Stop Losing Your Shit
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- Опубліковано 11 вер 2024
- Here we talk about what decreases our ability to cope which then often ends up in either anger toward others or anger directed toward ourselves, and what we can do to help increase it.
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Nothing productive comes out of acting on your emotions in the heat of the moment. That’s key 🔑
More often that not that is very true.
So right I learn that the hard way but I learned
God... I dont know. Watching this vid made me realized how broken I am...
I feel so lost and tired
Hi i can totally Relate -Life seems pressured more than ever before!!!-
but You can go to the next Level,You can rise up from anything, you can completely re-create yourself and nothing is permanent you’re not stuck you have choices-
You can think new thoughts you can learn something new you’ve got everything inside you,you can create new Habits-
ALL That MATTERS iS YOU decide today and never LOOK back.!!
Peeeace😆
Ed
Same though brother. I hope you’re doing ok
This comes at the PERFECT time. I lost my sh** the other day. I just couldn’t stop it. It feels awful for days afterwards.
I know how this feels all too well. It leaves you emotionally drained, mentally delicate and numb, and physically shaken and weak.
@@ladybaabaa3294 yes! I’m working on taking care of myself. Boundaries! Have a good day out there!
@@TheEarthycrunchy You too!!! 🙏
@TerenceBudCrawfordIsTheGOAT take a time out. Breathe.
What makes me feel good is taking a warm shower, throwing on some of my favorite metal tracks and screaming my lungs out along with the vocals. I feel powerful after because my voice gets gritty and deep so I feel cool in the moment.
I LOVE this!
Me too!
Hi. My name is David. I was recently terminated from a very toxic workplace. I’m scared, fearful and tired. I find myself hitting my “emotional capacity” early and often. This hits home. Thank you. Truly needed this topic.
Hang in there David. Take some long, long walks that might help you sort through your thoughts and make you tired in a good way. I wish you the best
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This is very similar to my partner's situation. Toxic workplace, narcissistic and gaslighting boss for 3+ years (she was an employee there for 14 years), then discarded March 2020, and her emotional capacity is majorly reduced. She has PTSD from it.
The tipping point for her is very close to the surface in terms of hyper-reactivity to change, fear of the unknown, tears, irritability, anger, lack of self-esteem, high self doubt, feelings of worthlessness and helplessness, and so on...
You're not alone.
Good luck David I can totally relate you can rise up from anything, you can completely recreate yourself,you can go to the next LEVEL,nothing is permanent•stacking-Stack good memories successes and achievements feel it ,see it then experience a Biochemical change to appreciate it..
•The worst day can be your best day if you find something empowering.
Peace
best
Ed
I am listening this this at the most needed time. Wow
Magic mushrooms wiped out my anxiety
I am so with you Dylann Marie… ditto on the Wow…
The "do something that's purely fun challenge" is a tall order! (so odd to admit but so very true). I love playing with, talking to and cuddling my cats.
Spending quality time with your furbabies is SO fulfilling and calming. They feel you. Playing and having fun, and then quiet cuddle bonding time. 💝🐱
Who would put a thumbs down on this encouragement? Someone in her field who is jealous. That's who.
Take a step back and regain a little space-- sun is barely up!! Lol.
Prolly someone's thumb slipped trying to navigate from the coffee pot to the start button.;)
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Managing one's negative self-messaging is a huge one! No one else is in a better position to self-sabotage ourselves than ourselves... learned that one the hard way!
The one that resonated with me the most was holding onto resentment and not moving past it not realizing I am the one suffering. Thank you again Julia! For sharing
This popped up exactly when I needed it. You’re amazing- the work you’re doing is important.
Dito
Hi Julia,, I’m Aziz.. Who love Vancouverists,, I just wanna say it’s blessing that there is someone like you in the internet. I appreciate you 🤩
Thank you Julia, just the sound of your voice brings me contentment. To me it sounds like you really do care for us. Brings back memories of a long gone grandmother.
