How To Heal Childhood Trauma & Suppressed Anger
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This is the work, the real work. Everyone has stored anger within them and if we don't release it, it'll come out in unhealthy ways that will hurt another or yourself.
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Matt Cama I’m not sure what happened but watching this makes me want to give you a big hun.
Matt Cama wonderful you’ve come up with a method of releasing the anger in an appropriate way.
Jesus loves you Matt.
Wow 🤭 it takes a lot of courage to show people how you’re feeling and letting your emotions out, a little upsetting to watch someone go through that but very brave 💪 I always wondered how I could release my anger in a positive way so I’m definitely going to try this, thank you for sharing something so personal 🙏
Pillow: Oh here we go again.
hahaha
thanks for making me smile :(((
😂😂
I actually started doing this before I found your video. I just instinctively knew I had to get it all out. I used to self harm (cutting, negative self talk, literally punching myself, burning myself, etc) because I wasn't shown any other way to release it. Somewhere along the line I believed I wasn't allowed to scream, hit things, or let out the anger and the hurt.
25 years old and I still do this. I've learned to take better care of myself, let it all out in healthy ways, cry any time I need, hold myself, love my inner child that was neglected, even now I'm working at home and I can just easily go into break, and take a few seconds to turn around and punch my pillow to let that anger out. Or listening to heavy metal on full blast in the car alone and screaming at the people who hurt me, is healing as well.
I've been eating healthy, exercising and despite that I've been feeling terrible in my body. The worst I've ever felt. With horrible digestion. I'm really wondering if it's an emotional thing. I'm hoping doing something similar to this video may help.
Beautiful comment. Much of it resonates with me. Thank you for sharing that. :)
why this makes me cry ? it almost feel like i’m feeling your pain. I will try this definitely. Thank you 🙏🏼
I hope you do, glad it resonated !
made me wanna cry :(
I cried too... he’s great for sharing this.
You empathic
i chuckled..
I needed this! I have medical childhood trauma and it’s been screwing my life up. Giving me panic attacks over how angry I get over it.
You’re a hero for this! Hope you’re healing and doing well 🖤
I felt crazy for screaming into my pillow and my partner caught a small glimpse of it. I always try really hard to make my anger episodes go unseen. But as I get older, keeping pent up anger in me is no longer a viable option. My body just can't take it anymore
this video reminded me that I'm actually releasing my anger in a healthy way, not hurting myself, or those around me. So what if I sound crazy? I'd rather not have what feels like this tiny atom bomb going off in my chest.
Thanks for sharing this. I’m 56 and just beginning to tap into the suppressed anger I have from living with unresolved sexual trauma.
Awesome. I'm 52, and I'm still in the struggling phase to express so much pent up emotion.
Yes! It scary to release because it feels uncontrolled. Sincere thanks for sharing.
Youre so brave for sharing this, thank you so much. I was never allowed to feel anger when i was younger and now im 25 and i realized ive been suppressing my whole life and i dont even feel anger anymore. Im doing a deep work to get all of that out and your video is inspiring. God bless you
Same
@@vmindrea799 Im here to support you🙏
What if I wanna turn my anger into productivity and that implicates getting practical on human animals? It’s not like they’re actually harmless and interesting creatures that don’t need punishment as part of their education, really... nature speaks after all, wether we like it or not.
We need to call that number on the mattress, cuz that is some law breaking anger.
Literally what I needed, instead of beating up a pillow I’m beatin up my insides
I needed this video. I have a lot of suppressed anger and resentment from bullying and verbal abuse in the past. So it helps to see this video.
Sometimes I think this happens when you're in a place in your life that makes you constantly angry/sad, etc and you start becoming numb to it. Like when I'm in a proper mental state in general then yeah I can get angry and be cool. But if I'm in a place in my life that I'm just in a constant state of anger with then I unintentionally suppress it because I am constantly in that state and don't wanna be that "angry guy". But then you can't truly he happy because deep down you know that you feel angry.
same
I started crying this hit close to home. You are strong and so am I.
