Resentment (How to Let Go of Resentment) - Teal Swan

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  • @elialeze00_
    @elialeze00_ 3 роки тому +181

    "there is something that occured and we did not express the way we felt about it for fear of the consequences" damn my life revolved around this

  • @reallyrosie3990
    @reallyrosie3990 7 років тому +851

    i don't get how people can hate on teal she is gifting the world with such valuable information

    • @SC-vb2ui
      @SC-vb2ui 7 років тому +49

      heather huelsmann
      People who do not have they own identity,life of they own.
      Are intimidated by someone success.
      Teal is saving the world of misery-:)
      Pure Energy,I Adore her!!!
      Genuine,Generous Soul🙏🏽💙🙏🏽

    • @reallyrosie3990
      @reallyrosie3990 7 років тому +6

      exactly!

    • @juadwhite1391
      @juadwhite1391 7 років тому

      celinne foi Ralph smart is way better than her, check his videos out and notice how real spiritual teacher he is in comparing with Teal.

    • @TK-iu8nj
      @TK-iu8nj 7 років тому +3

      It all depends on the point of view.

    • @lonepost7813
      @lonepost7813 7 років тому +10

      Of course not, its everybody's

  • @annavillalpando4872
    @annavillalpando4872 Рік тому +29

    Resentment is literally the root of my childhood trauma. I really need to work on this. Thank you Teal ♥️

  • @leezaloo
    @leezaloo 3 роки тому +110

    *NOTES:*
    1) Become completely conscious about what exactly it is that you are so resentful about? What did someone do/not do?
    2) Is there something you feel guilty about?
    E.g. someone was drinking so much that they blacked out completely and got raped. Do I really only feel resentment to the rapist or also to me because I was consuming so much alcohol that I also put myself into that situation?
    3) Get really clear about the impact this resentment is having on your life.
    Close your eyes and think: If you kept this kind of resentment, what would be the impact of that in your future?
    Which areas would it influence? E.g. if you resent your spouse you might feel no desire to make love with them; separation; seek another partner.
    4) Acceptance it crucial for letting go of resentment. Because it means that you cannot accept something.
    Ask yourself:
    What am I unwilling to accept about this situation?
    Why am I unwilling to accept that?
    If I accepted that, what would it mean or what bad thing would happen?
    Resentment means you are pushing really hard against something. However this cannot be done without putting equal pressure on yourself.
    E.g. hit a wall and try it without your hand getting it back.
    Ask yourself: Is it worth it?
    5) Ask yourself: What bad thing would happen if I let go of this resentment today? What is that?
    E.g. if I forgive him/her, he/she will never get how much he/she hurt me.
    6) Resolve the wound that is underneath the resentment. Do the "completion process" (Teal's book).
    7) Deal with powerlessness differently. If you feel resentment you are preoccupied with thinking about the causes and consequences of your distress instead of focussing on solutions to it.
    If you feel resentment you are vacillating between two emotions -> powerlessness and the terror and fear associated with it and anger/rage.
    You are looking at your life through the lense of "I am powerless to others/myself/the world around me". To feel better you move into anger but then you go back into powerlessness and back to anger etc.
    What could you do to feel more empowered in this situation?
    You HAVE to validate your feelings connected to victimhood, and then take responsibility for the situation - how did I contribute to this?
    "I had something to do with this" = I AM IN CONTROL
    8) Try to find approval for what happened. ANYTHING you can find. Do not take this as an invalidation of your pain.
    Focus on it in a way you can agree with it?
    9) Meaning is the basis for suffering. We add negative meaning to the experience.
    E.g. my partner cheated on me - I make that mean that he doesn't love me etc.
    How what happened is NOT personal?
    10) Resentment is synonymous with the non-expression of painful emotional truths. Those feelings became internalized.
    Take a look at what you did not express in the situation you feel resentment about. What's the truth you did not share?
    Why did you not express those things?
    11) Take a serious look at your own expectations. Get clear on what you expected?
    12) Something is not how you want it to be. You think that something should or shouldn't be in a certain way.
    Question that.
    Knowing what you don't want is a great way to know what you DO want.
    Then, focus directly on the solution, visualize your goals, instead of ruminating over what is unwanted.
    Resentment isn't an enemy, it's just a natural byproduct of having no resolution. So focus directly on creating that resolution, on feeling empowered, on what you do want, and the byproducts of that lack of resolution will no longer occur.

