Indian fathers are known for their toughness and as disciplinarian mostly for boys to train them as men. Who can take responsibility, has a strong spine ( metaphorically), so boys do not share their vulnerability with their dads. On the other hands they don't show toughness for girl child, that's the work of mother to discipline daughters for their role in life. That's why girls are comfortable sharing thoughts with father and boys with mother.
Whatever he said is true BUT they way liberals /wokes are destroying west (family value ,human values ) and in india our wokes and liberals are doing the same since past 75yrs they are not able to digest that how conservative in India is rising and bringing the old value system ,family system, proud of their ancient history and civilization .The success of Indian Americans is this conservative values but the 2nd &3rd generation are becoming wokes and they no longer able to sustain this ,they will become like average american people in terms of what I have mentioned above
Do you know why elders are so much respected in India. We even touch their feet. Not only of our immediate relatives but of anybody else's. It is because intrinsically, we know that our previous generations have sacrificed their lives and dreams so that our generation live comfortably with fewer hardships. . . Kudos to our parents.
As a child you can think why Indian parents are so strict But when you're an adult watching the society full of mental you realise that you didn't fall into this crazy world because of your parents.
I am Indian father living in Australia. My daughter was raised as Australian. She is 25 now and yet to have her first drink, date, cigarette etc. She will let me know about first date and how it went. She shares everything about her life. She works as an electrical engineer.
lol she's lying to you. like all Indian kids do. I guarantee you she's out partying, smoking, drinking, and hooking up with guys. Indians aren't special you do all the same stuff westerners do, you just hide it.
As an Indian, education is not an option, it's mandatory. All other skills or extra curricular activities are the add-ons. So when the kids are at the age of 16-18 they have multiple options to decide in which area they want to lead their life. That's why Indians are everywhere in the world in all types of occupation, business, sports etc. Proud to be an Indian 😊
@@bobbyyohannan9869Yes that's why millions of people are on salaried job here 😂 That's why big tech giants come to India every year and set their business here with 100% Indian workforce. 😂 What are you on? BBC fed propaganda?
We have been supressed for over a 1000 years but our mindset is simple. Family, Sacrifice, Knowledge and Kindness. Everything comes into these brackets for us.
12:30 I think it's true Boys loves their mom more And girl loves their father more When brother-sister fights Their are High chances that mother will take son's side And father will take daughter side. (But don't forget chappal is for both)😂
@@siddhantshukla8102 Bro so true, my grandma will kill me or anyone if they touch our cousin because she is the Lakshmi of the house, and no one can be disrespectful to the goddess 🤷🏻♂️🤷🏻♂️
Im a 23 year old living in Canada and i can confirm it is pretty common for guys to be close to their mothers. Ive been living in Canada by myself for 5 years now and I call my mom pretty much every day and we have these conversations about how my day went what's new or even some of the emotional difficulties i might have. I have a similar relationship with my elder sisters too.
As an Indian, I think family culture is a big reason for success and long term happiness. Unlike in the West where kids leave their homes after 18, we bond with our parents not just as teenagers but even as adults by living with them. These things create a very big support system for the kids and the family values stay intact. Also, living with family teaches us to accept people and their differences, so for most people, marriages are well-managed. Plus the involvement of grandparents help create an environment where even the kids of their kids are taken care of while the parents work.
But it comes with an over-controlling and nosy/judgemental culture that has next to no respect for individual freedom. And that's the part I hate. I wish my parents didn't treat me like I'm 10 when I'm 30, and didn't constantly interfere in all of my life choices.
Family is important. For Indians. Every sacrifice for for family. Indians have always been good in maths, science, literature,arts. We respect knowledge. Its more precious than gold
@@hobbithallows of course I have, which Indian family hasn't? But that hasn't stopped me from talking things out and building a strong relationship. That's called bonding.
The analysis is pretty accurate. My parents migrated to USA 30 years back when I was in 4th grade. We came here with 3 other families, all my mom’s siblings. Today we are all well settled. Living the American Dream you can say. My bother, sister and all of our cousins all have high income jobs and do pretty well. The one thing I remember is our parents emphasizing the importance of completing higher education and obtain a high salary job. Now that we all have children, we encourage the next generation to do better than what we did. I teach my kids the skills that I know they will need to be on the top of the food chain. We also help each other out weather it’s emotional, financial or cultural. Keep it simple. Treat others the way you want to be treated (not a new saying but very important one).
From my experience Jaby, my parents did encourage me to learn Tabla, a Indian Drum and noticed my talent in painting, enrolled me in drawing classes. But education wise, they insisted I had to become an engineer and thats what I ended up becoming
Mereko toh ek baar galti se Drawing au Violin bajane ka Bimari kag gaya tha usko dekh ke mereko Jabardasti classes me dal diya . They are like : Tujhe pata nahi hai but tu bahit Talented hai😂 Same 2 class me mereko Fancy dress competition me jabardasti bhej dete the jhaadu , Mahatma Gandu, Bhagat Singh bana ke
Whatever he said is true BUT they way liberals /wokes are destroying west (family value ,human values ) and in india our wokes and liberals are doing the same since past 75yrs they are not able to digest that how conservative in India is rising and bringing the old value system ,family system, proud of their ancient history and civilization .The success of Indian Americans is this conservative values but the 2nd &3rd generation are becoming wokes and they no longer able to sustain this ,they will become like average american people in terms of what I have mentioned above
My father told me to join karate class... He used to ask me daily wheather i will join or not... Once i was telling a story of my school function to my mother... And telling her how a student danced very well ... After listening to that conversation my father started asking me to join dance class
12:39 As a Indian woman born in the 80’s I can confirm that it’s true. I related with my father more than my mother. He was super duper awesome, Be it PTA meetings at school or help with the studies, handling boy troubles if any to splurge shopping for every occasion. Even though I wasn’t too good at my studies but I had all the support I needed. The support structure in early childhood matters
The father daughter thing is very true. I have an 8 yr old daughter. Though she doesn’t have any secrets, but she tells me everything happened to school after returning. Also at night while going to bed, she tells me everything she did the whole day. Talking to parents after school is a practice we make gradually from day 1. For 1 year we had to make efforts. But now she tells willingly.
@bishoprook2616 don’t know about Dalit. But I myself married what u called scheduled cast. And this is Bengal. We don’t have those casteism, dowry in here.
@bishoprook2616 Abey lodu pdh to le kya keh rha hai vo, usne ye nhi kaha ki vo nhi janta dalit kya hai usne ye kaha ki uski beti dalit se shadi kregi ya nhi ye nhi pta.... Ek aur bat usne ye bhi nhi kaha ki vo brahmin hai usne ye kaha ki usne SC se shadi ki hai prr iska mtlb ye nhi ki vo bhi highest ka hi ho, vo kshatriya ya vaishnav mein bhi aa skta hai and I don't know I believe in this or not prr uski statement prr hi jaun to usne casteism ki bat kri thi naa ki caste ki dono ki conveyance mein fark hai. Pehle bnde ne likha kya vo smjh, aa jaate hain comment mein behas krne.
In India, there are some habits that usually parents follow to help their children to grow : 1. They used to ask their child regularly about his school / college . 2. They keep watch on his friend circle . 3. They give a limited amount of money to their children and generally asks reasons for the money they need. 4. They are preety strict in terms of some rules and standards following the ancestors. 5. They try to incorporate the moral and social values using some novels of great leaders and panchtantra stories. 6. Indians have the capability to make the best use of available resources , whether they are insufficient.
Whatever he said is true BUT they way liberals /wokes are destroying west (family value ,human values ) and in india our wokes and liberals are doing the same since past 75yrs they are not able to digest that how conservative in India is rising and bringing the old value system ,family system, proud of their ancient history and civilization .The success of Indian Americans is this conservative values but the 2nd &3rd generation are becoming wokes and they no longer able to sustain this ,they will become like average american people in terms of what I have mentioned above
Indian parents are so good at identifying their children's talets that they can decide it at a very early age if they'll become a doctor or an engineer.
Because that has the most probability of making money safely and legally in India. Once you become rich, of course you are going to give your children freedom
My parents has sacrificed their dream just to educate me enough for livelihood. I agree with each and every point he has mentioned. Parents sacrifice their dream for us and we work hard just to fulfill their unheard dream. Blessed to have such a lovely parents.
