“Top surgery”, detransition, and motherhood
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- Опубліковано 21 лис 2024
- Just felt like I needed to say some stuff. Apologies for all the filler words (like, um, ya know). I don’t feel like editing and you get the point regardless.
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Daisy, I’m grateful for your honest dialogue. As far as breastfeeding..listen.. people typically breast feed a baby for 1 year. You get to be a mother for the rest of your life! He is fed and it doesn’t make you less of a mom.
Yes but her choice to breastfeed her own baby was stolen from her. That's the point. She doesn't get to experience the joys and bonding from breastfeeding. Not to mention the benefits for the baby's brain. She's absolutely aloud to grieve the loss and advocate for others.
And there's nothing remotely close to breast milk. You're doing a good job giving your baby the best you can ❤.
If you're in a delusional state there's no way to have accountability. You should have been protected.
@@JJtveeI choose not to breastfeed as do many women. It’s fine
@@anniegwynnehowell It's better for the baby to breastfeed. Not being able to is one thing, deliberately choosing not to is another. All in all breast milk is best for a baby. Science backs this up with increased grey matter brain growth that does not happen with formula. Not to mention the connection, bonding, immune system support and superior nutrition. Breastfed babies also get the variety of foods their mothers eat and they get the tastes of those foods and become less picky eaters and have less gut issues. Formula literally kills the intestines of premie babies and breast milk does not do this. It is definitely a choice and the benefits of one outweighs the other.
Your body is not ruined. You are brave to share and smart to maybe limit some of what you share because of safety and mental health. Great video :) and enjoy your son. I have a six year old..... they grow up soooooo fast.
The ability to breastfeed (or the lack thereof) is not the hallmark of good mothering. My friend had to have her breasts removed because of cancer and that didn’t stop her from having more kids. She’s an excellent mama to her kids (both biological and foster). You didn’t miss out on anything Daisy; you’re doing such a wonderful job as a mama! Good for you for getting yourself away from social media! Keep at it Daisy!
but she is missing out on breastfeeding. which is really sad. it’s not the main point of motherhood but that’s why we need to be speaking out about young people changing their bodies so young. because she says she is dealing with transition regret, so why are we allowing children to start transitioning as a minor when this could be their story next. she seems like she’s doing great and that’s fine but not everyone is going to be okay like this. it could trigger PPD and there’s no way even a 17 year old could think about that. i’m glad she’s comes to terms to it but what if the next women can’t? as she says she was so deep in her delusion there’s no way she could’ve actually thought about it. we need mental health help instead of gender affirming care.
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Breastfeeding is such a massive part of being a mother and not doing it I would compare to neglect. When you breastfeed you are chemically bonding with your child and developing their entire immune system from childhood until adulthood and without it the child will become immune compromised which is why there are so many people nowdays who will die if they ca5ch common colds. Also the stuff they put in baby formula is poison with a lot of chemicals and a massive amount of corn syrup.
I had 2 children, first I bottled fed and the other breast-fed. Even though I did not with the first I feel over 25 years later that I didn’t miss out on anything with my first son. Breast-feeding is the only thing that mothering does, you can still awesome bonding with your baby. The most important thing with motherhood is to emotionally support your child and prepare them for the next step. Both my children received lots of love that they are healthy productive individuals in society.
Welcome to motherhood!!! It’s a job you look back on being proud of what you did for your child. You will have many many years of joy. Enjoy and blessings.
Hey, you may get this a lot but I’m trans and I’ve watched ur older videos ( a long time ago obvs but still) and newer vids too. I just think you’ve progressed so much and you seem so happy and I’m super happy for you. I really hope you get the life and happiness you deserve
Sorry big spew of words and not good punctuation but I really mean it
@@sugarhiccup1772 Don’t apologize, you’re doing God’s work
Another trans person here who wishes you all the very best. stay strong.
It’s nice that trans people (and everyone in general) supports detrans voices. But you should know you wont get the same support back 😅. Daisy goes around commenting on Noah Finnce’s videos ( a trans man) saying him that trans man should drop off T and embrace their “God given femininity” that they are women, that they should get married and go serve dinner to their husbands, that they are larping as “gay boys” etc , etc, etc… trying to force her experience on happy transgender men.🤢 she doesn’t like y’all!! Go support detrans people who would not erase trans people if given the chance lol
@@henazz2561 ugh, that's digusting. Is that true?