    • @TAMZYY143
      @TAMZYY143 Рік тому +6

      Thank you

    • @MeetMeOnTheMoon
      @MeetMeOnTheMoon Рік тому +4

      Thank you ❤

    • @sicsempertyrannishonk7197
      @sicsempertyrannishonk7197 Рік тому

      1. Marxists/leftists have destroyed the world and their lies have resulted in the direct death of my loved ones, the complete and total destruction of my nation of Canada, and I understand as a consequence what would be required for me to be an Auschwitz guard; because I would be giddy to do that to these people.
      2. Not really. I feel guilty for not executing these people out of fear of consequences like jail time. It makes me feel like I'm not doing enough, not doing what I *KNOW* needs to be done.
      3. The resentment is eating me alive, hence I am searching the internet for relief of some kind. Simply being aware the resentment is destroying my life is not enough to make me stop feeling the resentment, especially since I just buried my father figure as a result of all this. I resentment has no end.
      4. I am unwilling to accept Wokists running the world, because they destroy everything they touch 100% of the time. If I accepted it, the world would end because nobody would be left to fight against pure, unadulterated evil.
      5. If I let go of this, the world will continue to degrade and rot, not just my town and my country and my continent but my whole species will continue to rot, fester, and spew vile, putrid puss.
      6. What? How do I resolve a wound that is actively open in an active battlefield that constitutes 98% of my life? That's BS.
      7. I'm not powerless; I'm armed and a dang fine shot. I know these people, their faces and their names and some of them, where they lay their head at night. I could solve these problems one at a time if I was just willing to take life and risk imprisonment. Is that what you're suggesting? I had nothing to do with this; I've fought it my whole life. I'm only powerless for things outside my life; I could just execute anybody and everybody who steps into my life with this and tries to inflict leftist insanity on me. Is that what you prescribe?
      8. Nope. There is 100% no justification, regardless of any pursuit of Utopia. We learned this lesson with USSR and Pol Pot and Mao's great leap forward, there is no excuse or justification to repeat this madness.
      9. Okay. If an asteroid wiped out the planet, it wouldn't be personal. What does that matter? So it's not personal; the damage and destruction are not lessened at all. Why does it matter if it's not personal, if personally my whole life is destroyed as a direct *DIRECT* result?
      10. I did express them. They are censored.
      11. How about "Not destroying everything good and beautiful in the entire world in the name of 'feelings'?" Is that specific enough? I want my bodily autonomy respected. I want to be left alone to live my life, not have my words or actions curated and dictated and censored by wokist locust mind virus victims. I want to be LEFT ALONE. I want to SHOP IN PEACE. I want to SPEAK IN PEACE.
      12. There's nothing to question. I want things to be alive and truthful. Wokism is antithetical to truth. It should be the way I want it, people should be left alone to be free so long as it doesn't infringe on the same freedom for others. Yes, that is how it should be. No, I won't even begin to entertain any scenario where people having no agency and no autonomy is the norm. It's wrong. Period.
      I want to eradicate the problem and all those who perpetuate it. I want to *ERADICATE* them like the *PLAGUE* they are, the *DISEASE* they are.
      Think for a second where your comment has left me in terms of "creating the resolution." Think about how silly and untrue your statement that "the byproducts of that lack of resolution will no longer occur."
      Got any other advice for me?

    • @sula1529
      @sula1529 Рік тому +2

      Thank you for this. Very kind of you 😊

    • @d_mosyagina1575
      @d_mosyagina1575 Рік тому +2

      Gold. Thank you ❤

  • @beverlyho9559
    @beverlyho9559 5 років тому +25

    I probably will be working on resentment throughout the rest of my life. Some days I can let go of past hurts easily and other days, I obsess.The good news is those difficult days are getting fewer and less intense. I've been told to forgive so often and it sounds so hollow when you've been traumatized and then treated dismissively by the very people who are supposed to be on your side (family, church, some "friends").
    It helps to remind myself every day, and on vulnerable days, several times a day, that most of my family will never adequately fulfill my needs. It is my responsibility to find and reach out to others who can. As Teal says, resentment leads to distrust and it can be very hard to know who to trust after initially trusting the wrong people. Therapy has helped with that. The person I need to trust the most is generally myself, but sometimes I need to check that my thinking isn't distorted and unhealthy. Sometimes, I'm getting it wrong. I believe in forgiveness, but I'd never tell anyone (s)he MUST forgive. The right persons will never tell you that you MUST forgive. They will love you and aid in your healing so you are able to forgive. They will listen to your resentment and pain without judgment. When you are ready, and you ask for insight, they give advice.
    I have relationships that will never significantly satisfy me, but it's okay. I still love and enjoy for what I can get w/o expecting much. I go to others for deeper needs.

    • @HI-pz8yg
      @HI-pz8yg 4 роки тому +1

      I agree, you do not have to forgive, it is up to you completely.

  • @edwardduda4222
    @edwardduda4222 4 роки тому +51

    I’m bitter towards the music industry. As a singer-songwriter, I learned how rigged it all is and how contrived it all is. You either get there with money or sex, not hard work in most situations. It’s to the point where I don’t like listening to music because it reminds me how disillusioned I feel. Thank you Teal

    • @denizhankaraca8862
      @denizhankaraca8862 3 роки тому +6

      I hope things work out well for you brother. Do not give up on music, even if you choose not to do it professionally. It's one of the few things that keeps me sane in this strange world. Cheers!

