On Grief, Loss, & Suicide | Dr. K explains
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- Опубліковано 3 лип 2020
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Rest in peace, Byron. What do you do when a champion falls? You keep fighting.
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Someone in chat after Dr. K said he lost 80% HP.. "I'll tank buddy" YOU are precious!
Pretty sure many others felt the "I got you bro" moment there 😥❤
Time?
@@benjaminredington 55:40 MegaFreshLemons said it
Mhmm...
that one message made me more emotional than any film released in the past 20 years
I am a 66 year old mother and grandmother - I have never been a gamer and I don't really know who Reckful was. Dr. K., I want you to know you are an inspiration beyond the gaming community, though I know how much they need you, through your wisdom and your ability to be vulnerable. Thank you from my heart. Don't give up - what you are doing matters more than you can probably understand. Blessings to you.
Thank you susan
Beautiful! Thank you for this Susan
Reckful is the person Dr.K murdered for content.
@@highecuador1873 what
Can u be my grandma
I'm Depressed, an Opioid Addict and isolated without friends my whole life. My 6 Month therapy starts in 1 week. I'll get better I promise. RIP Reckful :(
Hope everything goes well for you.
you got this dude
Good luck!
Good luck! You will get better i promise, ive been there to!
You are strong my friend, best of luck!
37:11 "It boggles my mind how little you all take care of yourselves and how hard you work to take care of other people"
that hit my heart.
Yeah it really hit home. I've been trying to help myself more as of late, but lord knows if rather help someone else tbh.
Genuinely, as an artists' work manager's performance, musician enthusiast, or as somewhat of a phenomenal chess content performance-I would like to challenge that statement...
Taking care of people only goes up to where my heart had desired it to; to help for them/people, responsible for taking my house, which have been legally paid, and any yet, which, at this point, at least on both cases, leave them vulnerable to any shrikes and/or ambushes upon consciousness.
definitly 100% crit chance
I related to Reckful in a lot of ways, and his first talk with Dr. K. motivated me to get into therapy, and to open up with friends more.
RIP Byron
Sadge
how did u find a good therapist? i have been looking into it, but i find it really hard, to find one, that seems like they could help me. :/
@@lovis1188 if u don't have good ones in your area the other option is online therapy which is less likeable in many reasons but it works.
@@lovis1188 It was through a friend, who has been going to therapy herself for a while. She was talking about it a couple of times, but never pushed me.
A couple of weeks after the first Reckful talk, I had a really bad experience, and I felt like it was a now or never moment to get help. So I hit up my friend, and asked for her therapist's contacts.
( Also I'm in the EU, idk how it is in other parts of the world.)
whats sadge
Happy to read that! Keep it going and reach out if you are struggling!
You´ll always be my hero and a Legend in the whole Community. RIP Reckful we love you ❤
Did you ever call him a hero whilst he was still alive?
@@erikzetterlund6997 are you really going to gatekeep now? Really?
@@erikzetterlund6997 true
@@erikzetterlund6997 Clearly you were never part of the community, and you never will be.
@@harrisonorosz7559 shut up what he said is so true
I just lost a friend to suicide last Thursday. I am gutted!! My son who is a gamer- told me to watch Dr. K- I'm glad he did! So much respect! Stay strong people! Ask for help! Please!
ua-cam.com/video/-9Qfzvghs30/v-deo.html
If you don’t already know, the average UA-cam commenter on channels like these are probably always willing to talk and engage with the problems you’re having. Positive push! Stay with us!
Im so sorry for your lose 😓 stay strong friend and know that you are special ❤️
How are you doing now?
When he used the metaphor of mind control, to explain how depression uses your own intelligence to hurt you...it's sooooooo fricking on point. When other ppl attack you, some attacks get stopped in the armor, some you block with your shield, some just dont do much damage, but the attacks your own mind do are critical hits, there's no block and it's on a weak spot.
That it is... this is why no amount of physical abuse and violence can hold a candle to how destructive emotional abuse, violence, and neglect is. It teaches one's mind to do the attacking to themselves, and that shit will crit hit, like you put it. If it's coming from outside, and it's honest violence, you can at least fight back.
Dam that's exactly me.
There is one defense I've found against my own depression, and that's paying attention to other people, what they say and do. Just today I wrote up some comments on my writing partner's work and I almost talked myself out of sending them, thinking he didn't care. Then I remembered three different times he expressed gratitude at my insights. You gotta look for evidence that your depressed thoughts are wrong and then believe the evidence. I'm not saying it's easy, it's like stretching a cramping muscle. The cure is counterintuitive
As a fellow doctor, I have so much respect for what you do and what you've achieved with the online community. Even though it breaks my heart to see you in such pain, it's so inspiring to see the type of leadership that you exhibit.. You are a force of good for this community and we are all so grateful to have you on our side. Please take some time off to reset your cooldowns; we'll be here to help tank in the meantime
God bless you sir, lets do our part🙏🏼💔
Agreed, with everything this man said.
I ate an apple
@@zheanti7806 Good for you man.