Congratulations on your wonderful baby son!! Your body is awesome and being a mom is the hardest job of all times. Motherhood makes life rich with both difficulty and joy. The joy keeps you going.
Ive been quietly following you and daisy you look amazing.
I detransitioned over 2 years ago as well, the whole thing about detransition is that its a phase and not a label or identity, I was a transwomen was something I was for a short time, and now Im just a normal man again, and I embrace it now.
Im so happy you have a family now I think thats what we all want to get on with our lives, because dwelling what happened to us is not healthy.
Super happy for you! 😊
@@Kerenpereira7 thanks ! recently Ive just finally accepted that Im gay and life is alot more enjoyable now, I thinks some of got caught up with trying to fit in with a gender stereotype instead of just enjoying life as who we are.
take care I wish you and your family a merry christmas !
Good for you!
@@LVThN_von_Ach thanks, ive moved on from the detrans movement and am lookimg forward to the rest of my life
Thanks for sharing and for your honesty. I do plan to share your video with someone who is detransitioning , struggling, and needs encouragement. Thanks Daisy!
Dear Daisy Chadra, You are such a very thoughtful person, I have been following your videos a few years back, and from the first moment was so impressed by the way you handeled your life with such honesty, and that you had the abillity to connect with your followers. I wish you the best of everything in life, take a pause from internet, come back whenever you like, we will be here, because your journey is of great importance.
I'm actually laying in bed feeding my son while watching this, and I can see both sides. Breastfeeding is a beautiful thing for bonding. I had a c-section and had I not been persistent, I would have failed at doing it. But at the same time, you're right about not ruined over it. There are mother who survived cancer who couldn't.
Its hard enough as a mother feeling like a failure when things don't go as planned. I know I felt like a failure because I felt like my body failed at giving birth. I can't imagine what it would be like to have media claim my body was ruined because of something I did, it would only compound that guilt.
Keep it up, mama. You're doing great.
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A lot of women have gotten sick from breast implants. I would caution against it.
Your voice is so needed. To explain why and how you made the transition journey ; then why your detransition decision was made. You are so elegant in thought and verbiage. You have experienced a life beyond what we most hope for. Those who criticize you are searching for answers . You look great, healthy and wise. Continue to be you and help . All the best.
Wow, what an honest, relatable, beautiful human you are. Imagine how many people like You need to hear your words. Thank You, Dear Friend, You're TRULY unbelievable. ❤
Ditto.
You’re right. You’re not ruined. Detransitioners bodies are not ruined. As long as you have life you have to fight. A healthy body is never guaranteed to any of us. We all have to do the best with what we have, regrets or not. Good luck Daisy! I’m glad to see you’re doing so well.
I always enjoy your videos. So glad you are doing well. I was naturally super flat chested and honestly did not breast feed either of my boys and they did fine.
Your story is one of the most powerful I've heard, truly. Welcome home, my husband and I comverted to Catholicism last Easter. The church is truly so beautiful.
Thank you so much for sharing this! I was adopted so my mom never breastfed me, and I myself have never had children, so I’ve never breastfed anyone either.
I went to medical school in 1999 and I remember being taught about all the positive things breastfeeding does, and that children who are not breastfed end up having all kinds diseases and disorders. We were all looking around the room at each other when the prof was saying that because most of the students in my class were never breastfed either for various reasons and we hadn’t developed any problems. Certainly breastfeeding is a wonderful thing to say the least, but millions of mothers cannot or choose not to do it for personal reasons. Everyone has their own unique path. Thank you again for sharing your story with us.
Yes, you are right. For most people it probably won't matter.
But I'm probably not one of the lucky people. I was not breastfed and unfortunately I got type 1 diabetes, Hashimoto's thyroiditis and celiac disease as a child. I gut also a lot of allergies. Many doctors have told my mother that children who are not breastfed are often sicker. And in my case, it was true. I had a lot of viral diseases as a kid.
That's why I often think, what would have happened if I had been breastfed. Maybe I would have a stronger immune system today.