    • @kactapuzzle
      @kactapuzzle 3 роки тому +9

      Thanks for sharing Edward. The music industry is crazy, and full of corruption and conflict. It’s tough. Try to get involved in your local scene, find mutual support there. Good luck!

    • @leahflower9924
      @leahflower9924 2 роки тому +1

      ok so just be part of the underground scene lol

    • @appalachianvibesradioshow6283
      @appalachianvibesradioshow6283 2 роки тому +7

      Build a new way. I devoted my life to the Pursuit of understanding the science of music. I spent 8 years in school for jazz/classical guitar. (I took the super long way and transferred a few times) I’m a singer song writer myself and I did not feel I was getting anywhere, particularly in Appalachia. Women and artists of color are disproportionately not booked at the same rate as white male musicians in Appalachia. I got into radio as a news anchor at an NPR station, musicians are great in radio, and I eventually built a radio show, Appalachian Vibes radio show, where the focus of the show is to celebrate the diversity of music created in and around the Appalachian region. I think we can navigate these things, these types of resentments, with an empowering solution of how to change the dynamic. It was difficult to get the first 2 stations I worked for to pick it up. But the best NPR station with a similar mission of supporting artists picked up the show and is in the process of syndicating it. I can influence the entire music industry in Appalachia as a result of the initial pain I felt of being intentionally excluded. And I get to elevate so many artists who otherwise may not have a Platform. Instead of staying angry, which I was initially, I was able to collectively build a platform that airs to hundreds of thousands of people with a mission of celebrating the diversity of Appalachia. You can do it.

    • @Kelvin-ed6ce
      @Kelvin-ed6ce Рік тому

      don't you think talent matters a lot? I mean the Bee Gees, Westlife etc didn't resort to sex or money to get there...

  • @kittykatfancy
    @kittykatfancy 6 років тому +69

    I'm afraid to let go of resentment toward my mother because it feels like a betrayal of my inner child. She's still not in great shape and it almost feels like it's not my decision to make until she's ready. I feel guilty because I never stuck up for her like I should have. This helped me figure out what's going on. Thanks :)

  • @geetu1
    @geetu1 5 місяців тому +3

    I’ve gone through two extremely painful situations relating to toxic family members and this video sets me free each time. Thank you Teal, you’re a legend ❤

  • @mackalayyanssane8146
    @mackalayyanssane8146 4 роки тому +13

    "The resentment is a Art for the ego to feel right" thx for that one!

  • @judyfong1489
    @judyfong1489 Місяць тому +1

    People hate her because she speaks the truth. People don't want to hear the truth. Why take responsibility when you can just assert blame. Less painful that way.

  • @mayamartin7359
    @mayamartin7359 4 роки тому +19

    I work with a consciousness/energy medicine practitioner, and he recently warned me that some of the resentment I’m carrying could be associated with cancer risk esp. breast cancer. So I’m putting effort into unpacking that resentment and clearing it. Thank you so much for this enlightening talk, Teal! It’s a big part of my process ❤️

    • @misaberry
      @misaberry 7 місяців тому +1

      Look into iodine. Cures/prevents it

  • @alonzourzua2028
    @alonzourzua2028 Рік тому +3

    I was harboring tremendous resentment, and now I feel released from its grip. Although I'm sceptical that I worked through it all, non the less it's dwindling. All because of listening. Thank you.

    • @Bumbledora
      @Bumbledora Рік тому

      I'm in the same place like you. I hope you're feeling better since you commented four months ago. I have a long road ahead, but listening to Teal helps a lot. Take care 🌹

  • @sharonnickerson9756
    @sharonnickerson9756 26 днів тому

    I literally can not find something right about the incomprehensible cruelty of people. But you articulated all my fragmented thoughts about my own toxic resentment perfectly.

  • @Verawnique
    @Verawnique 2 місяці тому

    Wow, "trust someone to consider my best interests.." This hits the nail on the head. Have never had this.

  • @wheelie-gonzales
    @wheelie-gonzales 7 років тому +81

    Wow! I've got so many resentments towards my partner that I never knew were resentments, thanks alot for this video, it has gave me some clarity on why my relationship is the way it is.

  • @sakinaali501
    @sakinaali501 3 роки тому +5

    Wow ! Just wow.I can’t express how truly and completely she has covered the feelings of resentment. Each and every aspect of this “resentment” thing. Impressive.

  • @andresacs
    @andresacs 2 роки тому +4

    All Teal’s videos have been helping me so much that I can't even put it into words. Finding her was a life-changing event for me. Today, I am struggling with resentment so much that it's so difficult to even breathe. This video helped me to cry out a lot of emotions and to connect with repeated traumas' meaning I had held into myself for my whole life. I know 20-minute video + understanding will not heal these wounds instantly, but this is a beginning. Thank you so much for your wise words and life. I am eternally grateful.

  • @anaaguila9783
    @anaaguila9783 Рік тому +2

    This is one of the most valuable videos I’ve stumbled upon the big internet. So grateful for it. Thank you Teal.

