When I was a kid, mabye 9, I got a book about how to clean your room. The method was such a releif to me! It told me to put everything that wasn't laundry, trash, or dishes on my bed. Then throw away trash, collect laundry and dishes, vacuum.Then, pick up one thing at a time off of the bed and put it where it belongs. This made a huge difference for me and reduced overwhelm dramatically. No one knew back then that i had adhd (and am likely somewhere on the autism spectrum, too.) This was the only thing that got me unfrozen. My mom thought it was kind of a ridiculous approach, but since it worked, she was happy! To this day, if i am overwhelmed by a space (usually because of all the decisions involved) i just move the stuff to a totally different area, clean the space, then sort the stuff and find places for the items. It is the only thing that unfreezes me.
I used to clean houses and the first thing I did was make the beds then I would pick everything off the floor and put it on the bed and then sort through it. This kept me from spinning around in circles. I taught my kids to do this and it seem to work for them.
On UA-cam - A Hoarders Heart she is a hoarder with ADHD.. she is decluttering and explaining her thought process. She was going to do the dishes and got distracted by putting things away that were on her counter. At one point she even ran down to the basement to put something away and filmed it! By the time she was done running around.. it was time for her to pick her kids up from school and the dishes didn’t get done. She ran out of time. I think this is a perfect example of what you’ve been trying to convey.
I’ve seen some comedic Facebook posts like that and, of course, they’re really funny…mainly because so many of us can relate, and, at least there’s a bit of comfort knowing we’re not alone. I don’t think it’s just people with ADHD though. A lot of us have soooo much to accomplish, that any direction we turn (in our house, yard, garage, etc.), there is a distraction that screams to be addressed, so, we start doing THAT….and THEN…a hundred times a day.🤬❤
A hoarders heart is great. She has made a ton of progress and is working on healing as she does things. But definitely has the ADHD traits I also have like clutter blindness and things sneak back up on you.
So what if you are moving it twice, if it gets the job done that's all that matters. My assistant at work has mild autism. It takes longer to learn something new but once she learns it, she stays on task and never forgets. She is the best assistant I've ever had. Her attention to detail is perfection.
I have ADD and everything you said about how our brains work is spot on. As far as ‘touching things twice’ comments….my daughter is a licensed clinical mental health counselor and she says any method or system that you actually use, is actually effective, that’s the right and best method.
And you may need to switch your methods if, like me, a method is less shiny & attractive after a little while. So I have 3 different methods & cycle thru them. Whatever works!
I’ve been in education for over thirty years and the cleaning method you’ve created is actually a type of accommodation we give kids with focus issues. The method is called chunking and it means to break tasks into do-able chunks and get the rest of the job visibly out of the way to lower the anxiety. Some kids freak out if you give them (for example) an assignment that has a lot of words on the page. It might even be something they can read easily and can complete without difficulty, but the pure volume of what they perceive to be an enormous task makes them shut down. The teacher manages the chunks. When I was in the classroom I might fold the paper where only part of the task was showing and then say, ok…just do this part and let me know when you’re done. That was a two part strategy…one…it wasn’t much work…and two…it gave the student a small break and some minor socialization when the teacher came back around and cheered them on and then isolated another chunk for them to do. ADHD also interferes with something in the thought processes called executive functioning. The prefrontal cortex does jobs like organize, initiate and transition between tasks. People with ADHD get bogged down in processing how these tasks get broken into parts, managed in an order that makes sense, and then…what appears to be the hardest thing of all for them.,,figuring out a way to get started. The frustration Emily experienced when her schedule got thrown off is because it’s really hard work to come up with a plan to start with and the reliance on systems of how things are done becomes a seriously important management device in their lives. Not throwing stones here…I found out as an adult that I have ADHD too so I have a lot of empathy. I’ve finally figured out a way in my older years to harness my undiagnosed but pretty obvious to me tendency towards OCD. You the way I manage my ADHD is to stick to some pretty structured protocols and procedures for how I get things done. So…in essence…I manage my environment to create structures that help me manage my difficulties with the organizational challenges of ADHD. It works! Until it doesn’t and then I get frustrated just like Emily. But…I’ve finally learned to pivot and retrench and then get back in the saddle. People get so embarrassed and stigmatized about any neurodivergent issue…but I believe that knowledge is power and that stigma will tear you apart. Mack and Emily…you two are providing a very important service for so many who have shrouded themselves in shame over being neurodivergent. Your candor, kind explanations, and openness about your own issues are likely helping many come out of a dark place and into the light of acceptance and knowledge.
I know this comment is a couple of months old. As an educator, you have my ❤. My gorgeous, brilliant 13 year old “has” autism, adhd and global dyspraxia/apraxia of speech. He’s homeschooled now by his own choice, but while attending grades k-6 in a boces program we showed this method to his teachers as kind of a “it works super well at home just thought it might be helpful” without being imposing. That self contained classroom has been utilizing “Chunkin it!” ever since, for all students! It requires pure & unrelenting soul to educate & care for both children & adults who are neurodiverse. A kind of dedicated Love that is irrevocable even on the hardest, most exhausting days. I hope you’ve been told often, and continue to be- that you are a force for light and growth in this world. You are needed; quietly and ardently valued within the prayers of parents like me.
@@jessebluehouse You have no idea how much your response means to me. It’s easy for educators to get burned out and discouraged. My prayers are for your precious son and you. All children should have such understanding and supportive parents. Children with this kind of backing will succeed in the long run. ❤️
I wish I'd have had these accommodations in school in the 80's. I would have had a totally different life. I'm thankful kids today have this. Thank you. ❤️
I've learned so much from these videos. I have Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and my husband has ADHD - he's clutter blind. It's a combination of conditions that could easily lead to us living in a big mess but I've managed to keep it under control by pacing my cleaning - 15 minute chunks of time can make a difference. I'm much more patient with my husband now I know what's going on in his head and have set up systems he can cope with. I have nice gift boxes (the size of shoe boxes) with labels on (big type) for his stuff and he copes with that well and doesn't feel like I've hidden his stuff. I've told him about what Mack says about ADHD and he really relates to it and is working on meeting me in the middle - it's all about talking and finding something that suits us both. We get on better because of this. Thank you.
Perimenopause & menopausal changes, get ready for ADHD to get stranger. Everything was jumbled up for me. I’m 58 & finally getting back on track. Meditation really helps to quiet the mind to focus.
Yep, I can totally relate. I can't handle any kind of overwhelm whatsoever anymore. I have ADHD and autism and I'm 49. Interesting maze to navigate, lol
My 13 year old grandson has adhd. He spins in his chair, reads and listens to music at the same time. Complete opposite of what most people would do. He has trouble being still and movement helps him concentrate. He has figured out how to get straight A’s in school all by himself. Also he sometimes sings the words in a book out loud.
My youngest, who is now 15 and in her first year of high school, does the exact same thing. She can't concentrate unless she is listening to music. She has managed to continually get straight A's and now is in all honors classes. When she was younger, I noticed her behavior and let her do whatever it took to help her concentrate. Way to go, for letting him do what he needs to, to get through school. 😁
I'm the same (adult) ADD. Others don't "get" how I achieve goals, etc. in a busy coffee shop, even taking my laptop on occasion to have supper out so I could concentrate in a different ambiance. As for the chair (or outdoor swing), I totally get it!!! Swivel, rock, recline-yah!! I'm a swinger 😉
I have ADHD and am 58. My son and granddaughter do as well. Movement does help with concentration for sure, but music helps a lot too. Really any low level background noise does. I can't even remember 1/2 the time what songs played, but helps with concentration. Books on tape, I go Lala land and can't focus on what's happening, but works for background blocker. I'm a retired high school teacher and found that when students were allowed to stand up when working, they did great. Some even walked around desk while writing or reading lol. Proven by brain based research, you get about 20 minutes in of good instruction with most kids/people. Attention spans can do that. After 20 minutes, everybody needs to move around for 10 minutes or more. So as teachers, you get better results doing it this way. You can try to spend 40 minutes on instruction, but researchers found that after 20, the rest of the time is spent dealing with behaviors. Blows my mind that schools are still sitting in desks all day, when research has shown for years that's not best.
Wow!! my grand daughter (9) also has ADHD, and is being harassed by her teacher constantly for her need to doodle. Oddly enough, her teacher claims to also have ADHD, but she keeps taking her doodle paper, tells her she's going to MAKE her pay attention and throws her paper away. Then my Gd has no way to vent the anxiety she feels while not being able to doodle. This, along with some other things, keep happening in front of the class which completely humiliates by Gd! Now she doesn't want to go to school and I have a terrible time getting her to go and I COMPLETELY understand!!! I'm about to have a meeting with her teacher and let her know that she needs to leave her alone with her doodling. PERIOD! We (her family) know very well that she can sit with 4 or 6 of us, playing a game or just talking, and cover a whole page of beautiful drawings (doodling) and stay on top of the game or the conversation! There is no reason her teacher needs to take the doodle paper away from her. You would think this teacher having ADHD would have a little compassion! Your grandson must have great teachers, if he is doing so well. They must be letting him do the things he needs to do, so that he can be successful. That's wonderful!
@coupyk.2810 see if you can get an IEP for her. Individual education program (not sure about that last word), but this way, if she truly has Adhd and anxiety, there will be a plan in place on how to help her in school going forward. I'm not sure where u live, but ask her school, if there is something you can do for her like that. 2 of my daughters have Adhd and having the IEP has helped them in school immensely.
I started watching this replay at 4:30. I came in the kitchen at 3pm to start dinner. As of right this minute (4:35)I have not done so. However, I have cleaned the guinea pig's cage, vacuumed around his cage and the dining room and living room, scraped the ice out of my freezer, got everything ready to batch make cornbread mix and emptied the dishwasher. Thank you for this video. I have always wondered why I get so distracted and why my house is always a mess despite how much I clean and try to straighten up. Now at 54 yrs old, I know why and will speak to my doctor next visit! Love you guys! Don't listen to those a holes who are jealous of your helpful nature. Thank you for addressing these topics. It really has helped me.
