems will change once they think they are safe.
this is why you at least gotta do a "trial run" first and live with someone for a while before marrying them. ofc people can hide who they are even if you're sharing a space but it's still important to do
The Six sounds like an iconic all girl supervillain gang. I would watch the movie but I don’t want to be friends with them. 36:05
First story- op’s boyfriend was inconsiderate of her time. She wanted them to talk things out while he just wanted a ride- to her house? No to get drinks with his buddy. Did he expect her to take care of his child as well? Communication was not their problem it was him expecting her to wait on him hand & foot
Its so funny they call her immature when he was litterally being a man-baby
Yeah noticed he wasn’t even gonna ask her to watch the kid, just assumed she would because why would he take a 1 year old to get drinks with a buddy?
This is so real
@@sock2741both were immature in different ways
@@sock2741 both are true.
“WHAT ARE YOU GONNA DO? RUN AWAY FROM THE EARTH?!” actually has me in tears
2:54 that orange peel theory is so true. My husband does so much for me when I ask, and even some stuff when I don't. He literally told me to not worry about the garbage yesterday because he'd take it out on his way to work. If the person you're dating isn't willing to do something for you after you've asked they aren't worth your time. Unless they are unable to because they're doing another task, or they genuinely don't know how, it's not worth it.
Shayne was a bit harsh on OP in the first story, I'm not a fan of test but I'm glad it opened her up to seeing the imbalance in her relationship, especially with how the bf and the bf's mom reacted after. bullet dodged.
same. he’s been vocal about not liking the concept of relationship or friendship tests so maybe his mind focused only on that and forgot the other stuff going on in the story. i don’t think OP was immature. sometimes people do tests out of curiosity which is what OP said her reason for doing that, but she unfortunately got a result she didn’t expect. she didn’t even break up with him after the test that he failed, she reflected on the whole relationship first before making a decision which means she is NOT immature. it’s not like she did the test to set him up to fail. i hope Shayne becomes more open to those kind of stuff in the future to avoid being biased or sidetracked.
SAME, calling the girl immature for the test and missing the dude was using her.
@@littlemsjaneyI mean the tests are immature. They even said they're glad it allowed her to see that the relationship wasn't for her. What are you on about lmao
@@goshdangit4503yes but they concluded the story as "they're both immature and not meant for eachother" which implies that they're equally immature when the girl is actually very mature and the guy was deliberately using her
@@mandrake7305 It does not imply equally. Both can be immature while one is more immature. Shaq and Conan O'Brian are both tall, this does not mean they are equally as tall.
Literally got served the Angela Home Depot commercial when I clicked this video. She booked!
just saw that too🎉🎉 so happy for her!!
I thought I was tweaking out wow
I saw that yesterday and I thought it was her but I didn’t catch her face againnn
Only ad I’ve ever rewound 10 times I think 😂 is she booking marvel next? 😂
These Reddit stories being read and broken down by different perspectives on this channel genuinely helps me do self reflection on the relationships I have with myself and everyone involved in my life.
Xoxo
30:06 nope! Her gaslighting him and then trying to gaslight the friends is the reason he SHOULD have reality checks for himself. It's hard to gaslight when you have multiple people calling BS
shayne actually already passed the orange peel theory test except his task was “shayne are you by? can you dip a grilled cheese in tomato soup and deliver it to me” or something like that LOL
Oh my gosh yeah!
YES I was thinking of this when they talked abt that
There was another video from a while ago where Courtney asked if they could have a pretzel and Shayne gave her the last one in his hand without hesitation. I thought that was really cute, though I'm not sure if they were dating at the time.
reference?
@@arnaut108 When they were playing The Sims to earn money for The Trevor Project
This episode was GOLD!! The interactions between the three of you was fantastic. I can’t wait until you all do another episode. The vibes were real
orange peel is making me ask again, we need a theme of friendship “tests” for another episode!❤
I hope they don't do this. I don't think I could handle that many idiots in one episode
Underrated. The amount of tests ppl make their partners/friends to do if fked up
omg you've just reminded me of the bride telling her friend to wear a white dress to her wedding as a test. That was crazy.
i don't think Shayne can take anymore! He gets more and more annoyed at those stories every time (as you can tell with this one)
37:40 having the mutual friends over was 100% necessary. They didn't believe him before they were saying he must be leaving stuff out. Definitely needed them there to show he was telling the truth
Came to say this! What an insane woman, she literally thought he was so whipped that she could just walk all over him… too bad he had a spine😂
Low-key, Eighth Grade (directorial debut of Bo Burnham) is super amazing and I'm so glad to hear Court reference it. That movie is like living through someone else's anxiety and it's such a reflection of how the youth exists in the internet age (something bo often touches upon with his comedy and art having lived through that experience himself and getting famous from it) HIGHLY HIGHLY HIGHLY RECOMMENDED
Shayne's psychology degree is SHINING in that episode !