Congratulations on the birth of your son. You are a glowing mother ❤. I had four sons and was only able to nurse two of them as I developed mastitis and landed myself in the hospital on IV, truly thought I was going to die. I remember feeling so judged by other mothers for not nursing. People can be so cruel. Also I have Polands disease (born without a pectoral muscle) had reconstructive surgery. I’m now dealing with a ruptured implant and the pain is awful. I wish I wouldn’t have put a foreign objects in my chest and would have just accepted my natural body. You look healthy and beautiful and I feel the less we do to our bodies the healthier we’ll be.
You have wisdom far beyond your years. Your child and husband are very lucky to have you. As a millennial woman who uses a wheelchair, I understand not wanting pity or being held up as this innocent victim for others' inspiration. You have much to be proud of and are very smart for keeping boundaries around your privacy. Take care xx
You are such a lovely human being...as one mom to another, thank you for encouraging me in other areas of my life. Thank you, Daisy!
Daisy I come back to your videos because they are actually inspiring. There is life after de-transition. I saw the profile video on IWF, thanks for doing that. Your comments were brilliant. I hope we hear from you again BUT you have your hands full!
I’m so sorry that the culture of society as it stands right now has made your life in general so much more complicated. You are doing an amazing thing! And your body is continuing to support you in bringing up your child and being an intelligent, outspoken woman who is brave enough to share her unique challenges with others.
What a great video. I agree with every thing that you have said and while it is important to get the word out about regret, you have done your part. Now it's time to protect yourself and your family.. The Millennial has a habit of using gotcha headlines and exaggeration.. Pay no mind!
So very glad to hear you and your baby are both thriving. This is wonderful news. Respect.
Congratulations, mama. You are blessed that you didn't lose your fertility or your good looks. Your son is blessed to have such a loving mother.
You are certainly not ruined that’s amazing that you were able to give birth it’s such a special thing, I hope I can do it too one day.
Hi Daisy. I found your channel via r/detrans. I am active in the detrans community, as an ally of folks like you. I just wanted to say how beautiful you are and that I just love your bravery in telling your story. Lots of love.
I hope you do make that "accountability" video, you can make it an inspiring video too, and it is the one video that I think a lot people have been waiting for since your detransitioning announcement 2 years ago. Some questions people would be asking include: is there anything you wished your own medical doctors/therapist should have done, any steps or tests they missed, pre-testosterone and pre-top surgery? Any information you wished you knew? That would have helped you realize early on that you were not an ideal candidate for this type of treatment in the first place. Or is this something that is near impossible to work out between a doctor and patient and it takes the actual process of transitioning to realize that it was not for you.
The media needs to get over it. Many women cannot nurse their kids. My friend couldn’t even produce milk. If you’re happy and baby is healthy. That’s all that matters!
As a mother of a 20 yo, who wishes I can rewind time to go back to those days, cherish every second. Photograph and video everything. Time flies so fast and they do grow fast. Like I mentioned earlier, my son is 20 now!
Congrats on your new baby! You will be an amazing mother!
I love you and you inspire me to be radically honest
I am just happy to see you going strong Daisy! You deserve the world, you are a true superwoman!
We all go through life with the scars of our past . Yours are of course very real on your body but your Journey is a huge inspiration and your brave honest story gives others hope. Thank you
Daisy, in life people are put through a lot of struggles. My cousin had breast cancer and had to remove them and now she also cannot breastfeed her baby years later. Your life is not ruined, breastfeeding is just temporary for babies anyway. Your story is your story, very unique and it will help others in the future (and even now) who find themselves similar situations. Most important thing is that you are a mother and yiu can get pregnant and have a healthy baby and leave a legacy behind you (both your story and your children passing down another generation) so thank you for being you, for being strong and for being a superwoman!
So cool to have been following your story for so long. Really cool to see you go from a kid to mature adult
Sounds like you are dealing with this in a very healthy way! You are doing the best you can and your baby boy has a great mom!!
Congrats on mother hood. The hardest and most important thing you'll ever do
Congratulations! I totally relate to you on how you expressed the feelings of being a mom on your other video. Mine are now teens… Wishing you all the best! Enjoy your bundle of joy. ❤
i didnt know real love until i had my lil one.. its something you will never experience until it happens. im thankful that you were able to experience for yourself. i hope you and your family continue to stay blessed.
I am SO SO proud of you. Your son is blessed!
You didn't ruin your body. I'm sure you are doing great as a mom. there are a lot of mothers who don't breastfeed. So you don't have to feel guilty about it. all body types are unique. it kinda tells a story.
