« To everything there is a season, and a time for every purpose... » love it! Most of the time, our pain is preparing us for something better, but we don’t know it in the moment. We evolve and change in moments of pain. The key is to take it one day at a time and to build on the small « wins ».
It’s almost like the more I suffer, the stronger I become. Because I know the dark sides of my mind have not beaten me yet and I continue to transcend it:)
If I'm having a rough time with my mental health I try to slow my head down and live minute to minute. Cope with each minute as it happens, nothing more. It helps me deal with rising panic attacks, it helps me "what if" thoughts about the future or "did I?/I should have done better/more" thoughts about the past. It helps me deal with a racing mind when I have about ten streams of thought going on at once. Minute to minute thinking, just get through this minute and deal with the next one only when it comes a long.
Thankyou for your compassion and kind words. You give people words of hope and this is what people going through a depression desperately need. I can testify it will pass. I've just gone through a really rough season due to trying to come off psych meds. Ended up in a mess. Nearly at the end of a diazapam detox. Jesus has been my hope and strength. I just knew I had to keep going even through the darkest days. The light will come and it will make you a stronger character than before. God bless you all who are struggling 🙏 remember Jesus loves you, pour out your pain to Him and I promise you know He will help you. He is faithful, He will heal your mind and your pain whatever the cause ♥️
I know this is an older vid but I just wanted to say thank you for this Doug. Things sre pretty bad for me right now and this is something I need to hear.
This pandemic has taken so much from me. I had never been happier in my life when it hit. I was just promoted at the job that I love, was out of an unhappy relationship, seeing someone new and very special, had lots of travel planned, had a great social life, was in a great spot financially. Now almost all of that is gone. It's hard to imagine I will ever get back to that, it took me so long to cultivate those things. I'm just feeling really lost and scared and sad.
I am on the same boat unfortunately. Lost my job due illness last 2018 , tried opening a small business but failed and I felt like I am stuck right now, I can't do anything, down to my last cash. Trying to sell some of my stuff but nobody wants to buy yet. Bills piling up. I am in the room whole day trying to figure out what to do. Rebecca, you are not alone... Btw, I am all the way from the Philippines.
Girl! Same, about everything. I was happy for the first time in my life which had taken a lot of hard work and then this happened. I'm now starting to feel how much I've lost so I went back to therapy since I'm feeling like I may be going trough another depressive episode but if you were able to do it once I'm sure you can do it again! Hope you feel better soon♥️ What helps me is trying to help other people but always taking care of my mental and physical health first
“There is hope, there is life and your best days are ahead of you” - I’m writing this on 19th August 2023. I hope to be able to return one day with the message that the above statement was indeed correct! Love and light to anyone who is struggling right now xxx
@@magdalenakedzior6716 absolutely great! Not a hint of depression. Still some anxiety lingering in my muscles but other than that, life is really good! ❤️
@@emerbarry7695 Damn girl, I'm really happy to hear that! I am in a depressive episode right now (it's probably my 4th one) and despite of being out of it in the past, my brain still believes that there is no end to it. I look for positive stories of people who got out of it, it gives me hope 😊 Wishing you a healthy life without problems 😊💕
lol at the intro joke - after 18 years just recently i believe it will never go away but this video gives me hope thank you Douglas you are a true amazing man
I agree totally, I used to plan ahead for this all the time and get let down when this didn’t go my way. For example I would punish myself emotionally when I used to workout, but I haven’t managed to follow a workout routine for a few years, I gave up for a while saying it was hopeless so this spiralled in to weight gain more depression and anxiety etc, I’m have been looking at my wellbeing differently over the last couple of months by saying to my self that ever workout is a good workout and as a result my diet is getting better my mind set is improving and I’m starting to like working out when I decide I want to on the day but I’m not beating myself up if I don’t workout I just move to the next day and try again. It definitely takes time but I believe that as a result of this small change in my mindset I am more productive at work, I’m more motivated to do this in my personal life and my health is also improving.
@@klanderkalHe talked about seasons, I like that and Im going to encourage myself to think in season, fall winter spring summer …. And live in the moment- turn away from the future. Hope for success for all ❤
This reminds me a lot of the general mindset that Buddhists use in order to gain enlightenment. "Everything, both pain and pleasure, will eventually pass." It really helps me get a handle on things when pain or some sort of negative influence in the moment is making me feel as if my life will stay this way forever.
One way of grouping these different sources of pain was offered by Shneidman, who stated that psychological pain is caused by frustrated psychological needs. For example, the need for love, autonomy, affiliation, and achievement, or the need to avoid harm, shame, and embarrassment.👍
Respected dear..U r True...For An alone person suffers the xtreme most,after loosing family,kids,wealth,home,etc...😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 ,..then even medications didn,t support..,things r going out f control,the only hope is as Counseller says that u need a strong caring hand support..if anyone can take me away,keep me along for certain time to recover,...kindly can u supoort to keep,take me away with you..God is witness..will serve u till death..need ur strong support..plzzz don,t ignore,,looking for an urgent favorable reply
Douglas Bloch is a very informative person. I have been a depressed person from OCD for about 2 years and when it first came about I didn’t think it would end or that I could do anything about it. But only time will tell when the darkness fades and I need to hang in there until I get through it.
as i turn on my coping tools more it starts to get easier and more overcoming the black shadows of deaths but i know sometimes i need assurance from this platinum rated video:)
Love your jokes. They make me smirk. It is good to know that this to shall pass. I'm starting to physically hurt. Going for walks is like I'm in a vise and everything tightens up. Then I can't breathe. So now I am resorting to chair exercises until this improves.
