Open me 👇 Thanks SO much for sharing your own beautiful stories and inspiring words of encouragement 🥹 love it when you all interact and help each other just like a *team* 🧡 I’m also really happy you like my deeper unscripted stuff. I share more Real Talk about how to overcome fears, dealing with insecurities, and my failures on my podcast here! ✨: open.spotify.com/show/2gkQtQmELJ43pZUp6zkAbm?si=R0e-ulfCQLGxx5RglWsJiw
@@wamyy5 Just watched Episode #10! I loved when you talked about starting a channel, though your are a study tip type of channel (which I would expect you to gatekeeper things.) I also thought it was cool when you talked about making a BTS karaoke channel but in English, (does it still exist?? 😭) Thank you ❤️
i've been listening to a lot of your podcast episodes recently and i find them amazing. People who watch your videos should definetly listen to these too because you talk in depth about yourself, your mentality and the tips you give which make the message you share more efficient. I'm happy you uploaded this podcast episode on youtube because these type of tips and opinions that help way more than other videos about self growth that are here in youtube. Love you Amy ❤
Especially as another Chinese person this hits hard. Hearing you talk about what your grandparents went through is really similair to what mine went through. Altough I would say mine were more fortunate than yours, they still had to go through horrible things such as the cultural revolution and the great leap forward.
This is an extreme wakeup call, ive gotten back into social media, wasting LITERALLY half my day on it when i complain of having no time. I needed this video, thank you amy.
Being an indian i can also relate her words. Coz my father also worked so hard so that i could live this privilege life. YES. I belong from a middle class family. But i have so much oppertunity, i have internet access.. and safety.. security.. food on my table.. roof over my head. I'm so greatful from everything universe.❤
So true, my parents actually had to work right after their 10th standard ended because of family circumstances. I'm so privileged that i can sit in peace to study. I'm sooo grateful for what I have. And I'm also grateful for not having everything because that's what drives me to go forward. I wanna create the start point of higher graduate or a phd for my children when I'll have them in future. Let's work hard besties.
@@miraculousbarbiebug you are thinking about kids right now ? I actually never bothered to because I don't want. I mean life is a lot easier with just you and your parents.
@@RIYAKITAGAWA-eo5qj oh, I think you are not an overthinker. And tbh that is really good. As an overthinker, when I'm alone I literally think until I get sleepy. I literally have created scenarios if I get attacked by aliens and if they time travel me... 😆 it's good let's live life our own way 😁✨🤗
I am so so glad you have the guts to say this. Social media/content addiction is destroying peoples brains. I'm a high achiever and been without social media (except YT!) since 2019. I have people complain to me all the time about how "there's not enough time in the day", "life isn't fair", etc etc meanwhile they have a supportive family home, money, live in a great city, scholarships, etc. They are literally just spending 6+ hours a day on their phone for no reason. When I tell people I don't have instagram/tiktok/snapchat they look at me like I'm an alien. "What do you do all day then? how do you talk to people?" Ummmm..... Literally everything else in life???????? I'm so glad someone understands.
ikrrr!! i cut out social media + scrolling in the beginning of summer and I haven't gone back since, except for yt. almost all of my friends have snap, tiktok, insta, etc., and when they ask me if I have it and I say no, they ask the exact same thing.
Thank you for acknowledging my will to put this message out there! I was hesitant because I was worried about how other people aren’t honest about deleting social media, but I remembered that it paid off to stand out before as well! Just like you said, it’s all about taking accountability and putting things into perspective: they ask “why don’t you have social media?” And you can ask back “why DO you have social media?” Love that this community we have in YT resonates with this perspective! Let’s keep trying to live our lives to the fullest!
@@wamyy5 You talked about this in an older video but how during COVID you tried to use TikTok by it just didn’t work out. I deleted all side social medias, Tiktok, (I never had Twitter), Instagram and anything else that was popular. I had to keep UA-cam to watch videos FOR school. I’ve been looked at as some weird “sheltered” kid for not knowing about all the inappropriate sayings and trends. Sometimes I want to just download Snapchat, but I remember who and what Im doing this for, and I remember why I started.
I just got 100 on my test this Friday. I am realizing how amazing my life is and I thank God everyday. I am my middles schools Student Council President, soccer captain, main lead in my schools drama and straight 100+, my lowest grade being 97 A+. I’ve watched all of your newer videos. Thank you ❤
@@wamyy5 Thank you so much! I also run my own business and I hope it gets me far! I also suffer with migraines (the left side of my head) and I come from a domestic violence family and was homeless for 6 months and lived in someone’s basement for 5 others.. I’m fortunate to even be alive and life is really special so let’s make the most of it! ❤️
@@paperhead3730 you don’t want to be me, being homeless for 6 months, living in a domestic violence household, growing up without a dad. You need to be yourself, a good friend, a good student, a good person. You are perfect! ❤️
I wish I found your videos when I was younger. Would have been the best wake up call for my lazy old self who only indulged in games, anime, etc. To be lazy is a privilege.
I literally lost interest in studying during lockdown and lost myself. Your videos helped me alot to gain back a fresh perspective and now I feel like I'm back to been myself! Thank you so much for helping me :)
Me too bestie. Here I am, 4 years later, finally feeling like myself again. Working hard in school, doing aaaall my homework, trying not to miss a single kung fu lesson, learning German, guitar and python, and hanging out with my friends and my boyfriend. I am not really happy, my family life is a huge mess, and I still have many self esteem issues, that I thought I had eradicated, but I am ecstatic to study and work and work hard for myself to make myself a future. I want to be a chemical engineer, that’s hard, and I want to do it to help third world countries and the environment, that’s even harder. But I want to do it. We will all make it, I know it.
@@AnaLogical-rx1oj How do we do it tho? and damn I miss everything i used to do so happily, ever since then (idek when but yes) never been able to do anything happily.
I’m a nerd and I love studying so much, always work hard in school and I gaslighted myself into thinking that I was a lazy person that never studied and decided to cry mid video. Thank you for this video so much, honestly helped me to get motivated more.
Hey me too! I'm currently trying to get my associates before 18 the load is stressful sometimes but I wish I could just not get tired cause my brain basically stops working after about four hours of studying without breaks 😅
Same I Gaslighted myself too when I am such a nerd that knows the most random knowledge out there. I need be myself again before I turn 18 next year and have to be the academic weapon I am.
Seriously, as a Filipina who is studying for a bachelor program in Denmark right now, THANK YOU for reminding me of my parents' and ancestors' hard work and perseverance so I can get where I am today and persevere. 🙏🏽
My mum's grandmother was born in Lebanon. When she was little they had to flee to Egypt because it wasn’t safe where they lived anymore. She moved there when she was about seven years old and went to school there. She absolutely loved school and was happy she was able to go. When she was seventeen she was married off to a Lebanese man (my great grandfather) and was devastated she couldn’t continue with her studies. They moved to Australia and started a life there. They had my grandmother and her siblings, and later on my Sitty (grandma in Lebanese) had my mum. My mum studied science and later met my dad in Japan. He’s an English teacher from Britain. They decided to move to Spain and build a house. Then I was born and they started an English academy around that time. Now I’m a teenager who goes to the most difficult school in my city, but this video really opened my eyes to how privileged I am to live this life. I’m just realizing how long this is getting so I’m going to leave it here. Thank you so much!!
Hot cup of tea + 30 minutes long Amy Wang video + organising my notebook for the new academic year = enormous gratitude to be experiencing this afternoon
One thing I want to point out is how sad it is that farmers are the lowest social class. The entire world relies on farming. It is such a respectable way of life to me❤ We need more farmers not less.
I was so uninterested in studies thinking that theoretical knowledge is not my thing I'm made for extra curricular skills but my asian father as usual wanted me and my sibling to be great at academics. With being in a country like India(the real things going on with locals, the discrimination, the cast system, economic problems) I slowly understood that when the forest is burning you need to take care of that first.) knowledge is power and has the greatest value I'm slowly learning this, the extra skills might seem faster way to success(as with idols /actors) but it's temporary and its value degrades gradually. So I'm going to literally the BEST version of me because I'm so privileged to have enough money, resources, and a good institute to make me practice for the goal I have.
what a coincidence I'm seeing this video before going to school tomorrow I just want to say I'm so proud of your father he works so hard he deserves it. this video honestly made me cry I made a promise myself today that I will work hard this year thanks Amy
Honestly, I realize that I have so much potential wasted on social media. In fact, after struggling to do my first high school class over the summer, I watched one of your videos and willed myself to delete all of my games(even the ones that don’t save to an email etc.), my discord and UA-cam. I honestly still didn’t spend much effort on my class, but I still did have much more time to complete all my assignments, and really study in depth. Due to this, I was able to get a 5.0! Thank you, Amy, for helping me realize how much social media is rotting my brain, and how much better I can be without it.
You are such a wonderful content creator, please never stop making these videos. You are helping thousands of people over the internet, including me, to get their life back together and the least I can do is to thank you! ❤ Also, lots of love from Spain 🇪🇦.
This is the reality check i needed I didn't have insta and all throughout high school, and during my college enterance test time I was such a brilliant student like i topped every single one of my classes, got into med school with a scholarship, and my studies are almost free But the point is i had this urge to fit in and enjoy and have a fun life like others, and i have fallen prey to these social media apps for like a year now And now i know this isn't it Gotta get back to my old self when i actually wanted to study cause i failed my 1st exam in college and barely passed the second thanks to the time i wasted I'll try my best to get back on track now
As a 15 y/o immigrant who moved to Canada just more than a year ago(with my mom while my dad has been in Canada for over 11 years), I sometimes forget how hard my family works for me. I've always known it was hard but my parents made sure I never had to face the same struggles they had. Having a roof over my head, more than enough food to eat and clothes to wear, better education and everything I get to do here, all the sacrifices made for me to have a better life is something that I sometimes forget to be grateful for. Love to my parents and respect to all the families out there who work so hard for their families and yet still manage to hide their struggles, pain and sorrows from the world.
