I remember this really bothered my mental health when my ex followed all these gorgeous girls he said I was over reacting and need to get over it. Meanwhile I never judged his mental state. I just brought up how it bothered me could you help and he’d tell me “what’s making you mad this time😂😂” like it still hurts thinking about it
Unless it’s men and then it is expected. Musclerhexia is now a phenomenon and it’s just as damaging to teen boys and men as these Instagram models are to teen girls and women and all others.
It's self hate... Who knows what kind of messed up childhood she has. It's quite sad tbh. She doesn't want to be herself and this all started as a child.
I gave in to the" hourglass body " Body standard and tried really hard to exercise and get that type of body and could never achieve it no matter how hard I tried and then felt depressed. 2 months later I deleted Instagram and it was the best decision I've made, I'm happy with the way I look and don't pressurise myself to look perfect, I have acne and scars and I'm proud of them. Be unapologetically yourself. Ps not promoting Obesity , exercise is important guys
Me too! I tried so hard, for years, to get an hourglass shape until I finally admitted to myself that my body type simply wouldn't allow it. Now I just exercise to be healthy and happy, not to lose weight or look a certain way. There's nothing wrong with having a larger waist and smaller hips--your body is just the way it's meant to be.
@@aubriem1944 I'm glad you realised that not having an hour glass body doesn't mean u don't have a good body. It's just sad that kids look up to these " Influencers " As a role model when all they do is photoshop the crap out of their pics.
what you’re doing is sooo incredibly helpful for teens... my confidence has been so much better since i’ve started watching this series even though i KNEW everything you are saying already. but seeing an actual influencer saying it just makes it feel more real. thank you!
I know the pic I used for YT is crap, and I' m not pretty. Oddly, I tend to photograph better than I look in person, so I chose a poor photo. I did modeling back in the day. When girls/women wanted to look like my pictures, I would say *I* wanted to look like the girl in the photo, too. It isn't real or attainable.
I mean Ariana isn’t perfect. She has access to the best personal trainers, nutritionists, makeup artists and stylists that put her in clothes that make her body look the best. Not to mention cosmetic procedures to have a more symmetrical face or to achieve a beauty standard. Which she has had done as well. And that goes for all/most celebrities! We shouldn’t idolize anyone either. Give credit where it’s deserved, be a fan of someone’s work, and admire them. But don’t idolize when at the end of the day they’re just a human like the rest of us.
I’ve had celebs be role models to me. Not in the way they look but just in the way they act and how confident they are and how they talk about mental health. I think wanting someone’s looks is not good because of the fact that they have access to things we don’t but as for the way they act, I think that’s ok. For example, Ashley graham has helped me be more confident in my body and sophia bush, aside from acting, has become an activist which is really inspiring.
But even with that access it imply big effort, workout is very hard if you want to see results and the best trainer will make u work out harder. Same with procedures, is very painful and you will look swollen for days. Fillers is awful as well, u can hear the needle inside of your skin. It’s not only have the money.
My husband and I quit it all together too years ago. I was obsessed with taking Instagram photos and then struggled to make sure I looked as good as I did there. Leaving it was the best decision.
I understand that influencers must feel really insecure to edit their photos so much however I find it hard to be too sympathetic because the whole reason they want us to idolise them and think they are perfect is because it grows their follower count so they can make money from sponsorships and selling us stuff. Like its one thing to lie about your appearance if you are a random non-influencer on Instagram, but when you're selling your followers products like skinny tea, makeup, teeth whitening, clothes etc people are buying them because they want to look like the influencer. Posting facetuned images makes the audience feel bad about themselves and feel not good enough, they want to look like the facetuned influencer so they buy the products and the cycle continues. It is really unethical in my opinion. Sure, you could feel bad for these influencers for having low self esteem but think of the millions of dollars they are making from making young girls feel insecure.
They are knowingly making a lot of people feel bad and insecure just so that they can feel better about themselves. Even worse they profit from it financially. And then the worst part is that it's all fake. So yeah there's no need to feel sorry for them imo.
Evalira idk if I’ll ever go back to my personal ig but I think its also important to follow positive people and remember that everything on ig isnt real! Im glad you never have a bad day on ig! Well my dog kinda looks like a bunny lol if you wanna check him out! Lol @thesecretlifeofprincemocha You don’t have to! Only if you want to! Have an amazing day!❤️❤️🥰🥰🥰
@@Mochitasmom OMG! THANK YOU! I wanted to ask for the ig handle, but got a little shy hahaha. I do follow some people and friends, it's not that I'm running away from the fake-edited posts, I'm just not interested in that lifestyle at all. I like pretty things, we all do, I just don't care about other people's pretty things... idk if that makes any sense. Have a beautiful day!
what really damaged my self esteem was follower count. i would think that influencers became famous just because they were pretty and that i wasn't pretty enough to have a following. that messed me up big time.
Omg can totally relate tbh :P I will follow you on insta if you’d like 😊 you are probably pretty enough and just as worthy as influencers to have a following. Maybe you haven’t been found by your people yet
Woah a lot of these girls Facetune their pics wayyy too far, they literally edit out their rib cage & organs like boo you would be dead 🤔 *NOBODYS* BODY LOOKS LIKE THAT! In my opinion they all look a lot prettier in the "normal" pictures than the unrealistic cartoon bod. Again for the ones in the back, *NOBODYS* BODY LOOKS LIKE THAT! *Never* compare yourself to what you see on social media. *You* are beautiful
Some people do have bodies like that. It’s not as smooth and perfect looking as Kim’s kardashians edited pictures but there are people who have hourglass shaped bods
I never thought about it until my brother who is a personal trainer started to gather following on his Instagram. He has now a few dozen thousands of followers in our home country and while yes he is super fit, and well dressed and all what he shows on his Insta he definitely is not JUST THAT. He won't show the times when he sits with a worn t-shirt and shorts on, flip-flops reading sports newspaper or playing with the cats. It's very surreal to see that image of him and then divide that from who he is as a whole person. And not just about appearances, I know he is super insecure that he doesn't speak English very much, but never let's that be obvious on his social media. Weird world we live in.
This series is amazing and soo wonderful and should be seen by many I went off social media almost 3 years ago because even tho I knew all of what your saying deep down my self esteem was shit. I was in a deep dark hole and very dark and cloudy and I had yp remove myself from social media in order to love myself again. This series your doing is so important.
I hope this series helps you but it sounds like you’re doing fine on your own!! I think if social media does you more harm than good then you need to delete it for your own peace ❤️
this is why i love selena gomez, she doesn’t care to show her “ugly” side, she posts pictures without make up and not perfect body pictures, and she also doesn’t JUST care about what she looks like on her instagram, i think selena is truly an inspiration to the young generation, even her make up line, it’s not make up to hide your face or make a whole new face but to feel good in, and to look natural and like yourself 😇
@@kary7439 zen data isn’t the best lmao, selena doesn’t photoshop her photos 😂😂 lmao why do you say that? u can literally see her eye bags and flaws on the selfies she posts, zendaya is nothing compared to selena 🤓
I deactivated my instagram this morning because it has been making me SO DEPRESSED lately and then this video comes up in my feed! Thank you so much Steph💕
I deactivated my IG about six weeks ago to stay more focused on school, but now that I’m used to being off of it, I don’t miss it. I miss seeing what some of my long distance friends are up to, but when I’ve thought about downloading it again, I get this uncertain feeling. Like I know I’ll get sucked back in or become “obsessed” with what everyone else is doing versus me just focusing on me. I’m about to start my last semester of college and I would like to see how long I can go having my IG deactivated.
