God showed me this video. He is so good. My husband is such a good man, and he is a believer and goes to church. But he is lukewarm. I just had a conversation about this with him. This video is right on time.
My husband and I have to argue big time when it comes to volunteering at church. I tell him that as Christians we should maybe be a little bit active in church and not be a spectator only, but we always have big heated arguments when it comes to things as such. When I tell him that I wanna go to Bible studies, he just gets mad that I have to do all these things... I told him it's for my spiritual need, and he says that you can do these things at home. I have NEVER seen him read His Bible (we have been married for 10 years).. not that I'm judging, but just an observation. We don't ever pray together. We never have Bible discussions at home. But he is a baptized believer. He went to Bible school. What do I do? I feel so empty in that area... He's good person overall though. He cooks meals, he does things in the household.
I will be answering this question on the Spiced Wife podcast, episode 210 and it will air on 12/9/24. You can find the audio podcast anywhere podcasts are played, I recommend Spotify.
I completely agree. It becomes difficult when it affects your spiritual journey though. God is ALWAYS first, then the husband. So if your husband gets upset for you reading the Bible and spending time in prayer, I’d argue to really think before you submit in that way to your husband. Pray on it 🙏🏻
Even if He gets upset, you are able to prioritize the proper time to read your Bible. Putting God first is done in how you obey Him in your words, thoughts, actions. Reading your Bible can be done when your husband isn’t around. How you treat your husband is what will win him over. Act like the Bible you read and that will change your husband. Him seeing you read the Bible won’t change him, you acting out the Bible will.
This is situational but in my situation, my husband is home at times I read so if he had an issue, my obedience is to God even before my husband. I do however agree with the comment on how to treat your husband, you still need to be careful when what he’s asking of you goes against God. It’s the same with government, we go by the laws of the one until they conflict with our obedience to God.
@@melody2600 - So pick a different time to read the bible when he is not home. You act like you are purposely trying to find a justified reason to defy your husband and that is certainly not honoring to God. It certainly will not work to win your husband over to the Lord either.
We NEVER obey ANY authority that asks or commands you to sin against God. That would also include someone forbidding you from prayer and reading the word(Think of the stories of Daniel and Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego) But that's the line, it's sin, it's not, "but I feel God is telling me to do x" God will never direct you to disobey your husband. He might tell you what His plans are, so you can pray for them and seek His guidance, but it will never be to disobey him, except for the exception mentioned above. But those are things already in the Bible, there won't be any new world or revelation that He will give you to put you at odds with your husband. That being said, you can make sure you do it at a time that doesn't take away from your time with him. Either before he gets up in the morning, during your lunch, or after he goes to bed. Just seek guidance on how to make it happen.
@@melody2600 LOL just pick a different time to read then. It's almost funny to see how ingrained rebellion is in so many women, but not so funny when they try to "spiritualize" it or blame us God as their scape goat for their rebellion. As JP said, it's EASY to come up with a work around. It might not be as convenient, or what you'd like, but this is where you REALLY get to see how obedient you are to God, because God tells you to obey your husband in ALL things AND of course to read His word and pray. BOTH commands are EQUALLY valid. So now you have to choose, do you serve God, or your own preferences and convenience?
Thank you so much for this message! I personally feel like this was written directly for me and my situation, I realize now I have gone about everything wrong and the results sure show that. Thank you for speaking the Truth and being obedient unto the Lord!
I’ve been patiently working on this for over 7 years. It is hard to be patient, but I think each husband may be different. Mine is wonderful, and doesn’t have anything against me staying my Bible, volunteering, and such. Thank God! I do have to say, if a husband feels neglected because you’re studying and spending time with God, that makes it sound like he’s insecure. I would be more likely to at least try to say “come join me and we can spend time together doing this!” Or even better, ASK your husband when you have a question about God’s word. “Honey, what do you think it means here?” That’ll help him know that you value his leadership and hopefully encourage him to do his own studying. ❤ I have found that when my husband SEES me actively and consistently studying the Bible and letting it change me, HE is more likely to study and talk about God’s word. I would not put off studying the Bible. As a wise girl I know once said when she was looking for a husband, “The right man will find me with Jesus. If he wants to spend time with me, he can join us.” ❤😊
HalleluYAH!! Thank you so much for sharing this great wisdom on how to be a good wife. This is defenetly a wakeup call for me. Time to apply the scriptures.