"What do you do when a champion falls? You pick yourself up and you fight." - Dr. K
this is it, this is the moment that made me cry like a bitch
@@mfpuma_ same dude
Shonin Not like a bitch, don’t say that. You cried. Crying isn’t weakness, crying is honesty with yourself. That those words could reach across the entire planet and help you feel connected to someone speaks volumes about the value of these conversations. Loss hurts, and it’s okay to cry. It’s okay to be sad. It’s okay to hurt. You just have to make sure that you don’t allow yourself to be okay with *staying* sad, or hurt, or down. You get up. Always. Again and again. And if you can’t do it on your own, you ask for help. That’s what it means to be human. To live. To grow. Let’s do this!
@@GabrielCosta-si9nq Appreciate the sentiment man but it's just an expression :)
I can’t think of a more appropriate expression. I cried.
When I tried to kill myself, I wasn't in control. After getting into a fight with several of my friends, my depression some how convinced me the entire world hated me and it caused the rest of me to shut off. The next thing I knew, I was waiting at the train tracks in the middle of a storm until a random couple found me and stopped me.
Keep fighting. It's a battle you can win!
hope you’re doing okay. i’m so proud of you 🤍🤍
Yeah, I think I understand you. I think people never kill themselves with clear mind. I've been becoming less and less emotional through past few years, but sometimes a phrase or a thought can trigger me to breakdown. It feels like every neuron in my brain suddenly activates and then goes numb, I don't feel sadness or fear, the only thing that remains is the urge to hurt myself. I've been able to control myself for now, and just force myself to lay down and not move until it stops, as it never lasts for more than an hour, but I guess that's the moment when your ego and self-control shut down is where people kill themselves.
44:00 this so much. So many times I've just tried venting to a friend and they just told me to go to a therapist. Dude, I just want someone to listen and I want to be open about what I'm going through. Totally shuts down my attempts to try to connect with someone on a more real level. Half the time they are the ones asking the questions and trying to get me to open up, then when I do they just turn around and do that. If you ask a question, the least you can do is listen for the answer.
yogrent Are you listening to their problems? It can be exhausting only giving advice but never being asked about your own problems, people often take other people’s help for granted.
@@DeVicZGaming I see what you're saying, but I think the above commenter's point is still valid. A true friend should be there to listen. If not, who else is there?
Thanks for the time stamp cuz I needed this clip.
If you need a friend I got you
@@BaelaNyx I definitely appreciate that, thanks!
Dr. K is one of, if not the best and most positive streamer on twitch, he has so much wisdom to share and has helped so many it is truly inspirational. I cant put into words how much you has personally helped me with my mental health issues even if they are small things like lacking confidence or feeling unmotivated. I cant speak for everyone but seeing the impact you have had is absolutely insane and makes me really happy to see the community thriving and staying strong, you really have directly changed my life and the lives of thousands of others for the better.
Rest in peace Byron, keep fighting.
ua-cam.com/video/YlSaOjsz5C0/v-deo.html
this guys is in conpetition for most positive steamer
The wisdom shows
@@Ballacha omg if them have a conversation in twitch i feel what all the spectators get blow is minds of happynes Xd
At the end of the day you took what dr k said in helped yourself! Good job bro. Keep it going!
He’s the most important person in the gaming sphere. Mental health is one thing that is overlooked and misunderstood, even by the people who are afflicted. So many people know there’s something wrong but don’t get help. It’s so important to get treatment, but it’s so hard to actually start. Doctor K is making it easier to talk about our mental illness, accept it and get help.
Lets be honest here, we all started crying when dr k started crying. =( stay strong guys
I started crying reading this comment section, it's so full of raw heart and honesty. I hope people who are in trouble can pull through... I really really do. Anyway, take care mate, I'll stop rambling
@@frogery My brain went bananas after seeing him cry. Damn...
No
I haven’t seen any of the Reckful stuff, but I had to stop the video because I didn’t want to start balling my eyes out at work
He's also abusive and manipulative. He's using his emotions as an excuse to say verbally abusive stuff about his whole audience. No one owes anything to Dr K, Reckful or anyone else because of Reckful's suicide
Alok, I hope it's okay with you but I find myself watching this video a lot and created timestamps that others may find helpful. We may never fully heal from Byron's passing, but I'd like to think that everyone who watches this will gain a permanent buff to their wisdom.
0:00 - Introduction and Disclaimers
2:27 - Depression
7:02 - Suicide
11:58 - Modern Medicine Can’t Fix the Mind for You
15:04 - Epidemic of Disconnection (Risk Factors for Suicide)
16:20 - Risk Factor: Substance Abuse and Self-Medication
19:32 - Risk Factor: Suicide Clusters / Equilibrium of the Mind
23:05 - Additional Risk Factors: Isolation, Sense of Loss, Unwillingness to Seek Help, Hopelessness
23:37 - The Challenge and Our Tools (Duality & Karma)
27:32 - Protective Factors Against Suicide
30:18 - What Makes Our Culture?
35:59 - What is the best way for you to get someone else to disclose their suicidal thoughts to you?
40:53 - What can you do to fight suicide?
43:29 - Healthy Gamer
46:16 - Engineering of the Mind
49:14 - Reckful
53:40 - Epilogue
1:02:02 - In Memoriam
I love you Snorlax, I love snorlax too.
Thank you for this. Much appreciated
Thanks for taking your time to post timestamps
Thank you!!
