First, males need to become men, and the men need to have high standards for themselves. Being just a male is not good enough. Second by valuing the right opinions of themselves by them self and of those of others, and trashing all others. Third by understanding that trying to date in the upper ten percent means usually 90-plus percent of the time one will be rejected... at least initially.
Men have more diversity(as much as I hate that word) in what they like in women, then what women like in men. Men will go for short, tall, thin, cubby, fat, etc-- you name it. As long as said female look good to him, he will be down.
1) Intelligent 2)Attractive 3) Open to Therapy 4) Feminine 5) Sexually generous 6) Invested in you 7) High quality friends 8) Want to know you 9) Correct relationship with parents 10) Not materialistic
I would add an eleventh to the list. Even keeled when it comes to temperament. It's important for any person to know how, when, and where to express themselves and their emotions. It's also important to learn how to read your partners in case they don't communicate them directly or indirectly. If these are never or developed, it's not a bad sign of a low quality woman, but it does mean that there may be lots of miss communication in high stress moments, or just on a regular basis for trivial things. If she doesn't consider your emotions, or hers at all, that's a whole different bag of problems
I agree with your comment and also with the video. As we grow as individuals, resolving our issues and be mindful of our health and happiness, we'll start to desire others that are on similar journeys. Water seeks its own level.
Please help my crush has all these qualities except the fact that she has many guy friends My crush who I'm talking about is a nice girl who talks well and politely with everyone and I'm also a nice type of guy who shows attitude most of the time and also ignore the girls most of the time and dont even touch the girls coz I don't do that sort of things. My crush , I met her at college previous year and we are in same class. I usually don't talk to girls and only talk if they talk to me. This girl talks to everyone tho and her main group of friends in my class were 4 girls and 3 boys in which I talk only to her and these 3 boys mostly. For the first time when I joined class i initiated and talked to her first showing fake confidence but not in a needy way btw I showed attitude too. Also i have sensed my another girl classmate was telling her I was checking this girl out lol in the first week and ik this girl knows I like her. But she confused me. She was asked out and proposed by another guy for the next month itself we joined the college who was a senior and was a bit popular guy. But I was confused at the same time that she looks at me during short breaks during classes when she and her boyfriend used to talk infront of my class. I dont know if she was trying to make me jealous or not because even then she used to look at me often also during class time when I stare at her sometimes I get glances from her by smiling. I don't know if she was getting creeped out by me looking at her or not. Also it was the first semester in college that is previous year which all these happened. Whenever a project or assignments was given in a subject I was assigned most if the time to team up with her. Also main thing is that even tho that senior was always with her outside trying to hangout with her they broke up within 3 months or 2 . Idk exactly. Then the 2nd semester came. That's this year . Remember that I'm that type of guy who doesnt talk to girls at all but showed confidence and tried to talk with confidence whenever she talked or I talked to this girl but also at the same time always showed attitude type of mentality and ignorance too and I don't smile much also to anyone and is a less talkative guy but she is a talkative girl. Coming to what happened in 2nd semester this year, our class was divided into 2 groups where 1 group is assigned to attend another subject and this girl and a that group of boys which she was always with which I mentioned earlier was in my batch. So what she used to do is that she showed most signs that I searched upon UA-cam whether she likes me or not. She used to ask about my hobbies, used to touch me intentionally or unintentionally ( knowing I don't talk to girls often or even touch other girls), used to stand always with me or be around me, asking help from me like can you hold this for me, being in the class alone with me whenever these 3 dudes go out of the class for sometime and she is also in the class(btw we arent alone theres also other batch members in class ) and sometimes she looks way more often at me now during class time and all ,all these happening with these 3 dudes who are the best friends of her . Not saying she doesn't talk to them she talks to them more often too but I get these type of things from her. Also another thing is that ahe laughs way more at the jokes told by these guys more than me. Remember again I talk with her with attitude and In a idc mindset without much laughing, just a little bit of smile, I listen to her when she talks with me. Ig she likes that. And is just trying to be nice with me??? Idk coz I'm not a type of dude desirable by women coz I don't talk usually to them so im least desirable man in the mind right? so she might be just playing around with me or just giving me a girl company?. I never even flirted or teased her and was always respecting her tho but she laughs sometimes at my jokes tho. Btw I'm much taller guy than these 3 dudes ,also she has short height. Here after you read this do you think she is just using me for attention. I still dont know too why she broke up with her boyfriend. Wss she considering me as a backup plan. Please tell in a girls perspective. Also i told she has guy friends and they are the guys which are friends of mine too also some of them have gfs too. Is she just being friendly to them. If you say Im her backup plan I will back off from her. I dont know if she is just being friendly with me too. If not and is interested in me why did she made a boyfriend even when I was there??? Just be honest and tell your opinion in a girls perspective. I dont wanna fall in a tra
@@Rohit-rx5rz To be frank, I did not read through your whole comment, by the sheer length of your comment I can tell you're over thinking the situation. In the beginning you mentioned you don't talk to girls unless they talk to you first. You also mentioned that you used "fake confidence". These two things are huge red flags to me. Here are a few next steps for you: 1. Make friends with your crushes girl friends - this will get you more integrated into the social group in your class 2. Talk to strangers - this will develop your social skills and allow you to understand more about social dynamics. Talk about the weather, coffee, the classes their in, etc. 3. Stop overthinking - Take situations for what they are. Take things for face value and don't look too deep into certain situations 4. Plenty of fish - there are literally billions of girls in the world. I'd say thousands in your university. Talk to more of them as a normal person with no agenda. If things with this girl don't pan out, move on and widen your horizons! Hope this helps man!
As a woman, i think this video is very fair to women and realistic for men. I'll admit i'm not there 100% (working on improving though), but it's what i strive to be and believe is realistic. Do you think you could be objective enough to make a similar video on high quality men? I'd be interested to hear what you'd have to say.
@._. I agree totally with you. As I watched it, I was also accessing my self as a man where are my default in this qualities. I like the fairness of @tess
Please help my crush has all these qualities except the fact that she has many guy friends My crush who I'm talking about is a nice girl who talks well and politely with everyone and I'm also a nice type of guy who shows attitude most of the time and also ignore the girls most of the time and dont even touch the girls coz I don't do that sort of things. My crush , I met her at college previous year and we are in same class. I usually don't talk to girls and only talk if they talk to me. This girl talks to everyone tho and her main group of friends in my class were 4 girls and 3 boys in which I talk only to her and these 3 boys mostly. For the first time when I joined class i initiated and talked to her first showing fake confidence but not in a needy way btw I showed attitude too. Also i have sensed my another girl classmate was telling her I was checking this girl out lol in the first week and ik this girl knows I like her. But she confused me. She was asked out and proposed by another guy for the next month itself we joined the college who was a senior and was a bit popular guy. But I was confused at the same time that she looks at me during short breaks during classes when she and her boyfriend used to talk infront of my class. I dont know if she was trying to make me jealous or not because even then she used to look at me often also during class time when I stare at her sometimes I get glances from her by smiling. I don't know if she was getting creeped out by me looking at her or not. Also it was the first semester in college that is previous year which all these happened. Whenever a project or assignments was given in a subject I was assigned most if the time to team up with her. Also main thing is that even tho that senior was always with her outside trying to hangout with her they broke up within 3 months or 2 . Idk exactly. Then the 2nd semester came. That's this year . Remember that I'm that type of guy who doesnt talk to girls at all but showed confidence and tried to talk with confidence whenever she talked or I talked to this girl but also at the same time always showed attitude type of mentality and ignorance too and I don't smile much also to anyone and is a less talkative guy but she is a talkative girl. Coming to what happened in 2nd semester this year, our class was divided into 2 groups where 1 group is assigned to attend another subject and this girl and a that group of boys which she was always with which I mentioned earlier was in my batch. So what she used to do is that she showed most signs that I searched upon UA-cam whether she likes me or not. She used to ask about my hobbies, used to touch me intentionally or unintentionally ( knowing I don't talk to girls often or even touch other girls), used to stand always with me or be around me, asking help from me like can you hold this for me, being in the class alone with me whenever these 3 dudes go out of the class for sometime and she is also in the class(btw we arent alone theres also other batch members in class ) and sometimes she looks way more often at me now during class time and all ,all these happening with these 3 dudes who are the best friends of her . Not saying she doesn't talk to them she talks to them more often too but I get these type of things from her. Also another thing is that ahe laughs way more at the jokes told by these guys more than me. Remember again I talk with her with attitude and In a idc mindset without much laughing, just a little bit of smile, I listen to her when she talks with me. Ig she likes that. And is just trying to be nice with me??? Idk coz I'm not a type of dude desirable by women coz I don't talk usually to them so im least desirable man in the mind right? so she might be just playing around with me or just giving me a girl company?. I never even flirted or teased her and was always respecting her tho but she laughs sometimes at my jokes tho. Btw I'm much taller guy than these 3 dudes ,also she has short height. Here after you read this do you think she is just using me for attention. I still dont know too why she broke up with her boyfriend. Wss she considering me as a backup plan. Please tell in a girls perspective. Also i told she has guy friends and they are the guys which are friends of mine too also some of them have gfs too. Is she just being friendly to them. If you say Im her backup plan I will back off from her. I dont know if she is just being friendly with me too. If not and is interested in me why did she made a boyfriend even when I was there??? Just be honest and tell your opinion in a girls perspective. I dont wanna fall in a tra
As a woman, those are all the qualities that I strive for. The only one that my husband (of almost 15 years) wouldn’t have been able to judge before we got married was the sex. We had been best friends for 5 years then dated for 4 years before getting married. Both being devoted Christians, it was important for us to wait till we were married. I want him to be my first and my last. As far as sexual desire goes, it changes constantly with the birth of kids, high stress jobs, medical issues. It’s something that sometimes needs to be worked at and at other times you pop in a movie for the kids because you just can’t wait till bedtime. The only thing that I would add to the list is that you should have the same religious beliefs or moral views. I’ve seen that be a huge strain on relationships.
@Username it gives me no pleasure to say this - but if you've had one night stand(s) in your past you'll realize that there are no angels, only well constructed illusions.
@Username I'm sure that's occasionally true for women (no causal sex), but how do you know who is really presenting themselves and their past honestly. It's similar to guessing a man's net worth based on the value of his vehicle or lifestyle. Outward appearances and internal reality may or may not be aligned.
Your comment is lovely, I am a 32 years old girl who is still waiting on God for her husband...your comment gives me hope that there are still good men left in these times... 💗🙂 thank you!
11. She consistently displays her qualities with ALL people, not just you 12. She has clear ethical values that are similar or the same to those you hold
*Great* video man. I would like to add a crucial #11 though: *She keeps these qualities even after 8-9months. So she is not faking it just to get you into a relationship* I have experiences with multiple women that present themselfs as a high quality woman to get you to like them and then go literally 180 degrees on their own presented values.
@@P9rkour90 My point is that there is a lot of acting and therefore you get to know a 'different person' as they actually are. It's like you are looking at a instagram page, loads of filters and you only see what they *choose* to show you
@@aerospaceTUdelft This is what has caused me to fear truly believing in what they are showing me. Sure it finally snapped me out of my naivete for good, but damn did it also make it harder to trust women.
I lead her into a false sense of security, they nearly always unknowingly hang themselves. No one is perfect so it depends to what degree as no one wants to show their not so good side at the start of a friendship. Some keep up the act for just a few days others months.
Women have high standards which causes men like us to look on how to improve ourselves by for example watching Alexander Grace's videos. The issue is that most men dont have high standards of women which makes many women become blind of their shortcomings in their characteristics and not try to improve them. We need to make women know what traits we like in them.
I WISH men would have higher standards for me. When they act like all I need to do is spread my legs and bat my eyelashes, 1) it makes me lose respect for them and 2) it makes me feel like they don't see me as a real person. I want a man who challenges me to be my best self (and vice versa!)
They have high standards because they have sex when they want and most men will give it to them. They end up thinking they are high value because men want sex with them when they open their legs so they end up with hundreds of standards in a partner. If women were not almost all sluts when they were young, they would be much more reasonable and know themselves more and be a lot higher quality and hi at least 5-6 of these 10 points,
Time to start being brutally honest with these women tell them they are whores if their whores fat if their fat when they realize what they really are maybe their unrealistic standard s may end
Please help my crush has all these qualities except the fact that she has many guy friends My crush who I'm talking about is a nice girl who talks well and politely with everyone and I'm also a nice type of guy who shows attitude most of the time and also ignore the girls most of the time and dont even touch the girls coz I don't do that sort of things. My crush , I met her at college previous year and we are in same class. I usually don't talk to girls and only talk if they talk to me. This girl talks to everyone tho and her main group of friends in my class were 4 girls and 3 boys in which I talk only to her and these 3 boys mostly. For the first time when I joined class i initiated and talked to her first showing fake confidence but not in a needy way btw I showed attitude too. Also i have sensed my another girl classmate was telling her I was checking this girl out lol in the first week and ik this girl knows I like her. But she confused me. She was asked out and proposed by another guy for the next month itself we joined the college who was a senior and was a bit popular guy. But I was confused at the same time that she looks at me during short breaks during classes when she and her boyfriend used to talk infront of my class. I dont know if she was trying to make me jealous or not because even then she used to look at me often also during class time when I stare at her sometimes I get glances from her by smiling. I don't know if she was getting creeped out by me looking at her or not. Also it was the first semester in college that is previous year which all these happened. Whenever a project or assignments was given in a subject I was assigned most if the time to team up with her. Also main thing is that even tho that senior was always with her outside trying to hangout with her they broke up within 3 months or 2 . Idk exactly. Then the 2nd semester came. That's this year . Remember that I'm that type of guy who doesnt talk to girls at all but showed confidence and tried to talk with confidence whenever she talked or I talked to this girl but also at the same time always showed attitude type of mentality and ignorance too and I don't smile much also to anyone and is a less talkative guy but she is a talkative girl. Coming to what happened in 2nd semester this year, our class was divided into 2 groups where 1 group is assigned to attend another subject and this girl and a that group of boys which she was always with which I mentioned earlier was in my batch. So what she used to do is that she showed most signs that I searched upon UA-cam whether she likes me or not. She used to ask about my hobbies, used to touch me intentionally or unintentionally ( knowing I don't talk to girls often or even touch other girls), used to stand always with me or be around me, asking help from me like can you hold this for me, being in the class alone with me whenever these 3 dudes go out of the class for sometime and she is also in the class(btw we arent alone theres also other batch members in class ) and sometimes she looks way more often at me now during class time and all ,all these happening with these 3 dudes who are the best friends of her . Not saying she doesn't talk to them she talks to them more often too but I get these type of things from her. Also another thing is that ahe laughs way more at the jokes told by these guys more than me. Remember again I talk with her with attitude and In a idc mindset without much laughing, just a little bit of smile, I listen to her when she talks with me. Ig she likes that. And is just trying to be nice with me??? Idk coz I'm not a type of dude desirable by women coz I don't talk usually to them so im least desirable man in the mind right? so she might be just playing around with me or just giving me a girl company?. I never even flirted or teased her and was always respecting her tho but she laughs sometimes at my jokes tho. Btw I'm much taller guy than these 3 dudes ,also she has short height. Here after you read this do you think she is just using me for attention. I still dont know too why she broke up with her boyfriend. Wss she considering me as a backup plan. Please tell in a girls perspective. Also i told she has guy friends and they are the guys which are friends of mine too also some of them have gfs too. Is she just being friendly to them. If you say Im her backup plan I will back off from her. I dont know if she is just being friendly with me too. If not and is interested in me why did she made a boyfriend even when I was there??? Just be honest and tell your opinion in a girls perspective. I dont wanna fall in a tra
@@Rohit-rx5rz First of All, dont get in touch with another woman if her breakup is still fresh. You seem like you are worshipping her, please stop that. Being around dudes is also a sign of a red flag.
From my own experience I'd add: 11. Her default behavior is cute and playful 12. She is able and willing to adapt 13. She loves spending time with you. 14. She wants a deep emotional connection.
@Lilly Flower Different guys want different things, some prefer a girl who's more tomboyish and not afraid of bugs or to go adventuring, or some may want an intellectual, so I wouldn't say 11 is something all men would want
Purpose & Mind if a girl want to be around you. Want to talk to you but she doesn't want to know even the basic things of you what could be wrong in this situation?
@Cj I have practiced as an Orthodox Christian, and from what I saw, there are a lot of overlaps between what Orthodoxy and Buddhism have to say about psychology. I have more respect for these ancient religions that had an emphasis on inner spirituality than I do for most of modern psychology.
Couldn't agree more. I have a huge disdain for authority, so wasting a bunch of time and money because society says I'm only allowed to develop as a character because some licenced asshole in a suit gave me enough character development tokens, Fuck all that. I'm aware enough to know what's wrong with me, even if I don't always act the way I should all the time.
1) Low (preferably non-existent) body count. 2) Loyal, trustworthy, reliable. 3) No Onl%Fans, thirst trap Instagram or dating app profiles. 4) No active male friendships. 5) Not a party girl. No girl trips, night clubs etc. 6) Sexually generous. 7) Feminine and physically attractive. 8) Nurturing, domestic, supportive, a good mother. 9) Mentally and emotionally stable and resilient. 10) Graceful, manners, polite, classy.
I think every guy generally knows the qualities he wants in a woman but lust and sex before marriage (or sex too early in the relationship even) puts a mask over women's true quality's which are actually not ideal.
It happens to both sides, which is why it's ideal not to fool around until you can more properly see and discern the person's traits/quality and personal compatibility with each other. Once you get physical then you mix in the chemicals and it's much harder to see clearly
@@timothyn4699 This makes sense on several levels. Notice that older people (ie pre WW2 born) tend to be married for decades - even to the point of getting married young and dying before their partner does. That's because (usually) people used to take more time before going heavy - that way they were already certain it would be worth it whether sex worked or not.
Yeah, honesty is really important, but everything else in the list is too. Additionally, you can be with an honest person who still isn't a good person. My previous ex was like this. One of the most open, honest people I've ever known, also a cheater. It was kind of shocking to see, to be with someone who could be so open about their biggest flaws, who could commit a great evil and than immediately communicate it. Bizarre but it just goes to show, there is no one trait that trumps all, if anything a high quality person requires all the virtues, a few just won't cut it.
