I like how you explained the disorder without contempt for the person with the disorder. Sometimes clinicians speak about people with personality orders with contempt, or like they are bad people. You conveyed it in a way that they are people who deserve our help.
Unless they completely ruin your life for 13 years and produce 3 young children, one with DS and then tell you they never loved you one day with their “Flip Switch”. No offense but with out serious repentance with God, they are pure evil.
@Itachi Uchiha He didn't say it was malfunctioning, he said it can malfunction. Personality Disorders are disorders because they're not normal and are toxic to society, it's not operating as intended. ASPD is caused by brain damage, PTSD, and genetics (where a part of your brain is completely disabled), emotions would be *required* if we weren't in such a modern age (they still are necessary), which is also why it'd be a disorder.
It's my opinion that histrionic personality disorder is sort of like the clock stopping on a personality of a child and that child growing up with that same personality.
I had a breakdown, got blocked by 2 people, removed 3 people, and cried outside with my dog for 3 hours because I didn't understand what was wrong with me, and then I just came across this video.. and it all makes sense... I want help.. :(
My best friend fits all the criteria and I’ve always been convinced she’d get an HPD diagnosis if she went to get diagnosed. I have BPD, usually fitting the quiet type. We became friends on my 18th birthday. I’ll be 32 next week and I still love her to bits, and she’s been the one person I’ve always known I could rely on. It did take us a while to realise how our personalities fit with one another, but it eventually happened. She’s the first person I came out to, she’s been nothing but supportive. I love her stories and her theatricality, and I’ve learned not to be bothered about her attention seeking, because through this, she’s never stopped being a good friend.
@@ceterisparibus8966 Attention seeking on its own is not necessarily a problem. In fact, some amount is natural for all people. Everyone needs attention. The problem is when a person is uncomfortable as soon as someone else has the spotlight. It’s makes everyone in group upset to get interrupted when telling a good story or joke. And it’s harmful to the person with HPD because it’s only natural that they will not CONSTANTLY be the center of attention, no matter what they do. So this means they will often be unhappy, and often make inappropriate jokes which will could make their bosses and coworkers not respect them, and casual associates will not want them around if the attention seeking comes across as rude. Truth is, usually when people say “attention seeking” they are referring to an excessive need for attention that interferes with normal and enjoyable socializing.
Mandy Muir I think there's a certain molotov cocktail that is particularly-- cough-- 'interesting'. Histrionic + Borderline-- If you ever want to know what it would be like to be in Dante's 7th layer of hell, just try to hold a conversation with someone with both of these combined.
Mandy Muir agree. i had my birthday tiara ripped from my head in the middle of my birthday party because it had hit midnight and was now her birthday... she, to this day, cannot understand why it hurt me.
Tianthee Warcraft They will justify anything. They can do no wrong. My sister with this disorder seduced my boyfriend, just as she tries to seduce almost every man she comes across. Then then she tried to justify it by saying I was lucky that she caught him out and showed him up as being unfaithful! She also did this "favor" for one of my sisters by seducing her husband. Fortunately not all of my men in the past have found her attractive despite the fact that she's physically beautiful. They were turned off by her personality disorder traits like her conceit and self-centeredness.
I had a friend who fits all this criteria. We met at 15 and were friends until around 19. She kept lying to gain sympathy and attention from anyone she could, and she always needed to be in a relationship, but would lose interest quickly, and find a new relationship to be in. I couldn't deal with it anymore. The few times I was able to get the real her to talk to me was awesome... She was a sweet, smart girl, but she was usually this constantly changing mask. And always very extreme. She kept hurting me and it didn't seem like she cared. She would always deflect. When people tried having meaningful conversations and expressed worry to her, she would say we weren't really being friends/family, then run off with the "friends" that really didn't care about her well being (would put her in risky situations and convince her that it was okay). Then she would randomly pop back into your life as if nothing happened. I cut all contact with her, but I think of her from time to time. I've never had a close friendship break like that. My friends from elementary school are still my best mates. I miss her sometimes, but she was a toxic person to me. From what I've heard she's not doing well. I hope she's able to find peace with herself one day and accept that sometimes when people are "judging her" they're just worried and trying to reach out and keep her safe.
After reading your comment, I think this whole time I thought my ex was BPD, when she really has HPD. Your story sounds so much like her it aint funny.
This is the first video that I've seen throughout my big YT research on this topic that hasn't made me feel like a clown for being histrionic! Thank you, you have a really nice way to approach the matter and it makes me feel like I can solve it without feeling threatened.
@@Sarit473 I don't even know where you guys are getting off on saying that, that's the Narcissistic and Antisocial personality disorders that I think you guys are thinking about, I barely even heard about this disorder and frankly don't know why the stupid as fuck DSM-V tries listing it as Cluster B now, but I can at least understand how and why people would try lumping in Borderlines just because some of the switching and splitting can become very antisocial even though they actually feel really bad about it and are totally insecure and love very deeply, which is the exact opposite of what narcissism and sociopathy is. Which come to think about it makes it even more unlikely seeming and funny that Borderlines tend so often to glom on to antisocials and narcissists. But anyway I'd wondered if there'd been any overlap with Histrionic and others. It is not a "bad person" type of disorder like the Cluster B's afaik. So the guy up there saying that about wrecking his family just sounded like, idk more like narcissist or borderline or something like that. Which I can see why people give NPDs, BPDs, and ASPDs such a horrible reputation. But not HPD afaik.
@@Sarit473we don’t think you all are monsters… we just think you all don’t know that you’re not the sun and the world does not revolve around you. Just repeat that to yourself and you’ll be quite alright. 😂
life is hell for someone with HPD I just recently found out about this disorder and it describes me perfectly, even before knowing about it I worked on not feeling so bad about not being the center of attention so it's not my biggest issue. If we destroy people's lives we also suffer I for one love my family so much but I keep hurting them with my anger issues on top of post traumatic stress disorder, HPD and deep seated anger I have taken medication I have gone to celebrate recovery AA meeting's etc, etc nothing seems to be working I wished to die as it seems the only solution but I'm to coward to go through it. I don't enjoy hurting anyone I cry and feel bad for being such a bitch Im also an empath So please don't hate on people like us some of us have a heart too.😥
Luna en Casa De Acuario918 Luna Newby My mother, aunt and grandfather have this. My mother was seductive in all situations with men. My husband would not stay in the same room with her by himself.
The first issue I find from your reply here is: "Don't hate on people like us" Typical histrionic to want people to like them and this you need to stop aswell - Don't give a fuck about what people think about you, only give a fuck about what YOU think about yourself. Histrionic people seeks validation 24/7 and it's bad for you... Stop giving a fuck about what others think about you! Learn to exist as you are without validation, set some goals in life, go to the gym, do things that makes you feel good but for god sake, stop posting every moment of your life on insta, facebook, twitter etc. - Give your self the validation you need when you look in the mirror and stop giving a fuck about what others think...
I believe you. You still have a heart. The one in my family does not. She gloats at the misery and suffering of others. I wish you well. I wish you a full recovery.
It could be worse: at least you don't have borderline personality disorder (those people enjoy hurting others)... and you don't any serious physical disability. Do what a stoic or a buddhist would do, and imagine how things could get even worse for you, and be thankful that they aren't. As a stoic philosopher once pointed out (I'm paraphrasing), if you haven't committed suicide yet there must be something in your life that's making it worth living for. Also if you want more mental stability & clarity go on the ketogenic diet or at least a very low carb diet. It really helped me with my problems
Hi so I’m Histrionic and I think you didn’t really expres yourself very good. So yes, we used to make things to get others atenthion, but this is because we have no selflove so we need others to love us because we feel so alone. And another caracter that for me is super important, is that we aren’t like a kid, we don’t know we are trying to get others atenthion, we just do it. In my case, I hate beeing the center of the atention, but I always am.
I've been involved with an HPD girl. It was a roller coaster ride that was fun at first but turned into world of hurt. At the end it was exhausting and a emptiness void.
I think I have this and I rarely feel romantic feelings so I just think it's easier for everyone that I just be friends or sex friends with people. Non monogamy has definitely been easier than monogamy because of these reasons
This is not my first time learning about this disorder. It was actually 6 years ago and I looked into it on and off since. Reflecting, I feel like my first girlfriend had this diagnosis and being in a relationship was something I will never forget. It was over 20 years ago but the level of emotion and attention needed was overwhelming to point of confusion. She is and still is a great person but that need to feel validation and love through attention is that of which is like a black hole in outer space. It never can be satisfied, just a constant vacuum. The relationship only lasted three months but I will never forget it. It was traumatic in some ways but at the very most was a huge Learning experience. I never gave so much and had someone beg for more while being in pain. With this disorder there is no pacification, the need is constant, and without constant attention, the person absolute breaks down. It’s a very very hard condition to live with, I feel for her.
Hi there, I'm an LPC and often use your videos such as this one as a tool by letting the patient watch at home so as to gain fury understanding of a diagnosis. Thank you for the work/effort on your part .
I think I have this. I'm super emotional and feel the need to be the center of attention almost all the time. Relationships are really hard because I get attached to people really quickly and will do anything they want so I end up hurting myself. I try to kind of fill up my life with as much excitement and attention as possible
This speaks volumes to me! My friends don't mind this behaviour until it's overbearing. I can't always tell when I've gone overboard or when I do it's difficult to stop.
i love how these "normal" people are trying to make out people with personality disorders out to be a bad person. trust me it doesn't take a personality disorder to be a evil individual, and when you point the finger at others always remember you have 3 pointing right back! to me the only REAL disorder are all these comments about how terrible others are, without looking in the mirror.