I love watching your videos. I cannot tell you how much I can relate to this video today. I worked in healthcare for 38 years. It was literally killing me. I walked away in April 2022. I started a little cleaning business in the Fall of 2022. I love it. I control my life. My income. I’m sole proprietor and I’m ok with that right now. It has lead to being a property manager for an Airbnb that I clean for. Thanks for being so real. ❤
I thank THE LORD for you! I came across your channel by chance, it's been a blessing what you've explained. My brain is so weirdly wired that even the psychologists that evaluated me have al misdiagnosed me for over 30 years! From depression, chronic depression, Bipolar Disorder 2, anxiety,panic attacks bla.bla bla. Bottom line I suffer from ADDH. Unable to declutter and organize my apartment. Just holding on to " things".MY APT. IS SQUEAKY CLEAN which is weird to everyone....but disorganized! Now I know how to go about decluttering and eliminating items I really don't need or use. FOCUS! FOCUS! FOCUS!
The bag of 100 marbles comparison is what ADHD is like for me. Everyone has a bag with 100 marbles they have to carry around all day. But I don't have a bag, just 100 marbles. And no one notices or seems to care that it's AMAZING when I can carry 50 marbles without a bag. Then I get treatment and I have a bag now, but it's a bag with a million holes. So it helps, but it's not a fix.
It's always great to hear from folks with similar life experiences and hearing what works for them. The constant Brain-Ping-Pong (BPP) can be truly debilitating. Thanks to the both of you for sharing: You are appreciated. 🥔❤👊
I think its great how you both deal with each others adhd/autism and communicate so well. Couples not dealing with adhd/autism have more trouble communicating than you two. You both take the time to understand each others way of communicating. Kudos to you both.❣️
I've been watching your videos for about 6 mo. I'm 54 and never realized my "cleaning method" was attached to my ADHD. I would always take everything off the top of my dresser, as a kid, and shove it into the top dawers. Cleaned but always unorganized. I started watching you tube cleaning shows to make the cleaning urges go away. I'm lucky enough to have a 2 person team come and clean my home every 3 mo. If I do it myself nothing ever gets done. I struggle with making decisions, and agree with Emily if something interrupts my thought process then I'm at a loss for the rest of the day. I, also, am a list person (post it notes are awesome) but never get to complete a project. I was pretty happy the other day when I washed all the dishes in 1 hour, not all put away, but they were all clean. This video really struck a cord with me. It was my "Ah Ha" moment, that's why putting everything in a plastic see through tub with a lid doesn't work for me. I never go back and make the decisions to get rid of things. I have a basement full of tubs, out of sight out of mind. Btw, From the start of watching your videos I've thought of you as Midwest Magic Mike.....not too far off. Thanks M and E!!! Q-bert in Southern WI.
I have both ASD and ADD so I have to spin kick myself into gear unless it's a hyperfocus. And then, I obsess about having it "right" once I get it started. Living the dream!
I've had a Parkinson's disease for over 30 years, and identify with autistic traits. I get overwhelmed with sounds, seeing a whole project, instead of small projects to complete tasks. I had a stroke in 2016, so I had to learn a different way of cleaning due to my short attention span. I have learned many tips and techniques to help me stay on track. I also have ocd. I will concentrate on grout, cleaning obscure areas like under the toes spaces of counters with toothbrushes. It's been difficult to find a happy medium, but, I've learned to be there. I think that it's why I appreciate you and your videos so much. Especially, with your educational aspects. Thank you so very much. Much love and respect to you and your wife.
Emily & Mack, you both compliment eachother completely. Like peas and carrots, left shoe, right shoe, pizza & beer, wine & cheese, spaghetti & sauce... cookies & milk.
A TRICK FOR STAIRS. I do the same thing as the day go on I put things on the stairs, but my rule of thumb is regardless what’s going on during the day every time you either go upstairs or you come downstairs you don’t go empty-handed for example you’re coming downstairs you see a cup you bring it with you You’re going upstairs some fingernail polishes on the stairs you grab it and bring it up with you very helpful. I’ve also got My Husband to implement it regardless of whether it’s his or mine if there’s something that needs to go up you always take it up don’t ask if there’s something that has to come down. You always take it down.
Wow, I am so glad i found your videos. I have had many years of therapy. I don't think hoarding ever came up. I was grateful for covid giving me a good reason to not allow anyone in my house. I recognize myself in your videos. I have spent the last week watching and cleaning and purging. My old trauma has surfaced in nightmares, but your info and my past therapy helped me process. I am hopeful for my future. I am alone and 75 yrs old. Thank you for your acceptance and understanding. Oh, my favorite room is a sun room I added so I started with it. After a week of work ,I rewarded myself with an AC unit.
Diagnosis recently. I'm over 50. ADHD explained my whole life. I'm glad to have stumbled onto your videos. Thanks for what you do! Hi to Emily, too! I just saw her for the first time today. This is the 3rd video of yours I have watched, and as soon as I saw Emily crafting I knew we were kindred hearts! I have tried almost every craft hobby in my life but have always done paper crafts. Plus, my favorite name is Emily and our 25 yos name!❤ Thanks again! 💛
My son has ADHD and anxiety. He's 23. So definitely can relate. Great info, thanks Emily for your input. As I'm writing this, the train went by...shut your train face...lol!! I also live by some tracks and will be yelling that now, every time it goes by. Thanks, Mack!😂 y'all have a great week!
I can SOOO relate to everything Emily says about the adhd brain and how it works! It's different and it's difficult to explain to neurotypical people but it's important to understand yourself and make all the necessary changes in life to make YOUR life better, no matter what people around think. Thank you guys for talking about it!❤
Mack - you are so insightful and helpful to us all. You deserve that car for sure. You work so hard to help others in ways you’ll never know. Love you and Emily!❤️
There is a young woman with an ADHD cleaning video. She did her bedroom, as the example. She called it June bugging. She is not a cleaning channel, but explained her approach clearly. Sharing only cuz you're so open minded. Thanks for all the great videos!
I've only just heard of June bugging in the last few weeks, and it makes sense to me for tasks in places that just never seem to stay clear. I keep making myself go back to the same place instead of getting distracted in another room.
Another tip, use chapt got and enter something like “break down tasks to clean a really messy kitchen” or which room.You need to tackle. Then the to do list is so,it donefor us ADHD folks. Big help.
I don’t think I would have ever thought of this, but what an ADHD game changer!! Ugh the years of my life that have probably been spent making / losing / forgetting / misplacing / remaking lists. Funny how technology can be both our greatest helper and greatest distraction!
I’m only 20 minutes in to this video and already completely relate to Emily! I love your videos, how you explain as you go, your sense of humor! (As I sit here surrounded by unfinished tasks). Now I’ll go finish watching 😊
Remi Clog has a small cleaning YT channel. She talks about having to deal with her ADHD, and she also says she needs to give herself rewards for completing a task or an amount of time cleaning. She also talks a lot about neuro-atypical and mental health issues and lifestyle decisions and approaches to cleaning.
I do get it! I call it "DERAILED ". TOTALLY understand having to talk myself into EVERYTHING. The amount of energy, emotional, physical & mental that we use to do LIFE is exhausting.
I loved this one. You talked about the exact thing that I always end up doing. Clean one area but put something away then lose my focus and I may end up doing something in three different rooms and finish nothing! My youngest son was diagnosed with ADHD and I saw how his brain worked. I am a lot like him with having to do what I need to do immediately or the thought is gone! My very good friend used to tease me by saying that I am easily distracted. He says I am going along and suddenly he says that I "see something shiny" and my thought is gone. He is right. Easily distracted! I am learning from you both. You hit on something else that I do. I can't do just one thing at a time. It is almost 9 A.M. and I haven't gone to sleep yet. I am watching tv on mute right now and watching and listening to you. I was doing bills before I started watching you. I usually watch video's until I get very tired. I keep my tv on but turn it low when I get tired. Then I can fall asleep. I am learning by listening to you both.
Just caught your live. Emily was especially informative, and forthcoming. So genuine, also. So proud for y’all and how much you have really accomplished. Well done.
I am so sorry people are not kind to you. It is bad. Some people are just jerks. 🤦🏼♀️ You are such a nice couple! I love listening to your comments about cleaning, to me it is very calmig😂❤
So, I have two UA-cam accounts and just subscribed to MMC on this account, but have been an avid watcher through my other account for months. Once I finished watching all the cleaning videos I missed, I have gone back to watch all the lives that I missed. I particularly like listening to the lives when I am in the car running errands or whatnot, alone and able to process what you are saying. I watch the cleaning videos at home, in my bedroom during the day when I need a brain break. I find the cleaning videos educational, but also relaxing and satisfying. I, too, have noticed that I have to turn my brain off at night. Unfortunately, I can't watch MMC at bedtime since your videos are so interesting, but I do the exact same thing you do and watch Mountain Rug Cleaning, Detail Geek, SB mowing or one of the tool restoration channels at super low volume until I fall asleep. Sometimes I watch How It's Made. It drives my husband nuts for some reason. He listens to sports podcasts at full volume on his phone and falls asleep to that. It drives me bonkers and I can't go to sleep until he does, at which time, I turn his blaring phone off and turn on UA-cam on our bedroom tv. I don't have autism, but I am very introverted just like your wife. Interestingly though, I relate more to your way of getting calm in my everyday activities. My hushand has ADHD diagnosed as a child, but says her doesn't have it anymore, HE 100% DOES STILL HAVE IT. When you talked about how you took your cabinets down and did the whole job in one night because once started, you had to see it to completion, that describes him to a tee. In his case, though, its usually things he needs me to do. We run a small busniess and I do all the administrative work. He drives, we transport students, and handles some of the vehicle maintenance. For the most part, though, I do the actual administrative and computer work, which is a LOT. He is always checking the email and regular mail and insists that I do things as soon as they come in, regardless of the time of day, sometimes trying to get me to do things well after I have finished work for the day. I feel like I have to set a limit or he would wake up at 2 am and make me check the mail or send an email. The problem is that I have to give myself an end time to certains tasks in the day, especially since I work from home and he is also right there all day as well. I now understand, from your videos, that his ADHD may be what is making him so anxoius to get things done as soon as they come to our table, but I am happy to make a list and get to the next thing the next day. I, of course meet deadlines and such, but other little things have to go on the list for another day. It is absolutely maddening living with someone who doesn't understand that I need space and calm or can't function. I have anxiety attacks constantly, which have sent me to the er on several occations. He, on the other hand, puts all his anxiety provoked to-do's on me and expects them to be done, even to the point where, if I have an appt or am out of the office for business for the day, he still expects me to do the normal routine- even if it's 10 at night. I won't do that so we argue and then I can't sleep. Sorry for the long story, but I just want to thank you for your perspective on mental illness. I helps me to understand why I and my husband act why we do. It helps me be a little more kind when I want to kill him. Thanks so much for what you do.