Please help my crush has all these qualities except the fact that she has many guy friends My crush who I'm talking about is a nice girl who talks well and politely with everyone and I'm also a nice type of guy who shows attitude most of the time and also ignore the girls most of the time and dont even touch the girls coz I don't do that sort of things. My crush , I met her at college previous year and we are in same class. I usually don't talk to girls and only talk if they talk to me. This girl talks to everyone tho and her main group of friends in my class were 4 girls and 3 boys in which I talk only to her and these 3 boys mostly. For the first time when I joined class i initiated and talked to her first showing fake confidence but not in a needy way btw I showed attitude too. Also i have sensed my another girl classmate was telling her I was checking this girl out lol in the first week and ik this girl knows I like her. But she confused me. She was asked out and proposed by another guy for the next month itself we joined the college who was a senior and was a bit popular guy. But I was confused at the same time that she looks at me during short breaks during classes when she and her boyfriend used to talk infront of my class. I dont know if she was trying to make me jealous or not because even then she used to look at me often also during class time when I stare at her sometimes I get glances from her by smiling. I don't know if she was getting creeped out by me looking at her or not. Also it was the first semester in college that is previous year which all these happened. Whenever a project or assignments was given in a subject I was assigned most if the time to team up with her. Also main thing is that even tho that senior was always with her outside trying to hangout with her they broke up within 3 months or 2 . Idk exactly. Then the 2nd semester came. That's this year . Remember that I'm that type of guy who doesnt talk to girls at all but showed confidence and tried to talk with confidence whenever she talked or I talked to this girl but also at the same time always showed attitude type of mentality and ignorance too and I don't smile much also to anyone and is a less talkative guy but she is a talkative girl. Coming to what happened in 2nd semester this year, our class was divided into 2 groups where 1 group is assigned to attend another subject and this girl and a that group of boys which she was always with which I mentioned earlier was in my batch. So what she used to do is that she showed most signs that I searched upon UA-cam whether she likes me or not. She used to ask about my hobbies, used to touch me intentionally or unintentionally ( knowing I don't talk to girls often or even touch other girls), used to stand always with me or be around me, asking help from me like can you hold this for me, being in the class alone with me whenever these 3 dudes go out of the class for sometime and she is also in the class(btw we arent alone theres also other batch members in class ) and sometimes she looks way more often at me now during class time and all ,all these happening with these 3 dudes who are the best friends of her . Not saying she doesn't talk to them she talks to them more often too but I get these type of things from her. Also another thing is that ahe laughs way more at the jokes told by these guys more than me. Remember again I talk with her with attitude and In a idc mindset without much laughing, just a little bit of smile, I listen to her when she talks with me. Ig she likes that. And is just trying to be nice with me??? Idk coz I'm not a type of dude desirable by women coz I don't talk usually to them so im least desirable man in the mind right? so she might be just playing around with me or just giving me a girl company?. I never even flirted or teased her and was always respecting her tho but she laughs sometimes at my jokes tho. Btw I'm much taller guy than these 3 dudes ,also she has short height. Here after you read this do you think she is just using me for attention. I still dont know too why she broke up with her boyfriend. Wss she considering me as a backup plan. Please tell in a girls perspective. Also i told she has guy friends and they are the guys which are friends of mine too also some of them have gfs too. Is she just being friendly to them. If you say Im her backup plan I will back off from her. I dont know if she is just being friendly with me too. If not and is interested in me why did she made a boyfriend even when I was there??? Just be honest and tell your opinion in a girls perspective. I dont wanna fall in a tra
I liked this list, and I would like to add one more: You share the same or similar religious beliefs. I'm an atheist, and Jesus created a rift in my relationship with every Christian girl that I dated for several reasons: * My spontaneity was limited. I could not make certain jokes without hurting feelings. This reduces communication and enjoyment for both of us. * I believed that the religion was taking advantage of her. She believed it was helping her. She relied on the religion for emotional support. I held back, because I didn't want to force her into atheism. * Religious women have a lot of ideas about the way things "should" be. If you don't agree, that will create conflict. * After the relationships, there was resentment, because she would believe that I had corrupted her, just by being myself and sharing my views on life. For these reasons, I keep Christian girls at arm's length. Facing life critically and working to remove delusion is deeply important to me. It saved me from a life of misery. I cannot feel free to be myself and, at the same time, hide these things from my partner. Edit: One more thing I forgot to add. It will create conflict between you and her circle of friends. Most likely, they will be displeased that you are not also a part of her religion, and they will try to convince her to leave you before you even get things off the ground. That won't go away until you join the religion or she gets new friends.
I always maintain my distance with almost any religious person, from my experience they're closed minded, stubborn and intolerant. I thought maybe they would be good people, but those traits are just too much for me.
@@peke1822 I have met Christians with a humanist world view that were fine. Some Christians don't even go to church and some have the same problems with other Christians. They usually focus on their own personal relationship with their god, and I find that these people make decent friends. We can be honest about our conflicting views, but we can focus on how we can support each other. Having a relationship with someone like this is very difficult, though.
Oh my god. #7) High quality friends. This is so true. Even though I had a mediocre relationship with my girlfriend, her friends would always down me and she would be uneven with me and them. But sooner or later she would team with them. If you wouldn't date their friends (RUN!!).
If she did that then she was part of the problem and she chose to dip on u. I had not so high quality friends and they never approved my prospects but i always stood by the man of my choosing and if we ever fell apart my friends were never on the list of why.
High quality friends are very importent traits , means this girl has open eyes and intelligent , wont fall into small manipulations and fall into alochol and drugs , stay away from sort of girls
If you would date their friends they would know it unless you were exceptionally good at hiding it all the time. In this case you would not be with them for long anyway.
I was thinking the exact thing. I can honestly say only one man has seen all these characteristics in me, and that’s my partner simply because of how he makes me feel and who he is.
I have a degree in philosophy, and was always interested in finding a girl interested in ideas. A decade later and now married, I’ve come to accept that feminine women interested in ideas practically don’t exist as a biological category. Intelligent women are easy to find, but they are interested in people and art, not trading in and debating ideas like men. This isn’t in contradiction to this video’s advice, but just a warning for younger guys about what they can expect.
Please help my crush has all these qualities except the fact that she has many guy friends My crush who I'm talking about is a nice girl who talks well and politely with everyone and I'm also a nice type of guy who shows attitude most of the time and also ignore the girls most of the time and dont even touch the girls coz I don't do that sort of things. My crush , I met her at college previous year and we are in same class. I usually don't talk to girls and only talk if they talk to me. This girl talks to everyone tho and her main group of friends in my class were 4 girls and 3 boys in which I talk only to her and these 3 boys mostly. For the first time when I joined class i initiated and talked to her first showing fake confidence but not in a needy way btw I showed attitude too. Also i have sensed my another girl classmate was telling her I was checking this girl out lol in the first week and ik this girl knows I like her. But she confused me. She was asked out and proposed by another guy for the next month itself we joined the college who was a senior and was a bit popular guy. But I was confused at the same time that she looks at me during short breaks during classes when she and her boyfriend used to talk infront of my class. I dont know if she was trying to make me jealous or not because even then she used to look at me often also during class time when I stare at her sometimes I get glances from her by smiling. I don't know if she was getting creeped out by me looking at her or not. Also it was the first semester in college that is previous year which all these happened. Whenever a project or assignments was given in a subject I was assigned most if the time to team up with her. Also main thing is that even tho that senior was always with her outside trying to hangout with her they broke up within 3 months or 2 . Idk exactly. Then the 2nd semester came. That's this year . Remember that I'm that type of guy who doesnt talk to girls at all but showed confidence and tried to talk with confidence whenever she talked or I talked to this girl but also at the same time always showed attitude type of mentality and ignorance too and I don't smile much also to anyone and is a less talkative guy but she is a talkative girl. Coming to what happened in 2nd semester this year, our class was divided into 2 groups where 1 group is assigned to attend another subject and this girl and a that group of boys which she was always with which I mentioned earlier was in my batch. So what she used to do is that she showed most signs that I searched upon UA-cam whether she likes me or not. She used to ask about my hobbies, used to touch me intentionally or unintentionally ( knowing I don't talk to girls often or even touch other girls), used to stand always with me or be around me, asking help from me like can you hold this for me, being in the class alone with me whenever these 3 dudes go out of the class for sometime and she is also in the class(btw we arent alone theres also other batch members in class ) and sometimes she looks way more often at me now during class time and all ,all these happening with these 3 dudes who are the best friends of her . Not saying she doesn't talk to them she talks to them more often too but I get these type of things from her. Also another thing is that ahe laughs way more at the jokes told by these guys more than me. Remember again I talk with her with attitude and In a idc mindset without much laughing, just a little bit of smile, I listen to her when she talks with me. Ig she likes that. And is just trying to be nice with me??? Idk coz I'm not a type of dude desirable by women coz I don't talk usually to them so im least desirable man in the mind right? so she might be just playing around with me or just giving me a girl company?. I never even flirted or teased her and was always respecting her tho but she laughs sometimes at my jokes tho. Btw I'm much taller guy than these 3 dudes ,also she has short height. Here after you read this do you think she is just using me for attention. I still dont know too why she broke up with her boyfriend. Wss she considering me as a backup plan. Please tell in a girls perspective. Also i told she has guy friends and they are the guys which are friends of mine too also some of them have gfs too. Is she just being friendly to them. If you say Im her backup plan I will back off from her. I dont know if she is just being friendly with me too. If not and is interested in me why did she made a boyfriend even when I was there??? Just be honest and tell your opinion in a girls perspective. I dont wanna fall in a tra
Well yes, qualities that are often considered 'feminine' can actually be highly desirable in men. One of the couples I know who gets along best has a 'tiger mom' with a bit of a temper (but she is also her family's passionate cheerleader) and a highly patient and empathetic man. If the kid is throwing a fit, the mother starts going 'argh' too, but the father sits down by the kid and speaks to him softly. And before you start judging the mom, she patiently taught the kid the alphabet before all the other kids, she cooks lovely meals for the family, thanks to her her husband got rid of a hoarding problem and a major obesity problem, and her husband loves her because of how appreciative she is of him. Neither of them are perfect, but I'm shocked how complementary they are. Point is, if I ever get with a guy, I'd want one with 'feminine' qualities too rather than a so-called alpha who refuses therapy and refuses to help out around the house because they're a 'woman's job.' I've concluded a while a go that what passes off as 'feminine' or 'masculine' is often 'wow that's so awesome/mature.' Case in point, the Chinese vlogger Li Ziqi posts videos of her life at the countryside where she does everything on her own, from farming and cooking delicious dishes to making clothes and furniture on her own. Many people go 'wow she's so feminine.' The thing is if she were a guy they'd say 'wow he's so masculine.'
@@valerievankerckhove9325 Part of the problem we all face is the cultural determination of what is feminine and what is masculine. At the end of the day much of it is entirely invented and has precisely f**k all to do with gender and genetics. The problem is that society repeats these cultural norms in a kind of echo chamber effect from generation to generation until the perception is that these traits are fundamentally feminine or masculine. Take 10 boys and 10 girls and raise them with a robot designed for gender ambiguous behavior in the wilderness away from everyone else. Chances are that many of the so called feminine and masculine traits will not at all be concentrated in the expected genders of these children when they reach physical maturity.
@@valerievankerckhove9325 you want a beta. Good luck with that. If he's working outside to provide for the family he shouldn’t have to work in the house. That means you're too incompetent to hold up your end of the deal. Would you appreciate it if he pressured you to go out and make money cuz works been really hard for him? News flash! You wont
Hey mate. never made it to a vid this early lol. Just wanna say you're a well spoken person whos' content is very refreshing considering you aren't one of those red pill talkers who just hate on women and blame them for everything. You actually dive into the situation deeper and your content is truly appreciated by those who see it for what it is. You look on both sides and present unbiased views. From a Melbourne fan who just got onto you. Sidenote yeah the fuckin boys, finally a fellow Aussie in this community!
Yes!! There are a growing number of women (like myself) who want to be red pilled, unlearn toxic cultural habits, and learn to be better women. But all the extreme women-hate and bitterness in these circles is really off-putting. And we hate having our whole gender blamed for something just as much as you do. I really enjoy content creators who can be level headed and just present rational, well thought out perspectives.
I think a really important thing to look for in a relationship partner is somebody who is comfortable in their own skin and happy in their own company. Too many people particularly women, feel incomplete without a partner and think that having a man in their life is a necessity. Therefore they pick men to have a man and not necessarily because they desire that one man. Subsequently the love is conditional and the relationship becomes a femoral and of course heartbreaking to the other individual who has been made a vehicle of that person's desire. When a person learns to enjoy their own company and feel great within themselves, they can present their partner with a truly fulfilling experience and be able to invest in that partner properly.
In my case, a great quality I always look for in a woman is curiosity. I am a very curious person myself, I could stay hours surfing the internet just looking for that answer to that stupid question that randomly popped out into my head, or if I'm in a new place I love exploring the surroundings and see what's where. And I also love to share my findings with whoever's willing to listen. For this reason it's important to me that my partner has the same joy for exploration, the same spark of curiosity about the world so that we can share our experiences, learn more from each other and grow to be better both as individuals and as a couple
this sounds great, but I wonder if young women can ever escape their own inner drama, self-infatuation (ie selfie life-style), and status focus to look outside themself regularly
I had a gf who has "open to therapy" and she was the one who needed it the most!! In fact, she said that she would dump me if I didn't go with to therapy with her, when she was causing all the relationship issues. Truly Unbelievable.
Maybe she wanted to take you there so she would tell the therapist what her problems where and the therapist tell You what to do accordingly, like " She does that crap, you do this...She plays this song You dance like this".. when the right thing might be fixing her problems, not making You "dance" according to her problems
I have been doing alot of self reflection and self assessment. I came across this video, I have watched this like 100 times already. I am so grateful that you decided to speak on this matter. I really appreciate the work that you are doing. Stay calm and carry on.
There are a couple of things you may be sacrificing in order to get a woman like that. 1. In point 5, to get a woman like that it might imply she has a high body count or she has been involved in a few long term relationships which ended for whatever reason. The latter is fine. Not the former. 2. In a few of your points, it seems as if you are talking about a very mature (mentally) woman, which is typically correlated with age, so she'll be around 30 to be more likely to have those characteristics you describe. You didn't mention youth and fertility. It might be implied and I missed it, but I think it is difficult to look for those traits right away. I might be wrong.
1. I don’t think N5 is related with her sexual experience. He said she will want to pleasure her partner, he didn’t say she should be very good at. There are girls who don’t have much experience or none on that, but they are willing to learn their partner preferences. 2. Those traits are related to being mature., but age is not related with that.
@Charles Mosley I am hesitant to believe that. Perhaps body count wont matter to some, but age is way too basic. She cant be much older than 35 in general if the man wants to have kids. Age, or at least, fertility should definitely make the top 10
I agree SionMirae, but I also agree that a lot of the mature characteristics are good to see in a woman. Probably the best real-life approach is to adjust your expectations for younger women and judge them more on their progress to the desired state while you are getting to know them. For example, if you're dating a 19 year old who doesn't have the right relationship with her parents, see if she makes progress toward distancing herself from bad parents or reconnecting with good parents.
In theory, therapy is very useful. Unfortunately, the mental health industry has become dysfunctional and of decreasing effectiveness. Example: Masculinity is now toxic and transgendermania is now normal.
@@morecopemorerope4372 Now we know why some people claim to be an Attack Helicopter: they took the indentity advice provided by their therapist after they told him that they are moody and love to take flights to visit other countries.
Please help my crush has all these qualities except the fact that she has many guy friends My crush who I'm talking about is a nice girl who talks well and politely with everyone and I'm also a nice type of guy who shows attitude most of the time and also ignore the girls most of the time and dont even touch the girls coz I don't do that sort of things. My crush , I met her at college previous year and we are in same class. I usually don't talk to girls and only talk if they talk to me. This girl talks to everyone tho and her main group of friends in my class were 4 girls and 3 boys in which I talk only to her and these 3 boys mostly. For the first time when I joined class i initiated and talked to her first showing fake confidence but not in a needy way btw I showed attitude too. Also i have sensed my another girl classmate was telling her I was checking this girl out lol in the first week and ik this girl knows I like her. But she confused me. She was asked out and proposed by another guy for the next month itself we joined the college who was a senior and was a bit popular guy. But I was confused at the same time that she looks at me during short breaks during classes when she and her boyfriend used to talk infront of my class. I dont know if she was trying to make me jealous or not because even then she used to look at me often also during class time when I stare at her sometimes I get glances from her by smiling. I don't know if she was getting creeped out by me looking at her or not. Also it was the first semester in college that is previous year which all these happened. Whenever a project or assignments was given in a subject I was assigned most if the time to team up with her. Also main thing is that even tho that senior was always with her outside trying to hangout with her they broke up within 3 months or 2 . Idk exactly. Then the 2nd semester came. That's this year . Remember that I'm that type of guy who doesnt talk to girls at all but showed confidence and tried to talk with confidence whenever she talked or I talked to this girl but also at the same time always showed attitude type of mentality and ignorance too and I don't smile much also to anyone and is a less talkative guy but she is a talkative girl. Coming to what happened in 2nd semester this year, our class was divided into 2 groups where 1 group is assigned to attend another subject and this girl and a that group of boys which she was always with which I mentioned earlier was in my batch. So what she used to do is that she showed most signs that I searched upon UA-cam whether she likes me or not. She used to ask about my hobbies, used to touch me intentionally or unintentionally ( knowing I don't talk to girls often or even touch other girls), used to stand always with me or be around me, asking help from me like can you hold this for me, being in the class alone with me whenever these 3 dudes go out of the class for sometime and she is also in the class(btw we arent alone theres also other batch members in class ) and sometimes she looks way more often at me now during class time and all ,all these happening with these 3 dudes who are the best friends of her . Not saying she doesn't talk to them she talks to them more often too but I get these type of things from her. Also another thing is that ahe laughs way more at the jokes told by these guys more than me. Remember again I talk with her with attitude and In a idc mindset without much laughing, just a little bit of smile, I listen to her when she talks with me. Ig she likes that. And is just trying to be nice with me??? Idk coz I'm not a type of dude desirable by women coz I don't talk usually to them so im least desirable man in the mind right? so she might be just playing around with me or just giving me a girl company?. I never even flirted or teased her and was always respecting her tho but she laughs sometimes at my jokes tho. Btw I'm much taller guy than these 3 dudes ,also she has short height. Here after you read this do you think she is just using me for attention. I still dont know too why she broke up with her boyfriend. Wss she considering me as a backup plan. Please tell in a girls perspective. Also i told she has guy friends and they are the guys which are friends of mine too also some of them have gfs too. Is she just being friendly to them. If you say Im her backup plan I will back off from her. I dont know if she is just being friendly with me too. If not and is interested in me why did she made a boyfriend even when I was there??? Just be honest and tell your opinion in a girls perspective. I dont wanna fall in a tra
I feel like you’re always on point with things like this. The major one I am working on is my attractiveness, particularly my weight. I’ve been bigger since I was 6 years old. I’m sure it robs me of relationships with quality men. I’m doing IF and low carb to work on it as we speak. The others, I pretty much hit and am always striving to grow in. The bonus ones too. I think honesty is one you missed out. Honesty with oneself and one’s partner is crucial to having a great life together. I am also very happy you phrased number 9 the way you did. Oftentimes, I see men saying that their mates have to have A GOOD relationship with their parents and my usual response is “But, what if they’re not good people? Wouldn’t it be good for her to have a more limited relationship with people who aren’t good?” So thanks for being this clear, because my parents weren’t good in many ways and it took A LOT of work to both understand and move past that. You think things through and I respect that tremendously! Cheers from Trinidad and Tobago!
