179: Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love with Julie and John Gottman

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  • Опубліковано 30 лис 2024

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  • @britneyjones4735
    @britneyjones4735 5 років тому +57

    Starts at 6:05

  • @josephinewliu
    @josephinewliu 3 роки тому +12

    36:50 expressing a positive me: if something feels bad, flip it on its head, to think, ok, what Do i want in place of that negative thing. for example, if you feel criticized , say I would love to hear appreciation from you, i would love to hear some compliments from you, what is it that you do need. the other thing is to look at your partner with different eyes. what is my partner doing right. for example, every morning he makes me coffee, everybody who makes me coffee is my hero. i always thank him for making coffee, and i do appreciate it and i do not take it for granted. we like people who are not like us. we do not want our clones. do not criticize your partner for not being like you. Accept that your partner is very different and cherish those differences.

  • @luciam6098
    @luciam6098 3 роки тому +8

    Go ahead and fast forward to 07:00. The I is reeeeally long!

  • @24G-p5r
    @24G-p5r 2 роки тому +4

    So topics are
    1. Trust and commitment
    2. Conflict
    3. Sex and intimacy
    4. Money
    5. Family
    ??

  • @Trinidad.m
    @Trinidad.m Рік тому

    Thank you for all of these talks! I’m in a long distance relationship that will be 4 and half years long before we can be together. Right now we are in a moment of disconnection and it’s be tough but we are working on it. And these videos have been so helpful

  • @5xyz123
    @5xyz123 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you for your great work! So helpful and genuine, authentic.

  • @larissacordeira6667
    @larissacordeira6667 5 років тому +8

    Thank you for sharing this discussion! I’m excited to read the book! Your channel is valuable in so many ways, keep up the amazing work!

  • @richbeauty212
    @richbeauty212 2 роки тому

    This is powerful. The average couple don't sit and discuss this crucial matters during the dating process? Especially, where did your values derive from, how do you deal with conflict? Awesome insight!

  • @wasode20
    @wasode20 5 років тому +16

    Love this couple so much.

  • @ThePossumone
    @ThePossumone 2 роки тому +1

    Apart from being a bit long - this is very good 👍

  • @Ejaezy
    @Ejaezy 4 роки тому +8

    I really appreciate 38:32 - 41:17. Definitely needed to hear it.

  • @shirlsshirls8594
    @shirlsshirls8594 2 роки тому +4

    Listen at 1.5x

  • @wildbloomsings456
    @wildbloomsings456 3 роки тому

    Wonderful interview! Great, all three of you, so rich. You are a great interviewer. This is so warm, loving and open. A true delight. Thank you kindly.

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  • @amazingyear9042
    @amazingyear9042 4 роки тому +4

    I learned a lot✨🙋‍♀️

  • @sirennem.6890
    @sirennem.6890 3 роки тому +1

    The best book

    • @awatifmkd6599
      @awatifmkd6599 3 роки тому

      What's the title of the book please?

    • @gordo6908
      @gordo6908 2 роки тому

      @@awatifmkd6599 Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

  • @MsKTMvalley
    @MsKTMvalley 2 роки тому

    My boyfriend leaves traces of toothpaste in the bathroom sink probably from using too much of it, idk. Should I say something? Lol. Surely I do things that he notices and doesn’t like too. Won’t we keep doing these things even if we bring it up? lol

    • @Ed-vi8lj
      @Ed-vi8lj 2 місяці тому

      Of course you should say something. When you get to the point where you can tell each other little grapes grapes, you have a great relationship. Of course if you received it negatively then you still have some work to do

  • @nurinlife
    @nurinlife 4 роки тому +2

    5:44