You have been a huge part of my 2 year journey of healing. Your videos are uplifting and to the point. You are a blessing to so many. I am grounded, happy, at peace and ever growing. Thank you!!!
So glad you're here, and good for you for taking your happiness and wellbeing seriously.
I am dealing with a lot of these external factors and I use many of these strategies to cope with them. Most of the time I'm golden until I have to enforce my boundaries with people who resist and refuse to respect them. These are the should and have to people. I cope by video coffee chats with my sister group, going to physical therapy, but most of all I've been making a ritual of savoring the little things like taking my time drinking a hot cup of tea in front of an open window or escaping into my video game Runes of Magic. You get a house you can decorate and it's your very own ASMR room. I just put it on my desk top and enjoy the fireplace or take my horse out for a ride on the trails. Hey it's covid and I'm escaping to my happy place.
Amazingly accurate. I was a homeless alcoholic who suffered from deep emotional wounds, I was crippled by the burden of my emotional baggage.
In my rehabilitation I learned manage my emotional state of being. I learned to regulate my emotions.
Before addiction treatment and before rehabilitation I was functioning at a low level. My emotional state was hypersensitive and overacting much of the time.
I could have used this video in my early days of rehabilitation...
Thank you for being a healer and a light worker.
Demi Lovato could use someone like you 🕺
Thank you for your content. This was very good. I learned about this when I got Cancer at a younger age. I never knew I had been over my emotional capacity on a continuous basis since a young age. I still struggle with taking on too much but am healthier now. I sometimes think back to my parents and how they set the standard for taking on too much. They were always losing their sh*t. Now I know why.
My biggest take away from this is that I'm not the only one having emotional explosions. I thought there was more wrong with me so thank you Julia!
"... this is hard. What do I want to do?" That really helped. Thanks.
I can already tell I’m gonna love this video, even though I rarely get angry/lash out nowadays. It takes a lot for me to lose my cool/patience, which took a long time to get to that point! Hope you’re doing really well!
I kinda found out the hard way, what we put in our body's are going to be the outcome of what we feel like, needless to say I'm drinking a lot of water and juice and vitamins, feeling a lot better, it's good to hear from yeah 👍.
Thank you for being here for us. Thank you for teaching us how to live our best lives!
it's an honour and a privilege Jennifer. Thanks for being here.
What makes me really happy is exercising hard, dancing as well, yoga and a clean house as well as reading, writing and talking to nice people. I took away from this video that its ok to admit that your emotional capacity has reached its limits and its okay to take care of yourself and thats not selfish at all but really quite the opposite.
Setting goals and having fun are not that easy to accomplish! But as always, what you said makes sense, if your filled to capacity emotionally and something adds to it,it's not going to go well
Setting them is easy, it's the following through that takes the effort ;-)
“Celebrating the small victories” is awesome... I have loved this one for over a decade... “Love what you do and who you do it with”. Oohhh and Set yourself and others up to win and focus on a 10 % shift at a time... hence celebrating small victories all the while... 💜♾🙏🏼🕉🖖🏼🤪
What a non- judgmental way to deal with this topic! Thank you so much!
I have been doing an enormous amount of work on myself and noticed my lack of boundaries! I’m loving your videos! They are really making my current life struggles make a lot more sense! This is the hardest thing to do! Work in yourself and take responsibility for yourself and your feelings! Thank you for sharing these videos!
Thank you for your time ❤ The biggest ones for me are realising my limits, managing my emotions and taking a step back and slowing down.
I love music and dancing also 😊
Perfect timing Julia. Thank you so much for this. I tend to feel trapped and then get depressed in my current situation.
My take away, was your comment about ‘why do we think our well being doesn’t matter?’ That really caught my attention. My challenge...what steps can I take to let my well being matter?
I LOVE this Shawn.
Sometimes if many people in your life don't respect or acknowledge your well being as being important, it can end up with you forgetting to value it too. (This isn't me, but one of my best friends. And the people are her adult kids.)
