EXs ONLY come back for THESE 2 Reasons after a Breakup!
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- EXS ONLY COMEBACK FOR 2 REASONS AFTER A BREAKUP
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Man, thanks for what you do, man. There are so many guys out here? Bash women to make money, but I appreciate what you're doing for men and women out here.
I don't want him back, he lost a good women for good, staying under no contact has been work great for me
Thx again
My bday is in 3days and then Memorial Day next day should I keep no contact? Please answer
Your absolutely correct big brother much love on your knowledge, it brings relief,💪💪💪💪
1. EX must feel that you are moving on. (Fear)
2. EX must feel the pain that you are gone for good. (Pain)
pweehhh, he knew i was gone for good! and never have i saw him cry,, first time..i laughed and cursed him out!! good day sir!! not worth my energy anymore.
They don't care. Even some average woman will find a new man within some weeks.
@@marguskiis7711 if they don’t care, why do you care?? :) Right? I can find a few nice women is few days. And still, my ex came back.Then they have to Co-exist because they have my babies:)
Legend
@@bambijonesyou're definitely not gone for good.
People need to understand no contact works for two reasons.. the main one is for you to work on yourself while not forcing a favorable outcome. If they come back it’s up to you at that point to either forgive them and move forward with them or you probably won’t feel anything to have to accept them back Into your life. What has helped me has been God.. have I cried? Yes. Do I feel down at times? Of course. But understand through pain comes a lot of understanding remember that… Love y’all stay strong.. in my case she has rebounded with someone else and I truly wish her the best. God bless every broken heart here.. put your love and efforts in God and not recline on the love humans offer.
God bless you everything and I mean everything! You said was 100% correct even your feelings and how you implemented God in it thank you so much for that because nobody really does to God when he’s our only answer of course we’ll have days when we’ll feel depressed but God sustains us
When you become attached to or love anyone or anything besides God, you will always be disappointed. Rely upon the Creator not the creation
@@samb5208 amén perfectly said 👌🏽
@@roothelegend182 sure thing God must come 1st in everything meaning are ups and downs in life he is the Alpha and Omega which is very crucial piece without him our pain, sorrows, and obstacles become ever more challenging because we think we can fix things ourselves and in that very instance is when we feel lost etc (that’s what Satan wants us for us) God bless y’all
Why do Christians downplay human love. It’s kinda toxic dude.
After 4 months of no contact I reached out to her, she replied that she has no interest.
Our relationship lasted 4 years.
I think it’s time that I close this chapter of my life.
I have found that every time I break up I find someone better her loss move on find another
never give up bro
why it ended
We spent 4 months apart and we had our first date yesterday, it happens , I thought she was long gone.
@@jonaveul gg bro never give up
Don’t give up on her
Remember. Everyone is an ex for a reason. Move on.
Many times your ex doesn’t come back because they miss you. They come back because they miss access to you.
They failed to find a better man
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I moved 1500 miles away. Went full ghost, blocked her and deleted my social media accounts. I started receiving calls from restricted numbers. I answered, flew to see her and we're engaged now, working on when I'll return home for good...
LOLLLLLL LOLLLL
hahaha....(:
Mannnnnn. Be careful with that. I did the same 5 years ago and I'm starting over again now. Think about it first.
Is this for real?
Update?
Look at us all in here hurting together😂 but seriously we will all get through it!! I’m on my second week of not hearing from her. I only wanted to see her be great and i still hope she does. I pray we can get back on track one day🙏🏾
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Hurting together 😢😂😂😂😅
Needed to read this. Thank you❤ you’re not alone!:)
Same!!
Lol word
May all the dumpers end up like they did to us by their partners in future so they learn the lesson and experience the same pain we are experiencing 🙏
I know mine will, he only chooses us women with self-esteem issues, it was awful for me to have that exposed but I've been healing that in myself this year and he's been off using someone new. I pray she wises up to his to "poor me, I'm not healed, I can't commit," game or she is strong too.
Many dumpers are not bad.
@@tru_kru_bahbee24 facts.
I dumped my ex because he was such a toxic draining narcissistic person. He’s been begging for another chance but I refuse.
@@ericalashay0209ame! On and off for 5yrs with a narc. Its been a week since I ghosted him. Blocked him from everything, changed my number. I also deleted my 20yr old email that hes been messaging to hoover me. Totally cut ties with this demon. dont wait for them to replace you..
Trust me guys and girls no contact works my partner broke up with me a month ago and I went in no contact and started working on myself and they tried reaching out. You have to show them you are ok with losing them. And this does not work if they know you are waiting for them. Please just forget them and work on yourselves. They will come back they always do.