As someone with hoarding tendencies who has both OCD and ADHD, I just want to say that finding your cleaning channel has been such a blessing for our farmhouse and homestead. Add in physical health problems as well with advancing age too, I have such problems tricking my neurodivergent brain into actual action (and out of overwhelmed paralysis), and many of your methods seem to be distilled versions of partitioning tactics I've used in the past. Now, I don't have to feel so weird for having pristine "islands" of OCD cleanliness right next to hoarded areas I haven't gotten to yet. I really do have to put blinders on when I'm cleaning or I get so sidetracked by distractions that no one project ever gets completely finished.
I was diagnosed with ADHD-I and depression in my late thirties (now 63) and cannot tolerate the meds. My self devised coping mechanisms no longer worked once I had kids. Your channel has helped me more than any channel that is exclusively dedicated to ADHD. Thank you! P.S. Emily, your makeup is on point!
I'm just watching this, but the real big message is forgiveness. You have to forgive yourself if you don't accomplish something . It's okay, really. Holding yourself accountable is the grown-up thing to do, but forgiving yourself is grown-up as well. You folks are special, I enjoy your videos, and I wish you forward momentum in all your goals. :)
Greetings from Bosnia and Herzegovina. ADHD is difficult and I manage to deal with it. I divide tasks into small parts and write down what I need to do. In addition to full-time employment, I succeed in the company, although it is difficult, to keep my home tidy. I appreciate what you are doing.
I just found your channel today. I have been out of work since last October and have filed for disability. I am having to try and overcome health and strength issues daily to get anything done. I am so glad to have found your channel as I feel it is amazing therapy. Love that yall are so honest, caring and funny.
Thank you very much for this video. Watching your videos has helped me begin to get control of my mental chaos. Before I would start to empty the dishwasher & take a spoon to hang up by the stove & that would remind me I had to take something out for dinner. So I'd go to my deep freezer in the porch to take something out but I'd see a coat that needed to be hung up in the porch, so I'd grab it on my way to the freezer. I'd hang it & notice something left in the porch so I'd grab it and go put it in whatever room it belonged & so this would continue. Two hours later the dishwasher is still open & unfinished and I hadn't taken anything out for dinner. I'd be cleaning all day long but nothing was getting done. I'm starting to get some control. I always watch one of your videos before I begin ... great inspiration. Thank you.
Thanks again for an interesting video today. I look forward to Mondays to hear what topic you talk about. Emily was very insightful! Yea for your new beautiful car! Bless you both. 🤩🙏💜
It’s one method to clean. Worth trying. I jump all around all,over all day long(adhd). I also have a routine now, that each night I do all the dishes. No matter what. Because skipping one day puts the whole kitchen in a disaster. Stove and counters and sink are cleaned now as well. There are no pre washing before loading into dishwasher. Using quality dishwasher tabs and a good dishwasher works. Anything that does not fit gets washed immediately. This saves time because the food does not get crusted on. There are still often random things on the counter for way too long but it has to be easy to put something away and not just put it down, so drawers and cupboards need sufficient space. If cooking a big meal, one sink has soapy water in it so I can clean as I go. Decluttering junk we did not use was key. Each morning dishwasher is unloaded and dishes drying on counter are all put away and go away easily due to the decluttering. It feels so good to get up and see a clean kitchen in the mornings, that is my dopamine hit now. My kitchen used to be a regular disaster. I am really proud of myself for this. Dana K White is someone else I follow and she has great advice about dishes, and laundry and other regular upkeep that really helps with how our brains are wired.
Also when you are caught up on dishes and laundry, you can see what is actually needed by your household. And often we have too many. And it’s ok to give up parts of sets. Like who needs 40 coffee mugs. ( yes I had that many) . Now if no mugs, I am forced to wash the dishes. Same with laundry and too many clothes. If I can put it away easily, I have the right amount. If I struggle to fit it in drawer, I have too many.
I knew you followed Dana as soon as I read the start of your post 😁 She's great. My guess is she's undiagnosed ADHD 😂 so she gets it. 28 days to hope for your home lays a good foundation.
Thank you, Mack. I tried this method and it worked!! This is the first method that has worked for me. You are the best psychologist. You should have a TV show. Or at least go on talk shows.
I know this video is older but it's actually blowing my mind how good these tips are and I appreciate that it came from a place of genuine understanding rather than judgement. I got really frustrated with myself just the other day because all I wanted to do was clean my desk but then I saw that I had laundry that needed to be done and on my way to bringing laundry downstairs to the washer I realized I had to clean out my lunch container for work the next day so I left my laundry on the top of the stairs to start washing the dishes and then next thing I knew I grabbed a drink from the fridge and was relaxing in my bedroom and it just blows my mind how stuff like that happens but if I stop leaving the room to put stuff away, to start laundry, etc., then there's less to be distracted by and I don't know how I never thought of that. Thank you so much for these videos, they really help me feel understood and like maybe I am not as dumb as I feel. Also, as a side note, I really love how you start each video by introducing yourself as some weird name, it's always so funny to me 😭
I've been cleaning like this forever! I use a basket to put things in to take to other rooms when I'm done with whatever room I'm working on. Because I can definitely get redirected. 😂
This! "Other room stuff" goes in a basket! I clean small areas at a time, use 5-10 min timers and harness the hyperfocus. I focus on creating little "vignettes" one at a time and each one is a win. A whole room is often unachievable. I also use " next most stupidly easy step" thinking to help when I stall.
you and detoxing have been super helpful to me in tackling my chores, I'm an artist so my home is art supplies and things in process , I do finish projects but I have a small space and I usually have 4 art projects going at one time so the house looks trashed. YOU ARE SUCH A BLESSING TO ME BECAUSE OF YOUR METHOD I ACTUALLY DONT FEEL SO OVERWHELMED , SO THANK YOU SO MUCH!
I have just started watching your videos. I commend you on how well you explain the reason behind the actions you take when cleaning. It has helped me understand my son’s ADHD behavior. I can multitask very well, so it has been very hard for me to understand what goes on in my son’s head when I ask him to clean his room. I have seen the light! Thank you. I have always thought he was a sloppy person who had ADHD. Now I know better. It’s the disorder !
I am ADHD and my apartment has lots of “collections” on the floor. Tou have taught me so much and I am really grateful for the methods you give for dealing with the condition and learning to clean despite it. Thank you! I love the channel and all of you. 😊
I love you guys! I am almost 72 and was just diagnosed with ADHD. (Female) I am going through the medication trials and for me it is frustrating. You guys talking make me feel like I am not alone! I go to sleep like you watching videos! Everyone keeps telling me that is wrong and my brain won't shut down. Doesn't it annoy you how others tell you how to deal with it!? If only they really knew how it was! Thank you!
I don’t know if you will ever see this comment but I want to tell Emily that I also crochet (as I watch your videos) and I also have ADHD. But what I really want to tell her is that she has the most interesting crocheting method that I have never seen and I’ve been crocheting for 20 years! Also thank you for everything you are doing. ❤
OMG!! She just started talking and even the bathroom thing is ME ME ME EXACTLY!!! AND I GET SOOO BALLED UP INSIDE!! My family thinks I'm a spaz and I also have sensory issues and have been diagnosed with things like agoraphobia bc it's draining just thinking about the aspects involved in leaving. So, 2 hrs later...I finally leave, shower, or psych myself up enough to be able to handle the critical issue of not quite fitting in.
Watching T V is almost impossible for me to do because I can’t sit still. The “move it twice” method does work for me, but “body doubling” has been the most effective strategy. Over the last 3 years, “body doubling” was the only way I was able to accomplish anything due to my chronic fatigue and other medical issues.
I never heard of body doubling before. I'm the opposite. I hate working with another person in the vicinity because it's too distracting for me. I don't know how I'm going to cope when my husband retires because I can't work around him; he talks nonstop, gets in my way, tells me I'm doing it wrong, etc. If he's home, I don't even try to get anything done. Just getting ready to go somewhere gives me a panic attack because wherever I need to be, he's there fiddling around, blocking my way. The other day we had a big event to go to, and I told him that I was going to be getting ready at x time, and he needed to be completely ready and out of my way by that time. It almost worked. He just cannot help himself.
I relate with your wife a lot. When I’m in the mood to clean and have my plan in mind but, let’s say someone comes over without me knowing or if I’m asked to go hang out with friends I get stressed and completely throw the whole day away.
This explanation has greatly helped me understand a client I am helping right now. As we continue to clear the home, I'll keep this information in mind-thank you. And you're right, there are loads of how-to vids but I appreciate the humour that pops in unexpectedly-some of your phrases from other videos will definitely help me when I'm in the middle of a sticky cleaning situation- not to mention the practical tips. Thank you from Ontario Canada
I love how you explain everything so well. You too are a great couple. Life is so difficult for so many people. Getting diagnosed with what is going on with yourself is important and helps you to deal with every day issues. 😊
Something that helps to keep things in the room they go in, is to put a basket in each room by the door or on the stairs if it goes upstairs. When I pass the object I grab it and take it with me when I go to the other room. Saves running around all the time.
I feel guilty - it has taken me since Monday to watch just up to 47:53 as the hoarded back yard I'm helping to clean up has required a lot of brain strain engineering, construction. I found I couldn't lift everything I needed to because I had 2 sugeries this year, and it hurts, so truth be told, it meant hiring and managing men to do things I used to be able to do. Which is difficult itself, as I also have ADHD w ABI/TBI on top. Which is also why I keep having to go back & rewatch because it's not sticking, or I start to write a comment, fall asleep writing and it posts incomplete jibberish. But here, at 3:30 a.m. (again), I just really appreciate all that you guys do - your modeling of care, compassion and the effort of working to understand the other person, and how to communicate in ways that work. In helping a hoarder I care about, I've desperately needed and made use of that reminder. In addition, thank you for giving me the words to explain to others why they need to be compassionate, how their demanding or yelling or putting down, or threatening, is not going to be productive. Thank you for helping me explain how other ways of being unsupportive are not helpful also - like judging things that don't need to be judged. For example: He hoards firewood from fallen trees in his big yard. But firewood is valuable if taken care of, and he has an extremely efficient woodstove that would heat his house (if he could reach it) and he uses a wood cooking grill in his yard. My goal in building wood racks to hold that wood, is not to "enable a hoard," but to be able to have opportunities for conversations; to build trust; to build his confidence and enthusism for whatever our next step is - and with it, an openness to the idea of seeing a hoarding therapist. It doesn't matter to me if he could burn all of it in his lifetime, or if his reason for saving every stick makes sense to me. [Singing Monty Python style: 🎶 "Every stick is wanted, every stick is good. Every stick is needed, from this neighborhood..."🎶🤣] But that's truly not for me - or for anyone else - to judge if it is stored neatly, and safely; in a manner geared to preventing rodent infestations and rot, a sufficient distance from his or others' houses, and if the thing he is burning his wood in is safe, is being used safely, and is an approved device being used in an approved manner. The racks have made his space useable and tidy; and they've created space for cabinets to house his garden tools and flowerpots. I cannot clear all of his hoard, but that's 70% of the mess outside DONE. Ta-dah! "So suck it."🤣 Thank you for being an online, daily support through your videos! It has really kept this on track!!! Emily, thank YOU for being so candid about the struggles you have. I screw up so much of everything I try to do - have to unscrew, rescrew, t
I love cleaning, its when my mind settles. I have pretty bad anxiety and agoraphobia at the moment (years) but listening to you and watching your videos really are a tonic.
