Exactly, we are often told that our feelings follow our thoughts thus we should change our thinking but that's nlt true, at least not fully true. Feelings are a natural reaction to events, impulses from outside. To get better, lighter thoughts, our feelings like pain, need to be exoressed, acknowledged / validated, then healed.
My jaw is on the floor. I learned more in 12 minutes than I have the past 10 years from doctors. This all makes so much sense now. I want to heal. My stress levels are so high and my health is deteriorating. Fibro, chronic fatigue, anxiety, depression, ADHD, CPTSD, stomach issues ... as I age, I develop more problems. I have to mourn my entire 30s. This is giving me hope. Thank you so much!!!!!
Use your senses to ground yourself from spinning out. Ive started to do it, and writing 3 things I've done or are happy for, for as many evenings as I can. Edit: i hope you're feeling better, sending love and good vibes your way 🤍
I have similar conditions. If you havent already Irene Lyon has a good free course on her website that helped me as well as Emma's processing emotions course.
I remember having some minor surgery years ago and at that point I had never done any kind of drug at all. I didn't even drink small amounts of coffee or alcohol. They hit me with an intravenous dose of shrooms and I felt so good, so positive, and so thoughtful that I felt like I could've talked Hitler out of a wagging war.
Emdr is a very good tool in my experience, to treat anxiety and process stuck emotions. It really helped me and releived me from an overstressed nervous system.. what also really helped was, walking in nature, magnesium supplements, meditation, yoga, writing, healthy foods (fish/vegetables/muts/seeds/fruits/chicken/beans/avocado/dark chocolat), 8 hours sleep a day/structure. Someone to talk to. Praying. Writing down 3 things your grateful for, every day🌻wishing You welll if you’re going trough anxiety, and/or depression🙏🏻Keep up the faith.
Appreciate your comments here. I too have integrated a lot of what you’ve listed. A good daily sleep pattern, forest bathing, friends, great food, a good sense of purpose or hobby and regular exercise are habits that heal my trauma. 🙏🏼😊
I am slowly learning how to heal my body's nervous system from trauma with yoga and the difference is incredible. I was constantly living in a state of fear and anxiety, any noise, any sudden movement, any strange situation, I would notice it , my heart would start beating so fast, I was diagnosed with IBS (didn't actually have it but was just my flight response to need the toilet), I was paranoid, obsessive thoughts and I never actually truly knew what rest and relaxation felt like. I started to become suicidal and got admitted to a hospital , I ended up staying there for a very long time. After being out for a few years and doing better in myself I started to do a yoga challenge for 30 days and im here nearly three months since doing yoga everyday and the difference is insane. Sometimes you dont realise how bad the state you are living in is as this just becomes your everyday reality - its not until you enter a different mind state that you come out of the state you have been living in and yoga did that for me. I look back at only a few months ago and feel such sadness how I had lived my life like that for so long , my body constantly in stress and such tension, I feel really lucky I didnt actually get super chronically ill. we really can heal ourselves through the body.
@@SDivine1111 hey :) I watch boho beautiful channel - I find them the best because I think the constant flow movement and strength positions really help me to get out of my mind and into my body as there’s not much time to think. I would recommend yoga with Adrienne too, because she reminds you to be mindful while moving. Yoga is not an exercise, but a meditative movement. Also consistency is key. I used to do yoga once a week but it was nothing like doing it on a consistent basis. I would recommend doing it at least x3 or x4 a week. You just have to trust you will feel benefits, after around a month and a bit I felt amazing benefits. Also there’s a channel on UA-cam called “wild Mollie” and she has a 1 year yoga video on there, I’d give that a watch if you need inspiration.
Oh my god. Everything makes sense now. Everything makes so much sense, the reason why I experience these panic attacks and constant anxiety is because my body is still stuck in the trauma response. I have had 2 years of crippling anxiety and panic attacks for seemingly no reason but now I understand everything and feel so guilty for being so hard on myself. Thankyou, you have changed my whole way of thinking
Don’t feel guilty! You have already done so much work on and for yourself which is always something to be proud of. That sudden awareness/awakening can bring new realizations and I used to feel so much guilt and shame but have compassion and gratitude for yourself. Because it can be easy fo slip back into negative self talk as you’re learning to heal.
I have been stuck for 9 years now in derealization, hyper alert, hyperventilation, anxiety, depression, light and sounds sensitivity.. all started with 1 massive (panic?) Attack.. i have been prescribed with a beta blocker a week ago and my symptoms have been lessend by 30 %. I really wonder if all of this comes from the nervous system.
I’m always shaking and trembling. My stomach is always queasy. Constantly dizzy and light headed. And i have shortness of breath. Oh and a lot of muscle tension in my body too
4 years ago started to feel the same symptons. Particularly, being shaky was the most annoying for me. I managed to get rid of all the symptons by doing exercise, diet and meditation, along with a lot of social contact. This year the covid-19 messed up everything and now I feel miserable again. Find love, enjoy what you do and try to stay healthy and I promise you that all of this will go away.
@@Ladyybird21 A technique I found to be effective at cooling the nerves is to taking 30+ quick, deep breaths until you are nice and lightheaded, although there's no real minimum. It's what I discovered from trying 'The Wim Hof Method' and usually use it before bed as that's when I'm most jittery.
You have a motherly soothing voice and aura. Don't recall any other person better suited to psychological counseling. Wish you a happy fulfilling life.
I AM SO HAPPY I CLICKED ON THIS VIDEO. as a child- i was always shamed for feeling emotions too strongly. “you’re too sensitive” while i’m trying to communicate my needs or “don’t be so giddy” as i’m literally too joyous for words. i’ve always been shamed for my physical reactions to things. in fact- i’ve been shamed for nearly everything by my mom. but it’s not her fault. it’s definetly not my fault. it’s a cycle of abuse that i’m willing to break- even if that means that my mom will think i’m crazy or that i hate her. i want to love myself, and although i love her- i love her enough to let her go rather than seek revenge. i have support. i have coping mechanisms. i have goals. i want to heal.
Decades of trauma as a child- two autoimmune diseases, asthma, and even had depression as far back as kindergarten. I so wish I had this training when I was younger.
When you can find peace in the middle of all the mess and suffering, you are on your way. In this world there will be suffering. Thankyou for all you do. Praying for you and your family.
,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,Sé de un hombre sue puede traer vuelta a tu ex en 2 días sin demora💝🌹🌹.Me ayudó hace unos días hace un trabajo perfecto, te lo aseguro, vas a testificar 🙏🙏🙏
YES! For once, someone understands me and that talk therapy doesn’t work successfully for everyone, especially trauma survivors. I’m on a beautiful healing journey giving voice to my inner child who had been silenced for 50+ years. There’s no single pathway to recovery. For each person it’s unique. Part of my recovery is standing firm in my healthy boundaries. #MeToo
Dana Arcuri My heart goes out to you. Living in a constant survival mode, my brain doesn't recognize if therapy is retraumatizing or is part of the healing process. It's a relief knowing there are kind souls out there, non-judgemental, understanding, crystal-clear, compassionate-hearted. 🌷
There are many different shapes and sizes therapy can come in, it also heavily depends on your therapist, lord knows I’ve had to search for one I actually had a good connection with. Talk therapy is also generally not advised for PTSD cases, the type of therapy they will actually do is EMDR, which does not involve talking but actually involve reprocessing the experience to take off the emotional load that didn’t get processed when you got traumatized. I’m so glad you’ve found a way of healing that is effective for you! I just want to say to the people that need help, please go get help. There are so many amazing mental health professionals out there who can guide you through processing this awful thing that happened to you. Sending everyone in this comment section so so so much love ❤️ xxx another survivor
Julie Anne Hurst Thank you for sharing encouragement. I’m a big believer that each individual is unique. We respond to trauma differently and there is no “one size fits all” for the recovery process. As for myself, I’ve had awesome results with holistic options. In my memoir, Soul Cry: Releasing & Healing the Wounds of Trauma, I list a wide variety of professional resources for survivors. Ironically, EMDR is one listed in my book. 🦋
Dana Arcuri exactly! Not everything works for the same person and there is no ‘standard’ way to react to trauma! Those situations are so strange and not normal, how can we expect to be one normal way for people to react and one normal way to treat people that works for everyone? I’m so glad the holistic route is working for you! Currently I’m doing yoga to get connected to my feelings, sensations and emotions again because I’m so used to blocking all of that out. It’s a slow process but in the end I’m going to come out of it so much stronger. As a psychology student who went through a lot very traumatic experience I am really interested in it, so next year we start our research for our thesis so I might do mine on a more holistic way to heal from trauma. Are there any things that you found most helpful while healing?
After suffering with complex PTSD severely for the past six years, I found Ilene's book. I actually wept through the entire book because I finally could stop blaming myself (a very high-achieving, goal-getting individual for 35 plus years) for losing my career, relationships, friends, family after nearly two years of debilitating anxiety, depression, suicidal ideations, isolation, inability to focus or make decision and physical shut down.
Not suicidal at least but it’s like sometimes it tries to get in there as if knocking on the door wanting me to think about it yet I just won’t. I am so sorry. I’m here.
