It's actually not. My wife is a therapist and sometimes her recommendation is that people just need to be separated or they fundamentally differ or they both need their own separate therapist instead of only couples counseling. Could be any number of reasons.
Candace did give a great No 10 answer! If you look back at why you got together in the first place, and your love for each other then it reminds you that what ever you have gone through, you done it together! I would add, when you know what pushes the buttons on your partner, don't push them again if at all possible.....🔘 x
That's probably what they are together right? very nice what you brought. I loved what you said not for trying to judge their relationship, but i think i related my relationship to theirs hahaha thank god my girl brings me to the ground
I honestly really appreciate that Casey is open about this. Most influencers will make their relationships look perfect until a divorce is settled, but you’re showing us the real side behind it.
And most importantly, sticking together despite imperfections! I mean, this is not necessarily the one truth for all relationships (some couples were never meant to stay together for long, so it might indeed be best if they part ways), but in a world where people simply give up on each other at the first sign of trouble (as nearly everything nowadays is a "red flag"), making a conscious decision to work WITH each other to build a resilient relationship and overcome each other's imperfections is almost an act of rebellion.
Dude, I'm here after like 6-7 years, and watching Casey and Candace still "working" out things just makes me happy! Love your work and personal life balance dude, seriously.❤
Casey continues to prove video after video why he is one of the most talented filmmakers across all media, social and traditional. The stories he tells in less than 20 minutes capture a beauty and honesty of life that's unmatched. The journeys he continues to take us through as his audience are simply amazing and I'm sure we'll all be here for the ride for as long as he decides to do so.
Mr beast is where you find entertainment but here you get entertained and you learn about little things that matters in life. I am 24 and I get to learn this from a couple that has been through it all 🔥
Completely agree! The shot of the video and the placement of that shot ...wow! He is an incredible storyteller. Having happily been on this planet for 72 years, I did want to add--guys, you are STILL young and beautiful.
Candice radiates authenticity in your vlogs. It's refreshing to see her genuine approach to life, especially when many women portray an unrealistically "perfect" family life online. She stands as a beacon for those women hesitant to share their genuine experiences, given society's tendency to suppress such raw truths.
Casey is one of the top storytellers of our time. Its crazy how he can take simple idea that seems stupid for a video and make it into something like this.
I think one of the tips they don't specifically mention, but instead demonstrate is the ability to be silly with your loved one. I have found that relationships need a balance of serious and silly, and I see that reflected in the last few scenes here. It's one of the things that always makes me feel very connected and loved by my husband, when we're laughing about an old joke between us or chuckling over a new one. Another great video casey! Thanks for sharing it with us.
The key takeaways from this video: 1. Find time to be alone with one another 2. Don’t get annoyed by things about them that used to amuse you 3. Be patient when things aren’t going well 4. Put in the work - it’s worth it 5. Don’t sacrifice a sense of ‘you’ and ‘me’ for the sake of an ‘us’ 6. Listen to them and respect their wishes, opinions and peeves 7. End fights constructively 8. Life is short, let the little things go 9. Don’t lose track of what attracted you to them in the first place 10. Have fun with them! A relationship shouldn’t be a constant struggle.
I’ve been watching you both for the past decade. There has always been (and hopefully will always be) a certain quality to your videos that is so special and I’ve never fully been able to pinpoint exactly what that is. I deeply admire your artistic skills, creativity and your work ethic. I’m just writing this to let you know how much I appreciate your content. Thank you for always staying true to yourself and thank you for the Candice content! Always sending lots of love to the both of you!!
As someone who's only been married for a year and a half, I really appreciate how open you are about your relationship with Candice. And how you've made it work all these years while still maintaining your sense of self. Marriage is work, but it's so worth it.
@@banme2784 if they get divorced or not, at least they're aware that they're enjoying themselves as much as possible right now, they're alive, loved and loving. Keep hating.
I think the point at 6:45 really resonated with me. Because, I remember when I was a teenager I asked my parents, "How do you keep your relationship together?" - something along those lines because so many of my friends growing up had divorced parents. What Casey explained is EXACTLY what my parents explained to me. They told me I need to have my own life, my own interests, hobbies, passions, and plans, as does the other person. At the end of the day, we only have ourselves, so what makes a relationship successful is when each person is strong and happy with themselves, and you can share your happy lives together. It just shows that WORK on a relationship often relates to working on yourself. Great video Casey, thank you.
This is really inspiring. I am 23, I really don’t feel the need/want to be with someone, because I fear being broken and also being forced to give up everything I know/love. But seeing you draw those 3 simple circles was way more powerful than you first intended. Every relationship has always been the big circle with no time to be myself/ourselves, but just maybe it is worth another shot. Thank you Casey and Candice! This video has really made me think, maybe there is more to life if we can all find that special someone that is also willing to put in the work.
You're still young. They were likely still young too. People are messy for humans are messy. It's finding that one person who mess you can find joy in and who can find joy in your mess. Offer kindness and forgiveness to yourself and to them. I believe you can find that person one day if you want too or not. It's up to you to find joy and happiness in life and I hope you find yours whatever it is.
Also don't take their relationship as an example. They've broken up and gotten back together so many times and fight over the smallest things. That's a toxic relationship and you can do way better than that. If your SO ever says she has to remind herself that your cute traits are cute, maybe it's time to find somebody that actually takes you as you are and that you can take as they are. I used to be in a relationship like them and it's been really bad and tiring. Now I found a partner that fits a lot better to me and we almost never have to fight (unlike my ex with which I fought every time we met) and instead of tiring me, it strengthens me emotionally.
@jamestrc2009 Haha, sometimes I have the same thoughts as you. I am also your age. I just broke up with someone I really loved and respected. He is 10 years older than me. We still have a lot of feelings for each other. However, for various reasons, we should both find someone more suitable. But truly, love is something colorful and hard to describe. It brings many different shades and perspectives. Life is too short, so love and be loved. Love with all your heart and soul. You will definitely find someone who is right for you and worthy.
Casey and Candice just made me realize I should start filming absolutely every single great event that happen in my life, for me to rewatch decades later.
Through the years Casey had shown bits and pieces of what it's like to be in a relationship with Candace from Girlfriend up to wife and through that one thing he always showed was that he was willing to prioritize the relationship over everything else. When they left NYC because he needed to be closer to family and to turn off his workaholic mentality it showed how much he was willing to fight for Candace and in effect kept their marriage intact, whatever it takes to keep the relationship alive. No relationship is perfect by any means but those imperfections make it real and to be together as long as they have, to keep it as real as they have is an amazing accomplishment, may you have many amazing years together Neistat's.
From what I remember, part of the reason why Casey moved to Cali was actually because he wasn’t prioritizing his relationship with Candice. I don’t remember if he said it in a vlog or a podcast he was on. But that just makes the relationship more real. It’s not some fairy tale where you always put your loved one first. It has ups and downs. What matters is that you’re still willing to fight for each other when shit inevitably hits the fan, which is what happened with Casey and Candice time and time again.
Didn't he say that at a certain point he wasn't listening to Candace and would quickly try to solve arguments so that he could show her on camera? I think you have put on rose tinted glasses. What is great about this conversation is that it shows an imperfect marriage where both have to decide what compromises they can make to stay in it.
