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I do share your opinion Harry! I ve come through his channel a few months ago and I was telling myself how the hell is this guy touching these women as if they were objects!
Yea. I think it’s because it’s viewed from a male gaze and well almost anything we do could seen as sexual to a lot of men. It’s really gross and needs to stop.
What a load. A lot of female players competely overexaggerated their grunts themselves, while hitting the ball slowly, sexualised them themselves by making them orgasmic, and used them to try to intimidate or distract their opponents.
I'm a watcher not a commenter, but this is true allyship in action. Thank you for thoughtfully approaching this subject and supporting folks with your platform.
As a women that loves lifting and has also being a victim of sexual assault, I have to say.. You making this video is so nice... And all you said... Thank you! Thank you for being that person. I followed this channel 3 years ago and still... For me it's the most honest one among all fitness related youtube channels. God bless you for being so empathetic.
It’s interesting how women are his main target audience and ultimately who have made him successful, yet not only does he treat these girls like they are just bodies he can touch wherever, he also insults our work ethic and intelligence. It says everything about his character. Thank you for being a male in our corner. I hope this can be a growth opportunity for Bret and other men who think/act similarly. We want to be comfortable and confident at the gym to reach our goals instead of worrying if the exercise looks too “sexual” for us. I appreciate your commentary on this topic!
@@TFNL you definitely didn't overstep. It's wonderful having a man call out questionable behaviour towards women, especially in a world where a lot of men's first impulse would be to come out in defence of Bret and explain why we, as in women are overreacting. There's a good reason why most of your audience are female.
@@TFNL We thank you for this video! There should be more people talking about it but he is very upheld in the fitness circle. Which problematic within itself.
Well, I had found BC super helpful in the past, but hearing this stuff is really disappointing. I wasn't that deep into his stuff, other than training tips, to even be aware of this crap. I just feel really crappy hearing and seeing this sketchy stuff from/about him. Thank you for standing up for women and being so respectful of women. You have responsibly called this out. That takes guts. You are gold, Harry. Thank you.
That's it, you can provide knowledge, be knowledgeable and an expert but still be a creep. When I was studying sports science one of my uni tutors was completing his phd and was known to sleep with the young female students. Just a sleazy creep who preyed on the power he had as a tutor- he wasn't a uni official as he was still a student there but Def had a position of power and as he was likely 26-29 and many students just 18-19 made it more predatory. At the time I just kind of stayed away from it but I don't think anyone would have done anything then in still early 2000's
So one I would add to Harrys comments of who to follow, Sohee Lee is also a good fitness expert to follow. I think she may have her Masters at least in the study of Exercise science? I may be incorrect but she is very knowledge and focuses on the overall strength for women.
Raising awareness regarding issues like this is so important. I’ll admit that I find the gym a really intimidating place to be. I workout at home as that’s my happy place. Thanks for looking out for us all, gender aside, we all deserve to feel safe and respected 🙂
Harry, you got me crying at work. The way this Brett guy had those “tips” and the way he was touching the women made me physically sick. I have been sexually assaulted and man that shit lives with you for the rest of your life. The humiliation that I felt, it feels like it never goes away sometimes. But thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you so much for talking about it and shedding a light on it. You honestly mean so much to me and what you do. I don’t think you’ll ever truly know how much it means to me. And I’m not trying to simp but you really are a gem, please keep doing what you’re doing. Okay and I’m done being dramatic, have a good day 💕
Even I felt repulsed by all that, I cannot possibly imagine how it must be for you. I am sorry you had to endure that and I hope you are doing well (all things considered)
Oh no, I'm sorry! It is horrible to see but it needed to be said. I'm so sorry to hear this but I hope you know I'm always here if you need somebody to talk to? This can't be easy to overcome and I hope you never feel alone. You also mean SO much to me and I can't thank you enough for all of your support! You are a great human and I appreciate you more than you'll ever realise, Bianca. Thank you
I'm so sorry to read that, hope you are doing better. Sadly it's a pain you have to live with but I hope you have alot of support system around you to get you through the tough times... Sending alot of love your way...
I have always liked your content but now my respect for you grew immensely. I was, unfortunately assaulted, nothing happened after I went to the authorities and I did feel powerless, so when you said you don't want your audience to feel like that I felt tears in my eyes. I'm wary of men after what happened, so it is very nice to see you caring about this and using your platform to bring these issues into the light. Thank you so much, your labor is immensely appreciated ❤️
Got emotional with you when you were reading through the inappropriate comments Bret made in his list of recommendations. Even though I'm not new to the gym anymore, I still feel uneasy most of the time, and particularly when I'm the only woman in the room. It's honestly just so refreshing to have a male voice that's so encouraging and understanding in this space. Thank you!
Thank you so much for making this issue and for addressing these points. I feel that if a woman had made this video she would have got 'gosh you're being hysterical' or 'you're making a mountain out of a mole hill' Especially as Bret sells himself as a research based and backed trainer. Its so concerning that this man is breaching trust, breaching boundaries and just essentially using his position to emotionally abuse people. Thank you again.
Video notes: As I stated prior to this video going live, going to forego my typical video notes to give voices to others who may want to speak up on these issues in your comments, plus we’ve already talked extensively about my feelings on this during video prep. Briefly, I can tell how passionate you are about the protection of women and creating a safe environment for them, and I can see that Bret’s sexist article and his, at best, questionable actions, upset you for how inappropriate they were. I just want to affirm really quick that you are a great, wholesome person, and lots of people appreciate you for who you are and your care for others. It’s very powerful for a male figure to be speaking out about these things, and hopefully this can lead to some positive change. As always, thank you for being you. To reiterate to those who have experienced some of the issues expressed in this video, again, it was not your fault, it was entirely on the person who hurt you. Please do not hesitate to reach out for help using the resources in the description or your local resources. If you need a family member or friend to be with you, please consider doing so, as I recognize it takes a lot of bravery to speak out and seek help. If you are somebody who witnesses or suspects anything suspicious happening in regards to sexual, emotional, relationship abuse, etc., please also consider using your voice to speak out and help those who have been hurt. Oftentimes there are bystanders or those who know who do not speak or take action, and bystanders can be a very powerful force when it comes to stopping or preventing behavior like this.
Honestly I gained so much respect for you through this video… you handled this topic so well and I love that you are not shying away from these complex topics
Thank you, thank you, thank you!!! Idk if you remember, but I was the one (or one of the people) who commented on the video where you mentioned to talk about him to look into it further than just his workouts because I believe it matters and I have been actually quite anxious ever since. You handled the whole topic so incredibly well and I have so much respect for not shying away from talking about the hard things
Ooh I’ve been looking forward to this since you mentioned a couple of videos ago!! Prince Harry, is that you?! Catch that crown adding extra to your gym PBs🤴 For real, thank you for how respectively you handled this. Genuinely, thank you for calling out this BS. It really does feel like a safe space here, you’ve done something incredible by carving out this little space for us all to come together and support each other. Biggest love to you, Harry 💙
This video auto played while I was doing something else and I had to replay so I could give it the attention it needs. As a guy I stand with you with calling out this type of behaviour. When doing my PT role I always seek express consent when touching to support cues - including training my own wife (it is just best practise). Hats off to you chap.
Thank you for making this video! As a female trainer and a female who loves training, I get angry and frustrated seeing and hearing this. 120 Tips - Those tips are such BS. The biggest misconception is the females want to train with minibands, kettlebells, etc.. They "like this" because that is what has been MARKETED TO US FOR YEARS. So that is what many females think it is the proper training for them. 8 out of 10 female newbie gym clients wanted a training program, where they just wanted to do bodyweight exercises once a week, and then all they wanted to do was go to some Zumba courses because that is what they thought was the right thing for them. Another reason many women "like" this kind of training is because they do not dare to go to the weight section. Going to courses, working out in a small corner with their mini bands is their safe space. Because they fear being looked at inappropriately or being made fun of. Once I introduced some of my female clients to weight training, step by step, they LOVED it, asked more science-based questions, wanted to understand their bodies better, started doing their research, and made great progress. Physically and mentally. They took up the space they needed and became more confident in the lifting rooms. But even when being confident, many do not dare to grunt or even breath properly because of being sexualized. All in all, the things you pointed out are sexist (and I genuinely do not get affected easily by these things), not backed by factual evidence. To all of you out there: if you encountered sexualization, just know it is not your fault. Also know that you have the strength to overcome it. You have the power to take up the space you need and be confident. Do not let anyone bring you down or make you feel uncomfortable. Physical Contact - As a trainer, I understand that physical contact is necessary for some scenarios, especially to explain directions of f.e. pulling, etc.. It makes things easier. But even as a female, I never dared to touch another female like in the first video you showed. Most of the time, I would show and explain where they should feel the contraction the most on my own body. Even after them giving consent, I would not grab ANY body part that way. Imagine explaining to a dude how to bench press and squeezing his chest like that; no one would ever do that. It is not necessary, it is weird, and even the angle of filming paired with the grabbing is just straight out disgusting. As someone looking for "glute education," I do not see how this is supposed to help me as a viewer. Him standing in front of that girl while squatting is straight-up disgusting and unprofessional. It might happen unintentionally if you want to check out if everything is fine with form. But you go and check quickly, get back and stand beside her. I realized that many times, people also prefer their trainer standing on the side. As a female, it can get weird when a male stands behind her while squatting. For any male trainers in this comment section: I suggest you stand behind a female client when she is lifting heavy and might need support. Besides that, standing on the side gives a great view of her foot and knee positioning, plus you can also observe what happens with the spine throughout the movement. The biggest plus: She is less concerned about being looked at from behind. The small things make a huge difference in feeling safe and confident for many female clients. To everyone out there: If you ever have experienced situations like this, it is not your fault! If you ever have a trainer (male or female) do this to you, you have the strength to say no! or communicate your discomfort. Thank you so much for making this video and spreading awareness. Your channel has mostly female subscribers for many good reasons. You debunk myths and give valuable information; you are kind-hearted, you spread positivity and awareness when needed. We all appreciate you, your efforts and head wear. Also the fact that you know when the headwear is appropriate. Thank you for looking out for us. It is time that we all start looking out for each other more in the fitness industry. This comment is as long as an essay, but it all needed to be said.
