I love how Daz always pre records content before he leaves to make sure we don't go without, I've been a dazzler for years and I love his content and how he takes the time to make sure we get it!
Exactly this! I 100% agree with this because I appreciate how he 1) makes things simpler and layman’s terms… but also 2) not in a patronising manner/ way and the last thing/ point; 3) Makes things soooo much more funnier than they already are and NOT just that!!!… but even when it’s dark (he completely respectful and sympathetic but then after being respectful and understanding/empathetic… he afterwards tries (and successfully) lightens the mood!! And makes us all understand, and also isn’t patronising and also lightens the mood after being respectful and sympathetic!! But anyway, sorry for the long comment but I wholeheartedly agree with your statement!! 🙌☮️😊✔️❤️❤️
As a monogamous person, I dated a polyamorous person, and honestly it just hurt the both of us. I wanted to make it work because I loved her to the ends of the earth, but the thought of her being with someone else ruined my mental health for the next 10 months of our relationship. So no, even if I loved that person, I could never put myself through that tortuous mindset ever again. I learned that there’s so many more people in the world who would be on MY level as well.
I was poly for a long time and then got with my now fiancé - and he was monogamous. Like you said we thought it could work out - but it didn’t. It hurt him a lot so I stopped and now we are monogamous together. Being monogamous I thought would be hard but it wasn’t because I love him and I knew this was the best thing I could have done. To show him that being poly meant very little to me compared to keeping him in my life. It never works when one person is poly and the other isn’t. Now we’ve been together over 3 years. Cheers to you
I don't think any Snapchat relationship (From hearing about them) can work. I think it's basically just a one night stand planner at this point. Love the video, Daz!
I completely agree with you on this! Until they mentioned kids - my thoughts were what they do is their business (until they put it online 🤣) Now they've mentioned kids. Well. Their kids are going to not only be completely ripped apart at school because of them putting all this online, but they are messing their kids up! If this is what they want to do they need to keep it completely private for the sake of their children. Completely unfair on the kids - in my opinion.
I completely agree with this, but I just want to add that the kids will base their future relationships on what the parents are like in theirs. Don't get me wrong, if that's what they wanna do in their relationship then fine, but from the kid's perspective, this is what a relationship is based on/around
exactly - do what you want as long as there's consent and all that, but it gets to a point where it's gone too far once you've posted yourselves all online for everyone to see while you have children. at that point it's pretty messed up since they should just kept it private to prevent their kids from being bullied/harassed by others because of what they're doing.
I used to be in an open relationship. I was fine with it, I even encouraged my partner to go out and be with other girls, I even knew the girls cuz they got together regularly, so we were friends. It's strange, I know but to us it was completely normal. After a while we broke up and now looking back at it, I realized I agreed to the open relationship because I didn't really love him and never planned long term. My current partner is everything to me and I get jealous as well. We're both possessive (in a healthy way) and can't imagine the other sleeping with anyone else.
As you perfectly said, they have chosen to be exposed to criticism and must face the consequences of that action. There is nothing stopping them from doing this but they are going to have to face the repercussions of their abnormal and not widely accepted behavior that will isolate themselves and their children from the norm. The fact that the children are most definitely going to have a harsh school life, (especially once they realize that their parents aren't normal) is, in my opinion, very selfish of the parents since they have made a choice for their kids that will drastically change their early lives for the worse and is where I draw the line!
@@Lovell93gets that kinda of medication procedure is necessary in some cases due to a multiple of medication issues that could occur and also its their right as the carrier to choose what happens to the cells or not.
@@mang0_cat444well it starts with the whole town spreading it around like wild fire. Then the parents tell the kids and then the kids relentlessly bully them. We had a kid in our school who had parents who were swingers. They left school after one year because they literally got bullied every day.
As someone that's been very jealous of their ex boyfriend, and had a crush on a polyamorous guy, it is very difficult. I contemplated trying to go put with him over and over but hearing him talk about his love for his other girlfriend ripped me apart. Imo, there's nothing more fulfilling then a partner that has eyes for you and only you and wouldn't want anyone else but you. I can't imagine dating around other people and having my partner date other people as well. It would just make me life in a constant state of depression "Am I even good enough? Is she better then me? Does he love her more?" It would be way too much. If someone reading this is poly more power to you, I've known poly people and they've all been so lovely. Saying "The more love the better!" And that's a lovely way to be. But I just wouldn't be able to!
They don’t know anything about Love, only lust. Their definition of Love is lust, they got their wires mixed or had parents like these ones (in the video) who set a terrible example of the form ‘love’ takes, and they haven’t learned better yet. They’ll know when like lightning the person that their heart truly loves comes into their life, that they have never loved before. You can _care_ about a person, sincerely, truly, *that is **_not love._* Lust is superficial, temporary, Love is eternal. Most people who settle for less (which, we’re trained to) will never experience true Love, it’s a whole new tier of emotion and depth and authenticity they just don’t care to aspire to. You can move on from a person, or share someone, you only ‘care about’/lust after, but you would _never_ consider sharing the right person for you, you want them whole and to give yourself to them wholly- and there’s the rub: Love can’t exist without mutuality, as in, you’re in love with someone, who is equally in love with you, if they would consider sharing you, you know they don’t love you, and if they want more than you- it’s plain and simple: *you aren’t enough.* And what a disgusting person who would still be with someone they’d made clear wasn’t enough for them, what a greedy, fat piglet of a person- and then of course it becomes obvious that anyone who would accept that form of ‘love’ doesn’t truly love themselves, or they’d demand what they truly deserve: someone whole. Love is an impulse of *devotion,* if there’s ANY wiggle room in that desire to be devoted to that one person, it isn’t Love.