  • @asandayoung8085
    @asandayoung8085 8 місяців тому +1

    The powerlessness gets me every time 😢

  • @CorrinaMusic
    @CorrinaMusic 4 роки тому +8

    Thank you. Since being sober I’ve become hyper-aware of little things that get to me and manifest... it’s great to finally acknowledge these feelings and give myself the chance to face/understand them in order to move on and feel more at peace. It’s tough work, but totally worth it.

  • @6c121
    @6c121 6 років тому +119

    This is psychology, not only spirituality.

  • @stevevondoom4140
    @stevevondoom4140 7 років тому +164

    pain is inevitable , suffering is optional...

    • @halo2rocks76
      @halo2rocks76 7 років тому +12

      there are exceptions to everything

    • @carinamaren7779
      @carinamaren7779 7 років тому +3

      By resenting someone or something we focus very intensely on what we do not what and are creating it for ourselves and in ourselves as well and wonder why we're hurting. Time to forgive!

    • @SubstanceASMR
      @SubstanceASMR 5 років тому +1

      That is a tough pill to swallow but one that needs to be.

    • @Mojojojo-92
      @Mojojojo-92 4 роки тому +2

      It’s way more complicated than a simple quote.

    • @jadaaleeshamindexpert7365
      @jadaaleeshamindexpert7365 5 місяців тому

      I wouldn't say it's optional, I'd say it's not necessarily permanent

  • @Mag-g5s
    @Mag-g5s 7 років тому +3

    Your energy with the waterfall sound behind you is so powerful

  • @icryglitter444
    @icryglitter444 4 роки тому +56

    think I feel resentment towards a lot of people in my childhood and especially my mom. My mom speaks to me so rudely. I talk to her with respect and she just yells at me. Whenever she explains something to me, I ask her to repeat but she gets impatient and explodes and looks and treats me in a certain way. It just makes me angry and I realize that I treat other people that way, especially when I get impatient. I also straight up don’t know how to let things go. Little things will bother me and I feel like some days that everything is against me and it just causes anger and I don’t know how to release it

    • @HI-pz8yg
      @HI-pz8yg 4 роки тому +11

      I'm the same. I feel for you. It's hard especially society frowns upon me so hard for even daring to talk "badly" in any way about my mother, even if it is the truth.

    • @bombchellez_24kt54
      @bombchellez_24kt54 4 роки тому +3

      I feel the same

    • @leahflower9924
      @leahflower9924 2 роки тому +2

      she sounds like she never grew up first of all, my mom turned into a kid anytime their was tension or conflict, like what the F you doing being a parent in the first place if you can't handle conflict? 🤔

    • @yeseniaorozco3463
      @yeseniaorozco3463 2 роки тому

      You may have an inner self that is your mom and that is the true war. Ask yourself why you would keep an inner Mom in you. Try to be open minded and patient with the response. How is this inner Mom actually on your side?

    • @Biniyam3832
      @Biniyam3832 Місяць тому

      Let me say that "you are me". Your story is all about me, the only thing is that my mother is so kind and innocent. But my problem is with other people doing wrong at me. I can't forgot it, so I will did the same on others by feeling surrended. I think that I will be bad in a sense of people will respect me.
      Wow I even have resentment on 7/8 years old unpleasant moments.

  • @inbetwixt5505
    @inbetwixt5505 6 місяців тому

    The truth about assigning meaning is game changing. We can learn a lot about ourselves when we notice the immediate meaning assigned to someone or a circumstance.

  • @Mario-xr3jo
    @Mario-xr3jo 3 роки тому +5

    One of the most practical videos on resentment I have ever seen. Thank you, Teal!

  • @Hosamo7
    @Hosamo7 9 місяців тому

    My resentment comes from not being treated fairly by the universe 😭, not friends not relatives not colleagues. Thank you for helping release that distressing feeling from my chest.

  • @MsTuliplady
    @MsTuliplady 7 років тому

    I don't understand how anyone can be down on Teal. I have been in a massive funk in a battle with resentment for the last 3 months, a feeling I rarely if ever feel, and this vid pointed out two very important things. It stems from powerlessness/anger, and that sometimes the pain inflicted upon you is simply, not personal. It's a very long story, but what I just learned made me feel better and it will a LONG journal entry... Thanks Teal!

  • @abaton1633
    @abaton1633 Рік тому +1

    Хвала ти много Тил, осећам се целу тону лакшом. Кроз ову кратку а детаљну анализу успела сам да докучим срж проблема и сада кад је на виделу могу да радим на њему.
    Још једном, неизмерно хвала🙏
    Нека те драги Бог благослови❤

  • @julieparker4052
    @julieparker4052 4 роки тому +1

    I love her philosophy. Strong chick.

  • @berivantore9556
    @berivantore9556 7 місяців тому +1

    You are great you know that❤ i applied the whole process and felt so much better...

  • @vanillacircusltd1028
    @vanillacircusltd1028 Рік тому

    I think Teals take on resentment was excellent.

