Your DNA Does Not Define You | Carine McCandless | TEDxEmory
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- Опубліковано 20 лип 2016
- Best-selling author Carine McCandless shares the power of bringing your life into focus and living your truth; lessons she learned from her brother, Chris McCandless, subject of the iconic book & movie Into the Wild.
Carine McCandless is the author of the New York Times Bestseller The Wild Truth, a memoir of her life. She is also an accomplished self employed entrepreneur, social activist and mother. In addition, she has worked alongside Sean Penn and Jon Krakauer in providing valuable insight in telling the story of her brother and literary Icon Chris McCandless a.k.a. Alexander Supertramp. She has also been interviewed by several literary publications including Outside Magazine, The New Yorker, Newsweek, People, Good Housekeeping, The Los Angeles Times and several international publications. Carine has also made guest appearances on TV broadcasts such as PBS, MSNBC, The Oprah Winfrey Show, CBS Sunday Morning, ABC News 20/20, and several national and international radio shows.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx
She is a good speaker and strong women. Chris would be very proud of his sister.
No creo que esto fuera lo que él buscaba¡¡
Si. Hablar caca de los papas de uno no lo hace a uno un "buen speaker".
I think your right. :)
I don't think so. I don't think that Chris would like anybody especially including his sister to make a splash on him.
This looks like Kardashians show for me, nothing more.
i think her brother would be upset shes cashing in on his memory
happiness only real when shared
So he abandoned the world to pursue a goal that brought little to no happiness because it was devoid of human interaction? Happiness only real when one destroys to create something new.
@@fulol He learned that along the way, after the whole journey. It was an outcome of, not an input to, his whole journey of, in many ways, soul searching.
its not
As long as its shared with the right people otherwise happiness is better on your own.
HAPPINESS ONLY REAL WHEN SHARED
I was born the same year as Chris McCandless. His story inspired me to drive solo from Chicago to the north slope of Alaska. When driving by the entrance of the Stampede Trail, I pulled over and said a word of thanks.
That's beautiful 😊
Goosebumps. We need be free. Soar. Great story.
@Emma Mankus It will be on display in a few years at a museum in Fairbanks, AK.
@@jimr5793 the ignorance is outstanding
我和克里斯·麥坎德利斯同年出生 為什麼 我還是走不出去 為什麼我還在這裡 我想這就是克里斯 迷人的地方吧
I never once thought Chris had a mental illness or was suicidal.
He was on a spiritual journey beyond comprehension, and I love that. I’m with him in spirit, just as he is now in all of our spirits.
He was just to eager to be free but became irresponsable on the way to the point that he did mistakes that would end his life .
You shut yourself from society and pursue a life without human interaction is suicide.
@@goranabdulqadir6555 He had plenty of human interaction, he only meant to be there a few months, everybody needs breaks
Then you don't understand human behavior. How many American humans do what Chris did? An astronomically small amount. Was what Chris did detrimental to his health? Yes. When someone does something that almost no one else does that is causing themselves harm, it's called abnormal behavior. This indicates pathology of some kind. What exactly it was, we don't know, but his sister has claimed that their parents were abusive. If true, this means Chris suffered trauma as a child that could have led to any number of mental disorders that caused him to act in subversively harmful towards himself. He dissociated from society and possibly from himself. Don't ever speak on someone's state of mind without education yourself first.
@@goranabdulqadir6555 I think he’d agree with you, Chris, that is.. at the end of the movie he writes a rebuttal to his reasoning for his adventure. “Happiness is only real when shared”
I don’t think anyone disagrees that he didn’t make a mistake, just a mile North was a River crossing so fording it was kind of pointless and he would have known that if he had a map but he didn’t..
The point being, how do you go somewhere that no one has gone before when everything has already been mapped? Simple, you just discard the map..
He was a runner in highschool and they would go on runs to specifically get lost, find their bearings and then make their way back using nothing but backtracking.. I used to do these when I was younger, the coach would give you a map and compass but only a few would actually keep those pieces of gear..
