135. Logic Vs. Emotions
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- Опубліковано 3 жов 2024
- In this video Rory discusses how focusing on reaching an emotional neutral can help in getting your Ex back! Logic Emotions
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It took me 5 months to start thinking logically, and telling myself if she want me she will reach out..
QBlond84 it took me 7 months! ✌🏻✌🏻
I still cant move on 😥
@@evaemiko6689 no contact, no social media stalking, and make yourself busy, by time you will start thinking why I need someone who kicked me out of his life...
@@juliemanso4589 I'm glad you did
QBlond84 the wrost feeling ever is when you start hating yourself.. oh God :(
She came back bro. Its all because of you bro. I swear NC is the only way of getting your ex back, i learnt it the hard way. What rory says is the right thing. Do not beg or write to your ex, nc is the only way of getting him/her back
No - it is because of YOU.
How long did you do NC?
Jeff Layfield 2 months!
All the best Simon
Rexita Patricia. Thank you so much, good luck!
Rory you're amazing. I lost a part of myself in my relationship. I've been no contact for two weeks. I'm getting back to who I was before we met. Your videos are making this difficult time easier. Thank you.
Been listening two months and i finally understand things you been repeating again and again
Distance distance distance and your head will be more clear
Hi Rory, firstly I’d like to say thank you for making all these videos.. I’ve been watching your videos for the past 5 months now since my break up with my ex and it has helped me so much. Your advise has helped me grow and learn so much about myself, both mentally and physically. For anyone that’s struggling right now and experiencing heart break don’t give up. I know it’s difficult right now but trust that time will make things better. The no-contact rule actually works and what Rory said about the no-contact rule it is the best way to get back with your ex but it’s not the main goal. The main purpose of no contact is to work on yourself on becoming the best version of you. When you are feeling at your lowest the only way is up. No-contact is about respect for yourself and allowing yourself to heal. Go spend time with your friends, learn a new instrument, exercise , eat healthy, join a new class and focus on you. Going through the 5 stages of grief is a roller coaster of emotions but in the end it will only make you a better and stronger person.
Very well said. I am going thru the same. Amen.
*In order to get the most from and discover a joyful life, we have to master and combine both domains.*
*Emotional Fortitude is the expression.*
Woah. You said the right thing!
So spot on. It wasn’t until I gave my ex and I time and space did I start feeling peace and thinking logically. When I finally did (almost 6 months after NC), he reached out.
emotion is immediate while logic takes time. In my experiences with life, logic wins 90% of the time.
Brilliantly thought out video Rory 👌🏼 getting yourself back is the path to getting your ex back
This video was much needed... as I was thinking of breaking no contact after 53 days. I decided to listen to more videos to get through my moment. My emotions were definitely getting the better of me. I am going to try to let the emotions pass and focus on logic. Thank you so much, your videos have truly been a life saver.
One of your best and most important videos.
I think what makes it so difficult is that emotions often are often imidiate while logic takes some time to settle in. That's why NC is so important. You're not thinking rational as long as you as you are emotional. So take enough time and space to heal and gain some clearance.
With that being said, don't discard your emotions completely, especially your gut feeling. Emotions are what allow us to love someome. And they can also protect us and make us aware of things. Listen to your emotions, especially the bad ones, they have a reason.
Yay, pls, I cannot wait for your next video talking about how to get mental peace. You could do a few videos with tips for meditation and motivation for when you feel low or you are going through a lack of energy.
Thank you very much for these amazing videos. They are short but smart and direct to the point we need. Very helpful. Have a nice weekend Rory
Jedi Master Rory helping us on the path to balance as always 😉
Rory this helped a hell heap! I’ve been on a trampoline of brain tyranny going back and forth from anger 1 sec , then acceptance the next regarding my ex’s behavioral shifts or lack of emotion lately. This gave me powerful knowledge bombs so appreciate your refreshing insights and analogies especially dude. Plus your voice is practically medicating jfc, like essential oils sprinkled with NyQuil and testosterone. Thanks again for your input on skype and for all the work and dedication you put out there for all of us!