I am feeling awful and compulsive. I was planning to drive 5 minutes to a cliff and jump off. It’s night time and nobody could stop me. Im alone and nobody knows where I am right now. I watched this and i emailed my therapist instead. Thank you Dr K
I hope you are feeling better by now, hang in there
@@briza_md thank you. I did end up attempting that night, and then twice more after that. But I’m still here. Really appreciate your message
@eastcoast Life can get pretty rough can't it? I'm glad you are still here, and I hope your suffering has diminished at least a bit, relief is so important. I know sometimes the ups and downs of mental illness can be difficult to ride and stay on top of. Do you have people to talk to?
Hope you’re still here fighting the good fight buddy ❤️
@@MsFanpireProductions Hey, hope you're still fighting!
This stream will go down in History. Maybe the most powerful hour I've watched since I've started using the Internet -- Nothing has hit me harder than this.
I also sincerely hope to see, at least in my lifetime, the beginning of structural and meaningful changes within the Mental Health system in the US and all over the World.
And I believe we all have, to some extent, a role to play in this War.
A lot of people are hurting (across all social classes, all ethnicities, all backgrounds) and now is the time to face the Final Boss of our civilizations.
Thank you for everything Reckful, We won't bow down, I won't bow down. Not until my very last breath.
Agreed
I was depressed for several years myself and i felt pretty related to Reckful because of it. I feel like the main issue why he could not find purpose in his life was, that he had too high expectations for what life meant to be like. Thats when everything seems to become meaningless to you, because at some point you stop to appreciate the "little" things in life. Like thats the problem of an "big" ego. When i realized this and started letting go of my high expectations and living more in the moment is when i started to overcome my depression.
I'm glad all those frogposters will be immortalized, they've earned it
Just discovered Reckful and Dr. K recently. Watching his sessions with the dr. was like getting into a great anime, only already knowing that the main character dies. RIP Reckful. Wish I knew about you earlier... But at least now I learned about the amazing Dr. K! I'm looking forward to his story arch and to all of us being better to each other.
i started seeing a psychiatrist because of your first stream with him. its a tough spot now
im gonna try again and again and fight for you. stay healthy. gg
You can do it bro
Same here. The streams really gave me hope. I’m so thankful for it. Don’t give up ok..
Hey, i am having sessions too and i want you to know that we are going to get through this
I hope you get through this stay positive ❤️
❤
Oh man, that "I'll pay you anything" I get it. People feel understood by Dr. K. That understanding feels like a door opening, making you feel safe. A lot of stuff out there is scary.
Yep I definitely relate
I’ve tried a fifteen therapists. Psychiatrists, psychologists, counselors, social workers, online, crisis hotlines, dozens more internet strangers. Not a single one has ever connected with me in the way that just _watching_ Dr. K. has. He isn’t even speaking **to me**, just to a total stranger with not much relevance to me.
And it fucking sucks, no matter how much I try, thousands of dollars that has financially crippled me, 100+ sessions, and no success. Not a single therapist feels like they understand anything. And especially now that I’m late to the K-train, I’ll never get a chance to speak with him. And that scares me.
This may legitimately be the single most powerful video I've ever watched in my entire life. Holy shit.
57:30 killed me. Stay strong everyone
Yeah that was fucking rough to say the least.
yeah I cried with him and rest of chat live :(
I’m pretty sure we all cried during that.
Never Stop fighting guys
Dr. K., I never react to anything on UA-cam really. But I hope you read this.
I've struggled with, what has been diagnosed as dysthymic disorder, depression, borderline and depersonalization, for years, ever since I can recall, so about age 13 to now, 30.
I can go into many details but the most important part is, after 10+ years of intensive therapy and exercising so I can become healthier, I've never had seen things as they are now.
Thanks to you.
I've followed Reckful for years, and saw some of the conversations you've had with him. It was like you were talking to me. There were many overlaps in our situation.
This, combined with all I've learned and had to practice in therapy and medication and experiences in life, and your words... Lead me to now turning over a new chapter in my life.
I lost myself too, at age 5 or 6. I don't remember or recognize myself. I now look back, and I see and feel that little tiny innocent human. Is still inside me. And I went back to think what that little person would have wanted in life.
Through everything that happened and those deeply carved in thoughtloops, I've never recognized the fact that I need to get back to my basics. Remove everything that has corrupted my life, and to this day now still is. These thoughtloops are the infection. And they can be healed.
I will remove toxic people from my life. Accept the little one inside me, as the big one I am now. With my flaws. But see I am beautiful, and not only help others where I can, but first and foremost care for myself.
I've been selfsabotaging myself for all my life, and I didn't see it any other way as this is all it was going to be.
Now, most thanks to you, I will rip open the bandaids, speak my truth. Even to my mother and father, who I dared not to blame.
And I will finally, after 5 years, try and accept my sweetest boyfriend for sticking with me through my worst. And work on healing, with him, and professionals. I am hoping to go to an institution that also works outside, gardening, meditation, and caring for horses. Not just therapy.
I hope one day I will be able to love life, and love me. And have a beautiful family of our own. Surrounded by people who love one another and respect one another.
Thank you, dr. K.
R.I.P. Reckful.
Thank you for sharing this. I hope Dr. K. sees it.
Stay strong!
stay strong and best of luck friend!
you're a warrior btw :)
Thank you for sharing that, I am sure this will, in turn, inspire others, so this really goes a long way. We are all looking forward to hearing from you in a bit about executing on your great battleplan. Make sure you reach out if you ever do struggle and keep at it. You know what you want, you know how to get there and you know that it won't be easy, but you also know to rely on your boyfriend in others to keep at it. Sending all the good thoughts and positivity your way!
