heather huelsmann People who do not have they own identity,life of they own. Are intimidated by someone success. Teal is saving the world of misery-:) Pure Energy,I Adore her!!! Genuine,Generous Soul🙏🏽💙🙏🏽
I probably will be working on resentment throughout the rest of my life. Some days I can let go of past hurts easily and other days, I obsess.The good news is those difficult days are getting fewer and less intense. I've been told to forgive so often and it sounds so hollow when you've been traumatized and then treated dismissively by the very people who are supposed to be on your side (family, church, some "friends"). It helps to remind myself every day, and on vulnerable days, several times a day, that most of my family will never adequately fulfill my needs. It is my responsibility to find and reach out to others who can. As Teal says, resentment leads to distrust and it can be very hard to know who to trust after initially trusting the wrong people. Therapy has helped with that. The person I need to trust the most is generally myself, but sometimes I need to check that my thinking isn't distorted and unhealthy. Sometimes, I'm getting it wrong. I believe in forgiveness, but I'd never tell anyone (s)he MUST forgive. The right persons will never tell you that you MUST forgive. They will love you and aid in your healing so you are able to forgive. They will listen to your resentment and pain without judgment. When you are ready, and you ask for insight, they give advice. I have relationships that will never significantly satisfy me, but it's okay. I still love and enjoy for what I can get w/o expecting much. I go to others for deeper needs.
I’m bitter towards the music industry. As a singer-songwriter, I learned how rigged it all is and how contrived it all is. You either get there with money or sex, not hard work in most situations. It’s to the point where I don’t like listening to music because it reminds me how disillusioned I feel. Thank you Teal
I hope things work out well for you brother. Do not give up on music, even if you choose not to do it professionally. It's one of the few things that keeps me sane in this strange world. Cheers!
Thanks for sharing Edward. The music industry is crazy, and full of corruption and conflict. It’s tough. Try to get involved in your local scene, find mutual support there. Good luck!
Build a new way. I devoted my life to the Pursuit of understanding the science of music. I spent 8 years in school for jazz/classical guitar. (I took the super long way and transferred a few times) I’m a singer song writer myself and I did not feel I was getting anywhere, particularly in Appalachia. Women and artists of color are disproportionately not booked at the same rate as white male musicians in Appalachia. I got into radio as a news anchor at an NPR station, musicians are great in radio, and I eventually built a radio show, Appalachian Vibes radio show, where the focus of the show is to celebrate the diversity of music created in and around the Appalachian region. I think we can navigate these things, these types of resentments, with an empowering solution of how to change the dynamic. It was difficult to get the first 2 stations I worked for to pick it up. But the best NPR station with a similar mission of supporting artists picked up the show and is in the process of syndicating it. I can influence the entire music industry in Appalachia as a result of the initial pain I felt of being intentionally excluded. And I get to elevate so many artists who otherwise may not have a Platform. Instead of staying angry, which I was initially, I was able to collectively build a platform that airs to hundreds of thousands of people with a mission of celebrating the diversity of Appalachia. You can do it.
I'm afraid to let go of resentment toward my mother because it feels like a betrayal of my inner child. She's still not in great shape and it almost feels like it's not my decision to make until she's ready. I feel guilty because I never stuck up for her like I should have. This helped me figure out what's going on. Thanks :)
*NOTES:* 1) Become completely conscious about what exactly it is that you are so resentful about? What did someone do/not do? 2) Is there something you feel guilty about? E.g. someone was drinking so much that they blacked out completely and got raped. Do I really only feel resentment to the rapist or also to me because I was consuming so much alcohol that I also put myself into that situation? 3) Get really clear about the impact this resentment is having on your life. Close your eyes and think: If you kept this kind of resentment, what would be the impact of that in your future? Which areas would it influence? E.g. if you resent your spouse you might feel no desire to make love with them; separation; seek another partner. 4) Acceptance it crucial for letting go of resentment. Because it means that you cannot accept something. Ask yourself: What am I unwilling to accept about this situation? Why am I unwilling to accept that? If I accepted that, what would it mean or what bad thing would happen? Resentment means you are pushing really hard against something. However this cannot be done without putting equal pressure on yourself. E.g. hit a wall and try it without your hand getting it back. Ask yourself: Is it worth it? 5) Ask yourself: What bad thing would happen if I let go of this resentment today? What is that? E.g. if I forgive him/her, he/she will never get how much he/she hurt me. 6) Resolve the wound that is underneath the resentment. Do the "completion process" (Teal's book). 7) Deal with powerlessness differently. If you feel resentment you are preoccupied with thinking about the causes and consequences of your distress instead of focussing on solutions to it. If you feel resentment you are vacillating between two emotions -> powerlessness and the terror and fear associated with it and anger/rage. You are looking at your life through the lense of "I am powerless to others/myself/the world around me". To feel better you move into anger but then you go back into powerlessness and back to anger etc. What could you do to feel more empowered in this situation? You HAVE to validate your feelings connected to victimhood, and then take responsibility for the situation - how did I contribute to this? "I had something to do with this" = I AM IN CONTROL 8) Try to find approval for what happened. ANYTHING you can find. Do not take this as an invalidation of your pain. Focus on it in a way you can agree with it? 9) Meaning is the basis for suffering. We add negative meaning to the experience. E.g. my partner cheated on me - I make that mean that he doesn't love me etc. How what happened is NOT personal? 10) Resentment is synonymous with the non-expression of painful emotional truths. Those feelings became internalized. Take a look at what you did not express in the situation you feel resentment about. What's the truth you did not share? Why did you not express those things? 11) Take a serious look at your own expectations. Get clear on what you expected? 12) Something is not how you want it to be. You think that something should or shouldn't be in a certain way. Question that. Knowing what you don't want is a great way to know what you DO want. Then, focus directly on the solution, visualize your goals, instead of ruminating over what is unwanted. Resentment isn't an enemy, it's just a natural byproduct of having no resolution. So focus directly on creating that resolution, on feeling empowered, on what you do want, and the byproducts of that lack of resolution will no longer occur.
