Isn’t it funny how the guys that are totally against sex offenders so passionately and publicly end up sex offenders themselves? JD should be looked at.
As a child who was abused thank God not sexually, my entire childhood I was under my bed from an abusive step dad. My mother died, I went after him at 23, he ran from me like a bytch. Moved to Florida an claimed I was crazy to his family. I'd found him an killed him if I was crazy, I had to ask Jesus to let away my pain because it was gonna go ugly an I didn't want time like my cousin. Love you JD. ❤ We're stronger than them. As much as I wanna....... not worth it. Jesus will handle him.
I was raped as a child by my mom's boyfriend. It fucked my head up all my life. Seeing your videos gives me happiness & a slight feeling of justice for whatever reason. Thank you, JD. You're my hero.
I’m very sorry that happened to you, nobody deserves that, and absolutely zero of it is your fault. I hope the remainder of this life turns out as good as possible for you
@cherylharris8539 only if the bleeding doesn't stop, otherwise they'll escalate to using objects if they haven't already. At least in some cases of physical and chemical castration that I've seen.
As a liberal I 1000% agree with JD in this that extreme liberalism has made chomos feel safer. Make them afraid again! Love the clip, awesome video. Much love brother
Same here, it's the extremists wanting to protect them. I keep an open mind to almost everything, but chomos, no damn way. The fact people are trying to include them in the LGBTQ+ community is insane to me.
Happened to my daughter by my ex (not her dad thank God) but the trauma it’s carried over the last 4 years for the both of us has been unreal. The fact that he still walks the streets free blows my fucking mind because the system and how they approach the CHILD victim is so broken. The way that people don’t understand that these “people” are typically abusive narcissists and groom not only the child but the parent and people in the child’s life. It’s so fucked up. Thank you for speaking up and out about your own trauma and calling out these pieces of shit. I think it helps not only me, but her (she’s now 13) to see strong adults speak on their stories. It doesn’t HAVE to consume you or destroy your life. Thank you. 🖤
I wonder how defense attorneys can live with themselves if they "successfully" defend a chomo to the point of getting let off free? Like, I get the whole 'fair trial' thing, but testimony from child victims should be done over pre-recorded video and questioning handled by a social worker. NO contact with the Defense OR Prosecution.
@bryanbradley6871 having an urge doesn't give you the right to abuse someone sexually . If you can't find a willing partner that doesn't give you the right to abuse someone and does not make it okay . What are you on about?
@@bryanbradley6871 the point is that they can’t control their “urges” on a CHILD who is not only unwilling but unable to give consent. Yes… if you’re a grown adult and can’t control your own actions… you should be locked away FOR LIFE. The fact that you’re unable to understand that is scary. Do you not feel the same for some kid who goes and shoots up a school because they’re troubled and “can’t control their urge”? Or a mother who unalives her children because “the voices told her to”? Of course they may need help but what honestly makes you feel they should have access to other potential victims while they get said “help”.
They cant be rehabilitated and even if they could any one who would do something that messed up to someone else definitely deserves hate over redemption in my books
There is no such thing as someone who never intentionally hurt others humans are are hardwired to be cruel to each other and humans are also hypocritical we claim people deserve to be hated for hurting others yet act like hurtful dicks ourselves and call it a “mistake” it’s pathetic honestly so if you think you’re a good person who doesn’t deserve to be hated you’ll always be a hypocrite
I was 5. Thank you JD for being open and honest about it. Men need to talk about this kind of stuff. I repressed it until I was 19 and nearly ended it all. My offender will never see justice, I have been 10 years "past it" but I will never be the person I would have been had it never happened.
I was a civilian detention officer in a county jail years ago and we had a old guy from prison for a court hearing. He was up for final parole hearing, he was asked why he had turned down parole five times.. his response was that he had raped a 15 year old girl and got caught and had admitted to several others he had been given 25 to life because he had left the girl for dead and she lived but with severe brain trauma and unable to walk, he new he would do it again if released. He told the judge that he was were he needed to be to keep kids safe from him. He also told the judge that that it was all he thought about and that the prison, the doctors, or the phycologist coul not d cure him or any pedophile or rapist. He told the judge that locking him up or killing him was the only way to stop a pedophile like him. I remember the court room was quiet and everyone looked shocked at what he said. The prison phycologist and the parole board refused to say anything at all, as they had all been demanding he be paroled because he was reabilitated and not a danger. They had written a report to the governor trying to force the inmate out of prison and that's why he was in court for the hearing. The courts accepted his parole regection and he was told that he was to be returned to the prison for the remainder of his life. So here was a pedophile admitting that they are sick, and danger, and can not be reabilitated or fixed and locking them up or killing them is the best option at this time.
Thank you for openly talking about the evils that have happened to many of us. The anger never leaves you. Very insightful and your openness of what you passed through and your courage to discuss it. Thank you.
Being tempted (not using this term from a religious context) is not a crime/sin. However a lot of what they r saying in regards with being "born" or "wired". I do not agree with. It's a dangerous slippery slope to say that. What's probably more accurate is every human is born with an engrained potential to do wrong or commit wicked acts. But being tempted and acting are two different things. Diagnosing someone as "can't control" or "wired" gives way to they can't be held responsible. Ultimately it seems that if society continues to use those phrases for people who commit wickedness. Then ultimately it will eventually be accepted as a normal behavior. Chomos simply put are completely capable of not acting/living as that. A desire does not define you. It is your actions that do.
I know a guy who was abused by his own brother, and his brother, who's now deceased from an overdose,he almost has an idolized view of his brother, despite what he did, almost like a trauma bond.
Bro, you asking the uncomfortable which is always needed.. Salute you for what you do.. Needs to be talked about more. Anyone that touches a kid, needs to be sentenced as if they murdered someone. Fuck that. They don’t need any protection bc I truly feel, recovery doesn’t help. They will do it again. You def help many dealing with this. Not sure how I came across this vid but so happy I did. Thanks man!
I was SA by my grandfather on the daily from 6-8 years old ended the day he died behind his shed. Really screwed my brain. I’ve been hospitalized 6 or 7 times in the past 3 years on the psych unit and now have a SMI designation to help my mental health needs. I’ve done a lot of talking about what happened to me and I’m still healing. He’s been dead for about 30 years. I don’t know what clicked in my head or what led towards what but I eventually forgave him. It didn’t fix anything beyond give me a new look on life. I’m not saying that’s for everyone but what im saying is at some point you have to face your past. Going to therapy and or psychiatrist or psychologist not only helps you as a person but it helps further research and care for victims and possibly even further insight it the how offenders behave and what can be done to prevent more victims.
Think about it like this. In your head there are wild thoughts popping up every now and then. You can either allow yourself to like or dislike any random thought that comes into your mind. Keep in mind that those thoughts and feelings inside your own head are private so what others would think isn't always considered. If you allow yourself to like certain thoughts then you start to lose self control. Self control starts in your own head. You can choose what you think is acceptable or not in your own mind. Let's say you are driving and no cops are around. It's up to you to keep driving the speed limit and obeying the laws. keep in mind that's what it's like in your head where nobody else can see or hear your inner thoughts. When you allow yourself to break the speed limit you are displaying the loss of self control. Similarly when you allow yourself to enjoy thoughts that are immoral you are losing your self-control. When you allow yourself to start enjoying those types of thoughts then it starts to become part of your identity and it begins to manifest in the real world. This process can be reversed but it's hard because as I said before this person has allowed it to become part of their identity. It all stems from a lack of good morals and a proper upbringing. And especially if their own father has poor values it kind of goes to the next person because when you see others doing immoral things it's easier for you to think it's acceptable in your own head. And in people with mental illness I think it's even worse because they are already at a disadvantage. People need to see others with good values acting right and doing things that are right because it reinforces good values in their own mind. Also they need to see others who are doing bad things get punished because it lets them know even internally that it's wrong. I think the main issue today is that people are not punished hard enough for the things they do that are wrong and they are not rewarded enough for the good things they do.
A large percentage of the women I've met have been abused by people like this and it's scary just how common they are. Make an example out of them, keep them locked up or just the wood chipper. I personally don't think they'll ever change and we are WAY too soft on them. Keep up the good work, JD. I know I'm a random stranger, but I'm proud of your progress, bro! You deserve all the good things coming to you.
Society creates the monsters it claims to hate and people who have this vindictive eye for an eye mentality that believe virtually tortment the tortmenters in the most sadistic way possible are the ones to blame for that
Happened to my dad. Really fucked him up, he had conduct disorder as a kid before it was a real thing, was a violent kid, started drinking very young, he has sex addict problems, he’s never hurt anyone but he’s been a serial cheater. In and out of jail, was a felon, but my daddy found god and is doing so much better and I’m so proud of him. Now I was molested and I’m still not ok, it played a huge role in my drug abuse
Fascinating.....to see the interviewer discuss his compulsions, and watch how his body acted, on it's own.....that is gold.....The platinum was when you mentioned those studies JD.....the Buddhists specifically posit three key compulsions and then give them symbols. This has me thinking , I really like your posts JD, take care.
I 100% applaud Johnny for being so open with me about his sexual compulsions and how he’s working to mitigate them! I genuinely enjoyed talking with him, in fact, we have about six hours of content that will be coming out between our two channels!