Lots of time though, they can’t even post real pictures because their own followers go after them and calling them all sort of names. You really can’t win. But It’s better to stay yourself, because unfortunately, someone is gonna dislike you for no reason whatsoever
dominic6018 It’s true, when they post photos of their real bodies in less flattering ways without photoshop they get a lot of people insulting them in the comments.
i actually like idols that are not ‘perfect’, who show themselves as they are, with some imperfections (that are normal). i feel closer to them and i like how in a time where everyone wants to look perfect, they are just themselves and they’re comfortable doing it.
Ok so, I think there is a loophole here, first media create impossible beauty, then some women that are slightly ahead of the rest in terms of resources follow those standards doing whatever they can to fit in, then we feel sorry for them to put so much money and effort into following that, when in reality they are getting more money by promoting insecurities on women, because we will buy anything to look like them. But, I don't feel sorry for them, they are getting a lot of money by doing that, I'm kind of annoyed to be honest.
Yes in a way they started as “victims” of the beauty standards industry but they quickly joined up and became part of the machinery to turn around and create more “victims” for self-gain and clout
YES! Like, it sucks, but they're monetizing it! They're propping up the same system we're supposed to pity them for being victimized by! They're elevating themselves up on the backs of other women and I'm supposed to feel sad for THEM? They could just, not be a part of the problem?
I am just 17 and I have been so insecure about my body because of all these social networks ,I had to delete all those networks and then I saw your videos and u seriously helped through this and I feel confident in my skin ..... thank you very much love you ❤️❤️❤️ and so proud of u that you are trying to make this a better place
As a mother of teenagers, with the youngest being a 15 Yr old girl, I want to thank you so so much for making these vids Steph.. I wish I had this 'real talk' when I was a teen in the 90s, but sadly I don't think many of the celebs/people I adored were sober enough back then lol.. Thank you & lots of love from NZ xx
I love your hair omg 😍😍😍 I seriously love that you’re doing this series!! Videos like this directly from an “influencer” showing that people in the industry aren’t all they appear to be was seriously needed! Also this makeup is beautiful 😍❤️
Me too. And I’m also glad Stephanie went light-handed on the brightening concealer. Most beauty gurus tend to overdo it with the concealer, resulting in. A severe waste of product and messing up the work they put in the strategic placement of product by blending it all over the place.
Comparing YOURSELF TO YOUR OWN PICTURES, GIRL thank you soooooo much for talking about that!! That’s legit something I’ve caught myself doing and I really love that you talked about it, because I’m someone who thought I wasn’t comparing to influencers but I was comparing to my own highlight reel.
I fill my feed with beautiful things I want to see, like art and cute animals and home layouts. The few bloggers I follow I make sure are pretty genuine. Even my own pictures I try to not do anything other than edit the picture itself (lighting, contrast) and not myself. And I make sure to utilize my caption to say what's really happening in life versus a tacky quote. I do wonder though if people don't like that and that's why I don't have many followers but oh well. Can't make everyone like you
When you said "it must be exhausting to live in such a shallow world" that really hits it for me. And it makes me feel happy that my decision not to fall trap in their schemes pays pays off.
Honestly...I like your hair! Pale and cold-toned blonde seems to be the 'in' thing everyone's doing right now. It's nice to see warm-tone and strawberry blonde shades, too, but you do whatever makes you feel good. Keep going against the grain, Stephanie! 😄
What I find interesting is that when I was dating guys that didn’t treat me well, I’d take about ten selfies with different tops and darkening my makeup as I went, to make it look like different days, and I’d edit them, just so when they wanted a photo of me, I could send them a photo where I looked great. I’d feel good about it as I sent it. And even then, they usually didn’t compliment me. Then I’d feel gross. Now the guy I’m with, I don’t feel like I have to wear ANY makeup around him. I’ve never edited a photo I’ve sent him. I just don’t feel the need to. And he thinks I’m gorgeous. He likens me to an elven princess, lol. I was really sick and had to cancel on him a few days ago (briefly it looked like I might need to go to the hospital) and I was too weak to even put my hair up in a ponytail. When I started to perk up a bit, felt half human again, I sent him a photo. I was exhausted, in a ton of pain, sick, and of course had zero makeup on, and even then he was complimentary. I think I didn’t realize it until this guy, but like... it hurt when I felt I didn’t get approval from guys I dated in the past. But what I was really looking for is the validation my guy gives me, regardless of how I *look* in my photos. When I had a problem that changed how I looked because of a health condition, he said something similar to, “You’re more than your skin to me.” And the way he said it, of course; I was being silly, to think that some superficial change would be a big important deal. I don’t really post on social media. I don’t like leaving out all the bad stuff that happens because of my health, because it feels fake. But if I post it, it feels like I’m looking for sympathy. And the only people who really matter are going to know without me posting. 🤷🏻♀️ Don’t go where you’re tolerated, go where you’re celebrated. I found that, and I intend to celebrate him every day for the rest of my life.
You are so lucky you finally found that because trust me that's what everyone is looking for..they want someone to see them.. like really see them.. most people who got on social media felt insecure in their real lives and they found a way.. toxic way.. to escape and be seen and celebrated and it's temporary..I'm sure most influencers are insecure of going out into the real world coz they Don't have all their filters to hide behind..no matter how beautiful they may be.. they for sure have social anxiety
Tabby Omwenga Thanks, Tabby; I’m finding myself thanking my lucky stars every day. He really is amazing. I’ve been sick this week and he’s just being an absolute prince. I was finally able to see him (due to red zone limitations) and he’s done whatever he can to be supportive and help me feel better, getting groceries, staying up, making my food. I’ve not once felt like I needed to have on makeup. 😅 Despite feeling like an utter swamp monster, and probably looking it. 😂 You know, you make a really good point; if you get used to the filters and being able to micromanage what people see, down to the smallest details, it MUST be unnerving to go out into the real world and have people just see you, where there’s only so much you can do to ‘influence’ their perception. That kind of standard isn’t just bad for their fan bases, but for them themselves! Damaging. It’s really empathetic of you to think of it that way.
This is why I follow you because you are beautifully honest about yourself and display a normal life. I am 61 and finally feel comfortable in my own skin. It doesn’t mean I don’t want to get healthier if I can or look as good as I can, but I’m still me, not anyone else. I see you as my internet friend and makeup inspiration and I thank you for the honesty and real feelings!
I think this video has a lot of good points. While listening I still found myself thinking “influencers are choosing to inaccurately portray their lives and appearance, even if they aren’t happy doing it they are compliant in a messed up system...”. I agree that social media is toxic for influencers and people who participate in general but I think it’s important to recognize the choice that people have in their curation of their online persona. It may be optimistic but I think we are all tired of seeing highly edited content and if we all just collectively stopped it wouldn’t be such a big deal to look and be normal. Just my non internet famous person thoughts - thanks for sharing yours.
I'm glad that your drawing awareness to this, it is sad that they have to go to such extreme lengths to "flex" and make out that they have the perfect face, body, car, house, wardrobe...and actually be miserable and in debt, also you drawing awareness to this can hopefully help people who have body image issues wishing they looked like a person who really doesn't exist, because they alter their pictures to the point where they don't even look like themselves, and some probably most of them don't even need photo shop or face tune to begin with, it's really sad and unhealthy, especially when they already have a great body and a beautiful face and go in and Photoshop and face tune to the point of being unrecognizable.
