You are so right about love not being everything in a marriage. A lot of people like to fantasize love, but love also has conditions and takes work, especially in a marriage.
You have great advice! Premarital counseling is so important, also what you said to put in your mind that divorce is not an option. People know they always have a way out but that's not the meaning of marriage. Can't wait to see more of your videos!! 😊
I think this video is so important! Ive been a Christian for almost 7 years now, and 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 is my FAVORITE verse, i've had it memorized for the past couple of years, and its something I turn to every couple of months and say "am I still this kind of person? And do I love this way?". I think that what you said about commitment is SO true! My first spiritual mentor taught me that love is a choice, not a feeling. that you wake up everyday and choose to love them, no matter how you feel about them that day. I love all your videos and they are so helpful for me! cant wait to see more!
I recently found your channel,I'm graduating high school this month, I'm not married or even dating *cries* haha but I absolutely love your videos. You inspire me to work harder in being a better christian, and hopefully some day a good wife to a good man. Thanks for the awesome videos !!
Whenever my Fiance and I talk about love, we always feel like that word isn't enough, and now I can put my finger on what it's missing - the commitment part. So if someone can invent a word that combines love and commitment, that would be great. Anyways, love the video, like always! :) It's great to see someone near my age so committed to the Lord's love. That's something I'm working toward, especially in my relationship with my Fiance (putting God at the center), and these videos offer such great advice and motivation, so Thank you. :)
I love that you mentioned premarital counseling and that you really stressed its importance!! I had a similar experience in how my husband and I went about premarital counseling. We decided early on while he was at AIT we wanted to get married on HBL. We met with our Minister on the phone (and sometimes also his wife) every week and we went through each chapter in the book Things I wish I’d Known Before We Got Married by Gary Chapman (if you haven’t read it I highly recommend it!!:)). Looking forward to the next video on this topic!
Putting your name in the verse is such a great idea and I love the fact that you said "God uses this verse to tell us who we are suppose to be" and tat is SO true. Great video, relating it back to the Bible is awesome and I will definitely be remembering this!!
You're too cute "I'm shook" 😂 lol I agree love isn't enough. Marriage takes WORK & you really don't know someone until you're married to them. People in society these days leave the second things get hard because of problems with commitment. Loved this video ❤️
This was an amazing video. I grew up in a family of divorce, and without a lot of love. So now as an adult woman trying to date, I'm not very good at expressing myself, or showing affection due to some childhood issues. And I feel like I'm constantly searching for a way to fix my issues, and how to love someone and more importantly how to let someone love me. Finding your channel has helped me find God again, and to really truly find my love for him. This video was so enlightening and something I needed to hear. Thank you for making videos, and speaking openly and freely about marriage, and your love for God. You continue to inspire me to be better, and to be a better Christian. Thank you for all you do. I truly love you, and your content.
I am so glad my videos could help you. We as fallen people search and search for love when ultimately God is the only one who can fill it. I am glad you have acknowledged that. I still battle with feeling loved by God because I never knew what Fatherly love felt like. But God continues to reveal his amazing love for me in so many circumstances, and it has helped me heal so much. I pray that happens for you too. 💕
What if you love them so much and the only thing that would make you leave them is if they cheated (which i know she'd never do)? Would it be in issue if that was the only reason you would leave them or would you have to work it out even if they did?
Well it all depends. When it comes to relationships and marriage it's all commitment and fighting for each other. If whomever cheats is willing to get help, counseling, join an accountability group then that means they are willing to change. Cheating is rooted deep and it's a heart issue. Most people think it's a choice, and it is, but it's deeper, it's something they battle within their heart. If they say they will change and you don't see a change, (them fighting to get better) or if they do it again, it may be time to leave. We are called by Jesus to forgive those who sin against us. However, Jesus also tells us to guard our hearts. If we are continually hurt, then we need to distance ourself from the situation, but if that person is willing to heal and change then it is up to you to stay or go. It's a hard decision, but all relationships take work.
My fiance is stationed over seas and does not have access to anything but wifi. I would love to be able to do premarital classes before but we are getting married and leaving right after he gets home and we will not have time. I would love to do it afterwards though! Do you know if maybe there is like a questionnaire book we can get and spend a night doing that we will learn more about each other?