Unfortunately her body is partially ruined, thankfully not enough that she couldn't recover. Could you imagine she had taken it as fair as getting an unnecessary hysterectomy, now that would have been an unbelievably devastating thing to have to come to terms with! She came to her senses just early enough! 😳
@@justathought5136 To say it's ruined is frankly bullshit. Plenty of cis women as well as trans men and nonbinary people get double mastectomies for a multitude of reasons, some may hate it while others feel elevated by it. I personally see bodies like these as ideal and as a symbol of humanity, art, evolution, and freedom. Perspective is everything and to categorize ANY certain type of body as "ruined", specifically when it's not your body, is just plain rude and naive.
@@justathought5136 You are detransphobic.
WOW 😢 ty for sharing ur story as a stright woman I had no idea that women were suffering this way. I'm praying for ur peace & happiness ❤
You should be so proud. You are so well spoken & have articulated such important points in such a powerful way that will serve to offer so much support and hope to others. God bless you & your precious baby & husband.
I just watched Dysconnected. I've been looking into this topic as much as possible because my adult daughter has started taking testosterone and I am worried about her. I keep praying for her and hold hope. It's reassuring to see that you are in a fairly good place at this point. There are consequences of the past, for sure, but so many blessings and reasons for hope as well. ❤️ Congratulations on your son and Merry Christmas 🎄
There’s so many reasons why other moms can’t breastfeed or choose not to besides having top surgery, I was also formula fed most of my infant hood and I turned out just fine and it didn’t affect me! It’s a personal choice and sometimes you have no choice but either way you’re still a mother that is raising him and loving him….that’s all that matters! It’s a tiny percentage of his life and there’s so much more to motherhood than breastfeeding ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Also I love your hair, you’re beautiful!!
One can't change the past, but one can make choices in the present and have hope for the future. Thank you for sharing your situation, experiences, and thoughts. May God protect, guide, and nurture you and your loved ones.
Daisy, you're a wise woman. I've seen one of your news videos, and you have done the world a great amount of good by sharing your life story. Tending to your baby (congrats!) and your hubby and focusing on them and being the best mom you can be is a very good thing! God bless you!
I check in with your channel every few months. We have somewhat similar stories although you're far more brave than me in many respects.
Stay strong, keeping going. 🙏🏻💞
Firstly, Congratulations on your growing family. This is the first video of yours that I have seen, and I just wanted to say thank you for sharing your story. It is so beautiful to see others who can spread hope & joy - we need more of that.
I was just thinking about your videos randomly the other day. I hope you’re good and parenthood is going well 😊
Thank you so much for putting yourself in the line of fire to share your story. Love your outlook and your Beautiful Baby Boy is such a Blessing. Keep up the good work. Being a mother is the most challenging and rewarding job there is in life. As you care for and teach them, you grow and learn so much about love and life. Blessings on you and your family. Always put your family first.
Thank you for sharing your story.
I appreciate you being vulnerable enough to share.
Many blessings to you as you take a break for your beautiful growing family.
I’ve been watching your channel for many years now Since the beginning.
It’s been amazing to see where this journey has taken you ❤
You are giving hope to many people. Thank you.
I really appreciated your gratitude towards your body now, including the possibility of not getting reconstructive surgery🌻❤️Some women make a similar choice after double mastectomy for cancer or cancer prevention and I think it’s an encouraging choice to make. Plus implants come with a host of issues including rejection and immuno-regulation and your body *has* don’t amazing with what you’ve been through. Honoring it as is may end up a very empowering choice for the journey you are on. Thank you for sharing it with us🌷🙏
So glad to come back to your channel and see that you are doing well. All the best to you and the baby 😊
Oh Daisy! It must have been so long since I watched your videos. You've gotten married and had a baby! This is so exciting to me! You give me hope for my daughter. I love your message here. You are so right. Not being able to breast feed must be so sad for you but you are right, you have a perfect baby you can afford to feed high quality food. Great practice of gratitude!
I know parenthood is not for everyone like you said, but I so desire for my daughters to have that experience should they ever choose to and if they all became SAHMs, I would be thrilled even if they still don't include me in their lives. Great message! God bless you and your family.
You’re an awesome role model. Enjoy your family!