Got got this 💚
Oh my. I refreshed to see if anyone'd notice.. And my heart is beating so hard right now to see some response.
Thank you Gurel, chiang sean, Thomas Bachler, 3 self.
Stay strong everyone, you're not alone..
I met him on WoW during Mists of Panderia and was dueling him on his stream for a bit. It made my day. I went back and found the video. He was having so much fun. It was the best moment I had playing videogames. Hewas so nice to me.
That whole thing about not letting a piece of someone else die with you is actually what got me through years ago thinking about my family. I didn't care for myself but I couldn't bring myself to really consider suicide because it would hurt them too much and was ultimately what kept me going just long enough to get help from other people.
One of the biggest takeaways for me was the question how do you get someone to disclose their suicidal thoughts to you - by disclosing yours. Showing vulnerability is one of the best ways to bond and build trust. His follow up point was so true; we tend to try and help others more than ourselves and that needs to change. The people around you matter but so do you.
Rest in peace, Byron
Watching Dr. K cry made me cry.
Right? It felt like how it feels to watch your parents cry. I felt so completely awful and sad
Powerful moment gamer...
same, i felt that..i just wanted to give him a hug
Comments get lost and you might never see this. I’ve battled with depression throughout my school life. I feel i’m much better now. Your work and the conversations you have are so important. I’m so sorry about Reckful’s passing. The conversations you have truly are a benefit to people who struggle. Thank you for being honest, open, and helpful.
I saw someone write "the blood is on your hands" in the chat and I just hope that that person finds happiness in life
Kinda felt that with "And the Oscar goes to Dr K" in chat when he started crying.
Even with something harsh like you found in chat, I'm very glad to see your sentence didn't end on a bitter note.
I would have never noticed, now I'm done reading comments. Will you consider deleting this?
@@Dimitris_Half No need to wish it on them. Those ppl bring it about for themselves. I get what you mean tho. Some ppl only enjoy life by tearing down others. Kinda sad really
this stream was incredible, I think around 80k people where there, and it was the first time in years that i let my emotions flow and really cried.
Thank you Dr. K
I love everyone in this community. You all mean so much to me despite me never interacting with anyone. I want to stop my lurking and begin posting sentiments of love and positivity, because I understand now that those kinds of things need to be heard more.
Thank you Dr. K and everyone else at Healthy Gamer for facilitating this amazing community and working so hard.
Be strong, people sometimes don't appreciate openess and positivity... Just be strong and stay open no matter what people say in return... Its hard, but possible. Take care ❤
Yeah same i never really talked to anyone online until i met healthygamer
I'm somewhat a lurker too. Your words opened my eyes. I love that you pick butterfly as your profile pic. You play Dota a lot?
Seeing Dr. K breakdown like that tore a hole in my heart dude
26:16 - Holy shit Dr. K’s final boss analogy literally made me tear up. I can’t even explain why. I’m in the car crying, and I think it’s because it brought so much imagery of pushing hard and WINNING. It gave me hope that I can win.
It's sad but his death opened my eyes to be an EVEN BETTER person. We love you Reckful. We love you Dr. K. I'll make you proud Reckful. I'm not a champion like you were but I'll still try.
Be the champion of your own story buddy, wishing you the best.
Lol gg ez
The overwhelming toxicity in the internet, I'm glad there is at least this corner on the internet with a positive, helpful community 💚 thank you all, your not alone
I'm not alone
@@3self damn right you aren't man, we're all here for u and each other. i've been restraining myself not to say/type any offensive or toxic shit, not only for the sake of building a positive community, but also for the sake of my own mental health. cheers to you man cuz we're gonna slay the shit out of this raid boss
@@ubermenschchan7671 thank you, I'm in the same situation and we can fix this together. Wishing you all the best in your journey :)
I’m glad you have found this positive corner of the internet - but please know that there are more positive spaces. If you find yourself in bad places and you are not mentally in the right place to be fighting to make those places better, then you have got to get out of there. Find more spaces like this and make those places where you choose to spend your time.
@@misskaseykat Where
I broke down in tears watching Dr K pour his heart out. What a unique and glorious soul ❤️ RIP Reckful.
I’m heartbroken, for his family for his friends, for himself mostly, for his struggle in life. I have diagnosed depression and GAD (generalized anxiety disorder). It’s a 24/7 thing, you can’t escape it, you can’t escape your own mind. When your mind turns on you and becomes negative it is EXTREMELY HARD to come out of. That’s when I decided to get help, when years went by and I wasn’t able to pull myself out. To dig your way up to the surface. It’s like climbing out of a 15 foot hole that you dug yourself in. Like a quicksand pit, you keep sinking and don’t know why. Depression absolutely effects everything in your life like dr K said, it’s attacking you, constantly. I feel so much for him.
People mostly don’t know, if you’ve never experienced it, how hard it is to ask for help. You tell yourself you don’t want to bother people with your own personal inside issues. You don’t want to bring other people down with you. The same thing happened to me. You isolate for that exact reason. It’s a fucked up disease, and I needed help from therapy and medication although I didn’t want to take them. But I needed to, or the same would have happened to me, and I knew it, I was heading down that spiraling quicksand path that kept getting deeper.
