How I Cured My Social Anxiety
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- Опубліковано 20 сер 2024
- As an INFJ, being a confident individual has always been a struggle for me, but lately I have been pushing myself to become more outgoing and sociable and in this video, I will show you how. Surprisingly enough, there is really an art to becoming more confident, as it isn't just about being better at what you do, but understanding that there is always a chance you could fail or make a fool of yourself, and doing it anyway.
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I really needed this video and it reminded me of today, because I got out of my comfort zone. I made a doctor appointment and also called a tattoo shop, it is a huge step for me because I am really scared of calling people even if they’re friends of mine. Thank you so much for the kind advice that you gave in this video. :))
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This is incredible news!!! Calling on the phone is so difficult, but you got this 😇
Are u sure they are really your "friends"?
@@Ahmad-tv4vy yes, because I am really bad when it comes to understand feeling by speech and voice. I need to see the face expressions.
Hello, I’m also an infj 🥰 we are more prone to anxiety 😂 glad you found a way to cope with it and thanks for sharing your knowledge.
I‘m very glad I came across your UA-cam Channel ❣️
Have a great day ☀️
Oh myyyy we are destined to have a bit of anxiety or overthink ahah! Thank you, you have an amazing week too!😌
I have social anxiety and this was such a comforting video to watch so thank you :)
So happy to hear this🥺
Hey how are u doing
This video was really helpful, thank you for this Lucy! I’m a total introvert struggling to be confident in my body and my personality. Lately, since June I’ve been trying to give my self a chance of happiness and letting go of all those insecurities that hold me back from living life. I’m in a much better place now and definitely more confident! However, id like to be more confident than now.
Put yourself out there and remember, embarrassment is a term we have made up, and you don’t need to feel embarrassed if you don’t want to :)
@@LucyAlllan thank you!
Omg!!!I have started watching you since the video deleting Instagram, I did it too. And I am so happy to know you're INFJ too ❤🥰. I agree with you, if we get embarrassed and we show it, people will notice it too. We should be gentle with ourselves, also not black or white, just difference shades of grey
PS. I get your infj struggles, it can be a big struggle to be extroverted introvert, not really extrovert not really introvert, between and full of contradictions, but we make it work somehow, and also your way of speaking gets to me on another level.
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the few seconds rule is my best friend! 😂 I'm always like "1 2 3 now or never" if I want to speak to someone/speak out in class😂
Soooo true!
Loved this :) (Scottish) ENFP here. I struggle to remember all the things I 'learn' about how I am supposed to reframe in social interactions etc... ie my mind just runs away with me and all of a sudden I am in this anxiety spiral. Meditation helps but it is really an every minute practice for me at least!
Hello super fellow scot! Something that’s been helping me lately is going a walk and listening to some (Italian classics) music! Just don’t look at other people and just enjoy the walk outside. For some reason, it makes everything feel a little better
I have watched your social media detox video many times. I tried to quit but it was still hard for me to do it. I have noticed what flaw I have and I will work on that. Also what motivated me now to quit it more is to look at beauty of life. Search of geniune pictures of people laughing together at a table or a picture of 3 friends wearing roller skates and they help the person on the middle who struggling to stand up but still put on a smile. A picture of 3 girls smiling while riding together a vintage car. A kid smiling while riding a swing.
Just look how happy people are at that time. For me that's most beautiful thing I've seen after a long time of just watching asthetic pictures and staying in my room.
Imagine what it feels like to have that feeling again. Ngl I miss it alot. I miss hanging out with friends of even how much socially anxious I am. I wanna get out of my bubble. It may be abit hard because everyone's attached but I know there is a way.
As an introvert I was inclined to click of the video and as soon as I heard your Scottish accent as a fellow Scottish person I now feel the need to binge your whole channel
I'm so glad UA-cams algorithm guided me to your channel. Not exactly sure why but I'm glad it did. Been binge watching loads of your videos and think you're bloody brilliant. Keep up the great work.
Ahh Im so glad you made it here 😊
@@LucyAlllan Just watched your Interrail video and it's made me regret that I didn't do it before Covid, as I feel like the current restrictions will certainly make things more difficult and not as enjoyable. I don't like to be pessimistic but I feel like the world is currently at breaking point at the moment and I don't like where it's headed.
A lesson learned and it as cliché as it sounds: Dont procrastinate, make your dreams come true and live your life. If you want to do something or go somewhere, make it happen as life goes too quick. Or as the they say in latin: Carpe diem.
Only took me 38 years to realise!
Amazing video coming from an introvert myself! :) I do truly believe that confidence can be found in anyone, and not just extroverts.