Dear Douglas, My husband of 25 years just confessed, that cheated in my for the last 1.5 years. I feel devastated and think, I can't bear this pain. Your words help me a little bit. Thank you.
You are very welcome. Betrayal is so hard. I hope you are getting support from friends or a counselor. Many years ago a partner cheated on me, but over time the pain has diminished
Douglas, it's good to watch one of your videos again. It's like a chat with a good friend. We've talked before though email, as I've been dealing with severe depression and anxiety for quite some time. 2020 has been very rough on everyone, but perhaps myself a bit more. I recently just ended a toxic relationship with a gal who I believe surely had Narcissistic personality disorder. She's out now and I've moved back to New York from Florida. However, the emotional and financial damage that she was a part of has left some gaping wounds. She left me as I had just undergone surgery for stage 3 colon cancer, which I just had diagnosed a few weeks earlier. I moved back to New York to be near friends and family for my chemo treatments, and to get away from her, 1200 miles away. This has all been very difficult, in perhaps an understatement. I get up every morning doubting my ability to carry on, wondering especially in light of the past few months, whether the struggle of living is worth it. I had even considered foregoing the chemo, figuring that the certain death from cancer would spare me the stigma and damnation of suicide. And I struggle with thoughts of waiting that long, and enduring the physical pain that would entail. I've been in therapy, have been blessed with a therapist who has been invaluable the past few years, and also have sought the counsel of religious friends and clergy, who of course believe my ex girlfriend and the depression itself are a manifestation of the devil at work. I'm trying day by day but it's a struggle Douglas. I have found some relief in one of your favorite methods of relief--bicycle riding. Thank you for making these inspiring videos. They have helped to keep me on this Earth more than once. Bless you Doug.
Thank you so much for your videos Douglas. Great to hear from someone who has been struggling with depression for a long time. It gives me hope that I can live a meaningful life even with depression.
that joke was such a classic! also love when you make it on the spot! I feel like this is never going to end. that place is so dark and lonely. mixed with other things I have problems with, a shitshow. I hope this will pass someday. thank you for your video, I think I’ll start watching them with a pen in my hand so I can remind myself these things when I feel bad, and can’t seem to recall happy things and ways to help myself have a good day!:)
Douglas Bloch I go to therapy but I don’t always feel comfortable with sharing my darker thoughts. I just say I feel sad and describe it a little more, something like that
Laura Hercigonja hey Laura. Hope you get better soon. Trust me these things will all pass eventually it’s just you might think it’s tough now but I promise it’s not forever. The recovery process is always a case of two steps forward, one step back. Gradually you’ll condition will pass. I promise you’ll be okay!
I'm currently reading your book, When Going Through Hell Don't Stop, it's awesome! It mentions that suicidal thoughts can happen when "emotional pain exceeds the resources for coping with the pain." I think the better educated people are about depression, the more hopeful the outcome. Thank you for this video, esp. the closing sentiment. I needed to hear that today.
Thank you for reminding me about that graphic with the coping resources and suicidal pain. I think I'm going to do a video just on that. I'm glad you're enjoying the book. You might also like my book "healing from depression" which has the same memoir but also a 12 week recovery program.
@@DouglasBloch I'd be thrilled to hear you speak about that in a video! You've written several other books and I plan on getting my hands on all of them. I want your children's book for my 10-year-old niece. Kids have it tough today with all the expectations, and quickly evolving society. I remember times being much simpler whenever I was a little girl. Anyway 2020 has been so challenging for the entire world with the pandemic, wildfires, riots, hurricanes, etc., but I managed to be fortunate enough to stumble upon something really wonderful and that's you and your work. Thank you so much for everything Douglas!
My pastor always says our best days are ahead of us and he has a incurable brain cancer hes believing 100 that jesus will heal him n use his story for his glory
This is exactly what I needed today, a reminder that, though we don't know when, things will get better. Many scientists are working on finding a cure or vaccine for the pandemic. It is sometimes hard to see light at the end of the tunnel. I'm wearing my "This too shall pass" bracelet and it has been getting a workout today. My anxiety has been triggered by a series of events. Some of them are personal and there will be an endpoint but the agencies involved are taking their time or are overloaded with work and I'm not at the top of the list yet. I know that two of the most damaging words in our language for those of us suffering from depression and anxiety are "What If" and I tell myself to stop thinking about it but it is hard once it takes over. Maybe in the live chat tomorrow we can help each other with strategies to use when we get stuck on "What if" and "When?"
Thank you for your message of hope! The most difficult part, when you are in the black hole, is that any signs of hope is stripped away from you. Telling your story helps me to believe you, because I cannot believe it myself.
This is precisely why we need other people to hold hope for us when we cannot hold it for ourselves. See if you can find other people in addition to me who can't believe in your recovery. As I said in the video, your pain is not forever.