"create sexual trauma for another female" - so damn true
Omg I can’t stop crying! Thank you for sharing with us the real work! Bless you Matt 🙏
I'm on my wife's account, but Im so glad to find your video. 1st Im glad because I feel so fucking hurt and angry at times and I don't know wtf to do about it. I tried talking to a therapist and I tried taking medicine but I feel so Gd raw inside I can't function. I just really feel like I've reached a point where no one will take me seriously until I loose my shit and actually hurt another human being.
I appreciate your honesty and raw self. It's... I don't even know WHAT, to know I'm not alone.
Thank you for your restraint and determination to be good. Just thank you.
I cried right along with you, man.
I was in an exercise class that had boxing (bag work) as part of the class. I’d find myself focusing on my situation at that time that was really hurting me. I always felt like a weight lifter off my shoulders afterwards.
I was always wondering what is the best position to beat a pillow. You solved that for me :) Great video!
This brought up so much emotion for me. I feel that pain 😭
OMG, you're so beautiful! I mean inside (too! ; ) Thank you.
Dude, I need to do this. I was angry cuz I couldn't sleep last night. I stopped resisting the anger , next thing I knew it was 3 hours later. I fell asleep! My vitality is diminished. I think alcohol and repressed anger are suffocating me. I will do this technique as soon as I can be alone.
This made me cry, Thankyou for sharing this! I could feel the release and sense of liberation just from watching. I'm really looking forward to trying this!
I find it so crazy that I didn’t start feeling anger until my abuser approached me and apologized. A friend told me it’s because now I have validation that everything I went through was real - which sucks and of course makes me angry. And it comes on so fast and strong. Just this unbridled rage that I don’t know where to place. I’m angry that it happened at all. I’m angry that my abuser was someone I trusted and cared for. I’m angry that I waited so long to make a “big deal” out of it. I’m angry that there will likely be no repercussions for what happened. I’m just angry. Im angry because now that he has apologized, he most certainly feels absolved from the trauma he caused. Thank you for this. Imma go beat up a pillow now.
I forever grateful, grateful I stumbled upon this. It also felt genuine, I am thankful . I subbed.
Man this is so simple but so healthy, I’ll have to start incorporating this
First I laughed then I cry, the background music helped with both emotions I felt.
You should make an Energy-cleaning of the Pillow as well, after then. Like when you write it on the Paper, the Paper should be burned.
Watching you beat that pillow released the grief that was underneath my anger I released before watching your video and I had a cry. I felt validated in my emotions by watching you going through the motions. I have to admit watching your video I imagined you beating my ex after he beat me 10 years ago and I felt some kind of justice as I cried watching you beat that pillow (that became my ex in my mind)...
Shouldn't the healing start after you've identified the trauma first? You can't heal what you can't understand or identify.
This is grown man shit right here. WARNING: you will cry. You will feel. But, you'll appreciate this shit cuz no one has ever taught you. And you're quality of life will def improve the more you do it. Got to eliminate compulsive behavior.
I'ma try that because I've been overly pissed for years especially during this pandemic. Most of the time I want to explode. Thanks.
So brave to share ❤
QUESTION: do i need more than one session to release the anger from the same memory?
Thanks‼️‼️❕
You american accent is way too british to be american. And your british accent is way too american to be british lol
Great video! And very effective method. Also screaming and body language (you can make karate kicks, showing middle finger or just do a crazy dance) is great for releasing build up emotions.
A pillow works, but even a heavy bag would be nice to sharpen up in an art form while letting that anger out
Hey this was educational 👍🏾
I have done this before. Doesn’t help. Makes me feel more insecure and helpless. The pain and heaviness is just always there and there’s nothing you can do about it but try your best to ignore it with distractions or work. When I can’t bear it, I just cry myself to sleep. That’s the only way I know how to deal with stuff.