1. Marxists/leftists have destroyed the world and their lies have resulted in the direct death of my loved ones, the complete and total destruction of my nation of Canada, and I understand as a consequence what would be required for me to be an Auschwitz guard; because I would be giddy to do that to these people. 2. Not really. I feel guilty for not executing these people out of fear of consequences like jail time. It makes me feel like I'm not doing enough, not doing what I *KNOW* needs to be done. 3. The resentment is eating me alive, hence I am searching the internet for relief of some kind. Simply being aware the resentment is destroying my life is not enough to make me stop feeling the resentment, especially since I just buried my father figure as a result of all this. I resentment has no end. 4. I am unwilling to accept Wokists running the world, because they destroy everything they touch 100% of the time. If I accepted it, the world would end because nobody would be left to fight against pure, unadulterated evil. 5. If I let go of this, the world will continue to degrade and rot, not just my town and my country and my continent but my whole species will continue to rot, fester, and spew vile, putrid puss. 6. What? How do I resolve a wound that is actively open in an active battlefield that constitutes 98% of my life? That's BS. 7. I'm not powerless; I'm armed and a dang fine shot. I know these people, their faces and their names and some of them, where they lay their head at night. I could solve these problems one at a time if I was just willing to take life and risk imprisonment. Is that what you're suggesting? I had nothing to do with this; I've fought it my whole life. I'm only powerless for things outside my life; I could just execute anybody and everybody who steps into my life with this and tries to inflict leftist insanity on me. Is that what you prescribe? 8. Nope. There is 100% no justification, regardless of any pursuit of Utopia. We learned this lesson with USSR and Pol Pot and Mao's great leap forward, there is no excuse or justification to repeat this madness. 9. Okay. If an asteroid wiped out the planet, it wouldn't be personal. What does that matter? So it's not personal; the damage and destruction are not lessened at all. Why does it matter if it's not personal, if personally my whole life is destroyed as a direct *DIRECT* result? 10. I did express them. They are censored. 11. How about "Not destroying everything good and beautiful in the entire world in the name of 'feelings'?" Is that specific enough? I want my bodily autonomy respected. I want to be left alone to live my life, not have my words or actions curated and dictated and censored by wokist locust mind virus victims. I want to be LEFT ALONE. I want to SHOP IN PEACE. I want to SPEAK IN PEACE. 12. There's nothing to question. I want things to be alive and truthful. Wokism is antithetical to truth. It should be the way I want it, people should be left alone to be free so long as it doesn't infringe on the same freedom for others. Yes, that is how it should be. No, I won't even begin to entertain any scenario where people having no agency and no autonomy is the norm. It's wrong. Period. I want to eradicate the problem and all those who perpetuate it. I want to *ERADICATE* them like the *PLAGUE* they are, the *DISEASE* they are. Think for a second where your comment has left me in terms of "creating the resolution." Think about how silly and untrue your statement that "the byproducts of that lack of resolution will no longer occur." Got any other advice for me?
I work with a consciousness/energy medicine practitioner, and he recently warned me that some of the resentment I’m carrying could be associated with cancer risk esp. breast cancer. So I’m putting effort into unpacking that resentment and clearing it. Thank you so much for this enlightening talk, Teal! It’s a big part of my process ❤️
Wow! I've got so many resentments towards my partner that I never knew were resentments, thanks alot for this video, it has gave me some clarity on why my relationship is the way it is.
I’ve gone through two extremely painful situations relating to toxic family members and this video sets me free each time. Thank you Teal, you’re a legend ❤
By resenting someone or something we focus very intensely on what we do not what and are creating it for ourselves and in ourselves as well and wonder why we're hurting. Time to forgive!
I literally can not find something right about the incomprehensible cruelty of people. But you articulated all my fragmented thoughts about my own toxic resentment perfectly.
think I feel resentment towards a lot of people in my childhood and especially my mom. My mom speaks to me so rudely. I talk to her with respect and she just yells at me. Whenever she explains something to me, I ask her to repeat but she gets impatient and explodes and looks and treats me in a certain way. It just makes me angry and I realize that I treat other people that way, especially when I get impatient. I also straight up don’t know how to let things go. Little things will bother me and I feel like some days that everything is against me and it just causes anger and I don’t know how to release it
I'm the same. I feel for you. It's hard especially society frowns upon me so hard for even daring to talk "badly" in any way about my mother, even if it is the truth.
she sounds like she never grew up first of all, my mom turned into a kid anytime their was tension or conflict, like what the F you doing being a parent in the first place if you can't handle conflict? 🤔
You may have an inner self that is your mom and that is the true war. Ask yourself why you would keep an inner Mom in you. Try to be open minded and patient with the response. How is this inner Mom actually on your side?
Let me say that "you are me". Your story is all about me, the only thing is that my mother is so kind and innocent. But my problem is with other people doing wrong at me. I can't forgot it, so I will did the same on others by feeling surrended. I think that I will be bad in a sense of people will respect me. Wow I even have resentment on 7/8 years old unpleasant moments.
Wow ! Just wow.I can’t express how truly and completely she has covered the feelings of resentment. Each and every aspect of this “resentment” thing. Impressive.
All Teal’s videos have been helping me so much that I can't even put it into words. Finding her was a life-changing event for me. Today, I am struggling with resentment so much that it's so difficult to even breathe. This video helped me to cry out a lot of emotions and to connect with repeated traumas' meaning I had held into myself for my whole life. I know 20-minute video + understanding will not heal these wounds instantly, but this is a beginning. Thank you so much for your wise words and life. I am eternally grateful.
KamenRiderBlackSun I know is fashionable to forgive. But I’m not convinced. Unless there is a good reason or some special circumstances then I struggle to see why one should forgive. One should move on yes. Try to forget or put in perspective. But to forgive when there is no reason to. I don’t buy that.
100% guarantee to solve resentment. Revenge through any means possible, empower yourself and exact merciless destruction upon your enemy. Crush your enemies, see them driven before you and feel the lamentation of their families. Don’t turn yourself into the powerless helpless suffering victim. Revenge has its limit don’t stop until you are appeased, and at that point is the balance of justice! Violence is a much underrated solution to problem solving and our governments all use it in abundance to settle disputes as they have done throughout history.
KamenRiderBlackSun same here. Not only do i have PTSD. But i also live with the people who contributed to my trauma. Anytime i have to come home, is like reliving everything they’ve done.
I was harboring tremendous resentment, and now I feel released from its grip. Although I'm sceptical that I worked through it all, non the less it's dwindling. All because of listening. Thank you.
I'm in the same place like you. I hope you're feeling better since you commented four months ago. I have a long road ahead, but listening to Teal helps a lot. Take care 🌹
Thank you. Since being sober I’ve become hyper-aware of little things that get to me and manifest... it’s great to finally acknowledge these feelings and give myself the chance to face/understand them in order to move on and feel more at peace. It’s tough work, but totally worth it.
*The victim of a violent crime such as assault needs the law to be enforced; or at the very least to receive adequate restitution. That's not resentment - it's self-respect. It's having good self-esteem - especially if the victim suffered from complex traumatic stress disorder to begin with due to a long history of domestic violence and the most recent violent crime - namely being credibly threatened with murder on three occasions - occurred domestically. Enough is enough. I"m a human being and I deserve to feel safe in the place where I live.*
of course justice should be made! There's no doubt about that. I'm so sorry you have been through so much. Nobody deserves that. I think when Teal talks about "resentment" she's talking about the feeling itself, which exists in this situation. I might be wrong but I don't think she said this feeling should or should not be there, she just said it IS there - and in most cases, it may indeed be. Self-preservation is an action, resentment is a feeling. Two different things.