Tbh, this video has become my turning point to get "locked in" in studying, I really commend you for making this video, it really shines a new light on how each individual should enjoy studying in their academics in their unique way.
Thank you, genuinely thank you. This made me realize so much, my grandparents are/were all immigrants and worked so hard for future generations to make it, realizing you’re spoiled and privileged is not fun but its the hard truth, thanks and stay healthy everyone!❤️
So true, my parents actually had to work right after their 10th standard ended because of family circumstances. I'm so privileged that i can sit in peace to study. I'm sooo grateful for what I have. And I'm also grateful for not having everything because that's what drives me to go forward. I wanna create the start point of higher graduate or a phd for my children when I'll have them in future. Let's work hard besties.
Thank you so much for saying this! As a very mature student I can honestly say, anyone who has the time to study is so lucky! Most people have to work horrible jobs just to get by. Make the most of the privilege we have!
I really needed that video right now because I lost courage to study hard, waking up early and sleeping late. I took the same exams over and over again to keep improving my grades and to obtain a scholarship to study abroad. Ultimately, I even lost courage to go abroad and want to quit competing for a scholarship. Just a few more weeks to go. Thank you for the inspiring video!
This is the reality check I needed. I feel like I constantly make excuses and I really need to be much more grateful for the privileges i have. I am constantly focusing on the lack and then seeking videos for external motivation. I need to learn to be more mindful and stop making excuses for my habits. Thankyou Amy for this video.
I think god brought me here himself. Treating studying like a chore and not a privilege is my biggest problem, you changed my entire perspective. Thank you for the video!!!
I have exams the day after tomorrow. I haven’t opened my books and my syllabus is huge. Today ended a waste. When I tried opening my books, I got so anxious i couldn’t bear the guilt. I kept looking for motivational videos when I just could be studying.. After seeing this video maybe this day wasn’t exactly a waste. ❤ it’s 11:00 pm right now, and I bear no guilt when I open my books because I know I can do it. Whatever I do today will just be a blessing for tomorrow. Thank you for sharing the harsh truth.
For some reason the algorith sent me (28F with a 6-figure job I love, getting my MBA part-time) here. Glad I watched this, you inspired me to text my mother a long 'thank you' message because she set me up with a privaleged life in which I could always focus on my studies. My motivation has ALWAYS been to pay her forward and be able to be there for and financially care for my mother as she ages. I hope school-aged folks take this to heart - studying is a GIFT.
Hi Amy, I usually don't write comments but I really want to thank you. Just two years ago I had decent grades, but my life was miserable and my mental health at an all time low. I spent 6+ hrs on social media every day trying to ignore all my problems. But last summer I decided that I had enough and wanted to fix my life and found your channel. Now, I have extracurriculars 5 days a week, while still meeting with friends and actually enjoying life. I realise that getting an education is a blessing, especially in the country that I live. My parents came here from a different country with a hard life and not great education, just to give me the opportunity for a good life. I am so grateful to them and also to you for igniting this fire in me. My grades keep getting better and better and now I'm at the top of my class. I'm driven to achieve my potential. Thank you
i did everything i could… was not able to study for long hours or at all… then i questioned myself did i really do what i could’ve? no. i downloaded insta in a moment without thinking again without controlling myself… soo rn 2 months clean of insta… super proud… and tbh the fact that we can’t focus is actually cuz of our motive… we want money but not the hard way and when we see one person get rich like that its soo frustrating… so rn im in terms with myself getting my anger issues in line getting my studies in line… and i really hope amy one day people actually heed to your content and damn gurl your are amazing
This is the best video you have made so far. Raw and straight to the point, it gave us a whole new perspective on education and any other opportunity or blessing in our lives. Thank you and keep making videos like this one particularly.
I hope your grandpa gets better. Wishing you and your family health. I was on the verge of tears listening to this story. I'm truly privileged. Thank you for opening my eyes, Amy. Sending prayers! 💝
You are not weird! I totally understand what you went through, I feel the same way, you inspire me! *giving you virtual hugs with soft pats on the back* Thank you for the video and for all the hard work you are doing great. Keep up the great work dear ❤️
Your channel gives me hope that America is not screwed and that we have people willing to learn and go to college, seeing people proud of there success in the comments about getting a good grade on there test and there success in college is amazing.
Thank you, im 17 and currently procrastinating. I just feel really unmotivated to study despite having the goal of being a veterinarian one day. Ive bought a book from school in which i paid for, but havent been using it despite the purpose of needing to learn and educate myself. Just from watching this video, i can see i lack the discipline, persistence and focus. My mom always wanted to finish her studies, unfortunately, she doesnt have parents to support as her own mother left her and her siblings for a man and build a new family for and grew up with her grandma. Her life was hard, and did whatever opportunity she can to make money just to survive. Although she didn't finish her education, she was still really smart, meanwhile i have all these resources yet dont use them and waste my time just watching youtube. Although your story of your grandfather and your family isnt the same as the story of my mom, it does remind me of the story she told me and this video made me, i guess, in a way reflect on that, and the now im living in and the things im doing and not doing. To say, ill try my best, for me and my future. Honestly, even if its just a video to tell me and others to be motivated in a way and the gift of having access to education, youre like a friend reminding me on what i should do, despite not having friends (except one) and whats right and beneficial to me. Sorry for the yapping n shit, i honestly just feel tired, hope you dont mind the grammar and stuff, but i just felt like needing to let this out since its not often i talk to someone to talk about these things. Thank you Amy, youre like a friend to me, and again, ill try my best to study and atleast do some studying this evening, i appreciate you and this video alot.
I agree that our generation needs to be more appreciative of what we have. Studying may be hard, but education is also a privilege, especially a good quality education as well as higher education (university/ college). I also don't think tiktok is helping in this category (obviously not just tik tok but its so easy to get caught up in that app). Specially, consumption culture and seeing video after video of people saying "look at this new thing I bought" or "you should try this" or "you cannot live without this XYZ."
my father didnt get to complete college. Got a small job at just 17. Got an interest in computers. And now, with all the hard work he did, he is at one of the highest positions in a company. Now i could just - ask him for his card to buy makeup n shi and he'd give it, knowing its gonna cost a lot - but he xan afford that now. Bought me 6000INR worth of stuff. One person can save an entire bloodline. But one can also destroy a bloodline. Tho we have a lot of money, i wont be able to live off it when im older. I HAVE to work hard - for me, my parents, and the future generations. My dad, despite not having complete education, got to such a high position w just hard work. Went from sleeping in a house w one room to a really big home. He is the reason im living my life. I have all resources - w the same hard work as him, i will get to such great, great lengths. He's an inspiration. Im 13 and im sure i'll make him n mum proud.
what a strong mindset, thank you for all your advices, I will change my bad behavior towards studying. My parents and grandparents also grew up and worked in china. My grandpa was like the only one in his city to repair watches, but although that he was quite poor, like the other people. he worked hard, and then in the 80's he flew to Italy to find opportunities, like most of Zhejiang people, and then they started a new life working very very hard, in a factory. My dad would go to school in the morning and work till night, having a little time for studying in a room where there were all the workers of the factory, a very small apartment. After that they earned some money and had the possibility to go to Milan, where they found better job, and gave me and my siblings a better starter point. tk you
i messed up my igcse not because i couldnt study, it was because i didnt want to. I feel guilty for wasting the life my mom and dad work so hard to give me. The worse part is that i know my potential and what i am doing now is not it. I messed up my life after an incident that happen years back and never got out of it. i think I am so used to geeling this guilt that I am immune to it. This just reminded me of how much my dad struggles for us. Thank you.
I was stuck because of this for 10 yrs,and now I just realized that I have to really act on it to make things right again.Been doing this for 2 months and life starts to get better again and I am slowly forgiving myself.I hope u don't wait 10 yrs to get back on track.
As someone who’s gonna be having igcse exams in 5 months, that makes me wanna try hard. My parents do have to save up a lot of their money for both my brother and I’s education…if I don’t do well, I feel like I will not be able to even repay their efforts with those good grades I dream of…the point is I need to get myself out of this procrastinating habit and I know…if I try harder, I would actually get better grades than average.
I agree 100% with everything you've said. I had depression and anxiety since I was a young teen, and I've been seeing psychologists for YEARS. I've always struggled to study (and I still do), and I've always struggled with other things such as eating well, exercising, getting out of bed. The thing that worked the most wasn't any of the tips my psychologists gave me to implement new habits. The best things they did were 1. teach me to sit in the discomfort instead of going to my comforts such as stress-eating or scrolling on IG or looking for new Webtoons etc. If I didn't want to study, they told me to just sit until I went to go study again. 2. change my whole outlook and mindset on my life. Tbh becoming a Christian did this significantly more for me, but it was definitely something my psychologists were trying to teach me too. Once I adopted more similar mindsets to the ones you talk about, my perseverance and resilience when it came to studying improved a bunch.
This is the video I needed. I'm not in a very good starting point and actually recovering from a surgery but I'm grateful i could be where I'm right now and already deleted social media cuz I AM curious about my potentials. I hope your grandfather gets well soon
One of my motivation methods is to push my limits, without thinking about succeeding or failing but rather see what my body can do when I push my self. Break my own records when trying harder.
The pain(cause of the hard life that your family had) and the feelings/respect you have for your grandparents and parents can literally be seen in your eyes. You have no idea how helpful this video is for a lot of people. You and your family deserves all the good things and so much more. Thank you so so much for existing Amy! Bless you Sis💗💗💗
As a 22 year old, i realized that it truly is social media and my own lack of discipline. For me personally, I couldn’t manage my time on my phone and it was like an addiction. I was never ever a perfect student, always had a 3.0-3.5 GPA. And I do blame a lot of it on how much I went on my phone and procrastinated. I failed anatomy 1 recently and this video was my wake up call. I decided to delete snapchat, limit my instagram usage SIGNIFICANTLY, and now i’m going to retake the course and spend more time studying and absorbing positive material vs toxic social media content. I want to read more books, try new things, enjoy LIFE, and not be glued to my phone anymore. i’m so sick and tired of the brain rot, I just want to be more intelligent.
hey Amy!! commenting after a long time I had been a good student all my life before the lockdown but after it my graph started declining. but ever since I have started watching you I have regained my identity and recently I just got 99% on a test without studying!! so thanks a lot ❤❤ you are a real one!