OMG Stephanie, you're so right. I lived with a very popular Social media influencer for about a year and got to know her very well. She spent HOURS editing her photos to the point where it no longer looked like her. It was such a conundrum to me because she's already extremely beautiful. But she felt like she needed a much skinnier version of her. She would ask me to take photos of her and I would take hundreds and none were ever good enough. She was a very sad person and suffered from depression. She would wait for the comments and if she got lots of praise and followers she would get excited for a bit. Every time she would meet people (or go on dates) she would tell me that they were mad because she didn't look like the photos on IG. I had so many talks with her about turning her IG into inspiring other women and doing a channel like yours (to be honest with her audience and tell them this IG life is not real) she agreed and wanted to do it sooo bad, but didn't have the courage. so sad. We still talk and it's still the same. She's still very unhappy, with thousands of followers who praise her, but they have no clue that no amount of praise is good enough and she's actually a very sad and depressed person inside.
Thank you for these videos. After decades drown in social media, my insecurities are finally controlled thanks to your message and videos... i stopped editing my photo on IG ever since
stephanie you've done it again!! i love seeing someone with a platform put out this information and mindset. i wish that every young girl and woman who has social media could have this perspective
I literally had to delete all SoCal media’s and Snapchat and everything, the anxiety and the horrible thought patterns it would cause was too self destructive for me. And I wound up relapsing again this year during quarantine because whenever I use I get skinnier since the drugs make me not hungry and/or just naturally I thin out from being unhealthy so I literally have relapsed after 8 years of battling this horrible addiction- knowing the pain and homelessness and despair that comes with the substance abuse usually- like I literally still relapsed because I wanted to be thin again. Like how messed up is that. What the hell. Thanks for your videos. Your beautiful, we all are though I suppose- like you said. Thanks for what your doing with all these topics you talk about- You make me feel like you are truly trying to help like you aren’t trying to compete and you are really making a difference. You are for me at least and I am sure for a ton of other people too. This is great, much love to everybody here who reads this. You all are beautiful and you all matter.we can make it through the day today
It's so good to have such a natural person like you teaching people especially the young ones that what they see is fake and that they are just like all of us..... people should be hearing and seeing this more often then people would feel beautiful in their own skin. Thankyou so much for doing videos like this.... young girls need to hear this... the industry has made people so insecure with the way they look and there needs to be a change. X
yes, i am 14, i’ve been insecure about my body since i was 11 or 12, i’m learning to accept my body more now, sometimes i even like it. these videos make me more confident. i’m just insecure sometimes because of my body shape, but it’s natural. (the shape) and i really can’t do much about it. so i might as well try and accept it!
@@diora266 your watching the right person we need more people actually being a real natural role model to you young ones as you should never ever get made to feel insecure with the way you look..... everyone is beautiful and different x
Even if these influencers stopped photoshopping their pictures, naturally good looking people still exist, sometimes almost perfect looking people are just born like that so we would be insecure about those ‘perfect people’ even more because they are good looking even without photoshop
How much is important. Am I slightly outside the realm of "ideal" or is "ideal" literally so far away that it might as well be an alien planet? Even the most beautiful person ever born has imperfections and these people are few and far between. Bombarding young girls with countless images of manufactured perfection beyond the realm of biology has consequences.
It's true that naturally beautiful people do exist but even those people have skin texture or arm fat or cellulite or whatever it is, the problem with photoshopping and cosmetic surgery as well is that these beauty standards are not attainable, in other words you can never get them by just dieting or exercising or putting on makeup you have to physically or digitally alter your appearance. And herein lies the true issue that people have with altering photographs, they are lies.
I really love these type of videos and I can't thank you enough for showing the reality of behind the perfect pictures of all the influencers or models.
after watching your videos it motivates me to workout not to change how i look, but because my body deserves to move and be strong. you’re doing amazing work
I actually love how your hair came out. It has such a fun beachy look. I'm really glad for these videos - I'm more able to pick out the less obvious FS now, and it's helping my self esteem loads. I know a lot of people I'm friends with are guilty of doing this and honestly if I knew how to use these programs (I can't be arsed to learn lol) I'd be doing that to my photos. We need to be better at building each other up - but if we could do that there wouldn't be a market for all these cosmetics, the plastic surgery, the everything.
I love these types of videos from you soo much! It's like listening to a big sister's life advice and it never fails to make me feel better about myself 😊 (btw I actually really like the different colours in your hair)
This is why I started following accounts that promote a healthy life style AND try to actively instill a positive mindset to their followers. As such, when one of these influencers' pictures somehow manages to bypass the wall of animal posts on my feed, I don't feel a pang in my heart about my exterior appearence or feel the need to put aside my plate of food. So glad seeing you continue this series! Kisses to you and the wee one 🥰
I love you so much Stephanie, you always get to upload your videos when I need them the most, you’re an angel, thank you for bringing peace into my life
You’re so right. I noticed recently that when I feel bad about myself I noticed I post selfies all over, cause I wanna hear someone say something nice. All these people started the same way and before Instagram changed their algorithm it was common to get a bunch of followers everyday off a hastaged photo. So they’re still that insecure person looking for validation from strangers. I like that you make these videos.
Steph I love how honest and up front you are about everything, I guess for me being an old gal @60 years young it makes me sad to see these young girls comparing themselves to others, this never happened in my day, there was no Social Media to compare yourself to, it was mainly just schoolyard stuff which was nothing compared to now, I just finished watching a UA-cam video that popped up in my sidebar, and it was a teenage couple having a baby, is this the New world we’re living in having kids having kids and making UA-cam videos along the way..I don’t think so, I think they have their heads buried in the sand if they think they’re going to make a living off UA-cam, for me it was just like watching my children at that age without the responsibility of having a child on the way...at least you have your head screwed on right Lol 😂 and your priorities on track. Best Wishes and Kindness from Queensland Australia 🇦🇺❤️❤️.....How’s little man, haven’t seen him in awhile, would love to see him in your next video or vlog, I don’t do Instragram unfortunately...to old for that 💩💩💩💩
You are truly one of my favourite youtubers ever. You are such goals but at the same time, it feels like you are a real friend. I never feel bad about myself after watching your videos. I just feel like I had a conversation with a close friend that just made me feel normal. It’s hard to feel that way anymore in our society which is my I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart. You are truly a lifesaver in many ways❤️
You’re so right!!! Btw loved the eyeshadow simple but beautiful. I’ve been playing a lot with different palettes and colors and so happy with everything I’ve learned but I feel like I still need to learn a lot more. For some reason this has been always been the hardest part of my makeup routine.
i just wanna say thank you for making videos like these. i’ve completely quit facetune, photoshop, all that stuff. it really mentally affected me how i just didn’t look like my instagram photos, and i definitely needed a change. you really helped me in this journey
Your hair looks so lovely especially for doing it at home! Also thank you for this video, there will probably never be enough of these exposing videos compared to the fake pictures posted
I am super up-front about my flaws and embrace them on social media. It's freeing to allow yourself to be vulnerable. And hearing from people that I've encouraged to do the same?? It's amazing! I absolutely suggest people be their authentic self, for peace of mind.
Personally I never edit anything on the picture I upload and all my friends are like shook by that. I just don't see a reason. People know how I am, why pretending that I am something else? Of course I am not perfect but I don't need to (and I can't either... the same goes for everyone). Love yourself but also try correcting the flaws you don't like to become a better you, not to become someone else.
This face tuning era is so weird to me. I’m of the generation that saw the death of MySpace and the birth of Facebook and nobody editing their pics. Every time I see face tuned images, all I can think about is, “Why bother? Don’t you feel weird meeting your friends or new people after they’ve seen a manipulated version of your face?”