Daisy, I am so sorry you have been harassed and threatened. There is no excuse for that. I totally support you and wish you and your family love and peace. 😊❤️
sister--you are so, so, so good. I'm so proud of you and your strength and courage. Whatever you do, don't let the thought of "I did this to myself, It's my fault" dominate. You were young, and hurting, and your heart and body were sick--it was not your fault. I just watched your story on "Dysconnected", and I can't emphasize enough that you were the victim in the situation. You didn't know any better. The enemy tries to beat people up and tear them down after the smallest mistakes--but you are redeemed, and you are "not the sum of your weaknesses and failures, you are the sum of the Father's love for you." Celebrate and live in that truth. And speak the truth of that radical self-compassion to yourself that you are obviously so strong in, despite everything. As a trauma survivor myself, it is so, so easy to blame...yourself I mean. No. You were hurt. And you have permission and freedom to love yourself there, that little teenage girl, and to be merciful to her, and not call her the author of the mistake. Your own little one--when he gets bigger and makes silly kid mistakes, not meaning or intending the consequences (like I did as a kid)--you might talk with him through that, and help him understand where he went wrong in his decision making. But we don't *punish* when the mistake was simply an honest mistake, made out of nothing but good will. And we don't guilt trip kids for it either. Yes you made a decision, and yes people will point out that you "weren't forced"--but is it really true that you weren't when everything around you was encouraging you and downplaying any other decision? Sister, you are good. And don't let your past misunderstandings and mixups and misinformation shape your perception of your own "accountability" for this, in a way that is out of proportion. You are more, and your witness to this shines through, and I love your clarity of thought and the reflection you have clearly spent a lot of time on. You are far more mature and well-grounded than most people out there. And as your sister I just want to say I was so happy when I saw your wedding pictures--you are so beautuful. :)
You are incredibly blessed and its great that people who regret can see stories of hope. Congrats on your baby!
Thank you for continuing to be vulnerable and sharing your thoughts! It's a weird subject when transphobia (lamenting over transitioned bodies) negatively affects people who aren't even trans. Like it's strange that in supporting your womanhood, some of these people are still mourning over aspects of it (as far as I understand)? You are still a mother and your body is yours. As a trans person I stand with anyone who goes on a journey to find themselves--no matter how that looks.
Congratulations on the baby! Also I am so glad you found someone to make you happy, and that they accept you exactly the way you are. You said that when you put on the sports bra and looked in the mirror that you "felt" beautiful...that's because you are a beautiful woman who is a positive inspiration for young women everywhere. Hope your week goes well and always...
Stay You, Stay True, Stay Amazing!!
I have been following you from the beginning. You have a truly inspirational story. Stay strong.❤
Abit off topic, but there are some things I just want to say. I've followed you from the start, and it has just been beautiful to see your journey. After all you've been through, you've just turned out to be a beautiful person. Its been wonderful getting to know you and watch you flower as a human being. You have a rare sweetness about you that I doubt that you're even aware of. Your introspective nature is actually very loveable. Seeing you experiece the joy of your family really reminds me of my own joy. We are all becoming more of what we really are. All our true selves are truly beautiful and precious, and we all go on a journey that leads us to the same place. Its a journey that never ends. But there's no better journey. Very truly love, you have done well. Much love to you and your wonderful family ❤
Thanks for your bravery, and your restless fight to oppose wrongdoings of very few that put majority under effect. You have kind soul and its only matter who we came out at the end, I believe your son will be proud of his mother.
i remember watching your old videos from several years ago, and it's been really enlightening to watch your more recent videos. one thing that always bothers me when discussing this is how phrases like "ruined bodies" are used, and it is so obvious that was is maligned is not really a loss of a physiological function or feature, but the loss of cisnormativity in trans and detrans people's bodies. we as a culture simultaneously over- and undervalue the ontological meaningfulness of our bodies. it has nothing to do with what is "natural" either, no one's up in arms when grandma gets her titanium hip replacement or pace maker. congratulations on your son, i hope you're all doing well!
I think you are brave to share your story. It will definitely bring hope to those that are considering this path and also those just like you who took that journey and regret it. I never realized how many people have done this and regret it. Yet we have people who are saying children and teens are wise enough to choose this for their lives. Yet if these same people stand up and say they regret it say your not taking accountability or try to cancel you. So many screaming this decision should not be done as children. The irony. God bless you and your family ❤️❤️❤️
Praying for you! God bless you and your baby. It’s so awesome being a woman and getting to be a mom. 🙏🏽❤️🥳🙏🏽❤️🥳
Thank you for sharing your story, and doing it with such compassion and grace. Congratulations on your family 💗
Thanks for sharing facts and your truth. I'm impressed by your respect for life and motherhood.
