THE SOCIAL DILEMMA ... WHY YOU *HAVE* TO WATCH IT, NOW.

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  • I watched the documentary "The Social Dilemma" on Netflix over the weekend and now we need to talk about why EVERYONE should make time to see it. Keep reading for references and additional suggested reading/watch material.
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  • @ConnConnRay
    @ConnConnRay 3 роки тому +43

    People should really take the time out to limit themselves on social media. I’ve had a year and a half with no social media other than UA-cam and it’s helped tremendously with my anxiety. We were not meant to be consumed with every little intimate detail of others lives or constantly displaying our own for that matter. What I think really made me stop and think is the fact that we aren’t even getting factual information about anything anymore but info that’s tailored to what they think we want to know (based on previous searches or AI)😳.

    • @FinallyAmber
      @FinallyAmber  3 роки тому +5

      THAT PART! Honestly the AI does nothing but cater to people's deep down need for "Yes Men". The AI is like "Oh! You watched one pimple popper video? LET ME SHOW YOU 500 HUNDRED MORE!" & and you're almost PUSHED down a rabbit hole of a "new interest group" that you never would have otherwise fell down. It's sad to say but the same goes for the Natural Hair Community. I had to seriously STOP clicking on so many videos because it was the ONLY thing UA-cam would recommend me and for me its like... I want to support others... but I don't want to talk about Natural hair all day AND watch nothing but natural hair videos all day either. And it's NOT healthy to know that much about people. I touched on that in my Book video and The Dunbar study! We wonder why depression and comparison is at an all time high... because the NUMBER OF PEOPLE WE'RE WATCHING IS AT AN ALL TIME HIGH! I knew this content would be somewhat 'different' from what my viewers *and* the algorithm is used to getting from me... but I felt like this was a conversation that we so need to have! We can participate in the social media age, without letting it take us over! Thanks for watching and weighing in cousin!

  • @Kazz_03
    @Kazz_03 3 роки тому +16

    Sad part is even if you choose not to use these platforms, many of them are still tracking anybody and everybody.

  • @ButterCremeKisses
    @ButterCremeKisses 3 роки тому +4

    The past two weeks I've made the choice not to engage nearly as much in social media as I had been. I mainly stick to UA-cam now because it isn't as mentally draining as other apps. My life was centered around what people were doing or worse what people I don't even know (celebrities) were doing. Social media has perfected the craft of making you feel inadequate for not having what others have. I even stopped watching certain videos on here because I'm currently on a fitness journey and I was spending so much money trying to eat like health influencers who have the time and extra income to eat these expensive, healthy, and time-consuming meals. These almost past two weeks have shown me how much time I've been neglecting and feeling as if I didn't have because I'm not addicted to a life that is not my own.

  • @ChristianMychal
    @ChristianMychal 3 роки тому +14

    Hey Cousin and fellow Taurus and Tupac lover! I took a two-year break from Instagram and it was the best thing I could ever do for my mental health. It was very refreshing and free of drama and I had so much more free time. Looking at other people's lives every day was very draining for me and as an empath, I would recommend that everyone take a break to ask themselves what value it is adding to your life.

    • @FinallyAmber
      @FinallyAmber  3 роки тому

      Yessss! I deleted Twitter for like 7 years and I swear I NEVER missed it! I got back when I was told I need to be “doing everything for my brand” but now I still don’t even check it daily sometimes

  • @vsmith113
    @vsmith113 3 роки тому +5

    I deleted Instagram, Twitter, and deactivated Facebook over four years ago. I’m definitely happier.

  • @onelove1116
    @onelove1116 3 роки тому +6

    Thank you for this conversation Amber. It’s extremely important for people to know how addictive these platforms are. I was on IG growing my page and I realized I was becoming not only addicted but I was working for IG for pennies... I was exhausted, stressed and not spending enough time w family...needless to say I shut down my page and got my life back.

  • @numberonefan313
    @numberonefan313 3 роки тому +8

    I recently deleted my Facebook and Instagram because it was really unhealthy for me. This break has been really good for me and helping me get back to “real life” and to not be so swayed by social media opinions.

    • @FinallyAmber
      @FinallyAmber  3 роки тому +2

      I totally understand. Especially during all we have going on. I left Facebook for the same reason. It's just not necessary and way more harmful than helpful.