I just found your channel, I guess I was subscribed but didn’t know it, when I was diagnosed with ADHD it was an AMAZING thing for me. After trying several medications I stuck to Vivance. It has saved my house, mind set and my confidence. I used to live by pages of notes of things to do before meditation, now I am focused, happy, and motivated. 😊
You two are soooo awesome.. I continue to learn so much, gain insight into myself and others { at 80 } and my love and respect for both of you just increases. I sense that you've done a lot of work on your relationship and it shows in the interactions you so generously share with us. Thank you both. God Bless. Fondly, Dorothy.
This is my first time watching you both live I'm enjoying it and I think your a very special couple I will keep you both in my prayers before my family member became ill I use to clean for a living it's hard work but I think it's really wonderful that your blessing other people and helping them Take care God bless. Patricia
I so appreciate you explaining hoarding as well as ADHD. I have found it all so fascinating, and its so good to better understand these problems people we care about. Depression is a problem in my family, and ive learned from you. Thank you!😊
I love that you did this video. It helps a lot of people. You two look amazing talking about your interaction with each other struggles and it's great that you have find a way to help each other and us too😊 U are the best! ❤
This was so helpful, a special thank you to Emily. It seemed like she was reading my script. I better understand why I get enraged when something, big or little, interrupts my routine. I'm very routine oriented and live by the post-it note and check list, if anything disrupts this, I get so angry. I've never understood why I could be in a good mood, doing my thing and for example, the cat runs across the coffee table and knocks the remote to the floor and I react like someone just stole my car. THANK YOU!!!
Gosh, i have always hated cleaning because it cut into my creative time. I am a creative ADHD person. I live to problem solve and create. What a paradigm shift you have just given me. By the way, i taught special ed for thirty years. I knew i was learning disabled, but fugured out the ADHD more recently. I had blamed most of my issues on PTSD.
I’ve only watched the first 15 minutes so far and what you are both saying is really clicking with me. I’ve not been diagnosed with ADHD but strongly suspect I am. I have used this cleaning method by accident more than design sometimes and it’s the only time anything can get done. After listening to you talk about it I’m going to try to implement this more consciously and see if I manage to succeed a little more often. Thanks ☺️
Moving cluttered items from one spot to a designated clutter area has always been something I do before I was even aware I had adhd. You're spot on with that. I always felt like breaking it down bit by bit helped me not to get too overwhelmed. Hit the nail on the head man!
I admire the way you clean and organize. It makes total sense ! Very similar to the way I do it. And I LOVE your dry humor-makes me laugh so hard sometimes. Thank you!
I m a grandma( old) but still work, full time and I can’t sit still. I play with a mini slinky, or a marble, when I m stressed or bored. Something to keep my hands busy. Thank you for helping so many people🥰
I'm 54 and female and know I have adhd now but I was misdiagnosed with bipolar disorder yrs ago. I'm not on any meds anymore, don't have a Dr and feeling pretty alone except for the adhd videos all over the tube. You guys are great fun and made me laugh! Thank you so much for that 💜 I also really appreciate an adhd friendly cleaning video that makes sense to me. I always thought something was wrong with me from a very young age but this year I figured out what is different about me, not wrong with me! ADHD! Things started to make sense when I watch others with it. It's been eye opening and liberating for sure.
I thought your analogy (15:00 forward) of losing your place in a book you’re reading is brilliant. It helped me understand what life is like for a person with ADHD. And, congratulations on your NEW CAR!!🎉
Yea!! Son. I’m a 54yo F diagnosed last year and it was the most liberating thing in my life. So many questions answered. For some people I need to also reference neurodiversity but thrilled to know me! Ooohhhh and the pick this up and put that there, twice….was exactly what I thought of when I was stacking wood yesterday😂. ☮️ 😊
Hey guys! I’m a fairly new subscriber, and I love the channel. I’m undiagnosed but I believe I have ADHD. Your video on how to tackle cleaning with ADHD was SO helpful. I set a timer, and only cleaned my kitchen so I wouldn’t make my home more of a mess with my toxic gremlin piles. That method was very effective and I plan on utilizing it on the rest of my apartment. As you know- living with Autism and ADHD is extremely difficult because this world is not designed for us but I finally feel understood here 😊
Mack I feel your pain. I have a bad back as well. I just never know when it will strike. Take care of you & Thank you for all that you do. You are so kind ❤❤❤
I just found your channel, I think it was the day before yesterday. I started binging. I got inspired to make some APC and clean my fridge (not the freezer part yet, though, it’s not as bad, and it’s for later today). It was 12/31/2023, the last day of the year and I so wanted a new fresh start with food I actually eat, no more leftovers or ketchup bottles that I’m keeping just because it’s still 1/4 full. Nope, gone! I tossed so much! I wiped everything down and took out the drawers and cleaned them shelf by shelf in small steps. Now watching this video I realize…I might have ADHD. I get so distracted and my focus gets pulled so easily. The method you are describing here I think I could apply to my whole life. Even if I have to touch the same thing 10 times later on, it will be worth it. I need to keep my focus on just one area, one victory at a time. I really don’t know how to thank you. This is a game changer for me for 2024. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏👍
This is such a timely discussion for me to watch, I really appreciate you guys. I have ADHD and I've been living on my own since the start of COVID, so about 3 years now. I never really learned how to be organized, and I have not fully unpacked some boxes (it didn't help that my landlord hadn't cleaned the place before I moved in, so I didn't feel comfortable setting my stuff up in a dusty place, leading to me having to clean AROUND my furniture😩) and it had just become stuff on top of stuff and increasingly daunting. I used your method to FINALLY clear off an armchair that has been unsit-able and covered with stuff since i moved in. Yeah im gonna touch things twice, but at least Im ACTUALLY MOVING IT. Im actually sitting in it while typing this right now 😊 one piece of the living room puzzle is complete! Thanks for all you do and share!
Not sure if there is a connection, but my brother was a narcissist and a semi hoarder. He wasn’t the worst case, but definitely out of the ordinary for most people.
@@kookykreek Yes, I see a connection in my NPD roommate AND when I saw the sister's mouse infested hoarder house (in a nice location and quite nice but very outdated house/garage, it may be some MHealth issues??? How do you live with mice droppings galore, yet have $$$$$$ yet act poverty stricken and deprive yourself to the point of eating rotted food and looking like a thrift shop discard, let your house fall apart, etc.?????
Cambriea, when she is doing organizing, cleaning out, for people moves things multiple times. She creates "piles" of like things and then when she has her piles she then organizes them into other piles. It really makes sense when you are cleaning/organizing a larger mess you would have to categorize, handle more than once, in order to clean. Love what you do.
Thank you for this awesome video! I have pretty much done this type of cleaning my whole life and yes Im ADHD. Let me tell you, i divide my room into zones and hyper focus on the particular zone. I also set a timer, It really helps!!! Also, hey if you hate piles of dishes, organize them first then clean them. OMG doing this helps me soooo much! I think my house is fairly clean but i do have to work extra hard to keep it that way.
Listening in at about 6.40 mins, and yes you're spot on. I've discovered these type of your videos, and I think they're great. So easy to listen to, plain terms plus includes the little indiosyncrasies of the disorders. Keep at it ❤ From nz
When I was a kid, mabye 9, I got a book about how to clean your room. The method was such a releif to me! It told me to put everything that wasn't laundry, trash, or dishes on my bed. Then throw away trash, collect laundry and dishes, vacuum.Then, pick up one thing at a time off of the bed and put it where it belongs. This made a huge difference for me and reduced overwhelm dramatically. No one knew back then that i had adhd (and am likely somewhere on the autism spectrum, too.) This was the only thing that got me unfrozen. My mom thought it was kind of a ridiculous approach, but since it worked, she was happy! To this day, if i am overwhelmed by a space (usually because of all the decisions involved) i just move the stuff to a totally different area, clean the space, then sort the stuff and find places for the items. It is the only thing that unfreezes me.
I’m the same exact way!!!
I used to clean houses and the first thing I did was make the beds then I would pick everything off the floor and put it on the bed and then sort through it. This kept me from spinning around in circles. I taught my kids to do this and it seem to work for them.
I wish someone had gifted me that book or even clued me in to any single method whatsoever when I was a kid.
What was that book?!
I'm going to try this, but I can definitely move out laundry first n than dishes. 😅 ty for commenting n sir for uploading. ❤
On UA-cam - A Hoarders Heart she is a hoarder with ADHD.. she is decluttering and explaining her thought process. She was going to do the dishes and got distracted by putting things away that were on her counter. At one point she even ran down to the basement to put something away and filmed it! By the time she was done running around.. it was time for her to pick her kids up from school and the dishes didn’t get done. She ran out of time. I think this is a perfect example of what you’ve been trying to convey.
What is the name of Emily’s channel
www.youtube.com/@MidwestMagicCrafting
@@KLynn998
Thank you for this channel suggestion.
I’ve seen some comedic Facebook posts like that and, of course, they’re really funny…mainly because so many of us can relate, and, at least there’s a bit of comfort knowing we’re not alone. I don’t think it’s just people with ADHD though. A lot of us have soooo much to accomplish, that any direction we turn (in our house, yard, garage, etc.), there is a distraction that screams to be addressed, so, we start doing THAT….and THEN…a hundred times a day.🤬❤
A hoarders heart is great. She has made a ton of progress and is working on healing as she does things. But definitely has the ADHD traits I also have like clutter blindness and things sneak back up on you.