That episode actually made me reflect on my past relationship.
And I realised I was NOT a good partner.
Court's comment on how they ended up feeling like their partner's mom hit a critical spot to be honest.
So many good advices !
I don't know your past, but good on you for self-reflecting. There's always an opportunity to grow and change.
@@kayleyanna3164 Absolutely ✨️
Okay with the first story, I'm so glad Trevor brought up the mom and the baby thing. Thought they were gonna completely gloss over that for a second EDIT: also oh my god if my partner completely left me in a dangerous situation I would be so icked out
Same on the Fiancé Running away. Like bro you are not leaving me here in danger tf
idk I appreciate they had a more nuanced and balanced take on the fiance running away thing.
@@Joshcoshbagosh yeah, 100% appreciate the nuance. I feel like I'd also be icked out if my fiance ran away. Because if my brother wasn't there, I'd either have been robbed, killed, or beaten up. If it turned out that the fiance ran and called the police, that'd negate it, I reckon. I'd be glad that he was responsible, atleast, but I still think leaving me alone would make me feel icky.
I can imagine the main thought would be "he'd rather prioritise his life, than prioritise our life?". I mean, she'd have been either in the hospital or dead if it wasn't for the brother. It'd be hard for me to brush past that and continue loving my fiance wholeheartedly.
I can see why it's an accident/not his fault, but come on! Least he could do is call the police, or look back, see they wasn't there, and slow down or stop, or ring them, or something! It wasn't until THEY ringed him that he came back/joined them.
@@JoshcoshbagoshI’m not saying they had a bad take, I was just so taken aback by the story itself. I agree with everything they said but I’d probably still do what the woman did
Really appreciated Trevor’s additions in this ep
In the first story the bf was rude and disrespectful. He expects her to drive him around and do everything for him. If im having a friend/SO pick me up, im going to ask them if they can take me somewhere and not just assume they will. He never asked her to take him to meet up with his friends, he just expected her to. they dated 7 months and he tries to manipulate her into staying cuz "baby bonded to her already" hes a father, act like one.
absolutely, the guy was immature and shouldn't be a dad.
The first story just highlights how important it is to honestly reflect on the relationship like are your needs being met, do you talk about issues before resentment happens, do they remember basic information about you (or at least store it in their phone) like food allergies, do they respect your boundaries, do they let other people disrespect you, do they double down or downplay disrespectful comments they say to you, are they using you for what you can do for them but the reverse is less than half. If someone can't be bothered to help you out with minimal stuff when you're ill (like getting you a light snack, water and medicine from the pharmacy if they're able bodied) so you're a bit more comfortable I can't imagine they'll step up to be there if you have cancer - terminal or not when you'll need a lot of support and empathy. Some people do but for some it's easy to cheat or walk away. The stats on men leaving their partner is sad.
Yes so many more men than women leave when their significant other gets a serious medical condition 😔
I love how Shayne, Trevor, and Courtney dive into these relatable yet wild relationship tests. The orange peel theory is such a funny yet oddly revealing concept-it makes you wonder how small actions really reflect our attitudes in relationships
Ouff that poor dude who lost his fiance for his flight response and then saying he understands, I just wanna hug him.
This one was so sad! I understand she wants to feel protected, but in traumatic situations like that people can have a myriad of responses and none of them are “wrong” when you are in fear for your life. I guess if having someone fight for her is a priority I get it, I just don’t think I could abandon my fiancé and partner of 6 years because of something like that. I almost wonder if there was more going on.
@ I think Court said it well, this is the first time he's experienced this so he's learnt something and can work from there. I also get the protection element but to specifically say 'ick' and her inability to move past them tells me she may be a bit shallow and kinda exist (these are only assumptions from what I've read, I obv don't know).