  • @moniquep2760
    @moniquep2760 3 роки тому +6

    I haven’t watched the documentary but I went cold turkey off Facebook, Instagram, And Twitter about 4 years ago (never had Snapchat or tiktok) and it was one of the best decisions I could have made for my emotional health and well-being. A lot of people thought I was weird for doing it then but I’m glad it’s becoming more common now

  • @aprilray8111
    @aprilray8111 3 роки тому +17

    That’s true what u do is monitored cuz anytime I order something online, I see the ad for that same thing on social media. Scary. I even saw an ad for my husband’s job. I’m like how they know where folks work 🧐

    • @FinallyAmber
      @FinallyAmber  3 роки тому +2

      Yes! I think the craziest experience I’ve ever had with ads and being monitored is the time I realized the microphones even listen to your convos! There is the specific brand queso that we ONLY purchase from a particular store. We’ve never googled it. Never searched, but we would recommend it to people all the time when they visited or in casual conversation. All of sudden OUT OF NOWHERE those ads started popping up on my Instagram. And it is NOT a household name or ads we’d ever seen it before. It blew my mind and was scary at the same time! 😩

    • @aprilray8111
      @aprilray8111 3 роки тому +1

      Finally Amber 🤯🤯🙀thats crazyyyyyyy! That’s why i start taking my air pods off when I’m not on the phone

    • @ladonna1902
      @ladonna1902 3 роки тому +3

      Yes, it's insane. When I had new tires put on my car several years ago. I started seeing ads for tires every time I got on the internet. Then I recently brought some items from Bath and Body Works. Now I'm getting Bath and Body Works ads.

    • @rahbeeuh
      @rahbeeuh 2 роки тому

      Cookies. Whenever y'all go onto a website a lot of them collect cookies. As for microphones cover it when you're not using if you can. I use electrical tape for mine. If it is picking anything up it's muffled at best

  • @bored4506
    @bored4506 3 роки тому +2

    i got rid of all of my socials except for youtube a few months ago. i’m only 15 so people think it’s weird that i’m not addicted to social media, but i can definitely say getting rid of them was a weight off of my shoulders.

  • @isthatachicken
    @isthatachicken 3 роки тому +1

    "Just caaaaall your friends"😂😂😂
    I had to like JUST for the intro song

  • @DesCoop
    @DesCoop 3 роки тому +15

    Literally just watched it last night I’m only on social media on the weekends now

    • @FinallyAmber
      @FinallyAmber  3 роки тому +5

      It's soooo good, right?! I did a 30 day fast completely off Facebook and when I came back I started by "only checking on Saturdays" ... by after my 30 days, I found I was forgetting to check on Saturdays so now basically I don't even use my facebook at all! With my Instgram... I try not to do more than 2 total hours per day and that's only because I like to check in and make sure I'm responding to comments and catching my fav's posts to support! It's a slippery slope but I believe we really need to be intentional with it! Thanks for watching!

    • @DesCoop
      @DesCoop 3 роки тому +1

      Finally Amber do you feel it will effect you as an influencer?

    • @FinallyAmber
      @FinallyAmber  3 роки тому +4

      other than how fast I respond to comments... no, I really don't! I used to feel differently but that's honestly just the addiction and way we've been increasingly taught the formula for "success" is. Sure, it may take me 2 or 3 hours to get to some comments and posts now, but I'm waaaay more productive overall in my life now so I think it's actually working in my benefit and eventually it all will fit together perfectly!

  • @selenat.4982
    @selenat.4982 3 роки тому +11

    Hey cuzzin...I watched this. And it is very in formative. A lot of this I already knew. But foe many they don't get it. This is a plan by the higher ups. It's deep, very deep. It's sad cause they though it was just for fun and not foe the sinister corrupted men in power. This is why I don't use all social media outlets. I only use YT and there are only specific subjects on that. I have not added a new person to any social media account at all in a while. Everything have been very limited.

    • @FinallyAmber
      @FinallyAmber  3 роки тому +7

      Same. I had been reading a lot of material of the last few months about what social media is really doing to our brains and our lifestyles and I've been slowing making my interactions healthier... which is odd at the same time because people on social media will be like "Where you been girl?!" and it's only been like 7 days since I posted something 🥴 Even with UA-cam, it's crazy we've gotten to a space where when people aren't on it every second of the day they're perceived as "ducked off" or "not dedicated" when it's like... NO! I need to get out LIVE MY LIFE! That's honestly what makes the best content anyway! LIFE EXPERIENCES WITHOUT YOUR PHONE! 😩 Thanks for weighing in!