Thank-you, also just because you have a personality disorder, does not make you evil, and it doesn't make it not treatable. Personality disorders are something that people can't really control or change, unless they get help. It's not necessarily the individual's fault for having it, especially if they experienced a trauma, that could have been a huge contributing factor in the development of the disorder.
For me in order to respect these type of people is once they stop victimizing themselves to own that they have a disorder and accept that they are the root of the problem instead of blaming others for their miserable life. Once they accept this i will not consider them as bad anymore, it is the first step into receiving help and wanting the help, in order not to change but to improve.
No one ever talks about the rage that bubbles under the surface and also obsessive envy they have when they're having to share the spotlight. I knew one histrionic woman who grabbed a baseball bat and wacked another woman in the head from above, because she had offended her. They have a threatening vibe too, like bullies but with a sweet overly friendly personality. I know another who as a grown woman fought a 12yr old who had offended her - just plain lost it.
I'm honestly terrified incase I have this, and I'm not sure if it's my anxiety telling me i'm an attention seeker or if i may struggle with this? I'm so confused.
Sufferers of Histrionic personality disorder are not self-aware of their illness. In fact, your self-critism basically completely invalidates the analysis that you have HPD, unless you have 5-8 of the symptoms stated in the video.
+TheTenthFirefly If you tell yourself that it's just because you are an "attention seeker" you likely do not have it. From the way Kati put it, most people with this disorder aren't self=critical, calling yourself an attention seeker is.
I (bipolar) was in a three person bi relationship with two girls, one histrionic, the other bipolar and borderline. It was extremely intense and chaotic.
I was in a mental hospital and my therapist there told me that I have this disorder but she never really explained it to me so thank you for explaining
It's really sad when I thought that I was a closer with my friends and they thought i'm weird and annoying. It's really hard to find a friend with HPD since people looks you as a loud-mouthed,annoying person.
Awww, I'm so sorry that happened to you, I may have BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) I'm trying to get a diagnosed from a licensed psychiatrist but let me tell you I know how if feels when the people you thought you were close to weren't necessarily too fond of you this was the case with me and my sister and I was heartbroken because I thought were also best friends here's a virtual hug, it's not as good as a real one but it does help a little
I don't usually feel like this, but I definitely see myself as more than 5 of these and I've never realized that this was a condition more than I just like being the center of attention - it really made me stop and think when she mentioned "considers relationships with others to be closer than they really are", this is absolutely me and I feel hurt when other people don't see me the same way because I'm desperate for friends that care about me the same way I'm quick to attach to people. :(
This was my ex-girlfriend to a T - huge social butterfly who did not stop talking and moving and wanted to be the center of attention always . I found it very difficult to feel emotionally intimate with her as the depth of conversation was rather shallow.
Pining for the fjords I had a friend that met this criteria. We are polar opposites, I have high high anxiety and I feel very very uncomfortable being the center of attention. She loves it
I sadly meet all this criteria and I meet the criteria for narcissism too. I'm so sad and disappointed. I always wanted to be a good person and finding out that I might be a histrionic and a narcissist it's so sad. Like, I already had enough issues to sort out...now this! And the nice people I probably push away... ***Does anyone know any self-help books on this? I cannot afford therapy right now.
I use an app called Ada, only because I'm not comfortable with therapy right now, I might actually go in like a couple of months or so. But the app is really safe and it takes it's time I really recommend it. When you do have enough money to afford it, I recommend going immediately bcuz self diagnosing can be mentally draining but that is up to you and how comfortable you feel with therapy
Read A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. Everyone needs it, not just you. It will teach you how to transcend your conditioned mental and emotional patterns. Master it, and you'll become more powerful than you can possibly imagine.
I took extasy and it helped me out. I felt great so they got me thinking if I can feel this way by a pill, why cant i feel this way in REAL life. I have been to hell and back but I will not bore you. Just keep searching and eventually it wll just click...... the biggest secret is that you are living in a matrix, so throw out your TV. Just enjoy the show
I’ve never heard of this before today and I believe it may be me. I’ve always felt this way and it really stems from my parents being gone all the time and not having friends in my formative years. I found myself having bouts like this and struggled so hard to even find out who I really am and even when I ask people to describe me all that comes out is this repetition of all the traits I’ve picked up from other people. I am no person. Just a shell of one and quite honestly I’ve become so toxic I’ve had friends become hostile towards me from it (I lied about something important to them, and they have told me not to come near them again or else). I don’t even notice sometimes and that’s what gets me. Lately though I have sought help at least for my pathological lying and will start with the rest of these symptoms ASAP. I cant wait to suggest this to my therapist and finally get the help I need.
Found this after the Amber Johnny trial. The way you explain that HPD explains emotionally and lack of details really tell how AH was on stand. Damn. It's spot on. Just like what Dr. Curry said.
Your channel reminds me of something, for one... I like the way you title and regard these illnesses, without a hint of shaming or pushing away. And it reminds me of the time when I positevly embraced aspects about myself, without condition but a genuinitity of really seeing something lovable, of understanding, some call it self love but it is the best feeling in the world. I promise.
My 12 year old amazing daughter was recently "diagnosed" with HPD. I say diagnosed loosely because at 12 they cannot give her Histrionic P.D. as a diagnosis in the books yet. They'll have to wait for her to turn 18. My theory is with some hard prayer and guidance from therapists and her psychiatrist maybe there is hope to turn her around on her toes the other way before its too late and she's 18 with a real diagnosis of HPD. With God and everyone's help and her participation we have much hope!
give her attention and affection, talk with her, praise her, even play with her. I know of a 13 yo who had sex with HUNDREDS of men and boys just to get attention, she also ended becoming obese and had loose skin at 18 despite being still overweight. she might show off her naked body to random strangers just for attention sake too. there are others who fuck up their lives by saying outrageous things online just for attention. there are others who develop eating disorders to get attention (eugenia cooney might have this) 12 is barely an adolescent you can do still a lot to help her grow into a healthy woman,
Hello, I see your comment is from 4 years ago, which makes your girl close to being able to get a Dx. As a person diagnosed BPD at 16, I can attest that the precocious Dx was definitely a TIME SAVER for me, TWO years ahead of all the therapies I needed and today, recently turned 27 I feel that my life is FINALLY making sense, im tearing up just writing this. I have cleansed the toxic people that I used to need to please out of fear of them abandoning me. Around 10 exes that I would orbitate through social media in hopes one perhaps still loved me (I now know they never did) i found a GREAT boyfriend, planning to marry in the near future. We grow stronger each year that goes by! I learned to deal with my addictions. So far, I still do cocaine once every month or two, which I know coke may sound too hard for most people but 1 a month is a great progress compared to 2 a week. I feel almost proud of myself. I can’t say I feel entirely proud of myself. Cause, even though I was ahead of therapy, I fell a little behind in life. I am FINALLY graduating from college and starting my own business that my boyfriend is helping me develop. I feel blessed, and now I know that I am worthy of love, and i am worthy of good things too, And for me, my partner has been so healing that even if we break up, I now know that my life wont be over, because for the first time I see myself as someone that has worth and doesn’t need someone else to cancel the noise in my head, because now it’s closer to a pleasant melody. I hope your daughter is in a similar path. Xx
wow!!! I am so thankful for finding this!! I was diagnosed with a borderline personality with histrionic traits.... I read the 64 page psych assesment...and didn't fully ever understand what this meant... I did go to intensive psychotherapy and finished successfully!! but was never fully disclosed on the histrionic trait meaning... I was quite young when I was diagnosed with adhd... and later on at 22 with the previous diagnosis. For me I identify with this criteria about 50%
If it means anything, people with personality disorders usually don't perceive themselves as having a personality disorder. Just the fact that you're self-aware and questioning it is a safe sign you might not have it.
Me too. And I meet the criteria for narcissism too. I'm so sad and disappointed. I always wanted to be a good person and finding out that I might be a histrionic and a narcissist it's so sad. Like, I already had enough issues to sort out...now this! And the nice people I probably push away... ****Does anyone know any self-help books on this? I cannot afford therapy right now.
Met a girl who was exactly like this. During her episodes, she'd often talk about how incredibly shitty her parents were. For context, she was 17 and to that day she'd never made her own bed or cooked for herself or cleaned her room; parents drove her to school every day despite living literally 10 mins away; got her everything and anything she asked for. So it used to make my blood boil every single time lol, but looking back, I feel sorry that I didn't know as much about psychology as I do now. At the time, I thought families were dysfunctional only if money or a parental figure was lacking, or if the parents were aggressive and abusive, etc. I didn't understand bratty attention seekers develop those tools to deal with neglect. I didn't quite know neglect can cause just as much harm as active forms of abuse. I haven't heard from her since, but I reckon she was right to an extent. “My parents don't ever fucking pay attention to me”. I guess that was exactly why she turned out like that. Hope she got the help she needed.
