I Learned This in My 40s (But Wish I Knew in My 20s)
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- Опубліковано 5 лют 2025
- I didn’t fully understand how important this skill was until my 40s, and looking back, I wish I’d known it in my 20s-it could have changed everything.
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Hi! My name is Mel - Back from Burnout! And if you’re wanting to learn how to sell online and how I run a successful small business then this is DEFINITELY the place for you! My goal is to inspire and motivate you and I hope you enjoy watching my videos to learn more about how I make money selling online.
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I first started reselling in my 20s. But then university, life and everything took over. I restarted reselling again in my 40s. I have to tell you. In your 40s, we just stop caring about people's opinions of us. We want independence. We just realized that the only opinion that matters is the one we have of ourselves. I love these videos.
Confidence is a skill you just have to keep working on. I have watched you grow immensely. Good for your daughter to have confidence to talk with you about it. Love your work videos. Did you find that book you were looking for for the multi order?
@@sweetgirl4u247 thank you! You are so right!
I like the “cat purring “ 12 hr utube video lol. My Dad taught me something that I always think about when considering trying something new……”The answer is always NO unless you ask the question “ if you ask it could be yes! Love your content, you are an inspiration 💕
I’ll have to try the cat purring now ha ha
“What people think of me is none of my business” is one of the BEST quotes I have ever heard and it changed my life in so many positive ways.
Hey, Mel great video. When doing your videos, whether long or short talk when you want to talk. Walk away from the camera. Do what you have to do and come back and don't worry about it if you're gonna do any work with me videos. The whole point is. We're supposed to be with you while you're working, so we don't want you to be making up videos when you got stuff to do and the subject was good and applicable. Everything you said was true and on point. Thanks for content.👍🇨🇦
I actually don’t think you ever come across as a fool. I like your honesty and attitude. You give good basic advice.
@@lisaa6099 thank you 🙏
I listen to you when I am awake at night. You are good company 😊
Love these types of videos Mel! My confidence dips when sales drop off. I list consistently and when I have no stock, I end relist while adjusting the price. I list good quality items but sometimes it’s just the environment of the world right now, being after Xmas and new years. I keep going because I know it will kick off eventually! Keep hustling and listing!
Technsports always says "where not in business for a day". The sales will dip up and down but it's how they all even out. But as resellers whose income can dip, it's important to have some extra money saved in the business account for those times when it's lower.
Hi Mel! Loved the mills and boon bundles ! And I don’t read romance and I am in the USA 🤣. FYI, the first bundle you did on this video, you took out a duplicate but your first photo of the stack had the double in it. I don’t want you to have a wrong description in case someone says there were not enough. Keep the 5 star rating!
I think it was actually the second bundle 😬
I love (and prefer) your work with me videos. Chat as little or much as you want. I'd happily watch a live stream of you doing photos or pick and pack work. Live streams would mean no editing for you and they needn't be live/interactive Q&A sessions. You could perhaps include answers to questions from the comments section etc while you chat. I do miss your live streams! Just watching the first few minutes of this video so far has me motivated to photograph some stock which is the part of listing I loathe.
Sourcing and road trips vidoes etc are less interesting to me simply because this aspect of reselling is so specific to one's location, however I appreciate lots of people love them and I always let them play through to help clock up the views. But the packing videos and seeing what sold and for how much is something that can resonate for all Australian sellers.
Great to see you back on air and into the swing of things again ♥
Hey Mel, I like these kinds of videos. I listen to you while I'm working so I don't feel alone. It's like we're coworkers 😊 Reselling is a lonely business sometimes so UA-cam keeps me company
@@nickythethriftygramma that’s so awesome!
My father always said "compliments are free". Thank you for another video!
Thank you for this video. Without even turning on the sound, I learned something. I’ve been using the ring light incorrectly!😊 This explains the tint on my photos.
Oh wow. That’s great then!
Thanks Mel, needed to hear this again this morning- “what’s the worst that could happen” 😃❤️
You are honestly an inspiration. So glad you are back at it. We'll done! You are doing awesome!
Thank you for watching!
OMG i have juat laughed as you have talked me and you are the same age had kids around the same age and you literally could be talking about me, over talking when anxious, being shy when younger, people thinking we are confident because of what we do. It has made me chuckle. Just remember you are amazing 😍
Thank you :)
I don't mind at all that you work while you talk. I wait to watch until it's my listing time in the evenings, and I don't feel so guilty about not watching the video part, and it's not such a lonely process. So - we all win! Thanks, Mel!