Look into "EMDR therapy". It changed my life. All the best.
This doesn't really work for me because I feel like the pillow is helpless and innocent. It doesn't punch me back, so instead I feel like I'm being aggressive towards the wrong thing so the only thing I get out of that is more anger.
Honestly, I applaud you loudly! Very few men have the courage to do what you just did. They'll do all kinds of damaging behaviors to avoid the pain, but you addressed it straight up with honesty and vulnerability. And you're right!
This is a conversation many of us *need* to have. Thankyou for starting the way! Blessed be ❤
Ps. I'm sorry you went thru what made you so angry
You do this in Canada and you'll have your neighbors snitch on you and call the cops. Not only will the cops make the situation worse, but they'll probably lock you up in solidary confinement for 3 days in the name of "getting help". We have so many things that we can do to relief our emotions and anger but are forced not to relief due to snitch neighbors. And I am speaking for the people that live in an Apartment not houses.
Realatble as an autistic person💜💜💜
Bro I have been doing this from a young age
Good, but hes the o e posting it so others can be helped
Ok. Where's my pillow?
I’m so grateful that i found this video i ll try it thank u i feel it’shonna work
I did this and just ended up with tense muscles, a head ache and a sore throat. Then I wondered if I did it right. I suppress my anger and take it out on myself then explode on an irritation at someone else. I have much work to do
Thnx for posting this brother💜
This is what I needed, not to talk it out and write it down. Once I saw you crying I wanted to hold you and tell you it's going to be alright
I had a therapist when I was a child that said to beat pillow with tennis racket …. This works too … thank you for sharing
Awesome video. Thank you so much for sharing. I've done this before but underestimated it's value in working through trauma.
Me too. He needed to. Guide us
I've done this before. Nice to know I am not the only one.
as a 15 year old girl with really toxic parents who keep me isolated and has gone thorugh sexual trauma at 4 to 6, im not allowed to show any emotion. especially anger. my parents tell me its disrespect and that i have no right to be angry or depressed. someone please tell me, what. do. i. do.
You have already recognized the toxicity of the situation. That's a huge step in learning to establish boundaries. You know your parents don't respect you or your headspace,so channel that frustration. Get some alone time and beat the s*** out of a pillow. Journal and write down every issue,everything that makes you furious,and remember, it won't always be this way.
@@melissamac2478 thank you so much 💖 ill be sure to keep myself grounded while i do this. thank you for the strength 💖
Work hard to get your butt out of that house as fast as you can start working. And get your own voice.
I litterally crying right now, omGoddddd thank you for posting this video. I am beging my shadow work today, I have been learning about it the past few days and i just want to Thank you for this.
Thank you for this
This works. My word I did this before I even ran into your video. It helps you also as man get in touch with your masculine. I feel more centered now. Been going through alot of self doubt. I appreciate your bravery in your video
someone get that pillow to the ER
It helped. Thank you for sharing. This was personal, shows strentgh.
You make me want to cry here
Thank you for this video Matt. I am just this month working with a therapist and trying to open up about childhood trauma. And, before seeing a therapist this is what I would do do cope and deal with the overwhelming feelings. In all honesty this is what actually helps me when triggers arise as they still do. The main reason I want to thank you for this video is because it made me feel normal using this as a way to cope. My partner had come home once when i was letting my shit out and i didn't know he was going to be home just yet and he ran in and asked me what happened and i apologized and told him i was ok and he said he was freaked out thinking someone had died or something when he came in and heard me crying and upset like that. And afterwards I felt ashamed and kept trying to let him know i was ok. But your video really helped me so thank you.
You're awesome!
Thank you
Omg this made me cry 😢
Thank you so much..This is so helpful for myself and I'm sure many others
You're welcome!
Thank you.
Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and your knowledge.
Wonderful
So helpful
Beating on a pillow will not work for some ppl...not me atleast 🤷♀️
Not me either. But beating a real person 😏
Its for when anger and resentment is really built UP. Maybe your still in the numb phase. (thats takes a nother process to actuly get to focuse your pain to be able to reléase it like this.)