This video is something god wished me to see because I may not have social media right, but still I spend hours on Netflix and UA-cam that I forget that there’s a pile of homework for me, a pile of assignments for me, a pile of revision for me. I have my exams coming up yet there is no seriousness in me. I’m just so grateful that someone is here to bring me back to my senses. I never knew how people struggle to live and just push themselves to make a living at the exact time we were relaxing and binging Netflix. I’m so grateful to have source to education, food and basic living accomodities. I am so grateful for everything❤️
I hope ur grandpa is doing better and tysm for this video haha it made me tear up a bit at some parts but it was honestly needed. i always scroll on youtube shorts like 2-4 hrs, I procrastinate and complain about everything being too hard but I never really try my best when I know I can do better. Love you Amy hope ur doing well ❤
i can see what kind of unexplainable feelings you had while talking about your grandpa story and I just wanna thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing such a personal issues the message is clearly sent ❤
I honestly really apprecitate your mindset, a lot of people think about why cant I have it better? but then they do nothing to actually get it better. You apprecitate that you could be worse but you are not and you make that mindset your motivation to get even better. Dont stop. Dont stop even when you are proud, go even beyond your dreams and make them go from dreams to reality
Thank you, I'm the first to enter college in our family and everything you said is so real for me. I'm doing fine (passing) but you made me realize that I could do better. "Surpass your limits right here, right now!" - yami sukehiro
This video really made me think a lot... Thank you for helping me see how privileged I am for the opportunities I have. When I heard your family's story, I also thought about my own family history.
Im greatful I saw your video. I’ve been feeling depressed for years and I’ve been just on my phone and unmotivated forgetting how other people had theirs life’s. My grades are really bad and it just motivated me
Amy, I have to say this. I've been watching your videos since March and you never fail to teach me something. Like not even a few, there are absolutely no people on this platform who actually talk like you do, realize the big picture and be actually concerned about the lives of students in this generation. I felt great knowing that I've already thought about a few things you mentioned here. Your unscripted videos are always on another level, they hit the best. I was able to understand and feel grateful, for the opportunities in my hand now. Thank you so much. Lots of love & support for you, always 💗
AMYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY SISTURRR!!! I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS SINCERELY IN MY HEART!!!! The fact that I got to know your channel in this early year of 2024 from where I got recommended when watching my country-based study videos on youtube! To start off, I'm a computer science student, where I also need to take addmaths, physics and chemistry. I'm not that good in science (well i hate biology), but i finally showed my true self this year. In recent years, I have a mindset of turning the tables down, esp this year as I will be sitting for a government exam jsksksk. And the moment i watched your videos and get to knoww more about you, you lift me up of the sense where I should never give up and work hard *and smart while watching your videos* to achieve the marks i manifest to. I used your tips like for example, i shouldn't think of getting A's, but instead, shud think of how can I achieve the greatest position as a student. And yes, this is truly important to have this mindset, as right now I'm on the list of targeted A's students! I dont want to miss out on this opportunity to comment here and say thank you for showing all this and srsly it helped me. In this one year, I get to prove to ppl that I have the potential as a student. I don't mind of me being alone, ppl talked back abt me, leaving me or wtv cuz ik my abilities, and I get to defend myself. Btw, I hope this video gets a blast of viewers, I truly hope srsly and also get more subscribers!!! My exam isn't end yet, I'll be sitting on a government exams and the first paper will be on this december 2. Please pray for me people, thankiew so much for reading this :)))
I have severe ADHD, studying for me was always my love and hate, and I did fail a lot, but I always get up and keep going further, eventhou nobody believe in me, I started with BA in political science when just finished school, which I hated thats why I was pushing myself to study better so I skipped 4th grade, and went from 3rd to 5th, then after 9th grade I completed 10 and 11 in one year, I was 16 when I applied to university, I passed exams brilliantly and got a scholarship but after a semester I collapsed, started in September, dropped out in December same year, in January put myself together and got accepted at College (business and finance) graduated with honours, then my parents who worked hard sent me to study abroad, probably to keep this "shame at distance" because I just could not get into "schedule, deadlines, discipline" and felt myself terrible about myself, thinking why I am not capable to do simple things like everybody else...... again ... after a year. I dropped out.... marriage...divorce... I could not plan anything, I could not focus, I felt depressed, started to work as movie extra... started to paint, and trying to find balance... second marriage, 3 kids (within 4 years), 2 of them with severe ADHD and learning problems... one of them in special ed class, he is 4 and I am getting calls almost daily to pick him up because he is distracted, unfocused, running around the class.. My kids became my mirror... I was looking at them and heart was crying.... I did not want them to go through the same nightmare as myself....and something inside of me felt they will not succeed if I will not focus on them and their neurodivergent brains....., I started to take psychology courses, started to educate myself, as a parent, then completed 18 months post grad diploma in clinical psychology during covid, then counselling diploma, within those 2 years I did over 30 certifications on multiple topics around adhd, neuroscience, learning disabilities... then I decided to do BA in psychology, and NO it did not came to me with ease, , I was struggling, I am struggling even more then ever before with my studies, because in psyc major big focus is placed on research methods and statistical analysis and I have particular problems with numbers but I told myself " Now, I am a mother and through them I finally find myself, at the same time through finding myself *(psychology) I can and I will be more effective for them...... and sometimes when I feel like it's too much, I am overwhelmed..... when kids sleeping I sit in front of my laptop and will cry for 5 min, and start working on my assignments again, because I have a goal excel their mental health, and their future and their self-esteem, because ADHD kids they are not "comfotable" and teachers don't get into details how to help them study, they simply sending them home or punish or humiliate, and I am their advocate! I want to overcome my own ADHD, to be able to help my kids, next go to the grad school, and become a licensed so I can help kids with ADHD, because they need a lot of support, care and patience not blaming, and humiliating.
I NEEDED to hear this. You've just kinda rewired my brain. Changed something really important. I was going home from the uni on the bus and thinking of my procrastination and lack in motivation. And I also thought about my grandparents who were working hard as doctors all their life and still! are working, and only thanks to them I could afford that university. But I don't study hard, Im playing video games and watching UA-cam. And precisely at that moment I scrolled to this video. I really think I MUST change something right now. I should be grateful. Thank you so much! You are a so wise person
Best video yet, (the 2nd is the motivational one about having disadvantages such as illness) This grounds me and I listen if I am lazy. I'm 32, with schizophrenia, just beginning a degree in psychology and counseling, I've never been to university before. I'm so grateful for the opportunities I have. I understand I need to be easy on myself if I am struggling. I spent 2 and a half years on an acute mental health ward followed by 7 years in supported living. I've done his and that since: work, study, gained qualifications. ANYONE can have a future, just persevere. Now my next stepping stone is once again being strong for this next chapter and higher level in my life. There are things in my past that took immense strength to keep going and build resilience, followed by periods of comfort zone. But now I'm ready... I will not stop moving forwards and being humble again. Challenges make you inspired. I'm definitely on an upwards spiral. Keep boosting people up Amy, I will not listen to any other study influencer. ps. you are so cool!!! :D
Just love your videos!! It works (genuinely speaking)my academics have improved so much from a C to A and I am doing extra activities as well like volleyball and dance...Thank you, Amy!!
This video was what I needed. I'm so depressed with my lack of focus and discipline. And I know study is an opportunity, I think I am focusing on my bad feelings SO much that I cannot position myself where I was before. Thank you Amy, this video gave me the lift and shock that I need to continue and become the person/student I was
The fact that i got so immersed in your bloodline's story, and my eyes started to water because its true. I got a reminiscent of my parents past, how they're immigrants and came to Oman in the early 2000s, my mother being the youngest child and how the entire family stood AGAINST her education, literally, they wouldn't allow her to go to college because she was the youngest in a children of 8 and they didnt want to invest money (even though my maternal grandparents never had to suffer poverty, they had enough money) BUT everything changed when my mother's senior year Biology teacher asked her brothers to let her continue her education, that she was smart and talented and their money won't go to waste. Suprisingly after so much negotiation, they finally allowed her to go out of state for her nursing degree and now she has me + my 2 siblings + a nice life + an ungrateful daughter like me (THANKs to Amy for opening my eyes yet again, its important that i remember the hardships my parents went thru to get me this life)
Thank you for revealing the brutal truth about how education and studying is important in our life and also how our parents and grandparents sacrificed their lives for our better future .We are just wasting our time on social media and videogames.Thank u for this video, God bless you🙏❤️
Amy, I swear to the gods, I am so so so grateful for everything you upload. I almost always scored As, every exam I gave. But recently in my last unit test, my first terms of freshman year, I screwed up. Really bad. For the first time ever, I failed in a subject. And, honestly I just felt like I was in such a bottom hill place. But your videos, oh my god. The tips you give, the reality checks, the way you share things, you give us advice, it feels like a safe place. A comfort zone, for me at least. Because all in all honesty, you are so genuine from what I perceive. You genuinely care for us, and I love that so much because so many creators out there, honestly don’t. Please take care of yourself Amy, we love you. Thank you for everything you upload, and the efforts you put in for us.