I've recently realized the healing power of these gentle somatic movements. Oh my goodness I'm so glad, Praise God! After years of self-help from a terrible abusive and traumatic childhood or lack of one, I thought I was doing pretty good. Then 6 years ago my fiance died suddenly and traumatically in my home. Me and my son tried to save him and it was an ordeal with the paramedics and him lying on my floor for hours. After my adult son started taking prescriptive pills not prescribed to him because of the experience and then proceeded to verbally bash me for a next couple of years for pills. It devastated me along with re-triggering the post-traumatic stress I had worked so hard to overcome and made me a nervous wreck. At one point I could barely move off my chair for almost a year along with truly wanting to no longer live for like two. Never experienced depression like this before. Luckily I'm not in that spot anymore but this time around Im a lot older and in a lot more pain from three surgeries on my neck with a whole lot less of my life to look forward to. I've been doing a lot of cognitive stuff, positive affirmations, meditation along with seeing a counselor weekly for about 10 months which is helped a whole lot but not fast enough. I don't want to die alone at home. I've never been someone to isolate like this. The pandemic and having no family made it so much worse. I'm so glad I found this and some other videos on this topic because I don't like who I am anymore. As a young adult I had no choice but to work on myself because I couldn't live in my own mind and be happy. I'm in the same position now. But I realize it's my body more than my mind now. I did some exercises last night and weeped out loud like a baby but I wasn't sad my body felt such relief, my chest had been so tight I couldn't hardly breathe for days. I felt instant relief and I could hardly believe it. My chest was so tight to the point I was feeling dizzy when I stood up. That's gone now. Thank you for putting out these videos, not just this one but all of them. They've helped me a lot in the last few years I just never found this one before. They say that teacher appears when the student is ready. They also say that teacher leaves when the student has learned;)
Genuinely hope you are feeling better, and I hope you are proud of yourself for doing the work. That is amazing and you will see changes the more you focus on this, healing, and doing things that make you happy. You got this. May this year bring you many blessings. :)
Hi, would you not recommended talking about the trauma? My therapist encourages me to when I'm ready by saying it will help me and she doesn't want something to happen when I'm older because all the stuff goes unprocessed, so she thinks it's necessary at some point to talk about it and says it will help me heal. I have been so wary it is just going to re-traumatize me or take me back to that place. A few years ago, I was going to therapy for the first time and another therapist asked if I had been through anything traumatic? So, I literally started talking about the traumatic experiences in my life I could remember that were surfacing back into my memory at the time. And after I shared two of them, I remember all I got was an I'm sorry. And I remember after I said it I had this weird feeling. I didn't feel better and I remember thinking that's it? I then had a lot of challenging emotions come up for weeks afterward and I felt like I was very close to having a mental breakdown when my mental state was already severe. I'm not sure if talking about that stuff had anything to do with feeling worse, but I have heard people say if you start spilling all your trauma, some people can end up in the hospital with a mental breakdown because it is so overwhelming and then I've also heard people say talk therapy doesn't help or made them retraumatized. What is the right thing for your mental health? Is there any way to heal or process trauma? I have been so scared to bring anything up after that experience.
When I moved back home after a really stressful time that threw me into a depression, I was surprised at how physically exhausted I was. Once I was in a safe space again, I slept and slept and slept. It felt really good, and I felt how much my body needed rest after my mind had been through trauma. In a way, it was a signal that we were okay again and that I could just relax. All that sleep helped me end the cycle of stress. Now I've got lots more energy again, I'm exercising and socialising, I'm working hard and having fun. But I don't think my mind would have been able to get here if I hadn't given my body time to recover. It made me realise that the trauma wasn't just in my head, it was also stored in my body.
Hi Emma, thank you for explaining this so well. I am stuck in grief over the loss of my 23 year old son from cancer. He was diagnosed at age 18 and passed away 5 years later. I have tried everything and nothing works, but listening to you explain the whole body system.....I will try this. Even in the video I felt it all made sense when talk therapy does not work for some people. Thanks again from Vancouver, Canada
As someone living through PTSD, I always feel that these videos advise us to return our nervous systems to normal without honoring the need for our body to emotionally express things. My PTSD only got better by releasing anger, crying, shouting, etc, first. I lived a good childhood and I'm always a calm person but after trauma, your body stored sadness, anger, general stress that has to be expressed. I think it is helpful to master the parasympathetic nervous system but not until (and this is critically important) AFTER releasing the pent up emotions. If you try to calm your nervous system before letting things out, you train yourself to store things permanently. Its really like "then they swallowed their pain" vibes and its unhealthy.
Thank you for your write up. I recognised and acknowledged my trauma that caused my anxiety in the first place. But I find no outlet to shout, cry or throw a punch.
I "crashed" from stress, depression, exhaustion... and my therapist Rx'd an SSRI. There ya go! 5 years later I am still "crashed". My nervous system feels that it is off line. THANK you for this information and this book. It is resonating with me and I am HOPEFUL for the first time in 5 years. Thank YOU!
i seriously cannot fathom the amount of help this channel can bring to individuals who just need such guidance and understanding of their psychology and physiology to bring the positive changes they themselves have the potential of. i am seriously sad by seeing how a much smaller audience thinks about these problems as actual solvable issues and reach out to free resources like these to learn and live through this crazy chaotic place. I cant thank you enough, Emma. I just found your channel recently and would love to learn from all the information you have already shared! Keep up the good work!
After doing yoga/meditation for a while... I have instinctively been able to allow my body to express what it needs to from a deep place and it’s released ALOT of stored emotions and trauma I had NO idea was there!!! There’s so much we can let go of when we enter deep into our energetic bodies x
@@bubaiislam4292 Yes sure. You need to be still and quiet with yourself. Find a quiet safe space in your home where you can be alone. Be with the stillness of your surroundings for a few minutes. Close your eyes and set an intention to step back and allow your body to do 'what ever it needs to do' in this time. That you will allow your body to express and move in what ever way it needs to. You will observe and be the watcher yet you will not get involved unless you need to. Be still, sit still, and then start to naturally move however your body feels it wants to. You may start to question yourself and wonder if you are dictating those moves. That doesn't matter just observe and let it be. Keep allowing your body to move, flinch, sway, circle, jolt, make sounds, what ever next feels right. It normally starts off very slow and builds. It can take some practice to get in touch with this subtle aspect of yourself. Allow yourself to be as 'weird' as you need to be. Sometimes the weirder the better.. The main part here is you want to communicate to your body that it is ok and allowed to do what it needs to do and that 'you' wont judge it. From my personal experience, when you trust your movements and impulses and allow it to get 'weird', some spontaneous bursts of crying and emotion seem to come from 'nowhere' and almost explode out of you. This is what happens to me sometimes. It's very much a practice where you need to get familiar with your body and your own quiet. You can play around with it in your own time. Trust your body knows best and you KNOW you can always step in and stop it if it ever gets too much for you. You are always in control and able to step in. :) x
I've severe chronic fatigue Syndrome. I've also experienced deep trauma, multiple times.. all this can cause Chronic fatigue. Along with other numerous factors.. Placing the body into a healing state and into the parasympathetic nervous system. Makes perfect sense. This video was so helpful.
It’s amazing and fascinating! I started this journey at 35/36 now 40 I was blind to myself- after doing tonnes of work and unraveling I had the awareness but now had to embody everything! This was and remains the hardest part as I am now going against the ingrained record the familiar! It’s so uncomfortable- but so worth it! Yoga, yoga and yoga! It gets you into your body, your breathing and helps you to become a witness and practice detachment! It’s practice- there is so much resistance but it’s exciting! Change is possible ❤️ Sending so much love to you all! Get to know you, how you feel, your emotions and the way in which your body responds- we are not our trauma! Let’s put these heavy bags down 😍😘
This video was spot on for me, after leaving an abusive relationship with my kids, I feel physically tense, sore and generally not that well. My body is definitely trying to tell me something, I've just not been listening! We need to take it slow, be kind to ourselves and not expect a miracle once we have been through traumatic experiences. thank you!
This video came at the perfect time. Currently I'm in trauma therapy and EMDR for my PTSD. My EMDR is stuck cause of my body. So now I've been focusing on my nervous system and calming my body down. I've been in survival mode for 3 years now....this vid fits with everything I've been doing. I'm even gonna send this to my counselor and see if this book is good for me...which I'm pretty sure it is. EMDR is great and even talk therapy has helped me. But it all comes down to the body and that connection you have with it. Thank you for this video. It came on my feed at the perfect time.
In Paraguay, South America, my therapist told me that curing anxiety is really simple because it is not an illness, that I just needed to take my anxiety off my mind and throw it into the garbage, then tickle myself, and pray to Jesus. 👀 So, if you complain that therapists don't take this approach in your country, imagine how it is in third-world countries like mine. Thanks to the internet, I can access this valuable information. Thank you so much for sharing.
Helpful video. I dislike when this world doesn’t want us to feel emotions and to “get over it” and it’s no wonder we suppress them. It’s good to let it out and express it in a healthy way. My body still trembles sometimes but I try not to suppress it and instead let it be.
There comes a point in Life where you have to come to the understanding that suffering is a part of Life and we must find peace inside ourselves that everyone at some point in Life will deal with some sort of what is called 'trauma experience' which in spiritual scriptions is described as suffering. The western part of the world uses a lot of labels which actually keeps people stuck in a victim mindset which keeps the body in resistance; it´s the resistance of acceptance of Life which creates anxiety. So it is important to use these type of information as tools for therapy growth and healing but to detach however from the labels used for trauma or else you will be constantly dependent through Life when another suffering experience occurs. Life goes through changes and we can grow from these patterns by creating new ones but what is sure is no one leaves this Life without experiencing suffering. Once you look at Life from a bigger picture by accepting changes in Life and that the suffering passes by as much as joy passes by...you will create peace in your state of mind. This is a great therapy tool explained for healing from old patterns and break from the victim mindset.
A big part of my anxiety inflammation is my flight or fight and my unwillingness to let go! Meditation is my key to fulfillment,peace and joy! Thank you 🙏
I am 'Kathy'. Thanks to discovering this type of therapy, I understand why I have chronic exhaustion & knowing it was linked to severe mental illness, but not sure where to start & It got so bad I had to quit a job I loved to focus on my health for several months. Also, talk therapy set me backwards, so Yoga, diet change and putting my health as #1 has changed the way I sense my body. I am grateful for Educators like you, I'm sharing these with everyone 💖
I found this very beneficial. The biggest thing that I use to rid me of anxiety instantly, is giving my trauma, my past, my present, my problems and anything making me panic, to God. Pray for healing. Pray for peace and to bring joy back in your life.
“ Traditional Western psychology has failed many people” A truer statement has not been uttered! Read books by Gabor Mate he has done some excellent work regarding trauma and body.
Brilliant! My mother sent me Mate's Hungry Ghost book and Johann Hari's Chasing the Scream,. I also got Bessel Van der Kolk's The Body Keeps Score.There are also the Zaharis that do eastern psychotherapy in the UK (or did( They wrote a book about this.