Read the whole comment section and felt gratitude towards all of our Indian parents. Above all felt gratitude towards our unmatched Bharatia Civilization and its values. No matter how irrational it may seem to the rest of the world but we still believe in our values. Not because our parents told us to but they showed us too.
I'm very fortunate to have parents with whom I can talk about my struggles or successes quite openly. Indian parents are generally quite protective of their offspring, and it's even more so when you're a single child. The protectiveness, nurturing, and caring values are so strong and profound that sometimes it becomes difficult to learn to be independent and to stand on your own feet. But as a result of that conditioning, you are well-connected to your culture, values, and your closest friends and family, no matter where you go. It's a beautiful thing indeed!
I think the idea of sacrificing anything is alien to Americans - be it their time, or effort or hobbies to try to achieve anything. That's why they're so fixated on the fact that to achieve great things families might need to make sacrifices and they think that's automatically bad. American culture is extremely individualistic so ideas like that are basically foreign to them.
Whatever he said is true BUT they way liberals /wokes are destroying west (family value ,human values ) and in india our wokes and liberals are doing the same since past 75yrs they are not able to digest that how conservative in India is rising and bringing the old value system ,family system, proud of their ancient history and civilization .The success of Indian Americans is this conservative values but the 2nd &3rd generation are becoming wokes and they no longer able to sustain this ,they will become like average american people in terms of what I have mentioned above
great observation. There is nothing wrong with sacrificing for the right thing done at the right time. But this idea is somewhat alien to the western world. As a result, they have deranged family structure, increased gun violence, and broken families
100% fact..When I see videos of some Americans i feel your thoughts...How they make some normal things such as trauma...If it is a wrong thing you will put light on that issue in society but don't make it as traumatizing and to make it a health problem and make everyone softer...Then that "traumatized person" will have higher election from society which leads to more "trauma"
As an only child… I got a lot of attention to a point I used to feel overwhelmed especially as a teenager when you just want to be cool and wild… but now I feel blessed to have such emotionally supportive parents…super close to both mom and dad…and indeed I guess the amount of time you vest in your child does make a whole lot of difference
My daughter tells me things and my son is close to his mom. Indian parents always push for perfection. When our children become successful as parents we are proud. Most of the kids take summer school so they can stay ahead of the other students
To be honest, I spend time with my family and friends. I am a civil engineer. I am a photographer. I am a cyclist too. It's not tough to be successful at multitasking, all you need to do is sleep early and wakeup early. 24 hours a day is not that less you know...and a greater percentage of Indians wakeup at 5am compared to the world.
Whether you are an early bird or a late night owl it doesn't matter. Each one is creative and productive in their own way given their physical and mental health.
@@striker44 being a counselor myself, everyone suffering from depression and anxiety, or even bad metabolism, have one thing in common. That is a Late riser. There is a huge drop of physical and mental abilities.
@@freeions As an engineer and researcher I have come across many creative people who are night owls. - with patents and several awards. Writers, entertainment, software coders, medical professionls are also night owns, except maybe yoga teachers, personal trainerrs and such who are I have seen early birds - those to-do list people. I have people seen them depressed and suffering from anxieties and metabolism problems as well. My own personal observations are different from yours.
my wife and I both did two jobs to put boys through a private nursery school and later to higher education which has helped us to retire early as both did well in their studies and the boys having seen how hard we both sacrificed our time for them they have always kept in close touch with us
To answer your question Jaby, I think its very very true at least for the Indians growing up here in India, obv wouldn't want to generalize, but that's what I've seen growing up majorly. Girls are a lot more closer to their dads, and boys are closer to their moms. (also it's been shown in a lot of Bollywood movies) -Also, on the 2nd point, Syntell is right, although the main focus is always a good education, most Indian parents nurture other talents in their kids as well. most kids are good at atleast 2-3 hobbies/talents. for eg, my Uncle is a very successful doctor in California, and both his kids are doctors too, but they're family of gifted musicians as well, he nurtured those talents too but the main goal was always to become a doctor. But to be honest, a lot of it is changing now.
I'm a 22 year old who still confide in my mother. I live away from my parents for work but still call my mother daily and we share our "how's our day went by today?". I strongly agree with that statement.😊🙏
Whatever he said is true BUT they way liberals /wokes are destroying west (family value ,human values ) and in india our wokes and liberals are doing the same since past 75yrs they are not able to digest that how conservative in India is rising and bringing the old value system ,family system, proud of their ancient history and civilization .The success of Indian Americans is this conservative values but the 2nd &3rd generation are becoming wokes and they no longer able to sustain this ,they will become like average american people in terms of what I have mentioned above
I think I have heard some theories about it. The one which tells about attraction between opposite genders. They feel more safe towards the opposite one. Just like magnets. I forgot the proper word of it but it is also in the dictionary. If you are a woman you will mostly like your father rather than your mother. Your mother is also a woman and she will give you many advices about how to be a proper woman. You may dislike her strictness with you and prefer to listen to father. The opposite of this happens if you are a man. The one who gives you more life advices would be your father. But it doesn't apply to every family in this world. Idk if you understood it because my English is kinda broken. I think I didn't explain it very clearly here. Anyway I wrote what I wanted to write. 😮💨
The support system of family is something that I would never take lightly. Being an immigrant student myself, when times get tough I can call my 5th cousin and even their parents and they will step up for me. Family is everything.
Delayed gratification is 100% true. My parents and uncle aunts gave us cousins option to either enjoy holidays or give 2 hrs/day of holidays with a prize at the end. And to top it off they would create competition amongst us. Result was we completed whatever holiday homework we had in few days plus some extra work of next year syllabus and we got the prizes. Not only prizes but the impression we had on our teachers starting next year because we studied the syllabus way ahead of time. Indian parents are geniuses really
@bishoprook2616it’s a crime. Not a part of culture. It neither represents all Indian parents , even “Indian parents”. Any one who committed such acts Tantamount to a murder. They shall be punished according to the criminal law.
@bishoprook2616 Tylor defined culture as “the complex whole which includes knowledge, belief, art, law, morals, custom, and any other capabilities acquired by man as a member of society”
Black women divorce at much higher rates than Indian women, who tend to prioritise the long term needs of their children. Having a father in the household is the single biggest determinant of success for children, so it is a big factor in the success of Indians in America.
I am in USA for 23 years, physician by profession. My brother came in USA in 96 , engineer by profession, he worked 60-70 hours/ week so I can finish my residency and settle down comfortably. He is a very big businessman now and I am making huge money myself too . Our parents stay with us and living American dream. Our kids will get higher education, we will make sure they are well disciplined, motivated, hard working and respectful. Hard work , dedication, honesty and commitment takes you wherever you want . NO SHORT CUT to be successful, it’s a journey where everyone has to make sacrifices
Whatever he said is true BUT they way liberals /wokes are destroying west (family value ,human values ) and in india our wokes and liberals are doing the same since past 75yrs they are not able to digest that how conservative in India is rising and bringing the old value system ,family system, proud of their ancient history and civilization .The success of Indian Americans is this conservative values but the 2nd &3rd generation are becoming wokes and they no longer able to sustain this ,they will become like average american people in terms of what I have mentioned above
Yes. I'm a girl and i can share everything with my dad like literally everything. And i'm a little scared to share with my mom😅. My father is my best friend and the most caring dad ever.
I'am a lower middle class indian and from my experience most of the things about parents is true. especially sacrificing lives and carrers for their children well being. they support their children till their last moment. family values and relatives stuff is also true. children sometimes might feel parents are being little tough or breaching their freedom. I feel child knows the value of the efforts put by his/her parents into his future well being much later. Also with all this comes expectations and mental disturbance for some people. there's an whole other side to this story.
@bishoprook2616 looks like you are being tortured by your parents brother... If you have any problem you can contact your nearest police station too... Haven't seen an Indian having so much hatred for his family...