Even thoughI am 73 years old, I decided to get tested for AHDH after listening to this video. Thabk you,
👏 it’s good to know at any age so you can find better ways to manage your daily life. Plus it’s helpful to know for family histories as well
I just got diagnosed at age 64. It changed my life radically for the better.
@@robinzclark hug.
So what if you are moving it twice, if it gets the job done that's all that matters. My assistant at work has mild autism. It takes longer to learn something new but once she learns it, she stays on task and never forgets. She is the best assistant I've ever had. Her attention to detail is perfection.
I have ADD and everything you said about how our brains work is spot on. As far as ‘touching things twice’ comments….my daughter is a licensed clinical mental health counselor and she says any method or system that you actually use, is actually effective, that’s the right and best method.
And you may need to switch your methods if, like me, a method is less shiny & attractive after a little while. So I have 3 different methods & cycle thru them. Whatever works!
Yes! What is it with the “less shiny & attractive” thing?! I thought I was the only one. Drives me nuts.
Love the way you clean! You use your common sense. Glad you're deleting the jerks! They need to move on 😊
Thanks guys! I think I might be your spirit animal! Everything you discussed in this one made SO MUCH SENSE! Keep up the great work 🙂
Awesome! Thank you! ❤️❤️👊
I’ve been in education for over thirty years and the cleaning method you’ve created is actually a type of accommodation we give kids with focus issues. The method is called chunking and it means to break tasks into do-able chunks and get the rest of the job visibly out of the way to lower the anxiety. Some kids freak out if you give them (for example) an assignment that has a lot of words on the page. It might even be something they can read easily and can complete without difficulty, but the pure volume of what they perceive to be an enormous task makes them shut down. The teacher manages the chunks. When I was in the classroom I might fold the paper where only part of the task was showing and then say, ok…just do this part and let me know when you’re done. That was a two part strategy…one…it wasn’t much work…and two…it gave the student a small break and some minor socialization when the teacher came back around and cheered them on and then isolated another chunk for them to do. ADHD also interferes with something in the thought processes called executive functioning. The prefrontal cortex does jobs like organize, initiate and transition between tasks. People with ADHD get bogged down in processing how these tasks get broken into parts, managed in an order that makes sense, and then…what appears to be the hardest thing of all for them.,,figuring out a way to get started. The frustration Emily experienced when her schedule got thrown off is because it’s really hard work to come up with a plan to start with and the reliance on systems of how things are done becomes a seriously important management device in their lives. Not throwing stones here…I found out as an adult that I have ADHD too so I have a lot of empathy. I’ve finally figured out a way in my older years to harness my undiagnosed but pretty obvious to me tendency towards OCD. You the way I manage my ADHD is to stick to some pretty structured protocols and procedures for how I get things done. So…in essence…I manage my environment to create structures that help me manage my difficulties with the organizational challenges of ADHD. It works! Until it doesn’t and then I get frustrated just like Emily. But…I’ve finally learned to pivot and retrench and then get back in the saddle. People get so embarrassed and stigmatized about any neurodivergent issue…but I believe that knowledge is power and that stigma will tear you apart. Mack and Emily…you two are providing a very important service for so many who have shrouded themselves in shame over being neurodivergent. Your candor, kind explanations, and openness about your own issues are likely helping many come out of a dark place and into the light of acceptance and knowledge.
I know this comment is a couple of months old. As an educator, you have my ❤.
My gorgeous, brilliant 13 year old “has” autism, adhd and global dyspraxia/apraxia of speech. He’s homeschooled now by his own choice, but while attending grades k-6 in a boces program we showed this method to his teachers as kind of a “it works super well at home just thought it might be helpful” without being imposing. That self contained classroom has been utilizing “Chunkin it!” ever since, for all students!
It requires pure & unrelenting soul to educate & care for both children & adults who are neurodiverse. A kind of dedicated Love that is irrevocable even on the hardest, most exhausting days.
I hope you’ve been told often, and continue to be- that you are a force for light and growth in this world. You are needed; quietly and ardently valued within the prayers of parents like me.
@@jessebluehouse You have no idea how much your response means to me. It’s easy for educators to get burned out and discouraged. My prayers are for your precious son and you. All children should have such understanding and supportive parents. Children with this kind of backing will succeed in the long run. ❤️
@@Somewhereintime22 all the blessings be heaped upon you Miss Karen. 💕
I wish I'd have had these accommodations in school in the 80's. I would have had a totally different life. I'm thankful kids today have this. Thank you. ❤️
I've learned so much from these videos. I have Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and my husband has ADHD - he's clutter blind. It's a combination of conditions that could easily lead to us living in a big mess but I've managed to keep it under control by pacing my cleaning - 15 minute chunks of time can make a difference. I'm much more patient with my husband now I know what's going on in his head and have set up systems he can cope with. I have nice gift boxes (the size of shoe boxes) with labels on (big type) for his stuff and he copes with that well and doesn't feel like I've hidden his stuff. I've told him about what Mack says about ADHD and he really relates to it and is working on meeting me in the middle - it's all about talking and finding something that suits us both. We get on better because of this. Thank you.
Perimenopause & menopausal changes, get ready for ADHD to get stranger. Everything was jumbled up for me. I’m 58 & finally getting back on track. Meditation really helps to quiet the mind to focus.
It's a turbulent mess. I'm autistic and 50. I hate everything.
Omg, same! No one talks about how much hormone changes effect your adhd. The brain fog alone is so frustrating,
SO MUCH THIS!! This is why I finally had to get the diagnosis. Hugs!
Yep, I can totally relate. I can't handle any kind of overwhelm whatsoever anymore. I have ADHD and autism and I'm 49. Interesting maze to navigate, lol
I'm there right now. So so true.
My 13 year old grandson has adhd. He spins in his chair, reads and listens to music at the same time. Complete opposite of what most people would do. He has trouble being still and movement helps him concentrate. He has figured out how to get straight A’s in school all by himself. Also he sometimes sings the words in a book out loud.
My youngest, who is now 15 and in her first year of high school, does the exact same thing. She can't concentrate unless she is listening to music. She has managed to continually get straight A's and now is in all honors classes. When she was younger, I noticed her behavior and let her do whatever it took to help her concentrate. Way to go, for letting him do what he needs to, to get through school. 😁
I'm the same (adult) ADD. Others don't "get" how I achieve goals, etc. in a busy coffee shop, even taking my laptop on occasion to have supper out so I could concentrate in a different ambiance. As for the chair (or outdoor swing), I totally get it!!! Swivel, rock, recline-yah!! I'm a swinger 😉
I have ADHD and am 58. My son and granddaughter do as well. Movement does help with concentration for sure, but music helps a lot too. Really any low level background noise does. I can't even remember 1/2 the time what songs played, but helps with concentration. Books on tape, I go Lala land and can't focus on what's happening, but works for background blocker.
I'm a retired high school teacher and found that when students were allowed to stand up when working, they did great. Some even walked around desk while writing or reading lol.
Proven by brain based research, you get about 20 minutes in of good instruction with most kids/people. Attention spans can do that. After 20 minutes, everybody needs to move around for 10 minutes or more.
So as teachers, you get better results doing it this way. You can try to spend 40 minutes on instruction, but researchers found that after 20, the rest of the time is spent dealing with behaviors. Blows my mind that schools are still sitting in desks all day, when research has shown for years that's not best.
Wow!! my grand daughter (9) also has ADHD, and is being harassed by her teacher constantly for her need to doodle. Oddly enough, her teacher claims to also have ADHD, but she keeps taking her doodle paper, tells her she's going to MAKE her pay attention and throws her paper away. Then my Gd has no way to vent the anxiety she feels while not being able to doodle. This, along with some other things, keep happening in front of the class which completely humiliates by Gd! Now she doesn't want to go to school and I have a terrible time getting her to go and I COMPLETELY understand!!! I'm about to have a meeting with her teacher and let her know that she needs to leave her alone with her doodling. PERIOD! We (her family) know very well that she can sit with 4 or 6 of us, playing a game or just talking, and cover a whole page of beautiful drawings (doodling) and stay on top of the game or the conversation! There is no reason her teacher needs to take the doodle paper away from her. You would think this teacher having ADHD would have a little compassion! Your grandson must have great teachers, if he is doing so well. They must be letting him do the things he needs to do, so that he can be successful. That's wonderful!
@coupyk.2810 see if you can get an IEP for her. Individual education program (not sure about that last word), but this way, if she truly has Adhd and anxiety, there will be a plan in place on how to help her in school going forward. I'm not sure where u live, but ask her school, if there is something you can do for her like that. 2 of my daughters have Adhd and having the IEP has helped them in school immensely.
She’s sweet. Understanding who you are and why is amazing. You go girl.
I started watching this replay at 4:30. I came in the kitchen at 3pm to start dinner. As of right this minute (4:35)I have not done so. However, I have cleaned the guinea pig's cage, vacuumed around his cage and the dining room and living room, scraped the ice out of my freezer, got everything ready to batch make cornbread mix and emptied the dishwasher. Thank you for this video. I have always wondered why I get so distracted and why my house is always a mess despite how much I clean and try to straighten up. Now at 54 yrs old, I know why and will speak to my doctor next visit! Love you guys! Don't listen to those a holes who are jealous of your helpful nature. Thank you for addressing these topics. It really has helped me.
I love watching your videos. I cannot tell you how much I can relate to this video today. I worked in healthcare for 38 years. It was literally killing me. I walked away in April 2022. I started a little cleaning business in the Fall of 2022. I love it. I control my life. My income. I’m sole proprietor and I’m ok with that right now. It has lead to being a property manager for an Airbnb that I clean for. Thanks for being so real. ❤
I only made it 25 years in healthcare before I had to bail out and start cleaning.
Absolutely. I also worked in Healthcare.
I thank THE LORD for you! I came across your channel by chance, it's been a blessing what you've explained. My brain is so weirdly wired that even the psychologists that evaluated me have al misdiagnosed me for over 30 years! From depression, chronic depression, Bipolar Disorder 2, anxiety,panic attacks bla.bla bla.
Bottom line I suffer from ADDH. Unable to declutter and organize my apartment. Just holding on to " things".MY APT. IS SQUEAKY CLEAN which is weird to everyone....but disorganized! Now I know how to go about decluttering and eliminating items I really don't need or use. FOCUS! FOCUS! FOCUS!
