LIES WE TELL OURSELVES AS MILSO's
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- Опубліковано 20 гру 2024
- There are so many lies we tell ourselves as military significant others and today I want to put a stop to believing those lies and speak truth over our lives. I haven't addressed all, but these are a few to start with! I hope they help you break some of your own lies you tell yourself.
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Still coming back to these videos for the 3rd deployment and they always seem to comfort me. I wish you knew how grateful I am that you posted these!!! ❤
That’s so amazing!! That means so much! ❤️❤️
I just found tour channel a few days ago and I’m so thankful!! 😊 I think God knew I needed to listen to your videos from a Christian perspective. It’s very encouraging to know other SO felt the same way as I do now. I was in The Navy but never in these shoes I’m in now. This is a lot and I want to make this relationship as heathy, successful, and follow God will. 😊 thanks!!
Girl you spoke to my soul today! I'm so thankful God put this video in my life today! I was trying to talk to a friend about almost everything you just talked about and felt so discouraged because its hard for most people to understand. It was like a breath of fresh air watching this and hearing your words, firstly to not feel and alone and second to get some MILSO "its okay to feel this way" support means so much. Thank you for sharing and giving me a better outlook, sending you lots of blessings!
So glad I could validate you! It definitely can be discouraging when talking to someone who has no idea.
Blessing to you too ❤️
I completely agree
I felt the last one saying you don't have a community because I thought I was alone in college my entire freshman year and then I got new roommates and my sophomore year was amazing.
Thank you. I do not have to worry, it's ok when I cry and I can go hangout with my friends. Keep giving it up to god. Thank you
This video was encouraging and much needed. Your videos are so uplifting and I like how real you keep things. Your positive attitude helps so much
I've been feeling every single one of these lies!!! Thank you so much for always being so positive and explaining my feelings when I cant, you are awesome girl
It marks a week tomorrow since my boyfriend shipped out for boot camp in the Navy branch. It has been tough, but thank you for the constant reassurance that your content provides. 💙 everyday I get more excited for the day I get to ship out to go see him graduate boot camp. Prayers are essential to me now, to help reassure myself that he’s safe & doing well. Thank you Brit, your channel has really helped a lot! Please don’t stop with your content!
i paused your video after the first one. and my actual words were “oh wow” it hit me in my soul lol
Yes, girl! Thank you 👏🏻 I’ve struggled with all of these for a while and finally just had to break the cycle of these lies. (With the help of my God sent husband!). Thank you for making this video and being a reassurance!
Yes! Glad you were able to break the cycle! 💛
God bless you all! This is wonderful and a great reminder from Jesus! Romans 10:13 "For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved."
We have an adorable pup and we've made friends with our neighbors because of our dogs !! Love this advice ! I'm a new military wife and I try to make it fun. When my husband is out for training or deployment. I cook recipes my husband won't eat, crafts, new hobbies, read more, workout, learn how to play an instrument, etc ...
My husband and I just moved to our first duty station here in Cali and we’ve only been here a week but I’ve been a little nervous to put my self completely out there and making friends because I’m only 19 so I feel like a lot of Other spouses are older than me and don’t wanna be friends with someone so young. Your videos always help me so much, knowing that god has a purpose for me here at this base gives me hope that I won’t be friendless the whole time I’m here😂❤️
What part of Cali are you guys stationed at? I live in Cali as well once my husbands deployment is over his new duty station will be here in Cali
VlogsByGuadalupe were in Northern California at Travis Air Force Base!
Jamie Delgado oh wow you guys are way up there! I currently live in LA but when my hubby comes back we are going to El Centro, California!
Everything you said was on point 👏🏼👏🏼
Thank you again soo much!! I am guilty of telling myself these lies, but with Gods help i can see how his power has given me the strenth to shut these out! God bless and bless your marriage with Connor 😊
Thank you so much for all your videos! I recently got married to my husband who is a Marine and who I met in high school. He isn't sure where he is going to be stationed yet and I was so scared of being alone and not making any friends. These videos help me worry less!
This made me feel so much better about my current situation. I started dating my SO in May and it's been rly hard. Especially feeling like I can't or shouldn't be sad bc I chose this. You're videos have been so encouraging to me 😊 God bless ♥️
I get so excited when you post! Actually i just had a conversation about how i felt like i couldn’t tell him my feelings cuz he’s stressed about his job last night! I relate so much to that and we finally resolved the issue!! Love ya! Thanks for always making me feel like I’m not alone!