Distancing yourself is always the best option imo . Eventually your silence will get to them and they’ll be wondering what you’re doing, who you’re seeing now . I never take anyone back because for me once my trust has been broken and I can’t ever go back to where we were- done that, been there and it just doesn’t work. You’re just setting yourself up for a double whammy. Work on yourself, do the healing and move on. Peace, Love and Light 💕
What if yall got kids together?
@rickyjohnson5894
Kids are like glue that holds two people together.
If they are willing to make sacrifices and concessions to prove, literally and figuratively, that the relationship/family is the priority then another chance at reconciliation is necessary.
what if they in a rebound and they live with them?
How long did you go no contact before your partner started reaching out?
Ima just going to level with everyone.. Truth is while we’re binge watching “No Contact” and “How to get your ex back” videos, they are more than likely moving on or have moved on already with someone new.
I wish everyone the best I truly do but truth is we have to move on with our lives without the expectation of them ever returning. It hurts, I know..
2 year relationship which was good for the most part, currently 45 days NC and I’m confident she’s seeing someone else or there was an overlap..
🙏🏾Praying we all find that person who values our heart
It's the sad truth. I've been accepting this also after a similar amount of time. I mean her loss but I still think and miss her. I hope she reaches out soon but I know i have to just let go and move on regardless if she does or not. Hurts so much to lose love but still always worth loving.
THIS!!!!!!
This is what drives us men crazy. Men take breakups a lot harder then woman, especially if the female is the one to end it, why? Because most woman already have an inbox full of DM's from guys just sitting and waiting..."Oh she is single, I'm pouncing" hell they were probably already trying to get with her while she was with you, and now since she is no longer tied to "You" all she has to do is choose from her full DM inbox. For us men our hearts hurt a lot longer, all we think about is her, all we want to do is be with her, but she has already moved on to the next guy and when we learn that as men it only hurts more. "Why him, not me? Why? Why?" and it eats us up inside. Men when they find their true love they try to hold on to them, why? Because its not easy for men, its hard to get a girl to be into you, regardless of how sincere, kind, loving, successful you are, and when we find the right one we try to saver that. I've been in the "No Contact" phase for a month now and its one of the hardest things I have to do. I can't see into her life like I used to because she ghosted me and blocked me from all of social media, so it only makes my mental health worse.
@James Shidell going through this also. Been 2 months and yes I still can't stop thinking about her. Time heals all wounds and we will be blessed with better bro. GBY
@@mkwhole it’s extremely tough, I’m 43 years old, been through a divorce, my best friend and the person I loved for over 20+ years who helped me through the tough times, and I’ve gone through hell and back, she was always there for me, she was my rock, until she wasn’t. Its heart breaking and one of the worst feelings ever! I keep telling myself it will get better over time, but time just seems to make it worse.
After 16 years he seen a text come thru from me to someone who’s phone was charging and he took a screen shot! The rest is history we’re married and very much in love. I actually believe we’re soul mates he just needed the time to grow and boy did he realize there was no replacement for what he lost, me!!
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Yeah NO Contact Does work The more you don’t care the more they wonder. You literally have to go GHOST. Like U never existed. Don’t hit them up don’t post on social media. Any source they have access to see u AVOID it at all cost. That’s if y’all had a strong bond. Just focus on yourself and act like they NEVER was on this earth. However If they do decide to comeback make them work for it like a job promotion. Because you know ur worth.
Can I ask u for an advise
@@swordfish_wotb2249 what’s on ur mind?
