This baby making thing is hard
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*Captions are being made, thank you for your patience! What was your favourite thing this month?*
My wife’s and my birthday are during the same week in April. So my favorite thing is Birthday Week!
New yarn! I love getting new yarn
Went to a trip to Belfast with my school which is the furthest I've been from home so that was pretty cool
Your videos are one of my favorite things this month. I am new to your channel and i love it. My other favorite thing is month is making sourdough. I don't have the bread maker, and my first results were pretty disappointing but the process was so fun.
I don't know what your beliefs are but I would like to suggest that (if nothing else to help you wait) that you consider that your baby might not be quite ready to meet you... they are on their way but taking their time, being who they are, doing what they need to do, to become your child soon..
Love, light, spoons and courage to you and all who need them!
"The good place" Is a fun show with no "Plot babies" or sudden loss of child. My husband and I tried for many years before we were diagnosed with infertility. TV or movie characters suddenly being/getting pregnant for plot reasons would always break me.
The dress is lovely! I think it is princess-core Alice!
Also maybe some grown-up / kids animations like Gravity Falls?
The Good Place is my favorite show
I mean (spoilers) the characters in the Good Place are actually not even alive, so that wouldn't be possible anyway lol but the sentiment is certainly appreciated!
I also loved Extraordinary
I totally understand the need for this, it blew to get surprised with those
My sister and I are five years apart in age, and we love it! I know you are disappointed it’s not happening sooner, but don’t worry about an age difference between Rupert and “little sister” (or brother) ❤
My sister and I are just shy of 6 years apart, and we're best friends!
It’s really so much more dependent on personality than age!
My sibling that’s
my sisters and i are 6 and 10 years apart and we've never been close. i'm much closer to my brother who's only 2 years younger. i think that's a risk that a parent has to make, children not being close.
@@becklarkin this is part of the stress and fear jess and claud are feeling. sometimes it's best to keep anecdotes to yourself in situations like these where they've already heard many accounts like yours and not enough to the contrary. like my own brother and I are 6.5 years apart and we are so very close. closer than any other sibling pair i know who are closer in age. another specific anecdote but one that inspires hope for their situation. they get enough reality checks every day taking pregnancy tests, i'm sure
Yep! My sisters are 5 and 7 years older and it's great! We are besties
I’m about to be a first time mom (My wife is at 18 weeks!), and I’m a chronically ill, wheelchair using, disabled mess… Hearing about how Rupert loves to come spend time with you when you have bad days in bed is incredibly comforting. I worry often about our kiddo liking me, and me being able to contribute in our household, so knowing you struggle with it too is incredibly helpful.
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Going into fertility treatment as a same-sex couple my wife and I just assumed it would be easy. Three IUIs, three failed IVF transfers (including a miscarriage) and we're feeling hurt and despondent just like you. I want this for you both so badly, and right there in the trenches with you.
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Wishing you all the luck in the world. 🙏❤❤ If it helps & you haven't already found it, look up the book & podcast, The Worst Girl Gang in the World. xxxx
My family has most children five years apart. Then I took a lot of child development classes and found that’s a good spacing because the elder child is more independent and can help more with baby while not feeling left out. Oh baby can’t do that but you’re big. When baby is bigger you can teach them how to do that!
My oldest is 4 and I'm pregnant with number two. I always feel a bit guilty that I wasn't able to conceive right when we started trying for our second. Your comment is exactly what I needed to hear, so thank you haha.
The kids in my family that are 5-6 years apart all get on the best with their siblings.
My brother is about 5 1/2 years older than me and my sister almost 13. Honestly the only issue is the age gap we both have to our older sister and maybe the gap to my brother could be a bit smaller too but we actually grew up together and I was able to learn a lot from him and our parents had an easy time with each new child because the older one(s) were already relatively independent when the next one came. We are all full siblings and our parents just didn't really plan the gaps they just happened and I the third child wasn't planned at all.