I recently ended a friendship (and have been contact-free for 6 weeks or so) with a woman who fits these criteria quite well. she also has a TBI and was previously dx'd with BPD. we're both in our 30s, yet her father cautioned me about her when I first met him. she'd say life wasn't worthwhile without me, took on all ny interests and ideas until I started to feel like I was lacking a true sense autonomy. she made a big effort to become close to my parents and long-time friends, sometimes for reassurance and attwntion, sometimes to exploit their generosity. she is now seeing my parents' married, older neighbor/former friend several times a week. I have CPTSD and go to therapy 2x a week, but I'm having trouble getting the help from my therapist that I need to recover from 8 months of controlling, obsessive and dramatic behavior. I've tried to explain to my therapist how this has affected me, but I'm still really struggling. she lives directly above me, so I will eventually run into her. I can't take the constant anxiety..... I'd appreciate any input/advice you can offer
I hate how people in the comments make it seem like ALL people with hpd are abusive. That is simply not the case. Just because someone you know someone with hpd who is abusive/toxic, doesn’t mean everyone with hpd is also that way! Hpd and abusiveness/toxicity of a person have nothing to do with each other. If that person is abusive, then they’re abusive regardless of whether or not they have a personality disorder.
Euh, MOST toxic and/or abusive parents, friends and partners are diagnosed with at least one cluster B personality disorder. Just because you and a few other people are the exception doesn't mean the rule doesn't apply. You're actually taking other peoples LIVES, ABUSE, TRAGEDIES and pains and making it about you. Even worse, dismissing it all. That's rich. I wouldn't normally leave any type of mean or hateful comment, but come on, you don't get to dismiss other people's ruined and devastated lives just because you happen to be one of the good guys.
I have a coworker who very likely has this. Constantly telling stories where it's obvious he's stretching the truth to the fullest. If you call him out he emotionally explodes. If things get quiet he will do any number of things to gain attention. Im short he hits about every number on this list.
I didn't understand this disorder but I now get it so much more. I thought that I had this, but I realized that there is a huge difference between signs of neglect and trauma, and signs of a personality disorder. When a kid is raised in a home with immature parents, the child can have emotional outbursts to show their unmet needs. When this follows into adulthood it definitely can be treated. But a reoccurring need to be seen and not knowing if you are worthy to be loved as you are, that can be a sign of unmet relationship needs at home as a kid. I just feel much better knowing what was going on with me as a teen.
The first woman I fell in love with was thought to be histrionic by one psychologist I had. She was a very pretty young woman and she had a pretty redhead mother who was bipolar. She married an Italian guy. The 2nd woman I fell in love with I think was experiencing a lot of manic phases of bipolar in the year I worked with her before the bipolar diagnosis. I loved being in the same room as her, seeing her beautiful face and hearing her sweet intense voice. I love you Abby,,, hope we can be friends again some day.
After not talking to me almost 4 years she finally returned an email on Christmas Day 2020. She had recently married a guy she had been dating 4+ years. She said that a lot had happened since we last talked that she had to fill me in with. Then a few minutes later she said her husband Dave doesn’t want us to communicate. I’m happy for her that she found someone to marry. Maybe her and I were not compatible. I love her very much and I think of her almost every day. But I’m not going to intrude in her marriage when her husband Dave doesn’t want us to communicate. Being in my 50’s, single, lonely and never married is very frustrating.
I have a female coworker at my job that did this exactly with coughing really loud and hard and turned around to see if I was watching, she did it about 4 times that day and touching me and eventually hugged me one time, and forever flirting with men and saying off the wall sexual things.
I work with a woman who ticks all the boxes of HPD except dressing seductively, although she dresses in a way that gets (negative) attention. She’s exhausting.
Histrionic will look for any attention. Outrage, shock, disgust, embarrassment will all give them the attention they crave. Narcissists (grandiose or covert) look for positive attention, even if it’s “you poor thing.”
4-26-2022 came here from the Johnny Depp defamation trial. This diagnoses was given about AH and her acting out. This is indeed the perfect description of her.
Love you and your videos I had never heard of this before I'm glad you're shedding light on lesser known mental illness ps. First comment and first like
You forgot the part about them being attractive yet having many friends who are much less so. Also the part about being far more prevalent among women than men.
If someone was raised to be dramatic by their parents and the parents are dramatic and that grown child grows up wanting to be center of attention to the extreme, calling police making false reports on several people and has been arrested once for falsifying information to police... would that be historic personality disorder or something else? The person craves attention to the extreme of lying and always having police involvement when the person can't get attention or "you don't do things that persons way"...
Once someone on Quora (A self-proclaimed psychopath) told me that my brain was hyper feminine and that I likely had Histrionic Personality Disorder. There was no context in this conversation - he literally sent me a message saying this. Looking at the criteria objectively, I can definitely say I do not have the disorder. The only thing I nodded yes to was dressing flashy/provocatively, but I tend to only do that in the summer, and I find this type of thing is only judged in women - not in men. I am definitely not comfortable being the center of attention in a group and I tend to be somewhere in a corner chatting with one person at a party. All in all, I love your caring and empathetic description of this disorder.
Sorry Kati, but you have done HPD no justice at all. You make it seem like these people are just simply loud and looking for attention. It is way more complex then that. They don't just "bang" on the table.... they will actually create disastrous events that they blame on other people, use triangulation and even gaslighting to blame others so that the attention seeking seems more real. It almost seems to me that you are using the words from one of the definitions, shallow and applying it to all of their behavior. These people are anything but shallow or simple. They are cunning, complex and sometimes difficult to detect. They are insecure and hide their true feelings and emotions. They tend to do massive amounts of damage to people's lives they enter.
I have a father with HPD. you have described him exactly. he has cheated on my mom multiple times, to then blame it on her or even us! Everyone whose aquatinted with him says he's outgoing, funny, and passionate because of the way he acts and tells his stories. he's emotionally manipulative and can be emotionally abusive as well. it's a frustrating disorder to live around and it is completely complex!
+KT Simpson it's very hard to have an intimate relationship with him because he's always putting me down which pushes me away. then he complains that I hate him and doesn't understand why. I'm glad, however, that I've met someone who knows the suffering. it's sad that you have to suffer and it must be hard for you. It's a difficult illness to have and be around.
For me it was a girlfriend. She was constantly cheating and doing the same things with the put downs.... I love you then I hate you. At least I was able to leave. I can only imagine how hard it was for you to have a family member doing that to you.
i am not diagnosed with HPD but i do fit almost all the criteria. i know that its wrong and i want to change it so much. i has caused me to fake an eating disorder by just having the symptoms and not many of the thoughts (given i do have some but not a lot) resulting in 3 hospital admissions in the past 6 months, and i just know its so wrong. I am confused about something though. i love to be the centre of attention but i also love to help other and i am very empathetic and sympathetic towards others but i make stupid decisions without thinking about the consequences. I also find that i am always asking how others are and i try and help everyone as much as possible but the conversation usually ends in talking about me. I manage to make others issues relate to me and i hate that. I fit all the criteria but at the same time i am very empathetic and don't think of myself as amazing or anything narcissistic like that. i think it could be to do with low self esteem and not feeling like I'm good enough in myself. i also have self harmed in the past for attention and i feel as though everything i say and do is for attention (i feel like i am writing this for attention). is this common for HPD? i was also wondering is it treatable and is it difficult to be treated? it is also weird because i am very attention seeking in all aspects of my life except with my family. it doesn't make sense. I just wish they ignored me and pretended i didn't exist. I am very confused and just scared that i will not be able to get better. When i think about it i have been doing attention seeking behaviour since i was very young (probably sinuses i was about 7) and i am 17 now. Can you have HPD but also care about others so so so so much? and can it occur in all aspects of your life except 1? Thanks so much Laura (sorry i didn't know how to contact you via email or anything. my email is laura.reynolds0000@gmail.com if you are able to reply.)
Laura, the fact that you are this upset and worried about how you are affecting others and about being self-centered, is an excellent sign. The number 1 step to getting better is self-awareness and a willingness to accept responsibility for your behavior and how it affects others--so you are in an excellent place. You are very young, and at 17, you've got raging hormones and you are learning how you fit in the world and how to cope with life. These symptoms are far more serious in an older person b/c they are more entrenched. Teenagers are often a bit self-centered and melodramatic, but they often grow out of it. I suggest that you find a good therapist--a kind and supportive person who you can really confide in, and work through all of these issues. The fact that you are so young means that it will be easier for you to grow and change than someone with, say, 20 years on you. It's also a good sign that you have empathy for others. As far as making stupid decisions w/o considering the consequences first: do you know that the prefrontal cortex (the judgment center) of the human brain isn't even fully developed until around 25 years of age? Lots of teens make really foolish decisions only to suffer the consequences--along with hurting others in the process. Just find a good counselor and start working through these issues, and I am sure that you will be OK.
The best way tp find help is to get a therapist. You could just as likely be sewing the signs for Borderline personality disorder as Histrionic personality disorder so a therapist is the only peraon who can tell you for sure and it would take more than just reading a comment. At least a few session
I have HPD, and thank you for talking about this, but I think you missed the fact that we don’t actually wanna get the attention on purpose! It just happens!
I'm honestly scared to talk to my therapist about me having hpd because I'm such a good actor and hiding my real feelings that maybe my therapist won't believe me and believe my lies. I do almost anything to grab people's attention. I've done bizarre things like faking disorders that people believe I have. It has really gotten bad to the point people believe I have other disorders. Which in reality I'm completely normal. Just attention seeker.