This was sweet Casey. Being a child of divorce I never really got a template of what a happy relationship looked like. I'm 29 today and have only been in one myself and have been single than longer than I'd care to admit. Seeing you guys putting in the work and still so in love gives me hope for myself. Much love to you and Candace. ❤️
"We got fired by one of our therapists." 🤣🤣 I absolutely love when Candace has an active part in Casey's videos. Keep working on your marriage, especially for the girls. Kids need to see that healthy relationship between their parents.
I love when Casey makes real, raw, well edited videos like this. It reminds us, well me anyway, that there are no shortcuts. If you want something, you’re gonna need to make it happen yourself. Both of you, in a marriage context. Lol Thanks Casey and Candace.
I just paused to say that “not focusing on each other when you are not together” has been an essential learned skill to make my life run smoothly. I'm not sure I’ve ever heard someone else say it, and Candace said it so well.
Hey, @@madelyn2351, you're not crazy. You're just a better listener than me. Around 1:15, Candace mentions, 'There's no focus on each other when we're not alone.' While this might not directly represent what I was thinking, this moment in the video likely resonated with me and could have sparked my comment. They're discussing the importance of being 'alone together,' and I wouldn't want to overlook the significance of this point. However, in my personal experience, learning to 'set a conversation down' when the other person isn't present has been crucial for finding contentment. It often feels like we carry an imaginary version of our friends or family in our minds. We might ask this version questions or assume what they'd think, say, or do, which is usually harmless when we see them regularly. However, when meetings are infrequent, this imaginary version can diverge significantly from who they are. A more significant divergence can make relationships feel like they've suddenly changed, while a smaller one leaves us feeling like they’ve ‘picked up where they left off.' To prevent reality from clashing with our expectations and leading to disappointment, it's essential to let go of these imaginary versions and wait for real people to share their thoughts and feelings. Again, I agree with Casey and Candace about being 'Alone together.' My comment was more a reflection of my own life. Thanks for seeking clarity here, and sorry for any confusion I caused.
The whole thing Candice dad said is so ironic because my stepdad was a bachelor until he was 55. He bought fancy cars and beautiful houses etc. But then he met my mum and with that came her adult children. And he says his life finally makes sense. They've been together for 8 years now and he still sometimes cries tears of joy when he tells people the story of how he became a family man. That was his happy ending. So I guess you've got to remember that the grass is always greener.
I got married at 32 and had 4 kids within 5 years. My life was so much easier before that moment but I felt like it was fairly meaningless. When I left bachelorhood, I was actually looking forward to not having my life revolve around me. It’s a growth thing. Don’t try to hang into your life, give it away for that which truly matters. “If you try to save your life, you’ll lose it. If you lose your life for my sake and the Gospel, you’ll find it.” -Jesus
This is wonderful. The thing about recognising and accommodating your partner’s pet peeves is so true. My wife and I have survived 22 years and this has been critical. I sure do miss Casey’s daily vlogs.
I agree unless it's to an extreme extent. If someone is constantly nagging over things they need to learn tolerance themselves and pick their battles. I often see one partner in the relationship who can get carried away and express every little thing that annoys them and expect the other person to accommodate them.
Candice was in her zone when explaining these tips. Lol she definitely showed how she has become so successful in her business life. Love the transparency you two put out in the struggles of life.
@CaseyNeistat: In a generation of terrible relationships, lack of effective communication, divorce, breakups, distrust, and dishonesty, this story is a beacon of light and hope that is hard to come by. Thank you for being a shining example of hard work and effort Casey and Candance. Bless you, two!
The bad relationships have been since world war 2 people never seem to be able to grasp that social damage that did to most people. Since then it has been a generational spiral
There have always been terrible relationships. It's just not as taboo to talk about it anymore. People aren't as pressured to stay in a horrible relationship just because that's what is expected. The whole "this generation just doesn't know how to tough it out and stick to one relationship!" thing is ridiculous. I know MULTIPLE boomers that have been divorced 3+ times. One that has 5.
This is by far your best video Casey. The advise. The realness. The feelings. The story behind the relationship. The old clips. Just WOW. Gave me goosebumps. You are truly perfect together. She is making you better and you are making her better. Amazing!
@@qwisjx4482 Casey puts all the responsibility on her to come up with these points. He should have done that. He also constantly seeks her approval for everything he says. She is highly irritated with Casey.
This is actually one of my favorite Casey videos ever... because it's so freakin real and relatable. You guys sound exactly like me and my wife, haha. It is all worth it though.
I’ve always appreciated how real you’ve displayed this relationship, you’ve shown the ups and downs but that real connection of being each others best friend is there. Thank both of yous from the bottom of my heart
Can we all just take a moment to appreciate how nice of a transition to those old videos of them? Like so simple yet it made it such a touching moment for their relationship
Thank you for the video Casey & Candise. Bonus tips for anyone that cares. 1) When arguing never make it personal. 2) Never go to bed or leave the other when angry. 3) Never EVER use the kids as a weapon against the other 4) Respect the others views and opinions even if you don't agree with them. 5) You have to love who you are before you can truly love another. We are all different. We all have different experiences in life. Everything around us shapes us into the person we are. True love knows no colors. We all hurt, we all bleed. Life is short and make the best of it.
Showing the flashback after Candice suggested to look at older photos of each other in love made me cry! That pause after was also impactful and I’m sure intentional. Kudos on sharing your story.
Watching your relationship and family grow over the years is such a wonderful joy, and knowing the secret to putting in the work has been just as inspiring. You’re a gifted filmmaker but more importantly, a present husband & father. Love you Casey ❤❤❤❤
Love the honesty and vulnerability. I’m engaged and no one really ever spoke about how much work goes into a relationship and I didn’t personally have any successful relationship around me to use as an example! And hats off to Candice’s dad for being honest… it takes a really solid relationship with your child to be willing to admit that. Wishing you both all the best! Thanks for sharing ❤️
Okay but don’t say it to your kids when they’re kids. Growing up, my dad told me this every time he saw me or any time I needed him and it made me very suicidal/ destroyed my self worth. I genuinely hated existing because I knew he hated it too. To this day I struggle with sense of self and self worth.
The second I heard Daniel Johnston the tears welled up. What a great song choice. And the fact that you’ve documented so much over the years inspires me to do the same. I’m mad at myself for not doing that enough. I feel like I’ve left my kids in the past and now they’re all grown.
Independent? Candace is a spoiled woman who's never been independent in her life. She went from a spoiled princess from her dad to her businesses and any success due to her husband who she currently lives off of lol
My sister and her husband have been married for about 55 years and they told me that the secret to a long lasting marriage is to remember that you love each other and to accept each other as unique individuals. Let your partner be who they are.
Thanks for letting us into your personal world Casey. Alot of influencers paint a picture of a perfect marriage until the divorce is finalized. Marriage/relationships take alot of work from both people and that ven diagram is a perfect analogy. Cheers Casey and best of luck to you and Candice.
The way you express a thought, show us a memory and put it all together in perspective as a filmed product is never under looked Casey! The lessons you have given throughout your life experiences have educated a whole generation on how to live life, make mistakes and learn along the way.
Watching Casey videos is like you are just involved so deeply that you started feeling it. Love you man. The only creator's video I never miss. Candace is like icing on the cake. I just love your old days videos.