Most people i grew up with had siblings that was one or two years younger, and they *hated* them with a burning passion, its not always like that, i think it very much depends on the child, but i think there is a truth in children age 0-4 do not have much empathy yet, have not learned how or why to share stuff, and cannot understand what exactly is happening around them - back when we lived multiple generations in a house, there would most likely be more then one adult to care for and help the children and thus it might not have been such a big problem, but today, where both parents work, getting a sibling when you still need a lot of attention, or are developing crucial skills, *can* be hard on the child, but this too, will depend on the child's personality AND how the parents act.
My sister is 11 years older then me, our parents divorced when i was 3 and my sister did not want to live with my mom.. My sister where jealous of me, but more so because she where experiencing a hard time in her life (Un-diagnosed AuDHD in the 90'ies) and i where the catalyst that just made our home a shit show (our parents started to audible and physically fight after i was born) so i didn't get to know her before i turned 10.
My partner was 6 when he got his little brother, he says it was a dream come true for him, he bottle fed him, changed him, held him, slept besides him, he loved him more then anything else, and he just could not wait for him to grow up so they could play together. He taught him everything he knew, and they grew up to have a healthy relationship together, they share a large friend group, but also have each their own, my partner loved LARPING and his brother did too but not to the same degree and its lovely to see them together sometimes just remembering a time of youth and fun.
I think a few years, will do good, but if you *do* get children close to each other then its just important to be aware of the split attention, and include the older sibling, maybe have a few hours dedicated to only them, or have some routines :)
I cross my fingers for all of you out there trying
as the baby of the family, 5 years younger than my sister - it was the best!! i was her little doll and she remains my hero. to even think of it as an odd spacing is weird to me 😄
I’ve got 3 younger siblings of various ages. The one 2 years younger than me is practically a stranger, the one 4 years below me is my best friend, and the one 6 years below me is a friendly acquaintance. It can depend a lot on the individual dynamics, not just age.
Yes, I wish people would understand that age gap are not that important when it comes to relationships between siblings being good or bad. Family dynamics (on which parents have most control over) and just plain personal compatibilily is what really matters
Ha. Very interesting. (I grew up as a de facto only child with, eventually, 3 half-siblings I didn't live with, with whom I now get along despite age differences of +9, -15 and -17; I have two sprogs aged 4.5 and 6 who get along famously, but we'll see how they fare later in life: humans are confusing).
What it should really depend on is when the parent/parents are ready & it feels right for them. They are ready now, or rather were ready last year. It's disappointing as you're SO ready & get your hopes up each month, & that's before you get into the medical procedures which also take a mental & physical toll. Fertility treatment takes all the more investment emotionally physically & financially. The longer it goes on the more drained you feel, & yet you feel time ticking away. Of course women over 35 can get pregnant, I've gotten pregnant myself past 35, but anyone in their situation will be aware of the decreasing statistics, like sand in a timer slipping away. It can be like a weight that just keeps getting heavier. Not to mention the ever mounting costs. Not everyone has 5-8 years to give to this process, time wise, physically, emotionally, or financially. We hear about miracle babies, but there are many that it just doesn't work for or they have to step back from trying. ✌️
Knowing that Rupert sometimes feels a little shy, makes me even happier i have never seen his face. Respect to you
I understand the pain of this. 5 years officially trying in all ways, 15 years of not even avoiding getting pregnant. And now, aged 33, I’m facing a hysterectomy with no child beforehand. Infertility sucks so much and is probably the greatest pain I’ve experienced.
I’m so sorry that’s happened to you.
Sending you love
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I'm so sorry you've gone through such painful experiences. I'm just a stranger on the Internet but please accept my care and support, if you'd like them🫂♥️
I’m so sorry for your struggles. Sending love your way. 🫶
My sister and I are close in age and we literally text each other 3 times a year, and never see each other, so don’t worry about the age gap
That's a very good point, I feel like sometimes siblings can struggle to define their identity with how much is shared between them that they often end up focusing on the differences in order to feel whole as a person. Of course that's just one scenario and every family is different, and I do think J and C are going to be such fantastic parents just bc they try that it won't matter and the children will be happy. ❤❤❤
my sister and I are 15 years apart and we call each other every day ❤ she's at my house now, i love having her here
Oh I'm so sorry loves. I know you both struggled getting your first little one. Hopefully this is the worst of it and you'll soon be blessed with another baby! 💓
I was a teenager in the 90s when bread makers were just becoming a thing, and my mom figured out that it would be cheaper per loaf to make bread than to buy it. So we got a bread machine! The problem was, while the cost per loaf is lower, the taste of the bread is better, and also, warm fresh bread just out of the oven with a little butter is amazing. So we ate a lot more bread than we usually did, and the total cost was not, in fact, lower.
