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I’m an INFJ, I’m 22 and I’ve never been in a relationship bc I want it to be right and I am not willing to settle. I imagine when I do meet someone I’m interested in that I will want to take it really slow 😅
To answer Boom's question about why INFJs move so slowly with relationships...and this is just my perspective: Relationships have an emotional and uncontrollable element. Making quick decisions on projects and location changes are easy because they are controllable. Getting closer to an individual who's behavior you cannot control (even if you can somewhat predict), making yourself more vulnerable, giving in to your own roiling emotions, can be a lot to process! I've always seen the glacier slow approach as a process of..well, processing. There were several moments along the way that INFJ Boo was sure I would leave him alone and, yet, I would stay. I think I'm the longest healthy "relationship" he's ever had. He's slowly solidifying on the possibility of an idea that maybe he'd want to be an official Boo. I see it in small ways, but I dare not comment on it. I will say you INFJs get "weird" when we notice stuff about you that you thought you were being secretive about. I notice A LOT but I don't mention any of it because I don't want to stall this already extraordinarily long process. LOL I tell you, you INFJs are not for the faint-hearted!
Ironic, isn't it? How dealing with glacially-slow people like us can seem like a roller coaster ride 🎢 Hold on to your lunchpails kiddies! This trip's gonna get wild!! ✈ If at first you don't succed, skydiving's not for you...... 😲 ~~An ECCENTRIC INFJ. 🌌🔭😝
@@scottmcintosh4397 Scottie! You guys are a bit tough on the non-INFJ psyche. I guess whatever doesn’t kill you...qualifies you for a chance to date an INFJ! 🤣🤣🤣
@@jamilaperry4205 👀 "When you stare into the Abyss, the Abyss stares back at you." 🌀 --Friederich Nietzsche 📜✒ Must be some kind of "adrenaline junkie"-type thing I can't quite associate with INFJ's 😕 😏 Now THAT'S weird! 😝 🌌🔭
@@scottmcintosh4397 What’s weird? Liking you folks? No way! You are perfect! The puzzle that will take a lifetime to even put together halfway. This works for me because I’m an INTJ and a Gemini. So either I solve quickly and toss it away or lose interest because I can’t sit still and toss it away. INFJs give me something to stare at (are they real?) and something to solve(wow there are a lot of puzzle pieces here) 🤣🤣🤣
I honestly feel like a healthier INFJ does take a while to get into a long term or serious relationship for good reason. As an INFJ, I feel that when I choose to love and be loved by someone that I put my heart and soul into that relationship, even more so than with my beloved projects. To extend that kind of energy and to be that vulnerable is not easy. When it goes wrong it is devastating 💔. Since most other types do not quite go to this deep level it can be frustrating or hard for them to understand why we do this. It is as much for their benefit as it is ours in that we do not want to begin something so precious as a relationship if we cannot have some solid assurance that it will stand the test of time and make it through the ups and downs of life. As a young, people pleasing INFJ, I got into relationships that I didn't even want to be in because I didn't want to "hurt" the other person or make them feel unwanted. I actually ended up ending the relationships rather quickly because I realized that it was worse for them for me to try to feel something I didn't than to just be honest in the beginning and not say yes for their ego or desire towards me. I was not healthy then, and have learned from mistakes that sometimes a swift no is better than a forced or reluctant yes.
Oh my god, yes!!! You are so right. It's imperative to go into a relationship for the right reason, rather than to be that other person's saviour. And yes, it's hard when it goes wrong. :(
I was good friends with my boyfriend for three years before I realized I liked him. When I told him, he was totally shocked as he had already moved in his head, thinking I would never, EVER, like him back... 😂 😭
How odd, I met this person just 2 months ago, I just see him once a week, and he hasn't really shown or said he likes me, but we talk as friends, now, I sense his core, that solidified my feelings. I think as INFJ I can see people more clearly this way, without external forces, when given time to observe and interact, now I feel like I want to be with him for life, if he would ask me that. Just waiting for him to feel the same way, too. Shortcut!
Omg finally someone getting my perspective of relationships!! It takes me a looooong time to get the feeling of "love" in relationship, and I hate the other person being too possessive or clingy to me, because I want the feeling of being "single" even when I'm in a relationship, means I need my alone time badly.