Thanks Casey. You always seem to be there when I need you. I just went through the hardest breakup of my life and this video really helped. Your daily vlogs helped me in my darkest days too
I really appreciate how you all fight for your marriage. In the age where divorce is far too common, it's refreshing to see a couple willing to put in the work.
I'm getting married to the love of my life this October, and this video came at the perfect time. Thank you Casey. You're right, love is work, but it's work that's worth doing
Tip number 10 is a huge reason why we started our own UA-cam Channel, to be honest. Making these videos, filming and photographing our trips now have really opened us up to a whole world of digital memories. The messy uncontrollable hair in the wind, the grumpy moments you can recognise in our videos, if you know they're there. The amount of times I (Natalie) have been editing our footage, and Umairs talking about me or about us and is being adorable, but I didn't know he'd said these things at the time - is adorable! Some things make it to UA-cam, some things stay private for u. Honestly agree with every tip you said here. It is all about Work, Respect, giving yourselves time and space, as well as GROWING together. The final montage is so cute, because you've grown together as people AND as a couple
@CalamityTravels Slick pitch for your channel. Slid it right in there. At least you chose a high ranking YTer w/ millions of subscribers + fans for years to ‘comment’
I have always loved that despite the fact that Candice does not like being on camera she does it for Casey...and the videos with Candice in them are my absolute favorite.
Haha I love Candace’s secret one. I feel like when kids come into the picture your relationship changes drastically because your new focus is these little humans you worry about 24/7. Making time to still focus on just each other always seems like so much effort but worth it.
Never stop communicating. Communicating with each other is something I have found to be invaluable. Communicating the good things but more importantly the things that are hard to talk about. But like Candice said, this too takes work and if you're not willing to work at it then it's just going to lead to more challenges.
Can we all agree that even though Casey is not the same that are used to be his ageing like fine wine with his concert, his content is evolving and changing for the better keep up the good work man
This and the love note to Candice videos are two of my favourite ones ever. The love note one inspired me to write a similar one to my wife 5 years ago when we had already been together 12 years. She just said last week that she still reads this letter at least once a month. And I really enjoyed writing it as well. Made me really reflect and remind all the minor details that make me love my wife so much.
I’m glad there’s someone that talks about it when divorce rates are so high. Marriage is a hard step to take in this time. Thank you for being gentle and honest.
You two are the true definition of a real couple. Relationships take work and effort and you definitely have shown that over the years. I’ve been in a relationship for over 10 years and you have your ups and downs but if you love each other you work through it all🙋🏻♀️
Brave Casey, very brave. Hats off to both of you. Many truths. I’ve been married to a man 35 years. He’s changed over time and so have I. Neither of us are perfect. Sticking together. Giving space. Respect. Giving kindness. Giving acceptance. Finding personal strength and independence. Not giving up. ❤️❤️❤️🦋
I applaud you! It is sooo important that young kids and older kids see this in these weird times. Not even Casey Neistat's marriage is perfect. It takes work. But YOU make it work! Thank you sooo much for this video, Casey! And never stop working on the marriage! All the best!
One tip that I've learned during my relatively young relationship with my gf: Never argue while hungry. 99% of the times where we get short with each other or argue over something stupid it's because we're both hungry. Call a timeout, get some food in your belly, then come back to the argument. Most of the time you both realize you were arguing over nothing.
Pure. You know growing up with one of the fathers of a UA-cam genre (Casey and vlogging) is really weird. All of our favorite creators are getting old with us. And it’s kinda weird to see their problems on videos too. We grew up with you know “stupid joy” and everything was amazing. They were happy and getting richer and richer. But getting older really hits you I guess. So you see true creators like Casey or PewDiePie just taking a step back. Leaving this content-galore society and being realistic . Showing a side that we all experience. Apart from living in a different part of the world . And having a different financial and social situation they do have the same problems. Mental & physical health, relationships that need work. They are losing family members or pets. It’s really relatable. Well done Casey. Every time I watch one of your videos it really ends without me checking the time. You provide the same value you did back then. Is it sad that your audience and you are older ? I don’t know. It is what it is. Thanks again.
Great video, its so important for people to see that they are not alone in this endeavor of love, marriage, and kids. Our generation has so much to deal with. Seeing your past montage hit home for me! im in my early 40's, my wife and I have been together for 24yrs, married 17! two kids and a small business later, its great to look back on all the exciting, scary, and romantic times we have shared. I hope you have many more blessings with your family. the "work" is so worth it. the last one is good too...
I'm in a 20 year relationship. Shit ain't easy, but nothing worth having is. Usually if you see something you don't like in someone else, it's because you're not right with yourself. It is very important to focus on what you can control in life. If you focus on things you cannot control you will go crazy. What others think, say, do, etc. is out of your hands. How you react is very powerful and very much under your control! Good Luck!
Happy Father's Day Casey and Candice 💕❤💯 We love you and thank you for sharing your lives with us. You both are such a great inspiration, individually and separately 🤗
This is a level of insight into relationships that we are by no means entitled to, but that I find so important for people to hear. Tip 10 resonated most with me almost as a fail-safe for relationships in a bad place. And if I had to reword it, I would say "remind yourself why you fell in love." Sometimes we can forget the core reasons why we chose to be with someone in the first place, especially as you progress in a relationship and change as individuals. Taking a moment to think back to the person that you found so amazing that you knew you wanted to be with them is one of the healthiest things I think you can do in a long term relationship
What a great video. There is not much more annoying than pretending one’s relationship is awesome all of the time… then, the divorce comes and everyone is shocked! Longterm relationships are f’ing hard. Thank you for making the attempt to be open, private, and letting us in on the imperfection. And, all the freaking WORK it takes to stay married, even when you don’t want to be!
I can only speak about my experience. When you have kids, you become parents and can easily lose each other. After a few years, we would remind each other that the kids will eventually leave and we needed to want to be with each other. So we worked to have time to be adults that choose and enjoy being with each other. I think you and Candice have that. Cheers
My number one marriage tip has always been that you need to keep your expectations low on anything that isn’t a dealbreaker. That one thing that bugs you that they always do isn’t being done to spite you, it’s being done because they are a flawed human just like you. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t address it, but if you do it should be done in a safe and judgement free way because again they most likely aren’t doing it to spite you.
As someone who’s been in a long term relationship, I really appreciate the honesty; vs pretending like everything’s shiny happy and perfect all the time. It isn’t. But as long as you’re both willing to choose each other every day, with patience and empathy, you’ll be just fine. 😊❤
I bet Candice is hilarious when you meet her…. We have been married 16 years & patience is great 😂 We always try to not go to be angry with one another. Life is short 💯 beautiful vlog Casey & Candice!
I remember when Casey and Candace made about 10 podcast episodes called "Couples Therapy" (and I still know the jingle). I listened to all of them. My conclusion was that both of these people are incredibly disagreeable, and this put strain on the relationship. My advice: please give your spouse the benefit of the doubt. The number-one mistake I see so many men and women make is to think "I'm upset at you, so you wanted me to be upset" which is really only true in a small fraction of relationships. The fact that entire sitcoms have been built around simple misconceptions means that you can resolve most conflict in a relationship by just asking for clarification about the content and the intent of what makes you upset.
