How Do I Know If I'm An Alcoholic? An Alcoholic Shares The Early Warning Signs Of Alcoholism

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  • @sebbenforte
    @sebbenforte 3 місяці тому +55

    The trap alcohol sets for you is that by the time you realize your severe anxiety is a direct result of your alcohol abuse, that anxiety is nearly too powerful to cope with-- drinking is the only thing that quiets it. That's how I lost years to alcoholism: treating my anxiety with an anxiety-inducing agent. If you drink when you wake up to treat the anxiety caused by your hangover, seek help sooner rather than later.

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому +8

      Absolutely right. That's a message that needs to be amplified, because that's right at the heart of alcohol use disorder.

    • @vickibrougham956
      @vickibrougham956 3 місяці тому +3

      So true!

  • @cjh0751
    @cjh0751 3 місяці тому +17

    This video made total sense to me. I started drinking around the same age as you. Back then it was "Normal" to drink with your mates get home, pretend to your parents that you were ok, go to bed and wake up the next morning with a massive hangover the following day. There was always alcohol around. I used to go and stay with my grandparents at the weekend and they always had a decantor of whiskey and sherry in the kitchen. I always used to have a few gulps when i was a teenager. When i got to 26 i was drinking alone and i can relate to the walking and drinking part of your story. I used to love walking around the city with a bottle in my rucksack and going to see things like the museum or just take it all in while drinking. Getting well into my 30's thats when i started hiding bottles of spirits around the house. Into my late 40's thats when the withdrawals started really taking there toll on my body. I would have to take days off work just to recover. Now in my 50's i realise that i am not a responsible drinker and that i can't kid my self anymore. I stopped on the 29th April and so far its going OK. I do not have a choice, i had to stop the withdrawals were getting too bad (Theres a good reason your channel is called Bat Country after all). If i dont keep off the spirits i'm going to end up dead or in prison. Thanks for your videos they really help to keep my resolve and understand where i've been and the kind of person i want to be in the future. They remind me of why i'm sober and want to stay that way. Thanks

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому +4

      Hey CJ, good to see you again and congrats on putting the bottle down. Stick with it.
      And yeah, I'm both pleased and saddened that you get the Bat Country reference. That level of withdrawal takes a huge toll, we incur a debt every time we go through it until it leaves us with nothing.
      Keep us updated mate, best of luck

  • @ralphhowton3286
    @ralphhowton3286 3 місяці тому +18

    16th May marks 1 and a half years sober. Not always happy but always grateful 🙏

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому +1

      Ah congratulations Ralph! Here's to many more.

    • @danneal6510
      @danneal6510 3 місяці тому

      congrats that is fantastic

  • @jamesgorden5072
    @jamesgorden5072 3 місяці тому +20

    "More alcohol cause more problems, and more problems cause more alcohol."
    Hit the nail on the head there, thanks for the video!

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому +4

      Thanks for the comment James. And yeah, once we're aware of cycles like that, we can get a handle on them.

  • @user-bv5po1hk3l
    @user-bv5po1hk3l 3 місяці тому +21

    The first hair of the dog and how well it works is the singular moment when all alcoholics went over the edge. They just didn't know it at that point.

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому +6

      Yeah, absolutely. At some point, I suppose it's nothing BUT hair of the dog.

    • @R01120
      @R01120 23 дні тому +2

      Truth.

  • @remolacha1178
    @remolacha1178 3 місяці тому +10

    I started to drink 7 years ago to fight my social anxiety, at age 23.
    At first I only drank before major social events or before a date and all that. So I could be calmer and more confident.
    Or normal, so I thought.
    Then it slowly started to be before work or to be with friends. I needed the booze to feel like a normal person.
    If sober, the anxiety was now worse than ever.
    From that it progressed to everyday, regardless of anything social related.
    That's the point where I realized I had been an alcoholic all along these past years.
    For a long time I said to myself I only drank because of social anxiety, negating I had a problem with the alcohol itself.
    But everyday is a social day if you are an FA, so I had the excuse to drink everyday.
    It was when I quit my job that I was confronted with reality.
    Even staying at home doing nothing I still felt the need to heavily drink all day long.
    Right now I'm trying to quit because I think I finally kindled myself.
    Still mild, I believe, but regardless of that, this shit scares me too much and I better quit before I get in serious trouble.
    I fucked up most of my 20s and I don't want to waste my 30s.
    But I can't deny I'm hoping to unkindle myself somehow and come back to drinking in my late 30s.
    I hope to get over it, but for now that's how I cope with all of this sober mess.
    Thank you for your videos man, I'm watching all of them.

    • @j2626-u2g
      @j2626-u2g 3 місяці тому +1

      Yes quit quit quit -- never go back -- believe me it only gets worse -- I'm 50 - so believe me it's never ok -- you'll have a beautiful future if you Quit

  • @maryelizabethbutler4306
    @maryelizabethbutler4306 3 місяці тому +11

    💯 percent right on
    I too at my teen years added all my parents alcohol to one jar and drank it down. I had to in order to go out and be social. Looking back I remember my first drink and thinking, "this stuff is magic" until later in life when the toxic shit turned on me. So many black outs. My life is so much better sober.

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому +2

      Hey Mary! I want to talk about that bit in particular, the drinking to be sociable, in the future, so stay tuned because that's a big one. Thanks for the comment, I appreciate it a lot!

  • @paulh2126
    @paulh2126 3 місяці тому +7

    In the recovery journey, I've found that you become much more aware of yourself and your environment - you become a more stable and knowledgeable person. It's also good to hear from others in recovery because too often it's a treated as a taboo topic that brings unnecessary shame to those trying to get off alcohol.

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому

      I heard someone say that alcoholism is the only disease that makes you a better person when you're cured than you were when you started. I like to think that's true.

  • @jeff67788
    @jeff67788 3 місяці тому +15

    I thank you BC for all the work you put into these awesome videos. They really do help.

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому +3

      Thanks Jeff! I hope they're useful to someone out there besides me.

    • @lyndapierson6338
      @lyndapierson6338 12 днів тому

      absolutely!!