You do a wonderful job of explaining these conditions. I wish you had been available both in my early life as I was trying to understand the troubling behavior of family and other people around me and also when I was in college struggling to understand my psychology classes. Keep posting. Thanks.
Brooklyn Kelash Here's what makes people like this who they are, and also worsens them... Hardly ever does anyone call them on their bullshit. EVER... Because, today, that isn't considered socially acceptable (although it might be some weirdo ass thing to do, even if It is in public)... Nobody actually cares that another human being's goal's are to gain some emotionally PERVERTED attention for themselves!!! There is some PC movement, creating some ridiculous agenda, and its actually working... This type of person eventually, will always (aggressively) avoid ANYONE who embarrasses them, calls them out, anything that negatively affects the attention that makes them feel good... so guess what, you are all weak, ignorant, and absolutely unconcerned with the individual you meet who is like this... Because if you were concerned about this individual you would call them out on everything they say and do, absolutely EVERYTHING too!!! that is the only medication that exist for people like this........ then our world wouldn't have to be so overcrowded with people like this.. honestly! this is a epidemic. pay attention to the people around you
let's just say that a huge fucking part of the fact that people with hpd get increasingly worse is because the lack of support they have. you want us to clean up our acts and get help but look at these comments? extremely triggering to someone with hpd. the world is insensitive towards the "ugly" mental disorders. mental illness isn't always pretty, in fact it can be quite ugly. but people giving up on us is what makes it hard for us to recover. there is a person behind every mental disorder regardless of how ugly the disorder is. people need people to get through things. please, be respectful. EVERYONE reads the comment section, definitely not just people who are uninformed about hpd, but people who may think they have it. i respect this you tuber for explaining a mental illness in a non judge mental non biased way. shes obviously very professional. i dont trust informitive UA-cam videos where the you tuber is biased on a certain illness. an you can usually tell not 30 seconds in. if someone is trying to figure out if they have hpd and reads the comment section they will literally go into denial. who the fuck would want to admit they had this disorder after reading all of these disrespectful and hateful comments. even if you have been hurt by someone who has this disorder you have NO IDEA the emotional and mental rollercoster that personality disordered survivors deal with in a day to day basis. give people with personality disorders credit. especially considering there is lack of help and research in the mh community for personality disordered people already.
I was just diagnosed with this. I don't try to gain attention, I hide in a small confined areas, I do not lie, I am horrible at lying in fact, I avoid men, I don't try to exaggerate statements, I do take pride in my looks, but would never wear colors at a funeral, I make a point to listen to people's words, I do use exaggerated expressions, but I am not overtly loud, I walk to the beat of my own drum, I don't think I have many close friends. This makes me frustrated for my diagnosis.
Who diagnosed you? I was diagnosed with BPD and traits of histrionic and schizetypal, but once in therapy and my therapist got to know me well she disagreed with the latter traits.
I was diagnosed as having this. I’m not so sure yet I’m open to therapy . I’m conservative I dress conservatively I’m down to earth everyone depends on me a lot I’m the go to person and also the one that is blamed I have stopped explaining myself and listen more to what others have to say. All I know is that I’m overworked I have to work a lot I had cancer I fought hard to be here I’m a survivor. I do for myself by myself and I’m very proud. I rarely ask for help because it comes with a cost this I’ve learned. I stay to myself and I help others. I have severe PTSD and cope I’ve learned to breathe and distract my brain. Why am I the scapegoat I feel I’m the scapegoat. I will go to therapy because this is who I am. I would like to add when is everyone else going to take accountability. Sometimes I feel like a dumpster. I’m going to set boundaries and seek help.
One of my favorite dresses is orange. Some would say your green dress is bright. I think I'll wear yellow (my favorite color) to my father's funeral. If I have this disorder, I mostly blame him!
This reminds me of a Klaus Kinski story. When he was making Fitzcaraldo in South America a man was bitten by a snake and was suffering greatly and he threw a tantrum because the man was getting all the attention. It is in the documentary "My best fiend" by Werner Herzog.
I do all this not because I feel like I NEED the attention to feel good about myself, but because I am using my personality as a tool in order to figure other people out in a social setting based on their response to my behavior.
Why are people afraid of having this condition? We're no way as bad as narcissists and with a little restraint on the behaviour it can be used in great, social ways I'm not sure if this comment will get me hate, but really if you think you have the disorder don't be worried, it's not that bad
I have this disorder and I’ll be obsessed with like being the nicest or funniest or most supportive person I can be. And because of that I do have a lot of friends and people like me. I’m just charming and very people pleasing so I am able to hang on to romantic or platonic friendships for a long time.
since I'm on my phone it won't let me click yes or no. So, yes, I have a therapist but I'm currently in an off period where I don't need to see her at the moment. This was a very interesting subject by the way. I'd never heard of this particular diagnosis, but can think one or two people from the support group I go to that it fits pretty well. It's kind of relieving to think that it might be a disorder rather than them just being annoying and sometimes frustrating on purpose.
I've seen a lot of people online with this condition. It's sad because it becomes immediately obvious they've been starved of socialisation and they're desperately reaching out in any way they can. However annoying it may be when they constantly post and try to get others to be friends with them, I can't help but feel pity. Yes, they're often entitled. Yes, they're often selfish. And yes, they will typically assume that because a person had one positive interaction with them that they are friends. But I think deep down most of them are good people and just take things too far.
I loved it when you talked about the histrionic individual using his hands dramatically when speaking. You constantly use your hands in such a fashion in your other videos! =D
I like how you explained the disorder without contempt for the person with the disorder. Sometimes clinicians speak about people with personality orders with contempt, or like they are bad people. You conveyed it in a way that they are people who deserve our help.
Dr Grande & that balding white haired 60-year old come to mind
Unless they completely ruin your life for 13 years and produce 3 young children, one with DS and then tell you they never loved you one day with their “Flip Switch”. No offense but with out serious repentance with God, they are pure evil.
Yes exactly they should be having empathy Bc this is often a result of childhood trauma
Until a person with that disorder fucks your life up with zero remorse
@@birdlover6842 Dr Ramani? How come?
The human brain is the most complex thing in the universe and it can malfunction in so many ways.
Sounds alot like a Volvo
That’s a big claim.
soooooooo true
@Itachi Uchiha He didn't say it was malfunctioning, he said it can malfunction. Personality Disorders are disorders because they're not normal and are toxic to society, it's not operating as intended. ASPD is caused by brain damage, PTSD, and genetics (where a part of your brain is completely disabled), emotions would be *required* if we weren't in such a modern age (they still are necessary), which is also why it'd be a disorder.
@Itachi Uchiha I'm sure of my opinion, yes. If you'd like to debate it, the comment section is the place to do so.
It's my opinion that histrionic personality disorder is sort of like the clock stopping on a personality of a child and that child growing up with that same personality.
BINGO
I never thought of it that way, but it makes perfect sense though.
Kid which has to go to work etc.
That’s all personality disorders.
bruh they’re literally people too
I had a breakdown, got blocked by 2 people, removed 3 people, and cried outside with my dog for 3 hours because I didn't understand what was wrong with me, and then I just came across this video.. and it all makes sense... I want help.. :(
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i hope u find help soon. it gets better. much love. please take care of urself❤️
I am rooting for you. You can do this!
You got this dude 🥰 the first step is getting help and that starts with you
We need to stick by each other’s sides - not literally lol but there’s so many people against us that we just need our own community
My best friend fits all the criteria and I’ve always been convinced she’d get an HPD diagnosis if she went to get diagnosed. I have BPD, usually fitting the quiet type. We became friends on my 18th birthday. I’ll be 32 next week and I still love her to bits, and she’s been the one person I’ve always known I could rely on. It did take us a while to realise how our personalities fit with one another, but it eventually happened. She’s the first person I came out to, she’s been nothing but supportive. I love her stories and her theatricality, and I’ve learned not to be bothered about her attention seeking, because through this, she’s never stopped being a good friend.
what a beautiful story, thanks for sharing :)
What's the matter with attention seeking?
@@ceterisparibus8966 Attention seeking on its own is not necessarily a problem. In fact, some amount is natural for all people. Everyone needs attention. The problem is when a person is uncomfortable as soon as someone else has the spotlight. It’s makes everyone in group upset to get interrupted when telling a good story or joke. And it’s harmful to the person with HPD because it’s only natural that they will not CONSTANTLY be the center of attention, no matter what they do. So this means they will often be unhappy, and often make inappropriate jokes which will could make their bosses and coworkers not respect them, and casual associates will not want them around if the attention seeking comes across as rude. Truth is, usually when people say “attention seeking” they are referring to an excessive need for attention that interferes with normal and enjoyable socializing.
If you Have a histrionic parent then it's not a simple thing, It can be devastating, they are monsters for attention and will do anything to hold it.
Mandy Muir
I think there's a certain molotov cocktail that is particularly-- cough-- 'interesting'.
Histrionic + Borderline--
If you ever want to know what it would be like to be in Dante's 7th layer of hell, just try to hold a conversation with someone with both of these combined.
Mandy Muir agree.
i had my birthday tiara ripped from my head in the middle of my birthday party because it had hit midnight and was now her birthday...
she, to this day, cannot understand why it hurt me.