So true. Effective communication and not trying to guess or think what their partner is feeling or "hinting" towards or what they meant. I had a bad habit of filling in the blanks. Can't think of the word right now but it has helped tremendously to give benefit of doubt and ask for clarification if needed and not to fill in the blanks yourself
@@HK45C Fantastic to read that you recognised this bad habit and worked on it. People who jump to conclusions are very tiresome to live with because you're always having to simultaneously debunk their assertions, re-explain your intents, and defuse emotions. It takes maturity to hold off judgement until it is warranted.
So awesome guys. It really gives the perspective of a busy marriage. Facts facts facts. Thank you Casey for this video. Just sent my wife some older pics of us and just brings back the reason why we got together in the first place so thank you again.
This was fucking adorable and heartwarming. Long term relationships as a family do take work so I love the message. It’s either worth it to put in that work in or it’s not. So find someone that you are willing to put that work in with. I most definitely agree and I’m so happy you guys are finding your way through marriage 🖤 it’s inspiring.
We miss the podcast from you guys!!.....Love that you guys always keep it 100%, no relationship is perfect and there will be fights. In a world of social media, the picture you guys are painting is long gone, now its all about the rainbows and unicorns.
Love this Casey! I still remember your first video I ever stumbled on was you convincing Candace to get back together with you by planning the road trip to Canaveral to see the space shuttle launch.
I've been with my wife for 12 years now. And I still don't get why it's so easy and amazing for me to be with her. We're planning to have our first child next year. It will definitely change something. I'm excited to learn what it is.
As someone who just celebrated a year of marriage. This video is what I needed to remind myself to hold her close and love her everyday no matter what is going on or what we are fighting about. And to just enjoy every second I have with her
My grandparents just celebrated their 50th anniversary last week and this video brought up a lot of wisdom I have gained from them as well as thoughts I have had about marriage in my short three years of being married so far. Casey’s Venn diagram made me think a lot about marriage and what I consider important in my own relationship with my wife. I think, if I were to draw the diagram, I would draw two separate circles directly on top of one another. Yes, marriage is two people living together that need space from time to time to express themselves or have their own experiences, but an essential part of marriage is that it takes a tremendous amount of sacrifice from both people to make a long lasting, loving and joyous relationship. Sometimes marriage requires sacrificing the porsches and sail boats and beach vacations in order to become one, whole and happy circle that is two stacked into one. If you are about to be married, in the middle of marriage, or close to being divorced with your significant other, I highly recommend reading “The Meaning of Marriage” by Tim Keller. Tim goes much further into detail about what I am talking about above but in a much more eloquent way, and the book has helped the first three years of my marriage (and all 50 of my grandparents marriage!!) be some of the best years of my life.
I think the Venn diagram should be two *almost* completely overlapping circles with a tiny spot open on both ends for each partner. If you're with the right person you want to spend most of your time together but it's important to have your own space once in a while.
12 minutes gone in a flash with a beautiful message. As I am about to get married and having watched so many of your videos throughout the years I know it is a lot of work and have already experienced that. Thank you for your perspective I think everyone can benefit from it
You guys are amazing and 100% correct. Marriage takes work and commitment. The photo tip #10 was spot on. I really miss your weekly marriage counseling podcast.
I am feeling, that I have seen a whole romantic comedy. In only 12 minutes: You have told the essence of the happy moments and daily challenges in a relationship and how to overcome them. Nice Job Casey!
I’ve been with the same man for 29 years, married for 23 years. In fact I don’t really know my life without him in it. I would say “work” is the most important factor, everything else falls under this. Both sides have to put in that work or else it all falls apart eventually. Keep working at it Casey and Candace! Love never dies but it does need to be tended to and nurtured ❤
Getting fired by a marriage counselor is an incredible accomplishment 😂
What about getting hired by a marriage counselor?
@@excripto1 if a marriage counselor is like you need me, thats an anti acomplishment
That's happened to you as well??? I thought i was the only one. Lmao
Nah I’ve done it
It's actually not. My wife is a therapist and sometimes her recommendation is that people just need to be separated or they fundamentally differ or they both need their own separate therapist instead of only couples counseling. Could be any number of reasons.
I love it when Candace makes an appearance. She always brings the realism to the storybook world that Casey lives in.
Candace did give a great No 10 answer! If you look back at why you got together in the first place, and your love for each other then it reminds you that what ever you have gone through, you done it together! I would add, when you know what pushes the buttons on your partner, don't push them again if at all possible.....🔘 x
They are really is a power couple. Been watching Casey talking about their relationship is incredible
That's probably what they are together right? very nice what you brought. I loved what you said not for trying to judge their relationship, but i think i related my relationship to theirs hahaha thank god my girl brings me to the ground
Me, too! But MAN. She looks TIRED in life! All the time.
Agree. I also miss their single-season podcast “Couples Therapy with Candice and Casey.”
I honestly really appreciate that Casey is open about this. Most influencers will make their relationships look perfect until a divorce is settled, but you’re showing us the real side behind it.
And most importantly, sticking together despite imperfections! I mean, this is not necessarily the one truth for all relationships (some couples were never meant to stay together for long, so it might indeed be best if they part ways), but in a world where people simply give up on each other at the first sign of trouble (as nearly everything nowadays is a "red flag"), making a conscious decision to work WITH each other to build a resilient relationship and overcome each other's imperfections is almost an act of rebellion.
this.
exactly! it’s rare to see public figures be so open about the “downs” of their relationship i think it’s very admirable
That’s everybody though shrug 🤷♂️ nobody wants their personal business Public
We, us... The people who watch this channel is somewhere inside the Me Ben diagram
That transition to the old footage was so powerful. Amazing film Casey. Thanks for sharing it with us
I love how Candice is unapologetically herself and does not try to play it up for the camera. Makes her even more endearing.
And you think casey likes that?
@@boratsagdiyev522this video is a testament to the fact that he does.
@@boratsagdiyev522just say you're new here
You think bratty and annoyed behaviour is endearing? You and me are different.
@@vildekm been here since day one
Dude, I'm here after like 6-7 years, and watching Casey and Candace still "working" out things just makes me happy! Love your work and personal life balance dude, seriously.❤
It’s inspiring. I also feel this way
Divorce exists for a reason. These two are not happy and abuse each other constantly. Almost verging on Johnny and Amber levels. They should separate.
@@badoing7390I think the same every video Candice features in they mention they almost divorced a few months ago etc
Casey continues to prove video after video why he is one of the most talented filmmakers across all media, social and traditional. The stories he tells in less than 20 minutes capture a beauty and honesty of life that's unmatched. The journeys he continues to take us through as his audience are simply amazing and I'm sure we'll all be here for the ride for as long as he decides to do so.
This I completely agree…Me and My Kid is one of my fav movies of all time.
You are spot on
Mr beast is where you find entertainment but here you get entertained and you learn about little things that matters in life. I am 24 and I get to learn this from a couple that has been through it all 🔥
It says a lot that theres always a comment like this on every single one of his vids.
Completely agree! The shot of the video and the placement of that shot ...wow! He is an incredible storyteller.
Having happily been on this planet for 72 years, I did want to add--guys, you are STILL young and beautiful.
Candice radiates authenticity in your vlogs. It's refreshing to see her genuine approach to life, especially when many women portray an unrealistically "perfect" family life online. She stands as a beacon for those women hesitant to share their genuine experiences, given society's tendency to suppress such raw truths.
