2:51 what makes you feel confident? 3:29 what’s some advice you’d give to a person who doesn’t like the way they look? 4:08 what are some tips for stepping outside your comfort zone? 4:30 how do you figure out what your style is vs what fits? 5:08 what are some misconceptions about things fat people should or should not wear? 6:10 is it bad to hold onto things you don’t feel comfortable in? 6:54 where do you find your clothes? 7:27 sustainable recommendations 7:41 how do you find your own personal style? 8:07 tips for determining accurate sizes when ordering online? 8:36 favorite tights? 8:45 favorite swimsuits? 9:29 favorite lingerie? 10:10 where do you find basics? 10:28 where do you find your jeans? 10:50 thrift store recommendations 10:57 what are things you look for in plus size clothing? 12:12 how do you deal with sizes being different in different stores? 12:19 if you could ask a manager of a company to make changes to include plus size people, what would you recommend? 12:51 any chain stores recommendations besides Torrid? 14:19 how do you find structured pieces that fit? 14:52 how do you plan shopping trips when you know you might get triggered? 15:24 how do you find clothing without spending a lot? 15:40 where do you find bras? 15:56 where to find boots to fit over large calves 16:07 try before you buy brands 16:44 where can you find fun prints and bright colors? 16:51 where to find decent dress pants? 17:16 suggestions for petite plus size clothing? 17:26 when you went abroad, did you find differences in sizes compared to america? 17:39 where do you find arm coverage that isn’t a wrap or cardigan? 17:57 any suggestions for comfy shoes for wide feet? 18:06 what online sites fit “true to size?” 18:17 how do you feel about old navy’s new size policies? 18:38 how do you dress when you’re not a natural hourglass shape? 19:02 what’s the best dress shape for apple, pear, and rectangle bodies? 19:30 how do you figure out the best patterns for different figures? 19:43 what styles do you recommend if you don’t want things to be too tight or too loose? 20:14 what can i do to help muffin top? 20:31 how can you take an outfit to the next level and make it fashion? 21:07 what are some basic must haves? 21:39 under boob sweat solutions? 21:52 comfy athleisure look? 22:12 how do you do a masc look?
Please don't yell at me I'm trying my best lmaooooooo, also all the links to plus thrift places are in description box ALSO I just gave like 50+ pieces to the plus bus in LA if you wanna shop my closet!!! --kitchen
I am going to say this and I hope it doesn't sound BATSHIT CRAZY because it is true....ever since I was little I have never really thought of people as fat or thin or whatever....I had no idea my friends were heavy until my boyfriend told me when I was 16. I was a tiny kid and was so jealous that clothes fit them properly. I just have always thought of you Kristin as a beautiful smart girl whom I love watching! I'm older than you by twenty years or so but I love your fashion and alot of it would be to my taste! I just wanted to point out that even older generations don't just judge looks. I truly love PEOPLE and you and Jen are right up my alley! Love you!
I'm so glad you did this! I saw your empty suitcase Hawaii episode, and wound up buying a dress that you tried on but didnt buy (off shoulder, longer sleeves, dress above the knee). I love it! I figired we were about the same size, I wasn't wrong! I loved Wacoal, but they quit making my bra. Now I go with a balconette full coverage from Soma. I love that I can get matching panties.it was so nice to walk in and have someone hand me.only 2 styles before I found one. The Sensuous lace model is nicer for when you're feeling saucy. My go to bathing suit is by Miracle Suit. A little warm because of the extra layer of fabric, but black on bottom, bust color will vary from year to year. Buckle at center back, then a lower scoop back. Secures everything, slimming, has underwire. Shoes are a REAL problem...Rieker and Clarke's are usually good. Sadly, boots are harder because of my normally fat calves and cankles + injuries made it worse . I had boots custom made in Peru, but then tore a meniscus and haven't been able.to walk on that size heel easily (I think the guy made the heels.too big). I had tossed a bunch of shoes when I lost weight, now have had to rebuy. I just discovered Unique Vintage, but their sizing can be inconsistent (same blouse, same size, two fabrics. One fit across the bust, one didn't). Unlike you, I hate spending money and time on shipping, so would prefer brick and mortar. Will give Elloquy a try. Comfy shapewear tights for me are Assets (by Spanx, just easier to deal with). Thanks again! I'm about to go and check to see if I've missed episodes of Empty Suitcase....I really wish you'd been able.to take that content idea with you when you.left!
I have no idea what you are wearing but damn that makes you look stunning. I have same body shape so watch all your videos, thank you for doing these videos.
"Don't give into the tent. You're not spraying for bugs, you don't need to throw a whole sheet over your body and abandon ship for three days." Funny and wise, perfect Kitchen. Thank you for pushing through and doing this video.
I know it's a plus-size video, but a good portion of the tips are fantastic for any size person. Thank you for your unique blend of positivity and no-nonsense when it comes to body acceptance. It was great to see Brie, too!
Kristen, I know that you may never read this, but hopefully, this gets to you somehow. At the beginning of this video, I was terrified. I am in long-term recovery from an eating disorder and was terrified that this video was going to be triggering. However, I was pleasantly surprised. Thank you so much for empowering me. You have no idea what it means to me right now. Wishing you the best!
As someone who is learning to be comfortable with getting fatter (bye-bye ED!) there was a *lot* of stuff here I'm grateful to have heard from you. I especially find that wearing lots of fun, bright, unusual stuff helps because it tricks my anxiety-brain into assuming people are going to be too busy saying "wow look how cool/confident/different they are!" instead of "oh look at their muffin top" y'know? Love to you and jorn and brie
Another tip for fit: tailors! They're really not that expensive and they can make a world of a difference in how comfortably something fits. If you have someone in your life who sews, ask them too!
As someone who sews just dont expect them to do it for free. I sew and I dont mind helping once in awhile but if you expect me to hem or tailor your clothes I will charge or politely decline.
@@elizadawne3896 yeah that^^^ i dont mind helping once or twice on little fixes, but come on, I took the time to learn the skill, and invested money in the machines and products, dont expect it for free, at the very least were doing a fair trade haha
Even as a straight-size person, I still end up altering/making ~75% of my clothes! Clothing is made for what stores consider the "Standard body type" and chances are, it'll be at least slightly off. Eg: I'm 5'8, with a long torso, so if I'm buying a jumpsuit, I'll most likely have to shop in the Tall section, and then be prepared to take up the hem on the legs a little. A blind stitch is a wondrous thing.
That's an AMAZNG feeling. I've always hated shopping for this very reason. It can be terribly depressing. Honestly, I think about 1 out of 15 items fits me comfortably and in a way that I feel comfortable wearing it out in public.
I am *realistically* a 36H and I have exclusively worn Torrid's Push-Up Plunge bras for YEARS. Everyone who I tell that to is completely baffled. Why would I need a pushup bra when I already have huge boobs?! For me, it's both comfort and aesthetic. It keeps them up, it keeps them strapped in place, and makes it clear where my boobs end and my belly begins. So, even though I've always been confident about my love of these push-up bras it's super refreshing to see another large chested plus-size person also endorse them. I suddenly feel way less alone. I think a lot of your takes here are right on point. Thanks for this!
I’m a DD so not quite as blessed, but I’m so with you guys. I wear their push ups for shape and definition. Also the extra padding helps on those days of the month where my girls are super sensitive.
I'm a smaller cup size, but I wear them for the same reason! To me, they feel much much more supported in a push-up bra than in a traditional lightly lined bra or t-shirt bra and they create the shape I would like. I'm glad to see other people do this, too!
Same. Despite being chesty, I've always worn pushup bras for the same reasons, and so far Torrid's bras are the best. I'm a 42DDD/E and their pushup bras without underwire are AMAZING!
I'm just a D cup so not quite the same but I've always avoided most push up bras, but then never feel like other bras gave me the same support. maybe I'll give them a chance next time I need a bra
THANK YOU! I’ve been mid/plus size for years. Then pandemic- I got covid, now long haul, & gained 20 pounds. You’re framing of how to let go of the clothes that don’t fit anymore is so helpful for me right now
I’d love to see Jorn do a video talking about dressing more masculine as an AFAB human. I’ve followed y’all for awhile and seeing Jen just be themselves has helped me feel more comfortable exploring myself and why I wanna dress more masculine (I’m NB AFAB thanks for helping me out with that one unintentionally lol) I know it sounds cheesy but thank you guys for just making videos and being yourselves it’s helped me learn a lot about myself. I’m even considering wearing a suit to my wedding instead of a dress and I don’t think I’d be confident enough to consider that without your influence 💜
Omg yes I would love this so much. I'd love to dress more masc but how to is like ??? lmao Especially if it adresses both wearing a binder for outfits (and safety limits when doing so for those that don't know) but also when wearing a bra of some kind and still managing to project "not femme" I guess?
