Fix Your Face: The Link Between Facial Expressions, Charisma and Social Skills
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- Опубліковано 7 лип 2024
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Facial expressions and eye contact have long been the part of our communication that’s the most overlooked. It is the most personal way we communicate (“windows to the soul”) and it can send open and vulnerable messages, that can feel threatening or dangerous, especially if you’ve been guarded in your communication your whole life. In this video we look at the biggest mistakes you might be making with your face that ruin your charisma and social skills.
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In 2003 I began professionally teaching clients how to competently socialize with strangers and achieve amazing results. Over the last two decades, I’ve conducted live programs every weekend in over 30 countries and 100 cities around the world, where I demonstrate these skills live on the spot, push clients beyond their conditioned boundaries, and provide descriptive and actionable feedback. As one of the top 5 most experienced coaches on the planet, I’ve helped over 10,000 clients achieve their goals. I strive for authenticity in my teachings and am highly passionate about creating deep, lasting, identity-level change for the students I work with.
In 2017 I created RESONATOR, the professional guide to healthy powerful and attractive vocal projection technique.
In 2020 I released Charisma Mastery, a unique and useful way for you to isolate and analyze the components of charisma and synthesize them in learning to have successful interactions that lead to powerful business and social connections.
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From what you said, that was the first time that I realized that any emotions were shut down by both parents.
More common than you might imagine.
Jeffy is one of the best who knows how to explain and teach this so easily! Wish more people knew this stuff. Epic video !!! 💯🔥🔥
This isn’t talked about enough. This is everything I’ve been struggling with for the past 4 years. I always thought it was social anxiety which it is but about a year ago I realized I had the anxious trauma response with the wide darting eyes. Trembling tight lip. I was so hyper aware in social situations I can read everyone’s face so well and clearly see that they were uncomfortable with my facial expressions. And being in customer service where I see a hundred people a day, hundreds of reactions a week put such a deep pain that makes me even more hyper aware of what my face is doing. It was a terrible snow ball effect of trying to over compensate and get people to like me cause I didn’t know what was going on but I was just becoming more awkwardly expressive and anxious looking. When I found this out I did everything in my power to limit the expression which actually put me all the way on the other side which is the deadpan face. My lips would still move weird because there was no motion of smile. This turned out to be better because I wasn’t getting that traumatizing reaction of people being uncomfortable weirded out looking at me. But obviously I still have trouble connecting with people. I’m more accepted cause of this and life is good but I want to be able to connect and enjoy conversations with anyone. I want to connect with people so bad but this hindered my ability beyond I could’ve imagined and I’ve been looking to get better for a while. I knew it was with my facial expressions but NO ONE ever has explained it like you. I feel like I’ve been heard for the first time. Jeffy if you read all of this do you still offer a program that relates to this topic?
Hello my friend. I found this video because you and I have similar stories. I find it inspiring that people like you are trying to persevere against these habits we reinforce our entire lives.
It’s been some time since you commented this, how are you doing now?
@@jamesrottler6936 hey! Doing a lot better. I realized that the main issues root comes from being unconfident and then peoples reactions to me being unconfident makes me hyper aware of what my face is doing during conversation. I found the best solution was to obviously raise my confidence. My biggest boost was from working out and staying busy on top of work stuff and goals. 2 was to understand eye contact rules. Genuinely be engaged in the conversation and not focused on what your face is doing. If I do bring awareness to my face I just make sure my eyes are relaxed and not crazy eye piercing and then also the opposite I make sure I’m not stone faced like i don’t want to talk to the person. It’s also important to realize other people can have anxiety and their reactions might not be personal towards how you’re communicating
The pandemic has really hurt a lot of people mentally. I have noticed many people on the street look very paranoid and depressed.
Definitely it's had a major impact 🙏
agreed
Not only the pandemic...but a whole heap of other factors...its so complex
I love these videos Jeff! I just subscribed, you’re so incisive and speak so eloquent
thanks
This video is so useful and needed for alot of people.
This stuff is gold.....so much conveyed in a simple and fun way.....awessooome.
20 years doing this...I can hear it.
I think the prime reason why we develop dead pan to to avoid that placating please like me smile
There are many reasons, mostly resulting from negative social counter conditioning that teaches us to be careful with our uses of energy out of fear of judgement.
These RSD dudes always find the coolest settings to shoot their videos.
I can honestly say that Jeff has been the one I have had the most takeaways from.
I read his book of field reports and journal entries years ago
I can't believe he or his team checked in on me after adding him on Instagram last month.
Aside from the gold nuggets in this video, it was actually very nicely filmed. The scenery and everything were just perfect. Thanks a lot for sharing🥂
Awesome, thank you!
Yea that background screaming / someone getting tortured for 10 minutes was awesome
Great stuff
glad you got something out of it
Nobody:
Jeff: fix your face, or I'm gonna fix it for you
Always fantastic. -Owen
Claro que sí
What is that wailing sound in the background? It's giving me existential dread.
Construction. Great handle btw William Gibson ftw
Good stuff. I have the opposite issue. I'm too facially expressive
@ proverbial boy : the word you're looking for at 8:44 is Hide the Pain Harold meme. It's the exact face you're trying to describe lol
YES
where can i find you 9 ball audio book ive been trying to find it but cant find it anywhere.
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#1, #3, #5 seem the same
Mewing
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1. deadpan
2. serious
3. not squared up
4. weird tics
5. no indication of whats going on inside
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it limits your expressive range and makes you turn out weak interactions when it matters.
need to loose up and than things tend to work themselves out
y wearing that shirt
wats that noise in the background, sounds lik e a ghost , r u part of the llimunati
construction
Thanks Jeff, this helped. ✌🪶
i've emotionless face most of the time, it's not that easy to just being asked to project it outwards, because it will still seem fake no matter how ''hard'' you try it, a lot of internal resistances going on, but let's be honest, i've an emotional abusive mom and a weak father, i've been control by her i wanna gtfo from my house soon
Look at facial expression from 3 perspectives:
1) the face and eyes themselves, ie. the outer communicating resources;
2) The inner emotional process, invisible until communicated by the face and eyes
and 3) the synergistic interplay between them.
In mentoring, the exercise of the facial mode is done in 3 stages: outer, inner and the connecting process between the two.
Whatever a person thinks and feels is invisible until given expression by the face or voice. As those thoughts move towards facial expression, you have a full spectrum of choice potential to what you actually express: ALLOWING -- vs. - - CONCEALING.
I can relate to this. Sounds like you are frustrated, care or cared to much what people think, work or study and in those activities try not to stand out in class or meetings, and you've had people tool or bully you.... Question.. How much do you socialise now and can you walk up to anyone without hesitation and start a conversation?
@@davidsanegor4375 i can still go out on dates to meet stranger, i still have difficulities when opening group of people. Generally speaking i do not have massive anxiety its just apathy and not living an energetic life because of pressure from asian parents and negative energy. I also do not share my vulnerability with my close male friends too, i prefer to seek online sources like this