Hi Amy I am from Bulgaria.I want to say how happy I am when I saw this video and every time when I have to remember this I am back to watch this video.This what you said is so true.❤
I am a student from Hong Kong, thank you for your videos that remind me of the things that I have today, don't just come from the sky, but from my parents' hard work. And now I gonna test my upper limit to improve my life as a return to my parents.💝
literally into the first two minutes of the video and I just have to say: I admire your confidence so much Amy! don't stop bringing your voice out like this. the way you speak and your high self-esteem is gonna be contagious!!! 🤭
I've also really taken the value of learning through free resources by heart. many, including me, sometimes forget (or don't even realize!) how MUCH info is available in the world. no, really, Google and AI has catapulted the world into a completely new dimension and era. just take a moment to acknowledge this, and it's one step towards achieving the human capital you want to build for yourself. (PS: you should not obsess over trying to make hard work fun, but when you're working on something you so deeply + intrinsically desire and love, you can't help but make it fun. Amy shows us how shallow tips of "gamifying studying" or searching up "hOw tO sToP pRoCrAsTiNaTiNg" is just hiding away from the root problems.)
I love the way you speak and articulate yourself. It really delivers the message wholeheartedly. Can you do a video on how you developed yourself to be so well-spoken?
Hi!! I appreciate that! Honestly I was really shy before and I still think I have a long ways to go for speaking skills. What I can say is that it's LOTS of practice! My earliest videos are so cringe hahhhaa
Hey Amy! This video definitely touched a heartstring. My father also shares the same story, and he’s the most hardworking and passionate person I know. In his childhood he and his siblings mostly ate off the scraps of his neighbors and they were living in the slums. Until later on his sister, having seen his passion to study and chase his goals, gave him a sponsorship to study in college. He’s currently working as a seaman away from his family for years up to this date just to give us a good life. Recently I’ve been having a problem with both video games and social media, and am currently demotivated to work hard. (even though I was studious before in highschool) This video is certainly a reminder and wake-up call to study hard and develop our skills while also not taking for granted all these things our parents are struggling to give us. Such a unique and brutally genuine video. So glad I’m subscribed to this channel.
I appreciate how you made this video very slow-paced, not in a rush or with the need to entertain the audience all the time, it really helps to convey the message you’re talking about. Not everything in life is gonna be fun, and that’s ok. It doesn’t have to be. What matters is to keep going and don’t give up in hard times.
Probably the most deep and valuable video I’ve ever saw on youtube. Thank you. I’ve really needed that rn. I was surprised to hear the similar thoughts I once had about all this. Thank you for reminding me and giving a push now when I kinda wanted to give up on everything.
The fact that you brought up your grandma and how she wouldn't eat really got me. My grandma will only eat our leftovers and wait for us to finish and I never really knew why. Seeing this perspective really changed me dearly. So many other videos were telling me just to do it because you will be feel better but why? Thye never explained any background and it was all just repetitive and nothing really caught my attention. Thank you for sharing your family's story it really encourages me to take opportunities with the best of my abilities.
This video was such an important reminder, especially since I’ve just started my studies on university. But I was also barely holding tears and some points, as there were so many similarities and parallels between your family history and mine. While my grandparents on father’s side had a much better starting point (e.g. education), this was during times when Ukraine, my home country, was a part of USSR. Therefore, scarcity of products, whether it was food or clothes or anything else, was a huge problem even for the people in middle class. My grandparents lived in a single tiny room with 2 children (my father and uncle) in a communal flat (meaning you share kitchen and toilet with a number of other families). Both of them, and then my father had to work hard to improve their living conditions, and then to allow me to have a very comfortable life and a top-quality education. I was taught to work hard since childhood and I’m happy to have that thrive to do the best I can whenever I can. But I was never as self-aware about this as you are and your video helped me to see some things clearly. I totally agree with you on some many points about effect of social media and how improbable internal motivation is to achieve anything. But I wanted to ask you on your opinion about burnout and how to prevent it? Thank you so much for sharing your story and thoughts❤
I'm from Pakistan. My great-great-grandparents were British captains who worked for the Pakistani government during independence. We're Christians, and life became very hard for us after Zia's rule. Minorities like us were forced to convert, abducted, murdered, and our churches were destroyed , people were burnt alive. Muslims didn't give us good jobs, even if we were qualified. They only offered us hard labor jobs. Newspapers would say, "Christians needed for sweeper positions." My grandparents worked hard as laborers, but they made sure their kids got an education. My parents told me stories about their struggles and sacrifices. I feel connected to their experiences. I'm grateful for my parents' achievements, which are more than their parents could have dreamed of. They're strict with me because they want me to succeed even more than they did. Watching this video makes me cry.
I am very sorry, it is unfortunate that such things are rarely, almost never spoken about! Your ppl deserve so much better :( and those ppl arent true muslims because the quran literally forbids such crimes! They are just demons
I just want to say somethings. I also came from a family where my grandfather was a farmer but managed to get my father into education. Well my father worked hard and you know achieved and gave me and my older sister a better life as a middle class family. I am constantly reminded that i should work hard and i should be putting much effort because there are people out there that want to have what i have. That there are people that don't even have the basic need necessities and that i am privileged to have this and that i always should be putting in much much work. That is the mind set i had growing up and also the mind set i have. Having this in mind i started to study hard and worked hard but watching my peers do stuff that makes them happy and have an easy way in life always made me question myself. Like why do i work hard even though i know why. I started to question and doubt things and after some time, when my grades started to fall, and because i grew up thinking that academic success is my life and that's my purpose, and that i'll be worthless and useless to the family and that i am being a disgrace to my parents, when my grades started to fall apart, i started to fall apart myself. I started to question that... if academics is the purpose of my life and i hate it, then what happens when i finish school? what happens when i graduate? Why do i have to work hard when my peers are having fun and also doing better than me? Overthinking and anxiety started to kick in. I started to hate school, i started to hate life in general and i went to social media and started to watch "happy people" doing "happy stuff" and i get happy for a short while. It was until recently (i'm currently a second year in uni studying architecture) and i met this dude and we were in the same class in the first semester in first year and idek how he figured it out but he said that i need to change my mindset and that i have like.... like weights tied on me although i have developed so many skills that grew me stronger and that those weights are holding me back from me reaching my full potential but he didn't clearly say what was holding me back. I was holding me back this whole time thinking that i will never be enough and that i am not worthy at all if i don't succeed in academics. I was always undermining my efforts and achievements. While i think working hard is very important, not acknowledging what u have done so far is a bad thing. One thing i realized about myself is that i still worked hard even though it wasn't through all of my efforts, i still managed to be average. I still managed to have my head in the game and not to fall apart. All i want to say is that.... even though knowing that other people want what i have now and that i should be grateful and that academics is an opportunity that we have to use, people... for whoever who is reading this... please that academics is the end of your life. Academics is something that helps you to develop ur skills and to sharpen your tools not your purpose. It is something that HELPS you and that's why it is important. Always believe that you can do it and always put in an effort even if u don't think u can do it. It is what helped me to get to where i am. Stay strong and don't forget urself and other. Just like Amy said, education is an opportunity and we have to use it since things are literally under our fingertips :)
my grandfather came to norcal in the 60s. he was an immigrant and one of only 3 punjabi farmers in my area. he built so much to the point they had so many orchards and were comfortable with money. came with under $20 to the US. him and my grandma would always lend money to anyone who needed it in our rural(at the time) town, without even asking it back. they would almost always get it back bc people were better back then. unfortunately in 2004, 2 weeks before i was born, he passed away. and with that my family/uncles sold off most the orchards in the family. to this day i always hear how amazing of a person he was and how hard he worked. this video made me sad because it made me realize im throwing an opportunity away. it really just is hard for me but in perspective i’m not doing enough. what did trickle down is the values, i know when someone is actually a good person within seconds of meeting them. i don’t want to be near anyone who is not. i am able to work hard work wise, but school has just become hard for me. i do hope i can find a balance as i never got to meet my grandfather, but while he was working i know he envisioned more for his grandkids. my dad was high school valedictorian and got his masters in electrical engineering from SDSU. i have big shoes to fill so it can be hard. I do like hearing other people’s stories though. Thank you for sharing yours
Such a different perspective! I love this. Being able to go to school is a privilege, so we need to make the best out of it and really try to do our best.
Open me 👇
Thanks SO much for sharing your own beautiful stories and inspiring words of encouragement 🥹 love it when you all interact and help each other just like a *team* 🧡
I’m also really happy you like my deeper unscripted stuff. I share more Real Talk about how to overcome fears, dealing with insecurities, and my failures on my podcast here! ✨: open.spotify.com/show/2gkQtQmELJ43pZUp6zkAbm?si=R0e-ulfCQLGxx5RglWsJiw
@@wamyy5 Just watched Episode #10! I loved when you talked about starting a channel, though your are a study tip type of channel (which I would expect you to gatekeeper things.) I also thought it was cool when you talked about making a BTS karaoke channel but in English, (does it still exist?? 😭) Thank you ❤️
i've been listening to a lot of your podcast episodes recently and i find them amazing. People who watch your videos should definetly listen to these too because you talk in depth about yourself, your mentality and the tips you give which make the message you share more efficient. I'm happy you uploaded this podcast episode on youtube because these type of tips and opinions that help way more than other videos about self growth that are here in youtube. Love you Amy ❤
You’re welcome Amy!! Your podcast is amazing, and we would love to see deeper videos and different ones you’re planning ❤❤
@@BlessedBraceletsARTSyes!! Her channel still exists 😁 it’s called A-Sharp!
Especially as another Chinese person this hits hard. Hearing you talk about what your grandparents went through is really similair to what mine went through. Altough I would say mine were more fortunate than yours, they still had to go through horrible things such as the cultural revolution and the great leap forward.
Moral of the story: education is an opportunity.
@yriskakaka yes, I’m glad you understand the moral, I fear some people may not
a privilege
Absolutely. Id also like to add that its a privilege
This is an extreme wakeup call, ive gotten back into social media, wasting LITERALLY half my day on it when i complain of having no time. I needed this video, thank you amy.