@@theyoftheravens yes! Having boobs is so frustrating when trying to dress more masc and I hate it because I personally have very annoyingly large boobs and asthma so it’s not really safe for me to bind. I’d low key have to tape myself up like a drag king and probably need someone to help me lol. So not very practical 😅😅 the only things I like myself in are really oversized tops and hoodies that can somewhat mask the giant bowling balls that are my boobs.
Wore a white suit to my wedding. It was awesome for the sheer comfort (I do not sit well in a dress) and mobility. I eloped, did multiple locations for photos and hopping in and out of the car and walking about was so much easier without a having a dress dragging. I bought off the rack from J. Crew and had it tailored so it felt a bit more bespoke which was another plus: not paying a crapload of money; suiting was a more affordable option. EDIT: My everyday style definitely leans “unisex” with a dash of streetwear (joggers and sweat suits, boiler suits) with an occasional of “feminine” element. So a suit felt destined.
Hi Kitchen! I wanna say that thanks to you and your empty suitcase videos, my bestie and I are starting the FIRST plus size only thrift shop here in Edmonton! We need more of them in Canada and it really was your influence and inspiration that helped push this through xoxo
Hi Kitchen! I recently came out to myself and my closest friends as bisexual... at 32. I go in and out of pride vs. shame. I'm unfortunately in a shame cycle now. I'm a gay virgin and also demisexual, and I'm afraid that I'll always be afraid to have sexual and romantic experiences with women and non binary people- because of the shame I have. If this isn't too personal, would you mind speaking on your queer journey? I've always admired you and when I learned that you're queer it made me feel warm and fuzzy about being in this community.
I wish I could send you a thousand hugs! It's really tough to be demisexual AND worried about your love life. I hope you treat yourself with love and care as you continue your journey. You shouldn't put "deadlines" on your love life. If fear and shame are holding you back, you should build a good support group of trusted friends so you don't have to face these emotions alone. Also, if you can afford it, the right therapist can help you process your feelings and heal from emotional trauma like the "shame cycle."
@@fumetsushinju your kind and helpful words were all the hugs I needed 🥺 made me tear up. Thank you so much. And thanks to Kitchen and Jorn for creating a platform that attracts kind souls like yourself
Welcome to the queer party! We have snacks and don't know how to sit in chairs. Remember that your experiences do not define you, you are real and valid no matter what :) Congratulations on embracing yourself!
Kristen constantly inspires me to feel comfortable in my own body, just seeing her talk so casually about her body and it’s shape in a positive and normal way while being beautiful and wearing things that make her look more confident and stunning reminds me that I am as beautiful outside as I am inside when I manifest that energy like she does. Presentation, baby! I’ve been on a complete fashion journey that started with watching the Empty Suitcase show and has led me to wearing all the things I always wanted to but never felt I could. And I look amazing 🤩
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU for reminding people with a history of eating disorders to not measure themselves. It's a huge trigger. My mom or my husband measure me, look at the size chart, and then tell me what size to put in my cart. It's very helpful.
I've been in therapy for body stuff and when you said the thing about breaking down why you want an hourglass, I screamed. Thank you so much! You are an inspiration whether you want to be or not.
Plus size shopping is so hard for me as someone who leans masc at times, and also lives in a country where there like almost no plus size specific clothing brands (and definitely none for masculine people with more traditionally feminine bodies). This video might not be helpful to my specific situation, but i'll always love seeing Kitchen just being themselves and giving people advice that will help them! Don't understand why people would yell at her, she's extremely delightful and we love her!
I dress almost exclusively masc and at my size it's a nightmare even in the US. I really just want to talk to a tailor who is familiar with making plus size alterations.
coming back to this vid to say i tracked down the emerald velvet unique vintage dress from this video and bought one for myself and literally it is the most perfect dress. SO comfy, sexy, effortlessly gorgeous. can’t wait to wear it to a wedding next month and actually feel confident in my skin. THANKS FOR THE TIPS AND HOT CLOTHES KITCHEN 🙏💜
As soon as I was done watching this I logged into torrid and bought a few things for myself. I spent more money than I should hav, but it's been a long time since I've bought myself nice clothing. Since the pandemic I've hovered around the same 5ish outfits out of comfort. I guess I felt like I didn't deserve nice things. Thank you Kristen for helping inspire me, and reminding myself that I deserve to feel pretty.
I just want to say that you're actually the reason why I started exploring plus-size options for myself instead of wearing the same black clothes all the time, you've changed my life Kitchen!! Thank you for all your advice
I'm still in the same black clothes all the time phase....I haven't made the jump to exploring nice, fitted, plus size options yet because I'm scared that it'll be way too expensive or none of it will be comfortable and flattering.
Some more tips for you plus size babes; Tights: Snag tights Bras: Elomi or Goddess are amazing brands! Sustainable: Loud Bodies (not cheap though) I wish more US brands were available in the EU, I can only sometimes get my hands on an Eloquii piece. And yes! A dress is a whole outfit :)
I gave up on tights years ago. The slip, fall down, or tear when I try to pull them up. Hold ups and stockings work much better for me, plus makes me feel like a fem-fatal even if I’m just going to get milk.
Snag are brilliant - a huge colour range, chub rub shorts that don’t roll up or dig in, beautiful stretch, pretty swimsuits that aren’t just scaled up from a (UK) size 8, and now they’re moving into clothes!
Take a shot every time they say Torrid... But actually don't, because you'll die! Lmao, but thanks for making this Kristen, the struggle is real, and I really appreciate your style!
I really love Old Navy for leggings, softer denim jeans, and basic tees. I struggle with sensory issues when it comes to clothing. I love that they are now including sizes up to 28 in store AND at “regular” price too. It’s a step in the right direction. I ONLY buy during 40% or up sales though because I feel like it’s overpriced. 😂
Ok, so underboob sweat, they make liners that go underneath (no amount of pushup means I wont have skin touching skin). They are bamboo and very comfortable. I got them on Amazon. Also, in a pinch the brown paper towels that are in dispensers. It doesn’t break down that fast and keeps things comfy. Both keep sweat and therefore irritation in check.
"I just do things anyway." This. This is absolutely life goals. You keep doing you, sweetie. We see you and we love you and you help some of us realize we're pretty dang ok just being ourselves. ❤
As an insecure teenager, I thank you for the outfit advice! Although I’m not plus sized, I’m currently in between sizes and have been disappointed for so long about clothes not fitting me right. I’m definitely looking into getting clothes adjusted to fit me.
I have had a hard week during my ED recovery, and this video was literally what I needed. I love fashion, I love dressing up just to binge Netflix and order in, but have been so hard on my body this week. Thank you for helping me be like take the oversized t off and put on what you really want bc you're the boss of these clothes
I actually have a thrift recommendation! threadUp! It's not only plus size but they carry up to a size 32 and have a massive selection (in my experience from sizes 12-20). You can pre-set your sizes to tailor your search results. I've had good luck, especially since their restocking fee ($1.99) is per order, not per item, and they provide super easy free returns. I treat the purchase as a dressing room situation.
I'm on the large end of standard sizing and petite, so I am so happy I found it. It's taken a bit of experimentation to get good at using it. Watching channels like Nicole Rudolph and Abby Cox have been helpful in uderstanding sizing and measurements. I do wish thredup was more consistent in providing useful garment measurements and their refund policy is trash, but I can live with that. My biggest frustration is if you search petites only it won't let you filter by material as well. I have a strong preference for linen followed by cotton and cellulose-based fabrics. Polyester is a hard pass.
thredUp is awesome, but do be prepared for it to take a while to get your clothes, especially if you buy a lot of pieces., because they wait until they have all the pieces before mailing. I bought a whole new summer wardrobe and it took a month or two before it arrived.