Everyday is still a battle with my ED but I’ve been doing so well for like a year and a half but recently I almost relapsed but watching your videos on how social media is fake really helped me get my Grip back. Thank you so much for your content and always keeping it real, I really appreciate it.
Also I just have to say that the lady in the tan cut out 1 piece swim suit looks so bizarre with her lipo tummy & freakishly fake looking oversize hips. It just looks absolutely crazy! She's made her tummy look all lumpy & weird when she could just exercise to attain a even more beautiful & realistic looking physique. I just cannot stand the look of these overly done plastic surgery bodies, & it doesn't age well either like a natural human body. Think twice people!
This kind of content is sooo needed in today's day and age! Especially for younger people! We need to stop idolising these people and focus on self love for ourselves! Self comparison is the thief of joy!
I always love that you bring the reality of things to our attention and I appreciate that so much! I don’t have Instagram or Facebook as a 40-year-old woman so I guess I’ve saved myself a lot of certain feelings about how they might look better than me but mostly, up to this point I’ve had such a peaceful life with minimal use of social media
Can I just say Stephanie, that you are goals, in the video where you showed us what you look like without filters or posing a certain way etc you looked beautiful and I genuinely think you are far prettier than any Instagram model naturally. So you, natural you are goals xx
Personally think your hair looks great lighter. Suits you better. I so worry about my daughter growing up in today’s society. She’s only 8 and I can’t even imagine how much worse it’s going to be in another 10 years from now.
Your message means so much to me. You helped me eliminate my insecurity. I love what you do for people and I am so thankful. Little girls need to be aware of your message in order to not get stuck in self-hatred, which social media encourages in many ways.
influencers are like why "unknown" doping happens in high performance sports: people do not want to see the ordinary. They want to see superheroes. But then they complain when they feel cheated
I have been struggling with insecurities about my weight so this has made me feel so much better about myself !!! When we get back to school we are all going to be weighed so I’m so stressed !!!
if it’s bothering you, don’t sit around and ignore it! get rid of that fat! in the end it will make you a lot happier, wouldn’t you agree? don’t keep it if it makes you insecure, and you would feel better about yourself without it. there’s nothing wrong with working out and getting that body that you want!
These videos are the best! Honesty at its finest! I 10000% agree that it’s such an unhealthy situation!!! I try to follow more people on Instagram that favour showing their flaws and struggles and real ness! Not only does it make me feel a bit more human but it makes me think there ARE more people wising up and realising we can’t continue this facade. If we did everyone would look the same by 2025, and that’s SUPER BORING! Well done Stephanie !
I love this series and love the hair color. It is important to deconstruct the idea of perfection. There is just a health body in the right weight for you. My main beef with these so called influencers is that when asked they deny photoshop and surgeries. We had a case here in my country were the youtuber was swearing she didn't have a lipo while losing weight so fast. It was all just diet and exercise (these work, but not that fast). Then, she went to a show and was caught saying she did have a lipo with a mic that was left open by mistake.
I really love this topic of beauty standards because i often feel bad about myself because of the fact that i compare myself to other people. And btw, i personally think you look so much beautiful here, on youtube videos, than on instagram pictures. Thank you for doing this, it helped me a lot and I saved the videos so i can watch everytime i feel bad with myself.
That's why I unfollowed all of these people. It's just not healthy and I don't need that in my life. My mental health is more important to me :)
Exactly ❤️ value your peace
Yes hun! ♥️
Amén sista
I remember this really bothered my mental health when my ex followed all these gorgeous girls he said I was over reacting and need to get over it. Meanwhile I never judged his mental state. I just brought up how it bothered me could you help and he’d tell me “what’s making you mad this time😂😂” like it still hurts thinking about it
@@antheloresaalessandra9551 My ex used to follow them too and even interacted with them. It thought it was disrespectful. He is my ex for a reason 💅🏼
We need to talk about muscle as well. Muscle is valued when it’s toned, but when it comes to athletes like Serena Williams, muscle is shamed.
Unless it’s men and then it is expected. Musclerhexia is now a phenomenon and it’s just as damaging to teen boys and men as these Instagram models are to teen girls and women and all others.
Been toned is not bad at all.
This is so true
Serena is a man.
@@syraellson7192 what?
The editing of childhood pictures is another level
It's so, so sick
Rip her self esteem
It's self hate... Who knows what kind of messed up childhood she has. It's quite sad tbh. She doesn't want to be herself and this all started as a child.
It's really sad, if she truly thinks that it is necessary to do things like that.
Lauren is an absolute tool
I gave in to the" hourglass body " Body standard and tried really hard to exercise and get that type of body and could never achieve it no matter how hard I tried and then felt depressed.
2 months later I deleted Instagram and it was the best decision I've made, I'm happy with the way I look and don't pressurise myself to look perfect, I have acne and scars and I'm proud of them.
Be unapologetically yourself.
Ps not promoting Obesity , exercise is important guys
Deleting Instagram was such a healthy decision for me!
@@Perpetuallytrying yeah, u realise your priorities and who your true friends are
Me too! I tried so hard, for years, to get an hourglass shape until I finally admitted to myself that my body type simply wouldn't allow it. Now I just exercise to be healthy and happy, not to lose weight or look a certain way. There's nothing wrong with having a larger waist and smaller hips--your body is just the way it's meant to be.
@@aubriem1944 I'm glad you realised that not having an hour glass body doesn't mean u don't have a good body. It's just sad that kids look up to these " Influencers " As a role model when all they do is photoshop the crap out of their pics.
I also deleted my instagram, i feel free
what you’re doing is sooo incredibly helpful for teens... my confidence has been so much better since i’ve started watching this series even though i KNEW everything you are saying already. but seeing an actual influencer saying it just makes it feel more real. thank you!
That makes me so happy!!! You’re amazing!! 😍❤️
Stephanie Lange you are! keep doing what you’re doing & keep making a positive impact 🥰
♥️🤗
Not just helpful for teens! I’m in my 30s and find this helpful
I know the pic I used for YT is crap, and I' m not pretty. Oddly, I tend to photograph better than I look in person, so I chose a poor photo. I did modeling back in the day. When girls/women wanted to look like my pictures, I would say *I* wanted to look like the girl in the photo, too. It isn't real or attainable.
I kind of think your hair coloring has a grunge feel to it, it's cool. Especially with that top
totally agree!
I mean Ariana isn’t perfect. She has access to the best personal trainers, nutritionists, makeup artists and stylists that put her in clothes that make her body look the best. Not to mention cosmetic procedures to have a more symmetrical face or to achieve a beauty standard. Which she has had done as well. And that goes for all/most celebrities! We shouldn’t idolize anyone either. Give credit where it’s deserved, be a fan of someone’s work, and admire them. But don’t idolize when at the end of the day they’re just a human like the rest of us.
Well said. Also, I think what we forget sometimes is that what may work for one person/body type may not work for another.
I’ve had celebs be role models to me. Not in the way they look but just in the way they act and how confident they are and how they talk about mental health. I think wanting someone’s looks is not good because of the fact that they have access to things we don’t but as for the way they act, I think that’s ok. For example, Ashley graham has helped me be more confident in my body and sophia bush, aside from acting, has become an activist which is really inspiring.
But even with that access it imply big effort, workout is very hard if you want to see results and the best trainer will make u work out harder. Same with procedures, is very painful and you will look swollen for days. Fillers is awful as well, u can hear the needle inside of your skin. It’s not only have the money.
