I love you Thich Nhat Hanh (Thay peace be upon him) from the bottom of my heart, but I can't forgive nor forget what people have done to me, for example like I was bullied from my old co-workers as I was working in the supermarket 11 years ago. I was 18 years old at that time. They have done psychological pressure to me, although I was fast and done my job really good, but they have always said that I was too slow no matter how correct I've done my job as a cashier or done other work in the store. They always gave me the fault, they said I was the reason why all workers in the supermarket end up closing the store too late because there is still so much work to do and they claim that I was the reason why all bad things is happening. I was the new worker, I was young and maybe I was unexperienced but I have done my job correct. Nonetheless I couldn't work there and I have asked my chef to change the store after 4-5 months of paing there, he gave his okay and since then I met better people,co workers around me who have supported me and understood my situation. No one has every critisized my working skills/behaviours. I do believe in Karma and that Karma will punish those people. Sooner or later it will happen without giving my extra negative energy to it. But for the last days I am getting really angry about those people again, who gave me this pain. I remember those negative feelings, it happens always when I go outside for shopping or walking alone. In my mind I would like to punch them all in their faces. Everytime I wanted to go work in the early morning in 2011 that feeling of being frightenend came up in my mind. They hated me, they wanted to fight me. As I was alone with the store manager he bang the cash register on the table to show how agressive and powerful he is to me. When there is no civilisation nor police I had probably punched him to death already. I have cried every single day but I had no money and no power at that time, so every bad thing what has happened to me I had to swallow down and accept it. Now people would say why you haven't quit your job, when you had already experienced bad things with your co workers? The problem was at that time it was really hard to get a job, for people who haven't learn anything except high school. I got so many rejections for job applications that I have lost my hope and I was frightened too. What if I end jobless? Then I would felt like a looser. This was my story. And no I can't forget and I can't forgive. No way!
Dear Krillin, I was bullied too when I first started working. But I garnered strengths from all these bullying- I told myself at that time, that if one day, I climb up in position, I would not be like these people because they didn’t deserve my respect. I worked hard and maybe because it’s my karma, I rose in position and I treated my co- workers with kindness and guided them because I know how it is like to be bullied, especially when someone first started work. In return, my whole department worked well and we were all very happy. Certainly now that my Buddhist practice has deepened, I forgive them for their ignorance and selfishness. May you find the peace within yourself through mindful practice and I hope that you will do well one day and treat your coworkers with kindness. When something bad happens in our life, it’s not totally bad- it’s something for us to learn. May you find peace and happiness within you.
Dear Krilian, I am saddened by your story. The harm done to you is wrong and here you are holding this trauma. Thank you for pouring out your story. The pain is in your body and needs healing. May you find the cleansing waters to restore you, to give you strength and purpose. May your pain be healed. I will pray for you. You have much to offer the world, you are a beautiful human being, may this trauma be healed. Love restores us. Blessings dear friend. Sandy
There is no need to forget what has happened to us, that is not what Thay is instructing at all. it is up to us to change how we relate to suffering in a healthy positive way. We have the power over our thoughts and how we relate to suffering and the suffering that we mistakenly believe is caused by unfortunate events. Suffering is caused by our own ignorance to the truth of the freedom that is always present here and now and suffering is caused by how we relate to events, it is not caused by the events that occur in themselves. No one forces us to suffer but ourselves, this is the fundamental truth of Bhuddism, no one is coming to save us because we can save ourselves by waking up to our truth in the here and now. Is anyone threatening you right now as you read this? You cannot prevent an arrow from hitting you to begin with, this is the first contact. But you don't have to shove another arrow in and roll it around, this is a choice each of us makes with our thoughts and where we are directing our attention. When we hold onto hatred, anger, fear, bitterness, we are shoving a second arrow in to free the first one. We all have difficult things that happen in life, its our own choice how we relate to it; to be kind, gentle, and caring towards ourselves and our past and the things that have happened to us. Let go my friend, let go doesn't mean "forget" :)
Hi, I am in a similar situation and I have suffered six years of abuse at accounting firms. Last weekend my parents asked me to suck it up and I told them they were monsters. When I was little, a big girl who was the daughter of my mother's colleague bullied me for a while - I told my mum about it and she refused to do anything about it. She said she can't risk displeasing her colleague and she said that colleague's daughter had issues with her brain so it was quite normal. I'm telling you this, so that you do not feel alone in your situations. As much as I respect Thick, I also respect my own feelings - even though that means at this stage I'm unable to implement Thick's advice in this video, as of course he wouldn't know how much bottled up energy I had in the past.
In light of the Russian invasion into Ukraine, how would one find any type of forgiveness toward those who caused such monstrous atrocities toward Ukrainian citizens? I feel these acts are created by those in an extreme unconscious state, they need to be held accountable and I find it hard to understand how any type of forgiveness could be offered to them. 🇺🇦
Swap out the war for every other war thats ever happened. Invasion of Vietnam, Iraq, Afghanistan, Sudan. Everyone involved in WWII and WWI. Korea, Nicaragua, Indonesia, Serbia, Yugoslavia.
Unskilful it is a very kind way to say that sometimes we commit terrible mistakes. I Love you Thay! Thank you!🙏❤🌻
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I will never forget you Thay. Your memorial kind words is in my psyche forever. God bless.