My sister and I are ten whole years apart - I’m 32 now and we honestly don’t even notice the difference! We’re just best pals. And when I was a teen and she was a kiddo, I just loved having her round like my little shadow.
I hope with all my heart things work out for you soon 🩷
I have less of a relationship with my two older full siblings than with my nephew who is also 10 years younger than me. For us it's just that we have the most similar interests and personalities.
My siblings are roughly 6 and 13 years older than me, never had much of a relationship with the oldest and my brother just developed into a person that I can't be around too much. Meanwhile my nephew and I text each other pretty much daily even if it's just memes or we talk about our shared interests and other random stuff. Weird how we are more like siblings than me and my actual siblings
My son also used to comment about matching clothes. My baby brother once took half an hour to get dressed as he kept looking at horror at choices and suggestions and saying “doesn’t go!”
My brother and I are 8 years apart in age difference and I really love it! He has always been a role model for me when I was a child, and I was looking at him like a wise guru 😄
Now, as adults we feel like we are the same age 🩷🩵
I went from being temporarily able-bodied to pretty significantly disabled this year. Having already been a follower of yours I knew I could find both useful information and a sense of peace from watching your videos. Thank you so much for everything you do.
I have worked as a family counsellor here in Denmark🇩🇰for almost 30 years. If I had to give only one advice for all parents, it would be to love and support your child. Don't try to change them. Studies have shown that children can cope with most challenges, as long as the have "a psychological friend" to hold their hand. So I think Rupert is absolutely safe with the two of you❤💙
We struggled to succeed at a second pregnancy, too, after the first seemed so easy. But this past summer, we welcomed our second tiny person into our family. Wishing you all the best as you work through this ❤
Im so glad that you are not labelling Rupert as "shy" and trying to understand his thought process is a-okay while still helping him through it. I have been labelled as "shy" since childhood and its made me even more self conscious around others, or sometimes i would lean into the "shy"ness even more. So glad to hear an explanation and understanding instead of just a "shy" blanker judgement, nothing wrong with taking a little time to scope out a social situation 😊
Every time you talk about how much you want a second baby, my heart hurts for you and your family. Here’s hoping the next round does the trick. 🤞 🎀💖🎀
The dress !!!!
1. The blue dress is lovely! Also, random I really like the pheasant pillow behind you on the sofa.
2. Our breadmaker was relegated to the cellar because it became yet another thing to dust. I should deal with that.
3. Fertility - My 1st baby after 5 IUIs at age 38 was stillborn. I was devastated but know I didn’t have much time left, so as soon as I could I tried again. I was probably not ready psychologically but physically I was running out of time. 4 more IUIs, consulted on IVF, but ended up trying one more time with IUI with scheduled ovulation injections. At 40, simply tossing it up and hoping for the best seemed highly improbable for success. This time was a success and lovely kiddo was literally my last good egg. I never had a period again.
4. Favourite this month - Gorgeous new sheets. Mind I didn’t need new sheets , but I love new sheets so I guess yay for new sheets!
I wish you both the absolute best on this fertility journey and hope you have happy news soon.
P.S. Apologies for the TLDR length
The moment Jessica appeared on screen in that blue midcentury style dress I thought to myself "She looks like Cinderella at the ball" and I stand by that
We really appreciate you Jessica, Im glad you also feel the same. I started watching you before I was chronically ill (ME/CFS+PoTS) and it meant that I knew so much when I did get sick.
Same here. When I was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis (which is thankfully very manageable with medication at this point), I'd been following Jessica's channel for a few years already and it really made me feel less alone. (And when I bought a walking stick this week for the times when the pain is not so manageable, I knew that there are mobility aids out there that don't necessarily look terrible!)