And access to the best plastic surgeons too. She definitely has had some work done.
she literally changed her whole face with surgeries and fillers. And she still lies about it :/
I quit IG and FB in 2014 and it's the best thing I did for myself.
My husband and I quit it all together too years ago. I was obsessed with taking Instagram photos and then struggled to make sure I looked as good as I did there. Leaving it was the best decision.
@@PokeZamJam that's awesome! I'm sure you guys have much healthier relationship because of that. Instagram is the fakest thing I cant stand itt
me too! best thing ever!
Same no more ig and snap chat ... best decision ever🙏🏽❤️
Instagram influencers are so fake they disgust me
I'm really like the red tint hair, honest!
Yassss the red is so nice
I love the hair color. I wished my hair color mistakes gave me this exact balayage she has. 😂
Sames! Gives me 90s vibes & the flannel just seals it
me too! It might be a mistake but I love it :)
That's what I was thinking too; I know it was an accident but it turned out so pretty!
I understand that influencers must feel really insecure to edit their photos so much however I find it hard to be too sympathetic because the whole reason they want us to idolise them and think they are perfect is because it grows their follower count so they can make money from sponsorships and selling us stuff. Like its one thing to lie about your appearance if you are a random non-influencer on Instagram, but when you're selling your followers products like skinny tea, makeup, teeth whitening, clothes etc people are buying them because they want to look like the influencer. Posting facetuned images makes the audience feel bad about themselves and feel not good enough, they want to look like the facetuned influencer so they buy the products and the cycle continues. It is really unethical in my opinion. Sure, you could feel bad for these influencers for having low self esteem but think of the millions of dollars they are making from making young girls feel insecure.
i agree! they’re exploiting their fans
Yeah, it’s like they are profiting off people insecurities
They are knowingly making a lot of people feel bad and insecure just so that they can feel better about themselves. Even worse they profit from it financially. And then the worst part is that it's all fake. So yeah there's no need to feel sorry for them imo.
Spot on. Tough to sympathise.
I feel you. Because they're playing right into the problem and not like I could expect them to change
I’m quite happy with the fact that I don’t have an Instagram account and never see any of the anxiety inducing content.
I have one... all I get is bunnies because I follow a lot of bunny accounts
Evalira i took a break from my personal ig and now only use my Baby’s ig (a frenchie) so I mostly just see dogs and they make me so happy ❤️❤️❤️
@@Mochitasmom Right!? It's very uplifting... I never have a bad day on instagram c:
Evalira idk if I’ll ever go back to my personal ig but I think its also important to follow positive people and remember that everything on ig isnt real! Im glad you never have a bad day on ig! Well my dog kinda looks like a bunny lol if you wanna check him out! Lol @thesecretlifeofprincemocha
You don’t have to! Only if you want to!
Have an amazing day!❤️❤️🥰🥰🥰
@@Mochitasmom OMG! THANK YOU! I wanted to ask for the ig handle, but got a little shy hahaha. I do follow some people and friends, it's not that I'm running away from the fake-edited posts, I'm just not interested in that lifestyle at all. I like pretty things, we all do, I just don't care about other people's pretty things... idk if that makes any sense. Have a beautiful day!
what really damaged my self esteem was follower count. i would think that influencers became famous just because they were pretty and that i wasn't pretty enough to have a following. that messed me up big time.
Omg can totally relate tbh :P I will follow you on insta if you’d like 😊 you are probably pretty enough and just as worthy as influencers to have a following. Maybe you haven’t been found by your people yet
Totally relate to that!
TOTALLY relate to this :(
lots of them come from brand collabs tho and bots
I noticed this on tiktok too... I had to delete it.
Woah a lot of these girls Facetune their pics wayyy too far, they literally edit out their rib cage & organs like boo you would be dead 🤔 *NOBODYS* BODY LOOKS LIKE THAT!
In my opinion they all look a lot prettier in the "normal" pictures than the unrealistic cartoon bod.
Again for the ones in the back, *NOBODYS* BODY LOOKS LIKE THAT! *Never* compare yourself to what you see on social media. *You* are beautiful
‘Boo you would be dead’ 😂😂🙌🏼🙌🏼
overweight Wales trying to look skinny
Some people do have bodies like that. It’s not as smooth and perfect looking as Kim’s kardashians edited pictures but there are people who have hourglass shaped bods
@@stevestiffler9120 don’t insult them if you don’t even know how to spell “whale” LOLLL
@@belltoc9243 ikr!
I never thought about it until my brother who is a personal trainer started to gather following on his Instagram. He has now a few dozen thousands of followers in our home country and while yes he is super fit, and well dressed and all what he shows on his Insta he definitely is not JUST THAT. He won't show the times when he sits with a worn t-shirt and shorts on, flip-flops reading sports newspaper or playing with the cats. It's very surreal to see that image of him and then divide that from who he is as a whole person. And not just about appearances, I know he is super insecure that he doesn't speak English very much, but never let's that be obvious on his social media. Weird world we live in.
@content content I know how you feel. And eventhough I know lot of these insecurities are unfounded it's hard to act against them
@content content :( I am sorry that you had to experience things in the past that make you be now scared of being able to speak your mind :(
This series is amazing and soo wonderful and should be seen by many
I went off social media almost 3 years ago because even tho I knew all of what your saying deep down my self esteem was shit.
I was in a deep dark hole and very dark and cloudy and I had yp remove myself from social media in order to love myself again.
This series your doing is so important.
I hope this series helps you but it sounds like you’re doing fine on your own!! I think if social media does you more harm than good then you need to delete it for your own peace ❤️
Same!!
Rachel ♥️
@Teena Courtney thank you so so much .. ❤🥰
this is why i love selena gomez, she doesn’t care to show her “ugly” side, she posts pictures without make up and not perfect body pictures, and she also doesn’t JUST care about what she looks like on her instagram, i think selena is truly an inspiration to the young generation, even her make up line, it’s not make up to hide your face or make a whole new face but to feel good in, and to look natural and like yourself 😇
Lol she photoshops a lot!
Zendaya is THE BEST honestly. She's not Photoshop her pictures. Not like Selena ...😬😬
@@kary7439 zen data isn’t the best lmao, selena doesn’t photoshop her photos 😂😂 lmao why do you say that? u can literally see her eye bags and flaws on the selfies she posts, zendaya is nothing compared to selena 🤓
@@ayla8345 lol she doesn’t u can even see her eye bags
@@Uchiha.Itachii and why are you comparing😐
I feel like so many men and women need to hear this. Thank you for not holding back and sharing the realities of influencers 💜
Yes we all needed to hear this. ♥️
I deactivated my instagram this morning because it has been making me SO DEPRESSED lately and then this video comes up in my feed! Thank you so much Steph💕
You'll realize in a couple of months what a great idea this is!!!! Your mental health improves 100%!!! (my experience)
Your better off without it honestly
I deactivated my IG about six weeks ago to stay more focused on school, but now that I’m used to being off of it, I don’t miss it. I miss seeing what some of my long distance friends are up to, but when I’ve thought about downloading it again, I get this uncertain feeling. Like I know I’ll get sucked back in or become “obsessed” with what everyone else is doing versus me just focusing on me. I’m about to start my last semester of college and I would like to see how long I can go having my IG deactivated.
Lots of time though, they can’t even post real pictures because their own followers go after them and calling them all sort of names. You really can’t win. But It’s better to stay yourself, because unfortunately, someone is gonna dislike you for no reason whatsoever
How many do you really know to back up this statement its there view of being entitled to everything that is the real problem?.