Also the tip at the end to start a UA-cam channel to improve your confidence is real!! Once you learn how to talk to a camera by yourself like it’s a person, it somehow helps when talking to real people 😮 I have yet to talk to a camera in public, still working on that 🤪
Absolutely! Introverts can be confident too.. although I think we still have a little social and confidence timer everyday :)
I'm introvert since 7 but after meet new friends (maybe at 15 or 16) I'm become more confident to social with other people well become introvert isn't bad just don't be so complicated about something, you should enjoy your life
Absolutely, the most important thing is that you are happy /)
oh this is so sweet and what a journey Lucy. I could totally relate to some of the things you mentioned, cheers to your journey as a great human being😍
We all have a journey like this Im sure Banshan!😇
This video 7 years ago would have been a world of help. Such brilliant advice 🙂
Ah no, I hope it isn’t too late!!:)
nooo it's totally ok!!! all you need is just get started
Recently discovered your channel and this video - just wanted to say you're doing awesome! I am also an INFJ (studying Communications which apparently changed me as a personality quite a lot) but trying to gain more confidence and shine in my true colors. Best of luck for you! :)
That is awesome! thank you :)
I found this video really comforting in a way. I’m watching this at night and it feels like I’m actively talking to you! :D
That’s so cool ! A little convo between us :)
@@LucyAlllan Yep :)
been a introvert is hard until you accept who you really are
Hello. Your camera shots are very good. Thanks.
Thanks so much!!
I think you're right a lot of it comes down to overcoming the fear of judgement (which I made a video about lol cheeky plug) and it's kinda empowering when you're over that hump especially when you're creating content 😇
If we can rid our fear of judgment, I think that’s a huge step forward :)
@@LucyAlllan I'm 21 as well, defo think 'cringe' and easily getting embarrassed has just been ingrained in our generation, like you say it's quite liberating when you just stop caring lol
Thanks for this Viedo!! Helped me a lot. I am also INFJ and could relate to so many things. I am just about to study for a semester in Chile and am still frightened to use a foreign language but this helped me a lot to go out of my comfort zone and challenge myself to just talk and talk to strangers just to get more confident with the language! Thank you and take care!
Hii Lucy. Here's what makes me happy about you. I remember your first videos and there's a huge difference between previous Lucy when I compare now about confidence. Pls they're my favorite :) Another great video, Thnx. oh almost I forgot. Good luck in Spain.
Nice hearing from you Mustafa, hope you’re doing great man!! And thank you, Spain is a blast 💥
All the stuff I watched and read about confidence etc. somehow this video encouraged me the most. Thanks
I really appreciate your content! Sending hugs from Poland 🤍
Good points. I also want to add something. A book that really helped to boost my confidence is the book titled "The Six Pillars of Self-esteem".
This book is life-changing. I highly suggested for anyone who struggles in self-esteem to read this.
Thank you so much for this channel
I’m feeling really lost lately, I’m moving in Bordeaux in a few days and I’m going to a new high school, I had a break up and felt really lost lately, I hope I can grow up and be like you one day, I watched all your videos and they gave me hope :) could you make a video about how you keep your bonds with people without social medias, and even how to create solid bonds with people ? I’m thinking about deleting my social medias but I’m afraid it would isolate me even more
Merci Beaucoup!
Lovely video. Sending you infinite compassion and love, fellow INFJ 💛
Thank you so much!
Introvert? With a UA-cam channel?
I dont dare to have one........
Btw: love the Highlands
Haha it takes balls to put a video of you speaking to a camera on the internet, I’ll admit!
Love the highlands too’
Honestly if someone that lived in the states heard your accent that would intriguing to an American and they would probably break the ice for you . Like being in a place where you have to ask for something and allowing your voice to be overheard
Haha true! In a hostel it’s quite easy even just because people are curious as to where we all come from!
i am glad i stumbled upon your channel! i am also an infj ♡
Welcome!!
love from Mauritius 🇲🇺!!
Love from Spain 🇪🇸
You were in my yt recommendations and I was loving this video a lot bc I felt like I needed to work on being confident and then you suddenly said that you are in valencia, when I am a spanish who lives here LOL
btw the tips you mention on this video are also soo useful, ty for making this vid :))
Omg hahah, small world! Enjoy fallas😅 maybe we will see each other on the streets one day!
As an INFP I'll say this is some good info :)
Almost the same, what’s the name of the iNFP
@@LucyAlllan the mediator (introverted, Intuitive , feeling, perception) I’m INFP-A more specifically
You are beautiful , good - hearted , & wise ! ... thanks for your helpful videos lucy ....
Thanks for watching!
I'm a ENFJ myself, remember to don't let that title stop you from doing anything 😊
Absolutely !
Hello, Lucy
Thank you for a really nice video once again. Excited to follow you as a small UA-cam creator myself.
It's very inspiring to see how your UA-cam channel grows and content feels a lot more relatable as opposed to
million followers creators. So, keep going 😉
Thank you so much!
Thank you for sharing your experience :) Tus consejos son de gran ayuda
Me alegra de que hayas disfrutado 😇
Great video Lucy. Nice camera shots and clear audio. Great job 👏 Love you x
Love you
Ooooooooh I loved this
Thank you so much😊! Have a great day
Hi I’m new here! I would absolutely love to hear you have a podcast if that’s something you’d be interested in! Love your videos so far ☺️
Great idea!!
Beautiful journey. ❤️
It really is!
You are pretty. Believe in yourself.
