'Female Freedom Has an Expiration Date': Being 35 and Single | Op-Docs | The New York Times
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- Опубліковано 11 гру 2013
- An Argentine woman, documenting her relationships, begins an intimate investigation searching for love and answers: must she settle down or continue to be a free spirit in order to be happy?
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When you reach your thirties many questions start being asked. Why aren't you married? Why don't you start a family? Being single in your thirties is never an ask easy task.
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5:07 “Throughout our relationship, we attend 18 weddings."
I don’t even have 18 friends lol.
I'm at nine weddings so far. I wish it were none, I hate weddings.
family?
@@johnjacob688 I did 2. One for my best friend and another for a long time high school friend. Never again. Its the most depressing thing ever to watch your friend slowly get snatched from you. Both of them barely talk to me anymore. That's not from a lack of trying on my part.
@@thedude8526 Ya that always sucks. I've had that happen with some friends. I was lucky enough that my best friend married an awesome down to earth girl. She hangs with us and has no problem with him hanging out just with the guys.
She went for the free food no doubt
I don't see the point of the video. She doesn't want to be single, doesn't want mad romance, and doesn't want a traditional family. She can't even express what it is she really wants, so why should anyone care?
V.W. Singer EXACTLY!! Thank you!!
V.W. Singer this totally should be the TOP comment!
But Yukon but you did watch it .
That's just called being a woman
Amen
4:45 "For once, I decided to look for a good guy" MAJOR YIKES
"For once, I decide to look for a good guy."
Leave them alone, please. Good guys deserve better, they deserve a woman who sees them as a prize, not a woman who sees them as a fall back plan to settle with.
Facts
Finds good guy, dumps him then complains about being single.
+madison7911 She cant love a man. She had too many sexual partners. That bond which is created by sex has been created and broken too many times. She can never love because of it.
+Jimmy Dean That's the danger of the 'game'. If you become a 'player', you're gone...
+madison7911 / Story of MY LIFE, Madi, Story of MY LIFE!!!!
+madison7911 How is she complaining? She didn't feel it was right, and that's the point, she would still like to get married, but to lie to yourself is a horrible thing and you would lie to him. She's not complaining, she's telling you something about herself.
teenwitchlovergirl How's being single treating you? Don't worry ice cream is always there for you. :P
"For once, I decide to look for a good guy".
Roll credits! Fernando dodging bullets like Neo.
She said that cause she felt pressure by everyone around her to find someone.
@@AngleedFish And proceeded to waste several years of the guy's life. Wow, much victim, very woke.
mariusvanc Lmfaoooo 😂
😂😂😂
@@mariusvanc lmao 🤣
Kinda curious how things went with her now that she's turning 45. We need a follow-up video.
Married, had a kid, got divorced.
Lmfao…typical.😂
Leave these old 304s alone.
@@analauramorelrocha2383 I know she got married. But the kid and the divorce where did you find that info?
Married in 2015. Had a son in 2016. Got divorced in 2020.
@@keyhimself3542 so predictable, the guy that married her could have gone for a young low millage vehicle but he wasn't charcoal pilled
I'm glad Fernando got a happy ending.
Yeah, he had a close call.
1. Gets new boyfriend.
2. Shows him her box of tapes.
3. It's over.
LMAO
Was just thinking about this. Can you imagine seeing your new gf's box of tapes like that? Instant bail.
Is this why she stopped recording to physical media and switched to the I cloud?
Lol
No he's too much of a beta simp to do that.
"For once, I decide to look for a good guy". That phrase should tell you all you need to know!
You have to love female logic.
@@JJ-ym8bu Hence why the world was never built by them.
Bull, that happen to guys too
Exactly! They know what kinds of guys they are getring involved with.
Reading between the lines.
when you've been with too many people, you cannot be with one. its that simple.
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This. 😉
Men should always be sexually free, but only give resources to specific women.
@@ILoveYou-sg5bi no. you cant expect to act and live like a pig and not have the other party not resent you for that.
stop living like a pig. that will force women to change their ways.
@@kabirsardana1282 What? Historically men have lived free, visited brothels, then married and even while married. The only thing that's changed is feminism exists.
Its a pig to you because you're bambi in a forest full of puzzys.
You can't change natural male behavior, which also includes Bambism. 🤨
Say it for the women in the back
What was fascinating to me was I spent the entire video trying to figure out where she was. The accents weren’t American, there was a Jewish wedding, parents speaking Spanish. Then the Turkish, Shephardic comment really threw me. I realize I know so little about Argentinians! Really fascinating glimpse into a person’s life.
@Louis Tea Enjoyer Idk. Some jewish girls are so multicultural that nationality is not clear. Like Alejandra Pizarnik. She said: "Im a jew. Not Argentine".
Sephardic Jew just means, Spanish Jew. My family is and that’s because there are 12 tribes, Jew being only one of them and the rest were scattered. So you will find Jews everywhere.