I enjoyed snooping on what men might like in a wife when they are dating. In a few years it will be interesting when you have found that special person to see how what you think you want lines up with what you find you need. I know my ideas definitely changed a lot. And, thankfully, I would say getting married is the best choice I have made in my life.
Hey man, loved the video. Super helpful. I believe many men here would find it extremely beneficial to see what characteristics make up a good man. Self reflection and introspection are super important. Any plans to make a video about the Top 10 Characteristics of a High Quality Man? Cheers
I consider these apply for both sexes but yea, maybe there´s a different perspective of them for men which we need to realize sooner than -later- regretfully, at least as an advice
Your content triggered me to rethink about my entire life strategy, thank you so much for putting so much time and engergy on this extreme valuable knowledge
It's an unfortunate thing when a wonderful man won't take steps to maintain his mental well being with some form of support (therapy, mentoring, etc). When you meet someone who has dared to take on any form of self development it's so obvious from the man's ability to communicate openly about their needs.
GREAT mention about THE CORRECT relationship with parents. We are born into our families and situations...and are not beholden to their dysfunctions or issues. If a person has dealt with this, understands the issues/dynamics, and has appropriate boundaries in place it’s a sign of health and maturity. It would be a shame to hold somebody’s families against them personally if they’re not responsible for it.
1) Intelligent (Many equate intelligence with college educated, if that is how you mean it that is a red flag for me for various reasons. I replace this will some degree of logic/common sense.) 2)Attractive 3) Open to Therapy ( I have absolutely zero confidence in therapy, therefore this one would not apply for me. ( I would replace with submissive.) 4) Feminine 5) Sexually generous 6) Invested in you 7) High quality friends 8) Want to know you 9) Correct relationship with parents 10) Not materialistic Overall well done IMO, great stuff Alexander.
All in all good video and insightful. I was a bit taken back when he said that being a stay at home mom was not ambitious. I have 4 kids and have been a stay at home mom for 14 years and I'm going to respectfully disagree with the view that being a stay at home mom is not an ambitious goal. I wanted to be a pilot up until they handed me my first baby in the hospital. After holding her she became my ambition. 3 girls followed after her, and in my view women are so awful today because they didn't have mother's that viewed them as their ambitions and teaching them thier true worth. I know each one of my girls. The best compliment I have ever got from one of their teacher was "I have never meet a girl as young as your daughter and them know exactly who they are." Because I have been with them every step of they way I have learned who they are and have helped them build on that. You will never convince me that I am not ambitious. Those girls have given me the wings I have always wanted.
I totally agree; and would add something to that. We no longer live in mud huts with goats and chickens roaming outside. Our homes are complex systems with a lot of machinery, both mechanical, electrical and electronic. A good homemaker will keep all that running either by their own skills, or by properly managing contractors and their fees. And on top of that we also have things like insurance, pension plans, medical plans and vacation plans - all of which need careful thought and management. If not done well you can be caught out by, e.g., an insurance loophole, or maybe just waste your money on a poor holiday with a badly located hotel. What I'm saying is that in the modern world, even without children, managing the whole home estate is enough to keep someone fully occupied - if done properly. If the breadwinner can then come home tired from a day's labour and just relax and unwind, it's a big deal! The difficulty is that a lot of these jobs go under the radar, i.e are not registered, so the homemaker can be hard working and attentive and do that job very well, or can be casual and unthinking and let things slide, and it's not immediately clear that they are underperforming. To perform these roles well is definitely a worthwhile ambition! If the home was an office building, entire departments would be devoted to keeping the infrastructure running and updated, and ensuring that good policies are in place for legality, pensions, vacation days, etc - so why shouldn't these roles be seen as of merit when in the home?
Nailed it on 2 points. “Correct relationship with parents” and “ willingness to go the therapy” many RP, red flag list say “good relationship with parents” in a perfect world, that may be the case but the fact is, some homes that appear to be perfect or very religious are actually very toxic. They produce children that are every bit as traumatized as children of abuse. We don’t get to pick our family but we do get to pick what behavior we choose to allow. That goes hand and hand with therapy. Most people in western society experienced some type of childhood trauma, just because someone had it worse, does not reduce the impact each of us experienced. While I think it is possible to find other alternatives for coping and reprogramming, it seems, at least women do better with a professional therapist.
Reasonable list. I think many of these are things that each must define and refine within our own context to be completely useful. For example, after dating a woman who looked fit but just had admittedly freaky genetics (she looked like a fitness cover model all day every day, with no work at all) I found that it’s also important to me that she show the behaviors that underly the basic attractiveness. Many good looking women take their own appearance for granted, never developing the habits of actually taking care of themselves, which is why so many attractive young women drop off so sharply as they age. Sure, they nail makeup and hair, but miss the long term attractiveness-sustaining trait: health.
This is a great list. It would have helped me avoid my marriage to a narcissist. The problems I ignored were all her past relationships were with "abusers" and an incorrect relationship to parents. She was able to check all of the other boxes.
Alexander in my experience the 2 main attributes in a partner are comprehension ( I need a partner who understands what my thoughts/stance on a subject are, although not necessarily agreeing with them) and trustworthiness as in not only somebody I know has my back and will defend me to the hilt, but somebody who will call me out in my BS. I totally agree with your femininity and attractiveness points, (remembering that one mans meat is another mans poison) however, I have observed that (not always but usually) the prettier a woman in her youth the more time seems to ravage her looks in later life, also it's strange but if I see a photograph of my wife I do not instantly recognise her even if she is holding the photo, suppose I must still see her through rose tinted glasses lol (BTW married 46 years and counting)
This was one of your best videos, Alexander. I think curiosity and openness are important aspects of intelligence. You hit the nail when you put this at the top of the list. I would add kindness to the list, but I think that is encompassed by femininity, ironically the quality most assailed by feminists.
I agree with most of these, except for 4 and 5. 4. Someone not wanting kids does not make them "low quality." There are plenty of perfectly valid reasons a woman (or man) cannot have or does not want to have children. Of course, if YOU want kids, you should be with someone who also wants them, but it's not a matter of "quality." And 5., you should be someone you're sexually _compatible_ with, not who is "sexually generous." There's a perfectly good chance that the woman you are with will have a higher libido than you and will want sex every day. There's a chance she'll be totally asexual. Both of those things are "natural" in their own respects. There is no level of sexuality that is "unnatural."
I think equating femininity with wanting children is unfair. Not every woman wants children or has a maternal instinct but can be feminine in most other aspect of her life.
@ well even if either gender doesn't quite meet these standards, I think the point is for both of us to improve ourselves as people until we meet these standards. I don't expect her to be 8, 9, or 10 out of ten on all these qualities, nobody is perfect after all, but it's important that she at least tries her best. I know I try to improve as much as I can. I would have said no to me as well a few years ago.
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@@patrickstar2027 You're mistaking your low value narcissism as objective life paths. You should do some self reflecting
Good video. I think rather than saying "she's willing to go to therapy" I'd say find a woman who is interested in and capable of self-reflection and personal growth. Make sure she has a track record of positive changes that she has made in her own life. I love therapy and have benefited from it myself but some people will be "open to therapy" in the sense that they will go but never be open enough to reflect and make changes. I know some couples who have tried couples therapy but didn't benefit much from it because the people continued to be defensive and lack the ability to self-reflect and create change.
I think flexibility is one of the most important qualities, which you kind of hit with #10. In a practical sense, a woman that can adapt to her surroundings is the ultimate characteristic.
Please help my crush has all these qualities except the fact that she has many guy friends My crush who I'm talking about is a nice girl who talks well and politely with everyone and I'm also a nice type of guy who shows attitude most of the time and also ignore the girls most of the time and dont even touch the girls coz I don't do that sort of things. My crush , I met her at college previous year and we are in same class. I usually don't talk to girls and only talk if they talk to me. This girl talks to everyone tho and her main group of friends in my class were 4 girls and 3 boys in which I talk only to her and these 3 boys mostly. For the first time when I joined class i initiated and talked to her first showing fake confidence but not in a needy way btw I showed attitude too. Also i have sensed my another girl classmate was telling her I was checking this girl out lol in the first week and ik this girl knows I like her. But she confused me. She was asked out and proposed by another guy for the next month itself we joined the college who was a senior and was a bit popular guy. But I was confused at the same time that she looks at me during short breaks during classes when she and her boyfriend used to talk infront of my class. I dont know if she was trying to make me jealous or not because even then she used to look at me often also during class time when I stare at her sometimes I get glances from her by smiling. I don't know if she was getting creeped out by me looking at her or not. Also it was the first semester in college that is previous year which all these happened. Whenever a project or assignments was given in a subject I was assigned most if the time to team up with her. Also main thing is that even tho that senior was always with her outside trying to hangout with her they broke up within 3 months or 2 . Idk exactly. Then the 2nd semester came. That's this year . Remember that I'm that type of guy who doesnt talk to girls at all but showed confidence and tried to talk with confidence whenever she talked or I talked to this girl but also at the same time always showed attitude type of mentality and ignorance too and I don't smile much also to anyone and is a less talkative guy but she is a talkative girl. Coming to what happened in 2nd semester this year, our class was divided into 2 groups where 1 group is assigned to attend another subject and this girl and a that group of boys which she was always with which I mentioned earlier was in my batch. So what she used to do is that she showed most signs that I searched upon UA-cam whether she likes me or not. She used to ask about my hobbies, used to touch me intentionally or unintentionally ( knowing I don't talk to girls often or even touch other girls), used to stand always with me or be around me, asking help from me like can you hold this for me, being in the class alone with me whenever these 3 dudes go out of the class for sometime and she is also in the class(btw we arent alone theres also other batch members in class ) and sometimes she looks way more often at me now during class time and all ,all these happening with these 3 dudes who are the best friends of her . Not saying she doesn't talk to them she talks to them more often too but I get these type of things from her. Also another thing is that ahe laughs way more at the jokes told by these guys more than me. Remember again I talk with her with attitude and In a idc mindset without much laughing, just a little bit of smile, I listen to her when she talks with me. Ig she likes that. And is just trying to be nice with me??? Idk coz I'm not a type of dude desirable by women coz I don't talk usually to them so im least desirable man in the mind right? so she might be just playing around with me or just giving me a girl company?. I never even flirted or teased her and was always respecting her tho but she laughs sometimes at my jokes tho. Btw I'm much taller guy than these 3 dudes ,also she has short height. Here after you read this do you think she is just using me for attention. I still dont know too why she broke up with her boyfriend. Wss she considering me as a backup plan. Please tell in a girls perspective. Also i told she has guy friends and they are the guys which are friends of mine too also some of them have gfs too. Is she just being friendly to them. If you say Im her backup plan I will back off from her. I dont know if she is just being friendly with me too. If not and is interested in me why did she made a boyfriend even when I was there??? Just be honest and tell your opinion in a girls perspective. I dont wanna fall in a tra
The one thing that I say I disagree with, is the baby thing. Not every woman *should* be a mother. Not every man *should* be a father. If a woman, or man says that they don't want children, then I say that's a positive thing. Because they are mature and honest enough to know that they don't have the compacity to optimally take care of a child. A human being, because that isn't an easy task - a woman can be in-touch with her feminine side, and not want to have a child. So that point, I completely disagree with. Not every human being is fit to raise children, some woman generally don't have the martial instincts, like some men. That's doesn't subtract them from being a suitable partner. Also, the thing about sex. Some people are asexual, and some don't have that sexual drive. Plus, that things can (and often do) change over time. Especially with children. However, some of the points that you make have some merit.
Since most of the time, Women like this are jaded by all their bad relationships, it's nearly impossible to find one *like this* that *doesn't* hate men. Also, those that may be like this are *already* in a good or bad relationship.
Thank you for #9 - I have been through so much therapy, counseling, to help me be as emotionally available as I possibly can be for my husband, my childhood was awful and I can't control that but I can control my response Alot of these say you have to have a good relationship with your parents and that's not physically possible at this point it's a toxic relationship
Quality content with important nuances that many miss. "Correct" relationship w parents (and friends) being an important one. One thing I would note is the line between what to find from friends (guys) and "the" woman. It has been a painful experience for me to realize that we often expect too much from one person, especially our significant others. Qualities like intelligent and "actual" ambition are very rare in women.
_Intelligence_ is rarer, certainly, as women tend to hover around the mean, true. But, men often have little issue with dating someone beneath them in that respect.
So let me get this straight, a high quality woman is a someone who accepts you for exactly who you are and lives in “reality” but she also has be to be beautiful, sexual, feminine, want children, let the man lead, have a perfect past, etc. This is a double standard. If you want a woman who accepts you and your flaws be prepared so do the same for her. Otherwise, if you’re looking for the perfect woman be prepared to be the perfect man (loyal, attractive, emotionally regulated, masculine but in touch with his emotions, successful with a clean past).
A girl with a high body count is a no. Guys for thousands of years have had more than 1 women cause they can afford it. You don’t see women having 5 guys and paying for it. Plus us men built this world that y’all are living in and the things y’all use is by us. Be greatful for the phone you have.
I agree with all of these except for femininity. I personally don't care if she's feminine or not. I like tomboys just as much as I like feminine women.
This is my list: 1. She have good relationship with her partner 2. Her friend (women friend defined what kind of girlfriend she is) 3. She have same moral or religious believe with me 4. The most important: she doesnt play social media. If she play it, atlast no nude in her social media.
Please help my crush has all these qualities except the fact that she has many guy friends My crush who I'm talking about is a nice girl who talks well and politely with everyone and I'm also a nice type of guy who shows attitude most of the time and also ignore the girls most of the time and dont even touch the girls coz I don't do that sort of things. My crush , I met her at college previous year and we are in same class. I usually don't talk to girls and only talk if they talk to me. This girl talks to everyone tho and her main group of friends in my class were 4 girls and 3 boys in which I talk only to her and these 3 boys mostly. For the first time when I joined class i initiated and talked to her first showing fake confidence but not in a needy way btw I showed attitude too. Also i have sensed my another girl classmate was telling her I was checking this girl out lol in the first week and ik this girl knows I like her. But she confused me. She was asked out and proposed by another guy for the next month itself we joined the college who was a senior and was a bit popular guy. But I was confused at the same time that she looks at me during short breaks during classes when she and her boyfriend used to talk infront of my class. I dont know if she was trying to make me jealous or not because even then she used to look at me often also during class time when I stare at her sometimes I get glances from her by smiling. I don't know if she was getting creeped out by me looking at her or not. Also it was the first semester in college that is previous year which all these happened. Whenever a project or assignments was given in a subject I was assigned most if the time to team up with her. Also main thing is that even tho that senior was always with her outside trying to hangout with her they broke up within 3 months or 2 . Idk exactly. Then the 2nd semester came. That's this year . Remember that I'm that type of guy who doesnt talk to girls at all but showed confidence and tried to talk with confidence whenever she talked or I talked to this girl but also at the same time always showed attitude type of mentality and ignorance too and I don't smile much also to anyone and is a less talkative guy but she is a talkative girl. Coming to what happened in 2nd semester this year, our class was divided into 2 groups where 1 group is assigned to attend another subject and this girl and a that group of boys which she was always with which I mentioned earlier was in my batch. So what she used to do is that she showed most signs that I searched upon UA-cam whether she likes me or not. She used to ask about my hobbies, used to touch me intentionally or unintentionally ( knowing I don't talk to girls often or even touch other girls), used to stand always with me or be around me, asking help from me like can you hold this for me, being in the class alone with me whenever these 3 dudes go out of the class for sometime and she is also in the class(btw we arent alone theres also other batch members in class ) and sometimes she looks way more often at me now during class time and all ,all these happening with these 3 dudes who are the best friends of her . Not saying she doesn't talk to them she talks to them more often too but I get these type of things from her. Also another thing is that ahe laughs way more at the jokes told by these guys more than me. Remember again I talk with her with attitude and In a idc mindset without much laughing, just a little bit of smile, I listen to her when she talks with me. Ig she likes that. And is just trying to be nice with me??? Idk coz I'm not a type of dude desirable by women coz I don't talk usually to them so im least desirable man in the mind right? so she might be just playing around with me or just giving me a girl company?. I never even flirted or teased her and was always respecting her tho but she laughs sometimes at my jokes tho. Btw I'm much taller guy than these 3 dudes ,also she has short height. Here after you read this do you think she is just using me for attention. I still dont know too why she broke up with her boyfriend. Wss she considering me as a backup plan. Please tell in a girls perspective. Also i told she has guy friends and they are the guys which are friends of mine too also some of them have gfs too. Is she just being friendly to them. If you say Im her backup plan I will back off from her. I dont know if she is just being friendly with me too. If not and is interested in me why did she made a boyfriend even when I was there??? Just be honest and tell your opinion in a girls perspective. I dont wanna fall in a tra
High quality woman=unicorn............? Also here's the problem. If she's like that today, there is no guarantee that she is going to be like that in the future. In a marriage union men are forced by the state to guarantee providing for them. There is also no such reciprocal obligation upon them. A man cannot get a divorce based upon abandonment of affection without loosing half of his possessions. What you're trying to do with these 10 qualities, is to determine if she will be consistent with her obligation to uphold her end of the bargain. Due to women's actions being based upon emotions, she can make up any reason she wants to withhold affection, maintain a healthy lifestyle and her looks, maintain a clean house, bring a child up with principles you agree with no consequence. Coach Greg Adams had a great video on this that nails it. She over promises and under delivers. She gets away with it because it cannot be measured. On the women's obligation, there is love and affection. You can't measure that. She can take that away with no consequence. For a man, protect and provide, a house, food, clothing, dates is measurable. Can you respond with how you can enforce her obligations to you and what she has promised without the backing of law? We see this many times with men going over sea's and bringing back a bride from a culture that enforces her responsibilities and when she gets here abandons them without any recourse.