I've only really gotten into Torrid in the past year, and honestly it's been wonderful! It definitely is a bit more than I used to spend on clothes and shoes (which was basically nothing anyway, haha) but it's been sooooo worth it. I like... finally have clothes and shoes that fit me and are comfortable and better quality than what I had before. Which has made SUCH a difference in my life. I've gotten some great basics there for sure. But also some more fun/colorful/patterend pieces that were instantly my favorite. NO SHAME IN THE TORRID GAME.
I love trying stuff on there, it's really nice not being the biggest size in a store. I, a broke college student, unfortunately cannot buy things there the way I want to.
@@Kayla_P99 I hope one day you can! I've lived that life, so I feel you. I loved a lot of things about college life, but I also love a lot of things about being out the other side, such as actually being able to afford clothing that fits and suits me. Haha!
Great tip about torrid is to shop the sales and utilize torrid cash. I thought torrid was wayy too expensive at first but they really do have a lot of deals
I'm convinced Torrid should have paid me by now to model because 99.5% of my wardrobe is from there 🤣 and I totally had a maxed credit card there in my 20s
TYSM FOR MAKING THIS VIDEO!!! Also, the underboob sweat question was *real.* Although I totally agree with you Kitchen, I wanted to offer some alternative options from a certified Big Tiddie Goth™️: 1. Baby powder. (I am baby.) 2. Jock itch (NOT ATHLETES FOOT) spray/cream. Listen, I know it seems gross, but it works. 3. Wear cotton/super-duper-breathable fabrics-I've found this decreases boob sweat a whole bunch I hope this helps my fellow tig ol biddie humans!
Lume all natural deodorant is made to be used anywhere. I haven't tried it because it's a bit pricy & I don't bother to wear deodorant antiperspirant unless it's actually needed. But saying that I absolutely hate sweating like crazy & I've been known to cheat by wearing rx antiperspirant/deodorant in non underarm areas. Which is also why I don't wear it every day. Besides I'm mostly at home & my cats don't give a crap.
One important thing when it comes to fast fashion stores, and this pertains to all sizes, is that since they die cut their fabrics in large stacks the further you get towards the bottom of the stack the more skewed the size becomes. That's why you can try on three identical pairs of jeans in a store and each one fits slightly differently. So even if you know your usual size in a store or it's a new place and you're taking your measurements in preparation I highly recommend trying on a variety of sizes. I shop at some places where I can range across three different sizes on the same day. Also the style of an item can determine what size you may need to try on. I'm always a different size if something is high waisted versus mid-rise. Shop for fit, not the sizing.
I'd love to hear more about how you handle sensitivity to certain textures. Usually when I see something I like but say 'it's not for me' it's because of the texture, like lace or sequins
Basically if it's just a fancy outfit or an outfit to film in, I steel myself and I deal - every thing, and I mean everything else, has to be a certain fabric. I also cut out all tags, lol
Also someone with texture issues, I find that a lining or something like a slip can help as it’s between my skin and the fabric. Works best if it’s a natural fabric.
As someone who isn't plus-sized and just watched this for fun, I found a lot of these tips helpful anyway (especially since mostly all women's clothes are designed to fit an hourglass shape, which I certainly am not *eye roll*). What you said about things fitting "true to size" is so relatable, women's sizing is literally just fake
Oh! A measurement tip I learned from the fat sewing community! Measure your waist/tummy/hips sitting down as well as standing up! Otherwise you might order things that aren't comfy to sit in.
I also love the Torrid push up plunge bras! They work great with low cut dresses/shirts and some of them clasp in the front, which is so much easier and faster than a normal bra
I'm in Canada and my favourite plus sized store is Reitmans! Its pretty affordable and you can get work clothes, casual clothes, or lounge clothes. I also think that the right bra is a huge thing because everything feels better then
I am absolutely loving this video. As someone constantly struggling with loving themselves, I needed this today! Kitchen’s advice about operating at the height of your power, whatever that means for you, was 🤯
I also struggle with this, but not as much as I used to, I find it's v helpful to ask does it matter? Like, "I feel like a fat blob today" okay, and? This fat blob has errands to run, today they are fat blob errands not human errands, that's fine. Future me won't see a fat blob, the people who love me never see that. I don't care what I look like in photos anymore once I look happy, because that's what matters and life is too short not to be on photos. If I die tomorrow my loved ones will want photos, they will not care if that top isn't maximally flattering.
Your energy is so positive! I love your message. Also, totally agree about shopping in Europe. I’m quite tall, which can make shopping hard anywhere, but wear mostly straight sizes in America. In Europe, I topped out the sizes in many stores and can’t think of one plus sized shop in the city where I lived. The mentality around different bodies in the states is a lot more open than I found abroad.
I'm really surprised hearing Kristin doesn't feel confident ! I remember a video they did years ago where they wore sheer outfits for a whole week and they were ... Beautiful, the most good-looking a person can be, the clothes weren't that "provocative" but the way they wore them, just perfect. I don't know I'm the exact opposite of a plus-size body, I don't even wear bras because I don't need them I'm nearly completely flat chested, but I feel that age brings you the confidence that youth didn't, I've just begun to feel good and happy at 30 and now that I'm 35 for nothing I would change anything about my body, and for nothing I would go back to my twenties.
@@Rose-jz6sx @Claire Ferrand Kristen says they use both 'they' and 'she', and if someone can't for whatever reason use both interchangeably, to use 'they' only. But otherwise as long as she is used concurrently with 'they', it's okay to use it
Just met Kristin and the wifey at Disneyland this weekend and they're the NICEST PEOPLE IN THE WORLD! I'm so thankful to have met you guys, thank you for making my trip magical!
In reference to plus size shopping in person (brick and mortar store), I suggest: Torrid, Ashley Stewart, Simply Fashion, Avenue, Forever 21.... YES, they are probably heavy on the "fast fashion", so I DON'T recommend for those who have the privilege of not having as much trouble finding affordable plus size clothing. Also, I don't know how to say this appropriately, but as a black woman I can attest that the clothing options for curvy and plus women have always been more abundant (and stylish) in more "urban" neighborhoods. More random shops that aren't the usual chains.
Oh my gosh, I was plus sized my entire life (until this year, I and I have really mixed feelings about it, not the point). I have a very strong opinion where they're clothes, wear them. If you like it, especially if you like you in it, wear them. You deserve space, you deserve to wear what you want, period (just make sure the required by law bits are covered.) I hate the lack of options, but at least there are increasing options. Everyone deserves to be seen and wear clothes! I was asked about bigger brands offering more sizes, it's great! Not truly size inclusive, but it's something.
Growing up, you and Jazzmyne were basically the only plus-size people I saw in the public sphere who talked about fashion and style, and in a world that behaves like the best thing plus-size people can hope for is just clothes that fit, you and Jazzmyne and your amazing style were really important to me. So thank you both for that.
As a person recovering from an eating disorder, a great shopping tip for this full figured gal, is to not face the mirror as you get undressed and dressed. Only turn around once you’ve put the garment on, and if it feels good on, you can turn around and take a gander at the color and flow. Remember, “you don’t have to fit the clothes, it’s the clothes job to fit you, and if they don’t, it’s not for you. It’s the clothing’s fault not yours. Just like romantic partners. Not working for me? Thank you, next.”
You are me! I mean, your body is mine! no wait this sounds awful! Your body, and my body, are extremely similar! There it is :) SO many of the plus size fashi-tubers are plus, but (somehow) with flat lower tummies, and a tiny waist, etc etc. This feels SO good to be seen ^_^.
I love the disclaimer about not measuring if you have a history of eating disorders. Ive struggled with anorexia and bulimia since I was 12 and I was obsessed with measuring and weighing myself and one of the best things that have helped me recover was throwing away my measuring tape and scales. It’s nice to Have ppl bring awareness to that♥️
this is such good fucking advice, thank you for doing this! And I totally agree about measuring (also for anyone with a history of eating disorders, totally shop with a friend not just on your own. Your friend can measure and purchase with your money or whatever works for you and your friend will tell you you look good and fight off any "ew I'm ugly" feelings coming up while shopping. I NEVER go bra shopping alone anymore because I once tried on like 20 bras and couldn't find one that fit and had a panic attack and had to leave the store so yeah bring a friend friends are great). Also totally bring a tape measure with you when you're shopping in person so you can measure things that aren't marked beyond saying "xxl" or whatever
Omg I couldn’t take my eyes off you in that lavender dress you look incredible! I would kill to find a dress that have a top that fits as well as that one. You are a gorgeous woman and thank you for showing woman we can be too. ❤️
Loved the video! Since Kristin doesn't really wear tights and I will never miss an opportunity to gush about them, I recommend Snag Tights! Super soft, super comfy, and has a great size range. They're comparable to Torrid as far as price goes but they have so many more styles and colors plus seasonal releases. Honestly I have like 15 pairs which some might say is a problem, but I say is a solid indicator of quality. :) And if you'd like some tall socks (like over the knee or thigh highs) to layer over your comfy new tights, I'd say either Sock Dreams or ThundaThighs. Sock Dreams has more styles, but can be a bit hit or miss with the sizing. Even if it's listed in their plus size category, always check the sizing info! They give super detailed measurements. So as Kristin says, measure with a tape measure before you buy! Hope this helps someone!