Well, consider this: For a couple of decades after World War II Buenos Aires had the 3rd largest Jewish population of any city in the world. Her folks may have settled in Argentina from or via the former Ottoman city of Thessaloniki or thereabouts, where the Turks had deported a lot of Separdic Jews from the then-new Turkish Republic after WWI. For a time Thessaloniki was the sole city in Europe in which Jews were the largest ethnic group. They generally spoke Ladino, a sort of mediaeval Spanish they'd picked up before the Expulsions about 1492, so much later emigration to Spanish-speaking Argentina might have seemed a natural move. As for the gal featured in this piece, she may claim to have found peace in loving herself and all that, but like they say, "a hard man is good to find."
Why do people like you care so much where people are from
she's paula schargorodsky . Argentine film maker . She's 45 now , married ...... Sad how they realize when it's too late
Sounds like she saved some guy from an expensive divorce. I have to respect her for that.
With all due respect to your perspectives, I think that marriage is not the point of this short documentary. It is the exploration of society's expectations of women after their 20's. Just based on your comments, I'm assuming that you place a conditional value on women that's dependent on their stances on marriage. Which she had addressed in the video already as your comments reflect society's expectations--with little to add to the conversation that this short doc intended to create and merely prove her point.
hellaBayAr3a Society has expectations for a reason. The problem is, many people tend to think they are so much smarter than the hundreds of generations before them, and that "muh freedom" is so great.
But you gotta realize, it's almost idiotic as a successful guy in your thirties to go for a woman in her thirties, especially if she's this childish and with commitment issues. Truth is, she's never gonna find the "perfect" boyfriend she's looking for, in fact with every passing week the guys she can potentially have are going to be worse and worse, since the good ones will always choose younger women.
Then there's the idea that "she doesn't need a man, she's happy". Yeah right. Even the father in the video says that human beings need to build something, to have children. To think you can live your entire life happily banging random dudes and recording tapes is delusional.
+Pocnit INDEED we are smarter than the hundreds of generation before us. Back then there were slaveries, no concept of freedom, human right, equal rights.....
"But you gotta realize, it's almost idiotic as a successful guy in your thirties to go for a woman in her thirties, especially if she's this childish and with commitment issues. "
- But relationship are mainly based on LOVE and ATRACTION which is something we have no control. But I know women will prefer security over love.
"Truth is, she's never gonna find the "perfect" boyfriend she's looking for, in fact with every passing week the guys she can potentially have are going to be worse and worse, since the good ones will always choose younger women."
- Nobody will find the "perfect partner". Nobody is perfect. People have too much expectation of reality.
"Yeah right. Even the father in the video says that human beings need to build something, to have children"
- What if some people don't want that. There are men who go MGTOWN and are fine with it.
"To think you can live your entire life happily banging random dudes and recording tapes is delusional."
- Perfect hapiness doesn't exist. Long lasting hapiness doesn't exist. We have to deal with our lives each days and try to make it happy as much as we can.
Exactly! She's better off that way, and that's what she wants aswell, so good for her. Hopefully she'll never change her mind.
LOL..
“For once, I decided to look for a good guy.”
You really can’t make this stuff up lol🤦🏾♂️
My thoughts exactly
You really can't. What do these women take us for? This is ridiculous.
what does that even mean anymore ahahaha
That’s what single moms with deadbeat ex boyfriends say
@@BOWEASE1 I think it means a compliant man who will bravely accept all kinds of gross misdemeanour from the wimans
i met an old woman once , her only son died young and her husband died a while ago , being at 90 she had no close family (atleast none who cared) , being at her deathbed she told me , she didnt regret much in her life but was still crying because no one that she loves or cares about is with her in her last moments of life and she is dying alone, this was a week before she passed away.
And she didn't even screw it up like most women did. That was just the circumstances of life.
@@robertlunderwood dying alone is awful , but now its something people are striving for
@@avneeshluthra5803 everyone dies alone, you transition to whatever is yours alone.
@@Warsie you are taking this way too literally , ofcourse you die alone and dont take people with you as you go , that's obvious . What I mean by what I said above is : you need people around you throughout your life especially in your older years when you body starts to breakdown , you need familly around you when you pass on and you need them throughout your life. Life is not about how much money you made slaving away everyday for 70 years but about relationships . Living in a golden mansion when you are 90 all by yourself wont be as amazing as people make it out to be.
You come here alone. You die alone.
I love that she keeps the tapes. Her cats are going to love them.
@ᛉ ᚠ ᛃᚨᚱᛚ ᚹᚢᛚᚠᚺᛃᛟᚱᛏ ᚨᚱᛁᚲᛊᛊᛟᚾ 😂👍
Those endless oceans of tapes 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮. I've never felt more sick in my life.
@@original-australian_OG it's soo creepy
alpha widowed
I love how you think you’re any different
Here come the lies…
So how's 40 treating you?
Dude, you're epic. you did the math
@@mohcinenadir2649 of course I did. I'm a man. :)
@@MikeMartinez74 savage!
AMEN!!!! I am 38, no kids, no fat hairy ball and chain, just a very profitable business, money to spend, 2 sports cars, a fully stamped passport and a few dogs. Life is exactly how I want it to be. I would never sign up to take care of one of these manchildren, gross. @@Elizabeth Pine
@@mstyles2667 You should try a real man. The last time I needed a woman's help was when my mom pushed me out.
I can't stop reading this comment section.
