I did not wait for the rebound relationship to end. I knew in my heart that I would never want him back again after the infidelity. I dont know how other women do it. I divorced him.
I let him go respectfully but I felt sad. After watching your videos I reached out to him after over a year NC to say I thought of him and that I hoped he was well. I wanted him to know I didn't feel negatively about how he ended it and that he didn't need to reply I just wanted to put peace between us. He replied within an hour to thank me and share his updates. I replied and shared mine. He replied with a closed response sadly so I wished him a good weekend and left him alone. He isn't available for a relationship with anyone so it gave me peace knowing it wasn't about me and that if our paths cross we can smile.
Even if the rebound relationship is a temporary thing, how the can someone accept such people back once they’ve been to some other’s bed!!!!!! That’s a mln dollar question!!
You always have the chance to say no when they wanna come back. But also a way to see it if it's you who left the relationship and then want to go back what would you think? After seeing there grass is not greener?
@@marguskiis7711Not true, sometimes they do after the rebound/monkey branch fails. Which can be anywhere from a month to 1 year generally. Even if it’s just to hook up casually. They may jump to a few more and then circle back at some point. I’d say it’s about 40% of the time in my experience if it was long term. Not getting back necessarily but hooking up yes, I have done this a few times with my ex GF’s.
going through tought times right now. I discovered your youtube channel couple of days ago and really liked your stuff. I am from Finland btw. My story: Me and my girlfriend broke up 3 weeks ago. We were together 1,5 years. She dumped me out of blue and I tried to figured out solutions but she just wanted out. I dont know what happend and what is really the reason. She said she loves me but not in love with me (heard that before?) and she lost feelings and also wanted be just alone first time. After two day shock reaction (I bleeded my heart out) I acceptied it and gave her space. Started no contact and during 2 week after break up I just answered when she asked some normal stuff (example, living situtation). After break up she felt so cold, like no emotions. She moved so fast, 2 days after break up she had a new appartment and week after that she moved out. Never wanted talk about out our relationship and give end of it. Even the last time we saw I wanted to say goodbey and I did, but she was so cold like "it was nice to live together with you" and other bullshit. Now this gets worse. 3 days after she moved a new appartment I caught her with a new guy at her new house. And not just a random guy but my FRIEND. Friend who I cried and open up to when we broke up. We went college together and now we have worked in the same place over a year! Last week wednesday I had intuition and drove my friend appartment. There was no car in park, then I drove my ex girlfirend new appartment (she told where she would move) and there it was parked my exs parking spot. I went cracy and they were scared of me. I went my other friend house to cool down. Next day at the work I conforted him and I asked what this means. He said nothing has happend but he has really big crush on her. He agreed to get over it. Next day later my ex messages me and says something that she will call police if I do that again. I said to her that she means nothing to me anymore and all other stuff. But in these messages she told me she has crush on him too and she will do what she wants. She already was in my friends apparment and they said together to me that they will be together now. I dont know what to do. Or I know that there is nothing to do. There is no yuotube videos for situations like this. I know they both are worthless piece of shits. I just have so many questions. When it really started? When they met first time through me did they were attracted each other? How my friend can take my ex? How he can be interested? How he can get hard on on my ex (btw my ex took our bed we bought together)? I am gross out and confused. I just think them together doing stuff. Is this only rebound relationship for my ex?? She and he both said there was nothing before break up and they bearlly know each other. So many guestions.
Hi Alex, thank you for this video. My q is: isn't that with avoidants time always work for them precisely bc they are avoidants wanting their spaces, so, how do we assess when the time is right since there are no contact. Especially if there was good times or no relation but presence.. -I know situation can be outside what is usually the common, + complicated -
Hello I enjoyed this video my question is does this pertain to a relationship that was 6 months . We had a very strong friendship before the relationship and had so much love and friendship but at the end we argued alot dealing with past traumas..miscommunication ect .
She lives in Russia (one of the big cities), I live in Europe. I have heard people being arrested for demonstrating against the war. Should I contact her to know how is she doing? No video is available on this terrible situation.
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I’m so sorry bro. Cliche as it sounds… remember your last breakup and how you thought that was your person. Looking back you likely think something to the effect of “what was I thinking?” That said, time heals most wounds and there are more fish in the sea. 💛
It's a bit of harsh coaching... People need to respect themselves enough not to be looking for people who are not looking for them. Pretty simple. It's most of the problems in our world. If the truth rubs you wrong, then oh well. The truth saves people from hardships. @@ezellohar_caranthir
I've been in no contact for about 7 weeks. My ex reached out after 2 weeks. We met and briefly talked but after that I went right back into no contact. After another 33 days i reached out to him last night. It was well received. We texted lightly back and forth. But it ended rather quickly, I texted "haha" to something he texted and then he didn't reply. Now what? Do I wait to hear from him again since I opened the door? Breaking up was my decision. And the last time we talked he said "keep in touch". So after 33 days I did just that.