I've been suffering from anxiety for the past 8 years and have been doing loads of work to try and keep it maintanable and it's been really hard at times. Since I found your channel about a week ago I feel like I've progressed and learned so much! From the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU!💛💛💛
i have suffered severe anxiety state and depression since childhood im now 59. This is the first time i have ever really understood whats going on in my body, so thankyou. i found your talk relaxing, unrushed and reassuring. I will watch more of your videos. im in UK, and this country is quite unknowledgeable about problems with your "nerves". i am in pain every day and night with fibromyalgia and arthritis and i suffer with electric shock pains throughout my body, all the doctors have done is xray me, give me meds for depression and anxiety and offered me gabapentin for nerve pain...im not satisfied and am looking into ways of helping myself. This video has kick started me thankyou
This is literally everything I’ve experienced, down to the stomach issues- as a kid, I thought stomach pains were normal! I took a few years away from everything (it was not easy) to “rebuild” and focus on self-love. It’s helped so much! ☺️🧡 I’ve been looking for a comprehensive book or video for years now. Thank you for this!! 🙏🏽
God can heal. YHWH Rapha. God healed me a bunch through His Comforter and crying out pain. If i drink lots of water and stretch my body convulses because ive had lots of trauma happen. It calms me down but I have witnessed God heal people and have experienced deliverance and miracles. ua-cam.com/video/2mgUPt2KI08/v-deo.html
This is very true. Traditional therapy just keeps that negative vibration going. Retraining your body to Distinguish between excitement in danger have to help me. When a good sensation occurs inside of me I say to myself this is a good sensation. This is a positive sensation. This is a pleasurable sensation. When negative sensations or anxiety comes up in me, I allow it. I don’t fight it allow myself to feel it but I don’t attach a story to it. I just observe it and allow it. I also meditate daily. Focusing on regulating my breathing. Emptying my mind. I find it resets everything.
"I feel it but I don't attach a story to it" - that's the whole secret right there. 6 months ago I just started feeling every sensation in my body in as unattached of a way as possible, and it changed my singing entirely (I had no idea how clenched I'd been my entire life).
I can completely relate to this. I went through some very traumatic experiences and the physiological response is the hardest to address and correct. You could give your mind tools and exercises to attempt to intervene with traumatic experiences but the physiological response is way different. My body literally felt like I had just come back from war. It's so horrible. Working with the nervous system is key.
I'm in love lol you are a light in a black tunnel. My therapists and psychiatrist told me that panic, anxiety, and depression were diseases that could only be managed. That I will most likely be depressed, and anxious the rest of my life. Strange how you get three diseases at once all of the sudden. Lol I was an addict for years and was healed through AA. And found a life that was better than I had ever experienced. There is recovery in this. And thank you for reminding me.
I was listening to you tonight while I was walking. It’s a beautiful nigh, full moon. I am so sad. It’s okay, I will feel better. It was so nice to feel the breeze, and my body. I stopped and close my eyes. I have faith that I will be better. I want to be happy, I do. Thanks so much for this. God bless you!
This is EXACTLY what I need... my trauma is suck in my body. All of this made complete sense to me. I’ve been through so much trauma and I suppressed emotions. Yes I had anxiety and depression because I didn’t know what was wrong with me. But I surpassed that... sometimes body gets stressed out with symptoms when I’m not anxious it just happens or triggers/thoughts. I need to learn how to bring my body back to calm. I just get so frustrated because I want it to just get better. Such a helpful video! 💜
Yep.. That's me. I'm that woman. I hope i found the right dr. But I've been getting myself out of survival mode, on my own. It's so hard to do this on your own while still having to survive.
It certainly is. May I recommend a book? "Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving" by Pete Walker. It is the next best thing to having a friend with you who understands.
Keele Hudson You're not alone dear kind strong soul, I'm doing this on my own as well... Grateful I've found this channel and human beings to connect 🙏
Keelee, Time to develop your mental muscles. Meditation is the permanent way to a relaxed and stress free life because it reprogrames the mind. Enter "Alternate nostril breathing meditation videos" on Google search and do the simple meditation for 10 to 15 minutes if possible twice a day--early morning before 6.am is a magical time when you may feel a divine presence around you. . Also read the benefits of alternate nostril breathing meditation. It can also be done sitting on a chair. Try to be still and avoid moving too much. Best wishes. Do meditation daily to enjoy a relaxed life. Best wishes--Shyaaam Sir,--Life Coach. God has given us life to be happy.
Hi Emma, i just want to say Thank You to you ❤ a year ago i was in a horrible place mentally and spiritually and i remember how your videos were a great source of support for me Through therapy and medication im in a better place now but i like to watch your videos to remember what i learned a year ago For the ones who are struggling right now, don’t lose hope, keep on helping yourself, you are going to be better after the storm is gone ❤ we are all together in this
Great topic…many people thankfully never experience serious trauma. But if you do you realize the human nervous system is really NOT prepared for how crushing it truly is. SOS….
Positive thinking is really positive feeling... peace, love, trust, humility are more calming feelings... Joy, enthusiasm, strength, beyond limits are more exciting feelings. Thanks, great video.
It’s good to hear a therapist talk about this. I did therapy for 10 years without learning about the Somatic side of healing. Could have healed so much faster if more therapists knew about it. 😢 If you haven’t already, check out “The Body Keeps the Score.”
Thank you for saying FREEZE regarding fight & flight, no one ever acknowledges that part of it. Through any of my research freeze just seems irrelevant. THANKS FOR THE BOOK SHARE!!! EXCITED TO CHECK IT OUT!!
This was the most helpful video ever. I’m stuck n survival mode and chronic fight/flight stress and it’s SO exhausting. You helped me putting into word, the things I struggie with daily. Thank you! ❤️
Thank You for this concise and annointed video!! This reminded me of all the mental tools and focus concepts to help establish regulation and hear the birds singing again, for lack of better words.. You are such a blessing and helping many!!
Shed a tear at the end!!! Was gently GROUNDED only to hear the most comforting words I’ve heard in such a long time. Thank you for sharing, we have never met but you have helped me so much since I’ve discovered your channel! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I really enjoy your calm, encouraging advice. I love how you present anxiety and depression as challenges that can be overcome. Then offer the steps on how to manage and lessen anxiety and sadness. I really appreciate you and Therapy in a Nutshell. Thanks for your willingness to help all people and for making the world a better place by doing so. God bless you and prayers for you and your beautiful family!🙏💙🙏
One thing we must always remember is that healing takes time Never let anyone say to you that you can be healed in a day or two Our body is a gift of nature and it is alright if our body takes time to heal Always remember that words make a difference Saying a few good and encouraging words to anyone who is suffering makes a lot of difference Remember that mother nature will heal you All you have to do is to have some patience!
Quite helpful . In the moments of grief & sorrow, this video has come out as best possible medicine ! Reducing the fight/ flight responce (sympathetic nervous system) & activating rest & digest responce i.e. "parasympathetic nervous " system seems to be the key. Thanks again for providing valuable information when it was badly needed !!
After a breakup where someone played with my emotions over and over I had a nervous breakdown around age 20 literally the past 13 years have felt robbed from me because I am not the person I was..I hate GAD with PTSD..I found your channel and hope I can finally make some changes and get my life back.
Havik. I’m so sorry. This sounds like possible narcissistic abuse. Have you heard of that or looked into it? People can become frozen in time until they address this specific type of abuse. I have had a few breakdowns in my life. I’m currently recovering again from another breakdown. It is not easy. I feel sick from it and can’t explain to others what’s really going on. This video does help. In the past I had narcissistic abuse and the biggest thing that helped me heal was yoga, learning what a narcissist does, staying no contact, learning self love/self care and boundaries. I fell away for 8 months and since then things spiralled, circumstances happened causing a PTSD nervous breakdown so here I am again. There is help and hope for you. You do not have to remain in this state ok? I hope you find the answers. Don’t stop looking till you find peace and find your power again. I gave my power away to an abuser incapable of love. So..it all starts with self love. You are loveable and worthy. ❤️
Thank you! I’m being trained in trauma coaching components and this is right on the money. I’m reminded of when I sat with an experience and the ulcer I had went away without any medication or intervention other than my processing the event. Your insight and exercise is helping so many!
WOW!! This is what i needed to hear... I started out crying and rocking back and forth and by the end of this video I was calmer and could finally take a deep breath!! I have been through 2 very traumatic relationships... I do ok if I just go to work and then hide in my house on my days off. I know there is more to life so maybe little by little I can heal and get stronger and do more in life. I pray for peace and healing over all of us.
So very helpful. I had never heard of Somatic Experiencing before. All that you say about the body, fear, nervous system is exactly what I have been experiencing for 2 years. It all makes perfect sense now. Thank you so much, at least I know where to start now.
I've watched several videos of yours and just stopped in to say thank you for what you're doing. I appreciate your work and your kindness in doing this.
The timing of the video is scarily amazing. Recently I’ve been tuning into my emotions and body language to figure out what’s going on. Thinking to figure out what’s wrong wasn’t helping and stressed me out more. This video reinforces exactly what I’ve been working they lately. Thank you for the upload 🙏🏽
Some of us PTs work with patients who experienced trauma. I am a pelvic floor PT. We are versed in the central nervous system and address sensitization as well. The combination of physical and cognitive therapy should be standard for all who experience trauma.
I've been reading about somatic experiencing for some time now but this was the most useful explanation to date and made complete sense to me. Thank you, Emma.
This makes sense to me. Thank you so much. Someone explaining how it works gives me more understanding of how the body-mind-soul complex interacts. All we need to know and what doctors are not telling. They don't take time for that worthy talks.
This was most insightful. Everytime I would start a new beginning or a new job, I was blocked energetically by 3-4 people so they could have control over me. I will listen again to the tape and buy the book.
My first time to listen,i know i will find the much needed help from your videos,i've been to hell and back. Greetings and happiness to whoever passes here.Much love💕💕.
So beautifully explained, thank you! Healing is possible! I know, because I'm living it! I suffered for many years, just as the woman in the example....through much prayer and perseverance the Lord showed me (through different sources) that often when we don't receive the comfort and safety that we need as a child, our bodies dont learn to self-regulate...over time, by sitting in the Lord Jesus' comforting and loving presence on a regular basis (often daily), I've been able to heal...(when addressing painful memories, it is suggested you get help from a great therapist).....I once suffered from much anxiety, but now its rare!! The safety I need, I've found in Him!!
I know exactly what you mean I did that through listening to scripture and hymns but now im worried that ive gone too far to be fixed because i backslid and feel that Gods just left me to figure it out on my own. And more traumas have happened since.