Yes. Get justice; protect yourself. But then let it go. Don't carry that with you any longer. It will just keep victimizing you. I know it's easier said than done but it can be done. And then you can really be free.
I don't understand how anyone can be down on Teal. I have been in a massive funk in a battle with resentment for the last 3 months, a feeling I rarely if ever feel, and this vid pointed out two very important things. It stems from powerlessness/anger, and that sometimes the pain inflicted upon you is simply, not personal. It's a very long story, but what I just learned made me feel better and it will a LONG journal entry... Thanks Teal!
I know this video is two years old but I very much needed it. Thus far it has been the most thorough and complete discussion I have seen on the matter and touches almost every area I could think of on the matter, some I didn't expect it to touch and others I hadn't even thought of but felt. Thank you very much for this helpful video, I have saved it to my phone and intend to listen to it as often as necessary to help me through this transition state I find myself in letting go of the resentment towards my "ex" that has held my life hostage since last year. I have gone through many stages since our relationship "dissolved" due to actions I considered dishonest and cowardly on her part and I never got my say in it, on the contrary, I only let her hurt me further by accepting her point-of-view for too long and denying my own feelings. But what she chose to do she did and what is done can't be undone and I've has to come to terms with that and accept it but I've also learned that I have to forgive it and let it go for my own well-being as this anger and resentment and desire for vindication is only consuming me and does nothing for the situation. I have finally started to feel the power in the freedom that letting go and not caring gives us it allows me to live my life in peace and makes me realize how much I had given unnecessary or blindly (my fault), how low I had reduced my standards, but also how much I have learned about myself and from all this however painful the experience has been. I don't care to see her again on my life, in truth I don't want too, but I'm not going to sit here in resentment towards her hoping for a vindication that will never happen. I came to realize that the true "vindication", if that is the word, is in the freedom of letting go and not caring and being happy. She will be her own undoing but that's not even my concern anymore, my happiness and life are. We all reap what we sow.
The truth about assigning meaning is game changing. We can learn a lot about ourselves when we notice the immediate meaning assigned to someone or a circumstance.
This is so relevant to something I'm going through. the way this video feels like a conversation on a front porch is really relaxing and helpful. thank you
Хвала ти много Тил, осећам се целу тону лакшом. Кроз ову кратку а детаљну анализу успела сам да докучим срж проблема и сада кад је на виделу могу да радим на њему. Још једном, неизмерно хвала🙏 Нека те драги Бог благослови❤
I'm watching this video today because I discovered a part of myself that is deeply resentful towards myself and towards others around me. It has this putrid, vitriolic, decrepit sort of vibe to it. A rotting piece of hatred that I've had with me for a very long time. I gave it some time to really express itself out loud directly (step 10, but I basically channeled it) and that really helped and gave me a lot of insight into how hard I've been on myself during this process of coming into consciousness I've been going through. Thank you, Teal.
People hate her because she speaks the truth. People don't want to hear the truth. Why take responsibility when you can just assert blame. Less painful that way.
Dear Teal and team, your being here on Earth in this particular time is crucial for the further development in the wellbeing of all life forms. I feel such respect, gratitude and love for you and your efforts. I feel so moved. You will go far beyond a million followers, for real. Thank you so much for being here. Blessings, Sylvia
My resentment comes from not being treated fairly by the universe 😭, not friends not relatives not colleagues. Thank you for helping release that distressing feeling from my chest.
WOW, this is REALLY helping me! Thank you so much! Better than anything I read on the internet or advice from people so far. This goes very detailed into where the feelings comes from and how to get through them and find peace. THANK U SO MUCH.
Letting go of resentment would mean that that person will feel even more free to do that.. it’s basically the only power I have against this person.. to not give up on that as a guarantee to keep my dignity and my worth.
Wich of the two definition of resolution is it in the end of video? Determination to Do Something: Resolution can refer to a firm decision or determination to do something, such as making a New Year's resolution to exercise more. Solution to a Problem: Resolution can also mean the action of solving a problem, dispute, or conflict. It implies finding a satisfactory outcome or settlement.
When I saw that Teal was in my search results, I immediately knew that I had found what I was looking for. She's amazing on so many levels. Thank you, Teal!!! 🙏😎
This video came at the right time. I have a lot of resentment I have to let go to move on with my job. The mistreatment has me crippled because of resentment and lack of trust.
i am so sick of my resentments, but its so hard to let go, to accept. my mind is fogging itself, holding on on a fantasy maybe… i never want to be hurt like that again and i expect my parents to make it up, i cannot forgive. so much shame. they were not bad people, just traumatized. but there was so much connection missing between us. i wish letting go, acceptance was easier, i could see easier when resentment and grief is the motor of my behavior.
I just dissipated a huge load of resentment towards very close persons, now i'm trying to understand what it is that i did right, how it happened, thank you for your sharing.
I'm currently working on my own resentment towards my partner right now, I think this video will played a lot to help me overcome my resentfullness. Thank you.
I've read about this before but sometimes it's nice to just stare at the ceiling and listen to a friendly voice spell it out for you. Good topic, good outlook, good video.
Everything she said in this videos resonated so much with me she almost had me in tears (Its hard for me to cry alone for reasons I dont know). Maybe one day I will attend one of her workshops.
The thing is, you don't know the depth of how messed up the person who did something to you really is. People lash out at others because of their own insecurities and fears and anger. Ultimately, people live in a bubble. It's hard to find truly empathetic people and if the person who hurt you isn't empathic, they're in a bubble, so it isn't personal.
most times its not about you, they are suffering deep inside, its mostly people with little self reflection, you will notice they are mostly void and easily persuaded. Someone with self awareness would feel deeply bad and would try to understand the situation with you or talk it through to see your perspective.
Teal, I have listened & I cannot stress enough how deeply I've listened. And I am honestly trying to do so with an open heart. I am so broken.. This "person" who has violated me over & over again, is my own, now 14-year old daughter. We love our daughter so much!!? I have driven to the moon and back getting her the help she so desperately needs. While a juvenile officer is also involved, I am the one who pined for her! "She doesn't need punishment, she needs help!" Twice a week we have a counselor for her in house. Including weekly sessions w a LCSW. Also monthly a psychiatrist. I cannot get over every violation she has put me through. And many of these - she's well aware of what she's done, she even vindictivily smiles at me. 1 year later, while I desperately want to move on and change the chapter; NOPE! She's right there, it's as if she takes 2 steps forward & naturally we reward her good behavior. Only for her to act out again - VERY SOCIALLY - in the most unsociable ways. All the anxiety, fear & helplessness has now become resentment. While I should be the one in control, she has completely broken me. She has been on house arrest due to her behavior per the juvenile officer. Which means her Father & I are also on house arrest. I didn't realize it until last week, but - I'm in the throes of a mental breakdown. I cannot accept (blindly allow or see through) what she's doing, nor will we ever see it as "okay." Luckily for her, she's 14 and her brain hasn't developed for her to see the devastation she leaves in her wake! The things I speak of is the way she acts like a Fatherless child (when she has an amazing Dad, my husband is a truly beautiful man) or as if she's been sexually abused. Neither one is the case? Those behaviors are not okay - and they never will be? I've done your 12-part checklist and I I stil haven't made an edge forward. I forgive her, for she knows not what she's done, but will every single 4 steps back, my patients are now frazzled and I am at the end of my tattered rope. I have always been so strong, and my own child has broken me.. If this isn't one of the very saddest, self isolating moments in my life? I'm scared when the next shoe will drop - because it will... At the same time, I'm fractured and need to grab my own oxygen mask first.. But, that's broken too.. You are an amazing healer. I'm just not ready because it's almost an electric feeling in the air at this point. She'll keep on doing whatever she wants. No matter who she hurts in the process. God be with her because I'm downing.. in sorrow & grief - and anger & fear that no one deserves to feel.