People don't realize how just a few small words or actions can destroy a child's soul forever..
wish my parents knew that lol
..or how a few small words or other acts of kindness can sustain, solace and help a person who is suffering intensely... several years, or even decades, after they occur.
Not always forever., and if not so then sometimes you can re-balance 'karma'. Pay it Forward when you can.
@@ripdiptatterchip3851 anger is a cancer passed down, of course children are unsuspecting sponges who pass on the disease unless we move ourselves forward through higher quality friends who demand our best as we should of them..
Find great family in great friends and try to forgive the toils of tainted blood.
This story was just brought to my attention. It just bread my heart and inspires me. I watched Charlie Rose interview Sean Penn and Eddie V.. it will be awhile before I am able to watch it, but I cannot wait to. I am haunted by not knowing about the troubled relationship with his parents.
That's probably not an accurate way to describe it.
It's tough divorcing yourself from family but I can tell you all its been the bravest decision I've ever made and it has allowed me to heal and move forward with my life. Thank you for your inspiring talk Carine
I legally changed my last name, now Nevermore after deciding to "divorce" my family. Who i was i would be Nevermore, and became free to live and love in this life.
me too. you are not alone. many people have to do it to survive.
@justin rogers dont leave. just figure out what you need to be happy.
@justin rogers I know much time has passed since you said those words. I would absolutely love to hear from you! You Justin are a special person, and I want you to know someone out here cares. I hear more than your words. I'm not wanting to pry, I only want to offer a ear, a shoulder. Please don't let the hard times get you. I am here is u need to talk. I'll give u my info. I hope you're a happy happy person now, who can laugh at me reaching out.
Same here.
I'm crying. Actually into the wild its my favourite movie ever and Im sure that what Chris did will stay with me and in my life forever. Inspiring.
Can u please tell me where i can watch the whole movie properly? The whole movie can't be found in UA-cam😥
sidratul monteher rafa Netflix.
Giovanna Silva 🙌
Same here. I get his story. I didn't divorce my parents but I moved 3000 miles away at Chris's age for the same types of reasons. Emotional and sometimes physical abuse happened to my siblings, my mother and I. My sister moved away through marriage but my Dad really damaged my brother and he couldn't go anywhere. He got cancer at age 42 and passed away. I know that cancer happens to so many people. With my brother, I think my father's actions ate him up on the inside. He was a strong man but also very sensitive and wore his heart on his sleeve. I think that my father's actions killed him. My brother and I are really similar. I tried to escape my life but it has finally caught up to me. It's killing me too. Chris was smart. Even though what he did killed him, he died free. Not eaten alive. In a way he's my hero. My brother, sister and I should have just cut our parents out of our lives and never looked back.
Jen Jen i really feel you. I left my family 5 years ago. Sociopath father and co-dependant agressive mother. But all socially perfect to the outside. We seemed perfect family. Nobody knew or knows about manipulation and lies. Psychological abuse was all i had in my youth. All due to a bad marriage sticking together. Very sad. It still hurts and still will :( hope you manage to recover. Big hug to all suffering :(
‘What matters most is that we learn from our mistakes. And you have to remain cautious of those that don’t’. Strong woman, true life lessons
"He is smiling in the picture and there is no mistaking the look in his eyes. Chris McCandless was at peace." When Chris found truth... he smiled. Thank you for sharing Carine.
We remember him. We will remember him.
..the look in his eyes was insanity !
He starved to death.
@@harveythompson1756 Yes, it is!
If I met him in the woods, I would called rangers immediately.
I think he had suffered some undiagnosed form of schizophrenia.
I'm pretty shocked this doesn't have more views
... quality vs quantity?
Why are you shocked ⚡️⚡️ ?
I found it whilst watching the Magic Bus being flown out
doesn't matter for now... the likes a ton :D And I like this talk very much
Then there are those who accuse Carine M of exploiting the situation.
You are such a beautiful person Carine.❤ I truly appreciate your sharing such painful truths but know and respect your need to make the truth known… I hope nothing but the best for you and your beautiful family.❤
"The greatest experiences are usually waiting for us far out of our comfort zone."