I recommend Joanie clothing its really well made clothes which fit a variety of shapes- they also use different size models and show pictures of them in the clothing you are looking at so you can see how someone with your build will look! They also offer measurement guides so you can be specific with your size ❤
Dear Kitchen (Kristin) I somehow missed this even though I’ve been following you since before this show existed. IDK why, but I’m seeing this today. When I first followed you I was a plus size gal and was so happy to find a beautiful woman who identified with my fashion struggles. Now, I had weight loss surgery and I weigh 120lbs less than when I first followed you. I joke that I have “reverse” body dysmorphia. The person I see in the mirror is the same, modesty overweight, person I’ve always seen. Literally ALL of your advice still applies and I appreciate it so much. Anyone who passes by your advice because they see “plus size” in the title is missing out. I think anyone who has ever had an insecurity about their body, founded or not, could benefit from what you have to say. Thanks for being just who you are, always. I sincerely appreciate it.
Small tip: I make “necklace extenders” with thin elastic after literally breaking a few chokers on my neck whoops lol. Just tied some thin elastic to extend the chain and it worked amazingly well.
One of my goals is to learn to sew so I can tailor clothes for myself and my daughters. I'm petite and my kids are various sizes, not to mention they're changing all the time. I want them to be confident in their bodies and clothing without being preoccupied with having to fit into clothing off the rack.
You might also like eShakti! IIRC it's $10 to tailor it to your size/preferences. You give them a bajillion measurements and select stuff like neckline, sleeve length, skirt length, etc. I usually get basics in any fabric with polyester and spandex - nice and stretchy.
I cannot explain how awesome you are, and how much you have helped me embrace my own style and gain my own confidence love you really, and you keep rocking on
I laughed out loud when you essentially shouted your goodbye: "Anyway. THAT'S MY PLUS SIZED FASHION QUESTIONS VIDEO." Also I loved that pencil skirt outfit! A tip on finding a good fit while shopping online: It's great to know your measurements, but, at least in my experience, sizing charts online are rarely accurate, so I try to read through all of the reviews to see what people are saying about the fit. Sometimes reviews are contradictory, but a lot of the times you can pick out trends in the comments and make a better choice (ie, size up, size down, more cropped than it looks, tight in the sleeves or chest, etc).
This is the video I needed. So much of what you’ve said here is relatable to me. I’m plus size myself and I’m not fashionable. My style is late 90s to early 2000s I’m still trying to figure out it out 😊
I absolutely love this video! My first foray into like, fashion I actually loved, was honestly just copying outfits whole cloth from you. You would tag where you got stuff and I would just go there and buy the entire outfit and I would love it so much on you it made me love it on me too. It was such a huge step for me. Thank you for continuing to do work like this, it means a lot. It changed my life.
Love love the torrid super soft line. If your body shape doesnt change much it can help to take note of what are your current favorite pieces and keep looking for items with similar cuts.
I went to Lane Bryant once and was asked when I was due. I wasn’t pregnant. I was asked this at a plus size store. I’ve never gone back there. So I agree with you on LB.
Awe How awful of that person! What else is wrong with the store? I am out of the loop and just found LB last month and was so happy that I finally didn’t cry in a fitting room!
@@Lady.Fern. I mean this was maybe 13 years ago and was possibly an isolated incident. But I just couldn’t go back. My son was 2 when this happened and I lost about 100 lbs when he was born. I was still chubby but I felt good. That person made me not feel good. I found a jacket I loved. I bought it. But never returned (already had the jacket in hand before she said that).
@@Lady.Fern. I mean if they’ve got stuff you like and friendly helpful staff then go for it. I just had a bad experience and chose not to return. It could very well have been a super isolated experience. I just chose not to find out and stepped away. A very long time ago.
First of all, WHO in the hell doesn't like Kristin?!?!? What is there not to like??? You're hilarious, relatable, intelligent, sarcastic, super fun, creative, logistic, stylish, sweet, caring, a great friend, competent, and all of the above. I just can't imagine why somebody wouldn't like you. And for anybody who has anything negative to say about what anyone else looks like and whether you think somebody is attractive or not, you can fuck right off. I get so sick of cookie cutter everything in life, especially beauty. Please don't overthink what dumbasses on the internet say...people have no lives or brains for that matter. We love you Kristin!
I also reccomend Hot Topic! They're made by the same manurfacturer as Torrid but have a wider variety of styles. I also find that their clothes are VERY comfortable to wear and aren't too expensive, and there's almost always a sale or deal online
This is a comfort video for me. Since her time with Buzzfeed, Kristin has been a major inspiration for me. For fashion mainly, but also for body positivity/neutrality. “Make the clothes work for you” is some of the best advice I’ve ever heard.
2:51 what makes you feel confident?
3:29 what’s some advice you’d give to a person who doesn’t like the way they look?
4:08 what are some tips for stepping outside your comfort zone?
4:30 how do you figure out what your style is vs what fits?
5:08 what are some misconceptions about things fat people should or should not wear?
6:10 is it bad to hold onto things you don’t feel comfortable in?
6:54 where do you find your clothes?
7:27 sustainable recommendations
7:41 how do you find your own personal style?
8:07 tips for determining accurate sizes when ordering online?
8:36 favorite tights?
8:45 favorite swimsuits?
9:29 favorite lingerie?
10:10 where do you find basics?
10:28 where do you find your jeans?
10:50 thrift store recommendations
10:57 what are things you look for in plus size clothing?
12:12 how do you deal with sizes being different in different stores?
12:19 if you could ask a manager of a company to make changes to include plus size people, what would you recommend?
12:51 any chain stores recommendations besides Torrid?
14:19 how do you find structured pieces that fit?
14:52 how do you plan shopping trips when you know you might get triggered?
15:24 how do you find clothing without spending a lot?
15:40 where do you find bras?
15:56 where to find boots to fit over large calves
16:07 try before you buy brands
16:44 where can you find fun prints and bright colors?
16:51 where to find decent dress pants?
17:16 suggestions for petite plus size clothing?
17:26 when you went abroad, did you find differences in sizes compared to america?
17:39 where do you find arm coverage that isn’t a wrap or cardigan?
17:57 any suggestions for comfy shoes for wide feet?
18:06 what online sites fit “true to size?”
18:17 how do you feel about old navy’s new size policies?
18:38 how do you dress when you’re not a natural hourglass shape?
19:02 what’s the best dress shape for apple, pear, and rectangle bodies?
19:30 how do you figure out the best patterns for different figures?
19:43 what styles do you recommend if you don’t want things to be too tight or too loose?
20:14 what can i do to help muffin top?
20:31 how can you take an outfit to the next level and make it fashion?
21:07 what are some basic must haves?
21:39 under boob sweat solutions?
21:52 comfy athleisure look?
22:12 how do you do a masc look?
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"I just do things anyway" is probably one of the most underrated expressions of resilience I've heard in a long time, tbh.
I hadn't thought of it that way but thank you
T shirt idea!! :)
the energy they bring alone is like top notch and I vibe hard with it, ALSO KITCHEN IS REALLY HOT AND BRIE IS A LUCKY GAL
THANKGUUUUUUUU
“Dresses are a whole outfit like no is a whole sentence” is my new motto! As with all their videos, they nailed it all these suggestions!
I loved that line so much, as well! 😆
"Personally I think the best part of the muffin is the top."
That is the most wholesome relatable body/ food quote ever.
Please don't yell at me I'm trying my best lmaooooooo, also all the links to plus thrift places are in description box ALSO I just gave like 50+ pieces to the plus bus in LA if you wanna shop my closet!!! --kitchen
ill yell this at ya: I APPRECIATE YOU FOR ALL THAT YOU DO AND WHAT YOUVE DONE FOR THE COMMUNITIES YOURE IN!!!!!