Much love from Germany :) Thank you for our amazing chat and your guidance. Everything is going to be alright, we just need to follow love and let our hearts speak - it's the purest and most beautiful language. We are growing together each and every day. It is amazing and aweinspiring to know that someone like you exists. Thank you for helping me see my path more clearly! I'll keep you posted! Intuition has no urgency! :) From the bottom of my heart: Thank you - Moritz
I just felt I was some of this person who asked these questions 😅! Thanks for sharing all of these precious contents, I really appreciate. Have a good day!
i think i do this cuz i want to see a level of loyalty beforehand. and i may, deep down yonder, believe that if someone truly wants or sees something about me that they like then they couldn't possibly have wandering eyes or interests in anyone else after realizing they're interested in me. therefore, if i wait the "infatuation" phase out and they are still there, my layered wall will begin to peel away for that person. its a daunting process, but, being INFJ its the only way that will work for me and my difficult weeding out regiment. and now, im accepting that my standards are way too much for most, in fact, if someone does make it this far it would probably be too deep for them to receive the love i have to offer, which is the scary part. anyone wanna join my lonely hearts club ?? hahahahah !!!
I haven't seriously dated someone yet. Many of my friends would call me M.I.A. This is usually because I'm too busy with other things in mind. There's projects that I'd love to attend to and fulfill them. I've dated casually a few times and I wasn't a fan of it. But yes, I need time to open up to you if you want me to be comfortable. There's things that I take into consideration such as the foundation of the relationship and how I can do my part to bring that particular relationship to a new level and etc. But give me time first and foremost. Forcing me to be myself is a no-go. Past experiences can also be a variable into this as well. If I truly loved the person, I would always ask myself so many questions, for instance, "What if I move too fast or move too slow? What does the person see that I don't see that she likes? How can I complement her life w/o complicating it? Will I even be judged for being my goofy self? Can I go full 100% being my true self around her? How serious does this person take this relationship and just how much further will we elevate it together?"....and the saga of 10,000 questions will keep on continuing 😒. Also be a bit welcoming, ensuring that it's okay for me to be my true self...but you must be real as well; authenticity is a must. Don't be forceful, restraining, controlling, obsess- just don't be a yandere 😂🤣! There, I said it 😆! I don't want to feel like a Shark in a goldfish's bowl; give me time to unravel and bloom, not that sharks do (just go along with it 😅🙏), but you get my point. I will give you the same in return. I don't know when I'll be back but you'll know where you stand by....sort of...kinda. It's not easy opening up to others...but I try 😅.
The one who waited for u for 2 yrs, you accepted him, right? But, why now ex lovers? Whats d reason, if you dont mind me asking? Was it him who broke up with you or was it you? Our interest is in ascending motion, gradual, but, love never disappears once we feel it deeply, even if the relationship ends, which can be devastating. Relationship only ends due to life blocks, but I still love my ex lovers. But, we have to understand breaking commitment is not okay. Even being intimate yet not commiting can still cause pain. We should be expressive about our boundaries and stick to our identity, mingle with like minded people, so we don't feel obligated to bend, get into survival mode. We depend, then we don't depend. I think we should learn more about interdependence.
Yes, I did accept him and we were together for 2 years or so, but I wanted to become a nomad (like I am right now), and he wanted to stay put. So we broke up. We still loved each other, but it didn't work out, unfortunately. :)
Yeah me too. It never goes away once we love someone, too painful but we accept it's not meant to be in reality. Yeah I love my lovers in the past, but our life goal has to be in sync with that person's life goals too ya know. At first we look like we give up on them trying to smoothen out differences, then they give up on us, and we haven't. So, it's just stuck in our memory.