  • @sparklesinblue5120
    @sparklesinblue5120 3 роки тому +4

    Girl we really in the matrix

  • @childofyah1890
    @childofyah1890 3 роки тому +1

    Good stuff.... Listen👂🏾👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
    Keep up the good work of using your platform for good and not evil. Thank you.
    Love the comment "You are not using social media, social media IS using you!" Too true.

  • @mznekam5612
    @mznekam5612 3 роки тому +2

    Thanks for sharing 😊 I will definitely check it out. I'm not a big social media person as well but I know it will help me tweak how much time I spend on it when I could be doing more productive things.

  • @kamikoils9336
    @kamikoils9336 3 роки тому +4

    THIS is why I love you AND why I’m a cousin!!!! I so appreciate when you post content like this, sharing with your cousins things that are helpful to all of our lives! Keep it up cousin! We appreciate you!

    • @kamikoils9336
      @kamikoils9336 3 роки тому

      Btw, I will be watching that TUHNIGHT!!!

    • @FinallyAmber
      @FinallyAmber  3 роки тому +1

      Thank you, Kam! I love you too! And yes! I love sharing stuff with y’all that is helpful to me in real life! Even as influencers are have a responsibility to be ethical with our viewers and that includes letting people know what they’re really signing up for being on ANY of these platforms!

    • @kamikoils9336
      @kamikoils9336 3 роки тому

      Finally Amber 💯

  • @iimfavoredkid88
    @iimfavoredkid88 3 роки тому +1

    I love you for this!!! As an influencer going against the grain to use your platform to help people!! You’re so dope 😍! I wasn’t even looking for this shout out. I appreciate you 😚!

  • @Tra_C
    @Tra_C 3 роки тому

    Cuz that 'granny' voice took me out!😂😂 This video speaks straight facts🙌🏽

  • @cmccarter8
    @cmccarter8 3 роки тому +1

    Gonna watch tonight. Thanks for the recommendation, cuz ☺

  • @myrnaj4502
    @myrnaj4502 3 роки тому +1

    Heyyy Cuzzin!🙋🏾‍♀️🌻 Definitely will be watching this Weekend with Bae. Thank you.

    • @FinallyAmber
      @FinallyAmber  3 роки тому +1

      Hope you like it! I really think everyone will watch that documentary and come away with something! Remember when everyone was going vegan after watching that other documentary? lol if this has even half of the same effect I think we'll get somewhere! lol

  • @TBrown1103
    @TBrown1103 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you for this video, I hadn’t heard of this documentary but I was aware that what we do on line was being tracked. You tube is the only Social Media Im on, but then to think about it I do have a Firestick🤔🤔

  • @EmprezzzTa3518
    @EmprezzzTa3518 3 роки тому +1

    I took about a month break from social media
    And I realized I really wasn’t missing anything
    During the break I watched the documentary and everything just made more sense

  • @vTori316
    @vTori316 3 роки тому

    Thank you for this video cousin!

  • @breanahanna
    @breanahanna 3 роки тому +1

    I watched this on Saturday 😬 Definitely eye opening

  • @mightystrong5484
    @mightystrong5484 3 роки тому +1

    🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 your editing skills got me cracking up ...social media is the 😈 that's slowly creeping in to take over & possiblity run it🤔 YT is my only social media and even that's overwhelming at times ,it's literally a succubus!! Thank you cousins 4 this tight info. Be well and safe 🙏🏼 GOD ISSS ENOUGH!!

    • @FinallyAmber
      @FinallyAmber  3 роки тому

      UA-cam IS DEFINITELY A SUCCUBUS! Lol Their literal whole goal is to keep you GLUED here 😩 It’s like... something that is so beautiful can also have a dark side.

  • @shinew8974
    @shinew8974 3 роки тому

    Good morning cousin.. Happy Monday. Thanks for the vlogggggggggg.

    • @FinallyAmber
      @FinallyAmber  3 роки тому +1

      Hey cuzzo! Thanks for checking in!