@@LaughOutLoudLOL7777 that's mother greatness but from child's perspective when one becomes adult and if he had seen parents struggling to make tough decisions and finally bet everything beyond their capacity on child's future. At a point he feels everything he has till now is some kind of sacrifice of his parents. somehow he tries to compensate that by making them happy , basically by making them financially stable and stress free. this all comes into picture if you are in low economic and social status. if socio and economic status is solid then these issues might seem alien. atleast in my place I see people going through this and I did too.
Yes, Indian children, in general, look up to their parents' support...and it's a mutual, natural relationship that acts as a powerful support system that lasts lifetime...
its all true Indian parents do sacrifice a lot and we also love our family the whole of it there are good times and bad time but family comes first i left a high paying job to stay at home and work in my own state so i can take care of my mom who was sick at the time
Whatever he said is true BUT they way liberals /wokes are destroying west (family value ,human values ) and in india our wokes and liberals are doing the same since past 75yrs they are not able to digest that how conservative in India is rising and bringing the old value system ,family system, proud of their ancient history and civilization .The success of Indian Americans is this conservative values but the 2nd &3rd generation are becoming wokes and they no longer able to sustain this ,they will become like average american people in terms of what I have mentioned above
Yes most of the things he said is correct I like dancing My parents love when I do But their priority is still studying It's safer for me to tell something when I mess up to my mother first To be honest they want their child to be a Bollywood star Who can dance,sing,is intelligent, have abs and have a lot of money The expectations are high but not for their sake but for us
They mostly think that way so "if" you would not be a successful dancer or whatever you like, you can still get a job with what you studied. In a way it's like a backup thing which can support you if things don't go according to the plan.
What people don't realize is STEM requires lot of creativity. Even smallest of codes you write, require you to be extremely creativity. So creativity is seen as wholesome holistic thing in Indian culture. No surprises that some of the greatest scientists are great artists (in fields of art, music, dance, history, politics). Everything goes hand in hand. And acquiring skills of STEM actually is a life skill which instills a lot of creativity in a person. And of course common sense and general IQ!
Tagore wrote encyclopedia of all topics. He has a photo with Einstein. Satyajit Ray wrote a lot of science fiction. The overlap is very common in our culture.
As a indian i can say maybe there is some doughter who are more comfortable to speak with their dad but I can tell you surely that the son and daughter both are more comfortable to tell their secrets to mom in Indian household.
As an Indian father of four, with having 3 little princesses at home who are more comfortable sharing their briefs and secrets with me. I can proudly say that it makes my life easy to guide my daughters whenever they need it to be before it's too late.
One can pursue passion along with mainstream STEM professional careers. Even thousands of years back, Indian culture never ignored math and science. Indian temples are great examples of STEM skills and art. We know how to maintain a balance. I have two uncles; one is a doctor, another is an engineer, and both are highly acclaimed writers and recipients of the prestigious 'Sahitya Akademi Award (in literature). All my cousins are in STEM while pursuing their passion for music, dance, and theatre. Leading by example, they encouraged me to pursue my passion for painting, and supported me with everything I needed; but not at the cost of mainstream education. I am thankful to them that now I have a steady mainstream career and I am also an artist.
That's very true about Indian mothers. I sacrifice my career working in the FAANG for my son and I have no regret. We focus on STEM for jobs, but encourage kids to participate in creative stuff.
Father-daughter and Mother-son relationship is so true.. i have also observed my circle and felt it.. My mother is so close to me that i would even share my crush, girlfriend's details, someone bullying me etc. Parents' experi3nce is generally very useful in dealing with problems that you may not know how to handle gracefully but a female can use masculine energy and male can have a feminine energy guiding them which makes a lot more stable... only time my father stepped in and talked to me was when it was an absolute emergency (a very serious breakup and slipping into a near depression experience) Also, hobbies and creativity go hand in hand with STEM. Many punjabi families insist on learning singing, instruments or dance (maybe all) as it helps grow your brain.. research shows being able to play atleast one instrument help your thinking ability and learning ability as it helps you see a different perspective. Its like being able to think from a different dimension
12:38 100% true, Indian father's justify the term "Daddy's princess", also Indian mothers are very protective of their sons, so much so that often it results in a contention between mothers and their daughter in law (popular soap opera theme)
When the indian Hockey player Dhyanchand was asked to play for German Hockey team by Hitler then he said.... *"It's not the duty of my country to give me something... It is my duty to give something to my country"* So the indian going abroad need to think about it... unfortunately, USA was built with the Money of ww1 and WW2... If anybody has that much of money, with average governance, any nation would have been developed... And those who still have some lagging in digesting, just imagine if TATAs or Dhirubhai Ambani or Adani had decided to go abroad, they themselves could have been way more richer then what they are today... But india could've been years back in terms of industrialisation... And similarly, if Sundar pichai had decided to stay in india, if not billionaire he could have definitely been millionaire... Moreover, the Google Drive, Duo, meet, Google play, Google maps, chrome etc many inventions were introduced by him only,.... Just imagine what if it was launched by him from India...!
Some Indians in America become very successful for three main reasons: 1.They are happy for the opportunity to be in America, and they don't take that privilege for granted. 2. They know the importance of education, and they value education. 3. They have strong, supporting, and more traditional family values.
We have the phrases ,"maa ka laadla (meaning mother's dear son)" and "papa ki pari (meaning dad's little princess)" Many people use these lines for teasing but ya it's true that fathers love and pamper their daughters more and the opposite in son's case
An Indian girl here, currently pursuing masters degree....my best friend is definitely my dad and he knows almost all of my secret 😂. Papas are superheroes in our lives . I know how many sacrifices he has made for me. My mom got married when she had just completed her high school degree . My dad educated her and now she's an independent woman, a teacher in a government high school . Nobody could throw any gender discriminatory opinion at me because he was there right by my side . My mom is quite strict but papa is ❤❤❤
'Papa ki pari and maa ka ladla', means fairy of Father and beloved of mother. Indian girls are more into their father and indian boys are into mother. Thats true.
Among Hindus, marriage us not just for fun stuff. It's a lifelong commitment that involves love AND sacrifice. It is not a stand alone entity. It is part of the family and so you learn to do your best for each other, kids and parents.
Yes it true that daughters are close to father and son's are closer to the mother. Regarding the creative part he mentioned what Syntell said is true, in their schooling, they allow the kids to engage and learn other creative things such as music etc.. while also focusing them on schooling related things. And if a kid has a talent then they allow them to continue but if not they just say them to focus on the studies.
I am 27 years old, and my mother is still my best friend. As a boy I feared my dad (I still do) even though he loves me a lot. That's why I would rather share my secrets with my mom lol
To study the divorce rates you also need to look at the teenage romance and young marriage age. Indian marriages and childbirths are taking place at an advanced age which brings maturity to any relationship. Any person who has children in a young age or gets married young has a less chance of being able to make it work.
yes, all Indian kids and their parents get very much involved with what talent the child has like music, Indian dance forms, art , paintings, sports, etc.. I remember my mom encouraged my sister to pursue Indian classical dance and she became good at it. And she also loves computer science and programming so they go hand in hand. It doesn't have to be either or, they can go coexist, In fact, we feel science and math are basic life skill tools that every human should be equipped with. On the other hand, I loved to paint and loved astronomy and science..both coexisted and I'm able to do justice to both and happily pursue my goals.
I am an India American. I have always been more close to my dad. He was my best friend, mentor, guide, and confidant. I felt that he understood me more than my mom. So I can relate to the comment that Indian fathers are their daughters’ best friend. My sister had similar equation with my dad. Not sure how this is true on macro-level.
Whatever he said is true BUT they way liberals /wokes are destroying west (family value ,human values ) and in india our wokes and liberals are doing the same since past 75yrs they are not able to digest that how conservative in India is rising and bringing the old value system ,family system, proud of their ancient history and civilization .The success of Indian Americans is this conservative values but the 2nd &3rd generation are becoming wokes and they no longer able to sustain this ,they will become like average american people in terms of what I have mentioned above
I am 48 year old adult living in india.. And my mom will take care of me at 78 with out any expectation if i ask her ... Your parents your wife and children are always with you ... No matter what
13:20 That is true. Most Indian parents (if they can afford) will encourage their kids to try many different things. For instance, I learned to play guitar only because of my dad. He put me to classes forcibly. I also played table tennis thanks to my dad again. That being said, most Indian parents do not view these creative/sports fields as valid career options. They want you to pick up healthy hobbies, mostly for fostering creativity, building essential values and as a good way to chill after work. The academic focus is always on STEM and when time is of the essence, they'd themselves ask the kids to focus more on studies and less on hobbies (even zero!)