Ei Lucy! i really really loved this video!! thank you so much!!
I just discovered your channel yesterday, and i really loved and I identified a lot with you
I'm from Brasil, and moved alone to Barcelona for also study and work, if for some coincidence you lives in Barcelona too, it would be very cool to meet you! :) im 2 years here, and i know how difficult is moving alone abroad, so if you wanna enjoy one day with me just let me know! podemos hablar en español si preferir!
best regards!
I'm so glad!
WHAT A GREAT VIDEO!
Omg thank you!!!
This was a really good video and something I really related to and could use! Thank you 🙌
Ah you are so welcome!
really great to see this, related so much
btw your hair looks great!!
Thank you so much!!
absolutely love this video
Hey there
Im in the same boat as well.. every day is a struggle. Every morning its a battle that im fighting q myself that nobody knows anything about.
I just wanna be myself. I just wanna feel myself. I wanna be authentic. I wanna be genuine. I wanna live life just ans not be in a bubble and stuck inside a room..i always avoid meeting my friends and socializing..avoid family events, social gatherings. I wanna live. I wanna live my bessst life thats all
Please help me...
Ive heard its also because of our brain sturcture- like neurons and also a large amygdala.. and also brain chemistry that affects its functioning
I love this advice, thank you!
Glad it was helpful!
Wow i loved this video, it helped me so much
Glad it helped!
Fellow INFJ
Yay, what’s up’
Good stuff Lucy 😇
Yes sir
@@LucyAlllan you guys are so adorable ☺️
I can see a few influences of Emilio in your video - stoicism :P although I could be mistaken. Either way, it's so nice to see you guys learning and growing together. As an INTJ myself, it's so refreshing to see like minded folks doing well, growing and leading a good life. I wish all the love and happiness in world for you guys 😊
Omg! I can relateee!
Yes, the struggles !!
I'm in love with your videos 🤍
What camera do you use to record them?
Hey!!! Thank you so much, I use a Fujifilm xT4, the link is in my bio cause I have a separate lens… think it’s a 15-55mm😎
Great video!
Thank you so much😇
Great video, thank you!
I'm a infj too! :-)
hello :)
Yo aprendiendo español también!
Que chulo 😎
queen behaviour
Stop it, I’m trying to stay humble 😉😇
you always give me such a confidence boost! I love all your videos and never stop with what you do :) you are inspiring people! (like mee :D) If you ever want to come to switzerland let me knooow I would love to show you around hahah :D xx Meli
You're the best!
Hi Lucy!
I notice that you interact with your comments alot so I'm writing this as someone whom I believe you've effected in a positive way and I'm hoping you'll read it.
It's kind of a shame that I found your channel only now, because I watched a few of your videos on deleting social media because it's something I've seen a need to try for a while now. I'm a 20 year old full-time student with a lot to keep me busy, but I still end up logging a lot of screen time, maybe as a subconscious escape from the stress of realer things. I just got out of reading week (maybe you did too) and while it was an appreciated week off, my screen time was far beyond what I wanted and it wasn't even really relaxing. and those videos combined with this video has convinced me to really give this my best go! I'm disabling the UA-cam and Facebook apps and deleting Reddit and Discord (I've never had Snapchat, Tiktok, or Instagram). And as someone with some social anxiety, I've also written down your points from this video and I'll be pursuing real interactions to help fill the gap that social media might leave.
So yeah, that's all! I just wanted to let you know that you've sparked a desire for real change in someone and you should keep up the good work in trying to become a better and more true version of yourself. Thank you for sharing that journey with us!
- Marc
Ah wow, thank you for taking the time to write this message! It means a lot to me🥺 I hope you can keep improving and feeling better soon, good luck for the little detox 😌
you look gorgeous in black 😍
Have you made friends that reciprocate interest long term?
I would say yes, but it took me until university to find them :)
@@LucyAlllan ok, thanks for letting me know! I was wandering cause I have had friends that I'd meet but I never had their numbers or anything, so unless I went out, there was no communication. Was wandering if that was common or not🙂 What made uni different?
Overcame 💯👌
Yes!! 🙏
real queen girl stuff
Ah stop it, I’m blushing 😇
but isn't being beautiful as a piece of the moon a great advantage above all other introverts like myself
Claire de lune- Debussy 😇
Ohh I´m also INFJ :)
Hello Paulina!
it's too hard
Heyy Lucy, are you okay? We missed you!🤍
Hey!! All great over here and a video will be published at 5pm UK time for an update on everything that’s happening 😇
@@LucyAlllan aww that is amazing!! Looking forward to. when you have time pls record book recommendations
ahhhhh why you got 2 doors in your room? im comfused
To the living room and to the bathroom haha!:)
What is your MBTI type, Lucy? Great video btw 👍🏻
Oh wait I remembered seeing your video about being an INFJ 😪
thing is --- you can get away with anything coz u pretty haha
Just keep swimming
Fish 🐠
@@LucyAlllan stay safe 😊
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You're very bold to leave your country to go to live another country with another language.
Jumping in adventures before I am too scared of it :)