As an aside I was nearly thinking it was going to go full lannister with her and her brother hahaha
I hope he finds a woman who wants to be the protector 🥺
genuinely heartbreaking, like girl, what would have happened if the gun was real and ur brother made a grave mistake by fighting? it was a coin toss and she got extremely lucky. why does she feel that its HIS responsibility to lay down his life for some street rando?? like gurl i do not think finding a guy who would beat up a man with a gun barehanded is a very great indicator of who would be a good life partner LMAO
@@jilllime3824 bc I was an insane child I experienced so much fight or flight and had to cope with the choices it showed me I would make if the situations were as real as they felt and people like op who are so judgmental towards their loved ones for it make me really sad. You make really quick calls when you’re in that situation like my 7 year old brain kept sacrificing my parents to zombies to give me time to get my sister and myself to safety (yes I did legit think this was a currently occurring situation with limited time). OP would think I didn’t love my parents enough or some shit
Every Saturday I hold off starting my chores until they post so I have something to listen to
Same. Lol
SAMEE
we all say “same!” In unison.
Same...which means I end up doing zero chores on Saturdays because where I live it's 7pm when the episodes come out 😂
A-are we all the same person??? 😂
The fact that Angela was just in a holiday Home Depot ad right before I started watching is very Inception-esque ✨🌙
5:30 honestly, if my wife asked me from the kitchen to put her hair up, I would. Maybe it's getting close to something and her hands are full, it could be for any number of reasons. Above all, communication with your partner is key, ask them how they want to be treated and do that.
Also, I ask my wife to peal the hard boiled eggs cause I have these giant finger and struggle, tests are the problem.
Yeah i think I would do it too but also context matters. If I see someone just sitting there looking at me asking to do something I will be puzzled a bit
Also before breaking up over something like this, there would be talking.
@nirbindubanerjee2762 for sure, choosing to break up over that is alot. though if it's a boiled frog situation, where they didn't realize till then that, being in this relationship means they aren't valued, I could see how this would end a relationship.
@@bigthyme26gaming64 totally agreed.
@nirbindubanerjee2762 have a great weekend
For the fiance running away one, I can't help but feel weird about OP breaking up with him the very next day. Her feelings were very valid, but it seems like she didn't give herself time to process them. It's probably just a case of me not being able to understand since I haven't been in this situation.
I agree. Both of them are likely still in shock. Give it a second. You can communicate the worry.. but just quitting a longtime relationship without even giving it some time to settle, maybe do some therapy or self defense classes. Feels rather premature.
I 100% agree with you. I’m guessing they left some stuff out of the story on purpose and maybe the running away was just the last straw for them to have a reason to break up
I agree, she should’ve given it some time but she wasn’t in the wrong for breaking up. I just feel bad for everyone in that situation tbh.
I got stranded in the desert with a partner and he didn't handle it marvelously. He didn't handle it poorly, but it really did make me see him in a different light. I let the relationship go on for almost two months after, trying to meet people's expectations that we would be so close after something like that, but the ick did not go away and those were some of the most mentally unhealthy months of my life
I get it though. They were together from age 18 to 24. They're at the exact age and situation were it makes more sense for her to split with him immediately. They'll both be alright❤
52:55 'what are you gonna do? run away from the earth?' I CAN’T STOP LAUGHING 😭😭😭😭
literally screamed when i saw this pop up on my recommendations, these are all I look forward to on saturdays lol
Seriously same. Makes my work weekend so much better.
You wait for it to pop up? I start refreshing at 9:55
@korshaiz just wasn't on my a-game today 😔
Nice pfp
@Intacfil BRO WE MATCHING ❗️❗️❗️
courtney was so real about “do not tie my shoes bc you could do it wrong. or make them too tight”
Honestly, very valid. As someone who has worked with elderly people and have helped my mum quite a bit, you have to communicate well on stuff like that. Making sure it's not too tight. That can be so uncomfortable! Always a quick "does that feel right?" at least.
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i felt when courtney said that she doesn't have to ask shayne to do something small as a "test" because she knows he would do it. you should already know what your partner would do for you and if you're that insecure about it, that's the problem!!
Or if they’ve given you reason to believe they wouldn’t do such things either accept that or reconsider compatibility if that’s something important to you
Genuine question. What if you’re not sure if it’s in your own head (your own insecurities), or if maybe your partner has given you little red flags and that’s why you feel something’s off? Cause sometimes you’re genuinely not sure. But in my case I’d communicate that, not test it
@@falconawesomeid say communication tho they could gaslight???. Thats tough. i honestly think once it's in your head, your opinion on them won't change (eg girl who got the ick when bf ran away) and better to break it off and start afresh
01:04:53 That whole cleaver convo/banter/mixup was spectacular!! Too funny!