Hmmm
Being an indian i can also relate her words. Coz my father also worked so hard so that i could live this privilege life. YES. I belong from a middle class family. But i have so much oppertunity, i have internet access.. and safety.. security.. food on my table.. roof over my head. I'm so greatful from everything universe.❤
same
So true, my parents actually had to work right after their 10th standard ended because of family circumstances. I'm so privileged that i can sit in peace to study. I'm sooo grateful for what I have. And I'm also grateful for not having everything because that's what drives me to go forward. I wanna create the start point of higher graduate or a phd for my children when I'll have them in future. Let's work hard besties.
@@miraculousbarbiebug you are thinking about kids right now ? I actually never bothered to because I don't want. I mean life is a lot easier with just you and your parents.
@@RIYAKITAGAWA-eo5qj oh, I think you are not an overthinker. And tbh that is really good. As an overthinker, when I'm alone I literally think until I get sleepy. I literally have created scenarios if I get attacked by aliens and if they time travel me... 😆 it's good let's live life our own way 😁✨🤗
I'm Brazilian and I'm impressed by how we from "third world" think similar. My mother worked so hard.. I expect one day to reward her
I am so so glad you have the guts to say this. Social media/content addiction is destroying peoples brains. I'm a high achiever and been without social media (except YT!) since 2019. I have people complain to me all the time about how "there's not enough time in the day", "life isn't fair", etc etc meanwhile they have a supportive family home, money, live in a great city, scholarships, etc. They are literally just spending 6+ hours a day on their phone for no reason. When I tell people I don't have instagram/tiktok/snapchat they look at me like I'm an alien. "What do you do all day then? how do you talk to people?" Ummmm..... Literally everything else in life???????? I'm so glad someone understands.
ikrrr!! i cut out social media + scrolling in the beginning of summer and I haven't gone back since, except for yt. almost all of my friends have snap, tiktok, insta, etc., and when they ask me if I have it and I say no, they ask the exact same thing.
I don't have any social media either. But yt shorts are addictive too.
Thank you for acknowledging my will to put this message out there! I was hesitant because I was worried about how other people aren’t honest about deleting social media, but I remembered that it paid off to stand out before as well! Just like you said, it’s all about taking accountability and putting things into perspective: they ask “why don’t you have social media?” And you can ask back “why DO you have social media?”
Love that this community we have in YT resonates with this perspective! Let’s keep trying to live our lives to the fullest!
@@wamyy5 You talked about this in an older video but how during COVID you tried to use TikTok by it just didn’t work out. I deleted all side social medias, Tiktok, (I never had Twitter), Instagram and anything else that was popular. I had to keep UA-cam to watch videos FOR school. I’ve been looked at as some weird “sheltered” kid for not knowing about all the inappropriate sayings and trends. Sometimes I want to just download Snapchat, but I remember who and what Im doing this for, and I remember why I started.
@@hazel_is_my_bun same my friends always tell me to download instagram but i just dont listen to em
I just got 100 on my test this Friday. I am realizing how amazing my life is and I thank God everyday. I am my middles schools Student Council President, soccer captain, main lead in my schools drama and straight 100+, my lowest grade being 97 A+. I’ve watched all of your newer videos. Thank you ❤
Wow amazing job!! Your gratitude has clearly taken you far :))
How do I be like you...
@@paperhead3730 this is exactly what she explained in the video, if you've watched it then rewatch it and think about it
@@wamyy5 Thank you so much! I also run my own business and I hope it gets me far! I also suffer with migraines (the left side of my head) and I come from a domestic violence family and was homeless for 6 months and lived in someone’s basement for 5 others.. I’m fortunate to even be alive and life is really special so let’s make the most of it! ❤️
@@paperhead3730 you don’t want to be me, being homeless for 6 months, living in a domestic violence household, growing up without a dad. You need to be yourself, a good friend, a good student, a good person. You are perfect! ❤️
Education is an opportunity and I promise to work harder and be more grateful for everything I have.
Same🥺❤️
Hey watch Andrew bustamante memory tips
And mark Manson's do something principal
I wish I found your videos when I was younger. Would have been the best wake up call for my lazy old self who only indulged in games, anime, etc. To be lazy is a privilege.
Being lazy is a privilege. What a quote👏👏👏👏
I literally lost interest in studying during lockdown and lost myself. Your videos helped me alot to gain back a fresh perspective and now I feel like I'm back to been myself! Thank you so much for helping me :)
Us.
Same I also lost interest in studying in lockdown but now it's time to lock in and work hard for our better future 😊❤
Me too bestie. Here I am, 4 years later, finally feeling like myself again. Working hard in school, doing aaaall my homework, trying not to miss a single kung fu lesson, learning German, guitar and python, and hanging out with my friends and my boyfriend. I am not really happy, my family life is a huge mess, and I still have many self esteem issues, that I thought I had eradicated, but I am ecstatic to study and work and work hard for myself to make myself a future. I want to be a chemical engineer, that’s hard, and I want to do it to help third world countries and the environment, that’s even harder. But I want to do it. We will all make it, I know it.
@@AnaLogical-rx1oj How do we do it tho? and damn I miss everything i used to do so happily, ever since then (idek when but yes) never been able to do anything happily.
samee
I’m a nerd and I love studying so much, always work hard in school and I gaslighted myself into thinking that I was a lazy person that never studied and decided to cry mid video. Thank you for this video so much, honestly helped me to get motivated more.
Hey me too! I'm currently trying to get my associates before 18 the load is stressful sometimes but I wish I could just not get tired cause my brain basically stops working after about four hours of studying without breaks 😅
Same I Gaslighted myself too when I am such a nerd that knows the most random knowledge out there. I need be myself again before I turn 18 next year and have to be the academic weapon I am.
Hi, can we be friends
@@stargirl1743so real
Universe brought me here!!
Guess it knows my problem...
Seriously, as a Filipina who is studying for a bachelor program in Denmark right now, THANK YOU for reminding me of my parents' and ancestors' hard work and perseverance so I can get where I am today and persevere. 🙏🏽
My mum's grandmother was born in Lebanon. When she was little they had to flee to Egypt because it wasn’t safe where they lived anymore. She moved there when she was about seven years old and went to school there. She absolutely loved school and was happy she was able to go. When she was seventeen she was married off to a Lebanese man (my great grandfather) and was devastated she couldn’t continue with her studies. They moved to Australia and started a life there. They had my grandmother and her siblings, and later on my Sitty (grandma in Lebanese) had my mum. My mum studied science and later met my dad in Japan. He’s an English teacher from Britain. They decided to move to Spain and build a house. Then I was born and they started an English academy around that time. Now I’m a teenager who goes to the most difficult school in my city, but this video really opened my eyes to how privileged I am to live this life. I’m just realizing how long this is getting so I’m going to leave it here. Thank you so much!!
This is so interesting to hear ❤
I almost started crying when you were talking. Gratitude can bring someone a LONG way.
Hot cup of tea + 30 minutes long Amy Wang video + organising my notebook for the new academic year = enormous gratitude to be experiencing this afternoon
Its 3am and now i want a hot cup of tea
@@Daveeff it's 5 o'clock somewhere
One thing I want to point out is how sad it is that farmers are the lowest social class. The entire world relies on farming. It is such a respectable way of life to me❤ We need more farmers not less.
The depth and realness of this video is unreal. I needed to hear this
I was so uninterested in studies thinking that theoretical knowledge is not my thing I'm made for extra curricular skills but my asian father as usual wanted me and my sibling to be great at academics. With being in a country like India(the real things going on with locals, the discrimination, the cast system, economic problems) I slowly understood that when the forest is burning you need to take care of that first.) knowledge is power and has the greatest value I'm slowly learning this, the extra skills might seem faster way to success(as with idols /actors) but it's temporary and its value degrades gradually. So I'm going to literally the BEST version of me because I'm so privileged to have enough money, resources, and a good institute to make me practice for the goal I have.
All the very best❤
Goodluck 🧡
what a coincidence I'm seeing this video before going to school tomorrow
I just want to say I'm so proud of your father he works so hard he deserves it. this video honestly made me cry
I made a promise myself today that I will work hard this year
thanks Amy
Honestly, I realize that I have so much potential wasted on social media. In fact, after struggling to do my first high school class over the summer, I watched one of your videos and willed myself to delete all of my games(even the ones that don’t save to an email etc.), my discord and UA-cam. I honestly still didn’t spend much effort on my class, but I still did have much more time to complete all my assignments, and really study in depth. Due to this, I was able to get a 5.0! Thank you, Amy, for helping me realize how much social media is rotting my brain, and how much better I can be without it.
You are such a wonderful content creator, please never stop making these videos. You are helping thousands of people over the internet, including me, to get their life back together and the least I can do is to thank you! ❤ Also, lots of love from Spain 🇪🇦.
I hope your grandpa is doing okay. Wishing you and your family the best ❤❤❤
Thanks for being real and raw. I appreciate you sharing your family's history.
This is the reality check i needed
I didn't have insta and all throughout high school, and during my college enterance test time
I was such a brilliant student like i topped every single one of my classes, got into med school with a scholarship, and my studies are almost free
But the point is i had this urge to fit in and enjoy and have a fun life like others, and i have fallen prey to these social media apps for like a year now
And now i know this isn't it
Gotta get back to my old self when i actually wanted to study cause i failed my 1st exam in college and barely passed the second thanks to the time i wasted
I'll try my best to get back on track now
You can do it!! All it takes is some simple changes and you'll be surprised at your growth :)
As a 15 y/o immigrant who moved to Canada just more than a year ago(with my mom while my dad has been in Canada for over 11 years), I sometimes forget how hard my family works for me. I've always known it was hard but my parents made sure I never had to face the same struggles they had. Having a roof over my head, more than enough food to eat and clothes to wear, better education and everything I get to do here, all the sacrifices made for me to have a better life is something that I sometimes forget to be grateful for. Love to my parents and respect to all the families out there who work so hard for their families and yet still manage to hide their struggles, pain and sorrows from the world.