I know 1 but because she likes me so much she sabotages every woman i try to get with if she knows them?.
dominic6018 just an observation I don’t really take this very serious life is too short to care about haters
dominic6018 It’s true, when they post photos of their real bodies in less flattering ways without photoshop they get a lot of people insulting them in the comments.
@@dackjanielsmeup and then the brands won’t repost them so they don’t get any money
i actually like idols that are not ‘perfect’, who show themselves as they are, with some imperfections (that are normal). i feel closer to them and i like how in a time where everyone wants to look perfect, they are just themselves and they’re comfortable doing it.
Ok so, I think there is a loophole here, first media create impossible beauty, then some women that are slightly ahead of the rest in terms of resources follow those standards doing whatever they can to fit in, then we feel sorry for them to put so much money and effort into following that, when in reality they are getting more money by promoting insecurities on women, because we will buy anything to look like them. But, I don't feel sorry for them, they are getting a lot of money by doing that, I'm kind of annoyed to be honest.
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Yes in a way they started as “victims” of the beauty standards industry but they quickly joined up and became part of the machinery to turn around and create more “victims” for self-gain and clout
YES! Like, it sucks, but they're monetizing it! They're propping up the same system we're supposed to pity them for being victimized by! They're elevating themselves up on the backs of other women and I'm supposed to feel sad for THEM? They could just, not be a part of the problem?
I am just 17 and I have been so insecure about my body because of all these social networks ,I had to delete all those networks and then I saw your videos and u seriously helped through this and I feel confident in my skin ..... thank you very much love you ❤️❤️❤️ and so proud of u that you are trying to make this a better place
The world needs more of this content 😘
As a mother of teenagers, with the youngest being a 15 Yr old girl, I want to thank you so so much for making these vids Steph.. I wish I had this 'real talk' when I was a teen in the 90s, but sadly I don't think many of the celebs/people I adored were sober enough back then lol.. Thank you & lots of love from NZ xx
I love your hair omg 😍😍😍 I seriously love that you’re doing this series!! Videos like this directly from an “influencer” showing that people in the industry aren’t all they appear to be was seriously needed! Also this makeup is beautiful 😍❤️
Love ya!!!! SO happy you're liking the series!! x
Me too. And I’m also glad Stephanie went light-handed on the brightening concealer. Most beauty gurus tend to overdo it with the concealer, resulting in. A severe waste of product and messing up the work they put in the strategic placement of product by blending it all over the place.
Comparing YOURSELF TO YOUR OWN PICTURES, GIRL thank you soooooo much for talking about that!! That’s legit something I’ve caught myself doing and I really love that you talked about it, because I’m someone who thought I wasn’t comparing to influencers but I was comparing to my own highlight reel.
Yeah that was spot-on.
"Instagram models are beautiful but so are you"
She's a natural beauty not fake beauty though. ♥️👍
No we are ugly so are they
Sounds like a nightmare being an influencer
I fill my feed with beautiful things I want to see, like art and cute animals and home layouts. The few bloggers I follow I make sure are pretty genuine.
Even my own pictures I try to not do anything other than edit the picture itself (lighting, contrast) and not myself. And I make sure to utilize my caption to say what's really happening in life versus a tacky quote.
I do wonder though if people don't like that and that's why I don't have many followers but oh well. Can't make everyone like you
When you said "it must be exhausting to live in such a shallow world" that really hits it for me. And it makes me feel happy that my decision not to fall trap in their schemes pays pays off.
Honestly...I like your hair!
Pale and cold-toned blonde seems to be the 'in' thing everyone's doing right now. It's nice to see warm-tone and strawberry blonde shades, too, but you do whatever makes you feel good. Keep going against the grain, Stephanie! 😄
I'm naturally strawberry blonde 😁
"Imagine how draining it must be to live in such a shallow world"
This is so true, stop chasing materialistic things and start chasing happiness 😄💞
You've helped me a lot with my insecurities and confident. Ily Stephanie
that makes me so happy!!! love ya!! x
That sounds like a sad, exhausting lifestyle.
What I find interesting is that when I was dating guys that didn’t treat me well, I’d take about ten selfies with different tops and darkening my makeup as I went, to make it look like different days, and I’d edit them, just so when they wanted a photo of me, I could send them a photo where I looked great. I’d feel good about it as I sent it. And even then, they usually didn’t compliment me. Then I’d feel gross.
Now the guy I’m with, I don’t feel like I have to wear ANY makeup around him. I’ve never edited a photo I’ve sent him. I just don’t feel the need to. And he thinks I’m gorgeous. He likens me to an elven princess, lol. I was really sick and had to cancel on him a few days ago (briefly it looked like I might need to go to the hospital) and I was too weak to even put my hair up in a ponytail. When I started to perk up a bit, felt half human again, I sent him a photo. I was exhausted, in a ton of pain, sick, and of course had zero makeup on, and even then he was complimentary.
I think I didn’t realize it until this guy, but like... it hurt when I felt I didn’t get approval from guys I dated in the past. But what I was really looking for is the validation my guy gives me, regardless of how I *look* in my photos. When I had a problem that changed how I looked because of a health condition, he said something similar to, “You’re more than your skin to me.” And the way he said it, of course; I was being silly, to think that some superficial change would be a big important deal.
I don’t really post on social media. I don’t like leaving out all the bad stuff that happens because of my health, because it feels fake. But if I post it, it feels like I’m looking for sympathy. And the only people who really matter are going to know without me posting. 🤷🏻♀️
Don’t go where you’re tolerated, go where you’re celebrated. I found that, and I intend to celebrate him every day for the rest of my life.
You are so lucky you finally found that because trust me that's what everyone is looking for..they want someone to see them.. like really see them.. most people who got on social media felt insecure in their real lives and they found a way.. toxic way.. to escape and be seen and celebrated and it's temporary..I'm sure most influencers are insecure of going out into the real world coz they Don't have all their filters to hide behind..no matter how beautiful they may be.. they for sure have social anxiety
Tabby Omwenga Thanks, Tabby; I’m finding myself thanking my lucky stars every day. He really is amazing. I’ve been sick this week and he’s just being an absolute prince. I was finally able to see him (due to red zone limitations) and he’s done whatever he can to be supportive and help me feel better, getting groceries, staying up, making my food. I’ve not once felt like I needed to have on makeup. 😅 Despite feeling like an utter swamp monster, and probably looking it. 😂
You know, you make a really good point; if you get used to the filters and being able to micromanage what people see, down to the smallest details, it MUST be unnerving to go out into the real world and have people just see you, where there’s only so much you can do to ‘influence’ their perception. That kind of standard isn’t just bad for their fan bases, but for them themselves! Damaging. It’s really empathetic of you to think of it that way.
How is that relationship going now?
This is why I follow you because you are beautifully honest about yourself and display a normal life. I am 61 and finally feel comfortable in my own skin. It doesn’t mean I don’t want to get healthier if I can or look as good as I can, but I’m still me, not anyone else. I see you as my internet friend and makeup inspiration and I thank you for the honesty and real feelings!
I think this video has a lot of good points. While listening I still found myself thinking “influencers are choosing to inaccurately portray their lives and appearance, even if they aren’t happy doing it they are compliant in a messed up system...”. I agree that social media is toxic for influencers and people who participate in general but I think it’s important to recognize the choice that people have in their curation of their online persona. It may be optimistic but I think we are all tired of seeing highly edited content and if we all just collectively stopped it wouldn’t be such a big deal to look and be normal. Just my non internet famous person thoughts - thanks for sharing yours.