This is a level of vulnerability I haven't seen from many creators. Casey did it with style, class and creativity as usual.
His last ditch effort to save a failing marriage with a chick who is already checked out
@@TrumpsEarBandagewdym
@@TrumpsEarBandageyou cant judge someone unless you live their life.A video is too short.
@@TrumpsEarBandage sad life you must live.
@@TrumpsEarBandageyeah they’re donzo lmao. Their podcast was a shitshow
Casey is one of the top storytellers of our time. Its crazy how he can take simple idea that seems stupid for a video and make it into something like this.
Exactly
Can be learned? Or gifted?
*BEST storyteller
that's because they beeing authentic. it's not some sort of staged convos. and these surprising edits of course!
MAJOR major respect to you two for fighting through the hard parts of the marriage. Very inspiring
❤ So messy, vulnerable, and genuine. It’s like the opposite of most social media. Thanks to both of you for that little gem of a video. ❤
Man, it really warms my heart to see you back in NYC. Your old Vlogs got me through some hard times and this is just like visiting an old friend.
such a great comment! Im close to you :')
I think one of the tips they don't specifically mention, but instead demonstrate is the ability to be silly with your loved one. I have found that relationships need a balance of serious and silly, and I see that reflected in the last few scenes here. It's one of the things that always makes me feel very connected and loved by my husband, when we're laughing about an old joke between us or chuckling over a new one. Another great video casey! Thanks for sharing it with us.
The key takeaways from this video:
1. Find time to be alone with one another
2. Don’t get annoyed by things about them that used to amuse you
3. Be patient when things aren’t going well
4. Put in the work - it’s worth it
5. Don’t sacrifice a sense of ‘you’ and ‘me’ for the sake of an ‘us’
6. Listen to them and respect their wishes, opinions and peeves
7. End fights constructively
8. Life is short, let the little things go
9. Don’t lose track of what attracted you to them in the first place
10. Have fun with them! A relationship shouldn’t be a constant struggle.
you forgot the secret last advise lol
11: Eggplants and peaches.
number 3 is kind of impposible
Work isnt underlined enough
Or just get a dog. 😂😂
I’ve been watching you both for the past decade. There has always been (and hopefully will always be) a certain quality to your videos that is so special and I’ve never fully been able to pinpoint exactly what that is. I deeply admire your artistic skills, creativity and your work ethic. I’m just writing this to let you know how much I appreciate your content. Thank you for always staying true to yourself and thank you for the Candice content! Always sending lots of love to the both of you!!
As someone who's only been married for a year and a half, I really appreciate how open you are about your relationship with Candice. And how you've made it work all these years while still maintaining your sense of self. Marriage is work, but it's so worth it.
Lmfao, theyre gonna get divorced anyway calling it now
@@banme2784 if they get divorced or not, at least they're aware that they're enjoying themselves as much as possible right now, they're alive, loved and loving. Keep hating.
@@banme2784 such a sad thing to say
I think the point at 6:45 really resonated with me. Because, I remember when I was a teenager I asked my parents, "How do you keep your relationship together?" - something along those lines because so many of my friends growing up had divorced parents. What Casey explained is EXACTLY what my parents explained to me. They told me I need to have my own life, my own interests, hobbies, passions, and plans, as does the other person. At the end of the day, we only have ourselves, so what makes a relationship successful is when each person is strong and happy with themselves, and you can share your happy lives together. It just shows that WORK on a relationship often relates to working on yourself. Great video Casey, thank you.
Well said! 👏
very well put!
Yeah, just don’t take it too far
This is really inspiring. I am 23, I really don’t feel the need/want to be with someone, because I fear being broken and also being forced to give up everything I know/love. But seeing you draw those 3 simple circles was way more powerful than you first intended. Every relationship has always been the big circle with no time to be myself/ourselves, but just maybe it is worth another shot.
Thank you Casey and Candice! This video has really made me think, maybe there is more to life if we can all find that special someone that is also willing to put in the work.
You're still young. They were likely still young too. People are messy for humans are messy. It's finding that one person who mess you can find joy in and who can find joy in your mess. Offer kindness and forgiveness to yourself and to them. I believe you can find that person one day if you want too or not. It's up to you to find joy and happiness in life and I hope you find yours whatever it is.
@@alaina4070this comment is so beautiful i had to give it a like. It shouldn’t be overlooked, that’s wisdom.
Marriage and children are the best. You will find these, I’m sure.
Also don't take their relationship as an example. They've broken up and gotten back together so many times and fight over the smallest things. That's a toxic relationship and you can do way better than that. If your SO ever says she has to remind herself that your cute traits are cute, maybe it's time to find somebody that actually takes you as you are and that you can take as they are. I used to be in a relationship like them and it's been really bad and tiring. Now I found a partner that fits a lot better to me and we almost never have to fight (unlike my ex with which I fought every time we met) and instead of tiring me, it strengthens me emotionally.
@jamestrc2009 Haha, sometimes I have the same thoughts as you. I am also your age. I just broke up with someone I really loved and respected. He is 10 years older than me. We still have a lot of feelings for each other. However, for various reasons, we should both find someone more suitable. But truly, love is something colorful and hard to describe. It brings many different shades and perspectives. Life is too short, so love and be loved. Love with all your heart and soul. You will definitely find someone who is right for you and worthy.
Casey’s story telling always has & always will hit the spot. ❤️ 🥺
Candice is the realest person on UA-cam. Absolutely no filters and I'm here for it
@@gumzsterLool not everyone wants to be on Camera or entertain strangers.
Agree! 🙌🏻
He said in a podcast that her attitude is what keeps it balanced
Also she loves money 😂
Honestly, Candice was called “bitchy” in a lot of Casey’s vlogs in the past. I’m glad that people now realize that the woman was just keeping it real.
Casey and Candice just made me realize I should start filming absolutely every single great event that happen in my life, for me to rewatch decades later.
Its why so many of us do it.
I have like probably 3TB saved on mg Google Photos. 90% of them was when the app was free. 😅
You are very funny! I love you both. ❤❤
@@kama_reisNo I love you
Through the years Casey had shown bits and pieces of what it's like to be in a relationship with Candace from Girlfriend up to wife and through that one thing he always showed was that he was willing to prioritize the relationship over everything else. When they left NYC because he needed to be closer to family and to turn off his workaholic mentality it showed how much he was willing to fight for Candace and in effect kept their marriage intact, whatever it takes to keep the relationship alive. No relationship is perfect by any means but those imperfections make it real and to be together as long as they have, to keep it as real as they have is an amazing accomplishment, may you have many amazing years together Neistat's.
now the waterworks hit
From what I remember, part of the reason why Casey moved to Cali was actually because he wasn’t prioritizing his relationship with Candice. I don’t remember if he said it in a vlog or a podcast he was on. But that just makes the relationship more real. It’s not some fairy tale where you always put your loved one first. It has ups and downs. What matters is that you’re still willing to fight for each other when shit inevitably hits the fan, which is what happened with Casey and Candice time and time again.
Didn't he say that at a certain point he wasn't listening to Candace and would quickly try to solve arguments so that he could show her on camera? I think you have put on rose tinted glasses. What is great about this conversation is that it shows an imperfect marriage where both have to decide what compromises they can make to stay in it.
