How to Get a Wife - Bitange Ndemo

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  • Опубліковано 18 гру 2019
  • Prof Bitange Ndemo's father was an authoritarian man who ruled his home with an iron fist. As a young, naive boy, he believed his father was the ideal representation of the head of a home. Growing up, his own experiences with dating and marriage didn't quite go as expected. He humorously shares about meeting his wife and how this has shifted his mindset towards women, love and marriage. #Engage28 #ShiftHappens #EngageAtFive
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 552

  • @ToxicAfricanKing
    @ToxicAfricanKing 4 роки тому +268

    Bitange doesn't even realize how funny he actually is, lol

    • @jeffbohkenani2394
      @jeffbohkenani2394 4 роки тому +4

      He’s actually fun to watch. Flawless funny.

    • @Mdalasini
      @Mdalasini 4 роки тому +5

      He doesn't 🤣🤣🤣

    • @nyoxray
      @nyoxray 4 роки тому +2

      Was falling off my seat!

    • @Sardankinyua
      @Sardankinyua 4 роки тому +1

      Sure he doesn't

    • @kelmains
      @kelmains 2 роки тому +1

      😂😂so natural and flawless

  • @kiplimolelei4028
    @kiplimolelei4028 4 роки тому +292

    To all people reading comments... Remember to thank Dr. Ndemo for the fast internet speeds we have in Kenya today...This guy transformed the ICT Sector and most people have no Idea. Thank you Daktari.

    • @reseso7149
      @reseso7149 4 роки тому +4

      He transformed the sector and hundreds of thousands of Kenyans today ride on his efforts

    • @davemwangi05
      @davemwangi05 4 роки тому +3

      I had no idea. Is it really him?

    • @kiplimolelei4028
      @kiplimolelei4028 4 роки тому +2

      @@davemwangi05 Yap...He was PS ICT during Kibaki Era.

    • @davemwangi05
      @davemwangi05 4 роки тому

      @@kiplimolelei4028 I remember he was in the ICT but how can it be credited to him? I mean, it looks like private industry is the one thriving in the ICT sector, charging us highly for data. At least I heard that in TZ, the country has subsidized for its citizens.

    • @reseso7149
      @reseso7149 4 роки тому +1

      @@davemwangi05 Yeah

  • @Janet9093
    @Janet9093 4 роки тому +131

    Lesson learnt, No need to waste your time dating and courting for 6 years and end up breaking the relationship, better strike with one arrow and nail it within 6 days you are married. Rest will be bestowed by God.

    • @rosemokogi2896
      @rosemokogi2896 4 роки тому +1

      True.....lol...

    • @harrisonm.mungai2748
      @harrisonm.mungai2748 4 роки тому +2

      It's never a waste of time.

    • @benedictmwendwa8545
      @benedictmwendwa8545 4 роки тому +1

      Never try that.

    • @dolo_minolo1812
      @dolo_minolo1812 4 роки тому +4

      Times have really changed!

    • @vernie7324
      @vernie7324 4 роки тому +6

      I think that's a serious Kisii thing. I have an aunt who went to USA to get married to someone she'd never met. It was a hook up and they only spoke on phone. It's been 20 years plus and she's happy

  • @myartchronicles8918
    @myartchronicles8918 4 роки тому +105

    😁😁😁😁😁this man is funnier than all the funniest comedians I have ever known.

    • @Mdalasini
      @Mdalasini 4 роки тому

      Yes all combined, effortlessly

  • @healdaily360
    @healdaily360 4 роки тому +174

    What a beautifully simple honest earnest sincere warm pressure-free delicious hilarious humorous rib-cracking talk! 😅😅👏

    • @judithouma3715
      @judithouma3715 4 роки тому

      Beautiful, funny and yet true story of the quickest way to get married! A marriage that has lasted 30 yrs!👏👏👏

  • @Ijusthavequestions
    @Ijusthavequestions 4 роки тому +67

    Awww he said 30 days to the day they met instead of 30 years because that's probably how it feels like when you get married for the right reasons and to the right person and live the right way. Simply Inspirational.