Bravo, gentlemen.
....that makes two of us....hilarious
🍻
@Claudia Vlahović It's also great to see the desperate ravings of the crazy cat ladies, such as yourself.
Scott Sorensen same! We got another alpha widow here😂
@jrpark05 Or the jealous ravings of some man who can't get one of these younger attractive ones either.
Or they might dislike the fact that some of them might end up marrying an older and wealthier man. Because it turns out that not only are they more mature than the young punks, but they go for men with more money who tend to be older than they are.
So get over it.
This woman had tons and tons of guys in her life yet she presents herself as a helpless single woman... this woman is the definition of always trying to be the centre of attraction.
She's for the streets
She has chad, Tyrone and Enrique immortalized thru tape 🤣
she doesn't hide the millage
No decent guy would accept someone who recorded so many chads and Tyrone’s on tape.
“In your 20s you’re free to do whatever you want.”
That doesn’t mean that you should do just whatever you want. Freedom isn’t free. There are costs and now you have to pay up.
True
Freedom isn't free. It cost a buck o five.
Basically wh*re around for a decade and a half then wastes the time of a decent guy, dumps him and still doesn’t want to be alone. Typical modern day female.
No moral/ethical understanding let alone repentance. Anyone wants the honor to *commit* to this cc rider? Settle *DOWN* with her?
sokratis konomi Yes, at least if you live in Western Society.
“For once, I decided to look for a good guy.”....🤦🏾♂️🙄
Code for beta provider
The nerve of these thots
looking for my Forest Gump jajajaja
But he wasn't looking for a tramp !
NightWolf They are too entitled like little girls who exspect everything to be handed to them with very little effort on there part they have nothing of value to offer and they refuse to work on themselves first. Yet is doing all this for attention she needs to grow up.
The Sinister Minister you can’t make this shot up lol
First red flag: broken phone screen. 0:14
04:46 "for ONCE I decide to look for a good guy"...(at her 35 years old), and that is ALL you have to know about her.
And the best part is that she ended leaving him because she (lets be honest) loves her single life (single but never alone if you know what I mean), and she want the rest of the world thinks that she is some kind of "victim". Yeah, sure.
And the winner and undefeated champion is (and will always be)... THE WALL.
Haha lol..
Fertility starts to drop after 25 as does her SMV.
You can hear the bitterness in her voice about being the last one in her friend group NOT to have doing a good man.
Now, at 35, and single she is looked upon as defective, the disappointment in her family's eyes is plain to see... You can almost hear them thinking "Perhaps she will join a convent and become a nun... At least she will marry Christ.
With no real career to fall back on her future is looking bleak.
Feminism and *THE WALL* Claim yet another victim.
Desperation is not attractive.
She seems to have a pretty high body count as well, a *Big Red Flag*
She's headed to *Spinsterhood* at warp speed!
She's damaged goods, and *Nobody* is going to pay full price for that!
The wall beats them all
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She has lost her ability to pair bond ,by sleeping with several dozens of men.hence why she can't be a good bride,she also said all of them were the love of her life .how dishonest can one be with onesself?
Marriage and sexual relationship are not important to everybody some people have a strong desire to find God. You might as well except this. Not everything is an assault on the sexual relationship.
@@jdl2180 yet she's here to find a husband hahhahaha
@unharmonix: Right.
@Rick O'Shay No Hymen, No Diamond!
@Rick O'Shay No, they're just using their naive little romantic brains for their own good and there's nothing wrong with that
I'm 34, never had a long-lasting relationship, and never will get married, oh but wait, I'm a guy so I'm not worried about it.
@Manannan anam so how do you mean?
@@lylaaxiom8750 Haha no it's not. The average 50 doesn't make enough to attract a 20 year old. Get real.
@The MacSo Why would you want to be the old dude hanging out with a younger woman (whose more than likely grossed out by you as are her friends) Can you even imagine her friends conversations....please dont bring Grandpa!! Oh unless he pays. Desperation. YOU are still old and no young woman is going to change that. A woman of a completely different generation with nothing in common with you, that is shallow (if shes is only with you for only your money and what you can give her), that every sentence reminds you that YOU are an old guy, have no commonalities in any stories, no shared life experiences. Do you remember that show...did you like this as a kid....I couldn't imagine anything as dull. When you're 20, a 30 year old seems ancient. Yes anecdotal evidence of 'a bunch of people that you know' but let's look at the data, the vast majority of men and women that are in LTR are within 3 years of each.
@The MacSo Hey buddy, think I misread the whole of your comment. Peace
amen no need for wamen
Good luck to the man who believes he is settling down with this woman who has a box full of cassettes of previous "loves of her life". Sincerely!
I love this video. It’s maybe because I’m 22, and completely free from any responsibility. I think she’s seeking love, while completely avoiding the inevitable: emotional responsibility.
it's all about having fun. And one day the wall hits and all the good men are gone. She still gets the D though!
There's so many emotionally irresponsible people in this world and they get married, have kids, and then divorce. I hope she never fall into the pressure of getting married because that's where she will head to.
Haha she's 42 now
Good luck finding love as a woman at 42. Sour milk, men don't like sour milk.