The collage of old videos near the end made me teary 😢
Great video together. Very happy that you have continued to WORK to make YOUR MARRIAGE WORK! ❤
This was sweet Casey. Being a child of divorce I never really got a template of what a happy relationship looked like. I'm 29 today and have only been in one myself and have been single than longer than I'd care to admit. Seeing you guys putting in the work and still so in love gives me hope for myself. Much love to you and Candace. ❤️
"We got fired by one of our therapists." 🤣🤣 I absolutely love when Candace has an active part in Casey's videos. Keep working on your marriage, especially for the girls. Kids need to see that healthy relationship between their parents.
I love when Casey makes real, raw, well edited videos like this. It reminds us, well me anyway, that there are no shortcuts. If you want something, you’re gonna need to make it happen yourself. Both of you, in a marriage context. Lol Thanks Casey and Candace.
Note how the audio is mixed at 7:32. The sound of the truck continues into the next shot.
@@WanderlustWonderscape Thanks! I wouldn't have noticed. I get how great the editing is, but not why. Appreciate your sharing the detail.
I just paused to say that “not focusing on each other when you are not together” has been an essential learned skill to make my life run smoothly. I'm not sure I’ve ever heard someone else say it, and Candace said it so well.
Does she say that in this video? I feel nuts cause I can’t find it 🕵️♀️
Hey, @@madelyn2351, you're not crazy. You're just a better listener than me.
Around 1:15, Candace mentions, 'There's no focus on each other when we're not alone.' While this might not directly represent what I was thinking, this moment in the video likely resonated with me and could have sparked my comment.
They're discussing the importance of being 'alone together,' and I wouldn't want to overlook the significance of this point. However, in my personal experience, learning to 'set a conversation down' when the other person isn't present has been crucial for finding contentment.
It often feels like we carry an imaginary version of our friends or family in our minds. We might ask this version questions or assume what they'd think, say, or do, which is usually harmless when we see them regularly. However, when meetings are infrequent, this imaginary version can diverge significantly from who they are.
A more significant divergence can make relationships feel like they've suddenly changed, while a smaller one leaves us feeling like they’ve ‘picked up where they left off.' To prevent reality from clashing with our expectations and leading to disappointment, it's essential to let go of these imaginary versions and wait for real people to share their thoughts and feelings.
Again, I agree with Casey and Candace about being 'Alone together.' My comment was more a reflection of my own life. Thanks for seeking clarity here, and sorry for any confusion I caused.
The whole thing Candice dad said is so ironic because my stepdad was a bachelor until he was 55. He bought fancy cars and beautiful houses etc. But then he met my mum and with that came her adult children. And he says his life finally makes sense. They've been together for 8 years now and he still sometimes cries tears of joy when he tells people the story of how he became a family man. That was his happy ending. So I guess you've got to remember that the grass is always greener.
I got married at 32 and had 4 kids within 5 years. My life was so much easier before that moment but I felt like it was fairly meaningless. When I left bachelorhood, I was actually looking forward to not having my life revolve around me. It’s a growth thing. Don’t try to hang into your life, give it away for that which truly matters.
“If you try to save your life, you’ll lose it. If you lose your life for my sake and the Gospel, you’ll find it.” -Jesus
That was too goddamn cute
No u
I WATCH YOUR SKATE VIDS
Beep bop... I'm the Philosophy Bot. Here, have a quote:
"All truly great thoughts are conceived by walking"
~ Nietzsche
This is wonderful. The thing about recognising and accommodating your partner’s pet peeves is so true. My wife and I have survived 22 years and this has been critical. I sure do miss Casey’s daily vlogs.
If you have a OCD Partner, that will make you having to life an OCD life (which won't be a nice one for either one of you)
@@TobiasHamwhat’s wrong with ocd in a partner?
@@awakenthegreatnesswithin nothing, I just don't want to get it myself.
I agree unless it's to an extreme extent. If someone is constantly nagging over things they need to learn tolerance themselves and pick their battles. I often see one partner in the relationship who can get carried away and express every little thing that annoys them and expect the other person to accommodate them.
@@TobiasHam Lol, I'm not saying anything against you. I'm asking for myself to understand what people think. As I have a bit of ocd
I miss their podcast! It was soooo good...very open and vulnerable. I'm happy that they are still together and thriving.
Candice was in her zone when explaining these tips. Lol she definitely showed how she has become so successful in her business life. Love the transparency you two put out in the struggles of life.
@CaseyNeistat: In a generation of terrible relationships, lack of effective communication, divorce, breakups, distrust, and dishonesty, this story is a beacon of light and hope that is hard to come by. Thank you for being a shining example of hard work and effort Casey and Candance. Bless you, two!
Not a generation, just the entire post industrial revolution society.
The bad relationships have been since world war 2 people never seem to be able to grasp that social damage that did to most people. Since then it has been a generational spiral
There have always been terrible relationships. It's just not as taboo to talk about it anymore. People aren't as pressured to stay in a horrible relationship just because that's what is expected. The whole "this generation just doesn't know how to tough it out and stick to one relationship!" thing is ridiculous. I know MULTIPLE boomers that have been divorced 3+ times. One that has 5.
This is by far your best video Casey. The advise. The realness. The feelings. The story behind the relationship. The old clips. Just WOW. Gave me goosebumps. You are truly perfect together. She is making you better and you are making her better. Amazing!
Huh? Casey comes off as soooo weak. His wife is disgusted by his weakness and shows it throughout the video.
@@ronaldgmaster5782 how does he come off as weak?
@@qwisjx4482 Casey puts all the responsibility on her to come up with these points. He should have done that. He also constantly seeks her approval for everything he says. She is highly irritated with Casey.
@ronaldgmaster5782
Are you for real?
@@amyt2400 yes and you know i am right.
Impeccable timing - much appreciated. Really nice to see more of Candace.
This is actually one of my favorite Casey videos ever... because it's so freakin real and relatable. You guys sound exactly like me and my wife, haha. It is all worth it though.
Is it?
I’ve always appreciated how real you’ve displayed this relationship, you’ve shown the ups and downs but that real connection of being each others best friend is there. Thank both of yous from the bottom of my heart
sleep longer mate
8:53 ‘Don’t you fckin touch me’ 🤣🤣 That’s love right there! 😂
That was so cute and real! Thank you Casey for willing to be vulnerable. I’m sure this video resonated with so many people!
Can we all just take a moment to appreciate how nice of a transition to those old videos of them? Like so simple yet it made it such a touching moment for their relationship
Thank you for the video Casey & Candise. Bonus tips for anyone that cares. 1) When arguing never make it personal. 2) Never go to bed or leave the other when angry. 3) Never EVER use the kids as a weapon against the other 4) Respect the others views and opinions even if you don't agree with them. 5) You have to love who you are before you can truly love another. We are all different. We all have different experiences in life. Everything around us shapes us into the person we are. True love knows no colors. We all hurt, we all bleed. Life is short and make the best of it.
Amen 🙏
Yes to all of this, especially nr. 3! No kid deserves to be dragged into their parents arguments. So hurtful and damaging!
“Never go to bed angry” is our marriage mantra. It has worked wonders.
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Showing the flashback after Candice suggested to look at older photos of each other in love made me cry! That pause after was also impactful and I’m sure intentional. Kudos on sharing your story.