  • @anniekamau1537
    @anniekamau1537 4 роки тому +62

    Ati "I lifted the front wheel up,it refused to come down"
    He is such a funny guy 😅😅😅

    • @samsonmusyoka5396
      @samsonmusyoka5396 4 роки тому

      🤣🤣....that's the part i will never forget about his story.

  • @carolinewainaina4426
    @carolinewainaina4426 4 роки тому +86

    It was such a mistake watching this episode with a face mask on ,
    My skin is almost tearing off.
    Such a good story teller, lesson learned sir

  • @kevinkaruga9991
    @kevinkaruga9991 4 роки тому +19

    I was thinking of better strategies of finding a wife in 2020 until i came across this

  • @beatricethuo5878
    @beatricethuo5878 4 роки тому +35

    Who knew Bitange Ndemo was funny with a straight face. He still remains among the best leaders i know in Kenya. Beautiful...

  • @stanleyoketch8134
    @stanleyoketch8134 4 роки тому +28

    This is very hilarious. These are men of a golden generation when you just said your truth and keep your peace.

  • @19915105
    @19915105 4 роки тому +48

    Very powerful!! Whenever you introduce a life partner, you must be given a reason why you shouldn’t marry them. 30 years later Bitange still with a lady who could empty 750ml liquor.RELATIVES, SHUT UP! WACHA WAOANE!!

    • @kenada254
      @kenada254 Рік тому +1

      😂😂😂😂😂bad girl, good man

  • @SirB1
    @SirB1 4 роки тому +36

    As a generation are we too serious about relationships from this guy’s talk it sounds easy n straight forward

  • @kevinnyaga5046
    @kevinnyaga5046 4 роки тому +32

    The Best Kenyan Government PS and pure genius

  • @sallysalley316
    @sallysalley316 3 роки тому +15

    The crowd didn’t disappoint 🔥🔥

  • @bettygithua3124
    @bettygithua3124 4 роки тому +34

    I am impressed that he got his wife within a week. Such a good orator.

    • @petma5551
      @petma5551 4 роки тому

      Betty Githua can this happen today ?

  • @Analyssaify
    @Analyssaify 4 роки тому +11

    Bitange looks younger than I remember!!
    Back to watching...

  • @joyceaduda5419
    @joyceaduda5419 3 роки тому +4

    Who has watched Good doctor? Dr Ndemo is the genius Dr with a disorder. His sense of humour😅😅

  • @Rixpoet
    @Rixpoet 4 роки тому +45

    What a story, Bitange. Delves into a much needed conversation on masculinity.

    • @Rixpoet
      @Rixpoet 4 роки тому +2

      @@tonym4953 dude. Have a good day.

  • @WangechiPenninah
    @WangechiPenninah 4 роки тому +16

    I recently meet them and guess what!!!! they go for jogging together. Mrs Bitange looks so amazing at her age love when they communicate beautiful .

  • @code-with-bob
    @code-with-bob 4 роки тому +16

    ...and God saw the relationship, it was beautiful, magical and true... and He rested on the 7th day 👏

  • @lindanganga71
    @lindanganga71 4 роки тому +17

    Such honesty! Now that's a real man.. Confident in who He is and knows that he doesn't have to demand respect or authority... A servant leader! Wow! Be blessed Daktari

  • @kinyuathuku7783
    @kinyuathuku7783 4 роки тому +29

    One of Kenya's best civil servants ever. Patriotic, hardworking and visionary
    How jubilee failed to give this man a job is beyond me

    • @fredrickmropere6380
      @fredrickmropere6380 4 роки тому +9

      The curse of tribal politics.

    • @Am_YT90
      @Am_YT90 4 роки тому +13

      Am glad his reputation won't be tainted by their nonsense

    • @benogechi5329
      @benogechi5329 4 роки тому +3

      Bitange and Matiangi are cousins and they have a connection through Nyachae....He stepped down for matiangi

    • @Muthonie
      @Muthonie 3 роки тому

      I don't think they were focused on finding such persons to serve Kenyans. They had different priorities based on the evidence on the ground

  • @french7948
    @french7948 4 роки тому +22

    "I struggled to understand this because I really wanted to be like my father. I wanted to be in control, to understand everything, that is how men used to be." - This is how men were and it is how we are up to now. It is a daily struggle to not try to control everything.