@@lionofjudahlambofgod9132 Jesus taught us the heart of the Father, that He is ALWAYS merciful, He is ALWAYS loving if we return to Him and repent...He is the Father of the Prodigal Son (read Luke 15:11-32)...He is waiting for you to return to Him, to receive His love and mercy, like Jesus said 70 times 7 times (He always forgives)! The mercy of God is more vast than the ocean! Never doubt that! He is waiting to welcome you back with loving arms and ready to help you on your journey to further healing! (If you are Catholic, the grace you receive in confession heals too). I will pray for you!
Tara Arpaia Walsh: I think in Al-Anon, they call this over-managing. Or as Dr C. Cantofer wrote 'Depression: the Curse of the Strong' it's living in that 'survival mode' for so long (being strong) it is as if you are running a marathon with a broken leg.
This was very helpful. I will read the bookmark therapist often asks where I feel am emotion in my body. She has told me several ways to get emotions regulated, just as you did. I only understood in the past few months this concept and what she is teaching me. Thank you SO MUCH for creating these videos! Extremely practical!!
This was awesome and very eye opening. When you asked about the muscles being tight - I let out little whimper, and then I cried. I have no idea what that was about - but I may need to do more of it. Thank you so much.
Tight muscles are so debilitating aren't they? I have literally spent hundreds and hundreds of pounds getting massages and seeing chiropractors but it just doesn't go away. My nervous system has been on high alert for years and years. I am exhausted 😥😥😥
Boy am I glad I discovered your channel. You have such a soothing presence and you offer so much valuable information that I am just beginning to sort through. Thank you for doing what you do.
Litew 8, Time to develop your mental muscles. Meditation is the permanent way to a relaxed and stress free life because it reprogrames the mind. Enter "Alternate nostril breathing meditation videos" on Google search and do the simple meditation for 10 to 15 minutes if possible twice a day--early morning before 6.am is a magical time when you may feel a divine presence around you. . Also read the benefits of alternate nostril breathing meditation. It can also be done sitting on a chair. Try to be still and avoid moving too much. Best wishes. Do meditation daily to enjoy a relaxed life. Best wishes--Shyaaam Sir,--Life Coach. God has given us life to be happy.
Thank you so much. I sent this to my psychologist. It does not make sense to me to NOT talk about this, yet I haven't found a psychologist yet who adequetly adresses this and teaches me ways to regulate and listen to my nervous system.
yep. most psychologists simply aren't trained in it. But there's good research, if he wants to see the research tell him to read Bessel Van Der Kolk's "The body keeps the score. Or search for a therapist who does somatic experiencing
@@TherapyinaNutshell thanks for the tip! I was wondering, since I'm following a course on polyvagal theory and it sounds exactly the same to me... do you know if somatic experiencing is somehow based on Stephen Porges' polyvagal theory?
She hit the nail in the head at 9:40. Psychologists pretty much just want to hand you a prescription and send you on merry way. They would rather diagnose and let a pill “treat” your problems. I’ve witnessed a family member’s life being destroyed over the decades by powerful prescription meds, and he still struggles with the same core problems regardless of what meds he is on. This is the kind of “alternate” therapy needed to help people work through their traumas and emotional illnesses.
So on point!! As someone who has been healing complex PTSD-- polyvagal THEORY and Innerstanding the somatic aspects, and micro-expressions (especially neutral faces) -- ref: Dr. Pete Walker & emotions Revealed by Paul Ekman & the Emotion CODE by Dr Bradley NELSON
I have all but given up on professionals to help me through what has plagued me most of my life. Now, for the first time... this makes sense. When a behavior therapist asked me (related to my developed & debilitating OCD) to try exposure theapy... she suggested wearing mix matched socks! When she questioned why this therapy wouldn't work for me, I simply told her- "In doing so, would create so much anxiety.... I just wouldn't do it". Needless to say, I was demeaned "uncooperative to receive therapy in order to help myself get better", -Olmsted County Social Services in Collaboration with Mayo Clinic on providing Mental Health Services. It was the furthest thing from the truth!
Oh wow, I just found you tonight! I have lived with severe chronic pain for 19 years, stemming from an ectopic pregnancy that ruptured. Since my emergency surgery, I have had countless other surgeries in the name of combating the pain. I have also gone thru endless healing modalities of all species. What you said in your video makes a lot of sense. I will surely subscribe. Thank you so much! 🙏❤️
I'm so glad watched this video because i been struggling with healing from the trauma i been going through Ptsd,anxiety,depression and not know how to heal is a struggle enough. I woke up to my wife motionless and i remember hearing that last gurgle of her last breath (the death Rattle) and the emts after 40 min of trying to revive her saying she's gone. i have not been the same since. She passed away Feb 5th 2022 2 days before my 44th Bithday.
Absolutely love how you explain this! It’s much easier for us Psych students and for you experts but i want to share this video with close friends so they can understand what I usually try to explain myself. I hope it helps them. I lost my husband in death 4 yrs ago and having gone through it by using my own psychology work is what motivates me to become a Psychotherapist 🙏🏼💜🦋
Emma, I've been watching your videos for a while now and I love them. I truly need them in my life, especially right now. Going through some hard times. My nervous system needs repair, I'm so glad you made this video :) I think you're wonderful. Lovely thoughts for everyone out there going through a hard time. I'm told it ends.
Thank you for this. It also popped into my video feed. I was abandoned and left with a relative who abused me daily between age 1-6. I finally went to live with my mother who soon began started dating, then married, a man who tried to rape me at gunpoint when I was 13. I left home. Years later, during my marriage, a religious teacher raped me. My husband, a psychiatrist, did nothing. I felt that I deserved to be treated this way. Eventually my husband divorced me, took my two girls away from me and left me homeless. I am homeless to this day and living in a hotel. I am trying to find my center and my worth. I am sad all the time and don't sleep well. How I've survived this thus far, I do not know. I know that I have to find a way out of this situation.
i dont know why you make these videos. but i am so grateful. thank you to help so many people around the world..... i hope you know what impact you are having on people who cannot afford or access mental health care
Wow, I am living Kathy’s life and have been for the past 6 years of not longer from childhood trauma and toxic relationships in adulthood. And while I’ve value my therapist because I trust him and he is trauma informed and we do have weekly talk sessions I think he has guided me finally or we have just come to a place where I am not re-traumatizing myself and we’re working towards solutions but very honestly I do have borderline personality disorder as well and it’s a very tough exhausting emotionally taxing life to live and I really do think it takes a team and several different approaches to help borderline personality disorder individuals self regulate I’m so interested to learn more about you what you do this has been eye-opening and I’m very glad I found you
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"Your nervous system does not function through thoughts, it functions through feelings" so profound
Complete game changer for me.
Exactly, we are often told that our feelings follow our thoughts thus we should change our thinking but that's nlt true, at least not fully true.
Feelings are a natural reaction to events, impulses from outside.
To get better, lighter thoughts, our feelings like pain, need to be exoressed, acknowledged / validated, then healed.
@@peaceofmindofpeace1650 I completely agree with you. Thoughts rationalize I'll feelings and keep you stuck in uncomfortable situations.
This was such a great statement - it definitely spoke to me as well!
@Jabs05 lucky you...got it figured out hey!
My jaw is on the floor. I learned more in 12 minutes than I have the past 10 years from doctors. This all makes so much sense now. I want to heal. My stress levels are so high and my health is deteriorating. Fibro, chronic fatigue, anxiety, depression, ADHD, CPTSD, stomach issues ... as I age, I develop more problems. I have to mourn my entire 30s. This is giving me hope. Thank you so much!!!!!
Use your senses to ground yourself from spinning out. Ive started to do it, and writing 3 things I've done or are happy for, for as many evenings as I can.
Edit: i hope you're feeling better, sending love and good vibes your way 🤍
I have similar conditions. If you havent already Irene Lyon has a good free course on her website that helped me as well as Emma's processing emotions course.
I'm 59 and have been through so much trauma, I'm lucky to still be alive and yes this video, HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD 🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️
Me as well.. CFS.. long story but I was so stressed. Now they say vagus nerve will heal.
Definitely same here!
I remember having some minor surgery years ago and at that point I had never done any kind of drug at all. I didn't even drink small amounts of coffee or alcohol. They hit me with an intravenous dose of shrooms and I felt so good, so positive, and so thoughtful that I felt like I could've talked Hitler out of a wagging war.
Thats awesome, I'm glad you got a meaningful experience and I hope your as happy with the new you as you sound.
These are great healing compounds! When used in proper context.
I've had my fair share of pure magic mushroom and I can say it's definitely a great psychedelic tool.
Y'all all talk about the benefits but you don't say where one can grab from...
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Emdr is a very good tool in my experience, to treat anxiety and process stuck emotions. It really helped me and releived me from an overstressed nervous system.. what also really helped was, walking in nature, magnesium supplements, meditation, yoga, writing, healthy foods (fish/vegetables/muts/seeds/fruits/chicken/beans/avocado/dark chocolat), 8 hours sleep a day/structure. Someone to talk to. Praying. Writing down 3 things your grateful for, every day🌻wishing You welll if you’re going trough anxiety, and/or depression🙏🏻Keep up the faith.
Appreciate your comments here. I too have integrated a lot of what you’ve listed. A good daily sleep pattern, forest bathing, friends, great food, a good sense of purpose or hobby and regular exercise are habits that heal my trauma. 🙏🏼😊
I am slowly learning how to heal my body's nervous system from trauma with yoga and the difference is incredible. I was constantly living in a state of fear and anxiety, any noise, any sudden movement, any strange situation, I would notice it , my heart would start beating so fast, I was diagnosed with IBS (didn't actually have it but was just my flight response to need the toilet), I was paranoid, obsessive thoughts and I never actually truly knew what rest and relaxation felt like. I started to become suicidal and got admitted to a hospital , I ended up staying there for a very long time. After being out for a few years and doing better in myself I started to do a yoga challenge for 30 days and im here nearly three months since doing yoga everyday and the difference is insane. Sometimes you dont realise how bad the state you are living in is as this just becomes your everyday reality - its not until you enter a different mind state that you come out of the state you have been living in and yoga did that for me. I look back at only a few months ago and feel such sadness how I had lived my life like that for so long , my body constantly in stress and such tension, I feel really lucky I didnt actually get super chronically ill. we really can heal ourselves through the body.
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an you recommend the video you watched? i also have ibs :) thanks!
