The Passing to Dysphoria Pipeline - Misconceptions of Transitioning
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- Опубліковано 5 лют 2025
- Behold, in this video I discuss the concept of passing as my relationship to it changes during my MtF HRT Transition Journey. This video depicts some of the thoughts that can drag the concept of "passing" into dysphoria territory. This video is both an epilogue to the trans fashion video, as well as me watching another content creator's video about passing. I detail how these themes highlight some misconceptions I had about transitioning when I was first starting. It also details my anxieties about what the future holds, given recent current events. For those just tuning in, I have been on HRT for 5 months.
I'm personally on the process of cleansing my social media off politics. Being trans is easier and nicer when you're around other trans people, specially if theyre at a point in their transition where they dgaf about how they are percieved.
I like how you document your transition, because I'm going through a similar thing and it reminds me it's a normal process. There's a lot of potential dialogue going on between You right now, and You in a couple of years. You make me want to start making my own videos too, because this shit is kino in a very personal way and as an artist I aspire to do something as amazing as this.
Fun anecdote that reminds me of you: I remember being at 5-9 months into HRT and my friends were telling me "Damn your gf is so lucky she scooped you up and now you're gonna have a glow up that's gonna drive the lesbians crazy in a few years". I didn't believe them, but damn my friends were right. And I think the same as my friends did when I look at you. I'm 100% sure that (very respectfully) you're gonna be a really hot girl in no time. You just gotta be patient and give some calories for your estrogen to build that ass with. And when you become aware of it and you start radiating that confidence, you're gonna be trully stunning. But for now you gotta keep your chin up, your friends close and just try to survive each day. Because that's more than enough.
@@fern_hotpink sorry for drawing the politics into this video, it’s hard not too 😬 you should make videos! I always say trans storytelling promotes empathy promotes survival. I’m grateful that you recognize this as art and appreciate it as an artist yourself :) and I appreciate you for manifesting my hotness, only time shall tell 😂 but in the mean time I’m surviving indeed! Thanks again 🥰
@ToniPorterBridges oh i didn't mean to imply i didn't like you talking politics. it's inevitable. but what i meant is not allowing any social media algorithm to recommend me videos even suggesting that human rights are up to debate (which effectively means no politics in the standard sense unfortunately). im just not dealing with "debate" with people virtually living in another plane of reality.
@@fern_hotpinkoh yea the algorithm is dirty these days. Ever since I start posted these videos, my feed has actually been nothing but de-transition inspo im line wtffff😵💫
@@ToniPorterBridges Detransition inspo goes crazy. i didnt know it was a thing
I’m nonbinary so there isn’t really such a thing as passing which has taken a lot of pressure off of me, I feel lucky that as long as I wear baggy shirts and a tight bralette I can boy mode pretty easily and when I decide to try to femme mode I don’t pass but I still think I look real cute. I don’t mind being visibly GNC because hopefully it will make people in the closet feel less alone.
Thank you for sharing your experience :) that has always seemed so liberating but for whatever reason it just doesn’t align with me the same way
@ Everyone has different things that they are seeking from transition. I am lucky and don’t experience a lot of dysphoria relating to my physical body and when I got on HRT I was always more concerned about the emotional and mental changes than I was about the physical changes. That being said having boobs is nice as long as I never wind up in boy jail
You’re so real, authentic, and well spoken it helps so much. Please keep it up.
I’m early on in transition and I’m so appreciative of your perspectives and guidance. I liked what you had to say about ickys video and trying to release the need to fit any particular mold. I also agree with the “I can’t lose this” … the shift is profound. Loved what you said about honoring your home time too, I do the same and look forward to my home outfits :P
My only answer to the over analysis type self inspection is to trust deep intuitive faith, the magnetism of your heart. In other words saunter the path with a blindfold over your eyes and let your heart be the guide, which in suggesting is a more subtle and skillful process than most assume
You’re definitely a new hero of mine!
Aw thank you 🥰 when you say trust deep, intuitive faith, my brain hears FAFO😂😂
You just need to love yourself as you were born without any medicalization. you werne't born broken. You don't need to twist yourself into knots to fit some ridiculous societal stereotype
It’s funny Brock, bc through embracing transness I do love myself, and to denounce transness would be forcing myself into a ridiculous societal stereotype. Through transness, I reject what society demands of my and live my truth. Considering even cis people use medicalized gender affirming care to feel good about themselves, I see no problems here.
I would kiss getting your hrt legally goodbye and find a different avenue before you end up in a desperate situation.
Just to pass on a little bit of advice that was given to me.
Look at what the cis wemon your age are wearing.
It's very common for us mtf to go hyper fem and wear flowery dresses with a pearl necklace, that can make you really stand out.
Rather than being natural and fitting in.
I did wonder if that's why you felt a bit uncomfortable to see your friends, rather then just wearing some fem cut jeans and a t-shirt.
Hope this helps in some way x
@MilsAddams yeah contrary to some of what was in the fashion video I posted, I am being pretty low key and try intentionally to dress my age. Generally my discomfort at random point in that context will come from dysphoria less around the fashion and more around effectiveness at hair and makeup? But also I’ve said before that dysphoria can be very random for me and some days it’ll kind take precedent and some days it’s never in my brain at all. I hope you’re wrong about HRT but I’m trying to balance realistic expectations against toxic positivity 🥺
@ToniPorterBridges Disorphia is so hard to navigate.
Mine comes from passing and standing out.
Unfortunately, it holds me back, and I end up going for a more androgynous style.
But I am still new on my journey so maybe it's something that'll come in time.
I also hope I am wrong but unfortunately that's not a risk I can take.
I really enjoy your content and I've watched all of your videos.
You are incredibly brave to put yourself out there like this!
And to go out and get your makeup done was incredibly impressive.
You are looking amazing BTW x
Thank you for ur kindness and support :)
I'm sorry for you hating the body gos gave you. Hope you find the way. Praying for your well being.
Another way of looking at that could be that God made me trans as apart of my journey which is beautiful in its own right! :)