My life long depression stems a large part from SA as a child. Emotional abuse and neglect didn't help. Im surprised and sad everyday I wake up. I never expected to live this long to be honest. I guess I'm too stubborn to take me.
Same here, I never tought I would make it past 16, but i'm almost 40 now. I dont like physical contact at all, and also been treated like a perpetrator by my baby momma who blamed me for being a victim to this day. I just wanted to be normal but I have always been an outcast. I was able to find people who taught me how to forgive and allow God to be the compass of moral decisions. I started to live my life based on facts, logic and reason and accepted that my emotions are out of balance. I cannot take back what happened and how it affected others. Every day is a struggle. but I know that I am not alone. I know people are looking at me and take courage every day I go to work and refuse to give up. I smile and feel miserable. I am depressed but you can only see and hear motivation, I fight with devils but I worship God trough choise, prayer and music. I refuse to be broken! And if that can help only one person, then it's all worth it. I don't even think i'll go to heaven because of what happened, but I am determined to fight the demons. Getting out of a depression might be impossible, but at least be nice to yourself for what you did in the day instead of blaming yourself what you couldnt archieve. I also prefer jobs that include cleaning something and make people feel happy. I also go out to the nature and just walk there for a few hours every week without phone, that really does miracles. I'm also not going to say that I found a solution or that you should do it my way either. But no-one is going to solve it for you and people tend to get dragged into a depression themselves if they are close to others who have it. It hurts us even more if the people we think should help us dont and distance themselves. But the real problem is that you need to learn to love yourself.
@0Diazzz0 thank you for your response and kind words. I'm 53 yrs old and never planned on making it to mid 20's. I dont actively think of suicide anymore, mostly because of my wife, kids and now grandkids. I just wish I could REALLY feel what I know I should be, happiness, joy, and contentment. I just feel meh, sadness, anger and frustration. It doesn't help that I am partially disabled due to an assault at work leaving me with nerve damage, ruptured disks and constant pain even after fusion surgery and decompression. Also struggling with a head injury last year that has impacted my emotions or lack there of and memory, so now I get to feel stupid along with worthless. Don't get me wrong, I am trying, I'm on meds, although still waiting on MH counseling, most days just getting out of bed seems like a win. I'll keep trying, and I'm glad you are too and maybe finding some peace.
@Lauren_C For example, into my early 20s, I'd wake up from reliving the actual events, the implied threats, being told it was my imagination or that no one would believe me. Recurring, multiple times a night. Lots of nights giving up on sleep all together. Slept with my bedroom door locked until after the military (23), but still sleep with it closed, even when I'm home alone.
I have a question. Ok, I had this girlfriend back in California who I was planning on marrying but it didn't work out. We are talking 1989. So, 4 months ago I reach out to her and we start talking about us again. It was looking good too. In March I was planning to fly from Kentucky to spend a few days with her. But, I started feeling that she wasn't 100% and I didn't want to blow all that money just to be disappointed. I ended up telling her we should stay friends but I wasn't interested in moving forward. A few hours later I get a call from my boss that someone called anonymously and said I worked for her in my state of Kentucky and I was inappropriate with her minor child. He and I talked a good hour and there is no way on this earth I'd do that. He gets off the phone and calls the number then calls me back. Now it sounds like he's going to let me go, meanwhile I'm telling him to tell her to call the police if that's what happened cause that's messed up. He asks if I pissed anyone off and I told him about the break up. Then I ask him if the area code was 707 and he said yes. I messaged her after I called her local police to complain and she says her friend used her phone and it wasn't her bull. As bad as chomos are, what about false allegations? She weaponized her 11 year old who she said her daughter told her and she would never lie to her. Isn't that just about as bad?
Men go through just as much trauma as women but don't have the same support to heal. Props for reversing the stigma. Men should get the chance to heal too!
You should do an episode on the pretexts, like saying "did you call me a b!tch?" that can be used to avoid "hate crime" charges. I knew about the protected class thing; this is the first I'm hearing about the ways of getting around it.
Thanks for all you do big dawg! Never been locked up, but your audience reaches so far past that. Listen to your videos at work, helps get through the 12s. Keep it up man 💪🏼
I know so many people who I was friends with in active addiction (men especially) who confided to me their addiction was fueled by the trauma they couldn’t talk about.. it’s sad to think about. When someone does that to a child it can definitely lead that kid down a path one day of numbing themselves that they may never come back from. Seen it too many times and it really is heartbreaking.
Not related to the video but just wanted to shout out to you as a CO working in a state on the east side. I'm so glad you turned your life around and on top of that trying to help better the lives of others who have been through the penal system. Also, you are entertaining as hell! I'm one of those laid back, chill "don't start shit, won't be shit" COs that gives what I get in terms of respect. I just want to do my job and go home and I absolutely hate paperwork - but that doesn't mean I don't care, either. If I come across a shank or drugs, my hands are tied. Anyways, I'm glad I found your channel as of late as I've always been a fan from the perspective from the other side of me because at the end of the day, I'm locked in there with the inmates and finding common ground and balance is key. As long as I am respected, I give it back. I'm not the cop that arrested these guys, the jury that convicted them or the judge that sentenced them. I'm just there to make sure both the population and myself have the smoothest and easiest day possible given the environment and that we come out of my time in the block with all of us having the same amount of holes that we started with at beginning of shift. Much respect for all you do.
It's not about whether or not they can, it's about how they lost their chance to be viewed as people when they used a person for their own personal entertainment
Great interview JD! It’s really interesting to see a different side of you. I like most of your content and to hear you speak logically and calmly about such a deeply unsettling topic really speaks to your character. You never fail to inspire me. Keep up the great work brother. Respect ✊
JD "THE TRUTH" DELAY!!🔥💪👍 Good stuff brother! I was abused by "both" at ages 7-14! I'm 54 now and i haven't had a decent relationship in my whole fkd up LIFE! Drug addiction, horrible behavior problems ect. Clean now 6yrs. still putting my LIFE TOGETHER💥 THANKS BUDD!
As a retired clinical and forensic psychologist who has worked with S-x offenders for over 30 years, I'm also in general agreement with the qualified exception of SOME, but not all juvenile SOs, especially the younger ones who may be as young as 12-13, or sometimes even younger. It very much hinges on doing something to address the behavior before their personality crystallizes as the reach adulthood, and also the issue of Romeo-and-Juliette situation in jurisdictions where the age of consent may be 16, but even though that person gave full consent as defined by law, because they haven't reached the age of 18, the law still permits parents to press charges anyway, even if they're the same age, or less than 3 years older, which is generally considered an acceptable age difference in most cases where one person is 16 or 17. So you may have two couples, both consisting of a 17yr old female and an 18yr old boy, for example, and in both cases, the 17 yr old female has given full legal informed consent to sexual activity. However, the parents of the 17yr old girl in the first couple are extremely fond of her 17yr old male partner, while with the second couple, parents hate the male's guts and file charges, where the parents with the first couple wouldn't dream of it - how can you take identical situations save for how the parents feel about the boy, which becomes the criteria for saying a crime has been committed? Sexting is a big issue as well, because not only are there consent issues, but now, because someone is ignorant of child pirnography laws because they're just an immature kid and lets say he shares intimate photos with friends via text or maybe email, and maybe they share them further, but now there is an actual crime occurring because images of an underage person either nude and/or engaging in sexual activity are being shared which by definition are child p-rnography. And if by chance someone shared those photos with someone in another state, they could be charged federally, and it can get pretty complicated very easily. That being said, having worked with literally hundreds of offenders over the years, when it comes to anyone who is an adult whose personality has crystallized, the most that can possibly be accomplished is to get them to the point where they will not act on their deviant urges, because the deviant fantasies have been rehearsed so many times in their minds long before they first acted on them, and may have been reinforced for just as long, beginning with masturbating to those fantasies, which is one of the most powerful reinforcers, then moving on to acting them out, will remain with them for the rest of their lives along with the temptation to do it again. So why do we even bother to try to treat them? Treatment must begin with incarceration, beginning treatment in an outpatient setting just won't work. There are some treatment methods which may potentially help them curtail acting on their deviant fantasies, but there are a hell of a lot of "ifs" involved and even then its a long term project at best. But if the law is going to put them back on the street where our loved ones are, and we're prohibited from using the more effective methods JD has described, we have to attempt something and keep trying to develop hopefully better techniques. But it can be a very discouraging proposition, which you can't help being skeptical about, and some research has actually supported the frequently heard criticism that they just learn how to tell the therapist what he wants to hear, and learns to regurgitate the treatment concepts they're taught, and cyber investigators who infiltrate online pedo groups have reported discussions between pedos on just this issue, and this includes how to present oneself for SO assessments. But other than the issues with some juveniles, as above, which is more of a problem with ambiguities i And contradictions with how the applicable laws are framed, I'm in agreement with JD. Any exceptions are just that - exceptions, and those are ultra-rare.
Those exceptions prove the point: they are beyond redemption. A 0.1% chance of not offending is no justification for allowing 100% free. As for solutions I am in support of exile, an island somewhere that is actively patrolled.