@@khaga007 the wall is undefeated
After your looks begin to fade men begin to start paying more attention to what you say or do.
Thats where the learning proces starts and women start working on themselves.
The race against the clock begins in earnest. Especially when the woman wants children.
Not saying looks is all that matters. It is a big part of attraction. Even more important in the begining of the relationship when you dont know much about eachother and have little shared experiences.
If you want to know how much looks matter to men. Think of financial security, being able to protect and ambition etc all rolled in one. Thats how important looks is to most men.
For men character and intelligence is 2 and 3.
Your social network or carreers and degrees trail far further down the list then the top 3.
It is far from perfect or how we want it to be.
Survival made men select for fertility 1st. And health and body type. Good genes for future hunters and later agricultirists and nomads.
Women selected for men who were dominant in the group but usefull and were good hunters.
A man who was too dominant and did not contribute to the group (tyrant) got into a "hunting accident".
a 35 year-old-woman with the mentality of 16 year-old-teenager, that's all about in this video
Just go your own way, let them figure it out on your way out the door...
Thats how argentine woman are...
NAWALT ➡️ AWALT ➡️ SMABTO
@@zero1188 you know that may really have some merit to it, at least for the ones I've known over the years.
@Lord Giroud like a ratchet wrench? LOL
In the end, she doesnt want to be single and doesnt want to be in a relationship.
Girls will be girls!
@@ixian_technocrat Not exactly. More like; whores will be whores. But you will get it one day on your own.
She wants selective aspects of both worlds. She wants to feel "independent" and "free" to hang out at clubs and get male attention, but she wants a man she can fall back on when she's feeling lonely.
Her cats will fill the void...
Sigmund Freud once opined that the greatest unanswered question is “what is it that a women wants”.? They don’t know themselves. How are we meant to know?
Yo. This girl’s apartment is a flipping mess. I’d nope outta that place before the door was halfway open. No wonder she’s single.
She is a self-centered pick me with the maturity of a teenager. She doesn't care about getting to know someone, she cares about doing like her friends. What a miserable life...
“I was looking for intense passionate love story, and I found many.”
Yeah that’s going to be a no from me dawg.
Oscar Ice 😂
"Love of My Life"
all of them 😂
😂
She found many "Chads"
Among them was description of the way anti-viral deeply penetrated HIV making it beg for more, $10,000 a shot sessions..
Coming all over a tape in her box-office collection soon...
i clicked here for the comments section.
Lol same
And I was not disappointed
I was just trying to watch a TF2 short film but the video title enticed me to the comments.
I saved a lot of time, just by reading the comments lol 😂 she doesn't know what she wants, that's all I understand what the video is about. Now, I can look for a new video
Ditto.... always more informative and concise than the rambling, whiney, "it's not fair", "my fault", excuse filled post.
Not getting married is like a man missing out on buying the last ticket on the Titanic.
That's right that romantic 'Titanic' movie, you know the one where almost every man dies.
In your 20s, you want a tall, handsome, tattooed, smoking, drinking, and partying bad boy with a motorcycle. After 30, you want a nice guy in a suit and glasses with a stable job so that when you marry him, you can secretly go back to the bad boy's place, have his kids, and let the nice guy raise them unknowingly. All this is subconscious; you don't even realize it.
4:45 "For once, I decided to look for a good guy"
*FOR ONCE*
AGREED.
How Women's Lib women wants to live it's their freedom as a guy I'm fine with that equal wages and whatnot BUUUUuut, when they start putting down homemakers, men in general ETC basically being a toxic hater and producing rainbow haired crazies YEAH then we have a REAL problem.
-Also Your Life choices Your consequences . You don't research your future that's on you.
the women always declare: the men never grow up, but she showed all us that she never grow up reality.
Her mom said as much at the 4:05 mark. It’s a damned shame. I know too many women in the middle third of life that simply decided too late to be HONEST about how much birthing children was important to them.
if i is anemaal not am i can is be hoomen
My god, the grammar.
Why? Because she doesnt make marriage a part of her life?
@@Shazzyshell
No but because of the things she says and the way she acts
She even said something disgusting
She said " for once i decided to look for a good guy "
i become the nice jewish girl..... yeah what 31 boyfriends later? LMAO
I still comeback to this video, every few months for new comments, still not disappointed..
Lmao
I think I'll bookmark this gem m'self !!
Gives me hope because men are finally waking up to the reality of this mess.
Same here brother!
She married 5 years ago to a guru. They have a Facebook page: m.facebook.com/PaulaSchargorodsky
Enjoy your boxed wine & future 3 cats. Fernando has now left the building. Godspeed Fernando, Godspeed.
😂
"There was something in the air that night".
LOL!
@dskmb3 He's either the Italian chad or Spanish chad...depending on the circumstance.
I do enjoy my cat...and my boyfriend. Thanks for asking.
She found many... More than 40 tapes in a box. Why would any man put a ring on the town bicycle?
5:00 '"I decided to be the nice JOOish girl that everybody wants me to be." What a blissful lack of self-awareness there!
What do you mean?
Male freedom has an expiration destination. It's called family court and marriage.
@Stealth Mode Let me rephrase my quote.