Well said and very true Preston
Back in high school, as Carine mentioned, Into the Wild was a required reading. I thought it would just be another tedious homework assignment. Little did I know that the book has completely changed my life. Chris's story resonates with me. I was brought up overseas, moved to the States during my teenage years to live with my parents. They were abusive. Shortly after I turned 18, I moved out to live on my own. Through Chris's story, I found consolation. Even with an unfortunate childhood, I know I can be strong and passionate about life. As I'm re-reading this book twelves years later, I realize his adventurous spirit and disregard towards material possessions have already infused deeply into my life. Thank you Chris, your spirit will live on.
Heather looks like Chris 😊.
And I'm crying at work watching this. It's too bittersweet & beautiful.
With all its force and tactics of manipulation, deceit, and temptations, the world will try to make you something that you are not. Chris was one of the few who stood up for himself. Thank you for the inspiration and courage, Chris.
What an incredible strong woman! 💕✨✨
Excellant talk. Very inspiring and a lot of take aways. Carine is just as inspirational as the legend of her brother Chris was. Standing in truth is always best. I found it poignant that Chris wouldn't smile when he was young in that photo that his parents took after obvious family turmoil had taken place. Yet he smiled in the last photo that he took of himself..says a lot.
"if you want something in life, reach out and grab it"
yes.... :)
Sorry, but I despise sayings like that *_so_* much. We can want things that we simply _can't_ reach or attain, no matter how hard we may try - and the attempts _can_ harm us much more than simply realizing that those dreams will remain dreams. Sure, failed attempts _can_ also have good side effects, but even then, making it seem like we'll be able to get what we set out to get can break us.
What we need to do is find ways to figure out whether something is worth reaching for, whether it's attainable or worth getting broken over - and what is best left a dream. Happiness is no attaining everything we want, happiness is getting _some_ things that we want and finding the mindset to be happy with what we can get.
I've watched Into the Wild more than 100 times, one of my favorite movies of all time. "Happiness is only real when is shared."
LeakenaDoll 🌷
Have you read the book? It’s so much better.
@@nathanwoodley4299 yes, the book was excellent, the movie very moving as well
Awesome! Book is better
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'refused to be part of the charade' and he did that til in the end. Respect.
Watched 'Into the Wild' for the second time recently and it has stayed with me. I now have the luxury of time to research and consider the story. I have read a lot of angry, sometimes offensive and personal views about Chris, his story and his sister Carine's actions from people who are unqualified (and many inexperienced in life). This talk from Chris's sister Carine, apart from being powerful in its own right, has put to rest most of the questions the film left me asking myself. She comes across as someone who likes who she is, though not always what she does but has learned to forgive herself, without bitterness. I hope some day she is able to reconcile her relationship with her parents if that is her wish.
I would like to extend my thanks to her for sharing something so personal.
bro u don gotta go all that damn deep.
Read the Book youll be doing yourself a favor. Adds context to Chris's philosophy that the book never gave sufficient detail on.
@@WarpPal so we have to read the book to find details that the book doesn't provide? Hmmmmmmm.
You do know that youtube provides you with an edit button for your comments right?
@@bigfish8280 Carine wrote a book after Jon wrote Into The Wild called The Wild Truth.
You have given your brother what he has always asked for and that is TRUTH. You have also given the world a gift by giving TRUTH on what a negative upbringing can have on children. You are a very brave woman just like your brother and a true inspiration just like your brother. I really wish we had people like you running the world because I believe it would be a better place. Thank you so much for the TRUTH. Christopher Mother Earths son who embraced all it’s beauty and now shines like a star ⭐️ in the nights sky.
“We all are human and make mistakes but We learn from them and we need to protect ourselves from those who don’t.” A whole word
Chris, you are a good man, breaks my heart you died.
Oh my gosh, this woman is so strong and smart. An amazing talk. A gift to all of us.
I was really impressed with this talk. There was abuse in my family, and we didnt talk about it. I really liked her priorities in life.