  • @nonexistenty4152
    @nonexistenty4152 4 роки тому

    I dropped all my resentments simply by watching this video..... Teal is better than anybody I have come around

  • @MrHarryc727
    @MrHarryc727 11 місяців тому

    Teal is not afraid of her shadow and your tone says it all.

  • @bpsyked1627
    @bpsyked1627 7 років тому +1

    Teal looks much more relaxed and in a sort of natural flow in this vlog

  • @josevanga666
    @josevanga666 5 років тому +6

    I know this video is two years old but I very much needed it. Thus far it has been the most thorough and complete discussion I have seen on the matter and touches almost every area I could think of on the matter, some I didn't expect it to touch and others I hadn't even thought of but felt. Thank you very much for this helpful video, I have saved it to my phone and intend to listen to it as often as necessary to help me through this transition state I find myself in letting go of the resentment towards my "ex" that has held my life hostage since last year. I have gone through many stages since our relationship "dissolved" due to actions I considered dishonest and cowardly on her part and I never got my say in it, on the contrary, I only let her hurt me further by accepting her point-of-view for too long and denying my own feelings. But what she chose to do she did and what is done can't be undone and I've has to come to terms with that and accept it but I've also learned that I have to forgive it and let it go for my own well-being as this anger and resentment and desire for vindication is only consuming me and does nothing for the situation. I have finally started to feel the power in the freedom that letting go and not caring gives us it allows me to live my life in peace and makes me realize how much I had given unnecessary or blindly (my fault), how low I had reduced my standards, but also how much I have learned about myself and from all this however painful the experience has been. I don't care to see her again on my life, in truth I don't want too, but I'm not going to sit here in resentment towards her hoping for a vindication that will never happen. I came to realize that the true "vindication", if that is the word, is in the freedom of letting go and not caring and being happy. She will be her own undoing but that's not even my concern anymore, my happiness and life are. We all reap what we sow.

  • @rayleenmarks7573
    @rayleenmarks7573 4 роки тому

    Wisdom in this woman is truth...

  • @breerowe2721
    @breerowe2721 4 роки тому +5

    This is so relevant to something I'm going through. the way this video feels like a conversation on a front porch is really relaxing and helpful. thank you

  • @HigherSelfTarot
    @HigherSelfTarot 4 роки тому +20

    Having SUCH a hard time with this right now - Thank you Teal 🙏🏻❤️

  • @susanlong8978
    @susanlong8978 7 років тому

    I love you TEAL SWAN. YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW ABSOLUTELY WHAT A TRUE TREASURE YOU ARE!

  • @ashrafaliya
    @ashrafaliya 5 років тому +2

    She is an amazing gift to the world.

  • @huko4266
    @huko4266 4 роки тому +2

    This is so deep, I have to watch it multiple times.

  • @GrahamNificent
    @GrahamNificent 4 роки тому

    I'm watching this video today because I discovered a part of myself that is deeply resentful towards myself and towards others around me. It has this putrid, vitriolic, decrepit sort of vibe to it. A rotting piece of hatred that I've had with me for a very long time. I gave it some time to really express itself out loud directly (step 10, but I basically channeled it) and that really helped and gave me a lot of insight into how hard I've been on myself during this process of coming into consciousness I've been going through.
    Thank you, Teal.

  • @KamenRiderBlackSun
    @KamenRiderBlackSun 5 років тому +135

    I can forgive but it hard to forget, and when I remember things, I get angry...

    • @pippipster6767
      @pippipster6767 4 роки тому +24

      KamenRiderBlackSun
      I know is fashionable to forgive. But I’m not convinced. Unless there is a good reason or some special circumstances then I struggle to see why one should forgive. One should move on yes. Try to forget or put in perspective. But to forgive when there is no reason to. I don’t buy that.

    • @NauticalNightmareDeep
      @NauticalNightmareDeep 4 роки тому +13

      100% guarantee to solve resentment. Revenge through any means possible, empower yourself and exact merciless destruction upon your enemy. Crush your enemies, see them driven before you and feel the lamentation of their families. Don’t turn yourself into the powerless helpless suffering victim. Revenge has its limit don’t stop until you are appeased, and at that point is the balance of justice! Violence is a much underrated solution to problem solving and our governments all use it in abundance to settle disputes as they have done throughout history.

    • @Mojojojo-92
      @Mojojojo-92 4 роки тому +10

      KamenRiderBlackSun same here. Not only do i have PTSD. But i also live with the people who contributed to my trauma. Anytime i have to come home, is like reliving everything they’ve done.

    • @simon.houseaccount4807
      @simon.houseaccount4807 4 роки тому

      Team 3

    • @simon.houseaccount4807
      @simon.houseaccount4807 4 роки тому +3

      @@Mojojojo-92 yes ,,I can't wait to be living in hong Kong

  • @ParrotPirateRecords
    @ParrotPirateRecords 4 роки тому +1

    When I saw that Teal was in my search results, I immediately knew that I had found what I was looking for. She's amazing on so many levels. Thank you, Teal!!! 🙏😎

  • @kate7932
    @kate7932 4 роки тому +4

    Letting go of resentment would mean that that person will feel even more free to do that.. it’s basically the only power I have against this person.. to not give up on that as a guarantee to keep my dignity and my worth.