  • @mmff5242
    @mmff5242 3 місяці тому +5

    I love listening to you., I also liked walking - going for a codiewomple and getting smashed was great. always an adventure and some weird stuff always ensued. I came home with a chicken (live) once ! I dont touch the booze now, sailed close to the wind, started drinking massively (spirits cmae into the show) to manage anxiety in my early 40s but then realized on holiday after stopping daily drinking, that the anxiety was from the daily drinking. , lager free beer saved my skin, gave me the pyscological reward to limit feeling like I was missing out and denying myself. keep on keeping on.

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому

      Glad to hear it mate, and thanks for the comment!

  • @Slayer-7373
    @Slayer-7373 3 місяці тому +14

    1. Another great video man, you hit the nail on the head with all five, I can totally relate of course.
    2. Thanks for the shout-out dude!! That was awesome 🙌.
    3. Im glad you’re a lord of the rings nerd like I am 🤣, favorite movies of all time!!!!
    Keep up the good work brother. 💯

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому +5

      Thanks for watching brother!

  • @user-gn9vu7wn7t
    @user-gn9vu7wn7t 3 місяці тому +5

    The life of an alcoholic or a drug addict which are similar to a certain point can become difficult because YOU are you own worst enemy to begin with, you hate yourself and want to die, that is a fact. Second, family, friends, relatives, society can help you dig your grave sooner than later. You can always find good people, good friends along the way but many a times family is a hindrance instead of a helping hand and often it is understandable because alcoholism distorts your sense of living in peace with your immediate family.
    To avoid all those things it's best to be sober and face the challenges of life be it difficult family and personal relationships without alcohol a substance which only promises immense problems besides the ones you already have.
    Thanks Bat Country for your teachings and advice.

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому +2

      Your welcome brother, and thank you for your thoughtful comments.

  • @Shawn-o1r
    @Shawn-o1r 8 днів тому +1

    This makes total sense, once I have to drink to kill the pain of drinking I’m locked in again. It usually lasts months or years before I can stop, absolutely miserable.

  • @conoroneill6143
    @conoroneill6143 3 місяці тому +5

    Thank you so much for this video. I feel like going on a long speal but I'll resist. Your videos have came into my life at the right time and I'm grateful for you & your channel. Kindest regards from Ireland. All the best :)

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому +2

      Thank you Conor, I appreciate the comment, and we're all here if you need us. Oh and if you ever want to go on a speal, this is absolutely the place to do it - that's what I'm doing anyway! Keep us posted on your progress mate.

  • @deanschanzenbach7506
    @deanschanzenbach7506 3 місяці тому +18

    If you wonder if you’re an alcoholic. Your a alcoholic

    • @words4dyslexicon
      @words4dyslexicon 3 місяці тому +2

      there u go
      using 10 words
      to state
      what took me
      3 paragraphs..☻️

    • @BigBoaby-sg1yo
      @BigBoaby-sg1yo 3 місяці тому +3

      That’s the truth . My only saving grace was I was a gymaholic also . I thought if I keep training ,it would give me a form of protection- unfortunately I was totally wrong.I would hotfoot it from the gym to the pub and give it anywhere from 4-8 pints of relatively strong beer then have a few when I got home .Today I meet friends once a week and have only a few bottles , but if I wanted I could easily slip back into my old self . What I do is to keep a very visual picture of the times I looked in the mirror and was disgusted with myself , if I feel like I want to go back to my old ways I just pull up the mirror image.
      Good health to all 🏃🏼

    • @j2626-u2g
      @j2626-u2g 3 місяці тому +1

      100%!!!!!

    • @timothymoran2010
      @timothymoran2010 2 місяці тому

      Exactly. Like being gay.

  • @ASIF_M1934
    @ASIF_M1934 3 місяці тому +6

    A very confronting yet necessary video, Stuart. With me, it all revolves around that first sip, then off to Everythingturnstoshit land I go. A colab with Slayer would be great. Keep up the great work, sir.

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому +3

      Thank you as always asif. I've been to Everythingturnstoshitland so often they offered me a timeshare there.

    • @ASIF_M1934
      @ASIF_M1934 3 місяці тому +2

      😂 love that!

    • @jeff67788
      @jeff67788 3 місяці тому +4

      A collab with my two favorite UA-camrs would be epic.

    • @ASIF_M1934
      @ASIF_M1934 3 місяці тому +1

      @@jeff67788 my thoughts exactly! Fingers crossed. Check out Tim Johnson as well, he is my go to when in withdrawal.

    • @words4dyslexicon
      @words4dyslexicon 3 місяці тому +2

      think I have dual citizenship from Everythingturnstoshitlandistan..

  • @words4dyslexicon
    @words4dyslexicon 3 місяці тому +5

    for all the "not sure if I'm an alcoholic" alkies out there..
    i was 26, married & had had a couple scary blackouts & over the course of a few days had asked my wife (an R.N.) every day whether or not she thought
    i was an alcoholic? & tho
    she didn't really have an answer, it
    finally ocurred to me that, "you know Carl, anyone who has to wander around for days asking themselves whether or not they think they're an alcoholic, geeze, that person is probably an alcoholic.."
    & when i brought this new found revelation to my wife, her response:
    " yeah, i was waiting for you to come around to that answer on your own.."

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому +2

      She was playing a dangerous game, but it paid off. A lot of people never get to that conclusion - but it certainly helps if you get there on your own!

  • @ShadesOClarity
    @ShadesOClarity 3 місяці тому +7

    Hah. Touche. I use alcoholic because it is "Alcoholics Anonymous" to which I am a member. I do understand AUD and it is in the DSM V, I do believe. I am not offended by being called either an "alcoholic" or a person with "Alcohol Use Disorder." My red flags were legal trouble, job problems, relationship problems, early health problems and most of the same shit that is described in the Big Book of A.A., and withdrawal. I didn't start drinking until age 23 and it didn't become a problem until about ten years later. You won't ever turn the pickle back into a cucumber. After that, it was problem after problem. Great video, Mr. B., er, Mr. Nugent.

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому +2

      Thanks brother! And yeah, at some point, it's ONLY problems, right?

