I’m truly sorry you lost your wife. I left my 2nd husband because he was abusive: it was the best decision I ever made. Now I’m single, not looking to marry ever again. There’s a freedom that comes with living on your own terms. Though I frequently stay-in-touch with friends, I actually like my own company. Sounds like you get that, too.
@@denisek292 hello Denise? First, let me say I’m amazed that you found this thing and watched it. I’m really just doing this as an experiment in podcasting… but yeah since I lost my wife, I have what I call thought storms where I just start thinking about a given topic and so I decided that I would just blurt it out so to speak and get it off my chest and it’s very therapeutic. It’s very cathartic and I think a good thing. Now as to what you shared with me, I am so very sorry that you had that experience. I don’t know what makes people act out the way they do, but they shouldn’t and those who suffer the consequences or the abuse are the innocent victims of the abusers inner turmoil… but that doesn’t justify it and that doesn’t make it any easier…. It’s very simply wrong wrong wrong and again I feel bad that you went through that and I hope that you have found peace and happiness in other relationships.
@@peteandtessTube Your video appeared on my UA-cam feed, and I’m very happy it did! Your vlog is not only therapeutic for you, but therapeutic to other widows/widowers and those of us who’ve been through a divorce. I’m glad your vlog is helping with your grief, too. As far as myself, I’m very blessed my daughter was supportive, and allowed me to live with her until I could find an apartment. I’m actually doing very well now. Like the title of your video, “Single but not Lonely,” explains my life exactly to a “T.” I subscribed to your channel, and look forward to your future vlogs. God bless you, Pete! Btw…you were right…my name is Denise.😊
Hello Nate, I'm 57, I was married for 10 years, my wife was/is an alcoholic and became very abusive. The marriage ended. I was lonely and made the mistake of rushing into another relationship to fill the void and the hurt. That was a huge mistake, I didn't pay attention to all the red flags, I ignored them because I wanted to be married again, so I rushed into another marriage foolishly with a woman i didn't really know. Only to discover that she was not who she seemed, she had a past and belief system that was not something I could respect. There was also a mental health component too. Needless to say, the marriage only lasted a few months. I felt like a fool, I was humiliated by my stupidity. I've been alone for a year now and I am learning to embrace it. I want companionship but divorce changes a person I think. For me, I'm more distrusting now. I see the world through cynical eyes. I'm learning to find myself again as well as looking for the good in this world. I'm definitely a work in progress. Thank you for sharing your story.
Some very good simple logical advice....Well said....
And you give a lot beautiful man Thank you for you.
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I’m truly sorry you lost your wife. I left my 2nd husband because he was abusive: it was the best decision I ever made. Now I’m single, not looking to marry ever again. There’s a freedom that comes with living on your own terms. Though I frequently stay-in-touch with friends, I actually like my own company. Sounds like you get that, too.
@@denisek292 hello Denise? First, let me say I’m amazed that you found this thing and watched it. I’m really just doing this as an experiment in podcasting… but yeah since I lost my wife, I have what I call thought storms where I just start thinking about a given topic and so I decided that I would just blurt it out so to speak and get it off my chest and it’s very therapeutic. It’s very cathartic and I think a good thing. Now as to what you shared with me, I am so very sorry that you had that experience. I don’t know what makes people act out the way they do, but they shouldn’t and those who suffer the consequences or the abuse are the innocent victims of the abusers inner turmoil… but that doesn’t justify it and that doesn’t make it any easier…. It’s very simply wrong wrong wrong and again I feel bad that you went through that and I hope that you have found peace and happiness in other relationships.
@@peteandtessTube Your video appeared on my UA-cam feed, and I’m very happy it did! Your vlog is not only therapeutic for you, but therapeutic to other widows/widowers and those of us who’ve been through a divorce. I’m glad your vlog is helping with your grief, too. As far as myself, I’m very blessed my daughter was supportive, and allowed me to live with her until I could find an apartment. I’m actually doing very well now. Like the title of your video, “Single but not Lonely,” explains my life exactly to a “T.” I subscribed to your channel, and look forward to your future vlogs. God bless you, Pete!
Btw…you were right…my name is Denise.😊
Hello Nate,
I'm 57, I was married for 10 years, my wife was/is an alcoholic and became very abusive.
The marriage ended. I was lonely and made the mistake of rushing into another relationship to fill the void and the hurt.
That was a huge mistake, I didn't pay attention to all the red flags, I ignored them because I wanted to be married again, so I rushed into another marriage foolishly with a woman i didn't really know.
Only to discover that she was not who she seemed, she had a past and belief system that was not something I could respect. There was also a mental health component too.
Needless to say, the marriage only lasted a few months.
I felt like a fool, I was humiliated by my stupidity.
I've been alone for a year now and I am learning to embrace it.
I want companionship but divorce changes a person I think.
For me, I'm more distrusting now. I see the world through cynical eyes.
I'm learning to find myself again as well as looking for the good in this world.
I'm definitely a work in progress.
Thank you for sharing your story.