It just touches my heart .
Chris was different and had his own different perception about life.
He's gonna be remembered by all.
Strong woman.
While she blames everything on the parents...I'd say that's weak. click...click
Dodged a Bullet you should read up on what the parents, mainly the father, did to those children.
@@dodgedabullet670 obviously you have never experienced abuse.
As an English teacher, I read and taught this novel for many years. I tried to convey to my students (being as sensitive as I could) the impact of a broken home on children. The common denominator for MOST of my troubled students was not having two loving parents. The family unit in America has crumbled. Sad.
So true. Problem is most of the children in class are troubled, even in Bulgaria...
You're an English teacher yet you called _Into the Wild_ a NOVEL?! A novel is a work of FICTION! The book by Jon Krakouer was a well-researched work of journalism that turned into a book. No wonder people are illiterate and out of touch with reality today! You are supposedly an English teacher and you don't know the difference between fiction and non-fiction!
@@DonnaBrooks you criticize me…and you can’t even spell Krakauer’s name correctly.
I’m going to be an English teacher too :) I look forward to working through this book with my students.
@@monasauvage415: I hope this book is still on the curriculum for you to do so.
I have always wanted to disappear into places where noone knows me. I have had this thought for years . When I saw "into the wild". I couldn't just let go of the movie. Years later when ever i feel low, i watch into the wild. In this movie i feel peace.
To find myself, i could go a thousand miles. My trips have always been short bursts.
Chris is hope.
Rather than love, than fame, give me truth.
Happiness is real when shared.
In our hearts. He lives.
I was 33 when Chris' story was released in the news and it felt heavy on my heart. When I read the book I could feel the story that lay under the words. Bless you and Chris for having the bond you had. I believe Chris was at peace when he took his last breath. Thank you Carine for telling your truth of you and Chris.
I was pushed out of the nest at age 15,my father was somewhat abusive,I don't blame him for anything. I've had a wonderfully exciting adventuresome life. I'm now almost 60, I weep for Cris, wish you would have made it.
Oh good for you. I know what your saying. I also feel such deep sadness that Chris didn't make it.. Thank you for sharing.
Think about all the people that have done exactly the same thing Chris has done, survived and went on to live a more purposeful, positive life that we will never hear about.
The only people who benefitted from those experiences are the ones who learned the lesson of sharing happiness and went back to society with other people.
What is your point? Wow. Your soul is dark
@@xstoofpeer That depends on who the person is, as long as they live a happy life, they benefit
I see Chris as a cautionary tale. Sure, take a year off to explore the country before settling down to a job and family ... But be prepared, and be realistic. You can care about nature, but nature doesn't care about you. There are hundreds of ways to die in the woods; learn from the mistakes of others.
Nice to meet you. Name is Christopher John anderson. Married to the lady in the picture. Grew up rich and violent. Divorced from my family and left at 13. Was homeless until enlisting in the navy. Mostly lived in the woods. Blah blah. I actually talk to my mother these days. Though not much. I like my family better. She is actually the one that told me I should check out the into the wild story. Just watched it on Netflix for the first time a couple days ago. Very weird. Uncanny. My little sister thinks so to. She also left our family for the same reasons. Though also occasionally talks to our mother. She was the only one I kept in contact with all those years. But now she's the one I worry about. She didn't get away until graduating high school. She's been going down a dark path for a few years now. Just as I came out of mine and started a family. She scares me. She's five years younger than me. She's just as stubborn but not as skilled and she trusts to much. Hopefully she will be ok. If she makes it to 30 like I did, she will be fine I think.
Carine is great and strong same like his Brother Supertramp ❤🎉
HAPPINESS ONLY REAL WHEN SHARED - Chris McCandless
Wow! Such a brave woman. I’m so sorry for their abuse. I agree with some of the other comments; Chris would be so proud of his little sister!
Thank you Carine for sharing your incredible journey. As a parent of two young boys I will motivate them to focus on ‘The pages in between’. Thank you once again.
incredibly strong woman. bless her. the ending of her speech was so beautiful.