I can understand why! I love you insight and input. It's interesting for me to read as I am obviously not exposed to many of these issues but I'm so sorry to hear that you and many others have been. I really do appreciate you a lot
Everything you said is 100% the reason i was too scared to weight train for YEARS. I just started 2 weeks ago at a an old school gym and the trainer is super helpful and it's been amazing so far ❤️
you are really such a gem of a person !! so appreciative of the support, concern and passion for helping others that you show, to women and to everyone. my deepest condolences to anyone who has experienced any of the issues covered in the video :( you don't deserve that, you deserve the world ❤️
I think its great your adressing the issue. Especially since it seems its rlly hard for you which makes me appreciate it more. You called out your concerns in a very wellspoken and argumented way. Which says alot about you. Its great you give your attention too these kind of issues aswell. You seem like a great human being keep it up!
Thank you for talking about this. I had been following Bret since the start of my fitness journey and only learned recently about the allegations his ex have made about him. I haven't seen anyone of the fitness community talk about this, and given that he's a pretty big figure in the fitness world, I feel it's important to share this, especially to the women who want to work/collab with him or even go to his gym.
Having watched some of Brett's videos myself, I always had an uneasy feeling that something was wasn't right in some of his mannerisms. It's disgusting if he's taken advantage of women and abused the trusted position he's in. Awesome video Harry for bringing this to the attention of others
THANK YOU FOR MAKING THIS VIDEO! Over the past few years, there has been some reports of sexual harassment (by men against women, specifically in the gym) in the news in my country. I have a complete home gym setup for this exact reason. It’s so reassuring to hear that there are men like you in gyms and online that don’t tolerate this kind of behaviour by others in the gym and online. You’ve made many great videos in the past, but I think this is your best one yet. The content in this video is invaluable, I hope you know that.
I personally felt uncomfortable about a few of his videos when he touched women like that. I wouldn't want a trainer to touch me like that (I know that sometimes it might be necessary or helpful but if you are the opposite sex (maybe even same sex sometimes), it's best to confirm with the person if you can touch them to help and you should always avoid any intimate places). Maybe he doesn't mean it sexually and just doesn't care how it looks, or maybe he does mean to touch women like this for sexual reasons, in any case I think it's inappropriate and he needs to stop (if there was no prior consent, and even then you would need to ask the person from time to time if they are okay with it).
Yes. It baffles me why he couldn't have touched himself or inserted graphic to indicate where she should be targeting. In my Barre classes the female instructors don't need to grab me and are able to verbally indicate or demonstrate physically on themselves where I should be feeling the burn.
I just wanna say that your channel and the community here is such a safe and positive space. You come across as such a kind and genuine person 🥰 Love to see it :)
thank you for making this video and handling this topic with such care and consideration. this is why we love you! it sickens and shocks me to see someone with such a large platform behaving this way. it also doesn't sit right with me that he's out here making patronising, misogynistic and sexist comments about women whilst profiting off them... ding dong the patriarchy has entered the chat :S
started watching this expecting to get frustrated about Bret, ended up getting emotional from how respectful you are with every word you use. the world really needs more men like you! thank you so so much for this. you gave me back some hope.
I continue to be amazed at the sensitivity with which you handle these topics you set such a good example for others in this niche ❤️ I was really looking forward to this video and I'm glad you found and covered this angle edit: i read the reddit thread when it resurfaced on the subreddit that's focused on his workouts r/strong curves a couple of months ago and a lot of people had never heard of his transgressions I'm glad they're coming even more to light now.
I don't usually comment but I had to say that this video is pretty great. I love the way you address this topic and spread practical awareness about it. (not to say that others don't but not everyone does, so I can tell you put care and consideration into this) Thanks for making videos about the important things in fitness!🎉
As a personal trainer I understand what you mean. This kind of behavior is not ethical ... and as a woman I would like more men to have your mentality. I don't usually leave comments on UA-cam channels, but for you I do it with pleasure because I want you to succeed and if I can support you, I will do it. I love your content and I follow you with pleasure. I watch every video, I subscribe with the bell to the channel and I follow you on instagram. 🤗 (I apologize if I made a mistake but I am not a native English speaker)
Some other ignorant statements: 1. Women complain about pain more than men. 58. Women chat during lifts. Men shut their traps and focus on the task at hand. 61. Women dress very sexy at the gym and then act annoyed when males shows interest in them (then tries to cover his stupidity with 62.) WTF. I just started working out again & just found his channel. I am disgusted. I hope others speak out. THANK YOU for making this video. THANK YOU for standing up for women. Also, I love your shirt!
I stopped following Bret when Sohee first brought his behavior to light and more women came forward. It makes me sick the way he treats women who trust him. Thank you for making this video
Thank you Harry… but these things need to be discussed and I’m so glad that you’re discussing it… Bret makes me ill, he is EXTREMELY touchy 🤮🤮🤮 and it’s TRIGGERING as hell. It’s clear that he doesn’t ask for permission. His “cues” alone would bring the violence out in me. I think he’s a joke and loves to sexualize women who go to him for “help”… there are AWESOME trainers out there that help women and MEN strengthen their glutes and at the same time strengthen their lower backs. I have a bigger bottom and big quads so it’s easy for me strengthen my lower body… And no one has to touch me in order for me to achieve that. BIG MASSIVE HUGS for you Harry!!
I have only been following you for a couple weeks now, but I am constantly impressed by how much respect you have for your viewers. I’m a big fan of yours now. Anyway, Bret creeps me out, glad I’m not the only one.
I appreciate the hell out of you and your stance on this. TW: I was sexually assaulted at 18, and felt entirely weak and powerless after the fact. I got into martial arts and weightlifting to gain a sense of "power" back by feeling strong and capable physically. I wanted to feel safe again. Then at 24, I was physically grabbed and sexually assaulted at the gym, a place that for years had made me feel safe and powerful. Afterwards, it was no longer my safe place, and it took me a very, VERY long time to get the courage to go back (to the gym in general, I never did return to that particular one). I was pretty lost there for a bit, but did eventually regain my composure and managed to begin lifting consistently again. I say all of this because there are still SO MANY PEOPLE who would look at this behavior and deem it acceptable. It's not. It's seeing how much he can get away with without repercussions, and I guarantee if he's willing to do this on-camera, he's willing to do worse off-camera. It's a huge red flag, and the thought of what he and men like him are capable of makes me personally ill. It's not ok. Stop touching us, stop insulting us, stop thinking you'll get away with treating us as though we have no bodily integrity. We do not consent.
I'm sorry to hear that you've been through this. Behaviour like this is unacceptable and needs to be addressed! I appreciate you and thank you for sharing
i’m so sorry this happened to you. to this day men don’t understand how dangerous and uncomfortable some men make women at the gym feel, your experience is valid and i hope you can continue to heal ❤️
Thank you so much for this! As you just said this issue Needed! to be addressed. Sadly we live in an un-perfect world and the fitness industry can be VERY sexist sometimes, particularly for those just starting there fitness journey seeking help from these kind of instructors. The thing I highlight about this video is that I sparkes awareness on this topic wich sadly isn't talked about enough and is really easy to throw under the carpet given the circumstances. I believe the fitness community should be more woke on this kind of issues. As you said we need to protect each other and make sure our hopes for health and happiness aren't EVER exploit like this. And this should include all individuals. I personally feel that this topic should be covered more often. Not just by you but by anyone from a fitness instructor, influencer or enthusiast. Mayor thumbs up for you Harry! for bringing this up. I believe a lot a people will feel grateful for what you talked about today
It's my pleasure! It really can which is such a shame and you're right, it's not discussed enough/should be discussed more. I really hope so, thank you so much
I’ve been working out for years and following you all for years. It’s so hard to find someone that sorts through all the misinformation and doesn’t have an agenda to sell something to you. I’ve done the 8 week program you’ve developed a few times and watch you often. I can’t thank you enough for being one of the you tubers that genuinely cares and works hard to make training approachable to everyone. I strive to be as knowledgeable as you and use that power for good like you do. Hats off to ya mate ✨
This comment made my day, thank you so much for tolerating me for so long! I've released a new programme which can be found in the description if you'd like it :) You truly are too kind and I can't thank you enough for all of your lovely words and support
I appreciate you and the fact that you addressed this. I thought it was just me who thinks the Bret is making inappropriate gestures on his videos. I salute you! Stay safe!