I have always really struggled with resentments and unforgiveness. I've gotten therapy for it and the 12 steps help you work on it. They have you write down your resentments and how they affect you so you can see the damage. You also write down your part in them so that you can see what you need to change and make amends. Now obviously in cases with rape or abuse you don't play a part. Resentments only hurt you, not the other person. It's also good to remember that the people who wronged you will get their karma and have consequences. If it motivates them to change good for them. Not condoning or justifying their behavior but it's good to understand why people behave how they do for example mental illness.
I just went trough something last night in regards to what you are teaching here , and I was amazed how the the lesson came to me through just clicking on your video , ... I was so hard on my self and told myself that I took part of this endeavor last night with some people and I knew I was setting myself up for resentment . ..... Thank you Teal , ❤️
Wow 🤩 Thank You for explaining resentment and how to resolve it. I have been holding onto rage and sadness for a very long time and now I understand what it’s doing to me. I feel with creating positive rituals of thought, I can have the true empowerment I desire for a healthy mind body and spirit.
Thank you for this. I’ve been holding resentment for a bit in a particular relationship that I hold dear. However I feel we can’t grow if we are holding on to negative emotions. I don’t think it’s anyone’s fault but a simple misunderstanding towards the situation. Resentment hasn’t been much of a empowering feeling hence why I’m here. Again thank you for this teal cause this really helped ❤
I initially resented you and your series and then realized after careful consideration it was because I can see myself doing something similar to your series.. I don't resent you.. but myself for not having the sense to do the same. Kudos.
I am not into new age stuff and I saw little or none in this particular video. I certainly do not agree with techniques she uses that I have read about her (after watching this video...) But what I did see is plain old fashioned common sense. Brilliant! Thank you!
Thank you Teal, this video served as approval that I am ready to let this go, that i agree with the role I played in the situation that caused me to be resentful, to let go of the expectations and meaning I unconsciously inserted due to past beliefs I had not discarded, that I also didnt agree with. That i accept this situation, and find truth, as painful as it is, and transform that pain into liberation.
I cannot express my absolute gratitude for all of your help. I so much appreciate your effort and time and insight. I always feel better after your videos. Fuck all those haters. Makes no sense. You’re damn amazing.
I cant stress how much i love the perspective that you have. I listen to a lot of videos in this genre, and your ability to add 'realism', for lack of a better word, to the topic. That often is lost with spiritualism; in my opinion the variable of chaos that isn't represented correctly most often.
I'm afraid of trusting my unfaithful husband again although I love him. I want to be able to trust him fully, but it's so difficult. I feel resentment towards the situation he and his AP put me in. You're so right about the two emotions. I feel powerlessness and complete rage. This is not me and I don't want to be like this. I do feel like a victim and I'm not ashamed to acknowledge that fact. Thanks for this great video. I need to hear it. Much love 💗
You need to be able to look at whatever happened with a fresh objective look, try to put yourself in the other person's perspective, remind yourself it is not personal and find the healing you need in knowing those who don't meet your needs or hurt you are themselves hurt and flawed and need our compassion. It's important to accept we are all flawed in order to find healing
This video was everything I needed to hear I didn’t know what resentment meant out of millions of video on UA-cam I’m glad I stumbled on this because as you were talking I was getting ah ha moments
"there is something that occured and we did not express the way we felt about it for fear of the consequences" damn my life revolved around this
i don't get how people can hate on teal she is gifting the world with such valuable information
heather huelsmann
People who do not have they own identity,life of they own.
Are intimidated by someone success.
Teal is saving the world of misery-:)
Pure Energy,I Adore her!!!
Genuine,Generous Soul🙏🏽💙🙏🏽
exactly!
celinne foi Ralph smart is way better than her, check his videos out and notice how real spiritual teacher he is in comparing with Teal.
It all depends on the point of view.
Of course not, its everybody's
Resentment is literally the root of my childhood trauma. I really need to work on this. Thank you Teal ♥️
I probably will be working on resentment throughout the rest of my life. Some days I can let go of past hurts easily and other days, I obsess.The good news is those difficult days are getting fewer and less intense. I've been told to forgive so often and it sounds so hollow when you've been traumatized and then treated dismissively by the very people who are supposed to be on your side (family, church, some "friends").
It helps to remind myself every day, and on vulnerable days, several times a day, that most of my family will never adequately fulfill my needs. It is my responsibility to find and reach out to others who can. As Teal says, resentment leads to distrust and it can be very hard to know who to trust after initially trusting the wrong people. Therapy has helped with that. The person I need to trust the most is generally myself, but sometimes I need to check that my thinking isn't distorted and unhealthy. Sometimes, I'm getting it wrong. I believe in forgiveness, but I'd never tell anyone (s)he MUST forgive. The right persons will never tell you that you MUST forgive. They will love you and aid in your healing so you are able to forgive. They will listen to your resentment and pain without judgment. When you are ready, and you ask for insight, they give advice.
I have relationships that will never significantly satisfy me, but it's okay. I still love and enjoy for what I can get w/o expecting much. I go to others for deeper needs.
I agree, you do not have to forgive, it is up to you completely.
I’m bitter towards the music industry. As a singer-songwriter, I learned how rigged it all is and how contrived it all is. You either get there with money or sex, not hard work in most situations. It’s to the point where I don’t like listening to music because it reminds me how disillusioned I feel. Thank you Teal
I hope things work out well for you brother. Do not give up on music, even if you choose not to do it professionally. It's one of the few things that keeps me sane in this strange world. Cheers!