    • @shinew8974
      @shinew8974 3 роки тому

      @@FinallyAmber always

  • @belindamobley3806
    @belindamobley3806 3 роки тому +1

    This is exactly why I limit my social media. People read a damn book

  • @naturallylisag
    @naturallylisag 3 роки тому +1

    Thanks for sharing this. I've had to stop opening Instagram so much. I rarely watch IG stories anymore. It just became too much a few months ago.

    • @FinallyAmber
      @FinallyAmber  3 роки тому +2

      Yes! I stopped watching Daily Stories for 30 days and tried to go back and immediately got overwhelmed and started feeling what I can best describe as "icky" all over again... that's when I knew I would never go back. It's too much.

    • @naturallylisag
      @naturallylisag 3 роки тому

      @@FinallyAmber It really is too much. Thanks for replying.

  • @janishatravels
    @janishatravels 3 роки тому +3

    My auntie told me to watch this and I forgot. 😩 I’m def gonna check it out tonight.

  • @rhondaferguson697
    @rhondaferguson697 3 роки тому

    Got to see this one cousin!

    • @FinallyAmber
      @FinallyAmber  3 роки тому

      Definitely! Put it in your "My List" so you don't forget! It's so good!

  • @Felicia_Plans
    @Felicia_Plans 3 роки тому

    😳 that was deep. Whoa!!!

  • @olga1525
    @olga1525 3 роки тому +7

    I deleted my Facebook, don't do Twitter, and mostly follow dog accounts on Instagram ( cause I love dogs). And I can at least control what I choose to view on UA-cam.

    • @FinallyAmber
      @FinallyAmber  3 роки тому +1

      Lol Did you see the cute little puppies clip I added in just for people like you? 👀😂❤️

    • @olga1525
      @olga1525 3 роки тому

      @@FinallyAmber Lol, they were so cute 😀🥰!

  • @bonitah4482
    @bonitah4482 3 роки тому +1

    Hey cousin! I will be watching it and having my kids watch it. I have been so conscious of even what I save to my phone, cause I know just how others can steal that information. Everything we do is tracked and can be accessed.

    • @FinallyAmber
      @FinallyAmber  3 роки тому

      Yep! And honestly it’s not even all the time about hacking you or using your information for anything other than influence your thoughts and actions... and that’s the part that’s scary!

    • @bonitah4482
      @bonitah4482 3 роки тому

      @@FinallyAmber very true!

  • @CarasPlace
    @CarasPlace 3 роки тому

    I love your chit chat videos ♥️💬

  • @NeshaJay
    @NeshaJay 3 роки тому

    I literally watched this video Friday night after the other video you recently posted 🥴

    • @FinallyAmber
      @FinallyAmber  3 роки тому +1

      It's a good watch! I hope it makes it to the top 10 again and more people watch it!

  • @Elled.lifestyle
    @Elled.lifestyle 3 роки тому +2

    I loved when she pulled out the hammer 🤣🤣🤣

  • @taneshacderico
    @taneshacderico 3 роки тому +1

    All of THIS!!!

  • @nelsonerika
    @nelsonerika 3 роки тому +1

    You tube gets most of my time. I never stay long on fb or ig because I felt like it was addicting. Idk if I feel that You Tube has the same effect over me because I choose what I want to see. I don’t just click on “what’s recommended” I just search whatever is on my mind. 🤷🏽‍♀️

  • @moniquew3603
    @moniquew3603 3 роки тому

    I've been thinking about watching it, but now I definitely will. I quit social media 7 years ago. I only had IG and Facebook, and both were created by close friends that THOUGHT I should have it. UA-cam is the only form of it that I have now, but I come on here to learn things.

    • @FinallyAmber
      @FinallyAmber  3 роки тому +2

      It’s definitely strange how we’re now in an age where people look at you crazier for choosing NOT to engage on certain platforms than the other way around... and this is coming from a “UA-camr” lol But honestly even UA-cam is a part of that game! So we just always have to be aware of how much time we’re giving things!

    • @moniquew3603
      @moniquew3603 3 роки тому

      @@FinallyAmber You are absolutely right sometimes I delete the app when I'm ready. I definitely get sucked into UA-cam, and having access to so much information is a great thing, but it's also very scary. Even this whole algorithm thingy it's so easy to click, click, click your way around UA-cam and waste so much time on here. Awareness is definitely key.