  • @AtlasAtPeace
    @AtlasAtPeace 3 місяці тому +4

    I'm a big fan of the channel now. Binged all the alcohol vids last night. I noticed your highest viewed vid has a very vibrant blue thumbnail with a really good font choice. I thought that would be worth mentioning. Looking forward to more data and stories. Thanks.

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому +2

      Thanks mate! Yeah that's my favourite video, but I can no longer recreate that look because I moved apartments right after I filmed it. I haven't quite figured out my thumbnails yet :)

  • @allisonsmith.03
    @allisonsmith.03 3 місяці тому +3

    Thank you for this. I find it relaxing listening to you talk. And i like the music you play in the background. So much of this resonates. And i remember my own ‘threshold’ moment well.

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому

      Thanks Allison! Yeah that's the tone I'm going for: kind of relaxing background podcasty style recovery videos. It's harder than it sounds, given the nature of the topic.
      What was your threshold moment - if you don't mind me asking?

    • @boxingmonkey8621
      @boxingmonkey8621 Місяць тому

      I agree , Great Videos and the points expertly communicated
      I find the background music and little “Overlook Hotel in the Shining”

  • @johndawber3401
    @johndawber3401 6 днів тому +1

    Agree totally. Thanks for all your content.

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  5 днів тому

      Thanks for watching mate, and thanks for the comment.

  • @Micru866
    @Micru866 3 місяці тому +4

    What a great video Bat Country. I can totally relate to the items you discussed. I agree that the term alcoholic just draws people to a conclusion off the bat. I believe there are different levels of alcoholism but I’m conscious that I’m only one bad moment to losing control. For me I never enjoyed alcohol but would just drink it fast. This year I have been reflecting as I didn’t realize I had a problem but started analyzing some of my behaviors, drinking faster and faster, hiding alcohol, drinking alone more often than not. But because I am a highly functional person, like you said alcohol was my medicine. Had a great day something to celebrate let’s drink, had a bad day let’s drink too. My ah ha moment or epiphany was when I couldn’t stop thinking about drinking when I tried to stop in January. I agree with all the points you made. Thankfully, I have not gotten to that threshold BUT I’m pretty sure that will end up being my life. So I’m focused on stopping to avoid that. The thought of never drinking again is scary so I’m focused on each day. Hopefully I will stop thinking about it. First time I’m commenting sorry for the rant. I hit subscribe. I started my self-assessment with LD, then Slayer, followed by shades, and now you. Thank you for sharing your story and helping spread the word of the dangers this poison can cause. Stay strong, someone in FL appreciates you! 💜

    • @Micru866
      @Micru866 3 місяці тому +1

      Oh and I only made it sober in January. I have tapered off but continue to have moments where I find myself drinking. Like I’m a robot buying the booze. But im going to figure this out.

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому +2

      @@Micru866 Hey Micru, thanks for the comment and you never need to apologise for a rant on this channel - that's largely what it's for :D
      It sounds to me you might have caught it early, and like every disease, that makes your prognosis better in the long run.
      I try to resist actually giving advice, but I'd say that the thought of not drinking ever again is a BIG hurdle. It was for me. But once you get through that, the idea of a life without alcohol starts to be quite exciting, quite energising. Once you've started to get comfortable with all the time you suddenly have on your hands, you'll wonder why it was scary in the first place.
      Keep us posted on your progress buddy, we're all here if you need us.

    • @Micru866
      @Micru866 3 місяці тому +1

      @@_BatCountry that’s the end game. Thx

    • @ShadesOClarity
      @ShadesOClarity 3 місяці тому +2

      @@Micru866 I wish you luck as well, man. I might as well wish you luck here a well since I did, in fact, make an appearance on this clown's channel.

    • @RonsMom40-pu1en2gj4p
      @RonsMom40-pu1en2gj4p 3 місяці тому

      Same sequence for me!

  • @stepha3003
    @stepha3003 3 місяці тому +2

    Love this, because when we're talking about someone who smokes, we don't go ahead and say he's a smoker right off the bat, etc... Excellent, thank you for your amazing video! Nice listening, too, the accent (I'm American lol), and articulate, pleasant disposition! 😀

  • @Kevrar
    @Kevrar 4 дні тому +1

    I am all 5 points I have known for a while tried to stop several times but not been able to do it for any length of time thanks for the content

  • @lyndapierson6338
    @lyndapierson6338 12 днів тому +1

    excellent content. so grateful for your channel!

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  11 днів тому

      Thanks so much, I really appreciate that!

  • @kevinsmith5318
    @kevinsmith5318 3 місяці тому +3

    Absolutely interesting video.
    I’ve had a problem with alcohol all my life.
    Your video had me recall a distant memory. I was quite sick and constantly coughing. My bedroom was in the basement under my parent’s bedroom. So obviously they were more annoyed than caring about my well being…
    Out of character my dad brought me a butter rum toddy (i.e. he NEVER took personal care of us kids).
    It knocked me out. I think i was about ten years old. It’s up there with putting brandy in a baby bottle.

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому

      Oh that's interesting. How old were you when you started drinking by your own choice?

  • @onlyme7308
    @onlyme7308 Місяць тому +1

    I was born in the mid 70’s. My age group women were part of the ‘ladette’ culture. Not many of my mates don’t have an issue with alcohol whether it’s now being sober or still struggling. If only I knew then what horror awaited when I was pouring back all sorts of everything and the way it would take hold. I’d never have gone near it. Pain, misery, losing nearly everything and then finally redemption. Been a long journey. Thanks for the vid 🙏🏽

  • @harrybaker9044
    @harrybaker9044 3 місяці тому +1

    Your definition of alcoholism is 100% on point. I call it the homer simpson syndrome. "alcohol - the cause of, and solution to, all of lifes problems"
    Ive found myself pondering that very comment many times after a binge.

  • @harrybaker9044
    @harrybaker9044 3 місяці тому +2

    Your introductions are fine. Long introductions help some of us focus on the video. And I have no problem with being called an alcoholic, but I'm 36 and I understand that perhaps it may be a term that's being phased out.

  • @mattorama
    @mattorama 19 годин тому +1

    When you're drinking just to calm the jitters and insomnia, that's alcoholism.

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  4 години тому

      Yeah absolutely. When you're treating alcohol WITH alcohol, you're in a tailspin.

