A Breadwinner at 22: What A Big Sister Will Do For Her 6 Siblings | CNA Insider
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- Опубліковано 25 сер 2024
- What is the life of a 22-year-old? For Aqilah, it's taking on a job on the night-shift as her family's breadwinner, and playing "dad" to her six younger siblings. She doesn't see it as a sacrifice, though, to secure their future - with some outside help.
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Much respect to Aqilah for all her efforts. Hope she gets the spot at NTU she applied for. Maybe she can win a scholarship too!
the part time EEE program i think sure have high chance
May Allah accept her good deeds! She seems like a kind hearted girl
Affection, gentleness, warmth, concern, and care are words that are associated with kindness. While kindness has a connotation of meaning someone is naive or weak, that is not the case. Being kind often requires courage and strength. She's the embodiment of all these! I wish her nothing but the best!
@Gray Kin I'm doing them a favor
Amiin...
Ameen
Ameen
she's so mature...im also 22 and im super embarrassed to say that i dont even know how to pay bills
i wish her n her family the best in everything they do!
Then you should learn😅
Lela Rentaka thanks for the channel recommendation! :) will binge watch em when im free 😁
grow up
Kay
Don’t worry. I’m 17 yo and I still don’t know how to use the bus or public transport in general. 🤦🏽♀️💀
@@RosemaryTurner2002 seriously? go do something about it then, it is really abnormal to not know how to take public transport at 17.
she's so damn awesome. seriously. her parents come across as not very equipped to handle the unique complexities of having 7 children, and she has very responsibly stepped up. where is her dad though?
same curiosity, wheres' her dad? why is he overseas?
The father is seeking career training overseas after his retirement
rabbit white the link to her full story is in the description box, in which they mention the father going overseas for career training
SparkzMxzXZ ain’t u the one who ask people to interview ur family LOLS
Her dad is only good at making babies......not maintaining them as usual.
Aqilah is so pretty and kind. If I were her I would be so stressed and angry all the time. With all that stress, my face would have aged 10 years beyond age 22 haha
lame 😑😑😑
Bharath Dev like u lol
That's her gift, her assignment..I'm sure you're gifted with something 😌
Ms M Everyone is but it’s very hard to see it.
@@skylovermc2146 correct its distractions👍
I totally knw how that feels, i was a breadwinner too when i was 21. Definitely not easy, keep fighting yo!!
I was also breadwinner since the age of 21 after I finished my degree. I'm now 27. I was actually born in an affluent family but as with unpredictable life, tables were turned. I'm also doing night shift for the extra money. Thank God I'm an Australian and the wages are good here especially if you get night shift jobs. I'm enjoying it and I believe the hard work will have a reward :)
Praying for Aqilah’s health, safety, prosperity, & happiness 🤲🏻
You keep on praying while she does all the work.
Zzz
RonLarhz me, my 3.9 GPA, & 15 hours/week side job beg to differ but okay boo. Go do your own (home)work, you ‘edgy’ atheist pre-teen who reviews Pokemon games & Naruto cards you ☺️
@@iDeletedMyPrevious she stated a fact so....
These kind of youngsters make me feel happy. Proud of them. "If one of us suffer, we suffer together, if one of us are happy, we are happy together." May Almighty bless this family.
This is responsibility! The proof of love is sacrifice. All the best Aqilah:)
Only because the young lady have no choice
Aqilah, well done! Don't forget to take care of yourself too, it will help you care for your family. As a clinical psychologist and someone who works with refugees, I can tell you the people who make the biggest difference are those who are genuinely happy because they didn't overcompensate :)
This video is not well planned. I wanted more content but this is not enough for us to understand the whole situation
Exactly.i need to know where's actually her dad
I think the producer purposely wants the viewers to speculate... make assumptions.. or...wild guesses. In short, " buat dosa" saja.
Some things are best left unsaid I guess.
The whole story is in the description, I read in another comment
@JONES Can you stop assuming things? In the article in the description, it is stated that their father is working overseas.
Great story. Amazing girl may god continue to bless u and ur family abundantly.
“If one of us suffer, we suffer together.”
This words touch my heart. 😭😭❤️❤️
Salute her... im 22 been working for 2 year to ease the burden of family and also saved some money to continue my degree next year.. wish me luck! :)
I think it's pretty terrible. As a mom, I would NEVER rely on my children as a source of income. She could start planning a family of her own, have fun and enjoy her life, but she has to raise the family of another woman. I know it's easy to judge... But honestly it makes me sad. She didn't ask for this. Even if her mom was "helping", she shouldn't be helping in the first place because it's her job, as a primary care-giver, to look after her children's needs. This really angers me.