I understand you, bro. It honestly wouldn’t work out and I hope you’re doing alright ❤ One of my exes was exactly like that, only difference is that whenever we were having a conversation he’d always treat me weird. It’s like I wasn’t his boyfriend but someone he could chat with. Thank God I don’t talk to him, but it still feels disgusting.
I personally couldn’t be in an open relationship due to all the reasons you stated as well, and I think the people who successfully have them, all have very clear cut rule stated pretty early in their relationship. I knew of a couple in college that were into ddlg stuff and had a full on packet typed out that listed their roles, rules, what’s okay, what’s not okay, safe words, schedule, etc. Shittt they even signed it, making it a contract. Idk where they are now, but I assume things like this are more common than we think?
It is definitely more common than it seems, it’s just that many people simply keep it to themselves and those it concerns. Me and my partner are in an open relationship and quite frankly the rules are necessary, you need to establish them for the sake of it working at all. Set boundaries early on. It’s all like a guideline. Another thing is the need for a very open communication and fuck ton of already established trust. Otherwise it will just crumble down, turn toxic or both. It really depends on the two individuals, it’s definitely not for just anyone.
Daz was right that it’s never love. Sharing can only happen when it’s lust. When it’s love you’re done, you’re claimed, you’re satisfied, you’re not looking for more, you’re _taken._ And on the other side, if you truly love a person, you would never consider hurting them in that way, you would never ever allow them to even doubt your sincerity and devotion, it wouldn’t even cross your mind if an opportunity came up, because your heart is always holding them even if your arms aren’t. The people who can consider open relationships are either damaged and traumatised by bad experiences they either witnessed in close relationships growing up or that they didn’t protect themselves from by properly vetting those they allowed to interact with them intimately. There is no love in it, just insecurity, just the manifested form of not committing to anything because you’re so afraid something better will come along, or that they’re wrong and you will make the same mistakes you did before, etc. Rather than using/hurting _more_ people, as many as you can get your hands on, just take the time *with you* to heal wholly, and then you’ll be a match to the One, who won’t have to change a thing to be the one you’ve always sought in every other. Every person you feel doesn’t fully embody what you’re looking for- *_you’re right,_* and that doesn’t mean settle for them until you can’t bear it anymore, just so you selfishly don’t have to be alone (and solitude is valuable for becoming an actual Person, not just a mindless sex zombie/dick puppet- it’s like the cocoon for the caterpillar, but most humans never become a butterfly). And everyone is awesome when you get to know them, but if you know they’re not ‘quite right’ for you, you are being unforgivably selfish and conceited to keep them from the person who the sight of them will be like a lightning strike to- their _actual person,_ who has been looking for them. Your preferences and gut feelings and ‘red flags’ are guidance telling you: close but not quite, keep looking. Never settle or ask a person to change because they’re just right for who they’re just right for, and you’re either keeping them from that connection, or postponing it by installing stuff on that person (as they ‘change’ in an attempt to please you/be the person you’re actually looking for) that they’re then going to have to go on a journey to unlearn. Everything happens for a reason, but imagine the beauty of a world where we don’t all rush into the wrong relationships with everyone else’s people, and waste so much time spoiling what should be reserved for only the One who will truly value it, not just discard you whenever someone else willing comes along; it’s actually sad, even if it’s not all at once, so many are technically in all of their past- and current- lovers ‘harems’, and no one deserves that, period. No one deserves more than one person. How greedy is that? (It comes from a conquest-based need for approval and affirmation for their insecure egos- so one just won’t do, they need a constant stream). And *no one* operating out of love, *would ever* make their person feel like just one of many- or let them be. I mean those people, in ‘open relationships’ are just like the people in bdsm or ddlg relationships- they’re just finding people who will tolerate their wounds, so that they don’t have to grow up and take responsibility and heal them. Just a bunch of lust-based people who don’t value themselves enough to demand someone wholly, because they don’t feel worthy of it, interacting with a bunch of people who can’t bring themselves to practice self control or discernment.
@@highfae that's a really ignorant comment lmao, you have no idea how psychology or relationships work whatsoever. the idea that it's only love if it's missionary is laughable and it's pretty obvious what your experience is with relationships
11:03 My boyfriends ex-boss (he got fired) would post ANY and EVERYTHING to FaceBook. "Feeling angry" "Work is SO ASS" "#FUCKTHISJOB" like literally everything under the sun, and we'd just laugh at his account Guy was an awful person though, DUI with his kid in the car, would beat his wife, plus he costed the company $300k in broken parts. Surprised he wasn't fired much earlier
Pretty much agree with everything Daz said. TBH when comes this kind of relationship when children are involved (if the couple doing it have kids like these people) I can't get behind it. Like if a couple that is together (married) and having children at some point both equally wanting to be in this kind of relationship, at least wait until their kid(s) are adults with their own life and a place of their own, etc. I just personally think it isn't healthy for children that is growing up to be exposed to it (by that i mean the kids knowing about it and/or seeing randos come and go at their house since I remember a reddit story where this happened to someone).
Keep your kinks away from kids. I don't care if the kids happen to share your genetics. It's different if it's outside of the house, but bringing random people home for your kids to see? And then you KNOW they are not being courteous and probably p0rno moaning, borderline screaming, the entire time. The problem isn't the open relationship, it's the lack of safety precautions taken for the sake of the children.
Parents don't stop being people once they have kids, and there is no such thing as a perfect and never embarrassing parent. Obviously, get a sitter or daycare or something if they're going to do it in their own home. Of course, set and have healthy boundaries, but they don't need to stop being who they are or doing what they love just because they have kids.