If you need help ask for it, don’t feel ashamed. We need you alive, your family needs you alive, your friends need you alive, your animals need you alive. Whoever you have. There are better days ahead....is what I hope, you never know if that’s the case but that’s the hope that keeps going. I don’t want to die before I become happier than I’ve ever been, is my hope. I want to make it there one day
i wish the best for you
That was so damn hard to watch.
This world is so insane right now and being here feels like a save haven.
I love you Doc and Byron, thank you for everything.
Ruhe in Frieden.
The vulnerability that Dr K shows is so comforting. And that's sad, because that just means that being vulnerable is so rare now-a-days, people showing their true colours with no fear of being judged is the ultimate comforting method. And we show everything but that.
Im 22 and i have no real friends and that been my reality for 4+ years. That changed a few months back, its not perfect but im grateful for the 2 friends iv made, Dr.K and reckful were responsible for my mental health when i wasn't able to be so THANK YOU. I also just started seeing a life coach, this community is amazing and you should never stop fighting. Love you all, let me know how you're doing if want any help at all ill be there for ya.
How are you now Jake?
I've been playing games since N64 when i was 5. The past 5 years I've played games pretty much every day with a few friends online on discord. but we all agree they're not as fun anymore. Really nothing is that fun anymore.
I find myself pretending to have fun doing things irl with others outside of games. Sometimes spacing out and thinking about games while doing them.
I even dream about games.
and now that they're not fun i feel like there is a giant hole in my life. Some days I feel heavy. It's profound and immeasurable.
Like chains on my heart.
Is anyone else like this? Maybe I'm alone.
I think part of depression comes from lacking a clear sense of Purpose in life,
and I've always felt like I was missing that.
but maybe It's missing me too.
I just need to look for it.
I'll find it.
Same like most of the time videogames are getting boring and I get sadder as I play more but I'm starting on playing piano and its going well
@@aeroslothy I hope it goes well for you.
For me that's guitar.
For me that's actually studying for the first time in my life.
You will find that thing, but if you feel the way you feel about gaming, take a step back and look for it. Don't just stay drowned in this feeling and burn your time away while feeling that way.
I know it's conter intuitive to be mentioning a videogame but that reminded me of the ending of metal gear solid 1, it's about finding purpose in life and it's beautiful, that game changed my life.
Hey man, I totally feel the same way. Go travel. As weird as it sounds, I think you need to feed your brain different experiences. Take some time off and pick a country, then go there. Or do something you've never done before.
Dr.K is such a positive member of the twitch and the gaming community, he puts so much of himself into what he does and truly wants the best for people as this video demonstrates only too well and I'm truly grateful to have him here.
you didnt fail Dr. K..you won..you helped Reckful, and it is not your fault he is dead.. Sometimes the pains too strong and he fought for a long time..you help many of us..Love you .
When he said "6 sessions won't fix you" I felt that
"We have an epidemic of disconnection" is a quote I'm going to use for the rest of my life
6 years of watching twitch, and this is by far the most powerful and impacting stream i've seen.
Rest in peace Byron :c
The reason people want to pay him a lot of money for just one session is because there are SO MANY terrible therapists out there. I've spent so much time and money and effort with useless therapists that I'm at the point to where I've given up on in-person therapy and now I just watch UA-cam videos haha.
Same.
Then you need to ask what kind of therapy they give, before coming back for another session. You need to search for the type of therapy that suits you. I took therapy with four therapists before finding the one that actually helped me. But still she couldn't help me with everything. And I get that's normal. Therapy is not a panacea
@@emsulich I hope you can find the type of therapy you need. 😉 Keep fighting 💪
@@patriciaramos6655 aww thanks ♥️
@@emsulich have you ever looked into specialists/more academic therapists? i also have this same issue but i feel the solution is a more 'experienced' therapist with more clinical takes, but obviously price can be an issue
This video kept me alive another day 🥳
❤❤❤ and 20 more? Love and peace to you unseen friend❤❤❤
@@laurabrevig5410Thank you for the kind reply ❤️ Same to you friend
You, who is reading this : I don't know you, I've never talked to you, I'll probably never meet you, but I wish you the best and I want you to find inner peace and live a life you can be proud of at the end of the road.
U too man
You too!
I roll my eyes at these with a huge smile on my face. Thanks
How can people say stuff like this to complete strangers on the internet. I will never understand. These comments don't mean anything.
@@separatesmile2761 Maybe they don't mean much to you, but they do for some people, including me. If at least one person read this comment and reacted to it in a positive manner, then I think it was worth posting. I 100% mean everything I said, I just want people to be at peace with themselves and to do stuff they're proud of.
You're doing great work by increasing awareness on these topics. Much appreciated
All men fell down and cried when Dr.K cried, so much emotions0
I kind of think of Life like Left 4 Dead. You need the other people when shit goes down. You get pounced by a hunter? No worries, my buddy Zoey is getting it off of me. You're feeling depressed? You have people around you to help you back up.
I never watched the guy, but I heard his name ALL the time. Goes to show how much of an influence he was. RIP, my friend. I hope to meet you someday on the other side.
And there has been an influx of people yelling "Pills here"
Need a cheeseburgah? Coach will help you find one real quick.