Love this video. Though, as a traditional woman living in the west, it is very difficult to find high quality female friends. Thus, I just tend to keep to myself, my family and of course, my man.
1) Loves being a woman. 2) Would never DREAM of trying to manipulate or play games with people. 3) Likes a man to be a man. Very few woman who genuinely possess those traits would also be "unattractive." Doesn't hurt if she's really interested in sex when she's with the right person (but if she "loves being a woman" she will love the sensuous).
Well said. I had a wife who failed at many of these things. I’m glad she left just in time for me to be able to get on with my life and eventually recover.
You are great Alexander. With your list I realized that this is also the key to a long lasting relationship/ marriage. The keys to a long relationship are to always put in the effort to have the characteristics of a high quality woman and man. It's been right there in front of us the whole time. Masculinity and Femininity are the keys to happiness and life, especially for long term relationships. It's the little things that matter. Each gender makes up the missing half to the other and it makes a great team.
Great video. I instinctively knew most the points, but you articulated them much better than I could if asked. Specifically, the difference between attractiveness and beauty. Some of the most attractive women I’ve known, weren’t the hottest. And conversely, some of the most beautiful women I’ve met have been hugely unattractive. Saved to my playlist for future reference, and subbed 👍
I'd add Loyalty/Fidelity, Kindness/Empathy and what I call "graciousness" - when someone has been through tough times, but they become more patient, more generous, more loving in spite of it. A high quality woman doesn't hold a grudge - she forgives quickly. Wise, but not bitter. I think a lot of these qualities can apply to men, too.
Another trait I have in my list of standards is that she also has to push the relationship through. What I mean by this is that you can't be the only one taking the important decisions, making plans for the future, things like that. I don't like that if I don't say anything, or do anything; nothing happens in the relationship. She has to be willing to take leadership as well, because that shows she's autonomous, and clear in what she wants, if you're the one leading her, that's not a partner, that's an employee, and she might as well look for another boss.
This is very well explained and logical. I've heard a lot of these topics but none of them quite right. Like the relationship with your parents topic. While its preferred to have a good relationship with good parents, that's not someone everyone chooses and that doesnt make them bad. What determines their quality is how they respond to it. Hit the nail on the head with that one.
This is a pretty good list, and glad the standards I hold myself to are being appreciated/recognized. It's interesting that the list can go both ways, high quality men would have these characteristics as well (just switch the fem/masc part like where he should be in touch with his fatherly side). I like the "correct" relationship with family distinction and being open to therapy even if it's not needed now it's good for them to be willing in case in the future something happens and they need it. I think the friends one is a bit debatable though, depends on the person like if they have only a closed group of girl friends who are all horrible then sure that's a red flag but if they're the type of social person where everyone is their friend then that kind of falls apart, people can be friends with others not similar to them I think its more important how influenced they are by others rather than who they are kind to/friends with.
I enjoyed watching it and I agree (meaning I would also put those things on the list) with small changes: 3) instead of "Open to Therapy" I would say "Open for admitting she is wrong/trying to self-improve" I met a woman who was open to therapy (she was on one in the past) but moving forward it turned out she wasn't really interested into changing/improving herself or admitting her mistakes. During our whole relationship (which was a few years) there were just a few times (really, counting on one hand) that I heard "I am sorry" in important matters (kinda looked like I was wrong almost all of the time - believe me, I was wrong a lot but still for sure not so often). Sometimes therapy is just supporting you in your beliefs (I was on such one time and - to be honest - only quite a happy accident made me change for the better one, as it turned out). In short - open to therapy is not enough. It is more about being able to see our own mistakes and apologizing when we realize we made a mistake 6) Invested in you and 8) Want to know you are kinda duplicated for me (but "The 10 Characteristics ..." sounds better than "The 9 Characteristics ..." :)
Please help my crush has all these qualities except the fact that she has many guy friends My crush who I'm talking about is a nice girl who talks well and politely with everyone and I'm also a nice type of guy who shows attitude most of the time and also ignore the girls most of the time and dont even touch the girls coz I don't do that sort of things. My crush , I met her at college previous year and we are in same class. I usually don't talk to girls and only talk if they talk to me. This girl talks to everyone tho and her main group of friends in my class were 4 girls and 3 boys in which I talk only to her and these 3 boys mostly. For the first time when I joined class i initiated and talked to her first showing fake confidence but not in a needy way btw I showed attitude too. Also i have sensed my another girl classmate was telling her I was checking this girl out lol in the first week and ik this girl knows I like her. But she confused me. She was asked out and proposed by another guy for the next month itself we joined the college who was a senior and was a bit popular guy. But I was confused at the same time that she looks at me during short breaks during classes when she and her boyfriend used to talk infront of my class. I dont know if she was trying to make me jealous or not because even then she used to look at me often also during class time when I stare at her sometimes I get glances from her by smiling. I don't know if she was getting creeped out by me looking at her or not. Also it was the first semester in college that is previous year which all these happened. Whenever a project or assignments was given in a subject I was assigned most if the time to team up with her. Also main thing is that even tho that senior was always with her outside trying to hangout with her they broke up within 3 months or 2 . Idk exactly. Then the 2nd semester came. That's this year . Remember that I'm that type of guy who doesnt talk to girls at all but showed confidence and tried to talk with confidence whenever she talked or I talked to this girl but also at the same time always showed attitude type of mentality and ignorance too and I don't smile much also to anyone and is a less talkative guy but she is a talkative girl. Coming to what happened in 2nd semester this year, our class was divided into 2 groups where 1 group is assigned to attend another subject and this girl and a that group of boys which she was always with which I mentioned earlier was in my batch. So what she used to do is that she showed most signs that I searched upon UA-cam whether she likes me or not. She used to ask about my hobbies, used to touch me intentionally or unintentionally ( knowing I don't talk to girls often or even touch other girls), used to stand always with me or be around me, asking help from me like can you hold this for me, being in the class alone with me whenever these 3 dudes go out of the class for sometime and she is also in the class(btw we arent alone theres also other batch members in class ) and sometimes she looks way more often at me now during class time and all ,all these happening with these 3 dudes who are the best friends of her . Not saying she doesn't talk to them she talks to them more often too but I get these type of things from her. Also another thing is that ahe laughs way more at the jokes told by these guys more than me. Remember again I talk with her with attitude and In a idc mindset without much laughing, just a little bit of smile, I listen to her when she talks with me. Ig she likes that. And is just trying to be nice with me??? Idk coz I'm not a type of dude desirable by women coz I don't talk usually to them so im least desirable man in the mind right? so she might be just playing around with me or just giving me a girl company?. I never even flirted or teased her and was always respecting her tho but she laughs sometimes at my jokes tho. Btw I'm much taller guy than these 3 dudes ,also she has short height. Here after you read this do you think she is just using me for attention. I still dont know too why she broke up with her boyfriend. Wss she considering me as a backup plan. Please tell in a girls perspective. Also i told she has guy friends and they are the guys which are friends of mine too also some of them have gfs too. Is she just being friendly to them. If you say Im her backup plan I will back off from her. I dont know if she is just being friendly with me too. If not and is interested in me why did she made a boyfriend even when I was there??? Just be honest and tell your opinion in a girls perspective. I dont wanna fall in a tra
I was really scared when I clicked on this that is would be unrealistic, but I actually found it really helpful, both as a woman, and someone who is attracted to other women. Keep it up!
As a woman in my early 20s looking for a serious partner, I would love to see a male version of this video. Please consider making this, Alex. It would be really helpful. :)
To the women who got this video in their recommended for no reason like me: this guy's list is pretty good and his points make sense for a straight male. Dont be immediately offended. I want all these things in a male partner as well. Both genders and all sexualities have a type and should. This comments section is a dumpster fire tho. Good video man. Good luck finding the unicorn. Also our feminine side isnt being attacked by media. Thats just what youve been told because you're a male and arent marketed to female/feminine entertainment. Go down the Beauty community UA-cam Rabbit Hole some time. We're not being attacked and young women are having more fun with expressing themselves in feminine ways every day. Also a woman who doesnt want to have kids has her reasons. "Run"? My boyfriend and i dont want children. There are exceptions. Anyway bye. Try not to take opinions only from other males. If you have any female friends at all, I'd recommend giving them this list to see where they can give you advice.
This is a very sound opinion. I think that the concept of femininity is far more complex than loving kids and cute animal videos, lol. Feminine also means mentally strong and independent. When women find themselves in a difficult position how would they overcome that otherwise...? As for kids, personally I am on the fence. I think not everyone is equipped with the mindset to have children and that is OK. I respect people who recognise they don't want thee commitments rather than those who settle and end up as neglectful parents.
@@theeyepatch1219 they dont succeed/last long because children often keep a tether to loveless marriages. More oft than not, couples who dont want children might not even get married. The only benefit to marriage is tax deductions and getting your kids on insurance easier. Nothing says "love" like getting the government involved in our relationship, right? Anyways, to mirror that point, you're probably right but I'd rather be happily divorced than tethered to an idiot because i popped out a hellspawn, which said hellspawn will grow up with complexes if they see their parents in a loveless agreement.
@@Fransmiah now thats a well informed lady...yeah dont get married if u dont need children...btw...surely not my place to lecture u but pls bear with me ...it is said tjat u get most satisfaction in lyf in stable relationship raising a family...eventually ur partner and u MIGHT...get bored...and loose one another coz u didnt have a binding ...children r basically binging...if u care for ur kids to not get divorce when things get rhough ....
thanks for this one. i actually agree with points made. some of them are kinda obvious, but never mentioned, like relations with parents or friends. thanks again. you're doing a good job.
May not be wise to give a detailed blueprint day one on what she needs to mimic and Say in order to get you into a relationship. Better to just pay attention to what people Do naturally in situations that will show their true values.
The fact that you think you can find a high quality woman on a dating app means you have a lot to learn. High quality women can pick from hundreds of men who are lining up to be with them, they don't need dating apps in hopes of getting a relationship.
1) not have kids already 2) not divorced several times 3) not have debt 4) not have a huge history of sexual partners 5) not obese I am none of these so I expect at least the same from a woman. Notice, I haven’t even gotten to the qualities. I’m just talking disqualifications. Having good qualities means nothing if they’ve been misused due to bad decisions. Look at her long term results from having those qualities and see where she has arrived, that’s more critical in my opinion. Not really asking much but most women I see on dating platforms and in public settings fail this list. I would much rather be single and focus on my health and wealth then to jeopardize what I’ve worked hard for. Best of luck men , have standards and respect yourself. You deserve it.
Nobody's on their deathbed saying, "I wish I'd made more money." - except maybe people dying from illnesses that they couldn't afford the cure for. . .
1. loyal 2. honest 3. good communicator (not passive aggressive) good listener (not gonna stop me from when im talking or when its time for my side) (not with the attitude of listen to me and im not gonna listen to you) 4. cares about her health,looks and body 5. willing to learn and grow together 6. trustworthy enough to have my back 7. willing to improve the relationship well my father is a cheater, arrogant, passive aggressive and will not listen to you and doesn't take care of himself, neglect his children. my mother is passive aggressive aswell and will not listen to you, not open to learning,doesn't take care of herself and create things that will end up in argument, ignores/neglect her children. You can say i dont want to have a wife like my mother and don't wanna be like my father.
1) empathetic 2) empathetic 3) empathetic 4) NOT narcissistic 5) stoic 6) healthy 7) no daddy issues 8) accountable 9) integrity 10) reasonable Yeah... this woman DOESNT exist... but I’ll never date another woman who doesn’t have these traits... guess I’ll be alone forever.... cool by me ;)
I frickin love the way you go about it :D By the way, I would like to add one point. 11. If she uses shaming to the extent that you can no longer trust her. If a man is expressing really harmful behavior, shaming can be a tool to put him back in line. But the problem is if a man gets shamed for everything he does that is undesirable, although you kinda covered it by using the example of the ideal man being the prince, and that the ideal is in conflict with the real you, and therefore she shames you for it. If a man expresses his love and the woman shames him for opening up, that is a bad quality woman, she even fails to preserve her own self-interests.
As I round out year 24 I have to admit I’ve worked on developing these qualities. Becoming confident in settling down with a masculine man feels very comfortable but it was scary at first with all the new wave feminism ideas floating around. I’m still not down for kids though.
My standards for women are the same standards I offer. Empathetic (I'm very emotional and have no problems admitting it). Stays in shape (I love the gym and working out, and would like a girl who likes that too). Works full time (someone who doesn't have a ft job or at least pt while in college is irresponsible and prolly lives with their parents). Owns a car (I don't mind being the ride for a date, but I'm not a taxi. Had that problem before). Never cheated (I'm very emotional and despise cheaters). Loves deep emotional music (music isn't just entertainment to me. It expresses how I feel). Is responsible with money (good luck cos I've never met a girl who can resist binge shopping). Can hold a mature conversation. For some reason these standards are impossible for most girls to meet so Ima stick to one nights on tinder til I find her.
Men absolutely need to have standards.
@Ryan K men typically date down more than women.
Yes! Yes indeed. A lot of men DO NOT have realistic standards, meaning in my opinion, no standards at all
First, males need to become men, and the men need to have high standards for themselves. Being just a male is not good enough.
Second by valuing the right opinions of themselves by them self and of those of others, and trashing all others.
Third by understanding that trying to date in the upper ten percent means usually 90-plus percent of the time one will be rejected... at least initially.
@@witcheater yeah think of it as a door to door salesman
Men have more diversity(as much as I hate that word) in what they like in women, then what women like in men. Men will go for short, tall, thin, cubby, fat, etc-- you name it. As long as said female look good to him, he will be down.
1) Intelligent
2)Attractive
3) Open to Therapy
4) Feminine
5) Sexually generous
6) Invested in you
7) High quality friends
8) Want to know you
9) Correct relationship with parents
10) Not materialistic
You have a much... much higher chance of finding the Loch Ness Monster in a hot tub.
tonderaimsonza thanks! And Alex, I’d have to agree you your subjective qualities mate! Cheers!
Heed My Warning well make them 11 and 12 fuck it!
@@heedmywarning2792 if she is intelligent, those things will be inherent.
I would add an eleventh to the list. Even keeled when it comes to temperament. It's important for any person to know how, when, and where to express themselves and their emotions. It's also important to learn how to read your partners in case they don't communicate them directly or indirectly. If these are never or developed, it's not a bad sign of a low quality woman, but it does mean that there may be lots of miss communication in high stress moments, or just on a regular basis for trivial things. If she doesn't consider your emotions, or hers at all, that's a whole different bag of problems
This is a great list! Let’s remember though, on our search for a high quality women, we must also be a high quality man.
Exactly
I agree with your comment and also with the video.
As we grow as individuals, resolving our issues and be mindful of our health and happiness, we'll start to desire others that are on similar journeys. Water seeks its own level.
Please help my crush has all these qualities except the fact that she has many guy friends
My crush who I'm talking about is a nice girl who talks well and politely with everyone and I'm also a nice type of guy who shows attitude most of the time and also ignore the girls most of the time and dont even touch the girls coz I don't do that sort of things. My crush , I met her at college previous year and we are in same class. I usually don't talk to girls and only talk if they talk to me. This girl talks to everyone tho and her main group of friends in my class were 4 girls and 3 boys in which I talk only to her and these 3 boys mostly. For the first time when I joined class i initiated and talked to her first showing fake confidence but not in a needy way btw I showed attitude too. Also i have sensed my another girl classmate was telling her I was checking this girl out lol in the first week and ik this girl knows I like her. But she confused me. She was asked out and proposed by another guy for the next month itself we joined the college who was a senior and was a bit popular guy. But I was confused at the same time that she looks at me during short breaks during classes when she and her boyfriend used to talk infront of my class. I dont know if she was trying to make me jealous or not because even then she used to look at me often also during class time when I stare at her sometimes I get glances from her by smiling. I don't know if she was getting creeped out by me looking at her or not. Also it was the first semester in college that is previous year which all these happened. Whenever a project or assignments was given in a subject I was assigned most if the time to team up with her. Also main thing is that even tho that senior was always with her outside trying to hangout with her they broke up within 3 months or 2 . Idk exactly. Then the 2nd semester came. That's this year . Remember that I'm that type of guy who doesnt talk to girls at all but showed confidence and tried to talk with confidence whenever she talked or I talked to this girl but also at the same time always showed attitude type of mentality and ignorance too and I don't smile much also to anyone and is a less talkative guy but she is a talkative girl. Coming to what happened in 2nd semester this year, our class was divided into 2 groups where 1 group is assigned to attend another subject and this girl and a that group of boys which she was always with which I mentioned earlier was in my batch. So what she used to do is that she showed most signs that I searched upon UA-cam whether she likes me or not. She used to ask about my hobbies, used to touch me intentionally or unintentionally ( knowing I don't talk to girls often or even touch other girls), used to stand always with me or be around me, asking help from me like can you hold this for me, being in the class alone with me whenever these 3 dudes go out of the class for sometime and she is also in the class(btw we arent alone theres also other batch members in class ) and sometimes she looks way more often at me now during class time and all ,all these happening with these 3 dudes who are the best friends of her . Not saying she doesn't talk to them she talks to them more often too but I get these type of things from her. Also another thing is that ahe laughs way more at the jokes told by these guys more than me. Remember again I talk with her with attitude and In a idc mindset without much laughing, just a little bit of smile, I listen to her when she talks with me. Ig she likes that. And is just trying to be nice with me??? Idk coz I'm not a type of dude desirable by women coz I don't talk usually to them so im least desirable man in the mind right? so she might be just playing around with me or just giving me a girl company?. I never even flirted or teased her and was always respecting her tho but she laughs sometimes at my jokes tho. Btw I'm much taller guy than these 3 dudes ,also she has short height. Here after you read this do you think she is just using me for attention. I still dont know too why she broke up with her boyfriend. Wss she considering me as a backup plan. Please tell in a girls perspective. Also i told she has guy friends and they are the guys which are friends of mine too also some of them have gfs too. Is she just being friendly to them. If you say Im her backup plan I will back off from her. I dont know if she is just being friendly with me too. If not and is interested in me why did she made a boyfriend even when I was there??? Just be honest and tell your opinion in a girls perspective. I dont wanna fall in a tra
@@Rohit-rx5rz To be frank, I did not read through your whole comment, by the sheer length of your comment I can tell you're over thinking the situation. In the beginning you mentioned you don't talk to girls unless they talk to you first. You also mentioned that you used "fake confidence". These two things are huge red flags to me. Here are a few next steps for you:
1. Make friends with your crushes girl friends - this will get you more integrated into the social group in your class
2. Talk to strangers - this will develop your social skills and allow you to understand more about social dynamics. Talk about the weather, coffee, the classes their in, etc.