Brett was never comfortable for me to watch and I could never put my finger on it. Men like him are the reason women would rather listen to bad advice from a woman who doesn't make them feel creeped on over good advice from a creepy man.
The amount of times he sexualized normal women's training behavior was absolutely nauseating. Maybe the reason he thinks men's grunts aren't sexual sounding is because he sees them as human beings engaging in athletic pursuits instead of sexual objects training our butts to become more sexually appealing to men. And then combined with the shots of him gripping what was filmed as basically a disembodied butt cheek with her face deemphasized and encouraging another man to do the same...GROSS. And all of that combined with his apparently low opinion of women's training mindsets and intelligence. It's disturbing that this man has made his name by basically patronizing women and sexualizing their bodies and yet women who are desperate to grow their glutes are drawn to his expertise. I'm glad you made this video and I'm glad you proposed alternative sources of information. I'm in a weight lifting group for women and his name gets mentioned every time someone says they want bigger glutes. We shouldn't be giving our dollars and respect to anyone who views us this way.
Brett's weird behavior has been mentioned before several times, however, I think that the clout of such established friends like his have managed to lessen the impact of previous accusations. Thanks!
Thank you for such a sensitive approach to this topic. As a yoga instructor I have unfortunately heard of or seen many cases of abuse similar to this. It is awful when a person in a position of power and authority takes advantage of those who look up to them. I think your message here is very important and it was delivered so well.
Harry Thank you for always pushing for positivity, balance, and transparency. You just about had me in tears when you were upset. I thoroughly enjoy your videos, your humour and take on things. Thank you also for advocating for basic human decency, kindness an protection. These are needs that not all people have met by others in their life and sometimes they don't feel deserving of them. It's so important to have trust in any relationship, trainer/client included. Cheers from Vancouver Island Canada
I had several thoughts after watching this video and reading the comments. 1 - There should be more female only gyms so women are free to exercise without feeling intimidated. 2 - Men don't giggle when they reach failure? I do, especially during leg based moves that temporarily remove the ability to walk properly. 3 - Touching. I get a PT may put their hands on you to move you into the right position, but that squeezing seemed sinister. 4 - Grunting noises. I think that says a lot about his mindset, and how he views women in general. Great video, needed to be said.
With all my internalized misogyny, I used to blame the women in Glute labs/glute squad videos for the oversexualized content. These Sohee reveal made me think that I could have blame the victims. I am so pissed about myself. Thank you for addressing this topic so tactfully.
Harry, this video was amazing. I have watched Bret's video's and I noticed how much he touches the women and how rude he is. You are not oversensitive. Unfortunately these type of men Abuse and rule the world. Strength and Love to you Harry, Meg xx
@@TFNL you are a good guy Harry. You have a good Soul. You remind me of my eldest son 💔You both have the same kind heart. Thankyou for taking the time to make contact. I wish you all the love and happiness in the world, Meg x
I never comment on videos, however after watching this I felt I needed to say thank you. Thank you for bringing attention to this and for all your great content. 💜
I workout with my teenage son...I have grunted and made noises, usually I make squeaky sounds for whatever reason...never have I ever thought I sounded sexual, nor did my son ever think I was making any sort of sexual sounds when he's with me and/or spotting me. What the heck? Seriously. I won't comment on all of the points you've already made but yes, that's a whole heck of a lot of ignorance coming from that guy. Those videos though...oy. 12:09 says it all, "I want people to happy, safe, and well." Thank you for speaking out, this was a lot.
I love that you workout with your son, that is amazing! It is and it's such a shame coming from him. Thank you for tolerating my video and for supporting me as always
@@TFNL I had never heard of this guy but it reminds me of what the US ladies gymnasts are dealing with with their sexual harassment case against that doctor. You are doing a lot by speaking out.
thank you for talking about this!! i don't know why so many fitness influencers i follow are trying to cover up his reputation. i heard he even bragged about beating up the local unhoused community, he's sick!
I know I'm late to this, but I only recently found your channel and I'm really glad I did. I appreciate you so much for making this. I actually didn't know about a lot of this but have watched his content and while his exercise knowledge seems sound, his behaviour has just always set off little alarm bells. I'm glad to have more information, because now those alarm bells aren't so small anymore. Thank you for shining a light on this ❤️
Thank you for addressing this. It’s a tough topic and I think it a reason many women don’t like going to the gym or are hesitant to get personal trainers. There’s too many stories of men taking advantage of those situations. When my best friend and I were in high school, we had this personal trainer and he’d send us unsolicited pictures of himself all the time. We were minors, 17 or 18, and this guy was old enough to know better. It’s probably one of the biggest reasons I’m hesitant to return to the gym as an adult. I’m sure it’s happened to many other women. It’s gross and it needs to stop
I've also never understood why one would want to grow their glutes and not the legs alongside them. But whatever, if it makes people happy, sure. I appreciate that you put on the headwear beforehand, since it really would not have been fitting/ appropriate to keep wearing it. And I really appreciate you speaking up about this/ talking about this. It is very important that men speak up against such things. I've only read a bit of the stuff on Discord. The 120 tips-article is already chock-full of sexism and inappropriate statements. Disgusting. Absolutely disgusting. And you are absolutely not overly sensitive. (ca 06:15) You are absolutely right about this. I really appreciate the way you articulate yourself and criticise this. It really is both frustrating and infuriating. How can it be that this man has never (to any larger degree) been called out on his sexist bs? The intense touching in the collab videos stuck out to me as well when I randomly clicked through the Krissy video. He comes across as so creepy and disgusting. Seriously, how are people okay with that? The positioning in front of the lifter during the squats definitely seems like he's doing it for his imagination and as a bit of power play. Combined with the constant touching, it is absolutely gross. Not to mention that it would be ridiculously irritating to have someone stand so close to you during squats. Even without all the other stuff going on. 11:20 I really, really appreciate that part of the video. You are a genuinely amazing person. There is a reason why this community loves you so much. You are beyond wholesome and your supportive nature is very much appreciated. Thank you for making this video. It's obvious that doing so hasn't been easy on you, either. Which makes me even more appreciative. And the tact and respectful nature really goes a long way, too. Thank you again.
It blows my mind too! Once again, reading your comment leaves me with a smile on my face (despite the nature of this video). Your input is always detailed, your points are always fair, and your comments are always too kind. Thank you for being an amazing human, Marc
@@olxxa4967 to answer the (admittedly not super important in the context of this video), a lot of women will pursue trying to grow just the glutes because we start off thinking we can get an arse with squats and lunges while already being quad dominant and end up growing bigger quads while experiencing minimal glute and hamstring growth - so we switch to mostly hip hinge movements to compensate for an imbalance we’ve already created.
I was introduced to fitness at the age of 18 when I joined a local, small gym where there always was one person on the floor to coach people and correct form. If I needed correction of some kind, this guy would ALWAYS ask me if it was okay to touch me, EVEN ON THE SHOULDERS! Watching this, even after having watched it a year ago, hurts so much. Disgusting.
Im at 7:26 and on my break while studying for my exam, so im just turning down the volume and letting the video run cause my brain is full. Been dealing with my own gym issues 😔. Liking, commenting and finishing cause I gotta support and help your channel and spread the word! This video (even so far) is so important and thank you Harry for making it ❤💪 thank you for watching out for us women and promoting a safe space for everyone to learn, grow and have a laugh at silly hats and cute pets
As a female personal trainer, who now is coaching other trainers. This video highlights some very important point. An can agree, from a female point of view. That would make me extremely uncomfortable for a coach to approach a session in that way. I have had a bad experience in the past with a male coach not understanding empathy post comp prep. Which is also a really dangerous topic and would be curious for you to shed light on comp coaches or ‘online’ coaches, that put people through comp prep and have no empathy or offer no support
Thank you for bringing more awareness to this subject and for caring about people feeling safe & seen. We appreciate your heart. The world would be a better place with more people like you! I rarely comment on videos but here I am commenting again on one of yours!
Usually never comment on UA-cam but I want to express how important this video is. I thought BC was a good source and consumed a bit of his content. Seeing his interactions with the women performing the exercise sometimes made me feel odd but I reasoned to myself that he is a professional. Women are so often deemed the problem for ‘taking things the wrong way’, it’s sometimes easier to believe there is no wrong doing and accept actions as normal. Had I not seen this video, I’m actually quite concerned that I would have accepted actions similar to BCs as the norm and could have fallen victim to it. I can’t thank you enough for this awareness to the topic 💛💛
I have only ever watched one of Brett’s videos and his demeanor toward the girl demonstrating the moves gave me ick vibes (he kept calling her “young”). I didn’t even know these accusations around him. Thank you for making his video. You have a beautiful soul and are a gift to UA-cam and the fitness community.
Anybody who makes an entire gym about building glutes is a sketchy weirdo. I saw that from the jump. I don't know how you clowns didn't see this coming. You don't need anything more than squats and deadlifts to grow your ass
You could have very easily swept this suggestion aside or focused only on his content instead of addressing all the other issues. I can imagine this wasn't the easiest video for you to film, and I appreciate you endlessly for it. 12:00 I just want to hug you 🖤
Hello lovely people ❤️ May I just say if you been a victim of a crime I will highly encourage you to step forward in order to receive help and to report this to the right authority.
