This always makes me laugh. The first date that my now husband asked me on I paid. He had asked me, forgetting that he only had a couple of dollars on him before payday - 2 days hence. Once he asked, he couldn't take it back so he asked to "borrow" it. I laughed and said OK, but he didn't have to pay me back. In he 70's a date could be had in a dive bar for about $5.00 so I paid. True to his word, as soon as he was paid he paid me back along with a nice bouquet of flowers. We've been together since that day - 48 years ago. So, as far as I'm concerned who pays is neither here nor there, it's whether you have a good time or not.
Congratulations!! What an accomplishment!! You’re such a unique and interesting mix of unmatched comic timing and material, introspection, vulnerability and compassion. You have helped me through so so much, and I can’t thank you enough. Cheers! 🍸
LOVE IT! So impressed. I am such a fan! I listen to you (and Jordana) nearly everyday. Hoping to make it to one of your shows or a U Up live eventually! Thanks for all you do!
Well done Jared! Entertaining and insightful. Owning your feelings is ultimately the best way to ensure you’ll keep making decisions you feel happy living with.
Love you Jared! I listen to your podcasts everyday ( Jtrain, U Up, and Dating Makeover). You make my day a little brighter and make me feel a little wiser
I loved this TED Talk. One important thing wasn’t mentioned - when a woman goes on a date, in a vast majority of the cases she doesn’t go on a date TO GET A FREE MEAL, we can afford our own food. Gone are the days when only men earned money. I hate to say it but nowadays women DO NOT NEED men! So when we go on a date it’s because we WANT to be with one, and that’s a massive difference! Lots of love to everyone ❤️
That's exactly what men are saying also. In an era where vvomen can afford her own food, there should no longer be any expectation for men to pay for dates. You should go and lecture the broke chicks scamming men for free food.
"Who are you debating?" I'm from Brazil and on the last few days a famous actor brought this subject to light again: "who should pay for the first date?". Tremendous discussions were created about it, and the truth is that this topic should be much simpler... If you had fun and enjoyed the company of the other, the payment won't make any difference ✌🏻🇧🇷🙏🏻
surely, who pays doesn't really matter, its the outcome of the date that's the important thing. mind you if it was going badly, I'd be willing to pay the bill just to escape 😊
It's interesting how a seemingly straight-forward question can raise a lot of discussions and provoke several thoughts regarding the equality of men and women. Indeed, in many cultures, it is viewed as socially acceptable for the man to pay on the date. Nonetheless, after watching the video, I think that both sides should split the bill equally. Or, in extreme cases, everyone should pay for what they ordered. While I do think that, I still consider offering to pay for the dinner a nice gesture, whether it comes from the man or the woman.
I would invite my dates to brunch. Excuse myself to the restroom, pay the bill on the way. Then at the end let my date know that I’ve already settled the bill, but if they want to leave a tip that would be nice. Perfect setting to get to know each other better without strings or hassle should personalities not mesh.
I like to do it the way that is natural in the Netherlands, everyone pays for their own share. That way you don't have to feel guilty about spending someone else's money and you don't have to pay for someone else's expensive choices
Totally agree. She should also provide all of the money in the home. In fact, the man shouldn't even work. That's true equality. Isn't that what the feminists want? /s
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“It’s way easier to tell people who should pay than to tell people how you felt when the payment got made” okay Plato 👏🏼 great job Jared!!!!
This always makes me laugh. The first date that my now husband asked me on I paid. He had asked me, forgetting that he only had a couple of dollars on him before payday - 2 days hence. Once he asked, he couldn't take it back so he asked to "borrow" it. I laughed and said OK, but he didn't have to pay me back. In he 70's a date could be had in a dive bar for about $5.00 so I paid. True to his word, as soon as he was paid he paid me back along with a nice bouquet of flowers. We've been together since that day - 48 years ago. So, as far as I'm concerned who pays is neither here nor there, it's whether you have a good time or not.
I dont know why but your story made me smile, such a light hearted one
@@jacobgrace3744 Pretty uncanny, eh? I watched it after I commented.
@@ybrynecho2368 I could tell you watched it! You proved the point! Thank you for sharing
While I don’t disagree, dating has drastically changed since 48 years ago. Especially from a financial aspect.
What a great message! Everything in dating gets so much easier when you look introspectively and forget about the "rules"
I love Jared Fried and listen to all his podcasts. Huge fan! Great job Jared.
very wise, as always!