@nexusdrop7863 exactly, that's the point I was trying to make, and most of those exceptions are not because of something within an offender, and for sake of clarity, an offender from a clinical standpoint is someone who victimizes another person(s) and does so because of certain personality features or dynamics, a vague or poorly written law(s) is not the deciding factor in whether or not I'd consider someone a pedo - it's about 1) certain deviant thoughts and 2) acting on them. I've served on a Federal committee that advised the Ohio legislature regarding implementation of the Federal Adam Walsh Act, which established the SO registry and Tier classification uniformly across all states, and myself and others tried to get the legislature to clarify the law in regard to the issue of consent in Romeo and Juliette cases, for example, but no one on either side of the isle wanted to deal with it. And also cases where someone drunk stumbles out of a bar and goes behind the bushes to urinate, and regardless if they were or even can be seen, they can be charged for exposing themselves and placed on the SO registry. Maybe we could deal more effectively with chomos if the water wasn't muddied from stuff like the above. While my profession is about change, it's also about dealing with reality and the reality is, the best that can be genuinely hoped for regarding individuals who engage in those types of acts, creating victims due to their personality dynamics is curtailment of acting on the deviant fantasies that will always be present, and there is really no way to predict how long they might be able to do so, and since out of all possible predictors - of any behavior, not just what is under discussion - the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior, which is also not perfect, but given the stakes for potential victims, needs to be kept in mind always. If the sentence given by the court will eventually see them back on the street, by all means, do whatever we're able to (legally) do to try to mitigate their risk to re-offend, however pessimistic the outlook may be for any remediation. And keep in mind, this is also an EXTREMELY lucrative specialization for professionals involved in the treatment of chomos in their given field, social work, psych, counseling, nursing, etc. And its been my observation that sometimes you'll find window dressing to justify budgets or continuing someone's contract, etc. and that means that they have to at least give the expectation of positive effects from treatment to those powers that be who cut the checks, at least enough to make a case for continuing to fund programs or increasing the budget for them. Don't get me wrong, regret are many sincere, ethical, dedicated professionals who do the best they can, and if any positive effects from treatment results, these will be the ones achieving those ultra rare occurrences, but there are probably just as many who aren't invested in it as professionals, it's for the paycheck.
Yall are amazing. The world gave yall a platform and your opening the light to the dark areas. Those who lived in the dark see how much the light can help. It's crazy.
The case of chomos having a biological predilection is a good argument in favor of embryo selection. People wanna talk about "playing God," but rolling the dice and leaving it to chance could be more unethical. Select out embryos that are likely to be chomos or psychopaths.
You beat me by 5 days...it seems likely that the next step would be to "select out" people with weak hearts/lungs/or even your political opponents,where would it stop?@@chuckmartel1874
I had JD from private break raw share about his human trafficking story on my channel a few years ago and glad to see another dude step up and share because y'all can help others
Yoooo shoutout from Fl man. I came across you recently and the stories youve told about your prison experiences and youre a wild ass dude lol much respect on turning yourself around dude cause not many ever want too or need too
Yes! We’ve been talking about doing it for a while, and when we finally sat down, we recorded for over six hours. So there is a lot more content to come! Talking with Johnny was just like chopping it up with an old friend!
Diaper snipers should be use to train EMT/Paramedics/Trauma surgeons . Oh so you need to practice an abdominal gun shot wound? *BANG* Oh look there's one.
Thanks JD.. think you help more people then you'll ever known. Much love and respect for that.. I'm almost at the point to ask for help with my issues.. 2 decades is to long to wait.. man up or check out should be the only option I should give myself. Take care Sir
I did notice many of the children who were assaulted turn around and do the same thing. This is not all of them but check with chomo’s and ask if they were assaulted by a man. Larry Lawton briefly shared his experience
Dude I was SA’d when I was around 9 by my older neighbor he was in his teens. Like JD I’m still not sure if I’m healed enough or if I ever will be. I’ve struggled with relationships my entire life never able to feel normal. It’s difficult to talk about. I’ve been married for 20 years which fell apart but I got two great kids out of it and now I’m better single. I feel happier not having to be intimate with someone. It sounds sad but it’s not.
I didn't feel safe enough to risk having relations, until I was too old to have kids. Definitely was a struggle and life is easier without the pressure and physical reminders and triggers. I hope each day is better than the last. Best wishes.
I agree completely that once an offender has acted they are beyond help. That said, i think it needs to be more acceptable for someone with those urges to go to a doctor or therapist to help them safely control those urges. Many would never seek help, but some very well might if they felt they could do so without being demonized. Just punishing people after the fact does nothing to help the victim. 2 years, 20 years, or even life, that doesn't un-rape a victim. It only puts a dangerous person away for a while, and not nearly long enough usually.
Preventative discipline is better than after the fact justice, dont let your kids be friends with kids in the first place. If there is an age of consent for drinking and smoking and consentual sex, then make teenagers wait and pay attention to their lessons and be vetted for adult privileges.
I have been abused by my family member...and i have been a alcoholic ever since..but i have to say JD i appreciate you and your story..alot.. it's helped me alot
I was 10 when black men hurt me, now i guarantee aint no one gonna put a hand on me or anyone in my my circle. Much love from Reedsport Oregon. P.s. i know you might hate me for this but my ex wife was a corrections officer at warner creek correctional facility in Lakeview Oregon. It was tough when she came home with a badge on tripping in her masculine energy. Hence the reason she my ex. Lol keep doing what you doing. Youre changing lives.
We've got a local comic store/hobby shop that has a dude working there who lost his teaching license and served time due to possession of cp. Owner threatens everyone who says anything, with paperwork to back up the fact the dude was guilty, with defamation lawsuits. Tolerance of this crap is disgusting.
JD I’m a predator catcher from MN and I got charges for smacking them around before and the cops never charged anyone in my county that I exposed. Now I’m fighting more felony assaults on the last one I did and I didn’t even touch the dude. Help me get my story out there bro I got trial in 2 weeks
Thats contradictory. You can't "be wired like that" AND have a choice. The issue is, since their wiring makes them a danger to society, how much (if any) obligation does that society have to tolerate those dangers. It seems to me that the answer is any harmful wiring that can't be rewired needs to be removed
@BigBosOfDaSouf how can you judge smart psychology vs dumb psychology when you have zero understanding of psychology to begin with? Come on, being a dummy is one thing. Don't be arrogant
I was abused as a child. Not sexually but the "good old fashioned lie about where the bruises come from" abuse and the one thing I think I share with you is the anger. I got into plenty of fights in my younger days but I was never fighting the other guy. I was fighting whatever I was in that guy that reminded me of my abuser. And even after decades, I still hold a rage that I can't ever seem to fully extinguish. But to have as personal a connection to sexual abuse as you do and to be able to sit down with this man about his compulsions without grabbing his neck... I have much respect for you. I still feel like kids who have been victimized need not only justice but vengeance. But as uncomfortable as the types of conversations you had in this video are, they are important. Because I believe these type of conversations are what will eventually lead to a shift in paradigm that could lead to more kids being *protected.* And that's far more important than vengeance. Don't get me wrong I'll be the first to grab my torch and pitchfork if we find a monster in our village. But if we could build some sort of a "fence" to keep the monsters from attacking in the first place, isn't that the better option?
Or not letting the urges begin in the first place. Some pedos grew up butthurtt that they didn't get laid in high school and touch teens in order to make up for missed opportunities. I tried to get laid in high school and was stopped by my family. I was pissed off at them but seeing what I see, I am profusely grateful, knowing now that child on hold sexualisation is as damaging to a young woman as adults abusing children.
Man this really hit me, my dad did some stuff to me and my sisters. It messed me up for a while, to the point I couldn’t even have intimacy with no one for a long time…Long story short I tried to make some amends with my dad I haven’t talked with like for 8 year’s. Apperantly he’s living his best life. Traveling and having fun with his friends. I guess some people are easier to let things go.
I just gotta say, I respect you so much. I was abused by an aunt/cousin and an uncle. I spent I cant count how many days, years trying to figure out what exactly happened. Being so young my memories are fragmented but after growing up I know at least something happened. I'll never see justice. One is long dead and the other is beyond the statute of limitations. I can't fully explain in a comment how it had an effect on me, on my relationships, how it opened me up for more abuse even as an adult later on in relationships. Please keep doing what you do, please raise the voice of victims, please let it be known that children are in danger. You do so much good work and I love you. Thank you for being the voice victims deserve to have screaming there is something wrong.