3. Stop overthinking - Take situations for what they are. Take things for face value and don't look too deep into certain situations
4. Plenty of fish - there are literally billions of girls in the world. I'd say thousands in your university. Talk to more of them as a normal person with no agenda. If things with this girl don't pan out, move on and widen your horizons!
Hope this helps man!
@@jakobsante2060 tysmmmmm.
As a woman, i think this video is very fair to women and realistic for men. I'll admit i'm not there 100% (working on improving though), but it's what i strive to be and believe is realistic. Do you think you could be objective enough to make a similar video on high quality men? I'd be interested to hear what you'd have to say.
Most women already seem to know what they are. High quality men are very public.
@._. I agree totally with you. As I watched it, I was also accessing my self as a man where are my default in this qualities.
I like the fairness of @tess
All you need to look for is somebody with a big dick and there, you have found yourself a high quality man.
@Keith yeah... But the harsh truth is they all want muscled alphas who are commanding by nature and has a reputation among the ladies.
Are there characteristics for a man also? Am not sure of my current bf
I am one of the lucky few bastards to have married a woman who checks 10/10.
You are indeed lucky!
Good for you man.
Please help my crush has all these qualities except the fact that she has many guy friends
My crush who I'm talking about is a nice girl who talks well and politely with everyone and I'm also a nice type of guy who shows attitude most of the time and also ignore the girls most of the time and dont even touch the girls coz I don't do that sort of things. My crush , I met her at college previous year and we are in same class. I usually don't talk to girls and only talk if they talk to me. This girl talks to everyone tho and her main group of friends in my class were 4 girls and 3 boys in which I talk only to her and these 3 boys mostly. For the first time when I joined class i initiated and talked to her first showing fake confidence but not in a needy way btw I showed attitude too. Also i have sensed my another girl classmate was telling her I was checking this girl out lol in the first week and ik this girl knows I like her. But she confused me. She was asked out and proposed by another guy for the next month itself we joined the college who was a senior and was a bit popular guy. But I was confused at the same time that she looks at me during short breaks during classes when she and her boyfriend used to talk infront of my class. I dont know if she was trying to make me jealous or not because even then she used to look at me often also during class time when I stare at her sometimes I get glances from her by smiling. I don't know if she was getting creeped out by me looking at her or not. Also it was the first semester in college that is previous year which all these happened. Whenever a project or assignments was given in a subject I was assigned most if the time to team up with her. Also main thing is that even tho that senior was always with her outside trying to hangout with her they broke up within 3 months or 2 . Idk exactly. Then the 2nd semester came. That's this year . Remember that I'm that type of guy who doesnt talk to girls at all but showed confidence and tried to talk with confidence whenever she talked or I talked to this girl but also at the same time always showed attitude type of mentality and ignorance too and I don't smile much also to anyone and is a less talkative guy but she is a talkative girl. Coming to what happened in 2nd semester this year, our class was divided into 2 groups where 1 group is assigned to attend another subject and this girl and a that group of boys which she was always with which I mentioned earlier was in my batch. So what she used to do is that she showed most signs that I searched upon UA-cam whether she likes me or not. She used to ask about my hobbies, used to touch me intentionally or unintentionally ( knowing I don't talk to girls often or even touch other girls), used to stand always with me or be around me, asking help from me like can you hold this for me, being in the class alone with me whenever these 3 dudes go out of the class for sometime and she is also in the class(btw we arent alone theres also other batch members in class ) and sometimes she looks way more often at me now during class time and all ,all these happening with these 3 dudes who are the best friends of her . Not saying she doesn't talk to them she talks to them more often too but I get these type of things from her. Also another thing is that ahe laughs way more at the jokes told by these guys more than me. Remember again I talk with her with attitude and In a idc mindset without much laughing, just a little bit of smile, I listen to her when she talks with me. Ig she likes that. And is just trying to be nice with me??? Idk coz I'm not a type of dude desirable by women coz I don't talk usually to them so im least desirable man in the mind right? so she might be just playing around with me or just giving me a girl company?. I never even flirted or teased her and was always respecting her tho but she laughs sometimes at my jokes tho. Btw I'm much taller guy than these 3 dudes ,also she has short height. Here after you read this do you think she is just using me for attention. I still dont know too why she broke up with her boyfriend. Wss she considering me as a backup plan. Please tell in a girls perspective. Also i told she has guy friends and they are the guys which are friends of mine too also some of them have gfs too. Is she just being friendly to them. If you say Im her backup plan I will back off from her. I dont know if she is just being friendly with me too. If not and is interested in me why did she made a boyfriend even when I was there??? Just be honest and tell your opinion in a girls perspective. I dont wanna fall in a tra
Lucky you! :) congrats!
That's just your opinion bro. I'm sure if we saw her many of us wouldn't even find her that attractive.
As a woman, those are all the qualities that I strive for. The only one that my husband (of almost 15 years) wouldn’t have been able to judge before we got married was the sex. We had been best friends for 5 years then dated for 4 years before getting married. Both being devoted Christians, it was important for us to wait till we were married. I want him to be my first and my last. As far as sexual desire goes, it changes constantly with the birth of kids, high stress jobs, medical issues. It’s something that sometimes needs to be worked at and at other times you pop in a movie for the kids because you just can’t wait till bedtime.
The only thing that I would add to the list is that you should have the same religious beliefs or moral views. I’ve seen that be a huge strain on relationships.
I love this comment.
@Username it gives me no pleasure to say this - but if you've had one night stand(s) in your past you'll realize that there are no angels, only well constructed illusions.
@Username I'm sure that's occasionally true for women (no causal sex), but how do you know who is really presenting themselves and their past honestly. It's similar to guessing a man's net worth based on the value of his vehicle or lifestyle. Outward appearances and internal reality may or may not be aligned.
@Elly Claire God bless you. You are rare and a blessing to your husband.
Your comment is lovely, I am a 32 years old girl who is still waiting on God for her husband...your comment gives me hope that there are still good men left in these times... 💗🙂 thank you!
11. She consistently displays her qualities with ALL people, not just you
12. She has clear ethical values that are similar or the same to those you hold
Agreed
Maybe not all her qualities...
I don't think being sexually generous to others sounds good to me lmao
*Great* video man. I would like to add a crucial #11 though:
*She keeps these qualities even after 8-9months. So she is not faking it just to get you into a relationship*
I have experiences with multiple women that present themselfs as a high quality woman to get you to like them and then go literally 180 degrees on their own presented values.
aerospaceTUdelft get to know them first
@@P9rkour90 My point is that there is a lot of acting and therefore you get to know a 'different person' as they actually are. It's like you are looking at a instagram page, loads of filters and you only see what they *choose* to show you
@@aerospaceTUdelft This is what has caused me to fear truly believing in what they are showing me. Sure it finally snapped me out of my naivete for good, but damn did it also make it harder to trust women.
I lead her into a false sense of security, they nearly always unknowingly hang themselves. No one is perfect so it depends to what degree as no one wants to show their not so good side at the start of a friendship. Some keep up the act for just a few days others months.
@@NatMart9394 Great advice, will experiment voraciously with this
Women have high standards which causes men like us to look on how to improve ourselves by for example watching Alexander Grace's videos. The issue is that most men dont have high standards of women which makes many women become blind of their shortcomings in their characteristics and not try to improve them. We need to make women know what traits we like in them.
I WISH men would have higher standards for me. When they act like all I need to do is spread my legs and bat my eyelashes, 1) it makes me lose respect for them and 2) it makes me feel like they don't see me as a real person. I want a man who challenges me to be my best self (and vice versa!)
They have high standards because they have sex when they want and most men will give it to them. They end up thinking they are high value because men want sex with them when they open their legs so they end up with hundreds of standards in a partner. If women were not almost all sluts when they were young, they would be much more reasonable and know themselves more and be a lot higher quality and hi at least 5-6 of these 10 points,
Thats only fair
Time to start being brutally honest with these women tell them they are whores if their whores fat if their fat when they realize what they really are maybe their unrealistic standard s may end
@@Alice-th6re in a real relationship you should bring each other up not degrade each other
„Life is too short to spend your valuable time and energy working hard just to appease the needs of some materialistic brat.“ Beautiful
Lots of red flags for my ex-wife and ex-girlfriend that I stupidly ignored and paid dearly for. Great, concise points
You might appreciate this then:
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Please help my crush has all these qualities except the fact that she has many guy friends
My crush who I'm talking about is a nice girl who talks well and politely with everyone and I'm also a nice type of guy who shows attitude most of the time and also ignore the girls most of the time and dont even touch the girls coz I don't do that sort of things. My crush , I met her at college previous year and we are in same class. I usually don't talk to girls and only talk if they talk to me. This girl talks to everyone tho and her main group of friends in my class were 4 girls and 3 boys in which I talk only to her and these 3 boys mostly. For the first time when I joined class i initiated and talked to her first showing fake confidence but not in a needy way btw I showed attitude too. Also i have sensed my another girl classmate was telling her I was checking this girl out lol in the first week and ik this girl knows I like her. But she confused me. She was asked out and proposed by another guy for the next month itself we joined the college who was a senior and was a bit popular guy. But I was confused at the same time that she looks at me during short breaks during classes when she and her boyfriend used to talk infront of my class. I dont know if she was trying to make me jealous or not because even then she used to look at me often also during class time when I stare at her sometimes I get glances from her by smiling. I don't know if she was getting creeped out by me looking at her or not. Also it was the first semester in college that is previous year which all these happened. Whenever a project or assignments was given in a subject I was assigned most if the time to team up with her. Also main thing is that even tho that senior was always with her outside trying to hangout with her they broke up within 3 months or 2 . Idk exactly. Then the 2nd semester came. That's this year . Remember that I'm that type of guy who doesnt talk to girls at all but showed confidence and tried to talk with confidence whenever she talked or I talked to this girl but also at the same time always showed attitude type of mentality and ignorance too and I don't smile much also to anyone and is a less talkative guy but she is a talkative girl. Coming to what happened in 2nd semester this year, our class was divided into 2 groups where 1 group is assigned to attend another subject and this girl and a that group of boys which she was always with which I mentioned earlier was in my batch. So what she used to do is that she showed most signs that I searched upon UA-cam whether she likes me or not. She used to ask about my hobbies, used to touch me intentionally or unintentionally ( knowing I don't talk to girls often or even touch other girls), used to stand always with me or be around me, asking help from me like can you hold this for me, being in the class alone with me whenever these 3 dudes go out of the class for sometime and she is also in the class(btw we arent alone theres also other batch members in class ) and sometimes she looks way more often at me now during class time and all ,all these happening with these 3 dudes who are the best friends of her . Not saying she doesn't talk to them she talks to them more often too but I get these type of things from her. Also another thing is that ahe laughs way more at the jokes told by these guys more than me. Remember again I talk with her with attitude and In a idc mindset without much laughing, just a little bit of smile, I listen to her when she talks with me. Ig she likes that. And is just trying to be nice with me??? Idk coz I'm not a type of dude desirable by women coz I don't talk usually to them so im least desirable man in the mind right? so she might be just playing around with me or just giving me a girl company?. I never even flirted or teased her and was always respecting her tho but she laughs sometimes at my jokes tho. Btw I'm much taller guy than these 3 dudes ,also she has short height. Here after you read this do you think she is just using me for attention. I still dont know too why she broke up with her boyfriend. Wss she considering me as a backup plan. Please tell in a girls perspective. Also i told she has guy friends and they are the guys which are friends of mine too also some of them have gfs too. Is she just being friendly to them. If you say Im her backup plan I will back off from her. I dont know if she is just being friendly with me too. If not and is interested in me why did she made a boyfriend even when I was there??? Just be honest and tell your opinion in a girls perspective. I dont wanna fall in a tra
@@Rohit-rx5rz First of All, dont get in touch with another woman if her breakup is still fresh. You seem like you are worshipping her, please stop that. Being around dudes is also a sign of a red flag.
@@ma8ico I'm very confused . Is all these things applicable only to the westernised women
@@Rohit-rx5rz if she lives in one of the so considered western countries, mostly.
From my own experience I'd add:
11. Her default behavior is cute and playful
12. She is able and willing to adapt
13. She loves spending time with you.
14. She wants a deep emotional connection.
I think 13 and 14 are pretty much the same as number 8, and number 11 is pretty unimportant.
You really just re worded what he said in the video why so many of these retards?
Sounds pathetic. I can see why it's so hard for guys to find girls.
@@empressqi1722 Please explain for each single point why you think it is pathetic. Thank you.
@Lilly Flower Different guys want different things, some prefer a girl who's more tomboyish and not afraid of bugs or to go adventuring, or some may want an intellectual, so I wouldn't say 11 is something all men would want
Great points! If she is genuinely interested in you, she will put in the time and energy to build the best relationship. But it takes two to build IT!
Purpose & Mind if a girl want to be around you. Want to talk to you but she doesn't want to know even the basic things of you what could be wrong in this situation?
Confirmed what i thought about my girl. She's a quality girl who I'll be marrying🤘
Do not marry her...The risk of losing everything is too high.
congratulations Karl
Lovely comment! You must be a great man to have a girl like that! Congratulations to both of you 🙂
So how's your life since 7 months ago? Already married?
Get a prenup
I think "open to self-improvement" is better than "open to therapy". I don't have much respect for what passes as psychology.
agreed but its sad how many people dont bother with self improvement. I think it should be a compulsory class at school.
I agree. You can deal with your issues and do introspection (if you are intelligent enough) without heading to therapy.
@Cj I have practiced as an Orthodox Christian, and from what I saw, there are a lot of overlaps between what Orthodoxy and Buddhism have to say about psychology. I have more respect for these ancient religions that had an emphasis on inner spirituality than I do for most of modern psychology.
Couldn't agree more. I have a huge disdain for authority, so wasting a bunch of time and money because society says I'm only allowed to develop as a character because some licenced asshole in a suit gave me enough character development tokens,
Fuck all that. I'm aware enough to know what's wrong with me, even if I don't always act the way I should all the time.
Psychology is well understood nowadays. It's well worth it if you have the right therapist.
1) Low (preferably non-existent) body count.
2) Loyal, trustworthy, reliable.
3) No Onl%Fans, thirst trap Instagram or dating app profiles.
4) No active male friendships.
5) Not a party girl. No girl trips, night clubs etc.
6) Sexually generous.
7) Feminine and physically attractive.
8) Nurturing, domestic, supportive, a good mother.
9) Mentally and emotionally stable and resilient.
10) Graceful, manners, polite, classy.
I think every guy generally knows the qualities he wants in a woman but lust and sex before marriage (or sex too early in the relationship even) puts a mask over women's true quality's which are actually not ideal.
It happens to both sides, which is why it's ideal not to fool around until you can more properly see and discern the person's traits/quality and personal compatibility with each other. Once you get physical then you mix in the chemicals and it's much harder to see clearly
@@timothyn4699 This makes sense on several levels.
Notice that older people (ie pre WW2 born) tend to be married for decades - even to the point of getting married young and dying before their partner does.
That's because (usually) people used to take more time before going heavy - that way they were already certain it would be worth it whether sex worked or not.
No. 1 characteristic: Honesty. Still waiting.
Yeah, honesty is really important, but everything else in the list is too. Additionally, you can be with an honest person who still isn't a good person. My previous ex was like this. One of the most open, honest people I've ever known, also a cheater. It was kind of shocking to see, to be with someone who could be so open about their biggest flaws, who could commit a great evil and than immediately communicate it. Bizarre but it just goes to show, there is no one trait that trumps all, if anything a high quality person requires all the virtues, a few just won't cut it.
@@deathzero0212 I'd never considered cheating as a trait of an honest person. Let me think...