I wish we could all hug each other and give each other strength, hope and faith. This video has me in tears. Thank you, Douglas, for the love and devotion you send out to all of us.
@@AnnaSoll99 Thank you! And I'm sending you a virtual hug back! Living with pets but no human, therefore no physical contact with another human for months is not a recipe for healing but it is better than catching the COVID. We will all stick together and pull each other through.
Thank you for your words, they help me to feel better. Until tomorrow, when my health issues bother me again, I will return to this video. Much love happiness and good health to you.❤️
Thank you Douglas. This video came at the right time as if a guardian wanted me to hear you. I woke up today feeling claustrophobic and trapped in my life. Your advice gave me a tool I needed the most today and learn to live in the present and not be anxious about the future.
Bless you sir. Your videos are helping me immensely today. I want to be better, and feel better. I want to live life again and get out of the valley i feel so stuck in. I don’t want to be trapped anymore
@@DouglasBloch I’ve been using mental health services for a decade+ now. Due to some circumstances beyond my control i don’t have insurance now, so I’ve had to stop my medications and therepy. I’ve been trying to do the best I can with my support system and other available methods, but its so hard. But, with time I’m realizing how useless all the help has been if I’m not taking the lessons of therapy and applying it to my low points. Redirect my thinking and breaking the hallucination that depression traps us in. Your videos have been helping me immensely break through this invisible wall in my head that keeps me from feeling like i can reach out. I’m so grateful, Thankyou for helping people like me with these videos. I’m not going to be *fixed* at once, I get that now. but I’m starting my slow walk out of this valley and season, and that’s enough of a start! :) Thankyou!
I have recently been making great strides with anxiety since I had my first major panic attacks in September. I would watch your videos while walking on the treadmill which was very comforting. Thanks for your videos Douglas and all the great work you do. Your videos have a major impact on many people, especially during these unprecedented times. You have helped many, me included.
Thank you Douglas, your videos are life changing, I really look forward to watching them as I know I will always get some practical and very helpful things to work on, and you don’t talk down to people, you have understanding & compassion, probably because you have been thru it yourself, thank you!! 🇦🇺🇦🇺
Great Mr.Douglas. I am going to Anxiety for the past 1 months and it feels so bad that I am not going to come out of it. I am on therapy care and also take melatonin to help me sleep. I hope there is a light in the end of the tunnel I am walking to become my unique self. Thank you so much for all the videos
it depends on how you define forever. If forever means until the end of this life, pain can possibly last forever. if you believe in eternal life. , then all pains may be all gone one day after we die. But even though we may not be able to get rid of pain within this life, we can get used to it and take it as part of our worldly lives, with the help from God.
I have that Churchill quote on my kitchen wall in a frame. It helps me to keep going on bad days. It's not exactly a Live! Laugh! Love! sign, and I'm not entirely sure what visitors to my house make of it, but it is appropriate to my experience of life and that is all that matters to me.
Something happened today that I absolutely was not expecting and was pretty major and pretty much the only thing that has gone my way since the pandemic started. Already my mind is going back to its depressive state. I just want one day where I can feel happy and my mind doesn't go straight back to how everything is awful.
A lot of times, and only through this pandemic have I realized it, that I have a really harmful habit of calling my self a lot of bad names. I often call myself a lot of names just to hurt myself, and I often feel justified in my conviction, like I’ll call myself a racist but I know full well that I’m not, I love everyone I’ve never looked at a man with skin different from mine and said get away, but I still do things like that just so it just cuts deep, like metaphorically cutting with the names I call myself as the proverbial knife. I know this isn’t permanent, I need advice and encouragement on how to fix this I know it’s destructive and I want to fix it.
I was complaining to my therapist. I dont enjoy any of things I use to. I was told to find new things! When I feel low I love playing vudeo games. Brings instant relief Never stop looking for what works for you 😁😁
I don't like to be negative, but i'll let you know if and when the pain ends! Because, quite frankly, i've lost all ray of hope! Having said that, I always find your clips helpful. Thanks very much.
Thank you - a good video, but my pain has been for decades, I am a tryer , I have a faith in God, but the situation doesn't change. I do constantly live in hope.
Srihari, I am so sorry... I am in a similar situation. You must have been fighting continually to stay alive. I bow to your bravery. Love from Amsterdam
@@hparamesh I have suffered from depression since early childhood. Often didn't want to be alive. After I saw what my brothers suicide did to my mother, I decided to try and hang on as long she was alive. She died last year. I have no idea how to hang on. Many therapies and medications tried. Have become avoidant personality. I don't want to add to the suffering of other people, but fighting to stay alive is horrible and exhausting
I am going to watch this over and over as I get through some pretty severe anxiety and milder depression. As a teacher our whole world has been turned upside down and I want to serve my students well like I have always done. The pressures are intense and I will listen to this to help stop my negative thinking spirals. Thank you.
In my last episode, I did think about how it's a "season" as you said. But then I also thought -it will go away but it will also be back. That's kind of my struggle now. I feel ok today, but "Winter is coming" to borrow a phrase.