FLIPCON….never showed anything less than confidence! And loved the ONJ dress-up.😊
Great work Mel. Weirdly I mentioned on one of mine recently about confidence in front of the camera too and how if I thought about actual people watching me then I might not do it. 😅 It feels like a totally different thing though. Your “Mel Talks” are brilliant 😊
overtalking and oversharing is definitely an anxiety symptom. Its also a symptom of loneliness because when you find someone who will listen it all just tumbles out x I'm almost 50 and still shy but slowly becoming more detached from societies expectations x i cant sleep without my fan lol - even in the middle of winter.
Yes very true. And for me also a symptom of having ADHD. It's amazing how relaxing the sound of a fan is while sleeping (or trying to fall asleep)!
@@backfromburnoutI have a vertical standing fan with a remote. I don't understand how it blows COLD air, but I'm not complaining. Mine has a button for white noise, but I put on one of the streaming services and I fall asleep to Wyatt Earp or Bat Masterson. 😅😂 My favorite style of video is when you're sourcing at a book fair. Also pick and pack when you give the prices. I'm an avid reader and used to work in the media section of a Salvation Army, so I get such a thrill as you're looking through books. LOL Save some cages for video if possible. I've been looking forward to that the most!! You're doing phenomenal, Mel. BTW, I happened to catch a video from Tech saying that he's out of the clothing business, and selling hats! I couldn't believe it. Did you mention that and I missed it? Do you ever talk to Chris? I hope Maise is doing well❤
Mel, you need to raise the height of your photography desk, you are not doing your back any favours, I can feel every movement with you squatting down to take the photos
I loved this video. I was actually shopping on e-bay when you were talking. I watched intently the for 35 minutes on how you were packaging the books and then I listened to your Mel Talk and when you started doing the gardening books I started watching again. I AGREE ON THE CONFIDENCE ISSUE. I am prior military and without confidence there is no way I would not have been eaten alive by other members if I had not been so tough/confident. I still am confident to this day at age 71 and I also am an E-Bay seller for 3 years now - it flew by. My shop is to keep my brain working and not necessarily for income since I am retired from the government. So YAY MEL - ANOTHER GREAT VIDEO!!!! THANK YOU!! Your videos brighten my day.
You’re a great motivator so I’d love for more of these videos to come also. Hopefully they are a little easier to edit and hopefully you can share more. I don’t sell books, but the information you share translate to so much that I’m always waiting for the next video to drop.
Thank you for answering the question about what you do with those hundreds of photos on your phone and your computer!
Great to see you back on a roll, Mel!
Thank you!
That was a great video. I love listening to you talk about your failings and your triumphs. I had some unjustified negative feedback recently and it really threw me, I felt like chucking it all in. Instead I wrote an honest reply to them and carried on. It's hard to pick yourself up when bad things happen and nice to know that you are not the only one it happens to.
Very good advice Mel. The charity shops love when resellers take large amounts of inventory off their hands. ❤
They sure do!
Mel, You are amazing, photographing and talking at the same time! And great topic, too. Thanks for educating and entertaining us at the same time ❤️
Hi Mel, I really like these work and talk Vidios. Felt like you were talking to me today. Thanks for the confidence building session. Instead of sitting and eating I was up and cleaning my craft room while watching you. I have been thinking of getting my Ebay business going again (not Books). I might have the confidence now. Might have to binge watch more of your inspiration. Thanks CJ
I met you at flipcon, and you were wonderful. I felt like I was the one stumbling on our conversation because I was so nervous.
That must have been awesome! I started watching her from when she first hit the PhillyPhlippers channel and now I hardly watch him and love watching her. 😂
@@mrslehman3 I was so nervous to meet everyone! It was an unforgettable experience for me going to America.
my nan used to write her name on the Mills and Boon books after she read them as well as many of her friends, I'm guessing they used to share them around. She used to have a few shelves full of the books.
First time writing! I have respect watching all you’ve been thru/ accomplished! Great role model for your girls, and rest of us. Loved your talk on confidence! Never occurred to me it can be “ practiced” you GO GIRL…..LOVE YOUR VIDEOS, your awesome😍
Yes, just like any skill, repetition is what will make it easier.