If you break up with them you don't do no contact, the no contact "work " with the people who got dumped like me , contact your ex show them you want them back of course if you do want them
I'm so happy having back my ex fiance back , after being separated for 5months . All thanks to Mr stephen whom help me to get back my ex again, I will suggest y'all get help from him and it works within 3days
If your ex is a gold digger. Otherwise, trust me money is not the problem, it's more about the fact that to be in love with someone you have to admire that person
@@nicolasrodriguez3499 Probably shouldn't comment on it since your view will be corrupted... Women are not choosing men for sex due to an amount of money, it's about actual physical desire.
Hi, decent girl here: we don’t care about your money, we have our own. We care about your decency, your strength and confidence. Be a ‘rock’, treat the girl well, and she’s yours
I did not wait for the rebound relationship to end. I knew in my heart that I would never want him back again after the infidelity. I dont know how other women do it. I divorced him.
Women move on very fast. They can easily find new one within some weeks. They don`t come back. Never seen it.
Avoidants leave without any reason.
I let him go respectfully but I felt sad. After watching your videos I reached out to him after over a year NC to say I thought of him and that I hoped he was well. I wanted him to know I didn't feel negatively about how he ended it and that he didn't need to reply I just wanted to put peace between us. He replied within an hour to thank me and share his updates. I replied and shared mine. He replied with a closed response sadly so I wished him a good weekend and left him alone. He isn't available for a relationship with anyone so it gave me peace knowing it wasn't about me and that if our paths cross we can smile.
Even if the rebound relationship is a temporary thing, how the can someone accept such people back once they’ve been to some other’s bed!!!!!! That’s a mln dollar question!!
I agree. That's disgusting
You always have the chance to say no when they wanna come back. But also a way to see it if it's you who left the relationship and then want to go back what would you think? After seeing there grass is not greener?
Don`t worry. Women usually do not come back.
@@marguskiis7711Not true, sometimes they do after the rebound/monkey branch fails. Which can be anywhere from a month to 1 year generally. Even if it’s just to hook up casually. They may jump to a few more and then circle back at some point. I’d say it’s about 40% of the time in my experience if it was long term. Not getting back necessarily but hooking up yes, I have done this a few times with my ex GF’s.
@@Freudster21 Lets say, 90% of female DAs do not come back.
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thank you so much these videos at least helped me to get out of anxiety and i am committed to work further
going through tought times right now. I discovered your youtube channel couple of days ago and really liked your stuff. I am from Finland btw.
My story:
Me and my girlfriend broke up 3 weeks ago. We were together 1,5 years. She dumped me out of blue and I tried to figured out solutions but she just wanted out. I dont know what happend and what is really the reason. She said she loves me but not in love with me (heard that before?) and she lost feelings and also wanted be just alone first time. After two day shock reaction (I bleeded my heart out) I acceptied it and gave her space. Started no contact and during 2 week after break up I just answered when she asked some normal stuff (example, living situtation). After break up she felt so cold, like no emotions. She moved so fast, 2 days after break up she had a new appartment and week after that she moved out. Never wanted talk about out our relationship and give end of it. Even the last time we saw I wanted to say goodbey and I did, but she was so cold like "it was nice to live together with you" and other bullshit.
Now this gets worse. 3 days after she moved a new appartment I caught her with a new guy at her new house. And not just a random guy but my FRIEND. Friend who I cried and open up to when we broke up. We went college together and now we have worked in the same place over a year! Last week wednesday I had intuition and drove my friend appartment. There was no car in park, then I drove my ex girlfirend new appartment (she told where she would move) and there it was parked my exs parking spot. I went cracy and they were scared of me. I went my other friend house to cool down. Next day at the work I conforted him and I asked what this means. He said nothing has happend but he has really big crush on her. He agreed to get over it.
Next day later my ex messages me and says something that she will call police if I do that again. I said to her that she means nothing to me anymore and all other stuff. But in these messages she told me she has crush on him too and she will do what she wants. She already was in my friends apparment and they said together to me that they will be together now.