I'm glad that your drawing awareness to this, it is sad that they have to go to such extreme lengths to "flex" and make out that they have the perfect face, body, car, house, wardrobe...and actually be miserable and in debt, also you drawing awareness to this can hopefully help people who have body image issues wishing they looked like a person who really doesn't exist, because they alter their pictures to the point where they don't even look like themselves, and some probably most of them don't even need photo shop or face tune to begin with, it's really sad and unhealthy, especially when they already have a great body and a beautiful face and go in and Photoshop and face tune to the point of being unrecognizable.
OMG Stephanie, you're so right. I lived with a very popular Social media influencer for about a year and got to know her very well. She spent HOURS editing her photos to the point where it no longer looked like her. It was such a conundrum to me because she's already extremely beautiful. But she felt like she needed a much skinnier version of her. She would ask me to take photos of her and I would take hundreds and none were ever good enough. She was a very sad person and suffered from depression. She would wait for the comments and if she got lots of praise and followers she would get excited for a bit. Every time she would meet people (or go on dates) she would tell me that they were mad because she didn't look like the photos on IG. I had so many talks with her about turning her IG into inspiring other women and doing a channel like yours (to be honest with her audience and tell them this IG life is not real) she agreed and wanted to do it sooo bad, but didn't have the courage. so sad. We still talk and it's still the same. She's still very unhappy, with thousands of followers who praise her, but they have no clue that no amount of praise is good enough and she's actually a very sad and depressed person inside.
Thank you for these videos. After decades drown in social media, my insecurities are finally controlled thanks to your message and videos... i stopped editing my photo on IG ever since
You are AMAZING!!!! Go girl! x
stephanie you've done it again!! i love seeing someone with a platform put out this information and mindset. i wish that every young girl and woman who has social media could have this perspective
I absolutely love how down to earth and honest you are 🥰 and yes, my ears, chest, and face turn bright red at strong emotions - especially anger.
I think everyone, women in particular, need to see your series about body image.
I literally had to delete all SoCal media’s and Snapchat and everything, the anxiety and the horrible thought patterns it would cause was too self destructive for me. And I wound up relapsing again this year during quarantine because whenever I use I get skinnier since the drugs make me not hungry and/or just naturally I thin out from being unhealthy so I literally have relapsed after 8 years of battling this horrible addiction- knowing the pain and homelessness and despair that comes with the substance abuse usually- like I literally still relapsed because I wanted to be thin again. Like how messed up is that. What the hell. Thanks for your videos. Your beautiful, we all are though I suppose- like you said. Thanks for what your doing with all these topics you talk about- You make me feel like you are truly trying to help like you aren’t trying to compete and you are really making a difference. You are for me at least and I am sure for a ton of other people too. This is great, much love to everybody here who reads this. You all are beautiful and you all matter.we can make it through the day today
It's so good to have such a natural person like you teaching people especially the young ones that what they see is fake and that they are just like all of us..... people should be hearing and seeing this more often then people would feel beautiful in their own skin. Thankyou so much for doing videos like this.... young girls need to hear this... the industry has made people so insecure with the way they look and there needs to be a change. X
yes, i am 14, i’ve been insecure about my body since i was 11 or 12, i’m learning to accept my body more now, sometimes i even like it. these videos make me more confident. i’m just insecure sometimes because of my body shape, but it’s natural. (the shape) and i really can’t do much about it. so i might as well try and accept it!
@@diora266 your watching the right person we need more people actually being a real natural role model to you young ones as you should never ever get made to feel insecure with the way you look..... everyone is beautiful and different x
Even if these influencers stopped photoshopping their pictures, naturally good looking people still exist, sometimes almost perfect looking people are just born like that so we would be insecure about those ‘perfect people’ even more because they are good looking even without photoshop
@Flo Ow imagine what we as a species could accomplish if we weren't so shallow. Who cares what someone looks like?? It is so unimportant.
How much is important. Am I slightly outside the realm of "ideal" or is "ideal" literally so far away that it might as well be an alien planet? Even the most beautiful person ever born has imperfections and these people are few and far between. Bombarding young girls with countless images of manufactured perfection beyond the realm of biology has consequences.
It's always in the eye of the beholder
It's true that naturally beautiful people do exist but even those people have skin texture or arm fat or cellulite or whatever it is, the problem with photoshopping and cosmetic surgery as well is that these beauty standards are not attainable, in other words you can never get them by just dieting or exercising or putting on makeup you have to physically or digitally alter your appearance. And herein lies the true issue that people have with altering photographs, they are lies.
I really love these type of videos and I can't thank you enough for showing the reality of behind the perfect pictures of all the influencers or models.
after watching your videos it motivates me to workout not to change how i look, but because my body deserves to move and be strong. you’re doing amazing work
Love ya Stephanie. The world definently needs more influencers like you out there.
I actually love how your hair came out. It has such a fun beachy look.
I'm really glad for these videos - I'm more able to pick out the less obvious FS now, and it's helping my self esteem loads.
I know a lot of people I'm friends with are guilty of doing this and honestly if I knew how to use these programs (I can't be arsed to learn lol) I'd be doing that to my photos. We need to be better at building each other up - but if we could do that there wouldn't be a market for all these cosmetics, the plastic surgery, the everything.
I love these types of videos from you soo much! It's like listening to a big sister's life advice and it never fails to make me feel better about myself 😊 (btw I actually really like the different colours in your hair)
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I love your hair!!!! 😁😁😁
You're literally so gorgeous! 😀
I actually really love this hair on you. I feel like the tones just go. So prettyyy
I turn red when I get nervous or excited too 😂😂 love this series ❤
Me too. I also shake like a chihuahua. 🤷♀️😂
This is why I started following accounts that promote a healthy life style AND try to actively instill a positive mindset to their followers. As such, when one of these influencers' pictures somehow manages to bypass the wall of animal posts on my feed, I don't feel a pang in my heart about my exterior appearence or feel the need to put aside my plate of food. So glad seeing you continue this series!
Kisses to you and the wee one 🥰
I love you so much Stephanie, you always get to upload your videos when I need them the most, you’re an angel, thank you for bringing peace into my life
Oh thank you so much I love you too 🥰
You are so real. So naturally beautiful, it's the before pictures I'm crushing on, but your spirit is glowing. You message is so important, thankyou.
Thank you so much!!! X
"You're not ugly, you're just financially poor."
You’re so right. I noticed recently that when I feel bad about myself I noticed I post selfies all over, cause I wanna hear someone say something nice. All these people started the same way and before Instagram changed their algorithm it was common to get a bunch of followers everyday off a hastaged photo. So they’re still that insecure person looking for validation from strangers. I like that you make these videos.
Steph I love how honest and up front you are about everything, I guess for me being an old gal @60 years young it makes me sad to see these young girls comparing themselves to others, this never happened in my day, there was no Social Media to compare yourself to, it was mainly just schoolyard stuff which was nothing compared to now, I just finished watching a UA-cam video that popped up in my sidebar, and it was a teenage couple having a baby, is this the New world we’re living in having kids having kids and making UA-cam videos along the way..I don’t think so, I think they have their heads buried in the sand if they think they’re going to make a living off UA-cam, for me it was just like watching my children at that age without the responsibility of having a child on the way...at least you have your head screwed on right Lol 😂 and your priorities on track. Best Wishes and Kindness from Queensland Australia 🇦🇺❤️❤️.....How’s little man, haven’t seen him in awhile, would love to see him in your next video or vlog, I don’t do Instragram unfortunately...to old for that 💩💩💩💩
You are truly one of my favourite youtubers ever. You are such goals but at the same time, it feels like you are a real friend. I never feel bad about myself after watching your videos. I just feel like I had a conversation with a close friend that just made me feel normal. It’s hard to feel that way anymore in our society which is my I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart. You are truly a lifesaver in many ways❤️
You’re so right!!! Btw loved the eyeshadow simple but beautiful. I’ve been playing a lot with different palettes and colors and so happy with everything I’ve learned but I feel like I still need to learn a lot more. For some reason this has been always been the hardest part of my makeup routine.