Lonna p 😥
Tianthee Warcraft They will justify anything. They can do no wrong. My sister with this disorder seduced my boyfriend, just as she tries to seduce almost every man she comes across. Then then she tried to justify it by saying I was lucky that she caught him out and showed him up as being unfaithful! She also did this "favor" for one of my sisters by seducing her husband. Fortunately not all of my men in the past have found her attractive despite the fact that she's physically beautiful. They were turned off by her personality disorder traits like her conceit and self-centeredness.
i know its a hell to live with them
I love your blouse. My therapist always wears dark colors.
My CPN wears dark clothes but her hair is bright pink. Like hot HOT pink. It's fun.
rebecca finn So, she's Histrionic herself then maybe.
Hahahaah
Lisa Bunnie I think it looks tasteful... or else, she reminds me of my histrionic mother.
I think it’s more to do with image. Most want to present a formal image. My therapist usually wears white, brown, grey, dark blue, and black
I had a friend who fits all this criteria. We met at 15 and were friends until around 19.
She kept lying to gain sympathy and attention from anyone she could, and she always needed to be in a relationship, but would lose interest quickly, and find a new relationship to be in. I couldn't deal with it anymore.
The few times I was able to get the real her to talk to me was awesome... She was a sweet, smart girl, but she was usually this constantly changing mask. And always very extreme. She kept hurting me and it didn't seem like she cared. She would always deflect.
When people tried having meaningful conversations and expressed worry to her, she would say we weren't really being friends/family, then run off with the "friends" that really didn't care about her well being (would put her in risky situations and convince her that it was okay). Then she would randomly pop back into your life as if nothing happened.
I cut all contact with her, but I think of her from time to time. I've never had a close friendship break like that. My friends from elementary school are still my best mates. I miss her sometimes, but she was a toxic person to me.
From what I've heard she's not doing well. I hope she's able to find peace with herself one day and accept that sometimes when people are "judging her" they're just worried and trying to reach out and keep her safe.
+Teeglor sounds more like Borderline Personality Disorder in a way.
+Teeglor This is exactly what HPD is. As the other guy says, it is a bit like BPD; that is because many people have both called "cluster B"
+DJ Serpent No it doesnt…
SqueegieLip just an assumption.
After reading your comment, I think this whole time I thought my ex was BPD, when she really has HPD. Your story sounds so much like her it aint funny.
This is the first video that I've seen throughout my big YT research on this topic that hasn't made me feel like a clown for being histrionic!
Thank you, you have a really nice way to approach the matter and it makes me feel like I can solve it without feeling threatened.
I was diagnosed with this and it really hurts to look at myself in this way. I realize I’m not a bad person for being this, but it’s not easy to take.
I was dx HPD, NPD not grandiose. Abused because intellectually disabled to top it off. Fear of being disliked. Need to be liked.
@@birdlover6842 nope, we don't have to be liked 😓
Same here. They all think we are monster. I didn't choose to have this desorder
@@Sarit473 I don't even know where you guys are getting off on saying that, that's the Narcissistic and Antisocial personality disorders that I think you guys are thinking about, I barely even heard about this disorder and frankly don't know why the stupid as fuck DSM-V tries listing it as Cluster B now, but I can at least understand how and why people would try lumping in Borderlines just because some of the switching and splitting can become very antisocial even though they actually feel really bad about it and are totally insecure and love very deeply, which is the exact opposite of what narcissism and sociopathy is. Which come to think about it makes it even more unlikely seeming and funny that Borderlines tend so often to glom on to antisocials and narcissists. But anyway I'd wondered if there'd been any overlap with Histrionic and others. It is not a "bad person" type of disorder like the Cluster B's afaik. So the guy up there saying that about wrecking his family just sounded like, idk more like narcissist or borderline or something like that. Which I can see why people give NPDs, BPDs, and ASPDs such a horrible reputation. But not HPD afaik.
@@Sarit473we don’t think you all are monsters… we just think you all don’t know that you’re not the sun and the world does not revolve around you.
Just repeat that to yourself and you’ll be quite alright. 😂
life is hell for someone with HPD I just recently found out about this disorder and it describes me perfectly, even before knowing about it I worked on not feeling so bad about not being the center of attention so it's not my biggest issue. If we destroy people's lives we also suffer I for one love my family so much but I keep hurting them with my anger issues on top of post traumatic stress disorder, HPD and deep seated anger I have taken medication I have gone to celebrate recovery AA meeting's etc, etc nothing seems to be working I wished to die as it seems the only solution but I'm to coward to go through it. I don't enjoy hurting anyone I cry and feel bad for being such a bitch Im also an empath So please don't hate on people like us some of us have a heart too.😥
Luna en Casa De Acuario918 Luna Newby My mother, aunt and grandfather have this. My mother was seductive in all situations with men. My husband would not stay in the same room with her by himself.
Omg you just described me to a tee
The first issue I find from your reply here is:
"Don't hate on people like us"
Typical histrionic to want people to like them and this you need to stop aswell - Don't give a fuck about what people think about you, only give a fuck about what YOU think about yourself. Histrionic people seeks validation 24/7 and it's bad for you... Stop giving a fuck about what others think about you! Learn to exist as you are without validation, set some goals in life, go to the gym, do things that makes you feel good but for god sake, stop posting every moment of your life on insta, facebook, twitter etc. - Give your self the validation you need when you look in the mirror and stop giving a fuck about what others think...
I believe you. You still have a heart. The one in my family does not. She gloats at the misery and suffering of others. I wish you well. I wish you a full recovery.
It could be worse: at least you don't have borderline personality disorder (those people enjoy hurting others)... and you don't any serious physical disability. Do what a stoic or a buddhist would do, and imagine how things could get even worse for you, and be thankful that they aren't. As a stoic philosopher once pointed out (I'm paraphrasing), if you haven't committed suicide yet there must be something in your life that's making it worth living for. Also if you want more mental stability & clarity go on the ketogenic diet or at least a very low carb diet. It really helped me with my problems
This video is going to blow up because a psychiatrist just diagnosed Amber Heard with this and BPD in court
Hi so I’m Histrionic and I think you didn’t really expres yourself very good. So yes, we used to make things to get others atenthion, but this is because we have no selflove so we need others to love us because we feel so alone. And another caracter that for me is super important, is that we aren’t like a kid, we don’t know we are trying to get others atenthion, we just do it.
In my case, I hate beeing the center of the atention, but I always am.
I've been involved with an HPD girl. It was a roller coaster ride that was fun at first but turned into world of hurt. At the end it was exhausting and a emptiness void.
Same i was once with a girl who could possibly have HPD and she was the same. Fun at first but turned into a living nightmare eventually.
Pure hell. CPTSD + PTSD following 10 years with GAD and now it all makes sense. Complete waste of 12 years
@Natalie do not apologize
Sex is mechanical and they are totally empty, just mirror who ever impresses them
I think I have this and I rarely feel romantic feelings so I just think it's easier for everyone that I just be friends or sex friends with people. Non monogamy has definitely been easier than monogamy because of these reasons
This is not my first time learning about this disorder. It was actually 6 years ago and I looked into it on and off since. Reflecting, I feel like my first girlfriend had this diagnosis and being in a relationship was something I will never forget. It was over 20 years ago but the level of emotion and attention needed was overwhelming to point of confusion. She is and still is a great person but that need to feel validation and love through attention is that of which is like a black hole in outer space. It never can be satisfied, just a constant vacuum. The relationship only lasted three months but I will never forget it. It was traumatic in some ways but at the very most was a huge Learning experience. I never gave so much and had someone beg for more while being in pain. With this disorder there is no pacification, the need is constant, and without constant attention, the person absolute breaks down. It’s a very very hard condition to live with, I feel for her.
Hi there,
I'm an LPC and often use your videos such as this one as a tool by letting the patient watch at home so as to gain fury understanding of a diagnosis. Thank you for the work/effort on your part .
I think I have this. I'm super emotional and feel the need to be the center of attention almost all the time. Relationships are really hard because I get attached to people really quickly and will do anything they want so I end up hurting myself. I try to kind of fill up my life with as much excitement and attention as possible
Me too
I love how you always humanize these disorders. I find it really helpful :)
This speaks volumes to me! My friends don't mind this behaviour until it's overbearing. I can't always tell when I've gone overboard or when I do it's difficult to stop.
i love how these "normal" people are trying to make out people with personality disorders out to be a bad person.
trust me it doesn't take a personality disorder to be a evil individual, and when you point the finger at others always remember you have 3 pointing right back! to me the only REAL disorder are all these comments about how terrible others are, without looking in the mirror.
finally someone who understands.
Thank-you, also just because you have a personality disorder, does not make you evil, and it doesn't make it not treatable. Personality disorders are something that people can't really control or change, unless they get help. It's not necessarily the individual's fault for having it, especially if they experienced a trauma, that could have been a huge contributing factor in the development of the disorder.
For me in order to respect these type of people is once they stop victimizing themselves to own that they have a disorder and accept that they are the root of the problem instead of blaming others for their miserable life. Once they accept this i will not consider them as bad anymore, it is the first step into receiving help and wanting the help, in order not to change but to improve.
Except people with these conditions lack empathy so naturally they hurt others.
That's AsPD, Ken Jataimu.
No one ever talks about the rage that bubbles under the surface and also obsessive envy they have when they're having to share the spotlight. I knew one histrionic woman who grabbed a baseball bat and wacked another woman in the head from above, because she had offended her. They have a threatening vibe too, like bullies but with a sweet overly friendly personality. I know another who as a grown woman fought a 12yr old who had offended her - just plain lost it.