  • @DavidRamos-nz4bh
    @DavidRamos-nz4bh 2 місяці тому +2

    Every thing you’ve said is my daughter. She is struggling and it’s painful, thank you.

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  2 місяці тому

      Drop me an Instagram message if you want to talk about it mate. Links in the video description

  • @CalicoKate13
    @CalicoKate13 3 місяці тому +2

    another great video that I can completely relate to! Thankyou for your honesty 😊

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому +1

      Thanks! Always good to see you here :D

  • @goosemanjohn
    @goosemanjohn 3 місяці тому +2

    Yup, yup, yup and yes! You got it pal hit the nail on the head for me at least in your definition. Different journey but same end point although there are some interesting relatable parallels to your experience particularly the ‘Flâneur’ or Dérive’ aspect where I fancied myself a visual poet roaming cities in Osaka, London or Hong Kong with a pocket beer or something stronger topping up at family mart or where ever unaware of the shadows closing in around me.

  • @user-lb3kc2bi8z
    @user-lb3kc2bi8z 3 місяці тому +3

    2nd half of this is very insightful .

  • @jdion79
    @jdion79 12 днів тому +1

    that end about the emails... that hits home

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  11 днів тому

      Thanks, I think a lot of people can relate to that bit!

  • @danielwelker1286
    @danielwelker1286 2 місяці тому +3

    What I enjoyed about alcohol was even after people where gone I still felt like people were There. It wasn't scary but kinda comfortable like I was not alone. It was when I began drinking By myself that I decided to give it Up. At the same time I was taking Hydrocodone daily so I was addicted to that As well. Cold Turkey for Me. No help and no doctor. That was 15 years ago. I replaced my drug and alcohol use with Excersize. No Better High than felling All those wonderful chemicals My body produces on its own ❤. Better than Any Narcotic 😂

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  2 місяці тому

      I agree. No one needs more than endorphins. What kind of exercise do you do?

  • @lewissparkes
    @lewissparkes 26 днів тому

    Very good! Exactly spot on, I ended up having a seizure and spent two weeks hallucinating in hospital having a medical detox. That was in March and I’ve still not properly recovered from it now. If you feel like you’ve got a problem dont let it spiral out of control like me. Catch it early so the withdrawals aren’t too dangerous. The withdrawals if caught early enough are pretty shit for a few days but not too bad. The feeling of relief is awesome when you wake up feeling normal (been through it a few times)

  • @xy4859
    @xy4859 3 місяці тому +2

    Pretty good definition. For me I felt like I was sick with this, when I felt likenit almost killed me several times and made me feel ashames of what I had done the day before, ywt was going back to it because I felt like it was part of me and a normal activity in life.

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому +1

      Yeah I think a lot of us can relate to that feeling.

  • @jamesmorgan7629
    @jamesmorgan7629 3 місяці тому +3

    I agree with the threshold definition, ide say im very close to that piont. Also for me its when you add up the dry days in a month, 4 out of 30 isn't good

  • @davidpiper3652
    @davidpiper3652 3 місяці тому +3

    Interesting. My mother had serious alcohol use problems, she was non functioning in the world. Her father also had problems but he coped better with functioning in the world. I was brewing my own booze at boarding school, age about 14. I have had bad hangovers, that's why I quit the booze, but I don't think I have had withdrawal. Home from work and needing the drink, alone, just to reduce the stress. I am not sure about the threshold part, not my experience, but I get it. I just think I am different. 9 months sober.

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому

      Congrats on your sober time! And you must have been popular at boarding school :)

  • @vietkong1
    @vietkong1 26 днів тому

    This is the best video I have ever watched even going to share it with some of my mates who are in denial like me

  • @bloodedge555
    @bloodedge555 3 місяці тому +2

    I recently had a short stint in a psych ward. I had relapesed and had two beers. I disclosed that i was an alcoholic to my doctor in there, and i assume he heard the word alcoholic and assumed the worst. I was woken up every three hours to test how bad my "alcohol withdrawls" were for over four days when i haven't had a drink in years

  • @maryelizabethbutler4306
    @maryelizabethbutler4306 3 місяці тому +2

    You are so right on. I enjoy your videos and love the channel.

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому

      You're too kind, thank you :)

  • @Larsholden702
    @Larsholden702 4 дні тому +1

    I find a spot in the park with a view, and drink a sixpack. Then I smoke a joint in the end.
    Usually it ends there. I don't really like to go any further, but occationally that happens.
    Tried to stop 4 times for about a year long period now. I make it for about a month to two months... sigh
    I guess I just felt like sharing it in case anyone can relate to this behaviour specifically.

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 дні тому

      A lot of people can probably relate to that. I wish you nothing but the best on your journey.

  • @Mathis-dh7ey
    @Mathis-dh7ey 10 днів тому +1

    I’m so tired of quitting and pouring out what’s left of my alcohol, just to find myself right back at the liquor store within the next day or two.

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  10 днів тому +1

      Keep quitting. It'll stick eventually.

  • @Zeuskazoo
    @Zeuskazoo 3 місяці тому +4

    “Welcome to alcoholism” *flaily arms* LOL

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому +2

      hahaha it felt right in the moment :D

  • @Xooo
    @Xooo 26 днів тому

    Really good threshold. Actually! About drinking alone I personally would consider folks that drink alone and exclude social drinking pretty entirely. It's another story and other relation with alcohol. Also I wish to add that the threshold will be also characterized by loosing the control over reason or cause to drink. Mayb in active searching for it like anything will do. Smth like that. =)

  • @juliemclean6266
    @juliemclean6266 Місяць тому +1

    Thank you 🤔

  • @mightymi3119
    @mightymi3119 Місяць тому +1

    Thank you for your content! I enjoy it so much ❤
    5. I started drinking when I was 12. From the first time on, I would get black out drunk because I simply couldnt stop. Growing up on a small farm in Germany, it is not uncommon to start that early. Alcohol was everywhere and we even had our own distillery in the farmhouse.
    4. Alcohol use disorder can be found in my family big time and I developed a high tolerance early on. I was known to be a good drinker and drinking companion.
    3. Im unsure about the withdrawal one. I think Ive had cravings that were intense, meaning I was extremely nervous and shaky.
    2. I started drinking alone in my mid-20s. Somewhere in my mid-30s I started drinking daily, mostly alone. Im 39 now and in a very unstable recovery.
    1. Well, yes, the vicious cycle of problems and alcohol. Its a fucking demon.