@@22jp yeah so I had a situation when girl was chatting with me like really a lot for 2 months (cuz she lives in one city and I live in another one 400km away/250miles) then asked for some space or I should say I asked her if she needs it cuz she wasnt so excited anymore while chatting with me. And then after 2 weeks of this, I totally gone and didnt send anything for thennext 20 days, when I came after 20 dayd and sent her message she said that she lost feelings and only wants to be friends but in my opinion that is all a product of us living far from each cuz she didnt see me for a long time and so my question here is should I wait for her to make her regret it or forget her. I feel like it could work but the distance that can be only destroyed by being in constant contact made the difference here. She said that she is too busy with her jobs at home, also high school and she is trying to find the best college. Also she had catastrophic period at home with her mom who just left her family and she has to take care of everyone now alongside her dad. And Im sure all of this has affected her and she feels different but she had feelings for me but two months later just wanted to end it all for no real reason. Once again I have to mention that we didnt see each for about 60 days back then when she decided to stop our "relations" and Im not sure did she just miss my physical appearance that is much more interesting than typing a messages whole time. Anyways Im sorry for this huge text but to sum up, do you think that she will later come back when she sees me cuz Im repeating again we didnt have a physical contact since I think new year eve so she maybe thought that she lost feelings but its just because of me not being near her. Or do you think that she would ever just send me a sudden message where she says that she wants me back. Even nowdays Im ignoring her stories on ig and she is watching my every story, even on the snap but doesnt want to send any snaps lol. Anyways sorry once again for this huge text, I felt like it would be useful to explain everything, hopefully U get it ⚡
@@swordfish_wotb2249 always remember that females grow a stronger bond in person. Also remember if she has good memories with you she will never forget you. However you are the one that did no contact. So you can’t expect her to hit u up. You should of waited for her to say that. But u went wrong by talking to her a lot. Thats how females lose interest fast, you have to stay busy never let a women think you have no life without her.. But when you do talk Keep the conversations fun and interesting but don’t talk for long , that’s what makes her grow interest. But always remember never listen to what she says but what she does. Yeah she said I don’t have feelings but she keeps on looking at your story so there is some type of scrutiny there. You can still get her. Just hit her up and make plans on seeing her again and that’s it. Don’t talk about nothing else and when y’all see each other just have fun together so she can go back home thinking why did we stop talking. Furthermore, all that extra talk she saying about her home situation she just trying to get a reaction out of you. Remember u always have to stay Being STOIC. Never let her get you out of character, you always be calm and humble. But long story short hit her up. You can still get her.
@@22jp yes when she turned kinda cold (didnt send any heart emojis or cute messages and she seemed much different) I asked her if she wants some space because I felt like there is no hope in talking to someone who answers only with short messages and with no real and deep emotions. I thought that its just her period for some time and she said so, I kept sending her some memes every 3 or 4 days for the next 2 weeks and then I totally gone from the chat for like 20 days. I expected her to feel happy again, instead she just wanted to be friends 😕😑 weird really, usually distance helps people regain feelings but she is different... I hope that ur right about this case, thx for ur time to actually read all of this, means a lot
It's been since Jan 31st it so hard not hearing his voice receiving his morning text my heart is broken missing him so much. Through it all God giving me the strength to heal if I can ever🙏🏽💔
Broke up on my birthday december 3rd. Ye trust me i hear you
My situation exactly!! Since November 2022 I miss all his calls and messages everyday, since last week I've been looking for way out to reaching out to him 😢 I'm going to break no contact with him. 4 months I didn't hear from him it's really hurt
Feb 2 for me. I miss her voice so much but I have finally accepted the breakup and feel much better just focusing on myself
Let him come back to you guys. They always come back when things don’t work out for them. Don’t reach out. They disposed you. At first it was love bombing with GM thinking about you and good night tests 2nd: hot and cold meaning inconsistency from one Monday morning tests another one on Friday morning then you start to wonder till it’s your turn to start chasing with the good morning or calls: 3rd boom! Dumpster (disposed) if chasing here comes the blocking stage lol 😂. Girls I can relate. A secret I want to share with you is there’ll be a time you’ll ask yourself either they return or not WHY WAS I SO STUPID TO CARE THAT MUCH THAT CAUSED ME SO MUCH PAIN EVEN TO MAKE ME HATE LIFE????
@@benithacalloway8286 I agree.
That's all good advice. Thanks for sharing. As a general rule, it's best to let your ex go and not chase after them, no matter how much you miss them and want them back. If they come back, they come back. If they don't, they don't. You should move on with your life either way, and if your ex wants you back, make them work and beg for it for once.
Well said
Depends on what they said and did
@@danieljohnson9841 Yes, that makes a lot of sense. I'm sure there are things an ex could have done that would make reconciliation all but impossible. But I've always been a very forgiving and understanding sort. It's probably a weakness that bad people try to exploit, and so I have to learn to maintain stronger boundaries. But I'd rather throw my arms around someone who hurt me than turn them away, particularly if I felt God brought us both together.
Then again, maybe God brought us together just to teach me these lessons about boundaries and self-respect. Hopefully, I was able to inspire my ex to change her ways and turn her life around, that she would turn to Christ for forgiveness so she wouldn't have to pay Karma instead. But it's out of my hands now.
Great comments, you gave me some things to think about and I appreciate it. Thanks!
*I’d say let them go and move on. If they come back, just remind they that they broke up with you and let them know to not cave and stick to their decision. Remind them that you’re an ex for a reason.*
The thing is if you breakup and you actually feel better and you're doing better post break up, there's no returning. Most women wait years to leave but once gone, they hardly return. Especially if it was not a healthy relationship...
🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃 AMEN, RUN LIKE HADES IS LICKING YOUR SOLES!
