I fear we are entering a time when kindness will be in even more short supply - and thus even more important for us all to show to one another, in games and out.
Absolutely. Thanks for posting, and please share this far and wide, because it is probably the most important message going into the new year, for so many obvious reasons...
This is my first encounter with you and your channel and you have quickly made a fan out of me. I play at some local game stores in my town and I wish that this video was mandatory for new players there. Thank you for the video!
I TOTALLY agree. Please share this with as many folk as possible. If you have a local game store, let them know about it, and share far and wide. We are the only folk that can make these changes, because we have the floor, er, the Tabletop for expressing the sentiment.
I'm all for kindness--to the kind. Mindless forgiveness is just an invitation to further abuse; especially when dealing with those who have made a point of being abusive. If someone (or a group of someones) is horrible while they have power, just letting it go when they lose that power isn't setting a good example; it's telling them they got away with it before and might again. In the end, there is no justice without retribution.
I appreciate the sentiment, Horrible people shouldn't be horrible. But. as is attributed to Einstein, doing the same thing again and expecting difference is the way of insanity. Cutting off your arm because it hurts, rather than attending to it, protecting and caring for it until it heals is at best unhelpful. We are all people, after all, one species. A fox in a trap will chew off its own leg to get away, because it has no other tool, and because it fears the outcome of its inevitable capture. We don't always get retributive opportunities. But we can choose the path of the higher ground,. Thanks for bringing this subject to the fore... What we need, in the long term, is more of these conversations, and less mindless reactions.
I, for one, go beyond the "Golden Rule," preferring a pro-active approach to kindness. Enter, the Platinum Rule: “Treat others as they want to be treated.”
This is problematic, at best. What you would have done to you, you can determine instantly and positively. What another would want, you would need intimacy with that is not evidenced. Thus the concept, put in simpler terms perhaps may be, "Be kind to the best of one's ability"
I agree! Kindness is a great strength to foster and celebrate.I really appreciate you. We all need to consider WHAT we are doing, but just as importantly, WHY we do so.
Forget kindness, we need toughness. Caring about the fragile feelings of other people is exactly why our culture is circling the drain. Good times have indeed made very weak men.
Thanks for responding. Kindness isn't weakness. In fact, as the old song says, ya got to be cruel(tough) to be kind. Telling someone "No, you can't do that" or, more precisely questioning their motive for any action, is very much a kindness, in that it offers them the out of reconsideration. Further, offering the benefit of the doubt to those who courageously offer a contrary position give them the means to explain themselves, which, ironically, is a tough nut to crack for some, as they most likely don't have the experience or expertise to speak, even in the pressure cooker of RPG play. Don't mistake this, however, for railroading... at my table, it is the innovative and courageous that thrive. A player overcoming their own beliefs or externalized limitations is a win for every player at the table, and for the stories at large. BRAVO! Kindness and accountability together RULE the day! Thanks again for your point. It is well taken.
Always glad to "sharpen iron" with a friend. Nice to make your acquaintance. Check out my GM Rants playlist for more ammunition and places where we can do this again, and subscribe to get alerts to all my new content. I usually post eight to ten times a week, so, there's a LOT to talk about...
Biggest problem, is we can"t know that. And that is a mercurial thing... the way one WANTS anything is capricious at best. Golden Rule or no. being introspective is essential.
All changes have the seeds of kindness, if one has the eyes to see them. The Benefit of the Doubt is an essential resource for being kind, and accepting differing opinions with grace is its inevitable conclusion. Thanks for watching!
I fear we are entering a time when kindness will be in even more short supply - and thus even more important for us all to show to one another, in games and out.
Absolutely. Thanks for posting, and please share this far and wide, because it is probably the most important message going into the new year, for so many obvious reasons...
This is my first encounter with you and your channel and you have quickly made a fan out of me.
I play at some local game stores in my town and I wish that this video was mandatory for new players there. Thank you for the video!
Welcome! I'm glad you enjoyed the video, and that you've found a community where you can enjoy games. Cheers to your local game store!
More people should carry this mantra. I am tired of people demonizing each other.
I TOTALLY agree. Please share this with as many folk as possible. If you have a local game store, let them know about it, and share far and wide. We are the only folk that can make these changes, because we have the floor, er, the Tabletop for expressing the sentiment.
I'm all for kindness--to the kind. Mindless forgiveness is just an invitation to further abuse; especially when dealing with those who have made a point of being abusive. If someone (or a group of someones) is horrible while they have power, just letting it go when they lose that power isn't setting a good example; it's telling them they got away with it before and might again. In the end, there is no justice without retribution.
I appreciate the sentiment, Horrible people shouldn't be horrible. But. as is attributed to Einstein, doing the same thing again and expecting difference is the way of insanity. Cutting off your arm because it hurts, rather than attending to it, protecting and caring for it until it heals is at best unhelpful. We are all people, after all, one species. A fox in a trap will chew off its own leg to get away, because it has no other tool, and because it fears the outcome of its inevitable capture. We don't always get retributive opportunities. But we can choose the path of the higher ground,. Thanks for bringing this subject to the fore... What we need, in the long term, is more of these conversations, and less mindless reactions.
I, for one, go beyond the "Golden Rule," preferring a pro-active approach to kindness. Enter, the Platinum Rule: “Treat others as they want to be treated.”
This is problematic, at best. What you would have done to you, you can determine instantly and positively. What another would want, you would need intimacy with that is not evidenced. Thus the concept, put in simpler terms perhaps may be, "Be kind to the best of one's ability"
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I agree! Kindness is a great strength to foster and celebrate.I really appreciate you. We all need to consider WHAT we are doing, but just as importantly, WHY we do so.
Forget kindness, we need toughness. Caring about the fragile feelings of other people is exactly why our culture is circling the drain. Good times have indeed made very weak men.
Thanks for responding. Kindness isn't weakness. In fact, as the old song says, ya got to be cruel(tough) to be kind. Telling someone "No, you can't do that" or, more precisely questioning their motive for any action, is very much a kindness, in that it offers them the out of reconsideration. Further, offering the benefit of the doubt to those who courageously offer a contrary position give them the means to explain themselves, which, ironically, is a tough nut to crack for some, as they most likely don't have the experience or expertise to speak, even in the pressure cooker of RPG play. Don't mistake this, however, for railroading... at my table, it is the innovative and courageous that thrive. A player overcoming their own beliefs or externalized limitations is a win for every player at the table, and for the stories at large. BRAVO! Kindness and accountability together RULE the day! Thanks again for your point. It is well taken.
@@nycosrpg Well, I actually agree with everything you said. Thanks for the clarification!
Always glad to "sharpen iron" with a friend. Nice to make your acquaintance. Check out my GM Rants playlist for more ammunition and places where we can do this again, and subscribe to get alerts to all my new content. I usually post eight to ten times a week, so, there's a LOT to talk about...
@@nycosrpg Thanks, will do!
The Golden Rule is fine, but think about being pro-active. Thus, the Platinum Rule: “Treat others as they want to be treated.”
Biggest problem, is we can"t know that. And that is a mercurial thing... the way one WANTS anything is capricious at best. Golden Rule or no. being introspective is essential.
The first step in returning to kindness is to elect leaders like Donald Trump :)
All changes have the seeds of kindness, if one has the eyes to see them. The Benefit of the Doubt is an essential resource for being kind, and accepting differing opinions with grace is its inevitable conclusion. Thanks for watching!
hell nah! i shall be mean till the ends of times! muhahahaha!! >:D
One reaps what one sows. Enjoy!