Rory thank you for creating this channel. You’re so helpful!
Thanks Rory, every word you said makes so much sense. God bless!
Rory, thank you for giving me the comfort that i need to get though this break up. Thank you for reminding me that i am also valuable. Here's my brief story. I lost a lot of self respect begging and pleading to my ex since she broke up with me. Eventually, a guy confronted me one day and asks me how deep my relationship is with my ex since my ex denies being in a relationship with me... that person is our batch's 2nd in the board exams... basically, a board top notcher in our country. Bottomline, the guy knew that there is an overlap between us and still, they stayed together.......
I know i'll get though this. Thank you for these videos.
Hope you’re doing well :)
@@viktoriyashiskova3130 still missing her to be honest. But i'll get though this. Thank you! :)
I feel like it's too late for me to get anything back from him but I have no expectations anymore. I'm in no contact now but I did all of the begging, pleading, anger and crying. It was my first relationship I didn't know any better. But I feel so much better about myself now, I'm happier, less stressed out and enjoying myself. I lost myself in the relationship.
Hi Rory! Could u do a video on why some dumpers are resentful after a breakup? I'm not sure how long their anger would last....
Will they even reach out?
Thank You for a great video from Virgo!
I am very proud of me I used Kind Logic to let him go and presently 100% No Contact!
Let him be, let him go!
Thank you teacher. 😆 I like the way you coach us. Always sound very firm and informative. I am thinking to book a coaching session for the 3rd time just to have a friendly chat.
Your videos are great! Thank you. Well, he came back because he wanted work. I was cold and denied it. The problem is that I go out and even try to date, but I can't seem to like anyone. He's dating someone new, younger and gorgeous. I'm fine alone. But i don't know if I'll ever like someone again.
Rory can you make a video that we can go back to and watch over and over again to take us down the ledge of calling our ex. It has been am INSANE struggle to not do it despite all logic. I feel like one day I'm going to break and do it but I'm just going to make myself look pathetic and not worthy of respect. The problem is in those moments of pure emotions it's almost impossible to remind myself of those things.
Check out #10
Just my opinion, but this one of your best videos, if not the best one.
Thank you. Lots of good info. Lots of good advice. Very well said and explained.
Best video youve made yet
Yeah. It shall be "mind over heart" for me from now on, instead of the other way around. :(
Thank you Rory, another super helpful video. Pulse.
My ex gave me another chance but some weeks later she told me that she did it only because it was the logical thing to do since I had changed and improved, but she doesn't love me, then she ghosted me for a week, came back and told me she resented me now for not wanting to be friends with her and we broke up again. WTF?
fangdrag drop her like a hot potato
PURE GOLD GOLD GOLD VIDEO!
Thank you Rory❤️
10 month's since the break up an 7 no contact, an I'm still nowhere near over this woman. 10 year's is a long time to be together an then just not to think bout her, unfortunately I can't switch off my feelings or emontions. Do dumpers not have any of these emotions
It’s not the time you’re with some one it’s the connection
Best video so far ....... thank you
Hey !!!!!! Fantastic video as always ! I'd love to see a video talking about the difference between acknowledgement and attention towards an ex who broke up with me ... What should and shouldn't I be doing when they unblock me or we speak in public 😊
Sure!
What do you do when she is no longer with her rebound guy? She told me she thinks she wants to be single for a while? What do i do? We kissed but she doesnt know how to feel about it.
Yes good one
Currently i am into logic mode
Emotions i hid inside me.(tho they come up suddenly and play )
Thanks for helping out
Yeah stick with NC. Last I heard from my ex was Mar 2nd. Reached out Mar 9th and no response. Gave it a month. “Hope you are doing well” on April 8th, and ignored and blocked. Time time time.
ex or Friends you just met
its kinda the same thing or meeting new people
but ex has waaay more value
Hey Rory, I‘m gonna keep it short and simple. My ex who broke up with me saw me with another girl and is convinced I‘m in a new relationship. There‘s no way my ex is gonna reach out to me now during no contact right? Because from her point of view it‘s already too late... ?