Glory Be To God!! When God brings you a person you will know, trust the process, work on self, trust God. Do not go backwards, let them go, embrace your new life🫡✝️!! 7+ billion people in the World, take a chance with NEW Love in Christ, Glory Be To God!!
After 2 months, out of nowhere my ex liked my Instagram photo, the she started to see my stories, when she went for trip, she was wearing the ring that I gave her. I have her UA-cam also, she was listening songs like "call me, want you bad, can't stay without you" and so on 😌 I don't know what these signs means, but I will keep going focusing on my goals 😎
blocked for 7 months now and counting. Only God knows how hard it was for me
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Stay strong I feel you
It's been almost five months and I'm finally in a good place. I wish her nothing but happiness. I just couldn't deal with the screaming and yelling. And you don't hit the people you love. I would rather be alone.
This is good stuff ...it works my ex wife came back after no contact....but I was done I did not want her anymore. Going through that right now....I made the mistake and went hard for 2 months strong texting,calling,begging,gifts....I've been in no contact for 2 months. I feel stronger. Get closer to God. Invest in yourself. Know your worth
How long were yall separated before she came back
When I went no contact from my ex wife July 2017 by August 2017 she was begging me to come back after she left. I'm actually dealing with a whole new situation now. We fell in love. She broke up. Telling me she didn't believe I loved her. So I chased her hard for 2 months from Nov to Jan. Been in no contact. No contact actually builds you up. You regain your confidence.
Hope it builds me up, I was in a relationship 11yeara, took her on and her son, had a girl with her 4 years ago, her son dosnt want to speak to her for leaving in January,. Iv been trying to message and tell her , but to no progress. I'm now going no contact , see what's what
No we do not beg people, we do not harass people, we do not stalk, hack or anything else. Once a relationship is over, it's over. Move forward with your life and don't look back. It doesn't matter how well they may be doing or not. Relationships end for a reason or reasons. Life is way too short to be stuck in a pattern of always returning. Life is so much better moving forward. Hope you find what you're looking for. Best wishes to you on your journey.
20 days of no contact and I got the call I have been waiting for! It was a rough couple of days but it was so worth it
Ghosting makes you feel like a disposable toy. Any shared laughs, memories, conversations get marred by the betrayal and trauma that ghosting leaves behind. I wish him well but I know deep down that had things progressed, he may never have loved me and cared as deeply about me as I did for him.
Love is more powerful than fear, fear and hate are easier to get over than love ❤
😂😂😂 stop the 🧢
He left me as soon as a week he was with someone else. I found out she worked with him. He was going out with her every weekend while we were together and saying he was with his friends.
You deserve so much better.
my story too
Why do you want to be with him? Why? read your words… why?
Omg this is my case!!! 😢😢😢
A person can't care about what you had if they don't even care about what they put into the relationship. If they did care as you did, then you 2 wouldn't be each other ex. Through experience, just keep pushing forward. If you go back, you will start back at ground zero, having to pick up the pieces of your brokenness all over again. It's seemed like for myself, it was just as painful as the 1st time. I'm glad that experience is over with. I'm pretty sure both of our feelings are the exact same for once. I hope that I don't EVER have to lay eyes on him again. If I do hope I be hugged up with someone new that we both speak each other love language.
My ex came back I didn’t call her at all I cut off everything she came back crying
I need to start my channel
Before I found your channel I did exactly this not with the intention of wanting my ex back but standing firm on letting him feel the wrath of his decision on breaking up…he contacted me six months later in fear of me moving on… this method works for sure! Nevertheless I didn’t take him back!
You are an amazing coach. The fact that you recommend "Man's Search for Meaning" and "Letting Go," two great books is impressive.
Bc 😅 I
Thank you for this video. I needed this information because I've been doing all of the wrong things (calls, texts and emails) to the point that he has blocked me on everything. I'm not going to reach out to him again, instead I'm going to process the pain in a healthy way until there's no more pain.
The man will always hurt more than the woman , its a fact . The man suffers first as the woman has so many options . Every man is competing for her but she will suffer eventually while you have already healed 🙌
Yeah I had 0 beef with my ex & recently she reached out to me, I responded in open arms but real quick the trail got cold & I came to a realization that she’s feeling powerful trying me like that. I was hoping she would humble herself but I had to cut ties & block her, I have value but that’s for me to know, I don’t like putting my self too high on a pedestal, I like seeing people eye to eye but when it comes to useless bad energy I have to turn my back.
I think I’m the beginning begging and chasing is alright. Depending on how how long you were together. Because I know I don’t want to give up.. it’s grieving over a loss… but when you finally accept no contact… it shows you can accept and respect their decision. I don’t want my ex to think I never cared.. I care so much that I’m willing to let them go and let them find out what they want.