Watching your relationship and family grow over the years is such a wonderful joy, and knowing the secret to putting in the work has been just as inspiring. You’re a gifted filmmaker but more importantly, a present husband & father. Love you Casey ❤❤❤❤
Love the honesty and vulnerability. I’m engaged and no one really ever spoke about how much work goes into a relationship and I didn’t personally have any successful relationship around me to use as an example! And hats off to Candice’s dad for being honest… it takes a really solid relationship with your child to be willing to admit that. Wishing you both all the best! Thanks for sharing ❤️
Okay but don’t say it to your kids when they’re kids. Growing up, my dad told me this every time he saw me or any time I needed him and it made me very suicidal/ destroyed my self worth. I genuinely hated existing because I knew he hated it too. To this day I struggle with sense of self and self worth.
The second I heard Daniel Johnston the tears welled up. What a great song choice. And the fact that you’ve documented so much over the years inspires me to do the same. I’m mad at myself for not doing that enough. I feel like I’ve left my kids in the past and now they’re all grown.
It's always amazing that two incredibly independent people like Casey and Candice have been together for so long.
Independent? Candace is a spoiled woman who's never been independent in her life. She went from a spoiled princess from her dad to her businesses and any success due to her husband who she currently lives off of lol
that’s WHY they’re together ☺️
My sister and her husband have been married for about 55 years and they told me that the secret to a long lasting marriage is to remember that you love each other and to accept each other as unique individuals. Let your partner be who they are.
I absolutely love when Candice is in the videos, her and Casey are both amazing and funny.
Thanks for letting us into your personal world Casey. Alot of influencers paint a picture of a perfect marriage until the divorce is finalized. Marriage/relationships take alot of work from both people and that ven diagram is a perfect analogy. Cheers Casey and best of luck to you and Candice.
The way you express a thought, show us a memory and put it all together in perspective as a filmed product is never under looked Casey! The lessons you have given throughout your life experiences have educated a whole generation on how to live life, make mistakes and learn along the way.
Watching Casey videos is like you are just involved so deeply that you started feeling it. Love you man. The only creator's video I never miss. Candace is like icing on the cake. I just love your old days videos.
Thanks Casey. You always seem to be there when I need you. I just went through the hardest breakup of my life and this video really helped. Your daily vlogs helped me in my darkest days too
I really appreciate how you all fight for your marriage. In the age where divorce is far too common, it's refreshing to see a couple willing to put in the work.
I'm getting married to the love of my life this October, and this video came at the perfect time. Thank you Casey. You're right, love is work, but it's work that's worth doing
Congratulations to both of you and good luck with your future together. Time to buckle up bc it’s going to be a wild ride!!
lol what a load of crap
Eloping is seriously so underrated!! 😉😉😉
Tip number 10 is a huge reason why we started our own UA-cam Channel, to be honest. Making these videos, filming and photographing our trips now have really opened us up to a whole world of digital memories. The messy uncontrollable hair in the wind, the grumpy moments you can recognise in our videos, if you know they're there. The amount of times I (Natalie) have been editing our footage, and Umairs talking about me or about us and is being adorable, but I didn't know he'd said these things at the time - is adorable! Some things make it to UA-cam, some things stay private for u. Honestly agree with every tip you said here. It is all about Work, Respect, giving yourselves time and space, as well as GROWING together. The final montage is so cute, because you've grown together as people AND as a couple
@CalamityTravels Slick pitch for your channel. Slid it right in there. At least you chose a high ranking YTer w/ millions of subscribers + fans for years to ‘comment’
I have always loved that despite the fact that Candice does not like being on camera she does it for Casey...and the videos with Candice in them are my absolute favorite.
Haha I love Candace’s secret one.
I feel like when kids come into the picture your relationship changes drastically because your new focus is these little humans you worry about 24/7. Making time to still focus on just each other always seems like so much effort but worth it.
Never stop communicating. Communicating with each other is something I have found to be invaluable. Communicating the good things but more importantly the things that are hard to talk about. But like Candice said, this too takes work and if you're not willing to work at it then it's just going to lead to more challenges.
Can we all agree that even though Casey is not the same that are used to be his ageing like fine wine with his concert, his content is evolving and changing for the better keep up the good work man
This and the love note to Candice videos are two of my favourite ones ever. The love note one inspired me to write a similar one to my wife 5 years ago when we had already been together 12 years. She just said last week that she still reads this letter at least once a month. And I really enjoyed writing it as well. Made me really reflect and remind all the minor details that make me love my wife so much.
You are going to make it. Great note. Thanks.
I’m glad there’s someone that talks about it when divorce rates are so high. Marriage is a hard step to take in this time. Thank you for being gentle and honest.
This may be my favorite video you’ve ever made. The ending just left a smile on me, thanks for this
You two are the true definition of a real couple. Relationships take work and effort and you definitely have shown that over the years.
I’ve been in a relationship for over 10 years and you have your ups and downs but if you love each other you work through it all🙋🏻♀️
Any video about/ with Candice.. I die for. Your original my Gf Candice video makes my heart melt it’s so sweet. Love that you guys still make it work!
Brave Casey, very brave. Hats off to both of you. Many truths. I’ve been married to a man 35 years. He’s changed over time and so have I. Neither of us are perfect. Sticking together. Giving space. Respect. Giving kindness. Giving acceptance. Finding personal strength and independence. Not giving up. ❤️❤️❤️🦋
yo Candace is a Real one. "if you don't wanna put in the work, then don't be in a relationship" is literally the only tip you need.
I applaud you! It is sooo important that young kids and older kids see this in these weird times. Not even Casey Neistat's marriage is perfect. It takes work. But YOU make it work! Thank you sooo much for this video, Casey! And never stop working on the marriage! All the best!
One tip that I've learned during my relatively young relationship with my gf: Never argue while hungry. 99% of the times where we get short with each other or argue over something stupid it's because we're both hungry. Call a timeout, get some food in your belly, then come back to the argument. Most of the time you both realize you were arguing over nothing.
Pure.
You know growing up with one of the fathers of a UA-cam genre (Casey and vlogging) is really weird.
All of our favorite creators are getting old with us. And it’s kinda weird to see their problems on videos too.
We grew up with you know “stupid joy” and everything was amazing. They were happy and getting richer and richer. But getting older really hits you I guess.
So you see true creators like Casey or PewDiePie just taking a step back. Leaving this content-galore society and being realistic .
Showing a side that we all experience. Apart from living in a different part of the world . And having a different financial and social situation they do have the same problems.
Mental & physical health, relationships that need work. They are losing family members or pets.
It’s really relatable.
Well done Casey. Every time I watch one of your videos it really ends without me checking the time. You provide the same value you did back then.
Is it sad that your audience and you are older ? I don’t know. It is what it is.
Thanks again.
It's truly an honor seeing you guys grow, and growing with you
I so miss their podcast together. It was fun and gearing them, perspective, and everything gave me perspective. Keep rocking guys.
It gives me joy that Casey finally found some balance with the frequency of his videos. Quality UA-cam is here again.
