Circumstances definitely are neutral. That thought often calms me right down. Like being off world and looking down at the earth. Events just aren't that important in the larger scheme of things. Nothing is that important to get all wound up about, the earth still turns, time still ticks. Looking at the stars reminds me of that too, how large Everything is, or flying in an airplane up above the world. Puts things in perspective. Sometimes you need to step outside of the drama. Thank you for saying you are always right about how you feel, cuz I've been told I'm wrong too many times. Yesterday, I was at the dump, at the wood pile, looking for 2x4's and had found one, had scoured the whole heap, and casually said, "I don't see any more". Then I said, "No, not doing that. I DO see more", and kept looking. I went around the back, and found 3 more! Enough for my project! ALso recently, I couldn't decide which was true, that I have value, or have no value, then I watched a youtube video that suggested the truth is less important than what's helpful, and to choose which truth you prefer. I like that. I HAVE value.
Oh, and another thing, my all in one stereo recently broke. A new one would be $220. + tax. A bit much for me right now. Then yesterday, I found a perfectly good boom box at the share shed! CD, cassette, radio. Sounds really good too! Now I just need a record player. : ) Maybe one of those will turn up too.
I don't understand "you're never wrong about how you feel." How is that true when feelings are subjective based on the person? Someone could say, "I feel like you're manipulating me." And if I don't believe I am and did not have that intention, I would say, "That wasn't my intention and I didn't feel I came across that way." So how are we both right about our feelings when they are directly opposite? In this situation the other person may feel I'm a big jerk, and I would feel like I'm being misunderstood unjustly.
Rin Sera, your feelings are yours and aren't wrong. What we want to be able to do is consider if there is another way that we could look at something that might serve us better. Communication is key to understanding each other. What we do is different than our feelings. Consider a membership to our platform and taking the Positivity Power-Up Program where it is explained. go.liveonpurposecentral.com.
True… I love my kids. I work for the state. My ex is an indigent who takes methadone and relapses often. I was drained of money by his parents suing me four times. I could go another round for my 7 and 15 year old but it’s literally making me sick. My 18 year old is aware And had lived the worst or at least the worst of her dad being so high he slept on the toilet out the kitchen floor. They live with him under the guise that his parents are taking care of them. I feel so bad that I realistically don’t have the $to go another round with narcissist and I do not kid they let me see my daughter for days a month and have physically emotionally traumatically hurt myself and my oldest so much I have to heal I’m 46 and I’ve been fighting for 12 years sued four times. Once without my knowledge they forged my name and I didn’t know until I abstracted everything from our case in 2019 when the pandemic started. My lawyer has opened my eyes that everything I’ve ever been told was a lie all the texts what sheshe conveyed about her lawyers opinion. I’ve just had enough they’ll fight and pay off anyone and they have in the main divorce the counselor and gal are no longer aloud in the system after ten years they finally were caught but to prove it now it’s too old I’ve been told. Do I continue to fight? They have been brain washed And love daddy. I get that they love their dad and want a relationship I was not out for them t to choose but their safety in his home is on I’ve always as addicts are that for life so I fight.? It’s killing my ability to live at this point but their told I left I abandoned them I feel horrible
Amanda, I don't know everything going on, it is probably a long story, ALWAYS make sure your kids know that you love them no matter what. I am glad you know the truth and hopefully it will set you free.
This is absolutely true. I have been in the state of hopelessness once. I got help. Thanks for this. God bless!
Libby Life, honored to be on your team.
I am so thankful that I found your channel. These videos help so much with everything.
You are so welcome! I am glad our paths crossed.
Circumstances definitely are neutral. That thought often calms me right down. Like being off world and looking down at the earth. Events just aren't that important in the larger scheme of things. Nothing is that important to get all wound up about, the earth still turns, time still ticks. Looking at the stars reminds me of that too, how large Everything is, or flying in an airplane up above the world. Puts things in perspective. Sometimes you need to step outside of the drama.