"Male freedom has an expiration destination. It's called Marriage. Men have a proverbial wall. It's called family court.
@Stealth Mode Key word..."If" things go right. Which is rare and not worth it. At least in the west, where I live 8 out 10 divorces are initiated by a women. 9 out of 10 if the women is college educated. You're marriage has a likelihood of divorce of 45%, that's PER YEAR. The odds of a marriage making it to the 10 year mark is 6.6%. If marriage was a business proposition, you would say no thanks. This is a bad, risky, investment where when things go wrong, my business partner (IE. your wife) gets all negotiating power when the business (marriage) fails and is statistically the one who will close the business down. But marriage is even worse than a business plan gone awry. At least when the business is over, it's over. Marriage in contrast cost's you on average 47% of your gross income in child support and alimony. Oh and that's after you pay for her and your attorneys fees. But, hey at least you have 50-50 custody right? Wrong. Courts on average award heterosexual women with 27 days a month of custody and heterosexual men 4 days, with LGBTQ at 15 days a month. Yeaaaaah no I'm good.
You are so right homie
to the men thinking that is a choice for us, I have bad news: the simps you failed to keep away from power are already putting up laws to extend the family courts to casual relationships. And the welfare paid for with your taxes is not going to end while it gives votes to these simps.
@@mariobros7834 Do you mind citing these sources? Like link to articles or something about these supposed laws extending to casual relationships. Thanks Mario.
I’m 64, was married and now single and here’s what I learned. If you never marry you will regret it. If you get married, you will regret it.
Some of the best advice, I've ever heard 😁
@@ravsingh1576 Not an advice. It's an observation which proves the saying "grass is always greener on the other side"
that's Søren Kierkegaard
I never married, and I don’t regret it. I have many friendships and a few really good relationships, no divorce, life is good!
arlingtonguy54 war isn’t easy
Freedom doesnt mean free of consequences
Oh my gosh!!!! The picking up of one PARTICULAR item of trash when the whole room is trash is SO MEEEEE!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣 1:43
I'm here for the redpill comment section.
I'm not disappointed, folks.
Frenetic Zetetic - added one myself 😁
Mgtow is life. Lol. I dont mind being a one man mgtow echo chamber. As long as I save guys from killing themselves and sell a few dolls in the process I'm good with that!
Hahahaha
Well. We are the *ONLY* one that actually think about this questions at all. Women just..... live.
@@alniseschrenkek6348 Nah...just leftist-liberal ones.
4:45 "For once, I decide to look for a good guy".. Excuse me, what were you doing before?
she's a disgusting woman
She’s Probably bangin bad boys
doing what most women do: fall for the players, cause good guys are too committed or boring doh
@lillnemo1 haha 😂😂😂 good one!
Random Manny thats the problem the good guys are in front of them yet they so blind.
THE WALL LOLOLOLOL
the narcissism... lol
im not sure what the lesson is here besides discovering there are Argentinian Turkish jews
Agreed that was wild info lmfao
Ikr
Sephardic/wandering
Lmao so true
@@Cutiejuliya israel is trying to settle in patagonia, argentina. its not in the news but local reporters are being silenced for trying to bring this up.
My dad always told me: 'Better' is the worst enemy of 'good'.
There is always something, someone better out there, will you really go chase after all of them?
The point in time when someone stops chasing 'better' and settles for 'good' is what matters here. Some never stop chasing, others never start chasing at all.
@DescendantsOf Tituba That's just oversimplifying what he said.
dad deep yo
DescendantsOf Tituba I really don't see how this is what you get from what he wrote. I think that the point is that, in some ways, the grass is always greener on the other side. We tend to focus on what we want and can't have instead of focusing what we do have and would crave if we didn't. I don't think he's saying that you need to settle for whoever gives you any attention, I think that he's saying that at some point, you're better focusing on enjoying what you do have than chasing what you want in terms of specific details without considering the whole picture and, yes theoretically, considering how many people on earth there are, the idea of you ending up with a so called pre determined soul mate is mathematically unrealistic (although, coming from a similar background can sometimes help, even though it isn't always the case.) The point was, I think, that you can technically spend your life looking for a better fit, but you'll be much happier if you can find someone who's almost as compatible, and perhaps even more importantly, willing to work on the relationship and capable of appreciate what he or she has instead of focusing of what he or she doesn't. Now, maybe im misunderstanding the whole thing, maybe you just don't agree with any of it, it'd be your right. However, I don't see the point of acting as if what he said was "settle for whoever is paying you any attention"...anyway, that's just my opinion.
@@Lanwarder I think you got it wrong, I didn't mean it in that way. More like
"Stop trying to achieve perfection, why not settle for something good?"
In short, the grass is always greener stlye.
Sir Paperbag Well, isn't that what I said? I mean I start by literally saying that I think you mean the grass is always greener on the other side.
Difficult to pair bond when you sleep around as a female.
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Yup.