Where I live in Florida I was told there is NO statute of limitations for sex crimes or murders...Florida will lock up a dead person they don't give a damn! That's why if they tell you life,they mean until you leave prison on a slab
Hmmmm I am a therapist and I've worked in a max security women's prison. I don't ever remember college preaching this message at any level. This is a complex issue that people oversimplify, just like most things mental health related. My clinical opinion on the issue is that almost every issue is a combination of nature and nurture, though people like to get polar with their opinions because they think it sounds better. The fact of the matter is that most predators were abused themselves, which does indicate some level of environmental influence. At the same time, there are so many other factors here such as personal accountability and introspection, internal and external coping skills, etc. Again, every behavior and personality trait is extremely complex, so to water it down to a single statement such as "they're wired that way" is and major oversimplification. I personally do think that they're probably rehabilitatable, however, we don't yet have the research to support that, so I don't currently feel safe with a "rehabilitate and release" structure. What I am comfortable with is running tests within a controlled environment where they don't have access to the outside population in order to test what works. The thing with rehabilitation is that we'll never know what works if we don't try. Also, preventative services are on the rise, which have been shown to reduce offending behaviors; those preventative services also do reduce the stigma, which is both good and bad. Reducing the stigma is good because it encourages non offenders to seek help before they offend and stop the disorder from developing. However, the general population takes this type of program and then erases all of the accountability and they think that we should welcome them into society. Again, it's all very polar, but I feel that the right answer is the reduce the stigma just enough to allow them to receive both preventative and rehabilitative services while also making it VERY VERY VERY clear that we are not tolerating this behavior in society. They need to understand that we are NOT saying that their behavior is okay just because they're receiving services. Just because someone has a disorder, that doesn't excuse the behavior. In my opinion, people need to stop being so radical about everything and understand that the most healthy approach is often very grey. I do feel that providing services will make our society safer, but only if people don't take those services as a reason to accept the behavior. It's extremely nuanced. Also, this idea that you "can never heal from sexual abuse" is not accurate in my opinion. I was sexually abused for decades by my parents. My mother was my first and most severe abuser. You can heal.
The more I learn about the prevelance of and the leniency toward these offenders the more mind blown and outraged I become. Sympathy for these offenders is what is allowing thier behaviors to continue. Bet; that if they had true consequences for their actions, these crimes wouldn't be occurring with anywhere near the current frequency.
I don't blame my abuser for me being gay.That had nothing to do with him. But. Being abused from 5 year old to 9years old and still having nightmares at 70. Yeah well that's a totally different thing. Do I have PTSD everytime I hear of a child being abused ? Definitely. Does it bring back the horror and nightmares,? Big Yes. Has it made me HATE all abusers ?Yes. Do I have compassion for them as being a Chomo really is the same as being gay as there is no choice. No fu@king way.! What I do is consensual with another adult who is like minded. SA .is Grape. It is actual bodily and mental harm for life. Just writing this although cathartic brings up emotions so strong it hurts. Thank you both for tackling this subject in such a positive way. JD i agree make them scared❤❤
Bro you do gods work make no mistake you being vulnerable at those speeking events is huge a guy that looks as intimidating as you being open like that has moved a ton of men to coming forward i just know it. Shit man what ever your highest pb lifti g weights is nothing compared to what your carrying on your shoulders by being who you are and i applaud that ..... suggestion btw because i know hed go for it jelly roll get that interview bro
I still hold more animosity for those that enable chomos. I had a teacher that was inclined and reporting it was 100x more traumatic than the event itself.
JD I love Ur video, I have a lot in common with u when it comes to prison and 💊s. I've recently started A.A and N.A and when I want to wind down I look on you tube and look for Ur videos. Not meaning to be all creepy but I wish I could meet u as I use u as an inspiration but I live in Scotland. Please keep doing the videos man. God bless and peace out and thank you brother.
I was born in 1970. Until I turned 18 I was not allowed to go anywhere without my parents. The only places I went to were home, school or out with my parents. You see, my parents were petrified p*dophiles would touch me so they chose to raise me and my two siblings like this. They had migrated from fascist General Franco Spain and so knew all the bad sh!t was out there. I'm 53 today and I homeschool our 15 year old son. We always know where he is. I have nothing but gratitude for what my parents did for me, as it wad out of total love. They were ahead of their time for sure...
God….that hit hard. I was SA’ed at 14 years old by 5 men in their 30’s. I ended up on dope (heroin and meth-IV), I was a prostitute, I was homeless, and I have been in so many abusive relationships. Even worse, at 24, I was brutally raped and nearly killed. That one almost ended me. The trauma was almost too much to endure, after the first assault at 14, I didn’t think I’d be able to get past the second one. I didn’t go to the police after the one at 14, and I regretted t my whole life. I didn’t tell my parents until I was 17. After the one at 24, i immediately went to the police and got a rape kit, they were able to ID the guy from dna. But god. I’m clean now and a drug and alcohol counselor. I have specialized trauma certification. My passion is helping others. So I guess it was all for a reason.
I think the ones who haven’t actually physically raped or sent nudes to a child, but talked to a minor can be rehabilitated with counseling on impulse control, I’d also argue it depends on the age. I think the younger they get caught the more likely it is for them to be rehabilitated
Someone very close to me was "messed with" when she was young and attempted non-existence when she was a teenager. She got really fucked up from it, developing PTSD, depression, and anxiety and she's not fully able to function as a person. Since then, she's been in multiple abusive relationships and recently worried about becoming an alcoholic. Because of that shitbag, she'll probably never be able to function as a proper person. She's made a lot of progress since we met, but I don't think she'll ever be 100%. This person ruined her for probably her whole life. I just hope that one day he gets the karma he deserves.
JD man your the man on all the topics you talk about and absolutely correct Man I did time at brushy mountain state penitentiary it closed in 09 I got out in 06 it's a super creepy insane place would you look into the place and then ill.tell.you what I experienced there happy investigating
Even if they are "wired that way" it's still a conscious choice to harm someone. People live there whole lives abstaining from all manner of things, they don't deserve sympathy, you forfeit your humanity doing something like that to a kid. They should not be treated like people.
EVERYONE GO CHECK OUT JOHNNY!
He’s releasing his interview w me on Wednesday!
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Isn’t it funny how the guys that are totally against sex offenders so passionately and publicly end up sex offenders themselves? JD should be looked at.
@@popbigdaddy9422 look all you want. I’m not hiding anything.
As a child who was abused thank God not sexually, my entire childhood I was under my bed from an abusive step dad. My mother died, I went after him at 23, he ran from me like a bytch. Moved to Florida an claimed I was crazy to his family. I'd found him an killed him if I was crazy, I had to ask Jesus to let away my pain because it was gonna go ugly an I didn't want time like my cousin. Love you JD. ❤ We're stronger than them. As much as I wanna....... not worth it. Jesus will handle him.
Baby sniffers an my brother gambling is not the same JD!!!!! Correct that.
Do you think a spray of lit gasoline would be more painful than being sprayed with liquid nitrogen?
A major problem is that the victim gets a life sentence while the offender gets a few years.
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Stastastastastab.nice!!!!!
Or someone who smokes weed in an illegal state gets more time than a kid fucker
That depends on the specific case.
I was touched on the buttocks at 14, not traumatized at all. If I got rapes at 6, definitely a different story.
Being born to poor parents is a life sentence too. Just stop producing if you make under 100K per year or from a poor country.
I was raped as a child by my mom's boyfriend. It fucked my head up all my life. Seeing your videos gives me happiness & a slight feeling of justice for whatever reason. Thank you, JD. You're my hero.
Sorry that happened to you, and I can relate except it was my sister who did it.
I am sorry. I really hope you able to heal and move forward.
So Sorry😥
I’m very sorry that happened to you, nobody deserves that, and absolutely zero of it is your fault. I hope the remainder of this life turns out as good as possible for you
NO THEY CAN'T BE REHABILITATED. SIMPLE AS THAT.
Big facts!!!
Yes they can be. Feet first in the wood chipper and they'll never do it again. Lol.
Sure they can. Just as soon as you remove the "bits" and any other offensive parts. Preferably without anesthetic.
@@estebanrivera8820wishful thinking 😂
@cherylharris8539 only if the bleeding doesn't stop, otherwise they'll escalate to using objects if they haven't already. At least in some cases of physical and chemical castration that I've seen.
As a liberal I 1000% agree with JD in this that extreme liberalism has made chomos feel safer. Make them afraid again! Love the clip, awesome video. Much love brother
Make them afraid again!!! Big love and respect to you!
Same here, it's the extremists wanting to protect them. I keep an open mind to almost everything, but chomos, no damn way. The fact people are trying to include them in the LGBTQ+ community is insane to me.
Exact reason I created my own Facebook page exposing pedos in our county here in ky!!!
Republicans over whelming are the ones getting busted for being PDF files. You should thank the libs for going easy on you guys😂
Huge difference between classic liberalism of a few years ago, and authoritarian leftism.
Happened to my daughter by my ex (not her dad thank God) but the trauma it’s carried over the last 4 years for the both of us has been unreal. The fact that he still walks the streets free blows my fucking mind because the system and how they approach the CHILD victim is so broken. The way that people don’t understand that these “people” are typically abusive narcissists and groom not only the child but the parent and people in the child’s life. It’s so fucked up. Thank you for speaking up and out about your own trauma and calling out these pieces of shit. I think it helps not only me, but her (she’s now 13) to see strong adults speak on their stories. It doesn’t HAVE to consume you or destroy your life. Thank you. 🖤
I wonder how defense attorneys can live with themselves if they "successfully" defend a chomo to the point of getting let off free? Like, I get the whole 'fair trial' thing, but testimony from child victims should be done over pre-recorded video and questioning handled by a social worker. NO contact with the Defense OR Prosecution.
Lots of pedo apologists in this thread I see .
@bryanbradley6871 having an urge doesn't give you the right to abuse someone sexually . If you can't find a willing partner that doesn't give you the right to abuse someone and does not make it okay . What are you on about?