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I’m an INFJ, I’m 22 and I’ve never been in a relationship bc I want it to be right and I am not willing to settle. I imagine when I do meet someone I’m interested in that I will want to take it really slow 😅
Awwww, so sweet. :)
To answer Boom's question about why INFJs move so slowly with relationships...and this is just my perspective: Relationships have an emotional and uncontrollable element. Making quick decisions on projects and location changes are easy because they are controllable. Getting closer to an individual who's behavior you cannot control (even if you can somewhat predict), making yourself more vulnerable, giving in to your own roiling emotions, can be a lot to process! I've always seen the glacier slow approach as a process of..well, processing. There were several moments along the way that INFJ Boo was sure I would leave him alone and, yet, I would stay. I think I'm the longest healthy "relationship" he's ever had. He's slowly solidifying on the possibility of an idea that maybe he'd want to be an official Boo. I see it in small ways, but I dare not comment on it. I will say you INFJs get "weird" when we notice stuff about you that you thought you were being secretive about. I notice A LOT but I don't mention any of it because I don't want to stall this already extraordinarily long process. LOL I tell you, you INFJs are not for the faint-hearted!
Ironic, isn't it? How dealing with glacially-slow people like us can seem like a roller coaster ride 🎢
Hold on to your lunchpails kiddies! This trip's gonna get wild!!
✈ If at first you don't succed, skydiving's not for you...... 😲
~~An ECCENTRIC INFJ.
🌌🔭😝
@@scottmcintosh4397 Scottie! You guys are a bit tough on the non-INFJ psyche. I guess whatever doesn’t kill you...qualifies you for a chance to date an INFJ! 🤣🤣🤣
@@jamilaperry4205 👀 "When you stare into the Abyss, the Abyss stares back at you." 🌀
--Friederich Nietzsche 📜✒
Must be some kind of "adrenaline junkie"-type thing I can't quite associate with INFJ's 😕
😏 Now THAT'S weird! 😝
🌌🔭
@@scottmcintosh4397 What’s weird? Liking you folks? No way! You are perfect! The puzzle that will take a lifetime to even put together halfway. This works for me because I’m an INTJ and a Gemini. So either I solve quickly and toss it away or lose interest because I can’t sit still and toss it away. INFJs give me something to stare at (are they real?) and something to solve(wow there are a lot of puzzle pieces here) 🤣🤣🤣
Loveee you Jamila!! :)
I honestly feel like a healthier INFJ does take a while to get into a long term or serious relationship for good reason. As an INFJ, I feel that when I choose to love and be loved by someone that I put my heart and soul into that relationship, even more so than with my beloved projects.
To extend that kind of energy and to be that vulnerable is not easy. When it goes wrong it is devastating 💔. Since most other types do not quite go to this deep level it can be frustrating or hard for them to understand why we do this. It is as much for their benefit as it is ours in that we do not want to begin something so precious as a relationship if we cannot have some solid assurance that it will stand the test of time and make it through the ups and downs of life.
As a young, people pleasing INFJ, I got into relationships that I didn't even want to be in because I didn't want to "hurt" the other person or make them feel unwanted. I actually ended up ending the relationships rather quickly because I realized that it was worse for them for me to try to feel something I didn't than to just be honest in the beginning and not say yes for their ego or desire towards me.
I was not healthy then, and have learned from mistakes that sometimes a swift no is better than a forced or reluctant yes.
Oh my god, yes!!! You are so right. It's imperative to go into a relationship for the right reason, rather than to be that other person's saviour. And yes, it's hard when it goes wrong. :(
I was wondering this. Thank you.
I was good friends with my boyfriend for three years before I realized I liked him. When I told him, he was totally shocked as he had already moved in his head, thinking I would never, EVER, like him back... 😂 😭
Bahahahaha. So cuteeeee. :)
How odd, I met this person just 2 months ago, I just see him once a week, and he hasn't really shown or said he likes me, but we talk as friends, now, I sense his core, that solidified my feelings.
I think as INFJ I can see people more clearly this way, without external forces, when given time to observe and interact, now I feel like I want to be with him for life, if he would ask me that. Just waiting for him to feel the same way, too. Shortcut!
Awwww, so sweeet!!!
Omg finally someone getting my perspective of relationships!! It takes me a looooong time to get the feeling of "love" in relationship, and I hate the other person being too possessive or clingy to me, because I want the feeling of being "single" even when I'm in a relationship, means I need my alone time badly.