Thanks for sharing Edward. The music industry is crazy, and full of corruption and conflict. It’s tough. Try to get involved in your local scene, find mutual support there. Good luck!
ok so just be part of the underground scene lol
Build a new way. I devoted my life to the Pursuit of understanding the science of music. I spent 8 years in school for jazz/classical guitar. (I took the super long way and transferred a few times) I’m a singer song writer myself and I did not feel I was getting anywhere, particularly in Appalachia. Women and artists of color are disproportionately not booked at the same rate as white male musicians in Appalachia. I got into radio as a news anchor at an NPR station, musicians are great in radio, and I eventually built a radio show, Appalachian Vibes radio show, where the focus of the show is to celebrate the diversity of music created in and around the Appalachian region. I think we can navigate these things, these types of resentments, with an empowering solution of how to change the dynamic. It was difficult to get the first 2 stations I worked for to pick it up. But the best NPR station with a similar mission of supporting artists picked up the show and is in the process of syndicating it. I can influence the entire music industry in Appalachia as a result of the initial pain I felt of being intentionally excluded. And I get to elevate so many artists who otherwise may not have a Platform. Instead of staying angry, which I was initially, I was able to collectively build a platform that airs to hundreds of thousands of people with a mission of celebrating the diversity of Appalachia. You can do it.
don't you think talent matters a lot? I mean the Bee Gees, Westlife etc didn't resort to sex or money to get there...
I'm afraid to let go of resentment toward my mother because it feels like a betrayal of my inner child. She's still not in great shape and it almost feels like it's not my decision to make until she's ready. I feel guilty because I never stuck up for her like I should have. This helped me figure out what's going on. Thanks :)
*NOTES:*
1) Become completely conscious about what exactly it is that you are so resentful about? What did someone do/not do?
2) Is there something you feel guilty about?
E.g. someone was drinking so much that they blacked out completely and got raped. Do I really only feel resentment to the rapist or also to me because I was consuming so much alcohol that I also put myself into that situation?
3) Get really clear about the impact this resentment is having on your life.
Close your eyes and think: If you kept this kind of resentment, what would be the impact of that in your future?
Which areas would it influence? E.g. if you resent your spouse you might feel no desire to make love with them; separation; seek another partner.
4) Acceptance it crucial for letting go of resentment. Because it means that you cannot accept something.
Ask yourself:
What am I unwilling to accept about this situation?
Why am I unwilling to accept that?
If I accepted that, what would it mean or what bad thing would happen?
Resentment means you are pushing really hard against something. However this cannot be done without putting equal pressure on yourself.
E.g. hit a wall and try it without your hand getting it back.
Ask yourself: Is it worth it?
5) Ask yourself: What bad thing would happen if I let go of this resentment today? What is that?
E.g. if I forgive him/her, he/she will never get how much he/she hurt me.
6) Resolve the wound that is underneath the resentment. Do the "completion process" (Teal's book).
7) Deal with powerlessness differently. If you feel resentment you are preoccupied with thinking about the causes and consequences of your distress instead of focussing on solutions to it.
If you feel resentment you are vacillating between two emotions -> powerlessness and the terror and fear associated with it and anger/rage.
You are looking at your life through the lense of "I am powerless to others/myself/the world around me". To feel better you move into anger but then you go back into powerlessness and back to anger etc.
What could you do to feel more empowered in this situation?
You HAVE to validate your feelings connected to victimhood, and then take responsibility for the situation - how did I contribute to this?
"I had something to do with this" = I AM IN CONTROL
8) Try to find approval for what happened. ANYTHING you can find. Do not take this as an invalidation of your pain.
Focus on it in a way you can agree with it?
9) Meaning is the basis for suffering. We add negative meaning to the experience.
E.g. my partner cheated on me - I make that mean that he doesn't love me etc.
How what happened is NOT personal?
10) Resentment is synonymous with the non-expression of painful emotional truths. Those feelings became internalized.
Take a look at what you did not express in the situation you feel resentment about. What's the truth you did not share?
Why did you not express those things?
11) Take a serious look at your own expectations. Get clear on what you expected?
12) Something is not how you want it to be. You think that something should or shouldn't be in a certain way.
Question that.
Knowing what you don't want is a great way to know what you DO want.
Then, focus directly on the solution, visualize your goals, instead of ruminating over what is unwanted.
Resentment isn't an enemy, it's just a natural byproduct of having no resolution. So focus directly on creating that resolution, on feeling empowered, on what you do want, and the byproducts of that lack of resolution will no longer occur.
Thank you
Thank you ❤
1. Marxists/leftists have destroyed the world and their lies have resulted in the direct death of my loved ones, the complete and total destruction of my nation of Canada, and I understand as a consequence what would be required for me to be an Auschwitz guard; because I would be giddy to do that to these people.
2. Not really. I feel guilty for not executing these people out of fear of consequences like jail time. It makes me feel like I'm not doing enough, not doing what I *KNOW* needs to be done.
3. The resentment is eating me alive, hence I am searching the internet for relief of some kind. Simply being aware the resentment is destroying my life is not enough to make me stop feeling the resentment, especially since I just buried my father figure as a result of all this. I resentment has no end.
4. I am unwilling to accept Wokists running the world, because they destroy everything they touch 100% of the time. If I accepted it, the world would end because nobody would be left to fight against pure, unadulterated evil.
5. If I let go of this, the world will continue to degrade and rot, not just my town and my country and my continent but my whole species will continue to rot, fester, and spew vile, putrid puss.
6. What? How do I resolve a wound that is actively open in an active battlefield that constitutes 98% of my life? That's BS.
7. I'm not powerless; I'm armed and a dang fine shot. I know these people, their faces and their names and some of them, where they lay their head at night. I could solve these problems one at a time if I was just willing to take life and risk imprisonment. Is that what you're suggesting? I had nothing to do with this; I've fought it my whole life. I'm only powerless for things outside my life; I could just execute anybody and everybody who steps into my life with this and tries to inflict leftist insanity on me. Is that what you prescribe?
8. Nope. There is 100% no justification, regardless of any pursuit of Utopia. We learned this lesson with USSR and Pol Pot and Mao's great leap forward, there is no excuse or justification to repeat this madness.
9. Okay. If an asteroid wiped out the planet, it wouldn't be personal. What does that matter? So it's not personal; the damage and destruction are not lessened at all. Why does it matter if it's not personal, if personally my whole life is destroyed as a direct *DIRECT* result?
10. I did express them. They are censored.
11. How about "Not destroying everything good and beautiful in the entire world in the name of 'feelings'?" Is that specific enough? I want my bodily autonomy respected. I want to be left alone to live my life, not have my words or actions curated and dictated and censored by wokist locust mind virus victims. I want to be LEFT ALONE. I want to SHOP IN PEACE. I want to SPEAK IN PEACE.
12. There's nothing to question. I want things to be alive and truthful. Wokism is antithetical to truth. It should be the way I want it, people should be left alone to be free so long as it doesn't infringe on the same freedom for others. Yes, that is how it should be. No, I won't even begin to entertain any scenario where people having no agency and no autonomy is the norm. It's wrong. Period.
I want to eradicate the problem and all those who perpetuate it. I want to *ERADICATE* them like the *PLAGUE* they are, the *DISEASE* they are.
Think for a second where your comment has left me in terms of "creating the resolution." Think about how silly and untrue your statement that "the byproducts of that lack of resolution will no longer occur."