@@myronbagan1001 Any yoga video helps. I've been following this playlist from YWA
ua-cam.com/play/PLui6Eyny-UzwDdFPVSeYN3aTG_B1qtHtz.html
Hi! Do you have any yoga video suggestions? Or what yoga you do that has helped you so much? Thank you!!!
@@SDivine1111 hey :) I watch boho beautiful channel - I find them the best because I think the constant flow movement and strength positions really help me to get out of my mind and into my body as there’s not much time to think. I would recommend yoga with Adrienne too, because she reminds you to be mindful while moving. Yoga is not an exercise, but a meditative movement. Also consistency is key. I used to do yoga once a week but it was nothing like doing it on a consistent basis. I would recommend doing it at least x3 or x4 a week. You just have to trust you will feel benefits, after around a month and a bit I felt amazing benefits. Also there’s a channel on UA-cam called “wild Mollie” and she has a 1 year yoga video on there, I’d give that a watch if you need inspiration.
@@heatherflynn thank you so much!! 🧡
Oh my god. Everything makes sense now. Everything makes so much sense, the reason why I experience these panic attacks and constant anxiety is because my body is still stuck in the trauma response. I have had 2 years of crippling anxiety and panic attacks for seemingly no reason but now I understand everything and feel so guilty for being so hard on myself. Thankyou, you have changed my whole way of thinking
i hope this helped you a lot. it did me. medication is sometimes the answer but not just on is own
Don’t feel guilty! You have already done so much work on and for yourself which is always something to be proud of. That sudden awareness/awakening can bring new realizations and I used to feel so much guilt and shame but have compassion and gratitude for yourself. Because it can be easy fo slip back into negative self talk as you’re learning to heal.
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I have been stuck for 9 years now in derealization, hyper alert, hyperventilation, anxiety, depression, light and sounds sensitivity.. all started with 1 massive (panic?) Attack.. i have been prescribed with a beta blocker a week ago and my symptoms have been lessend by 30 %. I really wonder if all of this comes from the nervous system.
Ask Jesus to come into that trauma and let him speak to you. Healing is here.
I just wanna heal so badly at this point. My nervous system is out of control
What are your symptoms
I’m always shaking and trembling. My stomach is always queasy. Constantly dizzy and light headed. And i have shortness of breath. Oh and a lot of muscle tension in my body too
That is anxiety and panic. She has a lot of helpful videos on this.
4 years ago started to feel the same symptons. Particularly, being shaky was the most annoying for me. I managed to get rid of all the symptons by doing exercise, diet and meditation, along with a lot of social contact.
This year the covid-19 messed up everything and now I feel miserable again. Find love, enjoy what you do and try to stay healthy and I promise you that all of this will go away.
@@Ladyybird21 A technique I found to be effective at cooling the nerves is to taking 30+ quick, deep breaths until you are nice and lightheaded, although there's no real minimum. It's what I discovered from trying 'The Wim Hof Method' and usually use it before bed as that's when I'm most jittery.
You have a motherly soothing voice and aura. Don't recall any other person better suited to psychological counseling. Wish you a happy fulfilling life.
Yes she's very calming. ♥️🙂
You are amazingly strong I wish you well
agreed!!
Yes you can tell she really cares!
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I AM SO HAPPY I CLICKED ON THIS VIDEO.
as a child- i was always shamed for feeling emotions too strongly. “you’re too sensitive” while i’m trying to communicate my needs or “don’t be so giddy” as i’m literally too joyous for words. i’ve always been shamed for my physical reactions to things. in fact- i’ve been shamed for nearly everything by my mom. but it’s not her fault. it’s definetly not my fault. it’s a cycle of abuse that i’m willing to break- even if that means that my mom will think i’m crazy or that i hate her. i want to love myself, and although i love her- i love her enough to let her go rather than seek revenge. i have support. i have coping mechanisms. i have goals. i want to heal.
Thank you for writing this
Decades of trauma as a child- two autoimmune diseases, asthma, and even had depression as far back as kindergarten. I so wish I had this training when I was younger.
About half way through I started crying. This is such a breakthrough moment for me... you have no idea.
Same ❤️
OMG! Me too!
This made me happy, hope you're continuing your healing journey!
Check out dr. Kristin Neff, her talks on self empathy and compassion are really good! 🙂
Good luck ❤️
When you can find peace in the middle of all the mess and suffering, you are on your way. In this world there will be suffering. Thankyou for all you do. Praying for you and your family.
Jesus is Lord
Calm in heart and mind, with the Helmet of Salvation 🌻🌿🗻⛅️😇👷✨💫
Be of good cheer Lord Jesus has overcome this world!
,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,Sé de un hombre sue puede traer vuelta a tu ex en 2 días sin demora💝🌹🌹.Me ayudó hace unos días hace un trabajo perfecto, te lo aseguro, vas a testificar 🙏🙏🙏
YES! For once, someone understands me and that talk therapy doesn’t work successfully for everyone, especially trauma survivors. I’m on a beautiful healing journey giving voice to my inner child who had been silenced for 50+ years. There’s no single pathway to recovery. For each person it’s unique. Part of my recovery is standing firm in my healthy boundaries. #MeToo
I hope you heal soon! It is really... Gosh silenced for 50+ years sounds horrible. I'm 26 and that is enough!
Dana Arcuri My heart goes out to you. Living in a constant survival mode, my brain doesn't recognize if therapy is retraumatizing or is part of the healing process. It's a relief knowing there are kind souls out there, non-judgemental, understanding, crystal-clear, compassionate-hearted. 🌷
There are many different shapes and sizes therapy can come in, it also heavily depends on your therapist, lord knows I’ve had to search for one I actually had a good connection with. Talk therapy is also generally not advised for PTSD cases, the type of therapy they will actually do is EMDR, which does not involve talking but actually involve reprocessing the experience to take off the emotional load that didn’t get processed when you got traumatized. I’m so glad you’ve found a way of healing that is effective for you! I just want to say to the people that need help, please go get help. There are so many amazing mental health professionals out there who can guide you through processing this awful thing that happened to you. Sending everyone in this comment section so so so much love ❤️ xxx another survivor
Julie Anne Hurst Thank you for sharing encouragement. I’m a big believer that each individual is unique. We respond to trauma differently and there is no “one size fits all” for the recovery process. As for myself, I’ve had awesome results with holistic options. In my memoir, Soul Cry: Releasing & Healing the Wounds of Trauma, I list a wide variety of professional resources for survivors. Ironically, EMDR is one listed in my book. 🦋
Dana Arcuri exactly! Not everything works for the same person and there is no ‘standard’ way to react to trauma! Those situations are so strange and not normal, how can we expect to be one normal way for people to react and one normal way to treat people that works for everyone? I’m so glad the holistic route is working for you! Currently I’m doing yoga to get connected to my feelings, sensations and emotions again because I’m so used to blocking all of that out. It’s a slow process but in the end I’m going to come out of it so much stronger. As a psychology student who went through a lot very traumatic experience I am really interested in it, so next year we start our research for our thesis so I might do mine on a more holistic way to heal from trauma. Are there any things that you found most helpful while healing?
After suffering with complex PTSD severely for the past six years, I found Ilene's book. I actually wept through the entire book because I finally could stop blaming myself (a very high-achieving, goal-getting individual for 35 plus years) for losing my career, relationships, friends, family after nearly two years of debilitating anxiety, depression, suicidal ideations, isolation, inability to focus or make decision and physical shut down.
Take care. Wishing you best of luck. Life is in front of you and it is yours! Success!
How do you manage at home.
Oh my gosh! I felt like I was reading a comment I wrote! I had to check the name to be sure. Very similar to my life! May we find peace!
Which book? I haven’t listened to the podcast yet.
Reading your post wow. This is me and has been I would say since 2007.
Not suicidal at least but it’s like sometimes it tries to get in there as if knocking on the door wanting me to think about it yet I just won’t.
I am so sorry. I’m here.
I've recently realized the healing power of these gentle somatic movements. Oh my goodness I'm so glad, Praise God! After years of self-help from a terrible abusive and traumatic childhood or lack of one, I thought I was doing pretty good. Then 6 years ago my fiance died suddenly and traumatically in my home. Me and my son tried to save him and it was an ordeal with the paramedics and him lying on my floor for hours. After my adult son started taking prescriptive pills not prescribed to him because of the experience and then proceeded to verbally bash me for a next couple of years for pills. It devastated me along with re-triggering the post-traumatic stress I had worked so hard to overcome and made me a nervous wreck. At one point I could barely move off my chair for almost a year along with truly wanting to no longer live for like two. Never experienced depression like this before. Luckily I'm not in that spot anymore but this time around Im a lot older and in a lot more pain from three surgeries on my neck with a whole lot less of my life to look forward to. I've been doing a lot of cognitive stuff, positive affirmations, meditation along with seeing a counselor weekly for about 10 months which is helped a whole lot but not fast enough. I don't want to die alone at home. I've never been someone to isolate like this. The pandemic and having no family made it so much worse. I'm so glad I found this and some other videos on this topic because I don't like who I am anymore. As a young adult I had no choice but to work on myself because I couldn't live in my own mind and be happy. I'm in the same position now. But I realize it's my body more than my mind now. I did some exercises last night and weeped out loud like a baby but I wasn't sad my body felt such relief, my chest had been so tight I couldn't hardly breathe for days. I felt instant relief and I could hardly believe it. My chest was so tight to the point I was feeling dizzy when I stood up. That's gone now. Thank you for putting out these videos, not just this one but all of them. They've helped me a lot in the last few years I just never found this one before. They say that teacher appears when the student is ready. They also say that teacher leaves when the student has learned;)
Wishing you lots of healthiness and happiness 🍀⚘🌸🌺
You’ve been thru a lot but you’re still trying to better yourself, you’re strong, a survivor. 💪🏼May YAHWEH bless you and bring you healing! ❤️
Genuinely hope you are feeling better, and I hope you are proud of yourself for doing the work. That is amazing and you will see changes the more you focus on this, healing, and doing things that make you happy. You got this. May this year bring you many blessings. :)
You’re amazing and be so proud of yourself x
i don’t know what makes me happy. nothing, really.
Exactly. Talk therapy didn’t help me at all just made me feel worse. Thank you for sharing this info. Much appreciated.