Thank you for your care and consideration with this subject matter. Thank you for always being classy and showing such respect, not only for women but for all.
That first video made me physically uncomfortable. Even if he had consent from that woman there should be general guidelines in personal training about how and when to touch a client. Then inappropriate behavior can be objectively called. Consent means nothing if you hold power over someone. I am a nurse and we talk extensively about when and how to touch patients in a professional manner.
Funny how he lists tip 64 without actually presenting any science or research of his into this matter. Maybe its not just the ladies who are into anecdotes, eh Bret?
Thank you for helping to raise awareness…. This video truly brought me to tears for personal reasons. Thank you for being so caring & genuine, I truly appreciate you!
Thank you for this video. I have found Bret's knowledge to be very useful, so I was shocked to see the title. I can completely see your point of view and its nice to see a man and a professional look at this critically. Gives awareness that this is not normal, appropriate behaviour from a PT. Even with consent, why does he need to be that hands on/familiar with all of his clients? Gross.
Relatively new to your channel, and have been watching several videos over the past few days. I appreciate how respectful you are about these issues, and about the criticism you give in general. Being a woman with a sports background involving a lot of mixed grappling, it's clear to me that respectful behaviour is not hard for most men. Asking permission to correct someone's form, and then doing it in the least sexual way possible is not hard. Any person who claims it is too difficult to do so is not a person to trust with your physical well being.
Dude i have such a great respect for you now !! Its amazing that you used this platform not only for reviews but bravely discussing topics that are not discussed properly. I think your observations are valid and a lot of women may/may not be brave enough to share their experiences with him. I think brett is intentionally doing this,not just to correct the persons form,that shows his filthiness.Glad you did a video on him.
I found your channel about a week ago, and my god this is exactly what I like to see from influencers! I love your honesty and support for the community! Love your videos!
Wow I really had no idea about this. I remember seeing his video with Krissy and thinking he was kind of patronizing. Thank you for covering this. I’ve had so many bad experiences with creepy men of all ages at the gym, even while pregnant 🤢 I have my own equipment at home now. I miss the access to all the variety of equipment but I don’t miss the male dominated atmosphere
I'm so sorry you've had bad experiences and I can understand wanting to workout at home (for a variety of reasons). But at the same time, how can we ever change the male dominated atmosphere of the gym if women don't show up? We need more women in the gym, and more women in the weight rooms to normalize it, not fewer. My mind immediately goes to having sex designated weight rooms so that everyone's fears of being observed, judged, and potentially harassed are lessened, but that definitely comes with its own problems. I don't have the answer for everyone, and we have to do what's right for us, but I really hate the idea of afab and femme presenting people not being able to take advantage of the gym.
I think even if consent for touching was given it is not appropriate to demonstrate this on yt. Bret is a huge role model for aspiring personal trainers, this is not the behaviour that should be shown.
Thank you for this video ❤. I've left two gyms because of creepy behaviour. This video helps me know that there is more people out there who care like you.
Hi everybody! Watching this vid in my new apartment and crying a little over this topic. I'd love to see more personal trainers prioritising a general well-being of their customers and training buddies no matter their body or other training goals. How could being disrespectful to one's body help to get one's goals? It's awful and it looks painful. Only once I was touched inappropriatly by a stranger and I could still feel this particular part of the body burning. Can't imagine where the fitness journey took the people who were unlucky to be guided by the person you mention here. Thank you for letting others to not to be fooled by them. All the love and respect to you Harry and the TFNL fam.
Thanks for doing this video Harry. I'll admit I've watched Bret's stuff looking for mechanics on training, so myopically that I never even noticed the way that he produces his videos nor considered that they would be published without consent given for his contact. This revelation is disappointing to say the least. I appreciate your empathy and maturity in broaching this subject. I can only imagine how much more difficult a space this can make a gym for some.
Thanks for covering this super sensitive topic... You are a blessed soul and I'm happy to have you in my life with all your positive energy and great attitude to life... Thank you!!!!
I don`t normally comment stuff, but I appreciate your opinions and content so much! Your channel really is a safe space for women (others too ofc), and I learn so much from you. Thank you for speaking up and out about inequalities in the gym, it really needs to be said!
@@TFNL as a PT myself, I always ask for consent to touch and use the back of me hand not the palm, or just point to the body part. I got Into brets content during my S & C degree n shared his pages to female clients, but it's about supporting women's self esteem not sexualising the training
As a meticulous workout log tracker, very science interested and based weightlifter who can't help but grunt like an animal while enjoying exercise repetitiveness and also happens to be a young woman, I just despise what this Bret person or however his name is, is spreading. We're already sexualized enough, and it does happen at the gym at very inappropriate times... Also, as being someone who loves to push her limits and feel the pain and fight through it, it's very discriminatory to not even consider this an ability women have. We can endure so much and keep going. Just disgusting. Thank you so much for speaking up about this and raising awareness!
If you or anybody you may know has been impacted by any of the topics highlighted throughout the video, please have a look at the useful resources/links in the description box
I do share your opinion Harry! I ve come through his channel a few months ago and I was telling myself how the hell is this guy touching these women as if they were objects!
Thankyou Harry ❤️
Thank you Harry 💕
I appreciate people like you so so much
Ily all
i am a tennis player and i hate how women’s grunts are still mocked and sexualized , whereas men’s are not. same thing in the gym! so frustrating!!
Yea. I think it’s because it’s viewed from a male gaze and well almost anything we do could seen as sexual to a lot of men. It’s really gross and needs to stop.
I can only imagine!
Maybe women should save it more for the court and stop using it everywhere else then 👀
What a load. A lot of female players competely overexaggerated their grunts themselves, while hitting the ball slowly, sexualised them themselves by making them orgasmic, and used them to try to intimidate or distract their opponents.
omg yessss I hate that its "soft porn"
I'm a watcher not a commenter, but this is true allyship in action. Thank you for thoughtfully approaching this subject and supporting folks with your platform.
yes love this comment!
I appreciate you, Sarah
As a women that loves lifting and has also being a victim of sexual assault, I have to say.. You making this video is so nice... And all you said... Thank you! Thank you for being that person. I followed this channel 3 years ago and still... For me it's the most honest one among all fitness related youtube channels. God bless you for being so empathetic.
I'm glad that I didn't overstep and I'm sorry that this happened to you. Thank you so much for supporting me for so long
What form of sexual assault…please go into explicit detail 👀
@@romonk5980 creep
@@TFNL you may want to moderate creepy guy's comments on this video, he's made quite a few
It’s interesting how women are his main target audience and ultimately who have made him successful, yet not only does he treat these girls like they are just bodies he can touch wherever, he also insults our work ethic and intelligence. It says everything about his character. Thank you for being a male in our corner. I hope this can be a growth opportunity for Bret and other men who think/act similarly. We want to be comfortable and confident at the gym to reach our goals instead of worrying if the exercise looks too “sexual” for us. I appreciate your commentary on this topic!
It's definitely an odd dynamic. You know I've always got your back and I hope I didn't overstep with this video
@@TFNL you definitely didn't overstep. It's wonderful having a man call out questionable behaviour towards women, especially in a world where a lot of men's first impulse would be to come out in defence of Bret and explain why we, as in women are overreacting. There's a good reason why most of your audience are female.
@@natashaarvanitis332 You're amazing, Natasha
well said. it turns what would be helpful advice from someone who treats us not as objects, to something very demeaning and insulting
@@TFNL We thank you for this video! There should be more people talking about it but he is very upheld in the fitness circle. Which problematic within itself.
Well, I had found BC super helpful in the past, but hearing this stuff is really disappointing. I wasn't that deep into his stuff, other than training tips, to even be aware of this crap. I just feel really crappy hearing and seeing this sketchy stuff from/about him. Thank you for standing up for women and being so respectful of women. You have responsibly called this out. That takes guts. You are gold, Harry. Thank you.
It really is! I shall always try my best :) As are you, Mary
That's it, you can provide knowledge, be knowledgeable and an expert but still be a creep.
When I was studying sports science one of my uni tutors was completing his phd and was known to sleep with the young female students. Just a sleazy creep who preyed on the power he had as a tutor- he wasn't a uni official as he was still a student there but Def had a position of power and as he was likely 26-29 and many students just 18-19 made it more predatory. At the time I just kind of stayed away from it but I don't think anyone would have done anything then in still early 2000's
So one I would add to Harrys comments of who to follow, Sohee Lee is also a good fitness expert to follow. I think she may have her Masters at least in the study of Exercise science? I may be incorrect but she is very knowledge and focuses on the overall strength for women.
Raising awareness regarding issues like this is so important. I’ll admit that I find the gym a really intimidating place to be. I workout at home as that’s my happy place. Thanks for looking out for us all, gender aside, we all deserve to feel safe and respected 🙂
It is! I'm sorry that you feel this way but it's great that you've found your happy place
Sorry you went felt uncomfortable in the gym environment, glad you have found your comfort zone
Take care dear
I workout at home because when I go to the gym I get distracted . I just want to workout .