Tbh, this video has become my turning point to get "locked in" in studying, I really commend you for making this video, it really shines a new light on how each individual should enjoy studying in their academics in their unique way.
Thank you, genuinely thank you. This made me realize so much, my grandparents are/were all immigrants and worked so hard for future generations to make it, realizing you’re spoiled and privileged is not fun but its the hard truth, thanks and stay healthy everyone!❤️
My teacher rarely congratulates my classmates, and thanks to ur tips she congratulated me! Thank you Amy!
So true, my parents actually had to work right after their 10th standard ended because of family circumstances. I'm so privileged that i can sit in peace to study. I'm sooo grateful for what I have. And I'm also grateful for not having everything because that's what drives me to go forward. I wanna create the start point of higher graduate or a phd for my children when I'll have them in future. Let's work hard besties.
Thank you so much for saying this! As a very mature student I can honestly say, anyone who has the time to study is so lucky! Most people have to work horrible jobs just to get by. Make the most of the privilege we have!
I really needed that video right now because I lost courage to study hard, waking up early and sleeping late. I took the same exams over and over again to keep improving my grades and to obtain a scholarship to study abroad. Ultimately, I even lost courage to go abroad and want to quit competing for a scholarship. Just a few more weeks to go. Thank you for the inspiring video!
i'm so sorry about your grandpa...no one seemed to be mentioning it in the comments, so im so sorry, i hope he gets better
This is the reality check I needed. I feel like I constantly make excuses and I really need to be much more grateful for the privileges i have. I am constantly focusing on the lack and then seeking videos for external motivation. I need to learn to be more mindful and stop making excuses for my habits. Thankyou Amy for this video.
I think god brought me here himself. Treating studying like a chore and not a privilege is my biggest problem, you changed my entire perspective. Thank you for the video!!!
Your family’s story is inspiring and heartbreaking. Thank you for sharing and being a great individual. 🙏🏼
the fact I get super motivated and then I just loose it again I cant imagine how people like you can be so dedicated thank you
I have exams the day after tomorrow. I haven’t opened my books and my syllabus is huge. Today ended a waste. When I tried opening my books, I got so anxious i couldn’t bear the guilt. I kept looking for motivational videos when I just could be studying.. After seeing this video maybe this day wasn’t exactly a waste. ❤ it’s 11:00 pm right now, and I bear no guilt when I open my books because I know I can do it. Whatever I do today will just be a blessing for tomorrow. Thank you for sharing the harsh truth.
For some reason the algorith sent me (28F with a 6-figure job I love, getting my MBA part-time) here. Glad I watched this, you inspired me to text my mother a long 'thank you' message because she set me up with a privaleged life in which I could always focus on my studies. My motivation has ALWAYS been to pay her forward and be able to be there for and financially care for my mother as she ages. I hope school-aged folks take this to heart - studying is a GIFT.
girl you hit the point
made me cry and want to study more...
thanks man hats off
Hi Amy,
I usually don't write comments but I really want to thank you. Just two years ago I had decent grades, but my life was miserable and my mental health at an all time low. I spent 6+ hrs on social media every day trying to ignore all my problems. But last summer I decided that I had enough and wanted to fix my life and found your channel. Now, I have extracurriculars 5 days a week, while still meeting with friends and actually enjoying life. I realise that getting an education is a blessing, especially in the country that I live. My parents came here from a different country with a hard life and not great education, just to give me the opportunity for a good life. I am so grateful to them and also to you for igniting this fire in me. My grades keep getting better and better and now I'm at the top of my class. I'm driven to achieve my potential.
Thank you
i did everything i could… was not able to study for long hours or at all… then i questioned myself did i really do what i could’ve? no. i downloaded insta in a moment without thinking again without controlling myself… soo rn 2 months clean of insta… super proud… and tbh the fact that we can’t focus is actually cuz of our motive… we want money but not the hard way and when we see one person get rich like that its soo frustrating… so rn im in terms with myself getting my anger issues in line getting my studies in line… and i really hope amy one day people actually heed to your content and damn gurl your are amazing
This is the best video you have made so far. Raw and straight to the point, it gave us a whole new perspective on education and any other opportunity or blessing in our lives. Thank you and keep making videos like this one particularly.
I hope your grandpa gets better. Wishing you and your family health.
I was on the verge of tears listening to this story. I'm truly privileged.
Thank you for opening my eyes, Amy.
Sending prayers! 💝
You are not weird! I totally understand what you went through, I feel the same way, you inspire me! *giving you virtual hugs with soft pats on the back* Thank you for the video and for all the hard work you are doing great. Keep up the great work dear ❤️
Your channel gives me hope that America is not screwed and that we have people willing to learn and go to college, seeing people proud of there success in the comments about getting a good grade on there test and there success in college is amazing.
I could hear about your dads story all day! The way you tell it is so inspiring and memorable.
Thank you, im 17 and currently procrastinating. I just feel really unmotivated to study despite having the goal of being a veterinarian one day. Ive bought a book from school in which i paid for, but havent been using it despite the purpose of needing to learn and educate myself. Just from watching this video, i can see i lack the discipline, persistence and focus. My mom always wanted to finish her studies, unfortunately, she doesnt have parents to support as her own mother left her and her siblings for a man and build a new family for and grew up with her grandma. Her life was hard, and did whatever opportunity she can to make money just to survive. Although she didn't finish her education, she was still really smart, meanwhile i have all these resources yet dont use them and waste my time just watching youtube. Although your story of your grandfather and your family isnt the same as the story of my mom, it does remind me of the story she told me and this video made me, i guess, in a way reflect on that, and the now im living in and the things im doing and not doing.
To say, ill try my best, for me and my future. Honestly, even if its just a video to tell me and others to be motivated in a way and the gift of having access to education, youre like a friend reminding me on what i should do, despite not having friends (except one) and whats right and beneficial to me.
Sorry for the yapping n shit, i honestly just feel tired, hope you dont mind the grammar and stuff, but i just felt like needing to let this out since its not often i talk to someone to talk about these things.
Thank you Amy, youre like a friend to me, and again, ill try my best to study and atleast do some studying this evening, i appreciate you and this video alot.
I agree that our generation needs to be more appreciative of what we have. Studying may be hard, but education is also a privilege, especially a good quality education as well as higher education (university/ college). I also don't think tiktok is helping in this category (obviously not just tik tok but its so easy to get caught up in that app). Specially, consumption culture and seeing video after video of people saying "look at this new thing I bought" or "you should try this" or "you cannot live without this XYZ."
my father didnt get to complete college. Got a small job at just 17. Got an interest in computers. And now, with all the hard work he did, he is at one of the highest positions in a company. Now i could just - ask him for his card to buy makeup n shi and he'd give it, knowing its gonna cost a lot - but he xan afford that now. Bought me 6000INR worth of stuff. One person can save an entire bloodline. But one can also destroy a bloodline. Tho we have a lot of money, i wont be able to live off it when im older. I HAVE to work hard - for me, my parents, and the future generations. My dad, despite not having complete education, got to such a high position w just hard work. Went from sleeping in a house w one room to a really big home. He is the reason im living my life. I have all resources - w the same hard work as him, i will get to such great, great lengths. He's an inspiration. Im 13 and im sure i'll make him n mum proud.
I am so grateful to my mother and God for giving me opportunities in my life to push myself as high as I can be.
what a strong mindset, thank you for all your advices, I will change my bad behavior towards studying. My parents and grandparents also grew up and worked in china. My grandpa was like the only one in his city to repair watches, but although that he was quite poor, like the other people. he worked hard, and then in the 80's he flew to Italy to find opportunities, like most of Zhejiang people, and then they started a new life working very very hard, in a factory. My dad would go to school in the morning and work till night, having a little time for studying in a room where there were all the workers of the factory, a very small apartment. After that they earned some money and had the possibility to go to Milan, where they found better job, and gave me and my siblings a better starter point. tk you
i messed up my igcse not because i couldnt study, it was because i didnt want to. I feel guilty for wasting the life my mom and dad work so hard to give me. The worse part is that i know my potential and what i am doing now is not it. I messed up my life after an incident that happen years back and never got out of it. i think I am so used to geeling this guilt that I am immune to it. This just reminded me of how much my dad struggles for us. Thank you.
I was stuck because of this for 10 yrs,and now I just realized that I have to really act on it to make things right again.Been doing this for 2 months and life starts to get better again and I am slowly forgiving myself.I hope u don't wait 10 yrs to get back on track.
As someone who’s gonna be having igcse exams in 5 months, that makes me wanna try hard. My parents do have to save up a lot of their money for both my brother and I’s education…if I don’t do well, I feel like I will not be able to even repay their efforts with those good grades I dream of…the point is I need to get myself out of this procrastinating habit and I know…if I try harder, I would actually get better grades than average.
You are my inspiration Amy......Thanks for your precious words!!!
I agree 100% with everything you've said. I had depression and anxiety since I was a young teen, and I've been seeing psychologists for YEARS. I've always struggled to study (and I still do), and I've always struggled with other things such as eating well, exercising, getting out of bed. The thing that worked the most wasn't any of the tips my psychologists gave me to implement new habits. The best things they did were
1. teach me to sit in the discomfort instead of going to my comforts such as stress-eating or scrolling on IG or looking for new Webtoons etc. If I didn't want to study, they told me to just sit until I went to go study again.
2. change my whole outlook and mindset on my life. Tbh becoming a Christian did this significantly more for me, but it was definitely something my psychologists were trying to teach me too. Once I adopted more similar mindsets to the ones you talk about, my perseverance and resilience when it came to studying improved a bunch.
Amy Wang is the one who motivated me the most to work hard and make my parents proud of me ❤ thank you😁
This is the video I needed. I'm not in a very good starting point and actually recovering from a surgery but I'm grateful i could be where I'm right now and already deleted social media cuz I AM curious about my potentials. I hope your grandfather gets well soon
One of my motivation methods is to push my limits, without thinking about succeeding or failing but rather see what my body can do when I push my self. Break my own records when trying harder.