You hella right at the start it’s good so they know u care and they gonna think about that when u on no contact
Yes I love your comment! I definitely told them how I felt twice but I’ve been doing well the past 3 days by not mentioning my love and letting them have the space they need but also pouring more self care into myself and allowing myself to cry at moments
This was just what I needed. His anger almost got me.
I agree with you 100%, I used no contact for three days and she reached out to me. Our ex doesn't care about our feelings, they only care when we stop chasing them, they start fearing that they might lose us.
It’s been 2 weeks and 1 day I haven’t heard from him 💔 but I’m doing things that make me feel good and happy!!
Stay strong
@@giovannimorgan8728 thank you so much
@dreromonseletemple
Me too but we stay strong we will overcome it❤
What I don’t understand is how I am so accepting and making plans for myself only to be obsessively wonder if she is thinking about me or coming back. I have never experienced this range of emotions. I broke no contact after a week 3 days ago and now I’m back on it and it’s harder and harder sometimes. Pray for me lol
Faith prayer & time ,God words are very helpful dealing with pain ,Jesus suffered for 40 years and in the end he won ,God said if you & I keep us he'll keep us in perfect peace,the word of God is the only way out of this ,here's a bible verse I want you to read over & over again 2nd Corinthians verse 4 & 5
Read Jeremiah 29:11
Its sooo hard😩😩
@@qwekut9453 trust me I know,I've been hurting crying and dealing with this for 5 years none stop ,I tired everything nothing seems to help ,I had to pick up my faith & trust God's word,God said in his words before his words come back to him void heaven and earth will pass away first , heaven and earth still exist so God's words are still standing, again it's very hard for me every day is a struggle but there's nothing to hard for God ,what I have learned in this situation it's a lesson my lesson was I was looking for a man to love me & I was doing all the wrong stuff trying to get a man to love me like doing stuff that a momma/ wife should do & the more I do the worse he treat me and the more he disrespect me so I'm now working on stop doing so much ,& the crazy thing about it he treat all the women that does nothing like queens , they don't think like we do what's wrong to us is right to them & what's good to us is bad to them
Today is one of my rare easy days. Thoughts are hit and miss but I have more control today. I literally got rid of all the reminders and keeping busy. I have noticed that caffeine makes things harder for some reason so I just drink water and work out. Hopefully this becomes more of a trend so I can become normal again.
If a person loves u, they will never leave, so anyone 🤷 else can get you. They leave because they don't care about you like that. If they love ❤️ u, they will stick and stay and treat u well like the Queen 👸 u are and never leave your side willingly. Point blank period 👌🏾 💯 leave them alone, and find yourself a real King 🤴
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Yes because that's easy to do isn't it! Doh!
No contact is for when you want to be done. The longer you start out of contact w someone the further apart you get so taking some time away for space is one thing but prolonged no contact (like I'm in now) is due when you want it to be over. Period
1. Sex
2. Your resources (again sex, money, car, place to stay, a listening 👂, whatever type of jam they are in that they know you can solve).
This goes for both men and women.
The ex comes back to use you for something. NOT because they have reformed.
I must admit....THIS video right here....was ON POINT...alot of real spit box...
The point he made about if the begging and chasing ya ex has worked, they return, but they won't be there 4 long, they will INDEED leave again....so true. Your ex will see it as, "shit hell, no matter what I do, dip out, be disrespectful, ghost em, etc etc, no worries, I'll be taken back as ez as I left, again and again".
You're getting straight played...that's that on again off again relationship...
When it's your turn, y"all good, when it's someone ELSE'S turn....nuff said..
She’s dead to me honestly. A restraining order in a relationship that never had any physical problems, we literally argued every week. I moved out to give her space and she quit on me. I’m good, I understand that not everyone is for you, they’re either a blessing or a lesson. I’ve learned my lesson. I was labeled a narc for not wanting to argue, I would rather talk calmly like normal people.
Yeah. If you’re always being argued with it’s over.
He said no contact said ok he message me tfdy and blasted me on fb and i didnt react. Hes done this before he likes that attention. I watched a lot your videos tdy figure our hell what was really going on. This one hit home made perfect sense.
Ppl and relationships are similar to food. They all have expiration dates, and they're easily replaceable. Once you let go, you start to realize there are so many options that you never paid any attention to. Stop trying to resuscitate relationships that are on life-support. It's best to mourn the loss & move on with your life.