1. ' MAA ka laadla & Papa ki Pari ' ( Mother's precious boy & Fathers precious angel) 2 commonly used phrases in India. Just to address the confusion. 2. Creative arts and STEM both go greatly hand to hand. History is filled with amazing examples : Ramanujan, S N Bose, Einstein, Teslavetc
The moment Child is born in Western Countries, saparate room is assigned to Baby....This does not happens in Indians....This is the reason why Child is more attached to parents in India, compared to Child in Western Countries who lacks Kinship, emotionally attached to parents....
You should also keep in mind that Asian culture in particular Indian culture is oriented towards giving the society model citizens for the future. It’s all about family, family is the first unit of ā society and a healthy family results in a healthy society. Whereas the west moved away from this model to individual happiness. That is a big factor.
key thing in indian marriages that makes it work is that it's never '' you vs me'' it's always ''us vs the problem '' that is the reason for the low divorce rates
Bro you think that is sacrifice but we feel amazing for sacrificing for our family.. That is different for you , your happiness gave you pleasure but for us.. smile on our family face gave us that feeling that you cant imagine
i don't know why this video have just 12 k likes this just makes me proud of my civilization and values that keeps me standing in hardest of situation, bharat mata ki jai
Whatever he said is true BUT they way liberals /wokes are destroying west (family value ,human values ) and in india our wokes and liberals are doing the same since past 75yrs they are not able to digest that how conservative in India is rising and bringing the old value system ,family system, proud of their ancient history and civilization .The success of Indian Americans is this conservative values but the 2nd &3rd generation are becoming wokes and they no longer able to sustain this ,they will become like average american people in terms of what I have mentioned above
The relationship we have with our parents and our children is very tight.. we are completely engaged in each other’s life.. it doesn’t feel like a sacrifice or a compromise.. we love to do it.. selflessness is an important virtue for us.. I remember my father saying often “even a rodent can live life on their own terms… you are human if you have this capacity to live for others and are happy about it..
yes my parents tell me too this same thing that even an animal on streets is capable of surviving and feeding himself anyhow but we as human what make us different is that we can give, share and make a living for not only us but others to that what makes a human different from other animals even though we are also animals (as in Biology) and they taught me and my brother to gain all skills and assets to double it in amount and than must give it back to society and help others to grow too.
That Father Daughter and Mother Son bond is very true....😂 Most of Us as Boy kid even till date used to ask our mother to buy us something instead of asking our father (BTW This does not at all means that Father Son Bond Or Daughter Mother Bond are less strong) It's strange but very very true✌In a way Mothers are Boys Emotional support whereas Fathers are for Girls. SYntel👏👏👏Very well explained about Hobby's and passion
Its true...indian girls have theor best friend in their father.. the fathers know all about their daughters even their first love and physical outings... Indian fathers are open minded but very protective
Indian culture nurtures mental health from childhood ! Indian minds are very resilient ! Western culture is actually deranging in today's youth these days
Firstly I am proud of my indian brothers all over the world, and not only in the USA but all over the world, we learn from early age the value ,respect, humanity, discipline and education which is very important our parents installed in us ,saving is important from young age, that's reason the indian diaspora have become progressive and not forgetting our motherland India ❤
To Jaby, yes it's very true...atleast in the families I have around we have a beautiful mother - son relationship and girls are immensely loved and pampered by Dads
I think that's quite likely. Though their reaction to the first two episodes are still on their channel. Generally, in case of copyright strike, they remove the video.
I can appreciate the way Indian families care about their children and stay married. No wonder UK PM is Indian, and before long we might have an Indian president!
The parents thing is 100% true . I personally share a lot of things with my mother and not a single thing to my father at the Same time lot of my friends who are women love there father like 80% and there mom 20% . I know it’s wild when you compare but also true
Indian daughter considers her father as her very first love. And he is the first man to take care of her, protect her and make all her wishes come true. I love my daughter as well and can do anything for her. Indian parenting is unique in the world because of our Sanatan cultural values.
Yes it's true Indian daughters are more closer and open to fathers than mothers. And fathers are generally more softer, less strict and spoil daughters than they do to son.
Just to clarify, family, I am 25 and still have 90% of my decision approved by my mother. And I share everything with her. There is no need to hide anything from parents. Share everything with them. Know everything from and about them when they become old. In very simple words, what I observed in western family, if parents are trees, the kids be the seeds. They want or expected to become individual trees as soon as possible. In eastern family, even after marriage, we do not get detached from our parents tree. We continue to exist under their shade till they are alive. After that the next elder takes place to take care of entire family. There are some failures due to jealousy hatred due to so close contact, but I like it this way as we are all together.
So in India, the orthodox custom is that men tend to stay with their parents post marriage. The roles get reversed and son will be making money while parents retire. While the daughters are sent to the inlaws. So the father feels he has less years with his daughter and gives her utmost comfort and love. While the mother wants the daughter to learn from her on how to be at inlaws place. So the mom ends up being strict. Things have changed w.r.t the long family structure and what not but the sentiment remains
Indian fathers are known for their toughness and as disciplinarian mostly for boys to train them as men. Who can take responsibility, has a strong spine ( metaphorically), so boys do not share their vulnerability with their dads. On the other hands they don't show toughness for girl child, that's the work of mother to discipline daughters for their role in life. That's why girls are comfortable sharing thoughts with father and boys with mother.
It does not applies to every Indian parent, my dad and mom are not like that LMFAO-.-
Whatever he said is true BUT they way liberals /wokes are destroying west (family value ,human values ) and in india our wokes and liberals are doing the same since past 75yrs they are not able to digest that how conservative in India is rising and bringing the old value system ,family system, proud of their ancient history and civilization .The success of Indian Americans is this conservative values but the 2nd &3rd generation are becoming wokes and they no longer able to sustain this ,they will become like average american people in terms of what I have mentioned above
Yeah..Not all but most for sure..
Its like that in my family
Mostly ig not all
Do you know why elders are so much respected in India. We even touch their feet. Not only of our immediate relatives but of anybody else's. It is because intrinsically, we know that our previous generations have sacrificed their lives and dreams so that our generation live comfortably with fewer hardships. . . Kudos to our parents.
Exactly 💯
As a child you can think why Indian parents are so strict But when you're an adult watching the society full of mental you realise that you didn't fall into this crazy world because of your parents.
yes but some adults still dont get it.
Amen to that!
@@elevateinfinity Amen to that too!!!
And we'll carry it down to our kids.. and even work on mistakes that our parents made..
Hallelujah man! Well put 👏
I am Indian father living in Australia. My daughter was raised as Australian. She is 25 now and yet to have her first drink, date, cigarette etc. She will let me know about first date and how it went. She shares everything about her life. She works as an electrical engineer.
That is remarkable....You are doing a great job dad
lol she's lying to you. like all Indian kids do. I guarantee you she's out partying, smoking, drinking, and hooking up with guys.
Indians aren't special you do all the same stuff westerners do, you just hide it.
As an Indian, education is not an option, it's mandatory. All other skills or extra curricular activities are the add-ons. So when the kids are at the age of 16-18 they have multiple options to decide in which area they want to lead their life. That's why Indians are everywhere in the world in all types of occupation, business, sports etc. Proud to be an Indian 😊
Caste means professions. We get respect from professions. We are professionals since centuries
Its in our DNA.
The reason is: Rich can move, the rest can't.
No job in India plus poverty
That will definitely gonna create more and more confusion in choosing most important decisions of your life. 😅😅😅
@@bobbyyohannan9869Yes that's why millions of people are on salaried job here 😂 That's why big tech giants come to India every year and set their business here with 100% Indian workforce. 😂 What are you on? BBC fed propaganda?
We have been supressed for over a 1000 years but our mindset is simple. Family, Sacrifice, Knowledge and Kindness. Everything comes into these brackets for us.
1000 years? You mean 1023? who? is ?