  • @sylviadijkstra343
    @sylviadijkstra343 3 роки тому +7

    Dear Teal and team, your being here on Earth in this particular time is crucial for the further development in the wellbeing of all life forms. I feel such respect, gratitude and love for you and your efforts. I feel so moved. You will go far beyond a million followers, for real. Thank you so much for being here. Blessings, Sylvia

  • @fliegender-teppich
    @fliegender-teppich 7 місяців тому +1

    i am so sick of my resentments, but its so hard to let go, to accept. my mind is fogging itself, holding on on a fantasy maybe… i never want to be hurt like that again and i expect my parents to make it up, i cannot forgive. so much shame. they were not bad people, just traumatized. but there was so much connection missing between us. i wish letting go, acceptance was easier, i could see easier when resentment and grief is the motor of my behavior.

  • @TheTerrypcurtin
    @TheTerrypcurtin 6 років тому +1

    Well done. Everyone needs to listen at least 5 times. Looking at being a victim was huge. A Paradym shift for me.
    Thank you.

  • @robertafierro5592
    @robertafierro5592 6 місяців тому +1

    Resentment means awareness of future abuse and future humiliation. I have to remain alert.

  • @annettehansen6047
    @annettehansen6047 Місяць тому

    I have always really struggled with resentments and unforgiveness. I've gotten therapy for it and the 12 steps help you work on it. They have you write down your resentments and how they affect you so you can see the damage. You also write down your part in them so that you can see what you need to change and make amends. Now obviously in cases with rape or abuse you don't play a part. Resentments only hurt you, not the other person. It's also good to remember that the people who wronged you will get their karma and have consequences. If it motivates them to change good for them. Not condoning or justifying their behavior but it's good to understand why people behave how they do for example mental illness.

  • @irinamitrea6013
    @irinamitrea6013 4 роки тому

    Taking you in, I see that you're a genius, and my mind cannot even wrap around your complexity. You are such a beautiful gift...

  • @robertafierro5592
    @robertafierro5592 6 місяців тому +1

    I like Teal. Shes alright! Never accept abuse and constant poor treatment. It takes alot of balls to fight a corrupt system.

  • @spicebabyyy
    @spicebabyyy Рік тому

    Wow, I have never heard something so well said. So descriptive, informative, so helpful, so real, truly great information.

  • @jamaica2010ism
    @jamaica2010ism 5 місяців тому +1

    Thank you for this explanation.

  • @Donavon551
    @Donavon551 7 років тому

    This video came at the right time. I have a lot of resentment I have to let go to move on with my job. The mistreatment has me crippled because of resentment and lack of trust.

  • @alex-ander-13
    @alex-ander-13 4 місяці тому

    Thank you for not making me feel alone.

  • @jeannettefuentes184
    @jeannettefuentes184 3 роки тому

    Wisest spiritual teacher out there!

  • @conspiracytheorist2181
    @conspiracytheorist2181 7 років тому +77

    *The victim of a violent crime such as assault needs the law to be enforced; or at the very least to receive adequate restitution. That's not resentment - it's self-respect. It's having good self-esteem - especially if the victim suffered from complex traumatic stress disorder to begin with due to a long history of domestic violence and the most recent violent crime - namely being credibly threatened with murder on three occasions - occurred domestically. Enough is enough. I"m a human being and I deserve to feel safe in the place where I live.*

    • @Funwinxpixee
      @Funwinxpixee 6 років тому

      no one stops us from leaving

    • @tezlavonsmash6947
      @tezlavonsmash6947 6 років тому +13

      lJ actually in some cases, yes they do

    • @Irlandesaaa
      @Irlandesaaa 6 років тому +23

      of course justice should be made! There's no doubt about that. I'm so sorry you have been through so much. Nobody deserves that. I think when Teal talks about "resentment" she's talking about the feeling itself, which exists in this situation. I might be wrong but I don't think she said this feeling should or should not be there, she just said it IS there - and in most cases, it may indeed be. Self-preservation is an action, resentment is a feeling. Two different things.

    • @whittark111
      @whittark111 6 років тому +11

      Yes. Get justice; protect yourself. But then let it go. Don't carry that with you any longer. It will just keep victimizing you. I know it's easier said than done but it can be done. And then you can really be free.