@@brainiac31K keep it up
Please help my crush has all these qualities except the fact that she has many guy friends
My crush who I'm talking about is a nice girl who talks well and politely with everyone and I'm also a nice type of guy who shows attitude most of the time and also ignore the girls most of the time and dont even touch the girls coz I don't do that sort of things. My crush , I met her at college previous year and we are in same class. I usually don't talk to girls and only talk if they talk to me. This girl talks to everyone tho and her main group of friends in my class were 4 girls and 3 boys in which I talk only to her and these 3 boys mostly. For the first time when I joined class i initiated and talked to her first showing fake confidence but not in a needy way btw I showed attitude too. Also i have sensed my another girl classmate was telling her I was checking this girl out lol in the first week and ik this girl knows I like her. But she confused me. She was asked out and proposed by another guy for the next month itself we joined the college who was a senior and was a bit popular guy. But I was confused at the same time that she looks at me during short breaks during classes when she and her boyfriend used to talk infront of my class. I dont know if she was trying to make me jealous or not because even then she used to look at me often also during class time when I stare at her sometimes I get glances from her by smiling. I don't know if she was getting creeped out by me looking at her or not. Also it was the first semester in college that is previous year which all these happened. Whenever a project or assignments was given in a subject I was assigned most if the time to team up with her. Also main thing is that even tho that senior was always with her outside trying to hangout with her they broke up within 3 months or 2 . Idk exactly. Then the 2nd semester came. That's this year . Remember that I'm that type of guy who doesnt talk to girls at all but showed confidence and tried to talk with confidence whenever she talked or I talked to this girl but also at the same time always showed attitude type of mentality and ignorance too and I don't smile much also to anyone and is a less talkative guy but she is a talkative girl. Coming to what happened in 2nd semester this year, our class was divided into 2 groups where 1 group is assigned to attend another subject and this girl and a that group of boys which she was always with which I mentioned earlier was in my batch. So what she used to do is that she showed most signs that I searched upon UA-cam whether she likes me or not. She used to ask about my hobbies, used to touch me intentionally or unintentionally ( knowing I don't talk to girls often or even touch other girls), used to stand always with me or be around me, asking help from me like can you hold this for me, being in the class alone with me whenever these 3 dudes go out of the class for sometime and she is also in the class(btw we arent alone theres also other batch members in class ) and sometimes she looks way more often at me now during class time and all ,all these happening with these 3 dudes who are the best friends of her . Not saying she doesn't talk to them she talks to them more often too but I get these type of things from her. Also another thing is that ahe laughs way more at the jokes told by these guys more than me. Remember again I talk with her with attitude and In a idc mindset without much laughing, just a little bit of smile, I listen to her when she talks with me. Ig she likes that. And is just trying to be nice with me??? Idk coz I'm not a type of dude desirable by women coz I don't talk usually to them so im least desirable man in the mind right? so she might be just playing around with me or just giving me a girl company?. I never even flirted or teased her and was always respecting her tho but she laughs sometimes at my jokes tho. Btw I'm much taller guy than these 3 dudes ,also she has short height. Here after you read this do you think she is just using me for attention. I still dont know too why she broke up with her boyfriend. Wss she considering me as a backup plan. Please tell in a girls perspective. Also i told she has guy friends and they are the guys which are friends of mine too also some of them have gfs too. Is she just being friendly to them. If you say Im her backup plan I will back off from her. I dont know if she is just being friendly with me too. If not and is interested in me why did she made a boyfriend even when I was there??? Just be honest and tell your opinion in a girls perspective. I dont wanna fall in a tra
I'm glad you've overcame your reluctance to posting this video because it has value and substance. Thank you!
I liked this list, and I would like to add one more:
You share the same or similar religious beliefs.
I'm an atheist, and Jesus created a rift in my relationship with every Christian girl that I dated for several reasons:
* My spontaneity was limited. I could not make certain jokes without hurting feelings. This reduces communication and enjoyment for both of us.
* I believed that the religion was taking advantage of her. She believed it was helping her. She relied on the religion for emotional support. I held back, because I didn't want to force her into atheism.
* Religious women have a lot of ideas about the way things "should" be. If you don't agree, that will create conflict.
* After the relationships, there was resentment, because she would believe that I had corrupted her, just by being myself and sharing my views on life.
For these reasons, I keep Christian girls at arm's length. Facing life critically and working to remove delusion is deeply important to me. It saved me from a life of misery. I cannot feel free to be myself and, at the same time, hide these things from my partner.
Edit: One more thing I forgot to add. It will create conflict between you and her circle of friends. Most likely, they will be displeased that you are not also a part of her religion, and they will try to convince her to leave you before you even get things off the ground. That won't go away until you join the religion or she gets new friends.
I always maintain my distance with almost any religious person, from my experience they're closed minded, stubborn and intolerant. I thought maybe they would be good people, but those traits are just too much for me.
@@peke1822 I have met Christians with a humanist world view that were fine. Some Christians don't even go to church and some have the same problems with other Christians. They usually focus on their own personal relationship with their god, and I find that these people make decent friends. We can be honest about our conflicting views, but we can focus on how we can support each other. Having a relationship with someone like this is very difficult, though.
@@peke1822 yeah i agree. Most "religious" people ive met were trash
Confirmity and close-mindedness are not exclusively Christian faults...
Maybe you should just avoid Christian girls altogether. Your worldview and theirs are fundamentally antagonistic towards each others.
Oh my god. #7) High quality friends.
This is so true. Even though I had a mediocre relationship with my girlfriend, her friends would always down me and she would be uneven with me and them. But sooner or later she would team with them. If you wouldn't date their friends (RUN!!).
If she did that then she was part of the problem and she chose to dip on u. I had not so high quality friends and they never approved my prospects but i always stood by the man of my choosing and if we ever fell apart my friends were never on the list of why.
High quality friends are very importent traits , means this girl has open eyes and intelligent , wont fall into small manipulations and fall into alochol and drugs , stay away from sort of girls
What if the girl is solitary, she has no friends ... is it a good or bad sign?
If you would date their friends they would know it unless you were exceptionally good at hiding it all the time.
In this case you would not be with them for long anyway.
the truth is they are a lot of women like this, they are just not interested in you..
Add not shallow to the list then
No Man's Son that wouldn't make a difference in the outcome
no this breed is rare
Who exactly do you mean by "you"?
I was thinking the exact thing.
I can honestly say only one man has seen all these characteristics in me, and that’s my partner simply because of how he makes me feel and who he is.
I have a degree in philosophy, and was always interested in finding a girl interested in ideas. A decade later and now married, I’ve come to accept that feminine women interested in ideas practically don’t exist as a biological category. Intelligent women are easy to find, but they are interested in people and art, not trading in and debating ideas like men.
This isn’t in contradiction to this video’s advice, but just a warning for younger guys about what they can expect.
Well yea philosophy is almosty entirely male throughout history. Won't be changing any time soon.
Philosophy is in close with psychology and many women are into that.
They are out there but they are also very rare...
@@Cutiejuliya Philosophy and psychology are very, very different from each other.
These qualities can be also applied to the " high quality man" actually... These are the characteristics I would look for in a man.
ah yes... You're looking for high quality feminine men, i see!
Please help my crush has all these qualities except the fact that she has many guy friends
My crush who I'm talking about is a nice girl who talks well and politely with everyone and I'm also a nice type of guy who shows attitude most of the time and also ignore the girls most of the time and dont even touch the girls coz I don't do that sort of things. My crush , I met her at college previous year and we are in same class. I usually don't talk to girls and only talk if they talk to me. This girl talks to everyone tho and her main group of friends in my class were 4 girls and 3 boys in which I talk only to her and these 3 boys mostly. For the first time when I joined class i initiated and talked to her first showing fake confidence but not in a needy way btw I showed attitude too. Also i have sensed my another girl classmate was telling her I was checking this girl out lol in the first week and ik this girl knows I like her. But she confused me. She was asked out and proposed by another guy for the next month itself we joined the college who was a senior and was a bit popular guy. But I was confused at the same time that she looks at me during short breaks during classes when she and her boyfriend used to talk infront of my class. I dont know if she was trying to make me jealous or not because even then she used to look at me often also during class time when I stare at her sometimes I get glances from her by smiling. I don't know if she was getting creeped out by me looking at her or not. Also it was the first semester in college that is previous year which all these happened. Whenever a project or assignments was given in a subject I was assigned most if the time to team up with her. Also main thing is that even tho that senior was always with her outside trying to hangout with her they broke up within 3 months or 2 . Idk exactly. Then the 2nd semester came. That's this year . Remember that I'm that type of guy who doesnt talk to girls at all but showed confidence and tried to talk with confidence whenever she talked or I talked to this girl but also at the same time always showed attitude type of mentality and ignorance too and I don't smile much also to anyone and is a less talkative guy but she is a talkative girl. Coming to what happened in 2nd semester this year, our class was divided into 2 groups where 1 group is assigned to attend another subject and this girl and a that group of boys which she was always with which I mentioned earlier was in my batch. So what she used to do is that she showed most signs that I searched upon UA-cam whether she likes me or not. She used to ask about my hobbies, used to touch me intentionally or unintentionally ( knowing I don't talk to girls often or even touch other girls), used to stand always with me or be around me, asking help from me like can you hold this for me, being in the class alone with me whenever these 3 dudes go out of the class for sometime and she is also in the class(btw we arent alone theres also other batch members in class ) and sometimes she looks way more often at me now during class time and all ,all these happening with these 3 dudes who are the best friends of her . Not saying she doesn't talk to them she talks to them more often too but I get these type of things from her. Also another thing is that ahe laughs way more at the jokes told by these guys more than me. Remember again I talk with her with attitude and In a idc mindset without much laughing, just a little bit of smile, I listen to her when she talks with me. Ig she likes that. And is just trying to be nice with me??? Idk coz I'm not a type of dude desirable by women coz I don't talk usually to them so im least desirable man in the mind right? so she might be just playing around with me or just giving me a girl company?. I never even flirted or teased her and was always respecting her tho but she laughs sometimes at my jokes tho. Btw I'm much taller guy than these 3 dudes ,also she has short height. Here after you read this do you think she is just using me for attention. I still dont know too why she broke up with her boyfriend. Wss she considering me as a backup plan. Please tell in a girls perspective. Also i told she has guy friends and they are the guys which are friends of mine too also some of them have gfs too. Is she just being friendly to them. If you say Im her backup plan I will back off from her. I dont know if she is just being friendly with me too. If not and is interested in me why did she made a boyfriend even when I was there??? Just be honest and tell your opinion in a girls perspective. I dont wanna fall in a tra
Well yes, qualities that are often considered 'feminine' can actually be highly desirable in men. One of the couples I know who gets along best has a 'tiger mom' with a bit of a temper (but she is also her family's passionate cheerleader) and a highly patient and empathetic man. If the kid is throwing a fit, the mother starts going 'argh' too, but the father sits down by the kid and speaks to him softly.
And before you start judging the mom, she patiently taught the kid the alphabet before all the other kids, she cooks lovely meals for the family, thanks to her her husband got rid of a hoarding problem and a major obesity problem, and her husband loves her because of how appreciative she is of him. Neither of them are perfect, but I'm shocked how complementary they are. Point is, if I ever get with a guy, I'd want one with 'feminine' qualities too rather than a so-called alpha who refuses therapy and refuses to help out around the house because they're a 'woman's job.'
I've concluded a while a go that what passes off as 'feminine' or 'masculine' is often 'wow that's so awesome/mature.' Case in point, the Chinese vlogger Li Ziqi posts videos of her life at the countryside where she does everything on her own, from farming and cooking delicious dishes to making clothes and furniture on her own. Many people go 'wow she's so feminine.' The thing is if she were a guy they'd say 'wow he's so masculine.'
@@valerievankerckhove9325 Part of the problem we all face is the cultural determination of what is feminine and what is masculine.
At the end of the day much of it is entirely invented and has precisely f**k all to do with gender and genetics.
The problem is that society repeats these cultural norms in a kind of echo chamber effect from generation to generation until the perception is that these traits are fundamentally feminine or masculine.
Take 10 boys and 10 girls and raise them with a robot designed for gender ambiguous behavior in the wilderness away from everyone else.
Chances are that many of the so called feminine and masculine traits will not at all be concentrated in the expected genders of these children when they reach physical maturity.
@@valerievankerckhove9325 you want a beta. Good luck with that. If he's working outside to provide for the family he shouldn’t have to work in the house. That means you're too incompetent to hold up your end of the deal. Would you appreciate it if he pressured you to go out and make money cuz works been really hard for him? News flash! You wont
Hey mate. never made it to a vid this early lol. Just wanna say you're a well spoken person whos' content is very refreshing considering you aren't one of those red pill talkers who just hate on women and blame them for everything. You actually dive into the situation deeper and your content is truly appreciated by those who see it for what it is. You look on both sides and present unbiased views.
From a Melbourne fan who just got onto you. Sidenote yeah the fuckin boys, finally a fellow Aussie in this community!
Yes!! There are a growing number of women (like myself) who want to be red pilled, unlearn toxic cultural habits, and learn to be better women. But all the extreme women-hate and bitterness in these circles is really off-putting. And we hate having our whole gender blamed for something just as much as you do. I really enjoy content creators who can be level headed and just present rational, well thought out perspectives.
@@Alice-th6re agreed.
I think a really important thing to look for in a relationship partner is somebody who is comfortable in their own skin and happy in their own company. Too many people particularly women, feel incomplete without a partner and think that having a man in their life is a necessity. Therefore they pick men to have a man and not necessarily because they desire that one man. Subsequently the love is conditional and the relationship becomes a femoral and of course heartbreaking to the other individual who has been made a vehicle of that person's desire. When a person learns to enjoy their own company and feel great within themselves, they can present their partner with a truly fulfilling experience and be able to invest in that partner properly.
How can i work on that
The only sensible comment by a woman on this channel
In my case, a great quality I always look for in a woman is curiosity. I am a very curious person myself, I could stay hours surfing the internet just looking for that answer to that stupid question that randomly popped out into my head, or if I'm in a new place I love exploring the surroundings and see what's where. And I also love to share my findings with whoever's willing to listen. For this reason it's important to me that my partner has the same joy for exploration, the same spark of curiosity about the world so that we can share our experiences, learn more from each other and grow to be better both as individuals and as a couple
this sounds great, but I wonder if young women can ever escape their own inner drama, self-infatuation (ie selfie life-style), and status focus to look outside themself regularly
Probably not.@@contributor2024
A high quality woman would subscribe to this channel!
I did xD
Dude. It's like you save me decades of pain with every video. Thank you as always.
A man having high standards is a direct threat to a woman's entitlement fallacy.
I believe that if a girl and I can laugh together we can spend real quality time together
I had a gf who has "open to therapy" and she was the one who needed it the most!! In fact, she said that she would dump me if I didn't go with to therapy with her, when she was causing all the relationship issues. Truly Unbelievable.
Got away from her I take it??
Maybe she wanted to take you there so she would tell the therapist what her problems where and the therapist tell You what to do accordingly, like " She does that crap, you do this...She plays this song You dance like this".. when the right thing might be fixing her problems, not making You "dance" according to her problems
@@DobrescuAE no lie this scenario happened for me
@@Insight-music its a trap
I have been doing alot of self reflection and self assessment. I came across this video, I have watched this like 100 times already. I am so grateful that you decided to speak on this matter. I really appreciate the work that you are doing. Stay calm and carry on.
Too bad men don't actually go for that type of women lol
There are a couple of things you may be sacrificing in order to get a woman like that.
1. In point 5, to get a woman like that it might imply she has a high body count or she has been involved in a few long term relationships which ended for whatever reason. The latter is fine. Not the former.
2. In a few of your points, it seems as if you are talking about a very mature (mentally) woman, which is typically correlated with age, so she'll be around 30 to be more likely to have those characteristics you describe.
You didn't mention youth and fertility. It might be implied and I missed it, but I think it is difficult to look for those traits right away. I might be wrong.
1. I don’t think N5 is related with her sexual experience. He said she will want to pleasure her partner, he didn’t say she should be very good at. There are girls who don’t have much experience or none on that, but they are willing to learn their partner preferences.
2. Those traits are related to being mature., but age is not related with that.
@Charles Mosley I am hesitant to believe that. Perhaps body count wont matter to some, but age is way too basic. She cant be much older than 35 in general if the man wants to have kids. Age, or at least, fertility should definitely make the top 10
I agree SionMirae, but I also agree that a lot of the mature characteristics are good to see in a woman. Probably the best real-life approach is to adjust your expectations for younger women and judge them more on their progress to the desired state while you are getting to know them. For example, if you're dating a 19 year old who doesn't have the right relationship with her parents, see if she makes progress toward distancing herself from bad parents or reconnecting with good parents.
@@HaoPieldeoso On the contrary. Age can, in many cases, turn people bitter and amplify their immaturity.
SionMirae fertility also depends of the man. There are some men who don’t want to get married and have kids.
In theory, therapy is very useful. Unfortunately, the mental health industry has become dysfunctional and of decreasing effectiveness.
Example: Masculinity is now toxic and transgendermania is now normal.
No joke i had a therapist tell me that i might be transgender. Its as if they’re trying to push this stuff!!!
@@morecopemorerope4372 Now we know why some people claim to be an Attack Helicopter: they took the indentity advice provided by their therapist after they told him that they are moody and love to take flights to visit other countries.
@@Adri9570 no attack helectopter is a mockery of it and does a pretty good job of doing so
Please help my crush has all these qualities except the fact that she has many guy friends
My crush who I'm talking about is a nice girl who talks well and politely with everyone and I'm also a nice type of guy who shows attitude most of the time and also ignore the girls most of the time and dont even touch the girls coz I don't do that sort of things. My crush , I met her at college previous year and we are in same class. I usually don't talk to girls and only talk if they talk to me. This girl talks to everyone tho and her main group of friends in my class were 4 girls and 3 boys in which I talk only to her and these 3 boys mostly. For the first time when I joined class i initiated and talked to her first showing fake confidence but not in a needy way btw I showed attitude too. Also i have sensed my another girl classmate was telling her I was checking this girl out lol in the first week and ik this girl knows I like her. But she confused me. She was asked out and proposed by another guy for the next month itself we joined the college who was a senior and was a bit popular guy. But I was confused at the same time that she looks at me during short breaks during classes when she and her boyfriend used to talk infront of my class. I dont know if she was trying to make me jealous or not because even then she used to look at me often also during class time when I stare at her sometimes I get glances from her by smiling. I don't know if she was getting creeped out by me looking at her or not. Also it was the first semester in college that is previous year which all these happened. Whenever a project or assignments was given in a subject I was assigned most if the time to team up with her. Also main thing is that even tho that senior was always with her outside trying to hangout with her they broke up within 3 months or 2 . Idk exactly. Then the 2nd semester came. That's this year . Remember that I'm that type of guy who doesnt talk to girls at all but showed confidence and tried to talk with confidence whenever she talked or I talked to this girl but also at the same time always showed attitude type of mentality and ignorance too and I don't smile much also to anyone and is a less talkative guy but she is a talkative girl. Coming to what happened in 2nd semester this year, our class was divided into 2 groups where 1 group is assigned to attend another subject and this girl and a that group of boys which she was always with which I mentioned earlier was in my batch. So what she used to do is that she showed most signs that I searched upon UA-cam whether she likes me or not. She used to ask about my hobbies, used to touch me intentionally or unintentionally ( knowing I don't talk to girls often or even touch other girls), used to stand always with me or be around me, asking help from me like can you hold this for me, being in the class alone with me whenever these 3 dudes go out of the class for sometime and she is also in the class(btw we arent alone theres also other batch members in class ) and sometimes she looks way more often at me now during class time and all ,all these happening with these 3 dudes who are the best friends of her . Not saying she doesn't talk to them she talks to them more often too but I get these type of things from her. Also another thing is that ahe laughs way more at the jokes told by these guys more than me. Remember again I talk with her with attitude and In a idc mindset without much laughing, just a little bit of smile, I listen to her when she talks with me. Ig she likes that. And is just trying to be nice with me??? Idk coz I'm not a type of dude desirable by women coz I don't talk usually to them so im least desirable man in the mind right? so she might be just playing around with me or just giving me a girl company?. I never even flirted or teased her and was always respecting her tho but she laughs sometimes at my jokes tho. Btw I'm much taller guy than these 3 dudes ,also she has short height. Here after you read this do you think she is just using me for attention. I still dont know too why she broke up with her boyfriend. Wss she considering me as a backup plan. Please tell in a girls perspective. Also i told she has guy friends and they are the guys which are friends of mine too also some of them have gfs too. Is she just being friendly to them. If you say Im her backup plan I will back off from her. I dont know if she is just being friendly with me too. If not and is interested in me why did she made a boyfriend even when I was there??? Just be honest and tell your opinion in a girls perspective. I dont wanna fall in a tra
Do you have a problem with trans people?