Yay! So glad yall were able to resolve the issue (:
OMG this is so true... I have been struggling with these things. Thank you for this video!
I don't usually comment on videos but your videos have helped me so much so from the bottom of my heart I thank you 💜
Wow, well thanks so much for commenting! I am so glad I could help ❤️
I love the real-ness of your videos!!! I’m in the middle of a deployment right now with my man so this video was much needed!
all of your videos are so awesome, every time you upload i get so excited! thank you so much for all of your insight girl 💗
I just wanted to thank you so much for posting all the videos u do I just got with my high school crush who we been best friends for 8 years and he in the navy and I feel like I'm so lost I don't know what to do half the time we got 2 weeks together before he left for 7 months and ur videos help so much with him gone
You're welcome! Glad I can help 💛
Brit+Con you help so much I actually sent you a email also wondering if u can do a video about something today your such a inspiring person
Thanks for the video! I definitely agree that finding friends has a lot to do with yourself and how proactive you are at doing it. Although, sometimes it is hard to find a community if you are in a small town that doesn't have much going on. I had to deal with that in my last location. I didn't know where to look to find people so I ended up pretty lonely the entire time I was there. I ended up thinking that I would never make friends in this type of lifestyle. But now that I'm in a larger city, I've found friends so quickly. I now realize that finding friends in the military lifestyle is not impossible, it just may take more work depending on where you are. Now, if I end up in a smaller town again, I know that I can meet people, I'll just have to put in more effort than normal because you're right, if there are people around there's no reason why I can't.
I seriously have been struggling so bad with not telling William about my feelings and emotions and thoughts and struggles. I also struggle with not putting my life on hold. Like, you totally called me out haha. Thank you, though! Because now I don't feel as alone, knowing I'm not the only one. I love your channel.
This is so true. People get really upset when you expect your spouse to put you're marriage first. Luckily my husband does but, some people think its not good. I love you're videos.
Love this video! I feel so identify 🤷🏻♀️❤️
Thanks for being that other person that tells me “IT’S NORMAL”.
Thanks for sharing! Most definitely I have experienced this before, but yes my bf and i for sure talk and express how we feel. We realized that we are the only two people who can make this deployment work and in order for it to work we must be honest with one another. ❤️ thanks girl you rock
I love this video so much!!! Thank you for being real.
PS you always have good lighting do you use a certain light or ring light??
Grace Ball I use a ring light (:
I love this video! I agree with all the things you said. I feel you with the “there is no community for me” tho... I have found a total of 2 friends and it’s soooo hard to find friends. I know there is so many people at this base but I am such a picky person. I tell myself that people don’t want to be my friend so therefore I don’t even try to be their friend. Ugh it’s so frustrating. Tucson is sooo boring it seems like no one wants to talk here!!!
This is the most relatable thing ever. All I do is worry. I'm such a preplanner in everything I do. And the military makes it impossible so instead of just have a Plan A and Plan B, I wind up having a Plan A and it just keep going until Plan ZZZ. I'm also so guilty of never telling my SO about my feelings. I'll never tell her when I'm stressed out about money or life, I hate admitting to her how much I miss her because I feel like it makes her sad. I don't think she's even seen me cry in almost 2 months when I last visited her (I'm a big cry baby, btw)... but all in all, these are all so so sooo accurate
Loved this video! This really helped me❤️❤️❤️
Yes girly you nailed it!!👌 I have experienced all these lies.😮😅 Lol! You're so funny😂 and I love the way you explain things because you talk from your heart, you're so passionate about it, and everything you say is so relatable 🙂. Another great video!!💖👏
*By the way you're doing so good with your invisalign and your teeth are looking so perf!👄
Thank you! I'm so glad you loved the video 😃😍 Also, I eekked when I read what you said about my Invisalign and teeth. That makes me feel excited! haha So thank you! 😊❤️
Brit+Con Awe! 😄You're welcome!😊
Omg!!! My fiancé has been at basic and the biggest lie I’m feeling is feeling guilty for having fun without him. I just have you remind myself that he would never just want me moping around the house
Yesss this video was so real! Thanks for the reminders Brittani! Also a silly lie my husband and I tell ourselves almost every day of this deployment : “two more months!” does it make it seem like it’s not that bad? I think so just a little! 😂😂😭
Jayme Salcido hahaha omg I do that too. We always say "see you soon" if 7 more months is soon lol
Sage M right 😂😭 praying for you..we got this! 💪
Jayme Salcido yes we do!!!