Thank you for your choice of advice and words , ur tips are extremely helpful and calming, so eye opening, so organized, I love how you elaborate each point, God Bless
When I'm authentic and not living life according to others terms, it makes me feel liberated and happy
I am with you Music, Dancing and been in nature. Pure happiness
Am not trying to blame anyone but my ex partner would push me to the point i would notice i would getting irritable and snappy and then explode and them he would say i need help
He's a narrcicisist
Jackie..I feel that ..
@@patriciadyer2942 Narcissists also blame other people for their actions... small steps. I predict she was just dealing with someone who was annoying AF.
I have a hard time dealing with the unexpected. I know realize why it's been happening. Thank you for your video. :)
Letting go of resentment towards someone who has done me wrong is very hard. Doing it for the sake of my own good is not good enough. What I find helpful is believing in karma, that whatever they did they will have to atone for eventually.
Getting on my mountain bike and screaming YEEWWW! over every jump bump and roller! Pure joy.
Yes!!! So so good.
Hello Julia,
What resonates with me the most is your pause on our struggle about why we think taking care of our well being doesn't actually really matter. My immediate thought is because it doesn't (to others)! Our whole lives are conditioned to bending to the will of others or else. From childhood through adulthood, personally and systematically, we watch and learn how to be compromised explicitly, subliminally, with coercion and corruption, and told the result is our own choice. We are not part of a system that "actually really" cares about us. But thanks to people like yourself working to figure us out and communicate healthy solutions. Watching your videos is helping me gain the courage to standup for myself and benefit from my true value.
P. S.
I love learning to fly. I've been at it on and off most of my adult life. I kept putting it off and at one point gave up on the idea. I'm back at it. Closer than ever to acheiving my pilot license but now under medical scrutiny. Here is a clear example to be present in life and not wait for the future to tie things together for me. There will always be something in the way of our dreams. Overcome those somethings now.
That was such a beautiful message. Thank you for being you!
This video showed on my feed at a time when I am really struggling with this. Thank you 🙏🏼
A very strong video - thank you Julia 🙂
You are spending so much time with these videos inducing transparency and clarity. Proud..
Thanks you for this video. Distance learning has been very emotional draining for me this past year.
The hard part was listening to your talk about marginalizing. Especially the gender and sexuality part. I have hope though as I see big changes in the shift of thinking with a lot of people. This is what I try my best to hold on to.
Thanks so much for this video✌❤✊
Did that last night. Took an extra break of 4 mins and made a coffee. Then worked till 20:04. So rude and sarcastic callees yesterday. Then got one! :)
I don't have to allow my emotions to dictate my behavior. I find this statement to be beneficial as I notice stress levels rising.
Thank you for continuing to post yt vids Julia! Love your work. Really helped me the last 2 years
Thanks Julia 😊 Iam proud to be a Shifter ❤
I love having you as a Shifter.
@@juliakristinamah I love being a newbie shifter ❤
I have a music playlist called, "Getting the Angries Out." It begins with Limp Bizkit's "Break Stuff."
Cranked 11/10; highly recommend.
Thank you Julia Kristina”
Thank you, it is such great video about emotional capacity and how to increase it 👍
Thank you.
This is really helpful. I am so grateful that you make these available. Thank you.
yo Kristina I'm rooting for you....you are making a difference in the world....you are badass and BIG.. thank you....
Thank you. This was very helpful, especially with everything that is going on in the world.
Hi Julia,
I found you here on UA-cam when I typed in "wanting to give up "!! I've been struggling with emotional issues for most of my life and always look at self help videos like yours!! You have a video on handling DISAPPOINTMENTS, right? I've struggled and STILL DO on not getting the job-type I want as well as finances!!!!
Sometimes you can feel "marginalised " when it's not obvious to others. Good video as always!
Aaw yeah I LOVE to dance too! Zumba is my absolute passion and stress reliever! 💃 I do comfort eat too but the exercise helps balance it.