Same, people say "don't judge" but I do judge this, it's very cruel to the girl and I hate people that have kids when they can't afford them
Massive respect for her. Keep going Aqilah, there's a bright future ahead for you and your family!
wish her all the best and hope that she'll be supported with a sponsorship or scholarship. people like her will bring the world up.
I noe the father to this family.He was my CSM back in my Fire Station.He did not abandon them.Now he's working overseas after retirement.It's just that he's not in Singapore to oversee all the bill and stuff.
Guess as much. It's not easy having retired and not able to be with family.
He needs to earn more knowing that the standard of living in Singapore is way more expensive than New York or Tokyo!
Dude, but still if he knew he can barely afford himself then why the fuck did he have more than what he can chew, I mean it's simple math...no Matter what excuse he tries to pull, he still looks irresponsible passing down his responsibility to his oldest daughter, he WANTED to have those kids for whatever reason now his daughter feels like she has to look after his kids...I know what it's like, cuz I've been doing it, and it's fucken annoying cuz I'm 30yrs old and I know I can't afford kids so I don't have them cuz I'm still helping my parents with theirs, I should be spending my money on education so I can make more money so I can afford my own family one day BUT I'm stuck helping my siblings, I can't abandon them, that's fucked up...word of the wise...just because you CAN breed doesn't mean you Should!
@@AnaMartinez-kx1wx so true! Sad reality
I still don't agree. By working overseas, her father washes his hands off everything. Doesn't even have the decency to help raise his own children.
i cant even spprt myself with my deg n i am 26 years old T_T.. she is really great !
you ever seen any strong men? only women are strong.
@@768jefiline7 lol
Family planning is so important.
Truly an inspiration! Her devotion to her family and willingness to take on the responsibility of caring for them is mind-blowingly awesome.
Seseorang yang berjiwa besar.. Moga sentiasa di dalam lindungan Allah
The father went overseas. However, your responsibilities don't stop because you are far away. Why he can't contribute is unbelievable. So now the eldest, which is a girl has to take full responsibility. God Bless her, she is doing a great job. I really feel for her. I would love to know where the father is at.
2 important things to note:-
1. There was no birth control;
2. There is only one breadwinner in the family, which is Aquillah. Her father is not.
I dont understand people why did you decide to have so many children when you knew you couldnt afford the expenses
Think about the larger picture. If in a family there are multiple members and all of them are through college and are working that would make the house alot better and also when one faces financial trouble others could help him out.
That’s true it’s very hard when everyone is little but it gets easier when everyone is old enough to work.
@@MelaniaRose yeah but what about the kid that helped in the beginning? 1.they got robbed of their time and potential and 2. You think anyone is gonna pay her back for all of this? The daughter and her parents could of made it easily, the whole fucken point people even get into relationships is to 1.monogamous sex minus stds 2.financial assistance and 3. Companionship...and for extra assistance? That's the reason we have a shit load of humans which help each other out via programs or COMMUNITY...like duh...these parents are just straight up irresponsible and dumb, I don't give a fuck if they feel bad, cuz they should...fucken assholes lol
@@nabil6135 yeah but what about the kid that helped in the beginning? 1.they got robbed of their time and potential and 2. You think anyone is gonna pay her back for all of this? The daughter and her parents could of made it easily, the whole fucken point people even get into relationships is to 1.monogamous sex minus stds 2.financial assistance and 3. Companionship...and for extra assistance? That's the reason we have a shit load of humans which help each other out via programs or COMMUNITY...like duh...these parents are just straight up irresponsible and dumb, I don't give a fuck if they feel bad, cuz they should...fucken assholes lol
@@nabil6135 No, that's still a peasant's mindset, thinking of children as their retirement plan. Financially responsible people think only of how to provide for their children and make their lives better, not how their children could give thrm money one day.
On one level, this is noble and admirable, but on another level it’s unfortunate for Aquila. Being forced into the role of their family’s husband and father, provider and protector is a sacrifice that might cause her not to want children of her own if this continues for years. The story makes it appear that their mother does nothing to help, though I doubt that’s the case. I wonder why her father didn’t teach his wife how to manage the bills. There is too much left out of the story to make sense of it.
Working at night is tiring, I work night shift, 2 days in ea 2 weeks time. Reaching 30yrs old and can feel the effect on my body 🥺
Barakallah Allah s.w.t grant her abundance in success
🙄
Ameen, ya Rabbal 3alameen
Aamiin ,may Allah bless her and all singaporean muslims
Sometimes I struggle to wake up for work but such ppl give me the inspiration to ace well in life. Best wishes to Aqilah. Your parents and your future hubby gona be proud of you!