Got any other advice for me?
Thank you for this. Very kind of you 😊
Gold. Thank you ❤
I work with a consciousness/energy medicine practitioner, and he recently warned me that some of the resentment I’m carrying could be associated with cancer risk esp. breast cancer. So I’m putting effort into unpacking that resentment and clearing it. Thank you so much for this enlightening talk, Teal! It’s a big part of my process ❤️
Look into iodine. Cures/prevents it
Wow! I've got so many resentments towards my partner that I never knew were resentments, thanks alot for this video, it has gave me some clarity on why my relationship is the way it is.
Yes / this why I single and plan to stay single now
@@simon.houseaccount4807 :(
"The resentment is a Art for the ego to feel right" thx for that one!
I’ve gone through two extremely painful situations relating to toxic family members and this video sets me free each time. Thank you Teal, you’re a legend ❤
pain is inevitable , suffering is optional...
there are exceptions to everything
By resenting someone or something we focus very intensely on what we do not what and are creating it for ourselves and in ourselves as well and wonder why we're hurting. Time to forgive!
That is a tough pill to swallow but one that needs to be.
It’s way more complicated than a simple quote.
I wouldn't say it's optional, I'd say it's not necessarily permanent
I literally can not find something right about the incomprehensible cruelty of people. But you articulated all my fragmented thoughts about my own toxic resentment perfectly.
think I feel resentment towards a lot of people in my childhood and especially my mom. My mom speaks to me so rudely. I talk to her with respect and she just yells at me. Whenever she explains something to me, I ask her to repeat but she gets impatient and explodes and looks and treats me in a certain way. It just makes me angry and I realize that I treat other people that way, especially when I get impatient. I also straight up don’t know how to let things go. Little things will bother me and I feel like some days that everything is against me and it just causes anger and I don’t know how to release it
I'm the same. I feel for you. It's hard especially society frowns upon me so hard for even daring to talk "badly" in any way about my mother, even if it is the truth.
I feel the same
she sounds like she never grew up first of all, my mom turned into a kid anytime their was tension or conflict, like what the F you doing being a parent in the first place if you can't handle conflict? 🤔
You may have an inner self that is your mom and that is the true war. Ask yourself why you would keep an inner Mom in you. Try to be open minded and patient with the response. How is this inner Mom actually on your side?
Let me say that "you are me". Your story is all about me, the only thing is that my mother is so kind and innocent. But my problem is with other people doing wrong at me. I can't forgot it, so I will did the same on others by feeling surrended. I think that I will be bad in a sense of people will respect me.
Wow I even have resentment on 7/8 years old unpleasant moments.
Wow, "trust someone to consider my best interests.." This hits the nail on the head. Have never had this.
This is psychology, not only spirituality.
This is resentment.
They aren’t really separate
They are the same
Wow ! Just wow.I can’t express how truly and completely she has covered the feelings of resentment. Each and every aspect of this “resentment” thing. Impressive.
All Teal’s videos have been helping me so much that I can't even put it into words. Finding her was a life-changing event for me. Today, I am struggling with resentment so much that it's so difficult to even breathe. This video helped me to cry out a lot of emotions and to connect with repeated traumas' meaning I had held into myself for my whole life. I know 20-minute video + understanding will not heal these wounds instantly, but this is a beginning. Thank you so much for your wise words and life. I am eternally grateful.
I can forgive but it hard to forget, and when I remember things, I get angry...
KamenRiderBlackSun
I know is fashionable to forgive. But I’m not convinced. Unless there is a good reason or some special circumstances then I struggle to see why one should forgive. One should move on yes. Try to forget or put in perspective. But to forgive when there is no reason to. I don’t buy that.
100% guarantee to solve resentment. Revenge through any means possible, empower yourself and exact merciless destruction upon your enemy. Crush your enemies, see them driven before you and feel the lamentation of their families. Don’t turn yourself into the powerless helpless suffering victim. Revenge has its limit don’t stop until you are appeased, and at that point is the balance of justice! Violence is a much underrated solution to problem solving and our governments all use it in abundance to settle disputes as they have done throughout history.
KamenRiderBlackSun same here. Not only do i have PTSD. But i also live with the people who contributed to my trauma. Anytime i have to come home, is like reliving everything they’ve done.
Team 3
@@Mojojojo-92 yes ,,I can't wait to be living in hong Kong
The powerlessness gets me every time 😢
This is one of the most valuable videos I’ve stumbled upon the big internet. So grateful for it. Thank you Teal.
I was harboring tremendous resentment, and now I feel released from its grip. Although I'm sceptical that I worked through it all, non the less it's dwindling. All because of listening. Thank you.
I'm in the same place like you. I hope you're feeling better since you commented four months ago. I have a long road ahead, but listening to Teal helps a lot. Take care 🌹
I think Teals take on resentment was excellent.
Thank you. Since being sober I’ve become hyper-aware of little things that get to me and manifest... it’s great to finally acknowledge these feelings and give myself the chance to face/understand them in order to move on and feel more at peace. It’s tough work, but totally worth it.
Yes! Hyperaware - good description.
One of the most practical videos on resentment I have ever seen. Thank you, Teal!
*The victim of a violent crime such as assault needs the law to be enforced; or at the very least to receive adequate restitution. That's not resentment - it's self-respect. It's having good self-esteem - especially if the victim suffered from complex traumatic stress disorder to begin with due to a long history of domestic violence and the most recent violent crime - namely being credibly threatened with murder on three occasions - occurred domestically. Enough is enough. I"m a human being and I deserve to feel safe in the place where I live.*
no one stops us from leaving
lJ actually in some cases, yes they do
of course justice should be made! There's no doubt about that. I'm so sorry you have been through so much. Nobody deserves that. I think when Teal talks about "resentment" she's talking about the feeling itself, which exists in this situation. I might be wrong but I don't think she said this feeling should or should not be there, she just said it IS there - and in most cases, it may indeed be. Self-preservation is an action, resentment is a feeling. Two different things.
Yes. Get justice; protect yourself. But then let it go. Don't carry that with you any longer. It will just keep victimizing you. I know it's easier said than done but it can be done. And then you can really be free.
I think people just need to learn not to rape
I don't understand how anyone can be down on Teal. I have been in a massive funk in a battle with resentment for the last 3 months, a feeling I rarely if ever feel, and this vid pointed out two very important things. It stems from powerlessness/anger, and that sometimes the pain inflicted upon you is simply, not personal. It's a very long story, but what I just learned made me feel better and it will a LONG journal entry... Thanks Teal!
