I was never married before, married my sweetheart Filipina wife, I am very happy in our relationship, she is the best woman and wife, I have to be thankful, I got lucky, it is just that there is a lot of miss understandings, because of cultural differences, but a good couple can work it out with understanding and patients, maybe my benefit is I am not rich and found a honest loving and awesome wife!
good video Stephen. when we first moved here in 2023 i have to admit i was a little suspicious of my wife’s family, thinking they were going to try and take advantage of me. i brought along my western suspicions about poor countries and the people. and boy was i wrong. it made me realize how selfish i could be. her family have treated me so well that i’m ashamed of how i first viewed them when i moved here.
its also great to hear that your generosity is seen as reason to have a bigger circle of friends,i am also very generous but where i come from it is a reason for people to take advantage.i look forward to use my generosity to help people who are not as fortunate as i am.
30+ years I have been married and if you think it has been easy you’re crazy. Yes we have had disagreements, fights, ups and downs but if you truly love the one you’re with you will take the time to work it out. Our biggest problem has always been language differences and proper understanding of each other’s language, what means one thing to you is different from what the other understands. Both sides have got to work together to make sure they are understanding each other, otherwise one side will continue to argue and think bad things. The ones I see with problems are the ones that stay hanging around the bars and not talking care of themselves all that leads to problems sooner or later……women are women and men are men it doesn’t matter where they come from!!
Been a couple of years and we have agreed on, "should the toilet paper unroll from the outside or next to the wall?" Still working on "If I lift the lid on the toilet, shouldn'd she put it back down?" My logic being why should I have to touch the lid twice? I don't see the much difference in a relationship here or back in the states, there are givers and takers. Not every relationship last forever, sometimes we pick the wrong person, it's life.
This was one of the best informative videos. You are absolutely correct. You can't blame the filipina for all the bad issues. It does take 2 to make a good thing go bad.
I have been with my husband of 25 years now. We just got married year 2023. Mind you I am older than him almost 10 years. Getting to know a person is really the key...and not rush into it. Were not rich people, we help each other financially, understand, respect and love each other. I am happy and looking forward one day we will retire and live in the Philippines. Thanks for sharing Mr. Stephen!
good video stephen,i think sometimes you have to llok at the motives behind some of these men who come to the philippines for a Filipina.Some definately buy in to the filapina stereotype.
Hi Steve, it takes two mate.Yes that is bullshit it takes two good and bad every where, You are Lucky with what you have now mate. As I am very lucky. Take care mate ❤❤
Thank you for another good one. I think you are rich. Oh, not the way you can prove with a fat bank account, but living a good life and having friends around is also being rich. Also, living the way you do in the place you have chosen, keep you away from most of the "high maintenance" women. You find most of them in the big cities, wich is just another good reason to stay away from those cities. Instead of blaming the other part, just accept it didn't work out and move on. Buying land and building a house is a risk you take, knowing it's gone if the relationship fails. The "never bet more than you can afford to loose" comes to mind.
I think, to think it will never be your house in the Philippines is wrong, you as a married couple own it both, it is yours and your wife`s house, you can not get the title, but you are a family together, and so it is yours together, if you will separate later, you sell the property and make half half, that is what a real relationship is meant to be, hope it last for ever, and if not, you split and move on. A honest partner will always think, act, and be like that!
You treat them right with respect, be humble and you are going to live a good life. Smile and don’t be stuck up. If you cannot say something nice, it’s best not to say anything at all. City girls it might, but provincial women are actually nicer. Thanks for sharing. Be well and stay safe.
I was married over 30 years. She decided to pursue an alternative lifestyle. The majority of us have some sort of dysfunction. Trauma is pretty much universal. If someone is a Narc, they simply will never care, nor ever improve. They are perfect. It takes years and much work to fix issues that you have personally. Most people never will. They will continue to go from one relationship to another and continue to fail. Some things never change. My guess would be 10% may actually do some self reflection and improvement. Life is much better if you do, but it is a never ending quest for self improvement.
Hi,,, Thanks for your your reply,,,,, You pick a day and just come to my house behind the airport in Sicayab..... Need to have a few beer through that interview as it destroyed my life....... sat for a year at home now and now ready to find a wife again....