I’ve struggled with depression most of my life, using gaming as a form of self medication. It takes me away from my thoughts and out of my own head if ever so briefly. Dr. K, I respect the shit out of what you do. Don’t give up, we’re here for you too. Once in a while we all need to pick up a healer. Much love and RIP reckful. May he finally be at peace.
I have sever depression that I have been dealing with for 15 years, I have been trying to put myself in a place where I feel good about life again and i'm trying. I do my best to reach out to those I know can handle my situation and are willing to talk with me. Sometimes people make things worse, sometimes people learn and realize "depression is more than just being sad". I wish Reckful didn't have to deal with everything he had going on, with what he showed on stream to what he didn't show. Be good to yourself, be kind to others. RIP Reckful and thank you Dr.K for showing us what you feel. Stay healthy gamers.
Thank you for sharing that. Stay strong and never give up on leaning on other people even if they sometimes make things worse. There will be some that make things better and lean on them, you are not alone.
Thanks for sharing this. I just wanna say, never go on the path Reckful chose to go. After all there are people who care about you. Stay Healthy
Vivi is awesome.
never give up man. i feel your pain.
Stay healthy Vincent. Keep fighting, you can do it.
Him talking about the increasing disconnect between people reminds me of a quote from a light novel which hits kind of hard to home...
"It was possible to connect with someone on the other side of the planet as if they were right by one's side. People said the world had expanded boundlessly. But they thought the world had shrunk suffocatingly.....In an enclosed space where the artificial light of their displays blinked upon them. No, rather on the other side of those monitors, the net space built in hexadecimal that was their whole world"
If it isn't too much trouble, could I get some sauce?
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I've always stayed silent on your videos, however, I thought I'd leave a comment now.
Thank you, Alok, for making these streams and uploading these videos. All of them, especially with Byron, have helped me immensely and are likely the main reason why I am here to write this comment. They made me realise there may still be hope, made me open up to friends, ask for help at least from them. You've shown me and many others there is a reason to live, for which I cannot express how grateful I am. You are truly a legend. Stay strong and keep pushing, friends, when a member of a raid goes down you don't give up - you do more damage and heal harder.
"Yesterday the piece that I'd given to Reckful died with him" 55:56
this talk helped me so much
ah yes you watched the whole thing in 1 minute
@@jaylee5012 maybe he watched the stream yesterday? Pepege
@@jaylee5012 Hey lee, how's it going? I get your intentions when you typed that comment of yours, it makes sense, but there are other factors for example, the video was live streamed before being uploaded.. so he is most likely talking about watching it live and being helped by it. I don't mean to point any fingers here but it's comments and conclusions jumped so quickly that put affect us, some people can crack easily just from a small comment. Take care dude and im glad it helped you kipz, same here.
@@jaylee5012 ... the stream vods been up lol
This stream was really amazing
I've never seen more truthbombs get dropped in a single hour. Jesus christ man. 100% correct on all fronts.
Byron definitely needs Jesus. It's a touchy subject when I mention God and religion but think of it this way; Everyone is trying to look for a purpose to live this life.
@@yakoschelium5337 everyone trys to find a purpose to live , but some just can't , you think that religious people dont suicide ? many do
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If someone can’t find a purpose to live, then that person wasn’t supposed to be born in the first place right? If there is no objective truth to life’s purpose then nothing is real (assuming that reality is based on truth), if nothing is real then this whole life is meaningless. People would say that the point of living life is happiness, but then what happens when the happiness is left behind? Only God can let a person endure the pain, no one else can. I know that it’s hard to grasp the concept, but I truly believe that there is a creator behind everyone’s life.
God bless you!
@@yakoschelium5337 lol you're so far removed from helping anyone with mental illness. Please never give anyone advice
Dr.K is one of the most positive and unique streamers on twitch. Very inspirational.
DUUUUUUDE, you're analogy of a multiplayer game turning into a single player game is spot on. I was on the brink of suicide 5 years ago, and today I am depressed. I fear that I have gone back full circle. I have almost stopped chatting with my close friends, started drinking more and more, dropped out of school, trying to date on tinder, been playing single player video games instead of my usual multiplayer games with my friends. All this shit I did 5 years ago. Same patterns. I'd like to say your channel is one of the reasons why i have not gone full circle again. And you might have inspired me for a future career. You and your channel Dr. K have successfully make me want to reach for help, even though I have a reaaaaaaal hard time reaching. Hell, THIS comment is reaching. I will one day shake your hand and say thank you. That's a fcking promise.
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I hope you’re still here
Your post is hopeful to me. Wishing the best for you.
Alok Kanojia is human like everyone else, and that's the best thing we can all share with ourselves. We are we when we open up like this. Love you all and keep the openness and emotion ball rolling.
Dr. K, I hope YOU are doing well. I just wanted to say you're exactly what the gaming community needed. Not just for the streamers but for us viewers. I've learnt a lot from your sessions with other streamers and your talks. I can't thank you enough. RIP Byron.
I really needed this today. I feel like my hole's been slowly digging deeper and a frank discussion on this is helping me organize my thoughts
this single video has given me so much hope that I am insanely grateful for u and this video. I have watched numerous videos about depression, suicide and grief and this spoke to me the most that I think a video could. thank you from the bottom of my heart
I used to watch reckful after I'd come home from school and my older bro had his stream on(This was back in 2013). The worst thing is when you get so progressively invested into someone and watch them develop so much as a person and become a role model. Then something like this happens and it's as if you're in a nightmare... I'm just happy he genuinely made a difference and left his mark on the world.