I found Jessica because my newest diagnosis means some, actually most, days I have to rest in bed! So I spend a lot of time on UA-cam!
I was blessed with children despite my health issues! I have watched both my daughters struggle to get pregnant then both lost their first, then had a healthy pregnancy and a horrible birth! Youngest had successful second pregnancy and babe slipped out and arrived with the sunrise! Older daughter just had another awful loss and is still trying for #2. #1 will be a year on May 1st! She will be 40 this year!
So Jessica and Claudia, there is still time and hope❣️👋🇨🇦
Rupert sounds a lot like me as a toddler! i super loved shop & restaurant interactions bc, exactly like you said, i knew exactly what to do, knew what to expect from the other side of the interaction, & knew it was good when i got it right! (I'm autistic tho, so that's continued to be true 😅 lol)
I'm also autistic (and ADHD) and honestly hope they get Rupert assessed, because the more I learn about him the more I'm like.. hmm... seems familiar... 👀 😅 (And I know how harmful delayed diagnosis is, although I do feel their parenting style is probably great for an autistic child, if he is autistic it's not enough)
I agree with these comments (hopefully Jessica sees them) - it definitely seems like Rupert might be autistic. It's not just this video, but in previous ones she's mentioned that he has sensory issues, including with trying new foods.
Also autistic and I agree! Also he seems super far ahead with reading for his age and I was hyperlexic and talking fluently by 2.
I would definitely say it's something they should keep an eye on, especially with Jessie's ADHD... I'm also autistic and ADHD
agree, audhd here! every time I hear about Rupert's quirks I'm like "hmmm that child sounds autistic"! but then, Claudia reminds me of me (again, AuDHD 😂), and research suggests there's a genetic component, so.
That off the shoulder baby blue dress is PERFECTION!!!!
Your gallery wall is hilarious!! My mother had one with picture frames not filled since the 80's. Moved with her twice. Cracks me up.
I know you probably won't see this but you're not alone in the 'trying to complete your family' trenches. It is so hard in every way you can imagine and the world around you suddenly feels like it's full of pregnant women and new babies. I am incredibly lucky that I have my son despite fertility issues and we have been trying to have another since he was almost 2, he is now 7 and talks about when he will have a little sister and it hurts that I haven't managed yet to give him that. So now I have made myself cry I just want to say you're not alone in the club no-one wants to be in, however I have to believe it will work out in the end and be totally worth the wait and the heartache xx
Yep, I've always wanted to be a parent through adoption, but I am poor so it will probably never happen unless something outside of my control drastically changes. I'd never begrudge anyone else their happiness, but it still hurts.
I feel with you. My husband and I are trying to concieve since 2019 and it is so hard 😢 I actually found you when I was researching IVF and stayed ever since. Wish the two of you the very best for baby number two ❤
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Covid can cause infertility so it's worth having a look there if you haven't tried
My sister and I are 4 and a half years apart and we always got along way better than any of our friends with siblings close in age. She always has my back and gives me advice since she does every life stage before me. We were still close enough ages that we still spent our childhood together
Same for us only I am the older one! Honestly we've been each other's protectors, and when outside she somehow always gives off older sister vibes :) the age difference was never an issue!
The blue dress looks stunning!! 🤩😍😍👗
It’s so hard to want something so desperately and for whatever reason it’s not happening for you. Your frustrations are as valid as your joys - please be as kind to yourselves as possible as you go through this.
Also, product recommendations are always appreciated. Sending you all so much love.
my foster (later adopted) mother and father both still have no answers despite all investigations as to why they never managed to make it work. We only just found out this week why I really was given up by birth mother. Turns out it was giving me up or letting us all starve (mother, 2 older half brothers and me) or get badly malnourished. Although my parents still speak of the pain of not knowing and trying for so so long they have found some comfort in now knowing that they saved a family of hard times. I am also lucky that we all get along and are now like one biiiig odd family. I have 2 mothers now and we are all slowly healing together. I am aware this is extremely rare and I am very lucky.