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  Місяць тому

      Hello, and thanks for watching! So how are you today - did you quit drinking, or thinking about quitting?

  • @Mark-pp7jy
    @Mark-pp7jy 3 місяці тому +1

    Most of the people in recovery who I see on a regular basis, have a grocery list of other addictions. In my own case, my addictive traits were present long before I ever drank. I came out of the womb with the "More is better" gene. So...when I found alcohol there was no "long slide" into it. My goose was cooked from the get-go! I just didn't know it. By the time I was a Senior in highschool, drinking superceded everything! Yes, the alcoholic progression is different for different people, and a lot of variables go into that, but it's akin to being struck by lightning. If we don't seek shelter in the bosom of sobriety, it's only a matter of time before we get hit again, fatally. All the best, Mark 5/8/1994 ✌️♥️

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому +1

      It's one extreme or another, right? It doesn't even matter what the extreme is: when I was drinking I was extremely drunk, now that I'm sober I'm extremely sober.

  • @Aquarius6431
    @Aquarius6431 6 днів тому

    Thank you so much for your channel. I’ve learned so much here. I have 2 people in my life, very dear to me, my best friend and the man I’m in love with, both are alcoholics. He has stopped drinking, I think, can you ever be sure? I’m here just trying to understand so maybe I can help. Thank you for your openness.

  • @stevekozle7247
    @stevekozle7247 3 місяці тому +4

    Waking up to this video was a great way to start my day! Thank you for this, as I totally understand and relate to it. While I was admittedly never in a Turkish prison or going through DTs on a plane with British officials, my own experience with acute alcohol withdrawal, alcoholic hallucinosis and delirium tremens were bad enough for me. That invisible line that we imperceptibly crossover at some point is very real. I somehow, inexplicably became that guy in his mid-40s, who was standing there, shaking like a leaf in a windstorm outside of the grocery store at 6:59 every morning seven days a week waiting for the clock to strike 7am so that I could purchase my vodka. Other than the availability of purchasing alcohol, time became somewhat meaningless to me, days and nights went by in a dark room, laying in a sweaty bed, all by myself for months. Food was of no interest. Exercise was impossible due to my weak state and my mental well-being was atrocious. I was so sick that the word sick doesn’t even do it justice. I became really not much more than an empty bottle and I’m pretty sure I’m always going to struggle with the shame of that. I certainly still do today and every day, even with some years of comfortable sobriety under my belt now.
    Like you, I often think about my days of unrestrained, active alcoholism. In fact, I think about it every single day multiple times a day. Within those thoughts I always encounter a mixture of shame, regret, and confusion over how it all got so bad and how I let that happen to me. And if I’m honest, my daily ruminations usually end with me marveling in disbelief at the fact that I’m somehow still alive.
    I often feel alone in my experience because even through all the hundreds and hundreds of AA meetings I’ve attended, I’ve rarely encountered anyone who knows what real real real heavy duty acute alcohol withdrawal feels like.
    I’m not taking anything away from the soccer moms at AA meetings who decided they need to stop drinking wine with the girls on Wednesday afternoons. That’s good for them, but I need to hear from real bottom of the barrel alcoholics who became nothing more that a barely breathing sack of flesh who’s master(alcohol) dominated their existence with a cruel iron fist….and then survived it.
    Thank you, once again for giving me the opportunity to wake up this morning and find a fresh new video from you. I first walked my dog, then eagerly brewed a pot of coffee and sat down to enjoy this with a clear, sober mind, free from the daily horrors and imprisonment of a 2 fifths of vodka a day habit.
    Cheers buddy.

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому +4

      Hey Steve, good to see you again, and thanks for the thoughtful comment once again!
      There's so much in this reply that I profoundly relate to. Waiting outside the shop at 6.59, feeling sick to the point that the word sick is inadequate, feeling like nothing more than an empty bottle. That's so real to me, and it's only ever a moment away.
      More than anything else, I feel you about AA. I have no criticism of it, and everybody there is there fore the same reason, including me. But between me and you, I don't really have much time to hear a 20 year old talking up the room's time with a story about how drinking made their grades go down. I have all the time in the world for stories like yours.
      I really appreciate your support and your comments.

    • @D-Fens_1632
      @D-Fens_1632 Місяць тому +1

      When I look back and feel shame it's often when thinking about those times of alcohol availability. All the times of "shit, they stop selling in 20 minutes," or "why didn't I have the least bit of restraint and save those few shots for the morning," dressing to head out for morning "donuts" after a sleepless night and waiting for the time to pass. Makes me shudder.
      I've also met few physically dependent alcoholics, the kind who would wake up just to drink and go back to sleep, keeping a steady stream of it going in every moment you're awake. It's real hell. It is a different beast from people whose negative consequences come from occasional binge drinking.

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  Місяць тому +1

      @@D-Fens_1632 Very much so. I remember that time, watching the clock, convincing myself I wouldn't go back to the liquor store tonight, and then grabbing my shoes and running out 5 minutes before it closed. It's a terrible way to live.

    • @stevekozle7247
      @stevekozle7247 Місяць тому

      @@D-Fens_1632 you hit the nail right on the head, man. I’m sorry you went through what I went through, because I know how bad it was. But I’m grateful to know that you went through it because while we don’t know each other, I’m certain that you understand me on some level.