Carine McCandless is truly inspiring. This TED Talk was one of the best I've seen. Christopher McCandless inspired me from the moment I got to know his story, and his journey certainly taught me to see the world in a different way. It's so beautiful to see Carine continuing this incredible legacy. Thank you!
Thank you for sharing the truth. Childhood trauma and domestic abuse affect people greatly and each of us will choose how to heal. Chris sought healing in a way that impacted many people and will help them change the way they seek their own. And your contribution and how you Carine seek your own healing and help others heal through the double mirror of Chris' life and yours is as essential.
Her book is fantastic. Some parts are intense especially with the parents but it’s still worth a read
I never knew these things about Chris. I've always admired his spirit.
RIP Chris.
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Well said, Carine. All of it and Chris would be so proud of you
I have nothing but respect for Carine McCandless. After all the vile hatred and hurtful remarks about a brother she loves dearly, she remains a loving, caring person. That says a lot about her strength and integrity. I get it were Chris had his flaws and made mistakes (like ANYBODY) but will never understand the hate. I would trust Chris lonnnnnng before the average pos that i'm surrounded by.
"she was in danger because of our existence" thank you. Thats it. That explains my entire existence finally. Thank you.
If I would ever have a sister in next life . I wish she will be like you . You are the best sister any brother can imagine 😘 Chris would be proud on you 🙂
Thank you, Ms McCandless, for such an inspiring story.
Sometimes, parents themselves get so engrossed in their domestic fights that they don't realize how much their actions/words affect the kids. The guilt that Chris felt is very painful. When parents say things that make you feel responsible for their suffering, the kids start to feel helpless and guilty. I think Chris just went away silently to find peace and maybe reflect upon things. I think he wanted to enjoy the quietness and think freely. In his last days he expressed his gratitude for the happy moments in his life. He was grateful for the happy things in his life.
I feel she made the right decision initially. First, to herself as she was healing and second, to those of us who relate, in whatever way, to Chris.
Alexander Supertramp 💙
True,life is about quality and he proved it,rip Chris.
He did?
Sherlock, you just don't get it.
Sherlock, watch the movie read the book and listen to Carine again might help.
You can criticize him all you want for you have never walked in his shoes...or of theirs' who feel and who understand.
A hero saves others, he didn't save anyone...he saved all of our souls so that we may save all the others' who are about to come...
I don't fantacize calling him a Hero....Because he is something above that. The truth in that can only be experienced, not spoken or written.
Got the Book, Movie, We won't forget. I feel his pain decades now. My favorite Movie, story and book. Same kind of life, to my dad I'm never good enough
Mental cruelty, by far more damaging..thank you so much for this articulation of truth so needed to be said..Much respect, Sister, in this most relevant of inner personal family dynamics throughout our great nation..Much love for your courage and heart of compassion for your Brother's sacred soul.
Her story encouraged me that I can be a different parent than my parents were. Mine weren't abusive, but there are things they did & said that I'd rather not repeat when I have kids. Carine, her brother & her daughters are so inspiring!
Some people do grow up to be like their parents. But, others do move on. 2 out of 3 kids in our family did just that. We did a total break from the family and became better people.
My heart breaks for the trauma they went through. This story shines light on childhood trauma and the many that suffer in silence.
“Into the wild” Is a great story with the best soundtrack lyrically brilliant, i connect with it on so many levels. Thank you
I’m so sorry for what you both went through with your parents, Carine but I think Chris would be really proud of you and no doubt he would have been an awesome uncle to your girls. Excellent talk and I wanna read your book
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Everything is great. Way sad. She is an angel. Strong and powerful message. Love and compassion. Strong woman. Chris will continue guide us. Soar free my Friends.
Chris's story was a great inspiration in my late teens. A truly inspirational life and views 💖
And isn't it so interesting how young Heather looks so much like Chris?
I read “Into The Wild” a long time ago, and I always had questions about made Chris do what he did. Now I know the rest of the story! So similar to the story of my life! I can’t find the words that truly say how lucky I feel I am , for accidentally stumbling on this explanation fo his real life. Thank you so much for telling the REAL story of your brother. Now it up to me to try not to make the same mistakes.