Blackman Cool9, I have observed that what you say is true... Will You Enlighten me why such is the case? Is the same true for men who sleep around as well? ~ Cheers Russell
@@russellbonesteel1115 I can’t imagine being the last guy to marry her all that those d IcK that she had before no to mention abortions all those babies she killed.
and yet men have no issues to sleep around or being fence sitter and date women until he find someone to settle with
" oh dont worry Im sure she love my HIV infection "
She's a modern woman. I don't see anything out of the ordinary.
true, RIP genes
She is an assistant film director who is out of focus and has lost the plot. Her character is sketchy and two dimensional. The action is disjointed and the body count becomes numbing.
Ha ha I can tell you're a Pun loving guy :D
☝😂
Very poetic!
You sound like the director.
And off course her film is fiction.
"Happiness is choice"... oh boy.... depression patients would prooooobably disagree here
Lol!
Thank you!
She probably was already disagreeing with that sooner than this video was uploaded.
2:40 - Not all men have that freedom, to be honest it's only 10% of males that have "that freedom". The rest of us are discarded or dismissed.
It's because lots of those women only go for the Chads and Tyrones while most men are invisible to them. They see Chad has lots of options and think all men have.
Strong independent woman with cats lol
Her problems is that she says she's looking for a relationship but she's looking for an emotional high, not a marriage. She won't find it in that addictive process, highs fall and you tire of that person and go onto the next chasing that roller coaster. That's why addicts keep needing more, eventually the same old dose won't do.
Mz Phat Peesh I agree, apart from if we're honest, it is women and gay men who enjoy roller coasters and drama in relationships. With feminists it can never be just the woman who has the flaw lol. You will only agree if we agree to say men are at fault as well. Why is that?
The thing is, both men and women both have problems when it comes to dating. Honestly, it all depends on the situation. Though was speaking about something specific. Though yes, men can be just as bad when it comes to relationships. That doesn't make me a feminist.
that was the biggest cop-out ending I have ever seen.. "in the end I realized I had to love myself"
Im like and she didn't love herself before?
she saved a lot of guys from a lot of guessing by doing it. its the best resolution for her potential hook ups.
I'm guessing that meant the constant in her life would be her self-love and that boyfriends would come and go? The tapes were weird but otherwise it's frustrating to see all the hate she gets for living a lifestyle that's just uncommon for women
@@cityrains6739 exactly! Finally somebody with an open mentality and intelligence.
P.S yeah, the videos are super weird but then again, she does work in film and is probably super passionate about documenting her own life.
Self love does not a baby or a family make
Ladies you have TO KNOW what you really want in life by being honest with yourself
Pity won't get you a boyfriend. You wanted to party, now deal with the hangover.
Box of tapes? Who does that? Automatically the cuckoo clock sound repeats in my head. I'm done...
@wildebest yes, things like her poor boyfriends, which look so uncomfortable when she films them in the toilet...
You bring nothing to the table in terms of a relationship, you're too lazy to clean your room, and you have done nothing but blame others
U assume she being lazy just cause her room isn't clean??? R u dumb?
How is she blaming others didn’t see probably in ur imagination may be she reminds you
khammassi zahra she says that female freedom only lasts until 35 and it’s society’s fault.. but it’s really biologies fault since it is difficult to have babies after 35.
@@folklorelover13 it begin in 30
@@AngleedFish Of course. A clean abode is the sign of a clean mind.
"freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose" - Janis Joplin
- Kris Kristofferson
freedom is also being left loose by chad, Tyrone, Enrique and Juan
Not even President Trump could build a greater Wall
After 35, a woman is pretty much forced to live as a man does: based on her utility. She's too old for men seeking to start a family and if she isn't useful then she will remain alone. Equality does finally catch up to women, it just takes a few decades along with poor life choices.
And most of women don't realize that equality has caught up with them until about age 50.
Many of us DON'T want to spawn your crotch fruit. Remember that. For ever woman who wants a man after 35, there are 20 who don't.
Honestly, you all, media included, know nothing about women.
@@mstyles2667 no guy wants his kids to come out of defective equipment, down syndrome, autism, deformities et. al. after 30 if you are a "free spirit" you are worth as much to men as a dude whose fat and likes my little pony is to women.
@@mstyles2667 That response doesn't actually address my original comment.
In reference to your own, men *at least* know that the average woman desires to be taken care of and provided for(even hardcore feminists still want men to earn more and pay for them). Young, attractive women are able to rely on men's desire for them to do so in their early years, however, a woman that is no longer attractive to men(or might still be considered attractive but less so than women younger than herself) often find that they are judged more by what they know and can do as those have greater value at that point in her life. Which is why I said their value is determined by their utility.
And also, I don't believe anyone made the claim that younger women specifically desire men over 35. That being said, men in that age range tend to have the resources necessary to support a family and it is not at all uncommon to see a 23(for example) year old woman with a guy in his early thirties. In comparison, it is rather rare to see a 23 year old man with a woman in her thirties. The older man is able to provide what women tend to value more(resources and status) but the older woman cannot offer what men tend to value more(beauty and the ability to provide offspring)
It might hurt to hear but this is just nature. That formula has been in use for millennia and got us to where we are today. The people that ignore it, likely won't pass on their genes and will end up bitter at reality not bending to their expectations.
@@adama5929 *existential crisis intesifies*
"For once, I decided to look for a good guy"....roll the credits.