Absolutely insane to me how they would even consider it, despite becoming parents still didn't stop them from doing that.....me personally I would never, happily engaged and expecting and have same view as you Daz, true love is when you love one person and want to be with them forever and one day progress to the next stage in the relationship
For anyone who's curious about the line in open relationships, you can still very well be cheated on despite being in one. Cheating gets it's name from the fact that it is a betrayal of trust. Currently in a happy open relationship with 3 wonderful people. It's about being able to trust and confide in eachother. If any of my partners ran off and just screwed around with someone without saying anything, that would be cheating. But as long as we talk about it, and keep within eachother's comfort zones, no one's love is being cheated.
Same😭. I'm still messed up from my last relationship. I wasn't allowed to get jealous or be mad because he was texting his ex and others behind my back, I'm the bad guy for trying to draw a line :/
No kink shamming but the kids when they're friends and whoever sees it, their whole network, will make their lives extremely hard and be bullied and harassed for the rest of their lives. Keep it in the bedroom, be proud of it but don't subject your kids to being at the brunt of it. Daz, you are a gem. Full of wonderful facets and shine! You are dazzling! Glad to see you happy! 💎✨❤️
I agree with you Daz, throughout the entire video.. you never fail to make me laugh either. That bush joke and saying you could tell that the guy was British at the start, that had me rolling😂😂
Personally for me, I feel like it's weird to let your partner be with all of these different guys while having kids of their own but that's just my opinion. I love your videos daz, keep them up!!
Not to forget the impact the parents have on their kids.. I don't think you should live like this when you have kids.. they will get bullied, they will think it's normal and fine.. it might even be dangerous for them because at a certain age they tend to think "oh my mom's been dating this guy for a while I know him I can let him drive me home"...
@@mangamama9881right. it is very dangerous especially for young kids that don’t understand “stranger danger” yet. i hope they stop with that before they can tell their kids. it could be very damaging for their kids
Even poly relationships experience jealousy. When that is 3xperienced it needs to be addressed in a healthy manner. If this couple is okay with outcry being part of their online presence (and they seem okay with the backlash) then that is up to them to handle. The more confident they are the less it'll bother them and their children and hopefully they're attentive enough parents to support their kids if the kids experience bullying.
I am in an open relationship. We are both super happy and the option to date others and become polyamorous is a very open honest topic. This shit can work with honesty and trust and communication. People make polycules (large polyamorous relationships) work every day. No need to shit on being open. Some people just don't do monogamy. I would rather be in an open relationship than risk my partner cheating on me because they struggle with monogamy. Because I struggle with monogamy but it doesn't mean I love my partner any less. And many polycules have kids and they understand. I was in a triad and we openly kissed and hugged each other around my young siblings and my partners' nieces and nephews. Children are a lot more understanding than people think.
I love the fact that daz can be so hilarious but still appreciates the fact that the people that he reacts to are real people and that there could be something deeper going on behind the scenes.
If they didn’t have children it wouldn’t matter they do them. But now it’s going to affect the children and that’s never ok. Personally I’m not for open relationships. Not for me.
When I was in a relationship, the thought of my ex being with someone else was absolutely gut wrenching! I don't know if she ever did cheat on me, now I couldn't give a flying fuck! But she was the love of my life and I wouldn't have wanted to "share" her with anyone. If these 2 do genuinely love each other and are really 100% fine with their arrangement, then that's good for them. Me personally, it's something I wouldn't do.
Thanks for the video. I love how you can make us laugh and say facts at the same time. Could you please look into trying some stray kids music videos too ?
My take is people can do what they want, whatever makes them happy. People will say what they will, and trying to hide stuff like that in private its "worse" when it gets out. Let your freak flag fly and dont hide yourself in the shadows. People will eventually have to accept the truth. People will judge, but i think its easier to face judgment with confidence rather than shame.
I don't like the "my personal pornstar" thing. I like the idea of relationships myself, but I couldn't ever think of my partner as a "personal pornstar" or even a personal cuddly teddy bear or whatever; I think if your view of your relationship can be summed up as some kind of toy you play around with something is wrong about it. Edit: I'm at 12:11 where he's denying she's just a bit of fun, after literally saying "she's my personal pornstar". Porn is, by definition, "just a bit of fun" by virtue of being a form of entertainment media.
2:54. I'm sorry. WHAT- I mean, i know you can get those crazy fans. that's part of the bad side of being an influencer. but that is awful. let man live in peace PU-LEASE. but great content. as usual. been here 2 years or so. love it here.
I think he's slowly becoming one of my favourite people- your opinions, life story, humor and general personality- I can never disagree with this man, love you Daz :)
I agree with you on the fact that when you put something on the internet, you open your self up to negative and positive opinions... However, before I found out I was pregnant this past Saturday, my husband and I were talking about something similar. The thing is, some people have so much love to give, or they get excited over sharing their love as a couple with others and enjoy doing it together. We'd never have one on one with others and it wouldn't be frequent. If we still decide to do it, it wouldn't be until much much later as right now we want to focus on our growing family. Everyone has a right to give their opinion, but they do not have a right to assume things about someone that they aren't living the life of. There are plenty of ways people can express their disagreement without being Asses like some of those comments they were reading was. Cheating is anything that goes against the boundaries of the relationship and for others to say it's not a proper relationship is not only wrong, but can be turned around to them too, regardless of the truth.
Completely agree with this! I'm not poly myself but have friends who are, and to say that it's just "allowed cheating" isn't really fair, because the whole point is to agree on what is and isn't allowed. It's simply not cheating if both parties agree to it.
My best friend has an open marriage with his husband and it works for them both well. They sleep with other people and sometimes include others in their sex. It is not for me but I have seen it work with them and I respect they are able to have a good stable relationship that is open. They do not see sex and love as the same thing and say they are easily able to not link the two together. I respect them and their relationship, for me I am much more like you Daz. I can't separate love and sex in my mind and need to be attached to someone in order to even have sex personally. But each to their own.
"he's cheating with other bricks!" was the most underrated thing you could say. I find it humorous you make fun of people's houses the same way do in America...seriously around the world what's with the random stuff like said brick wall!? lol.