Good video. My Filipina wife n I been together 15 years now and it has not always been a bed of roses but we work through it. My wife in America lasted 13 years and we are still friends we just grew apart. It’s not always the Filipinas fault. I’ve seen in more the opposite way the man’s fault and a lot of it is they want another notch on there belt because there tired of the one there with. Again good video
Got to be aware that the 'blending' of two different Cultures, is not as simple as blending one and the same Culture, whatever Countries and Customs are involved... Generally speaking... Oil and Water don't mix very well., and those that find the recipe of success would have to be able to "forgive" and keep the momentum of the positive ingredients of life moving forward, while having patience to work on the more challenging aspects ???? Unfeigned Love conquers "ALL" in many circumstances., but is not a "Written Guarantee"... ! Unconditional Love, is a good starting point for a Relationship... Romeo and Juliet ?? At the end of the stage play I watched, in Theatre, when Romeo was bent remorsefully over Juliet's dead body, tears falling from his eyes... Romeo was clutching a hand-held mirror... into which he was viewing his own image as he cried... Romeo felt sorry for himself, having lost a possession ! (like a car or television or shiny pair of shoes ????)... Romeo was NOT crying for Juliet !
Too many guys lead with their wallets over there. Men who only have money to offer often think all filipinas want is their money, which isn't true. Excellent video 👍
Great Honest video. At 62 ive had 2 divorcés first marriage was like yours and your brother and never again. 2nd time my own stupidity a younger single mum giving me the loving id not had for 2 years get married lasted less than a year and i left the UK. Im not perfect but my Ms French tells me i am. Teamwork and sadly a lot of Brits don't understand that. I like the idea of living a simpler life debt free. France has given me that but i used to love visiting my father and his family in Malaysia and they looked after him well when he couldn't himself. Ive subscribed you talk sense.
likewise my friend.. likewise.. i'm a very giving person all my life as well.. i can relate to u a lot my friend.. i give i give and give.. now i just now want to focus my energy of getting myself to the Philippines eventually and continue my life / connect with my roots & continue my life to give back like i always did in the states but now focus on my journey there.. it gives me contentment in life indeed.. a life of simplicity... i always thought of teaching online english for the longest time.. like yourself.. maybe ill give that a try when i settle in over there.. and if that works out.. that would be amazing if i can stay in the PH full time.. if not.. if that doesn't work out it's okay, ill just be a ofw for my filipino family. ❤🙏😇 peace - love - n - light my friend . take care always - be safe. Live Long & Prosper my friend. ❤🙏😇 PS. I Love that quote.. "You Take Care of Other People, & Other People Will Take Care of You" ❤🙏😇😁✌😁✌
Just to keep the "blame game" in balance, we shouldn't go to the other extreme and blame the expat for every break-up. There are plenty of nice expats in failed relationships with Filipinas and the problem lies with the Filipina. A well known blogger comes to mind and some of my friends married the proverbial rotten apple.
@@Philippinedreaming Thanks for responding. You're a lucky guy! I can only dream of getting a Filipina, I don't have the guts to travel there, I feel I would be vulnerable!!
@@Philippinedreaming Thank you. Most people I've spoken with tell me same thing, that I need to take short vacations that ultimately lead to long vacations! It sounds like great advice!!
My marriages have all ended before they began. Slightly cheaper that way but still not pleasant. In your case, maybe your current wife is karma's way of compensation for your first. 😏
Question is are you a bad boyfriend? Look at yourself first..my money my way or the highway..I guess you found out they like the highway. Don't be a creeper.
Sorry sir the math dont ad up ? When most men come there to date or marry woman younger than there daugte4s theres going to be trouble in paradise ...im good here , even though my mom is from the phillipenes...
Your view is very simplistic. You are lacking facts/cases of many events which happened here over the years. In short you don't know what you are talking about.
I was never married before, married my sweetheart Filipina wife, I am very happy in our relationship, she is the best woman and wife, I have to be thankful, I got lucky, it is just that there is a lot of miss understandings, because of cultural differences, but a good couple can work it out with understanding and patients, maybe my benefit is I am not rich and found a honest loving and awesome wife!
good video Stephen. when we first moved here in 2023 i have to admit i was a little suspicious of my wife’s family, thinking they were going to try and take advantage of me. i brought along my western suspicions about poor countries and the people. and boy was i wrong. it made me realize how selfish i could be. her family have treated me so well that i’m ashamed of how i first viewed them when i moved here.