Thank you for this! I’m going through this right now. Going through this brings so much sorrow to my heart everyday. But I have to please God. Pray for me during this hard season.
She explains in a way that is very easy to understand and an eye opening for me!! God sent this video my way for sure…our faucet just broke this week and we are fighting all week because he does not take initiative to deal with the landlord! thank you it was perfect for me!
Thank you for this really edyfiying and encouraging teaching. Watching this was helpful. I feel that this teaching will help prune me to be a better wife. Praise God!
Did Adam ever assert authority though??? Were saying if Eve would have been submissive then it would have been ok, but what did she have to be submissive to? Adam did not speak up. How can Eve be faulted when Adam did not do his part?
Each person has to take responsibility for themselves. This video is not shift blaming nor encouraging shift blaming. It’s about working on yourself, and improving yourself. Eve should have submitted to the direction of not eating the fruit.
When your husband is extremely passive, you have conversations of suggestions not being dominant…. “I think we should do xyz, what do you think about that? Would you like to pray about it and tell me what you believe God wants for us?”…. Always be in prayer for your husband to grow spiritually and in the process of that happening be submissive to God in what suggestions you can present to your husband.
Heres the thing…I agree with what youre saying. But isnt that the issue in and of itself. If he isnt leading, what am I submitting to? He has no strategy. There is no instruction being given most of the time. So what is there to submit to?
I completely understand what you are saying! In the Wife Revival Program there is a lesson called exactly that, “Submit to what?”…. It’s not as easy to answer that question in a short post… I encourage you to download the Spiced Wife App for the Wife Revival Program, if you desire. But, in the mean time… ask God to show you what you can honor about your husband. Sometimes we have to just step out of Gods way, humble our frustrations and ask God for revelation of who our husband is and what he is assigned to do on this earth. 💜
@@spicedwife thank you for responding. I will definitely check out the wife revival program. At this point it feels like a matter of life and death. Some days I wonder if Ill survive mentally. Im fighting for our daughter. Thanks again for your kind words. I will continue to seek God. Even when it seems that He wont, I know He will come through for us.
I’m actually in a different situation where my wife is actually the lukewarm one in our marriage and it frustrates me cause I really want to spiritually lead but she’s shallow and passive, pray for me
I kinda just saw your video 🙏what do you do when you have a husband that's not safe who is in no way the priest and his heart is just cold towards his family and his more outside Playing soccer and gambling 😢
Read 1 Peter3… love your husband so sweet. Love and respect him even though you feel he does not deserve it. This will change him. Don’t try to tell him what to do or what not to do. Focus on growing closer to Jesus on your own and let your life win your husband over to God without you saying a word 💜🙏🏽
Marriage, Gods way, benefits both the husband and wife. Neither is more blessed than the other. Both are equally blessed because they are thriving in their individual role which brings completeness to the other. Each spouse should have the mindset to serve each other not be focused on being severed. They both want to give and serve each other which in turn causes them both to feel benefited and blessed by each other. It’s a win-win.
God showed me this video. He is so good. My husband is such a good man, and he is a believer and goes to church. But he is lukewarm. I just had a conversation about this with him. This video is right on time.
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Same here. I needed to be reminded that I play a huge part in my husband's spiritual journey by submitting to him
God led me to your channel coz I really needed this 💯
I needed this sister! My marriage needs this. Thank you ma’am. I’m so grateful.
My husband and I have to argue big time when it comes to volunteering at church. I tell him that as Christians we should maybe be a little bit active in church and not be a spectator only, but we always have big heated arguments when it comes to things as such. When I tell him that I wanna go to Bible studies, he just gets mad that I have to do all these things... I told him it's for my spiritual need, and he says that you can do these things at home.