The bag of 100 marbles comparison is what ADHD is like for me. Everyone has a bag with 100 marbles they have to carry around all day. But I don't have a bag, just 100 marbles. And no one notices or seems to care that it's AMAZING when I can carry 50 marbles without a bag. Then I get treatment and I have a bag now, but it's a bag with a million holes. So it helps, but it's not a fix.
Love this!
Wonderful analogy. Feels accurate.
@@bloodiedporcelain6320 That is an insanely accurate description! Thank you.
It's always great to hear from folks with similar life experiences and hearing what works for them. The constant Brain-Ping-Pong (BPP) can be truly debilitating. Thanks to the both of you for sharing: You are appreciated. 🥔❤👊
I think its great how you both deal with each others adhd/autism and communicate so well. Couples not dealing with adhd/autism have more trouble communicating than you two. You both take the time to understand each others way of communicating. Kudos to you both.❣️
I've been watching your videos for about 6 mo. I'm 54 and never realized my "cleaning method" was attached to my ADHD. I would always take everything off the top of my dresser, as a kid, and shove it into the top dawers. Cleaned but always unorganized. I started watching you tube cleaning shows to make the cleaning urges go away. I'm lucky enough to have a 2 person team come and clean my home every 3 mo. If I do it myself nothing ever gets done. I struggle with making decisions, and agree with Emily if something interrupts my thought process then I'm at a loss for the rest of the day. I, also, am a list person (post it notes are awesome) but never get to complete a project. I was pretty happy the other day when I washed all the dishes in 1 hour, not all put away, but they were all clean. This video really struck a cord with me. It was my "Ah Ha" moment, that's why putting everything in a plastic see through tub with a lid doesn't work for me. I never go back and make the decisions to get rid of things. I have a basement full of tubs, out of sight out of mind. Btw, From the start of watching your videos I've thought of you as Midwest Magic Mike.....not too far off. Thanks M and E!!! Q-bert in Southern WI.
I have both ASD and ADD so I have to spin kick myself into gear unless it's a hyperfocus. And then, I obsess about having it "right" once I get it started. Living the dream!
I've had a Parkinson's disease for over 30 years, and identify with autistic traits. I get overwhelmed with sounds, seeing a whole project, instead of small projects to complete tasks.
I had a stroke in 2016, so I had to learn a different way of cleaning due to my short attention span.
I have learned many tips and techniques to help me stay on track.
I also have ocd. I will concentrate on grout, cleaning obscure areas like under the toes spaces of counters with toothbrushes.
It's been difficult to find a happy medium, but, I've learned to be there. I think that it's why I appreciate you and your videos so much.
Especially, with your educational aspects. Thank you so very much.
Much love and respect to you and your wife.
Emily & Mack, you both compliment eachother completely. Like peas and carrots, left shoe, right shoe, pizza & beer, wine & cheese, spaghetti & sauce... cookies & milk.
Moose and spinkicks...
A TRICK FOR STAIRS. I do the same thing as the day go on I put things on the stairs, but my rule of thumb is regardless what’s going on during the day every time you either go upstairs or you come downstairs you don’t go empty-handed for example you’re coming downstairs you see a cup you bring it with you You’re going upstairs some fingernail polishes on the stairs you grab it and bring it up with you very helpful. I’ve also got My Husband to implement it regardless of whether it’s his or mine if there’s something that needs to go up you always take it up don’t ask if there’s something that has to come down. You always take it down.
Wow, I am so glad i found your videos. I have had many years of therapy. I don't think hoarding ever came up. I was grateful for covid giving me a good reason to not allow anyone in my house. I recognize myself in your videos. I have spent the last week watching and cleaning and purging. My old trauma has surfaced in nightmares, but your info and my past therapy helped me process. I am hopeful for my future. I am alone and 75 yrs old. Thank you for your acceptance and understanding. Oh, my favorite room is a sun room I added so I started with it. After a week of work ,I rewarded myself with an AC unit.
Diagnosis recently. I'm over 50. ADHD explained my whole life. I'm glad to have stumbled onto your videos. Thanks for what you do! Hi to Emily, too! I just saw her for the first time today. This is the 3rd video of yours I have watched, and as soon as I saw Emily crafting I knew we were kindred hearts! I have tried almost every craft hobby in my life but have always done paper crafts. Plus, my favorite name is Emily and our 25 yos name!❤
Thanks again! 💛
EMILY. You are great. Both of you with your honesty and kind ways. It is so refreshing and great🎉
My son has ADHD and anxiety. He's 23. So definitely can relate. Great info, thanks Emily for your input. As I'm writing this, the train went by...shut your train face...lol!! I also live by some tracks and will be yelling that now, every time it goes by. Thanks, Mack!😂 y'all have a great week!
I can SOOO relate to everything Emily says about the adhd brain and how it works! It's different and it's difficult to explain to neurotypical people but it's important to understand yourself and make all the necessary changes in life to make YOUR life better, no matter what people around think. Thank you guys for talking about it!❤
Mack - you are so insightful and helpful to us all. You deserve that car for sure. You work so hard to help others in ways you’ll never know. Love you and Emily!❤️
There is a young woman with an ADHD cleaning video. She did her bedroom, as the example. She called it June bugging. She is not a cleaning channel, but explained her approach clearly. Sharing only cuz you're so open minded. Thanks for all the great videos!
Do you know what the name of her channel is?
I saw part of that video yesterday. There was background music that sent me up the wall like the ADHDer I am!
I've only just heard of June bugging in the last few weeks, and it makes sense to me for tasks in places that just never seem to stay clear. I keep making myself go back to the same place instead of getting distracted in another room.
Another tip, use chapt got and enter something like “break down tasks to clean a really messy kitchen” or which room.You need to tackle. Then the to do list is so,it donefor us ADHD folks. Big help.
I don’t think I would have ever thought of this, but what an ADHD game changer!! Ugh the years of my life that have probably been spent making / losing / forgetting / misplacing / remaking lists. Funny how technology can be both our greatest helper and greatest distraction!
I’m only 20 minutes in to this video and already completely relate to Emily! I love your videos, how you explain as you go, your sense of humor! (As I sit here surrounded by unfinished tasks). Now I’ll go finish watching 😊
Remi Clog has a small cleaning YT channel. She talks about having to deal with her ADHD, and she also says she needs to give herself rewards for completing a task or an amount of time cleaning. She also talks a lot about neuro-atypical and mental health issues and lifestyle decisions and approaches to cleaning.
Remi also has executive disfunction. I use some of her methods too.
I do get it! I call it "DERAILED ".
TOTALLY understand having to talk myself into EVERYTHING. The amount of energy, emotional, physical & mental that we use to do LIFE is exhausting.
I loved this one. You talked about the exact thing that I always end up doing. Clean one area but put something away then lose my focus and I may end up doing something in three different rooms and finish nothing! My youngest son was diagnosed with ADHD and I saw how his brain worked. I am a lot like him with having to do what I need to do immediately or the thought is gone! My very good friend used to tease me by saying that I am easily distracted. He says I am going along and suddenly he says that I "see something shiny" and my thought is gone. He is right. Easily distracted! I am learning from you both. You hit on something else that I do. I can't do just one thing at a time. It is almost 9 A.M. and I haven't gone to sleep yet. I am watching tv on mute right now and watching and listening to you. I was doing bills before I started watching you. I usually watch video's until I get very tired. I keep my tv on but turn it low when I get tired. Then I can fall asleep. I am learning by listening to you both.
Just caught your live. Emily was especially informative, and forthcoming. So genuine, also. So proud for y’all and how much you have really accomplished. Well done.
I am so sorry people are not kind to you. It is bad. Some people are just jerks. 🤦🏼♀️ You are such a nice couple! I love listening to your comments about cleaning, to me it is very calmig😂❤
So, I have two UA-cam accounts and just subscribed to MMC on this account, but have been an avid watcher through my other account for months. Once I finished watching all the cleaning videos I missed, I have gone back to watch all the lives that I missed.
I particularly like listening to the lives when I am in the car running errands or whatnot, alone and able to process what you are saying. I watch the cleaning videos at home, in my bedroom during the day when I need a brain break. I find the cleaning videos educational, but also relaxing and satisfying.
I, too, have noticed that I have to turn my brain off at night. Unfortunately, I can't watch MMC at bedtime since your videos are so interesting, but I do the exact same thing you do and watch Mountain Rug Cleaning, Detail Geek, SB mowing or one of the tool restoration channels at super low volume until I fall asleep. Sometimes I watch How It's Made. It drives my husband nuts for some reason. He listens to sports podcasts at full volume on his phone and falls asleep to that. It drives me bonkers and I can't go to sleep until he does, at which time, I turn his blaring phone off and turn on UA-cam on our bedroom tv.
I don't have autism, but I am very introverted just like your wife. Interestingly though, I relate more to your way of getting calm in my everyday activities.
My hushand has ADHD diagnosed as a child, but says her doesn't have it anymore, HE 100% DOES STILL HAVE IT. When you talked about how you took your cabinets down and did the whole job in one night because once started, you had to see it to completion, that describes him to a tee. In his case, though, its usually things he needs me to do.
We run a small busniess and I do all the administrative work. He drives, we transport students, and handles some of the vehicle maintenance. For the most part, though, I do the actual administrative and computer work, which is a LOT. He is always checking the email and regular mail and insists that I do things as soon as they come in, regardless of the time of day, sometimes trying to get me to do things well after I have finished work for the day. I feel like I have to set a limit or he would wake up at 2 am and make me check the mail or send an email.
The problem is that I have to give myself an end time to certains tasks in the day, especially since I work from home and he is also right there all day as well. I now understand, from your videos, that his ADHD may be what is making him so anxoius to get things done as soon as they come to our table, but I am happy to make a list and get to the next thing the next day. I, of course meet deadlines and such, but other little things have to go on the list for another day.
It is absolutely maddening living with someone who doesn't understand that I need space and calm or can't function. I have anxiety attacks constantly, which have sent me to the er on several occations. He, on the other hand, puts all his anxiety provoked to-do's on me and expects them to be done, even to the point where, if I have an appt or am out of the office for business for the day, he still expects me to do the normal routine- even if it's 10 at night. I won't do that so we argue and then I can't sleep.
Sorry for the long story, but I just want to thank you for your perspective on mental illness. I helps me to understand why I and my husband act why we do. It helps me be a little more kind when I want to kill him.
Thanks so much for what you do.