Sweet.
💗 thankyou for everything you have sharer. Your journey is just as valid and important as anyone else's. To understand anything we should listen to all sides and circumstances. Fully understand the need for privacy and fully respect that 💗
Thank you for your beautiful story and giving hope to so many! You are an inspiration!
Such a positive attitude you have! Glad you and your baby are doing well 👏
I am 55 and very flat chested. I don't even have enough to do a mammogram. I gotta say, when I was younger I wanted breasts, at least more than I had but, now that I am older I am really glad I didn't do implants.
I have friends that got implants 30 years ago and they are now having issues with them.
One has scar tissue and they are hard and unnatural shape now. She wants them removed but it's expensive and insurance says "hard and unnatural looking isn't a threat to health".
Another friend had hers removed several years ago due to health issues and the silicon scare. Her health issues were never really tied to the implants but it wasn't really ruled out either. Now she wonders if her health issues are related. She has a nagging thought that she is sick because of her own decisions.
I know physical appearance is more important when you are young. I also know many women never have a problem with their implants but I also know you care less about those things the older you get.
Anyways, that's my $.02 worth. I might add, you are a good looking young lady, your breast size, or lack of, isn't going to make or break you. You had a healthy child, you are building a happy life and that's what's really important.
You're so smart & lovely. Congrats on your new life, marriage, babies and faith.
I've followed you since the days when you had a crush on JBP ❤️😂 Since before I had MY two kids. I've always admired your sincerity, honesty and openness. I remember when I saw the viral tik tok of you with the voice over "I think I've made a terrible mistake" talking about your deep feelings of wanting to be a mother/housewife, I was like "HEY! I know her! Oh my gosh!". Let me tell you, seeing the direction your life has gone in- your story to me has only ever made me beam with happiness for you and it rings with so much hope for people who may be feeling like they've "destroyed" their bodies, or that there's no future for them after detransition.
Motherhood is a journey of a version of you dying and being remade again. During postpartum, there's a part of you that's saying "I want to get back to my old self!" But you're not your old self and never will be, you're in the infant stages of a new you. When a baby is born, so is the mother.
I just had my son this year (born in the front seat of our car!) Lol. It's so true that it's the most difficult thing you'll ever do (especially with your first and your whole world suddenly COMPLETELY changing), but also the most intensely wonderful, joyful, transformative and beautiful thing. Like you said "just so GOOD". Nothing else like it. Peak example of everything most worth doing not being easy.
God bless you and your sweet family- hope to see more motherhood related content from you in the future when you have a chance to catch your breath and process💙
(Things get so much more relaxed and normal, I promise❤️.)
Yes - you are really a good communicator - I hope you continue to make content - enjoy parenthood - like everyone says it goes by really quickly so I will appreciate every moment while you can. But even though you miss them, being babies its amazing to see them grown up - so be confident stay humble and happy!
What a blessing it is listening. Many blessings to you and to your family. Radical Acceptance and Gratitude go far. Motherhood is quite a transition.
Congratulations on that new baby! Also, I have boobs and could not breastfeed. It’s ok, as long as you are feeding your baby something. I am so proud of you on what you have accomplished and who you are.
Literally just found your channel. Looks like I missed a thing or two 😉😅
I just gotta say: YOU ARE AMAZING LADY! You really are! I see a wonderful human being and I’m tremendously proud of you!
Love
You had a baby! And you know that little miracle was made by your very own wondrous body. I am so happy for you. Some mums nurse their babies ( I did) and some mums don't, but your love for your baby is all that really matters. All. That. Matters. Is. That. Love. And you have love to give in such depth that your baby is infinitely blessed. I wish you every joy and happiness. Your little fella will be fine. Do not waste another moment thinking about the creeps who are giving you any hassle about how you are living your life. Be well, dear Daisy. You are a wonderful mum. It is the hardest job in the world, but also the best. And yes, it is sacred. And you are so beautiful. Blessings on your journey as a mum!
