Hi Joe Mendez, it is great to see another Alpha Phi Omega brother comfortable coming out. I was the first out member of the Alpha Phi Omega National Board in 1986. I hope you are well.
Well, I am sure that I was not the only person who identified as LGBTQ. And even though we may not have been open about it. I think everyone knew who was gay. Sadly, a lot of the guys in the fraternity died of AIDS. in the early 80's. Sad. What a time we went thru back then.
Truer words have never rang clearer. I like companionship, but I realized years ago I am a very solitary person and its just how I have grown to love and appreciate my approach to life.
It sounds like you have become totally comfortable with yourself, just as you are. And ... there were some fantastic experiences along the way. That is a blessed place to find yourself.
Not only is there nothing wrong being single........ for some, it's an absolute necessity. As Joe said, it does not preclude having relationships. (My solitude is my sanity.)
I think many of us feel that the only way we can be happy is to be in a relationship. But I learned thru therapy many years ago that I had to learn to be alone first. Before I was in a relationship. While Paul and I were together, I was in therapy. And I worked thru a lot of my family issues which helped me continue my 4 year plus relationship with Paul.
Joe Mendez thank you for sharing your life story. Sometimes we need someone to be in our lifes. A partner that we can share everything the good and the bad things that happened in ur lives. To care for each others. Don't stop to love someone.
Kudos to your extended family for taking care of you, but still to be able to make it on your own from such a young age is commendable! I don't think being single is sad at all, but I think having companionship is a blessing. I hope that you will eventually fall in love again. You deserve it. Loved your story.
Thank you for your comments. I do agree that companionship is a blessing and welcomed. But as I said in the video, I am quite happy and content living my life alone. I am quite used to it now. Falling in love is wonderful. And being in a loving relationship is better than anything. I go forward with my life as it is suppose to unfold.
𝐉𝐨𝐞 𝐌𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐳, a realtor from Los Angeles, recounts his personal journey of growing up gay amidst a religious upbringing. Explore the challenges, conflicts, and revelations he faced within the Catholic faith, and witness the strength it took to find his true self. linktr.ee/JoeM1108
Thank You, Joe for sharing your journey. I'm 64yrs old and I can relate to many of your experiences. Even though it was rough being different in those days I would never change the era to which we were born in. Thanks Again! Tom
The sweetest human being! I bet obnoxious, emotionally unintelligent know-it-alls are still trying to find him roomates to this day, because there's just no way he could possibly know his own mind, right? 🙄 People can be so exhausting!
@@lgbtqarchives kinda. I left to go to college at 19. It was, and to some extent, it is still a small town and I couldn’t wait to get out. I had two friends but neither were openly gay to me not until after graduation.
Such a nice fella…down to earth and humble.
Hi Joe Mendez, it is great to see another Alpha Phi Omega brother comfortable coming out. I was the first out member of the Alpha Phi Omega National Board in 1986. I hope you are well.
Well, I am sure that I was not the only person who identified as LGBTQ. And even though we may not have been open about it. I think everyone knew who was gay. Sadly, a lot of the guys in the fraternity died of AIDS. in the early 80's. Sad. What a time we went thru back then.
Truer words have never rang clearer. I like companionship, but I realized years ago I am a very solitary person and its just how I have grown to love and appreciate my approach to life.
It sounds like you have become totally comfortable with yourself, just as you are. And ... there were some fantastic experiences along the way. That is a blessed place to find yourself.
Not only is there nothing wrong being single........ for some, it's an absolute necessity. As Joe said, it does not preclude having relationships. (My solitude is my sanity.)
I think many of us feel that the only way we can be happy is to be in a relationship. But I learned thru therapy many years ago that I had to learn to be alone first. Before I was in a relationship. While Paul and I were together, I was in therapy. And I worked thru a lot of my family issues which helped me continue my 4 year plus relationship with Paul.
@@JoeMendez1108 Thanks Joe, for sharing your story!
You are very welcomed. I hope it helped someone face their journey. @@marquamfurniture
correct .. to live together is not for me ... at least with a guy
Joe Mendez thank you for sharing your life story. Sometimes we need someone to be in our lifes. A partner that we can share everything the good and the bad things that happened in ur lives. To care for each others. Don't stop to love someone.
Kudos to your extended family for taking care of you, but still to be able to make it on your own from such a young age is commendable! I don't think being single is sad at all, but I think having companionship is a blessing. I hope that you will eventually fall in love again. You deserve it. Loved your story.
Thank you for your comments. I do agree that companionship is a blessing and welcomed. But as I said in the video, I am quite happy and content living my life alone. I am quite used to it now.
Falling in love is wonderful. And being in a loving relationship is better than anything. I go forward with my life as it is suppose to unfold.
𝐉𝐨𝐞 𝐌𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐳, a realtor from Los Angeles, recounts his personal journey of growing up gay amidst a religious upbringing. Explore the challenges, conflicts, and revelations he faced within the Catholic faith, and witness the strength it took to find his true self.
linktr.ee/JoeM1108
Thank You, Joe for sharing your journey. I'm 64yrs old and I can relate to many of your experiences. Even though it was rough being different in those days I would never change the era to which we were born in. Thanks Again! Tom
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The sweetest human being! I bet obnoxious, emotionally unintelligent know-it-alls are still trying to find him roomates to this day, because there's just no way he could possibly know his own mind, right? 🙄 People can be so exhausting!
I have seen him before. I agree with him. Being with other people have been some of my loneliest times.
Wow, I grew up in Brownsville too!
Similar experiences?
@@lgbtqarchives kinda. I left to go to college at 19. It was, and to some extent, it is still a small town and I couldn’t wait to get out. I had two friends but neither were openly gay to me not until after graduation.
@@carlosillustrates Brownsville is NOT a small town. Its big! But it is small in connections with people. If this makes sense!
@@JoeMendez1108 yes, you’re right. It’s quite spread out, but after living in Dallas for over 30 years, to me at least, it’s a small town.
it is crazy how gay life was eidespread in the states even universities when in europe it was in many country dangerous or of minumum evidence
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