@@shawnanderson6313 It was the Mughals and turks and then it was Britishers in 18th and 19th century.
Finally we are free. Independence in 1947.
12:30
I think it's true
Boys loves their mom more
And girl loves their father more
When brother-sister fights
Their are High chances that mother will take son's side
And father will take daughter side.
(But don't forget chappal is for both)😂
In my house chappals are only for me cause "Beti ghar ki lakshmi hoti hai"😢😢
😅😅✌🏻
@@siddhantshukla8102you're not alone😢
@@anilkumar-fk8fc good to know brother😂❤
@@siddhantshukla8102 Bro so true, my grandma will kill me or anyone if they touch our cousin because she is the Lakshmi of the house, and no one can be disrespectful to the goddess 🤷🏻♂️🤷🏻♂️
We as Indian don't belive in Multiple Marriages, We believe in Relationship building among family. We believe in Respecting people.
Im a 23 year old living in Canada and i can confirm it is pretty common for guys to be close to their mothers. Ive been living in Canada by myself for 5 years now and I call my mom pretty much every day and we have these conversations about how my day went what's new or even some of the emotional difficulties i might have. I have a similar relationship with my elder sisters too.
yes for us yelder sister is similar to mother👍👍
Can you tell us what other people think about this? I mean when you date a non-indian women.
The mother-son and Father-Daughter relationship mentioned is exactly how it is in India. It has been like that for ages, It's just how it is.
As an Indian, I think family culture is a big reason for success and long term happiness. Unlike in the West where kids leave their homes after 18, we bond with our parents not just as teenagers but even as adults by living with them. These things create a very big support system for the kids and the family values stay intact. Also, living with family teaches us to accept people and their differences, so for most people, marriages are well-managed. Plus the involvement of grandparents help create an environment where even the kids of their kids are taken care of while the parents work.
But it comes with an over-controlling and nosy/judgemental culture that has next to no respect for individual freedom. And that's the part I hate. I wish my parents didn't treat me like I'm 10 when I'm 30, and didn't constantly interfere in all of my life choices.
Family is important. For Indians. Every sacrifice for for family. Indians have always been good in maths, science, literature,arts. We respect knowledge. Its more precious than gold
@bishop rook you've had a rough life huh? Lol
You haven’t seen abuse in your family, right?
@@hobbithallows of course I have, which Indian family hasn't? But that hasn't stopped me from talking things out and building a strong relationship. That's called bonding.
The analysis is pretty accurate. My parents migrated to USA 30 years back when I was in 4th grade. We came here with 3 other families, all my mom’s siblings. Today we are all well settled. Living the American Dream you can say. My bother, sister and all of our cousins all have high income jobs and do pretty well. The one thing I remember is our parents emphasizing the importance of completing higher education and obtain a high salary job. Now that we all have children, we encourage the next generation to do better than what we did. I teach my kids the skills that I know they will need to be on the top of the food chain. We also help each other out weather it’s emotional, financial or cultural. Keep it simple. Treat others the way you want to be treated (not a new saying but very important one).
Thats inspiring to others parents
From my experience Jaby, my parents did encourage me to learn Tabla, a Indian Drum and noticed my talent in painting, enrolled me in drawing classes. But education wise, they insisted I had to become an engineer and thats what I ended up becoming
an Indian drum*
Mereko toh ek baar galti se Drawing au Violin bajane ka Bimari kag gaya tha usko dekh ke mereko
Jabardasti classes me dal diya . They are like : Tujhe pata nahi hai but tu bahit Talented hai😂
Same 2 class me mereko Fancy dress competition me jabardasti bhej dete the jhaadu , Mahatma Gandu, Bhagat Singh bana ke
To isme kya gulut ho guya chutiye. Jaa k drum buja phir agley 50 saal tuk.
Whatever he said is true BUT they way liberals /wokes are destroying west (family value ,human values ) and in india our wokes and liberals are doing the same since past 75yrs they are not able to digest that how conservative in India is rising and bringing the old value system ,family system, proud of their ancient history and civilization .The success of Indian Americans is this conservative values but the 2nd &3rd generation are becoming wokes and they no longer able to sustain this ,they will become like average american people in terms of what I have mentioned above
My father told me to join karate class... He used to ask me daily wheather i will join or not...
Once i was telling a story of my school function to my mother... And telling her how a student danced very well ... After listening to that conversation my father started asking me to join dance class
12:39 As a Indian woman born in the 80’s I can confirm that it’s true. I related with my father more than my mother. He was super duper awesome, Be it PTA meetings at school or help with the studies, handling boy troubles if any to splurge shopping for every occasion. Even though I wasn’t too good at my studies but I had all the support I needed. The support structure in early childhood matters
The father daughter thing is very true. I have an 8 yr old daughter. Though she doesn’t have any secrets, but she tells me everything happened to school after returning. Also at night while going to bed, she tells me everything she did the whole day. Talking to parents after school is a practice we make gradually from day 1. For 1 year we had to make efforts. But now she tells willingly.
That’s a great habit you taught your kid. Every parent should do that.
@bishoprook2616 don’t know about Dalit. But I myself married what u called scheduled cast. And this is Bengal. We don’t have those casteism, dowry in here.
@bishoprook2616 Abey lodu pdh to le kya keh rha hai vo, usne ye nhi kaha ki vo nhi janta dalit kya hai usne ye kaha ki uski beti dalit se shadi kregi ya nhi ye nhi pta....
Ek aur bat usne ye bhi nhi kaha ki vo brahmin hai usne ye kaha ki usne SC se shadi ki hai prr iska mtlb ye nhi ki vo bhi highest ka hi ho, vo kshatriya ya vaishnav mein bhi aa skta hai and I don't know I believe in this or not prr uski statement prr hi jaun to usne casteism ki bat kri thi naa ki caste ki dono ki conveyance mein fark hai.
Pehle bnde ne likha kya vo smjh, aa jaate hain comment mein behas krne.
@bishoprook2616 why assume?
@@makshayThis dude seems quite frustrated with his life. Judging someone whom he doesn't even know. Poor guy
In India, there are some habits that usually parents follow to help their children to grow :
1. They used to ask their child regularly about his school / college .
2. They keep watch on his friend circle .
3. They give a limited amount of money to their children and generally asks reasons for the money they need.
4. They are preety strict in terms of some rules and standards following the ancestors.
5. They try to incorporate the moral and social values using some novels of great leaders and panchtantra stories.
6. Indians have the capability to make the best use of available resources , whether they are insufficient.
Oh that father- daughter and mother-son thing is very true. I’m a girl and my father is soooo close to me. My brother is that close to my mother
Yeah it's a pretty common thing, I don't why they were shocked by that
Whatever he said is true BUT they way liberals /wokes are destroying west (family value ,human values ) and in india our wokes and liberals are doing the same since past 75yrs they are not able to digest that how conservative in India is rising and bringing the old value system ,family system, proud of their ancient history and civilization .The success of Indian Americans is this conservative values but the 2nd &3rd generation are becoming wokes and they no longer able to sustain this ,they will become like average american people in terms of what I have mentioned above
Being creative is most important part for STEM.....cause if you are not creative enough you become a robot.
Indian parents are so good at identifying their children's talets that they can decide it at a very early age if they'll become a doctor or an engineer.
😂
Because that has the most probability of making money safely and legally in India. Once you become rich, of course you are going to give your children freedom
no
hahahahahahahaha 😂
😂😂😂
My parents has sacrificed their dream just to educate me enough for livelihood. I agree with each and every point he has mentioned.
Parents sacrifice their dream for us and we work hard just to fulfill their unheard dream.
Blessed to have such a lovely parents.
Read the whole comment section and felt gratitude towards all of our Indian parents.
Above all felt gratitude towards our unmatched Bharatia Civilization and its values. No matter how irrational it may seem to the rest of the world but we still believe in our values. Not because our parents told us to but they showed us too.
💯 % true
I'm very fortunate to have parents with whom I can talk about my struggles or successes quite openly. Indian parents are generally quite protective of their offspring, and it's even more so when you're a single child. The protectiveness, nurturing, and caring values are so strong and profound that sometimes it becomes difficult to learn to be independent and to stand on your own feet. But as a result of that conditioning, you are well-connected to your culture, values, and your closest friends and family, no matter where you go. It's a beautiful thing indeed!