@@DouglasBloch hi Douglas I'm from Northern Ireland we get CNN here the only American news channel we get i really liked the name Wolf lol. My name is adrain keep the videos coming please and the very best of luck in your new project. 👍
@@DouglasBloch The whole video was wonderful, but mostly reminding me that whilst I’m in this deepest darkest hole of depression that it will end - reminding me that right now I will feel like that’s not true and actually it is true. It is something I am going to listen to over and over xxx Thank you so much
You are very welcome. Here are two other videos that essentially contain the same message. I hope you will find them helpful. Let me know. Thanks. Four Words That Can Save Your Life ua-cam.com/video/8wXcGhKbFkA/v-deo.html Depression Lies About the Future ua-cam.com/video/HoE06lSeQcE/v-deo.html
Depression is also a chemical/hormonal inbalance. As a menopausal woman, I can say this quite honestly. No amount of medication or therapy helps. Most therapists do not understand this and it is not taken seriously by any mental health group out there.
I was told by my therapist that I am severely depressed. I know that things will get better but I find it odd that I have to keep praying for or Creator to protect me, from myself. I have too many people that would be hurt if I harmed myself so I have no choice but to go on. I hate it. I feel trapped and stuck in an existence that is just such a waste of resources that could go to others more deserving. It feels like mental torture everyday to just get out of bed. I have to be my own drill sergeant just to walk to my desk to sit down and work my 8 hours. I'm maybe impatient but if I had major surgery there would be pain pills to take to ease the pain or blunt it. There is nothing for me or anyone suffering this. I have to take it. Doesn't emotional pain activate the same centers of the brain as physical pain? It's all just so much sorry for going off on one.
Any suggestions about about depression and anxiety about getting old. Or seeing friends or loved getting old and or dying ? (And not knowing what to do)
Your work is so important to people who struggle. Thank you.
You're a shining light for so many Douglas, keep safe my friend
Yes keep safe in the park I have nostalgic moments of sessions with therapy
I know but it follows me. Bouts of depression like a vicious cycle. Depression lies about future. This too shall pass.
Nothing lasts forever, neither Happiness or unhappiness.
how true.
The good news is that nothing lasts forever... the bad news is that nothing lasts forever
charles dickens poem it was the worst of times it was the best of times.
Oh man. That drone joke was classic.
I made it up on the spot
@@DouglasBloch Good one, Douglas! :-)
« To everything there is a season, and a time for every purpose... » love it! Most of the time, our pain is preparing us for something better, but we don’t know it in the moment. We evolve and change in moments of pain. The key is to take it one day at a time and to build on the small « wins ».
I agree. Thank you for your heart felt comment.
It’s almost like the more I suffer, the stronger I become. Because I know the dark sides of my mind have not beaten me yet and I continue to transcend it:)
There’s a famous quote by Nietzsche : “that which does not kill me makes me stronger.“
If I'm having a rough time with my mental health I try to slow my head down and live minute to minute. Cope with each minute as it happens, nothing more. It helps me deal with rising panic attacks, it helps me "what if" thoughts about the future or "did I?/I should have done better/more" thoughts about the past. It helps me deal with a racing mind when I have about ten streams of thought going on at once. Minute to minute thinking, just get through this minute and deal with the next one only when it comes a long.
Yes, minute to minute until the pain lifts.
Thankyou for your compassion and kind words. You give people words of hope and this is what people going through a depression desperately need. I can testify it will pass. I've just gone through a really rough season due to trying to come off psych meds. Ended up in a mess. Nearly at the end of a diazapam detox. Jesus has been my hope and strength. I just knew I had to keep going even through the darkest days. The light will come and it will make you a stronger character than before. God bless you all who are struggling 🙏 remember Jesus loves you, pour out your pain to Him and I promise you know He will help you. He is faithful, He will heal your mind and your pain whatever the cause ♥️
Rach..Can u do a favor??
I know this is an older vid but I just wanted to say thank you for this Doug. Things sre pretty bad for me right now and this is something I need to hear.
Same here.
Hope for the hope.
That's something,
... Hope we can hang on longer,... this effects our whole existence 🫶🙏
Thank you Douglas. When I am depressed and start ruminating, I use your strategy and say “Cancel, cancel, cancel”. I find it works immediately.
I remember watching this video when I was in a depressive episode. I was hopeless. Oh how I miss you friend.
This pandemic has taken so much from me. I had never been happier in my life when it hit. I was just promoted at the job that I love, was out of an unhappy relationship, seeing someone new and very special, had lots of travel planned, had a great social life, was in a great spot financially. Now almost all of that is gone. It's hard to imagine I will ever get back to that, it took me so long to cultivate those things. I'm just feeling really lost and scared and sad.
I’m so sorry to hear that, Rebecca. You’re not alone in this, and you will get all those lovely things back in due time. Please take care of yourself
Becca ..there`s 20 million plus of us feeling something similar in US & UK.....we just have to hang in.... Not easy baby.
Yes, you are not alone. This is hitting many people collectively. You can re-create everything that you had, even if it takes a while.
I am on the same boat unfortunately. Lost my job due illness last 2018 , tried opening a small business but failed and I felt like I am stuck right now, I can't do anything, down to my last cash. Trying to sell some of my stuff but nobody wants to buy yet. Bills piling up. I am in the room whole day trying to figure out what to do.
Rebecca, you are not alone...
Btw, I am all the way from the Philippines.