    • @PriusTurbo
      @PriusTurbo 19 днів тому

      @@_BatCountryI found this channel tonight and watched your binge video and was able to avoid slamming all of the whiteclaws someone left in my fridge so thank you for that. By the time the video was over I felt like I had the experience of drinking again without having to do it.
      I have never fully lost control of my drinking and have remained aware of how many consecutive days in a row I've completed of drinking, owned it and rode the binge hard. I guess when I've done it I try to do it in an elegant Johnny Depp respectable sort of way even though it eventually goes from making cocktails to just ripping all of the ingredients straight out the bottles. I turn it into a game of how drunk can I be and still function, like taking out a sailboat, playing golf, installing a light fixture for a friend - but fortunately not driving a car. Even blacked out, I'm usually still competent according to sources. I'm in my 40s and have quit many times since 30 but always go back for the fun of it w alcoholic friends or because I feel obligated on a date.
      Things came to a head when I finally got severe withdrawals after going for a few weeks straight and stopped abruptly back a few years ago. Had some of my family tell me I was an alcoholic because I was drinking almost an entire 30 pack in a day doing yard work and building a deck and I was genuinely surprised at what they said. Alcohol had always been as normal as eating food, but I started doing the hair of the dog thing because I had to just to get some work done. Then it just turned into my morning go-to even on a standard weekend. I did ~55 days earlier this year. Currently about 30 days. I'd rather just never drink again. I also saw the Huberman episode and finally had a real excuse to quit: it's bad for you apparently.
      Anyway, I must say that I thought I took things to the edge with my solo multi-day benders but you've opened my eyes to the reality of how much further it can go without just being a guy that sleeps on a sidewalk with a bottle. It's fascinating and slightly terrifying because I wonder if I would even be capable of going even further where I'm just laying in bed in a dark room. Your stories provide great perspective since you have actually lived it and come back to articulate the experience so well. I feel like I don't need to do that stuff anymore because I know the end result every time. I also have realized I never went that far all along. Still major use disorder but I left a lot on the table. I'll keep coming back to the channel because I need the reminders and I really appreciate your production, delivery and authenticity. Thanks!

  • @harrybaker9044
    @harrybaker9044 3 місяці тому +2

    I remember being at a new year's party back in 2009, I was still young then, and all I kept hearing from people the day after was "ive never seen anyone able to hold their booze as well as you". And comments like "we thought harry was going to bed, but he was going for another beer!". I didn't realise at the time, but these people were pointing out, subtly, that my drinking was abnormal. Already. I was 21. I had already gotten a taste for it and nothing was stopping me
    I'm also of Irish stock and alcoholism is rife through both sides of my family, along with mental illness which obviously doesn't help either.

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому

      Yep, that's exactly the kind of thing I used to hear. Glad I walked away from it.

  • @mrbenn1489
    @mrbenn1489 3 місяці тому +5

    I came to alcohol relatively late in life, 21.
    I had been a cocaine addict for two years, lost everything and with the help of therapy managed to kick it.
    Unfortunately I merely substituted coke for alcohol, though hadn't entirely realised it at first. I did know that I didn't particularly like the taste of alcohol, and had to acquire it. I drank for the buzz, not the taste. To cut a long story short, alcohol became a problem very quickly. From a functioning alcoholic to a non-functioning incredibly unwell one.
    Incorporating the whole DT rollercoaster rides on many occasions, to the point of them becoming almost entertaining.
    My relationship with alcohol was and has always been a binge drinking one, which include long periods of abstinence. It's always there and I accept this. Currently I am fairing the best I ever have, having not drunk for almost 18 months, but I would be lying if I didn't say the thought of a drink doesn't enter my thoughts process several times a day.

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому +2

      Congrats on your time Mr. Benn. And oof, that point about going through DTs that they become kind of objectively fascinating struck an uncomfortable chord with me, I know what you mean. I've never even said this out loud but sometimes I think maybe I should go through it one more time to record it, but I know, really, that's the addiction talking, trying to get me to relapse.
      It sounds like you and I have similar patterns of behaviour.

    • @mrbenn1489
      @mrbenn1489 3 місяці тому +1

      @@_BatCountry - yes, I have watched many of your videos, and our patterns are unbelievably similar. You could at times have been talking about myself. Spooky.🙂

    • @user-gn9vu7wn7t
      @user-gn9vu7wn7t 3 місяці тому +3

      AA rule: 24 hours periods. You can do it and here with Bat Country you can find great support and great advice. A friend of mine who is an alcoholic told me that he always tries to replace a bad habit, alcohol consumption with a creative new activity be it painting, music, learn how to play an instrument, read great books, you name it the idea is to accomplish something great little by little and become an expert at something. That will give you a goal.

  • @vickibrougham956
    @vickibrougham956 3 місяці тому +1

    So true. It sneaks up on you.

  • @freddyw4555
    @freddyw4555 Місяць тому

    Good one. Stop drinking and sleep good. No more bad dreams

  • @janpen78
    @janpen78 Місяць тому +1

    Thanks for this. Lots of "I did that too's" in this one for me.
    Best regards.

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  Місяць тому +1

      Hey, thanks for the comment. Solidarity.

  • @lylemccomber9460
    @lylemccomber9460 2 місяці тому

    Love your video and I'm so happy to have fond your podcast. For myself I stared drinking at 18. The legal age here in the province Quebec in Canada. That was a little late I was the last one out of my group of friends. Like I said started at 18 and I was hooked by 18. At about 19 or 20 I went to an AA meeting with a friend she was having major issues with both alcohol and drugs'. Once I heard the speaker I knew I had a problem. Even that I knew it deep down. I was a blackout drinking from the start. The longest I been sober was 5 years and 11 months. Then relapsed that was about 5 years ago maybe more. In that time I have put in months at a time sober. Two years ago I went to rehab, they used CBT it was a great help. however came back to a chaotic living situation then relapse after 5 months. Now I have puts months at a time sober again. I'm primarily doing AA meeting. Yet at times I have my doubts. I know that I really need to add some SMART Recovery meeting again.

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  2 місяці тому

      Hey Lyle! I have a few comments recently from various remote parts of Canada, I guess there must be something a little lonely about the place that drives people into the bottle.
      You mentioned you have doubts about AA, what are they?

    • @lylemccomber9460
      @lylemccomber9460 2 місяці тому +1

      @@_BatCountry I been having some issues with step 6 and 7. I keep working on them. I just rally don't know if God would take away some parts of ego. I am just not sure it works like that. I know many people that AA has worked for I even knew a man that had 68 years sober when he passed away. Yet I'm not sure if my issues are more psychological then spiritual.