I feel like you’re always on point with things like this. The major one I am working on is my attractiveness, particularly my weight. I’ve been bigger since I was 6 years old. I’m sure it robs me of relationships with quality men. I’m doing IF and low carb to work on it as we speak. The others, I pretty much hit and am always striving to grow in. The bonus ones too. I think honesty is one you missed out. Honesty with oneself and one’s partner is crucial to having a great life together. I am also very happy you phrased number 9 the way you did. Oftentimes, I see men saying that their mates have to have A GOOD relationship with their parents and my usual response is “But, what if they’re not good people? Wouldn’t it be good for her to have a more limited relationship with people who aren’t good?” So thanks for being this clear, because my parents weren’t good in many ways and it took A LOT of work to both understand and move past that. You think things through and I respect that tremendously! Cheers from Trinidad and Tobago!
Very relatable. U go girl! :)
@@Cutiejuliya you too! 😊
@@shawnellemartineaux6212 thx ^~^
Keep working at it!
Shout out to all the women who check all these boxes. Absolute Stacie’s, mad respect
I enjoyed snooping on what men might like in a wife when they are dating. In a few years it will be interesting when you have found that special person to see how what you think you want lines up with what you find you need. I know my ideas definitely changed a lot. And, thankfully, I would say getting married is the best choice I have made in my life.
That sounds wonderful, congratulations honey.
Hey man, loved the video. Super helpful. I believe many men here would find it extremely beneficial to see what characteristics make up a good man. Self reflection and introspection are super important.
Any plans to make a video about the Top 10 Characteristics of a High Quality Man?
Cheers
Thats what I also thought
I would be interested in that aswell.
I consider these apply for both sexes but yea, maybe there´s a different perspective of them for men which we need to realize sooner than -later- regretfully, at least as an advice
Simple = Strong Jaw, Muscles, Good hair.
I would say they are the same- except change number 3 to masculine. bingo.
Your content triggered me to rethink about my entire life strategy, thank you so much for putting so much time and engergy on this extreme valuable knowledge
It's an unfortunate thing when a wonderful man won't take steps to maintain his mental well being with some form of support (therapy, mentoring, etc). When you meet someone who has dared to take on any form of self development it's so obvious from the man's ability to communicate openly about their needs.
GREAT mention about THE CORRECT relationship with parents. We are born into our families and situations...and are not beholden to their dysfunctions or issues. If a person has dealt with this, understands the issues/dynamics, and has appropriate boundaries in place it’s a sign of health and maturity. It would be a shame to hold somebody’s families against them personally if they’re not responsible for it.
1) Intelligent (Many equate intelligence with college educated, if that is how you mean it that is a red flag for me for various reasons. I replace this will some degree of logic/common sense.)
2)Attractive
3) Open to Therapy ( I have absolutely zero confidence in therapy, therefore this one would not apply for me. ( I would replace with submissive.)
4) Feminine
5) Sexually generous
6) Invested in you
7) High quality friends
8) Want to know you
9) Correct relationship with parents
10) Not materialistic
Overall well done IMO, great stuff Alexander.
#3 ended my last relationship. She didn't want any professional help, I couldn't help her with a lot of stuff, got blamed for everything and anything.
All in all good video and insightful. I was a bit taken back when he said that being a stay at home mom was not ambitious. I have 4 kids and have been a stay at home mom for 14 years and I'm going to respectfully disagree with the view that being a stay at home mom is not an ambitious goal. I wanted to be a pilot up until they handed me my first baby in the hospital. After holding her she became my ambition. 3 girls followed after her, and in my view women are so awful today because they didn't have mother's that viewed them as their ambitions and teaching them thier true worth. I know each one of my girls. The best compliment I have ever got from one of their teacher was "I have never meet a girl as young as your daughter and them know exactly who they are." Because I have been with them every step of they way I have learned who they are and have helped them build on that. You will never convince me that I am not ambitious. Those girls have given me the wings I have always wanted.
I totally agree; and would add something to that.
We no longer live in mud huts with goats and chickens roaming outside. Our homes are complex systems with a lot of machinery, both mechanical, electrical and electronic. A good homemaker will keep all that running either by their own skills, or by properly managing contractors and their fees. And on top of that we also have things like insurance, pension plans, medical plans and vacation plans - all of which need careful thought and management. If not done well you can be caught out by, e.g., an insurance loophole, or maybe just waste your money on a poor holiday with a badly located hotel.
What I'm saying is that in the modern world, even without children, managing the whole home estate is enough to keep someone fully occupied - if done properly. If the breadwinner can then come home tired from a day's labour and just relax and unwind, it's a big deal! The difficulty is that a lot of these jobs go under the radar, i.e are not registered, so the homemaker can be hard working and attentive and do that job very well, or can be casual and unthinking and let things slide, and it's not immediately clear that they are underperforming.
To perform these roles well is definitely a worthwhile ambition! If the home was an office building, entire departments would be devoted to keeping the infrastructure running and updated, and ensuring that good policies are in place for legality, pensions, vacation days, etc - so why shouldn't these roles be seen as of merit when in the home?
Nailed it on 2 points. “Correct relationship with parents” and “ willingness to go the therapy” many RP, red flag list say “good relationship with parents” in a perfect world, that may be the case but the fact is, some homes that appear to be perfect or very religious are actually very toxic. They produce children that are every bit as traumatized as children of abuse. We don’t get to pick our family but we do get to pick what behavior we choose to allow. That goes hand and hand with therapy. Most people in western society experienced some type of childhood trauma, just because someone had it worse, does not reduce the impact each of us experienced. While I think it is possible to find other alternatives for coping and reprogramming, it seems, at least women do better with a professional therapist.
Women who can love you like they love christ is high quality
Reasonable list. I think many of these are things that each must define and refine within our own context to be completely useful. For example, after dating a woman who looked fit but just had admittedly freaky genetics (she looked like a fitness cover model all day every day, with no work at all) I found that it’s also important to me that she show the behaviors that underly the basic attractiveness. Many good looking women take their own appearance for granted, never developing the habits of actually taking care of themselves, which is why so many attractive young women drop off so sharply as they age. Sure, they nail makeup and hair, but miss the long term attractiveness-sustaining trait: health.
11) Respect men. If she thinks that masculinity is toxic and needs to be reformed, she doesn't respect men, and never will. Keep walking.
This is a great list. It would have helped me avoid my marriage to a narcissist. The problems I ignored were all her past relationships were with "abusers" and an incorrect relationship to parents. She was able to check all of the other boxes.
There is a famous Turkish saying about friendship. "Tell me who your friends are and i will tell you who you really are. "
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Alexander in my experience the 2 main attributes in a partner are comprehension ( I need a partner who understands what my thoughts/stance on a subject are, although not necessarily agreeing with them) and trustworthiness as in not only somebody I know has my back and will defend me to the hilt, but somebody who will call me out in my BS.
I totally agree with your femininity and attractiveness points, (remembering that one mans meat is another mans poison) however, I have observed that (not always but usually) the prettier a woman in her youth the more time seems to ravage her looks in later life, also it's strange but if I see a photograph of my wife I do not instantly recognise her even if she is holding the photo, suppose I must still see her through rose tinted glasses lol (BTW married 46 years and counting)
This was one of your best videos, Alexander. I think curiosity and openness are important aspects of intelligence. You hit the nail when you put this at the top of the list. I would add kindness to the list, but I think that is encompassed by femininity, ironically the quality most assailed by feminists.
Woman watching this. v helpful, thanks 😁
Alex, this is one of the BEST videos you've done to date!!
I agree with most of these, except for 4 and 5.
4. Someone not wanting kids does not make them "low quality." There are plenty of perfectly valid reasons a woman (or man) cannot have or does not want to have children. Of course, if YOU want kids, you should be with someone who also wants them, but it's not a matter of "quality." And 5., you should be someone you're sexually _compatible_ with, not who is "sexually generous." There's a perfectly good chance that the woman you are with will have a higher libido than you and will want sex every day. There's a chance she'll be totally asexual. Both of those things are "natural" in their own respects. There is no level of sexuality that is "unnatural."
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Point 4 isn't really about wanting to have kids, he just mentioned it because liking/wanting kids is a common feature feminine women tend to have.
@@Augusto9588 that is literally the opposite of what Alex said^ lol. But it is a good outlook have on this point
Great points! Expressed beautifully! ✨
I do not think that being asexual is natural. Humans are sexual beings.
I think equating femininity with wanting children is unfair. Not every woman wants children or has a maternal instinct but can be feminine in most other aspect of her life.
I agree, you can swap that out for something else since it's really about preference. Most of the other points you probably shouldn't budge on though.
@ well even if either gender doesn't quite meet these standards, I think the point is for both of us to improve ourselves as people until we meet these standards. I don't expect her to be 8, 9, or 10 out of ten on all these qualities, nobody is perfect after all, but it's important that she at least tries her best. I know I try to improve as much as I can. I would have said no to me as well a few years ago.
@@patrickstar2027 You're mistaking your low value narcissism as objective life paths.
You should do some self reflecting
I agree. I love children but i dont want them and i have a lot of nurture and love to provide
Good video. I think rather than saying "she's willing to go to therapy" I'd say find a woman who is interested in and capable of self-reflection and personal growth. Make sure she has a track record of positive changes that she has made in her own life. I love therapy and have benefited from it myself but some people will be "open to therapy" in the sense that they will go but never be open enough to reflect and make changes. I know some couples who have tried couples therapy but didn't benefit much from it because the people continued to be defensive and lack the ability to self-reflect and create change.
I've noticed that high quality women are smart enough to be aware of their nature and they will even call out other women for acting on theirs too.
I think flexibility is one of the most important qualities, which you kind of hit with #10. In a practical sense, a woman that can adapt to her surroundings is the ultimate characteristic.
I just realize i have the best woman damn she ticked all those 10 qualities Lucky me
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Lovely comment! Probably she is a very lucky lady too for being with a man who recognizes the virtues in her. God bless both of you 😊
Crinfe5
Can you migrate to Russia so she can be "our" woman
Please help my crush has all these qualities except the fact that she has many guy friends
My crush who I'm talking about is a nice girl who talks well and politely with everyone and I'm also a nice type of guy who shows attitude most of the time and also ignore the girls most of the time and dont even touch the girls coz I don't do that sort of things. My crush , I met her at college previous year and we are in same class. I usually don't talk to girls and only talk if they talk to me. This girl talks to everyone tho and her main group of friends in my class were 4 girls and 3 boys in which I talk only to her and these 3 boys mostly. For the first time when I joined class i initiated and talked to her first showing fake confidence but not in a needy way btw I showed attitude too. Also i have sensed my another girl classmate was telling her I was checking this girl out lol in the first week and ik this girl knows I like her. But she confused me. She was asked out and proposed by another guy for the next month itself we joined the college who was a senior and was a bit popular guy. But I was confused at the same time that she looks at me during short breaks during classes when she and her boyfriend used to talk infront of my class. I dont know if she was trying to make me jealous or not because even then she used to look at me often also during class time when I stare at her sometimes I get glances from her by smiling. I don't know if she was getting creeped out by me looking at her or not. Also it was the first semester in college that is previous year which all these happened. Whenever a project or assignments was given in a subject I was assigned most if the time to team up with her. Also main thing is that even tho that senior was always with her outside trying to hangout with her they broke up within 3 months or 2 . Idk exactly. Then the 2nd semester came. That's this year . Remember that I'm that type of guy who doesnt talk to girls at all but showed confidence and tried to talk with confidence whenever she talked or I talked to this girl but also at the same time always showed attitude type of mentality and ignorance too and I don't smile much also to anyone and is a less talkative guy but she is a talkative girl. Coming to what happened in 2nd semester this year, our class was divided into 2 groups where 1 group is assigned to attend another subject and this girl and a that group of boys which she was always with which I mentioned earlier was in my batch. So what she used to do is that she showed most signs that I searched upon UA-cam whether she likes me or not. She used to ask about my hobbies, used to touch me intentionally or unintentionally ( knowing I don't talk to girls often or even touch other girls), used to stand always with me or be around me, asking help from me like can you hold this for me, being in the class alone with me whenever these 3 dudes go out of the class for sometime and she is also in the class(btw we arent alone theres also other batch members in class ) and sometimes she looks way more often at me now during class time and all ,all these happening with these 3 dudes who are the best friends of her . Not saying she doesn't talk to them she talks to them more often too but I get these type of things from her. Also another thing is that ahe laughs way more at the jokes told by these guys more than me. Remember again I talk with her with attitude and In a idc mindset without much laughing, just a little bit of smile, I listen to her when she talks with me. Ig she likes that. And is just trying to be nice with me??? Idk coz I'm not a type of dude desirable by women coz I don't talk usually to them so im least desirable man in the mind right? so she might be just playing around with me or just giving me a girl company?. I never even flirted or teased her and was always respecting her tho but she laughs sometimes at my jokes tho. Btw I'm much taller guy than these 3 dudes ,also she has short height. Here after you read this do you think she is just using me for attention. I still dont know too why she broke up with her boyfriend. Wss she considering me as a backup plan. Please tell in a girls perspective. Also i told she has guy friends and they are the guys which are friends of mine too also some of them have gfs too. Is she just being friendly to them. If you say Im her backup plan I will back off from her. I dont know if she is just being friendly with me too. If not and is interested in me why did she made a boyfriend even when I was there??? Just be honest and tell your opinion in a girls perspective. I dont wanna fall in a tra
The one thing that I say I disagree with, is the baby thing. Not every woman *should* be a mother. Not every man *should* be a father. If a woman, or man says that they don't want children, then I say that's a positive thing. Because they are mature and honest enough to know that they don't have the compacity to optimally take care of a child. A human being, because that isn't an easy task - a woman can be in-touch with her feminine side, and not want to have a child. So that point, I completely disagree with. Not every human being is fit to raise children, some woman generally don't have the martial instincts, like some men. That's doesn't subtract them from being a suitable partner.
Also, the thing about sex. Some people are asexual, and some don't have that sexual drive. Plus, that things can (and often do) change over time. Especially with children. However, some of the points that you make have some merit.
Since most of the time, Women like this are jaded by all their bad relationships, it's nearly impossible to find one *like this* that *doesn't* hate men. Also, those that may be like this are *already* in a good or bad relationship.
Thank you for #9 - I have been through so much therapy, counseling, to help me be as emotionally available as I possibly can be for my husband, my childhood was awful and I can't control that but I can control my response
Alot of these say you have to have a good relationship with your parents and that's not physically possible at this point it's a toxic relationship
Quality content with important nuances that many miss. "Correct" relationship w parents (and friends) being an important one.
One thing I would note is the line between what to find from friends (guys) and "the" woman. It has been a painful experience for me to realize that we often expect too much from one person, especially our significant others. Qualities like intelligent and "actual" ambition are very rare in women.
_Intelligence_ is rarer, certainly, as women tend to hover around the mean, true. But, men often have little issue with dating someone beneath them in that respect.
So let me get this straight, a high quality woman is a someone who accepts you for exactly who you are and lives in “reality” but she also has be to be beautiful, sexual, feminine, want children, let the man lead, have a perfect past, etc. This is a double standard. If you want a woman who accepts you and your flaws be prepared so do the same for her. Otherwise, if you’re looking for the perfect woman be prepared to be the perfect man (loyal, attractive, emotionally regulated, masculine but in touch with his emotions, successful with a clean past).
A girl with a high body count is a no. Guys for thousands of years have had more than 1 women cause they can afford it. You don’t see women having 5 guys and paying for it. Plus us men built this world that y’all are living in and the things y’all use is by us. Be greatful for the phone you have.
Being a male that's been in a long term relationship I can say with 100% certainty that these 10 characteristics are TRUE.
I agree with all of these except for femininity. I personally don't care if she's feminine or not. I like tomboys just as much as I like feminine women.