    • @Mccmmmccmm
      @Mccmmmccmm 6 років тому +5

      I think people just need to learn not to rape

  • @mmirkovich
    @mmirkovich 7 років тому

    I just went trough something last night in regards to what you
    are teaching here , and I was amazed how the the lesson came to me
    through just clicking on your video , ... I was so hard on my self
    and told myself that I took part of this endeavor last night with some people
    and I knew I was setting myself up for resentment . ..... Thank you Teal , ❤️

  • @tay5346
    @tay5346 7 років тому

    my ego hated this video but i kept watching knowing this is good for me to hear

  • @marc-andrebergeron6900
    @marc-andrebergeron6900 7 місяців тому +1

    Wich of the two definition of resolution is it in the end of video?
    Determination to Do Something: Resolution can refer to a firm decision or determination to do something, such as making a New Year's resolution to exercise more.
    Solution to a Problem: Resolution can also mean the action of solving a problem, dispute, or conflict. It implies finding a satisfactory outcome or settlement.

  • @fifthdimensionrobyn3203
    @fifthdimensionrobyn3203 7 років тому

    Both my parents need to watch this. Powerful.

  • @mathiasboulougouris3836
    @mathiasboulougouris3836 7 років тому

    I just dissipated a huge load of resentment towards very close persons, now i'm trying to understand what it is that i did right, how it happened, thank you for your sharing.

  • @tool82uk
    @tool82uk 4 роки тому

    I'm currently working on my own resentment towards my partner right now, I think this video will played a lot to help me overcome my resentfullness. Thank you.

  • @daniellemariekehoe3392
    @daniellemariekehoe3392 7 років тому +1

    I am so grateful for you and everything you offer to the conscious evolution of this planet.

  • @oldschool8022
    @oldschool8022 4 роки тому +2

    Ive become resentfull towards women, bordering hatred...listening for a second time, going for a third. Good stuff, thank you Tea.

    • @Desmondbrown73
      @Desmondbrown73 Рік тому

      Me too, I feel like they are demons sometimes

  • @tristenbuchanan5262
    @tristenbuchanan5262 2 роки тому

    Wow 🤩
    Thank You for explaining resentment and how to resolve it.
    I have been holding onto rage and sadness for a very long time and now I understand what it’s doing to me. I feel with creating positive rituals of thought, I can have the true empowerment I desire for a healthy mind body and spirit.

  • @queengoblin
    @queengoblin 2 роки тому

    One of her most important videos

  • @monzaseals8581
    @monzaseals8581 6 років тому

    I can't imagine how much judgment your under but I know your going through a lot to do this I will be praying for you please stay strong we need you

  • @poetrykellymaiden5457
    @poetrykellymaiden5457 5 років тому +4

    The best lady ever! I love love love you, dear, lovely and wise teacher, Teal 💕❤️💖🌠🌹

  • @johndonohue6318
    @johndonohue6318 7 років тому +4

    This is so profound. She is right on time fo me.

  • @miss.conduct8083
    @miss.conduct8083 4 роки тому

    Teal, I have listened & I cannot stress enough how deeply I've listened. And I am honestly trying to do so with an open heart. I am so broken.. This "person" who has violated me over & over again, is my own, now 14-year old daughter. We love our daughter so much!!? I have driven to the moon and back getting her the help she so desperately needs. While a juvenile officer is also involved, I am the one who pined for her! "She doesn't need punishment, she needs help!" Twice a week we have a counselor for her in house. Including weekly sessions w a LCSW. Also monthly a psychiatrist. I cannot get over every violation she has put me through. And many of these - she's well aware of what she's done, she even vindictivily smiles at me. 1 year later, while I desperately want to move on and change the chapter; NOPE! She's right there, it's as if she takes 2 steps forward & naturally we reward her good behavior. Only for her to act out again - VERY SOCIALLY - in the most unsociable ways. All the anxiety, fear & helplessness has now become resentment. While I should be the one in control, she has completely broken me. She has been on house arrest due to her behavior per the juvenile officer. Which means her Father & I are also on house arrest. I didn't realize it until last week, but - I'm in the throes of a mental breakdown. I cannot accept (blindly allow or see through) what she's doing, nor will we ever see it as "okay." Luckily for her, she's 14 and her brain hasn't developed for her to see the devastation she leaves in her wake! The things I speak of is the way she acts like a Fatherless child (when she has an amazing Dad, my husband is a truly beautiful man) or as if she's been sexually abused. Neither one is the case? Those behaviors are not okay - and they never will be? I've done your 12-part checklist and I I stil haven't made an edge forward. I forgive her, for she knows not what she's done, but will every single 4 steps back, my patients are now frazzled and I am at the end of my tattered rope. I have always been so strong, and my own child has broken me.. If this isn't one of the very saddest, self isolating moments in my life? I'm scared when the next shoe will drop - because it will... At the same time, I'm fractured and need to grab my own oxygen mask first.. But, that's broken too.. You are an amazing healer. I'm just not ready because it's almost an electric feeling in the air at this point. She'll keep on doing whatever she wants. No matter who she hurts in the process. God be with her because I'm downing.. in sorrow & grief - and anger & fear that no one deserves to feel.