They're likely young millennials, not gen z. Also, yeah your generation has clearly lost it if you're going back to boomer mentality of judging an entire generation based on two people and what they do in the bedroom 😂
i've been watching since i was like 14 he basically bought us up lmfao i think like Daz is one of the very few adults which are sane in this generation lol
I just went through a break up...I had a girlfriend who ghosted me for more than 2 months, but in those 2 months I've seen her instagram stories and how she got in a relationship with a guy....now she finally texted me back, begging me to take her back. I send her all the screenshots I made and told her how long she has been ghosting me and her only answer was that he is gay so she wasn't cheating-
i love that daz either speaks genuine facts and gives out good advice or rants about the color of cereal
Only the important things
Ong
You never know what's gonna come out of Daz's mouth and that's what makes the videos 10x better in my opinion lol
Thats our daz
Daz is the best.
He’s the king of the dazzlers
i feel so so bad for their kids, i cant even imagine my parents being like this, bless their hearts
I they don’t have kids, and if they were to have kids I rly don’t think they would do this
@@slytherincat6687 yes they do, did you watch the video?
@@slytherincat6687 12:59 Explain this then 😂
@@slytherincat6687 why would you even comment if you haven't watched the full video lol
@@slytherincat6687be quiet numpty 😂😂
I love how daz makes a reference to the low disc space towards his phone 😂
Yea lol😂
Timestamp please?
@@donniekachikis3855 around 9:23 :3
Now it’s like you’re a true OG if you remember that reference 😂
😂❤😂
Hearing Daz gush about his fiancé is so adorable ❤
Yea it's the sweetest thing ever he's so wholesome it's so cute🥺❤️🥰
Woman: “A lot of my friends… weren’t shocked”
Daz butting in: “yeah cuz u slept with them” 😂 this made me lol out loud
Ikr lol💀😂
laugh out loud out loud😞😎
I love how Daz always pre records content before he leaves to make sure we don't go without, I've been a dazzler for years and I love his content and how he takes the time to make sure we get it!
Same
Ikr he's the best❤️
Exactly this! I 100% agree with this because I appreciate how he 1) makes things simpler and layman’s terms… but also 2) not in a patronising manner/ way and the last thing/ point;
3) Makes things soooo much more funnier than they already are and NOT just that!!!… but even when it’s dark (he completely respectful and sympathetic but then after being respectful and understanding/empathetic… he afterwards tries (and successfully) lightens the mood!! And makes us all understand, and also isn’t patronising and also lightens the mood after being respectful and sympathetic!!
But anyway, sorry for the long comment but I wholeheartedly agree with your statement!! 🙌☮️😊✔️❤️❤️
“Yeah I definitely know my partner cares about me when the neighbours DOG is in her” 💀💀💀💀💀💀
Ikr Daz is hilarious omg💀💀💀💀
4:01 HIS LAUGH SOUNDS LIKE HES OPENING A WINE BOTTLE IM CRYING 😭😭😭
Oh my god it does!!! The sound of a popping cork!! That’s hilarious!! 😂
As a monogamous person, I dated a polyamorous person, and honestly it just hurt the both of us. I wanted to make it work because I loved her to the ends of the earth, but the thought of her being with someone else ruined my mental health for the next 10 months of our relationship. So no, even if I loved that person, I could never put myself through that tortuous mindset ever again. I learned that there’s so many more people in the world who would be on MY level as well.
I was poly for a long time and then got with my now fiancé - and he was monogamous. Like you said we thought it could work out - but it didn’t. It hurt him a lot so I stopped and now we are monogamous together. Being monogamous I thought would be hard but it wasn’t because I love him and I knew this was the best thing I could have done. To show him that being poly meant very little to me compared to keeping him in my life. It never works when one person is poly and the other isn’t. Now we’ve been together over 3 years. Cheers to you
i definitely think to just have a poly relationship to work both people have to be poly in general. otherwise it'll just turn toxic and unhealthy
i love that he can react, laugh, be funny but also give serious help and advice for people that can really help
Imagine having a GF who sleeps with others to stop cheating, experience of a lifetime
Sounds loyal and reliable
DAMN?
Sounds like sneako's girl
don’t make sense😂😂😂😂
imagine asking for it
As a dazzler I love the fan community daz has. His fans are very mentally stable and seem to have good morals
No fr the most normal fanbase on the entirety of the internet
I’m so glad I’m not the only person who believes this!
even though u can't know that for sure, i love the thought
I can’t profess to be either - just find him funny 😮
not all of us are mentally stable 😭😭😭
I don't think any Snapchat relationship (From hearing about them) can work. I think it's basically just a one night stand planner at this point. Love the video, Daz!
I agree. It's kind of like tinder in my opinion.
@@Shellygrrl2573 Totally.
Real
I've been with my bf for over 4 years and we like snapchat better than messager because we love sending selfies and video calling ❤😊
@@BobaTeaGirl25 That's great!
The old man mocking was absolutely hilarious 😂😂😂😂
I love how Daz randomly rants about cereal in the middle of speaking facts lmao
Yep Daz just being Daz I love it❤️😂🥰
Daz: Happy to go to Europe
Also Daz: Extra happy to leave us with Zoe and Matt having relationship problems for a daz watches
Lol😂
Sounds like true perfect relationship between us dazzlers and daz lol😂
England is European
I completely agree with you on this! Until they mentioned kids - my thoughts were what they do is their business (until they put it online 🤣)
Now they've mentioned kids. Well. Their kids are going to not only be completely ripped apart at school because of them putting all this online, but they are messing their kids up! If this is what they want to do they need to keep it completely private for the sake of their children. Completely unfair on the kids - in my opinion.