100% agree when I first broke up with my ex I didn’t care about any of his feelings. In that moment, the only person‘s feelings that matter were mine, because I was the one who was hurting. I didn’t actually start to feel the pain of losing him until maybe a month after we breakup. I felt fear and pain due to the fact that it was becoming obvious to me that he did not realize what he had lost. It honestly still hurts to this day. That someone I would have giving my last dollar, would just let me walk out the door. However that’s my rejection and abandonment issues. Every day gets a little better, but the pain of losing someone that I loved it hasn’t gone away. So yeah if you’re trying to get your ex back, just wait. If you were good them maybe they will want you back. You will never know until you try.
If you dumped him, the burden to reach out is on you. Going no contact is usually done by those who were dumped, since they did not end the relationship. It always baffles me when someone dumps someone and expects the dumped to reach out. Either you wanted the relationship to end ( which if so, no reason to feel loss) or you didn't and used the breakup as a power move and manipulation tactic. If it's the latter, then perhaps he sensed that and didn't want to play that game.
@@modickens1272 She sounded like she expected her ex bf to chase her after being dumped.
@@spiderjump I know, its unbelievable how some people's minds operate. Dumping someone and then pondering how they could " just let me walk out the door" translation: You're suppose to beg and plead to be back with me. I'm worth fighting for. Boost my ego and feed my need for power and control.
Why you guys projecting onto the dumper? Simply acknowledging and sharing from their own experience. It's very much appreciated 👍
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NC for 20 months .. I can’t wait for her to contact me .. then she will know she’s not worth having me in her life .. 🤷🏼♂️🙏🏼
Dang 20 months is she in a relationship all that time.
I’ve just entered a period of no contact with my ex after 6 weeks. We live together and have children. I came to the realisation on Saturday that he wasn’t feeling the effect of what he had done because we’ve been behaving as if nothing had changed and I’ve been too available to him. Now I can focus on me and my happiness. Before entering in to no contact with him I did send him a text expressing that I needed him to choose his freedom or his family… I get that might come across like I’m giving him too much power to make that decision but honestly after a decade I feel like I can move forward and he is either with me on this journey or he isn’t - and if not it’s his loss because I know I’m a good woman.
I'm in the same exact situation and it sucks. I need to go into no contact as well. I've been to available to her and I noticed today, I feel she is taking advantage of me and my heartache. Hope all works out for you
My baby daddy used marriage and the ring 💍 as a carrot stick
@@CaptainsCollectables On Monday evening he asked for another chance… I said no…
All the experts say ‘focus on yourself’ and you think that’s an impossible task because you are so focused on them. But I promise when YOU change your mindset and realise you are the mother f*cking prize who is worthy of so much more you’ll attract something way better than what you were settling for.
Wow! That's the best example I've heard about emotions being disengaged! It makes complete sense now, when it never has before! Thank you!
The problem is when the relationship ended ...you don't have closure...that's why u pining for them to come back ,best advice is to work on yourself and self improve ..it will hurt but in time it does get easier..find better than what u had b4....
I hate that I was the one to walk away but at the time, what he did didn't align with how I lived my life and I didn't want to be with someone who could make such a terrible life choice. I didn't allow his sentiments during the loss of my father to win me back either, after a year of us being apart. But now, a year and a half after breaking up, we're communicating and trying to mend what was broken. It truly can't happen before it's time, and no amount of coercion will speed up the process. I appreciate this video for its very good insight.
TheArtOfLove, Coach Blac and Coach Lee are the best in the game I thank God for you guys...... 🎉😂😊❤
I don’t work this way. When I love someone, that love is a lasting force. It’s not conditional on the role or type of relationship we have. Seasons of life change as do the different roles we can serve in each others lives. Friend > lover > partner > friend , etc. But the love, the concern and care for their happiness as they define it never dissipates.
It is deeply unnatural to me to move from a place of profound connectedness and emotional intimacy into cold nothingness. Seems more like a game played to affirm ego and quell pain. My heart simply does not function that way
Right
Wisdom, when your done, your done, never except an ex back!
Fear and pain everything you mentioned makes sense
You are rite bro. Going through this now, I chased my ex to get back with me while he was attracted to another girl, he took me back. But after 3days he told me he needed a break again and I had to let him go and blocked him everywhere on my contact, a hard decision to make. Now trying to focus on myself
The same happened to me. I hope he can get past this selfish phase
We were close friends for eight years but never officially a couple. After he said he just wanted to be with the right person and we were, “compatible in every way,” then encouraged me to get my nursing license in California, I just knew he was going to propose in January but he made excuses, instead, that his personal life is, “broken in many ways,” and now I haven’t heard from him in more than a month. 😢
I'm sorry.
@@kateroth7154 thank you ♥️
@@jeannievail when a man really wants you he will commit and not just be your friend for 8 years
@@WildMuffinofficial he was married until three years ago and I was in a 20 year relationship until the end of January.
