I was SOOO happy single--I'd divorced a frightening abuser and wasn't planning to ever marry again. It does seem that the man I'm with now saw my happiness and wanted that. He was very smooth at his approach, and I would have never seen what I'm living now coming--betrayal in every way. I was so believing we'd build a good life, but I'm the only one in this again. My resources have been depleted, and I feel too old to try to start over another time (it was SO hard last time because I was buried in abuse and so poor trying to start out. I choose happiness in every day in other things, because this other person has done so much to be destructive to my health, finances, children and purpose in life. My gratitude journal has probably saved my life.
I understand you say we need to be happy in the difficult situations, but when the difficult situation is ongoing for months and years I want to change situation, leaving, moving, going away! Sorry but I feel I am dying, that my soul is dying. Obviously he is not the right person. People is unhappy single but also unhappy with the wrong incompatible person. But to find the right person you need to get back being single, to date people and see if you find the right person. The answer is not staying with the wrong person. Yesterday I asked for a sign, Iwent in a restaurant and , unbelievable, it was the first time in my life, in the table in front of me there was a Hollywood actor sitting there and he was looking at me . This made me feel everything is possible for me in my future if I leave this weight that is suppressing me
Im unhappy with my marriage because my husband doesn’t satisfy me in bed 😢 also. I dont feel he trust me on finances, he hides his income away from me. 😢
Yeah I don’t get this video because it doesn’t address the fact that the unhappiness is being caused by someone outside of us so why stay and be miserable
I was happily married when I lived overseas. Once We move back to the US, the stress of the job, the economic stress of me being the main income provider adversely affected our relationship with a growing resentment that my wife is not pulling her weight. My resentment destroyed our marriage.
I have a question. Was their children in your marriage? Because taking care of house, home and children is indeed a job. Kids change things more than anything else, but if there were no kids, then certainly she should have been contributing financially. Personally I think the time of marriage and children is over.
I agree that if you make yourself happy regardless of your circumstances then one’s life will get better but maybe that doesn’t mean you will stay with the same person? Maybe it will naturally dissipate
Hi Jewel, I understand the feeling and the frustration that goes along with it. The solution is understanding what we can and can’t control and the difference between control and influence. I don’t know if you have watched any other videos of mine but I have some on the principles of control and choice and on the difference between control and influence that you might find helpful. Best wishes to you!
I mean, he's basing all this on a man choosing to be happy in a death camp. That man had no choice, we do. Hes just saying anything is possible if we pit our mind to it and no go looking for greener grass if we are the problem or refuse to address our own issues before looking elsewhere.
I was SOOO happy single--I'd divorced a frightening abuser and wasn't planning to ever marry again. It does seem that the man I'm with now saw my happiness and wanted that. He was very smooth at his approach, and I would have never seen what I'm living now coming--betrayal in every way. I was so believing we'd build a good life, but I'm the only one in this again. My resources have been depleted, and I feel too old to try to start over another time (it was SO hard last time because I was buried in abuse and so poor trying to start out. I choose happiness in every day in other things, because this other person has done so much to be destructive to my health, finances, children and purpose in life. My gratitude journal has probably saved my life.
I understand you say we need to be happy in the difficult situations, but when the difficult situation is ongoing for months and years I want to change situation, leaving, moving, going away! Sorry but I feel I am dying, that my soul is dying. Obviously he is not the right person. People is unhappy single but also unhappy with the wrong incompatible person. But to find the right person you need to get back being single, to date people and see if you find the right person. The answer is not staying with the wrong person. Yesterday I asked for a sign, Iwent in a restaurant and , unbelievable, it was the first time in my life, in the table in front of me there was a Hollywood actor sitting there and he was looking at me . This made me feel everything is possible for me in my future if I leave this weight that is suppressing me
Absolutely love your answer. What did you decide? How have things been going for you?
So I need to be happy with a husband that’s causing me mental distress??
Love and marriage is a beautiful gift from God. Living in harmony despite all differences is biggest challenge I think both partners need to work at
Im unhappy with my marriage because my husband doesn’t satisfy me in bed 😢 also. I dont feel he trust me on finances, he hides his income away from me. 😢
Yeah I don’t get this video because it doesn’t address the fact that the unhappiness is being caused by someone outside of us so why stay and be miserable
My husband does the same.
@@indeed1965 how do u address your situation?
I was happily married when I lived overseas. Once We move back to the US, the stress of the job, the economic stress of me being the main income provider adversely affected our relationship with a growing resentment that my wife is not pulling her weight. My resentment destroyed our marriage.
I have a question. Was their children in your marriage? Because taking care of house, home and children is indeed a job. Kids change things more than anything else, but if there were no kids, then certainly she should have been contributing financially. Personally I think the time of marriage and children is over.
I agree that if you make yourself happy regardless of your circumstances then one’s life will get better but maybe that doesn’t mean you will stay with the same person? Maybe it will naturally dissipate
@@poggyspotential2196 I agree!
I like this !!!
It goes along with a saying I Love 💗 “Choose the One You Love & Love the One You Chose”
What we choose to focus on grows ❤
Not always true if the other person isn't choosing you back.
ok, this is like you have unlocked life.
Thank you for this.
Thank you very much
Wish my husband would understand that his happiness does not depend on me.
Hi Jewel, I understand the feeling and the frustration that goes along with it. The solution is understanding what we can and can’t control and the difference between control and influence. I don’t know if you have watched any other videos of mine but I have some on the principles of control and choice and on the difference between control and influence that you might find helpful. Best wishes to you!
My chosen profession made me unhappy
Thank you!
You have unbelievable wisdom....its a gift from God!!
You dont understand...you saved my marriage with everything you said. I owe you big time!!!
I mean, he's basing all this on a man choosing to be happy in a death camp. That man had no choice, we do. Hes just saying anything is possible if we pit our mind to it and no go looking for greener grass if we are the problem or refuse to address our own issues before looking elsewhere.
God is the purpose, not happiness.
Jeff
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