@@bryanbradley6871 the point is that they can’t control their “urges” on a CHILD who is not only unwilling but unable to give consent. Yes… if you’re a grown adult and can’t control your own actions… you should be locked away FOR LIFE. The fact that you’re unable to understand that is scary. Do you not feel the same for some kid who goes and shoots up a school because they’re troubled and “can’t control their urge”? Or a mother who unalives her children because “the voices told her to”? Of course they may need help but what honestly makes you feel they should have access to other potential victims while they get said “help”.
Ok bud. I’ll pray for you.
Love and support to you JD Thank you for all you do.
And thank you and love to all survivors for being here today, carrying on.
Thank you Blaze! Jax and I love you!
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They cant be rehabilitated and even if they could any one who would do something that messed up to someone else definitely deserves hate over redemption in my books
Absolutely!
There is no such thing as someone who never intentionally hurt others humans are are hardwired to be cruel to each other and humans are also hypocritical we claim people deserve to be hated for hurting others yet act like hurtful dicks ourselves and call it a “mistake” it’s pathetic honestly so if you think you’re a good person who doesn’t deserve to be hated you’ll always be a hypocrite
I used to work with sexual predators; they can’t be fixed.
I was 5. Thank you JD for being open and honest about it. Men need to talk about this kind of stuff. I repressed it until I was 19 and nearly ended it all. My offender will never see justice, I have been 10 years "past it" but I will never be the person I would have been had it never happened.
I was a civilian detention officer in a county jail years ago and we had a old guy from prison for a court hearing. He was up for final parole hearing, he was asked why he had turned down parole five times.. his response was that he had raped a 15 year old girl and got caught and had admitted to several others he had been given 25 to life because he had left the girl for dead and she lived but with severe brain trauma and unable to walk, he new he would do it again if released. He told the judge that he was were he needed to be to keep kids safe from him. He also told the judge that that it was all he thought about and that the prison, the doctors, or the phycologist coul not d cure him or any pedophile or rapist. He told the judge that locking him up or killing him was the only way to stop a pedophile like him.
I remember the court room was quiet and everyone looked shocked at what he said.
The prison phycologist and the parole board refused to say anything at all, as they had all been demanding he be paroled because he was reabilitated and not a danger. They had written a report to the governor trying to force the inmate out of prison and that's why he was in court for the hearing.
The courts accepted his parole regection and he was told that he was to be returned to the prison for the remainder of his life.
So here was a pedophile admitting that they are sick, and danger, and can not be reabilitated or fixed and locking them up or killing them is the best option at this time.
Thank you for openly talking about the evils that have happened to many of us. The anger never leaves you. Very insightful and your openness of what you passed through and your courage to discuss it. Thank you.
Just because you're born wired that way doesn't mean you have to act on it, its still choice.
For real. The moment you decide to act on that impulse, there is no "but it's not their fault, they're born that way!" It's "WOODCHIPPERRRRRRRRRR"
Being tempted (not using this term from a religious context) is not a crime/sin. However a lot of what they r saying in regards with being "born" or "wired". I do not agree with. It's a dangerous slippery slope to say that. What's probably more accurate is every human is born with an engrained potential to do wrong or commit wicked acts. But being tempted and acting are two different things. Diagnosing someone as "can't control" or "wired" gives way to they can't be held responsible. Ultimately it seems that if society continues to use those phrases for people who commit wickedness. Then ultimately it will eventually be accepted as a normal behavior. Chomos simply put are completely capable of not acting/living as that. A desire does not define you. It is your actions that do.
And there in lies the truth. You cant change desires but you can control behaviour. Just as everyone can in regards to sexual impulses.
FR like there’s therapy for a reason
I completely agree. They know what's right & wrong which is why they hide it. WOOD CHIPPER!
I know a guy who was abused by his own brother, and his brother, who's now deceased from an overdose,he almost has an idolized view of his brother, despite what he did, almost like a trauma bond.
Hopefully he finds healing. That brother doesn’t deserve to be idolized
Bro, you asking the uncomfortable which is always needed.. Salute you for what you do.. Needs to be talked about more. Anyone that touches a kid, needs to be sentenced as if they murdered someone. Fuck that. They don’t need any protection bc I truly feel, recovery doesn’t help. They will do it again. You def help many dealing with this. Not sure how I came across this vid but so happy I did. Thanks man!
I was SA by my grandfather on the daily from 6-8 years old ended the day he died behind his shed. Really screwed my brain. I’ve been hospitalized 6 or 7 times in the past 3 years on the psych unit and now have a SMI designation to help my mental health needs. I’ve done a lot of talking about what happened to me and I’m still healing. He’s been dead for about 30 years. I don’t know what clicked in my head or what led towards what but I eventually forgave him. It didn’t fix anything beyond give me a new look on life. I’m not saying that’s for everyone but what im saying is at some point you have to face your past. Going to therapy and or psychiatrist or psychologist not only helps you as a person but it helps further research and care for victims and possibly even further insight it the how offenders behave and what can be done to prevent more victims.
Think about it like this. In your head there are wild thoughts popping up every now and then. You can either allow yourself to like or dislike any random thought that comes into your mind. Keep in mind that those thoughts and feelings inside your own head are private so what others would think isn't always considered. If you allow yourself to like certain thoughts then you start to lose self control. Self control starts in your own head. You can choose what you think is acceptable or not in your own mind. Let's say you are driving and no cops are around. It's up to you to keep driving the speed limit and obeying the laws. keep in mind that's what it's like in your head where nobody else can see or hear your inner thoughts. When you allow yourself to break the speed limit you are displaying the loss of self control. Similarly when you allow yourself to enjoy thoughts that are immoral you are losing your self-control. When you allow yourself to start enjoying those types of thoughts then it starts to become part of your identity and it begins to manifest in the real world. This process can be reversed but it's hard because as I said before this person has allowed it to become part of their identity. It all stems from a lack of good morals and a proper upbringing. And especially if their own father has poor values it kind of goes to the next person because when you see others doing immoral things it's easier for you to think it's acceptable in your own head. And in people with mental illness I think it's even worse because they are already at a disadvantage. People need to see others with good values acting right and doing things that are right because it reinforces good values in their own mind. Also they need to see others who are doing bad things get punished because it lets them know even internally that it's wrong. I think the main issue today is that people are not punished hard enough for the things they do that are wrong and they are not rewarded enough for the good things they do.
A large percentage of the women I've met have been abused by people like this and it's scary just how common they are. Make an example out of them, keep them locked up or just the wood chipper. I personally don't think they'll ever change and we are WAY too soft on them. Keep up the good work, JD. I know I'm a random stranger, but I'm proud of your progress, bro! You deserve all the good things coming to you.
Society creates the monsters it claims to hate and people who have this vindictive eye for an eye mentality that believe virtually tortment the tortmenters in the most sadistic way possible are the ones to blame for that
Happened to my dad. Really fucked him up, he had conduct disorder as a kid before it was a real thing, was a violent kid, started drinking very young, he has sex addict problems, he’s never hurt anyone but he’s been a serial cheater. In and out of jail, was a felon, but my daddy found god and is doing so much better and I’m so proud of him. Now I was molested and I’m still not ok, it played a huge role in my drug abuse
Fascinating.....to see the interviewer discuss his compulsions, and watch how his body acted, on it's own.....that is gold.....The platinum was when you mentioned those studies JD.....the Buddhists specifically posit three key compulsions and then give them symbols. This has me thinking , I really like your posts JD, take care.
I 100% applaud Johnny for being so open with me about his sexual compulsions and how he’s working to mitigate them!
I genuinely enjoyed talking with him, in fact, we have about six hours of content that will be coming out between our two channels!
My life long depression stems a large part from SA as a child. Emotional abuse and neglect didn't help. Im surprised and sad everyday I wake up. I never expected to live this long to be honest. I guess I'm too stubborn to take me.
Likewise.
Same here, I never tought I would make it past 16, but i'm almost 40 now. I dont like physical contact at all, and also been treated like a perpetrator by my baby momma who blamed me for being a victim to this day. I just wanted to be normal but I have always been an outcast. I was able to find people who taught me how to forgive and allow God to be the compass of moral decisions. I started to live my life based on facts, logic and reason and accepted that my emotions are out of balance. I cannot take back what happened and how it affected others. Every day is a struggle. but I know that I am not alone. I know people are looking at me and take courage every day I go to work and refuse to give up. I smile and feel miserable. I am depressed but you can only see and hear motivation, I fight with devils but I worship God trough choise, prayer and music. I refuse to be broken! And if that can help only one person, then it's all worth it. I don't even think i'll go to heaven because of what happened, but I am determined to fight the demons.
Getting out of a depression might be impossible, but at least be nice to yourself for what you did in the day instead of blaming yourself what you couldnt archieve. I also prefer jobs that include cleaning something and make people feel happy.
I also go out to the nature and just walk there for a few hours every week without phone, that really does miracles.
I'm also not going to say that I found a solution or that you should do it my way either. But no-one is going to solve it for you and people tend to get dragged into a depression themselves if they are close to others who have it. It hurts us even more if the people we think should help us dont and distance themselves. But the real problem is that you need to learn to love yourself.
