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I know it’s the end when I’m constantly triggered by their behavior. Even after communicating how it affects me, and then my partner disregarding it! Only chasing me when it’s convenient, not out of their attraction or desire for me.
I know it’s end when I start feeling disappointed or frustrated after each date specially when he pressures me to go out on a date even after telling him multiple times that I’m a busy single mom and I can’t go out more than 2x week during the week. After a while it became clear that I feel more than 51% happy when I’m not being forced to go out to see him. Being in the right relationship shouldn’t feel hard, it should feel natural and easy.
When I don't feel physically attracted anymore by a partner, I know it's time to move on. I know it might sound childish, but actually it's a strong sign with other incompatibilities and unhappiness beneath.
Mat, you have no idea how helpful this video was for me. You just described the process I went through to arrive at my “it’s time to go” conclusion (almost word for word 😂) but I’ve been on and off doubting myself. You’re so right about the peace. I respect your work, thank you for helping me believe in myself.
Yes that part. If you have already communicated what you need and feel and it falls on deaf ears, why should you waste precious time continuing with someone that is not aligned with what your relationship needs and goals are until it just gets so bad that you reach an end. If you either aren’t willing or aren’t able to love me properly I don’t owe you continuing presence in my life waiting the “the end”. The end is that I am not fulfilled and life is too short giving empty chances to ppl that don’t respect your place in their life.
I asked myself this: are you prepared to be alone for the rest of your life? Because there are no guarantees of finding a partner again, and I needed to be prepared for that. And I was, and it ended. It broke my heart to do it but If I would have stayed we would eventually not like eachother anymore. There would have been too much frustration. And I wanted us to remain on good terms, I wanted to still like him, because he is a good person. And I thought, If he is not for me then I cannot be for him.
Please be brave & find a way to leave then....I stayed for 14 years...& hugely regret all that wasted time! Good luck....there IS life beyond the sometimes 'gilded cage' !
@@Helen-jw6yb I don’t know how to move forward he’s supported me but I know it’s time I must go he has broke my heart and to protect his affairs I have been damaged beyond repair !!!!
My gut told me something was off with him. Even toothy when I asked he said no everything was fine. Nothing changed when I told him so I started emotionally leaving. He did nothing to stop it. Later I learned why. He had left along time ago and was cheating. Lying to me and wasting my time. 7 years. I don't know how many years it was all a lie, or if he cared about me at all, so to me, it was all a lie. He's a player with an addiction. Stupid men. Bad enough playing games when you're young but in your 60's? Come on.
It's kind of your mind has already gone through these processes like Matt mentioned but we didn't sit down and give time to think how to deal with how to end relationship,,, we just do it without think about it. But sad and grieve occure after the unhealthy relationship end,,, because people can not handle change very well even though the decision already arose before ending,,, our mind is very complex 😮
I know it is the end when I found out that he cheated on me and I had asked to work on the relationship and he refused to give up his girlfriend while working on the relationship. I was married at the time.
Divergence in vision, yes. He has decided becoming a pickleball champion is his highest priority. (at age 68? For real?) Building a deep loving relationship is my highest priority. My life is no longer “better with this person”. The humiliation of being valued less than developing an athletic ability in late life is sobering. This is heightened by the fact his health is severely compromised for 1-3 days after every day that includes a pickleball session. He’s killing himself with this (what seems to me a) hollow goal and it’s difficult to accept but the choice is clear. Sigh. 😢
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I know it’s the end when I’m constantly triggered by their behavior. Even after communicating how it affects me, and then my partner disregarding it! Only chasing me when it’s convenient, not out of their attraction or desire for me.
I sure can relate smh
I know it’s end when I start feeling disappointed or frustrated after each date specially when he pressures me to go out on a date even after telling him multiple times that I’m a busy single mom and I can’t go out more than 2x week during the week. After a while it became clear that I feel more than 51% happy when I’m not being forced to go out to see him. Being in the right relationship shouldn’t feel hard, it should feel natural and easy.
I know it's the end whn the trust & the communication & loyalty is gone
When I don't feel physically attracted anymore by a partner, I know it's time to move on. I know it might sound childish, but actually it's a strong sign with other incompatibilities and unhappiness beneath.
Mat, you have no idea how helpful this video was for me. You just described the process I went through to arrive at my “it’s time to go” conclusion (almost word for word 😂) but I’ve been on and off doubting myself. You’re so right about the peace. I respect your work, thank you for helping me believe in myself.
The end is when you're feeling lonely.
Brilliant video, thank you!🙏🙏🙏🙏
A better question than “am I at the end?” Is “do I need to be at the end?”
Yes that part. If you have already communicated what you need and feel and it falls on deaf ears, why should you waste precious time continuing with someone that is not aligned with what your relationship needs and goals are until it just gets so bad that you reach an end. If you either aren’t willing or aren’t able to love me properly I don’t owe you continuing presence in my life waiting the “the end”. The end is that I am not fulfilled and life is too short giving empty chances to ppl that don’t respect your place in their life.
When I lose respect continuously I'm done
Excellent video, thank you Matt!
I asked myself this: are you prepared to be alone for the rest of your life? Because there are no guarantees of finding a partner again, and I needed to be prepared for that. And I was, and it ended. It broke my heart to do it but If I would have stayed we would eventually not like eachother anymore. There would have been too much frustration. And I wanted us to remain on good terms, I wanted to still like him, because he is a good person. And I thought, If he is not for me then I cannot be for him.
I need desperately to get out of my marriage this man has broken me and ripped me apart !!!!!!
Please be brave & find a way to leave then....I stayed for 14 years...& hugely regret all that wasted time! Good luck....there IS life beyond the sometimes 'gilded cage' !
@@Helen-jw6yb I don’t know how to move forward he’s supported me but I know it’s time I must go he has broke my heart and to protect his affairs I have been damaged beyond repair !!!!
Thanks Matt. Well, needs a brave heart to let it go what you think it is good but in fact it is not.
Aww I love that story about Nicole and Ali ❤ That made my heart melt too! So happy for them, I bet that vet clinic is going to be great 😉
My gut told me something was off with him. Even toothy when I asked he said no everything was fine.
Nothing changed when I told him so I started emotionally leaving. He did nothing to stop it.
Later I learned why. He had left along time ago and was cheating. Lying to me and wasting my time. 7 years. I don't know how many years it was all a lie, or if he cared about me at all, so to me, it was all a lie. He's a player with an addiction. Stupid men. Bad enough playing games when you're young but in your 60's? Come on.
Thanks for the hug Matt ❤️😊
Sorry, made me laugh at the end...I've never been the one to end it!
Thank you.
It's kind of your mind has already gone through these processes like Matt mentioned but we didn't sit down and give time to think how to deal with how to end relationship,,, we just do it without think about it.
But sad and grieve occure after the unhealthy relationship end,,, because people can not handle change very well even though the decision already arose before ending,,, our mind is very complex 😮
I feel stuck in my mind because of this
I know it is the end when I found out that he cheated on me and I had asked to work on the relationship and he refused to give up his girlfriend while working on the relationship. I was married at the time.
I'm sorry.
I need to meet you & give u a huge hug😢😢
❤
Divergence in vision, yes. He has decided becoming a pickleball champion is his highest priority. (at age 68? For real?)
Building a deep loving relationship is my highest priority.
My life is no longer “better with this person”.
The humiliation of being valued less than developing an athletic ability in late life is sobering. This is heightened by the fact his health is severely compromised for 1-3 days after every day that includes a pickleball session. He’s killing himself with this (what seems to me a) hollow goal and it’s difficult to accept but the choice is clear. Sigh. 😢