    • @josephkomu1826
      @josephkomu1826 11 місяців тому

      I never knew Bitange was this funny. Every man has a story to tell. Bitange recited his very well, inter twined with some comedy.

  • @africanqueenmo
    @africanqueenmo 4 роки тому +55

    Ndemo I remember you back in the day in the US. Quite the character still. You have always been decent polite and tough like your dad. I just didnt kmow you were a comic too. Bravo great story and you need to memtor the lost boychildren of Kenya. They cant even open their mouths to say hi yet theyre dying inside. Too scared of rejection. Its about time masculinity was resussitated!😂😂

    • @dianamoraa3486
      @dianamoraa3486 4 роки тому

      I like .... +254791276831

    • @khamisivictor6079
      @khamisivictor6079 4 роки тому

      Hi am doing mental program lots of men are battling depression and they can't speak out, I'd been able to open my story how I overcame depression out of rape plz I need support +254704038470

    • @gicherlewis2736
      @gicherlewis2736 4 роки тому +1

      I feel, to only chose to view the role the boychild plays in this in isolation, to be a rather inaccurate approach. I feel it would be important to appreciate the contextual differences between then and now. Weight we placed on things like love, genuine happiness, morals, virtues, character (among many other meaningful things), has since shifted to 'instant-coffee short-lived' things. Most girls (I use the quantifier most, because I still would like to believe that there are still some who aren't like that) would never look past the fact that you cannot take them out to any of those fancy eateries across the Nairobi Landscape (who's names I will not mention for obvious reasons) for dinner dates. The slightest sighting of 'greener pastures' would mark the beginning of the end for you as a 'boychild'.
      I was dating this lady a while back. I was in my final year at uni, and I somehow felt I was ripe for dating. We dated for around 7 months. And I'd like to believe that period of time I gave it my all. Towards the end, a loved one of hers was involved in a minor accident. During this trying period, I felt compelled to hold her hand and as a matter of urgency, I showed up at the hospital hoping that my visit would give her some sense of strength. She was really nasty. I have never before felt so shattered. A week later she reveals that her and one of her seniors at work....

    • @michaelheery6303
      @michaelheery6303 4 роки тому

      STUPI KENYA MOTHERS RUIN BOYS as so few fathers bother.

    • @samsonmusyoka5396
      @samsonmusyoka5396 4 роки тому

      True that👌

  • @HelpedbyGod-o2z
    @HelpedbyGod-o2z 4 роки тому +14

    I never knew Prof was this funny.
    So people got married that fast kitambo.
    2019 Kwa ground vitu ni different.
    Nice and interesting story.

  • @raphaelonduso7358
    @raphaelonduso7358 4 роки тому +13

    One of the best if not the best permanent secretaries in the Kibaki era. And thank you Dr. Bitange Ndemo for the fast internet.

  • @fayeistraveling1064
    @fayeistraveling1064 4 роки тому +9

    I live in the USA. However, when I come to Kenya I always try to come so I can attend any Engage Kenya that is available. This is one of the most uplifting, enlighting and empowering programs there is.

  • @sammungai2307
    @sammungai2307 Рік тому +6

    This episode remains the best to date, the humor in Dr. Ndemo is unmatched.

  • @Borntoshine91
    @Borntoshine91 4 роки тому +19

    He is such a good orator ..I have never laughed like this

  • @EllaKabami
    @EllaKabami 4 роки тому +12

    Thoroughly enjoyed this. What a fantastic and extremely hilarious story teller he is. Its easy to see why 30 years ago he got a date on day 1. Here's to the next 30 years of laughter, joy and bliss sir. Thank you for sharing your story with us

  • @nancyakinyi4555
    @nancyakinyi4555 3 роки тому +8

    This man is hillarious and I am so glad I found this video

  • @mohamedukod4361
    @mohamedukod4361 4 роки тому +11

    Professor was my lecturer at the University of Nairobi.Great educator.

  • @aleksanderkoyle4702
    @aleksanderkoyle4702 4 роки тому +15

    I use to go to class late at UoN school of business but I was the first one to go to his class. It's hard to get such a nice lecturer. Thank you mwalimu!