I completely agree with this, but I just want to add that the kids will base their future relationships on what the parents are like in theirs. Don't get me wrong, if that's what they wanna do in their relationship then fine, but from the kid's perspective, this is what a relationship is based on/around
@bethbeth88 yep completely agree with you on that!!
Yeah and often the kids that are put online are often bullied 😢
Exactly
exactly - do what you want as long as there's consent and all that, but it gets to a point where it's gone too far once you've posted yourselves all online for everyone to see while you have children. at that point it's pretty messed up since they should just kept it private to prevent their kids from being bullied/harassed by others because of what they're doing.
I used to be in an open relationship. I was fine with it, I even encouraged my partner to go out and be with other girls, I even knew the girls cuz they got together regularly, so we were friends. It's strange, I know but to us it was completely normal. After a while we broke up and now looking back at it, I realized I agreed to the open relationship because I didn't really love him and never planned long term. My current partner is everything to me and I get jealous as well. We're both possessive (in a healthy way) and can't imagine the other sleeping with anyone else.
As you perfectly said, they have chosen to be exposed to criticism and must face the consequences of that action. There is nothing stopping them from doing this but they are going to have to face the repercussions of their abnormal and not widely accepted behavior that will isolate themselves and their children from the norm. The fact that the children are most definitely going to have a harsh school life, (especially once they realize that their parents aren't normal) is, in my opinion, very selfish of the parents since they have made a choice for their kids that will drastically change their early lives for the worse and is where I draw the line!
Hey at least they let their kids live and don't abort them. I'd rather have weirdo parents than be scrambled like an egg in the womb.
@GuitarGuru93 I don't think you would know if you were aborted.
@@Lovell93gets that kinda of medication procedure is necessary in some cases due to a multiple of medication issues that could occur and also its their right as the carrier to choose what happens to the cells or not.
How would school kids know besides maybe stumbling upon this episode?
@@mang0_cat444well it starts with the whole town spreading it around like wild fire. Then the parents tell the kids and then the kids relentlessly bully them. We had a kid in our school who had parents who were swingers. They left school after one year because they literally got bullied every day.
As long as they’re happy, go for it. But as soon as children are involved, you need to shut that shit down immediately.
Thanks to Daz, we all get to watch the documentation of Humanity's fall.
Seriously, the amount of crazy videos Daz has to endure is astounding.
Ikr he's the best❤️
As someone that's been very jealous of their ex boyfriend, and had a crush on a polyamorous guy, it is very difficult. I contemplated trying to go put with him over and over but hearing him talk about his love for his other girlfriend ripped me apart.
Imo, there's nothing more fulfilling then a partner that has eyes for you and only you and wouldn't want anyone else but you. I can't imagine dating around other people and having my partner date other people as well. It would just make me life in a constant state of depression "Am I even good enough? Is she better then me? Does he love her more?" It would be way too much.
If someone reading this is poly more power to you, I've known poly people and they've all been so lovely. Saying "The more love the better!" And that's a lovely way to be. But I just wouldn't be able to!
They don’t know anything about Love, only lust. Their definition of Love is lust, they got their wires mixed or had parents like these ones (in the video) who set a terrible example of the form ‘love’ takes, and they haven’t learned better yet. They’ll know when like lightning the person that their heart truly loves comes into their life, that they have never loved before. You can _care_ about a person, sincerely, truly, *that is **_not love._* Lust is superficial, temporary, Love is eternal. Most people who settle for less (which, we’re trained to) will never experience true Love, it’s a whole new tier of emotion and depth and authenticity they just don’t care to aspire to. You can move on from a person, or share someone, you only ‘care about’/lust after, but you would _never_ consider sharing the right person for you, you want them whole and to give yourself to them wholly- and there’s the rub: Love can’t exist without mutuality, as in, you’re in love with someone, who is equally in love with you, if they would consider sharing you, you know they don’t love you, and if they want more than you- it’s plain and simple: *you aren’t enough.* And what a disgusting person who would still be with someone they’d made clear wasn’t enough for them, what a greedy, fat piglet of a person- and then of course it becomes obvious that anyone who would accept that form of ‘love’ doesn’t truly love themselves, or they’d demand what they truly deserve: someone whole. Love is an impulse of *devotion,* if there’s ANY wiggle room in that desire to be devoted to that one person, it isn’t Love.
I understand you, bro. It honestly wouldn’t work out and I hope you’re doing alright ❤
One of my exes was exactly like that, only difference is that whenever we were having a conversation he’d always treat me weird. It’s like I wasn’t his boyfriend but someone he could chat with. Thank God I don’t talk to him, but it still feels disgusting.
I personally couldn’t be in an open relationship due to all the reasons you stated as well, and I think the people who successfully have them, all have very clear cut rule stated pretty early in their relationship. I knew of a couple in college that were into ddlg stuff and had a full on packet typed out that listed their roles, rules, what’s okay, what’s not okay, safe words, schedule, etc. Shittt they even signed it, making it a contract. Idk where they are now, but I assume things like this are more common than we think?
It is definitely more common than it seems, it’s just that many people simply keep it to themselves and those it concerns.
Me and my partner are in an open relationship and quite frankly the rules are necessary, you need to establish them for the sake of it working at all. Set boundaries early on. It’s all like a guideline. Another thing is the need for a very open communication and fuck ton of already established trust. Otherwise it will just crumble down, turn toxic or both.
It really depends on the two individuals, it’s definitely not for just anyone.
Daz was right that it’s never love. Sharing can only happen when it’s lust. When it’s love you’re done, you’re claimed, you’re satisfied, you’re not looking for more, you’re _taken._
And on the other side, if you truly love a person, you would never consider hurting them in that way, you would never ever allow them to even doubt your sincerity and devotion, it wouldn’t even cross your mind if an opportunity came up, because your heart is always holding them even if your arms aren’t.