I love your pure happy energy and amazing strong passionate xoxo 😘
I am going to say this and I hope it doesn't sound BATSHIT CRAZY because it is true....ever since I was little I have never really thought of people as fat or thin or whatever....I had no idea my friends were heavy until my boyfriend told me when I was 16. I was a tiny kid and was so jealous that clothes fit them properly. I just have always thought of you Kristin as a beautiful smart girl whom I love watching! I'm older than you by twenty years or so but I love your fashion and alot of it would be to my taste! I just wanted to point out that even older generations don't just judge looks. I truly love PEOPLE and you and Jen are right up my alley! Love you!
I'm so glad you did this!
I saw your empty suitcase Hawaii episode, and wound up buying a dress that you tried on but didnt buy (off shoulder, longer sleeves, dress above the knee). I love it! I figired we were about the same size, I wasn't wrong!
I loved Wacoal, but they quit making my bra. Now I go with a balconette full coverage from Soma. I love that I can get matching panties.it was so nice to walk in and have someone hand me.only 2 styles before I found one. The Sensuous lace model is nicer for when you're feeling saucy.
My go to bathing suit is by Miracle Suit. A little warm because of the extra layer of fabric, but black on bottom, bust color will vary from year to year. Buckle at center back, then a lower scoop back. Secures everything, slimming, has underwire.
Shoes are a REAL problem...Rieker and Clarke's are usually good. Sadly, boots are harder because of my normally fat calves and cankles + injuries made it worse . I had boots custom made in Peru, but then tore a meniscus and haven't been able.to walk on that size heel easily (I think the guy made the heels.too big). I had tossed a bunch of shoes when I lost weight, now have had to rebuy.
I just discovered Unique Vintage, but their sizing can be inconsistent (same blouse, same size, two fabrics. One fit across the bust, one didn't). Unlike you, I hate spending money and time on shipping, so would prefer brick and mortar. Will give Elloquy a try.
Comfy shapewear tights for me are Assets (by Spanx, just easier to deal with).
Thanks again! I'm about to go and check to see if I've missed episodes of Empty Suitcase....I really wish you'd been able.to take that content idea with you when you.left!
I have no idea what you are wearing but damn that makes you look stunning. I have same body shape so watch all your videos, thank you for doing these videos.
"Don't give into the tent. You're not spraying for bugs, you don't need to throw a whole sheet over your body and abandon ship for three days." Funny and wise, perfect Kitchen. Thank you for pushing through and doing this video.
I know it's a plus-size video, but a good portion of the tips are fantastic for any size person. Thank you for your unique blend of positivity and no-nonsense when it comes to body acceptance.
It was great to see Brie, too!
Kristen, I know that you may never read this, but hopefully, this gets to you somehow. At the beginning of this video, I was terrified. I am in long-term recovery from an eating disorder and was terrified that this video was going to be triggering. However, I was pleasantly surprised. Thank you so much for empowering me. You have no idea what it means to me right now. Wishing you the best!
You're amazing. Recovering from an eating disorder is SO HARD! I hope that your recovery continues and goes well ❤️
@@Rose-jz6sx thank you so much. Wishing you the best as well.
struggling with an ED myself. wishing you all the best in the world 🖤
“You asked a lot of them, and I got very overwhelmed and then didn’t make the video til now”
😂😂😂 alarmingly relatable statement
As someone who is learning to be comfortable with getting fatter (bye-bye ED!) there was a *lot* of stuff here I'm grateful to have heard from you. I especially find that wearing lots of fun, bright, unusual stuff helps because it tricks my anxiety-brain into assuming people are going to be too busy saying "wow look how cool/confident/different they are!" instead of "oh look at their muffin top" y'know? Love to you and jorn and brie
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I find dresses and skirts go very well as you are getting used to being bigger.
Recovery is tough, you're awesome!!
I'm doing this now as well and I also found this helpful 🖤 take care
As a European, I totally agree with Kitchen, they are right about it being difficult to find plus sizes here.
yeah, a lot of online shopping lol
Another tip for fit: tailors! They're really not that expensive and they can make a world of a difference in how comfortably something fits. If you have someone in your life who sews, ask them too!
As someone who sews just dont expect them to do it for free. I sew and I dont mind helping once in awhile but if you expect me to hem or tailor your clothes I will charge or politely decline.
Yes and don't forget to ask how much you'll owe them for their work!;)
@@elizadawne3896 yeah that^^^ i dont mind helping once or twice on little fixes, but come on, I took the time to learn the skill, and invested money in the machines and products, dont expect it for free, at the very least were doing a fair trade haha
Even as a straight-size person, I still end up altering/making ~75% of my clothes! Clothing is made for what stores consider the "Standard body type" and chances are, it'll be at least slightly off. Eg: I'm 5'8, with a long torso, so if I'm buying a jumpsuit, I'll most likely have to shop in the Tall section, and then be prepared to take up the hem on the legs a little. A blind stitch is a wondrous thing.
I need a coat tailored to me but it's literally the most expensive thing to get tailored.
Hope Jorn is taking care of themselves! Love you guys
Jorn is all good, they just were out of town that day!!!
I just discovered Torrid and literally cried in the fitting room because the first pair of jeans I tried on fit perfectly! Love them!
That's an AMAZNG feeling. I've always hated shopping for this very reason. It can be terribly depressing. Honestly, I think about 1 out of 15 items fits me comfortably and in a way that I feel comfortable wearing it out in public.
I am *realistically* a 36H and I have exclusively worn Torrid's Push-Up Plunge bras for YEARS. Everyone who I tell that to is completely baffled. Why would I need a pushup bra when I already have huge boobs?! For me, it's both comfort and aesthetic. It keeps them up, it keeps them strapped in place, and makes it clear where my boobs end and my belly begins. So, even though I've always been confident about my love of these push-up bras it's super refreshing to see another large chested plus-size person also endorse them. I suddenly feel way less alone. I think a lot of your takes here are right on point. Thanks for this!
I’m a DD so not quite as blessed, but I’m so with you guys. I wear their push ups for shape and definition. Also the extra padding helps on those days of the month where my girls are super sensitive.
I'm a smaller cup size, but I wear them for the same reason! To me, they feel much much more supported in a push-up bra than in a traditional lightly lined bra or t-shirt bra and they create the shape I would like. I'm glad to see other people do this, too!
Same. Despite being chesty, I've always worn pushup bras for the same reasons, and so far Torrid's bras are the best. I'm a 42DDD/E and their pushup bras without underwire are AMAZING!
I’m a 42 G and I’ve never tried a push up but I’m going to try one on just to see. Thanks for the idea!
I'm just a D cup so not quite the same but I've always avoided most push up bras, but then never feel like other bras gave me the same support. maybe I'll give them a chance next time I need a bra
THANK YOU! I’ve been mid/plus size for years. Then pandemic- I got covid, now long haul, & gained 20 pounds. You’re framing of how to let go of the clothes that don’t fit anymore is so helpful for me right now
I’d love to see Jorn do a video talking about dressing more masculine as an AFAB human. I’ve followed y’all for awhile and seeing Jen just be themselves has helped me feel more comfortable exploring myself and why I wanna dress more masculine (I’m NB AFAB thanks for helping me out with that one unintentionally lol) I know it sounds cheesy but thank you guys for just making videos and being yourselves it’s helped me learn a lot about myself. I’m even considering wearing a suit to my wedding instead of a dress and I don’t think I’d be confident enough to consider that without your influence 💜
Omg yes I would love this so much. I'd love to dress more masc but how to is like ??? lmao
Especially if it adresses both wearing a binder for outfits (and safety limits when doing so for those that don't know) but also when wearing a bra of some kind and still managing to project "not femme" I guess?
@@theyoftheravens yes! Having boobs is so frustrating when trying to dress more masc and I hate it because I personally have very annoyingly large boobs and asthma so it’s not really safe for me to bind. I’d low key have to tape myself up like a drag king and probably need someone to help me lol. So not very practical 😅😅 the only things I like myself in are really oversized tops and hoodies that can somewhat mask the giant bowling balls that are my boobs.
Wore a white suit to my wedding. It was awesome for the sheer comfort (I do not sit well in a dress) and mobility. I eloped, did multiple locations for photos and hopping in and out of the car and walking about was so much easier without a having a dress dragging. I bought off the rack from J. Crew and had it tailored so it felt a bit more bespoke which was another plus: not paying a crapload of money; suiting was a more affordable option.