  • @hobbytreyi
    @hobbytreyi 3 роки тому

    So resentment comes from powerlessness, thanks a lot teal

  • @PiscesAnnie
    @PiscesAnnie 7 років тому

    I'm making a resentments list for my 4th step this week so this was made for me right now and more proof that I'm doing good

  • @Abnormalproductions2
    @Abnormalproductions2 4 роки тому +1

    This was a very hard video for me to watch, my heart's pounding. But it's so important.

  • @Bumbledora
    @Bumbledora Рік тому

    I'm afraid of trusting my unfaithful husband again although I love him. I want to be able to trust him fully, but it's so difficult. I feel resentment towards the situation he and his AP put me in. You're so right about the two emotions. I feel powerlessness and complete rage. This is not me and I don't want to be like this. I do feel like a victim and I'm not ashamed to acknowledge that fact. Thanks for this great video. I need to hear it. Much love 💗

  • @marcellusAdavis
    @marcellusAdavis 7 років тому +7

    This is so good. I could feel the good vibes for moving forward coming from this video.

  • @rolandgrohs9118
    @rolandgrohs9118 11 місяців тому

    Thank you for this. I’ve been holding resentment for a bit in a particular relationship that I hold dear. However I feel we can’t grow if we are holding on to negative emotions. I don’t think it’s anyone’s fault but a simple misunderstanding towards the situation. Resentment hasn’t been much of a empowering feeling hence why I’m here. Again thank you for this teal cause this really helped ❤

  • @SubstanceASMR
    @SubstanceASMR 5 років тому +1

    Everything she said in this videos resonated so much with me she almost had me in tears (Its hard for me to cry alone for reasons I dont know). Maybe one day I will attend one of her workshops.

  • @dbsk06
    @dbsk06 8 місяців тому

    Trust 1:30
    14:37 element of disempowerment and self blame
    14:54 find the positive of that happening. Approval
    17:02 don’t take it personally. It might be what is going on in the other persons life
    There was something you wanted to say but didn’t
    19:37 resentment is not an enemy it’s a byproduct of having no resolution so head towards what you do want and feeling empowered

  • @horusthealien
    @horusthealien 3 роки тому +1

    We value you Teal, I might one day seek your community.

  • @FatimaT714
    @FatimaT714 3 роки тому +5

    This video *literally* JUST saved my life. T H A N K Y O U TEAL ❤💞❤💞❤💞❤💞❤

  • @BellaEstrella7
    @BellaEstrella7 5 років тому +6

    WOW, this is REALLY helping me! Thank you so much! Better than anything I read on the internet or advice from people so far. This goes very detailed into where the feelings comes from and how to get through them and find peace. THANK U SO MUCH.

  • @arnoldnarine7680
    @arnoldnarine7680 7 років тому +8

    Amazing. So thorough. She hit the nail on the head. This truly helped me. Thanks, very much appreciated. Be well.

  • @amazinggrace4924
    @amazinggrace4924 5 років тому

    I am not into new age stuff and I saw little or none in this particular video. I certainly do not agree with techniques she uses that I have read about her (after watching this video...) But what I did see is plain old fashioned common sense. Brilliant! Thank you!

  • @NigelNougan
    @NigelNougan 6 років тому

    I initially resented you and your series and then realized after careful consideration it was because I can see myself doing something similar to your series.. I don't resent you.. but myself for not having the sense to do the same. Kudos.

  • @urdude67
    @urdude67 6 років тому

    I think I have been given this lesson before, but this is the first time I understood it. Many thanks!

  • @hellradiolives
    @hellradiolives Рік тому

    Thank you for your forthright approach with minimal platitudes. It has been helpful to make it through the day.

  • @colleenmarion1128
    @colleenmarion1128 4 роки тому

    Some valid points, but can be very dangerous for someone in an abusive cycle.

  • @sullyb23511
    @sullyb23511 6 років тому

    I will have to watch this again, numerous times. There is much to unpack here. THank you for the video.

  • @tamerabarnes5485
    @tamerabarnes5485 2 роки тому

    Teal is a freaking genius

  • @damionvasquez4716
    @damionvasquez4716 3 роки тому

    This is pure. Beautiful. Restful nights ☺️💛

  • @BushraJarallah
    @BushraJarallah 19 днів тому

    you're a life saviour

  • @yearofthedragonjane
    @yearofthedragonjane 7 років тому +7

    Yes Teal!!!! Once again, Thank you for the priceless insight that's deeply transforming my life.

  • @dailyart3988
    @dailyart3988 7 років тому

    Teal I think you were born to solve my problems thank u

  • @FastEntrepreneur
    @FastEntrepreneur 7 років тому +8

    Teal, keep leading! You're doing a great job.

  • @TheMostITP
    @TheMostITP 5 років тому +1

    You are such a real person in this video. It’s great!

  • @scofah
    @scofah 7 років тому +7

    Loving the way you share your insights on this tricky topic. Thank you, Teal!

  • @nathaliemichaud6490
    @nathaliemichaud6490 7 років тому +20

    always on point, time after time. thank you and have a good week, too.