A wonderful vlog! It took me back to the "Couples Therapy" podcast days. A real delight! Love to you both! 😀
Great video, its so important for people to see that they are not alone in this endeavor of love, marriage, and kids. Our generation has so much to deal with. Seeing your past montage hit home for me! im in my early 40's, my wife and I have been together for 24yrs, married 17! two kids and a small business later, its great to look back on all the exciting, scary, and romantic times we have shared. I hope you have many more blessings with your family. the "work" is so worth it. the last one is good too...
I'm in a 20 year relationship. Shit ain't easy, but nothing worth having is. Usually if you see something you don't like in someone else, it's because you're not right with yourself.
It is very important to focus on what you can control in life. If you focus on things you cannot control you will go crazy. What others think, say, do, etc. is out of your hands. How you react is very powerful and very much under your control!
Good Luck!
You two are so meant for each other! This video says it all. Don’t let the “static” of every day life tarnish it. “Life is short.” Live it!!
Happy Father's Day Casey and Candice 💕❤💯 We love you and thank you for sharing your lives with us. You both are such a great inspiration, individually and separately 🤗
This is a level of insight into relationships that we are by no means entitled to, but that I find so important for people to hear. Tip 10 resonated most with me almost as a fail-safe for relationships in a bad place. And if I had to reword it, I would say "remind yourself why you fell in love." Sometimes we can forget the core reasons why we chose to be with someone in the first place, especially as you progress in a relationship and change as individuals. Taking a moment to think back to the person that you found so amazing that you knew you wanted to be with them is one of the healthiest things I think you can do in a long term relationship
What a great video.
There is not much more annoying than pretending one’s relationship is awesome all of the time… then, the divorce comes and everyone is shocked! Longterm relationships are f’ing hard. Thank you for making the attempt to be open, private, and letting us in on the imperfection. And, all the freaking WORK it takes to stay married, even when you don’t want to be!
I can only speak about my experience. When you have kids, you become parents and can easily lose each other. After a few years, we would remind each other that the kids will eventually leave and we needed to want to be with each other. So we worked to have time to be adults that choose and enjoy being with each other. I think you and Candice have that. Cheers
That throwback montage with those transitions, paired with the final point. So sweet, man.
My number one marriage tip has always been that you need to keep your expectations low on anything that isn’t a dealbreaker. That one thing that bugs you that they always do isn’t being done to spite you, it’s being done because they are a flawed human just like you. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t address it, but if you do it should be done in a safe and judgement free way because again they most likely aren’t doing it to spite you.
As someone who’s been in a long term relationship, I really appreciate the honesty; vs pretending like everything’s shiny happy and perfect all the time. It isn’t. But as long as you’re both willing to choose each other every day, with patience and empathy, you’ll be just fine. 😊❤
I bet Candice is hilarious when you meet her…. We have been married 16 years & patience is great 😂 We always try to not go to be angry with one another. Life is short 💯 beautiful vlog Casey & Candice!
I remember when Casey and Candace made about 10 podcast episodes called "Couples Therapy" (and I still know the jingle). I listened to all of them. My conclusion was that both of these people are incredibly disagreeable, and this put strain on the relationship. My advice: please give your spouse the benefit of the doubt. The number-one mistake I see so many men and women make is to think "I'm upset at you, so you wanted me to be upset" which is really only true in a small fraction of relationships. The fact that entire sitcoms have been built around simple misconceptions means that you can resolve most conflict in a relationship by just asking for clarification about the content and the intent of what makes you upset.
So true. Effective communication and not trying to guess or think what their partner is feeling or "hinting" towards or what they meant. I had a bad habit of filling in the blanks. Can't think of the word right now but it has helped tremendously to give benefit of doubt and ask for clarification if needed and not to fill in the blanks yourself
@@HK45C Fantastic to read that you recognised this bad habit and worked on it. People who jump to conclusions are very tiresome to live with because you're always having to simultaneously debunk their assertions, re-explain your intents, and defuse emotions. It takes maturity to hold off judgement until it is warranted.
I wish best of luck, I can tell and sens your marriage is in trouble just try to reconnect for the reason why you get together .
This is gold. I am guilty of this.
Tip no. 1: never go too many hours without eating
omg YES
So awesome guys. It really gives the perspective of a busy marriage. Facts facts facts. Thank you Casey for this video. Just sent my wife some older pics of us and just brings back the reason why we got together in the first place so thank you again.
Candice is the definition of Authenticity 💯 Your a lucky man Casey 🎉 Congratulations to you guys 🍾
I cried at 10:37. Thanks for sharing your life and being vulnerable
This was fucking adorable and heartwarming. Long term relationships as a family do take work so I love the message. It’s either worth it to put in that work in or it’s not. So find someone that you are willing to put that work in with. I most definitely agree and I’m so happy you guys are finding your way through marriage 🖤 it’s inspiring.
We miss the podcast from you guys!!.....Love that you guys always keep it 100%, no relationship is perfect and there will be fights. In a world of social media, the picture you guys are painting is long gone, now its all about the rainbows and unicorns.
Love this Casey! I still remember your first video I ever stumbled on was you convincing Candace to get back together with you by planning the road trip to Canaveral to see the space shuttle launch.
I've been with my wife for 12 years now. And I still don't get why it's so easy and amazing for me to be with her. We're planning to have our first child next year. It will definitely change something. I'm excited to learn what it is.
As someone who just celebrated a year of marriage. This video is what I needed to remind myself to hold her close and love her everyday no matter what is going on or what we are fighting about. And to just enjoy every second I have with her
My grandparents just celebrated their 50th anniversary last week and this video brought up a lot of wisdom I have gained from them as well as thoughts I have had about marriage in my short three years of being married so far. Casey’s Venn diagram made me think a lot about marriage and what I consider important in my own relationship with my wife. I think, if I were to draw the diagram, I would draw two separate circles directly on top of one another. Yes, marriage is two people living together that need space from time to time to express themselves or have their own experiences, but an essential part of marriage is that it takes a tremendous amount of sacrifice from both people to make a long lasting, loving and joyous relationship. Sometimes marriage requires sacrificing the porsches and sail boats and beach vacations in order to become one, whole and happy circle that is two stacked into one. If you are about to be married, in the middle of marriage, or close to being divorced with your significant other, I highly recommend reading “The Meaning of Marriage” by Tim Keller. Tim goes much further into detail about what I am talking about above but in a much more eloquent way, and the book has helped the first three years of my marriage (and all 50 of my grandparents marriage!!) be some of the best years of my life.
I think the Venn diagram should be two *almost* completely overlapping circles with a tiny spot open on both ends for each partner. If you're with the right person you want to spend most of your time together but it's important to have your own space once in a while.
12 minutes gone in a flash with a beautiful message. As I am about to get married and having watched so many of your videos throughout the years I know it is a lot of work and have already experienced that. Thank you for your perspective I think everyone can benefit from it
You guys are amazing and 100% correct. Marriage takes work and commitment. The photo tip #10 was spot on. I really miss your weekly marriage counseling podcast.
I am feeling, that I have seen a whole romantic comedy. In only 12 minutes:
You have told the essence of the happy moments and daily challenges in a relationship and how to overcome them.
Nice Job Casey!
I’ve been with the same man for 29 years, married for 23 years. In fact I don’t really know my life without him in it. I would say “work” is the most important factor, everything else falls under this. Both sides have to put in that work or else it all falls apart eventually.
Keep working at it Casey and Candace! Love never dies but it does need to be tended to and nurtured ❤