“it’s way easier to have rules than to have feelings” had me 🤯🤯
I appreciate Jared. I’ve become more confident in owning my own feelings, and it has really set me free. Thank you Jared!
Congratulations!! What an accomplishment!! You’re such a unique and interesting mix of unmatched comic timing and material, introspection, vulnerability and compassion. You have helped me through so so much, and I can’t thank you enough. Cheers! 🍸
Love everything Jared does! Always silly, witty, some tough love and lots of laughs. Great job papa JT 🤩
This guy has just the right amount of relatability that makes me proud to be a fan.
Jared doesn’t miss! Always some good laughs and real talk 🙌🏾
The answer always is, “whomever did the inviting.” Let’s be real. 95% of the time, it’s the men.
I discovered Jared when I recently began listening to Podcasts. He is one of the best content creators, is pragmatic and gives solid advice.
Who should pay for the first date ? The government, of course.
That's actually a good answered if they want to start tackling reduced marriage and birth rates !
Huge Jared stan. Funny, thoughtful, and authentic - as always. Good stuff!
Patreon member here. Been waiting with baited breath for the video after hearing about the talk for weeks! Love it!!
Congrats! Always happy to see you do big things after years of following your stand-up and podcasts
This is so great - Jared has an impressive stage presence
LOVE IT! So impressed. I am such a fan! I listen to you (and Jordana) nearly everyday. Hoping to make it to one of your shows or a U Up live eventually! Thanks for all you do!
As always - funny, smart, insightful and delivered in a way that makes it easy to hear!!! You crushed it Jared!!!
Awesome job, Jared! It’s so great to see all of your hard work and preparation come to fruition!!
Love Jared and listen to all his podcasts! So proud of him and loved the message here!!
Loving this talk! Great job Jared!
Well done Jared! Entertaining and insightful. Owning your feelings is ultimately the best way to ensure you’ll keep making decisions you feel happy living with.
Awesome job, Jared! Hilarious and insightful, per usual.
Love you Jared! I listen to your podcasts everyday ( Jtrain, U Up, and Dating Makeover). You make my day a little brighter and make me feel a little wiser
Jared never disappoints! Hilarious! Iconic live screamer, love this man 😁😁😁
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I loved this TED Talk. One important thing wasn’t mentioned - when a woman goes on a date, in a vast majority of the cases she doesn’t go on a date TO GET A FREE MEAL, we can afford our own food. Gone are the days when only men earned money. I hate to say it but nowadays women DO NOT NEED men! So when we go on a date it’s because we WANT to be with one, and that’s a massive difference! Lots of love to everyone ❤️
That's exactly what men are saying also. In an era where vvomen can afford her own food, there should no longer be any expectation for men to pay for dates. You should go and lecture the broke chicks scamming men for free food.
Apparently wanting to be with that person isn't enough to pay for your own food.
What an amazing talk that was! Perfect mix of being funny and food for thought!
Jared you’re crushing it! Loved your San Diego comedy store show. Proud fan
Hey
Jared is always spot on, incredible job!
Obsessed w/ everything Jared does
Papa JT… killed it once again! Great TED talk on a modern day issue that is more nuanced than people think!
So glad I finally watched this! So good
* feather feather *
"Who are you debating?" I'm from Brazil and on the last few days a famous actor brought this subject to light again: "who should pay for the first date?". Tremendous discussions were created about it, and the truth is that this topic should be much simpler... If you had fun and enjoyed the company of the other, the payment won't make any difference ✌🏻🇧🇷🙏🏻
Definitely worth the wait, and even better after watching the bts videos on Jared’s channel! Congrats jtrain!
Wow. Great talk and insightful! Congrats
Love it!! Witty smart and fun! Congrats and hugs from Spain
Jared, this was amazing! You always deliver. 🙌
FIRST! AND FINALLY THIS GETS TALKED ABOUT THAT I TOTALLY HAVE ALWAYS HAD A PROBLEM WITH
surely, who pays doesn't really matter, its the outcome of the date that's the important thing. mind you if it was going badly, I'd be willing to pay the bill just to escape 😊
I usually don’t comment but this was too funny and also insightful! Good job!!
Amazing job! Jared is the true modern dating guru we all need
Great job Jared! I've been listening to uup and appreciate your perspective !
all the feathers for such a spot-on talk! Loved it! 🪶
Jared Freid! From stand-up to podcasting to bachelor-screaming to TedX! Talk about a Renaissance Man.