Love that you give your real opinion Stephen and not just look for clicks. Love your content and Happy Christmas to you and yours mate
@@WalterWhyte12 Thank you Walter
yes agree!!! we must be emotional mature and take the lead to keep peace in the house .
its also great to hear that your generosity is seen as reason to have a bigger circle of friends,i am also very generous but where i come from it is a reason for people to take advantage.i look forward to use my generosity to help people who are not as fortunate as i am.
30+ years I have been married and if you think it has been easy you’re crazy. Yes we have had disagreements, fights, ups and downs but if you truly love the one you’re with you will take the time to work it out. Our biggest problem has always been language differences and proper understanding of each other’s language, what means one thing to you is different from what the other understands. Both sides have got to work together to make sure they are understanding each other, otherwise one side will continue to argue and think bad things. The ones I see with problems are the ones that stay hanging around the bars and not talking care of themselves all that leads to problems sooner or later……women are women and men are men it doesn’t matter where they come from!!
11 years married. 14 years together. Man it is NOT easy but worth it. She won’t be over til next year. Best Regards and Best Wishes!.
Been a couple of years and we have agreed on, "should the toilet paper unroll from the outside or next to the wall?" Still working on "If I lift the lid on the toilet, shouldn'd she put it back down?" My logic being why should I have to touch the lid twice? I don't see the much difference in a relationship here or back in the states, there are givers and takers. Not every relationship last forever, sometimes we pick the wrong person, it's life.
This was one of the best informative videos. You are absolutely correct. You can't blame the filipina for all the bad issues. It does take 2 to make a good thing go bad.
Background is beautiful Steve.
@@tinaraphael9783 Thank you Tina
Tropical rain is a treat.
Have loved showering in such rain for the majority of my 74 years.
Thank you. Expat living in Mexico for 18 years now.
You are correct. Thank you always for the positive perspective and good energy. Love the videos. May God continue to bless you and your family!
Thank you so much my friend.
I have been with my husband of 25 years now. We just got married year 2023. Mind you I am older than him almost 10 years. Getting to know a person is really the key...and not rush into it. Were not rich people, we help each other financially, understand, respect and love each other. I am happy and looking forward one day we will retire and live in the Philippines. Thanks for sharing Mr. Stephen!
Agreed🎉
Exactly mate!!!! What a true thoughts and I also 100% agree with that what you said. Regards 🤜🤛🌞
@@Severinos1 Thank you my friend
100% agree Steve !
good video stephen,i think sometimes you have to llok at the motives behind some of these men who come to the philippines for a Filipina.Some definately buy in to the filapina stereotype.
Good topic it's definitely an emotional coaster ride that no one will ever know unless they go to the philippines and experience a relationship.
Hi Steve, it takes two mate.Yes that is bullshit it takes two good and bad every where, You are Lucky with what you have now mate. As I am very lucky. Take care mate ❤❤
@@desgoulding7154 Thank you Des. Yes I am very lucky mate that's for sure
Thank you for another good one.
I think you are rich. Oh, not the way you can prove with a fat bank account, but living a good life and having friends around is also being rich.
Also, living the way you do in the place you have chosen, keep you away from most of the "high maintenance" women. You find most of them in the big cities, wich is just another good reason to stay away from those cities.
Instead of blaming the other part, just accept it didn't work out and move on. Buying land and building a house is a risk you take, knowing it's gone if the relationship fails. The "never bet more than you can afford to loose" comes to mind.
I think, to think it will never be your house in the Philippines is wrong, you as a married couple own it both, it is yours and your wife`s house, you can not get the title, but you are a family together, and so it is yours together, if you will separate later, you sell the property and make half half, that is what a real relationship is meant to be, hope it last for ever, and if not, you split and move on. A honest partner will always think, act, and be like that!
You treat them right with respect, be humble and you are going to live a good life. Smile and don’t be stuck up. If you cannot say something nice, it’s best not to say anything at all. City girls it might, but provincial women are actually nicer. Thanks for sharing. Be well and stay safe.
You said it well.
I was married over 30 years. She decided to pursue an alternative lifestyle. The majority of us have some sort of dysfunction. Trauma is pretty much universal. If someone is a Narc, they simply will never care, nor ever improve. They are perfect. It takes years and much work to fix issues that you have personally. Most people never will. They will continue to go from one relationship to another and continue to fail. Some things never change. My guess would be 10% may actually do some self reflection and improvement. Life is much better if you do, but it is a never ending quest for self improvement.
Hi,,, Thanks for your your reply,,,,, You pick a day and just come to my house behind the airport in Sicayab..... Need to have a few beer through that interview as it destroyed my life....... sat for a year at home now and now ready to find a wife again....