I'm so sorry about the hard time you're getting with Ru's little sibling. I know how hard it can be when you're feeling just so prepared to take a big step in your life and luck just doesn't go your way. Sending lots of love to you and your gorgeous family, Jessica! And I understand why you have such a strong desire for a short age gap (I have that in mind for my children aswell!). I wanted to share my story as a little sister of a big brother with a big age gap. We were both raised in a montessori household, and I feel like this interaction between both of us really helped with our independence and development of confidence, interpersonal relationships and good fellowship. :)
I'm the younger sister to a brother that's 6 and a half years older than me. My mom wanted us to have a smaller age gap, but things just didn't work out the way she planned. When she had almost lost her hopes, I decided it was time for me to arrive, so to say - and I can tell for both me and my bro that an age gap that's slightly bigger is just as wonderful as a small one. I had an older role model and someone to pave the way for me. I had someone who could hear me and give me advice based on his life experience - which my parents could do, too, but the fact that we shared our generation made things so much more confortable for both of us. For him, on the other side, I was always this piece of joy and wonder for him, who helped him become a much more confident person since I always came for him when I needed someone to help me with school, to defend me, or so many other things. To sum thing up: he is my role model, my teacher and my confidant, I am his protégé, sidekick and comic relief - even now that we're both adults. And I feel like our age gap only made this specific bond stronger.
I know you have had a different experience in your life, but I hope this message can cheer you up a bit. Rupert will be a wonderful sibling regardless, and you and Claud are incredible mothers. Sening yall lots of love!
My sister and I are almost exactly 5 1/2 years apart, and it was really nice because by the time I would be old enough to be going through something (dating troubles, makeup, etc.) she had already gotten a good handle on it and could help me out. So, all that is to say, age gaps are okay. Infertility of any kind is really hard, but Rupert will bond with his baby sibling no matter the age gap.
We tried for 2 years. My spouse and I - both AFAB with me carrying. We had 1 miscarriage and 1 chemical pregnancy. (In 15 very expensive tries).
All blood results have been normal. All physical tests have been better than normal. This is infertility for unknown reasons.
It's been an exhausting and devastating journey and even though I'm heartbroken that it didn't work out...I'm glad to be done trying.
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My family is complete now but, I have experienced a couple of losses and I still feel so sad about them, especially watching TV shows or movies that depict a pregnancy loss. I'm tearing up as I type this. I'm sending you luck and good thoughts and best wishes for your IVF journey.
My favorite part of your video is you. I know it sounds corny, but your openness and honesty is appreciated. My daughter has ADHD and has always found sleep elusive.
The dress gave me "Wendy" vibes! (al la Peter Pan)
I have been watching your channel since 2017 and was recently diagnosed with MS. Having watched your videos on disability and mobility aids made getting that diagnosis and needing mobility aids feel much easier. ❤️
You will never know how much you’ve helped me with your LGBT + Disability representation, thank you so much, and sending you love, right now especially ❤
I'm sure you'll get your little blossom in no time! Fingers crossed!
My sister and I have 21 years apart and I always wished to have a sibling.... it took 21 years but it was still worth it! Love her to bits.
My favorite thing today: I picked up my best friends' 5yo daughter from preschool and she was so excited to see me; she yelled my name with the biggest smile on her face and ran straight to me. There's nothing quite like that unadulterated joy coming from a child.
Also, my sister is almost 8 years younger than me and we have a great relationship now (I'm 35 and she's about to turn 28). It wasn't always easy, but I can't imagine my adult life without her.
❤He is asking for her?! How adorable is that and how painful at the same time.
I feel you Jessica. I hope Claudia doesn't have issues with blame on her part. I absolutely sucks when it doesn't work. And time won't stop for anyone, and the universe is deaf for some reason. Just wanted to say, that you are allowed to feel bad about it and feel all those terrible emotions I don't wanna list rn. Don't beat yourself up for that and that goes for Claudia too. The pressure of having to feel relaxed, so it will work...it sucks. Hope she doesn't have it. And if so, accept that you have! Hating on your emotions... doesn't bring you anywhere.
I bet next month, the time is right. 🙏🤞
After all you've done for me it's good to know that you benefit from making your videos too.
Rupert is such an adorable little human, he sounds absolutely charming.