I think its more about the underlying aspect of being and acting feminine when it counts even tomboys have feminine qualities
This is my list:
1. She have good relationship with her partner
2. Her friend (women friend defined what kind of girlfriend she is)
3. She have same moral or religious believe with me
4. The most important: she doesnt play social media. If she play it, atlast no nude in her social media.
Please help my crush has all these qualities except the fact that she has many guy friends
My crush who I'm talking about is a nice girl who talks well and politely with everyone and I'm also a nice type of guy who shows attitude most of the time and also ignore the girls most of the time and dont even touch the girls coz I don't do that sort of things. My crush , I met her at college previous year and we are in same class. I usually don't talk to girls and only talk if they talk to me. This girl talks to everyone tho and her main group of friends in my class were 4 girls and 3 boys in which I talk only to her and these 3 boys mostly. For the first time when I joined class i initiated and talked to her first showing fake confidence but not in a needy way btw I showed attitude too. Also i have sensed my another girl classmate was telling her I was checking this girl out lol in the first week and ik this girl knows I like her. But she confused me. She was asked out and proposed by another guy for the next month itself we joined the college who was a senior and was a bit popular guy. But I was confused at the same time that she looks at me during short breaks during classes when she and her boyfriend used to talk infront of my class. I dont know if she was trying to make me jealous or not because even then she used to look at me often also during class time when I stare at her sometimes I get glances from her by smiling. I don't know if she was getting creeped out by me looking at her or not. Also it was the first semester in college that is previous year which all these happened. Whenever a project or assignments was given in a subject I was assigned most if the time to team up with her. Also main thing is that even tho that senior was always with her outside trying to hangout with her they broke up within 3 months or 2 . Idk exactly. Then the 2nd semester came. That's this year . Remember that I'm that type of guy who doesnt talk to girls at all but showed confidence and tried to talk with confidence whenever she talked or I talked to this girl but also at the same time always showed attitude type of mentality and ignorance too and I don't smile much also to anyone and is a less talkative guy but she is a talkative girl. Coming to what happened in 2nd semester this year, our class was divided into 2 groups where 1 group is assigned to attend another subject and this girl and a that group of boys which she was always with which I mentioned earlier was in my batch. So what she used to do is that she showed most signs that I searched upon UA-cam whether she likes me or not. She used to ask about my hobbies, used to touch me intentionally or unintentionally ( knowing I don't talk to girls often or even touch other girls), used to stand always with me or be around me, asking help from me like can you hold this for me, being in the class alone with me whenever these 3 dudes go out of the class for sometime and she is also in the class(btw we arent alone theres also other batch members in class ) and sometimes she looks way more often at me now during class time and all ,all these happening with these 3 dudes who are the best friends of her . Not saying she doesn't talk to them she talks to them more often too but I get these type of things from her. Also another thing is that ahe laughs way more at the jokes told by these guys more than me. Remember again I talk with her with attitude and In a idc mindset without much laughing, just a little bit of smile, I listen to her when she talks with me. Ig she likes that. And is just trying to be nice with me??? Idk coz I'm not a type of dude desirable by women coz I don't talk usually to them so im least desirable man in the mind right? so she might be just playing around with me or just giving me a girl company?. I never even flirted or teased her and was always respecting her tho but she laughs sometimes at my jokes tho. Btw I'm much taller guy than these 3 dudes ,also she has short height. Here after you read this do you think she is just using me for attention. I still dont know too why she broke up with her boyfriend. Wss she considering me as a backup plan. Please tell in a girls perspective. Also i told she has guy friends and they are the guys which are friends of mine too also some of them have gfs too. Is she just being friendly to them. If you say Im her backup plan I will back off from her. I dont know if she is just being friendly with me too. If not and is interested in me why did she made a boyfriend even when I was there??? Just be honest and tell your opinion in a girls perspective. I dont wanna fall in a tra
@@Rohit-rx5rz Watch UA-cam named : Darius M , every answer is on his youtube videos
High quality woman=unicorn............? Also here's the problem. If she's like that today, there is no guarantee that she is going to be like that in the future. In a marriage union men are forced by the state to guarantee providing for them. There is also no such reciprocal obligation upon them. A man cannot get a divorce based upon abandonment of affection without loosing half of his possessions. What you're trying to do with these 10 qualities, is to determine if she will be consistent with her obligation to uphold her end of the bargain. Due to women's actions being based upon emotions, she can make up any reason she wants to withhold affection, maintain a healthy lifestyle and her looks, maintain a clean house, bring a child up with principles you agree with no consequence. Coach Greg Adams had a great video on this that nails it. She over promises and under delivers. She gets away with it because it cannot be measured. On the women's obligation, there is love and affection. You can't measure that. She can take that away with no consequence. For a man, protect and provide, a house, food, clothing, dates is measurable. Can you respond with how you can enforce her obligations to you and what she has promised without the backing of law? We see this many times with men going over sea's and bringing back a bride from a culture that enforces her responsibilities and when she gets here abandons them without any recourse.
Love this video. Though, as a traditional woman living in the west, it is very difficult to find high quality female friends. Thus, I just tend to keep to myself, my family and of course, my man.
So..Im looking for a Unicorn?
I've already found my unicorn.
@@LordParticle Dont overfeed it or it will become a rhino.
@@samiis1260 I died laughing at this
just don;t lower your standards and you're good
These are actually basic needs, they are high standards. If you see them, it looks like a lot but when u analyse they are pretty basic.
1) Loves being a woman. 2) Would never DREAM of trying to manipulate or play games with people. 3) Likes a man to be a man. Very few woman who genuinely possess those traits would also be "unattractive." Doesn't hurt if she's really interested in sex when she's with the right person (but if she "loves being a woman" she will love the sensuous).
Sense of humor is top 5, like she’s got to be fun to be around.
Well said. I had a wife who failed at many of these things. I’m glad she left just in time for me to be able to get on with my life and eventually recover.
You are great Alexander. With your list I realized that this is also the key to a long lasting relationship/ marriage. The keys to a long relationship are to always put in the effort to have the characteristics of a high quality woman and man. It's been right there in front of us the whole time. Masculinity and Femininity are the keys to happiness and life, especially for long term relationships. It's the little things that matter. Each gender makes up the missing half to the other and it makes a great team.
PREACH! It's clear to me that taking your time to make this video was a good decision. Thank you!
Great video. I instinctively knew most the points, but you articulated them much better than I could if asked. Specifically, the difference between attractiveness and beauty. Some of the most attractive women I’ve known, weren’t the hottest. And conversely, some of the most beautiful women I’ve met have been hugely unattractive.
Saved to my playlist for future reference, and subbed 👍
I'd add Loyalty/Fidelity, Kindness/Empathy and what I call "graciousness" - when someone has been through tough times, but they become more patient, more generous, more loving in spite of it. A high quality woman doesn't hold a grudge - she forgives quickly. Wise, but not bitter. I think a lot of these qualities can apply to men, too.
Another trait I have in my list of standards is that she also has to push the relationship through. What I mean by this is that you can't be the only one taking the important decisions, making plans for the future, things like that.
I don't like that if I don't say anything, or do anything; nothing happens in the relationship. She has to be willing to take leadership as well, because that shows she's autonomous, and clear in what she wants, if you're the one leading her, that's not a partner, that's an employee, and she might as well look for another boss.
This is very well explained and logical. I've heard a lot of these topics but none of them quite right. Like the relationship with your parents topic. While its preferred to have a good relationship with good parents, that's not someone everyone chooses and that doesnt make them bad. What determines their quality is how they respond to it. Hit the nail on the head with that one.
This is a pretty good list, and glad the standards I hold myself to are being appreciated/recognized. It's interesting that the list can go both ways, high quality men would have these characteristics as well (just switch the fem/masc part like where he should be in touch with his fatherly side). I like the "correct" relationship with family distinction and being open to therapy even if it's not needed now it's good for them to be willing in case in the future something happens and they need it. I think the friends one is a bit debatable though, depends on the person like if they have only a closed group of girl friends who are all horrible then sure that's a red flag but if they're the type of social person where everyone is their friend then that kind of falls apart, people can be friends with others not similar to them I think its more important how influenced they are by others rather than who they are kind to/friends with.
I enjoyed watching it and I agree (meaning I would also put those things on the list) with small changes:
3) instead of "Open to Therapy" I would say "Open for admitting she is wrong/trying to self-improve" I met a woman who was open to therapy (she was on one in the past) but moving forward it turned out she wasn't really interested into changing/improving herself or admitting her mistakes. During our whole relationship (which was a few years) there were just a few times (really, counting on one hand) that I heard "I am sorry" in important matters (kinda looked like I was wrong almost all of the time - believe me, I was wrong a lot but still for sure not so often). Sometimes therapy is just supporting you in your beliefs (I was on such one time and - to be honest - only quite a happy accident made me change for the better one, as it turned out).
In short - open to therapy is not enough. It is more about being able to see our own mistakes and apologizing when we realize we made a mistake
6) Invested in you and 8) Want to know you are kinda duplicated for me (but "The 10 Characteristics ..." sounds better than "The 9 Characteristics ..." :)
Exact same thoughts.
How about The 10 Characteristics of a High Quality Man? I could see a lot of value in that.
J P What about not getting triggered.
There are plenty of those... you can see all those 40+ checklists on fat, old and ugly entitled women’ Tinder profiles all the time.
Please help my crush has all these qualities except the fact that she has many guy friends
My crush who I'm talking about is a nice girl who talks well and politely with everyone and I'm also a nice type of guy who shows attitude most of the time and also ignore the girls most of the time and dont even touch the girls coz I don't do that sort of things. My crush , I met her at college previous year and we are in same class. I usually don't talk to girls and only talk if they talk to me. This girl talks to everyone tho and her main group of friends in my class were 4 girls and 3 boys in which I talk only to her and these 3 boys mostly. For the first time when I joined class i initiated and talked to her first showing fake confidence but not in a needy way btw I showed attitude too. Also i have sensed my another girl classmate was telling her I was checking this girl out lol in the first week and ik this girl knows I like her. But she confused me. She was asked out and proposed by another guy for the next month itself we joined the college who was a senior and was a bit popular guy. But I was confused at the same time that she looks at me during short breaks during classes when she and her boyfriend used to talk infront of my class. I dont know if she was trying to make me jealous or not because even then she used to look at me often also during class time when I stare at her sometimes I get glances from her by smiling. I don't know if she was getting creeped out by me looking at her or not. Also it was the first semester in college that is previous year which all these happened. Whenever a project or assignments was given in a subject I was assigned most if the time to team up with her. Also main thing is that even tho that senior was always with her outside trying to hangout with her they broke up within 3 months or 2 . Idk exactly. Then the 2nd semester came. That's this year . Remember that I'm that type of guy who doesnt talk to girls at all but showed confidence and tried to talk with confidence whenever she talked or I talked to this girl but also at the same time always showed attitude type of mentality and ignorance too and I don't smile much also to anyone and is a less talkative guy but she is a talkative girl. Coming to what happened in 2nd semester this year, our class was divided into 2 groups where 1 group is assigned to attend another subject and this girl and a that group of boys which she was always with which I mentioned earlier was in my batch. So what she used to do is that she showed most signs that I searched upon UA-cam whether she likes me or not. She used to ask about my hobbies, used to touch me intentionally or unintentionally ( knowing I don't talk to girls often or even touch other girls), used to stand always with me or be around me, asking help from me like can you hold this for me, being in the class alone with me whenever these 3 dudes go out of the class for sometime and she is also in the class(btw we arent alone theres also other batch members in class ) and sometimes she looks way more often at me now during class time and all ,all these happening with these 3 dudes who are the best friends of her . Not saying she doesn't talk to them she talks to them more often too but I get these type of things from her. Also another thing is that ahe laughs way more at the jokes told by these guys more than me. Remember again I talk with her with attitude and In a idc mindset without much laughing, just a little bit of smile, I listen to her when she talks with me. Ig she likes that. And is just trying to be nice with me??? Idk coz I'm not a type of dude desirable by women coz I don't talk usually to them so im least desirable man in the mind right? so she might be just playing around with me or just giving me a girl company?. I never even flirted or teased her and was always respecting her tho but she laughs sometimes at my jokes tho. Btw I'm much taller guy than these 3 dudes ,also she has short height. Here after you read this do you think she is just using me for attention. I still dont know too why she broke up with her boyfriend. Wss she considering me as a backup plan. Please tell in a girls perspective. Also i told she has guy friends and they are the guys which are friends of mine too also some of them have gfs too. Is she just being friendly to them. If you say Im her backup plan I will back off from her. I dont know if she is just being friendly with me too. If not and is interested in me why did she made a boyfriend even when I was there??? Just be honest and tell your opinion in a girls perspective. I dont wanna fall in a tra
I was really scared when I clicked on this that is would be unrealistic, but I actually found it really helpful, both as a woman, and someone who is attracted to other women. Keep it up!
As a woman in my early 20s looking for a serious partner, I would love to see a male version of this video. Please consider making this, Alex. It would be really helpful. :)
Femininity isn't that important. My wife put the Ikea furniture together while I played video games 🎮
To the women who got this video in their recommended for no reason like me: this guy's list is pretty good and his points make sense for a straight male. Dont be immediately offended. I want all these things in a male partner as well. Both genders and all sexualities have a type and should.
This comments section is a dumpster fire tho. Good video man. Good luck finding the unicorn. Also our feminine side isnt being attacked by media. Thats just what youve been told because you're a male and arent marketed to female/feminine entertainment. Go down the Beauty community UA-cam Rabbit Hole some time. We're not being attacked and young women are having more fun with expressing themselves in feminine ways every day.
Also a woman who doesnt want to have kids has her reasons. "Run"? My boyfriend and i dont want children. There are exceptions.
Anyway bye. Try not to take opinions only from other males. If you have any female friends at all, I'd recommend giving them this list to see where they can give you advice.
This is a very sound opinion. I think that the concept of femininity is far more complex than loving kids and cute animal videos, lol. Feminine also means mentally strong and independent. When women find themselves in a difficult position how would they overcome that otherwise...? As for kids, personally I am on the fence. I think not everyone is equipped with the mindset to have children and that is OK. I respect people who recognise they don't want thee commitments rather than those who settle and end up as neglectful parents.
Keep me pinned or something...but childrenless marriages rarely succed
@@theeyepatch1219 they dont succeed/last long because children often keep a tether to loveless marriages. More oft than not, couples who dont want children might not even get married. The only benefit to marriage is tax deductions and getting your kids on insurance easier. Nothing says "love" like getting the government involved in our relationship, right?
Anyways, to mirror that point, you're probably right but I'd rather be happily divorced than tethered to an idiot because i popped out a hellspawn, which said hellspawn will grow up with complexes if they see their parents in a loveless agreement.
@@Fransmiah now thats a well informed lady...yeah dont get married if u dont need children...btw...surely not my place to lecture u but pls bear with me
...it is said tjat u get most satisfaction in lyf in stable relationship raising a family...eventually ur partner and u MIGHT...get bored...and loose one another coz u didnt have a binding
...children r basically binging...if u care for ur kids to not get divorce when things get rhough
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I salute u for not being a unreasonable nightmare of a woman and being well indormed with strong,intellectual opinions...😇😇😇
thanks for this one. i actually agree with points made. some of them are kinda obvious, but never mentioned, like relations with parents or friends.
thanks again. you're doing a good job.
I’m writing these down and inserting them on my dating app profile!
May not be wise to give a detailed blueprint day one on what she needs to mimic and Say in order to get you into a relationship. Better to just pay attention to what people Do naturally in situations that will show their true values.
The fact that you think you can find a high quality woman on a dating app means you have a lot to learn. High quality women can pick from hundreds of men who are lining up to be with them, they don't need dating apps in hopes of getting a relationship.
1) not have kids already
2) not divorced several times
3) not have debt
4) not have a huge history of sexual partners
5) not obese
I am none of these so I expect at least the same from a woman. Notice, I haven’t even gotten to the qualities. I’m just talking disqualifications.
Having good qualities means nothing if they’ve been misused due to bad decisions. Look at her long term results from having those qualities and see where she has arrived, that’s more critical in my opinion.
Not really asking much but most women I see on dating platforms and in public settings fail this list. I would much rather be single and focus on my health and wealth then to jeopardize what I’ve worked hard for.
Best of luck men , have standards and respect yourself. You deserve it.
Japanimated 6) Not crazy. That will take care of a lot of your list too.
You're a smart guy, I'm impressed with your videos:)
Yes, I like how he thinks outside the box.
An excellent, nuanced list, Alexander! Bravo. You continue to be by far the most humane, fair, nuanced and intelligent voice in the manosphere.
I love that intelligence and openness to therapy were in there, and right at the top with attractiveness. Great priorities.
Nobody's on their deathbed saying, "I wish I'd made more money." - except maybe people dying from illnesses that they couldn't afford the cure for. . .
No actually!
I wish I made more money, to experience more things in the world
1. loyal
2. honest
3. good communicator (not passive aggressive) good listener (not gonna stop me from when im talking or when its time for my side) (not with the attitude of listen to me and im not gonna listen to you)
4. cares about her health,looks and body
5. willing to learn and grow together
6. trustworthy enough to have my back
7. willing to improve the relationship
well my father is a cheater, arrogant, passive aggressive and will not listen to you and doesn't take care of himself, neglect his children. my mother is passive aggressive aswell and will not listen to you, not open to learning,doesn't take care of herself and create things that will end up in argument, ignores/neglect her children. You can say i dont want to have a wife like my mother and don't wanna be like my father.
1) empathetic
2) empathetic
3) empathetic
4) NOT narcissistic
5) stoic
6) healthy
7) no daddy issues
8) accountable
9) integrity
10) reasonable
Yeah... this woman DOESNT exist... but I’ll never date another woman who doesn’t have these traits... guess I’ll be alone forever.... cool by me ;)
They exist but most wouldn't be in the west...
I frickin love the way you go about it :D
By the way, I would like to add one point.
11. If she uses shaming to the extent that you can no longer trust her.
If a man is expressing really harmful behavior, shaming can be a tool to put him back in line. But the problem is if a man gets shamed for everything he does that is undesirable, although you kinda covered it by using the example of the ideal man being the prince, and that the ideal is in conflict with the real you, and therefore she shames you for it.
If a man expresses his love and the woman shames him for opening up, that is a bad quality woman, she even fails to preserve her own self-interests.
As I round out year 24 I have to admit I’ve worked on developing these qualities. Becoming confident in settling down with a masculine man feels very comfortable but it was scary at first with all the new wave feminism ideas floating around. I’m still not down for kids though.
My standards for women are the same standards I offer.
Empathetic (I'm very emotional and have no problems admitting it).
Stays in shape (I love the gym and working out, and would like a girl who likes that too).
Works full time (someone who doesn't have a ft job or at least pt while in college is irresponsible and prolly lives with their parents).
Owns a car (I don't mind being the ride for a date, but I'm not a taxi. Had that problem before).
Never cheated (I'm very emotional and despise cheaters).
Loves deep emotional music (music isn't just entertainment to me. It expresses how I feel).
Is responsible with money (good luck cos I've never met a girl who can resist binge shopping).
Can hold a mature conversation.
For some reason these standards are impossible for most girls to meet so Ima stick to one nights on tinder til I find her.