The people who can consider open relationships are either damaged and traumatised by bad experiences they either witnessed in close relationships growing up or that they didn’t protect themselves from by properly vetting those they allowed to interact with them intimately. There is no love in it, just insecurity, just the manifested form of not committing to anything because you’re so afraid something better will come along, or that they’re wrong and you will make the same mistakes you did before, etc.
Rather than using/hurting _more_ people, as many as you can get your hands on, just take the time *with you* to heal wholly, and then you’ll be a match to the One, who won’t have to change a thing to be the one you’ve always sought in every other. Every person you feel doesn’t fully embody what you’re looking for- *_you’re right,_* and that doesn’t mean settle for them until you can’t bear it anymore, just so you selfishly don’t have to be alone (and solitude is valuable for becoming an actual Person, not just a mindless sex zombie/dick puppet- it’s like the cocoon for the caterpillar, but most humans never become a butterfly). And everyone is awesome when you get to know them, but if you know they’re not ‘quite right’ for you, you are being unforgivably selfish and conceited to keep them from the person who the sight of them will be like a lightning strike to- their _actual person,_ who has been looking for them. Your preferences and gut feelings and ‘red flags’ are guidance telling you: close but not quite, keep looking. Never settle or ask a person to change because they’re just right for who they’re just right for, and you’re either keeping them from that connection, or postponing it by installing stuff on that person (as they ‘change’ in an attempt to please you/be the person you’re actually looking for) that they’re then going to have to go on a journey to unlearn. Everything happens for a reason, but imagine the beauty of a world where we don’t all rush into the wrong relationships with everyone else’s people, and waste so much time spoiling what should be reserved for only the One who will truly value it, not just discard you whenever someone else willing comes along; it’s actually sad, even if it’s not all at once, so many are technically in all of their past- and current- lovers ‘harems’, and no one deserves that, period. No one deserves more than one person. How greedy is that? (It comes from a conquest-based need for approval and affirmation for their insecure egos- so one just won’t do, they need a constant stream). And *no one* operating out of love, *would ever* make their person feel like just one of many- or let them be.
I mean those people, in ‘open relationships’ are just like the people in bdsm or ddlg relationships- they’re just finding people who will tolerate their wounds, so that they don’t have to grow up and take responsibility and heal them. Just a bunch of lust-based people who don’t value themselves enough to demand someone wholly, because they don’t feel worthy of it, interacting with a bunch of people who can’t bring themselves to practice self control or discernment.
@highfae Yeah we really need to bring kink shaming back. Look how fucked up people are these days.🙄
@@highfae that's a really ignorant comment lmao, you have no idea how psychology or relationships work whatsoever. the idea that it's only love if it's missionary is laughable and it's pretty obvious what your experience is with relationships
@@Lovell93 it's always been 'back', because for some reason people like you want to complain about others' sex lives
i just love that every chance daz gets he talks about his fiance 😂
5:59 DAYUM THE HEIGHT DIFFERENCE
6:20 IM ROLLING ON THE GROUND
11:03
My boyfriends ex-boss (he got fired) would post ANY and EVERYTHING to FaceBook.
"Feeling angry" "Work is SO ASS" "#FUCKTHISJOB" like literally everything under the sun, and we'd just laugh at his account
Guy was an awful person though, DUI with his kid in the car, would beat his wife, plus he costed the company $300k in broken parts. Surprised he wasn't fired much earlier
3:00 look at him dude. He looks empty and unsure of what to do
I always love how honest and unfiltered you are about things like this.
i get so excited seeing a new daz watches it’s like a dad coming back with the milk 🙂
Bruh 😭😭😂
wish i knew what that felt like
So she cheats so she doesn’t cheat
Daz is one of those UA-camrs where you can just escape from reality while watching his videos ❤
I LOVE COMING HOME AND WATCHING DAZ WATCHES ♥️
SAMEE🫶🏼
Same❤️
SAMEEEEE
15:04 the old man "HA!" sent me🤣🤣😭😭😭
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂. Yaaaaasssssss ❤
I think we need a “if they’re happy than they’re happy, whatever” shirt at this point. I feel like you say it every daz watches
4:10 I would ask people on tinder to switch to snapchat but that was because I wanna be able to send memes lmfao
been home sick with a cold and pink eye so this is perfect to brighten my day love you always daz
I'm sorry to hear that I hope you feel better soon get well wish you the best love and hugs❤️
@@tricia9149 thank you so much 💕💕💕
I'm sick too ❤❤ been sick on and off since December 2022 but daz always makes me forgot my worries and makes me laugh
@@-coolnamepending-9100 no prob just get well soon have a lovely day❤️
Feel better and wash your hands regularly, it's catchy.
Thanks for always thinking about us Daz. Have an amazing trip.😊 Stay Dazzeling 🤗
Ikr I love Daz he deserves the best in life❤️🥰😍
You can really tell that Daz has lost a lot of weight. Honestly, it makes me really happy to see that. I hope he’s doing well.
5:29 Universe please allow Daz to be happy he ain’t done nothing wrong 😭
Pretty much agree with everything Daz said. TBH when comes this kind of relationship when children are involved (if the couple doing it have kids like these people) I can't get behind it. Like if a couple that is together (married) and having children at some point both equally wanting to be in this kind of relationship, at least wait until their kid(s) are adults with their own life and a place of their own, etc. I just personally think it isn't healthy for children that is growing up to be exposed to it (by that i mean the kids knowing about it and/or seeing randos come and go at their house since I remember a reddit story where this happened to someone).
Keep your kinks away from kids. I don't care if the kids happen to share your genetics.
It's different if it's outside of the house, but bringing random people home for your kids to see? And then you KNOW they are not being courteous and probably p0rno moaning, borderline screaming, the entire time.