I loved Trevors commentary throughout this episode! He seems like a really compassionate person, I loved hearing what he had to say about all this
Courtney whispering to Trevor RIGHT after the topic of penis sizes is brought up is WILD 😂🤣 1:04:50
I feel like the thing with the orange peel theory is that it highlights the invisible labour that women often do in relationships. Like so many women instantly go into a caretaking role in the relationship and never questions it until they realise that their partner does not even consider doing the same for them even when asked to.
Exactly. They are saying this poor woman should have communicated her needs early on but the fact that she even would NEED to communicate that she also wants to be cared for in the way she cares for her partner? He has been a bad partner from the start and is clearly comfortable taking advantage of this woman's kindness and willingness to help. It took a silly TikTok trend for her to realize the relationship imbalance and realize she was being treated unfairly. That's not her fault for "not communicating" earlier. I bet even if she had tried to initiate a conversation about her needs, the boyfriend would have shut it down or ignored her anyway. Blaming the woman for not communicating when the man is clearly a worthless partner is not it.
@@CaptainThugRdxshe did... she did break up with him instead...
Also, yes communication is important in relationships but thats only if you believe the relationship is worth saving, it seems like she realised that this relationship was not worth the effort she was putting in.
Was looking for this comment. While I understand and agree with the notion of ‚don‘t test the people around you‘, I felt like the judgement of her came across a little harsh? Imo she quite clearly explained that the idea itself helped her to see the labour she was doing without receiving any acknowledgement for it. She asked her ex to have proper talk and he took it as an opportunity for her to babysit. No prior discussion as well as his mom having the audacity to talk to her like that. That really cemented the idea how it must‘ve been the seven months (!) they were together.
@CaptainThugRdx the whole point is that he isn't doing enough?? She is young, she probably put up with his behavior because she didn't know any better. Breaking up is a form of communication. She's saying she's not going to put up with his BS anymore and instead of owning up even a tiny bit this manchild says she should have brought it up sooner? He knew he wasn't an equitable partner and was perfectly happy with it.
@@CaptainThugRdxthis right here. Communication is a normal thing. This person is getting annoyed that she had to communicate. No one is going to be perfect in a relationship and someone having to let their partner know about flaws is a normal healthy thing to do
I couldn't help but imagine Shayne and Courtney being in the situation with the mugger.
Imagining Shayne running away & leaving Courtney behind is really funny. 😂 (of course, in a comedic sense only.) I would love to see that skit.
OOF. that fiancé dude form the fourth story is probably absolutely CRUSHED. totally understand the op’s decision, but holy fuck it’s hard to imagine just how devastated the guy felt
I don't understand the decision at all. The way you act when someone suddenly points a gun at you is irrelvant. If you get the "ick" and treat it like a cosmic force you can't do anything about, and not something you can work through and understand. Like, if you fully go "i fully understand everything, and you can't help it, and i don't blame you. but this random horrifying that happened to us determines we won't get married now". Absolutley not, just childish
@@SmilingDude-li1eg
well it’s less that he ran away in a survival response and moreso, once he was safe doesn’t sound like he attempted to make sure or reach out to see if his woman or her brother were ok. The initial response is understandable but to just run so far that you need to be picked up and they’re reaching out to you…that’s what shows cowardice. She’s not childish at all.
no sorry i dont buy the safety is my love language. nothing the bro did was either. but it just happens to fit in with her worldview abt how men should be. what if they were 3 girlfriends? she expects others to protect her as well? this flight thing does not indiciate much .
@@komal146
My personal problem is that the girl and her brother had to call the fiance. Like, he didn't look behind him, or call them, or call 911 to help his fucking fiance and her brother.
If I was the girl, I wouldn't have been pissed about the initial run. Fight, flight, freeze. I'd get that much. It's that he didn't stop to look around. Like, if you looked back and saw she wasn't also running with you, would you not assume she was still in danger? How can you just not check in, or call for help?
Genuinely! If your group's in danger, and someone in your group is handling it, and you're running from the danger.. you call for help! Like.. that's 101 in ANY situation where there's danger/hazards. If you're on a hike, and one of you got left behind, went too far ahead, etc? You call them, and you ask people in the area if they've seen them, and ask them to ring you if they see them, or where you're headed if there's no signal. Basic common sense. (I'm aware a hike/robbery isn't a direct comparison, but hopefully, there are enough parallels that you understand that you inform anyone you can about a danger/hazard.)