Good video. My Filipina wife n I been together 15 years now and it has not always been a bed of roses but we work through it.
My wife in America lasted 13 years and we are still friends we just grew apart.
It’s not always the Filipinas fault. I’ve seen in more the opposite way the man’s fault and a lot of it is they want another notch on there belt because there tired of the one there with.
Again good video
Got to be aware that the 'blending' of two different Cultures, is not as simple as blending one and the same Culture, whatever Countries and Customs are involved... Generally speaking... Oil and Water don't mix very well., and those that find the recipe of success would have to be able to "forgive" and keep the momentum of the positive ingredients of life moving forward, while having patience to work on the more challenging aspects ???? Unfeigned Love conquers "ALL" in many circumstances., but is not a "Written Guarantee"... ! Unconditional Love, is a good starting point for a Relationship... Romeo and Juliet ?? At the end of the stage play I watched, in Theatre, when Romeo was bent remorsefully over Juliet's dead body, tears falling from his eyes... Romeo was clutching a hand-held mirror... into which he was viewing his own image as he cried... Romeo felt sorry for himself, having lost a possession ! (like a car or television or shiny pair of shoes ????)... Romeo was NOT crying for Juliet !
Too many guys lead with their wallets over there. Men who only have money to offer often think all filipinas want is their money, which isn't true.
Excellent video 👍
Great Honest video.
At 62 ive had 2 divorcés first marriage was like yours and your brother and never again.
2nd time my own stupidity a younger single mum giving me the loving id not had for 2 years get married lasted less than a year and i left the UK.
Im not perfect but my Ms French tells me i am.
Teamwork and sadly a lot of Brits don't understand that.
I like the idea of living a simpler life debt free.
France has given me that but i used to love visiting my father and his family in Malaysia and they looked after him well when he couldn't himself.
Ive subscribed you talk sense.
likewise my friend.. likewise.. i'm a very giving person all my life as well.. i can relate to u a lot my friend.. i give i give and give.. now i just now want to focus my energy of getting myself to the Philippines eventually and continue my life / connect with my roots & continue my life to give back like i always did in the states but now focus on my journey there.. it gives me contentment in life indeed.. a life of simplicity... i always thought of teaching online english for the longest time.. like yourself.. maybe ill give that a try when i settle in over there.. and if that works out.. that would be amazing if i can stay in the PH full time.. if not.. if that doesn't work out it's okay, ill just be a ofw for my filipino family. ❤🙏😇 peace - love - n - light my friend . take care always - be safe. Live Long & Prosper my friend. ❤🙏😇
PS. I Love that quote.. "You Take Care of Other People, & Other People Will Take Care of You" ❤🙏😇😁✌😁✌
Just to keep the "blame game" in balance, we shouldn't go to the other extreme and blame the expat for every break-up. There are plenty of nice expats in failed relationships with Filipinas and the problem lies with the Filipina. A well known blogger comes to mind and some of my friends married the proverbial rotten apple.
Hi! How long did it take you to find your wife!! Were you in Manila or in the outback?
@@quidproquo7044 I, was in the outback. I had a little studio apartment and her family had the local small sari sari store.
@@Philippinedreaming Thanks for responding. You're a lucky guy! I can only dream of getting a Filipina, I don't have the guts to travel there, I feel I would be vulnerable!!
@@quidproquo7044 The people are friendly my friend. Take a chance for a vacation here for a short time and find your feet here first.
@@Philippinedreaming Thank you. Most people I've spoken with tell me same thing, that I need to take short vacations that ultimately lead to long vacations! It sounds like great advice!!
My marriages have all ended before they began. Slightly cheaper that way but still not pleasant. In your case, maybe your current wife is karma's way of compensation for your first. 😏
Question is are you a bad boyfriend? Look at yourself first..my money my way or the highway..I guess you found out they like the highway. Don't be a creeper.
@@michaelatoz580 True Michael. That's how I see it.
The single life is the way to be! Why even bother with the marriage trap!!
Sorry sir the math dont ad up ? When most men come there to date or marry woman younger than there daugte4s theres going to be trouble in paradise ...im good here , even though my mom is from the phillipenes...
Your view is very simplistic. You are lacking facts/cases of many events which happened here over the years. In short you don't know what you are talking about.
Okay
Hey stop talking too much about filipina, worst off where you came from in uk 🇬🇧 😂