  • @anne-mariekosh5010
    @anne-mariekosh5010 4 роки тому +13

    A sweet story told with a funny twist. The narrator's calm collected demeanor and almost expressionless face heightens the humor.

  • @ladysafari01
    @ladysafari01 4 роки тому +63

    My parents had a similar story. My dad who had schooled in the U.S. in the 60s went back home to look for a wife with the help of his Uncle. On one of their hunts stopped by a church spotted a young lady in the choir, coincidentally were invited to lunch at her uncles where she resided. Dad's uncle asked her uncle to talk to her. One week later he went to ask her dad to marry her and she left her homestead for Nairobi 2 days later. They married at the P.C Nairobi on arrival, got her passport and visa within the week and off they went to America! All this happened under 3 weeks!

    • @EngageTalk
      @EngageTalk  4 роки тому +3

      😀😀 that's a great story. I wonder how many other similar stories exist.

    • @SirB1
      @SirB1 4 роки тому +1

      Blessed & Highly Favored should i do the same n u show up

    • @MagutoKibetTyson
      @MagutoKibetTyson 4 роки тому +4

      Back when people knew what they wanted,

    • @ladysafari01
      @ladysafari01 4 роки тому +3

      @@SirB1 you would have to ask my husband of 22 years what he thinks about that...

    • @cb8496
      @cb8496 4 роки тому

      @@MagutoKibetTyson Exactly.

  • @hassanadan74
    @hassanadan74 4 роки тому +6

    Former permanent secretary ministry of information and communication then..great guy

  • @SamuelMuyaWachira
    @SamuelMuyaWachira 3 роки тому +4

    Prof is always a good narrator. I miss his Entrepreneurship Seminars. That was an epic olskool story

  • @gothic807
    @gothic807 4 роки тому +3

    The father of Kenyas internet Dr. Bitange Ndemo...my inspiration my role model....I thank you man for Kenyans Technology if you would have stayed a bit longer in the minstry we would have been way way far right now...

  • @blessedbea5451
    @blessedbea5451 4 роки тому +14

    The most hilarious talk ever hes a real gentleman and may God bless your union even more.

  • @estherkariuki3975
    @estherkariuki3975 4 роки тому +5

    oh Dr demo i know you and your beautiful wife,,,down to earth kind earthed people ,,,bless you and happy 30 years anniversary

  • @elinestmakori
    @elinestmakori 6 місяців тому +2

    It's four years ....but this perfect automatic non constructed engineered raw humour still kills the show 😊😊😊 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

  • @faithnjoki1471
    @faithnjoki1471 10 місяців тому +1

    How am i only seeing this now?!
    I didn't know he is this hilarious. He was part of the Kibaki administration that i always admired. Unfortunately they don't employ such leaders anymore. I weep for my nation. Fantastic story telling.

  • @erastuskalya5940
    @erastuskalya5940 4 роки тому +5

    More talks from this guy...priss...2020 we want him more

  • @a.y-tribe3327
    @a.y-tribe3327 4 роки тому +12

    Wasn't quite sure what to expect, but I was so happy took a chance with this channel... Believe me, I was in stitches... I enjoyed his story so much I had to share..💓💓

  • @MrMartoem
    @MrMartoem 4 роки тому +5

    I have always admired Dr. Bitange Ndemo, he is a man who truly inspires. He is a great storyteller, and he has wonderful stories. I look forward to meeting him some day.

  • @nyangshe
    @nyangshe 4 роки тому +16

    Isn't this the kind of leadership we want in Kenya? The IT technology set enjoy now is because of this man's restlessness.

  • @kari6658
    @kari6658 4 роки тому +13

    Best video i have watched today. Honest, hilarious and great humility.

  • @NorahRotich
    @NorahRotich 4 роки тому +18

    Such a good storyteller.
    😂😂 This is beautiful. Thank you for crossing to the other side, our Kalenjin men could be exactly like Kisii’s🤣. I hope those who watch this and have not crossed to the other side to please cross 😂!