As someone with hoarding tendencies who has both OCD and ADHD, I just want to say that finding your cleaning channel has been such a blessing for our farmhouse and homestead. Add in physical health problems as well with advancing age too, I have such problems tricking my neurodivergent brain into actual action (and out of overwhelmed paralysis), and many of your methods seem to be distilled versions of partitioning tactics I've used in the past. Now, I don't have to feel so weird for having pristine "islands" of OCD cleanliness right next to hoarded areas I haven't gotten to yet. I really do have to put blinders on when I'm cleaning or I get so sidetracked by distractions that no one project ever gets completely finished.
I was diagnosed with ADHD-I and depression in my late thirties (now 63) and cannot tolerate the meds. My self devised coping mechanisms no longer worked once I had kids. Your channel has helped me more than any channel that is exclusively dedicated to ADHD. Thank you!
P.S. Emily, your makeup is on point!
I'm just watching this, but the real big message is forgiveness. You have to forgive yourself if you don't accomplish something . It's okay, really. Holding yourself accountable is the grown-up thing to do, but forgiving yourself is grown-up as well. You folks are special, I enjoy your videos, and I wish you forward momentum in all your goals. :)
The first bit about getting distracted, then being exhausted but not done with goal, has been my daily existence. It's also very unfulfilling.
Greetings from Bosnia and Herzegovina. ADHD is difficult and I manage to deal with it. I divide tasks into small parts and write down what I need to do. In addition to full-time employment, I succeed in the company, although it is difficult, to keep my home tidy. I appreciate what you are doing.
I just found your channel today. I have been out of work since last October and have filed for disability. I am having to try and overcome health and strength issues daily to get anything done. I am so glad to have found your channel as I feel it is amazing therapy. Love that yall are so honest, caring and funny.
Just enjoy your lives ,you have made me understand that all my live I have HDHD..Will get in touch with my GP..❤
Thank you very much for this video. Watching your videos has helped me begin to get control of my mental chaos. Before I would start to empty the dishwasher & take a spoon to hang up by the stove & that would remind me I had to take something out for dinner. So I'd go to my deep freezer in the porch to take something out but I'd see a coat that needed to be hung up in the porch, so I'd grab it on my way to the freezer. I'd hang it & notice something left in the porch so I'd grab it and go put it in whatever room it belonged & so this would continue. Two hours later the dishwasher is still open & unfinished and I hadn't taken anything out for dinner. I'd be cleaning all day long but nothing was getting done. I'm starting to get some control. I always watch one of your videos before I begin ... great inspiration. Thank you.
Thanks again for an interesting video today. I look forward to Mondays to hear what topic you talk about. Emily was very insightful! Yea for your new beautiful car! Bless you both. 🤩🙏💜
It’s one method to clean. Worth trying. I jump all around all,over all day long(adhd). I also have a routine now, that each night I do all the dishes. No matter what. Because skipping one day puts the whole kitchen in a disaster. Stove and counters and sink are cleaned now as well. There are no pre washing before loading into dishwasher. Using quality dishwasher tabs and a good dishwasher works. Anything that does not fit gets washed immediately. This saves time because the food does not get crusted on. There are still often random things on the counter for way too long but it has to be easy to put something away and not just put it down, so drawers and cupboards need sufficient space. If cooking a big meal, one sink has soapy water in it so I can clean as I go. Decluttering junk we did not use was key. Each morning dishwasher is unloaded and dishes drying on counter are all put away and go away easily due to the decluttering. It feels so good to get up and see a clean kitchen in the mornings, that is my dopamine hit now. My kitchen used to be a regular disaster. I am really proud of myself for this. Dana K White is someone else I follow and she has great advice about dishes, and laundry and other regular upkeep that really helps with how our brains are wired.
Also when you are caught up on dishes and laundry, you can see what is actually needed by your household. And often we have too many. And it’s ok to give up parts of sets. Like who needs 40 coffee mugs. ( yes I had that many) . Now if no mugs, I am forced to wash the dishes. Same with laundry and too many clothes. If I can put it away easily, I have the right amount. If I struggle to fit it in drawer, I have too many.
I knew you followed Dana as soon as I read the start of your post 😁 She's great. My guess is she's undiagnosed ADHD 😂 so she gets it. 28 days to hope for your home lays a good foundation.
@@melaniehutchinson5306I need to really buckle down and try laundry day for a while
Thank you, Mack. I tried this method and it worked!! This is the first method that has worked for me. You are the best psychologist. You should have a TV show. Or at least go on talk shows.
I know this video is older but it's actually blowing my mind how good these tips are and I appreciate that it came from a place of genuine understanding rather than judgement. I got really frustrated with myself just the other day because all I wanted to do was clean my desk but then I saw that I had laundry that needed to be done and on my way to bringing laundry downstairs to the washer I realized I had to clean out my lunch container for work the next day so I left my laundry on the top of the stairs to start washing the dishes and then next thing I knew I grabbed a drink from the fridge and was relaxing in my bedroom and it just blows my mind how stuff like that happens but if I stop leaving the room to put stuff away, to start laundry, etc., then there's less to be distracted by and I don't know how I never thought of that. Thank you so much for these videos, they really help me feel understood and like maybe I am not as dumb as I feel. Also, as a side note, I really love how you start each video by introducing yourself as some weird name, it's always so funny to me 😭
I've been cleaning like this forever! I use a basket to put things in to take to other rooms when I'm done with whatever room I'm working on. Because I can definitely get redirected. 😂
This! "Other room stuff" goes in a basket! I clean small areas at a time, use 5-10 min timers and harness the hyperfocus. I focus on creating little "vignettes" one at a time and each one is a win. A whole room is often unachievable. I also use " next most stupidly easy step" thinking to help when I stall.
you and detoxing have been super helpful to me in tackling my chores, I'm an artist so my home is art supplies and things in process , I do finish projects but I have a small space and I usually have 4 art projects going at one time so the house looks trashed. YOU ARE SUCH A BLESSING TO ME BECAUSE OF YOUR METHOD I ACTUALLY DONT FEEL SO OVERWHELMED , SO THANK YOU SO MUCH!
I have just started watching your videos. I commend you on how well you explain the reason behind the actions you take when cleaning. It has helped me understand my son’s ADHD behavior. I can multitask very well, so it has been very hard for me to understand what goes on in my son’s head when I ask him to clean his room. I have seen the light! Thank you. I have always thought he was a sloppy person who had ADHD. Now I know better. It’s the disorder !
I am ADHD and my apartment has lots of “collections” on the floor. Tou have taught me so much and I am really grateful for the methods you give for dealing with the condition and learning to clean despite it. Thank you! I love the channel and all of you. 😊
Love what you said about paying your employees well. Bravo! We need more of that in our capitalist system. ❤️
Beard looks great! Emily’s hair is beautiful! I don’t think I have ADHD, but your cleaning method works for me.
Oh. You just described me to a T. Hm.
I love you guys! I am almost 72 and was just diagnosed with ADHD. (Female) I am going through the medication trials and for me it is frustrating. You guys talking make me feel like I am not alone! I go to sleep like you watching videos! Everyone keeps telling me that is wrong and my brain won't shut down. Doesn't it annoy you how others tell you how to deal with it!? If only they really knew how it was! Thank you!
You make a difference in many lives. God bless you you have a great ♥
I don’t know if you will ever see this comment but I want to tell Emily that I also crochet (as I watch your videos) and I also have ADHD. But what I really want to tell her is that she has the most interesting crocheting method that I have never seen and I’ve been crocheting for 20 years! Also thank you for everything you are doing. ❤
Emily is BEAUTIFUL ♥️‼️I really enjoy watching her on your show ‼️Your explanations are SO VERY HELPFUL ‼️ Thank you very much 👍🏼
OMG!! She just started talking and even the bathroom thing is ME ME ME EXACTLY!!! AND I GET SOOO BALLED UP INSIDE!! My family thinks I'm a spaz and I also have sensory issues and have been diagnosed with things like agoraphobia bc it's draining just thinking about the aspects involved in leaving. So, 2 hrs later...I finally leave, shower, or psych myself up enough to be able to handle the critical issue of not quite fitting in.
Thanks MMC 4 ❤!!!!
Watching T V is almost impossible for me to do because I can’t sit still. The “move it twice” method does work for me, but “body doubling” has been the most effective strategy. Over the last 3 years, “body doubling” was the only way I was able to accomplish anything due to my chronic fatigue and other medical issues.
I never heard of body doubling before. I'm the opposite. I hate working with another person in the vicinity because it's too distracting for me. I don't know how I'm going to cope when my husband retires because I can't work around him; he talks nonstop, gets in my way, tells me I'm doing it wrong, etc. If he's home, I don't even try to get anything done. Just getting ready to go somewhere gives me a panic attack because wherever I need to be, he's there fiddling around, blocking my way. The other day we had a big event to go to, and I told him that I was going to be getting ready at x time, and he needed to be completely ready and out of my way by that time. It almost worked. He just cannot help himself.
I have CFS too. I call my Mum and we both do housework while talking to each other. It works brilliantly.
I relate with your wife a lot. When I’m in the mood to clean and have my plan in mind but, let’s say someone comes over without me knowing or if I’m asked to go hang out with friends I get stressed and completely throw the whole day away.
💯💯💯💯! An unannounced visitor is a nightmare
same💯
OMG I would love a guided meditation channel by you Mack!! ♥️❤️💗
This explanation has greatly helped me understand a client I am helping right now. As we continue to clear the home, I'll keep this information in mind-thank you. And you're right, there are loads of how-to vids but I appreciate the humour that pops in unexpectedly-some of your phrases from other videos will definitely help me when I'm in the middle of a sticky cleaning situation- not to mention the practical tips. Thank you from Ontario Canada
That is amazing....I'm 70 years old and I think Emily just explained how I've been all my life....I never realized it before.
I love how you explain everything so well. You too are a great couple. Life is so difficult for so many people. Getting diagnosed with what is going on with yourself is important and helps you to deal with every day issues. 😊
Something that helps to keep things in the room they go in, is to put a basket in each room by the door or on the stairs if it goes upstairs. When I pass the object I grab it and take it with me when I go to the other room. Saves running around all the time.
YES!!!!! NEVER has anything been as helpful as this!!! No amount of thank yous for what y’all do would suffice. But thank you!
I feel guilty - it has taken me since Monday to watch just up to 47:53 as the hoarded back yard I'm helping to clean up has required a lot of brain strain engineering, construction. I found I couldn't lift everything I needed to because I had 2 sugeries this year, and it hurts, so truth be told, it meant hiring and managing men to do things I used to be able to do.