It's interesting how a seemingly straight-forward question can raise a lot of discussions and provoke several thoughts regarding the equality of men and women.
Indeed, in many cultures, it is viewed as socially acceptable for the man to pay on the date. Nonetheless, after watching the video, I think that both sides should split the bill equally.
Or, in extreme cases, everyone should pay for what they ordered. While I do think that, I still consider offering to pay for the dinner a nice gesture, whether it comes from the man or the woman.
I think you missed the point of the ted talk unfortunately. Might want to give it another listen?
If I like the guy, I think its more attractive when he pays. If I don’t like him, I’ll insist on splitting the bill 🤷🏻♀️
So funny! Love all of Jared’s stuff
Jared is the best! Excellent Ted Talk!
Love it!! Killed it Jared, AS ALWAYS!!
Interesting topic and very well done!!!
My rule in thumb in dating was always go out again until I’m 100% certain she ain’t for me. Made dating a lot easier for me.
Love this and everything you do!!
Masterful work Jared
Perfectly articulated, great job Jared!
Great job Jared!
Great job, Jared!
Loved it!! Way to go, Jared!
First date my husband and I paid for our own items. He refused to pay for my 3 glasses of wine. I still married him 😀
Crushed it! Congratulations Jared!
Great talk JTrain!!
This is the BEST thing I've watched in a long timeeeee😂🤣😂
The king of dating advice 👏🏼 great job Jared!
Yes!!! Great dude and great talk.
Amazing as always Jared!
Such a great Ted Talk Jared! You crushed it!
Love it! Jared is the best. Everyone go follow and listen to his million podcasts. Feather feather.
I would invite my dates to brunch. Excuse myself to the restroom, pay the bill on the way. Then at the end let my date know that I’ve already settled the bill, but if they want to leave a tip that would be nice. Perfect setting to get to know each other better without strings or hassle should personalities not mesh.
Smashed it again Jared!
Loved it! Jared is the best.
Great job Jared ! So funny !! Greetings from Munich, Germany :)
Love this!!👏🏻
JTRAIN killed it again . Nice job jared! We’re very proud of you 🎉💗
Ma boys all grown up! 🤣👍🏻💛 Love shacked and the Matthew Hussey reference 🤣
Loved this Jared!!
Love everything he does! Fantastic!
Neither party pays for a date. Dates are occasions already desired by both parties.
so if you both desire a meal do you just…dine and dash?
forage in dumpsters?
use ✨ magic ✨?
I love this idea. Anarchy. Chaos. Let's burn it down. Overthrow capitalism.
Loved it!!!!!!
Well done❤️
Killed it Jared!!
Jared always get it right!
Great job!!!!! :)
Genuinely curious who pays on man/man woman/woman dates?
If I eat the food and drunk the drinks, I should pay for what I consumed.
Love this
I love it!!!
You know the saying going Dutch? I'm Dutch, we split the bill haha.
Jared is awesome!
JTrain, what can’t you do?! Great Ted Talk on a subject that is debated at many a brunch table. Feelings > rules in 2022
congrats, jared!!!
I like to do it the way that is natural in the Netherlands, everyone pays for their own share. That way you don't have to feel guilty about spending someone else's money and you don't have to pay for someone else's expensive choices
wow jared sounds diff on here than the podcast!
Soooooo good!!!!!!
1,000 feathers. Great job, Jared!
yesssssss go Jared!!!
Fantastic
amazing!
My answer would be whoever asks, but the other person should have money just in case.
the woman should pay the full price of the bill in all cases
Totally agree. She should also provide all of the money in the home. In fact, the man shouldn't even work. That's true equality. Isn't that what the feminists want? /s
@@celineguedj451 I like the way you think. Want to be my girl friend?
Remarkable person reading this.. It’s going to get better; all it is a season of opportunity to grow and be better than before. Challenging times are meant to strengthen us, not to break us. Success doesn’t define to what happened to us; it is how we choose to deal with our circumstances. The more you grow and develop as an incredible person as you are, the more things will change for the better. Forgive more (for you), be grateful for even the smallest things (we have it way better than someone else), choose love over ego, choose humility over ego (humility is strength), and finally, invest into new skills so that your future self will thank you. Our lives will change forever the more we grow. Be thankful for the challenges for we know something greater is coming. Love you always - Nathalie ✨❤️