@0Diazzz0 thank you for your response and kind words. I'm 53 yrs old and never planned on making it to mid 20's. I dont actively think of suicide anymore, mostly because of my wife, kids and now grandkids. I just wish I could REALLY feel what I know I should be, happiness, joy, and contentment. I just feel meh, sadness, anger and frustration. It doesn't help that I am partially disabled due to an assault at work leaving me with nerve damage, ruptured disks and constant pain even after fusion surgery and decompression. Also struggling with a head injury last year that has impacted my emotions or lack there of and memory, so now I get to feel stupid along with worthless.
Don't get me wrong, I am trying, I'm on meds, although still waiting on MH counseling, most days just getting out of bed seems like a win. I'll keep trying, and I'm glad you are too and maybe finding some peace.
I’ve a question, if it’s alright. How did that trauma impact, or haunt, your dreams?
@Lauren_C For example, into my early 20s, I'd wake up from reliving the actual events, the implied threats, being told it was my imagination or that no one would believe me. Recurring, multiple times a night. Lots of nights giving up on sleep all together. Slept with my bedroom door locked until after the military (23), but still sleep with it closed, even when I'm home alone.
Dude that's so awesome that Johnny Mitchell interviewed you That's what's up bro much respect
I have a question. Ok, I had this girlfriend back in California who I was planning on marrying but it didn't work out. We are talking 1989. So, 4 months ago I reach out to her and we start talking about us again. It was looking good too. In March I was planning to fly from Kentucky to spend a few days with her. But, I started feeling that she wasn't 100% and I didn't want to blow all that money just to be disappointed. I ended up telling her we should stay friends but I wasn't interested in moving forward. A few hours later I get a call from my boss that someone called anonymously and said I worked for her in my state of Kentucky and I was inappropriate with her minor child. He and I talked a good hour and there is no way on this earth I'd do that. He gets off the phone and calls the number then calls me back. Now it sounds like he's going to let me go, meanwhile I'm telling him to tell her to call the police if that's what happened cause that's messed up. He asks if I pissed anyone off and I told him about the break up. Then I ask him if the area code was 707 and he said yes. I messaged her after I called her local police to complain and she says her friend used her phone and it wasn't her bull. As bad as chomos are, what about false allegations? She weaponized her 11 year old who she said her daughter told her and she would never lie to her. Isn't that just about as bad?
Woodchipper therapy
Wood chipper!!!
I agree. I don’t know why everyone has an issue with that.
YESSS!!!!!!
It's therapy for both parties involved!
Men go through just as much trauma as women but don't have the same support to heal. Props for reversing the stigma. Men should get the chance to heal too!
You should do an episode on the pretexts, like saying "did you call me a b!tch?" that can be used to avoid "hate crime" charges. I knew about the protected class thing; this is the first I'm hearing about the ways of getting around it.
I will definitely do a video about that, bro! There’s ways around everything! 🤘🏻
Reminds me of the South Park “look out, he’s coming right at us”…
As a victim of this, from 6-8 , there is no treatment except a lead injection ( I'm 18 now, and I was adopted at 10 )
I'm so sorry that happened. God bless you
I'm so sorry for what happened to you but I want you to know sooner or later they will pay in full its just a matter of time please stay strong
Youre worth so much ♡ youre 18, look after yourself, you are most important ❤
Thanks for all you do big dawg! Never been locked up, but your audience reaches so far past that. Listen to your videos at work, helps get through the 12s. Keep it up man 💪🏼
I know so many people who I was friends with in active addiction (men especially) who confided to me their addiction was fueled by the trauma they couldn’t talk about.. it’s sad to think about. When someone does that to a child it can definitely lead that kid down a path one day of numbing themselves that they may never come back from. Seen it too many times and it really is heartbreaking.
I love this. Thanks JD! Much love
Big love and respect fam!
Not related to the video but just wanted to shout out to you as a CO working in a state on the east side. I'm so glad you turned your life around and on top of that trying to help better the lives of others who have been through the penal system. Also, you are entertaining as hell! I'm one of those laid back, chill "don't start shit, won't be shit" COs that gives what I get in terms of respect. I just want to do my job and go home and I absolutely hate paperwork - but that doesn't mean I don't care, either. If I come across a shank or drugs, my hands are tied. Anyways, I'm glad I found your channel as of late as I've always been a fan from the perspective from the other side of me because at the end of the day, I'm locked in there with the inmates and finding common ground and balance is key. As long as I am respected, I give it back. I'm not the cop that arrested these guys, the jury that convicted them or the judge that sentenced them. I'm just there to make sure both the population and myself have the smoothest and easiest day possible given the environment and that we come out of my time in the block with all of us having the same amount of holes that we started with at beginning of shift. Much respect for all you do.
It's not about whether or not they can, it's about how they lost their chance to be viewed as people when they used a person for their own personal entertainment
Great interview JD! It’s really interesting to see a different side of you. I like most of your content and to hear you speak logically and calmly about such a deeply unsettling topic really speaks to your character. You never fail to inspire me. Keep up the great work brother. Respect ✊
Thank you! Big love and respect to you!
Madd RESPECT for being able to come out on this. I had it happen to me when I was 8. God Bless you Sir..💯💪🏽🕊🦋💙🙏🏽
JD "THE TRUTH" DELAY!!🔥💪👍 Good stuff brother! I was abused by "both" at ages 7-14! I'm 54 now and i haven't had a decent relationship in my whole fkd up LIFE! Drug addiction, horrible behavior problems ect. Clean now 6yrs. still putting my LIFE TOGETHER💥 THANKS BUDD!
We’re putting our labs together at the same time, my friend! I’m proud of you, and all of your hard work in progress! We are all in this together!
Love ya JD you are a beacon of hope for our addiction community!! And one of the funniest cats around! Thank you!
Prayers for all of our healing ❤️🩹🙏
Big love and respect family!!
The collab I actually knew I needed
It was great doing this collaboration!
Cheers for you guys from the Dominican Republic, long time follower of both of your channels
As a retired clinical and forensic psychologist who has worked with S-x offenders for over 30 years, I'm also in general agreement with the qualified exception of SOME, but not all juvenile SOs, especially the younger ones who may be as young as 12-13, or sometimes even younger. It very much hinges on doing something to address the behavior before their personality crystallizes as the reach adulthood, and also the issue of Romeo-and-Juliette situation in jurisdictions where the age of consent may be 16, but even though that person gave full consent as defined by law, because they haven't reached the age of 18, the law still permits parents to press charges anyway, even if they're the same age, or less than 3 years older, which is generally considered an acceptable age difference in most cases where one person is 16 or 17. So you may have two couples, both consisting of a 17yr old female and an 18yr old boy, for example, and in both cases, the 17 yr old female has given full legal informed consent to sexual activity. However, the parents of the 17yr old girl in the first couple are extremely fond of her 17yr old male partner, while with the second couple, parents hate the male's guts and file charges, where the parents with the first couple wouldn't dream of it - how can you take identical situations save for how the parents feel about the boy, which becomes the criteria for saying a crime has been committed? Sexting is a big issue as well, because not only are there consent issues, but now, because someone is ignorant of child pirnography laws because they're just an immature kid and lets say he shares intimate photos with friends via text or maybe email, and maybe they share them further, but now there is an actual crime occurring because images of an underage person either nude and/or engaging in sexual activity are being shared which by definition are child p-rnography. And if by chance someone shared those photos with someone in another state, they could be charged federally, and it can get pretty complicated very easily.
That being said, having worked with literally hundreds of offenders over the years, when it comes to anyone who is an adult whose personality has crystallized, the most that can possibly be accomplished is to get them to the point where they will not act on their deviant urges, because the deviant fantasies have been rehearsed so many times in their minds long before they first acted on them, and may have been reinforced for just as long, beginning with masturbating to those fantasies, which is one of the most powerful reinforcers, then moving on to acting them out, will remain with them for the rest of their lives along with the temptation to do it again.
So why do we even bother to try to treat them? Treatment must begin with incarceration, beginning treatment in an outpatient setting just won't work. There are some treatment methods which may potentially help them curtail acting on their deviant fantasies, but there are a hell of a lot of "ifs" involved and even then its a long term project at best. But if the law is going to put them back on the street where our loved ones are, and we're prohibited from using the more effective methods JD has described, we have to attempt something and keep trying to develop hopefully better techniques. But it can be a very discouraging proposition, which you can't help being skeptical about, and some research has actually supported the frequently heard criticism that they just learn how to tell the therapist what he wants to hear, and learns to regurgitate the treatment concepts they're taught, and cyber investigators who infiltrate online pedo groups have reported discussions between pedos on just this issue, and this includes how to present oneself for SO assessments.
But other than the issues with some juveniles, as above, which is more of a problem with ambiguities i
And contradictions with how the applicable laws are framed, I'm in agreement with JD. Any exceptions are just that - exceptions, and those are ultra-rare.
Those exceptions prove the point: they are beyond redemption. A 0.1% chance of not offending is no justification for allowing 100% free. As for solutions I am in support of exile, an island somewhere that is actively patrolled.