Me too. It’s just reliving it. I’ve had to address trauma very differently and am healing it now.
Hi, so what can I do?
Maybe try writing it out, how you feel or have felt? Share with others what you’re comfortable with, hope it gets easier ❤️
Hi, would you not recommended talking about the trauma? My therapist encourages me to when I'm ready by saying it will help me and she doesn't want something to happen when I'm older because all the stuff goes unprocessed, so she thinks it's necessary at some point to talk about it and says it will help me heal. I have been so wary it is just going to re-traumatize me or take me back to that place. A few years ago, I was going to therapy for the first time and another therapist asked if I had been through anything traumatic? So, I literally started talking about the traumatic experiences in my life I could remember that were surfacing back into my memory at the time. And after I shared two of them, I remember all I got was an I'm sorry. And I remember after I said it I had this weird feeling. I didn't feel better and I remember thinking that's it? I then had a lot of challenging emotions come up for weeks afterward and I felt like I was very close to having a mental breakdown when my mental state was already severe. I'm not sure if talking about that stuff had anything to do with feeling worse, but I have heard people say if you start spilling all your trauma, some people can end up in the hospital with a mental breakdown because it is so overwhelming and then I've also heard people say talk therapy doesn't help or made them retraumatized. What is the right thing for your mental health? Is there any way to heal or process trauma? I have been so scared to bring anything up after that experience.
Read Luisa Hay heal your body and soul! Life changing🤗
I am a trauma therapist as well. I am so happy that you have this channel and you are sharing this important information on a larger scale.
can u pls help me mam/sir
its urgent
When I moved back home after a really stressful time that threw me into a depression, I was surprised at how physically exhausted I was. Once I was in a safe space again, I slept and slept and slept. It felt really good, and I felt how much my body needed rest after my mind had been through trauma. In a way, it was a signal that we were okay again and that I could just relax. All that sleep helped me end the cycle of stress. Now I've got lots more energy again, I'm exercising and socialising, I'm working hard and having fun. But I don't think my mind would have been able to get here if I hadn't given my body time to recover. It made me realise that the trauma wasn't just in my head, it was also stored in my body.
Hi Emma, thank you for explaining this so well. I am stuck in grief over the loss of my 23 year old son from cancer. He was diagnosed at age 18 and passed away 5 years later. I have tried everything and nothing works, but listening to you explain the whole body system.....I will try this. Even in the video I felt it all made sense when talk therapy does not work for some people. Thanks again from Vancouver, Canada
As someone living through PTSD, I always feel that these videos advise us to return our nervous systems to normal without honoring the need for our body to emotionally express things. My PTSD only got better by releasing anger, crying, shouting, etc, first. I lived a good childhood and I'm always a calm person but after trauma, your body stored sadness, anger, general stress that has to be expressed. I think it is helpful to master the parasympathetic nervous system but not until (and this is critically important) AFTER releasing the pent up emotions. If you try to calm your nervous system before letting things out, you train yourself to store things permanently. Its really like "then they swallowed their pain" vibes and its unhealthy.
Thank you for your write up. I recognised and acknowledged my trauma that caused my anxiety in the first place. But I find no outlet to shout, cry or throw a punch.
this comment is so helpful to me and could potentially have led me to transformation in my healing. thank you! ❤️ i agree.
During EMDR, emotions come from 'nowhere'! I literally go from smiling to crying, back to smiling. It feels like such a release!
So grateful for this comment
How did you get rid of your anger..I can't just go around pouncing on ppl
I "crashed" from stress, depression, exhaustion... and my therapist Rx'd an SSRI. There ya go! 5 years later I am still "crashed". My nervous system feels that it is off line. THANK you for this information and this book. It is resonating with me and I am HOPEFUL for the first time in 5 years. Thank YOU!
How r u doing!
I know all that i need to know how to fixed. More exercices maybe. You guys just keep talking about the problem not the cure.
i seriously cannot fathom the amount of help this channel can bring to individuals who just need such guidance and understanding of their psychology and physiology to bring the positive changes they themselves have the potential of.
i am seriously sad by seeing how a much smaller audience thinks about these problems as actual solvable issues and reach out to free resources like these to learn and live through this crazy chaotic place. I cant thank you enough, Emma. I just found your channel recently and would love to learn from all the information you have already shared! Keep up the good work!
After doing yoga/meditation for a while... I have instinctively been able to allow my body to express what it needs to from a deep place and it’s released ALOT of stored emotions and trauma I had NO idea was there!!! There’s so much we can let go of when we enter deep into our energetic bodies x
Yes!
Therapy in a Nutshell ☺️ xx
Can you givee me a bit of idea @rebecca how to release stored emotion from body????...
Amazing❤
@@bubaiislam4292 Yes sure. You need to be still and quiet with yourself. Find a quiet safe space in your home where you can be alone. Be with the stillness of your surroundings for a few minutes. Close your eyes and set an intention to step back and allow your body to do 'what ever it needs to do' in this time. That you will allow your body to express and move in what ever way it needs to. You will observe and be the watcher yet you will not get involved unless you need to. Be still, sit still, and then start to naturally move however your body feels it wants to. You may start to question yourself and wonder if you are dictating those moves. That doesn't matter just observe and let it be. Keep allowing your body to move, flinch, sway, circle, jolt, make sounds, what ever next feels right. It normally starts off very slow and builds. It can take some practice to get in touch with this subtle aspect of yourself. Allow yourself to be as 'weird' as you need to be. Sometimes the weirder the better.. The main part here is you want to communicate to your body that it is ok and allowed to do what it needs to do and that 'you' wont judge it. From my personal experience, when you trust your movements and impulses and allow it to get 'weird', some spontaneous bursts of crying and emotion seem to come from 'nowhere' and almost explode out of you. This is what happens to me sometimes. It's very much a practice where you need to get familiar with your body and your own quiet. You can play around with it in your own time. Trust your body knows best and you KNOW you can always step in and stop it if it ever gets too much for you. You are always in control and able to step in. :) x
I've severe chronic fatigue Syndrome. I've also experienced deep trauma, multiple times.. all this can cause Chronic fatigue. Along with other numerous factors.. Placing the body into a healing state and into the parasympathetic nervous system. Makes perfect sense. This video was so helpful.
It’s amazing and fascinating!
I started this journey at 35/36 now 40 I was blind to myself- after doing tonnes of work and unraveling I had the awareness but now had to embody everything! This was and remains the hardest part as I am now going against the ingrained record the familiar! It’s so uncomfortable- but so worth it!
Yoga, yoga and yoga! It gets you into your body, your breathing and helps you to become a witness and practice detachment! It’s practice- there is so much resistance but it’s exciting! Change is possible ❤️
Sending so much love to you all! Get to know you, how you feel, your emotions and the way in which your body responds- we are not our trauma! Let’s put these heavy bags down 😍😘
What kind of yoga do you practice?
Such an important topic. Can relate. 47yrs old...only now learning to listen to my body. Love your channel...your work is fabulous. Thank You 🙏 💐💕
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This video was spot on for me, after leaving an abusive relationship with my kids, I feel physically tense, sore and generally not that well. My body is definitely trying to tell me something, I've just not been listening! We need to take it slow, be kind to ourselves and not expect a miracle once we have been through traumatic experiences. thank you!
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An abusive relationship w your ... Kids? Huh?
This video came at the perfect time. Currently I'm in trauma therapy and EMDR for my PTSD. My EMDR is stuck cause of my body. So now I've been focusing on my nervous system and calming my body down. I've been in survival mode for 3 years now....this vid fits with everything I've been doing. I'm even gonna send this to my counselor and see if this book is good for me...which I'm pretty sure it is. EMDR is great and even talk therapy has helped me. But it all comes down to the body and that connection you have with it. Thank you for this video. It came on my feed at the perfect time.
In Paraguay, South America, my therapist told me that curing anxiety is really simple because it is not an illness, that I just needed to take my anxiety off my mind and throw it into the garbage, then tickle myself, and pray to Jesus. 👀 So, if you complain that therapists don't take this approach in your country, imagine how it is in third-world countries like mine. Thanks to the internet, I can access this valuable information. Thank you so much for sharing.
Where isn't a. Third world country in 2024...
Thank God we have access to this information without having to pay for costly therapy though
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Helpful video. I dislike when this world doesn’t want us to feel emotions and to “get over it” and it’s no wonder we suppress them. It’s good to let it out and express it in a healthy way. My body still trembles sometimes but I try not to suppress it and instead let it be.
There comes a point in Life where you have to come to the understanding that suffering is a part of Life and we must find peace inside ourselves that everyone at some point in Life will deal with some sort of what is called 'trauma experience' which in spiritual scriptions is described as suffering. The western part of the world uses a lot of labels which actually keeps people stuck in a victim mindset which keeps the body in resistance; it´s the resistance of acceptance of Life which creates anxiety. So it is important to use these type of information as tools for therapy growth and healing but to detach however from the labels used for trauma or else you will be constantly dependent through Life when another suffering experience occurs. Life goes through changes and we can grow from these patterns by creating new ones but what is sure is no one leaves this Life without experiencing suffering. Once you look at Life from a bigger picture by accepting changes in Life and that the suffering passes by as much as joy passes by...you will create peace in your state of mind. This is a great therapy tool explained for healing from old patterns and break from the victim mindset.
Well said 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Thank you for sharing. This is great!
This describes me to a T.
You are an amazing woman. I needed that. Thank you
Your Awesome, thanks for sharing.
A big part of my anxiety inflammation is my flight or fight and my unwillingness to let go! Meditation is my key to fulfillment,peace and joy! Thank you 🙏
I had a traumatic health scare recently which triggered my existing trauma. This video has been invaluable to me thank you!
I am 'Kathy'. Thanks to discovering this type of therapy, I understand why I have chronic exhaustion & knowing it was linked to severe mental illness, but not sure where to start & It got so bad I had to quit a job I loved to focus on my health for several months. Also, talk therapy set me backwards, so Yoga, diet change and putting my health as #1 has changed the way I sense my body. I am grateful for Educators like you, I'm sharing these with everyone 💖
Anai, Kathy, thank you so much
I found this very beneficial. The biggest thing that I use to rid me of anxiety instantly, is giving my trauma, my past, my present, my problems and anything making me panic, to God. Pray for healing. Pray for peace and to bring joy back in your life.