If she really wants you back, she will reach out. Think about rory's video about stubborn exes;)
Hi Rory. I was with my ex gf for 2 1/2 years and we lived together. My ex gf broke up with me a month and a half ago. She said she loved and cared for me, but wasn’t in love with me? I’ve been in no contact for almost 3 weeks when she asked me to come pick up my things. I haven’t begged or pleaded and left her alone like you suggest. What do you think? Is there any hope? What should I do?
Joey Dores no contact my dude. i was in a extremely similar situation. after a month of no contact she reached out and claimed she missed me. we saw each other that night and i did the mistake in talking about the break up and claimed that i’ve changed when it had been little change within the month. she told me i need to work on myself. and said it was okay to be friends. a couple
of days later i realized i couldn’t be friends with her, it caused too much pain. so i went no contact. i’ve been in no contact for almost 4 months. broken up for 5. i’ve been working on myself everyday though. just continue no contact! it is for you.
Daniel Calimayor [DanlOl12] thanks my man. I really miss her and her kids. I was hoping some how I could fix it
Her needs and expectations have changed. Do you,work on your purpose be a dad but don't do it for her do it for yourself if you feel you need to, never put your Happiness in another person's hands happiness can't be given it can only be shared.
If she doesn't love you it best to stay away work on yourself find something new to that will fulfill your life.
Guys and girls can I ask something?
(from Uk)
So I broke up with my ex in early January, (I initiated it after an argument in meeting up, I felt frustrated.. silly I know) after a while of begging and pleading.. again stupid.. but I admit to my mistake, it just didn't work.
Anyway after we spoke last on text, me saying goodbye and that (she didn't respond) i got a call from her at 6:22am the next day, missed it, i wrote back saying *sorry I missed your call, call me again whenever* also I wrote *i know you wouldn't have called me unless it was an emergency or something important, hope everythings ok* .... anyway.. no response... and again I was generally worried and anxiety got the best of me I decided to call her at 6pm to find out, she didn't pick up and instantly sent me a message, *please stop calling me*, to which I replied *you called me this morning?* her: *if I did then sorry, it must've been by accident* Me: *I think we both know it wasn't by accident but ok, Please can you delete my number so it doesn't accidently happen again as I was worried* and it ended there.
first off let me just say i don't believe it was accident at all, reason being, it was a full call (rang the full length) also i didn't recieve a voicemail which is what happens when someone pocket dials, I get a muffled sounding voicemail, what's happened here is she ended the call after I didn't pick up and before it went to voicemail.
so that's my problem, I don't know what she's thinking, I've spoken to people and they seem to think it was a moment of weakness or just simply missed me too much at that point, but regained her composure and thought it was a mistake hence pretending to not know she called. Thoughts about this, And thank you everyone for taking the time.
Rory, but what is if my Ex still has feelings but can't forget about his worries? So prefer logic to emotions? Is there any chance left? :(
Is your book out already? :O Where can I buy a copy?
can you help with the questions that you ask yourself that do you really want her back etc. thanks rory luv your vids!
can you do a topic on "infatuation" ?
So Rory. Should i keep my ex's family in my social media?
I think that's fine
I need advise regarding this. What do i do when my ex wants to meet up and say her sorry? Do i accept it? I don't know how to react.
@@clarkfernandez4536plz accepte her, if she want apologize because I can tell you she has a soft heart & people like her are rare .😘❤😪🙏
@@Ladykhalifakhalif she's apologizing for all the wrong she has done to me and she wants it in person... that was the time when the my ex and her new guy had a quarrel... why i know? The new guy contacted my sister that he's not going to continue pursuing my ex... 2 days later, i saw a post in instagram... and they're commenting on each other that they're each other's favorite person.
If you work hard at school
You a janitor
Jaketthy hysterical
1st 😊