I adore Aqilah and I can feel her as I worked at 18 in night shift too. She deserves to be respected. Fighting Aqilah
Mad respect to this girl. Yes family has 7 kids but they are raised well with good values. Mum looks like she ensures they hv good values... save, study, help each other, keep a clean environment, dress decently. Whats the problem? Only lack of funds.
The problem is the father, keep making babies like there's no tomorrow then leaving his kids and wive. I've heard a lot of similar stories from my friends. The Malay community (not all but most) need to change their thinking as a whole. This kind of problem will affect a person's life and their future. Why do a child need to work to support their siblings when their parents are still there? That is ridiculous. If you dont want to have a lot of kids just use protection.
That's why you dont comment unless you know the story of the family.
Excuse me but he didnt leave them...
This daughter is enabling the mother.
Whatever it is, the father is not shouldering all the responsibilities of a parent. He's making the daughter take over the parental responsibilities. Not fair, not right.
shagufta bilal Why did her mother lied then? Her mother absolutely & definitely said that he left the family & went abroad. Most people are more confused 🤔rather than judging the family. They are trying to understand ‘how come’ the father is, in effect, giving his family such a hard time? The daughter has to support the whole family! The mother might have an invisible illness (like lupus/anything that cannot be seen from mere appearance & in need of support herself) so, where is her husband?
If he works overseas & sends money home, then, his daughter would not need to be the breadwinner. You follow? This story doesn’t make sense unless the father has something to hide. Why go overseas to work/train without sending any money 💰 home (even work trainees are paid), leaving 7 kids(7!) plus an elderly mother, for the young lady to support & care? She is no doubt amazing. 👏👏👏
Finally, [no one is assuming anything since the father’s departure was what the mother said] IF the father is supporting the family from an overseas job, then, CNA Insider would be exaggerating or misleading viewers by portraying her as the family’s breadwinner: she would just be someone who is mature minded who happened to be forced to help contribute financially to her family’s upkeep - due to her parents’ (or father’s) choice to have so many children.🧐
@@marcial.1636 We don't know the story of the family? I'm guessing.. There was a lot of raw unprotected sex and no birth control pills.. Betul tak?
Love Conquers All, no one is left behind, truly Blessed with a Big Heart 💓
You’re wise beyond your years, Aqilah! You’re amazing.
May God ease everything for her and her family
This is why family planning is important.
My father passed away rite after i graduated from u. My siblings of 5 were stil in school at that time. Its hard coz i am the eldest sister n had to take over the my father's responsibility coz my mom is a housewife. The pension my father left for us was not enough. I always cried n had a mental breakfown becoz i was too tired n the money was also not enough all the time Luckily my mom can drive n do the household so i can focus on earning money. Now i am at 49 married with no children n my siblings are doin great n always supported me whenever i need them Their children are my children. I took care of their children since birth like my own coz i love doin it.
Hello everyone and who's can read my comments.
My name is analie Akang from Philippines when I was a young at ages of 14 I went to abroad to work(Housekeeping or house Maid) I work 15 hours every day.. I work in abroad because I want to help my family and my siblings too for their future and I don't mind my future as long I can help my family. I went back in my country at ages of 23 and I went back in a abroad to continue help my family and siblings to attend a college these is how I live now..no time for self, no time for bonding with family and friends I need to work hard😊😊
Well that's not life. You should think about yourself. Get marry have your own family. Your family is taking advantage of you
@@cookinglikeastar6117 I ask my mother about the married because I want to marry at age of 23..but I think my mother she didn't agree with it.. she told me if I'm age of 27 so I can get married..but first I need to help them and my brother to graduate a criminology course.. this how I live..even it's unfair for me but i need to accept because she's my mom and their my family..Allah(God) said you must obey your mother and don't talk back to your mom,she raise you will and you must love your mom.
Bless your heart you are a brave young girl, it can be dangerous out there I hope they treat you kind and you can go home to your family one day .I know they are proud of your sacrifice .Don't forget about you though ,you also deserve happiness.
Analie while yes Allah says to obey your parents, the flip side is your parents must do their duty to be just, fair, and good parents. Allah knows best and may he give you strength, but do not force yourself to obey everything your parents ask of you if they are taking advantage of these words.
@@astrid5126 can I ask something?
If I can married my Christian boyfriend and hes willing to become part of Islam!..
Because when I told to my family they immediately refused and they don't want me to married my boyfriend..what should I do?