I think the idea of sacrificing anything is alien to Americans - be it their time, or effort or hobbies to try to achieve anything. That's why they're so fixated on the fact that to achieve great things families might need to make sacrifices and they think that's automatically bad. American culture is extremely individualistic so ideas like that are basically foreign to them.
Whatever he said is true BUT they way liberals /wokes are destroying west (family value ,human values ) and in india our wokes and liberals are doing the same since past 75yrs they are not able to digest that how conservative in India is rising and bringing the old value system ,family system, proud of their ancient history and civilization .The success of Indian Americans is this conservative values but the 2nd &3rd generation are becoming wokes and they no longer able to sustain this ,they will become like average american people in terms of what I have mentioned above
great observation. There is nothing wrong with sacrificing for the right thing done at the right time. But this idea is somewhat alien to the western world. As a result, they have deranged family structure, increased gun violence, and broken families
So true
100% fact..When I see videos of some Americans i feel your thoughts...How they make some normal things such as trauma...If it is a wrong thing you will put light on that issue in society but don't make it as traumatizing and to make it a health problem and make everyone softer...Then that "traumatized person" will have higher election from society which leads to more "trauma"
tbh I like the American way more
As an only child… I got a lot of attention to a point I used to feel overwhelmed especially as a teenager when you just want to be cool and wild… but now I feel blessed to have such emotionally supportive parents…super close to both mom and dad…and indeed I guess the amount of time you vest in your child does make a whole lot of difference
In Indian households, Sons are always closest to their mothers while daughters to their fathers. The family culture is what makes this happen.
My daughter tells me things and my son is close to his mom. Indian parents always push for perfection. When our children become successful as parents we are proud. Most of the kids take summer school so they can stay ahead of the other students
To be honest, I spend time with my family and friends. I am a civil engineer. I am a photographer. I am a cyclist too. It's not tough to be successful at multitasking, all you need to do is sleep early and wakeup early. 24 hours a day is not that less you know...and a greater percentage of Indians wakeup at 5am compared to the world.
You know Rush hour in US is 6:30 to 7:30 am in US?
What time is it in India? Most cities it's 8:30
Some it's 10: 00 am.
@@70newlifeyou need check Mumbai locals from 5:30AM to 11:00 AM
Whether you are an early bird or a late night owl it doesn't matter. Each one is creative and productive in their own way given their physical and mental health.
@@striker44 being a counselor myself, everyone suffering from depression and anxiety, or even bad metabolism, have one thing in common. That is a Late riser. There is a huge drop of physical and mental abilities.
@@freeions As an engineer and researcher I have come across many creative people who are night owls. - with patents and several awards. Writers, entertainment, software coders, medical professionls are also night owns, except maybe yoga teachers, personal trainerrs and such who are I have seen early birds - those to-do list people. I have people seen them depressed and suffering from anxieties and metabolism problems as well. My own personal observations are different from yours.
my wife and I both did two jobs to put boys through a private nursery school and later to higher education which has helped us to retire early as both did well in their studies and the boys having seen how hard we both sacrificed our time for them they have always kept in close touch with us
To answer your question Jaby, I think its very very true at least for the Indians growing up here in India, obv wouldn't want to generalize, but that's what I've seen growing up majorly.
Girls are a lot more closer to their dads, and boys are closer to their moms. (also it's been shown in a lot of Bollywood movies)
-Also, on the 2nd point, Syntell is right, although the main focus is always a good education, most Indian parents nurture other talents in their kids as well. most kids are good at atleast 2-3 hobbies/talents.
for eg, my Uncle is a very successful doctor in California, and both his kids are doctors too, but they're family of gifted musicians as well, he nurtured those talents too but the main goal was always to become a doctor.
But to be honest, a lot of it is changing now.
I'm a 22 year old who still confide in my mother. I live away from my parents for work but still call my mother daily and we share our "how's our day went by today?". I strongly agree with that statement.😊🙏
Whatever he said is true BUT they way liberals /wokes are destroying west (family value ,human values ) and in india our wokes and liberals are doing the same since past 75yrs they are not able to digest that how conservative in India is rising and bringing the old value system ,family system, proud of their ancient history and civilization .The success of Indian Americans is this conservative values but the 2nd &3rd generation are becoming wokes and they no longer able to sustain this ,they will become like average american people in terms of what I have mentioned above
I think I have heard some theories about it. The one which tells about attraction between opposite genders. They feel more safe towards the opposite one. Just like magnets. I forgot the proper word of it but it is also in the dictionary.
If you are a woman you will mostly like your father rather than your mother. Your mother is also a woman and she will give you many advices about how to be a proper woman. You may dislike her strictness with you and prefer to listen to father. The opposite of this happens if you are a man. The one who gives you more life advices would be your father. But it doesn't apply to every family in this world.
Idk if you understood it because my English is kinda broken. I think I didn't explain it very clearly here. Anyway I wrote what I wanted to write. 😮💨
100 percent true
Great
The support system of family is something that I would never take lightly. Being an immigrant student myself, when times get tough I can call my 5th cousin and even their parents and they will step up for me. Family is everything.
Delayed gratification is 100% true. My parents and uncle aunts gave us cousins option to either enjoy holidays or give 2 hrs/day of holidays with a prize at the end. And to top it off they would create competition amongst us. Result was we completed whatever holiday homework we had in few days plus some extra work of next year syllabus and we got the prizes. Not only prizes but the impression we had on our teachers starting next year because we studied the syllabus way ahead of time. Indian parents are geniuses really
@bishoprook2616it’s a crime. Not a part of culture. It neither represents all Indian parents , even “Indian parents”. Any one who committed such acts Tantamount to a murder. They shall be punished according to the criminal law.
@bishoprook2616 Tylor defined culture as “the complex whole which includes knowledge, belief, art, law, morals, custom, and any other capabilities acquired by man as a member of society”
We Indians don’t acquire honour killing as a standard while being a memberof society. We condemn it.
Black women divorce at much higher rates than Indian women, who tend to prioritise the long term needs of their children. Having a father in the household is the single biggest determinant of success for children, so it is a big factor in the success of Indians in America.
Living together with family is not technical thing its a cultural thing and upbringing
I am in USA for 23 years, physician by profession. My brother came in USA in 96 , engineer by profession, he worked 60-70 hours/ week so I can finish my residency and settle down comfortably. He is a very big businessman now and I am making huge money myself too . Our parents stay with us and living American dream. Our kids will get higher education, we will make sure they are well disciplined, motivated, hard working and respectful. Hard work , dedication, honesty and commitment takes you wherever you want . NO SHORT CUT to be successful, it’s a journey where everyone has to make sacrifices
Yeah that's true. I can share everything with my mother but scared to share it with dad.
Whatever he said is true BUT they way liberals /wokes are destroying west (family value ,human values ) and in india our wokes and liberals are doing the same since past 75yrs they are not able to digest that how conservative in India is rising and bringing the old value system ,family system, proud of their ancient history and civilization .The success of Indian Americans is this conservative values but the 2nd &3rd generation are becoming wokes and they no longer able to sustain this ,they will become like average american people in terms of what I have mentioned above
Yes. I'm a girl and i can share everything with my dad like literally everything. And i'm a little scared to share with my mom😅. My father is my best friend and the most caring dad ever.
As my parents used to say, and still say, First get the money, then look for happiness.
I'am a lower middle class indian and from my experience most of the things about parents is true. especially sacrificing lives and carrers for their children well being. they support their children till their last moment. family values and relatives stuff is also true. children sometimes might feel parents are being little tough or breaching their freedom. I feel child knows the value of the efforts put by his/her parents into his future well being much later.
Also with all this comes expectations and mental disturbance for some people. there's an whole other side to this story.
@bishoprook2616 looks like you are being tortured by your parents brother... If you have any problem you can contact your nearest police station too... Haven't seen an Indian having so much hatred for his family...