EDIT: My everyday style definitely leans “unisex” with a dash of streetwear (joggers and sweat suits, boiler suits) with an occasional of “feminine” element. So a suit felt destined.
My friend does not know what AFAB is, could you explain it for them?
@@johannasjobergolson645 it's Assigned Female At Birth!
Hi Kitchen! I wanna say that thanks to you and your empty suitcase videos, my bestie and I are starting the FIRST plus size only thrift shop here in Edmonton! We need more of them in Canada and it really was your influence and inspiration that helped push this through xoxo
Hi Kitchen! I recently came out to myself and my closest friends as bisexual... at 32. I go in and out of pride vs. shame. I'm unfortunately in a shame cycle now. I'm a gay virgin and also demisexual, and I'm afraid that I'll always be afraid to have sexual and romantic experiences with women and non binary people- because of the shame I have. If this isn't too personal, would you mind speaking on your queer journey? I've always admired you and when I learned that you're queer it made me feel warm and fuzzy about being in this community.
I wish I could send you a thousand hugs! It's really tough to be demisexual AND worried about your love life. I hope you treat yourself with love and care as you continue your journey. You shouldn't put "deadlines" on your love life. If fear and shame are holding you back, you should build a good support group of trusted friends so you don't have to face these emotions alone. Also, if you can afford it, the right therapist can help you process your feelings and heal from emotional trauma like the "shame cycle."
@@fumetsushinju your kind and helpful words were all the hugs I needed 🥺 made me tear up. Thank you so much. And thanks to Kitchen and Jorn for creating a platform that attracts kind souls like yourself
Congrats!!!
Welcome to the queer party! We have snacks and don't know how to sit in chairs. Remember that your experiences do not define you, you are real and valid no matter what :) Congratulations on embracing yourself!
@@gateauxgato thank you friend! Hugs! My people
Kristen constantly inspires me to feel comfortable in my own body, just seeing her talk so casually about her body and it’s shape in a positive and normal way while being beautiful and wearing things that make her look more confident and stunning reminds me that I am as beautiful outside as I am inside when I manifest that energy like she does. Presentation, baby! I’ve been on a complete fashion journey that started with watching the Empty Suitcase show and has led me to wearing all the things I always wanted to but never felt I could. And I look amazing 🤩
see, I’m not even plus size and this was still GREAT advice! you are such an impressive person and this is a great video ❤️
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU for reminding people with a history of eating disorders to not measure themselves. It's a huge trigger. My mom or my husband measure me, look at the size chart, and then tell me what size to put in my cart. It's very helpful.
I've been in therapy for body stuff and when you said the thing about breaking down why you want an hourglass, I screamed. Thank you so much! You are an inspiration whether you want to be or not.
Plus size shopping is so hard for me as someone who leans masc at times, and also lives in a country where there like almost no plus size specific clothing brands (and definitely none for masculine people with more traditionally feminine bodies). This video might not be helpful to my specific situation, but i'll always love seeing Kitchen just being themselves and giving people advice that will help them! Don't understand why people would yell at her, she's extremely delightful and we love her!
I dress almost exclusively masc and at my size it's a nightmare even in the US. I really just want to talk to a tailor who is familiar with making plus size alterations.
coming back to this vid to say i tracked down the emerald velvet unique vintage dress from this video and bought one for myself and literally it is the most perfect dress. SO comfy, sexy, effortlessly gorgeous. can’t wait to wear it to a wedding next month and actually feel confident in my skin. THANKS FOR THE TIPS AND HOT CLOTHES KITCHEN 🙏💜
As soon as I was done watching this I logged into torrid and bought a few things for myself. I spent more money than I should hav, but it's been a long time since I've bought myself nice clothing. Since the pandemic I've hovered around the same 5ish outfits out of comfort. I guess I felt like I didn't deserve nice things. Thank you Kristen for helping inspire me, and reminding myself that I deserve to feel pretty.
I just want to say that you're actually the reason why I started exploring plus-size options for myself instead of wearing the same black clothes all the time, you've changed my life Kitchen!! Thank you for all your advice
I'm still in the same black clothes all the time phase....I haven't made the jump to exploring nice, fitted, plus size options yet because I'm scared that it'll be way too expensive or none of it will be comfortable and flattering.
I feel like Kristen would really like this shop called Torrid.Hopefully someone can tell them about it.
That bathing suit skirt combo is lowkey everything 😍
Some more tips for you plus size babes;
Tights: Snag tights
Bras: Elomi or Goddess are amazing brands!
Sustainable: Loud Bodies (not cheap though)
I wish more US brands were available in the EU, I can only sometimes get my hands on an Eloquii piece.
And yes! A dress is a whole outfit :)
I gave up on tights years ago. The slip, fall down, or tear when I try to pull them up. Hold ups and stockings work much better for me, plus makes me feel like a fem-fatal even if I’m just going to get milk.
Snag are brilliant - a huge colour range, chub rub shorts that don’t roll up or dig in, beautiful stretch, pretty swimsuits that aren’t just scaled up from a (UK) size 8, and now they’re moving into clothes!
Elomi! They're amazing.
Take a shot every time they say Torrid... But actually don't, because you'll die! Lmao, but thanks for making this Kristen, the struggle is real, and I really appreciate your style!
As someone with long torso/big belly I buy dresses and wear them as shirts.. make the clothes work for you folks!
I really love Old Navy for leggings, softer denim jeans, and basic tees. I struggle with sensory issues when it comes to clothing. I love that they are now including sizes up to 28 in store AND at “regular” price too. It’s a step in the right direction. I ONLY buy during 40% or up sales though because I feel like it’s overpriced. 😂
"Hey, you do not look like a fruit and you make the clothes do what you want" When I say I needed this, I NEEDED this!! Thank you!!
Ok, so underboob sweat, they make liners that go underneath (no amount of pushup means I wont have skin touching skin). They are bamboo and very comfortable. I got them on Amazon. Also, in a pinch the brown paper towels that are in dispensers. It doesn’t break down that fast and keeps things comfy. Both keep sweat and therefore irritation in check.
Proud of youuuuu, and thank you because I need periodic reminders that clothes are supposed to serve the body not the other way around
"I just do things anyway."
This.
This is absolutely life goals.
You keep doing you, sweetie. We see you and we love you and you help some of us realize we're pretty dang ok just being ourselves.
❤
As an insecure teenager, I thank you for the outfit advice! Although I’m not plus sized, I’m currently in between sizes and have been disappointed for so long about clothes not fitting me right. I’m definitely looking into getting clothes adjusted to fit me.
I didn't need any reminders that I'm queer, but if I had, Tuxedo Kitchen was there for me on this day
It's my hottest look not gonna lie
@@kitchenandjorn it's a real good one 👀
I literally said 'wow' out loud
I have had a hard week during my ED recovery, and this video was literally what I needed. I love fashion, I love dressing up just to binge Netflix and order in, but have been so hard on my body this week. Thank you for helping me be like take the oversized t off and put on what you really want bc you're the boss of these clothes
I actually have a thrift recommendation! threadUp! It's not only plus size but they carry up to a size 32 and have a massive selection (in my experience from sizes 12-20). You can pre-set your sizes to tailor your search results. I've had good luck, especially since their restocking fee ($1.99) is per order, not per item, and they provide super easy free returns. I treat the purchase as a dressing room situation.
Good to know! BTW, most consignment shops won't accept plus size clothing to sell. Very irritating
I'm on the large end of standard sizing and petite, so I am so happy I found it. It's taken a bit of experimentation to get good at using it. Watching channels like Nicole Rudolph and Abby Cox have been helpful in uderstanding sizing and measurements. I do wish thredup was more consistent in providing useful garment measurements and their refund policy is trash, but I can live with that.
My biggest frustration is if you search petites only it won't let you filter by material as well. I have a strong preference for linen followed by cotton and cellulose-based fabrics. Polyester is a hard pass.
I was going to add this! The 1.99 fee was something I was ok with paying in order to try things on in my own space.
thredUp is awesome, but do be prepared for it to take a while to get your clothes, especially if you buy a lot of pieces., because they wait until they have all the pieces before mailing. I bought a whole new summer wardrobe and it took a month or two before it arrived.
@@martidion3985 It really is! and stupid....IMO..