Hope you’re doing some self work conceitednessis a very slippery slope 😇
@@romonk5980 based on your comments on this video, you'd certainly know
Harry, you got me crying at work.
The way this Brett guy had those “tips” and the way he was touching the women made me physically sick.
I have been sexually assaulted and man that shit lives with you for the rest of your life. The humiliation that I felt, it feels like it never goes away sometimes. But thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you so much for talking about it and shedding a light on it.
You honestly mean so much to me and what you do. I don’t think you’ll ever truly know how much it means to me. And I’m not trying to simp but you really are a gem, please keep doing what you’re doing.
Okay and I’m done being dramatic, have a good day 💕
Even I felt repulsed by all that, I cannot possibly imagine how it must be for you.
I am sorry you had to endure that and I hope you are doing well (all things considered)
@@marcwittkowski5146 thank you for your kind response. I’m doing better now and I don’t let it define me. Just gotta keep on truckin as they say lol
A man obsessed with women’s buttocks and making a living from training them. A strange guy? No way!
Oh no, I'm sorry! It is horrible to see but it needed to be said. I'm so sorry to hear this but I hope you know I'm always here if you need somebody to talk to? This can't be easy to overcome and I hope you never feel alone. You also mean SO much to me and I can't thank you enough for all of your support! You are a great human and I appreciate you more than you'll ever realise, Bianca. Thank you
I'm so sorry to read that, hope you are doing better.
Sadly it's a pain you have to live with but I hope you have alot of support system around you to get you through the tough times...
Sending alot of love your way...
I have always liked your content but now my respect for you grew immensely. I was, unfortunately assaulted, nothing happened after I went to the authorities and I did feel powerless, so when you said you don't want your audience to feel like that I felt tears in my eyes.
I'm wary of men after what happened, so it is very nice to see you caring about this and using your platform to bring these issues into the light. Thank you so much, your labor is immensely appreciated ❤️
I'm so sorry to hear this, that is awful! I'm always here if you need to chat and I appreciate you
Got emotional with you when you were reading through the inappropriate comments Bret made in his list of recommendations. Even though I'm not new to the gym anymore, I still feel uneasy most of the time, and particularly when I'm the only woman in the room. It's honestly just so refreshing to have a male voice that's so encouraging and understanding in this space. Thank you!
Understandably! Thank you for saying that, I never want to overstep
Thank you so much for making this issue and for addressing these points.
I feel that if a woman had made this video she would have got 'gosh you're being hysterical' or 'you're making a mountain out of a mole hill'
Especially as Bret sells himself as a research based and backed trainer.
Its so concerning that this man is breaching trust, breaching boundaries and just essentially using his position to emotionally abuse people.
Thank you again.
It needed to be done! I can't help but feel you may be right, which is so wrong in itself. I appreciate you
Video notes:
As I stated prior to this video going live, going to forego my typical video notes to give voices to others who may want to speak up on these issues in your comments, plus we’ve already talked extensively about my feelings on this during video prep. Briefly, I can tell how passionate you are about the protection of women and creating a safe environment for them, and I can see that Bret’s sexist article and his, at best, questionable actions, upset you for how inappropriate they were. I just want to affirm really quick that you are a great, wholesome person, and lots of people appreciate you for who you are and your care for others. It’s very powerful for a male figure to be speaking out about these things, and hopefully this can lead to some positive change. As always, thank you for being you.
To reiterate to those who have experienced some of the issues expressed in this video, again, it was not your fault, it was entirely on the person who hurt you. Please do not hesitate to reach out for help using the resources in the description or your local resources. If you need a family member or friend to be with you, please consider doing so, as I recognize it takes a lot of bravery to speak out and seek help. If you are somebody who witnesses or suspects anything suspicious happening in regards to sexual, emotional, relationship abuse, etc., please also consider using your voice to speak out and help those who have been hurt. Oftentimes there are bystanders or those who know who do not speak or take action, and bystanders can be a very powerful force when it comes to stopping or preventing behavior like this.
Thank you Austin!
Austin, you are a fantastic human and I can't thank you enough for all of your help with this video (and everything else)! I appreciate you a lot
Honestly I gained so much respect for you through this video… you handled this topic so well and I love that you are not shying away from these complex topics
Thank you so much, Jimmy
Thank you, thank you, thank you!!! Idk if you remember, but I was the one (or one of the people) who commented on the video where you mentioned to talk about him to look into it further than just his workouts because I believe it matters and I have been actually quite anxious ever since. You handled the whole topic so incredibly well and I have so much respect for not shying away from talking about the hard things
I would not be surprised at all if your comment was an important factor in this. Harry really takes the community input to heart.
Of course I remember and I appreciate you for pointing this out to me! Thank you so much for everything
Ooh I’ve been looking forward to this since you mentioned a couple of videos ago!!
Prince Harry, is that you?! Catch that crown adding extra to your gym PBs🤴
For real, thank you for how respectively you handled this. Genuinely, thank you for calling out this BS. It really does feel like a safe space here, you’ve done something incredible by carving out this little space for us all to come together and support each other. Biggest love to you, Harry 💙
Just you wait, it'll happen! Oh Courtney, you truly are far too kind and I'm so thankful to have you as part of the family. The love is mutual
@@TFNL 💙💙
This video auto played while I was doing something else and I had to replay so I could give it the attention it needs. As a guy I stand with you with calling out this type of behaviour. When doing my PT role I always seek express consent when touching to support cues - including training my own wife (it is just best practise). Hats off to you chap.
You're a solid man, Phil. I appreciate you and feel privileged to have your support, thank you
Thank you for making this video!
As a female trainer and a female who loves training, I get angry and frustrated seeing and hearing this.
120 Tips -
Those tips are such BS. The biggest misconception is the females want to train with minibands, kettlebells, etc.. They "like this" because that is what has been MARKETED TO US FOR YEARS. So that is what many females think it is the proper training for them. 8 out of 10 female newbie gym clients wanted a training program, where they just wanted to do bodyweight exercises once a week, and then all they wanted to do was go to some Zumba courses because that is what they thought was the right thing for them. Another reason many women "like" this kind of training is because they do not dare to go to the weight section. Going to courses, working out in a small corner with their mini bands is their safe space. Because they fear being looked at inappropriately or being made fun of. Once I introduced some of my female clients to weight training, step by step, they LOVED it, asked more science-based questions, wanted to understand their bodies better, started doing their research, and made great progress. Physically and mentally. They took up the space they needed and became more confident in the lifting rooms.
But even when being confident, many do not dare to grunt or even breath properly because of being sexualized.
All in all, the things you pointed out are sexist (and I genuinely do not get affected easily by these things), not backed by factual evidence.
To all of you out there: if you encountered sexualization, just know it is not your fault. Also know that you have the strength to overcome it. You have the power to take up the space you need and be confident. Do not let anyone bring you down or make you feel uncomfortable.
Physical Contact -
As a trainer, I understand that physical contact is necessary for some scenarios, especially to explain directions of f.e. pulling, etc.. It makes things easier. But even as a female, I never dared to touch another female like in the first video you showed. Most of the time, I would show and explain where they should feel the contraction the most on my own body. Even after them giving consent, I would not grab ANY body part that way. Imagine explaining to a dude how to bench press and squeezing his chest like that; no one would ever do that. It is not necessary, it is weird, and even the angle of filming paired with the grabbing is just straight out disgusting. As someone looking for "glute education," I do not see how this is supposed to help me as a viewer.
Him standing in front of that girl while squatting is straight-up disgusting and unprofessional. It might happen unintentionally if you want to check out if everything is fine with form. But you go and check quickly, get back and stand beside her. I realized that many times, people also prefer their trainer standing on the side. As a female, it can get weird when a male stands behind her while squatting. For any male trainers in this comment section: I suggest you stand behind a female client when she is lifting heavy and might need support. Besides that, standing on the side gives a great view of her foot and knee positioning, plus you can also observe what happens with the spine throughout the movement. The biggest plus: She is less concerned about being looked at from behind. The small things make a huge difference in feeling safe and confident for many female clients.
To everyone out there: If you ever have experienced situations like this, it is not your fault! If you ever have a trainer (male or female) do this to you, you have the strength to say no! or communicate your discomfort.
Thank you so much for making this video and spreading awareness. Your channel has mostly female subscribers for many good reasons. You debunk myths and give valuable information; you are kind-hearted, you spread positivity and awareness when needed. We all appreciate you, your efforts and head wear. Also the fact that you know when the headwear is appropriate. Thank you for looking out for us. It is time that we all start looking out for each other more in the fitness industry.
This comment is as long as an essay, but it all needed to be said.
I can understand why! I love you insight and input. It's interesting for me to read as I am obviously not exposed to many of these issues but I'm so sorry to hear that you and many others have been. I really do appreciate you a lot
Everything you said is 100% the reason i was too scared to weight train for YEARS. I just started 2 weeks ago at a an old school gym and the trainer is super helpful and it's been amazing so far ❤️
Hello pepperson, I read your comment on Bret and it was clear, I'm a female personal trainer from Kenya ( Africa) let's connect
you are really such a gem of a person !! so appreciative of the support, concern and passion for helping others that you show, to women and to everyone. my deepest condolences to anyone who has experienced any of the issues covered in the video :( you don't deserve that, you deserve the world ❤️
This comment was lovely and highlights how much of a gem you are too
I think its great your adressing the issue. Especially since it seems its rlly hard for you which makes me appreciate it more. You called out your concerns in a very wellspoken and argumented way. Which says alot about you. Its great you give your attention too these kind of issues aswell.