The pain(cause of the hard life that your family had) and the feelings/respect you have for your grandparents and parents can literally be seen in your eyes. You have no idea how helpful this video is for a lot of people. You and your family deserves all the good things and so much more. Thank you so so much for existing Amy! Bless you Sis💗💗💗
I agree 100%!
As a 22 year old, i realized that it truly is social media and my own lack of discipline. For me personally, I couldn’t manage my time on my phone and it was like an addiction. I was never ever a perfect student, always had a 3.0-3.5 GPA. And I do blame a lot of it on how much I went on my phone and procrastinated.
I failed anatomy 1 recently and this video was my wake up call. I decided to delete snapchat, limit my instagram usage SIGNIFICANTLY, and now i’m going to retake the course and spend more time studying and absorbing positive material vs toxic social media content. I want to read more books, try new things, enjoy LIFE, and not be glued to my phone anymore. i’m so sick and tired of the brain rot, I just want to be more intelligent.
hey Amy!!
commenting after a long time
I had been a good student all my life before the lockdown but after it my graph started declining.
but ever since I have started watching you I have regained my identity and recently I just got 99% on a test without studying!!
so thanks a lot ❤❤
you are a real one!
This video is something god wished me to see because I may not have social media right, but still I spend hours on Netflix and UA-cam that I forget that there’s a pile of homework for me, a pile of assignments for me, a pile of revision for me. I have my exams coming up yet there is no seriousness in me. I’m just so grateful that someone is here to bring me back to my senses. I never knew how people struggle to live and just push themselves to make a living at the exact time we were relaxing and binging Netflix. I’m so grateful to have source to education, food and basic living accomodities. I am so grateful for everything❤️
I hope ur grandpa is doing better and tysm for this video haha it made me tear up a bit at some parts but it was honestly needed. i always scroll on youtube shorts like 2-4 hrs, I procrastinate and complain about everything being too hard but I never really try my best when I know I can do better. Love you Amy hope ur doing well ❤
i can see what kind of unexplainable feelings you had while talking about your grandpa story and I just wanna thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing such a personal issues the message is clearly sent ❤
I honestly really apprecitate your mindset, a lot of people think about why cant I have it better? but then they do nothing to actually get it better. You apprecitate that you could be worse but you are not and you make that mindset your motivation to get even better. Dont stop. Dont stop even when you are proud, go even beyond your dreams and make them go from dreams to reality
Ever since I bumped into one of ur videos my studies began to rise rapidly thank you so much 🥰🥰
Thank you, I'm the first to enter college in our family and everything you said is so real for me. I'm doing fine (passing) but you made me realize that I could do better.
"Surpass your limits right here, right now!" - yami sukehiro
This video really made me think a lot... Thank you for helping me see how privileged I am for the opportunities I have. When I heard your family's story, I also thought about my own family history.
I can relate a lot as a girl from Indian middle class family thanks for giving strength from inside... ❤
Im greatful I saw your video. I’ve been feeling depressed for years and I’ve been just on my phone and unmotivated forgetting how other people had theirs life’s. My grades are really bad and it just motivated me
Amy, I have to say this. I've been watching your videos since March and you never fail to teach me something. Like not even a few, there are absolutely no people on this platform who actually talk like you do, realize the big picture and be actually concerned about the lives of students in this generation. I felt great knowing that I've already thought about a few things you mentioned here. Your unscripted videos are always on another level, they hit the best. I was able to understand and feel grateful, for the opportunities in my hand now. Thank you so much. Lots of love & support for you, always 💗
AMYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY SISTURRR!!! I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS SINCERELY IN MY HEART!!!!
The fact that I got to know your channel in this early year of 2024 from where I got recommended when watching my country-based study videos on youtube!
To start off, I'm a computer science student, where I also need to take addmaths, physics and chemistry. I'm not that good in science (well i hate biology), but i finally showed my true self this year. In recent years, I have a mindset of turning the tables down, esp this year as I will be sitting for a government exam jsksksk. And the moment i watched your videos and get to knoww more about you, you lift me up of the sense where I should never give up and work hard *and smart while watching your videos* to achieve the marks i manifest to. I used your tips like for example, i shouldn't think of getting A's, but instead, shud think of how can I achieve the greatest position as a student. And yes, this is truly important to have this mindset, as right now I'm on the list of targeted A's students! I dont want to miss out on this opportunity to comment here and say thank you for showing all this and srsly it helped me. In this one year, I get to prove to ppl that I have the potential as a student. I don't mind of me being alone, ppl talked back abt me, leaving me or wtv cuz ik my abilities, and I get to defend myself.
Btw, I hope this video gets a blast of viewers, I truly hope srsly and also get more subscribers!!! My exam isn't end yet, I'll be sitting on a government exams and the first paper will be on this december 2. Please pray for me people, thankiew so much for reading this :)))
I have severe ADHD, studying for me was always my love and hate, and I did fail a lot, but I always get up and keep going further, eventhou nobody believe in me, I started with BA in political science when just finished school, which I hated thats why I was pushing myself to study better so I skipped 4th grade, and went from 3rd to 5th, then after 9th grade I completed 10 and 11 in one year, I was 16 when I applied to university, I passed exams brilliantly and got a scholarship but after a semester I collapsed, started in September, dropped out in December same year, in January put myself together and got accepted at College (business and finance) graduated with honours, then my parents who worked hard sent me to study abroad, probably to keep this "shame at distance" because I just could not get into "schedule, deadlines, discipline" and felt myself terrible about myself, thinking why I am not capable to do simple things like everybody else...... again ... after a year. I dropped out.... marriage...divorce... I could not plan anything, I could not focus, I felt depressed, started to work as movie extra... started to paint, and trying to find balance... second marriage, 3 kids (within 4 years), 2 of them with severe ADHD and learning problems... one of them in special ed class, he is 4 and I am getting calls almost daily to pick him up because he is distracted, unfocused, running around the class.. My kids became my mirror... I was looking at them and heart was crying.... I did not want them to go through the same nightmare as myself....and something inside of me felt they will not succeed if I will not focus on them and their neurodivergent brains....., I started to take psychology courses, started to educate myself, as a parent, then completed 18 months post grad diploma in clinical psychology during covid, then counselling diploma, within those 2 years I did over 30 certifications on multiple topics around adhd, neuroscience, learning disabilities... then I decided to do BA in psychology, and NO it did not came to me with ease, , I was struggling, I am struggling even more then ever before with my studies, because in psyc major big focus is placed on research methods and statistical analysis and I have particular problems with numbers but I told myself " Now, I am a mother and through them I finally find myself, at the same time through finding myself *(psychology) I can and I will be more effective for them...... and sometimes when I feel like it's too much, I am overwhelmed..... when kids sleeping I sit in front of my laptop and will cry for 5 min, and start working on my assignments again, because I have a goal excel their mental health, and their future and their self-esteem, because ADHD kids they are not "comfotable" and teachers don't get into details how to help them study, they simply sending them home or punish or humiliate, and I am their advocate! I want to overcome my own ADHD, to be able to help my kids, next go to the grad school, and become a licensed so I can help kids with ADHD, because they need a lot of support, care and patience not blaming, and humiliating.
One word for this video- inspired. Thank you for sharing this Amy.
I NEEDED to hear this. You've just kinda rewired my brain. Changed something really important. I was going home from the uni on the bus and thinking of my procrastination and lack in motivation. And I also thought about my grandparents who were working hard as doctors all their life and still! are working, and only thanks to them I could afford that university. But I don't study hard, Im playing video games and watching UA-cam. And precisely at that moment I scrolled to this video. I really think I MUST change something right now. I should be grateful. Thank you so much! You are a so wise person
Best video yet, (the 2nd is the motivational one about having disadvantages such as illness) This grounds me and I listen if I am lazy. I'm 32, with schizophrenia, just beginning a degree in psychology and counseling, I've never been to university before. I'm so grateful for the opportunities I have. I understand I need to be easy on myself if I am struggling. I spent 2 and a half years on an acute mental health ward followed by 7 years in supported living. I've done his and that since: work, study, gained qualifications. ANYONE can have a future, just persevere. Now my next stepping stone is once again being strong for this next chapter and higher level in my life. There are things in my past that took immense strength to keep going and build resilience, followed by periods of comfort zone. But now I'm ready... I will not stop moving forwards and being humble again. Challenges make you inspired. I'm definitely on an upwards spiral. Keep boosting people up Amy, I will not listen to any other study influencer. ps. you are so cool!!! :D
Just love your videos!! It works (genuinely speaking)my academics have improved so much from a C to A and I am doing extra activities as well like volleyball and dance...Thank you, Amy!!
This video was what I needed. I'm so depressed with my lack of focus and discipline. And I know study is an opportunity, I think I am focusing on my bad feelings SO much that I cannot position myself where I was before. Thank you Amy, this video gave me the lift and shock that I need to continue and become the person/student I was
Amy is a blessing to us.
The fact that i got so immersed in your bloodline's story, and my eyes started to water because its true. I got a reminiscent of my parents past, how they're immigrants and came to Oman in the early 2000s, my mother being the youngest child and how the entire family stood AGAINST her education, literally, they wouldn't allow her to go to college because she was the youngest in a children of 8 and they didnt want to invest money (even though my maternal grandparents never had to suffer poverty, they had enough money) BUT everything changed when my mother's senior year Biology teacher asked her brothers to let her continue her education, that she was smart and talented and their money won't go to waste. Suprisingly after so much negotiation, they finally allowed her to go out of state for her nursing degree and now she has me + my 2 siblings + a nice life + an ungrateful daughter like me (THANKs to Amy for opening my eyes yet again, its important that i remember the hardships my parents went thru to get me this life)
This video really shows me the power of studying hard and perseverance. I’m praying for your grandpa’s recovery from cancer. Truly inspiring💕💕💖💖
Thank you for revealing the brutal truth about how education and studying is important in our life and also how our parents and grandparents sacrificed their lives for our better future .We are just wasting our time on social media and videogames.Thank u for this video, God bless you🙏❤️
Amy, I swear to the gods, I am so so so grateful for everything you upload. I almost always scored As, every exam I gave. But recently in my last unit test, my first terms of freshman year, I screwed up. Really bad. For the first time ever, I failed in a subject. And, honestly I just felt like I was in such a bottom hill place.