Spar. Punching bag. Crunk music. Crunk dance. You have access to the tools, something will work unless you're scared and keep repressing it.
I have so much built up anger and people say I have issues and should go to classes. This is definitely a method that I will try, thank you!💯
Me too
Thank you soooo much! This was extremely helpful!! Ever since I watched this, I feel like I have a much safer and better way of releasing my anger, pain, and hurt.
I just knew someway, somehow, that I had to get it all out!! I used to self harm (Cutting, biting, scratching, punching myself, hitting myself, choking myself, literally burning myself, etc) negative self talk, randomly snapping at people, because I wasn’t shown or taught any other way of expressing it. For the longest time, I believed that I wasn’t allowed to scream, hit things, throw things, cuss, or release the anger.
After several months, I’ve learned to take better care of myself, love myself, and let out all of my negative emotions in a safe and healthy way, cry whenever I feel it’s needed, hug myself, and love my inner child who was emotionally and mentally neglected.
24 years old, and I still do this. On my days off of school and work, I always give myself time to let out any negative emotions I’ve felt by hitting a pillow, or my heavy bag that I have in my parent’s garage while blasting out heavy metal rock music and screaming or cussing while thinking about the people who have hurt me.
Doing this is not only healing, but it also saves you from causing more problems to yourself and the people around. ❤
I really really want to hug you right now!!!!!!
Then send him a hug
I do not have adequate words to express what I am feeling - so at this moment all I can say is THANK YOU.
Thank you so very much! I needed to see this so badly..... I broke down into tears after watching.
Thank you! watching this video helped me be calmer and cry. I was so angry and resentful today that I couldnt sleep all nigh. I saw vids of people talking about it; didnt help. Yours did, U R GREAT. Will try.
Feeling so much anger and hate right now. I have chest pains. my family disowned me and took my money to buy themselves a bigger house. This is after they abused me for years. Psychological and emotional abuse. I was the scapegoat of the family.
What other techniques do you guys find useful to release your repressed anger?
This is very helpful, in many ways exactly what I needed. Definitely earned a subscriber.
Hey Matt, your awesome for making this video. I'm trying to quit smoking and drinking and the moods/emotions have been hard to deal with. Thank you
I love this like life. Damn. So powerful thank you.
Thank you thank you for these videos. It's what I been needing now in my life as a 43 yr old woman I been having recurring flashbacks and details that frightens me to my core.. and I always felt the anger inside and couldn't find a way to release it in a therapeutic way so beating the hell put of pillow or few sounds damn good start
This looks very good, thanks for sharing! Forgot how important it is to release inner pressures, so I'm glad I discovered this video.
It works, I Just killed a pillow and ended up crying. Im the terror of the pillows from now on
Thank you for sharing this. You are so brave. I started crying because I can relate. Wishing you peace, love, happiness, and abundance 💛
Thank you for making this video! You are very kind.
Why is your shirt off in a psychology video? I just clicked on to say I don't take you seriously.
That did not de raíl me I thought he would do something physical
Stupidest comment lmao
hell yes! that's what i'm talking about!
Matt, It was cathartic for me to witness your process, I emphasized with you and I was brought to tears,. I share in your wisdom that if we as men in particular do not acknowledge our energies and take conscious ownership of them then we become potential perpetrators of trauma. Bless you!
I am so scared to do this
What do you feel is behind the fear?
I understand that anger and frustration...
very honest and powerful
Bruh your vids are the fuggin best👏👏
I don't know how i found your channel, and this video in particular. I certainly needed to take this into my spirit and now put it into practice. I can't thank you enough!
This was amazing. Thank you for sharing 🙏
That was amazing, Matt! Thanks so much for sharing. 🙏🏼
This channel is exactly what I was looking for
❤️
I don't want to be a pillow in the Cama household
wow very powerful