I have NEVER seen him read His Bible (we have been married for 10 years).. not that I'm judging, but just an observation. We don't ever pray together. We never have Bible discussions at home. But he is a baptized believer. He went to Bible school. What do I do? I feel so empty in that area... He's good person overall though. He cooks meals, he does things in the household.
I will be answering this question on the Spiced Wife podcast, episode 210 and it will air on 12/9/24. You can find the audio podcast anywhere podcasts are played, I recommend Spotify.
I completely agree. It becomes difficult when it affects your spiritual journey though. God is ALWAYS first, then the husband. So if your husband gets upset for you reading the Bible and spending time in prayer, I’d argue to really think before you submit in that way to your husband. Pray on it 🙏🏻
Even if He gets upset, you are able to prioritize the proper time to read your Bible. Putting God first is done in how you obey Him in your words, thoughts, actions. Reading your Bible can be done when your husband isn’t around. How you treat your husband is what will win him over. Act like the Bible you read and that will change your husband. Him seeing you read the Bible won’t change him, you acting out the Bible will.
This is situational but in my situation, my husband is home at times I read so if he had an issue, my obedience is to God even before my husband. I do however agree with the comment on how to treat your husband, you still need to be careful when what he’s asking of you goes against God. It’s the same with government, we go by the laws of the one until they conflict with our obedience to God.
@@melody2600 - So pick a different time to read the bible when he is not home. You act like you are purposely trying to find a justified reason to defy your husband and that is certainly not honoring to God. It certainly will not work to win your husband over to the Lord either.
We NEVER obey ANY authority that asks or commands you to sin against God. That would also include someone forbidding you from prayer and reading the word(Think of the stories of Daniel and Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego)
But that's the line, it's sin, it's not, "but I feel God is telling me to do x" God will never direct you to disobey your husband. He might tell you what His plans are, so you can pray for them and seek His guidance, but it will never be to disobey him, except for the exception mentioned above. But those are things already in the Bible, there won't be any new world or revelation that He will give you to put you at odds with your husband.
That being said, you can make sure you do it at a time that doesn't take away from your time with him. Either before he gets up in the morning, during your lunch, or after he goes to bed. Just seek guidance on how to make it happen.
@@melody2600 LOL just pick a different time to read then. It's almost funny to see how ingrained rebellion is in so many women, but not so funny when they try to "spiritualize" it or blame us God as their scape goat for their rebellion.
As JP said, it's EASY to come up with a work around. It might not be as convenient, or what you'd like, but this is where you REALLY get to see how obedient you are to God, because God tells you to obey your husband in ALL things AND of course to read His word and pray. BOTH commands are EQUALLY valid. So now you have to choose, do you serve God, or your own preferences and convenience?
Thank you so much for this message
Thank you so much for this message! I personally feel like this was written directly for me and my situation, I realize now I have gone about everything wrong and the results sure show that. Thank you for speaking the Truth and being obedient unto the Lord!
I’ve been patiently working on this for over 7 years. It is hard to be patient, but I think each husband may be different. Mine is wonderful, and doesn’t have anything against me staying my Bible, volunteering, and such. Thank God!
I do have to say, if a husband feels neglected because you’re studying and spending time with God, that makes it sound like he’s insecure. I would be more likely to at least try to say “come join me and we can spend time together doing this!” Or even better, ASK your husband when you have a question about God’s word. “Honey, what do you think it means here?” That’ll help him know that you value his leadership and hopefully encourage him to do his own studying. ❤
I have found that when my husband SEES me actively and consistently studying the Bible and letting it change me, HE is more likely to study and talk about God’s word. I would not put off studying the Bible. As a wise girl I know once said when she was looking for a husband, “The right man will find me with Jesus. If he wants to spend time with me, he can join us.” ❤😊
Such great input! Thank you for sharing! It’s very true and I agree!
HalleluYAH!!
Thank you so much for sharing this great wisdom on how to be a good wife.
This is defenetly a wakeup call for me. Time to apply the scriptures.
This is soooo good, ty mama!
Thank you for this! I’m going through this right now. Going through this brings so much sorrow to my heart everyday. But I have to please God. Pray for me during this hard season.