Which is difficult itself, as I also have ADHD w ABI/TBI on top.
Which is also why I keep having to go back & rewatch because it's not sticking, or I start to write a comment, fall asleep writing and it posts incomplete jibberish. But here, at 3:30 a.m. (again), I just really appreciate all that you guys do - your modeling of care, compassion and the effort of working to understand the other person, and how to communicate in ways that work. In helping a hoarder I care about, I've desperately needed and made use of that reminder.
In addition, thank you for giving me the words to explain to others why they need to be compassionate, how their demanding or yelling or putting down, or threatening, is not going to be productive. Thank you for helping me explain how other ways of being unsupportive are not helpful also - like judging things that don't need to be judged.
For example: He hoards firewood from fallen trees in his big yard. But firewood is valuable if taken care of, and he has an extremely efficient woodstove that would heat his house (if he could reach it) and he uses a wood cooking grill in his yard.
My goal in building wood racks to hold that wood, is not to "enable a hoard," but to be able to have opportunities for conversations; to build trust; to build his confidence and enthusism for whatever our next step is - and with it, an openness to the idea of seeing a hoarding therapist.
It doesn't matter to me if he could burn all of it in his lifetime, or if his reason for saving every stick makes sense to me. [Singing Monty Python style: 🎶 "Every stick is wanted, every stick is good. Every stick is needed, from this neighborhood..."🎶🤣]
But that's truly not for me - or for anyone else - to judge if it is stored neatly, and safely; in a manner geared to preventing rodent infestations and rot, a sufficient distance from his or others' houses, and if the thing he is burning his wood in is safe, is being used safely, and is an approved device being used in an approved manner.
The racks have made his space useable and tidy; and they've created space for cabinets to house his garden tools and flowerpots.
I cannot clear all of his hoard, but that's 70% of the mess outside DONE. Ta-dah!
"So suck it."🤣
Thank you for being an online, daily support through your videos! It has really kept this on track!!!
Emily, thank YOU for being so candid about the struggles you have. I screw up so much of everything I try to do - have to unscrew, rescrew, t
I love cleaning, its when my mind settles. I have pretty bad anxiety and agoraphobia at the moment (years) but listening to you and watching your videos really are a tonic.
I just found your channel, I guess I was subscribed but didn’t know it, when I was diagnosed with ADHD it was an AMAZING thing for me. After trying several medications I stuck to Vivance. It has saved my house, mind set and my confidence. I used to live by pages of notes of things to do before meditation, now I am focused, happy, and motivated. 😊
You two are soooo awesome.. I continue to learn so much, gain insight into myself and others { at 80 } and my love and respect for both of you just increases. I sense that you've done a lot of work on your relationship and it shows in the interactions you so generously share with us. Thank you both. God Bless. Fondly, Dorothy.
This is my first time watching you both live I'm enjoying it and I think your a very special couple I will keep you both in my prayers before my family member became ill I use to clean for a living it's hard work but I think it's really wonderful that your blessing other people and helping them
Take care God bless. Patricia
I so appreciate you explaining hoarding as well as ADHD. I have found it all so fascinating, and its so good to better understand these problems people we care about. Depression is a problem in my family, and ive learned from you. Thank you!😊
I can completely relate to all of this. Thank you for sharing. God bless you for all you are doing to help others, you have such a gift.
I love that you did this video. It helps a lot of people. You two look amazing talking about your interaction with each other struggles and it's great that you have find a way to help each other and us too😊 U are the best! ❤
This was so helpful, a special thank you to Emily. It seemed like she was reading my script. I better understand why I get enraged when something, big or little, interrupts my routine. I'm very routine oriented and live by the post-it note and check list, if anything disrupts this, I get so angry. I've never understood why I could be in a good mood, doing my thing and for example, the cat runs across the coffee table and knocks the remote to the floor and I react like someone just stole my car. THANK YOU!!!
Gosh, i have always hated cleaning because it cut into my creative time. I am a creative ADHD person. I live to problem solve and create. What a paradigm shift you have just given me. By the way, i taught special ed for thirty years. I knew i was learning disabled, but fugured out the ADHD more recently. I had blamed most of my issues on PTSD.
I’ve only watched the first 15 minutes so far and what you are both saying is really clicking with me. I’ve not been diagnosed with ADHD but strongly suspect I am. I have used this cleaning method by accident more than design sometimes and it’s the only time anything can get done. After listening to you talk about it I’m going to try to implement this more consciously and see if I manage to succeed a little more often. Thanks ☺️
God bless you and your family for all you do for others in need.
Moving cluttered items from one spot to a designated clutter area has always been something I do before I was even aware I had adhd. You're spot on with that. I always felt like breaking it down bit by bit helped me not to get too overwhelmed. Hit the nail on the head man!
I admire the way you clean and organize. It makes total sense ! Very similar to the way I do it. And I LOVE your dry humor-makes me laugh so hard sometimes. Thank you!
Love you both. Thanks for being so open with us. ♥️❤️💗
I m a grandma( old) but still work, full time and I can’t sit still. I play with a mini slinky, or a marble, when I m stressed or bored. Something to keep my hands busy. Thank you for helping so many people🥰
I can totally identify with everything Emily said. I’m so glad the two of you put together this video. I found it very helpful.
I only recently started watching you. I too am ADHD, and will be applying your techniques. Thank you very much Barbara
I'm 54 and female and know I have adhd now but I was misdiagnosed with bipolar disorder yrs ago. I'm not on any meds anymore, don't have a Dr and feeling pretty alone except for the adhd videos all over the tube. You guys are great fun and made me laugh! Thank you so much for that 💜 I also really appreciate an adhd friendly cleaning video that makes sense to me. I always thought something was wrong with me from a very young age but this year I figured out what is different about me, not wrong with me! ADHD! Things started to make sense when I watch others with it. It's been eye opening and liberating for sure.
I thought your analogy (15:00 forward) of losing your place in a book you’re reading is brilliant. It helped me understand what life is like for a person with ADHD. And, congratulations on your NEW CAR!!🎉
People have so much so sayvwhen they are not face to face. It's crazy. Thank you so much for your videos. I have learned so much.
Yea!! Son. I’m a 54yo F diagnosed last year and it was the most liberating thing in my life. So many questions answered. For some people I need to also reference neurodiversity but thrilled to know me! Ooohhhh and the pick this up and put that there, twice….was exactly what I thought of when I was stacking wood yesterday😂. ☮️ 😊
Hey guys! I’m a fairly new subscriber, and I love the channel. I’m undiagnosed but I believe I have ADHD. Your video on how to tackle cleaning with ADHD was SO helpful. I set a timer, and only cleaned my kitchen so I wouldn’t make my home more of a mess with my toxic gremlin piles. That method was very effective and I plan on utilizing it on the rest of my apartment. As you know- living with Autism and ADHD is extremely difficult because this world is not designed for us but I finally feel understood here 😊
Mack I feel your pain. I have a bad back as well. I just never know when it will strike. Take care of you & Thank you for all that you do. You are so kind ❤❤❤
Thank you so much for your insight and wisdom, its really helpful!
I just found your channel, I think it was the day before yesterday. I started binging. I got inspired to make some APC and clean my fridge (not the freezer part yet, though, it’s not as bad, and it’s for later today). It was 12/31/2023, the last day of the year and I so wanted a new fresh start with food I actually eat, no more leftovers or ketchup bottles that I’m keeping just because it’s still 1/4 full. Nope, gone! I tossed so much! I wiped everything down and took out the drawers and cleaned them shelf by shelf in small steps. Now watching this video I realize…I might have ADHD. I get so distracted and my focus gets pulled so easily. The method you are describing here I think I could apply to my whole life. Even if I have to touch the same thing 10 times later on, it will be worth it. I need to keep my focus on just one area, one victory at a time. I really don’t know how to thank you. This is a game changer for me for 2024. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏👍
This is such a timely discussion for me to watch, I really appreciate you guys.
I have ADHD and I've been living on my own since the start of COVID, so about 3 years now. I never really learned how to be organized, and I have not fully unpacked some boxes (it didn't help that my landlord hadn't cleaned the place before I moved in, so I didn't feel comfortable setting my stuff up in a dusty place, leading to me having to clean AROUND my furniture😩) and it had just become stuff on top of stuff and increasingly daunting. I used your method to FINALLY clear off an armchair that has been unsit-able and covered with stuff since i moved in. Yeah im gonna touch things twice, but at least Im ACTUALLY MOVING IT. Im actually sitting in it while typing this right now 😊 one piece of the living room puzzle is complete! Thanks for all you do and share!
Idea for a live: hoarding and personality disorders, particularly narcissism. Would love to hear from you and this community on the subject.
Not sure if there is a connection, but my brother was a narcissist and a semi hoarder. He wasn’t the worst case, but definitely out of the ordinary for most people.
That would be something I would be interested in.
I'd LOVE to see how to work on my disorganization goals around a narcissist!!!
@@kookykreek Yes, I see a connection in my NPD roommate AND when I saw the sister's mouse infested hoarder house (in a nice location and quite nice but very outdated house/garage, it may be some MHealth issues???
How do you live with mice droppings galore, yet have $$$$$$ yet act poverty stricken and deprive yourself to the point of eating rotted food and looking like a thrift shop discard, let your house fall apart, etc.?????
BTW, the sister was placed in a nursing home (2 so far) some months ago.
So much relatable info here today. The cleaning tips have helped me!
If you text your own number you can keep a log of notes for yourself without sending to others. 👍🏼💕
Cambriea, when she is doing organizing, cleaning out, for people moves things multiple times. She creates "piles" of like things and then when she has her piles she then organizes them into other piles. It really makes sense when you are cleaning/organizing a larger mess you would have to categorize, handle more than once, in order to clean. Love what you do.
Thank you for this awesome video! I have pretty much done this type of cleaning my whole life and yes Im ADHD. Let me tell you, i divide my room into zones and hyper focus on the particular zone. I also set a timer, It really helps!!! Also, hey if you hate piles of dishes, organize them first then clean them. OMG doing this helps me soooo much! I think my house is fairly clean but i do have to work extra hard to keep it that way.
Listening in at about 6.40 mins, and yes you're spot on.
I've discovered these type of your videos, and I think they're great. So easy to listen to, plain terms plus includes the little indiosyncrasies of the disorders.
Keep at it ❤
From nz