I dont know what to do. Or I know that there is nothing to do. There is no yuotube videos for situations like this. I know they both are worthless piece of shits. I just have so many questions. When it really started? When they met first time through me did they were attracted each other? How my friend can take my ex? How he can be interested? How he can get hard on on my ex (btw my ex took our bed we bought together)? I am gross out and confused. I just think them together doing stuff. Is this only rebound relationship for my ex?? She and he both said there was nothing before break up and they bearlly know each other. So many guestions.
Hi Alex, thank you for this video.
My q is: isn't that with avoidants time always work for them precisely bc they are avoidants wanting their spaces, so, how do we assess when the time is right since there are no contact. Especially if there was good times or no relation but presence..
-I know situation can be outside what is usually the common, + complicated -
Hello I enjoyed this video my question is does this pertain to a relationship that was 6 months . We had a very strong friendship before the relationship and had so much love and friendship but at the end we argued alot dealing with past traumas..miscommunication ect .
thanks. my 6 yrs BF broke me up bec of other woman..
By far, you're best video !!!! Thank you !
What if the ex DA went back to his prior girlfriend from over 2 years prior?
classic case. You was the rebound.
She lives in Russia (one of the big cities), I live in Europe. I have heard people being arrested for demonstrating against the war. Should I contact her to know how is she doing? No video is available on this terrible situation.
It would depend on your context. But yes, I think exceptional times = exceptional measures
Merci Alexis
Reflecting positively upon this year on how to get a good 👍 start of my new 🆕 career as the new 🆕 leader at a young club with an incredible squad that has proven so far in terms to the point that the best player of my life and a fantastic coach of the club is now in my opinion that he has been an excellent coach for a while but the club have not given me any confidence and he hasn’t done ☑️ much for us and we need him at his current club level but we are looking 👀 forward and we will get a lot to see next week as he in a good 😊 hope for a lot in this squad but hope we don’t go to a big league hopefully 🙏 we are all on our best season and I look 👀 hope we will see the future of this year to be very good 😊 cheers 🍻 for all my heart ♥️ goes all around and good 😊 have fun 🤩 and a big win 🏅 tonight have fun
45 year old men should have had a wake up call yearsssssssss ago! DAHHHHHHH YOU CANT FIX IGNORANT
My DA Ex is 63..no wake-up call until today...
@@awerten3746 🤦🏻♀️
My ex is engaged to someone, so I think she is gone forever.
I’m so sorry bro. Cliche as it sounds… remember your last breakup and how you thought that was your person. Looking back you likely think something to the effect of “what was I thinking?” That said, time heals most wounds and there are more fish in the sea. 💛
Who cares? Why are you worried about someone who didn't want you?
@@dennisrobinson8008 Apart from being a remarkably ignorant comment, that random lack of empathy for someone you dont know is edifying. >< Zzzz
It's a bit of harsh coaching... People need to respect themselves enough not to be looking for people who are not looking for them. Pretty simple. It's most of the problems in our world. If the truth rubs you wrong, then oh well. The truth saves people from hardships. @@ezellohar_caranthir
My ex rebound collapsed but she continues dating someone else.
I've been in no contact for about 7 weeks. My ex reached out after 2 weeks. We met and briefly talked but after that I went right back into no contact. After another 33 days i reached out to him last night. It was well received. We texted lightly back and forth. But it ended rather quickly, I texted "haha" to something he texted and then he didn't reply. Now what? Do I wait to hear from him again since I opened the door? Breaking up was my decision. And the last time we talked he said "keep in touch". So after 33 days I did just that.
If u broke up w him u need approach a little different and show him u made a mistake
If you break up with them you don't do no contact, the no contact "work " with the people who got dumped like me , contact your ex show them you want them back of course if you do want them
If possible please make short video like 5-10 minutes.
I'm so happy having back my ex fiance back , after being separated for 5months . All thanks to Mr stephen whom help me to get back my ex again, I will suggest y'all get help from him and it works within 3days
If you really want your girl back, you need to make more money than the dude she dumped you for.
If your ex is a gold digger.
Otherwise, trust me money is not the problem, it's more about the fact that to be in love with someone you have to admire that person
@Micheal rakute no thank you. I'm done with relationships.
@@nicolasrodriguez3499 Probably shouldn't comment on it since your view will be corrupted... Women are not choosing men for sex due to an amount of money, it's about actual physical desire.
@Nicholas Rodriguez: If this was your truth - Maybe it's time to get outa the kiddie pool... just sayin. 🤷♀️
Hi, decent girl here: we don’t care about your money, we have our own. We care about your decency, your strength and confidence. Be a ‘rock’, treat the girl well, and she’s yours