Absolutely true for me as well
So helpful full of useful knowledges. She spoke in a way that was not threatening or aggressive- so calming and helpful. Thank you 🙏🏽
Amen to this.
“ Traditional Western psychology has failed many people” A truer statement has not been uttered! Read books by Gabor Mate he has done some excellent work regarding trauma and body.
True. It’s an excellent statement.
WHen the body says no = mind blown
Brilliant! My mother sent me Mate's Hungry Ghost book and Johann Hari's Chasing the Scream,. I also got Bessel Van der Kolk's The Body Keeps Score.There are also the Zaharis that do eastern psychotherapy in the UK (or did( They wrote a book about this.
Yes. My holistic treatment has helped. Acupuncture helps sooooo much!
It failed me
I've been suffering from anxiety for the past 8 years and have been doing loads of work to try and keep it maintanable and it's been really hard at times. Since I found your channel about a week ago I feel like I've progressed and learned so much! From the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU!💛💛💛
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Try contrast showers they really helped me with my anxiety
i have suffered severe anxiety state and depression since childhood im now 59. This is the first time i have ever really understood whats going on in my body, so thankyou. i found your talk relaxing, unrushed and reassuring. I will watch more of your videos. im in UK, and this country is quite unknowledgeable about problems with your "nerves". i am in pain every day and night with fibromyalgia and arthritis and i suffer with electric shock pains throughout my body, all the doctors have done is xray me, give me meds for depression and anxiety and offered me gabapentin for nerve pain...im not satisfied and am looking into ways of helping myself. This video has kick started me thankyou
This is literally everything I’ve experienced, down to the stomach issues- as a kid, I thought stomach pains were normal! I took a few years away from everything (it was not easy) to “rebuild” and focus on self-love. It’s helped so much! ☺️🧡
I’ve been looking for a comprehensive book or video for years now. Thank you for this!! 🙏🏽
God can heal. YHWH Rapha. God healed me a bunch through His Comforter and crying out pain. If i drink lots of water and stretch my body convulses because ive had lots of trauma happen. It calms me down but I have witnessed God heal people and have experienced deliverance and miracles. ua-cam.com/video/2mgUPt2KI08/v-deo.html
Lion of Judah, Lamb of God Thank you so much for sharing! 🙏🏽
Dani, have you heard of DNRS? look into it if you haven't
@@metalphobos3632 definitely. Thank you!!
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This is very true. Traditional therapy just keeps that negative vibration going. Retraining your body to Distinguish between excitement in danger have to help me. When a good sensation occurs inside of me I say to myself this is a good sensation. This is a positive sensation. This is a pleasurable sensation. When negative sensations or anxiety comes up in me, I allow it. I don’t fight it allow myself to feel it but I don’t attach a story to it. I just observe it and allow it. I also meditate daily. Focusing on regulating my breathing. Emptying my mind. I find it resets everything.
"I feel it but I don't attach a story to it" - that's the whole secret right there. 6 months ago I just started feeling every sensation in my body in as unattached of a way as possible, and it changed my singing entirely (I had no idea how clenched I'd been my entire life).
I can completely relate to this. I went through some very traumatic experiences and the physiological response is the hardest to address and correct. You could give your mind tools and exercises to attempt to intervene with traumatic experiences but the physiological response is way different. My body literally felt like I had just come back from war. It's so horrible. Working with the nervous system is key.
I'm in love lol you are a light in a black tunnel. My therapists and psychiatrist told me that panic, anxiety, and depression were diseases that could only be managed. That I will most likely be depressed, and anxious the rest of my life. Strange how you get three diseases at once all of the sudden. Lol I was an addict for years and was healed through AA. And found a life that was better than I had ever experienced. There is recovery in this. And thank you for reminding me.
I was listening to you tonight while I was walking. It’s a beautiful nigh, full moon. I am so sad. It’s okay, I will feel better. It was so nice to feel the breeze, and my body. I stopped and close my eyes. I have faith that I will be better. I want to be happy, I do. Thanks so much for this. God bless you!
This is EXACTLY what I need... my trauma is suck in my body. All of this made complete sense to me. I’ve been through so much trauma and I suppressed emotions. Yes I had anxiety and depression because I didn’t know what was wrong with me. But I surpassed that... sometimes body gets stressed out with symptoms when I’m not anxious it just happens or triggers/thoughts. I need to learn how to bring my body back to calm. I just get so frustrated because I want it to just get better. Such a helpful video! 💜
Yep.. That's me. I'm that woman. I hope i found the right dr. But I've been getting myself out of survival mode, on my own. It's so hard to do this on your own while still having to survive.
find yourself and love yourself, you're worth it!
It certainly is. May I recommend a book? "Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving" by Pete Walker. It is the next best thing to having a friend with you who understands.
Keele Hudson You're not alone dear kind strong soul, I'm doing this on my own as well... Grateful I've found this channel and human beings to connect 🙏
Keelee, Time to develop your mental muscles. Meditation is the permanent way to a relaxed and stress free life because it reprogrames the mind. Enter "Alternate nostril breathing meditation videos" on Google search and do the simple meditation for 10 to 15 minutes if possible twice a day--early morning before 6.am is a magical time when you may feel a divine presence around you. . Also read the benefits of alternate nostril breathing meditation. It can also be done sitting on a chair. Try to be still and avoid moving too much. Best wishes. Do meditation daily to enjoy a relaxed life. Best wishes--Shyaaam Sir,--Life Coach. God has given us life to be happy.
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Hi Emma, i just want to say Thank You to you ❤ a year ago i was in a horrible place mentally and spiritually and i remember how your videos were a great source of support for me
Through therapy and medication im in a better place now but i like to watch your videos to remember what i learned a year ago
For the ones who are struggling right now, don’t lose hope, keep on helping yourself, you are going to be better after the storm is gone ❤ we are all together in this
Great topic…many people thankfully never experience serious trauma. But if you do you realize the human nervous system is really NOT prepared for how crushing it truly is. SOS….
Positive thinking is really positive feeling... peace, love, trust, humility are more calming feelings... Joy, enthusiasm, strength, beyond limits are more exciting feelings. Thanks, great video.
It’s good to hear a therapist talk about this. I did therapy for 10 years without learning about the Somatic side of healing. Could have healed so much faster if more therapists knew about it. 😢
If you haven’t already, check out “The Body Keeps the Score.”
Thank you for saying FREEZE regarding fight & flight, no one ever acknowledges that part of it. Through any of my research freeze just seems irrelevant. THANKS FOR THE BOOK SHARE!!! EXCITED TO CHECK IT OUT!!
Freeze is the most relevant I believe.
This was the most helpful video ever. I’m stuck n survival mode and chronic fight/flight stress and it’s SO exhausting. You helped me putting into word, the things I struggie with daily. Thank you! ❤️
This makes sense I never feel better by talking about the trauma. I feel like it opens up old wounds I’ve been trying to heal from.
Thank You for this concise and annointed video!! This reminded me of all the mental tools and focus concepts to help establish regulation and hear the birds singing again, for lack of better words.. You are such a blessing and helping many!!
Shed a tear at the end!!! Was gently GROUNDED only to hear the most comforting words I’ve heard in such a long time. Thank you for sharing, we have never met but you have helped me so much since I’ve discovered your channel! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I really enjoy your calm, encouraging advice. I love how you present anxiety and depression as challenges that can be overcome. Then offer the steps on how to manage and lessen anxiety and sadness. I really appreciate you and Therapy in a Nutshell. Thanks for your willingness to help all people and for making the world a better place by doing so. God bless you and prayers for you and your beautiful family!🙏💙🙏
One thing we must always remember is that healing takes time
Never let anyone say to you that you can be healed in a day or two
Our body is a gift of nature and it is alright if our body takes time to heal
Always remember that words make a difference
Saying a few good and encouraging words to anyone who is suffering makes a lot of difference
Remember that mother nature will heal you
All you have to do is to have some patience!
Quite helpful .
In the moments of grief & sorrow, this video has come out as best possible medicine !
Reducing the fight/ flight responce (sympathetic nervous system) & activating rest & digest responce i.e. "parasympathetic nervous " system seems to be the key.
Thanks again for providing valuable information when it was badly needed !!
I love how calm and slow you speak. It's so relaxing. Thank you :)
After a breakup where someone played with my emotions over and over I had a nervous breakdown around age 20 literally the past 13 years have felt robbed from me because I am not the person I was..I hate GAD with PTSD..I found your channel and hope I can finally make some changes and get my life back.
Havik. I’m so sorry. This sounds like possible narcissistic abuse. Have you heard of that or looked into it? People can become frozen in time until they address this specific type of abuse. I have had a few breakdowns in my life. I’m currently recovering again from another breakdown. It is not easy. I feel sick from it and can’t explain to others what’s really going on. This video does help. In the past I had narcissistic abuse and the biggest thing that helped me heal was yoga, learning what a narcissist does, staying no contact, learning self love/self care and boundaries. I fell away for 8 months and since then things spiralled, circumstances happened causing a PTSD nervous breakdown so here I am again. There is help and hope for you. You do not have to remain in this state ok? I hope you find the answers. Don’t stop looking till you find peace and find your power again. I gave my power away to an abuser incapable of love. So..it all starts with self love. You are loveable and worthy. ❤️
Thank you! I’m being trained in trauma coaching components and this is right on the money. I’m reminded of when I sat with an experience and the ulcer I had went away without any medication or intervention other than my processing the event. Your insight and exercise is helping so many!
WOW!! This is what i needed to hear... I started out crying and rocking back and forth and by the end of this video I was calmer and could finally take a deep breath!! I have been through 2 very traumatic relationships... I do ok if I just go to work and then hide in my house on my days off. I know there is more to life so maybe little by little I can heal and get stronger and do more in life. I pray for peace and healing over all of us.
So very helpful. I had never heard of Somatic Experiencing before. All that you say about the body, fear, nervous system is exactly what I have been experiencing for 2 years. It all makes perfect sense now. Thank you so much, at least I know where to start now.
I've watched several videos of yours and just stopped in to say thank you for what you're doing. I appreciate your work and your kindness in doing this.
Love your voice - the pace is great, very authentic
The timing of the video is scarily amazing. Recently I’ve been tuning into my emotions and body language to figure out what’s going on. Thinking to figure out what’s wrong wasn’t helping and stressed me out more. This video reinforces exactly what I’ve been working they lately. Thank you for the upload 🙏🏽
has it helped???