  • @barbie1877
    @barbie1877 3 роки тому

    🌻

  • @tiffanyrauls2910
    @tiffanyrauls2910 3 роки тому

    ❤️❤️❤️

  • @beaubeauknows3620
    @beaubeauknows3620 3 роки тому +2

    You are the first influencer to say turn your notifications off!

    • @FinallyAmber
      @FinallyAmber  3 роки тому

      Yes. *I live by this!* I only have my notifications on for veerrry few things/people these days and I trust that everything else will be there waiting for me when I get to at my designated time. It's weird as a UA-camr to say "turn your notifications OFF" because it's obviously drilled in our heads to get people to turn them ON. But it's time to get real with how detrimental our time on these apps is becoming and I never want to knowing contribute to the break down of anyone's mental health at my personal gain. If anything it just motivates me to seek out more ways to make my content for meaningful/thoughtful so that the VALUE is there vs. just wanting you click on any old thing... feeding more into the problem 😩 It's definitely a constant checks and balance I have to do with myself.

    • @beaubeauknows3620
      @beaubeauknows3620 3 роки тому

      Finally Amber its definitely stressful! With youtube i dont have any notifications on... i go through my subscriptions and put videos in my save for later to watch them later if i cant watch them at that moment which i know doesnt help youtubers’ algorithm but thats the only way i can watch videos and not be stressed... i do know that if i comment days later i may not get a response and thats fine...

  • @goofynigga8456
    @goofynigga8456 3 роки тому +2

    George orwell call this out long ago big brother y you think Edwards Snowden have to fly out the countries for exposing big brother. Read the book - amusing ourselves to death /

  • @CarasPlace
    @CarasPlace 3 роки тому

    12:14 🤣🔨

    • @FinallyAmber
      @FinallyAmber  3 роки тому +1

      😂 I was waiting on someone to appreciate that little snippet! 🙌🏾

  • @HomieDaClown.
    @HomieDaClown. 3 роки тому

    Gut always told me to delete Facebook and Twitter a few years ago now this documentary dropped one the good decision I've made

  • @bloomingnatural1291
    @bloomingnatural1291 3 роки тому +2

    Cousin do you get to pick what ads pop up in your video? Soon as you said political affiliation an ad popped up for Joe Biden

    • @FinallyAmber
      @FinallyAmber  3 роки тому +9

      Nope! But I put an adbreak in that exact location just to show an example on how the algorithm literally listens to what we say and then CHOOSES an ad they think will go well with my viewers. The AI literally hears me say "politics" and goes to work! It's smart... and SUPER scary because again... WE DONT CHOOSE IT... which is why we always have to super aware. Through careful study of my content and also my subscribers, they assume that most of my followers are democrats, so they push that "agenda". There is never a time the algorithm is not listening and using us. 🥴

    • @bloomingnatural1291
      @bloomingnatural1291 3 роки тому +1

      @@FinallyAmber woooow cousin creeeeepyyyy😳😳 yeah I'm going to watch that movie

  • @crystal.diorrr
    @crystal.diorrr 3 роки тому

    I use it but havnt used it much latelt because i really dont care for social media i only use it to stay updated on my favorite group they have the time barely be on it so i really dont use it at all if i go n there to a quick second. Most accounts i follow IG are youtubers, who talk about conspiracy theories and whats going on in the world and music since i love music. Plus i follow artist IG since i draw. Barely anything in interested in i follow i dont follow foolishness

    • @FinallyAmber
      @FinallyAmber  3 роки тому

      I highly recommend checking out the documentary because it touches on this exactly!

  • @sarak4418
    @sarak4418 3 роки тому

    I to a point I I only watch hair and makeup video.

    • @FinallyAmber
      @FinallyAmber  3 роки тому

      I don’t understand your comment 😶

  • @terrianwilliams2624
    @terrianwilliams2624 3 роки тому

    are you from GA?

    • @FinallyAmber
      @FinallyAmber  3 роки тому

      Nope. Birmingham, Alabama and super proud ☺️

    • @terrianwilliams2624
      @terrianwilliams2624 3 роки тому

      Finally Amber I'm from SC. I wasn't trying to insult you I can just tell you are southern too

    • @FinallyAmber
      @FinallyAmber  3 роки тому

      Oh no I didn’t take it as an insult! I always get either GA or TN lol 💯