I turn red and get huge red patches on my chest when I’m anxious.
I love that you are so open and honest with your followers!! ♥️😘🥰💐
Always do my best to be!! 🥰
i just wanna say thank you for making videos like these. i’ve completely quit facetune, photoshop, all that stuff. it really mentally affected me how i just didn’t look like my instagram photos, and i definitely needed a change. you really helped me in this journey
It’s so hard to remember this when it’s all you see constantly! Thank you for sharing this I think it’s what we all need to hear 💖
Your hair looks so lovely especially for doing it at home! Also thank you for this video, there will probably never be enough of these exposing videos compared to the fake pictures posted
I love hearing ur voice its idk calming❤️ also I love how open u are about these topics love u girl❤️❤️❤️
I am super up-front about my flaws and embrace them on social media. It's freeing to allow yourself to be vulnerable. And hearing from people that I've encouraged to do the same?? It's amazing! I absolutely suggest people be their authentic self, for peace of mind.
Personally I never edit anything on the picture I upload and all my friends are like shook by that. I just don't see a reason. People know how I am, why pretending that I am something else? Of course I am not perfect but I don't need to (and I can't either... the same goes for everyone). Love yourself but also try correcting the flaws you don't like to become a better you, not to become someone else.
This face tuning era is so weird to me. I’m of the generation that saw the death of MySpace and the birth of Facebook and nobody editing their pics. Every time I see face tuned images, all I can think about is, “Why bother? Don’t you feel weird meeting your friends or new people after they’ve seen a manipulated version of your face?”
@@hotjanuary yeah, exactly. I feel the same way.
Everyday is still a battle with my ED but I’ve been doing so well for like a year and a half but recently I almost relapsed but watching your videos on how social media is fake really helped me get my Grip back.
Thank you so much for your content and always keeping it real, I really appreciate it.
Also I just have to say that the lady in the tan cut out 1 piece swim suit looks so bizarre with her lipo tummy & freakishly fake looking oversize hips. It just looks absolutely crazy! She's made her tummy look all lumpy & weird when she could just exercise to attain a even more beautiful & realistic looking physique. I just cannot stand the look of these overly done plastic surgery bodies, & it doesn't age well either like a natural human body. Think twice people!
Honestly thank you. You have no idea how much this explanation help all of us young girls who see all this madness on insta.
"Would you really trade your own life with theirs?"
It really hit me up!!! Thanks you so much for wake me up!!!!!!
This kind of content is sooo needed in today's day and age! Especially for younger people! We need to stop idolising these people and focus on self love for ourselves! Self comparison is the thief of joy!
I always love that you bring the reality of things to our attention and I appreciate that so much! I don’t have Instagram or Facebook as a 40-year-old woman so I guess I’ve saved myself a lot of certain feelings about how they might look better than me but mostly, up to this point I’ve had such a peaceful life with minimal use of social media
Your a beautiful 40! ♥️☺️
Michelle Cogdill thank you! 🤗
@@KarawithaK your very welcome! ♥️
Well I idolize you...because you keep it real. I actually just really respect and appreciate you. Who wants to be idolized🤷♀️
Honestly stephanie is one of my favorite influencers. Shes so real and this series really helps so many people. I just wanna say i appreciate her. :)
Can I just say Stephanie, that you are goals, in the video where you showed us what you look like without filters or posing a certain way etc you looked beautiful and I genuinely think you are far prettier than any Instagram model naturally. So you, natural you are goals xx
Influencers be catfishing all their fans
Thank you Stephanie! You are a truly beautiful person and you don't have to fake it!
I’m seriously digging the red! Going full on red would be stunning on you!
honestly you have so much talent to be able to talk through all of this and do your makeup so seamlessly and just stunning!
Personally think your hair looks great lighter. Suits you better.
I so worry about my daughter growing up in today’s society. She’s only 8 and I can’t even imagine how much worse it’s going to be in another 10 years from now.
You’re so smart Stephanie , bringing light to such a big issue. Uprooting a toxic belief and shining light over it, thank you
Thank you so much for these videos. Can’t imagine how many women this helps and love that you’re not afraid to speak your mind 🙌🏻
Your message means so much to me. You helped me eliminate my insecurity. I love what you do for people and I am so thankful. Little girls need to be aware of your message in order to not get stuck in self-hatred, which social media encourages in many ways.
influencers are like why "unknown" doping happens in high performance sports: people do not want to see the ordinary. They want to see superheroes. But then they complain when they feel cheated
The girl at 5:21 is SERIOUSLY gorgeous without photoshop. Natural looking and drop dead gorgeous. Goals.
I have been struggling with insecurities about my weight so this has made me feel so much better about myself !!! When we get back to school we are all going to be weighed so I’m so stressed !!!
if it’s bothering you, don’t sit around and ignore it! get rid of that fat! in the end it will make you a lot happier, wouldn’t you agree? don’t keep it if it makes you insecure, and you would feel better about yourself without it. there’s nothing wrong with working out and getting that body that you want!
diora awww ty cx im not fat it’s just a feel that way 🥰🥰
Well, I just feel heaps better about myself and found a whole BUCKET of compassion for everyone else. This was a great video ❤️🌻❤️
Stephanieeeee your hair actually looks so pretty 💓
Ahhh thank you!! I’m going back to the hairdresser on the 10th to go blonder! X
@@stephanielange yess girl that's going to look great!! 🥰
These videos are the best! Honesty at its finest! I 10000% agree that it’s such an unhealthy situation!!! I try to follow more people on Instagram that favour showing their flaws and struggles and real ness! Not only does it make me feel a bit more human but it makes me think there ARE more people wising up and realising we can’t continue this facade. If we did everyone would look the same by 2025, and that’s SUPER BORING! Well done Stephanie !
Your hair looks good :) I missed the blond
thanks love!
You're inspiration for girls. You're teaching them how to be comfortable in their own body,skin. And we're all grateful for that. Love you ❤️😘❤️❤️
i also turn red when i'm excited, passionate, nervous, angry etc haha
I love how honest she is hope you would still continue making videos like this it really boosted my confidence thank you so much!
I think many of them have body dismorphia. They end up having surgeries that make them look ridiculous.
I love this series and love the hair color. It is important to deconstruct the idea of perfection. There is just a health body in the right weight for you. My main beef with these so called influencers is that when asked they deny photoshop and surgeries.
We had a case here in my country were the youtuber was swearing she didn't have a lipo while losing weight so fast. It was all just diet and exercise (these work, but not that fast). Then, she went to a show and was caught saying she did have a lipo with a mic that was left open by mistake.
I actually idolize ppl by their talent and effort.
Thanks for making me see the truth also
I really love this topic of beauty standards because i often feel bad about myself because of the fact that i compare myself to other people. And btw, i personally think you look so much beautiful here, on youtube videos, than on instagram pictures. Thank you for doing this, it helped me a lot and I saved the videos so i can watch everytime i feel bad with myself.