@nexusdrop7863 exactly, that's the point I was trying to make, and most of those exceptions are not because of something within an offender, and for sake of clarity, an offender from a clinical standpoint is someone who victimizes another person(s) and does so because of certain personality features or dynamics, a vague or poorly written law(s) is not the deciding factor in whether or not I'd consider someone a pedo - it's about 1) certain deviant thoughts and 2) acting on them.
I've served on a Federal committee that advised the Ohio legislature regarding implementation of the Federal Adam Walsh Act, which established the SO registry and Tier classification uniformly across all states, and myself and others tried to get the legislature to clarify the law in regard to the issue of consent in Romeo and Juliette cases, for example, but no one on either side of the isle wanted to deal with it. And also cases where someone drunk stumbles out of a bar and goes behind the bushes to urinate, and regardless if they were or even can be seen, they can be charged for exposing themselves and placed on the SO registry. Maybe we could deal more effectively with chomos if the water wasn't muddied from stuff like the above. While my profession is about change, it's also about dealing with reality and the reality is, the best that can be genuinely hoped for regarding individuals who engage in those types of acts, creating victims due to their personality dynamics is curtailment of acting on the deviant fantasies that will always be present, and there is really no way to predict how long they might be able to do so, and since out of all possible predictors - of any behavior, not just what is under discussion - the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior, which is also not perfect, but given the stakes for potential victims, needs to be kept in mind always. If the sentence given by the court will eventually see them back on the street, by all means, do whatever we're able to (legally) do to try to mitigate their risk to re-offend, however pessimistic the outlook may be for any remediation.
And keep in mind, this is also an EXTREMELY lucrative specialization for professionals involved in the treatment of chomos in their given field, social work, psych, counseling, nursing, etc. And its been my observation that sometimes you'll find window dressing to justify budgets or continuing someone's contract, etc. and that means that they have to at least give the expectation of positive effects from treatment to those powers that be who cut the checks, at least enough to make a case for continuing to fund programs or increasing the budget for them. Don't get me wrong, regret are many sincere, ethical, dedicated professionals who do the best they can, and if any positive effects from treatment results, these will be the ones achieving those ultra rare occurrences, but there are probably just as many who aren't invested in it as professionals, it's for the paycheck.
Yall are amazing. The world gave yall a platform and your opening the light to the dark areas. Those who lived in the dark see how much the light can help. It's crazy.
The case of chomos having a biological predilection is a good argument in favor of embryo selection. People wanna talk about "playing God," but rolling the dice and leaving it to chance could be more unethical. Select out embryos that are likely to be chomos or psychopaths.
You think it would stop there? Dystopia is more likely
You beat me by 5 days...it seems likely that the next step would be to "select out" people with weak hearts/lungs/or even your political opponents,where would it stop?@@chuckmartel1874
There was a pretty not cool guy who already tried that in 1945
@@dickjohnson9582 Did he really, or did he try forced sterilization and you're conflating the two? Use your critical thinking skills.
I had JD from private break raw share about his human trafficking story on my channel a few years ago and glad to see another dude step up and share because y'all can help others
Yoooo shoutout from Fl man. I came across you recently and the stories youve told about your prison experiences and youre a wild ass dude lol much respect on turning yourself around dude cause not many ever want too or need too
❤❤❤❤❤love you love this needs to be taken more seriously and talked about more
So insightful i love it 💙
No mercy for cho-mo's!!
This is so sad. Thx JD for educating us. You’re awesome! And appreciate your courage to tell your story!
JD thank you brother for being vulnerable and sharing your story. Much love and respect to you from "Tribe" Ely Max
Finally we got this collab!
Yes! We’ve been talking about doing it for a while, and when we finally sat down, we recorded for over six hours. So there is a lot more content to come! Talking with Johnny was just like chopping it up with an old friend!
Diaper snipers should be use to train EMT/Paramedics/Trauma surgeons . Oh so you need to practice an abdominal gun shot wound? *BANG* Oh look there's one.
Oh look!
Force them to be useful to society lol
Love from Australia JD. Keep fighting the good fight brother.
Big love and respect to you fam!
Thanks JD.. think you help more people then you'll ever known. Much love and respect for that.. I'm almost at the point to ask for help with my issues.. 2 decades is to long to wait.. man up or check out should be the only option I should give myself. Take care Sir
Glad to see you made it on his show, can't wait for it to drop.
I did notice many of the children who were assaulted turn around and do the same thing. This is not all of them but check with chomo’s and ask if they were assaulted by a man. Larry Lawton briefly shared his experience
Dude I was SA’d when I was around 9 by my older neighbor he was in his teens. Like JD I’m still not sure if I’m healed enough or if I ever will be. I’ve struggled with relationships my entire life never able to feel normal. It’s difficult to talk about. I’ve been married for 20 years which fell apart but I got two great kids out of it and now I’m better single. I feel happier not having to be intimate with someone. It sounds sad but it’s not.
I’m so sorry. Talking helps, even when it’s difficult. Big love and respect to you!
@@JdDelay5150 back at ya JD!
I didn't feel safe enough to risk having relations, until I was too old to have kids. Definitely was a struggle and life is easier without the pressure and physical reminders and triggers. I hope each day is better than the last. Best wishes.
@@nikkijack911 To you too Nikki. ❤️
I agree completely that once an offender has acted they are beyond help. That said, i think it needs to be more acceptable for someone with those urges to go to a doctor or therapist to help them safely control those urges. Many would never seek help, but some very well might if they felt they could do so without being demonized.
Just punishing people after the fact does nothing to help the victim. 2 years, 20 years, or even life, that doesn't un-rape a victim. It only puts a dangerous person away for a while, and not nearly long enough usually.
Preventative discipline is better than after the fact justice, dont let your kids be friends with kids in the first place. If there is an age of consent for drinking and smoking and consentual sex, then make teenagers wait and pay attention to their lessons and be vetted for adult privileges.
I have been abused by my family member...and i have been a alcoholic ever since..but i have to say JD i appreciate you and your story..alot.. it's helped me alot
I was 10 when black men hurt me, now i guarantee aint no one gonna put a hand on me or anyone in my my circle. Much love from Reedsport Oregon.
P.s. i know you might hate me for this but my ex wife was a corrections officer at warner creek correctional facility in Lakeview Oregon. It was tough when she came home with a badge on tripping in her masculine energy. Hence the reason she my ex. Lol keep doing what you doing. Youre changing lives.
Damn you got that politically incorrect energy 🤣sucks what happened though.
We've got a local comic store/hobby shop that has a dude working there who lost his teaching license and served time due to possession of cp. Owner threatens everyone who says anything, with paperwork to back up the fact the dude was guilty, with defamation lawsuits. Tolerance of this crap is disgusting.
Chomos cannot be rehabilitated.
A person who is attracted to kids can't help that. They are still responsible for their crimes, they still know right from wrong
JD I’m a predator catcher from MN and I got charges for smacking them around before and the cops never charged anyone in my county that I exposed. Now I’m fighting more felony assaults on the last one I did and I didn’t even touch the dude. Help me get my story out there bro I got trial in 2 weeks
You’re amazing for sharing your story.
Awesome clip, thank you survivor story brother ☘️🤘🏻☘️
@JD Delay5150
Thank you! Love you fam!!
They might be “wired like that”, but they have a choice and know right from wrong.
Thats contradictory. You can't "be wired like that" AND have a choice. The issue is, since their wiring makes them a danger to society, how much (if any) obligation does that society have to tolerate those dangers. It seems to me that the answer is any harmful wiring that can't be rewired needs to be removed
Study psychology.
@BigBosOfDaSouf how can you judge smart psychology vs dumb psychology when you have zero understanding of psychology to begin with? Come on, being a dummy is one thing. Don't be arrogant
I’m not the one using terms like dumb and smart psychology. I don’t even need to speak on this, because I know my background.
@BigBosOfDaSouf your background is irrelevant. This is about definition of terms. Wired like that means without choice. It's that simple
I was abused as a child. Not sexually but the "good old fashioned lie about where the bruises come from" abuse and the one thing I think I share with you is the anger. I got into plenty of fights in my younger days but I was never fighting the other guy. I was fighting whatever I was in that guy that reminded me of my abuser. And even after decades, I still hold a rage that I can't ever seem to fully extinguish. But to have as personal a connection to sexual abuse as you do and to be able to sit down with this man about his compulsions without grabbing his neck... I have much respect for you. I still feel like kids who have been victimized need not only justice but vengeance. But as uncomfortable as the types of conversations you had in this video are, they are important. Because I believe these type of conversations are what will eventually lead to a shift in paradigm that could lead to more kids being *protected.* And that's far more important than vengeance. Don't get me wrong I'll be the first to grab my torch and pitchfork if we find a monster in our village. But if we could build some sort of a "fence" to keep the monsters from attacking in the first place, isn't that the better option?
You're doing a good service brother, thank you
Let me say this in the JD™️ way.
May or may not be able to control liking kids, but you DO control ACTING UPON THOSE URGES.
Or not letting the urges begin in the first place. Some pedos grew up butthurtt that they didn't get laid in high school and touch teens in order to make up for missed opportunities.
I tried to get laid in high school and was stopped by my family. I was pissed off at them but seeing what I see, I am profusely grateful, knowing now that child on hold sexualisation is as damaging to a young woman as adults abusing children.