But your videos, oh my god. The tips you give, the reality checks, the way you share things, you give us advice, it feels like a safe place. A comfort zone, for me at least. Because all in all honesty, you are so genuine from what I perceive. You genuinely care for us, and I love that so much because so many creators out there, honestly don’t. Please take care of yourself Amy, we love you. Thank you for everything you upload, and the efforts you put in for us.
Hi Amy I am from Bulgaria.I want to say how happy I am when I saw this video and every time when I have to remember this I am back to watch this video.This what you said is so true.❤
I am a student from Hong Kong, thank you for your videos that remind me of the things that I have today, don't just come from the sky, but from my parents' hard work. And now I gonna test my upper limit to improve my life as a return to my parents.💝
literally into the first two minutes of the video and I just have to say: I admire your confidence so much Amy! don't stop bringing your voice out like this. the way you speak and your high self-esteem is gonna be contagious!!! 🤭
I've also really taken the value of learning through free resources by heart. many, including me, sometimes forget (or don't even realize!) how MUCH info is available in the world. no, really, Google and AI has catapulted the world into a completely new dimension and era. just take a moment to acknowledge this, and it's one step towards achieving the human capital you want to build for yourself.
(PS: you should not obsess over trying to make hard work fun, but when you're working on something you so deeply + intrinsically desire and love, you can't help but make it fun. Amy shows us how shallow tips of "gamifying studying" or searching up "hOw tO sToP pRoCrAsTiNaTiNg" is just hiding away from the root problems.)
this is the most genuine and heartfelt video about importance of education
so so inspiring!!
im your fan, forever subscriber!
lots of love from india
I love the way you speak and articulate yourself. It really delivers the message wholeheartedly. Can you do a video on how you developed yourself to be so well-spoken?
Hi!! I appreciate that! Honestly I was really shy before and I still think I have a long ways to go for speaking skills. What I can say is that it's LOTS of practice! My earliest videos are so cringe hahhhaa
Hey Amy! This video definitely touched a heartstring. My father also shares the same story, and he’s the most hardworking and passionate person I know. In his childhood he and his siblings mostly ate off the scraps of his neighbors and they were living in the slums. Until later on his sister, having seen his passion to study and chase his goals, gave him a sponsorship to study in college. He’s currently working as a seaman away from his family for years up to this date just to give us a good life. Recently I’ve been having a problem with both video games and social media, and am currently demotivated to work hard. (even though I was studious before in highschool) This video is certainly a reminder and wake-up call to study hard and develop our skills while also not taking for granted all these things our parents are struggling to give us. Such a unique and brutally genuine video. So glad I’m subscribed to this channel.
Thank you so much . I have my finals and I was completely burnt out . This shifted something
I appreciate how you made this video very slow-paced, not in a rush or with the need to entertain the audience all the time, it really helps to convey the message you’re talking about. Not everything in life is gonna be fun, and that’s ok. It doesn’t have to be. What matters is to keep going and don’t give up in hard times.
Probably the most deep and valuable video I’ve ever saw on youtube. Thank you. I’ve really needed that rn. I was surprised to hear the similar thoughts I once had about all this. Thank you for reminding me and giving a push now when I kinda wanted to give up on everything.
The fact that you brought up your grandma and how she wouldn't eat really got me. My grandma will only eat our leftovers and wait for us to finish and I never really knew why. Seeing this perspective really changed me dearly. So many other videos were telling me just to do it because you will be feel better but why? Thye never explained any background and it was all just repetitive and nothing really caught my attention. Thank you for sharing your family's story it really encourages me to take opportunities with the best of my abilities.
This video was such an important reminder, especially since I’ve just started my studies on university. But I was also barely holding tears and some points, as there were so many similarities and parallels between your family history and mine. While my grandparents on father’s side had a much better starting point (e.g. education), this was during times when Ukraine, my home country, was a part of USSR. Therefore, scarcity of products, whether it was food or clothes or anything else, was a huge problem even for the people in middle class. My grandparents lived in a single tiny room with 2 children (my father and uncle) in a communal flat (meaning you share kitchen and toilet with a number of other families). Both of them, and then my father had to work hard to improve their living conditions, and then to allow me to have a very comfortable life and a top-quality education.
I was taught to work hard since childhood and I’m happy to have that thrive to do the best I can whenever I can. But I was never as self-aware about this as you are and your video helped me to see some things clearly.
I totally agree with you on some many points about effect of social media and how improbable internal motivation is to achieve anything. But I wanted to ask you on your opinion about burnout and how to prevent it?
Thank you so much for sharing your story and thoughts❤
I'm from Pakistan. My great-great-grandparents were British captains who worked for the Pakistani government during independence. We're Christians, and life became very hard for us after Zia's rule. Minorities like us were forced to convert, abducted, murdered, and our churches were destroyed , people were burnt alive. Muslims didn't give us good jobs, even if we were qualified. They only offered us hard labor jobs. Newspapers would say, "Christians needed for sweeper positions."
My grandparents worked hard as laborers, but they made sure their kids got an education. My parents told me stories about their struggles and sacrifices. I feel connected to their experiences. I'm grateful for my parents' achievements, which are more than their parents could have dreamed of. They're strict with me because they want me to succeed even more than they did. Watching this video makes me cry.
now my only goal is to get a fully funded foreign scholarship so i can repay them and make their lives better
I will pray for you! Stay on focus.
as a pakistani myself i deeply sympathize with you and i know and hope that you will have success
May you achieve your dreams 💓
I am very sorry, it is unfortunate that such things are rarely, almost never spoken about! Your ppl deserve so much better :( and those ppl arent true muslims because the quran literally forbids such crimes! They are just demons
Your family is an inspiration and an excellent example of the American dream. You're incredible people.
Sorry to hear about your grandfather-I think it’s great how you emphasize that hard work leads to happiness.
I just want to say somethings. I also came from a family where my grandfather was a farmer but managed to get my father into education. Well my father worked hard and you know achieved and gave me and my older sister a better life as a middle class family. I am constantly reminded that i should work hard and i should be putting much effort because there are people out there that want to have what i have. That there are people that don't even have the basic need necessities and that i am privileged to have this and that i always should be putting in much much work. That is the mind set i had growing up and also the mind set i have. Having this in mind i started to study hard and worked hard but watching my peers do stuff that makes them happy and have an easy way in life always made me question myself. Like why do i work hard even though i know why. I started to question and doubt things and after some time, when my grades started to fall, and because i grew up thinking that academic success is my life and that's my purpose, and that i'll be worthless and useless to the family and that i am being a disgrace to my parents, when my grades started to fall apart, i started to fall apart myself. I started to question that... if academics is the purpose of my life and i hate it, then what happens when i finish school? what happens when i graduate? Why do i have to work hard when my peers are having fun and also doing better than me? Overthinking and anxiety started to kick in. I started to hate school, i started to hate life in general and i went to social media and started to watch "happy people" doing "happy stuff" and i get happy for a short while. It was until recently (i'm currently a second year in uni studying architecture) and i met this dude and we were in the same class in the first semester in first year and idek how he figured it out but he said that i need to change my mindset and that i have like.... like weights tied on me although i have developed so many skills that grew me stronger and that those weights are holding me back from me reaching my full potential but he didn't clearly say what was holding me back. I was holding me back this whole time thinking that i will never be enough and that i am not worthy at all if i don't succeed in academics. I was always undermining my efforts and achievements. While i think working hard is very important, not acknowledging what u have done so far is a bad thing. One thing i realized about myself is that i still worked hard even though it wasn't through all of my efforts, i still managed to be average. I still managed to have my head in the game and not to fall apart. All i want to say is that.... even though knowing that other people want what i have now and that i should be grateful and that academics is an opportunity that we have to use, people... for whoever who is reading this... please that academics is the end of your life. Academics is something that helps you to develop ur skills and to sharpen your tools not your purpose. It is something that HELPS you and that's why it is important. Always believe that you can do it and always put in an effort even if u don't think u can do it. It is what helped me to get to where i am. Stay strong and don't forget urself and other. Just like Amy said, education is an opportunity and we have to use it since things are literally under our fingertips :)
my grandfather came to norcal in the 60s. he was an immigrant and one of only 3 punjabi farmers in my area. he built so much to the point they had so many orchards and were comfortable with money. came with under $20 to the US.
him and my grandma would always lend money to anyone who needed it in our rural(at the time) town, without even asking it back. they would almost always get it back bc people were better back then.
unfortunately in 2004, 2 weeks before i was born, he passed away. and with that my family/uncles sold off most the orchards in the family.
to this day i always hear how amazing of a person he was and how hard he worked. this video made me sad because it made me realize im throwing an opportunity away. it really just is hard for me but in perspective i’m not doing enough.
what did trickle down is the values, i know when someone is actually a good person within seconds of meeting them. i don’t want to be near anyone who is not. i am able to work hard work wise, but school has just become hard for me. i do hope i can find a balance as i never got to meet my grandfather, but while he was working i know he envisioned more for his grandkids. my dad was high school valedictorian and got his masters in electrical engineering from SDSU. i have big shoes to fill so it can be hard.
I do like hearing other people’s stories though. Thank you for sharing yours
THANK YOU VERYYYYY MUCH THAT WHAT I NEED TO KNOW.......... THE MISSING PIECE
Such a different perspective! I love this. Being able to go to school is a privilege, so we need to make the best out of it and really try to do our best.