Girl! Same, about everything. I was happy for the first time in my life which had taken a lot of hard work and then this happened. I'm now starting to feel how much I've lost so I went back to therapy since I'm feeling like I may be going trough another depressive episode but if you were able to do it once I'm sure you can do it again! Hope you feel better soon♥️ What helps me is trying to help other people but always taking care of my mental and physical health first
“There is hope, there is life and your best days are ahead of you” - I’m writing this on 19th August 2023. I hope to be able to return one day with the message that the above statement was indeed correct! Love and light to anyone who is struggling right now xxx
Hope you are feeling better. Sending my energy and positivity.
@@S.C1970 how lovely of you to comment! I am doing so much better now as it happens! Thank you for your support and kind words x
@@emerbarry7695 Hey, how are you doing now? ❤
@@magdalenakedzior6716 absolutely great! Not a hint of depression. Still some anxiety lingering in my muscles but other than that, life is really good! ❤️
@@emerbarry7695 Damn girl, I'm really happy to hear that! I am in a depressive episode right now (it's probably my 4th one) and despite of being out of it in the past, my brain still believes that there is no end to it. I look for positive stories of people who got out of it, it gives me hope 😊 Wishing you a healthy life without problems 😊💕
Your voice and words are so comforting. Thank you for your wisdom ♥️
You are so welcome
lol at the intro joke - after 18 years just recently i believe it will never go away but this video gives me hope thank you Douglas you are a true amazing man
Thanks. I made that joke up on the spot
I agree totally, I used to plan ahead for this all the time and get let down when this didn’t go my way. For example I would punish myself emotionally when I used to workout, but I haven’t managed to follow a workout routine for a few years, I gave up for a while saying it was hopeless so this spiralled in to weight gain more depression and anxiety etc, I’m have been looking at my wellbeing differently over the last couple of months by saying to my self that ever workout is a good workout and as a result my diet is getting better my mind set is improving and I’m starting to like working out when I decide I want to on the day but I’m not beating myself up if I don’t workout I just move to the next day and try again.
It definitely takes time but I believe that as a result of this small change in my mindset I am more productive at work, I’m more motivated to do this in my personal life and my health is also improving.
It feels like it's never going away. I'm so worried I have permanent severe depression. I can't hold on much longer
You and I both...
Unable to even imagine.
I have so many issues.
Depression 😖🥀
Hope we see the light asap 🙏
@@klanderkalHe talked about seasons, I like that and Im going to encourage myself to think in season, fall winter spring summer …. And live in the moment- turn away from the future. Hope for success for all ❤
Thanks for this video. We are infinite eternal beings who will be in heaven forever, all of us. Every single one. There is nothing to fear.
Wonderful! Thank you for sharing such a soft and thoughtful message.
This reminds me a lot of the general mindset that Buddhists use in order to gain enlightenment. "Everything, both pain and pleasure, will eventually pass." It really helps me get a handle on things when pain or some sort of negative influence in the moment is making me feel as if my life will stay this way forever.
Words of wisdom Doug.............thank you....you are a LIGHT in a chasm of darkness...........
One way of grouping these different sources of pain was offered by Shneidman, who stated that psychological pain is caused by frustrated psychological needs. For example, the need for love, autonomy, affiliation, and achievement, or the need to avoid harm, shame, and embarrassment.👍
For me The need to to.avoid shame.
For me it stems from a perceived lack of acheivement
Respected dear..U r True...For An alone person suffers the xtreme most,after loosing family,kids,wealth,home,etc...😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 ,..then even medications didn,t support..,things r going out f control,the only hope is as Counseller says that u need a strong caring hand support..if anyone can take me away,keep me along for certain time to recover,...kindly can u supoort to keep,take me away with you..God is witness..will serve u till death..need ur strong support..plzzz don,t ignore,,looking for an urgent favorable reply
Douglas Bloch is a very informative person. I have been a depressed person from OCD for about 2 years and when it first came about I didn’t think it would end or that I could do anything about it. But only time will tell when the darkness fades and I need to hang in there until I get through it.
as i turn on my coping tools more it starts to get easier and more overcoming the black shadows of deaths but i know sometimes i need assurance from this platinum rated video:)
This channel has been the most helpful thing I’ve found in my struggles. Thank you so much.
Love your jokes. They make me smirk. It is good to know that this to shall pass. I'm starting to physically hurt. Going for walks is like I'm in a vise and everything tightens up. Then I can't breathe. So now I am resorting to chair exercises until this improves.
Hey DD..know how you feel.....talk to me !! ...I`m a FRIEND going thru the same shit...in UK...
Dear Douglas,
My husband of 25 years just confessed, that cheated in my for the last 1.5 years. I feel devastated and think, I can't bear this pain. Your words help me a little bit. Thank you.
You are very welcome. Betrayal is so hard. I hope you are getting support from friends or a counselor. Many years ago a partner cheated on me, but over time the pain has diminished
Douglas, it's good to watch one of your videos again. It's like a chat with a good friend.
We've talked before though email, as I've been dealing with severe depression and anxiety for quite some time. 2020 has been very rough on everyone, but perhaps myself a bit more.