Thank you for this video, Julia. This is an issue that always comes up for me.
Great video Coach!!! Looking forward to Q&A today! #SeniorShifter
Julia I like your work RAW brutal reality
Hello All...back week 3. So thankful I found you. This one was so powerful for me
This is a great video. much of the same my therapist has gone over. good to hear it presented another way to help it stick.
Thank you for this. I'm going through a hard time with emotional overload.. the not being heard or valued is probably my biggest emotional trigger.
Thank you Julia. You are amazing.
Thank you.
Biggest takeaway, taking the time to be aware of what I've achieved and how far I've come and 'living today '
One thing that always gives me joy, a walk ending at a playground and swinging on the swings 😁
As soon as I saw this I knew I needed to watch it (been subbed for a while, but I’m just saying)
Found you when I needed this information most
Great video! I feel pleasure by using Google Maps street view to explore around. I really like the street layouts, buildings, and the natural scenery here in southwestern British Columbia. Anyone who knows Vancouver have separate bicycle lanes, and just seeing that makes me feel good knowing the city cares about our environment like I do. Going for walks outside, drawing, coloring, watching funny videos online, reading, and taking deep breaths also makes me feel better too.
Love your videos and content. Really helps my daughter and myself to assist her with what she's been through
Knowing the signs and symptoms of emotional overload is 🔑!
Goals give you a purpose in life.
Hi Julia thank you for your videos 👋
"Incredible little corner"😊
Thanks.
Thank you for making me feel worth it. I love to go fishing, crochet, golf with my husband. It's so much Fun!
As always... perfect advice ❤️
Thank you Julia
Don’t Worry, Be Happy😃
I danced when I was in the musical Guys & Dolls In high school Julia and I sang too.
Good stuff. Thank you!
Your wisdom is spiritually on point, one that is heaven sent. God bless you.
Thank you. You are really helping me understand myself.
This was Great Julia and soooo True to Life!!! no ‘Psychological babble’.Our Worst day can be our best day if you find something empowering about it.
Death is not the greatest loss in life the greatest loss in LIFE is what dies inside
us while still ALiVE.!!!
SO find what brings you ALIVE & LIGHTS you up then GO AND DO IT.Life is too short to Suffer!!!
peeeace
Ed😃👀
Thank you sweetheart for your videos 🥰
Always amazing!
Julia your videos are so helpful to me especially considering that I'm having a difficult time cause I know I need a new therapist (met with the same one for almost 5years now) but with covid I don't feel comfortable meeting new therapists so I'm sticking with the one I have even though we both know she has done all she can do for me :/
Should probably note that my current therapist and I have been strictly phone calls only and I don't think meeting a new one over the phone would be the most productive
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thank you for ur videos ☺️
Sometimes is nice to take a break from just a DID community and just hear that even those without mental health struggle with these things .
Ask and you will receive lol. Thank you for this. I found you today. I look forward to checking out your channel. Many blessings 🙏♥️🙏
I recently went in my closet and did a primal scream... so fed up. Although it scared my BF and he said he opened the door to our bedroom to make sure the kids didn’t think he was killing me. I immediately felt better after the scream. He was alarmed and i was relieved. ;)
I appreciate you so much!! Your videos are great! ♥️
Thank you for wise advice. Wishing you Happy Easter.
Thanks
Your words are golden.
So helpful. I’m right on the edge, as I home school 2 kids plus I’m a vegan activist plus my marriage broke down and I’m having an affair. It’s a lot.
Edit: I’m daily dealing with animal oppression, it’s constant and it’s painful
Found you at the right time. Thanks!
So awesome to see how much your channel has grown Julia! I've been following you since you started!
We were here! Ty!💞
I have subscribed and I am following you. Thank's for sharing, love your spirit. Love your perspectives. ❤
Perfect message I needed to hear today. Thank you for your You Tube counselling. You are a blessing.