Your energy with the waterfall sound behind you is so powerful
I know this video is two years old but I very much needed it. Thus far it has been the most thorough and complete discussion I have seen on the matter and touches almost every area I could think of on the matter, some I didn't expect it to touch and others I hadn't even thought of but felt. Thank you very much for this helpful video, I have saved it to my phone and intend to listen to it as often as necessary to help me through this transition state I find myself in letting go of the resentment towards my "ex" that has held my life hostage since last year. I have gone through many stages since our relationship "dissolved" due to actions I considered dishonest and cowardly on her part and I never got my say in it, on the contrary, I only let her hurt me further by accepting her point-of-view for too long and denying my own feelings. But what she chose to do she did and what is done can't be undone and I've has to come to terms with that and accept it but I've also learned that I have to forgive it and let it go for my own well-being as this anger and resentment and desire for vindication is only consuming me and does nothing for the situation. I have finally started to feel the power in the freedom that letting go and not caring gives us it allows me to live my life in peace and makes me realize how much I had given unnecessary or blindly (my fault), how low I had reduced my standards, but also how much I have learned about myself and from all this however painful the experience has been. I don't care to see her again on my life, in truth I don't want too, but I'm not going to sit here in resentment towards her hoping for a vindication that will never happen. I came to realize that the true "vindication", if that is the word, is in the freedom of letting go and not caring and being happy. She will be her own undoing but that's not even my concern anymore, my happiness and life are. We all reap what we sow.
yeah
@@chocobochick5390 ok
The truth about assigning meaning is game changing. We can learn a lot about ourselves when we notice the immediate meaning assigned to someone or a circumstance.
I love you TEAL SWAN. YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW ABSOLUTELY WHAT A TRUE TREASURE YOU ARE!
This is so relevant to something I'm going through. the way this video feels like a conversation on a front porch is really relaxing and helpful. thank you
Wow, I have never heard something so well said. So descriptive, informative, so helpful, so real, truly great information.
Хвала ти много Тил, осећам се целу тону лакшом. Кроз ову кратку а детаљну анализу успела сам да докучим срж проблема и сада кад је на виделу могу да радим на њему.
Још једном, неизмерно хвала🙏
Нека те драги Бог благослови❤
Teal
This is so deep, I have to watch it multiple times.
I'm watching this video today because I discovered a part of myself that is deeply resentful towards myself and towards others around me. It has this putrid, vitriolic, decrepit sort of vibe to it. A rotting piece of hatred that I've had with me for a very long time. I gave it some time to really express itself out loud directly (step 10, but I basically channeled it) and that really helped and gave me a lot of insight into how hard I've been on myself during this process of coming into consciousness I've been going through.
Thank you, Teal.
People hate her because she speaks the truth. People don't want to hear the truth. Why take responsibility when you can just assert blame. Less painful that way.
Having SUCH a hard time with this right now - Thank you Teal 🙏🏻❤️
I dropped all my resentments simply by watching this video..... Teal is better than anybody I have come around
Teal looks much more relaxed and in a sort of natural flow in this vlog
Yea I just thinking that
Dear Teal and team, your being here on Earth in this particular time is crucial for the further development in the wellbeing of all life forms. I feel such respect, gratitude and love for you and your efforts. I feel so moved. You will go far beyond a million followers, for real. Thank you so much for being here. Blessings, Sylvia
My resentment comes from not being treated fairly by the universe 😭, not friends not relatives not colleagues. Thank you for helping release that distressing feeling from my chest.
Well done. Everyone needs to listen at least 5 times. Looking at being a victim was huge. A Paradym shift for me.
Thank you.
Teal is not afraid of her shadow and your tone says it all.
WOW, this is REALLY helping me! Thank you so much! Better than anything I read on the internet or advice from people so far. This goes very detailed into where the feelings comes from and how to get through them and find peace. THANK U SO MUCH.
Letting go of resentment would mean that that person will feel even more free to do that.. it’s basically the only power I have against this person.. to not give up on that as a guarantee to keep my dignity and my worth.
Wich of the two definition of resolution is it in the end of video?
Determination to Do Something: Resolution can refer to a firm decision or determination to do something, such as making a New Year's resolution to exercise more.
Solution to a Problem: Resolution can also mean the action of solving a problem, dispute, or conflict. It implies finding a satisfactory outcome or settlement.
You are great you know that❤ i applied the whole process and felt so much better...
When I saw that Teal was in my search results, I immediately knew that I had found what I was looking for. She's amazing on so many levels. Thank you, Teal!!! 🙏😎
I like Teal. Shes alright! Never accept abuse and constant poor treatment. It takes alot of balls to fight a corrupt system.
This video came at the right time. I have a lot of resentment I have to let go to move on with my job. The mistreatment has me crippled because of resentment and lack of trust.
Taking you in, I see that you're a genius, and my mind cannot even wrap around your complexity. You are such a beautiful gift...
She is an amazing gift to the world.
i am so sick of my resentments, but its so hard to let go, to accept. my mind is fogging itself, holding on on a fantasy maybe… i never want to be hurt like that again and i expect my parents to make it up, i cannot forgive. so much shame. they were not bad people, just traumatized. but there was so much connection missing between us. i wish letting go, acceptance was easier, i could see easier when resentment and grief is the motor of my behavior.
Thank you for this explanation.
Thank you so much for this video Teal! I'm still feeling resentment towards a family member and have not been sure how to get rid of it.
I love her philosophy. Strong chick.
Yea she's great
I just dissipated a huge load of resentment towards very close persons, now i'm trying to understand what it is that i did right, how it happened, thank you for your sharing.
Wisdom in this woman is truth...
I'm currently working on my own resentment towards my partner right now, I think this video will played a lot to help me overcome my resentfullness. Thank you.
always on point, time after time. thank you and have a good week, too.
I've read about this before but sometimes it's nice to just stare at the ceiling and listen to a friendly voice spell it out for you.
Good topic, good outlook, good video.
lol stare at the ceiling....right....
You should try typing with both hands, it greatly increases efficiency.
lol
I can't imagine how much judgment your under but I know your going through a lot to do this I will be praying for you please stay strong we need you
Everything she said in this videos resonated so much with me she almost had me in tears (Its hard for me to cry alone for reasons I dont know). Maybe one day I will attend one of her workshops.
I'm trying to take all of this in, but what was done to me seems extremely personal.
The thing is, you don't know the depth of how messed up the person who did something to you really is. People lash out at others because of their own insecurities and fears and anger. Ultimately, people live in a bubble. It's hard to find truly empathetic people and if the person who hurt you isn't empathic, they're in a bubble, so it isn't personal.
Same
most times its not about you, they are suffering deep inside, its mostly people with little self reflection, you will notice they are mostly void and easily persuaded. Someone with self awareness would feel deeply bad and would try to understand the situation with you or talk it through to see your perspective.
Thank you for not making me feel alone.