Continue to be brave for you your family and all of the rest of humanity. You are valued and cherished by people who matter (the majority, people who still have good values). ♥️💯💞
Daisy, I saw your story from a comment you left so I’m binge watching! When it comes to breastfeeding, DONT be hard on yourself. I tried to breastfeed both of my kids but unknowingly at the time, I had D-MER which overall affected my lactation. I was only able to for about 2-3 weeks with both and guess what… they are 5 and 2 years old, completely healthy and so incredibly close to me. A fed baby is a happy baby 🥰 you’re a mother for life so don’t let it get you down!! ♥️♥️
I just found you from the Independent Womens Forum and realised I used to watch your videos when you were IDing as trans! I’m so glad you’ve come back to yourself again and are at peace. Congrats on the birth of your son and marriage, so very happy for you ❤
I personally I am a Trans-man. I am a Gender Dysphoric 19 year old female. I am getting top surgery very soon. However, I am taking my time and researching everything. I do understand that some people regret their surgeries. I wish all the best for you, Daisy, and for your child.
don't do it. this is your sign.
Do it, this is your sign
The transition to motherhood is one of the most challenging things I’ve ever been through, but here I am 3 years and 2 kids later and it gets easier! I also was never able to breastfeed, but that doesn’t mean that I missed out on anything with my kids. Even our pediatrician says breastfeeding is overrated 😂
I love watching your videos, seeing the journey that you’re on and the joy you keep finding. Praying continued blessings for you and your little family ❤️
A paediatrician should NOT be saying that, that's how we've got to the point of breasts being sexualised first and foremost and an afterthought on their actual primary function. I see what you're trying to do, but we don't need that.
@@wordsbymaribeja1470 🙄 don’t jump to outrage so quickly, it will help you live longer. Here’s some context that isn’t necessary to share because nothing about the message in my original post requires more context, but I guess will help you: He has 3 kids and his wife was never able to breastfeed any of them. He saw how difficult the process was for her, and the toll it took on her in an already difficult transition. He’s trying to help new moms that come to his practice not put so much pressure on themselves over something that, in his decades of experience as a pediatrician, doesn’t have a significant effect on children in the long run. He also said “any amount of breast milk that your child can get is great, but none is okay too.”
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While the most important thing is that a baby is fed, devaluing breastfeeding is not necessary nor factually correct. I hate to say this but it sounds like he was saying this to compensate for the fact his children were not breastfed. Also doctors are not taught about breastfeeding in medical school. A lactation consultant knows more about breastmilk and breastfeeding then any doctor out of medical school. Most doctors learn everything they know about infant feeding from the formula company representatives that promote their formulas to pediatric offices.
Now from a clearly antidotal position I breastfed all 4 of my children and I noticed all my friends that exclusively bottle fed had children who had constant ear infections and other illnesses in comparison to my children who never got sick. It's important that doctors support all mothers regardless of feeding choices but at the same time are honest with themselves and others about the risks of artificial baby milk. Societies low breastfeeding rates were caused by doctors initially saying infant formula was healthier than human milk and many people suffered because of that false information with illnesses like diabetes and morbid obesity and excessive allergies.
@@tiffanystout. You are absolutely correct and good for you for personally feeding your children. The reason they never got sick is certainly down to breastfeeding as when a mother breastfeeds she is transferring EVERYTHING from valued nutrients that are purposefully not found in baby formula to bacteria and antibodies which build a childs immune system that will last until they die of old age. Without breastmilk a child has no inbuilt immune response which is why so many people have illnesses that will kill them if they get sick and entirely prevents them from surviving in a natural environment. It is absolutely ridiculous that a lot of women just dismiss the most important aspect of raising a baby arguably as important as socialization and just listen to doctors who are the same idiots who said cigarettes were good for you. If you can't breastfeed honestly don't have children or have another woman breastfeed them as it is cruel and dangerous to feed them baby formula which contains no beneficial nutrients and is full of corn syrup which is just poison regardless of age. Another part of breastfeeding I forgot to add was that chemicals are released which helps a mother bond to her child which needs no explanation for why thats beneficial.
Hi. I have my boobies and My kid didn't take to being breastfed so I did formula. I cried about that and was really depressed about it but listen... we are still mothers and we adapt. You are every bit of a mom!