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Some of us PTs work with patients who experienced trauma. I am a pelvic floor PT. We are versed in the central nervous system and address sensitization as well. The combination of physical and cognitive therapy should be standard for all who experience trauma.
My Pelvic therapist was very important in the puzzle...she found things and pointed me towards correct diagnosis
I've been reading about somatic experiencing for some time now but this was the most useful explanation to date and made complete sense to me. Thank you, Emma.
This makes sense to me. Thank you so much. Someone explaining how it works gives me more understanding of how the body-mind-soul complex interacts. All we need to know and what doctors are not telling. They don't take time for that worthy talks.
See also "Heal the Body, Heal the Mind: A Somatic Approach to Moving Beyond Trauma"
by Susanne Babbel (Author), Marti Glenn (Foreword)
You have a very ‘down to earth style’ that’s most appreciated!
This was most insightful. Everytime I would start a new beginning or a new job, I was blocked energetically by 3-4 people so they could have control over me. I will listen again to the tape and buy the book.
My first time to listen,i know i will find the much needed help from your videos,i've been to hell and back.
Greetings and happiness to whoever passes here.Much love💕💕.
Your voice and demeanor is so soothing and calming. Thank you for this. ♥️🙂
So beautifully explained, thank you! Healing is possible! I know, because I'm living it! I suffered for many years, just as the woman in the example....through much prayer and perseverance the Lord showed me (through different sources) that often when we don't receive the comfort and safety that we need as a child, our bodies dont learn to self-regulate...over time, by sitting in the Lord Jesus' comforting and loving presence on a regular basis (often daily), I've been able to heal...(when addressing painful memories, it is suggested you get help from a great therapist).....I once suffered from much anxiety, but now its rare!! The safety I need, I've found in Him!!
I know exactly what you mean
I did that through listening to scripture and hymns but now im worried that ive gone too far to be fixed because i backslid and feel that Gods just left me to figure it out on my own. And more traumas have happened since.
@@lionofjudahlambofgod9132 Jesus taught us the heart of the Father, that He is ALWAYS merciful, He is ALWAYS loving if we return to Him and repent...He is the Father of the Prodigal Son (read Luke 15:11-32)...He is waiting for you to return to Him, to receive His love and mercy, like Jesus said 70 times 7 times (He always forgives)! The mercy of God is more vast than the ocean! Never doubt that! He is waiting to welcome you back with loving arms and ready to help you on your journey to further healing! (If you are Catholic, the grace you receive in confession heals too). I will pray for you!
Thank you for this 💕
Thank you ! You helped me realize I had been living in survival mode for many years.
Tara Arpaia Walsh:
I think in Al-Anon, they call this over-managing. Or as Dr C. Cantofer wrote 'Depression: the Curse of the Strong' it's living in that 'survival mode' for so long (being strong) it is as if you are running a marathon with a broken leg.
This was very helpful. I will read the bookmark therapist often asks where I feel am emotion in my body. She has told me several ways to get emotions regulated, just as you did.
I only understood in the past few months this concept and what she is teaching me.
Thank you SO MUCH for creating these videos! Extremely practical!!
Thanks!
This was awesome and very eye opening. When you asked about the muscles being tight - I let out little whimper, and then I cried. I have no idea what that was about - but I may need to do more of it. Thank you so much.
Tight muscles are so debilitating aren't they? I have literally spent hundreds and hundreds of pounds getting massages and seeing chiropractors but it just doesn't go away. My nervous system has been on high alert for years and years. I am exhausted 😥😥😥
Boy am I glad I discovered your channel. You have such a soothing presence and you offer so much valuable information that I am just beginning to sort through. Thank you for doing what you do.
Litew 8, Time to develop your mental muscles. Meditation is the permanent way to a relaxed and stress free life because it reprogrames the mind. Enter "Alternate nostril breathing meditation videos" on Google search and do the simple meditation for 10 to 15 minutes if possible twice a day--early morning before 6.am is a magical time when you may feel a divine presence around you. . Also read the benefits of alternate nostril breathing meditation. It can also be done sitting on a chair. Try to be still and avoid moving too much. Best wishes. Do meditation daily to enjoy a relaxed life. Best wishes--Shyaaam Sir,--Life Coach. God has given us life to be happy.
litew8,I admire your lovely smile
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Thank you so much. I sent this to my psychologist. It does not make sense to me to NOT talk about this, yet I haven't found a psychologist yet who adequetly adresses this and teaches me ways to regulate and listen to my nervous system.
yep. most psychologists simply aren't trained in it. But there's good research, if he wants to see the research tell him to read Bessel Van Der Kolk's "The body keeps the score. Or search for a therapist who does somatic experiencing
@@TherapyinaNutshell thanks for the tip! I was wondering, since I'm following a course on polyvagal theory and it sounds exactly the same to me... do you know if somatic experiencing is somehow based on Stephen Porges' polyvagal theory?
your calm voice adds to the soothing, thank you for doing what you do.
You should be proud of yourself, what your doing in these videos does more for people than any celebrity
She hit the nail in the head at 9:40. Psychologists pretty much just want to hand you a prescription and send you on merry way. They would rather diagnose and let a pill “treat” your problems. I’ve witnessed a family member’s life being destroyed over the decades by powerful prescription meds, and he still struggles with the same core problems regardless of what meds he is on. This is the kind of “alternate” therapy needed to help people work through their traumas and emotional illnesses.
So on point!! As someone who has been healing complex PTSD-- polyvagal THEORY and Innerstanding the somatic aspects, and micro-expressions (especially neutral faces) -- ref: Dr. Pete Walker & emotions Revealed by Paul Ekman & the Emotion CODE by Dr Bradley NELSON
This was very helpful, thank you so much 🙏🏾 I'm happy your video popped up in my feed 💜
This is almost the exact comment I was going to leave. The universe couldn't have gifted me this at a better time.
@@wyattguttenberg7720 💙💙
I have all but given up on professionals to help me through what has plagued me most of my life. Now, for the first time... this makes sense. When a behavior therapist asked me (related to my developed & debilitating OCD) to try exposure theapy... she suggested wearing mix matched socks! When she questioned why this therapy wouldn't work for me, I simply told her- "In doing so, would create so much anxiety.... I just wouldn't do it". Needless to say, I was demeaned "uncooperative to receive therapy in order to help myself get better", -Olmsted County Social Services in Collaboration with Mayo Clinic on providing Mental Health Services. It was the furthest thing from the truth!
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Oh wow, I just found you tonight! I have lived with severe chronic pain for 19 years, stemming from an ectopic pregnancy that ruptured. Since my emergency surgery, I have had countless other surgeries in the name of combating the pain. I have also gone thru endless healing modalities of all species. What you said in your video makes a lot of sense. I will surely subscribe. Thank you so much! 🙏❤️
I'm so glad watched this video because i been struggling with healing from the trauma i been going through Ptsd,anxiety,depression and not know how to heal is a struggle enough. I woke up to my wife motionless and i remember hearing that last gurgle of her last breath (the death Rattle) and the emts after 40 min of trying to revive her saying she's gone. i have not been the same since. She passed away Feb 5th 2022 2 days before my 44th Bithday.
I'm sorry for your loss. Hugs and love.
Thank you so much
Sorry for your loss.
Thank you so much 🥰💖
Absolutely love how you explain this! It’s much easier for us Psych students and for you experts but i want to share this video with close friends so they can understand what I usually try to explain myself. I hope it helps them. I lost my husband in death 4 yrs ago and having gone through it by using my own psychology work is what motivates me to become a Psychotherapist 🙏🏼💜🦋
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WHAT THE HECK! IVE BEEN WONDERING WHY IM STILL TIRED! After everything I've tried! Thank you for sharing this invaluable info!
Diana Brown,your lovely smile can make the news!
@@lioydwilliams1850 thank you kind soul, all the best to you and yours 🙌
@@dianabrown2258 you are welcome my dear.I am Lioyd from the States.You?
The most useful video I have seen during these 2 years to deal with my ptsd of anxiety
Thank you for providing the resources and making them accessible for FREE❤
Emma, I've been watching your videos for a while now and I love them. I truly need them in my life, especially right now. Going through some hard times. My nervous system needs repair, I'm so glad you made this video :) I think you're wonderful.
Lovely thoughts for everyone out there going through a hard time. I'm told it ends.
Thank you for this. It also popped into my video feed.
I was abandoned and left with a relative who abused me daily between age 1-6. I finally went to live with my mother who soon began started dating, then married, a man who tried to rape me at gunpoint when I was 13. I left home. Years later, during my marriage, a religious teacher raped me. My husband, a psychiatrist, did nothing. I felt that I deserved to be treated this way. Eventually my husband divorced me, took my two girls away from me and left me homeless. I am homeless to this day and living in a hotel. I am trying to find my center and my worth. I am sad all the time and don't sleep well. How I've survived this thus far, I do not know. I know that I have to find a way out of this situation.
I am sorry to hear this 😪 I hope you have found more success and help in this area
@@sarahmc8309 I truly appreciate your kind words. Thank you.
@@jhssmith2004 Thank you. This made me cry. I need your prayers. I don't know how to get out of this.
Hope an angel help you out 🙏
@@CJ-jp3zw Thank you so much. I really need one. ❤️
You have honestly saved me in so many ways! You are a blessing, thank you so much not just for helping but you made me realise so much!
i dont know why you make these videos. but i am so grateful. thank you to help so many people around the world..... i hope you know what impact you are having on people who cannot afford or access mental health care
It’s great to know the physical aspects, it’s not just my mind.
Wow, I am living Kathy’s life and have been for the past 6 years of not longer from childhood trauma and toxic relationships in adulthood. And while I’ve value my therapist because I trust him and he is trauma informed and we do have weekly talk sessions I think he has guided me finally or we have just come to a place where I am not re-traumatizing myself and we’re working towards solutions but very honestly I do have borderline personality disorder as well and it’s a very tough exhausting emotionally taxing life to live and I really do think it takes a team and several different approaches to help borderline personality disorder individuals self regulate I’m so interested to learn more about you what you do this has been eye-opening and I’m very glad I found you
I have had been working on this by my self for years. Thank you, this video is validation to my efforts.