When i feel a momemt of weakness, i come here. Thanks man.
I told her she was right and I hope things work with everybody else.
My ex came back when I worked on with 5th dimensions on spiritual communion or connection. Not on physical plane. If you worked on physical plane, you may be chasing your ex or can get into troubles. My piece of advice worked on spiritual plane to bring your ex back. For doing that, you need strong will power.
1.Fear - They think you might be moving away
2.Pain - They Feel the void ,they now experience the loss,they miss the good times together
An ex is an ex for a REASON!! Bye 👋
I totally agree and well full of advices appreciate. I hope nothing but best for everyone as they prayed for.
The reality is that you must focus on self , the more u do that instead of investing time to someone u give that back to yourself. You boss up because you are no longer living in a situation of subtraction. Now u can add value to yourself and and succeed, double the time financially , mentally, spiritually etc . Now that u are not giving to him or her , now the law of attraction sets in , here’s where u must be vigilant. God sends ppl in our lives for a Season, sometimes when the season ends and they have for fulled the time , maybe it was just a lesson to be learned and must learn to let go for the next projects. Anything meant for one never really leave. If it’s lost , it was never yours to being with.
Let go and let God
My ex girlfriend blew me out after 4 years to go with another guy . She did allow me to be strictly a friend , but after 6 months of me being single I eventually met someone new then all of a sudden my ex wants me back ! Go figure
Don't do it
Need daily reminders of this right now, even tho it’s the same things being said in a different way … thanks!
It’s been 7mo no contact and he had a new relationship in between. They’ve broken up and now he’s slowly trying to get my attention again. I will not entertain him ever again.
Thank you so much for the comfort at a very upsetting and stressful time. Bless you x
She is now dating someone who is the exact opposite of me. She completely dropped her boundaries. Saw them at a party together but did not give a fuck and had fun. She looked at me as if I was an alien. She completly rushed into this new relationship while she took her time to get know me. Still not contacting her till this day and might never again. She was my first love and I was hers.
Were you the dumper?
VERY well said. Your message is the most powerful, and I believe true, of what I have heard. Bravo. Cheers mate.
Time & Space Important, Unclogged The Mind Of Negative Thoughts. Focus On The Issue Constructively, Better Days Ahead And The Best Is Yet To Come. Prepare Yourself A Million Fold ( Self Improvement ).
I broke no contact after 7 months with an apology to her for my part in things that led to her leaving me. I had reflected and seen occasions where I could have reacted differently to things she did . I wasn't expecting any reply from her and I got none and I've now finally started moving forward proper with improvements in my family life which include being back in work . Maybe I should not have apologised because it was for feelings i spoke of she left me , she was losing interest etc and I could sense it but it is what it is and I've not spoken to her since this apology 2 months ago and have no intentions of either . I am worth more than something to do when somebody has free time
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He is not in pain for sure. He threw me away like trash after 7 years and has already moved on. But it’s ok. This past month I have started working on myself and eventually will move on as well.
I'm on my 36th day of no contact. It's easy for me since my ex and I are an ocean apart. In one month, I'll return to where she is. We were together for 38 years, then she fell out of love. I've taken the time we're apart to work on ME! I don't know what will happen when I return, but I have no fear I'm in charge of my life. I can't change the past, nor can I understand her reasoning. I take it one day at a time. I hope everyone works on becoming their best; everything else will fall into place.
Life is short
👸cheaters are repeaters👹never trust them. use 😭that pain for ur goals so no contact won't be in vain😌!
Yes I understand what you are saying and it's down to the point. I can say this because I am going through this right now.
I never need ex's coz his the one who wronged me anyways man and women should stand their grounds
my ex left me after being married 18 years, two years went by and then she tried to come back, I asked her if she was crazy? shes been bitter ever since and she lives with anger but thats not my problem! its been 14 years now and she's been with multiple partners, had a baby and she still single! shes just a toy. My lesson was a blessing! and Im glad I never gave her a second chance! HELL NO! I dont go back if you leave me how she did. but yeah your correct about what you said.
There are some people in your past that you need to leave in your past. If there was abuse infidelity, constant lies, some things you walk away from and leave For Good. God Will Heal Your Heart. Some will come back after they see the grass is not greener on the other side. There are some people we need to leave Alone all together, especially when you've been a great person and you really worked at being a great partner in the relationship.
Hi everyone
Today I am so happy my gf is called me after 74 days of no contact.
Great video, Coach Blac. It was extremely helpful. My x has been gone 4 months. I feel like a fool every time I send him a text that he doesn’t respond to. Honestly he does not deserve the attention. He is incapable of giving me any emotional support.