It's not a sacrifice per say... I am women I would let go of careetin second for well being for my child and his growth as a human being
@@LaughOutLoudLOL7777 that's mother greatness but from child's perspective when one becomes adult and if he had seen parents struggling to make tough decisions and finally bet everything beyond their capacity on child's future. At a point he feels everything he has till now is some kind of sacrifice of his parents. somehow he tries to compensate that by making them happy , basically by making them financially stable and stress free. this all comes into picture if you are in low economic and social status. if socio and economic status is solid then these issues might seem alien. atleast in my place I see people going through this and I did too.
Yes, Indian children, in general, look up to their parents' support...and it's a mutual, natural relationship that acts as a powerful support system that lasts lifetime...
its all true Indian parents do sacrifice a lot and we also love our family the whole of it there are good times and bad time but family comes first i left a high paying job to stay at home and work in my own state so i can take care of my mom who was sick at the time
Respect+ bro 🙌🏻
Whatever he said is true BUT they way liberals /wokes are destroying west (family value ,human values ) and in india our wokes and liberals are doing the same since past 75yrs they are not able to digest that how conservative in India is rising and bringing the old value system ,family system, proud of their ancient history and civilization .The success of Indian Americans is this conservative values but the 2nd &3rd generation are becoming wokes and they no longer able to sustain this ,they will become like average american people in terms of what I have mentioned above
Respects bro 🙌
take not。 key word sacrifice
Yes most of the things he said is correct
I like dancing
My parents love when I do
But their priority is still studying
It's safer for me to tell something when I mess up to my mother first
To be honest they want their child to be a Bollywood star
Who can dance,sing,is intelligent, have abs and have a lot of money
The expectations are high but not for their sake but for us
And the best thing about having these insane expectations is that whenever your expectations aren’t met, you still have a good future ahead.
They mostly think that way so "if" you would not be a successful dancer or whatever you like, you can still get a job with what you studied. In a way it's like a backup thing which can support you if things don't go according to the plan.
no Indian American wants there children to be a Bollywood star wtf???
What people don't realize is STEM requires lot of creativity. Even smallest of codes you write, require you to be extremely creativity. So creativity is seen as wholesome holistic thing in Indian culture. No surprises that some of the greatest scientists are great artists (in fields of art, music, dance, history, politics). Everything goes hand in hand. And acquiring skills of STEM actually is a life skill which instills a lot of creativity in a person. And of course common sense and general IQ!
Tagore wrote encyclopedia of all topics. He has a photo with Einstein. Satyajit Ray wrote a lot of science fiction. The overlap is very common in our culture.
Einstein was a gifted violinist.
@bishoprook2616casual racism, what's your thought on that?
Indian father are very kind to their Daughters, It's a true thing you can to any Indian
Often u may have heard ... Maa ka ladla and Papa ki pari ! Its no joking its true😅
Mammi ka magarmachh😮😮
42 yr old indian living in Europe for six years, I call my parents every other day 😊
As a indian i can say maybe there is some doughter who are more comfortable to speak with their dad but I can tell you surely that the son and daughter both are more comfortable to tell their secrets to mom in Indian household.
As an Indian father of four, with having 3 little princesses at home who are more comfortable sharing their briefs and secrets with me. I can proudly say that it makes my life easy to guide my daughters whenever they need it to be before it's too late.
One can pursue passion along with mainstream STEM professional careers.
Even thousands of years back, Indian culture never ignored math and science. Indian temples are great examples of STEM skills and art. We know how to maintain a balance.
I have two uncles; one is a doctor, another is an engineer, and both are highly acclaimed writers and recipients of the prestigious 'Sahitya Akademi Award (in literature). All my cousins are in STEM while pursuing their passion for music, dance, and theatre.
Leading by example, they encouraged me to pursue my passion for painting, and supported me with everything I needed; but not at the cost of mainstream education.
I am thankful to them that now I have a steady mainstream career and I am also an artist.
That's very true about Indian mothers. I sacrifice my career working in the FAANG for my son and I have no regret. We focus on STEM for jobs, but encourage kids to participate in creative stuff.
Bill Gates was one of the few people who had access to computers when there were only about 500 computers in whole America.
So having a computer is important. Not a degree.
@@RAIRADIO Having a technology earlier is important. Also, having connections and rich parents.
Father-daughter and Mother-son relationship is so true.. i have also observed my circle and felt it.. My mother is so close to me that i would even share my crush, girlfriend's details, someone bullying me etc. Parents' experi3nce is generally very useful in dealing with problems that you may not know how to handle gracefully but a female can use masculine energy and male can have a feminine energy guiding them which makes a lot more stable... only time my father stepped in and talked to me was when it was an absolute emergency (a very serious breakup and slipping into a near depression experience)
Also, hobbies and creativity go hand in hand with STEM. Many punjabi families insist on learning singing, instruments or dance (maybe all) as it helps grow your brain.. research shows being able to play atleast one instrument help your thinking ability and learning ability as it helps you see a different perspective. Its like being able to think from a different dimension
12:38 100% true, Indian father's justify the term "Daddy's princess", also Indian mothers are very protective of their sons, so much so that often it results in a contention between mothers and their daughter in law (popular soap opera theme)
@@rupali3276 sure there can be exceptions, not everyone is the same, I was just describing the general narrative.
@@rupali3276 world doesn't revolve around you lady
It is true. Daughters bond with fathers & sons bond with mothers. Daughters do discuss & share secrets with fathers as they feel more comfortable.
When the indian Hockey player Dhyanchand was asked to play for German Hockey team by Hitler then he said.... *"It's not the duty of my country to give me something... It is my duty to give something to my country"*
So the indian going abroad need to think about it... unfortunately, USA was built with the Money of ww1 and WW2... If anybody has that much of money, with average governance, any nation would have been developed...
And those who still have some lagging in digesting, just imagine if TATAs or Dhirubhai Ambani or Adani had decided to go abroad, they themselves could have been way more richer then what they are today... But india could've been years back in terms of industrialisation... And similarly, if Sundar pichai had decided to stay in india, if not billionaire he could have definitely been millionaire... Moreover, the Google Drive, Duo, meet, Google play, Google maps, chrome etc many inventions were introduced by him only,.... Just imagine what if it was launched by him from India...!
Some Indians in America become very successful for three main reasons:
1.They are happy for the opportunity to
be in America, and they don't take that privilege for granted.
2. They know the importance of education, and they value education.
3. They have strong, supporting, and more traditional family values.
Indian parent support our creative talents but with a deal that we still focus on studies
family oriented... children upbringing.... high achievers.... smart people... hard workers.... few traits I see and appreciate most of Indians....
We have the phrases ,"maa ka laadla (meaning mother's dear son)" and "papa ki pari (meaning dad's little princess)"
Many people use these lines for teasing but ya it's true that fathers love and pamper their daughters more and the opposite in son's case
An Indian girl here, currently pursuing masters degree....my best friend is definitely my dad and he knows almost all of my secret 😂. Papas are superheroes in our lives . I know how many sacrifices he has made for me. My mom got married when she had just completed her high school degree . My dad educated her and now she's an independent woman, a teacher in a government high school . Nobody could throw any gender discriminatory opinion at me because he was there right by my side . My mom is quite strict but papa is ❤❤❤
It's very much true, indian boys are more truthful and frank with their mothers.
'Papa ki pari and maa ka ladla', means fairy of Father and beloved of mother. Indian girls are more into their father and indian boys are into mother. Thats true.
Among Hindus, marriage us not just for fun stuff. It's a lifelong commitment that involves love AND sacrifice. It is not a stand alone entity. It is part of the family and so you learn to do your best for each other, kids and parents.
The mother son , daughter father friendship point is so spot on
Yes it true that daughters are close to father and son's are closer to the mother. Regarding the creative part he mentioned what Syntell said is true, in their schooling, they allow the kids to engage and learn other creative things such as music etc.. while also focusing them on schooling related things. And if a kid has a talent then they allow them to continue but if not they just say them to focus on the studies.
I am 27 years old, and my mother is still my best friend. As a boy I feared my dad (I still do) even though he loves me a lot. That's why I would rather share my secrets with my mom lol
To study the divorce rates you also need to look at the teenage romance and young marriage age. Indian marriages and childbirths are taking place at an advanced age which brings maturity to any relationship. Any person who has children in a young age or gets married young has a less chance of being able to make it work.
very true, great observation!!
Yup!