You seem like a great human being keep it up!
It needed to be said! I'm trying :) Thank you so much
Thank you for talking about this. I had been following Bret since the start of my fitness journey and only learned recently about the allegations his ex have made about him. I haven't seen anyone of the fitness community talk about this, and given that he's a pretty big figure in the fitness world, I feel it's important to share this, especially to the women who want to work/collab with him or even go to his gym.
It's my pleasure! Thank you for tolerating my thoughts on the matter :)
Having watched some of Brett's videos myself, I always had an uneasy feeling that something was wasn't right in some of his mannerisms.
It's disgusting if he's taken advantage of women and abused the trusted position he's in.
Awesome video Harry for bringing this to the attention of others
It really is but I hope this video can be of use to somebody!
On this occasion, I shall not be keeping my tradition of silly comments. Keep being a positive force Harry ❤️
Ily Samir
THANK YOU FOR MAKING THIS VIDEO!
Over the past few years, there has been some reports of sexual harassment (by men against women, specifically in the gym) in the news in my country. I have a complete home gym setup for this exact reason. It’s so reassuring to hear that there are men like you in gyms and online that don’t tolerate this kind of behaviour by others in the gym and online.
You’ve made many great videos in the past, but I think this is your best one yet. The content in this video is invaluable, I hope you know that.
Thank you for tolerating it! This is sad to read and I understand why you're choosing to stay in a familiar environment. I appreciate you
I personally felt uncomfortable about a few of his videos when he touched women like that. I wouldn't want a trainer to touch me like that (I know that sometimes it might be necessary or helpful but if you are the opposite sex (maybe even same sex sometimes), it's best to confirm with the person if you can touch them to help and you should always avoid any intimate places). Maybe he doesn't mean it sexually and just doesn't care how it looks, or maybe he does mean to touch women like this for sexual reasons, in any case I think it's inappropriate and he needs to stop (if there was no prior consent, and even then you would need to ask the person from time to time if they are okay with it).
I can understand why! It's very much a tricky area...
Yes. It baffles me why he couldn't have touched himself or inserted graphic to indicate where she should be targeting. In my Barre classes the female instructors don't need to grab me and are able to verbally indicate or demonstrate physically on themselves where I should be feeling the burn.
I just wanna say that your channel and the community here is such a safe and positive space. You come across as such a kind and genuine person 🥰 Love to see it :)
You are too kind! I am trying my best :) Thank you
thank you for making this video and handling this topic with such care and consideration. this is why we love you!
it sickens and shocks me to see someone with such a large platform behaving this way. it also doesn't sit right with me that he's out here making patronising, misogynistic and sexist comments about women whilst profiting off them... ding dong the patriarchy has entered the chat :S
And you know the love is always mutual
as someone who was sexually harrassed in the gym once and havent come back for 2 years, this is scary
I'm sorry that this has happened to you!
started watching this expecting to get frustrated about Bret, ended up getting emotional from how respectful you are with every word you use. the world really needs more men like you! thank you so so much for this. you gave me back some hope.
This comment made me emotional! Thank you so much
I continue to be amazed at the sensitivity with which you handle these topics you set such a good example for others in this niche ❤️ I was really looking forward to this video and I'm glad you found and covered this angle
edit: i read the reddit thread when it resurfaced on the subreddit that's focused on his workouts r/strong curves a couple of months ago and a lot of people had never heard of his transgressions I'm glad they're coming even more to light now.
I shall always try my best, thank you! I'm glad that they're coming to light now too :)
Oh Harry…. You are so good at this. Please never ever stop what you are doing! Love and support!
Thank you so much! TFNL isn't stopping :)
I don't usually comment but I had to say that this video is pretty great. I love the way you address this topic and spread practical awareness about it. (not to say that others don't but not everyone does, so I can tell you put care and consideration into this) Thanks for making videos about the important things in fitness!🎉
Thank you for taking the time out of your day to comment! I'm glad that it was well-received, I'll always try my best :)
As a personal trainer I understand what you mean. This kind of behavior is not ethical ... and as a woman I would like more men to have your mentality. I don't usually leave comments on UA-cam channels, but for you I do it with pleasure because I want you to succeed and if I can support you, I will do it. I love your content and I follow you with pleasure. I watch every video, I subscribe with the bell to the channel and I follow you on instagram. 🤗 (I apologize if I made a mistake but I am not a native English speaker)
It really isn't! Thank you so much for being here, for being so lovely, and for being a great human
Great people attract great people🥳
Some other ignorant statements:
1. Women complain about pain more than men.
58. Women chat during lifts. Men shut their traps and focus on the task at hand.
61. Women dress very sexy at the gym and then act annoyed when males shows interest in them (then tries to cover his stupidity with 62.)
WTF. I just started working out again & just found his channel. I am disgusted. I hope others speak out.
THANK YOU for making this video.
THANK YOU for standing up for women.
Also, I love your shirt!
It really is shocking! I appreciate you, Kat
I stopped following Bret when Sohee first brought his behavior to light and more women came forward. It makes me sick the way he treats women who trust him. Thank you for making this video
I feel this, it's horrible! Thank you
Thank you Harry… but these things need to be discussed and I’m so glad that you’re discussing it… Bret makes me ill, he is EXTREMELY touchy 🤮🤮🤮 and it’s TRIGGERING as hell. It’s clear that he doesn’t ask for permission. His “cues” alone would bring the violence out in me. I think he’s a joke and loves to sexualize women who go to him for “help”… there are AWESOME trainers out there that help women and MEN strengthen their glutes and at the same time strengthen their lower backs.
I have a bigger bottom and big quads so it’s easy for me strengthen my lower body… And no one has to touch me in order for me to achieve that.
BIG MASSIVE HUGS for you Harry!!
There is so much serious abuse going on it is systemic and we the victims are tortured and silenced. Love to you all xx
They do and it's my pleasure! It really is and it's horrible to watch. You are amazing and I appreciate you, thank you
I have only been following you for a couple weeks now, but I am constantly impressed by how much respect you have for your viewers. I’m a big fan of yours now. Anyway, Bret creeps me out, glad I’m not the only one.
You are a kind person and I really appreciate you!
I appreciate the hell out of you and your stance on this.
TW:
I was sexually assaulted at 18, and felt entirely weak and powerless after the fact. I got into martial arts and weightlifting to gain a sense of "power" back by feeling strong and capable physically. I wanted to feel safe again.
Then at 24, I was physically grabbed and sexually assaulted at the gym, a place that for years had made me feel safe and powerful. Afterwards, it was no longer my safe place, and it took me a very, VERY long time to get the courage to go back (to the gym in general, I never did return to that particular one). I was pretty lost there for a bit, but did eventually regain my composure and managed to begin lifting consistently again.
I say all of this because there are still SO MANY PEOPLE who would look at this behavior and deem it acceptable. It's not. It's seeing how much he can get away with without repercussions, and I guarantee if he's willing to do this on-camera, he's willing to do worse off-camera. It's a huge red flag, and the thought of what he and men like him are capable of makes me personally ill.
It's not ok. Stop touching us, stop insulting us, stop thinking you'll get away with treating us as though we have no bodily integrity. We do not consent.
I'm sorry to hear that you've been through this. Behaviour like this is unacceptable and needs to be addressed! I appreciate you and thank you for sharing
i’m so sorry this happened to you. to this day men don’t understand how dangerous and uncomfortable some men make women at the gym feel, your experience is valid and i hope you can continue to heal ❤️
Sorry to hear this 💔 blessings on you 🙏
Thank you so much for this! As you just said this issue Needed! to be addressed. Sadly we live in an un-perfect world and the fitness industry can be VERY sexist sometimes, particularly for those just starting there fitness journey seeking help from these kind of instructors.
The thing I highlight about this video is that I sparkes awareness on this topic wich sadly isn't talked about enough and is really easy to throw under the carpet given the circumstances.
I believe the fitness community should be more woke on this kind of issues. As you said we need to protect each other and make sure our hopes for health and happiness aren't EVER exploit like this. And this should include all individuals.
I personally feel that this topic should be covered more often. Not just by you but by anyone from a fitness instructor, influencer or enthusiast.
Mayor thumbs up for you Harry! for bringing this up. I believe a lot a people will feel grateful for what you talked about today
It's my pleasure! It really can which is such a shame and you're right, it's not discussed enough/should be discussed more. I really hope so, thank you so much
I’ve been working out for years and following you all for years. It’s so hard to find someone that sorts through all the misinformation and doesn’t have an agenda to sell something to you. I’ve done the 8 week program you’ve developed a few times and watch you often. I can’t thank you enough for being one of the you tubers that genuinely cares and works hard to make training approachable to everyone. I strive to be as knowledgeable as you and use that power for good like you do. Hats off to ya mate ✨
This comment made my day, thank you so much for tolerating me for so long! I've released a new programme which can be found in the description if you'd like it :) You truly are too kind and I can't thank you enough for all of your lovely words and support
Thank you for sharing this 💙 so many women fall prey to this man, so the more this can be spoken about the better. Appreciate you always!