  • @susankinyanjui7344
    @susankinyanjui7344 4 роки тому +12

    Good Story teller...i have laughed so much.Such a beautiful story....Bitange Ndemo Happy 30 Anniversary.

  • @lularodgers788
    @lularodgers788 4 роки тому +5

    We need more stories from this old young man

  • @samkimani5426
    @samkimani5426 4 роки тому +9

    Message delivered in a simple and witty manner. Well done Bwana Bitange

  • @jacqueonalo8079
    @jacqueonalo8079 4 роки тому +15

    Mr. and Mrs. Ndemo, Happy Wedding Anniversary. This is one of the best love stories I have listened too, definitely the most candid. Mr. Ndemo your story telling is perfection with real comedic prowess. Thank you for gifting us with laughter. I am sure even the Kisii will applaud this public display.

  • @kendiashitiva5984
    @kendiashitiva5984 4 роки тому +6

    Awesome job Bitange Ndemo, well done Engage.

  • @conniekiyalu2894
    @conniekiyalu2894 4 роки тому +9

    Wah I have rewatched this more than enough times,someone stop me

    • @ratemoobare
      @ratemoobare 4 роки тому

      Connie Kiyalu. May I please

  • @SirMykalz
    @SirMykalz 4 роки тому +19

    bitange should do stand up comedy, cant stop laughing!!😂😂

  • @wairimumukuria959
    @wairimumukuria959 4 роки тому +7

    Living in the present is a gift that keeps on giving.

  • @loiceomollo1285
    @loiceomollo1285 4 роки тому +7

    Humility at its best!!!!

  • @nicholastoo858
    @nicholastoo858 4 роки тому +12

    Had no idea that hommie was hilarious 😂

  • @hannahkariuki8531
    @hannahkariuki8531 4 роки тому +7

    Aaww he is such an orator!! so inspiring Prof.

  • @faithmumbi
    @faithmumbi 4 роки тому +6

    I didn't know your story Mr Bitange Ndemo, Congratulations on sharing it.
    Congratulations for listening to your on gutt feeling, 30 yrs you look kept and at peace.

  • @alfredouko857
    @alfredouko857 4 роки тому

    Funny,humble,honest,easy such a good orator!!!!iv laughed the Christmas out of 2019...I'm waiting for 2020...I need that remote!!!I'm dead

  • @sharonsaina5225
    @sharonsaina5225 4 роки тому +20

    What a way to spend my afternoon. Laughed so hard.

  • @jameswangari8008
    @jameswangari8008 4 роки тому +3

    I like the simplicity of prof.

  • @motosana1
    @motosana1 4 роки тому +6

    I read your articles (and met you briefly when you were in govt) - forever humble! I will add HILARIOUS to the list.

  • @ivywainaina759
    @ivywainaina759 4 роки тому +10

    Such a good and humble orator! :) :)

  • @anastasiamainaministries2700
    @anastasiamainaministries2700 3 роки тому

    I didn't know why I loved this guy but now I know he's a noble man keep it up prof.....much respect

  • @urvangift7747
    @urvangift7747 4 роки тому +3

    My first time to comment on UA-cam
    Nail on my lecturer 💯
    such a simple and smart guy.

  • @benso2576
    @benso2576 4 роки тому +4

    That's a sweet and hilarious love story from Bitange....l love it

  • @vincentwambua9641
    @vincentwambua9641 Рік тому

    Why I'm I watching this 3 years later. Loved it🙌😍

  • @reubengitau2598
    @reubengitau2598 4 роки тому +2

    Wow, this is powerful, Bitange Ndemo you are such an inspiration, you have demystified myths.

  • @mildredmugambi4766
    @mildredmugambi4766 4 роки тому

    Thank you Prof. Ndemo for such an authentic and humorous talk!

  • @beatricekebwaro4170
    @beatricekebwaro4170 4 роки тому +5

    Prof. This has left my libs cracked. Many blessed years with your beautiful family

  • @neshkemunto2670
    @neshkemunto2670 4 роки тому +1

    Such a good orator Dr. Bitange

  • @sambaza2_254
    @sambaza2_254 4 роки тому +1

    I've always admired Bitange. Nice talk!