My favourite thing this week is that I went to the opticians to have my eyes rechecked after catarct operations on both eyes. I chose to remain short sighted so that i can still read in bed without glasses. I read until I fall asleep and it distracts me from all the ME/CFS symptoms that stop me getting to sleep....including the busy brain!
The thing I should have realised was that i havent been able to drive or see anything much beyond about six feet in front of me for over two months! So now I've got the new prescription its only a couple of weeks more waiting for my glasses to arrive. Hurrah.🎉😊
First, I have to say how much I relate to trying to find something to watch that doesn't involve the loss of a child or baby in some form. It's a daunting task. I lost my twin boys at seven and eleven days old and avoiding storylines that triggered me was almost impossible for the first year. It's still incredibly hard.
My favourite of your favourites is the book. As someone who also is a little slow to warm up in new situations, I love the idea of the book. I also just adore good children's books that promote feelings of acceptance and inclusion.
My own favourite thing this month was finding two adorable kittens we want to adopt. Of course, this is only a true favourite if our adoption application is approved, but fingers crossed.
Unfortunately Im in a place where Im forcing myself to embrace the positive cause I just can't deal with lingering on anything else. Right now I just really want a hug from someone who cares about me. That isn't an option though, so I've settled with cuddling the cat while watching this video. Thank you Jessica for helping me to feel less alone in the world and giving me something to get through the time with.
Blue dress is nice on you, but omg. Those shoes.
Keep the hope, keep the love, and enjoy the family you've made. Best wishes to all of you
This made me cry! I'm so glad UA-cam allows you to works around your disability and migraines. When I was struggling to work around my migraines, and had to quit my job, your videos really helped me. Thankfully my migraines and boss are both much better now! ❤
I really relate to how you describe your son learning interactions. I have a hard time when I don't know what is expected, but when I know the expectations it's far easier to interact. ❤ I'm glad you're sharing books and other ways to help learn these thing, cause I never had that growing up. I'm definitely going to keep these in my heart for when I have a kid
I think it's the matching bow combined with the red hair, but the dress is definitely giving Ariel vibes!
Sending you both love and support in your pregnancy journey!
And my very first thought upon seeing your dress and bow was “princess!”
Your tea looks lovely, what a great gather! I also have been known to stay up all night, mostly watching UA-cam. Making it a goal to stop that at 3 am seems to be working. I listen to calm music or an audiobook but actually lie down and turn off all lights. There are times I struggle to find a favorite thing about a day, so I allow myself to choose loving my pets which I do every day.
My son also kept asking for a little sister. We warned him that he might get a little brother, but he insisted that he would get a sister.
For a number of reasons, he and his little sibling are 8 years apart.
When the ultrasound showed "female", he said, "Mama, you should have just listened to me!".
My younger child came out as non-binary, and first came out to their brother, knowing that they would be loved and supported.
The two of them are now 25 and 17, and they are the best of friends.
Being so far apart (and different genders) means that there has never been sibling rivalry.
I have every confidence that your family will be perfect for you, even if it is not what you planned.
Jessica, I have been watching your videos for 7 years now (since 2017 Vlogmas actually!) though I rarely comment. Today I'm feeling particularly ill so I thought I'd pop on your recent videos to cheer me up. Your channel has been a huge source of comfort for me, as another disabled femme lesbian. The smile that beautiful sky blue dress put on my face... thank you! It was sorely needed today. Take care and all my love and best wishes to you, Claudia, and little Rupert!
Oooh, I loved seeing that children's book and hearing about Rupert's experience with it.
My favorite things this month is that I went to see an opera for the first time in my life and it was so nice! I had to travel quite long for that (lives in the middle of Sweden and had to fly to the end of Sweden Malmö) but it was worth it!
And probably my favorite next month is that I’m gonna start my ADD medication journey 🎉🎉
I'm almost 6 years older than my younger sister, and we get along really well. Our parents also hoped to have my sibling sooner, but I think it helped that I was a little older and able to understand what it would mean to "have a sibling." I'm sorry you guys are struggling, but I hope you'll have good news soon and everything will work out!