Thank you for saying you are always right about how you feel, cuz I've been told I'm wrong too many times.
Yesterday, I was at the dump, at the wood pile, looking for 2x4's and had found one, had scoured the whole heap, and casually said, "I don't see any more". Then I said, "No, not doing that. I DO see more", and kept looking. I went around the back, and found 3 more! Enough for my project!
ALso recently, I couldn't decide which was true, that I have value, or have no value, then I watched a youtube video that suggested the truth is less important than what's helpful, and to choose which truth you prefer. I like that. I HAVE value.
Love your positivity and hard work.
Great to have such an engaging, hopeful team member! Welcome, Dr. J.
Honored to be on your team, Christine.
Thank you so much Paul! that was awesome! Thank you!!!
You are welcome, Marina.
Oh, and another thing, my all in one stereo recently broke. A new one would be $220. + tax. A bit much for me right now. Then yesterday, I found a perfectly good boom box at the share shed! CD, cassette, radio. Sounds really good too! Now I just need a record player. : ) Maybe one of those will turn up too.
I bet it does.
We are dangerous when we are not conscious of our responsibility for how we behave, think, and feel.
Marshall B. Rosenberg.
I like that, I may use it in my next newsletter.
Thank you Dr. Paul
You are very welcome.
Sharing that with our kiddos. Thank you.
That's awesome. I love when the videos become a family affair.
I love your videos. Can you make one on victim mentality?
I have addressed that on a few videos, search for any using the accountability model.
I don't understand "you're never wrong about how you feel." How is that true when feelings are subjective based on the person? Someone could say, "I feel like you're manipulating me." And if I don't believe I am and did not have that intention, I would say, "That wasn't my intention and I didn't feel I came across that way." So how are we both right about our feelings when they are directly opposite? In this situation the other person may feel I'm a big jerk, and I would feel like I'm being misunderstood unjustly.
Rin Sera, your feelings are yours and aren't wrong. What we want to be able to do is consider if there is another way that we could look at something that might serve us better. Communication is key to understanding each other. What we do is different than our feelings. Consider a membership to our platform and taking the Positivity Power-Up Program where it is explained. go.liveonpurposecentral.com.
My husband doesn't like when I say "it is what it is" ....
You'll have to see if it bothers him less when you say, "Circumstance are neutral."
It is really irritating to him sometimes. I also use, "That's a thought," it takes us to neutral faster.
True… I love my kids. I work for the state. My ex is an indigent who takes methadone and relapses often. I was drained of money by his parents suing me four times. I could go another round for my 7 and 15 year old but it’s literally making me sick. My 18 year old is aware And had lived the worst or at least the worst of her dad being so high he slept on the toilet out the kitchen floor. They live with him under the guise that his parents are taking care of them. I feel so bad that I realistically don’t have the $to go another round with narcissist and I do not kid they let me see my daughter for days a month and have physically emotionally traumatically hurt myself and my oldest so much I have to heal I’m 46 and I’ve been fighting for 12 years sued four times. Once without my knowledge they forged my name and I didn’t know until I abstracted everything from our case in 2019 when the pandemic started. My lawyer has opened my eyes that everything I’ve ever been told was a lie all the texts what sheshe conveyed about her lawyers opinion. I’ve just had enough they’ll fight and pay off anyone and they have in the main divorce the counselor and gal are no longer aloud in the system after ten years they finally were caught but to prove it now it’s too old I’ve been told. Do I continue to fight? They have been brain washed
And love daddy. I get that they love their dad and want a relationship I was not out for them t to choose but their safety in his home is on I’ve always as addicts are that for life so I fight.? It’s killing my ability to live at this point but their told I left I abandoned them I feel horrible
Amanda, I don't know everything going on, it is probably a long story, ALWAYS make sure your kids know that you love them no matter what. I am glad you know the truth and hopefully it will set you free.