I want to see your videos as often as you can put them out. They don’t have to be perfectly edited and polished. I learn from you just by watching and listening! For example I was so excited to see how you wrap those bundles!! It’s a small thing but I have often wondered how you wrap those bundles of multi stacks all together in one. I envisioned books tumbling everywhere as you tried to balance multiple stacks of books and get wrapping around them. Now I know!!!! Easy peasy!!!!
Yes! If you try and bundle them in one lot it’s impossible!
just me doing some in warehouse work with all your videos on all day lol ... thank you for these
You do you ... if you need to work and talk go for it. Ive always enjoyed your videos where your busy ... love watching the process you do things. :) I dont always watch every video but i've been coming back and checking in with your content for over two years now and your an inspiration.
Thanks for the mention Mel. We are getting back to the non fearful place we once was at ❤
Proud of you James, you're doing awesome and I'm cheering you on!
Another great video. Maisie has a great role model in you. ❤❤ I think youre so brave just being you on camera, as you are off camera.
Lying here in Qld, a tropical thunder and lightning storm. No power, full on blackout. Listening to you waiting for the power to return. Thankyou for keeping me company lol. Great work. Cheers Teresa
I take all my pics with the eBay app, and save as drafts. Then later, I complete the drafts on my desktop. I've tried different ways, it just works best for me.
We all have our own workflow and if that is fast and easy for you then keep doing it! As long as were getting it done :)
Same
Thank you mel for another great video ❤i loved the pep talk on confidence one i struggle with because i am an introvert and like to be myself but i am still working on it 😊 best wishes and love from the states ❤❤❤❤
Keep practising and it becomes easier! I promise! And new doors will open for you that otherwise wouldn’t have
I’m watching this while laying in bed in Los Angeles where the fires are raging. I learned an Aussie term tonight, “whipper snipping.” Sounds so funny to hear this.
I feel for you. These fires were so preventable. It's just so unfortunate that politicians who are Luddites are running the show there. Hope your own house is safe.
Keep safe ❤ April
Another great video. Would love to see how Thom processes his orders and photographs.
Packing video with Thom is on the cards!
@ yayyy!!!
I’m watching your old videos and you are happy healthier and wiser you’re doing something right there
Great topic! I'm so glad we can work & grow our confidence muscle.
Hi Mel, I listen to your videos twice... one time I pay attention and then I watch again as company while I work... I love your videos, keep up the good work!! Sending a HELLO from MN, USA
Great video, Mel. Head down and keep working and don't worry about the mass of books you have to process - you are working fast and efficiently and you'll process through them in good time and worrying about it will not make it happen any faster. And as you said for hiring help - it will happen when you can get to it. Giving your working situation, it's essential you find someone you can trust and are compatible with.
I love your working vlogs! No offense but I prefer these over just talking❤
I had a actress I was stage managing say to me once her momma told her not everyone is going to like you and you are not going to like everyone. I've pasted this on to my kids. And it is true.
Hi Mel....just a quick tip for you regarding how to lower your stress, anxiety before sleep.....a teaspoon of peanut butter!!!!! It really works. Try it ( if you're not allergic)....wishes from Athens Greece 🧿💙🇬🇷
Hi Mel! I love to get my work done with you. Like to get my listings done and then I can have a video on. Sales have been good one day and ok the next day...roller coaster! It is what it is. LOL Have a super day and envious of your warm weather.
Listening while working. Confidence is a big one for sure. I think many resellers are actually introverts. I love these videos, watching you work while I work, LOL. Still watching/listening.
Yes, I agree many are introverts and why we like working from home and on our own. Many watch UA-cam for company so they don't feel alone as many of our friends and family don't really even understand what we do.
Looooved this video! Thanks for the reminders, Mel!
It’s cool videos while you work. I listen and I work at the same time ☺
Another great video Mel 😊. I love watching any of your videos and it's a great inspiration for me and my eBay store. Also for some reason I found the Exhibition Poultry book hilarious 😂🤣 🦃🐔🐓... I've saved it on my eBay watchlist, just willing it to sell for you!
Loved the talk on confidence. Also got some work done.
Ohh yea, I like some kind of background noise while sleeping, rain is the best. Just found your channel and enjoying it greatly. I am a reseller in Texas.