100% they can not be rehabilitated, the statistics prove it every time.
It is good you talk about it when it helps others. No child should go through that.
JD, you are a hero for sharing your stories. Thank you!
Rape is murder!
Aw man, i saw dissecting diaper snipers and thought JD was giving a seminar on power tools and the application of sorrow to chomos...
Johnny's a fool with that Kip Kinkle remark! Outta pocket! Wtf?
That threw me off for a minute 😳
100%. I have a sneaking suspicion Johnny didn't know who he was and was too afraid to say it and instead said he loves a guy who pew pews a school.
Man this really hit me, my dad did some stuff to me and my sisters. It messed me up for a while, to the point I couldn’t even have intimacy with no one for a long time…Long story short I tried to make some amends with my dad I haven’t talked with like for 8 year’s. Apperantly he’s living his best life. Traveling and having fun with his friends. I guess some people are easier to let things go.
There is only 1 cure, but it's 100% effective.
StaStaStaStaStab!!!!!!!
WOOD CHIPPER……..
I just gotta say, I respect you so much. I was abused by an aunt/cousin and an uncle. I spent I cant count how many days, years trying to figure out what exactly happened. Being so young my memories are fragmented but after growing up I know at least something happened. I'll never see justice. One is long dead and the other is beyond the statute of limitations. I can't fully explain in a comment how it had an effect on me, on my relationships, how it opened me up for more abuse even as an adult later on in relationships. Please keep doing what you do, please raise the voice of victims, please let it be known that children are in danger. You do so much good work and I love you. Thank you for being the voice victims deserve to have screaming there is something wrong.
Where I live in Florida I was told there is NO statute of limitations for sex crimes or murders...Florida will lock up a dead person they don't give a damn! That's why if they tell you life,they mean until you leave prison on a slab
Hmmmm I am a therapist and I've worked in a max security women's prison. I don't ever remember college preaching this message at any level. This is a complex issue that people oversimplify, just like most things mental health related. My clinical opinion on the issue is that almost every issue is a combination of nature and nurture, though people like to get polar with their opinions because they think it sounds better. The fact of the matter is that most predators were abused themselves, which does indicate some level of environmental influence. At the same time, there are so many other factors here such as personal accountability and introspection, internal and external coping skills, etc. Again, every behavior and personality trait is extremely complex, so to water it down to a single statement such as "they're wired that way" is and major oversimplification. I personally do think that they're probably rehabilitatable, however, we don't yet have the research to support that, so I don't currently feel safe with a "rehabilitate and release" structure. What I am comfortable with is running tests within a controlled environment where they don't have access to the outside population in order to test what works. The thing with rehabilitation is that we'll never know what works if we don't try. Also, preventative services are on the rise, which have been shown to reduce offending behaviors; those preventative services also do reduce the stigma, which is both good and bad. Reducing the stigma is good because it encourages non offenders to seek help before they offend and stop the disorder from developing. However, the general population takes this type of program and then erases all of the accountability and they think that we should welcome them into society. Again, it's all very polar, but I feel that the right answer is the reduce the stigma just enough to allow them to receive both preventative and rehabilitative services while also making it VERY VERY VERY clear that we are not tolerating this behavior in society. They need to understand that we are NOT saying that their behavior is okay just because they're receiving services. Just because someone has a disorder, that doesn't excuse the behavior. In my opinion, people need to stop being so radical about everything and understand that the most healthy approach is often very grey. I do feel that providing services will make our society safer, but only if people don't take those services as a reason to accept the behavior. It's extremely nuanced.
Also, this idea that you "can never heal from sexual abuse" is not accurate in my opinion. I was sexually abused for decades by my parents. My mother was my first and most severe abuser. You can heal.
The more I learn about the prevelance of and the leniency toward these offenders the more mind blown and outraged I become. Sympathy for these offenders is what is allowing thier behaviors to continue. Bet; that if they had true consequences for their actions, these crimes wouldn't be occurring with anywhere near the current frequency.
When does the full episode come out? Shout out from the 503
Bro when is the full video coming out…. This is driving me crazyyyy……
I don't blame my abuser for me being gay.That had nothing to do with him.
But.
Being abused from 5 year old to 9years old and still having nightmares at 70.
Yeah well that's a totally different thing.
Do I have PTSD everytime I hear of a child being abused ? Definitely.
Does it bring back the horror and nightmares,? Big Yes.
Has it made me HATE all abusers ?Yes.
Do I have compassion for them as being a Chomo really is the same as being gay as there is no choice.
No fu@king way.!
What I do is consensual with another adult who is like minded.
SA .is Grape.
It is actual bodily and mental harm for life.
Just writing this although cathartic brings up emotions so strong it hurts.
Thank you both for tackling this subject in such a positive way.
JD i agree make them scared❤❤
Bro you do gods work make no mistake you being vulnerable at those speeking events is huge a guy that looks as intimidating as you being open like that has moved a ton of men to coming forward i just know it. Shit man what ever your highest pb lifti g weights is nothing compared to what your carrying on your shoulders by being who you are and i applaud that ..... suggestion btw because i know hed go for it jelly roll get that interview bro
I still hold more animosity for those that enable chomos. I had a teacher that was inclined and reporting it was 100x more traumatic than the event itself.
Actually had the pleasure of meeting johnny a few months ago. Really solid, kind dude. Kinda crazy to see him on UA-cam.
JD I love Ur video, I have a lot in common with u when it comes to prison and 💊s. I've recently started A.A and N.A and when I want to wind down I look on you tube and look for Ur videos. Not meaning to be all creepy but I wish I could meet u as I use u as an inspiration but I live in Scotland. Please keep doing the videos man. God bless and peace out and thank you brother.
Can’t wait to see the full interview Jonny and Jd are the only 2 crime/prison related UA-camrs I actually fw other than Larry Lawton
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thank you.
Thanks for being here!
They've altered someone's life irrevocably. Whether they could be rehabilitated or not this is a crime that warrants capital punishment.
I was born in 1970. Until I turned 18 I was not allowed to go anywhere without my parents. The only places I went to were home, school or out with my parents. You see, my parents were petrified p*dophiles would touch me so they chose to raise me and my two siblings like this. They had migrated from fascist General Franco Spain and so knew all the bad sh!t was out there. I'm 53 today and I homeschool our 15 year old son. We always know where he is. I have nothing but gratitude for what my parents did for me, as it wad out of total love. They were ahead of their time for sure...
Good for you! You were very blessed to have them, and they, to have you. Your son is blessed to have you now. May G-d protect & watch over you all.
I remember when jd only had like 10k subs, the good ol days. So proud of you jd ur doing amazing bro🔥💯
Hell yeah they can be rehabilitated. Rehabilitated into fertilizer!!!! Where's the wood chipper, bring them on!!!!!!
So is this a snippet for your channel I watched your alls interview on his channel a couple weeks ago so would this be part 2 on both channels
I started watching you on tiktok. Im glad i found you here
God….that hit hard. I was SA’ed at 14 years old by 5 men in their 30’s. I ended up on dope (heroin and meth-IV), I was a prostitute, I was homeless, and I have been in so many abusive relationships. Even worse, at 24, I was brutally raped and nearly killed. That one almost ended me. The trauma was almost too much to endure, after the first assault at 14, I didn’t think I’d be able to get past the second one. I didn’t go to the police after the one at 14, and I regretted t my whole life. I didn’t tell my parents until I was 17. After the one at 24, i immediately went to the police and got a rape kit, they were able to ID the guy from dna. But god.
I’m clean now and a drug and alcohol counselor. I have specialized trauma certification. My passion is helping others. So I guess it was all for a reason.
The ULTIMATE collab right hea!!!!😻😻😻😻😻😻😻!!!!!
HEY!!!! Thank you!!!! There’s SO much more to come from Johnny and I! Love ya!
@@JdDelay5150 fuck yeah!!! Much love to you too!!!💞
I think the ones who haven’t actually physically raped or sent nudes to a child, but talked to a minor can be rehabilitated with counseling on impulse control, I’d also argue it depends on the age. I think the younger they get caught the more likely it is for them to be rehabilitated
Someone very close to me was "messed with" when she was young and attempted non-existence when she was a teenager. She got really fucked up from it, developing PTSD, depression, and anxiety and she's not fully able to function as a person. Since then, she's been in multiple abusive relationships and recently worried about becoming an alcoholic. Because of that shitbag, she'll probably never be able to function as a proper person. She's made a lot of progress since we met, but I don't think she'll ever be 100%. This person ruined her for probably her whole life. I just hope that one day he gets the karma he deserves.
JD man your the man on all the topics you talk about and absolutely correct
Man I did time at brushy mountain state penitentiary it closed in 09 I got out in 06 it's a super creepy insane place would you look into the place and then ill.tell.you what I experienced there happy investigating
Who ever thought 2024 listening to 2 former convicts talking about such deep topics with science theory, Loved it!
Even if they are "wired that way" it's still a conscious choice to harm someone. People live there whole lives abstaining from all manner of things, they don't deserve sympathy, you forfeit your humanity doing something like that to a kid. They should not be treated like people.
I was hoping the "dissection" was more literal.