That’s why he’s my favorite!
And I appreciate you!
I appreciate you and the fact that you addressed this. I thought it was just me who thinks the Bret is making inappropriate gestures on his videos.
I salute you! Stay safe!
Thank you, Angela
Brett was never comfortable for me to watch and I could never put my finger on it. Men like him are the reason women would rather listen to bad advice from a woman who doesn't make them feel creeped on over good advice from a creepy man.
I can understand this!
Exactly!
The amount of times he sexualized normal women's training behavior was absolutely nauseating. Maybe the reason he thinks men's grunts aren't sexual sounding is because he sees them as human beings engaging in athletic pursuits instead of sexual objects training our butts to become more sexually appealing to men. And then combined with the shots of him gripping what was filmed as basically a disembodied butt cheek with her face deemphasized and encouraging another man to do the same...GROSS. And all of that combined with his apparently low opinion of women's training mindsets and intelligence. It's disturbing that this man has made his name by basically patronizing women and sexualizing their bodies and yet women who are desperate to grow their glutes are drawn to his expertise. I'm glad you made this video and I'm glad you proposed alternative sources of information. I'm in a weight lifting group for women and his name gets mentioned every time someone says they want bigger glutes. We shouldn't be giving our dollars and respect to anyone who views us this way.
I agree, it's shocking and sad to see!
Thank you so so so much for making this video, Harry. 💛
It's my pleasure :)
You are always very fair, respectful, and straight forward. Thanks!
I try my best :) Thank you
Brett's weird behavior has been mentioned before several times, however, I think that the clout of such established friends like his have managed to lessen the impact of previous accusations. Thanks!
I think you're right! Thank you :)
He surrounds himself with doe eyed women who worship him and that paints a picture of him being OK as well.
Thank you for such a sensitive approach to this topic. As a yoga instructor I have unfortunately heard of or seen many cases of abuse similar to this. It is awful when a person in a position of power and authority takes advantage of those who look up to them. I think your message here is very important and it was delivered so well.
It's my pleasure! I'm sorry that you've seen such things. Thank you for being so lovely
Harry Thank you for always pushing for positivity, balance, and transparency. You just about had me in tears when you were upset. I thoroughly enjoy your videos, your humour and take on things. Thank you also for advocating for basic human decency, kindness an protection. These are needs that not all people have met by others in their life and sometimes they don't feel deserving of them. It's so important to have trust in any relationship, trainer/client included. Cheers from Vancouver Island Canada
It's my pleasure! Thank you for tolerating me, you are very kind
I had several thoughts after watching this video and reading the comments.
1 - There should be more female only gyms so women are free to exercise without feeling intimidated.
2 - Men don't giggle when they reach failure? I do, especially during leg based moves that temporarily remove the ability to walk properly.
3 - Touching. I get a PT may put their hands on you to move you into the right position, but that squeezing seemed sinister.
4 - Grunting noises. I think that says a lot about his mindset, and how he views women in general.
Great video, needed to be said.
I appreciate you and your insight, Paul! Thank you :)
With all my internalized misogyny, I used to blame the women in Glute labs/glute squad videos for the oversexualized content.
These Sohee reveal made me think that I could have blame the victims.
I am so pissed about myself.
Thank you for addressing this topic so tactfully.
I have a lot of respect for this comment. You're a great person, I hope you know that :)
Harry, this video was amazing. I have watched Bret's video's and I noticed how much he touches the women and how rude he is. You are not oversensitive. Unfortunately these type of men Abuse and rule the world. Strength and Love to you Harry, Meg xx
I appreciate you a lot, Meg! Thank you
@@TFNL you are a good guy Harry. You have a good Soul. You remind me of my eldest son 💔You both have the same kind heart. Thankyou for taking the time to make contact. I wish you all the love and happiness in the world, Meg x
@@neobitcoinbengalbeauty869 You are too kind
I never comment on videos, however after watching this I felt I needed to say thank you. Thank you for bringing attention to this and for all your great content. 💜
A huge thank you Harry for addressing this topic. You are a heart of gold!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I appreciate you, Eva
I workout with my teenage son...I have grunted and made noises, usually I make squeaky sounds for whatever reason...never have I ever thought I sounded sexual, nor did my son ever think I was making any sort of sexual sounds when he's with me and/or spotting me. What the heck? Seriously. I won't comment on all of the points you've already made but yes, that's a whole heck of a lot of ignorance coming from that guy.
Those videos though...oy.
12:09 says it all, "I want people to happy, safe, and well." Thank you for speaking out, this was a lot.
I love that you workout with your son, that is amazing! It is and it's such a shame coming from him. Thank you for tolerating my video and for supporting me as always
@@TFNL I had never heard of this guy but it reminds me of what the US ladies gymnasts are dealing with with their sexual harassment case against that doctor. You are doing a lot by speaking out.
@@thereaderbug398 It's horrible! Thank you
Your messaging on this was so on point - thank you for being genuine and looking out for the TFNL family 💕
I shall always try my best! Thank you :)
thank you for talking about this!! i don't know why so many fitness influencers i follow are trying to cover up his reputation. i heard he even bragged about beating up the local unhoused community, he's sick!
It's my pleasure! I've heard that story too, sadly
I know I'm late to this, but I only recently found your channel and I'm really glad I did. I appreciate you so much for making this. I actually didn't know about a lot of this but have watched his content and while his exercise knowledge seems sound, his behaviour has just always set off little alarm bells. I'm glad to have more information, because now those alarm bells aren't so small anymore. Thank you for shining a light on this ❤️
Harry, you are an amazing person. Seriously. Thank you for being so kind. We love you.
As are you! Thank you
Thank you for addressing this. It’s a tough topic and I think it a reason many women don’t like going to the gym or are hesitant to get personal trainers. There’s too many stories of men taking advantage of those situations. When my best friend and I were in high school, we had this personal trainer and he’d send us unsolicited pictures of himself all the time. We were minors, 17 or 18, and this guy was old enough to know better. It’s probably one of the biggest reasons I’m hesitant to return to the gym as an adult. I’m sure it’s happened to many other women. It’s gross and it needs to stop
I'm so sorry this happened, it's not right. I value you
This is my safe place 🥰🌟 Thank you so much for making this video, and for being you. 💖
You're amazing, Yasmin
I've also never understood why one would want to grow their glutes and not the legs alongside them. But whatever, if it makes people happy, sure.
I appreciate that you put on the headwear beforehand, since it really would not have been fitting/ appropriate to keep wearing it.
And I really appreciate you speaking up about this/ talking about this. It is very important that men speak up against such things.
I've only read a bit of the stuff on Discord. The 120 tips-article is already chock-full of sexism and inappropriate statements. Disgusting. Absolutely disgusting.
And you are absolutely not overly sensitive. (ca 06:15)
You are absolutely right about this. I really appreciate the way you articulate yourself and criticise this. It really is both frustrating and infuriating. How can it be that this man has never (to any larger degree) been called out on his sexist bs?
The intense touching in the collab videos stuck out to me as well when I randomly clicked through the Krissy video. He comes across as so creepy and disgusting. Seriously, how are people okay with that?
The positioning in front of the lifter during the squats definitely seems like he's doing it for his imagination and as a bit of power play. Combined with the constant touching, it is absolutely gross. Not to mention that it would be ridiculously irritating to have someone stand so close to you during squats. Even without all the other stuff going on.
11:20 I really, really appreciate that part of the video. You are a genuinely amazing person. There is a reason why this community loves you so much. You are beyond wholesome and your supportive nature is very much appreciated.
Thank you for making this video. It's obvious that doing so hasn't been easy on you, either. Which makes me even more appreciative.
And the tact and respectful nature really goes a long way, too.
Thank you again.
It blows my mind too! Once again, reading your comment leaves me with a smile on my face (despite the nature of this video). Your input is always detailed, your points are always fair, and your comments are always too kind. Thank you for being an amazing human, Marc
Because there is nothing to understand. It's just today's beauty standard. People want that KIM K look : big bum with thin legs.
@@olxxa4967 to answer the (admittedly not super important in the context of this video), a lot of women will pursue trying to grow just the glutes because we start off thinking we can get an arse with squats and lunges while already being quad dominant and end up growing bigger quads while experiencing minimal glute and hamstring growth - so we switch to mostly hip hinge movements to compensate for an imbalance we’ve already created.
@@TFNL To overemphasize the but mate.
Thank you for making this in such a sensitive and caring way. I wish more men were like you
I appreciate you, Kathryn
I was introduced to fitness at the age of 18 when I joined a local, small gym where there always was one person on the floor to coach people and correct form. If I needed correction of some kind, this guy would ALWAYS ask me if it was okay to touch me, EVEN ON THE SHOULDERS! Watching this, even after having watched it a year ago, hurts so much. Disgusting.
It's nice he went about things the correct way. Many trainers could learn from him.
Im at 7:26 and on my break while studying for my exam, so im just turning down the volume and letting the video run cause my brain is full. Been dealing with my own gym issues 😔. Liking, commenting and finishing cause I gotta support and help your channel and spread the word! This video (even so far) is so important and thank you Harry for making it ❤💪 thank you for watching out for us women and promoting a safe space for everyone to learn, grow and have a laugh at silly hats and cute pets
Good luck with your exam ❤️
Hope things get better with the gym, and I bet you'll smash your exam!