I've only really gotten into Torrid in the past year, and honestly it's been wonderful! It definitely is a bit more than I used to spend on clothes and shoes (which was basically nothing anyway, haha) but it's been sooooo worth it. I like... finally have clothes and shoes that fit me and are comfortable and better quality than what I had before. Which has made SUCH a difference in my life. I've gotten some great basics there for sure. But also some more fun/colorful/patterend pieces that were instantly my favorite. NO SHAME IN THE TORRID GAME.
I love trying stuff on there, it's really nice not being the biggest size in a store. I, a broke college student, unfortunately cannot buy things there the way I want to.
@@Kayla_P99 I hope one day you can! I've lived that life, so I feel you. I loved a lot of things about college life, but I also love a lot of things about being out the other side, such as actually being able to afford clothing that fits and suits me. Haha!
Great tip about torrid is to shop the sales and utilize torrid cash. I thought torrid was wayy too expensive at first but they really do have a lot of deals
I'm convinced Torrid should have paid me by now to model because 99.5% of my wardrobe is from there 🤣 and I totally had a maxed credit card there in my 20s
@@Aragedie It is very tempting to go wild like that lol that's why I only visit every so often.
Flannel + masc looks giving me inspiration! Kristen, to those of us plus size or not, you’re a style icon full stop.
YES!
i am carrying your "height of my power" concept with me everywhere from now on
TYSM FOR MAKING THIS VIDEO!!! Also, the underboob sweat question was *real.* Although I totally agree with you Kitchen, I wanted to offer some alternative options from a certified Big Tiddie Goth™️:
1. Baby powder. (I am baby.)
2. Jock itch (NOT ATHLETES FOOT) spray/cream. Listen, I know it seems gross, but it works.
3. Wear cotton/super-duper-breathable fabrics-I've found this decreases boob sweat a whole bunch
I hope this helps my fellow tig ol biddie humans!
Silky Underwear powder by Lush is really great too
Lume all natural deodorant is made to be used anywhere. I haven't tried it because it's a bit pricy & I don't bother to wear deodorant antiperspirant unless it's actually needed.
But saying that I absolutely hate sweating like crazy & I've been known to cheat by wearing rx antiperspirant/deodorant in non underarm areas.
Which is also why I don't wear it every day.
Besides I'm mostly at home & my cats don't give a crap.
Not only are you ~trying~ to do your best, you just ARE doing amazing! Your stuff is so cute & this is so fun & informative!
this honestly doubles as a great video for people in recovery from ED. thank you kitchen, you're just the best 🥰
One important thing when it comes to fast fashion stores, and this pertains to all sizes, is that since they die cut their fabrics in large stacks the further you get towards the bottom of the stack the more skewed the size becomes. That's why you can try on three identical pairs of jeans in a store and each one fits slightly differently. So even if you know your usual size in a store or it's a new place and you're taking your measurements in preparation I highly recommend trying on a variety of sizes. I shop at some places where I can range across three different sizes on the same day. Also the style of an item can determine what size you may need to try on. I'm always a different size if something is high waisted versus mid-rise. Shop for fit, not the sizing.
interesting
I'd love to hear more about how you handle sensitivity to certain textures. Usually when I see something I like but say 'it's not for me' it's because of the texture, like lace or sequins
Sew soft tape over the inside of the seams. Gives you more options.
Basically if it's just a fancy outfit or an outfit to film in, I steel myself and I deal - every thing, and I mean everything else, has to be a certain fabric. I also cut out all tags, lol
Also someone with texture issues, I find that a lining or something like a slip can help as it’s between my skin and the fabric. Works best if it’s a natural fabric.
As someone who isn't plus-sized and just watched this for fun, I found a lot of these tips helpful anyway (especially since mostly all women's clothes are designed to fit an hourglass shape, which I certainly am not *eye roll*). What you said about things fitting "true to size" is so relatable, women's sizing is literally just fake
Oh! A measurement tip I learned from the fat sewing community! Measure your waist/tummy/hips sitting down as well as standing up! Otherwise you might order things that aren't comfy to sit in.
That’s a good one!
I also love the Torrid push up plunge bras! They work great with low cut dresses/shirts and some of them clasp in the front, which is so much easier and faster than a normal bra
I'm in Canada and my favourite plus sized store is Reitmans! Its pretty affordable and you can get work clothes, casual clothes, or lounge clothes. I also think that the right bra is a huge thing because everything feels better then
I am absolutely loving this video. As someone constantly struggling with loving themselves, I needed this today! Kitchen’s advice about operating at the height of your power, whatever that means for you, was 🤯
I also struggle with this, but not as much as I used to, I find it's v helpful to ask does it matter? Like, "I feel like a fat blob today" okay, and? This fat blob has errands to run, today they are fat blob errands not human errands, that's fine. Future me won't see a fat blob, the people who love me never see that. I don't care what I look like in photos anymore once I look happy, because that's what matters and life is too short not to be on photos. If I die tomorrow my loved ones will want photos, they will not care if that top isn't maximally flattering.
“If I missed one I’m sorry life is long” me when I don’t remember what I was doing around this same time last year who knows lost to the void.
Your energy is so positive! I love your message. Also, totally agree about shopping in Europe. I’m quite tall, which can make shopping hard anywhere, but wear mostly straight sizes in America. In Europe, I topped out the sizes in many stores and can’t think of one plus sized shop in the city where I lived. The mentality around different bodies in the states is a lot more open than I found abroad.
I'm really surprised hearing Kristin doesn't feel confident ! I remember a video they did years ago where they wore sheer outfits for a whole week and they were ... Beautiful, the most good-looking a person can be, the clothes weren't that "provocative" but the way they wore them, just perfect. I don't know I'm the exact opposite of a plus-size body, I don't even wear bras because I don't need them I'm nearly completely flat chested, but I feel that age brings you the confidence that youth didn't, I've just begun to feel good and happy at 30 and now that I'm 35 for nothing I would change anything about my body, and for nothing I would go back to my twenties.
Hey just a gentle fyi cuz it's easy to miss videos but Kristin recently came out as nonbinary and uses "they" not "she"
@@Rose-jz6sx sorry 😐 it was not my intention to misgender anyone I edited the first comment ^^
@@Rose-jz6sx @Claire Ferrand Kristen says they use both 'they' and 'she', and if someone can't for whatever reason use both interchangeably, to use 'they' only. But otherwise as long as she is used concurrently with 'they', it's okay to use it
Just met Kristin and the wifey at Disneyland this weekend and they're the NICEST PEOPLE IN THE WORLD! I'm so thankful to have met you guys, thank you for making my trip magical!
In reference to plus size shopping in person (brick and mortar store), I suggest:
Torrid, Ashley Stewart, Simply Fashion, Avenue, Forever 21.... YES, they are probably heavy on the "fast fashion", so I DON'T recommend for those who have the privilege of not having as much trouble finding affordable plus size clothing.
Also, I don't know how to say this appropriately, but as a black woman I can attest that the clothing options for curvy and plus women have always been more abundant (and stylish) in more "urban" neighborhoods. More random shops that aren't the usual chains.
Very well said!
Oh my gosh, I was plus sized my entire life (until this year, I and I have really mixed feelings about it, not the point). I have a very strong opinion where they're clothes, wear them. If you like it, especially if you like you in it, wear them. You deserve space, you deserve to wear what you want, period (just make sure the required by law bits are covered.) I hate the lack of options, but at least there are increasing options. Everyone deserves to be seen and wear clothes! I was asked about bigger brands offering more sizes, it's great! Not truly size inclusive, but it's something.
I love that you are being so truthful in this, as someone that is plus sized it's nice to know that I'm not alone thank you 💜
Growing up, you and Jazzmyne were basically the only plus-size people I saw in the public sphere who talked about fashion and style, and in a world that behaves like the best thing plus-size people can hope for is just clothes that fit, you and Jazzmyne and your amazing style were really important to me. So thank you both for that.
That holiday dress is EVERYTHING. I need my own. My jaw immediately dropped
Yessss I need to know where it's from
Same!! 😍
That dress is hella cute, the sleeves, the color, everything about it
As a person recovering from an eating disorder, a great shopping tip for this full figured gal, is to not face the mirror as you get undressed and dressed. Only turn around once you’ve put the garment on, and if it feels good on, you can turn around and take a gander at the color and flow. Remember, “you don’t have to fit the clothes, it’s the clothes job to fit you, and if they don’t, it’s not for you. It’s the clothing’s fault not yours. Just like romantic partners. Not working for me? Thank you, next.”