Nice very touching story
What kind of parents would have 7 children and don't take care of them
Mangalam Grace the Malaysian kind
Who says they didn't
They were short handed
This is singapore by the way
Nomadic Nationalist
1) This is Singapore
2) Every race, religion, gender, nationality etc has both responsible and irresponsible parents. Same with ignorance and stupidity, you posses both "qualities".
this kind
Amazing young lady..so much respect to you..i can relate coz i myself is a breadwinner 😊
Tu pengorbanan dan kasih sayang kakak kat adik adik. Salute..... you had do the best from your side. Your siblings will appreciate your sacrify in future. Your hardwork will be paid.
Dont give up! U r a Champion to all of us!
'If one of them suffer we suffer together ' respect u a lot Aqilah .may god bless u with a happy and successful life
Her mother is still young and could take on a job if she wanted too.
Such an amazing and kind person!! She is a real inspiration. Not being selfish, taking care of others, and being understanding. Being able to take such responsibilities. And not complaining about it. Mashallah.
i'm just wondering why the mom could not contribute and where is the father?
Maybe the mom has some problems with health and the dad....
Wts up with ppl who commented about ‘why have 7 children when cannot afford’. Watch the video and understand it. The family shared good habits and positive values since young. They work their way to stay financially stable yet enjoying everyone’s company. Hey I know lots of children who are mostly a single child, get full financial support from parents but are still unhappy and spoilt.
marine teng Aqilah’s father being unwilling to care for his remaining children shows he is as responsible as a male black bear that left 12 cubs with different female black bears in North America.
marine teng the govt? Lol you’ve been living in a cave, go watch disney channel
@jake mate and what is your point ?
God Bless your family..Aqilah.👍
Alhamdulillah, my parents have two children, me and my sister. Proud of my parents who are joining family planning. Our lives much more easier😊🇮🇩
Aqila is really brave & humble.may His life prosper.
Aqilah is such an inspiration!
I was very impressed by this Video and l realized to never stop working it was a good mativation for me
She’s beautiful inside and outside
MashaaAllah Tabarakaullah she blessed🙏🙏🙏
kudos to her!
Kudos to her at age 22, she is doing awesome job.
She is awesome and the best person.May Allah be with her and bring her a lot of success in life🌸
Beautiful. She’s using what she’s learnt to support for family for the long term!
she's just amazing
What a great selfless young woman taking on such a burden.
God Bless her x
reading some of the comments of the singaporeans here really gives me brain damage
Hahaha not surprising. Many are just closet racist.
Uniquely Singapore
How can you tell they are Singaporens.?
Lots of respect for her. She is a wonder women.
All the best for the young girl. Full of love for the family and willing to step up and take care of all her siblings. True virtue !
dad: im a pensioner with 7 other mouth to feed..to hell im gonna be a breadwiner..well i guess i gotta go oversea .. GENIUS!
She is amazing
CNA, why did you leave out the important detail that the father is undergoing training overseas? You purposely want people to think that the father abandoned them?
Only you would assume and think that way. If nothing is potray dont assume it is negative
This is really touchable and warm hearted.
This channel should just disabled comments because most people watch video without seeing the point of content but instead assuming so much about things they dont know.
They are human. Being hideously rude to a fellow human being is in our nature. Worst of all this is the internet. So don't expect human to say good thing on the internet. They show their true color through their anonymity. Meet them in real life and you will realise how much of a person they are. Deal with it.
Don't get upset if people are going to see the vlog they are going to react it is human nature like wise the way u reacted to people comments.
See all fingers of the hands are not same and so are people
Good luck
I'm assuming.. A lot of raw unprotected sex and lack of planning happen, eh?
@@mandingo4698 Why shud comments be disabled...? People should not only be open to praises but also to criticism....or this vdo shouldn't have been in the social media....Let them learn from all the free advices that they are getting from people all over the world.🤣🤣..The girl is doing a commendable job...What s the mom doing ? This is a natural Question...Sometimes people portray one sided vdos just to gain sympathy or may be for some other gains....Next time when they make a vdo they wl be careful enough.....
God bless her, I wish the best for her and her family
if this is in Malaysia, the mother can sell nasi lemak or kuih for breakfast or banana fritters at the small stall in front of her flat/apartment..at least can get RM200 per day enough to cover daily expenses like food and bills. But singapore has strict regulation on such small businesses..thus restricting the mother's choice of surviving.
Actually Singapore is quite flexible with home based businesses. I also do home cooking. The only regulations are that you can't have stall and paid promos, but you can do delivery or self collect, and can advertise on free platforms like facrbook groups. And there will always be people who want to buy.