I recently just ended a toxic relationship with a gal who I believe surely had Narcissistic personality disorder. She's out now and I've moved back to New York from Florida. However, the emotional and financial damage that she was a part of has left some gaping wounds. She left me as I had just undergone surgery for stage 3 colon cancer, which I just had diagnosed a few weeks earlier. I moved back to New York to be near friends and family for my chemo treatments, and to get away from her, 1200 miles away.
This has all been very difficult, in perhaps an understatement. I get up every morning doubting my ability to carry on, wondering especially in light of the past few months, whether the struggle of living is worth it. I had even considered foregoing the chemo, figuring that the certain death from cancer would spare me the stigma and damnation of suicide. And I struggle with thoughts of waiting that long, and enduring the physical pain that would entail.
I've been in therapy, have been blessed with a therapist who has been invaluable the past few years, and also have sought the counsel of religious friends and clergy, who of course believe my ex girlfriend and the depression itself are a manifestation of the devil at work.
I'm trying day by day but it's a struggle Douglas. I have found some relief in one of your favorite methods of relief--bicycle riding.
Thank you for making these inspiring videos. They have helped to keep me on this Earth more than once.
Bless you Doug.
Thanks for checking in. Keep persevering. Remember, “this too shall pass.”
Darn right keep moving forward and don’t stop
Thank you Douglas...I hope you are right.
Grounding is so important when it comes to thoughts that overwhelm. Great video, positive, supportive message.
Thank you from a Pacific Northwest gentleman. I'm glad the video was helpful.
The present day strategy is wonderful,thank you Dr Douglas , nothing is permanent except God the ever living and eternal
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I. Thank you my precious friend😊
Thank you so much for your videos Douglas. Great to hear from someone who has been struggling with depression for a long time. It gives me hope that I can live a meaningful life even with depression.
Many others have done so and you can too
that joke was such a classic! also love when you make it on the spot! I feel like this is never going to end. that place is so dark and lonely. mixed with other things I have problems with, a shitshow. I hope this will pass someday.
thank you for your video, I think I’ll start watching them with a pen in my hand so I can remind myself these things when I feel bad, and can’t seem to recall happy things and ways to help myself
have a good day!:)
Thanks Laura. Do you have other people in your environment that you can reach out to?
Douglas Bloch I go to therapy but I don’t always feel comfortable with sharing my darker thoughts. I just say I feel sad and describe it a little more, something like that
Laura Hercigonja hey Laura. Hope you get better soon. Trust me these things will all pass eventually it’s just you might think it’s tough now but I promise it’s not forever. The recovery process is always a case of two steps forward, one step back. Gradually you’ll condition will pass. I promise you’ll be okay!
Alex Haines thank you. hope you are doing well:)
I'm currently reading your book, When Going Through Hell Don't Stop, it's awesome! It mentions that suicidal thoughts can happen when "emotional pain exceeds the resources for coping with the pain." I think the better educated people are about depression, the more hopeful the outcome. Thank you for this video, esp. the closing sentiment. I needed to hear that today.
Thank you for reminding me about that graphic with the coping resources and suicidal pain. I think I'm going to do a video just on that. I'm glad you're enjoying the book. You might also like my book "healing from depression" which has the same memoir but also a 12 week recovery program.
@@DouglasBloch I'd be thrilled to hear you speak about that in a video! You've written several other books and I plan on getting my hands on all of them. I want your children's book for my 10-year-old niece. Kids have it tough today with all the expectations, and quickly evolving society. I remember times being much simpler whenever I was a little girl. Anyway 2020 has been so challenging for the entire world with the pandemic, wildfires, riots, hurricanes, etc., but I managed to be fortunate enough to stumble upon something really wonderful and that's you and your work. Thank you so much for everything Douglas!
My pastor always says our best days are ahead of us and he has a incurable brain cancer hes believing 100 that jesus will heal him n use his story for his glory
This is exactly what I needed today, a reminder that, though we don't know when, things will get better. Many scientists are working on finding a cure or vaccine for the pandemic. It is sometimes hard to see light at the end of the tunnel. I'm wearing my "This too shall pass" bracelet and it has been getting a workout today. My anxiety has been triggered by a series of events. Some of them are personal and there will be an endpoint but the agencies involved are taking their time or are overloaded with work and I'm not at the top of the list yet. I know that two of the most damaging words in our language for those of us suffering from depression and anxiety are "What If" and I tell myself to stop thinking about it but it is hard once it takes over. Maybe in the live chat tomorrow we can help each other with strategies to use when we get stuck on "What if" and "When?"
Hi Shirley how are u??
Thanks Shirley
Keep on trucking. This too shall pass. Thanks Douglas
This video kept showing up on my feed. Then I clicked and realized I needed to hear this today. Thank you.
You’re welcome. I like the message of the video
Thank you for your message of hope! The most difficult part, when you are in the black hole, is that any signs of hope is stripped away from you. Telling your story helps me to believe you, because I cannot believe it myself.
This is precisely why we need other people to hold hope for us when we cannot hold it for ourselves. See if you can find other people in addition to me who can't believe in your recovery. As I said in the video, your pain is not forever.
I wish we could all hug each other and give each other strength, hope and faith. This video has me in tears. Thank you, Douglas, for the love and devotion you send out to all of us.
Hi Shirley how are you?