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  2 місяці тому +1

      @@lylemccomber9460 that's a sophisticated critique, and while I would dearly love to say something to reconcile it for you, I actually agree. In fact is go even further: to consider your own little addiction to be the focus of God's attention is surely the height of egoism. So ummm... good luck figuring that one out. If you come to a satisfactory resolution, do let the rest of us know what it is

    • @lylemccomber9460
      @lylemccomber9460 2 місяці тому

      @@_BatCountry Thank you I 100% agree with you about egoism. Nothing more I really want in my life is to be sober. Yet I wonder if God who is running all of creation would stop and say " Lyle is thinking about having some Jack Dandles I need to stop and keep him sober." Don't get me wrong I love the 12 steps groups. I just wonder if at this point of time what else could be done to fight addiction. I have seen people walk into AA and other 12 step groups and do very well. Yet I have sadly known who have died from addiction. For myself I have done so/so with the 12 step groups. I do have some great people around me in AA. I may just be at a point where I am a little lost. But I am just going to keep trussing the process.

  • @harrybaker9044
    @harrybaker9044 3 місяці тому +2

    I feel bad for laughing about Doug and the rats. 🤣 Lmao

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому

      I feel bad for laughing too.

  • @mariadavis3832
    @mariadavis3832 3 місяці тому +1

    When I stopped drinking over 10 years ago I saw all my friends drinking in different eyes. They drink, alot and could care less about whether they drink around me or not, which to me was disrepectful. I stopped going to get together's because each and every time it was really just an excuse for others to get drunk together. I don't hate them for it because at one time I didn't want to go anywhere that didn't sell alcohol (football games, concerts, dinner out, parties) but now I rather just not go if it's a drunk fest.

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому

      Yeah exactly. My social life has taken a hit, but my actual life is far better.

  • @Disappointingyourdemons
    @Disappointingyourdemons 2 місяці тому +1

    I had all the signs. Hindsight being 20/20 I really think I have always been an alcoholic. I had my first taste of alcohol at 8. My first drunk at 13. I started doing drugs at 13. Started having sex at 13. Everything started at 13. My hangovers definitely turned into withdrawals a long time ago. Fortunately I got the gift of desperation and surrendered. I am so much happier now.

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  2 місяці тому +1

      Puberty is a major threshold. For me, sex and booze are intertwined, and I was also active early in both.

    • @Disappointingyourdemons
      @Disappointingyourdemons 2 місяці тому

      Same. People don't believe me whenni say you have to relearn everything after you get sober. Sex and relationships included.

  • @MrStooge.
    @MrStooge. 3 місяці тому +2

    I loved alcohol from my first drink. Hence why I drank enough of it often enough to develop a problem.

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому

      Yeah me too. It was a problem RIGHT away.

  • @dylangaradyn6734
    @dylangaradyn6734 2 місяці тому

    Being sober for a week now, feel great! Will have a bottle of wine tonight for the Friday night and punish myself to be sober for hopefully a month.

  • @michaelclark1501
    @michaelclark1501 Місяць тому

    Was on it for 18 year, drinking QC and black cans of cider ,been sober nearly 8 year

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  Місяць тому

      Amazing, congratulations on making it out the other side!

  • @PiggyLovesOllie
    @PiggyLovesOllie Місяць тому

    May seem strange… but I am not an alcoholic. I am a person who literally had potentially 2-4 drinks per month or sometimes none at all. However, I did notice a change in the way that my body metabolized alcohol such that after a fee sips of wine or beer I barely felt positive effects and IF I finished the drink, I immediately felt dehydrated and humgover. After a couple years like this I finally decided there was absolutely no point at all and decided to abstain entirely. I havent gained anything healthwise from this decision but I kinda feel like it’s my own little super power. I dont need to and Im not going to. I like to watch other people’s commitment to abstaining even if the reasons arent all the exact same because my conviction grows

  • @karenblack4702
    @karenblack4702 Місяць тому +1

    Hi , this us good stuff ! I heard u talk about delirium dirk , he was a top chef ( as u guessed ) , one of his videos explain his lifestyle, he had shit loadsa money n everything! Sadly I saw he passed away last year 😢 don't know reason x

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  Місяць тому

      Thanks Karen! And yeah, terribly sad news about Dirk. He was important in my own sobriety.
      Don't google the reason - it's not good news.

  • @MrStooge.
    @MrStooge. 3 місяці тому +4

    Alcoholic = one at war with themselves. You want desperately to stop but you can’t. You give up every morning but are always drunk by supper time. Noone knows the harms better yet still you need it more. An excruciating internal war and mental obsession.

  • @stanleycostello9610
    @stanleycostello9610 2 місяці тому +1

    Recovering alcoholic (19 years sober). Alcohol Use Disorder is too clinical for me. People in white coats in a laboratory. Does anyone say Heroin Use Disorder? I haven't heard anybody say that. Alcoholic is a term gives a real sense of the down-and-dirty reality. I am an alcoholic and I will remain that till the day I die. Just my thoughts. Peace to all.

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  2 місяці тому +1

      Yeah that's a good point. Congrats on your long sobriety, it's reassuring that people with as much time as you are still sitting down and watching sober content!

  • @IsntTheInternetGreat
    @IsntTheInternetGreat 14 днів тому +1

    Poor Doug. I'm sure he's in Rat Heaven now

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  13 днів тому +1

      I light a candle for Doug every night.

  • @ASIF_M1934
    @ASIF_M1934 3 місяці тому +3

    Very sadly, your threshold definition resonates too close to home, Stuart. Hey ho...it is what it is and we are what we are.

  • @markg.4246
    @markg.4246 Місяць тому +1

    Stop, and STAY STOPPED. If you can't, there's your answer.

  • @user-bo5qb2rb8q
    @user-bo5qb2rb8q 25 днів тому

    When i was a kid i used to ateal alcohol from my family when i was in high school and when i was at a party by the time id drank about 4 beers other people had only had 1, i was known for drinking alot aswell but when your younger everyone just thinks its funny or cool, progresses to mild withdrawels into full blown dts by the time i was in my early 20s

    • @user-bo5qb2rb8q
      @user-bo5qb2rb8q 25 днів тому

      Was drinking 2 70cl bottles everyday

    • @user-bo5qb2rb8q
      @user-bo5qb2rb8q 25 днів тому

      I remember some girl at the opposite platform at the train station and she said to her mate or boyfriend or whoever he was and said "he used to get wasted". You hit the nail on the head I think with what your saying. But the reason she said it because she was a friends friend and she saw me falling and walking into the road because I was stumbling all over and ended up getting arrested for drunk and disorderly, on my birthday aswell

  • @danneal6510
    @danneal6510 3 місяці тому +2

    amazing video

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому

      Thanks Dan, that's very kind!