You are me! I mean, your body is mine! no wait this sounds awful! Your body, and my body, are extremely similar! There it is :) SO many of the plus size fashi-tubers are plus, but (somehow) with flat lower tummies, and a tiny waist, etc etc. This feels SO good to be seen ^_^.
I love the disclaimer about not measuring if you have a history of eating disorders. Ive struggled with anorexia and bulimia since I was 12 and I was obsessed with measuring and weighing myself and one of the best things that have helped me recover was throwing away my measuring tape and scales. It’s nice to
Have ppl bring awareness to that♥️
this is such good fucking advice, thank you for doing this! And I totally agree about measuring (also for anyone with a history of eating disorders, totally shop with a friend not just on your own. Your friend can measure and purchase with your money or whatever works for you and your friend will tell you you look good and fight off any "ew I'm ugly" feelings coming up while shopping. I NEVER go bra shopping alone anymore because I once tried on like 20 bras and couldn't find one that fit and had a panic attack and had to leave the store so yeah bring a friend friends are great). Also totally bring a tape measure with you when you're shopping in person so you can measure things that aren't marked beyond saying "xxl" or whatever
Omg I couldn’t take my eyes off you in that lavender dress you look incredible! I would kill to find a dress that have a top that fits as well as that one. You are a gorgeous woman and thank you for showing woman we can be too. ❤️
This needs to be a whole ass series!! So informative for all sizes!!
OMG that green-patterned pencil skirt is freekin adorable!!!!!
"I just do things anyway" is THE definition of confidence, girl!
Loved the video!
Since Kristin doesn't really wear tights and I will never miss an opportunity to gush about them, I recommend Snag Tights! Super soft, super comfy, and has a great size range. They're comparable to Torrid as far as price goes but they have so many more styles and colors plus seasonal releases. Honestly I have like 15 pairs which some might say is a problem, but I say is a solid indicator of quality. :)
And if you'd like some tall socks (like over the knee or thigh highs) to layer over your comfy new tights, I'd say either Sock Dreams or ThundaThighs. Sock Dreams has more styles, but can be a bit hit or miss with the sizing. Even if it's listed in their plus size category, always check the sizing info! They give super detailed measurements. So as Kristin says, measure with a tape measure before you buy!
Hope this helps someone!
I recommend Joanie clothing its really well made clothes which fit a variety of shapes- they also use different size models and show pictures of them in the clothing you are looking at so you can see how someone with your build will look! They also offer measurement guides so you can be specific with your size ❤
Dear Kitchen (Kristin) I somehow missed this even though I’ve been following you since before this show existed. IDK why, but I’m seeing this today. When I first followed you I was a plus size gal and was so happy to find a beautiful woman who identified with my fashion struggles. Now, I had weight loss surgery and I weigh 120lbs less than when I first followed you. I joke that I have “reverse” body dysmorphia. The person I see in the mirror is the same, modesty overweight, person I’ve always seen. Literally ALL of your advice still applies and I appreciate it so much. Anyone who passes by your advice because they see “plus size” in the title is missing out. I think anyone who has ever had an insecurity about their body, founded or not, could benefit from what you have to say. Thanks for being just who you are, always. I sincerely appreciate it.
Small tip: I make “necklace extenders” with thin elastic after literally breaking a few chokers on my neck whoops lol. Just tied some thin elastic to extend the chain and it worked amazingly well.
I love you so much! You are honest and real about everything!!
One of my goals is to learn to sew so I can tailor clothes for myself and my daughters. I'm petite and my kids are various sizes, not to mention they're changing all the time. I want them to be confident in their bodies and clothing without being preoccupied with having to fit into clothing off the rack.
If you haven't tried True & Co for bras...you're doing a diverse to yourself.
They are super awesome, comfy, and support without hurting.
You might also like eShakti! IIRC it's $10 to tailor it to your size/preferences. You give them a bajillion measurements and select stuff like neckline, sleeve length, skirt length, etc.
I usually get basics in any fabric with polyester and spandex - nice and stretchy.
I cannot explain how awesome you are, and how much you have helped me embrace my own style and gain my own confidence
love you really, and you keep rocking on
That "unless you WANT to wear all black forever" was for me, don't mind if I do 😂
I love the "⌛ from the front, 🍎 from the side" definition
I laughed out loud when you essentially shouted your goodbye: "Anyway. THAT'S MY PLUS SIZED FASHION QUESTIONS VIDEO." Also I loved that pencil skirt outfit! A tip on finding a good fit while shopping online: It's great to know your measurements, but, at least in my experience, sizing charts online are rarely accurate, so I try to read through all of the reviews to see what people are saying about the fit. Sometimes reviews are contradictory, but a lot of the times you can pick out trends in the comments and make a better choice (ie, size up, size down, more cropped than it looks, tight in the sleeves or chest, etc).
I love how fat positive this video is! Also, that green holiday dress looks amazing on you!
This is the video I needed. So much of what you’ve said here is relatable to me. I’m plus size myself and I’m not fashionable. My style is late 90s to early 2000s I’m still trying to figure out it out 😊
I absolutely loved the Empty Suitcase series! You and your friends were so much fun and those places you went were amazing. I dream of a reboot.
I absolutely love this video! My first foray into like, fashion I actually loved, was honestly just copying outfits whole cloth from you. You would tag where you got stuff and I would just go there and buy the entire outfit and I would love it so much on you it made me love it on me too. It was such a huge step for me. Thank you for continuing to do work like this, it means a lot. It changed my life.
I love when Brie pops in!!!!! ♥️ thank you for making this video!!!
This is refreshingly honest. I really appreciate this video ❤️
Love love the torrid super soft line. If your body shape doesnt change much it can help to take note of what are your current favorite pieces and keep looking for items with similar cuts.
Kristin is the older sibling I always needed. I learned so much from this.
I went to Lane Bryant once and was asked when I was due.
I wasn’t pregnant.
I was asked this at a plus size store. I’ve never gone back there. So I agree with you on LB.
I have some lane Bryant pieces I love but they've all been thrifted because I don't like the company even if occasionally there's something cute
That's awful! I'm so sorry you ran into someone so ignorant in what should be a safe'ish place.
Awe How awful of that person! What else is wrong with the store? I am out of the loop and just found LB last month and was so happy that I finally didn’t cry in a fitting room!
@@Lady.Fern. I mean this was maybe 13 years ago and was possibly an isolated incident. But I just couldn’t go back. My son was 2 when this happened and I lost about 100 lbs when he was born. I was still chubby but I felt good. That person made me not feel good. I found a jacket I loved. I bought it. But never returned (already had the jacket in hand before she said that).
@@Lady.Fern. I mean if they’ve got stuff you like and friendly helpful staff then go for it. I just had a bad experience and chose not to return. It could very well have been a super isolated experience. I just chose not to find out and stepped away. A very long time ago.
First of all, WHO in the hell doesn't like Kristin?!?!? What is there not to like??? You're hilarious, relatable, intelligent, sarcastic, super fun, creative, logistic, stylish, sweet, caring, a great friend, competent, and all of the above. I just can't imagine why somebody wouldn't like you. And for anybody who has anything negative to say about what anyone else looks like and whether you think somebody is attractive or not, you can fuck right off. I get so sick of cookie cutter everything in life, especially beauty. Please don't overthink what dumbasses on the internet say...people have no lives or brains for that matter. We love you Kristin!
For plus size tights- highly recommend snag tights! They don't rip and they come in so many sizes and colors.
That green holiday dress looks SO good! I love a fun 'sleeve' situation
I would love to see Brie's evolution of style!!! I love Brie's dress and jacket, such an amazing look on her
You know I think I'm more afraid of a Jorn only video than a Kitchen only video
Jorn's video would be about knifes lol
@@ForForFro 😂 and we'd be concerned about safety the whole time.
I also reccomend Hot Topic! They're made by the same manurfacturer as Torrid but have a wider variety of styles. I also find that their clothes are VERY comfortable to wear and aren't too expensive, and there's almost always a sale or deal online
This is a comfort video for me. Since her time with Buzzfeed, Kristin has been a major inspiration for me. For fashion mainly, but also for body positivity/neutrality. “Make the clothes work for you” is some of the best advice I’ve ever heard.