I've never watched reckful really, I saw him occassionally on stream highlights, but man his death still got very very close to me... It's really saddening to see him go
For the rest of my life, I will never let any of my champions or heroes go alone.
I will be there, to stop them from falling.
I will be there, to fight for them when they are out of their depth.
I will be there, to shield them from any harm that might be coming their way
And I will be there, until my own dying breath.
And if that breath, comes sooner than it should, I know that my champions and heroes will be there to stop me from falling too.
Dr. K, with your words alone, you have helped me to realise something that should be obvious, but is the direct opposite of obvious.
You have made me realise that we are not alone, but in order to keep it that way, we need to do our part.
And to start doing my part, I want to heal you. Even if it's just for 1 hp or even 0.001, I want to restore your health back to 100.
Dr. K, I don't even know if you will ever read this, but if you do, I want you to know that you mean the world to me as well as my family.
I love what you do, and ever since I first saw your content, I've been feeling better.
What you are doing is WORKING and I love you for doing it.
So please, don't ever stop. Because you are one of my heroes, and I don't want you to be alone.
I hope Dr K sees this too. See you on the battlefield
Who’s there to save the savior?
Omg boston MA, hello from beverly MA! I love your videos, thank you for all the time you take provide help for these videos. Every session provides different insight into how everyones problems in life differ and how different we all are.
I saw this stream live and it hurt. It was painful. But we are all in this together people. Reckful fought through his problem and showed me and probably so many more help. Its an extremely sad loss and we wont forget him. We can all learn from this and use each other. Dr. K was my first step into getting help. Seeing him like this has changed my view on life completely. This is a massive issue that we need to fix together. We cannot let him down guys. Stay strong and talk to people. We have to show Reckful and Dr. K how much he has helped us by improving ourselves and everyone around us. We can do this. RIP Byron you legend
There are many things I want to say, but it all comes down to this: thank you for the work you do, Dr K.
The grief and sadness many of us feel now, to me, is just one more and very clear reason why this movement is so important. It's hard to find something to work towards often times, but events like this - if nothing else - can give us a clear goal, in that no one wants to experience this again, or put the same burden onto others.
I really appreciate that you put yourself out there like this, that you don't put up a facade of boundless and impervious optimism and positivity, but that you let people see the humanity and the hurt that motivates you to do all this work in the first place. And I think it resonates with many, many people.
We all share these feelings, and I hope this movement of sincerity and honest expression keeps taking root and doesn't let itself be swept away. It's so direly needed in the world right now, online and offline, in gaming and in any other part of life. I truly believe we can improve things and better the world together as long as we are truly open and compassionate towards one another and don't retreat to wearing a mask of indifference and aloofness.
People need each other, more now than ever. Thank you for being there, not as a "leader" but as a good example of another human. I hope you're doing okay, please take care of yourself..
Love you Dr. K. You are helping kill the stigma around mental health problems in a time that we need it more than ever. Thank you so much for everything you do. You are seriously my hero
Thank you for this Dr. K.
As a new viewer and someone who has recently been working on improving my mental health from past trauma/depressive bouts - your words give the effect of an OP team-wide buff when fighting this raid boss that is mental health. You have inspired to me one day be able to provide this aoe healing to others, as I continue to work on myself every day.
If we cannot master our own minds first, our helping of others will be for naught. Pass the positive vibrations from within.
Seeing this live was so special.. You touched so many Dr.k.. We all love you so damn much..
glad i came across this, really needed to hear this perspective. Put things into terms i can understand
You handle this with such balance and grace. These news were devistating and this response is way much better than I could have ever imagined. Its perfect. Your sessions with reckful is what brought me to you and also me.
what a beautiful video Dr K, thank you for being there for all of us, i really appreciate what you do. So i have been fighting with depression and other mental health stuff for about 13 years, over the time i have improved alot, but the last couple of years i had come to a standstill in how i could move forward, finding your videos about 3 weeks back changed that for me! I am finally pressing forward again, this time i will reach the finish line! But seeing and hearing you cry really touched me, i also started crying (which i very rarely do), but please K, dont give up we all need each other, now more than ever!
22:01 this is so key for me. I was very depressed last year in part because of my situation being away from family and such, and once my mindset shifted towards just needing to make it for some amount of time, the hopelessness and suicidal thoughts went with it. It also helped connecting with my folks so I wasn’t just going it alone. Something I like, and it’s nerdy, but I like to think of myself as Vegeta in the Kid Buu fight. Sometimes I’m getting absolutely obliterated by depression... and that’s okay, as long as I’m still fighting. The parallel doesn’t stop there - as Dr. K said, suicide can have devastating ripple effects. We are social creatures that learn from example. If you see someone you care about lose hope, then hope starts to feel pointless. But you can fight to be a different kind of example - of someone overcoming their struggles. The battle for the fate of the world happens in part in your own mind, fellow gamers, and I know you can win
Mental health is so important, thank you for your continued work.
I love yall. Im not even a gamer like that but i feel the connection im feeling here. Dr. k always brings me home. This hit my heart so much.