You never would have gotten where you are now without all yiur past. You turned out to be a very beautiful mother and very responsible human being😌. Thank you for shari g your wonderful experiences🙏. Simply happy for you☺️enjoy your motherhood❤️
First off Congratulations on your baby boy 🎉🥳🎊🥰‼️Continue pressing forward, you’re a fighter , we will be praying for your continued good health mentally , physically and spiritually. FYI - breastfeeding is good but it can also be very painful, discouraging and limiting to a mothers life. So you’re doing fabulously 😊.
Thank you for sharing your story. I'm learning so much from stories of de-transitioners. As a therapist working with Transgender pts, it helps be work my patients. This gives me a great perspective.
Congratulations on becoming a parent. Don't sweat the small stuff, if you love them and keep their health and safety as your top priority .. and your health and sanity as your other priority ... It'll all turn out fine in the long run.
Your body delivered your baby! You are the greatest mother on the earth! Motherhood is so hard, especially not enough sleep. Bottle feeding helps your husband and mother-in-law enjoy feeding your baby. If breastfeeding, baby would want mom only. I remembered that my mother-in-law was so disappointed that she was not able to feed the baby. She came from Taiwan and she really wanted to feed the baby, and holding the baby. But my baby wanted me only without anybody else. So I changed to bootle feeding for the last meal of the evening that grandma and grandpa could enjoy the moment. You are so beautiful, don't worry about anything, no need for implant. Love you!
WOW, Daisy. Congratulations on being a Mother. What a joy for you. Im sad you can't BF your baby and had all this to go through. BUT don't worry about the BF, as Formula is fine. It's such a struggle for teens to know who they are during those years. I'm so happy you are who you are and now a Mum which I personally found the best thing I ever did in my life. D A top tip about baby language is to check out the Dunstan language for babies. It actually worked for us regarding what their signals are. You are now a mother and that's the most and best thing ever !! don't worry about BF.
Daisy, you are and I have no doubt will continue to be a wonderful mother for your son! Thank you for your courage in sharing your experiences in an such open and honest way to this point. I understand your frustration with the media but unfortunately you can't really control how they "spin" your story once you have shared it. I think you are right in focusing on the more positive aspects of still being able to conceive and give birth and not focusing on what you may have lost. Whatever you do, please do what you feel is right for you and your family and ignore any negative feedback you get.
I wish you well, Daisy! Been watching for years.
You're a very brave woman, God gives you a beautiful family, thank you so much for sharing your experiences 🙏
Dear Daisy! -I have been a subscriber since way back. I subscribed because I wanted to support a young person, on a difficult road ahead. I wanted to support your right to make decisions regarding your own person., in any field!
In this case, I say, Your body, Your choice! -Of course!
-It makes me really happy to see you found your OWN way in this crazy world. You look so healthy, happy, you are married to a great person, and the mother of a healthy, happy son!!
I’m a cis woman, mother of 2, and I wasn’t able to breastfeed successfully. As long as the babies are fed and thriving, then everything is okay! ❤
You have every right to take a break:)!
I‘m happy your body works, it shows how strong our body is as a complex system!
It‘s great that you learn to be ok with your body! That‘s wonderful! Wish you all the best!
No one‘s life is only depending on the outer shape of the body!!!
The most beautiful people are those who are fine with who and what they are. With their emotions, their body and all that comes with the two:)
All the best for you and your family! You are beautiful by the way! What I can see in the video of you and what arrives at me through it IS BEAUTIFUL😊!
You go mom !! much love to you.
the world of parenting advice is so intense and noisy and full of people wanting to point out what youre doing wrong, so taking a break from that is super useful.
If you want to feel better about health stuff and reassured that You're Doing Fine , i can recommend a book called "parenthood the swedish way". Its devoted to debunking myths about all the stuff parents "are doing wrong", also the author is supportive of detrans and those criticising trans stuff so thats cool too
I appreciate you mentioning that a traditional lifestyle isn't the answer for everybody. It proves that you didn't jump from one delusion to another. The point is to pursue a life that's authentic, and you seem to be doing just that. Kudos! Wish you the best.
You’re doing an amazing job. I come from a generation where our moms were discouraged from breastfeeding and most were raised on carnation milk. Your baby will be a happy healthy boy despite your inability to breastfeed. It’s only a minute part of motherhood. Being a loving involved mom is the most important thing. Keep your eye focused on your health and be the best mom and wife that you can be.