My beloved Father! ❤️
One is a victim of their own suffering
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Thank you beloved Thay🙏🏽 There are no words.
They make themselves suffer first, so true
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This is incredibly timely for me. Thank you.
I love you Thich Nhat Hanh (Thay peace be upon him) from the bottom of my heart, but I can't forgive nor forget what people have done to me, for example like I was bullied from my old co-workers as I was working in the supermarket 11 years ago. I was 18 years old at that time. They have done psychological pressure to me, although I was fast and done my job really good, but they have always said that I was too slow no matter how correct I've done my job as a cashier or done other work in the store. They always gave me the fault, they said I was the reason why all workers in the supermarket end up closing the store too late because there is still so much work to do and they claim that I was the reason why all bad things is happening. I was the new worker, I was young and maybe I was unexperienced but I have done my job correct. Nonetheless I couldn't work there and I have asked my chef to change the store after 4-5 months of paing there, he gave his okay and since then I met better people,co workers around me who have supported me and understood my situation. No one has every critisized my working skills/behaviours. I do believe in Karma and that Karma will punish those people. Sooner or later it will happen without giving my extra negative energy to it. But for the last days I am getting really angry about those people again, who gave me this pain. I remember those negative feelings, it happens always when I go outside for shopping or walking alone. In my mind I would like to punch them all in their faces. Everytime I wanted to go work in the early morning in 2011 that feeling of being frightenend came up in my mind. They hated me, they wanted to fight me. As I was alone with the store manager he bang the cash register on the table to show how agressive and powerful he is to me. When there is no civilisation nor police I had probably punched him to death already. I have cried every single day but I had no money and no power at that time, so every bad thing what has happened to me I had to swallow down and accept it. Now people would say why you haven't quit your job, when you had already experienced bad things with your co workers? The problem was at that time it was really hard to get a job, for people who haven't learn anything except high school. I got so many rejections for job applications that I have lost my hope and I was frightened too. What if I end jobless? Then I would felt like a looser. This was my story. And no I can't forget and I can't forgive. No way!
Dear Krillin,
I was bullied too when I first started working. But I garnered strengths from all these bullying- I told myself at that time, that if one day, I climb up in position, I would not be like these people because they didn’t deserve my respect. I worked hard and maybe because it’s my karma, I rose in position and I treated my co- workers with kindness and guided them because I know how it is like to be bullied, especially when someone first started work. In return, my whole department worked well and we were all very happy.
Certainly now that my Buddhist practice has deepened, I forgive them for their ignorance and selfishness.
May you find the peace within yourself through mindful practice and I hope that you will do well one day and treat your coworkers with kindness. When something bad happens in our life, it’s not totally bad- it’s something for us to learn. May you find peace and happiness within you.
Dear Krilian, I am saddened by your story. The harm done to you is wrong and here you are holding this trauma. Thank you for pouring out your story. The pain is in your body and needs healing. May you find the cleansing waters to restore you, to give you strength and purpose. May your pain be healed. I will pray for you. You have much to offer the world, you are a beautiful human being, may this trauma be healed. Love restores us. Blessings dear friend. Sandy
There is no need to forget what has happened to us, that is not what Thay is instructing at all. it is up to us to change how we relate to suffering in a healthy positive way. We have the power over our thoughts and how we relate to suffering and the suffering that we mistakenly believe is caused by unfortunate events. Suffering is caused by our own ignorance to the truth of the freedom that is always present here and now and suffering is caused by how we relate to events, it is not caused by the events that occur in themselves. No one forces us to suffer but ourselves, this is the fundamental truth of Bhuddism, no one is coming to save us because we can save ourselves by waking up to our truth in the here and now. Is anyone threatening you right now as you read this?
You cannot prevent an arrow from hitting you to begin with, this is the first contact. But you don't have to shove another arrow in and roll it around, this is a choice each of us makes with our thoughts and where we are directing our attention. When we hold onto hatred, anger, fear, bitterness, we are shoving a second arrow in to free the first one. We all have difficult things that happen in life, its our own choice how we relate to it; to be kind, gentle, and caring towards ourselves and our past and the things that have happened to us. Let go my friend, let go doesn't mean "forget" :)
Hi, I am in a similar situation and I have suffered six years of abuse at accounting firms. Last weekend my parents asked me to suck it up and I told them they were monsters. When I was little, a big girl who was the daughter of my mother's colleague bullied me for a while - I told my mum about it and she refused to do anything about it. She said she can't risk displeasing her colleague and she said that colleague's daughter had issues with her brain so it was quite normal. I'm telling you this, so that you do not feel alone in your situations. As much as I respect Thick, I also respect my own feelings - even though that means at this stage I'm unable to implement Thick's advice in this video, as of course he wouldn't know how much bottled up energy I had in the past.
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In light of the Russian invasion into Ukraine, how would one find any type of forgiveness toward those who caused such monstrous atrocities toward Ukrainian citizens? I feel these acts are created by those in an extreme unconscious state, they need to be held accountable and I find it hard to understand how any type of forgiveness could be offered to them. 🇺🇦
In a way you've already moved towards forgiving them by saying they are in an extreme unconscious state.
Swap out the war for every other war thats ever happened. Invasion of Vietnam, Iraq, Afghanistan, Sudan. Everyone involved in WWII and WWI. Korea, Nicaragua, Indonesia, Serbia, Yugoslavia.