I feel you. I’ve really been needing someone to be here with me. *sending you a virtual hug*
@@AnnaSoll99 Thank you! And I'm sending you a virtual hug back! Living with pets but no human, therefore no physical contact with another human for months is not a recipe for healing but it is better than catching the COVID. We will all stick together and pull each other through.
Thank you Mr. Bloch, fantastic video!
You are very welcome
I am recently going through severe depression and anxiety and came across your channel and I am feeling great. Thanks
I’m glad the videos are helpful
I will watch this every day!
I'm glad you found it helpful
I love you Douglas, thanks for being such a peaceful soul
Thank you.
Douglas thank you so much. Your words give me hope. Knowing that You've been through hell and kept going inspires me to Keep going. True hero 😍
Thank you for your words, they help me to feel better. Until tomorrow, when my health issues bother me again, I will return to this video.
Much love happiness and good health to you.❤️
Thank you
Homieeeee where has this video been!? 🔥🔥🔥 Best advice ive ever heard for getting thru a low spot - thanks
I'm glad the information is helpful. I have done another similar video called "four words that can save your life." You might want to watch it
Thank you Douglas. This video came at the right time as if a guardian wanted me to hear you. I woke up today feeling claustrophobic and trapped in my life. Your advice gave me a tool I needed the most today and learn to live in the present and not be anxious about the future.
I'm glad my ideas were helpful
Bless you sir. Your videos are helping me immensely today. I want to be better, and feel better. I want to live life again and get out of the valley i feel so stuck in. I don’t want to be trapped anymore
Keep persevering. Have you reached out for help? Have you thought mental health treatment. This could help you recover
@@DouglasBloch I’ve been using mental health services for a decade+ now. Due to some circumstances beyond my control i don’t have insurance now, so I’ve had to stop my medications and therepy. I’ve been trying to do the best I can with my support system and other available methods, but its so hard.
But, with time I’m realizing how useless all the help has been if I’m not taking the lessons of therapy and applying it to my low points. Redirect my thinking and breaking the hallucination that depression traps us in.
Your videos have been helping me immensely break through this invisible wall in my head that keeps me from feeling like i can reach out. I’m so grateful, Thankyou for helping people like me with these videos.
I’m not going to be *fixed* at once, I get that now. but I’m starting my slow walk out of this valley and season, and that’s enough of a start! :) Thankyou!
This is really really helpful
Hearing classics if music or playing relaxing video games in chill seasons of mood can help
Strong word!
I have recently been making great strides with anxiety since I had my first major panic attacks in September. I would watch your videos while walking on the treadmill which was very comforting. Thanks for your videos Douglas and all the great work you do. Your videos have a major impact on many people, especially during these unprecedented times. You have helped many, me included.
Thank you for your kind words. what part of the world do you live in?
@@DouglasBloch Pennsylvania
Thank you Douglas, your videos are life changing, I really look forward to watching them as I know I will always get some practical and very helpful things to work on, and you don’t talk down to people, you have understanding & compassion, probably because you have been thru it yourself, thank you!! 🇦🇺🇦🇺
Thanks Roz. You were correct. I’ve been through this myself many times
Great Mr.Douglas. I am going to Anxiety for the past 1 months and it feels so bad that I am not going to come out of it. I am on therapy care and also take melatonin to help me sleep. I hope there is a light in the end of the tunnel I am walking to become my unique self. Thank you so much for all the videos
You're welcome.
Melatonin made my anxiety worse.
Thanks Douglas
There is hope...this too shall pass...and it will.
it depends on how you define forever. If forever means until the end of this life, pain can possibly last forever. if you believe in eternal life. , then all pains may be all gone one day after we die. But even though we may not be able to get rid of pain within this life, we can get used to it and take it as part of our worldly lives, with the help from God.
I have that Churchill quote on my kitchen wall in a frame. It helps me to keep going on bad days. It's not exactly a Live! Laugh! Love! sign, and I'm not entirely sure what visitors to my house make of it, but it is appropriate to my experience of life and that is all that matters to me.
So true!
Something happened today that I absolutely was not expecting and was pretty major and pretty much the only thing that has gone my way since the pandemic started. Already my mind is going back to its depressive state. I just want one day where I can feel happy and my mind doesn't go straight back to how everything is awful.
A lot of times, and only through this pandemic have I realized it, that I have a really harmful habit of calling my self a lot of bad names. I often call myself a lot of names just to hurt myself, and I often feel justified in my conviction, like I’ll call myself a racist but I know full well that I’m not, I love everyone I’ve never looked at a man with skin different from mine and said get away, but I still do things like that just so it just cuts deep, like metaphorically cutting with the names I call myself as the proverbial knife. I know this isn’t permanent, I need advice and encouragement on how to fix this I know it’s destructive and I want to fix it.
Dudeman.. u must b feeling strange but it seems u will truly help...So requesting...can u support to keep an alone person ??
Really needed this right now. Thank you Douglas 🙏
I was complaining to my therapist.
I dont enjoy any of things I use to.
I was told to find new things!
When I feel low I love playing vudeo games. Brings instant relief
Never stop looking for what works for you 😁😁
Thanks for your encouragement
Sir thanks so much for explaining I was stuck in somewhere and unable to move forward
Your doing a great job Douglas, thanks for blessing us with your knowledge and wisdom much love namaste 🙏 x
You're welcome.