Sister you have my respect. God bless you with constant health and family with loving kindness always.
This is a regular occurence to most Asian families. I have been a bread winner myself starting at age 14 helping my Dad meet ends meet while our Mom is in the hospital. All of my siblings graduated college. I had to leave it for awhile and only finished it 2 years ago at age 36. Only drawback, I am fast becoming an old person and due to the damages it caused my psyche of the hardships of life, I have become a lonely person because i avoided relationships that could have made me better. I don't regret anything. But I guess we all become damage from the things we experience...I just miss my Dad, I wish he was there when I finished bachelors degree, I know he would have been happy because I didnt give up on his dream for me.
Keep strong and healthy. GBU. Father and mother don't have so many kids la these days are very hard to earn....
My humble respect to her. At 22 already pickup such a heavy burden. Wishing you all the best in your life
My grandmother had 3 kids as she question her life. When her husband pass away she knows can take care of her kids. Without step father.
Sending love and hugs to you, my love!
I'm so proud of you, Aqilah
So admiration to you you are such a responsible and winderful human being. May Allah bless you and your family.
stay strong sister. we truly believe that your persistence determination & efforts will definitely yields better results in the future. we will railways be supporting you!! ✨✨
God Bless Her kind soul and wishing her and her family the best.
She has a strong willpower! Fighting gurl!
A lot of questions on where's her father, but I think her mother could do smetg to ease her burden as well. We're talking about so many siblings here, not just 1-2
They said the father is working abroad
Her mom and dad really didn't plan very well for the future. Having kids when you are financially unstable is extremely stupid and irresponsible. This poor young woman. At least she has a strong sense of responsibility.
Touching story but a long, hard road ahead... hopes all the best for her and her family
May she & her siblings enjoy success in future and not missing the happiness and bond of their luv and family ties
Hope she progress well in her job and can have enough rest & not so burden
MashaALLAH, people like you inspire others. I did the same at age of 21 and didn’t stop until mission accomplished. You are just amazingly beautiful in so many ways. Salam and happy Ramadan from USA 🇺🇸
I just don't understand why the father was overseas in the first place and the mother doesn't even help her with housework! This is just revolting :P
I have been a breadwinner since I graduated from uni. I only take care my mom and an adult brother but there were time i felt so burdened. She is a champ
You are a bright star, Agilah. Your siblings are lucky tonhave such a wonderful sister.
Lots of respect for you dear Aqilah ,god bless and may you have the strength to pursue your dreams
God bless and lots of love and respect😇😇😇
She is a very strong woman. In spite of her family's condition she doesn't give up. I really appreciate the fact that she became the sole breadwinner at her young age. And she doesn't even regret) I wish her well ❤️
Awesome. This is a person who is great. All the best to her.
My mom cooked for herself and cleaned her house u til she was about 90-91. Her mom could do the laundry, etc. to help out.
I hope her siblings will become successful when they grow up and ensure they repay her in some ways for all the sacrifices she made. Kudos to this young lady for stadning and taking burden of taking care of the family. At an age when most of her contempories would have been going out with friends and enjoying themselves, she stood up to take responsibilites really warmed my heart. Well done and I hope your sacrifice will pay dividened.
Many women sacrifice their lives for their family.. 💖
This is ridiculous. We see this all the time happening in the Philippines. It is what keeps millions of Asians in poverty forever. The concept that the eldest sibling is financially responsible for the entire family, siblings, parents, and even grandparents. They work 12 - 18 hours per day for very little pay and they send that money back home to their families. It is a ridiculous mindset.
The amount of positivity in this comment section is worrying. No child should have to sacrifice so much. Kudos to her stepping up but I find it sad she needs to sacrifice so much at a young age
If this is another dead beat dad story, it's pretty amazing he stayed through 6 children ..
7 Siblings. Have mercy. Breed less. Save Earth.
Great story. But dont just save money. Invest it! Money loses its value over time.
Invest in what? How to do? Hope can shared..
@@kelana2825 invest in yourself for a start. Buy books about financial education. I highly recommend Rich dad poor dad among others. And there are a number of low-risk investment such as government bonds and perhaps even property to start with and start building a portfolio from there on. Start small if you don't have plenty as long as you start doing something about it. Never underestimate the power of compounding. Even a small interest on a fixed term deposit is a good way to start with. Furthermore, a small interest of 3-4% interest is enough to offset inflation.
Financial education is not something we learn in school. We have to seek this education by ourself and act upon it. That's the hardest part.