I read this story in a small apartment in Plainsboro New Jersey with my ex wife thinking I am crazy because I wanted to live in Alaska and spoke of it many years before Into the Wild came forward. The book inspired me but yet, I must say, that Carine speaking is more inspirational and thought provoking for me. Thank you Carine for being more than love or caring...but for being truth.
Did you make your way out of Plainsboro NJ?
"Nothing is more important than truth." -Chris McCandless Into The Wild
Survival is.
As a high school English teacher, I read and studied Into the Wild for many years with my students. So much to discuss and consider.
Bless you. I have two brothers and could not imagine losing either one of them. He was an inspiration to us all!!!
I have been praying and asking for my purpose. Then I read about Chris McCandless. I feel like he knew his.
I read Into the Wild as a part of my English course at school. I liked it so much that I bought my own copy of it, along with The Wild Truth. I am currently halfway through The Wild Truth, and I think Carine McCandless has introduced another level of love. People love pizza, have girlfriends or boyfriends, marry, divorce, break up, separate, etc. The bond that that is described between brother and sister seems way more powerful than even the most faithful romances. I've read well over a hundred books and have never read anything more powerful than the thoughts and feeling Carine McCandless so generously shares. It's the only book I've ever read that has truly made me cry.
RIP Chris. God Bless.
I have been a follower of Chris McCandless for many years now, ever since I learned about his story after seeing 'into the Wild' when is it was first released. His soul and story will no doubt remain with me until I leave this world because it is so inspiring; almost having another Jesus in my life as part of my spirituality. When I'm in tough life situations, I always ask myself: "How would Jesus have handled this situation? How would Chis have dealt with this? I emulate people like Chris. 'The Wild Truth' is a well written book that I just finished reading and is very inspirational and I recommend to everyone who loves the story of Chris (Alexander Supertramp) McCandless.
And still, empathy for her parents, and acknowledgement that we all make mistakes. I hope Heather and Christiana are doing well.
Great! I am so impressed. Rest in peace Chris...
This lady is inspirational. I never knew that Chris had such a horrible upbringing at the hands of his parents and that that was one of his reasons for going off grid. Total respect to his sister for speaking out and exposing these charlatans that were hiding in plain sight with their religion.
Thank you, Ms McCandless
Her brother inspires me since 2007. 😊
I met him in the 90s as he was going to California on the Colorado River in bullhead city Arizona . My girlfriend gave him food and water . And he jumped into his canul and waved to us. And started rolling down the river toward needles California. Sorry to hear what happin to him.
really.. you met sir...
ThankYOU Carine and bless your family. I’m so touched by you and your brothers lives. I too, come from abuse and I relate very very strongly with what you both went through. My heart goes out to you and your family. 🙏❤️🙂
You are very impressive and an amazing woman. Chris would have been so proud of you. I cried when I saw his story. Part of me wanted to do the same thing he did going into the wild coming from abuse myself. God bless you and your family and RIP Chris!
WOW. breathtaking speech. Carine is talking about Chris being an inspiration but this is another level
This adds so many answers which I had about Chris and his death after reading the book. Thank you for sharing Carine.
What is a legacy? Its planting seeds in a garden you never get to see.
I thought that was hope
Or hope for happiness
I never knew. Now things make much more sense. What a wonderful, courageous woman.
Great book and movie. I've never met such a polarizing character as Chris.
Remarkable siblings. McCandless story had a strong impact on me shaping up into adulthood and facing my own turmoil and it still does now revisiting this. Thanks for being here Carine.
I watched the documentary. Heartbreaking. I have answers now, why he left. A lot of families have these secrets. Glad she found the courage. R.I.P. Chris Candless.
I read that book almost a decade ago and then I found out there had been a movie and I watched it as well... It is still to this day something that has stuck with me. But I never fully understood what his motivations for doing what he did. Now I know. And it makes his story even that more powerful!! I am so glad she shared this with us and I'll have to read her book as well. From all the pain and struggle these to McCandless kids grew stronger and have impacted the world!