Hello from South Carolina. Love hanging out and hearing your thoughts. I am a reseller, but not of books. I know you were always learning new things when it comes to grow in your business and I’m so grateful when you share your new found knowledge. God bless and Godspeed.
Thank you - I just learned how to get photos from camera to computer.
Whipper snipping 😂😂😂😂😂
I really liked this! Thank you!
I have been looking forward to watching you start sorting through the cages. I have noticed the last couple of videos you say you have gone through another cage…I think it would be fun like it is to watch your sped up pick and packs to have you just set a camera up and we watch you sort it out. I do appreciate you are overwhelmed with time and Tom needing the cages fast. Just missed watching you do this part.
I will have more cage videos coming but sorting through the fiction cages is boring to film as most of the fiction is not fiction I want to keep. The gardening cage was good. Thom is dropping another few cages in today so hopefully they will be non fiction and I will make some more filming videos doing that.
@ Thanks for replying! (P.S.: I think your childhood dollhouse may be your new warehouse mascot! I keep seeing it up on the shelf while you do your photography videos! )🤗
So I'm a professional engineer. Alot of times I am asked to give young engineers advice. I always tell them to learn to be confident. For me having confidence is not being afraid to speak up and admit when you don't know something and to ask for help. Never pretend you know something you don't because you are afraid to admit you don't know it. Be confident and speak up, learn, etc. People respect you more for that than pretending. 90% of the time they'll know anyway. Also when interviewed alot of times people will ask what is your biggest strength, and I always say my confidence. I'm confident enough in myself to not be afraid to ask and speak up and admit when I don't know something. Engineers have such a reputation for being arrogant, etc. So when operators or maintenance staff (I work in water and wastewater) realize I am willing to admit I don't know everything and I will ask and listen, they respect that (and frankly feel respected themselves). This has helped me so much, I can't even measure it.
So all that to say I 100% agree with everything you said. I think all of this applies across your whole life and other professions, etc.
I was very much like you as a kid and into my late 20s. I then had a seasonal job where I worked hard and had a supervisor who thought I could do anything. She changed my life. I ended up doing things I had never dreamed I would do. I will still never be the life of the party but can hold my own. I'm enjoying the frequent videos but don't wear yourself out.🇨🇦
Thanks mel for the chit chat about confidence and i will work at it as i lack confidence i no it held me back for too many years im nearly sixty and we never to late to learn a new skill and small steps eventually gets to the top of a mountain so reallt appreciate this video thank you mel❤❤❤ ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Needed this pep talk today! 😊 Thank you Mel! Also have you heard of or tried brown noise? Similar to white noise but for those of us with ADHD its a different frequency that is also helpful when feeling anxious or falling asleep… highly recommend giving it a listen.
Listing while you are taking photos!! I’m so happy you are smiling and laughing again!! I love your videos and look forward to them!! Keep up the great work Mel!! Oh ~ it is a really bad habit but I sleep with my television on!! 📺
~Tammy from America
I've used white noise apps before to help me with anxiety. Used to need them a lot more several years ago, I also have trouble with my ears and tinnitus, the white noise helps a lot. Fortunately I think having my sweet dog by my side has been calming for me now. 💖
Hi Mel. Like this format for a video. Although you looked mega busy, you also looked relaxed too. Take each day as it comes and you will fly through the crates.
Mel, a lot of people would not have the guts to start their own business or appear every day on video...! I enjoy listening to your trails and tribulations as a professional bookseller...! I find it all fascinating perhaps because I've dreamed of opening my own bookstore someday...! So very cool to have you around sharing your views! Thanks and best of luck with all the latest changes...!
Never let fear stop you from trying something you want to do. Nobody gets to their deathbed regretting something they tried. Only what they wish they had.
Ha this is why we are friends, anxious confidence all day every day! Love the photo chat videos.
Lol 😂. I am also expanding my eBay business and working so so hard and so tired through quarter 4. Ive had to rework my home office and warehouse space so many times while also managing everyday family life. I’m rooting for you Mel. Its like if Mel can do it so can I. But you really made me laugh today because when you said sometimes its a real sh@t show in here I so laughed… I literally was in my office thinking the same about my business today. You go girl! We can do this. Thanks for sharing your struggles and your successes.
Love this video, everything is bang on! Maybe you need a staff member, but maybe you don’t... there’s pluses and minuses, if you keep it solo you keep all the profits, I’m growing my business but only to as much I can do solo, I want to keep control of it and there are so many on costs hiring people, they would make more than me. You do you 🙂
I love your working videos!