Well one night won't make you know more about each other haha it definitely a process, but "Saving your marriage before it starts" is a great workbook for premarital counseling! Also, Connor and I both have the books "For Women Only" & "For Men Only". Super helpful books to get to know the opposite sex. The "for men only" talks about women and vis versa so we actually read each others books, made notes, underlined, scratched out, etc and then handed them back for the person to read. Other books just on marriage are the Love and Respect book and devotional and also Sacred Marriage is a good one!
I have a question my bf is enlisting to the navy. We want to get married.. but the recruiter told him it's better to get married after boot camp. I'm sad because I wanted to get married before.. I want to go with him wherever he gets stationed.. and it's hard knowing he won't be near me.. I live in Texas and he's planning to go to california.. and then get married so I can go with him. What are your recommendations? How can we make the move easier? And will we have time to get married.. we're planning to get married in the courthouse..
Kari Guevara getting married before boot camp is kind of pointless because you can’t live with them nor can you see them so after is better. If you plan on getting court house married do it after boot camp in the transition of boot camp to A school then you will be able to live with him. If it’s meant to be it will work out. Don’t overthink it and stress yourself out.
A friend told me it’s best to get married before, because if you marry after he’s in it’s a lot harder and takes longer to get the marriage benefits. Of course you will be apart during boot camp, but your benefits would already be in place if y’all are married. My bf and I are planning on getting married before boot camp for sure.
You are so right about love not being everything in a marriage. A lot of people like to fantasize love, but love also has conditions and takes work, especially in a marriage.
please make a pre-marital counseling video!!!
You have great advice! Premarital counseling is so important, also what you said to put in your mind that divorce is not an option. People know they always have a way out but that's not the meaning of marriage. Can't wait to see more of your videos!! 😊
I think this video is so important! Ive been a Christian for almost 7 years now, and 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 is my FAVORITE verse, i've had it memorized for the past couple of years, and its something I turn to every couple of months and say "am I still this kind of person? And do I love this way?". I think that what you said about commitment is SO true! My first spiritual mentor taught me that love is a choice, not a feeling. that you wake up everyday and choose to love them, no matter how you feel about them that day. I love all your videos and they are so helpful for me! cant wait to see more!
YES! I learned love is not a feeling but a choice from my mentor and I love that concept so much! Thanks for sharing 💕
I recently found your channel,I'm graduating high school this month, I'm not married or even dating *cries* haha but I absolutely love your videos.
You inspire me to work harder in being a better christian, and hopefully some day a good wife to a good man. Thanks for the awesome videos !!
Elser Guer thank you so much for your kind words. I'm so glad I could encourage you. ❤️ Will he praying for your walk with Christ 💕
Whenever my Fiance and I talk about love, we always feel like that word isn't enough, and now I can put my finger on what it's missing - the commitment part. So if someone can invent a word that combines love and commitment, that would be great. Anyways, love the video, like always! :) It's great to see someone near my age so committed to the Lord's love. That's something I'm working toward, especially in my relationship with my Fiance (putting God at the center), and these videos offer such great advice and motivation, so Thank you. :)
haha first I thought of was lommitment😄
So glad you are working in that in your relationship! That is so important(:
I love that you mentioned premarital counseling and that you really stressed its importance!! I had a similar experience in how my husband and I went about premarital counseling. We decided early on while he was at AIT we wanted to get married on HBL. We met with our Minister on the phone (and sometimes also his wife) every week and we went through each chapter in the book Things I wish I’d Known Before We Got Married by Gary Chapman (if you haven’t read it I highly recommend it!!:)). Looking forward to the next video on this topic!
OHH I love Gary Chapman! Will have to look into that one(:
Putting your name in the verse is such a great idea and I love the fact that you said "God uses this verse to tell us who we are suppose to be" and tat is SO true. Great video, relating it back to the Bible is awesome and I will definitely be remembering this!!