She’s an amazing and strong woman, and her brother was a courageous young man..
Outstanding video and a lot of lessons learned. We are supposed to break the chains of bad energy and make sure they are guided in the right direction. I am in tears as well. That picture is deep. Great talk!
I actually managed to shed tears watching into the wild. The one time!
The movie attracted me to the book and its story of Chris. The book has truly helped me to see another perspective that never would have happened otherwise. I truly want to thank you for coming forward to complete the untold story behind the story as we so often don't want others to know. It's hard to walk the walk until it has been walked. From your pain(s) I truly see a wonderful new story unfolding. Thank You for the TRUTH!
"The greatest experiences are usually waiting for us far out of our comfort zone." This alone is one of most difficult things to do. We all know that it's true yet most of time we choose comfort over challenge. Thanks Carine for pushing us to explore
Pure tears of truth and Light. Best Ted Take ever. We all need compassion. Chris will soar free 4 ever.hugs
Brave....great speech Carine, thank you 👏👏
What an incredible story ❤️🇬🇧
Powerful, beautiful, message. from Chris, and from Carine. I admire Carine so much for telling both their stories.
I just finished reading this book for my honors English 11 class! Now we're watching the movie.
Karintha Cary I wish my English class looked at interesting books
I wish i had teachers like you. I'm greatful for what they did for me but that wasn't enough
I Completely agree with you. What better way to summarize it than chris's own quote " Happiness is only Real when Shared. " That shows how happy he was to leave everyone behind, Going completely on his own, Having no hope in humanity just because of some sh*tty parenting. And its defiantly not his fault. When a child was neglected by parents for their own selfish needs & issues, he will reject any authority when he grows up, it will be so hard nearly impossible to have his faith restored on his own. All he needed was HOPE that There is humanity out there, people are not just sh*t bags caring for themselves alone. That there is love in people too that they can share without wanting anything in return.When he haven't seen love even in his biological family how can we expect him to see love outside ? And its not easily found too. Tell me how many people we find in life that are so kind, authentic & loving to everyone that they treat everyone like a family member ? Hardly one or two in our life time if we are lucky.
So his feeling was not wrong It is defiantly hopeless out there.
But he summarizes his deep cry in his last quote very well that " Happiness is only Real when Shared. "
That No matter how peaceful you are when alone
no matter how happy you are when alone
no matter what job or how much money you have or what materialistic possessions or knowledge of the world you have, IT IS'NT WORTH SH*T IF YOU ARE ALONE.
I Literally cried at the end of his story by seeing the mere helplessness of a wounded soul. More than the spirit of adventure it inspired me to be more kind & compassionate to everyone. We dont know what sh*t storm they have passed through their life. I doubt that many people got the same message Cuz its very subtle but it carries the real punch. Glad that there are some people like you who have felt the same rather than the fake adventurism that is sugar coated on the deep unsettling pain of being alone & lonely in this harsh world let alone ALASKA. To me its not an accident, its a suicide that he committed to run away from his pain that this selfish world has given him. There is no good to be found in bad parenting. Some people became numb to their feelings & emotions due to this And some who are fortunate enough that they can still feel, Commit Literal Suicide.
Marriage & children are two most heavy decisions that we should take only if we are fully prepared to invest in other, think 1000 times even more if you have to dont rush into it because of society or anybody else. Cuz its the true test of selflessness not selfishness. & it has to come from both the partners Only then its sustainable otherwise it can become abusive very soon. If everyone thought of being a little less selfish in the relationships i think we will have better parents & it could be heaven for our children & their lives & even The lives they will make will be more from the place of love not selfishness.
Very well said, thanks for sharing
Lessons: "happiness only real when shared", and you can tell that she learned her lesson well: the picture of her daugthers smiling truthfuly.
This story of a man who founded real live in this world that educate to live real lies impacted me.
What a incredible human being wish there more individuals in this world as Carine thankyou for his story and your story