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God bless your soul for being obedient and walking in your purpose! You have blessed me with this message and definitely changed my perspective ❤
She explains in a way that is very easy to understand and an eye opening for me!! God sent this video my way for sure…our faucet just broke this week and we are fighting all week because he does not take initiative to deal with the landlord! thank you it was perfect for me!
This is such a God honoring message for the body of Christ. Thank you!
Thank you! Glory to Jesus! 🙌🏽🙏🏽
Thank you for this really edyfiying and encouraging teaching. Watching this was helpful. I feel that this teaching will help prune me to be a better wife. Praise God!
Working on this! I have been delivered recently and my husband doesn’t understand what happened to me. Thanks for this message ❤
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This was super helpful. Thank you
This message is so Very edifying! I’m so happy God led me to this video! May God Bless you 🙏🏾♥️🙏🏾
Did Adam ever assert authority though??? Were saying if Eve would have been submissive then it would have been ok, but what did she have to be submissive to? Adam did not speak up. How can Eve be faulted when Adam did not do his part?
Each person has to take responsibility for themselves. This video is not shift blaming nor encouraging shift blaming. It’s about working on yourself, and improving yourself. Eve should have submitted to the direction of not eating the fruit.
Just what I needed 👏🏼 praying 🤍
Loved this. Thank you for addressing this topic xx
This was really good advice. Thank you for posting!
Thank you for this, I feel God led me to see this video.
I have not found this to be true. Passivity in the extreme, when I submit, things don’t happen and it can even be harmful. What then?
When your husband is extremely passive, you have conversations of suggestions not being dominant…. “I think we should do xyz, what do you think about that? Would you like to pray about it and tell me what you believe God wants for us?”…. Always be in prayer for your husband to grow spiritually and in the process of that happening be submissive to God in what suggestions you can present to your husband.
I have really enjoyed your podcast
Video definitely grab my attention ❤
Glory to God❤
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Excellent!
Thank you so much for this video
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Definitely enlightening.
Heres the thing…I agree with what youre saying. But isnt that the issue in and of itself. If he isnt leading, what am I submitting to? He has no strategy. There is no instruction being given most of the time. So what is there to submit to?
I completely understand what you are saying! In the Wife Revival Program there is a lesson called exactly that, “Submit to what?”…. It’s not as easy to answer that question in a short post… I encourage you to download the Spiced Wife App for the Wife Revival Program, if you desire.
But, in the mean time… ask God to show you what you can honor about your husband. Sometimes we have to just step out of Gods way, humble our frustrations and ask God for revelation of who our husband is and what he is assigned to do on this earth. 💜
@@spicedwife thank you for responding. I will definitely check out the wife revival program. At this point it feels like a matter of life and death. Some days I wonder if Ill survive mentally. Im fighting for our daughter. Thanks again for your kind words. I will continue to seek God. Even when it seems that He wont, I know He will come through for us.
This is a good word. Thank you!
Amen! Thank you, Glory to Jesus! 💜
Thanks , thanks, thanks ! God bless you ❤🙏🏾!
thank you 🙏🏽🙏🏽
I’m actually in a different situation where my wife is actually the lukewarm one in our marriage and it frustrates me cause I really want to spiritually lead but she’s shallow and passive, pray for me
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I kinda just saw your video 🙏what do you do when you have a husband that's not safe who is in no way the priest and his heart is just cold towards his family and his more outside Playing soccer and gambling 😢
Read 1 Peter3… love your husband so sweet. Love and respect him even though you feel he does not deserve it. This will change him. Don’t try to tell him what to do or what not to do. Focus on growing closer to Jesus on your own and let your life win your husband over to God without you saying a word 💜🙏🏽
So how does marriage benefit/bless women? I’m seriously asking?
Marriage, Gods way, benefits both the husband and wife. Neither is more blessed than the other. Both are equally blessed because they are thriving in their individual role which brings completeness to the other. Each spouse should have the mindset to serve each other not be focused on being severed. They both want to give and serve each other which in turn causes them both to feel benefited and blessed by each other. It’s a win-win.