I'm honestly terrified incase I have this, and I'm not sure if it's my anxiety telling me i'm an attention seeker or if i may struggle with this? I'm so confused.
Sufferers of Histrionic personality disorder are not self-aware of their illness. In fact, your self-critism basically completely invalidates the analysis that you have HPD, unless you have 5-8 of the symptoms stated in the video.
so would they be unaware of "attention seeking" behaviours?
Oakland Oakland ^
Same hereeeeeee
+TheTenthFirefly If you tell yourself that it's just because you are an "attention seeker" you likely do not have it. From the way Kati put it, most people with this disorder aren't self=critical, calling yourself an attention seeker is.
I (bipolar) was in a three person bi relationship with two girls, one histrionic, the other bipolar and borderline. It was extremely intense and chaotic.
I can only imagine
Lol
This should be a program
What were you thinking? Yeesh!
OMFG!!! 😳
I was in a mental hospital and my therapist there told me that I have this disorder but she never really explained it to me so thank you for explaining
It's really sad when I thought that I was a closer with my friends and they thought i'm weird and annoying. It's really hard to find a friend with HPD since people looks you as a loud-mouthed,annoying person.
I have the same experience, it's so hard to have real, true and close friends 🥢
Awww, I'm so sorry that happened to you, I may have BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) I'm trying to get a diagnosed from a licensed psychiatrist but let me tell you I know how if feels when the people you thought you were close to weren't necessarily too fond of you this was the case with me and my sister and I was heartbroken because I thought were also best friends here's a virtual hug, it's not as good as a real one but it does help a little
It would be ironic if someone with hpd was seeking attention by saying they have hpd.
I actually did this... Doesnt feel good.
Lol bru
it's not ironic, but it's called a catch-22, like a paradox, but not entirely.
It happens
bruh its not funny but some of em dont do this cuz i dont say i have hpd all the time
I don't usually feel like this, but I definitely see myself as more than 5 of these and I've never realized that this was a condition more than I just like being the center of attention - it really made me stop and think when she mentioned "considers relationships with others to be closer than they really are", this is absolutely me and I feel hurt when other people don't see me the same way because I'm desperate for friends that care about me the same way I'm quick to attach to people. :(
trisha paytas, anyone? that description seemed to hit home?
I was thinking the same thing
All I could think of was Patsy Ramsey.
Fynn H Trisha for sure I wanna tag her in this video someway
She is a great example
I certainly see it too
This was my ex-girlfriend to a T - huge social butterfly who did not stop talking and moving and wanted to be the center of attention always . I found it very difficult to feel emotionally intimate with her as the depth of conversation was rather shallow.
I must be the furthest thing from this. I hate to be the centre of attention.
Let me guess - You're very attracted to histrionic people?
Haha me too! I’m too socially awkward to be histrionic
Haha. Do you possibly have anxiety disorder like me? People with social anxiety are the exact opposite of this. LOL
Pining for the fjords I had a friend that met this criteria. We are polar opposites, I have high high anxiety and I feel very very uncomfortable being the center of attention. She loves it
unapologetically canadian I’m on the spectrum so I’m socially awkward a little bit as well
I sadly meet all this criteria and I meet the criteria for narcissism too. I'm so sad and disappointed. I always wanted to be a good person and finding out that I might be a histrionic and a narcissist it's so sad. Like, I already had enough issues to sort out...now this! And the nice people I probably push away... ***Does anyone know any self-help books on this? I cannot afford therapy right now.
I use an app called Ada, only because I'm not comfortable with therapy right now, I might actually go in like a couple of months or so. But the app is really safe and it takes it's time I really recommend it. When you do have enough money to afford it, I recommend going immediately bcuz self diagnosing can be mentally draining but that is up to you and how comfortable you feel with therapy
Read A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. Everyone needs it, not just you. It will teach you how to transcend your conditioned mental and emotional patterns. Master it, and you'll become more powerful than you can possibly imagine.
I took extasy and it helped me out. I felt great so they got me thinking if I can feel this way by a pill, why cant i feel this way in REAL life. I have been to hell and back but I will not bore you. Just keep searching and eventually it wll just click...... the biggest secret is that you are living in a matrix, so throw out your TV. Just enjoy the show
I just learned that if you are sad about possibly being a narcissist, you are NOT!! A narcissist doesn’t care bout being a narcissist…
I’ve never heard of this before today and I believe it may be me. I’ve always felt this way and it really stems from my parents being gone all the time and not having friends in my formative years. I found myself having bouts like this and struggled so hard to even find out who I really am and even when I ask people to describe me all that comes out is this repetition of all the traits I’ve picked up from other people. I am no person. Just a shell of one and quite honestly I’ve become so toxic I’ve had friends become hostile towards me from it (I lied about something important to them, and they have told me not to come near them again or else). I don’t even notice sometimes and that’s what gets me. Lately though I have sought help at least for my pathological lying and will start with the rest of these symptoms ASAP. I cant wait to suggest this to my therapist and finally get the help I need.
Found this after the Amber Johnny trial. The way you explain that HPD explains emotionally and lack of details really tell how AH was on stand. Damn. It's spot on. Just like what Dr. Curry said.
I have Histrionic Personality Disorder and I want to cure it.🙄
How do you know i also think i have
Your channel reminds me of something, for one... I like the way you title and regard these illnesses, without a hint of shaming or pushing away. And it reminds me of the time when I positevly embraced aspects about myself, without condition but a genuinitity of really seeing something lovable, of understanding, some call it self love but it is the best feeling in the world. I promise.
My 12 year old amazing daughter was recently "diagnosed" with HPD. I say diagnosed loosely because at 12 they cannot give her Histrionic P.D. as a diagnosis in the books yet. They'll have to wait for her to turn 18. My theory is with some hard prayer and guidance from therapists and her psychiatrist maybe there is hope to turn her around on her toes the other way before its too late and she's 18 with a real diagnosis of HPD. With God and everyone's help and her participation we have much hope!
give her attention and affection, talk with her, praise her, even play with her.
I know of a 13 yo who had sex with HUNDREDS of men and boys just to get attention, she also ended becoming obese and had loose skin at 18 despite being still overweight.
she might show off her naked body to random strangers just for attention sake too.
there are others who fuck up their lives by saying outrageous things online just for attention.
there are others who develop eating disorders to get attention (eugenia cooney might have this)
12 is barely an adolescent you can do still a lot to help her grow into a healthy woman,
What do they call it?
Hello, I see your comment is from 4 years ago, which makes your girl close to being able to get a Dx. As a person diagnosed BPD at 16, I can attest that the precocious Dx was definitely a TIME SAVER for me, TWO years ahead of all the therapies I needed and today, recently turned 27 I feel that my life is FINALLY making sense, im tearing up just writing this. I have cleansed the toxic people that I used to need to please out of fear of them abandoning me. Around 10 exes that I would orbitate through social media in hopes one perhaps still loved me (I now know they never did) i found a GREAT boyfriend, planning to marry in the near future. We grow stronger each year that goes by! I learned to deal with my addictions. So far, I still do cocaine once every month or two, which I know coke may sound too hard for most people but 1 a month is a great progress compared to 2 a week. I feel almost proud of myself. I can’t say I feel entirely proud of myself. Cause, even though I was ahead of therapy, I fell a little behind in life. I am FINALLY graduating from college and starting my own business that my boyfriend is helping me develop. I feel blessed, and now I know that I am worthy of love, and i am worthy of good things too, And for me, my partner has been so healing that even if we break up, I now know that my life wont be over, because for the first time I see myself as someone that has worth and doesn’t need someone else to cancel the noise in my head, because now it’s closer to a pleasant melody. I hope your daughter is in a similar path. Xx
wow!!! I am so thankful for finding this!! I was diagnosed with a borderline personality with histrionic traits.... I read the 64 page psych assesment...and didn't fully ever understand what this meant... I did go to intensive psychotherapy and finished successfully!! but was never fully disclosed on the histrionic trait meaning... I was quite young when I was diagnosed with adhd... and later on at 22 with the previous diagnosis. For me I identify with this criteria about 50%
how are you??
Celeste Brusciano omg I was diagnosed with the same thing! Borderline personnalitt with histrionic traits
I'm actually scared that I have this, it may be my anxiety telling me this, but sadly I feel like I meet all this criteria
If it means anything, people with personality disorders usually don't perceive themselves as having a personality disorder. Just the fact that you're self-aware and questioning it is a safe sign you might not have it.
Eden's Corner I definitely considered whether I have this but I don’t like to be center of attention
Kirukitsu idk if that’s always true. i saw BPD traits in myself as soon as i read about it lol. diagnosed at 17
Me too. And I meet the criteria for narcissism too. I'm so sad and disappointed. I always wanted to be a good person and finding out that I might be a histrionic and a narcissist it's so sad. Like, I already had enough issues to sort out...now this! And the nice people I probably push away... ****Does anyone know any self-help books on this? I cannot afford therapy right now.
@@Kirukitsu it's not true. My auntie is suffering from schizophrenia
Makes sooo much sense now. In search for my SELF I see their SELF.
Met a girl who was exactly like this. During her episodes, she'd often talk about how incredibly shitty her parents were. For context, she was 17 and to that day she'd never made her own bed or cooked for herself or cleaned her room; parents drove her to school every day despite living literally 10 mins away; got her everything and anything she asked for.