You call, let someone know, you scream for help! If he was shouting for help, I feel like she'd likely not be as icked out/icked out at all. My problem is that he disappeared and it felt, in that moment, that he didn't care about her. If he was shouting for help, calling police, or looking back and shouting her name? Anything, ANYTHING would have been better than what he did. What he did was like.. the worst option possible. Even staying behind and allowing the robbery would be better than literally leaving you on your own. No police, not alerting anyone in nearby buildings, nothing. Just you and the robber.
Yeah, I'd have an ick. Because I'd be beaten up/robbed/dead without my brother there.
@@komal146 I do agree that safety isn't a love language. It's a trait/characteristic.
Love languages are things like: verbal (compliments/ affirmation/ appreciation);
Physical (cuddles, hand holding, etc);
And there's others like acts of service (cooking them a favourite meal, doing chores, etc)
There's probably a few I'm missing but those are off the top of my head^^ but yeah, I agree on that point.
Although it's still valid to want a partner that makes you feel safe, 100%. If you've had an abusive ex/parent, it's okay to want someone that doesn't make you feel scared of them/others in your life. But my comment's dragging on, so I'll leave that there. Hope you're well, have a good day o7
“WHAT ARE YOU GONNA DO? RUN AWAY FROM THE EARTH?!” 😂😂😂 he’s got a point.
I don't think I've seen mention of it, but the past two weeks y'all have been on the ball getting captions up on the same day! (It's historically been sometime the day after). Its very very appreciated as someone who has audio processing issues
The bf in story 1 is treating her like a mother for both him and his kid, does barely any parenting, and then takes none of her concerns seriously because "waited too long"? This is more than them being on "different paths" or her needing to "communicate early on". This was never about tiktok. Some people just take advantage of you, and she noticed that while doomscrolling
Fr I think Shayne’s (valid) hatred of relationships tests clouded his judgment on that one
@@horimiya7290 agreed. those tests aren’t a good way to deal with issues in a relationship & using a test to decide whether or not you should stay together isn’t healthy. a small mistake shouldn’t be the end all be all but it can make you realize an imbalance in relationships. the bf & his mothers behavior was a lot more concerning imo. one is immaturity in dating while the other is just using someone & being manipulative to keep someone around to care for a child she isn’t responsible for, a way bigger issue
@@CaptainThugRdx so she's wrong because she didn't realize he's an asshole?
@@CaptainThugRdx my guy why are you in almost all the comments about the first story when they have valid criticisms of how they responded to it? Yes it was immature but it brought to light the fact that she was pulling so much of the weight in the relationship. Driving him everywhere and being a babysitter while he goes out?? Thinking she would do that again without even asking her?? He was selfish from the get go.
@@CaptainThugRdxyeah he clear cut said that " yes the guy has a problem. But if you need a test to get confirmation just leave. "
There are so many relationships when someone will pretend to be something they're not for a long time, sometimes they do it for years. But then as soon as it gets serious when they're either engaged or married, they'll do a complete 180 and their entire personality will change. That is so manipulative.
THE CUTIES IN THIS VIDEO ARE INSANE (court shayne and trev) :3
4:25 giving huge "mom I frew up" energy
The Courtney whispering to Trevor scene made me laugh so hard I can't 😭
SO funny!
I really enjoy how everyone analyzes the stories; it's both humorous and insightful. Every story makes me think! Definitely the best video I've watched today, looking forward to the next episodes ❤
0:39 we love starting with brozoning your own husband
They call each other bud/man/dude/bro so much! I wonder if partially it's a thing stuck over from when they were keeping it on the downlow. But I also wonder if it might partially be affirming to Courtney as a non-binary person.
@@hernameispekka_Rebecca sometimes i believe it’s a thing that got stuck while trying to keep it low as well, but i guess we’ll never know
@@hernameispekka_Rebeccait's common to call everyone this at their age, even significant others (especially when you were friends for a very long time)
@@cass12234 fair... Especially in LA, I'm pretty sure
@@hernameispekka_Rebecca as someone from LA, yes
In the 2nd story, I think they were being so nice by saying maybe the fiance was probably not communicating well enough, or that she was just waiting for that level of trust that came with the engagement to be more honest. When in reality, I think she was just hiding her true self until she got the ring and now that she feels like she's got the guy on lock she can let her entitled b!*ch side come out and behave however she wants without repercussions, because the man has been secured. I mean having a secret inner circle is CRAZY
Hey, her and her six friends say you're being toxic and fragile!!!!😂
The timing of this video is insane
I can’t believe Shayne stopped Courtney from running away from the Earth.