YESSSSSS. :)
Much love from Germany :) Thank you for our amazing chat and your guidance. Everything is going to be alright, we just need to follow love and let our hearts speak - it's the purest and most beautiful language. We are growing together each and every day. It is amazing and aweinspiring to know that someone like you exists. Thank you for helping me see my path more clearly! I'll keep you posted! Intuition has no urgency! :) From the bottom of my heart: Thank you - Moritz
Wow!!! Thank you for this. I really appreciate the kind words. :)
I just felt I was some of this person who asked these questions 😅! Thanks for sharing all of these precious contents, I really appreciate. Have a good day!
You are so welcome! :)
i think i do this cuz i want to see a level of loyalty beforehand. and i may, deep down yonder, believe that if someone truly wants or sees something about me that they like then they couldn't possibly have wandering eyes or interests in anyone else after realizing they're interested in me. therefore, if i wait the "infatuation" phase out and they are still there, my layered wall will begin to peel away for that person. its a daunting process, but, being INFJ its the only way that will work for me and my difficult weeding out regiment. and now, im accepting that my standards are way too much for most, in fact, if someone does make it this far it would probably be too deep for them to receive the love i have to offer, which is the scary part. anyone wanna join my lonely hearts club ?? hahahahah !!!
Hahaha! ME!!! 😋
U are amazing...nothing more to be said. Just thank you from the bottom of my heart.
You are so welcome! :)
I haven't seriously dated someone yet. Many of my friends would call me M.I.A. This is usually because I'm too busy with other things in mind. There's projects that I'd love to attend to and fulfill them. I've dated casually a few times and I wasn't a fan of it. But yes, I need time to open up to you if you want me to be comfortable. There's things that I take into consideration such as the foundation of the relationship and how I can do my part to bring that particular relationship to a new level and etc. But give me time first and foremost. Forcing me to be myself is a no-go. Past experiences can also be a variable into this as well. If I truly loved the person, I would always ask myself so many questions, for instance, "What if I move too fast or move too slow? What does the person see that I don't see that she likes? How can I complement her life w/o complicating it? Will I even be judged for being my goofy self? Can I go full 100% being my true self around her? How serious does this person take this relationship and just how much further will we elevate it together?"....and the saga of 10,000 questions will keep on continuing 😒. Also be a bit welcoming, ensuring that it's okay for me to be my true self...but you must be real as well; authenticity is a must. Don't be forceful, restraining, controlling, obsess- just don't be a yandere 😂🤣! There, I said it 😆! I don't want to feel like a Shark in a goldfish's bowl; give me time to unravel and bloom, not that sharks do (just go along with it 😅🙏), but you get my point. I will give you the same in return. I don't know when I'll be back but you'll know where you stand by....sort of...kinda. It's not easy opening up to others...but I try 😅.
Loveeee the questions you ask. I ask the same ones. :)
You had me at mind palace.
Hehehehe. :)
Thank you so muchh madam
You are most welcome! :)
The one who waited for u for 2 yrs, you accepted him, right? But, why now ex lovers? Whats d reason, if you dont mind me asking? Was it him who broke up with you or was it you? Our interest is in ascending motion, gradual, but, love never disappears once we feel it deeply, even if the relationship ends, which can be devastating. Relationship only ends due to life blocks, but I still love my ex lovers. But, we have to understand breaking commitment is not okay. Even being intimate yet not commiting can still cause pain. We should be expressive about our boundaries and stick to our identity, mingle with like minded people, so we don't feel obligated to bend, get into survival mode. We depend, then we don't depend. I think we should learn more about interdependence.
Yes, I did accept him and we were together for 2 years or so, but I wanted to become a nomad (like I am right now), and he wanted to stay put. So we broke up. We still loved each other, but it didn't work out, unfortunately. :)
I definitely love all my ex-lovers still. :)
Yeah me too. It never goes away once we love someone, too painful but we accept it's not meant to be in reality. Yeah I love my lovers in the past, but our life goal has to be in sync with that person's life goals too ya know. At first we look like we give up on them trying to smoothen out differences, then they give up on us, and we haven't. So, it's just stuck in our memory.
I'd change my moniker to $lowpoke Rodriguez, but it's taken.... 😆
Hehehe. :)
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