@blahblahwhatever blah i thought the same when I read this comment.
....said every wall-hitting 30+ single-mom ever
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 this made my day!!!
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"Now that I spent all my chips at the Casino, I'm going to find someone to gamble with" 🙃
She's just broken. I feel sorry for the guy who gets into this relationship.
More and more leftover woman without husband and kids.
At 35 years of age she says, " for once I decide to look for a good guy."
Kinda late now honey. You dun hit the wall.
Ikr its sooo annoyingly gross how she thinks she had find something now
Enthotlet femoid
She has been married for four years and she had a baby last year.
@@theeyepatch1219 well, she Can and she did. She has been married for four years and she had a baby last year.
@@cathprudence3829 hmph...all the good it did her😑😑😑
I don't know her well enough to say there are serious character flaws. But:
Her place is super messy
She has no stable career
35 is ten years too old
She's into wild romance but who wants volatility when settling down?
I'm almost her age and she wouldn't be wife material for me.
but but she's a woman..she deserves everything she wants because she was born with a vagina that automatically entitles her no matter what.
We all have flaws m8 don't act like ur better than her. You have problems, we all do. That's life.
@@AngleedFish While it is true that we all have flaws, however, he did not state that he was better than her. He said she wasn't wife material and that's the difference.
If you are to make a poll out of this, I can bet that more than 50% (I'm being very modest in saying 50%!) would think that "messy", "no stable career" and "35" are definitely red flags!
If I were her, I would not mask my reason for staying single as "wanting to be free". It is not about how you personally view the world, it's about trying your best to see it as objectively as you can. I may try to hide my weaknesses as "wanting to be free", but it does not change "being messy" is a fact! Facts don't care about our feelings or perspective. Facts exist so we can either accept and change ourselves for the better or fabricate reasons to hide it!
@@namtrieunguyen7630 Nam Trieu Nguyen ofc u pull out the quote. Anyways, I don't disagree with you, I think I was taking into the context of this comment sections cause I think everyone is unnecessarily bashing her. Also I do think she truly thinks she feels free being single. And the whole facts thing, it really depends on ur own values, u might value facts and virtues, but she may value being happy. Idk how u managed to twist it a facts thing but okay lol
@@AngleedFish "she is happy" perhaps. But is she content with her life to the point of not needing sharing and/or seeking affirmation from others while knowing or pretending not to know that most people on Earth wouldn't like "being messy" and other stated-above reasons, which is a fact as you yourself could easily observe through the comments?
What is the point of this video anyway if not to seek attention for whatever personal purposes? Please do enlighten me on this.
You said "unnecessary bashing". Would you say the same to a video whose most comments are compliments? Let's be fair: if you state your lifestyle which is unusual (im not specify "better" or "worse") than the norms, you will get either criticism or compliments.
You may personally think that they are unnecessary, but are they? The overwhelming number of criticism does not reflect a fact that people simply dont like/enjoy/agree with this video?
Public service announcement:" young girls don't try this at home".
Her apartment looks like mine - and I'm disabled and can't afford a housekeeper. I am 68 and single and very disabled. That was a surprise. When you're 35, you're still very very young, in the scheme of things. I don't think this young lady really wants to be alone, but she will be if she does not change something about how she operates in the world. I'd recommend a therapist at this point because I suspect she is not looking at herself with enough clarity.
You are correct. There's a big risk though that she will choose a (likely female) therapist, who only suppords her solipsistic ways.
@@l.b.2392I had a female therapist- absolutely useless.. exactly how typical women act and see the world, the therapist was no different.
Male therapists are 10,000x more effective
"Lean it girl , get it girl" in 20s
"where are all the good men gone" in 30s
I guess the feminists forgot to tell her that men don't want women in their 30's that were too busy with random hookups.
@@chuck1052 Men are simps these days, there will always be a guy wanting a woman no matter he age or body count. They know that
@@Winskl9010 Yes, but those guys are only interested in banging, not marrying.
@@MiguelDLewis Nah, not always. My friends boyfriend literally left her for an older woman, and they’re getting married in a couple of months
@@Winskl9010 You've found a very rare anomaly.
It's a sort of sad story of knowing everything and understanding nothing
That's really well worded 👌
One of those stories that reminds us the difference between Knowledge and Wisdom
Hate to break it to you, but since our public education system has broken down from mediocre to appalling, I'll wager that the number of people on the "knowing everything" side are being supplanted in highly disproportionate numbers in the "IQ of a squid" side.
Well said
Alpha Widowed by gigachad. Imprinted. She's LEFTOVER WAHMAN now 🤣🤣 44 and single now...
You know what made me laugh. That she said for once and trying to find a a good guy.
Meaning Mister beta here to take our leftovers. Lol
Now you’re 43 and still single
***44 :(
"For once, I decided to look for a good guy..."
That about says it all.
She’s about 20 years too late
So you ran around with tons of Alpha Chads, then settle for a Beta man and use him for awhile to appease your family. Nice
@wildebest it does not matter if there actually alpha. Its what she perceives to be alpha
@wildebest ok.