  • @beewanjira2431
    @beewanjira2431 3 роки тому

    This is my favourite of all the engage talks

  • @t.wkangethe4814
    @t.wkangethe4814 4 роки тому +3

    Dr Bitange looking all young and great 👍.he is a very good storyteller 😂😂 keep inspiring God bless you sir.

  • @jutealy3173
    @jutealy3173 4 роки тому +2

    amazing, so calm but so engaging, you wait in anticipation to hear what happens next.

  • @bonnybonny8337
    @bonnybonny8337 4 роки тому +6

    More talks from Bitange please. Thank you. I could listen to him all day. Hahaha

  • @Holisticgemswellnessculture
    @Holisticgemswellnessculture 4 роки тому +3

    What s beautiful love story and I like his new view of life as opposed to the traditional chauvinistic ways

  • @amoskiplangat2893
    @amoskiplangat2893 4 роки тому +5

    This has to be the funniest engage ever.

  • @eunicemuthamia9569
    @eunicemuthamia9569 4 роки тому +2

    Beautiful story, so beautifully and powerfully told!

  • @fredgori8510
    @fredgori8510 4 роки тому +13

    This was just too funny. Thanks, Bitange, for making me laugh so hard.

  • @beatricemulei5408
    @beatricemulei5408 4 роки тому +1

    This is the best Prof. It is mentorship for the boy child . Well done . Plus you are so funny Prof.

  • @haileygrace1169
    @haileygrace1169 4 роки тому +13

    The bike didn't come down🤣🤣🤣

  • @zeytunmohammed374
    @zeytunmohammed374 4 роки тому +8

    Those lines have made my 2019😂😂

  • @marymwololo9450
    @marymwololo9450 Рік тому +1

    Such a beautifully simple comical narration of love and a journey through reconstruction of stereotype beliefs.

  • @phyllisi.340
    @phyllisi.340 9 місяців тому +1

    Bitange is soooo funny!😂😂😂. Beautiful story hilariously told. Glad your 'effort' to find a wife finally paid off 😃. May God bless you with many more years together.
    Such a brilliant mind, wish he could make it to the cabinet. Thanks for spearheading the fiber optic project in Kenya! A great milestone..God bless you.

  • @otienorooneyomondi9576
    @otienorooneyomondi9576 2 роки тому +2

    The calmness as he tells the story👌

  • @wanscal
    @wanscal 4 роки тому +3

    I haven't laughed like this in a very long time. The delivery was so on point, extremely funny but very inspiring.

  • @gloriawambui3998
    @gloriawambui3998 2 роки тому +2

    I can never get tired of this beautiful love story

  • @Chings001
    @Chings001 4 роки тому +3

    Dr Bitange you're hilarious! I've always enjoyed your articles but I had no idea you're this hilarious as well.
    Very good talk

  • @eglinejeptoo9279
    @eglinejeptoo9279 4 роки тому +29

    Never knew Prof is funny 😀. The naysayers on her drinking 750ml vodka, but that couldn't stop him😁

  • @julianamwangi5677
    @julianamwangi5677 4 роки тому

    Always refreshing listening to Dr.Bitange

  • @wanjadouglas3058
    @wanjadouglas3058 4 роки тому +4

    What a lesson...and I meet Bitange in UoN alot and next time we meet I will ask him something...hahah...so hilarious

  • @memei9024
    @memei9024 4 роки тому +2

    What a story,Daktari never disappoints always!

  • @TheRainDancer
    @TheRainDancer 4 роки тому +9

    Wow...Interesting and funny talk :)))) gone are simple days where relationships were not as complicated as today. Congratulations on 30th Anniversary of marriage!

  • @Headmastar
    @Headmastar 4 роки тому +3

    Simply a good romantic story. Very deep and sweet. Thank you

  • @samuelgichuki2826
    @samuelgichuki2826 2 роки тому

    The humor in this man is on another level... I have never laughed this had... Thank you mzee🙏

  • @ShumiraiMazombeZwUK
    @ShumiraiMazombeZwUK 4 роки тому +3

    Laughed so much! You made my afternoon sweeter. Thank you for being honest and oh so humorous!