You're too cute "I'm shook" 😂 lol I agree love isn't enough. Marriage takes WORK & you really don't know someone until you're married to them. People in society these days leave the second things get hard because of problems with commitment. Loved this video ❤️
EXACTLY! haha glad you loved it! 😊
This was an amazing video. I grew up in a family of divorce, and without a lot of love. So now as an adult woman trying to date, I'm not very good at expressing myself, or showing affection due to some childhood issues. And I feel like I'm constantly searching for a way to fix my issues, and how to love someone and more importantly how to let someone love me. Finding your channel has helped me find God again, and to really truly find my love for him. This video was so enlightening and something I needed to hear. Thank you for making videos, and speaking openly and freely about marriage, and your love for God. You continue to inspire me to be better, and to be a better Christian. Thank you for all you do. I truly love you, and your content.
I am so glad my videos could help you. We as fallen people search and search for love when ultimately God is the only one who can fill it. I am glad you have acknowledged that. I still battle with feeling loved by God because I never knew what Fatherly love felt like. But God continues to reveal his amazing love for me in so many circumstances, and it has helped me heal so much. I pray that happens for you too. 💕
Honestly I feel like this is by far my favorite video by you.! I love it.! Thank you so much.!
This video hit home for me, especially wen you read the passage from 1 Corinthians. I want to do that with my bf tonight :) Thank You
MORE VIDEOS BRIT, YOU ARE TOO GOOD. I LOVE IT
Thank you girl💕💕
This was so helpful to me right now. Thank you.
Love it- super great video girl :)
Thank you(:
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What if you love them so much and the only thing that would make you leave them is if they cheated (which i know she'd never do)? Would it be in issue if that was the only reason you would leave them or would you have to work it out even if they did?
Well it all depends. When it comes to relationships and marriage it's all commitment and fighting for each other. If whomever cheats is willing to get help, counseling, join an accountability group then that means they are willing to change. Cheating is rooted deep and it's a heart issue. Most people think it's a choice, and it is, but it's deeper, it's something they battle within their heart. If they say they will change and you don't see a change, (them fighting to get better) or if they do it again, it may be time to leave. We are called by Jesus to forgive those who sin against us. However, Jesus also tells us to guard our hearts. If we are continually hurt, then we need to distance ourself from the situation, but if that person is willing to heal and change then it is up to you to stay or go. It's a hard decision, but all relationships take work.
Brit+Con thank you so much for the advice
Loved your video even if I am from another faith:)
What if he cheats??
What camera do you use?
My fiance is stationed over seas and does not have access to anything but wifi. I would love to be able to do premarital classes before but we are getting married and leaving right after he gets home and we will not have time. I would love to do it afterwards though! Do you know if maybe there is like a questionnaire book we can get and spend a night doing that we will learn more about each other?
Well one night won't make you know more about each other haha it definitely a process, but "Saving your marriage before it starts" is a great workbook for premarital counseling!
Also, Connor and I both have the books "For Women Only" & "For Men Only". Super helpful books to get to know the opposite sex. The "for men only" talks about women and vis versa so we actually read each others books, made notes, underlined, scratched out, etc and then handed them back for the person to read. Other books just on marriage are the Love and Respect book and devotional and also Sacred Marriage is a good one!
I have a question my bf is enlisting to the navy. We want to get married.. but the recruiter told him it's better to get married after boot camp. I'm sad because I wanted to get married before.. I want to go with him wherever he gets stationed.. and it's hard knowing he won't be near me.. I live in Texas and he's planning to go to california.. and then get married so I can go with him. What are your recommendations? How can we make the move easier? And will we have time to get married.. we're planning to get married in the courthouse..
Kari Guevara getting married before boot camp is kind of pointless because you can’t live with them nor can you see them so after is better. If you plan on getting court house married do it after boot camp in the transition of boot camp to A school then you will be able to live with him. If it’s meant to be it will work out. Don’t overthink it and stress yourself out.
Brit+Con ty! How did you make your move easier? I love that you give Christian advice! I pray that my bf and I are as strong as Y'all! ❣
A friend told me it’s best to get married before, because if you marry after he’s in it’s a lot harder and takes longer to get the marriage benefits. Of course you will be apart during boot camp, but your benefits would already be in place if y’all are married. My bf and I are planning on getting married before boot camp for sure.
Does anyone have her email ?
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