So it used to make my blood boil every single time lol, but looking back, I feel sorry that I didn't know as much about psychology as I do now. At the time, I thought families were dysfunctional only if money or a parental figure was lacking, or if the parents were aggressive and abusive, etc. I didn't understand bratty attention seekers develop those tools to deal with neglect. I didn't quite know neglect can cause just as much harm as active forms of abuse.
I haven't heard from her since, but I reckon she was right to an extent. “My parents don't ever fucking pay attention to me”. I guess that was exactly why she turned out like that. Hope she got the help she needed.
I recently ended a friendship (and have been contact-free for 6 weeks or so) with a woman who fits these criteria quite well. she also has a TBI and was previously dx'd with BPD. we're both in our 30s, yet her father cautioned me about her when I first met him.
she'd say life wasn't worthwhile without me, took on all ny interests and ideas until I started to feel like I was lacking a true sense autonomy. she made a big effort to become close to my parents and long-time friends, sometimes for reassurance and attwntion, sometimes to exploit their generosity. she is now seeing my parents' married, older neighbor/former friend several times a week.
I have CPTSD and go to therapy 2x a week, but I'm having trouble getting the help from my therapist that I need to recover from 8 months of controlling, obsessive and dramatic behavior. I've tried to explain to my therapist how this has affected me, but I'm still really struggling. she lives directly above me, so I will eventually run into her. I can't take the constant anxiety..... I'd appreciate any input/advice you can offer
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I hate how people in the comments make it seem like ALL people with hpd are abusive. That is simply not the case. Just because someone you know someone with hpd who is abusive/toxic, doesn’t mean everyone with hpd is also that way! Hpd and abusiveness/toxicity of a person have nothing to do with each other. If that person is abusive, then they’re abusive regardless of whether or not they have a personality disorder.
Euh, MOST toxic and/or abusive parents, friends and partners are diagnosed with at least one cluster B personality disorder. Just because you and a few other people are the exception doesn't mean the rule doesn't apply. You're actually taking other peoples LIVES, ABUSE, TRAGEDIES and pains and making it about you. Even worse, dismissing it all. That's rich. I wouldn't normally leave any type of mean or hateful comment, but come on, you don't get to dismiss other people's ruined and devastated lives just because you happen to be one of the good guys.
I was diagnosed with HPD in 2021 and it’s been cool to see people talking more about it, nice video very accurate
Hmm. So the person with this disorder probably feels lonely. I found that people eventually ignore drama queens.
I have a coworker who very likely has this. Constantly telling stories where it's obvious he's stretching the truth to the fullest. If you call him out he emotionally explodes. If things get quiet he will do any number of things to gain attention. Im short he hits about every number on this list.
They react to every little thing u do!
I know a couple of people like this, and I'm autistic and it overload/overwhelms me 😕
I knew a girl with all of those symptoms. She got excluded from my school as a result. :( I just hope she is ok now
I know too
I didn't understand this disorder but I now get it so much more. I thought that I had this, but I realized that there is a huge difference between signs of neglect and trauma, and signs of a personality disorder. When a kid is raised in a home with immature parents, the child can have emotional outbursts to show their unmet needs. When this follows into adulthood it definitely can be treated. But a reoccurring need to be seen and not knowing if you are worthy to be loved as you are, that can be a sign of unmet relationship needs at home as a kid. I just feel much better knowing what was going on with me as a teen.
The first woman I fell in love with was thought to be histrionic by one psychologist I had. She was a very pretty young woman and she had a pretty redhead mother who was bipolar. She married an Italian guy. The 2nd woman I fell in love with I think was experiencing a lot of manic phases of bipolar in the year I worked with her before the bipolar diagnosis. I loved being in the same room as her, seeing her beautiful face and hearing her sweet intense voice. I love you Abby,,, hope we can be friends again some day.
After not talking to me almost 4 years she finally returned an email on Christmas Day 2020. She had recently married a guy she had been dating 4+ years. She said that a lot had happened since we last talked that she had to fill me in with. Then a few minutes later she said her husband Dave doesn’t want us to communicate. I’m happy for her that she found someone to marry. Maybe her and I were not compatible. I love her very much and I think of her almost every day. But I’m not going to intrude in her marriage when her husband Dave doesn’t want us to communicate.
Being in my 50’s, single, lonely and never married is very frustrating.
Thank you for actually explaining HPD and not focusing on Amber Heard. Psychologists need to stop pretending they're lawyers
I have a female coworker at my job that did this exactly with coughing really loud and hard and turned around to see if I was watching, she did it about 4 times that day and touching me and eventually hugged me one time, and forever flirting with men and saying off the wall sexual things.
I work with a woman who ticks all the boxes of HPD except dressing seductively, although she dresses in a way that gets (negative) attention. She’s exhausting.
Histrionic will look for any attention. Outrage, shock, disgust, embarrassment will all give them the attention they crave.
Narcissists (grandiose or covert) look for positive attention, even if it’s “you poor thing.”
It seems I have it. I'll try to isolate myself.
Did it work?
@@strange_okapi892 no
4-26-2022 came here from the Johnny Depp defamation trial. This diagnoses was given about AH and her acting out. This is indeed the perfect description of her.
Dealt with a girl like this and it is real and I Really feel bad for her.
I suspect that my ex was dealing with it as well. It explains a lot of things that I experienced.
Love you and your videos I had never heard of this before I'm glad you're shedding light on lesser known mental illness ps. First comment and first like
Why does Kris from keeping up with the Kardashian’s seem to match this description
Very clear and informative. Condition is very in the news in 2022.
I'm here because of Amber Heard... hope she gets help 😬
You forgot the part about them being attractive yet having many friends who are much less so. Also the part about being far more prevalent among women than men.
If someone was raised to be dramatic by their parents and the parents are dramatic and that grown child grows up wanting to be center of attention to the extreme, calling police making false reports on several people and has been arrested once for falsifying information to police... would that be historic personality disorder or something else? The person craves attention to the extreme of lying and always having police involvement when the person can't get attention or "you don't do things that persons way"...
Thank you, informative and helpful.
AMBER HEARD’s ENTIRE TESTIMONY!!
Once someone on Quora (A self-proclaimed psychopath) told me that my brain was hyper feminine and that I likely had Histrionic Personality Disorder. There was no context in this conversation - he literally sent me a message saying this. Looking at the criteria objectively, I can definitely say I do not have the disorder. The only thing I nodded yes to was dressing flashy/provocatively, but I tend to only do that in the summer, and I find this type of thing is only judged in women - not in men. I am definitely not comfortable being the center of attention in a group and I tend to be somewhere in a corner chatting with one person at a party.
All in all, I love your caring and empathetic description of this disorder.
That is creepily me. :/
It's OK don't be sad!!!! It's not lifetreatning... You are a good person anyway.
Sorry Kati, but you have done HPD no justice at all. You make it seem like these people are just simply loud and looking for attention. It is way more complex then that. They don't just "bang" on the table.... they will actually create disastrous events that they blame on other people, use triangulation and even gaslighting to blame others so that the attention seeking seems more real. It almost seems to me that you are using the words from one of the definitions, shallow and applying it to all of their behavior. These people are anything but shallow or simple. They are cunning, complex and sometimes difficult to detect. They are insecure and hide their true feelings and emotions. They tend to do massive amounts of damage to people's lives they enter.
+KT Simpson ^^^^
I have a father with HPD. you have described him exactly. he has cheated on my mom multiple times, to then blame it on her or even us! Everyone whose aquatinted with him says he's outgoing, funny, and passionate because of the way he acts and tells his stories. he's emotionally manipulative and can be emotionally abusive as well. it's a frustrating disorder to live around and it is completely complex!
Emily Fries I'm sorry to hear about that. Its very difficult to live with. I know first hand.
+KT Simpson it's very hard to have an intimate relationship with him because he's always putting me down which pushes me away. then he complains that I hate him and doesn't understand why.
I'm glad, however, that I've met someone who knows the suffering. it's sad that you have to suffer and it must be hard for you. It's a difficult illness to have and be around.
For me it was a girlfriend. She was constantly cheating and doing the same things with the put downs.... I love you then I hate you. At least I was able to leave. I can only imagine how hard it was for you to have a family member doing that to you.
i am not diagnosed with HPD but i do fit almost all the criteria. i know that its wrong and i want to change it so much. i has caused me to fake an eating disorder by just having the symptoms and not many of the thoughts (given i do have some but not a lot) resulting in 3 hospital admissions in the past 6 months, and i just know its so wrong. I am confused about something though. i love to be the centre of attention but i also love to help other and i am very empathetic and sympathetic towards others but i make stupid decisions without thinking about the consequences. I also find that i am always asking how others are and i try and help everyone as much as possible but the conversation usually ends in talking about me. I manage to make others issues relate to me and i hate that. I fit all the criteria but at the same time i am very empathetic and don't think of myself as amazing or anything narcissistic like that. i think it could be to do with low self esteem and not feeling like I'm good enough in myself. i also have self harmed in the past for attention and i feel as though everything i say and do is for attention (i feel like i am writing this for attention). is this common for HPD? i was also wondering is it treatable and is it difficult to be treated? it is also weird because i am very attention seeking in all aspects of my life except with my family. it doesn't make sense. I just wish they ignored me and pretended i didn't exist. I am very confused and just scared that i will not be able to get better. When i think about it i have been doing attention seeking behaviour since i was very young (probably sinuses i was about 7) and i am 17 now. Can you have HPD but also care about others so so so so much? and can it occur in all aspects of your life except 1?