@wildebest It's the whole, "bucking society" Wild Boy version of Alpha-dom. More dreamy, less conventional. He's hot, but sensitive and vulnerable and she'll run through them like toilet paper.
takeova189 nadex how about you challenge yourself and give a worthwhile reply?
@wildebest you are a living cognitive dissonance. Explain me please what the "conspiracy theory around reality" you have seen in this ?
In the spirit of a lefty occidental urban women (we call it a bobo in France), a hippie, a che gevara, an antifa, an anarchist, seem to be "viril at left" like a hero for blue headed feminist.
There is alpha and beta but with a gradient between. No-hope are rejected, yes. But the men who are capable become alpha when they stop to creep. This is why a criminal without any capacities can be an alpha or a simps and "moral" man also.
stupidly simplistic and reductive.. This is the opposite. the usual way to think the mass medias shout everywhere is : women say the truth and men understand nothing. This is stupidly simplistic and reductive.
You seem agressive. Easy behind a screen.
So basically she was hooking up with any man who crossed in front of her, but now when she is getting old and his sexual value is decreasing then she wants a GOOD man. Typical
😂 imagine all of these guys thinking he is going to be the one 🤣🤣
She records each boyfriend on a tape and collects them? Did you all see how many tapes she had! She wasn't dating she was "dating". She should have seen a therapist a long time ago.
lol yes!!!
Red0660 there’s about 30 there. She probably cheated at least once when the relationships were on the decline. Then who knows how many in between. It’s a non ending cycle. Closer to the end of her biological clock will speed it up temporarily before despair hits.
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@LagiNaLangAko23 nightmare
@@zaidalielarabeloco4070 she was on that carousel
Hmmm, if I was a 40 year old man and had to walk inside that trash bin of an apartment, I would RUN!
I would be polite and wash my hands in the kitchen sink.
@@Splatterpunk_OldNewYork I wouldn't even use her sink!
''each one of them was a love of my life'' lol
very messy place
Hepatitis jungle. 😄
She for the streets- welcome to the wall
Unfortunately, the inability to accept responsibility for personal decisions does not remove you from the resulting consequences. Life isn’t created to give second chances, it gives you possibilities, ultimately what you choose to do with those options is self serving.
Well said, unfortunatly telling our modern western liberated woman that is futile. Responsibility is a language they dont wish to understand .
duke william she clearly said that marriage is not for her. That’s why she didn’t marry that fernanado guy. It’s not a woman’s job to get married and have kids.
I feel like she is happy being single but feels pressure from everyone to get married here and the now.
@@lollol4414 but she’s miserable and she still wonders why she is
"Each one of them was the love of my life..."
Oh god...
Szele Balázs MGTOW look it up bro
You guys are so pathetic xD
I would concentrate more on sorting the mess of your house out. Its a disgrace.
Sounds like she chased all the good men away in her twenties and now has to face the reality of hitting the wall .
who cares?
we all equal now.
go and find some job.
Yay for equality!
Heeheheh
Motivação Para Todos
And demand equal pay.
@@IIIrandomIII And demand executive status--none of the menial (see the "men" in menial?) work for me because...entitled vagina.
FenderBassMan 2017
My comment was sarcastic
Those videotapes are all her trophys, imagine if a Man collects all those tapes.
"wHAt A DiSgUsTiNg PiG! hOw DArE YoU ObJECtiFy WoMEn liKE ThaT!!!" 😂😂😂
@bluexqueenSaldy Most Western Women these days are just allergic to Male Virgins... They just want to tame the Alphas...
Lawsuit!!
Spend all the prime years with endless bad boys without any commitment then expect a good man to not mind about her past and be everything for her. I wonder what modern women are thinking.
Unfortunately, for women 35 is like 65 for men.
Not fair but that is the way it is.
Face it lady, it's time to get your first cat
Eddie Kruggerr - pretty soon there won’t be any cats left to adopt LOL
@@mikea5205 hahaha!
Haha
Hooo that's funny as f#kc!!!
Hey now, nothing wrong with cats.
I’m single an I live with 11.
No shame dogs, I’m happy AF.
The WALL does not negotiate.
+SamGuthrie1977 that is the most epic comment i've read in ages. THUMBS UP! :-D
+SamGuthrie1977 epic comment
bless you good sir.
+SamGuthrie1977 The Wall takes no prisoners...
+SamGuthrie1977 It's at least nice to remember the government can't shield women from every single consequence of their actions.
"Discipline equals freedom. " Jocko Willink
Very sad .... another woman about to be dumped in the feminist trash-can.
She'd better forget about becoming a mother, and get some kittens for company.
She's past her prime, and no man wanting a family will consider her as a candidate for motherhood anymore.
Roy Kliffen and with a voice like that, one would have to go deaf to marry her.
Choice777 And the condition of her personality closely matches the condition of her apartment. Infections and infestations are bound to follow.
Roy Kliffen She says "I don't plan to spend my life alone"
Notice how it's always about HER.
Choice777 Or Speedy Gonzales. "Ay carumba, I LOOOOOOOOOVE her VOOOOIIIIIIIIICEEEEE!"
Roy Kliffen 0% of me wants children
45% of me wants experiences rather than achievements
45% Loves freedom
10% wants a life partner
Can anyone answer this equation?