@@emmaclarke8938 thank you 🥰❤
@@melissathelioma2890 thank you ❤ i hope so too! 🙏 and i will do my best!!
You are too kind, thank you so much and good luck with your exam! Let me know how you get on, I know you'll smash it
As a female personal trainer, who now is coaching other trainers. This video highlights some very important point. An can agree, from a female point of view. That would make me extremely uncomfortable for a coach to approach a session in that way. I have had a bad experience in the past with a male coach not understanding empathy post comp prep. Which is also a really dangerous topic and would be curious for you to shed light on comp coaches or ‘online’ coaches, that put people through comp prep and have no empathy or offer no support
This sort of genuine concern for people is always apparent with you, and it's why we love the channel and trust you so much.
Thank you so much
Thanks for putting kindness and understanding first in your videos
I will always try my best!
OH WOW!!! Thank you for bringing this up!!! I had no idea. Wow.
Thank you for bringing more awareness to this subject and for caring about people feeling safe & seen. We appreciate your heart. The world would be a better place with more people like you! I rarely comment on videos but here I am commenting again on one of yours!
That's what family is all about! Thank you for being you, Paige
Usually never comment on UA-cam but I want to express how important this video is. I thought BC was a good source and consumed a bit of his content. Seeing his interactions with the women performing the exercise sometimes made me feel odd but I reasoned to myself that he is a professional. Women are so often deemed the problem for ‘taking things the wrong way’, it’s sometimes easier to believe there is no wrong doing and accept actions as normal. Had I not seen this video, I’m actually quite concerned that I would have accepted actions similar to BCs as the norm and could have fallen victim to it. I can’t thank you enough for this awareness to the topic 💛💛
Thank you so much! I feel many felt the same which is such a shame. You are great and I appreciate you, Kira
I have only ever watched one of Brett’s videos and his demeanor toward the girl demonstrating the moves gave me ick vibes (he kept calling her “young”). I didn’t even know these accusations around him. Thank you for making his video. You have a beautiful soul and are a gift to UA-cam and the fitness community.
Thank you so much! YOU are a gift
Anybody who makes an entire gym about building glutes is a sketchy weirdo. I saw that from the jump. I don't know how you clowns didn't see this coming. You don't need anything more than squats and deadlifts to grow your ass
You could have very easily swept this suggestion aside or focused only on his content instead of addressing all the other issues. I can imagine this wasn't the easiest video for you to film, and I appreciate you endlessly for it. 12:00 I just want to hug you 🖤
HUG ME
Hello lovely people ❤️
May I just say if you been a victim of a crime I will highly encourage you to step forward in order to receive help and to report this to the right authority.
Hello! I back this
Thank you for your care and consideration with this subject matter. Thank you for always being classy and showing such respect, not only for women but for all.
I shall always try my best!
You are such a gem of a person, Harry! 🧡
You are so kind, thank you
That first video made me physically uncomfortable. Even if he had consent from that woman there should be general guidelines in personal training about how and when to touch a client. Then inappropriate behavior can be objectively called. Consent means nothing if you hold power over someone. I am a nurse and we talk extensively about when and how to touch patients in a professional manner.
I can understand why! It's really shocking
Funny how he lists tip 64 without actually presenting any science or research of his into this matter. Maybe its not just the ladies who are into anecdotes, eh Bret?
Straight facts!
This video was PLENTY informative. So thanks for presenting a difficult topic.
Thank you
Thank you for helping to raise awareness…. This video truly brought me to tears for personal reasons. Thank you for being so caring & genuine, I truly appreciate you!
And I appreciate you
Didn't know this was an issue with the glute guy. I'm glad you brought attention to it and handled the topic so well.
It's quite new to me too! Thank you :)
Thank you for this video. I have found Bret's knowledge to be very useful, so I was shocked to see the title. I can completely see your point of view and its nice to see a man and a professional look at this critically. Gives awareness that this is not normal, appropriate behaviour from a PT. Even with consent, why does he need to be that hands on/familiar with all of his clients? Gross.
It's my pleasure, I'm glad that you tolerated my insight!
Relatively new to your channel, and have been watching several videos over the past few days. I appreciate how respectful you are about these issues, and about the criticism you give in general. Being a woman with a sports background involving a lot of mixed grappling, it's clear to me that respectful behaviour is not hard for most men. Asking permission to correct someone's form, and then doing it in the least sexual way possible is not hard. Any person who claims it is too difficult to do so is not a person to trust with your physical well being.
As a woman with a "hard" science background, soon as I heard "Citation needed" and "Where's the research?" I clicked subscribe!
Dude i have such a great respect for you now !! Its amazing that you used this platform not only for reviews but bravely discussing topics that are not discussed properly. I think your observations are valid and a lot of women may/may not be brave enough to share their experiences with him. I think brett is intentionally doing this,not just to correct the persons form,that shows his filthiness.Glad you did a video on him.
Thank you so much! You are appreciated
I found your channel about a week ago, and my god this is exactly what I like to see from influencers! I love your honesty and support for the community! Love your videos!
Thank you so much, Julia!
Wow I really had no idea about this. I remember seeing his video with Krissy and thinking he was kind of patronizing. Thank you for covering this. I’ve had so many bad experiences with creepy men of all ages at the gym, even while pregnant 🤢 I have my own equipment at home now. I miss the access to all the variety of equipment but I don’t miss the male dominated atmosphere
It's shocking! I can understand this
maybe you can go to a gym only for ladies
You just found out that guy's like chicks ? You're naive . Stay home woman .
I'm so sorry you've had bad experiences and I can understand wanting to workout at home (for a variety of reasons). But at the same time, how can we ever change the male dominated atmosphere of the gym if women don't show up? We need more women in the gym, and more women in the weight rooms to normalize it, not fewer. My mind immediately goes to having sex designated weight rooms so that everyone's fears of being observed, judged, and potentially harassed are lessened, but that definitely comes with its own problems. I don't have the answer for everyone, and we have to do what's right for us, but I really hate the idea of afab and femme presenting people not being able to take advantage of the gym.
I think even if consent for touching was given it is not appropriate to demonstrate this on yt. Bret is a huge role model for aspiring personal trainers, this is not the behaviour that should be shown.
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I back this!
Thank you for this video ❤.
I've left two gyms because of creepy behaviour. This video helps me know that there is more people out there who care like you.
Thank you, Danielle
Hi everybody!
Watching this vid in my new apartment and crying a little over this topic. I'd love to see more personal trainers prioritising a general well-being of their customers and training buddies no matter their body or other training goals. How could being disrespectful to one's body help to get one's goals? It's awful and it looks painful. Only once I was touched inappropriatly by a stranger and I could still feel this particular part of the body burning. Can't imagine where the fitness journey took the people who were unlucky to be guided by the person you mention here. Thank you for letting others to not to be fooled by them. All the love and respect to you Harry and the TFNL fam.
I'm sorry to hear this! There's a lot of shocking contents throughout this video, sadly. Thank you for supporting me, Agata
Thanks for doing this video Harry. I'll admit I've watched Bret's stuff looking for mechanics on training, so myopically that I never even noticed the way that he produces his videos nor considered that they would be published without consent given for his contact. This revelation is disappointing to say the least. I appreciate your empathy and maturity in broaching this subject. I can only imagine how much more difficult a space this can make a gym for some.
It's my pleasure! I appreciate you and your insight, James :)
Thank you for this video Harry. ❤️
I've always got your back
Thanks for covering this super sensitive topic...
You are a blessed soul and I'm happy to have you in my life with all your positive energy and great attitude to life...
Thank you!!!!
You are a lovely human and I appreciate you
I don`t normally comment stuff, but I appreciate your opinions and content so much! Your channel really is a safe space for women (others too ofc), and I learn so much from you. Thank you for speaking up and out about inequalities in the gym, it really needs to be said!
Thank you for commenting and for the kind words!
I've been watching you for about a week. This got the subscribe. Thank you Harry.
Thank you, Gail!
As always, great video, great and relevant content, keep them coming.
You are a great person, thank you! :)
Rate this, here's a comment to boost the algorithm, as this topic needs spreading
Thank you, Sean!
@@TFNL as a PT myself, I always ask for consent to touch and use the back of me hand not the palm, or just point to the body part. I got Into brets content during my S & C degree n shared his pages to female clients, but it's about supporting women's self esteem not sexualising the training
@@seanstuchbury1512 I back this!
As a meticulous workout log tracker, very science interested and based weightlifter who can't help but grunt like an animal while enjoying exercise repetitiveness and also happens to be a young woman, I just despise what this Bret person or however his name is, is spreading. We're already sexualized enough, and it does happen at the gym at very inappropriate times... Also, as being someone who loves to push her limits and feel the pain and fight through it, it's very discriminatory to not even consider this an ability women have. We can endure so much and keep going. Just disgusting. Thank you so much for speaking up about this and raising awareness!
The world needs more men like u. Loads of respect and love for u
Thank you so much
Needed discussion. Thanks Harry
It's my pleasure!
Thank you for making this video
It's my pleasure :)