I only recently found your videos here and just now watching this one. You are doing great and wonderful things. I am glad there is this platform to make people feel more comfortable and willing to open up to someone, anyone about how they are feeling and if they need help.
From the bottom of my heart, thank you.
I may only be one person and i can only speak for me but this is something that is never talked about and I think that it is wrong. I have friends who commited suicide and hell i even thought about it too, I wont do it but even if i would i probably wouldnt talk about it, because in society it is a nono topic. I honestly think that it is important that it is not ignored and talking about it is a great first step. I am very happy that we as a society slowly start to talk about these things
"What do you do when a champion falls? You fking pick up and fight."
Oof. I definitely needed to hear this. Thank you, Dr. K ❤
Im in awe. your videos are so touching and you give such amazing advice. it puts the world into perspective. due to past trauma my brain covers up things to the point of i have no memory of them ever happening. just today after a year i gained back the memory after watching some of your videos where you explained that sometimes people feel as if there SO will leave them if they find out about you having been sexual assaulted I remembered that i was sexually harassed multiple times last year. i never remembered it happening because my mind blocked it out. I also realize how much i downplayed what happened and how much i told myself it was small and that i was being a baby and it just feels so horrible to ask relatives and unravel the mountain of problems i had as a kid that i have no memory of. Like my parents confronting me about my small common tics when i was 7 when i have memories from before i was 7. its crazy to think how little i really know about my self because i can't remember anything. your videos help me realize and want to ask questions and seek help. thank you
I'm truly sorry for your loss. I hope the community will get something out of this, I hope you can keep Reckful's legacy alive with your channel.
Let's call it our loss. We all lost a piece of the internet this week.
Thank you dr. K and thank you Byron for giving us your best. You are literally my real life superheroes and you inspire me beyond anything else to give my best too.
You are such an inspiration to me Dr. K. I've been dealing with mental health issues for a while, and luckily I have a supportive system in life to depend on, and I've gotten help. Even though I still struggle, I don't give up because of people that have lost the fight like Reckful and Etika. I wanna be a psychologist when I go to college, and I hope I can be as kick ass at my profession just as you are at yours. Much love man, and never give up
man i love this guy, his content is just mindblowing to me, but the fact that its mindblowing is sad because i clearly wasnt taught these very helpful information in school
After this, I want to try to be more open. I'm too shy to offer help sometimes. Too shy to talk about my emotions.
That's gotta change. Even if someone reacts negatively to it, even if someone rejects me, - let's not worry alone and just fucking talk to one another.
life's a multiplayer game.
Same here, even though I'm a piece of shit to myself at least I can try to make people feel they aren't
@@commenter30 no it's a single player game with a lot of NPCs.
You need to get a sales job. That has a sales quota.
It will suck at first.
But ultimately it will change your life and personality.
This was one of the best streams I had ever watched, great work Dr.K
Thank you for doing this, making these videos and streams. this is the first time i’ve discovered you and this video helped me realize a lot about me and my own struggles with my mental illness and our society, and how we view this phenomenon. Rip Reckful he didn’t deserve the troubles he went through. I hurt for him i hope he is at peace. I will continue keeping on, this pushes me
I have only recently come across your videos and streams due to recent unfortunate circumstances, but I would like to praise you for what you are doing. I believe that you are providing support and awareness to a platform that is overlooked by other professionals, and that you give people struggling the confidence and motivation to seek further professional intervention. I am truly sorry for your loss and wish you all the strength to help you through this tough time xx
Hey Dr. K,
I don't know if you will read this but I'm sending some healing your way. I've found your content both enjoyable and thoughtful; you've opened a line of discussion we should all be having more of and connecting people in the best way. You're an inspiration, and you're not alone.
I'm not somebody who I feel is in dire need of mental help, nor am I somebody that really knew much about Reckful, but these recent events hit me hard nonetheless. We definitely all go through our struggles, and see the struggles in other people. Your talks with other people are eye opening and help me sympathize with so many different perspectives, and I think that's something incredibly valuable. I had a genuine talk with a friend about this stuff for the first time in a long time.
I will take that piece you give to all of us and carry it all the way.
Dr. K is my Hero. I genuinely love him and his message.
I wish I had good therapists in my area :( I've tried so many and they tend to actually make things worse. Insurance won't pay for online therapy. This is probably why people keep asking for therapy from Dr K., I totally understand them. Feels like fighting a losing battle.
Byron’s death was absolutely crushing to me and this video has been a big help to understand a lot of the questions I have. I know Byron absolutely believed in the work you are doing and on behalf of all of us I just want to say thank you. This fight is far from over but knowing you’re on our side really makes me believe we can win.
tbh i think he helped so much ppl with this talk including me he gave me some value that i didnt see it in myself for along time
i hope that reckful death and by this talk will help this community to open our eyes about how serious is mental health really is and open our ears to everyone to listen and help each other
RIP
Damn this hits in the feels so many levels
Holy, that really hit. Even if no one in the community knows me, I actually felt like a real part of it during his speech. I fucking hope we all get better together and rise up. I don't want live feeling like I'm in a single-player game, I want to be a part of something, a part of a community, a part of life.
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Thank you for being vulnerable and making us feel like a community. I know there is a mental war raging around the world. You truly make us feel like this is a war we aren't fighting alone and that we can support each other during these rough times. Thank you so much for your guidance.