Having a fan on is also great for redirecting mosquitoes whilst sleeping 😉😊
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Great video! It is so uplifting to hear you being so positive! Keep up the great work and remember to take time for YOU!! You got this!!
You've got it down to a science. So smooth and efficient!
Love your videos, you have lots of tips and tricks and great systems, THank you for sharing, Have you ever shared in a video how you list?
Thanks for all the encouragement!
You are doing a great job keep up the good work.
Hi Mel! Love watching how you're working. It's probably helpful for you, too, to get other people's thoughts on your processes and workflow 🤩
How are you getting on with the stock take? Would love to see any issues that you've found and how you're moving over to the new skew system.. Keep up the good work x 😍
I love your motivational message. I needed to hear it 🙏🏼😘
Great video ❤ will you be doing an updated video about budgetting?
Yes I’m going to do one soon about money
@@backfromburnouthappy about it 😊
You end up getting to a point as you age where you could careless what others think and you just need to live your life. I’m in my 40’s also and I’m at the point now. 😂
@@mediapicker2205 yes! Isn’t it freeing!
Thanks Mel 😊
I always look forward to the videos! Greetings from Brazil! 🇧🇷
😂 whipper snipping 😂 we say weed back, lol.
Weed back! Wow never heard of that! Lol
I can relate. Coming from another burnout champion, please be careful not to overdo it with doubling your sales. A lot can be said for gradual growth, I have had some spectacular burnouts after setting the bar too high 😅
Taking photos with you, Mel! Great work mate! Thank you for these. Doubling our sales together.
Let's go!
Great videos and so helpful great insight for such as me starting selling physical media in the UK all the ups and downs,One question if you don't mind do you use the postal system built into ebay itself? of via you the australian postal service.I am torn between one already in ebay or use the Royal mail over here I have it all set up bia Royal Mail.Thank you and take care.
Mel great video!!! I love your videos and I really needed this talk today. Thank you so much for what you do!!!
Thanks for the videos. This is another great one, it was very encouraging with good advice in becoming more confident. You’re right, it is just repetition. I have a question, do you find that the heat in the warehouse affect the books? I am a small reseller with about 300 items in my store and I am hesitant to move them into my garage because of the heat. I would love to get your opinion. Thanks again!
Electric heater with fan ASMR❤❤❤
I love these types of videos!!
I wish you could link your ebay store in the description. I would love to support you
Thank you. It’s in my UA-cam bio.
Hello! I've always wondered if you erase the inside of the bundles before you wrap them together? When I've watched your packing videos I never see you undo them before putting them in the mailer. Weird question, I know. ❤😂😂😂❤
It's a great question! Yes I do! (occasionally I do forget though on the bundles but I try not to lol). Before the bundles are bought over to the photo table to photograph I erase the pencil normally on the packing bench. On my new prep area I have put a little caddy with erasers, scissors, pens and stuff so I can do it there on the prep table. It's also another reason bundles take longer. It's much easier to photograph individual books.
@backfromburnout thank you for answering my crazy question! I am so loving the frequency of your videos! Wish I was there to help you! It looks like so much fun! I work for Amazon as a packer so it's funny to me how much I enjoy watching you pack... Like don't I get enough of that already? 😂😂😂
SHIT-SHOW 😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣Love that, had to stop and let you know. No stress for sure. Different strokes for different folks and always a new season. Some come and go for seasons.
lol it does feel like that some days Nana 🤣
My 9 year old granddaughter has a fan on all the time to get to sleep. I draw the line when she stays at mine .I don't like the cold air lol. That's when she puts rain noise on her fone.
Enjoying yr videos mel
Today I just accept sum offers the normally I would have counter. N I think that has resulted in the next 5 sales that I got today (I'm a small reseller n 7 days in less then one day isn't normal)
Whipper Snipping :-) thats a great aussie phrase.
MEL quit trying to please the viewers, you get the vlogs out when you can don't rush it. I checked everyday to see if you dropped another video, for some reason I don't get notifications. #iloveyourconfidence #maiseyyougotthis #lovethechitchatter
would the brown shelves be good to use as your mills and boon inventory, it keeps them all in one area and easy to find for pick and pack? you could put it on the outside of the office wall next to the little area that was going to be the toilet.