Thanks so much Laura
(sorry i didn't know how to contact you via email or anything. my email is laura.reynolds0000@gmail.com if you are able to reply.)
Laura, the fact that you are this upset and worried about how you are affecting others and about being self-centered, is an excellent sign. The number 1 step to getting better is self-awareness and a willingness to accept responsibility for your behavior and how it affects others--so you are in an excellent place. You are very young, and at 17, you've got raging hormones and you are learning how you fit in the world and how to cope with life. These symptoms are far more serious in an older person b/c they are more entrenched. Teenagers are often a bit self-centered and melodramatic, but they often grow out of it. I suggest that you find a good therapist--a kind and supportive person who you can really confide in, and work through all of these issues. The fact that you are so young means that it will be easier for you to grow and change than someone with, say, 20 years on you. It's also a good sign that you have empathy for others. As far as making stupid decisions w/o considering the consequences first: do you know that the prefrontal cortex (the judgment center) of the human brain isn't even fully developed until around 25 years of age? Lots of teens make really foolish decisions only to suffer the consequences--along with hurting others in the process. Just find a good counselor and start working through these issues, and I am sure that you will be OK.
The best way tp find help is to get a therapist. You could just as likely be sewing the signs for Borderline personality disorder as Histrionic personality disorder so a therapist is the only peraon who can tell you for sure and it would take more than just reading a comment. At least a few session
This almost sounds a bit like borderline, can u make a video about the similarities and differences? Love your videos:)
I have HPD, and thank you for talking about this, but I think you missed the fact that we don’t actually wanna get the attention on purpose! It just happens!
I'm honestly scared to talk to my therapist about me having hpd because I'm such a good actor and hiding my real feelings that maybe my therapist won't believe me and believe my lies. I do almost anything to grab people's attention. I've done bizarre things like faking disorders that people believe I have. It has really gotten bad to the point people believe I have other disorders. Which in reality I'm completely normal. Just attention seeker.
Is like I crave attention so much that it consumes most of my days
I think i have hpd
No, I do not see a therapist. Mobile device won't let me click. By the way I love your videos. I always learn something new :)
damn. i always end up in tears at the end of these episodes.
You do a wonderful job of explaining these conditions. I wish you had been available both in my early life as I was trying to understand the troubling behavior of family and other people around me and also when I was in college struggling to understand my psychology classes. Keep posting. Thanks.
Any personality disorder just means that you're unable to cope with how fucked up the world is, in different ways.
Brooklyn Kelash Here's what makes people like this who they are, and also worsens them...
Hardly ever does anyone call them on their bullshit. EVER... Because, today, that isn't considered socially acceptable (although it might be some weirdo ass thing to do, even if It is in public)... Nobody actually cares that another human being's goal's are to gain some emotionally PERVERTED attention for themselves!!! There is some PC movement, creating some ridiculous agenda, and its actually working...
This type of person eventually, will always (aggressively) avoid ANYONE who embarrasses them, calls them out, anything that negatively affects the attention that makes them feel good... so guess what, you are all weak, ignorant, and absolutely unconcerned with the individual you meet who is like this... Because if you were concerned about this individual you would call them out on everything they say and do, absolutely EVERYTHING too!!!
that is the only medication that exist for people like this........ then our world wouldn't have to be so overcrowded with people like this..
honestly! this is a epidemic. pay attention to the people around you
They’re exhausting. Overdramatic, emotionally sloppy, constant lying....
I was going to take the survey but you asked “How many of you are seeing a therapist?” That’s not a yes or no question.
let's just say that a huge fucking part of the fact that people with hpd get increasingly worse is because the lack of support they have. you want us to clean up our acts and get help but look at these comments? extremely triggering to someone with hpd. the world is insensitive towards the "ugly" mental disorders. mental illness isn't always pretty, in fact it can be quite ugly. but people giving up on us is what makes it hard for us to recover. there is a person behind every mental disorder regardless of how ugly the disorder is. people need people to get through things. please, be respectful. EVERYONE reads the comment section, definitely not just people who are uninformed about hpd, but people who may think they have it. i respect this you tuber for explaining a mental illness in a non judge mental non biased way. shes obviously very professional. i dont trust informitive UA-cam videos where the you tuber is biased on a certain illness. an you can usually tell not 30 seconds in. if someone is trying to figure out if they have hpd and reads the comment section they will literally go into denial. who the fuck would want to admit they had this disorder after reading all of these disrespectful and hateful comments. even if you have been hurt by someone who has this disorder you have NO IDEA the emotional and mental rollercoster that personality disordered survivors deal with in a day to day basis. give people with personality disorders credit. especially considering there is lack of help and research in the mh community for personality disordered people already.
I cant imagine why anyone would want to stay the hell away from a person like this.
How would you like to be helped exactly? Step by step
I want to help a close friend and I am taking this supportive approach
I was just diagnosed with this. I don't try to gain attention, I hide in a small confined areas, I do not lie, I am horrible at lying in fact, I avoid men, I don't try to exaggerate statements, I do take pride in my looks, but would never wear colors at a funeral, I make a point to listen to people's words, I do use exaggerated expressions, but I am not overtly loud, I walk to the beat of my own drum, I don't think I have many close friends. This makes me frustrated for my diagnosis.
Who diagnosed you? I was diagnosed with BPD and traits of histrionic and schizetypal, but once in therapy and my therapist got to know me well she disagreed with the latter traits.
Lol I’m histrionic personality disorder got told by my psychologist I’m the most dramatic person she’s ever met. I’m also Bipolar haha 😂
I was diagnosed as having this. I’m not so sure yet I’m open to therapy . I’m conservative I dress conservatively I’m down to earth everyone depends on me a lot I’m the go to person and also the one that is blamed I have stopped explaining myself and listen more to what others have to say. All I know is that I’m overworked I have to work a lot I had cancer I fought hard to be here I’m a survivor. I do for myself by myself and I’m very proud. I rarely ask for help because it comes with a cost this I’ve learned. I stay to myself and I help others. I have severe PTSD and cope I’ve learned to breathe and distract my brain. Why am I the scapegoat I feel I’m the scapegoat. I will go to therapy because this is who I am. I would like to add when is everyone else going to take accountability. Sometimes I feel like a dumpster. I’m going to set boundaries and seek help.
I tried clicking yes. I don't think it worked. :/
I was diagnosed as this. When I tell you my personality will fuck some shit (ANY SHIT) up to get attention.
4. I dress tomboyishly and modestly. Not me at all.
One of my favorite dresses is orange. Some would say your green dress is bright. I think I'll wear yellow (my favorite color) to my father's funeral. If I have this disorder, I mostly blame him!
You should do the whole gambit of cluster B
Great topic Kati. I'm glad you are putting the word out!:)
This reminds me of a Klaus Kinski story. When he was making Fitzcaraldo in South America a man was bitten by a snake and was suffering greatly and he threw a tantrum because the man was getting all the attention. It is in the documentary "My best fiend" by Werner Herzog.
This is probably the most relevant video on UA-cam right now.
I can think of a few people ...
I do all this not because I feel like I NEED the attention to feel good about myself, but because I am using my personality as a tool in order to figure other people out in a social setting based on their response to my behavior.
please seek help and stop doing that.
been diagonised with HPD recently didnt really know what it meant and have been doing alot of reacherch so thank you for helping me understand it
Dang, so we’re all here for the same reason lol
Why are people afraid of having this condition? We're no way as bad as narcissists and with a little restraint on the behaviour it can be used in great, social ways
I'm not sure if this comment will get me hate, but really if you think you have the disorder don't be worried, it's not that bad
It sounds like a majority of social media influencers have this 😂
I have this disorder and I’ll be obsessed with like being the nicest or funniest or most supportive person I can be. And because of that I do have a lot of friends and people like me. I’m just charming and very people pleasing so I am able to hang on to romantic or platonic friendships for a long time.
OMG This sounds just like my ex best friend! I always wondered if she had a personality disorder tbh.
Thank you for the video! Not many videos on this topic so I’m glad you went there and helped us
since I'm on my phone it won't let me click yes or no. So, yes, I have a therapist but I'm currently in an off period where I don't need to see her at the moment. This was a very interesting subject by the way. I'd never heard of this particular diagnosis, but can think one or two people from the support group I go to that it fits pretty well. It's kind of relieving to think that it might be a disorder rather than them just being annoying and sometimes frustrating on purpose.
I've seen a lot of people online with this condition. It's sad because it becomes immediately obvious they've been starved of socialisation and they're desperately reaching out in any way they can. However annoying it may be when they constantly post and try to get others to be friends with them, I can't help but feel pity.
Yes, they're often entitled. Yes, they're often selfish. And yes, they will typically assume that because a person had one positive interaction with them that they are friends. But I think deep down most of them are good people and just take things too far.
or maybe you're quick to put a label. i am not histrionic but sometimes i behave like one just because i am BORED
I loved it when you talked about the histrionic individual using his hands dramatically when speaking. You constantly use your hands in such a fashion in your other videos! =D
Apparently, many of these people are misdiagnosed with Bipolar disorder so again it's always good to get multiple opinions.