30+ is the most common marriage age for the Men.
I am 27 and a pilot in India ! My mother is my best friend , I share everything with her ! FOR ME IT'S A FLEX!
As an Indian felt really proud watching this, you both are so wise, so hatsoff. Please dont hate us because we are so many and everywhere.
yes, all Indian kids and their parents get very much involved with what talent the child has like music, Indian dance forms, art , paintings, sports, etc.. I remember my mom encouraged my sister to pursue Indian classical dance and she became good at it. And she also loves computer science and programming so they go hand in hand. It doesn't have to be either or, they can go coexist, In fact, we feel science and math are basic life skill tools that every human should be equipped with. On the other hand, I loved to paint and loved astronomy and science..both coexisted and I'm able to do justice to both and happily pursue my goals.
I am an India American. I have always been more close to my dad. He was my best friend, mentor, guide, and confidant. I felt that he understood me more than my mom. So I can relate to the comment that Indian fathers are their daughters’ best friend. My sister had similar equation with my dad. Not sure how this is true on macro-level.
I live in Sweden and I agree with every single word he said, And all of it comes from our upbringing and my parents back then 😊❤
Jaby saying "Indians overwork" clearly shows why there is so much difference between Indian Americans and Americans.
Ya it's true son's are very close to her mother and daughter are very close to his father ❤❤
Whatever he said is true BUT they way liberals /wokes are destroying west (family value ,human values ) and in india our wokes and liberals are doing the same since past 75yrs they are not able to digest that how conservative in India is rising and bringing the old value system ,family system, proud of their ancient history and civilization .The success of Indian Americans is this conservative values but the 2nd &3rd generation are becoming wokes and they no longer able to sustain this ,they will become like average american people in terms of what I have mentioned above
I am 48 year old adult living in india..
And my mom will take care of me at 78 with out any expectation if i ask her ...
Your parents your wife and children are always with you ...
No matter what
13:20 That is true. Most Indian parents (if they can afford) will encourage their kids to try many different things. For instance, I learned to play guitar only because of my dad. He put me to classes forcibly. I also played table tennis thanks to my dad again. That being said, most Indian parents do not view these creative/sports fields as valid career options. They want you to pick up healthy hobbies, mostly for fostering creativity, building essential values and as a good way to chill after work. The academic focus is always on STEM and when time is of the essence, they'd themselves ask the kids to focus more on studies and less on hobbies (even zero!)
1. ' MAA ka laadla & Papa ki Pari ' ( Mother's precious boy & Fathers precious angel) 2 commonly used phrases in India. Just to address the confusion.
2. Creative arts and STEM both go greatly hand to hand. History is filled with amazing examples : Ramanujan, S N Bose, Einstein, Teslavetc
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IT labour.
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The moment Child is born in Western Countries, saparate room is assigned to Baby....This does not happens in Indians....This is the reason why Child is more attached to parents in India, compared to Child in Western Countries who lacks Kinship, emotionally attached to parents....
You should also keep in mind that Asian culture in particular Indian culture is oriented towards giving the society model citizens for the future. It’s all about family, family is the first unit of ā society and a healthy family results in a healthy society. Whereas the west moved away from this model to individual happiness. That is a big factor.
key thing in indian marriages that makes it work is that it's never '' you vs me'' it's always ''us vs the problem '' that is the reason for the low divorce rates
Bro you think that is sacrifice but we feel amazing for sacrificing for our family..
That is different for you , your happiness gave you pleasure but for us.. smile on our family face gave us that feeling that you cant imagine
Very nicely said
That is actually true. Indian boys are always close to their mothers. and the girls are best friends with their father
i don't know why this video have just 12 k likes this just makes me proud of my civilization and values that keeps me standing in hardest of situation, bharat mata ki jai
Yes that is true
Mothere are too friendly with son and father's are friendly with daughter
Whatever he said is true BUT they way liberals /wokes are destroying west (family value ,human values ) and in india our wokes and liberals are doing the same since past 75yrs they are not able to digest that how conservative in India is rising and bringing the old value system ,family system, proud of their ancient history and civilization .The success of Indian Americans is this conservative values but the 2nd &3rd generation are becoming wokes and they no longer able to sustain this ,they will become like average american people in terms of what I have mentioned above
The relationship we have with our parents and our children is very tight.. we are completely engaged in each other’s life.. it doesn’t feel like a sacrifice or a compromise.. we love to do it.. selflessness is an important virtue for us.. I remember my father saying often “even a rodent can live life on their own terms… you are human if you have this capacity to live for others and are happy about it..
yes my parents tell me too this same thing that even an animal on streets is capable of surviving and feeding himself anyhow but we as human what make us different is that we can give, share and make a living for not only us but others to that what makes a human different from other animals even though we are also animals (as in Biology) and they taught me and my brother to gain all skills and assets to double it in amount and than must give it back to society and help others to grow too.
That Father Daughter and Mother Son bond is very true....😂 Most of Us as Boy kid even till date used to ask our mother to buy us something instead of asking our father (BTW This does not at all means that Father Son Bond Or Daughter Mother Bond are less strong) It's strange but very very true✌In a way Mothers are Boys Emotional support whereas Fathers are for Girls.
SYntel👏👏👏Very well explained about Hobby's and passion
Its true...indian girls have theor best friend in their father.. the fathers know all about their daughters even their first love and physical outings... Indian fathers are open minded but very protective
Indian culture nurtures mental health from childhood ! Indian minds are very resilient ! Western culture is actually deranging in today's youth these days
Firstly I am proud of my indian brothers all over the world, and not only in the USA but all over the world, we learn from early age the value ,respect, humanity, discipline and education which is very important our parents installed in us ,saving is important from young age, that's reason the indian diaspora have become progressive and not forgetting our motherland India ❤
Indian rich culture is the backbone of success in marriage ,business and parenting .
To Jaby, yes it's very true...atleast in the families I have around we have a beautiful mother - son relationship and girls are immensely loved and pampered by Dads
That’s true indian fathers love their daughters. Thay adores their daughters like princess.
don't tell me y'all got copyrighted for 'the romantics' and won't be reacting anymore😭
Yeah 😂
no, he said ep 3 will come before monday in yesterday's livestream
I think that's quite likely. Though their reaction to the first two episodes are still on their channel. Generally, in case of copyright strike, they remove the video.
Thank god😌
Yes... That's what I am guessing also 🥺
I can appreciate the way Indian families care about their children and stay married.
No wonder UK PM is Indian, and before long we might have an Indian president!
The parents thing is 100% true . I personally share a lot of things with my mother and not a single thing to my father at the Same time lot of my friends who are women love there father like 80% and there mom 20% . I know it’s wild when you compare but also true
Indian daughter considers her father as her very first love. And he is the first man to take care of her, protect her and make all her wishes come true. I love my daughter as well and can do anything for her.
Indian parenting is unique in the world because of our Sanatan cultural values.
12:44 that is very much applicable here in India.....daughters love fathers more and sons love mother's more.
And I m a testimony of that😌
Yes it's true Indian daughters are more closer and open to fathers than mothers. And fathers are generally more softer, less strict and spoil daughters than they do to son.
The son-mom & dad-daughter thing is absolutely true!
Upbringing Is Reason Behind Indian Kids Getting More And More Successful Everywhere And In Every Field!!!
Just to clarify, family,
I am 25 and still have 90% of my decision approved by my mother. And I share everything with her. There is no need to hide anything from parents.
Share everything with them. Know everything from and about them when they become old.
In very simple words, what I observed in western family, if parents are trees, the kids be the seeds. They want or expected to become individual trees as soon as possible.
In eastern family, even after marriage, we do not get detached from our parents tree. We continue to exist under their shade till they are alive. After that the next elder takes place to take care of entire family.
There are some failures due to jealousy hatred due to so close contact, but I like it this way as we are all together.
So in India, the orthodox custom is that men tend to stay with their parents post marriage. The roles get reversed and son will be making money while parents retire. While the daughters are sent to the inlaws. So the father feels he has less years with his daughter and gives her utmost comfort and love. While the mother wants the daughter to learn from her on how to be at inlaws place. So the mom ends up being strict.
Things have changed w.r.t the long family structure and what not but the sentiment remains