    • @danneal6510
      @danneal6510 3 місяці тому

      @@_BatCountry so much of that video was relatable to my past . starting at early age, even had a similar experience at uni and always been the last one standing at pubs and parties to the point where i would carry on drinking on my own quite often well into the next day . i still struggle now but not nearly as much as i used too. are you fully sober ?

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому

      @@danneal6510 Sounds very familiar. And yes I am. Are you thinking about it?

    • @danneal6510
      @danneal6510 3 місяці тому

      @@_BatCountry yeah definitely I am . I am 35 now so want to be alot healthier I convince myself I can have one drink but it Never works out that way

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому +1

      @@danneal6510 Well mate look it's not my place to convert you and i'm not on any crusade to get everybody to quit drinking, but i can tell you that my life is better without it, and it seems like we're pretty similar. Maybe it would be good for you too.

  • @ConnorBriggs
    @ConnorBriggs 2 місяці тому +2

    Bro you sound so much like Carl Benjamin (Lotus Eaters)

  • @jamalcole1985
    @jamalcole1985 2 місяці тому

    Take theanine, glutamin, dopa mucina, lithium orotate, vitamin b complex etc..

  • @MrROTD
    @MrROTD 2 місяці тому +1

    It started with one beer and ended with 18 ounches of hard liquor every day.

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  2 місяці тому

      Yeah, that's common for a lot of us I think.

  • @perryperryprince3242
    @perryperryprince3242 3 місяці тому +1

    Damn that soft drink special sounds insane ahaha. As a teenager in Australia I started out on dog shit champagne. Come to think of it that probably wasn’t any better lol anyway screw alcohol! life is way better without it! stay strong peeps 💪🏾

  • @karenblack4702
    @karenblack4702 Місяць тому +1

    I love these , every one . The way you speak reminds me of dorian ' of herbs and alters ' youtube . Fascinating , intriguing and loads research too . Clearly we are smart people ( addicts , of all kinds ) funny, articulate people but lordy ( me ) find life hard ... dont drink anymore but have anorexia ... try not to dwell on these aspects of my personality n go with flow ? ! ...😅

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  Місяць тому

      Thanks Karen! Congrats on beating the alcohol and I hope you can get a handle on the anorexia in the long term too.

  • @words4dyslexicon
    @words4dyslexicon 3 місяці тому +3

    it's not "problematic" drinking...
    unless you consider
    creating hell on earth
    for yourself
    to be a problem..

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому

      Yep.
      Also there's has big haiku vibes.

    • @words4dyslexicon
      @words4dyslexicon 3 місяці тому

      hey Stu,
      i have discovered something you may be aware of
      that a week ago I was not, what do you know about
      AVRT?
      [ Addictive Voice Recognition Technique ]
      last night I listened to this 30 min.UA-cam video,
      'Guided Addictive Recognition Technique AVRT, Crash Course, A Tool For How To Beat Addiction On Your Own.'
      the channel name: Psychofarm,
      video posted Feb 1,2024.
      it's a radical approach, but if someone is in the grips of life threatening/ending addiction, they could be motivated enough for a radical aporoach!

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому

      @@words4dyslexicon not much without googling it, what is it?

    • @words4dyslexicon
      @words4dyslexicon 3 місяці тому

      @@_BatCountry
      the comment I left here earlier
      with youtube title
      was deleted, did u see it?
      video was 30 mins long, about as thorough & concise as I've seen, I think u will appreciate its straight to the point approach.

    • @words4dyslexicon
      @words4dyslexicon 3 місяці тому

      @@_BatCountry
      if u Google book, Rational Recovery, pub.1986, the author, CA. licensed social worker (&recovered alkie) Jack Trimpey developed AVRT
      (addictive voice recognition technique) as an atheistic counter to A.A.s spiritual approach/formula of recovery.
      i haven't read the RR book yet, but from watching Trimpey interviews/ videos,
      u can argue with his atheistic stance, his breakdown theories on how the brain, thinking & memory works,
      but even as a non-atheist,
      i am super impressed with how AVRT, in practice emphasizes the _importance of paying attention to our thoughts_
      _the voice in our heads_
      becuz the one thing I've learned, thru experience, the difference between sobriety and relapse, for me, was learning to be acutely aware of the nature of my thoughts.
      from experience, the voice in my head, (along with mental movies, & or flashes/snippets/collages of imagery) directly creates/translates to sensations in my body, every relapse was preceded by thoughts, imagery & sensations that I either overlooked, was distracted from noticing or just plain didn't notice until I was on my way to taking that first drink.

  • @veritas3379
    @veritas3379 3 місяці тому +1

    I called "Special brew" my potion.

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  3 місяці тому

      What did you put in it?

    • @veritas3379
      @veritas3379 3 місяці тому

      Whatever was in my grandparents cubbard, tequila, brandy, I don't remember the rest it was pretty nasty. But my first drink was around 13 or 14. I didn't have any real issues with alcohol until my mid 30's when I became a caregiver for a family member, I began to drink on the regular to escape, cope, kill the pain, numb out, etc and I do feel like I crossed that imaginary line into aud/alcoholism. I do feel it is a complicated issue, genetic predisposition, developed through abuse, environmental factors/pain/ trauma that can certainly incline a person to want to escape/ abus​e a substance, keep doing that, reinforcing that in the brain, changing the brain, force of habit,etc@@_BatCountry

    • @end2endburners635
      @end2endburners635 Місяць тому +1

      Zombie Juice 😂
      worst ones were when we put Baileys in and it curdled, like drinking tuna flakes.

    • @_BatCountry
      @_BatCountry  Місяць тому

      @@end2endburners635 oh god, it had the texture of puke before you even threw it up, what were we thinking