The problem isn't the open relationship, it's the lack of safety precautions taken for the sake of the children.
Parents don't stop being people once they have kids, and there is no such thing as a perfect and never embarrassing parent. Obviously, get a sitter or daycare or something if they're going to do it in their own home. Of course, set and have healthy boundaries, but they don't need to stop being who they are or doing what they love just because they have kids.
@@decay6516 There is absolutely no ‘love’ involved.
@@highfaehow do u know tho?
@highfae I never assumed they loved each other. I said they do what they love. 🤡
I noticed this and Daz said it. "Why is she yellow" Yeah she doesn't look healthy. She's like a live action Simpson character. 4:36
Absolutely insane to me how they would even consider it, despite becoming parents still didn't stop them from doing that.....me personally I would never, happily engaged and expecting and have same view as you Daz, true love is when you love one person and want to be with them forever and one day progress to the next stage in the relationship
I am far too territorial to have an open relationship, I don’t like the thought of having to share someone that I have put so much effort into ✨
I’m one of those affection is my love language people so there’s no way I could be okay with my partner being with other people 😅
Hearing Daz talk about how much he loves his Fiancé makes me so happy
4:20 people don't even say "hi how are you" anymore, it's always " wyll? age? " ( what you look like? )
Claim your “here within an hour” ticket right here🏆
dada
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MEEEE 🎟
Shush
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i am at school and i just ran to the bathroom to sit on the floor and watch ur videos
On the floor? Of the bathroom… 😃
@@death1063 yes lol i seen he posted and i’m just on the floor vibing
@@bellasue1883totally relatable 💀
@@bellasue1883get off that dirty floor
For anyone who's curious about the line in open relationships, you can still very well be cheated on despite being in one. Cheating gets it's name from the fact that it is a betrayal of trust.
Currently in a happy open relationship with 3 wonderful people. It's about being able to trust and confide in eachother. If any of my partners ran off and just screwed around with someone without saying anything, that would be cheating. But as long as we talk about it, and keep within eachother's comfort zones, no one's love is being cheated.
good for you! i'm glad you guys are happy.
daz makes me feel so much better about having jealousy issues within my relationship
Same😭. I'm still messed up from my last relationship. I wasn't allowed to get jealous or be mad because he was texting his ex and others behind my back, I'm the bad guy for trying to draw a line :/
No kink shamming but the kids when they're friends and whoever sees it, their whole network, will make their lives extremely hard and be bullied and harassed for the rest of their lives. Keep it in the bedroom, be proud of it but don't subject your kids to being at the brunt of it.
Daz, you are a gem. Full of wonderful facets and shine! You are dazzling! Glad to see you happy! 💎✨❤️
I love daz!!! He makes my day like 10 times better! I can’t count how many times I’ve fallen off my chair with laughter!!!!💀💀💀
Ikr lol😂💀
Having a crappy week, nothing like a bit of Daz to make it better ❤
Agreed 💯
😂😂😂 at 4:00 Daz sounds like a wine bottle being opened 😂😂😂
I agree with you Daz, throughout the entire video.. you never fail to make me laugh either. That bush joke and saying you could tell that the guy was British at the start, that had me rolling😂😂
Personally for me, I feel like it's weird to let your partner be with all of these different guys while having kids of their own but that's just my opinion. I love your videos daz, keep them up!!
Not to forget the impact the parents have on their kids.. I don't think you should live like this when you have kids.. they will get bullied, they will think it's normal and fine.. it might even be dangerous for them because at a certain age they tend to think "oh my mom's been dating this guy for a while I know him I can let him drive me home"...
@@mangamama9881right. it is very dangerous especially for young kids that don’t understand “stranger danger” yet. i hope they stop with that before they can tell their kids. it could be very damaging for their kids
That 60 year old impression he did 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
9:23 behold the new low disc space
I love how any time someone is introduced. Daz says “HI (insert name here)!!!”
“This is Zoe”
Daz
“HI ZOE!!!”😂😂😂
She would Jump in the pool during Rain to prevent getting wet
I love coming home from school after having a really shitty day and then seeing daz has posted ❤❤❤ love u sm
I love him too. 🩷 I hated school when I used to go but don't worry everything is gonna be fine. Enjoy being a kid cuz one day u will miss it. 💗
Even poly relationships experience jealousy. When that is 3xperienced it needs to be addressed in a healthy manner. If this couple is okay with outcry being part of their online presence (and they seem okay with the backlash) then that is up to them to handle. The more confident they are the less it'll bother them and their children and hopefully they're attentive enough parents to support their kids if the kids experience bullying.
9:28 ifykyk😂
15:12 IM CRYING😭😭😭 DOES THIS ACTUALLY HAPPEN??
“You’re becoming the new low disc space”😭 oh the throwback
Love you daz you helped me through my childhood
Ikr same
Me too❤️
He is helped me too. I'm growing up now well we all are and it's kinda scary 😅.
Daz: Facts
Also Daz: IITTSSSS GREEEENN
Never understood open relationships, the thought of my partner doing that shit feels like a torso sized train ran through my stomach
Thank you Daz for the great content that you have left for all of us 😊
Yea that's why he's my fav UA-camr ever I love him so much❤️
I’ve been watching daz since vine 🤣 he never fails to put a smile on my face thank you daz!! Stay dazzling!!
Yes me too❤️
Ha! ;-)
Always a good day when daz uploads
For real !
I am in an open relationship. We are both super happy and the option to date others and become polyamorous is a very open honest topic. This shit can work with honesty and trust and communication. People make polycules (large polyamorous relationships) work every day. No need to shit on being open. Some people just don't do monogamy. I would rather be in an open relationship than risk my partner cheating on me because they struggle with monogamy. Because I struggle with monogamy but it doesn't mean I love my partner any less. And many polycules have kids and they understand. I was in a triad and we openly kissed and hugged each other around my young siblings and my partners' nieces and nephews. Children are a lot more understanding than people think.