It’s been since June of last year. It hurts like crazy. Some days I can’t deal other days I feel like he’s not worth it other days I pray for him to come back to our family. He’s still with her and I hate and love him. I stopped eating lost weight
Hang in there. Lost my ex of 7 yrs last June as well. Now she's back. She wants a relationship again. Keep watching these videos. And most importantly work on yourself; spiritual, mental and physical. Working out, eating right, getting in shape has helped tremendously.
same boat..i also lost my Weight...bt work on ur self though its hurts like helll...i know this feelings cz he breakup july,2022..keep going no matter what..now i am better then last December.. U will feel better also..promise..
He left you for someone else?
Stay strong. Work on yourself and find things to do that you enjoy and will put you in a good space mentally and emotionally.
I mean since June it’s hard to come
Back and he’s with someone else :/ so he he’s not even thinking about you…
Move on ! God wants someone thing else ❤
Move on. No contact. If they come back, Pick up from there. Life's Short. You Can't Forece Anyone to Be With You.
one of 2 things will happen:
1. She comes back and we get back together.
2. You move on and find someone better and vice versa..
Either way.. you both win. simple as that.
Only one wins when the other is a bum and a user. Lliterally. Smh
When they come back but doesn’t want to be in relationship again . Just want to hangout and spend time together sometimes .
Thank you sooo much!! Just found you a few weeks ago as I am in a 3 week no-contact now after a breakup of a 2 1/2 yr. relationship.. ..Applying everything-even though it hurts-patiently waiting to see if he realizes what he lost in me...but I won't wait forever as time goes on I'm hoping my pain decreases and if meant to be I can move on.. Looking forward to more of your content...thanks again
Yes go no contact trust me give him some time please don't go to a another relationship so fast thats hurts he will needs you trust me thats happend to me and she is in a relationship now what i do right please don't do that
I am single for now I not rushing any thing
Get on with your life, work out focus on working out, work hard on making yourself successful, after all that they will want to come back in your life , if not then you will attract someone else and you’ll be in a better place either way it’s a win win situation.
This comment feed helped me so far more than anything, and the videos of course.
One of the best videos I have seen on this subject. 100% spot on. Thank you.
The analogies you gave had me cracking up 🤣🤣🤣. I’m not watchin to get bk anyone but tryin to understand why these jokers think this way
Solid advice going no contact. Hopefully then you meet someone new.thanks coach blac
After almost 4 months my ex still breadcrumbs me, saying that she's still trying to understand everything.... a couple weeks ago said we could go slowly day by day and then she goes cold lol
14 years and he does this to our daughter me our family
While watching this video after 15hours of no contact i received a message from my ex asking how am i doing, i was excited but i remembered what you said in other videos so i just answered "im doing good"😅
I went 3 weeks no contact, that's when I started to miss him, the memories were just too much, I texted him,no reply. then called him hours later, and he sounded SO mad at me, didn't want to talk. I couldn't understand why, if I'm the one that was done wrong and was very mad at him. Then he got mad. But now I know the no contact caused him fear and pain and it came out as anger, he wants to reconcile now, Goodluck to everyone, hang in there, In the meantime just focus on you.
Hi my dumped brother's. Keep it strong and always remember that you are not the problem and we will make it through. God bless us all...
He moved on. He thinks I'm needy and "manipulative". And he's actively dating. Ignores me. Doesn't care. I was never special
Great video It was a month ago when my five-year romantic life ended. I'm deeply affected by the decision to end a relationship with the person I love. I have tried everything to win him back, even if it has been in vain, and I can't picture my life without him. I've done my best to avoid thinking about him, yet I still find myself missing him and thinking about him frequently. Why I am stating this here is beyond me.
Since my 12-year relationship ended, I know how hard it is to say goodbye to someone you love. But I couldn't just let him go, so l did everything i could to win him back. I finally went to a spiritual counselor for guidance, and he helped me win back his love
It's fascinating! How did you locate a spiritual counselor and how can I get in touch with one most effectively?
Spiritual igwe is a wonderful spiritual counselor who has the ability to bring back your ex.
Love from Curacao..my brother...im blessed having you man..
Thanks!
Men, always let her breakup with you. That way, she won’t try and make false allegations against you to ruin your life. Plus, her breaking up with you, disqualifies her from being able to come back.
lmfao thats nonsense
And he will still come back cause men always come back 😂
@@veebliss1266 beta male orbiters do not alphas
@@veebliss1266 your narcissism is showing. Do you want to talk about it with me sometime?
@@stellatheastronomical glad I'm a sigma and laugh at the inferior Alpha competition.