Thank you for sharing your favourites, it's always a joy to hear about them !
My son is the same age as Rupert. We are just starting TTC if that makes you feel any better. I think the 3.5 to 4 year age gap is so nice.
My sister is 8 years younger than I am and we've always been super close. I also have a brother that's 3 years older and we always played together as kids.
I’m so excited for this video. I love your channel so much.
Aww your stories you share about little Rupert are very sweet, it makes me feel like I’m reading the best kind of book ❤
The blue dress is giving me more wendy darling vibes than Alice in wonderland tbh ❤
Sending so much love and best wishes. Currently experiencing just how hard this is. ❤❤
You guys are amazing parents and i wish your family so much love and light! i truly appreciate what you do!
my sister and I are 14 whole years apart, and I LOVE IT! I'm able to get her off screens, take care of her, dance, sing, play, teach, talk, read whole chapter books, make art together (shes a very good artist just like me) and I'm so so so so proud of her ❤ she's five now and all I want is to be the reference I needed growing up. maybe when I have a hime of my own, we can have sleepovers and it can be a safe space for her! ofc I hope baby 2 comes sooner, but I just wanna emphasize that an age gap will not affect sibiling's love for eachother at all in the right conditions 😆 we may not have played together as kids, but the life and memories we'll have together as kid - teen/adult are just as precious ❤
I really look forward to your videos, and always get something good out of it, no matter what the subject is. Thank you for sharing your journey with us, and when I am particularly hurting you cheer me up every time.
Super happy to see my friend Anne having a lovely time with you guys ❤❤❤ sending love and strength and appreciation for your ability to enjoy positives despite negatives!
you are such a lovely family!
I was delighted by your recommendation of the children's book! My brother's got a child and I've actually been thinking about whether or not it'd make sense for me to start contributing to their library.... Also, I agree with Rupert that your hair bow is lovely! I think my favorite thing this month has been knitting! It's such a comfort and so much fun!
Both you and your wife are incredible and kind. Thank you for sharing all that you do. Love and Light!❤❤❤
Favorite thing about my month is my Kids faces😁 also having a new babysitter and going out with my husband again..❤🎉
My favorite things of your favorite things are the children’s book and dress. My two of my favorite things this month are a set of new glassware that I use for iced beverages, specifically iced coffee or iced chai lattes (usually) and the Maple Plus app.
CONGRATULATIONS ON 1 MILLION SUBSCRIBER MILESTONE! 🍾🥂🎉🎇
I understand the struggle with secondary infertility and thank you for your honesty. I'm so glad this community adds to you and doesn't take away, proud to be part of it x
Congratulations on one million!
Hello Jessica. I haven't watched the video yet but while this one is stuill fresh and new I just thought you are most likely see this comment I'm gonna say: I love your videos. I watched the last one about same-sex parents and I was just abotu to watch the "I want to take you to a gay bar" (I wanted to watch it ever since it came out but I've been putting it away for later this whole time lol the life of an ADHDer). Your voice is very calming and the things you say in your videos are just geniunely so great and well put together. Thank you for making these, I love them, and I also recommended them to my brother, who's a member of LGBT+ community just like me. I rarely ever recommend videos to other people but you're an exclusion. Thanks!!
Its Always interesting to learn different perspectives
Your love for your son and your wife and your lives together is just so precious and beautiful ❤ I’m very sorry for the struggles in trying to grow your family by one more, but I’m so happy that you three have each other as it is, through thick and thin, and with just so much joy ❤ reminds me a lot of my own family, and our son (he’ll be 3 in June, and is the light and love of our lives too 😊)
I started watching a few years ago, and it has opened my world into accepting my disabilities, and that its okay to need more help with things. It also brought awareness of EDS, and POTS, which i've been diagnosed with since i started watching!
I've been watching you since 2017 and in that time I have uncovered my own mental and physical disabilities. Your channel has been an amazing source of comfort and understanding. I appreciate you and Claudia, thank you
Hi Jessica! ❤
I’ve cried watching you cry and I almost made my wife cry talking to her about you. You are PERFECT. You taught me much about self esteem et esteem the humans need to have for each other. Thank you. I pray that you will stop being hard on yourself and see you the way this community sees you! ❤
My family does the same thing at the dinner table! We call them “happy things”, and we go around the table, everyone saying at least one thing that made them happy today. (There are no children involved. My siblings and I are fully adults, but anytime we sit around my parents dinner table, we have to do happy things.)