Thank you for your video Douglas! Positive Vibes
I don't like to be negative, but i'll let you know if and when the pain ends! Because, quite frankly, i've lost all ray of hope! Having said that, I always find your clips helpful. Thanks very much.
Nice to hear from you again Malcolm
Thanks for this.🙂
You're very welcome
You are such an amazing man Doug!!!! I love you!!! ♥️
Thanks Valentina. The love is reciprocated. I think I saw you on the live chat once is that correct?
Thanks for this amazing video, Douglas! Exactly what I do, always go for a walk when I am in a crisis. It relaxes me a lot.
Thank you - a good video, but my pain has been for decades, I am a tryer , I have a faith in God, but the situation doesn't change. I do constantly live in hope.
What treatments you tried to reduce your pain
Great video Douglas 💚 just what is needed
I felt amazing listening to you.
Thankyou very much
THANKYOU THANKYOU ❤️
You're welcome.
Your video helps and makes sense thanks
I hope your right hope is all iv got
Thank you so much for what you do (: ♡
You're welcome.
I have suffered since 1990 think the pain is forever going to be with me.
Srihari, I am so sorry... I am in a similar situation. You must have been fighting continually to stay alive. I bow to your bravery. Love from Amsterdam
Thanks 🙏🏾 I left medical school & pharmacy school because of Bipolar Depression. What’s your story love to hear it
@@hparamesh I have suffered from depression since early childhood. Often didn't want to be alive. After I saw what my brothers suicide did to my mother, I decided to try and hang on as long she was alive. She died last year. I have no idea how to hang on. Many therapies and medications tried. Have become avoidant personality. I don't want to add to the suffering of other people, but fighting to stay alive is horrible and exhausting
Definitely in a season of despair.
Good job, Douglas!
Wonderful message, Douglas , Very cute joke too. Thank you for the inspiration that you give.
I am going to watch this over and over as I get through some pretty severe anxiety and milder depression. As a teacher our whole world has been turned upside down and I want to serve my students well like I have always done. The pressures are intense and I will listen to this to help stop my negative thinking spirals. Thank you.
You give me hope to keep on fighting
Why is depression so powerful?
Great advice Douglas
You are everything to me
I'm glad the videos are helpful.
...thank you. If enemies are involved, psalm 25 was helpful
In my last episode, I did think about how it's a "season" as you said. But then I also thought -it will go away but it will also be back. That's kind of my struggle now. I feel ok today, but "Winter is coming" to borrow a phrase.
I also worry about my next depression. But anytime you go to the future just say cancel cancel and bring your self back to the hear and now
Thank you for these videos.
You're welcome
Thanks Douglas these videos help focus my mind 👍
Nice to hear from you again
Thanks Douglas hope your well 👍
I'm keeping busy creating a website on suicide prevention. It's interesting that you have the same name as a journalist on CNN television
@@DouglasBloch hi Douglas I'm from Northern Ireland we get CNN here the only American news channel we get i really liked the name Wolf lol. My name is adrain keep the videos coming please and the very best of luck in your new project. 👍
I think you may have just saved my life x
I'm glad that to hear this, as I believe that we can survive our ordeals. Was there a specific part of the video that was helpful?
@@DouglasBloch The whole video was wonderful, but mostly reminding me that whilst I’m in this deepest darkest hole of depression that it will end - reminding me that right now I will feel like that’s not true and actually it is true. It is something I am going to listen to over and over xxx Thank you so much
You are very welcome. Here are two other videos that essentially contain the same message. I hope you will find them helpful. Let me know. Thanks.
Four Words That Can Save Your Life
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Depression Lies About the Future
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@@DouglasBloch oh Wow! Thank you so much - you are so incredibly kind to do this! I’m so grateful to you! Thank you, I shall watch these tonight xxx
Depression is also a chemical/hormonal inbalance. As a menopausal woman, I can say this quite honestly. No amount of medication or therapy helps. Most therapists do not understand this and it is not taken seriously by any mental health group out there.
Menopausal women I know I've told me the same thing. What kinds of treatments are you seeking to get your hormones back into balance
Another great video 🙏
Resistant depression is a mental epidemic while in pandemic.
agreed
Thank you❤️
I was told by my therapist that I am severely depressed. I know that things will get better but I find it odd that I have to keep praying for or Creator to protect me, from myself. I have too many people that would be hurt if I harmed myself so I have no choice but to go on. I hate it. I feel trapped and stuck in an existence that is just such a waste of resources that could go to others more deserving. It feels like mental torture everyday to just get out of bed. I have to be my own drill sergeant just to walk to my desk to sit down and work my 8 hours. I'm maybe impatient but if I had major surgery there would be pain pills to take to ease the pain or blunt it. There is nothing for me or anyone suffering this. I have to take it. Doesn't emotional pain activate the same centers of the brain as physical pain? It's all just so much sorry for going off on one.
Snuffy, r u there
@@malikzafar7232 Yes feeling better too thanks for caring.
@@snuffyscorner . Nice. Wish u much more happiness ahead.. Where r u from??
Any suggestions about about depression and anxiety about getting old. Or seeing friends or loved getting old and or dying ? (And not knowing what to do)