I love the fact that daz can be so hilarious but still appreciates the fact that the people that he reacts to are real people and that there could be something deeper going on behind the scenes.
If they didn’t have children it wouldn’t matter they do them. But now it’s going to affect the children and that’s never ok. Personally I’m not for open relationships. Not for me.
When I was in a relationship, the thought of my ex being with someone else was absolutely gut wrenching! I don't know if she ever did cheat on me, now I couldn't give a flying fuck! But she was the love of my life and I wouldn't have wanted to "share" her with anyone. If these 2 do genuinely love each other and are really 100% fine with their arrangement, then that's good for them. Me personally, it's something I wouldn't do.
2:43 😭😭😂😂
Nearly spat my drink out laughing
Thanks for the video. I love how you can make us laugh and say facts at the same time. Could you please look into trying some stray kids music videos too ?
My take is people can do what they want, whatever makes them happy. People will say what they will, and trying to hide stuff like that in private its "worse" when it gets out. Let your freak flag fly and dont hide yourself in the shadows. People will eventually have to accept the truth. People will judge, but i think its easier to face judgment with confidence rather than shame.
I don't like the "my personal pornstar" thing. I like the idea of relationships myself, but I couldn't ever think of my partner as a "personal pornstar" or even a personal cuddly teddy bear or whatever; I think if your view of your relationship can be summed up as some kind of toy you play around with something is wrong about it.
Edit: I'm at 12:11 where he's denying she's just a bit of fun, after literally saying "she's my personal pornstar". Porn is, by definition, "just a bit of fun" by virtue of being a form of entertainment media.
2:54. I'm sorry. WHAT- I mean, i know you can get those crazy fans. that's part of the bad side of being an influencer.
but that is awful. let man live in peace PU-LEASE.
but great content. as usual. been here 2 years or so. love it here.
The fact that 0:23 reminded me of the john Mullaney quote the "WE don't have time to unpack all of that"
I wish i could have an existential conversation with Daz. He speaks a lot of truth, and I feel like he could help more than he already does.
Daz curing my depression by posting a video is amazing ❤
Ikr❤️
Me too❤️
Daz ily you helped me smile when i thought no one could. Thank you!!
love you dazzzz you get me through my hard days ❤my fav person
Best bit was Daz's 60 yr old guy impression 😂 Ha!
I think he's slowly becoming one of my favourite people- your opinions, life story, humor and general personality- I can never disagree with this man, love you Daz :)
i was dying at 15:12 to 15:22 😂😂😂
I agree with you on the fact that when you put something on the internet, you open your self up to negative and positive opinions... However, before I found out I was pregnant this past Saturday, my husband and I were talking about something similar. The thing is, some people have so much love to give, or they get excited over sharing their love as a couple with others and enjoy doing it together. We'd never have one on one with others and it wouldn't be frequent. If we still decide to do it, it wouldn't be until much much later as right now we want to focus on our growing family. Everyone has a right to give their opinion, but they do not have a right to assume things about someone that they aren't living the life of. There are plenty of ways people can express their disagreement without being Asses like some of those comments they were reading was. Cheating is anything that goes against the boundaries of the relationship and for others to say it's not a proper relationship is not only wrong, but can be turned around to them too, regardless of the truth.
Completely agree with this!
I'm not poly myself but have friends who are, and to say that it's just "allowed cheating" isn't really fair, because the whole point is to agree on what is and isn't allowed. It's simply not cheating if both parties agree to it.
My best friend has an open marriage with his husband and it works for them both well. They sleep with other people and sometimes include others in their sex. It is not for me but I have seen it work with them and I respect they are able to have a good stable relationship that is open. They do not see sex and love as the same thing and say they are easily able to not link the two together. I respect them and their relationship, for me I am much more like you Daz. I can't separate love and sex in my mind and need to be attached to someone in order to even have sex personally. But each to their own.
"he's cheating with other bricks!" was the most underrated thing you could say. I find it humorous you make fun of people's houses the same way do in America...seriously around the world what's with the random stuff like said brick wall!? lol.
i love that hes protective of his girlfriend at 0:46
We love you Daz! Thank you for always making us happy with your content.
the fact I relate to daz and I'm 23 is shocking this generation really lost it 😂😂😂
wdym this generation lol? the people in the video are older than you
@@ssnowstarr4985 yeah I know but still I'm in gen z and don't relate to nothing they do at all.
They're likely young millennials, not gen z. Also, yeah your generation has clearly lost it if you're going back to boomer mentality of judging an entire generation based on two people and what they do in the bedroom 😂
@@alice45-fgd-456drt 23 is gen z its 1998 to 2023. I was born 2000
i've been watching since i was like 14 he basically bought us up lmfao i think like Daz is one of the very few adults which are sane in this generation lol
Pizza and Daz. Best night ever! Safe travels Daz! ❤❤
9:28 oh my god what a throwback! 😂
I haven't watched Daz since around his vine days - and I'm so happy he's still got the same sense of humor
Am I the only one that misses Linda?
I know we need her back
I just went through a break up...I had a girlfriend who ghosted me for more than 2 months, but in those 2 months I've seen her instagram stories and how she got in a relationship with a guy....now she finally texted me back, begging me to take her back. I send her all the screenshots I made and told her how long she has been ghosting me and her only answer was that he is gay so she wasn't cheating-
Block her m8
That's the best excuse she could come up with? Lmao what
@@declaracionespolemicas her other excuse was that she sometimes ghosted the guy too, so it's fine
I explained to her how relationships work
@@ronanfoote1376 I just want a proper explanation and no weird excuses
You deserve way better mate. Take time for yourself but know you're not alone