That’s such a nice thing to do!
@@jennifers5560 right? I think we started doing it so we would stop griping about our days or politics - dinner is much nicer now
@@thatawesomegeekykid I can imagine.
Me and my sister are 7.5 years apart and it worked out really well! We’ve never argued/fought because I was old enough to be responsible and would help rather than hinder hard times. So you shouldn’t worry about age differences! ❤ good luck, we’re all here to support yous!
Sending you both love and hugs during your IVF journey ❤❤ Those negative tests get harder each time... We've been trying for our second for around 18 months with an early miscarriage along the way. Each month those little sticks hold so much hope, waiting for that 2nd line.
You're not alone ❤ I've everything crossed for your journey and that you see that 2nd line soon ❤
I have three siblings all with more than two years of age difference. My oldest sister is six years older but we’re best friends and living together as roommates now!! Older siblings are the best and your next kid will be so lucky to have Rupert as an older brother
hearing you talk about rupert and your channel and community has me tearing up. you are so wonderful jessica and deserve the world ,never forget that 💛
My siblings are 22 months apart. They never played together and have disliked each other their entire lives. My daughters are over 4 years apart. They couldn’t be closer. I don’t think spacing necessarily dictates sibling closeness or relationship at all. Other factors do. I’d say don’t sweat the timing, but I’ve been there and know it’s SO difficult. You got this.
my favourite thing from this video was the little stories about Roo~! he's such a lovely child
I had infertility for 12 years followed by a loss before I had my first.
I'm so sorry you're going through this. Much love and sticky embryo love. ❤️ ❤❤
I love seeing your favorites and when you share how much you appreciate your job as a content creator because as a disabled person you couldn’t manage another way. The same for me and you are one of the people who encouraged me most to start my own channel.
BTW I am the eldest of 4 siblings: one brother is 3 years younger than me, another brother is 5.5 years younger and my sister is 13 years younger than me. We are the closest. I probably asked for her for at least 10 years. We have so much in common and she was totally worth the wait.
I'm sorry you two are having such a hard time getting baby #2 started. I am sending good luck from America.
1:55 I feel that no matter when you were born and how difficult it was for your circumstances, that you would still have me the very best of it all. If you couldn't be on UA-cam you would be writing, and talking and lecturing and being yourself and showing the world how wonderful it is to do the best you can. You're a leader in any situation as far as I can tell. ❤ from 🇨🇦
I never thought I'd be happy to see another woman's sink vanity area. It looks just like mine with like three Aveeno products, dental hygiene stuff, and nothing else. LOL
Sorry to hear about the IVF difficulties. Good luck with it
Sending love for you all!
I propose a 3 option The Dress gives a Cinderella vibe!
I’m also a MASSIVE fan of the Estée Lauder Advanced Night Repair serum. I’m 47, and I also adore the eye version. I prefer the gel cream because I have very dry skin. The ANR eye serum concentrate matrix multi-recovery complex is also great, but it is harder to apply, and I prefer the other. I have almost no crow’s feet and minimal crepeyness on my eyelids.
I’m also a big fan of Supergoop! Glowscreen sunscreen which now comes in a pink shade called Dawn which is very flattering for us pale redheads. It’s beautiful when you don’t want to apply a lot of makeup but still want to look put together and pretty.
I wish you and Claudia all the best and hope for a + soon.
The age gap is so secondary to how siblings get along. It’s more down to personality and parenting (which is not a concern with you two ❤️). Not to mention the sibling relationship evolves over time and through stages of life. My two brothers got along as kids and then once puberty hit they were at each others throats until their mid-late 20’s lol they JUST started like each other again and they’re in their 30’s now. Don’t worry about the age gap, it’s a non-issue
Lovely dress, it reminds me specifically of Aurora in Sleeping Beauty when she has a blue dress on