You great
Awe I love you ❤️❤️❤️❤️ this was such a good videos idea and I think it should totally have a part 2!!!!☺️❤️
Thank you so much for this video :)
The point "have fun when your significant other is on deployment" remind me of a big problem I faced in my last relationship: It's not only important to do it for yourself, to see that your life counts and your world doesn't stop existing when he or she is not there. But the other point is that you could put so much pressure on him or her, when you only concentrate on the fact that they are not with you, because when they're gone it hurt you so much and you're freaking out, because you're not able to do your stuff right and when they return instead of enjoying that they are back you only blame them for being away for too long as if they wouldn't care about you enough and besides worrying about the next time they leave you create problems which actually aren't there. My ex-boyfriend treated me this way and pushed my out of his life
What do you think of the crazy cheating stories out there? Many people say that it happens so much in the military that it's sad. Were you worried even a little before marrying?
This is a good video idea! (Make a video Brit!)
From my own personal experience, I’ve witnessed wives (marine corps) cheating on their husbands while they’re away because they would meet single or even married marines on base and would actually bring them into their own homes. But I’ve also seen the other way around too; where the wife is at home waiting for the husband to come back from training. When in reality, he’s hanging out with other girls while they’re training. As sad as it sounds, it’s completely real. People just get emotionally disconnected as time goes and they try to fill this void by making poor decisions. Or they get married too fast and haven’t had the time to build a solid relationship. A reason why the divorce rate is so high. It breaks my heart to see it happen so much.
When my husband and I had just started dating he would tell me so many cheating stories till this day he still does. It worried me to think he would do something because I thought well if married people do it no problem especially while deployed he wouldn't have an issue to do so, but I slowly tried to stop thinking that because he is a good man and I trust him.
I whole heartedly believe in the lonely lie. When I first got to Virginia I spent a lot of days sitting at home feeling like I was never going to make any relationships but it’s because I was sitting at home 😂
It’s funny how the brain works lol. Duh it was my fault!
Now I volunteer regularly at the USO on base! I meet tons of new people every day and become friends with the regulars that come in (: ❤️❤️❤️ thank you for the video 😋
loved this video!!! it helps a lot :)
I really like this video, I've through some of this stuff. I always thought i had to keep my feelings in when i started my relationship but now that I have been with him so long I don't feel that way anymore. I cry when i have to or I just talk to my best friends and it helps☺
One question I do have, is, once you become a military spouse do you still need someone to "escort you" when on base like if you live on base. Cause when I went to visit my boyfriend not to long ago I was told he wasn't supposed to leave me alone but he left me alone in his room and I got hungry so I got McDonald's and later found out I need to be escorted. So is that still in effect once you get married or can you go run errands and stuff your self?
Once you get married you get your own military ID which allows you to go on and off base!
Love this! I have done pretty well with all these lies! As I prepare for deployment it's a great reminder! I am working on number one with the boyfriend! uggh!
Hey Brit! Weird question, do submarines submerge from missions at any specific time of day? Have you noticed that when Con returns from deployments that it is always around a certain time of day? Or will they come back even late at night? Is it completely random? Any one else who has any idea please respond as well!
It is always completely random! If they feel as if the word has gotten out about when they come home they will change the date for their protection.
Wait there's craft places on base? I've been watching your videos to get more information as a future military spouse.
I am a guy but I really like your videos because I want to make sure my wife isn't going to miserable if I go to the military. I want to go to the air force and I honestly feel like you are like a role model for all military wifes. I honestly feel like if I find a wife like you I would be set 😅.
I loved this video :) hope you're doing well!!!
Great job! This helped! Do you by any chance know of good online classes?
My husband is deploying next month. I don't know how we're going to make it through this. He had been telling me he was applying for EFMP orders (I'm in chemotherapy, extremely sick) and kept reassuring me he wasn't deploying. He lied, for a month. I have no support system here, no one because I'm sick and work from home. Right now I'm in the middle of a panic attack so I hope I'm making any sense. How do we get through this? Do you have any advice for me? It does not help he says "I could get killed".. tells me he won't talk to me a lot. I'm sick, I'm absolutely panicking and I'm a devastated, shattered and crushed mess. I want this to work but how? I'm also scared to be 100% isolated here. 😩
i don't lie to my husband i always tell him the ture and we don't lie to eath other it's always tell the ture ps alicia and John
Your necklace is sooo cute! Where did you get it? 😊
Annette Gonzalez The anchor one I got as a gift from Etsy and the choker one is from Forever 21 😊
Your video like too much