Teal, I have listened & I cannot stress enough how deeply I've listened. And I am honestly trying to do so with an open heart. I am so broken.. This "person" who has violated me over & over again, is my own, now 14-year old daughter. We love our daughter so much!!? I have driven to the moon and back getting her the help she so desperately needs. While a juvenile officer is also involved, I am the one who pined for her! "She doesn't need punishment, she needs help!" Twice a week we have a counselor for her in house. Including weekly sessions w a LCSW. Also monthly a psychiatrist. I cannot get over every violation she has put me through. And many of these - she's well aware of what she's done, she even vindictivily smiles at me. 1 year later, while I desperately want to move on and change the chapter; NOPE! She's right there, it's as if she takes 2 steps forward & naturally we reward her good behavior. Only for her to act out again - VERY SOCIALLY - in the most unsociable ways. All the anxiety, fear & helplessness has now become resentment. While I should be the one in control, she has completely broken me. She has been on house arrest due to her behavior per the juvenile officer. Which means her Father & I are also on house arrest. I didn't realize it until last week, but - I'm in the throes of a mental breakdown. I cannot accept (blindly allow or see through) what she's doing, nor will we ever see it as "okay." Luckily for her, she's 14 and her brain hasn't developed for her to see the devastation she leaves in her wake! The things I speak of is the way she acts like a Fatherless child (when she has an amazing Dad, my husband is a truly beautiful man) or as if she's been sexually abused. Neither one is the case? Those behaviors are not okay - and they never will be? I've done your 12-part checklist and I I stil haven't made an edge forward. I forgive her, for she knows not what she's done, but will every single 4 steps back, my patients are now frazzled and I am at the end of my tattered rope. I have always been so strong, and my own child has broken me.. If this isn't one of the very saddest, self isolating moments in my life? I'm scared when the next shoe will drop - because it will... At the same time, I'm fractured and need to grab my own oxygen mask first.. But, that's broken too.. You are an amazing healer. I'm just not ready because it's almost an electric feeling in the air at this point. She'll keep on doing whatever she wants. No matter who she hurts in the process. God be with her because I'm downing.. in sorrow & grief - and anger & fear that no one deserves to feel.
I have always really struggled with resentments and unforgiveness. I've gotten therapy for it and the 12 steps help you work on it. They have you write down your resentments and how they affect you so you can see the damage. You also write down your part in them so that you can see what you need to change and make amends. Now obviously in cases with rape or abuse you don't play a part. Resentments only hurt you, not the other person. It's also good to remember that the people who wronged you will get their karma and have consequences. If it motivates them to change good for them. Not condoning or justifying their behavior but it's good to understand why people behave how they do for example mental illness.
This is so profound. She is right on time fo me.
I just went trough something last night in regards to what you
are teaching here , and I was amazed how the the lesson came to me
through just clicking on your video , ... I was so hard on my self
and told myself that I took part of this endeavor last night with some people
and I knew I was setting myself up for resentment . ..... Thank you Teal , ❤️
Wow 🤩
Thank You for explaining resentment and how to resolve it.
I have been holding onto rage and sadness for a very long time and now I understand what it’s doing to me. I feel with creating positive rituals of thought, I can have the true empowerment I desire for a healthy mind body and spirit.
This is so good. I could feel the good vibes for moving forward coming from this video.
Amazing. So thorough. She hit the nail on the head. This truly helped me. Thanks, very much appreciated. Be well.
Thank you for this. I’ve been holding resentment for a bit in a particular relationship that I hold dear. However I feel we can’t grow if we are holding on to negative emotions. I don’t think it’s anyone’s fault but a simple misunderstanding towards the situation. Resentment hasn’t been much of a empowering feeling hence why I’m here. Again thank you for this teal cause this really helped ❤
I will have to watch this again, numerous times. There is much to unpack here. THank you for the video.
I'm making a resentments list for my 4th step this week so this was made for me right now and more proof that I'm doing good
This was a very hard video for me to watch, my heart's pounding. But it's so important.
my ego hated this video but i kept watching knowing this is good for me to hear
Both my parents need to watch this. Powerful.
I initially resented you and your series and then realized after careful consideration it was because I can see myself doing something similar to your series.. I don't resent you.. but myself for not having the sense to do the same. Kudos.
Thank you for your forthright approach with minimal platitudes. It has been helpful to make it through the day.
I am not into new age stuff and I saw little or none in this particular video. I certainly do not agree with techniques she uses that I have read about her (after watching this video...) But what I did see is plain old fashioned common sense. Brilliant! Thank you!
So resentment comes from powerlessness, thanks a lot teal
Thank you Teal, this video served as approval that I am ready to let this go, that i agree with the role I played in the situation that caused me to be resentful, to let go of the expectations and meaning I unconsciously inserted due to past beliefs I had not discarded, that I also didnt agree with. That i accept this situation, and find truth, as painful as it is, and transform that pain into liberation.
I am so grateful for you and everything you offer to the conscious evolution of this planet.
I cannot express my absolute gratitude for all of your help. I so much appreciate your effort and time and insight. I always feel better after your videos. Fuck all those haters. Makes no sense. You’re damn amazing.
You are such a real person in this video. It’s great!
I think I have been given this lesson before, but this is the first time I understood it. Many thanks!
I cant stress how much i love the perspective that you have. I listen to a lot of videos in this genre, and your ability to add 'realism', for lack of a better word, to the topic. That often is lost with spiritualism; in my opinion the variable of chaos that isn't represented correctly most often.
Yes Teal!!!! Once again, Thank you for the priceless insight that's deeply transforming my life.
I'm afraid of trusting my unfaithful husband again although I love him. I want to be able to trust him fully, but it's so difficult. I feel resentment towards the situation he and his AP put me in. You're so right about the two emotions. I feel powerlessness and complete rage. This is not me and I don't want to be like this. I do feel like a victim and I'm not ashamed to acknowledge that fact. Thanks for this great video. I need to hear it. Much love 💗
Resentment is such low vibrational emotion.....
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It is also a great tool, to see when your boundaries are not respected
Not always bad. It's good to not judge "lower vibrations " they are useful for change sometimes.
Loving the way you share your insights on this tricky topic. Thank you, Teal!
Wisest spiritual teacher out there!
I dive into my pain looking to come out the other side but I never find my way out. Just an endless sea
Same
You need to be able to look at whatever happened with a fresh objective look, try to put yourself in the other person's perspective, remind yourself it is not personal and find the healing you need in knowing those who don't meet your needs or hurt you are themselves hurt and flawed and need our compassion. It's important to accept we are all flawed in order to find healing
Stefania yeah I was tortured first six years of my life. I have seizures 8-15 hours a day from it. No end . Over 20 years
@@pambennett8967 oh my Lord. Has anyone offered you psychological support? Have you received help from any other family member?
One of her most important videos
Resentment means awareness of future abuse and future humiliation. I have to remain alert.
We value you Teal, I might one day seek your community.
This video was everything I needed to hear I didn’t know what resentment meant out of millions of video on UA-cam I’m glad I stumbled on this because as you were talking I was getting ah ha moments
Ive become resentfull towards women, bordering hatred...listening for a second time, going for a third. Good stuff, thank you Tea.
Me too, I feel like they are demons sometimes